Thank you, Father Casey, for your candor regarding your thoughts on romantic love, marriage, and how such thoughts have led you, from time to time, to fantasize about leaving the priesthood. It is nice for laypersons to see that priests struggle with so many of the same temptations that we do. Granted, on an intellectual level, we know that you are human, but many laypeople still see those in religious orders to be of a different breed - as if you have some level of moral strength that is beyond us laypeople and self-restraint that is preternatural. Conveying that those in religious life share the same failings and tribulations as the laity makes you not only more relatable, but also more credible.
...in an earlier video he spoke of a specific woman with whom he'd interacted & "fallen in love." And then...did nothing. She moved away, unaware of this. He did mention that she'd gotten engaged, so his ears were - at least briefly - alert to news. Then....nothing happened. As he says in this video - he's committed to letting the fleeting thoughts of couple-hood be just that. Fleeting. 💔
It sounds to me as the same thing as being married and not following through with infatuations. When we get married we don’t stop being attracted to other people. I wouldn’t call it falling in love though but more like platonic infatuations. I can see a priest going through the same thing and choosing vocation just like a married person would choose their marriage over their infatuation.
I just love how passionate father Tito is, explaining all the DnD stuff (I don't really get it either; but super funny he made you into a half elf *THIEF* ?! haha!)
Fr. Casey - I am friends with a retired bishop who is a member of a religious order. He was asked twice to become a bishop, and both times said no. The third time, he was ordered as a matter of obedience by the Holy Father to accept. So, yes, you can say no, but you might end up a bishop anyways.
I truly enjoy your videos and honestly they sometimes fan the ember of my faith which I constantly find fading. I am not Catholic, and grew up protestant. I married a Catholic woman, but still find my faith faltering a bit as it is very difficult to be a Christian who actually follows Christ's teachings in our society right now. But your videos fan the flame to keep my faith alight. And I truly appreciate you!
Re mendicant orders: don’t forget the Hospitaller Brothers of St. John of God! Sorry, I’m a bit partial to them as I am a coworker in one of their centres here in Toronto.
I live in the Northern part of NSW, Australia and our Bishops is a Carmelite, an still wears his brown habit. He once said he does not enjoy the chao of tne world and misses his monastery.
Well actually I am autistic and from my experience as long as someone that wishes to be in the ministry does not have too much difficulty in day-to-day activities. It actually could open a door up for a priest to be autistic. At least with other neurodivergent people. On my own life is hard to connect with neurotypicals but the thing is at least for some people like myself it'd be easier to listen to someone who's neurodivergent than someone who's neurotypical because I've been hurt by neurotypical people who don't understand the neurodivergent experience.
Hi Father! Love the answers to these questions! Potential future question: do you have any tips for people who're overwhelmed by all the awful current events on how to process/live with/cope with The Feelings? Personally, I find the feeling of overwhelmed inadequacy sometimes haunting me in the face of everything we see on the news, etc.
You don't have to keep watching the news. There's only so much you can affect and things that are outside of our scope of influence, we really don't need to worry about. Also I've felt such immediate peace when in front of the Blessed Sacrament, I've given all my worries and intrusive thoughts to God. Just immediate peace.
Not religious myself but when life becomes too much I chant 'Hail Mumbo. Full of Jumbo' ten times in a row, sometimes alone, sometimes with others and concentrate real hard on something so unspecific that I call it a mystery.
They always threatened to make my priest a bishop. I am a Greek Orthodox person and my priest unfortunately lost his wife when she was only 42 so he’s been a single father and such but every time they go to let someone they put him on the short list and he hates it, he does not want to be a bishop.
Welcome back, Father. My question is weird and oddly specific. Why the age cap? I'm a disabled veteran who is currently married. My wish is that if I out live her, have my own independent medical care (via the VA), and my own stipend that I can share, can I still join at a later age.
I think the reasoning is that religious life has its own rithms and rules. You have to learn some habits until they become second nature. And it is difficult to do that after a certain age Though I find this unfortunate too and think the same way as you
I think the same Way, Single retired and wanting to serve in some way. I was wondering if I could contribute by being a driver or an assistant to a priest. In the Midwest they are stretched thin and serving multiple parishes. Is that a possibility.
