Even the most talkative people shut down when around me and so I know it's me. Im the one who makes things awkward with my social anxiety. So I always feel left out, even at church. Seems everyone cliques up. But I have my wife who is just like me. I thank God for her! Thanks for making this video. God bless you.
God is separating people right now, much more than he ever has! I have been alone for years and I have been mistreated for years by many, as I knew I was somehow different from the rest! I didn't fit in and I never will, my soul loves God! I have many encounters with people, although they are very, very, very short. 15 minutes here, 20 minutes there, and while I have family no one speaks to me, and I am often the subject of ridicule! But, I know God loves, me and I he strengthens me, whenever I need it! So, if you are truly saddened, you must pray to God for companionship, he will send it, just make sure you pray to God that this new companion is from him! God Bless You
I exactly know how you feel I'm in the college group at my church and it's split after the teacher of the college group and one of the guys who actually started the college group got into a whole War because the guy who started it was past the age and the teacher ask him if he can move up a level to the young professionals and he took that as an insult and it ended badly finally it ended but still there's something there before this God put it on my heart that something big was going to happen to the college group I lost a good friend in the college group over a small thing and I tried reaching out to people cuz it hurt my heart cuz I miss that person and I would get the same old advice wait on it short and sweet but no one was really there for me during those times except God and it's been going on for 2 years I feel I can't relate with the group some in the group like one or two people I can but it feels like everytime I talk about something I'm judged or they look down upon me even though what I say is biblically true and it's hard to relate and after the whole fighting thing I knew who was there for me might be one to two people but God gave me wisdom in my loneliness for a reason sometimes he gives loneliness to people to make them see how he sees from the outside looking in to get the whole picture he's always done this in my life and that's why I can give wise advice to those people cuz I've seen alot
I wish someone could tell me how not to feel so lonely at church. I cannot make even one friend. After service I see or hear from no one. I reach out and am blown off. No one has time. Maybe because I am older?
Lynda, I understand how you feel. I'm a man age 64 and haven't attended Church for many years, because it has become a musician center with audio-visuals and a light show. It's meant to be Christians genuinely caring for one another face-to-face providing encouragement and social bonds. But it just isn't there anymore. So, I feel the pain and loneliness you feel. I'm socially isolated except for a part-time job 8 hours a week at my local aquatic center. Just meeting people there and having an acquaintance with them helps. But we need at least one deeper social contact for mutual talking and listening. I wish you the very best and empathize with your loneliness.
I've gone to church almost every Sunday over last two years. Did a Bible study, became a member, still not one person will ever call or encourage me. I do it to others all the time but then one day, I figured if it isn't mutual, forget it. So I deleted my contacts and decided I would only add them back in if they contact me. That was 7-10 months ago; still waiting... Assembling is great, and I totally envision a time of Christian friends coming over for dinner and sharing Christ. However, that has not happened. I've now tried 4 other churches and still nothing. The only people who want to assemble are non believers. So those are my friends. Of course, it can only go so far and it's really not edifying. My point is, while I agree with your video, it's just not the reality I've encountered.
I can relate. I have a hand full of childhood friends that know me well and family..that’s all I have. My friends are not Christian and somehow I can connect with them on a deeper level than I can with others in church. I’m an introvert so social gatherings are difficult as well as small talk. I need connections on a much deeper level.
Asha Jeganathan , 1 church of God to look for and that is the remnant of God spoken of in Rev 12:17. They preach the third angels message "Come out of her my people " (out of Babylon ) where all the other churches led by the Catholic Church are in and very soon will be a 1 world church. Gods people are to be seperate from Babylon.
2018, my loneliness brought me here. Being Native American, a new born Christian of 9 months, being a tomboy (bc I prefer wearing t-shirts and jeans rather then a blouse or a dress), and no church fellowship bc I Havent found a church who excepts me for the way look. My family cant relate to me bc they are deeply rooted in our Native American culture. My friends cant relate bc they aren't believers. I picked up a KJV Holy Bible in Oct. 2017. I have a hard time reading it, but online sermons help me to understand. Now thats pure loneliness. Sometimes I cry bc of it. But i choose GOD through Jesus Christ, I refuse to believe in any other way.
