Important notes: Please do not send any hate towards Nikki or Dan Phillippi. This video is intended to be a critique of a real-life situation many pet owners can be faced with, as well as a learning resource for those who may be going through similar with their dogs. I felt it was important for me to go into this situation as unbiased as possible, and prior to filming and editing, I did not know of any pre-existing drama of any sort concerning the creators I am critiquing, or their treatment of their animals. BEFORE you choose to euthanize any pet due to behavioural (or suspected mental) issues, please do the following: 1) Take your pet to the vet to check for any medical reason which would affect your dogs temperament. 2) Consult with multiple trainers and behaviourists. 3) If your dog is a specific breed, seek the guidance and assistance of a Breed Specific Rescue. Think critically. Be kind. xx Em
I think they are making a lot of excuses to make themselves look better, like Caesar says in the dog whisperer , its not the dogs fault, its the owner, they show no remorse or emotion when talking about bowser, The moment he said that he wanted to take the dog out like old yeller, makes me sick, I lost my cat and had to euthanize him I cry every time i think about it, I think after spending a decade with a dog and treating it like family they would be more broken up about it, there are a lot of rescues and foster homes that will take in a aggressive dog, where they train and analyze what triggers the dog,
From what I looked up. Their son basically annoyed the dog. I think the husband even said the son pulled on the dogs ear so much that the dog had cauliflower ear and had scarring. Idk why parents refuse to teach their toddlers and children to be gentle with animals. I applaud you for staying so calm cause I couldn't even finish the video
I grew up with a somewhat aggressive dog. There were a lot of rules and we never interacted with the dog without supervision when he was younger. He died peacefully, when he was 19.
My 1.5 year old has grown up with two cats, a dog and a hamster. He is so gentle with all of them it amazes me. It was hard work getting him to understand nice hands and not to get too excited. But that hard work was worth it for many reasons.
Yes, I completely agree. This was totally preventable. Yet, they do a video and post it right after they did it. Im not sure, but that did not rub me the right way. Also, is it just me or am I the only one bothered by Nikki sipping coffee while discussing about killing their dog.... 😠🤬😤
@@leviathan1140 exactly this. My grand parents had 2 not always friendly dogs but they were outside and we had to be very careful and supervised around them.
Damn this hits hard...my parents adopted a dog from an abusive home where the boyfriend of the woman would beat the dog so bad that he didn't trust anyone anymore. So when my parents brought him home all he would do was hide under the bed and would attack anyone who would come close. My mom had to work with him until he was able to trust people again. When they found out I was coming along, they got worried about how he would react to a baby. The difference is that my parents showed me how to touch the dog and not hurt him by accident and he never did anything to me. That dog got so attached to me that he never left my side. He was a really good boy.
Abused dogs often turn around and become the most attached. It's as if all of the affection they never got to give suddenly comes out once you break their shell
I'm so glad your parents did such a good job. We got a dog when I was little who kept biting people, we assume because of past trauma. She also kept escaping because she was a hound and wanted to hunt smells. My parents didn't know how to handle it. But we still didn't kill the dog. We brought it back to the shelter and they informed us they'd found a home with no kids, and a lot of space for the dog. I know many people may not be able to find rehoming for a rough dog, but they seem to have a huge internet following. They could ask the public, ask a friend, etc.
@@cre-k8-ive sometimes a home just isnt fit for a dog like that, especially when children are involved. Im glad your parents did the right thing, even tho im sure it was a difficult desicion:)
Honestly. Baby gates exist. It would have been so easy to have them in separate rooms to ease a dogs anxiety and keep the child away safely. My mom instilled in us from birth to be gentle. Any time we were in contact with and animal the first thing she would say is “gentle” and if we weren’t we were removed from the situation. This is on the parents 100%. You are so much kinder than I could have been lol
Same! My parents raised me to be gentle with animals and once we were old enough, we were taught to read their body language. I didn't think this was uncommon until I owned pets of my own and introduced them to other people who were apparently never raised to respect animals.
Same! I did the same thing when I got my dog about 1.5 months ago. She would mouth my toddler and jump on him so I separated them if I could not directly supervise them. I got her into training and working with her and did the" shepherding." Also my son would get in big trouble and be separated from her if he tried to poke or even think of climbing on her. Now he knows not to do and teya loves him now while stopped mouthing him or trying to jump all over him. I hate it when parents let their child do to whatever to pets. That is how you raise brats and bullies.
i know right? all i am hearing them say is '' we think out child s intitled to do as it pleases and the dog should put up with that'' and then they spurise pickachu face when their dog hates the kid.
I've been through the toddler process and we made sure they were constantly checked on and taught how we treat animals. This was soooo unnecessary. Sucks
I could never be this nice. I have zero respect or empathy for these people. Their beloved dog of almost a decade was put under a lot of stress, reacted properly and as normal dogs do, and was killed by his own family. There were so many other options that would not have resulted in a dead dog. Rest in peace, Bowser 💚
It’s such a sad situation... but I feel that if I were to get emotional and angry, it might discredit my points of view, and encourage others to lash out. That’s not my goal, but I do see your point
I've seen some of her videos in the past and I lost all empathy for them years ago. She does so many things out of pure ignorance and there's no reason for her to be that ignorant.
@@Emzotic oh absolutely, this video is the best way to do it, calm and unbiased and informative...I just personally could never 😂 much respect and love to you and Kiba!!
@@teemo7714 Have respect or empathy for them? No I shouldn’t, they did something so vile and I personally just can’t overlook it...But, I wouldn’t be rude to them directly, I’m just venting my frustrations here, where they’re not supposed to see it
I feel like they could have done more for Bowser, but instead, chose the "easy way out" for the lack of the better way to say it. Also, you are supposed to SUPERVISED BOTH THE CHILD AND THE DOG!!! I think they were both careless when it came to training and they lacked the initiative to try to get it behavioral training and help. Unfortunately, Bowser payed the price with his life. So sad....
At least he isnt suffering, in a pound or being abused or stressed more. Sometimes I think this is more merciful 🙁 who knows what would happen. It's hard to think about for sure. I definitely feel bad for the dog and the kid in this senerio.
@@Alicia.Marie.13 The thing is, I did not hear, not even once, about them getting their dog professional help, and if they did, we do not know up to what degree of help did they try to provide their dog with. In one of their other videos, Nikki mentions how they stopped taking Bowser out for walks anymore. If thats the case, the dog had even more pent up energy and stress in him. If he was "too agressive," you can still take your dog out for walks or give it exercise while keeping everyone safe. Plus, the child, in this case, was the aggressor (although its not the child's fault either- the parents have to supervise, and teach your child manners too, as the child gets older as well) of course the dog is going to react in the way that it did. But instead, they chose to kill their dog. And they chose to kill their dog before their big move. (And they posted it on IG and TH-cam-money and views maybe? Sounds suspish, since they got sooooo many views after they posted this video. Im pretty sure that was going to happen...) How convenient. 🤥😐😑😤😤😤
@@JamieMarzy Same. I don't trust any dog at anytime to be left alone with my 18month old son. No way. He is to grubby and clumsy and you never know what could happen! Unsafe for sure.
I agree with you. It almost felt like they got into a routine of keeping bowser out of sight and out of mind, until there was a good opportunity to get out of the responsibility. I believe bowser could have been rehabilitated.
@@Emzotic if someone grabbed my ear to the point of damaging it probably permently ngl I would do anything to get them off, it is a literal miracle that bowser didn't maul him for that
Phew, your calmness toward these "people" and their sheer ignorance and clownery is AMAZING. This is my BIGGEST pet peeve. People completely failing their dogs AND their children makes me so angry. I'd be cursing up a storm if I were covering this situation!
It’s a peeve of mind too. Truthfully, it’s very upsetting, but I don’t feel I’d be doing justice to who I am to lash out. My goal is never to hurt. Only to educate and inspire.
This was a great video Em. I have a American Bulldog who became reactive to dogs he doesn’t know because of him being attacked by an off leashed dog while he was on a leash. He started “hard staring” any dogs he would see, even his sister doggie. Crate training, CORRECT socialization, and positive reinforcement has given my boy his life back 💛
Unfortunately my dog who had a similar experience with the neighbors dog and she had to be put down. She would have an anxiety attack anytime she went outside. There was no quality of life, we tried everything from specialists to at home training tactics but nothing was helping her. I still think there was more that I could've done.
This happened to me too. I’m at a loss at how to help my sweet girl. She can’t be trusted around stranger dogs because she stares and then growls and lunges. What did you do to fix it ?
I want to know why they were not supervising their kid and the dog?? Like how does this happen? You know your dog snaps so why would you ever leave the kid and dog unattended in the same room?
@@kitwhitfield7169 Horrible excuse, things happen, but there are two of them. You can’t leave a child and a dog unsupervised in the same room for any reasons besides an emergency that threatens lives. You separate them before leaving, take the child with you, or stay in the room for a phone call. You shouldn’t leave a kid unattended even in your home WITHOUT there being an aggressive dog known to snap and holds trauma. Putting them in an enclosed space, neither of them having training to be near each other, is asking for trouble.
@@kitwhitfield7169 it’s called a playpen or crate or muzzle your dog... are you seriously telling me that you’d leave your kid who just started walking alone with an aggressive dog?
They supervised. They just did nothing. In their own words they saw the dog upset and move away from the kid or growl and they still let the kid follow the dog and get back in it's face, and their response was the dog is dangerous.
I’m bi polar too and I hated the fact he described the dogs behavior as “bi polar” and then you said something about that being a problem and I was so happy you did. It’s like when a guy is just like “and now she’s mad at me she’s so bi polar I swear” it’s like people need to realize it’s an actual mental condition and not an adjective . It makes it so hard to break health stigmas when people use words in that fashion. Love from one Em to Another ✨❤️
Since they didn't mention doing any sort of behavior training, I definitely believe they could've done more for their dog. I also feel that the humane society saying that rehoming bowser would've been impossible is kind of shitty. It definitely would've been hard, but I think they could've found a rescue that would rehabilitate him or find him the specific home he needs with no other dogs or children.
You have to be realistic. This is a 10 year old dog with known dog aggression and known attacks on children. Think of the immense number of perfectly healthy dogs with no behavioural issues that are sitting in shelters waiting to be adopted. It is not at all unreasonable to say he is not an adoptable dog. I don't think they did everything right but I also think behavioural euthanasia can be the only course of action in some situations. I work in a vet clinic and I've seen a situation where rehoming the pet would be wildly irresponsible.
