Poldark 4: Aidan and Eleanor on Hugh Armitage
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- Can you love somebody and still love somebody else? Poldark stars Aidan Turner (Ross) and Eleanor Tomlinson (Demelza) reflect on the relationship triangle with Hugh Armitage, and how it evolves in Season 4. (Contains Episode 2 spoilers.)
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The only reason why I like the affair is because I feel like without Ross realising what he made Demelza go through, he would have never realised his mistakes and how was he was acting. It's the perfect example of 'you don't know what you have till you lose it.'
The sad thing is, Hugh was actually quite innocent in the sense that he did truly love her, or at least what he saw of her, and was pure in intention in that way. He should've had the decency to not do anything because he respected Ross, but I think truthfully he respected Demelza as a person even more than he did Ross the more he saw of her and talked with her. I think why Demelza "couldnt explain" the loss she felt is because his love was so pure and raw. He fulfilled her need for simplicity and clarity, which Ross couldnt because of broken trust and his inability to communicate his feelings to her.
I doubt a man 'pure in intention' would go after a married woman.
@@clivejames5058 the fact that she is married doesn't change that she is beautiful in heart or soul. Many people fall in love with married people, you're just not supposed to act on it.
Bloody hell, Hugh and Aidan are both absolutely gorgeous!!! 😍👏
My take: Ross had narcissistic traits (at least) and Demelza was a girl who had been abused and was empathic.
Disagree
100 percent
This made Ross see how much she is worth in general and to him. It is important that it happened the way it did. She will not wait around for someone and will not be used and hurt like he did to her with Elizabeth
It highlights the importance of being honest and communicating in relationships! Get ahead of it rather than behind it.
Absolutely wonderful video. A truth that many of us know to be true of humans and relationships
Infidelity is wrong, but Demelza was not thinking straight at that time she did not think about the consequences to her and Hugh and Ross as much as the scoundrel that Ross was, he made her feel insecure bc she felt as if there was always the ghost of Elizabeth in her marriage. Here is this young gorgeous man that has eyes for only her, wrote her beautiful poems and made her feel like she is this goddess. She loved Ross from the beginning, he did not, when he marry her it was like he was before a firing squad, of course he fell in love with her, but she always felt like she was competing with Elizabeth ghost how do you that. Ross took her granted until he realized he could lose her then he sat up straight and pay attention. No matter what he said to Demelza he still had that deep feeling for Elizabeth when he was around her u could still see it he kissed her even after she died. So I can see Demelza getting caught up with her feelings for Hugh he had eyes for only her. He was also relentless, she tried at first to stay clear of him but in the end she gave in, she would not have left Ross though if Hugh hadn't died, she loved Ross with everything she had faults and all, she loved him long before he loved her.
You are absolutely wrong. She slept with Hugh more than once even after coming back and Ross comforting her. She finally let Hugh go after he died.
@@vladmir6301
no she didn't
she didn't sleep with hugh more than once
that goes for both the two series and the novels
@@vladmir6301 You're incorrect. I just re-read the series, she definitely didn't do so.
Demelza slept with Hugh once and was terribly guilt ridden afterward. She still loved Ross.
@@tracyjacksonjackson4221 I'm not sure she was guilt ridden in the novel. I"m confused by that.
The saddest thing is that they had an opportunity to talk and didn’t! Ross should have admitted he saw Elizabeth in the church and said exactly what we saw him think.... lack of communication is often the start of marriage breakdown... keeping secrets, beginning to live in our own little world without striving to build our marriage. Demelza shouldn’t have given up so easily and Ross shouldn’t have been so self absorbed!
Well said
I agree completely.
I fully agree. But on Demelza's behalf, I don't think that she gave up so easily, many many years of marriage and she always wanted one thing from ross: that he would be honest with her and to never leave a secret between them. and he did this over and over again. comes to a point that you're just tired. Plus, she decided to live the affair because of another omission of his.
Well said. I love the actors in this saga but I found myself yelling at the tv for them to make with some dialog. Geez.
When Demelza said she went to Caroline to talk about Hugh, Ross said wasn't it always me you came to....all I could say was WHEN? They never talked!@!!