I have spoken to non-Catholics who believe DnD is an evil, non-Christian type game. I have tried to explain that it is not an anti-Christian game. After all, DnD is not like a Ouja board!
Our auxiliary bishop in Cape Town is a member of the Oblates of Mary Immaculate. Cardinal Timothy Radcliffe is a Dominican and the late Cardinal Basil Hume was a Benedictine, if I’m not mistaken. So Fr Casey…..
If married to a Catholic in RCChurch? No. If married to a non Catholic ? Yes. Annulment is easy. So called Pauline privilege. Also if there are children the answer in both cases is NO. Till they turn 18.
@@BreakingInTheHabit Okay, blend... Come to think of it, my socks and underwear are viscose poly blend, too... I just never associated wool with not breathing well... Granted, I'm thinking of merino or alpaca wool, not the stuff the likes of Catherine of Siena used to self-chastise... :D
Hi, checked the link (out of curiosity mainly, as a female I can't really be a friar). Noticed there are no Fransican orders in England, Scotland or Wales. Why is this?
Think you skipped part of a question, from what I understand Priest can leave and get married. Growing up we had a priest at my church that met a woman and left the order to get married.
If I'm not mistaken, R.C. priests are allowed to marry but cannot perform certain tasks like hearing confessions & other. Many *married* Anglican priests have left their denominations and joined R.Catholism, they remained married yet were accepted as R.C. priests .
Priests can, under serious circumstances, request to be dismissed from the clerical state and thus be released from the promises of celibacy and obedience that they made when they were ordained. If the request is granted, then they can get married; they remain priests, as the effects of ordination are permanent, but they can no longer exercise their ministry.
@ no, RC Priest can't marry, but as you mentioned there are cases where married Priest from other Churches/Orders "transfer" and continue to be married. A married man can also become a Deacon but a unmarried Deacon can't get married once he is a Deacon. A married man may become a Priest if he is widowed.
This comes with great penalties, limiting what one can do in the church. A former priest can never teach or take an active role in parish life. To say they can leave and get married is technically true, but it is not a real option. It is only tolerated.
Just type their names,I know padre pio,mother Teresa of Calcutta,st Zita ,st Veronica the rising of a giant,st Dominic savio,st Patrick,st,Chabel,st .rose of Lima,this you can find here on TH-cam and many others
@FaithImani-xq9ek yes but I don't want to watch content that is not verified or legit. It would be nice if there was a channel having videos of all the saints on one place. Maybe Fr Casey could do it 😬
What if you fall in love? All true Christians do fall in love. It part of the process of becoming christian, and deepening the devotion. We love Christ our Lord, Savior, and God. Because He first loved us. And we come to love other Christians, and even those who hate Christ because of our love for Christ. He leads us, if we're following correctly, to demonstrate His character in our lives. So I say a person who has dedicated their life to serving others who does not feel compassion, pity, and love. They may need to reevaluate their motivations.
I would never want to be a friar mostly because I want to be a dad but if I had the opportunity to be a friar with Father Casey then I might consider it.
We need father casey. But a real catholic identity St Francisco. St Clare. Things I don't like that we catholic that have history of our enemies. Error of catholics is think you don't have one Enemies pretending to be friends with them! The crusades are not over brother... And we are loosing all battles. Abortion lost. Everything is legal its not the European catholic 100. Remember "Europe real name" was called "the land of the Christians" meaning 'catholic". So yes... If you give history of the Enemy yes... You guessed it you are hurting and helping the Enemies. ¿Never ask why Ireland is loosing the battle of America way sold as the best way of life? Its not. Its Jesus Christ our lord in the form of brothers. Love to all.❤❤❤
Every is allowed to fall in love. So if ever u do Father Casey deside to leave the order because you've met someone really speacial, God will understand and wish u the best of luck. Love is *THE* most powerful force in the universe. Farther Casey, I have 2 ideas if u were to make separate videos on please. "What the religious order relation is like with the military?", and talk about the history of the apostle St. Blaise: Patron saint of wool combers, wild animals, candle makers and ailments of the throat
I’m going to have to disagree with you. Why would God wish me the “best of luck” for breaking my vows to him? For creating scandal? The idea that “love is the most powerful force in the universe” is a very secular understanding of love. Yes, love is that force, but as self-sacrifice and commitment, not as following passions and abandoning responsibilities.