I agree with Mikaela, it is not the job of the HSUS to rehabilitate your dog that you did not bother to train. They do not have the resources for that kind of work and every day behaviorally good dogs end up being put to sleep due to lack of space. It is on the owners to have educated themselves, educated their dog, trained their dog and found solutions to the problems they have caused. They could have possibly worked with a smaller breed specific rescue to help try and rehome the dog or with a trainer/behaviorist who could have given more insight. Listening to these people they got a dog they didn't know a lot about, did not do training with, who did not fit in with their lifestyle.
I understand that kids come first. But this dog could’ve easily been rehomed. There’s no timeline in which a dog can be rehomed; you see senior dogs in shelters all the time that go on to be adopted for their final years. I had to put my American Eskimo dog, Jango, to sleep in March. This hits so hard for me because i HAD to put him down because he was SICK and his quality of life was GONE. We had no other option, he didn’t have the option to live longer with me or with someone else... i guess I’m biased because my wounds are still fresh but this situation disgusts me because they did not explore all options, they just chose death for him.. Edit: I’d like to add that i understand he was an aggressive/reactive dog because of experiences when he was a puppy, but i really think Bowser could’ve found love in a home with someone who understands and knows how to live with aggressive/reactive dogs. There are a lot of people with that kind of experience who could’ve handled him and let him live the rest of his life.
I saw their video first and for me there is just no excuse. They had the dog for 9 years and the baby is not 8 years old so let that sink in first. Dogs don't get aggressive over night, they also said it was not the first time, it has been an ongoing problem since the dog was young and never corrected the behaviour. The also said they contemplated the idea a few years back so again nothing new. With their reach and amount of followers they have, there is no way nobody could take the dog, there are dogs beeing adopted at 10, 11 even 12 years old. Yes I know the aggression makes it difficult but is not imposible specially with the amount of reach out they have. I'm also with you, the only reason an animal has yo be put down is if their life quality is compromised, so no you are not being biased, they failed their dog. I'm sorry for your lost, you gave him an amazing life and made sure he was comfortable until his last breath
@@dc515 first of all, thank you 💕 And yes i absolutely agree. There’s no way they couldn’t have found him a home with their exposure. And the fact that they had considered putting him to sleep even before their kid was hurt says a lot. They’re just irresponsible dog owners who never corrected his behavior. So sad to see this dog had to lose his life all because of uneducation.
i feel like they knew about how they had a aggressive/reactive dog and then bringing a baby/toddler into the situation wasn't going to make it any better. even extremely well behaved dogs can snap at babies since the baby don't know what they are doing, especially if that dog has aggressive and reactive behaviour. they should of rehoused the dog to a suitable house with no small children or other dogs maybe with someone who has experienced having aggressive dogs in the past. this dog didn't deserve to die but it wasn't the right fit for this family. no hate on there decision i just think there was a better way "out" of this situation. also em i love how you go through this hole video it maybe help people in a similar situation to make a better decision. love you so much !!! say hi to Dobby and Niffler for me !!!!
Yyeesss or got help...hire a trainer or let him go to a dog school...being a successful youtuber nikki could even contact Victoria stillwell from "it's me or the dog"....this is animal cruelty
rehoming a dog is not as easy as it sounds especially an aggressive dog with a bite history. In reality he would’ve spent the rest of his life in a shelter taking up spaces that adoptable dogs could’ve had whilst having a poor quality of life. In my opinion they did the right thing in the end but definitely messed up the rest of it.
@@izziesearlewebb3290 there's more and more people that are choosing to not have kids but have pets instead. at the shelter it would say "not good with kids" and someone with kids or who has kids come around would know that he's not the dog for them*. his breed is very sought after. they could have easily rehomed him.
They tell a story about their kid attacking their dog, then the kid getting food from their dog…and then talk about the dog snapping. Not the dogs fault.
Dogs harass anybody and everybody on a daily basis dogs favorite targets are children and elderly people. Dogs no matter how well trained they will never be more intelligent then humans can. And therefore dogs should never be allowed inside a house with children or elderly
By the way, it just makes my stomach churn with anger watching Nikki just sipping coffee while talking about killing her dog in her video, like its just another Sunday morning. Smh!!!
I’m so glad I wasn’t the only one that felt that way. I was thinking, “I just don’t like the way she’s so casually sipping the coffee, it feels so wrong.” It made me uncomfortable every time she did it.
I was inexplicably angry about the coffee! Maddening! And another commentator mentioned how unnaturally she was doing it. I think it's so she could rest her 'concerned' face because I think that little laugh when describing him as a clown - she was happy to see him not just gone but dead. She also cleared her throat a lot ( McGonagall would've offered her a lozenge) and my theory is people clear their throat when t get are lying or being deceptive.
This situation was handled in probably the worst possible way by these owners. This could have be completely avoided if they would have properly trained their dog and more importantly trained their kid to respect animals
I had to put my dog to sleep in March she had heart failure and I cried for almost a month straight. I barely could even talk about her without crying. I loved her so damn much and she was so special to me. That was the worst thing I ever had to go through I don’t care what anyone says it’s not just a dog. She was our family.
We had to put my dog down at home because they weren't giving any euthanized animals back in my city because of COVID. He had a stroke and couldn't keep down water or food any more, and it was the hardest thing in the world. It upsets me so much that they had no reason to not re-home him
I wanted to be as fair as possible based on the facts, and not to simply add to the witch hunt. There are lessons we can all learn here, and I hope I was able to inspire others to think critically, rather than simply be angry. Mind you, anger is a very reasonable response.
same.. i would have gone off.. like this dog with some proper training and help could have been completely fucking fine.. but no we gotta ignore the literal elephant in the room and let him go wild ! bloody used tampons.. honestly even a wet tissue would have figured out that oh my dog has been attacked as a pup he's afraid when he's outside maybe just MAYBE we should do something to help him! nope let's just put him down because all we deserve is to have the tip of every pencil we use break over and over till there is nothing left.. my god
ahh i luv both ur channels lol. Id be the same too, I'm bad at keeping sweet when im angry. Im glad she can look at situations in an objective way and give both sides a fair chance. These people r still terrible ofc
My parents had to rehome their dog Dickens when they adopted me. That’s what responsible people do. He wasn’t suitable for a household with a child. When I got older we had many other wonderful dogs that were right for our family. They all lived long, happy lives...including Dickens. Also, it seems to me that they were not ready for this dog 10 years ago in the first place. They let this behavior from the dogs trauma sort of fester over time and they got a breed of dog known to be extremely energetic and takes a ton of time and dedication to training. It’s all very irresponsible in my opinion and I hope people learn from this.
that's a hard thing too... so many people will attack great dog owners such as your parents for rehoming a dog because it isn't a fit among other reasons for "not trying hard enough" when they've done as much as they can within their limits.
in my opinion, this is 100% on the parents, they never set boundaries between the dog and the child. they neglected professional help for the dogs trauma, the incident where the dog bit the child was a completely preventable thing, they just ignored the obvious signs that the dog was giving. it was very unfair to the dog to be put in a situation like that, i hope the parents do better in the future.
What she said about the off-leash dogs in on-leash areas really gets me. My dog was also attacked by an unleashed dog as a puppy while I was walking her on the sidewalk. Please, please, please, DON'T let your dogs off leash in a neighborhood or populated area, no matter how friendly your dog usually is, you just can't account for every potential stimulus. Not only is it illegal it's extremely dangerous to your dog and others.
Our dog shadow I won't let her sniff other dogs...cause she's 13...cranky and overly excitable which can turn to aggression....its not her fault she's just an old grouchy lady who prefers older people over children, other dogs etc.
I personally have a hamster and also a 5 year old brother. I never leave him alone with my hamster in case something happens and I supervise them together. Since I adopted her I have been very clear to my brother about the proper way to pet/hold her. If he’s being too rough I immediately take her away. Once he wanted to pet her but at this time she wasn’t trained and I warned against it. However he still touched her and she but him. Because of this he knows that when I tell him he shouldn’t pet her, it’s because he could scare her and get hurt. It saddens me that people don’t really teach their children about respecting their pets.
If you know your dog is reactive though with other dogs, why would you continuously have them around other dogs and give them an opportunity to either injure another dog or be injured themselves.
There are also videos where they would shove their small dog in Bowser's face so it would bark and rowl at Bowser. That dog didn't deserve this bad of owners.
I can’t say I disagree with you. But I wanted to keep my head for this video. I don’t think I’d be able to educate effectively if I allow my emotions to speak.
Wow, you're so calm and collected, Em. I'm impressed and I'm FURIOUS at these people who took NO steps to resolve a common situation, they just let it escalate. There were so many options before re-homing that they didn't even try (and I'm not even commenting on euthanizing the dog, it shouldn't be an option imo). This is infuriating, I hope these people don't have pets ever again.
My parents put down our dog for similar circumstances when I was little. For the longest time I thought it was my fault the dog died. This messed me up for the longest time. I hope Logan doesn’t go through the same thoughts if he finds this out.
Add in that this kid is a forced "public figure" because his parents don't respect his privacy and his future classmates may come across these videos and articles using it to pick on him.
So basically "we don't want to deal with this dog anymore so we killed it" cewl ceeeewwl cewl cewl cewl.. Not cool. Em, you're amazing for presenting this video in such an education way, incredibly professional.
Em, you are way too kind. I wish I had the patience and soft spoken nature like yours when hearing stories like this. I use to follow Nikki years ago and was heart broken about Bowser.
Gosh Em, first of all, you are absolutely stunning. Always. Secondly your grace and empathy are evident in ALL of your videos. Thanks for making my day with this bonus video - even if it is sensitive to some. I have 6 dogs, so I’m always learning new things and I take your advice regularly when it comes to pet care. Keep doing you boo boo, you are doing amazing things!