Tami, where do you live? Our church has an informal dress code and you would be welcome here. It's very important for believers to have a church community, not only for worship and Biblical teachings, but also for fellowship and social gatherings. Our church accepts all members, be they single or married. But you are probably out in Wyoming or Montana. But I will help you find a church wherever you live. Blessings
Im a born again Christian and i also struggle with loneliness and i have to constantly pray to the lord everytime the loneliness starts creeping in, i even have trouble in my church to fit in with people that sometimes i feel like a complete outcast, i need to learn how to be more social and open up to people, i've been praying and praying to the lord to break this chains that hold me back from starting relationships and being social with people.
I feel that pain. God bless you and be with you. I have too struggles to fit into church. That's so depressing. Church should be a loving family not club or something where you have to watch how things are going alone. It's about friendship and caring not pushing someone away. God bless
I feel your pain 😥 I'm starting to get the feeling that if you didn't grow in these churches they don't care if you come or go. When the new sheep walk into the church they are most important person in the church and need to be shepherd too the most but that never seems to be the case. Most of these churches are just businesses and don't care about the flock it's really sad. I pray that God brings a uprising and shakes things up with these churches and bring em back to the spirit 🙏
I feel lonely in my church. Me and my husband (we have 1 son who is a baby) also have financial problems, while we give our thithe. I can't always attent things at church where we have to pay for it. My old (godly) friendships has seem to fade when I became a mum and have less time for them. And now I also have less money. It seems (to me) that you cant have friends nowadays when you dont have the money to go to a restaurant or other do other nice things. Money seems to be always something you need to keep your friendships interesting. And that makes me sad.
Your "condition" sounds eerily familiar to me! Judging by the comments to this video, there seems to be a lot of us out there. Thanks for the words of encouragement.
When you are all armored up with Sword, the Lions cannot touch you. Jesus was alone in the wilderness for 40 days. Actually I get more stronger in isolation than in crowd of zombies. Lol However it gets lonely for sure but you talk to your best friend, Jesus Christ. He is a good listener.
John, thank you for sharing this video about loneliness. I am a born again Christian, living a celibate life and have same sex attraction. Social anxiety has become a big part of my life, especially at church where I am usually surrounded by married couples with kids and others dating or wanting to be dating someone. I have hopped around from church to church trying to fit in... I have been kicked out of one church because the leadership told me I could not stay even though I had done nothing wrong... saying they are not equipped to counsel me or have me as a member even though I had been there for many years. I was so involved with the youth, writing special music, singing and playing my guitar. It breaks my heart and makes me feel less than human. It’s very hard to trust people, especially those in church.
3:13 WOW , i didn't expect to hear that , didn't expect an American to know this stuff , i'm a 26 years old guy from iran who converted to christianity , i feel very lonely time to time , i'm single never had a real girlfriend or anything like that , i just looked up being lonely and i kinda stumbled upon this video , god bless brother , thank you for your words of encouragment and wisdom
I'm a bit like you. I'm not saying YOU are, but I'm a highly sensitive person so I find being in big groups quite difficult. After an abusive marriage breakdown, I found myself "rejected " by the church and pretty much isolated from the body of Christ. I might add that I have had fibromyalgia for most of my life so getting to church hadn't been easy anyway. I understand what you're saying, and you are precious in His sight. We're not all made the same. But beautiful people we definitely are. God bless you my brother
I can relate to this so much. I have horrible social anxiety even though no one knows that about me. I've isolated myself to the point where I have no one left. Also, I'm going to be a senior in high school so it's sad to know that I'm going to have to look back on these years with sadness because I lost all of my friends because of my anxiety, which turned to depression. I'm starting to realize though that maybe God put me in this position so that I will cling to Him and realize that I need Him more than any other person and He is the only one who can fill my heart. I love how raw this video is, thanks for the wisdom!
Nailed it...I believe for me it's a defense ...self protection thing...when u hurt to the core mind..soul and spirit. ...all you want is peace...for years and years I have found I only feel comfortable with God alone...it is lonely but it is lesser of the 2 evils...praise God you are making steps to break through. ..i hope someday I will be free as well..all far as the churches I'm a widow of a pastor I know to much behind the scenes to long...I will say this I walked away from the church 5 years ago...my choice to do that was good. .I'm closer to God then ever before...but it's not for the weak
Brother, I think the Lord led me to this video, just as He led you to make it. Thank you for making yourself vulnerable, and putting it out there. I needed to be challenged in this area, and to hear some of the things you said. I've never before considered that there could be a connection between being put out of the church to a place where the devil is waiting as a roaring lion for the destruction of flesh and the natural (or supernatural) consequences of putting oneself out of fellowship. In the past year, I would guess that I've attended less than 20 church services, among several congregations. That's a number I hadn't even considered until just now. In the past two months, I haven't gone at all. Like you, I could probably find ways to justify this. A new job, working nights, old church splitting up, people moving away, friends changing, facing various disappointments, etc. The truth is that regardless of my circumstances, I NEED to have some meaningful fellowship with sincere believers. I've been isolated for far too long, and I feel weak. Pray for me if you would. I will be looking for a new church home.