@@rezfg783 I agree with you. Unfortunately, with the tv series, it seemed events happened within a short period of time but actually Hugh pursued Demelza close to a year and a half. She resisted him for a pretty good length of time. I wish the creators of the series showed some dates because there is some degree of jump in months and even years. For viewers who have not been able to read the books, timeline may be a bit confusing.
People have short memory. The night Ross go after Elizabeth, the way he talked with Demelza, saying for her get out my way, all the humiliation he did with her, and he slept with Elizabeth, and all the other occasions when he flert with her, when he give the money he doesn't have for Elizabeth, because in his opinion Demelza can manage dificultty situations, but no Elizabeth, because she was a gentle lady. I glad Demelza find someone who see her as first opinion, who adores her, and I think Demelza did what was right after everything that happened, I amazed that people fell sorry for Ross but not for her, every human like to feel worthy. ( Sorry for my English)
Amen to that! Ross as been such a narcissist jerk a long time. I loved Ross et Demelza at first, but then Ross failed to see her insecurities and continuously made her feel humiliated and not enough, this is mental abuse. He may loved her but was too selfish and had to nearly had to lose Demelza to realize it takes two people to have a successful marriage. Admiring Elizabeth and showing no attention to Demelza was sincerely heartbreaking for her, it’s way more than just the problem of cheating or not. If we forget Demelza begged him not to go to Elizabeth whom Ross almost raped, let’s say it, I had severe difficulty to see him as a victim and felt so relieve when Hugh appeared and made Demelza feel seen. He may be seen as a creeps by some, but I think we all experienced what we call « love at first sight ». It may not be a lasting love, but it was real and passionnate and she needed that. Plus « Ross saved him », come on he actually left him in the prison just like all prisoners except for Dwight. Ross has many qualities but let’s stop the heroic syndrom, he also is deeply flawed and didn’t hold any responsibility until Hugh.
So again, thank you!
Aaahhh....A breath of fresh air. 🌬🌬🌬
Demelza cheating on Ross with Hugh is from the novels
it's from the Poldark novel, The Four Swans
Demelza cheated on Ross with Hugh who was using poems and pity to manipulate her
I have been reading the books.
There are twelve novels.
This is my conclusion. The problem with Demelza was that she was too nice for her own good and that was her downfall. She was thinking that Hugh was so kind, gentle, and sweet that she didn't want to emotionally hurt him. Hugh took advantage of that. Of course, Demelza's feelings about Ross being unfaithful to her with Elizabeth again was also a factor. She was attracted to Hugh, but she was not in love with him. She was attracted to him because of how he treated her. She let him treat her in that romantic way with the poetry which was like an encouragement to him. It was her unconsciously leading him on. She was well over her head in dealing with this unrealistic romantic. His use of pity and his persistence bordering on sexual harassment culminated in her infidelity.
I never got the impression that Demelza was trying to pursue some type of romantic affair. This wasn't something like Lancelot and Guinevere. There was no real mutual love. Hugh's love was more like infatuation and even obsession. Her feelings for Hugh was more of an attraction and fondness for him being such a nice guy. Was he really nice? What nice guy would want to disrupt a happily wed woman's marriage? He was being selfish. Demelza wasn't subtle in her resistances to Hugh in both actions and words, but he kept being persistent and then used pity to manipulate her.
Demelza's infidelity could have been prevented if Ross had told her the truth about the meeting with Elizabeth. Demelza should have established boundaries with Hugh right after he expressed any romantic interest in her. Being more firm with him would have helped. Also, Ross should have told Hugh to leave Demelza alone after he was well aware that Hugh was interested in her. He definitely knew that Hugh was infatuated with his wife.
For the first time I have come across a comment about the complications (or, at least one of many) of Ross and Demelza's relationship that I wholeheartedly agree with! While it's true that this is a work of fiction that relies on another piece of fiction, it doesn't mean that we can't be critical and rational with the way that we approach our understanding and analysis of the characters and the writing behind it.