Am I the only one who sees that this was 100% that woman's idea? The guy looks like a scolded child, while she seems annoyingly arrogant. I have a snappy bullterrier and annoying young daughter. They've know each other for 2 years and both test each other's boundaries. It's my job, as the parent, to 'parent' them both and keep them safe. They also play and nap together regularly. It's not all hell. Related to this video - the dog is not allowed near my daughter's food. My daughter is not allowed near the dog's food. Basics 🙄
You can't just bring a new human into your family and expect your dog to understand. BOTH the kid and the dog have to be TAUGHT in a safe environment. I can't believe they let their child be in the dog's face especially when he's eating without supervision, it was just a matter of time before something happened. Heartbreaking. Rest in Peace Good boy
Crate training was one of the best things I did as soon as I got my puppy. They are not bad They get used to it VERY quickly and after they get used to it they grow to love their crate most of the time. It is a safe space for them.
Murder. Laziness. Terrible parenting. Terrible people. Uneducated. Not responsible. Heartless. How you can be so nice to these people is beyond me. These are the worst kind of people.. the ones who don’t try hard enough.
I'm so annoyed listening to them talk about how they allowed their child to treat the dogs I have three dogs and 2 children and no it was not easy to keep them seperate when my daughter was a grabby baby but I did it for her and the dogs to keep everyone safe. And now as a 5 year old she has respect for the dogs and knows when to give them space.
It's nice to hear from someone else who muzzles their dog at the vet just in case something goes poorly. My vet has been working curbside for a year and I've brought my dog in a muzzle for every appointment because I can't go in with him and make sure he's not too stressed out. Every time I do, though, I get asked if he has a bite history (he doesn't) and the vet techs seem more nervous about taking him from me with the muzzle on than they do with an unmuzzled dog.
I get it, people are generally nervous if they see a dog with a muzzle, you automatically assume they are dangerous, especially if it's a breed of dog that is big and strong etc. But I also understand you, it doesn't matter your dog didn't bite anyone ever, you are more assured that nothing will go wrong, sometimes at the vets, if dog gets a shot or something, it can hurt, and they may try to bite, even if they don't actually want to hurt anyone, it's just that pain at the moment causes them to react, and you are smart because of it
Yes my dachshund nipped at the vet 10 years ago when she was around 6 months old. She’s been muzzled at the vet ever since just because I don’t want to risk a bite as she’s very nervous at the vet. I’ve had vets take the muzzle off once they realized she wasn’t going to be aggressive but IMO a scared dog is always a bite risk
At the end of the day it just seems like these people were lazy and they took the easy way out by putting him down if they didn’t want to put in the work to find a trainer or a behavior specialist for Bowser they could have at least rehomed him .
Yeah and looking into them they're just shitty people. Like they gave up on adopting a child once the agencies found out they documented the process. Reminds me of how Myka Stauffer disposed of the autistic child she adopted once he got too inconvenient for them
I feel like this is the result of not dealing with the trauma effectively after their dog was attacked as a puppy. They may not have known how to do that which is pretty common with many owners, but I feel like the dog needed more patients and a very skilled dog handler/ trainer to deal with that. Fear based aggression is tough to work through because it can only escalate from there if not addressed properly. It’s just a horrible situation all around.
@@BaranLordofLight though I don’t entirely agree with the comment above, in protecting an animal from a child’s innocence you are also protecting the child. Just as a puppy needs to learn to be gentle when at play so does a child, sadly incidents can still happen and they happen fast.
@@horselady6276dogs have brains of the size of a lemon ,.. children are in development it’s unfair for the baby to be killed by a instinct driven machine
What a level headed response, critique, and lengthy break down of what happened. I was pissed at first and I'm glad you did this video. What happened sucks but it's a fantastic chance to educate others.
The thing that makes me the most sick of this whole situation is the “pre euthanasia” photo shoot they did. With the kid literally a few inches from the dog..like what? Just psychopathic
Oh my god you called out their use of spirit animal. As an indigenous person I’m like crying That you’re aware (I’m sensitive rn from putting down my pet rat on Tuesday we suspected he had cancer). Thank you for being considerate. So spirit animal is a bastardized version of our beliefs and terms (people are gonna jump on me for this who are non native but I don’t care) such as spirit guide in the dialects of the tribes, or the actual version is Spirit Name and clan. My spirit name is Standing Otter and my clan is the Martin Bird. And these are sacred spiritual things that aren’t like haha I’m like that animal. It’s such a misunderstanding but it was coined by the colonizers by their misunderstanding of our spiritual cultural beliefs. Thank you for being considerate Em 💖 A lot of natives aren’t being educated by their elders or don’t know this but imo it’s pretty offensive. There’s so many other cool things you could say like familiar, patronus, daemon, etc People are gonna argue with me but if you cause any issues I will just block you. I don’t have the energy to argue with people while I’m mourning thanks.
Hope, I’m so, so sorry about your pet rat... it’s such a shame that they have such a short lifespan, and are so susceptible to cancers. I’m sending you lots of love and healing light 🕯 May your rat Rest In Peace over the rainbow bridge. 🌈 ☀️ 🐀 And thank you so much for spreading more awareness on this topic. I used to think it was harmless, because *meme culture*, but I realize that I’ve been ignorant at times, and I’ve tried to educate myself better on what I don’t know ❤️ I know better now. Thank you xxx
The thing that makes me the most upset about this entire situation is how little the parents did to correct their son's behavior. "He pulled hard enough on the dog's ear to cause scarring" or "he stole food directly from the dog." AND WHERE WERE YOU TWO?? Tell your kid "hey maybe don't mess with the dog."
Yes because toddlers understand how to not mess with a dog 100% of the time enough to safely rely on simply saying “don’t do that” 🤦🏼♀️ And how do you know they didn’t discipline the kid?? You can’t keep your eyes and focus glued on both a dog and a toddler at every second of every day. Sure you could try to keep them apart constantly with gates and doors etc, but try to imagine the stress of parenting a small human that can’t control their own choices yet alongside an unpredictable dog.
@@MusicalFilly it's any parents' responsibility to teach children to be gentle with animals. I have worked with plenty of toddlers, and no, they DON'T understand that they can't hit the dog when it takes a toy from them. They DON'T understand that they shouldn't pull on an animal's tail or legs or ears. But the parents need to correct this behavior the SECOND it happens. Toddlers are hard to keep track of, and you can't watch them every second, but that doesn't remove the responsibility they have as parents and pet owners to keep both child and dog safe.
Okay, wow, I thought they were going to say they had to give the dog up. But they put him to sleep?? Edit: I'm a little farther in and I don't know why they did the things they did. We all make mistakes I know, but...those are some persistent mistakes. Also I would be sobbing if I'd had to put my dog to sleep. And they had him 10 years?? I'm a little flabbergasted.
I’ve worked for a dog trainer for 4 years now. The second they had an issue with aggression they should have seen a trainer. Early aggression is easily fixable. Knowing that they have children and not dealing with the problem is a huge issue. They just ignored the problem and the dog paid for it.
Watching this, with my dog Bowser next to me is so upsetting! 😭 I have three kids that have grown up with cats and dogs around always... And part of my parenting duty (In my opinion) was to teach them to respect and understand the limits of the pets! Pets are never toys, and euthanasia isn't the solution unless the pet is too sick!!!! :(
Hey, I just wanted to say that I appreciate how calm and kind you are while talking about difficult subjects. It's not easy to achieve that mental attitude.
I hadn't heard of these people before but this makes me so sad because it feels like much of this could have been prevented by keeping the child away. PLEASE use pet gates and baby gates, people.
Hell there aren't any children in the house I live in, but when my roommates got their new puppy a little bit ago one of the first things they did was get baby gates so the cats and I could still have our space without being harassed all the time by said dog. I'm sure my feline buddies appreciated that as much as I did lol
I greatly appreciate the educational aspect of this video. These things are happening all the time bc, ugh it so shocking, people really DON’T KNOW dog behavior. As a dog owner and toddler parent, I have to know BOTH behaviors.
When you make that decision, it's either by law or because ALL other options are impossible. Pretty sad to think a TH-cam with millions of "fans" couldn't find another more appropriate home for even an "aggressive" animal. They're extremely selfish to think they're world, of all people, is so small. Insane. That animal could have been rehabbed and trained by a professional quite quickly.
I am very happy to see that you did a video on this situation. You always wonderful in making sure to educate and not completely slander people based on emotions alone. Thank you for putting your take out there, I hope a lot of people watch this video and gain something from it. Thank you for always showing up and killing it Em!!!
This was a great and comprehensive video! Thank you for addressing the problematic ways that "spirit animal" is used, as well as calling their dog "bipolar." That just reeks of ableism and insensitivity. I am also intrigued to know if Bowser was ever socialized with his litter. The couple says often that they had him for his entire life and obviously got him when he was a very young puppy, so I'm wondering if part of his perceived behavioural issues had anything to do with him not having the proper amount of time to be socialized with his litter and mother. But yeah other than that, this whole situation screams negligence. If this couple could afford to have a home euthanasia, I'm sure they could've afforded to properly look into dog training, behaviourists, and breed specific care and information.
I have 3 dogs, honestly they have all exhibited similar behavior, and I can't justify putting them down and ending their life over normal dog aggression. My daughter had to learn where NOT to touch the dogs and where NOT to go that is their territory. She's 9 now but since the age of 2 she has been bitten and has even bled as well as other family members even with behavior training they are impulsive and DOGS not humans and they snap with things that we would never assume would set them off. Especially as pack animals when ONE goes off the others join in and one of older dogs was injured at the time, recovering and she's a Shiba and can be agressive. She felt threatened while I was feeding our other dogs and she decided to attack my smallest dog and could have killed him. It seriously frightened us but now that she's healed we have not had any issues BUT we feed them in a crate now. So, we learned from that and we have muzzled trained.
Watching this video is so calming compared to everyone else’s rage videos. Thank you. Being able to calmly discuss a difficult topic, without overshadowing it with your emotional reaction is such a great experience.
My dog walker introduced her grandson to my dog. He is autistic and struggled to form relationships with people. He met my dog and said 'maybe she has autism like me, she's scared of loud noises and doesn't like strange people. She's just like me' I know that's not the case its just bad experiences and training but it made me happy to know they had made a little bond and she made the boy happy and not feel so alone
Someone in my area keeps contacting me about her 6 month old husky to get free advice on how to take care of it. After a week they wanted to get rid of it, and then the next day decided to keep it. They keep dragging their feet on training and taking him to the vet. She contacted me in a panic because the dog bit her kid after shoving an iPad in its face. I told them several times to contact a husky rescue or a trainer prior to the incident, but here we are. I feel so bad for the dog. I keep hearing stories like this and it breaks my heart.