Thanks Brian for taking the time to write this it was helpful to me and that my brother is no small thing GOD Bless you and know that the Lord has his hand on your life....
Brian Crow , 20 church services? Probably all the counterfeit churches created by Satan. The Bible speaks of a remnant seed of God in Revelation 12:17. They preach the third angels message "Come out of her my people " (out of Babylon ). There's a 1 world church coming were all these counterfeit churches will join together in unity in Babylon. Gods remnant church is to be seperate from Babylon. When you find this remnant seed of God, there you will find truth. And the truth shall set you free, the Bible says so. Free from the Babylon confusion. Stay blessed brother!
"Meaningful fellowship..." that's the point right there! What my church considers "fellowship" is eating and talking about your job, the latest crisis in their family, renovations on their house, where they plan to go for vacation -- you get the idea. If this is fellowship then the whole world are believers!
I see me being lonely as a momentary light affliction it won't always be this way just got to push through it or pray until something happens just gotta keep it together
I understand brother I feel so alone. I've too convinced myself that no one cares, I am a 24 year old man and will soon be 25 at the end of the year. My life is passing me by and everyday that goes by feels like a waist. I live on my own and do EVERYTHING alone. I never would have thought in my youth years that I would grow up and be a loner..... Never.... I get so depressed that I want to end my life, but what keeps me going is the hope that God will one day change me and in that change my life. I have been blessed by god with material things, but honestly my inside is sore. I feel so sad sometimes and I have been rejected by alot of people lately I too struggle with bonding with people and creating a relationship. It always seems like people are interested in me in the beginning but soon they quickly shy away from me and I have no clue why. I am different in many ways. But I am also relatable. I wish my life could change soon, but who knows if it ever will.... Please pray for me thank you.
Bro I truly understand I'm 40 yrs old still going thru isolation and social anxiety for one I stutters real bad and I feel ashamed about that l do have kids they treat me like a stranger as well. Its hard to start a relationship without women being judgemental about my speech problem family to strangers treat me very cold but Jesus says to me trust me and I will exalt you in due time stay faithful to Jesus my brother everything going to work out for us..
Wow, I needed to hear this. I've been trying to go it alone for the past couple years. I know I should join a church, but it's been hard for me to reach out.
John, thank you for being vulnerable. I, too, struggle with opening up to people I do not trust, and find it incredibly difficult to develop relationships, aside from childhood friends and some family; it's hard for me to make friends, initially, because of social anxiety... I was baptized at a church in my hometown; I attended this church a few times with a friend, but soon moved away for college. Mind you, I have never attended church regularly in my life (pagan family), so naturally, when I move away, I'm avoiding church like the plague. It's almost 2 years now since my baptism, and still no church (I study and worship alone). Recently, I began the vetting process of finding a church, and found a spot that aligns with my values. A buddy from my hometown (an hour away) even knows some of the members at this church, mentioning that he (my friend) could talk to them so I don't have to go alone... This sort of thing, where the stars align, has rarely happened in my 25 years of life. And yet, I'm having severe anxiety just thinking about attending church with people I don't know, only to find myself inevitably forced to converse with more people that mean well, but don't understand my need for self-preservation-- in this case, avoiding small talk and personal space. I resonate with your willingness to talk about God and theology; this part of church is what attracts me and has largely convicted me (along with The Holy Spirit) to seek out what I know is good for me... Whomever is reading this, first of all, thanks for reading! Secondly, pray for me, brothers and sisters.