While no one is free of blame, I just want to thank you for pointing out that Hugh wasn't a saint. He should have stayed away, knowing that Demelza was married. Ross should have been candid and open with his wife, something he consistantly fails to do throughout the series'. Demelza, while she's my favourite in the series, would benefit greatly from standing up for herself and firmly establishing boundaries - people walk all over her. Ross' pretty words shouldn't work all the time on her, especially when he keeps turning around and erasing their meanings by doing something awful by the next episode. Demelza's smarter than that and worth a whole lot more.
At the end of the day, as long as no one is romanticising this turmoil - you CAN have a love that grows from positivity and affirmations, not doubt and adveristy - then I think there's no major issue at hand here. Well, nothing beyond the lacklustre season 5 finale but that's another discussion for another day...
I'm just beginning with audio book 1, Ross Poldark, after watching the full series for the first time in quarantine. :) But already in the series I had right this - not directly told - impression of Hugh's and Demelza's relationship, and now I'm all the more impressed how the series, especially the acting, pointed that out! What a great teamplay from the filmmakers to capture right that from written work to TV medium!
I understand your points. I agree with many of them. However, let's not forget that there was a void in the relationship that was ignored by Ross. It took the affair with Hugh to make a dimwitted and down right arrogant Ross Poldark aware of the fact that he was on the verge of losing his wife. Even if Hugh had lived and the whole thing turned out to be just a momentary infatuation on Hugh's part it still would have shown Demelza what it felt like to be admired, appreciated and attractive. Ross relied on Demelza a great deal but failed miserably at making her feel special. To add insult to injury he openly admired Elizabeth and fathered a child with her. As far as Demelza being to nice for her own good, well I think that was remedied when she slept with Hugh. Sure, it was nice for Hugh but not so nice for Ross. The bottom line here is when you "take care" of your woman other men cannot flatter her with poems, sketches and temp her with exotic plants. Ross took Demelza for granted once too often leaving the door to Demelza's heart wide open. Enter Hugh Armitage.
@@tracyjacksonjackson4221 Ross was stupid but did much and showed much over the series for Demelza. Prudie instagated it also, like a traitor to Ross. What I never could understand was Carolina's part in this, covering up and making that kind of wife to husband look (a private joke kind of) seemingly knowing about Demelza and Hugh. I also noticed that the wedding ring never left her hand and wonder if that was part of the script on purpose.
@@peterspecht7611 Ross did much but not enough. Demelza, for all that she gave to Ross in the way of love, loyalty, trust, honor and respect didn't cease sharing him with Elizabeth until she died. Demelza had to see the results of Ross' affair with Elizabeth daily in Valentine, Ross and Elzabeth's son. Ross failed at making Demelza know how much she meant to him. As I stated earlier, he could have done more to make her feel special, beautiful, desirable, and appreciated. Caroline knew of the affair but did not facilitate it. Who was she to meddle in Demelza's business? As for Prude, she was looking out for Demelza because Ross sure as hell wasn't. He was too busy taking Demelza for granted.
💓💓💓....I think Hugh was desperate for love. Coming back from Quimper prison safely was a miracle for him. I also believe that it was not his intention to betray Ross, the man who saved him from certain death. No one chooses who to fall in love with, and Hugh did not choose, he simply felt attracted and passionate about Demelza, perhaps he loved her a lot in the short time they shared. And if Demelza was captivated by this man who, according to her, "touched my heart"...it was due to the loving absence of Ross, and she let herself be carried away by the romanticism of a man whose days were definitely numbered. I really think Demelza fell in love with Hugh a little bit.......although I wish Josh and Eleanor had done it in real life....they both look fantastic together.....who you know, one day it will happen... or not ....💕💞💕💞💗💘
Eleanor beautiful💗💐👍🥰
I loved the Demelza-Hugh relationship. It's not about whether Ross "deserved it" for Demelza to get revenge or find someone of her own, given the unacceptability of what Ross did with Elizabeth (though I think she did have the right). It's what Aidan says in this interview -- what happens in life when someone loves two people at the same time? For Ross, he loves Elizabeth and Demelza, and so he knows he has no right to judge Demelza for loving both him and Hugh. I really appreciate the actors' honesty in exploring the characters' confusion and don't understand some of the more judgmental commenters on this thread!
Yes, Demelza knows she made a mistake. I always wrote that in my comments 💔 and Ross was to busy with himself.