@@BreakingInTheHabit Only from watching Touched By An Angel, haven't seen it in years, but from what I remember, God is full of compassion, love, wisdom, understanding to the core center, and mercy. That's why I think he would wish u well. I know that's just a tv show. But its very moving to the heart. We'll know what his character really is like when we meet; hopfully from old age, u and I r both young. We humans will always b limited. P.S. I had no idea those in holy service play DnD.
Yes, the Ukrainian rite allows priests to get married, but not the Syro-Malabar and Syro-Malankara rites of Kerala, India. Our priests are also celibate. In fact, most of the 22 rites follow the vow of celibacy.
I want a Fry shop run by Friars who are Fryers and only work on Fridays
Your joke lives up to your username.
Well then they'd only sell fried fish because it's Friday
@@jeannebouwman1970 I meant French fries
Your brain may be fried.
The Friar Shop
Glad you're back!
Thank you, Father Casey, for your candor regarding your thoughts on romantic love, marriage, and how such thoughts have led you, from time to time, to fantasize about leaving the priesthood. It is nice for laypersons to see that priests struggle with so many of the same temptations that we do. Granted, on an intellectual level, we know that you are human, but many laypeople still see those in religious orders to be of a different breed - as if you have some level of moral strength that is beyond us laypeople and self-restraint that is preternatural. Conveying that those in religious life share the same failings and tribulations as the laity makes you not only more relatable, but also more credible.
...in an earlier video he spoke of a specific woman with whom he'd interacted & "fallen in love."
And then...did nothing. She moved away, unaware of this.
He did mention that she'd gotten engaged, so his ears were - at least briefly - alert to news.
Then....nothing happened. As he says in this video - he's committed to letting the fleeting thoughts of couple-hood be just that. Fleeting.
💔
It sounds to me as the same thing as being married and not following through with infatuations. When we get married we don’t stop being attracted to other people. I wouldn’t call it falling in love though but more like platonic infatuations. I can see a priest going through the same thing and choosing vocation just like a married person would choose their marriage over their infatuation.
@calmontes651 - did you watch LA Law, back in the day or maybe in reruns?
A case was won on this basis....
Thank you ✝️ You are bringing young adults back to (or to) the Catholic Church. Thank you for putting these topics in simple terms
I just love how passionate father Tito is, explaining all the DnD stuff (I don't really get it either; but super funny he made you into a half elf *THIEF* ?! haha!)
I can assure you it was funny 🙂.
Chaotic good thief though. Think “Robin Hood”, not just a thief stealing for their own benefit.
@@lexington476 no doubt, thank you!! ✨
@@KellyS_77 that makes sense! Quite funny tho ✨
It’s a fantasy… so why be what you are in every day? TBF when I played DnD all my characters were suspiciously me
Fr. Casey - I am friends with a retired bishop who is a member of a religious order. He was asked twice to become a bishop, and both times said no. The third time, he was ordered as a matter of obedience by the Holy Father to accept. So, yes, you can say no, but you might end up a bishop anyways.
Father Casey, the chaotic good, half-elven thief, marvelous!
That was brilliant LOL
Thank you for making the Church so approachable, you've made my spiritual journey and quest for knowledge much more easily understood ! ✝️
5:52 thank you brother Tito 😂❤
Choosing a life devoted to God is the most rewarding now and in the life to come. God bless!
57 seconds ago and 2 views is CRAZY. Thank you Fr. Casey!
God bless you Fr. Casey
I love videos where you answer questions, Father Casey! Please do more!
Why is the age of vocations capped at 45? Over the years, the thought of a vocation has entered my mind frequently. I am now 69. God bless!
I truly enjoy your videos and honestly they sometimes fan the ember of my faith which I constantly find fading. I am not Catholic, and grew up protestant. I married a Catholic woman, but still find my faith faltering a bit as it is very difficult to be a Christian who actually follows Christ's teachings in our society right now. But your videos fan the flame to keep my faith alight. And I truly appreciate you!