Poor dog didn’t even get a chance to improve. There definitely were other options but I know sometimes in the moment it’s hard to decide what to do. (Mind you idk anything about these people)My theory is that the place they wanna move to wasn’t gonna work out with having him.
The way the guy about how it was HIS dog and sorta insinuated no one else would be able to care for him as he has, that kinda felt like he might've saw the dog as an object. Poor dog was no longer fitting into what they wanted and it almost feels like a if I can't have him no one can situation.
As a dog owner hearing ab the putting down of bowser and hearing the way you could do it literally made me cry. Props to you Em for being able to talk ab this as a dog owner.
So I know it is not the appropriate place to feed a dog but I can shed some light on why people do it. The kitchen floor is generally the easiest floor in the house to clean, especially if you have carpeting in the rest of the house.
The kitchen in my house is my dogs space, their crates are in there (no doors on them cause they're well behaved) and their food. They eat when we do and at night they sleep in there in their crates as I've 6 cats and I don't leave everyone roaming unsupervised just incase... Yes... I supervise my 2 dogs and 6 cats better than this couple did with 1 kid and 1 dog.... 6 yrs and not one incident in my house.... And I have my neices and nephews over a lot too... 🙄
This just......*DEEP BREATH*.....so instead of rehoming the dog, they took the lazy and murderous way out. I.....wow Em, good for you for keep this educational and classy. I need to go punch a wall now....
I am so glad you did this video, especially with what you talked about with kids and dog safety. I was mauled by my family dogs growing up. I had a bad family home and was unsupervised. I was playing with the dogs food as a toddler and now have permanent teeth mark scars on my face in my 20s. My parents should never have neglected me like that and I hope your video helps others be safe and informed.
My 4 year old basset hound got attacked by a pit bull mix a few weeks ago. He got his stitches out a week ago. I made sure to warm him back up with walks and seeing other dogs from afar while on the walks. I was very worried he would get aggressive after the attack. We went to the dog park this morning and he was nervous around big dogs so I kept him in the small dog area. He does know and is comfortable with the small dogs. Bassets are a more clam breed in general. I was very happy with how well he did.
So, here is my story about why I kinda hate it when people say "Oh, we had to put our dog down because he/she became agressive towards our toddler" Years ago my aunt and uncle had a Schnauzer called Sargent Pepper, he was the sweetest, calmest, best boy ever. He was already an older dog (like around 10 or 12) and I spent a couple of weeks at their house, he (the dog) loved to curl up between my legs and have his head scratched, but he didn't run much or liked to be bothered too much because well he was old and not as active anymore. A couple months latter I found out my aunt and uncle had to put him down because he bit a kid (not their own but the same age and they were playing together). And I was SHOCKED, I couldn't believe he did that, he was so calm and nice, but I was like "If they thought it was the only choice, they must be right". A while after I went to the same house and they had gotten their kid a Beagle puppy, and I watched him (their kid) and two other kids (one of them was the one who got bit) "playing" with the puppy. The poor little puppy kept crawling under the bed, shaking, trying to get away from the children and they would crawl chasing the dog, grab him by the leg and pull him out while the dog tried to hold on to the carpet and kept shaking. THAT IS WHY THAT KID GOT BIT: Not because the dog was agressive, but because this children thought dogs were toys and probably did something that hurt or scared the dog.
I never had a dog in my life, but I learnt a lot. This video is so informative. There’s so much great information on what you can do to deal with difficult animals. I wish those two could have done something earlier. There’s so many chances that they missed. It’s sad.
I really appreciate the nuanced response to this. Neither letting them off the hook when they could have done better nor jumping straight to anyone who puts a dog down is a terrible monster.
There is such good advice in this video. Thank you for your kindness, and taking a bad situation and making something positive (a learning experience) out of it
It's very sad that despite having extensive financial resources, they didn't seek out the help of professional dog trainers. I understand that some people don't have the time or money to deal with this situation in a different way, but that certainly wasn't the case here.
Thank you for handing this so professionally. You gave a lot of important information to people who might have similar problems, without pouring metaphorical gasoline on this metaphorical fire. Good work.
I think what really gets me is they knew it was an unfair environment for Bowser and seemingly did nothing to fix that and instead decided to euthanize the dog.
I am so glad that you posted information from a professional standpoint, in a non condescending & non emotion fueled manner. It's okay for people to be outraged, upset and all of those emotions as it is a very bad situation. There were alot of things that should have been done but that cannot be brought back, the thing that can be done now is education.
Growing up, my dogs ate in the kitchen, but we were taught not to bug them when they ate and to give them space when they wanted to be alone. Anyway agree with everything
Exactly! I've never had a dog myself but I know almost all creatures in the canid family are instinctively protective over food so it's not smart to make them think you're going to take their food. To kill a dog for biting because their food was taken is stupid. Parents should've kept the kid away from the dog's bowl.
I think this video can be very helpful for people who are in a similar situation as Dan and Nikki. I hope this video can find it's way into the lifes of people who need to know about options for behavioral problems and helps them.
1. They went on vacation after they put him down. 2. They are moving soon 3. They want to reboot their channel as they’ve been losing subs and views lately. This was all a convenience for them. All for views. They didn’t need to put up a long, drawn out video with ads about putting down their “clown baby”. Just gross.
Knowing Em is so understanding about this issue makes me so proud. My father killed my dog after she bit someone (i was 12 at the time) and way too many peopletold me "what if they bit you?" or "Aggresive dogs need to be put down" or "Why are you so sad its just a dog"
Your ability to be so empathetic towards these people while also being critical is admirable. This situation was very likely avoidable, but they did nothing to prepare this dog for its life, they did nothing to prepare this dog for a new baby in the house, and they failed to separate their child from situations where the dogs boundaries were being invaded. They failed their dog, they failed their child, and it led to them making poor, hasty decisions that resulted in the end of a poor animals life. Meanwhile, there is still another dog in their house.
My parents always taught me and my brother who is 3 years younger than me to be very respectful of animals, especially dogs. My mother always said to not ever get in a dogs face, or to approach them suddenly, and to be calm. I want to study and work with dolphins when I'm older, and I think understanding boundaries and limits is especially important for anyone. I know bunnies and dogs have *very* different temperaments, but I'm using my bun as an example for my point (Because my puppy is not a good example by any means). My bunny is absolutely the sweetest thing ever. I haven't left his side for more than 5 hours since last May, so we're very close. Even so, no matter how much he's comfortable with sitting in my lap, I always keep in mind at the back of my head that he is a bunny, and he may not like all of our interactions if forced. It breaks my heart to hear a child it bitten because his parents failed to teach him how to behave around their dog. To me, respect and understanding are the two utmost important things when owning any animal. EDIT: But all things aside, you're looking gorgeous today Em.
Hey Em I just wanted to say I’m so proud of you for surviving and coming out the bright side of an abusive relationship you have helped me so much come to terms with what I went through as well! Thank you so much for making videos(sorry this isn’t about the video but just wanted to say! Also amazing makeup!!)
Important notes: Please do not send any hate towards Nikki or Dan Phillippi. This video is intended to be a critique of a real-life situation many pet owners can be faced with, as well as a learning resource for those who may be going through similar with their dogs. I felt it was important for me to go into this situation as unbiased as possible, and prior to filming and editing, I did not know of any pre-existing drama of any sort concerning the creators I am critiquing, or their treatment of their animals. BEFORE you choose to euthanize any pet due to behavioural (or suspected mental) issues, please do the following:
1) Take your pet to the vet to check for any medical reason which would affect your dogs temperament.
2) Consult with multiple trainers and behaviourists.
3) If your dog is a specific breed, seek the guidance and assistance of a Breed Specific Rescue.
Think critically. Be kind.
xx
Em
Your fans would never, they're the kindest people ever. It's contagious!
Dont worry em
They became lazy dog parents and lazy human parents.
Their actions disgust me.
@@melanieserguiev909 tbh i think the same
I think they are making a lot of excuses to make themselves look better, like Caesar says in the dog whisperer , its not the dogs fault, its the owner, they show no remorse or emotion when talking about bowser, The moment he said that he wanted to take the dog out like old yeller, makes me sick, I lost my cat and had to euthanize him I cry every time i think about it, I think after spending a decade with a dog and treating it like family they would be more broken up about it, there are a lot of rescues and foster homes that will take in a aggressive dog, where they train and analyze what triggers the dog,
From what I looked up. Their son basically annoyed the dog. I think the husband even said the son pulled on the dogs ear so much that the dog had cauliflower ear and had scarring. Idk why parents refuse to teach their toddlers and children to be gentle with animals. I applaud you for staying so calm cause I couldn't even finish the video
They should be training their son to not pull dogs ears.
I grew up with a somewhat aggressive dog.
There were a lot of rules and we never interacted with the dog without supervision when he was younger.
He died peacefully, when he was 19.
My 1.5 year old has grown up with two cats, a dog and a hamster. He is so gentle with all of them it amazes me. It was hard work getting him to understand nice hands and not to get too excited. But that hard work was worth it for many reasons.
Yes, I completely agree. This was totally preventable. Yet, they do a video and post it right after they did it. Im not sure, but that did not rub me the right way. Also, is it just me or am I the only one bothered by Nikki sipping coffee while discussing about killing their dog.... 😠🤬😤
@@leviathan1140 exactly this. My grand parents had 2 not always friendly dogs but they were outside and we had to be very careful and supervised around them.
Damn this hits hard...my parents adopted a dog from an abusive home where the boyfriend of the woman would beat the dog so bad that he didn't trust anyone anymore. So when my parents brought him home all he would do was hide under the bed and would attack anyone who would come close. My mom had to work with him until he was able to trust people again. When they found out I was coming along, they got worried about how he would react to a baby. The difference is that my parents showed me how to touch the dog and not hurt him by accident and he never did anything to me. That dog got so attached to me that he never left my side. He was a really good boy.
Abused dogs often turn around and become the most attached. It's as if all of the affection they never got to give suddenly comes out once you break their shell
I'm so glad your parents did such a good job.
We got a dog when I was little who kept biting people, we assume because of past trauma. She also kept escaping because she was a hound and wanted to hunt smells. My parents didn't know how to handle it. But we still didn't kill the dog. We brought it back to the shelter and they informed us they'd found a home with no kids, and a lot of space for the dog.
I know many people may not be able to find rehoming for a rough dog, but they seem to have a huge internet following. They could ask the public, ask a friend, etc.