Well it turned out good 💘 in the end. 🌊🌞🎻🎼💞
Não entendo porque Demelza não engravidou de Hugh, já pensaram se isso tivesse acontecido, como poderia justificar a Ross um filho que poderia ter a cara do pai? Estaria na mesma situação que Elizabeth. E não entendo também porque a cena em que ela se entrega a Hugh foi tão fria em relação a cena em que Ross passa a noite com Elizabeth, nem mostra os dois pelo menos tirando ou vestindo a roupa. Chega até a se duvidar se realmente aconteceu.
acho relativo, nem todo mundo engravidava toda vez que transava né kkkk depende super da época do mês que você tá. mas sobre as cenas, a primeira noite do ross com a demelza também foi super curta, fiquei até chateada kkkk não me importei muito com a falta da cena íntima da demelza com o hugh em si, mas sim mais cenas com eles dois juntos antes de chegarem aos finalmentes.
Puts, concordo muito contigo. Até porque as cenas de sexo de Poldark são muito sem graça, não mostra quase nada. A respeito da Demelza, shippei ela muito com o Hugh, ele demonstrava atenção, devoção e carinho à ela mais que o Ross, e teria sido uma bela vingança se ela tivesse engravidado dele
@@rezfg783 e ele morreu tão rápido kkkkkk shippava muito os dois. Pena que não durou muito tempo. A Demelza ficou com um peso muito grande na consciência
I think the show tried to justified Demelza and we can seen many encounters between Demelza and Hugh. Demelza and Hugh only met for or five times. While he was in the Army he sent letters to Ross and Demelza and a poem to Demelza. She gave the letters to Ross and hided the poem and it's last several months. I can't understand that Eleanor thinks one infedility can be a prove of independence. Demelza only had been with a man in her life, and she wanted to know a new experience. Hugh wasn't a gentleman, he never offered her nothing, only begged her “a bit of her great love for Ross“ and he never thoutht how his insistent behavior damaged her. I don`t like Hugh nor in books or in show. He was shelfish, betrayed Ross`confidence and never thought about Demelza's fellings. Ross saw the atraction between Hugh and Demelza since their first meeting and they told openly about it. DH deleted this important detail because she only wanted more and more drama, and her election damaged Demelza's character that never recovered her bright and light. She showed a woman ever angry and bitter. Demelza was the contrary of it.
Ross and Demelza made a big mistake but when I read some comments it seems people justified Demelza´s infidelity but her decission didn't make her happier nor more independent or more self confident. Ross`s mistake was a burden over him of his life. I think some people believe that Demelza would be happier if she didn't meet Ross in Redrudh and she live with her father and brothers.
Of course, this is my opinion.
@CineSiempre
yeah
some people have listening comprehension problems
It seemed to me that Demelza would have continued resisting Hugh's advances if Ross had not told her one too many times to seek elsewhere for what she needed during times that Ross was not giving her the basic decency, honesty and respect that he owed to her. Having said that, I agree with you that the character Hugh is the lowest form of scoundrel. Anyone who can say in the same sentence to a woman that 'you husband saved my life and is my friend but I beg you to let me debauch you and steal all of your dignity so that I can have a bit of selfish pleasure' (obviously paraphrased) should have been recognized as not worth being in any type of relationship. He obviously lied to her so many times (e.g., about abandoning his post in the navy for her when he had actually been medically discharged, about being on the verge of blindness, etc.), I don't believe she would have had any feelings for him if her heart hadn't been in such a state of severe neglect at the time.
GRANDISSIMA ,BRAVISSIMA, ATTRICE,E CANTANTE!! Eleanor Tomlinson e' un vero talento del cinema e TV ,bellissima Donna! ELEANOR NON È' una bellezza scontata ma che dura nel tempo. Le auguriamo di fare ancora una bellissima carriera lo merita, e che qualcuno si svegli perché' Eleanor non solo è' una grandissima Donna e attrice, ma!! Merita veramente di essere premiata per la sua recitazione in qualsiasi ruolo,. Prima o poi la vedremmo accanto ad un gentleman affascinante com'e lei, ELEANOR TOMLINSON almeno lei che sappia scegliere. Tanto che qualcuno via deluso! Questa Donna ha degli WONDERFUL 😍😍😍
Hell, just stay single!