You sir have amazing discipline not to concern yourself with "world affairs" but devote your life to God. Celibacy is rarely practiced today
Thank you for be open about the falling in love thing❤
Glad you're back, Father. ❤️
Re mendicant orders: don’t forget the Hospitaller Brothers of St. John of God! Sorry, I’m a bit partial to them as I am a coworker in one of their centres here in Toronto.
Father Tito is awesome, I love his thoughts on your D&D character...Chaotic and Good!
FIRST!!! God bless father Casey🙏
New video, AND a Fr Tito’s cameo?! Thank you 🙏🏼
You're a gift from God, Father Casey!
God bless you, Br. and Fr. Casey.
Its funny to hear a D&D question being asked.
Also my brother and my brothers and sisters in Christ. Stay safe.
God Bless You, Friar Casey
Great video, Fr. Casey! Thank you!
I live in the Northern part of NSW, Australia and our Bishops is a Carmelite, an still wears his brown habit. He once said he does not enjoy the chao of tne world and misses his monastery.
Missed you Father!
Well actually I am autistic and from my experience as long as someone that wishes to be in the ministry does not have too much difficulty in day-to-day activities. It actually could open a door up for a priest to be autistic. At least with other neurodivergent people. On my own life is hard to connect with neurotypicals but the thing is at least for some people like myself it'd be easier to listen to someone who's neurodivergent than someone who's neurotypical because I've been hurt by neurotypical people who don't understand the neurodivergent experience.
Thank you Father Casey. How do we send questions to you?
Welcome back Father
Hi Father! Love the answers to these questions! Potential future question: do you have any tips for people who're overwhelmed by all the awful current events on how to process/live with/cope with The Feelings? Personally, I find the feeling of overwhelmed inadequacy sometimes haunting me in the face of everything we see on the news, etc.
You don't have to keep watching the news. There's only so much you can affect and things that are outside of our scope of influence, we really don't need to worry about. Also I've felt such immediate peace when in front of the Blessed Sacrament, I've given all my worries and intrusive thoughts to God. Just immediate peace.
Not religious myself but when life becomes too much I chant 'Hail Mumbo. Full of Jumbo' ten times in a row, sometimes alone, sometimes with others and concentrate real hard on something so unspecific that I call it a mystery.
Is always good to see your reflexions again Father Casey. Pls say hello to dear father Tito.
PS: I loved the DnD bit 😆
Very interesting and useful video!
Greetings from Ukraine, which is bleeding, but does not go away!
Slava Ukraini! What an impressive people! 🇺🇦
the dnd bit is epic
They always threatened to make my priest a bishop. I am a Greek Orthodox person and my priest unfortunately lost his wife when she was only 42 so he’s been a single father and such but every time they go to let someone they put him on the short list and he hates it, he does not want to be a bishop.
6:21 oh this is awesome. Does Father Tito have a channel 🙂?
The Diocese of Charlotte just got a Franciscan Bishop last June.
We need a BITH episode with some DnD gameplay now with Fr Tito. Thank you, Fr Casey!
Welcome back, Father. My question is weird and oddly specific. Why the age cap? I'm a disabled veteran who is currently married. My wish is that if I out live her, have my own independent medical care (via the VA), and my own stipend that I can share, can I still join at a later age.
I think the reasoning is that religious life has its own rithms and rules. You have to learn some habits until they become second nature. And it is difficult to do that after a certain age
Though I find this unfortunate too and think the same way as you
I think the same Way,
Single retired and wanting to serve in some way.
I was wondering if I could contribute by being a driver or an assistant to a priest. In the Midwest they are stretched thin and serving multiple parishes.
Is that a possibility.
I have spoken to non-Catholics who believe DnD is an evil, non-Christian type game. I have tried to explain that it is not an anti-Christian game. After all, DnD is not like a Ouja board!
I wish so badly Fr. Casey would have answered the DnD question with a "what are you, a flipping nerd?"
Our auxiliary bishop in Cape Town is a member of the Oblates of Mary Immaculate. Cardinal Timothy Radcliffe is a Dominican and the late Cardinal Basil Hume was a Benedictine, if I’m not mistaken. So Fr Casey…..
If a married man gets divorced, and his wife marries someone else, can he become a Catholic priest?