@@cre-k8-ive sometimes a home just isnt fit for a dog like that, especially when children are involved. Im glad your parents did the right thing, even tho im sure it was a difficult desicion:)
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Well I just cried again
Honestly. Baby gates exist. It would have been so easy to have them in separate rooms to ease a dogs anxiety and keep the child away safely. My mom instilled in us from birth to be gentle. Any time we were in contact with and animal the first thing she would say is “gentle” and if we weren’t we were removed from the situation. This is on the parents 100%. You are so much kinder than I could have been lol
Same! My parents raised me to be gentle with animals and once we were old enough, we were taught to read their body language. I didn't think this was uncommon until I owned pets of my own and introduced them to other people who were apparently never raised to respect animals.
Same! I did the same thing when I got my dog about 1.5 months ago. She would mouth my toddler and jump on him so I separated them if I could not directly supervise them. I got her into training and working with her and did the" shepherding." Also my son would get in big trouble and be separated from her if he tried to poke or even think of climbing on her. Now he knows not to do and teya loves him now while stopped mouthing him or trying to jump all over him. I hate it when parents let their child do to whatever to pets. That is how you raise brats and bullies.
i know right? all i am hearing them say is '' we think out child s intitled to do as it pleases and the dog should put up with that'' and then they spurise pickachu face when their dog hates the kid.
I've been through the toddler process and we made sure they were constantly checked on and taught how we treat animals. This was soooo unnecessary. Sucks
I used a baby gate for my dog to train him to sleep indoors without peeing and it worked, he didn't like it but it still worked
I could never be this nice. I have zero respect or empathy for these people. Their beloved dog of almost a decade was put under a lot of stress, reacted properly and as normal dogs do, and was killed by his own family. There were so many other options that would not have resulted in a dead dog. Rest in peace, Bowser 💚
It’s such a sad situation... but I feel that if I were to get emotional and angry, it might discredit my points of view, and encourage others to lash out. That’s not my goal, but I do see your point
I've seen some of her videos in the past and I lost all empathy for them years ago. She does so many things out of pure ignorance and there's no reason for her to be that ignorant.
well you should. yall rude af.
@@Emzotic oh absolutely, this video is the best way to do it, calm and unbiased and informative...I just personally could never 😂 much respect and love to you and Kiba!!
@@teemo7714 Have respect or empathy for them? No I shouldn’t, they did something so vile and I personally just can’t overlook it...But, I wouldn’t be rude to them directly, I’m just venting my frustrations here, where they’re not supposed to see it
I feel like they could have done more for Bowser, but instead, chose the "easy way out" for the lack of the better way to say it. Also, you are supposed to SUPERVISED BOTH THE CHILD AND THE DOG!!! I think they were both careless when it came to training and they lacked the initiative to try to get it behavioral training and help. Unfortunately, Bowser payed the price with his life. So sad....
At least he isnt suffering, in a pound or being abused or stressed more. Sometimes I think this is more merciful 🙁 who knows what would happen. It's hard to think about for sure. I definitely feel bad for the dog and the kid in this senerio.
@@Alicia.Marie.13 The thing is, I did not hear, not even once, about them getting their dog professional help, and if they did, we do not know up to what degree of help did they try to provide their dog with. In one of their other videos, Nikki mentions how they stopped taking Bowser out for walks anymore. If thats the case, the dog had even more pent up energy and stress in him. If he was "too agressive," you can still take your dog out for walks or give it exercise while keeping everyone safe. Plus, the child, in this case, was the aggressor (although its not the child's fault either- the parents have to supervise, and teach your child manners too, as the child gets older as well) of course the dog is going to react in the way that it did. But instead, they chose to kill their dog. And they chose to kill their dog before their big move. (And they posted it on IG and TH-cam-money and views maybe? Sounds suspish, since they got sooooo many views after they posted this video. Im pretty sure that was going to happen...) How convenient. 🤥😐😑😤😤😤
My dog adores my child. She is so gentle and sweet. They get along great. But they are still never ever left alome together.
@@JamieMarzy Same. I don't trust any dog at anytime to be left alone with my 18month old son. No way. He is to grubby and clumsy and you never know what could happen! Unsafe for sure.
I agree with you. It almost felt like they got into a routine of keeping bowser out of sight and out of mind, until there was a good opportunity to get out of the responsibility. I believe bowser could have been rehabilitated.
If someone chased me around when I was sleeping I would growl too...
THIS
And eventually I'd be driven to smack someone like Bowser did here, ngl
@@Emzotic if someone grabbed my ear to the point of damaging it probably permently ngl I would do anything to get them off, it is a literal miracle that bowser didn't maul him for that
Same
Then you should not be considered humans best friend or a family member if you’re gonna maul those you love
Phew, your calmness toward these "people" and their sheer ignorance and clownery is AMAZING. This is my BIGGEST pet peeve. People completely failing their dogs AND their children makes me so angry. I'd be cursing up a storm if I were covering this situation!
They totally failed their dog, you're right, he didnt have to die.
I'd say there's a point where you want to send hate but you shouldn't
Hi so please don’t ever put “people” in quotations, no matter how mad you are. What an awful thing to do.
It’s a peeve of mind too. Truthfully, it’s very upsetting, but I don’t feel I’d be doing justice to who I am to lash out. My goal is never to hurt. Only to educate and inspire.
@@Emzotic Thanks
This was a great video Em. I have a American Bulldog who became reactive to dogs he doesn’t know because of him being attacked by an off leashed dog while he was on a leash. He started “hard staring” any dogs he would see, even his sister doggie. Crate training, CORRECT socialization, and positive reinforcement has given my boy his life back 💛
See, that's how you do it! 😊
Unfortunately my dog who had a similar experience with the neighbors dog and she had to be put down. She would have an anxiety attack anytime she went outside. There was no quality of life, we tried everything from specialists to at home training tactics but nothing was helping her. I still think there was more that I could've done.
THANK YOU for being a responsible owner!!
@@Emily-fr3fg at least you tried your best.
This happened to me too. I’m at a loss at how to help my sweet girl. She can’t be trusted around stranger dogs because she stares and then growls and lunges. What did you do to fix it ?
I want to know why they were not supervising their kid and the dog?? Like how does this happen? You know your dog snaps so why would you ever leave the kid and dog unattended in the same room?
To be fair, a small child is a lot of work, and sometimes you have to answer the phone or go to the bathroom!
@@kitwhitfield7169 Horrible excuse, things happen, but there are two of them. You can’t leave a child and a dog unsupervised in the same room for any reasons besides an emergency that threatens lives. You separate them before leaving, take the child with you, or stay in the room for a phone call. You shouldn’t leave a kid unattended even in your home WITHOUT there being an aggressive dog known to snap and holds trauma. Putting them in an enclosed space, neither of them having training to be near each other, is asking for trouble.
@@kitwhitfield7169 it’s called a playpen or crate or muzzle your dog... are you seriously telling me that you’d leave your kid who just started walking alone with an aggressive dog?
They supervised. They just did nothing. In their own words they saw the dog upset and move away from the kid or growl and they still let the kid follow the dog and get back in it's face, and their response was the dog is dangerous.
This!
I’m bi polar too and I hated the fact he described the dogs behavior as “bi polar” and then you said something about that being a problem and I was so happy you did. It’s like when a guy is just like “and now she’s mad at me she’s so bi polar I swear” it’s like people need to realize it’s an actual mental condition and not an adjective . It makes it so hard to break health stigmas when people use words in that fashion. Love from one Em to Another ✨❤️
Love you! Stay strong, and never be ashamed ❤️❤️❤️
Right. My sister is special needs and I felt extremely uncomfortable when they used that term on their dog.
And literally nothing about this is bipolar. Bowser was an animal who was provoked. He had the normal and expected response of getting upset.
@@Chelseabee55 exactly!!!
@@Emzotic love you thank you for your kind words!
Since they didn't mention doing any sort of behavior training, I definitely believe they could've done more for their dog. I also feel that the humane society saying that rehoming bowser would've been impossible is kind of shitty. It definitely would've been hard, but I think they could've found a rescue that would rehabilitate him or find him the specific home he needs with no other dogs or children.
Unfortunately some human societies are extremely shitty.
I agree. The HSUS certainly let them down too.
You have to be realistic. This is a 10 year old dog with known dog aggression and known attacks on children. Think of the immense number of perfectly healthy dogs with no behavioural issues that are sitting in shelters waiting to be adopted. It is not at all unreasonable to say he is not an adoptable dog. I don't think they did everything right but I also think behavioural euthanasia can be the only course of action in some situations. I work in a vet clinic and I've seen a situation where rehoming the pet would be wildly irresponsible.
Hahahah you’ve never worked in a shelter obviously, some put bully dogs down on site. Judge less
I agree with Mikaela, it is not the job of the HSUS to rehabilitate your dog that you did not bother to train. They do not have the resources for that kind of work and every day behaviorally good dogs end up being put to sleep due to lack of space. It is on the owners to have educated themselves, educated their dog, trained their dog and found solutions to the problems they have caused. They could have possibly worked with a smaller breed specific rescue to help try and rehome the dog or with a trainer/behaviorist who could have given more insight. Listening to these people they got a dog they didn't know a lot about, did not do training with, who did not fit in with their lifestyle.
I understand that kids come first. But this dog could’ve easily been rehomed. There’s no timeline in which a dog can be rehomed; you see senior dogs in shelters all the time that go on to be adopted for their final years.
I had to put my American Eskimo dog, Jango, to sleep in March. This hits so hard for me because i HAD to put him down because he was SICK and his quality of life was GONE. We had no other option, he didn’t have the option to live longer with me or with someone else... i guess I’m biased because my wounds are still fresh but this situation disgusts me because they did not explore all options, they just chose death for him..
Edit: I’d like to add that i understand he was an aggressive/reactive dog because of experiences when he was a puppy, but i really think Bowser could’ve found love in a home with someone who understands and knows how to live with aggressive/reactive dogs. There are a lot of people with that kind of experience who could’ve handled him and let him live the rest of his life.
I saw their video first and for me there is just no excuse. They had the dog for 9 years and the baby is not 8 years old so let that sink in first.
Dogs don't get aggressive over night, they also said it was not the first time, it has been an ongoing problem since the dog was young and never corrected the behaviour. The also said they contemplated the idea a few years back so again nothing new.