I’m married and I can definitely say if you’re looking for the easy life - don’t get married! 😂
@Aida When did I say any of what you just said? All I said was, don’t get married. I think that’s a good piece of advice because people get married too young or on a whim and then regret it or aren’t willing to put in the work. Marriage is hard. It’s not all butterflies and rainbows 24/7.
Raymond Nolan Scott is right on the money with his comment below. I always though Hugh was a selfish opportunist.
I feel that the biggest challenges in marriage are the 3rd person and finances. I learned a lot from this series and yes, that's the reality
Well....Ross clearly state that his first love was Elizabeth. Guess what people? Demelza first love wasn't Ross but Hugh. Most of the comments state this is trying to make cheating as normal and romanticized affairs. But that's not about it, both loved each other, despite they wasn't their first love and take more time for Ross than Demelza, despite infidelity, lack of communication and almost a break of their marriage. This shows how people grow in feelings and life. Life is different than black and white perspective.
Hugh wasn't Demelza's first love
Demelza loved Ross long before Hugh was in the picture
it was also the same in the novels
Hugh was there to fill a void left by Ross. Later Demelza told Ross that he didn’t win her by default. While Hugh touched her heart, it was Ross who possessed it. So the idea that Demelza first love was Hugh makes no sense.
Thank God love is not actually what they are saying it is...Its actually sacrificial, and says I won't gratify myself if you means you and your family, your marriage is harmed...Love actually says I won't break down the door to get what I want, I want what's best for you, that which does not violate you, your marriage, your family & Gods law & and if that means I get nothing, so be it.
Thank God enslavement to your self centered, momentary and fickle subjective & deceptive feelings at the expense of everyone else is not love. Thank God adultery and coveting your neighbor's wife is not love.
So sad ppl think this is what love let alone a good marriage looks like and somehow you have to violate each other and the marriage bed to get it.
rachray83 people are complicated. love isn’t black and white for most. couples may start out with a solid commitment but life can test it in unimaginable ways.
rachray83
Very well said! True love is not solicitous about what it can get but about what it can give
Demelza went on about love and self thoughts with things like trust and loyalty, family, etc., being like wrapped around love to protect it. But I still can't (from the novel) figure out if she regretted it or not. It played out like the end of the world to her when Hugh died, thus confusing me.
@@peterspecht7611 totally agree!
Neither Ross nor Demelza should have cheated, and Hugh was cringy. It all turns out in a book, real life, that's alot of broken trust 💔.
I really hate how in the beginning Eleanor romanticizes the affair. I'm glad that she eventually adds that Demelza was wrong for what she had done but I don't think that's some beautiful quality. Just because you confirm that doing the wrong thing for any reason is still a bad thing doesn't change the fact that you did a bad thing.
I don't think she was romanticizing it.
They are talking about the affair that was based on what happened in the novels
It wasn't really an affair
it was actually one-sided until Hugh manipulated Demelza with pity when they were at the cove
I have been reading the novels
No Eleanor, it was not important for Demelza to do what she did. We must never romanticize infidelity. She did so in a faint moment since she thought Ross was going behind her back and had resumed her relationship with Elisabeth...
Demelza was not unlike any other human...the repeated assaults to her self-esteem and feelings by Ross was more than she or anyone in her shoes could take.
@@wildwaning9427 - And that’s where communication comes in. These two communicated terribly, sometimes. I noticed Demelza would hardly ever express her feelings for Ross to him. Maybe twice in the whole series, and even then, like an oh by the way, I love you, comment. Not that anyone was keeping score. Lol! He was definitely the initiator more often, in that department.
@@jerseyjoe6288 Yes, he was the initiator more often because he was the offender more often. Imho.
@@jerseyjoe6288 that was the problem with this series adaptation. In the .books there is conversation between Ross and Demelza that gives you insight into them as a couple. Actors on this series are incredible. There is not a weak link in the entire cast. The weakness is in the screen writers adaptation.