Asking for a friend, right?
Yes, our Catholic priest was divorced and after become a priest and a very devoted one.
if valid, the marriage needs to be annulled
If married to a Catholic in RCChurch? No. If married to a non Catholic ? Yes. Annulment is easy. So called Pauline privilege. Also if there are children the answer in both cases is NO. Till they turn 18.
Great video
As a DnD nerd I loved Father Tito's bit
Yes, you can turn down the offer from the Papal Nuncio. It is more likely than you think that you will get that call in a few years.
Beautiful.
So if you are older than 45 is that a hard no on trying to join an Order?
May God bless you always 🙏
Regarding becoming a bishop and being in an order, Cardinal O'Malley was Archbishop of Boston for many years. He is OFM Cap. How did that work?
What is the difference between a friar and a monk
Polyester... breathes better... wha...? That is the most insane thing I have ever heard :D.
Than wool? Absolutely. Polyester blend is moderately comfortable.
@@BreakingInTheHabit Okay, blend... Come to think of it, my socks and underwear are viscose poly blend, too... I just never associated wool with not breathing well... Granted, I'm thinking of merino or alpaca wool, not the stuff the likes of Catherine of Siena used to self-chastise... :D
Polyester...chemical and not healthy,,,cotton,viscose,wool are better and they last
May God lead you every day to do his will.
Love you, father
As someone who is beginning to play DnD, I loved hearing Fr. Tito geek out about it 😅
Being a monk is based. I wish that I was a monk.
Hi, checked the link (out of curiosity mainly, as a female I can't really be a friar). Noticed there are no Fransican orders in England, Scotland or Wales. Why is this?
It's because they're mainly protestant cultures. Monastic orders were dissolved over the course of the protestant reformation in the 16th century
Faith just faded away there, sadly. They are a custody of Ireland now.
Fr. Casey,
Here's a question for you...
Can a permanent diocesan Deacon join an order and become a Deacon in that order?
Yes. As long as they’re not married, which is rarely the case because they get married before becoming a deacon.
@BreakingInTheHabit
Very good to know. Thanks for your response. Welcome back and God's blessings in 2025!
Something I've always wondered. Since St. Francis is the Patron Saint of Animals, do Franciscians eat meat?
Do we need to send our Fr Friar a frying pan?
Think you skipped part of a question, from what I understand Priest can leave and get married. Growing up we had a priest at my church that met a woman and left the order to get married.
If I'm not mistaken, R.C. priests are allowed to marry but cannot perform certain tasks like hearing confessions & other.
Many *married* Anglican priests have left their denominations and joined R.Catholism, they remained married yet were accepted as R.C. priests .
Priests can, under serious circumstances, request to be dismissed from the clerical state and thus be released from the promises of celibacy and obedience that they made when they were ordained.
If the request is granted, then they can get married; they remain priests, as the effects of ordination are permanent, but they can no longer exercise their ministry.
@ no, RC Priest can't marry, but as you mentioned there are cases where married Priest from other Churches/Orders "transfer" and continue to be married. A married man can also become a Deacon but a unmarried Deacon can't get married once he is a Deacon. A married man may become a Priest if he is widowed.
This comes with great penalties, limiting what one can do in the church. A former priest can never teach or take an active role in parish life. To say they can leave and get married is technically true, but it is not a real option. It is only tolerated.
HHHEEEEEESSSS BAAAACK!!!!
En mi diócesis hubo un obispo fraile no hace mucho
I would love to learn the life of the saints but I'm not a reader per say. Any good TH-cam channels that you would suggest?
Just type their names,I know padre pio,mother Teresa of Calcutta,st Zita ,st Veronica the rising of a giant,st Dominic savio,st Patrick,st,Chabel,st .rose of Lima,this you can find here on TH-cam and many others
@FaithImani-xq9ek yes but I don't want to watch content that is not verified or legit. It would be nice if there was a channel having videos of all the saints on one place. Maybe Fr Casey could do it 😬
What are 3rd orders? How could I, male and married, join the 3rd order of St. Francis? How many 3rd orders are there?
Why are Franciscans the Grey Friars if most habits are brown?