With their reach and amount of followers they have, there is no way nobody could take the dog, there are dogs beeing adopted at 10, 11 even 12 years old. Yes I know the aggression makes it difficult but is not imposible specially with the amount of reach out they have.
I'm also with you, the only reason an animal has yo be put down is if their life quality is compromised, so no you are not being biased, they failed their dog.
I'm sorry for your lost, you gave him an amazing life and made sure he was comfortable until his last breath
@@dc515 first of all, thank you 💕
And yes i absolutely agree. There’s no way they couldn’t have found him a home with their exposure. And the fact that they had considered putting him to sleep even before their kid was hurt says a lot. They’re just irresponsible dog owners who never corrected his behavior. So sad to see this dog had to lose his life all because of uneducation.
i feel like they knew about how they had a aggressive/reactive dog and then bringing a baby/toddler into the situation wasn't going to make it any better. even extremely well behaved dogs can snap at babies since the baby don't know what they are doing, especially if that dog has aggressive and reactive behaviour. they should of rehoused the dog to a suitable house with no small children or other dogs maybe with someone who has experienced having aggressive dogs in the past. this dog didn't deserve to die but it wasn't the right fit for this family. no hate on there decision i just think there was a better way "out" of this situation.
also em i love how you go through this hole video it maybe help people in a similar situation to make a better decision. love you so much !!! say hi to Dobby and Niffler for me !!!!
Many shelters and rescues will not take a dog that bites. That s such a liability
@@auggiedoggiesmommy1734 sure but those are not the only options, there is plenty of people that will take care of dogs like that
Honestly, it sounds like they were too lazy to find a suitable home for him.
Also sounds like the consultant made it seem like their only option was euthanasia. Too many ppl failed this poor dog.
Yyeesss or got help...hire a trainer or let him go to a dog school...being a successful youtuber nikki could even contact Victoria stillwell from "it's me or the dog"....this is animal cruelty
Or walk the dog. When the kid was born they stopped walking him.
rehoming a dog is not as easy as it sounds especially an aggressive dog with a bite history. In reality he would’ve spent the rest of his life in a shelter taking up spaces that adoptable dogs could’ve had whilst having a poor quality of life. In my opinion they did the right thing in the end but definitely messed up the rest of it.
@@izziesearlewebb3290 there's more and more people that are choosing to not have kids but have pets instead. at the shelter it would say "not good with kids" and someone with kids or who has kids come around would know that he's not the dog for them*. his breed is very sought after. they could have easily rehomed him.
The kid getting bitten was not Bowser's fault-it was the parents responsibility to protect their dog from the child. They failed to protect both.
They tell a story about their kid attacking their dog, then the kid getting food from their dog…and then talk about the dog snapping. Not the dogs fault.
Dogs harass anybody and everybody on a daily basis dogs favorite targets are children and elderly people. Dogs no matter how well trained they will never be more intelligent then humans can. And therefore dogs should never be allowed inside a house with children or elderly
By the way, it just makes my stomach churn with anger watching Nikki just sipping coffee while talking about killing her dog in her video, like its just another Sunday morning. Smh!!!
I’m so glad I wasn’t the only one that felt that way. I was thinking, “I just don’t like the way she’s so casually sipping the coffee, it feels so wrong.” It made me uncomfortable every time she did it.
After watching some stuff on body behavior in court cases and stuff I felt so upset by her doing that, at least the guy looked somewhat upset..
I was looking to see if anyone else noticed that or was bothered by it. It really irked me! Why was it necessary for her to drink that right now??
I was inexplicably angry about the coffee! Maddening! And another commentator mentioned how unnaturally she was doing it. I think it's so she could rest her 'concerned' face because I think that little laugh when describing him as a clown - she was happy to see him not just gone but dead. She also cleared her throat a lot ( McGonagall would've offered her a lozenge) and my theory is people clear their throat when t get are lying or being deceptive.
*talks about killing dog*
"sorry there's a bird outside"
*talks about letting child abuse dog*
"sorry, let me close the window"
*sips coffee*
I see they’re the type of parents who expect animals to automatically put up with their kids crap and then blame the dog when it reacts
This situation was handled in probably the worst possible way by these owners. This could have be completely avoided if they would have properly trained their dog and more importantly trained their kid to respect animals
I had to put my dog to sleep in March she had heart failure and I cried for almost a month straight. I barely could even talk about her without crying. I loved her so damn much and she was so special to me. That was the worst thing I ever had to go through I don’t care what anyone says it’s not just a dog. She was our family.
Same thing here and at the same time. I dont understand the lack of emotion they have for this dog its wild.
I'm sorry for your loss
We had to put my dog down at home because they weren't giving any euthanized animals back in my city because of COVID. He had a stroke and couldn't keep down water or food any more, and it was the hardest thing in the world. It upsets me so much that they had no reason to not re-home him
I’m sorry for your loss, losing a dog is just awful.
I just read about this earlier today and was curious if you’d touch on it. You’re way kinder to these assholes than I could be 😅😅
I wanted to be as fair as possible based on the facts, and not to simply add to the witch hunt. There are lessons we can all learn here, and I hope I was able to inspire others to think critically, rather than simply be angry. Mind you, anger is a very reasonable response.
@@Emzotic I’ve been following you for years and you always have great approaches to these uncomfortable situations. I really appreciate your input!
@@Emzotic u are so rigth
same.. i would have gone off.. like this dog with some proper training and help could have been completely fucking fine.. but no we gotta ignore the literal elephant in the room and let him go wild ! bloody used tampons.. honestly even a wet tissue would have figured out that oh my dog has been attacked as a pup he's afraid when he's outside maybe just MAYBE we should do something to help him! nope let's just put him down because all we deserve is to have the tip of every pencil we use break over and over till there is nothing left.. my god
ahh i luv both ur channels lol. Id be the same too, I'm bad at keeping sweet when im angry. Im glad she can look at situations in an objective way and give both sides a fair chance. These people r still terrible ofc
My parents had to rehome their dog Dickens when they adopted me. That’s what responsible people do. He wasn’t suitable for a household with a child. When I got older we had many other wonderful dogs that were right for our family. They all lived long, happy lives...including Dickens.
Also, it seems to me that they were not ready for this dog 10 years ago in the first place. They let this behavior from the dogs trauma sort of fester over time and they got a breed of dog known to be extremely energetic and takes a ton of time and dedication to training. It’s all very irresponsible in my opinion and I hope people learn from this.
that's a hard thing too... so many people will attack great dog owners such as your parents for rehoming a dog because it isn't a fit among other reasons for "not trying hard enough" when they've done as much as they can within their limits.
This is an under rated comment!
I love the polite way you corrected not only the animal care but the use of words like bipolar, thank you Em, you’re the advocate we all deserve
in my opinion, this is 100% on the parents, they never set boundaries between the dog and the child. they neglected professional help for the dogs trauma, the incident where the dog bit the child was a completely preventable thing, they just ignored the obvious signs that the dog was giving. it was very unfair to the dog to be put in a situation like that, i hope the parents do better in the future.
What she said about the off-leash dogs in on-leash areas really gets me. My dog was also attacked by an unleashed dog as a puppy while I was walking her on the sidewalk. Please, please, please, DON'T let your dogs off leash in a neighborhood or populated area, no matter how friendly your dog usually is, you just can't account for every potential stimulus. Not only is it illegal it's extremely dangerous to your dog and others.
Our dog shadow I won't let her sniff other dogs...cause she's 13...cranky and overly excitable which can turn to aggression....its not her fault she's just an old grouchy lady who prefers older people over children, other dogs etc.
I personally have a hamster and also a 5 year old brother. I never leave him alone with my hamster in case something happens and I supervise them together. Since I adopted her I have been very clear to my brother about the proper way to pet/hold her. If he’s being too rough I immediately take her away. Once he wanted to pet her but at this time she wasn’t trained and I warned against it. However he still touched her and she but him. Because of this he knows that when I tell him he shouldn’t pet her, it’s because he could scare her and get hurt. It saddens me that people don’t really teach their children about respecting their pets.
If you know your dog is reactive though with other dogs, why would you continuously have them around other dogs and give them an opportunity to either injure another dog or be injured themselves.
There are also videos where they would shove their small dog in Bowser's face so it would bark and rowl at Bowser.
That dog didn't deserve this bad of owners.
Because they're stupid. At least, that's what I got out of them.
IMO these people are just incredibly ignorant on dog behavior and took the easy way out. Very sad. :(
They also seem like lazy parents 😒
He used the small dog like a toy to provoke Bowser. It is all their fault and I can't get past it. Horrifying.
Honestly, you were way too kind and forgiving to this family that murdered their dog because they were too lazy to help it.
This. These folks don't deserve any sympathy.
Agreed! Well said 👏 👌 👍 🙌
Right?! A perfectly healthy dog exhibiting a normal response to food being taken...
I can’t say I disagree with you. But I wanted to keep my head for this video. I don’t think I’d be able to educate effectively if I allow my emotions to speak.
@@Emzotic Thank you for taking the productive stance, hopefully a lot of people can learn from your video.
Wow, you're so calm and collected, Em. I'm impressed and I'm FURIOUS at these people who took NO steps to resolve a common situation, they just let it escalate. There were so many options before re-homing that they didn't even try (and I'm not even commenting on euthanizing the dog, it shouldn't be an option imo). This is infuriating, I hope these people don't have pets ever again.
My parents put down our dog for similar circumstances when I was little. For the longest time I thought it was my fault the dog died. This messed me up for the longest time. I hope Logan doesn’t go through the same thoughts if he finds this out.
Add in that this kid is a forced "public figure" because his parents don't respect his privacy and his future classmates may come across these videos and articles using it to pick on him.
That's really sad. I'm sorry your parents didn't help you understand
So basically "we don't want to deal with this dog anymore so we killed it" cewl ceeeewwl cewl cewl cewl.. Not cool.
Em, you're amazing for presenting this video in such an education way, incredibly professional.
Em, you are way too kind. I wish I had the patience and soft spoken nature like yours when hearing stories like this. I use to follow Nikki years ago and was heart broken about Bowser.
It takes patience 🥲 and a lot of practice
Gosh Em, first of all, you are absolutely stunning. Always. Secondly your grace and empathy are evident in ALL of your videos. Thanks for making my day with this bonus video - even if it is sensitive to some. I have 6 dogs, so I’m always learning new things and I take your advice regularly when it comes to pet care. Keep doing you boo boo, you are doing amazing things!