They should have set up a boxing ring and let Ross and Hugh duke it out and then
for the second fight we'd see Demelza and Elizabeth. And while we're at it we'd
like to see Mowenna slap George for making her marry "Reverend" Whitworth.
Oh and one more thing-Mowenna and Drake gang up on Lady Whitworth to
knock some sense into her too! A lot of pent-up anger in this show for me I
guess. And what about Tom Harry? Ooh he needed more than Ross gave him
when he knocked him out with that big stick. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
so he dies? I was gonna watch the show because of this actor, but if he's killed off after a few episodes I'm not gonna bother.
Can't watch the Demelza/Hugh episodes
Ann Conn
I can!! Only thing makes me feel better after Ross's treatment of Demelza w/Elizabeth. He knew Demelza was insecure about Elizabeth from day one but he simply ignored it (or didn't give it a second thought).
too bad because I simply adore it hahahah
@@wildwaning9427 he always admired what he couldn't have and was always taking his wife for granted! for him, elizabeth was a woman to be seen and admired, but his wife asking him which dress she should wear, he aswers that she should pick anyone? he has many qualities but to be a loving husband is not one of them.
I could watch Hugh all day long!!
I hated Hugh in the books. That man had no morals what so ever. I love this show but I also hate it because everyone apparently doesn’t take marital vows seriously. You’d think Demelza would not cheat on Ross because she knows how it feels.
I absolutely agree. I think that Hugh is a villian. He masks his villiany with poetry and soft words, admiration and flattery, but really- he owes his LIFE to Ross and its base treachery to go behind his back and seek his wife's attentions. Demelza actually tried several times to ward him off and not encourage it because she did love Ross and had finally reached a point of some solidarity coming back into her marriage since the incident with Elizabeth. I hate Hugh for persistently pursuing her and taking advantage of her kindhearted disposition. Ross has done wrong, but deep down Demelza still loves and admires him for many of the same reasons she loved him for from the beginning. She understands him in ways no one else can. Though it takes him a lot longer to see how much she means to him and his life, much of that is due relative to the social class system.
I agree with you both 🔥🔥 its disgusting how they just casually cheat on their respective spouses like the vows they made meant nothing. This is not love!!
It is literally impossible to cheat on someone you love. If you're cheating, you don't love them --- quite simple. That much is clear in the books, where much later in life (far beyond anywhere this series will get, when the kids are all grown and making their own lives), Ross admits to himself that has been "years since he was out of love with his wife."
Nina LaClaire actually what you said is just self righteous judge mental thinking not based in real world
Lol. Uh, okay? Thanks Madeleine? I'm sorry, but I don't agree? If you love someone, you put them above yourself. You don't take all their feelings and crush them. I stand by what I said, and do not view it as self-righteous? It's to me self-serving to imply that a man or woman can love you, and still step out on you with someone else.
I'm glad you're able to live in such a clear cut world where everything is black or white. Most of us have to live in a messy world full of flawed people who make mistakes and still sometimes try to be better in the end.
Veronica, I didn't say people don't make mistakes! I totally agree, people are flawed. I just think that loving someone doesn't include cheating on them.
"It isn't always our partner that we are turning away from, but the person that we have ourselves become. And it isn't so much that we are looking for another person, as much as we are looking for another self". (Esther Perel)
find her ted talk here: th-cam.com/video/P2AUat93a8Q/w-d-xo.html
Why do you put salt into the wound? … can’t watch Poldark anymore in my country!
anybody knows season and episode numbers in 0:17 second? thank you.
Season 3 / episode 8
@@afaf6765 Thank you so much
Love Poldark 📷🎥🌏💥👑💎❤❤❤
I wish ross never saved hugh!
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Cheating on your spouse is never justifiable; it's always nice when someone else pays attention to you other than your husband, but it doesn't mean you have carry on to the point of cheating to really know yourself. What Ross did was definitely wrong even though it was done in the heat of anger and passion, but tit for tat is not the wright way to go about it. This made me lose all respect for Demelza
Agreed. This is all just pushing for normalcy and acceptance of infidelity, when we should all say that its wrong and condemn the character for doing so.
ross was not a good husband he did not deserve her love or her loyalty
I am glad someone finally said this!!! How can they both say they love each other but then cheat. They needed to divorce. This is not a marriage anyone should look up to or admire or view with fondness.