What happened to Upon Friar Review?
as a recent widower, 1 yr+, is it ok to start dating a lady i have feelings for?
Fr Casey, have you ever thought of leaving? Like regretting it? I'm wondering because as you are more close to God, Satan would want to tempt you..?
Some great questions here. Mine would be "Do you like 'Name of the Rose' film/book. ;)
Never watched/read it
It is very much anti Catholic movie
Can friars have pets, either individually or communally? I'm particularly interested considering that you follow St. Francis.
In some places, yes, but in our community it is not allowed.
What if you fall in love?
All true Christians do fall in love. It part of the process of becoming christian, and deepening the devotion. We love Christ our Lord, Savior, and God. Because He first loved us. And we come to love other Christians, and even those who hate Christ because of our love for Christ. He leads us, if we're following correctly, to demonstrate His character in our lives.
So I say a person who has dedicated their life to serving others who does not feel compassion, pity, and love. They may need to reevaluate their motivations.
Let's say you're not call to be a friar. Can you still become a friar?
(just kidding 🤣)
Are the Dominicans good at baseball?
And Benedictine?
7:16 our Bishop is a Jesuit or former Jesuit considering what you said.
Are there Anglican/Episcopalian Franciscans?
Yes, the current abbot of Ealing Abbey Fr. Dominic used to be an Anglican Franciscan.
I mean ... nuns and sisters aren't priests either ....
That you .
If you became Pope what papal name would you choose
Peter II. Just kidding
@@BreakingInTheHabitthe Palmerians have already taken that title.
@@BreakingInTheHabit Lol.Why not Sixtus to be Sixtus the Sixth.
You can't join the Friars after the age of 45?
Usually not. Formation takes at least 6 or 7 years
Can priests serve in the military in any job other than chaplain?
☺☺☺ ✝️ .
I would never want to be a friar mostly because I want to be a dad but if I had the opportunity to be a friar with Father Casey then I might consider it.
@@asmitmehra7373(reply removed)
We need father casey. But a real catholic identity St Francisco. St Clare. Things I don't like that we catholic that have history of our enemies. Error of catholics is think you don't have one Enemies pretending to be friends with them! The crusades are not over brother... And we are loosing all battles. Abortion lost. Everything is legal its not the European catholic 100. Remember "Europe real name" was called "the land of the Christians" meaning 'catholic". So yes... If you give history of the Enemy yes... You guessed it you are hurting and helping the Enemies. ¿Never ask why Ireland is loosing the battle of America way sold as the best way of life? Its not. Its Jesus Christ our lord in the form of brothers. Love to all.❤❤❤
Every is allowed to fall in love. So if ever u do Father Casey deside to leave the order because you've met someone really speacial, God will understand and wish u the best of luck. Love is *THE* most powerful force in the universe.
Farther Casey, I have 2 ideas if u were to make separate videos on please. "What the religious order relation is like with the military?", and talk about the history of the apostle St. Blaise: Patron saint of wool combers, wild animals, candle makers and ailments of the throat
I’m going to have to disagree with you. Why would God wish me the “best of luck” for breaking my vows to him? For creating scandal? The idea that “love is the most powerful force in the universe” is a very secular understanding of love. Yes, love is that force, but as self-sacrifice and commitment, not as following passions and abandoning responsibilities.
@@BreakingInTheHabit Only from watching Touched By An Angel, haven't seen it in years, but from what I remember, God is full of compassion, love, wisdom, understanding to the core center, and mercy. That's why I think he would wish u well. I know that's just a tv show. But its very moving to the heart. We'll know what his character really is like when we meet; hopfully from old age, u and I r both young. We humans will always b limited.
P.S. I had no idea those in holy service play DnD.
Why do you have an upper age limit?
Because formation is very long and expensive. By the time someone is solemnly professed they would be close to retirement
In that case you can try being Old Catholic. Or any of the eastern Catholics. Their priests are allowed to get married.
No, my answer was that I’m happy I’m not married.
Celibacy is a good tradition in the Latin Church. @westerncentristants525
Yes, the Ukrainian rite allows priests to get married, but not the Syro-Malabar and Syro-Malankara rites of Kerala, India. Our priests are also celibate. In fact, most of the 22 rites follow the vow of celibacy.