Thank you so much, Kaitlin!!!
"Oh, he's friendly" immediately indicates to me that he's not. 9/10 times the "friendly" unleashed dog is the instigator for a fight.
Am I the only one who sees that this was 100% that woman's idea? The guy looks like a scolded child, while she seems annoyingly arrogant.
I have a snappy bullterrier and annoying young daughter. They've know each other for 2 years and both test each other's boundaries. It's my job, as the parent, to 'parent' them both and keep them safe. They also play and nap together regularly. It's not all hell. Related to this video - the dog is not allowed near my daughter's food. My daughter is not allowed near the dog's food. Basics 🙄
your makeup today is incredible!
Right!
Oh my goodness! Thank you!
You can't just bring a new human into your family and expect your dog to understand. BOTH the kid and the dog have to be TAUGHT in a safe environment. I can't believe they let their child be in the dog's face especially when he's eating without supervision, it was just a matter of time before something happened. Heartbreaking. Rest in Peace Good boy
Dogs are not trustworthy even if raised in loving homes and training and yet people treat them as family members
Crate training was one of the best things I did as soon as I got my puppy. They are not bad They get used to it VERY quickly and after they get used to it they grow to love their crate most of the time. It is a safe space for them.
My dog would rather sleep in his crate then with me. He freaks out in my room but in the crate he settles down and goes right to sleep.
yes! anytime my dog gets overwhelmed she runs into her crate.
I am still crying over this cruelty. Thank you for addressing it
Murder. Laziness. Terrible parenting. Terrible people. Uneducated. Not responsible. Heartless.
How you can be so nice to these people is beyond me. These are the worst kind of people.. the ones who don’t try hard enough.
I'm so annoyed listening to them talk about how they allowed their child to treat the dogs I have three dogs and 2 children and no it was not easy to keep them seperate when my daughter was a grabby baby but I did it for her and the dogs to keep everyone safe. And now as a 5 year old she has respect for the dogs and knows when to give them space.
It's nice to hear from someone else who muzzles their dog at the vet just in case something goes poorly. My vet has been working curbside for a year and I've brought my dog in a muzzle for every appointment because I can't go in with him and make sure he's not too stressed out. Every time I do, though, I get asked if he has a bite history (he doesn't) and the vet techs seem more nervous about taking him from me with the muzzle on than they do with an unmuzzled dog.
I get it, people are generally nervous if they see a dog with a muzzle, you automatically assume they are dangerous, especially if it's a breed of dog that is big and strong etc. But I also understand you, it doesn't matter your dog didn't bite anyone ever, you are more assured that nothing will go wrong, sometimes at the vets, if dog gets a shot or something, it can hurt, and they may try to bite, even if they don't actually want to hurt anyone, it's just that pain at the moment causes them to react, and you are smart because of it
My mastiff mix always goes in muzzled and I give the vet the choice to remove or not.
I do this too!
Yes my dachshund nipped at the vet 10 years ago when she was around 6 months old. She’s been muzzled at the vet ever since just because I don’t want to risk a bite as she’s very nervous at the vet.
I’ve had vets take the muzzle off once they realized she wasn’t going to be aggressive but IMO a scared dog is always a bite risk
At the end of the day it just seems like these people were lazy and they took the easy way out by putting him down if they didn’t want to put in the work to find a trainer or a behavior specialist for Bowser they could have at least rehomed him .
Yeah and looking into them they're just shitty people. Like they gave up on adopting a child once the agencies found out they documented the process. Reminds me of how Myka Stauffer disposed of the autistic child she adopted once he got too inconvenient for them
I feel like this is the result of not dealing with the trauma effectively after their dog was attacked as a puppy. They may not have known how to do that which is pretty common with many owners, but I feel like the dog needed more patients and a very skilled dog handler/ trainer to deal with that. Fear based aggression is tough to work through because it can only escalate from there if not addressed properly. It’s just a horrible situation all around.
All I hear is "we didn't care enough about our dog to protect him from our child"
Dog: *literally three times as big as the child*
This Dog worshiper: All I hear is "we didn't care enough about our dog to protect him from our child"
@@BaranLordofLight though I don’t entirely agree with the comment above, in protecting an animal from a child’s innocence you are also protecting the child. Just as a puppy needs to learn to be gentle when at play so does a child, sadly incidents can still happen and they happen fast.
@@horselady6276dogs have brains of the size of a lemon ,.. children are in development it’s unfair for the baby to be killed by a instinct driven machine
What a level headed response, critique, and lengthy break down of what happened. I was pissed at first and I'm glad you did this video. What happened sucks but it's a fantastic chance to educate others.
The thing that makes me the most sick of this whole situation is the “pre euthanasia” photo shoot they did. With the kid literally a few inches from the dog..like what? Just psychopathic
Oh my god you called out their use of spirit animal. As an indigenous person I’m like crying That you’re aware (I’m sensitive rn from putting down my pet rat on Tuesday we suspected he had cancer).
Thank you for being considerate.
So spirit animal is a bastardized version of our beliefs and terms (people are gonna jump on me for this who are non native but I don’t care) such as spirit guide in the dialects of the tribes, or the actual version is Spirit Name and clan. My spirit name is Standing Otter and my clan is the Martin Bird. And these are sacred spiritual things that aren’t like haha I’m like that animal.
It’s such a misunderstanding but it was coined by the colonizers by their misunderstanding of our spiritual cultural beliefs. Thank you for being considerate Em 💖
A lot of natives aren’t being educated by their elders or don’t know this but imo it’s pretty offensive. There’s so many other cool things you could say like familiar, patronus, daemon, etc
People are gonna argue with me but if you cause any issues I will just block you. I don’t have the energy to argue with people while I’m mourning thanks.
I'm sorry to hear about your pet rat, and thank you for speaking about this. I definitely think more people need to understand this.
Hope, I’m so, so sorry about your pet rat... it’s such a shame that they have such a short lifespan, and are so susceptible to cancers. I’m sending you lots of love and healing light 🕯 May your rat Rest In Peace over the rainbow bridge. 🌈 ☀️ 🐀
And thank you so much for spreading more awareness on this topic. I used to think it was harmless, because *meme culture*, but I realize that I’ve been ignorant at times, and I’ve tried to educate myself better on what I don’t know ❤️ I know better now. Thank you xxx
The thing that makes me the most upset about this entire situation is how little the parents did to correct their son's behavior. "He pulled hard enough on the dog's ear to cause scarring" or "he stole food directly from the dog." AND WHERE WERE YOU TWO?? Tell your kid "hey maybe don't mess with the dog."
Yes because toddlers understand how to not mess with a dog 100% of the time enough to safely rely on simply saying “don’t do that” 🤦🏼♀️ And how do you know they didn’t discipline the kid?? You can’t keep your eyes and focus glued on both a dog and a toddler at every second of every day. Sure you could try to keep them apart constantly with gates and doors etc, but try to imagine the stress of parenting a small human that can’t control their own choices yet alongside an unpredictable dog.
@@MusicalFilly it's any parents' responsibility to teach children to be gentle with animals. I have worked with plenty of toddlers, and no, they DON'T understand that they can't hit the dog when it takes a toy from them. They DON'T understand that they shouldn't pull on an animal's tail or legs or ears. But the parents need to correct this behavior the SECOND it happens. Toddlers are hard to keep track of, and you can't watch them every second, but that doesn't remove the responsibility they have as parents and pet owners to keep both child and dog safe.
@@MusicalFilly The kid gave the dog a cauliflower ear. Do you realize how hard that child would have to be squeezing onto an ear to do that?
Okay, wow, I thought they were going to say they had to give the dog up. But they put him to sleep?? Edit: I'm a little farther in and I don't know why they did the things they did. We all make mistakes I know, but...those are some persistent mistakes. Also I would be sobbing if I'd had to put my dog to sleep. And they had him 10 years?? I'm a little flabbergasted.
Yes. It almost doesn’t make sense
Death by a thousand cuts literally
Also they seem so heartless. Like drinking a coffee while talking about putting your dog down.
All of her mannerisms are so strange for this video.
Love that even though your channel is typically upbeat and fun, you’re not afraid to say what needs to be said about serious topics
R.I.P. Bowser, you really deserved better
yep better then those horrible and unreasonable parents
Em, I am so proud of how you handled this situation. You brought grace where it was so desperately needed.
I’ve worked for a dog trainer for 4 years now. The second they had an issue with aggression they should have seen a trainer. Early aggression is easily fixable. Knowing that they have children and not dealing with the problem is a huge issue. They just ignored the problem and the dog paid for it.
This is by far the most unbiased and informative reaction I've seen on this situation, thank you, Em 🖤
Watching this, with my dog Bowser next to me is so upsetting! 😭 I have three kids that have grown up with cats and dogs around always... And part of my parenting duty (In my opinion) was to teach them to respect and understand the limits of the pets! Pets are never toys, and euthanasia isn't the solution unless the pet is too sick!!!! :(
You’re right... there’s probably nothing that a good dog trainer couldn’t fix.
Hey, I just wanted to say that I appreciate how calm and kind you are while talking about difficult subjects. It's not easy to achieve that mental attitude.
I hadn't heard of these people before but this makes me so sad because it feels like much of this could have been prevented by keeping the child away. PLEASE use pet gates and baby gates, people.
Hell there aren't any children in the house I live in, but when my roommates got their new puppy a little bit ago one of the first things they did was get baby gates so the cats and I could still have our space without being harassed all the time by said dog. I'm sure my feline buddies appreciated that as much as I did lol
I greatly appreciate the educational aspect of this video. These things are happening all the time bc, ugh it so shocking, people really DON’T KNOW dog behavior. As a dog owner and toddler parent, I have to know BOTH behaviors.
When you make that decision, it's either by law or because ALL other options are impossible. Pretty sad to think a TH-cam with millions of "fans" couldn't find another more appropriate home for even an "aggressive" animal. They're extremely selfish to think they're world, of all people, is so small. Insane. That animal could have been rehabbed and trained by a professional quite quickly.
I am very happy to see that you did a video on this situation. You always wonderful in making sure to educate and not completely slander people based on emotions alone. Thank you for putting your take out there, I hope a lot of people watch this video and gain something from it. Thank you for always showing up and killing it Em!!!