En castellano por favor
ROSS. was not a marriage material utter self centered , manipulator , He's audacity in delivering love dialogues to Demelza after each time mingling with Elizabeth is sicking . further justifying that these betrayals and infidelity wiith enlightenments s that by these acts he came to realize his Love ( need ) for Demelza in his life . , it's clear when a person betrays onces he/she will do again sooner or later . romantizing infidelity first love and justifying it is appalling.
Ok but do Dem and Ross stay together???
They do! It takes almost 2 whole seasons for them to reconcile & heal their marriage but that's what makes the show so compelling & realistic :)
Yohannah Franco ahhhhh yay
The reason I adore them is they last basically forever despite the speedbumps :D (well until death do them apart, obviously lol). They work things out and in the books, def. they're just great and loving.
I stopped watching this show as soon as I saw where this was going.
Maybe you should have stopped when Ross cheated.
@@dutchkel EXACTLY!!
@@dutchkel PREACH LOUDER.
@@dutchkel Nah, us guys only stop when it starts hurting, it seems.
Let's explore cheating in a grown up 21st century way.....this show tries hard to fit the period history but wokeness needs to be injected into everything. Sad.
why hasn't Poldark been physically emasculated by this time?
because the show is trying to push for nomalcy and acceptance of infidelity.
@@deljefe
it is all from the novels
the cheating was in them as well as the 1970s series
the writers of this show needn't have lowered Demelza's standards to this level where she is no better than Ross.. breaking her marriage vows..a low point in the whole series...script writers are obsessed with Infidelity ...yeah I get it her falling for a new man but she could been show to be better than Ross...
it is from the novels
it's from the Poldark novel, The Four Swans
Demelza cheated on Ross with Hugh who was using poems and pity to manipulate her
I have been reading the books.
There are twelve novels.
This is my conclusion. The problem with Demelza was that she was too nice for her own good and that was her downfall. She was thinking that Hugh was so kind, gentle, and sweet that she didn't want to emotionally hurt him. Hugh look advantage of that. Of course, Demelza's feelings about Ross being unfaithful to her with Elizabeth again was also a factor. She was attracted to Hugh, but she was not in love with him. She was attracted to him because of how he treated her. She let him treat her in that romantic way with the poetry which was like an encouragement to him. It was her unconsciously leading him on. She was well over her head in dealing with this unrealistic romantic. His use of pity and his persistence bordering on sexual harassment culminated in her infidelity.
I never got the impression that Demelza was trying to pursue some type of romantic affair. This wasn't something like Lancelot and Guinevere. There was no real mutual love. Hugh's love was more like infatuation and even obsession. Her feelings for Hugh was more of an attraction and fondness for him being such a nice guy. Was he really nice? What nice guy would want to disrupt a happily wed woman's marriage? He was being selfish. Demelza wasn't subtle in her resistances to Hugh in both actions and words, but he kept being persistent and then used pity to manipulate her.
Demelza's infidelity could have been prevented if Ross had told her the truth about the meeting with Elizabeth. Demelza should have established boundaries with Hugh right after he expressed any romantic interest in her. Being more firm with him would have helped. Also, Ross should have told Hugh to leave Demelza alone after he was well aware that Hugh was interested in her. He definitely knew that Hugh was infatuated with his wife.
@@fomalhauto I to have read all 12 books over the last few yrs...and tat was just my take on things...
@@30eesh - Yes, thank you. Seems writers of books as well as tv series frequently enjoy hooking up characters, not caring if it makes sense. Demelza told Captain McNeil she could never give herself to any man but her husband. She seemed pretty adamant about it. Lost in the shuffle, a season later, I guess. Hugh pursuing Demelza seemed a little out of character, with Ross being the one who rescued him from the French prison. Can’t believe Ross didn’t get on his horse and go confront the ungrateful little turd and smack some sense into him. I think the whole plot line was a little forced and really put Hugh in a bad light after initially being a very likable character. But it IS true, writers revenge. He cheats on her, she’s definitely going to cheat on him, come hell or high water. That’s my two cents, anyway. Love the series, regardless. I do plan to read the books.