We all been (or are) there. We need godly (not church going) people in our lives. A. W. Toler says if you feel alone then you most likely serious about God and value your walk. We have to continue our walk as true saints. So we need to pray that God open the door for us to talk to and connect with other God fearing people at the right time. We need to encourage each other from time to time but also to celebrate God in our lives together
Thank you brother for making this video. I've struggled with social anxiety and depression for about 20years and i've isolated myself for so long because the thought of having a future where I can actually enjoy the company and relationships of other people can at times seem impossible. But it's good to know that other believers struggle with it too is very encouraging. It's a daily battle and I've got to start being a doer of the Word and not just a heater like i've been for so long. God bless bro!
I am isolated almost completely except for church on Sundays and Wednesdays. And while I am in the church building I am still alone. People just leave when the service is over. But the rest of the time I am alone in my apartment. I am nearly broke, sustained an injury that keeps me from being able to marry, although I probably wouldn't be able to if I was healthy. I am shy, unsocial, and very depressed. And singles groups are nowhere around, as 80% of the churches are married families. Right now things are a mess! And I have no idea how to resolve this problem!
Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing your real feeling s with us that most people hind including me. I was crying while watching your video because I feel that way and I thought I was the only one. I can be in a crawd full of people and still feel alone, the only time I feel any peace is late at night I have a hard time sleeping I never knew loneliness could be this painful I feel like I have a permanently broken heart and all I can do is pray about it and hope for something better.
This is exactly what I am going through. I'm glad there's hope and it's calming to know there are other people that go through this. I've made myself believe that I am the only one
i hear ya man. even with my family i feel like theyre gonna humiliate me. jesus christ has helped me. its definitely due to trust issues in my childhood. praise the god for nurturing us to come out of our shells at the right time and make us feel safe. sometimes we just need a little tlc from god, especially when people scare us
I understand, it's tough, it's hard, it's out of your personality, You feel it's best to be alone, but one big thing we forget is God loves us, no matter who we are, what we face, God is with us. God is love. God is everything
The strange thing is in Germany, when i walk into a church where they ministring, i hear a few words from the pastor and i walk right out. Although im born again....i just do not belive in Religion. ..x-mas...and so on!...
Thank you for sharing your insight. This helped me today. I am longing for friends and community but now I realized that I have been seeking them in wrong places.
This has helped me so much, just what I needed to hear tonight. An answer to prayer. So glad you shared this, can't have been easy. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for being willing to share this. It took a lot of courage. I can identify with everything you've said. It's just very hard to find other Christians that live for Christ and won't turn around and hurt you (often purposely) in the end. What do you do when everyone you meet is a wolf in sheep's clothing. I just get tired of getting hurt over and over again.
I write to all who suffer loneliness HERE: Your not alone...Many people suffer from loneliness and depression along with social anxiety. Its incredibly debilitating to the mind and soul... I truly understand....I will like to share some amazing info with you today! If JESUS CHRIST and you had a flourishing relationship then the loneliness & depression will soon disappear. He will fill your thoughts and your time with so much wisdom and work and soon enough the word loneliness, depression, anxiety will be words will no longer feel but always will relate to it, from a stand point of your past...... The Lord will fill you up completely with his LOVE! CHURCH can not fill up this Void, only the spirit can fill that void deep inside. Church is were you go to read and meditate and give praises to the LORD in Hims and sharing your growth with other like minded fellow Believers... Church Is not a place for Matting, Friendship, Eating Or celebrating or Music Bands and concerts. Church is a place for simply worship and prayer and deep Learning of the full doctrine and attaining its knowledge and applying to one self for life. Jesus is always there with you , me & all of us... "Always"., No matter where you are he is there & he is listening. We must recognize that! and begin to develop a relationship with him and not try to fill that Void inside with people & relationships. We are to fellowship with People about Our Lord Almighty Yes! but we must never expect that fellowshiping with people will fill that void one day for us ! That is not what GOD design the Church for ! As for a partner... He will send you a lifetime partner when the time is RIGHT & when you are spiritually ready. You will then get along wonderfully with that partner because it was meant to be HE/SHE have been just for you by the almighty LORD. Till then, pray, study & meditate & sing onto the Lord a lot and start to fellowship deeply and truthfully everyday one on one with the LORD, And pray for him to lift this Melancholy & replace it with his HOLY SPIRIT and EVERLASTING LOVE... That VOID can only be filled By the " The Holy Spirit"... Let it indwell you fully and pray about it vehemently so the LORD can move your heart to love him deeper. Psalm 139 King James Version (KJV) 139 O lord, thou hast searched me, and known me. 2 Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off. 3 Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways. 4 For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O Lord, thou knowest it altogether. 5 Thou hast beset me behind and before, and laid thine hand upon me. 6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high, I cannot attain unto it. 7 Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or whither shall I flee from thy presence? 8 If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there. 9 If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea; 10 Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me. 11 If I say, Surely the darkness shall cover me; even the night shall be light about me. 12 Yea, the darkness hideth not from thee; but the night shineth as the day: the darkness and the light are both alike to thee. 13 For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's womb. 14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. 15 My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. 16 Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them. 17 How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them! 18 If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee. 19 Surely thou wilt slay the wicked, O God: depart from me therefore, ye bloody men. 20 For they speak against thee wickedly, and thine enemies take thy name in vain. 21 Do not I hate them, O Lord, that hate thee? and am not I grieved with those that rise up against thee? 22 I hate them with perfect hatred: I count them mine enemies. 23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: 24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. MAY THE LORD BLESS YOU ALL HERE TODAY..