Not a single tear was shed during their video till Nikki brought out the pictures. 🙄
This was a great and comprehensive video! Thank you for addressing the problematic ways that "spirit animal" is used, as well as calling their dog "bipolar." That just reeks of ableism and insensitivity. I am also intrigued to know if Bowser was ever socialized with his litter. The couple says often that they had him for his entire life and obviously got him when he was a very young puppy, so I'm wondering if part of his perceived behavioural issues had anything to do with him not having the proper amount of time to be socialized with his litter and mother. But yeah other than that, this whole situation screams negligence. If this couple could afford to have a home euthanasia, I'm sure they could've afforded to properly look into dog training, behaviourists, and breed specific care and information.
I have 3 dogs, honestly they have all exhibited similar behavior, and I can't justify putting them down and ending their life over normal dog aggression. My daughter had to learn where NOT to touch the dogs and where NOT to go that is their territory. She's 9 now but since the age of 2 she has been bitten and has even bled as well as other family members even with behavior training they are impulsive and DOGS not humans and they snap with things that we would never assume would set them off. Especially as pack animals when ONE goes off the others join in and one of older dogs was injured at the time, recovering and she's a Shiba and can be agressive. She felt threatened while I was feeding our other dogs and she decided to attack my smallest dog and could have killed him. It seriously frightened us but now that she's healed we have not had any issues BUT we feed them in a crate now. So, we learned from that and we have muzzled trained.
These are all things that they should have done first
@@djcarson9030 totally my thoughts too right? I feel awful. Just awful.
Watching this video is so calming compared to everyone else’s rage videos. Thank you. Being able to calmly discuss a difficult topic, without overshadowing it with your emotional reaction is such a great experience.
They don't deserve your kindness in my opinion. But good on you for being extremely mature
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO! i saw smaller channels pick up on it and was worried the matter wouldn’t reach enough of an audience
My dog walker introduced her grandson to my dog. He is autistic and struggled to form relationships with people. He met my dog and said 'maybe she has autism like me, she's scared of loud noises and doesn't like strange people. She's just like me' I know that's not the case its just bad experiences and training but it made me happy to know they had made a little bond and she made the boy happy and not feel so alone
You are such a kind and open hearted person, Em. More people should be like that.
Someone in my area keeps contacting me about her 6 month old husky to get free advice on how to take care of it. After a week they wanted to get rid of it, and then the next day decided to keep it. They keep dragging their feet on training and taking him to the vet. She contacted me in a panic because the dog bit her kid after shoving an iPad in its face. I told them several times to contact a husky rescue or a trainer prior to the incident, but here we are. I feel so bad for the dog. I keep hearing stories like this and it breaks my heart.
Poor dog didn’t even get a chance to improve. There definitely were other options but I know sometimes in the moment it’s hard to decide what to do. (Mind you idk anything about these people)My theory is that the place they wanna move to wasn’t gonna work out with having him.
The way the guy about how it was HIS dog and sorta insinuated no one else would be able to care for him as he has, that kinda felt like he might've saw the dog as an object. Poor dog was no longer fitting into what they wanted and it almost feels like a if I can't have him no one can situation.
As a dog owner hearing ab the putting down of bowser and hearing the way you could do it literally made me cry. Props to you Em for being able to talk ab this as a dog owner.
So I know it is not the appropriate place to feed a dog but I can shed some light on why people do it. The kitchen floor is generally the easiest floor in the house to clean, especially if you have carpeting in the rest of the house.
We feed them in the garage. And let them eat alone so that they're not anxious.
The kitchen in my house is my dogs space, their crates are in there (no doors on them cause they're well behaved) and their food. They eat when we do and at night they sleep in there in their crates as I've 6 cats and I don't leave everyone roaming unsupervised just incase...
Yes... I supervise my 2 dogs and 6 cats better than this couple did with 1 kid and 1 dog.... 6 yrs and not one incident in my house.... And I have my neices and nephews over a lot too... 🙄
This just......*DEEP BREATH*.....so instead of rehoming the dog, they took the lazy and murderous way out. I.....wow Em, good for you for keep this educational and classy. I need to go punch a wall now....
I am so glad you did this video, especially with what you talked about with kids and dog safety. I was mauled by my family dogs growing up. I had a bad family home and was unsupervised. I was playing with the dogs food as a toddler and now have permanent teeth mark scars on my face in my 20s. My parents should never have neglected me like that and I hope your video helps others be safe and informed.
My 4 year old basset hound got attacked by a pit bull mix a few weeks ago. He got his stitches out a week ago. I made sure to warm him back up with walks and seeing other dogs from afar while on the walks. I was very worried he would get aggressive after the attack. We went to the dog park this morning and he was nervous around big dogs so I kept him in the small dog area. He does know and is comfortable with the small dogs. Bassets are a more clam breed in general. I was very happy with how well he did.
Em i love your openmindness!!! Such a rare thing to see in this world and we need more of this!!!
So, here is my story about why I kinda hate it when people say "Oh, we had to put our dog down because he/she became agressive towards our toddler"
Years ago my aunt and uncle had a Schnauzer called Sargent Pepper, he was the sweetest, calmest, best boy ever. He was already an older dog (like around 10 or 12) and I spent a couple of weeks at their house, he (the dog) loved to curl up between my legs and have his head scratched, but he didn't run much or liked to be bothered too much because well he was old and not as active anymore. A couple months latter I found out my aunt and uncle had to put him down because he bit a kid (not their own but the same age and they were playing together). And I was SHOCKED, I couldn't believe he did that, he was so calm and nice, but I was like "If they thought it was the only choice, they must be right".
A while after I went to the same house and they had gotten their kid a Beagle puppy, and I watched him (their kid) and two other kids (one of them was the one who got bit) "playing" with the puppy. The poor little puppy kept crawling under the bed, shaking, trying to get away from the children and they would crawl chasing the dog, grab him by the leg and pull him out while the dog tried to hold on to the carpet and kept shaking. THAT IS WHY THAT KID GOT BIT: Not because the dog was agressive, but because this children thought dogs were toys and probably did something that hurt or scared the dog.
I never had a dog in my life, but I learnt a lot. This video is so informative. There’s so much great information on what you can do to deal with difficult animals. I wish those two could have done something earlier. There’s so many chances that they missed. It’s sad.
I hate to say it but this entire video reads as "we want sympathy for not informing ourselves about how to be competent dog owners first"
I really appreciate the nuanced response to this. Neither letting them off the hook when they could have done better nor jumping straight to anyone who puts a dog down is a terrible monster.
The fact that they killed the dog and didn’t give it to someone who wants that dog and take care of him and love him but no they killed it
There is such good advice in this video. Thank you for your kindness, and taking a bad situation and making something positive (a learning experience) out of it
It's very sad that despite having extensive financial resources, they didn't seek out the help of professional dog trainers. I understand that some people don't have the time or money to deal with this situation in a different way, but that certainly wasn't the case here.
Thank you for handing this so professionally. You gave a lot of important information to people who might have similar problems, without pouring metaphorical gasoline on this metaphorical fire. Good work.
I think what really gets me is they knew it was an unfair environment for Bowser and seemingly did nothing to fix that and instead decided to euthanize the dog.
I am so glad that you posted information from a professional standpoint, in a non condescending & non emotion fueled manner. It's okay for people to be outraged, upset and all of those emotions as it is a very bad situation. There were alot of things that should have been done but that cannot be brought back, the thing that can be done now is education.
Growing up, my dogs ate in the kitchen, but we were taught not to bug them when they ate and to give them space when they wanted to be alone. Anyway agree with everything
Exactly! I've never had a dog myself but I know almost all creatures in the canid family are instinctively protective over food so it's not smart to make them think you're going to take their food. To kill a dog for biting because their food was taken is stupid. Parents should've kept the kid away from the dog's bowl.
I love you Em!!! You make me think further into if I should get a specific pet! And the responsibilities it comes with it. Love you so much Em!!!
5 seconds into the video and you can already tell how pissed she is. I love her!
I think this video can be very helpful for people who are in a similar situation as Dan and Nikki. I hope this video can find it's way into the lifes of people who need to know about options for behavioral problems and helps them.
1. They went on vacation after they put him down. 2. They are moving soon 3. They want to reboot their channel as they’ve been losing subs and views lately.
This was all a convenience for them. All for views. They didn’t need to put up a long, drawn out video with ads about putting down their “clown baby”. Just gross.
Love that I got a local vet ad on your channel - So appropriate.
Knowing Em is so understanding about this issue makes me so proud. My father killed my dog after she bit someone (i was 12 at the time) and way too many peopletold me "what if they bit you?" or "Aggresive dogs need to be put down" or "Why are you so sad its just a dog"
Well done for using this opportunity to make an informative and helpful video for everyone.
When people use mental health names as common terms 😬😡 I’m glad you said something about that
Your ability to be so empathetic towards these people while also being critical is admirable. This situation was very likely avoidable, but they did nothing to prepare this dog for its life, they did nothing to prepare this dog for a new baby in the house, and they failed to separate their child from situations where the dogs boundaries were being invaded.
They failed their dog, they failed their child, and it led to them making poor, hasty decisions that resulted in the end of a poor animals life. Meanwhile, there is still another dog in their house.
My parents always taught me and my brother who is 3 years younger than me to be very respectful of animals, especially dogs. My mother always said to not ever get in a dogs face, or to approach them suddenly, and to be calm. I want to study and work with dolphins when I'm older, and I think understanding boundaries and limits is especially important for anyone. I know bunnies and dogs have *very* different temperaments, but I'm using my bun as an example for my point (Because my puppy is not a good example by any means). My bunny is absolutely the sweetest thing ever. I haven't left his side for more than 5 hours since last May, so we're very close. Even so, no matter how much he's comfortable with sitting in my lap, I always keep in mind at the back of my head that he is a bunny, and he may not like all of our interactions if forced. It breaks my heart to hear a child it bitten because his parents failed to teach him how to behave around their dog. To me, respect and understanding are the two utmost important things when owning any animal.
EDIT: But all things aside, you're looking gorgeous today Em.
Hey Em I just wanted to say I’m so proud of you for surviving and coming out the bright side of an abusive relationship you have helped me so much come to terms with what I went through as well! Thank you so much for making videos(sorry this isn’t about the video but just wanted to say! Also amazing makeup!!)