Thank you for being transparent most Churh you are not able to blend in if you are completely sold out for the Lord I have parted from finding comfort in the Churh I still go but only to honor my father in heaven I completely understand what you are filling I have been alone 9 years but closer to God then those that are in churches I fight every battle on my knees be strong I think we single radical christians should pray and fast together I am trying to learn TH-cam so that I can edify and pray with those in need iron sharpens iron we all need each other I am praying for you and for all that are not giving into this world be blessed
Brother, you don’t know how much this video speaks to me, I can relate so much but hearing you talk about this shows me I’m not alone, we may all be on our own but we can all share that loneliness with each other. Idk if I’m even making sense but just saying thank you so much for the video!
wow, im late on this video, like waaay late.... but i feel this to the core except not exactly social anxiety but it is hard as a developing follower of christ to find those who take God as seriously as I am trying to. God has been my ONLY thoughts. to the point of obsession and it's actually very depressing to have no one to talk to because it's spiritual and not a problem in this natural realm. if you ever need someone to talk I am open to exchanging contact information. i don't have anyone close to me in which i even feel comfortable expressing my struggles with openly! we are helpers to one another. God Bless You
You published this video a year ago, but I just watched it today. I felt incredibly lonely today and was brought to your video. I hope to find strength in your words to build my self-esteem and become involved in a positive community. You've got a good soul.
WOW! Thanks for posting. Having a rough time in this area but I keep reminding myself, as you did, that God knows best. I may not understand it all and going to church can be very painful for me because it just reminds me of what I feel I lack/my weaknesses. But God led me to 1 Peter 6 and 1 Corinthians 12 and confirmed that I NEED the church.
After having given up all desires my body wanted-praise, money, fame, etc-, the pain itself started to be lessened gradually, brother. Seeing and doing only what our Father in heaven would be pleased through the help of Holy Spirit will be the best way we could do... But the treatment of you by people around or the relationship could not be improved because they seeks solely worldly things and listen only to others who belong to the world, not to God. I hope this may help you....
Thx for making such a transparent video. Christians on a whole experience this so why aren't we coming together. I tried doing a fb search to see if you were on to ask for a friend requests cuz like you I can sit and talk about the things of God all day but there's not many like minded believers to talk with. Stay in Christ and endure faithfully. God really already has it all worked out for you.
I found this quote a while back that might help someone. Not to take away from John's message, which clearly touched many. I think maybe we're alone so we can hear God better? : Great eagles fly alone; great lions hunt alone; great souls walk alone-alone with God. Such loneliness is hard to endure, and impossible to enjoy unless God accompanied. Prophets are lone men; they walk alone, pray alone and God makes them alone. Leonard Ravenhill
I never feel isolated until I go to church. I don't fall in the married with children category so it's hard to find a niche in a world that's focused on the nuclear family
Even ppl in the work place try to understand and help ppl with anxiety or any issues that can be caused because of a lack of social skills. How come ppl in church do not have that kind of heartwarming, considerate and understanding mind sets.
I was not lonely before I started to follow God to places; learning more about His Word, growing character and being back; I have no family or real friends or community- I love God and He is worthy of it all- however; churches can be so the opposite of a healthy community and I have to keep trying not following past hurt and pain of ministry and other christians! Howver; I am not sure how many seasons i can continue to give without having a safe community around me for myself
I hear ya sister.. Especially with these lock downs and uncertainty about the future. I keep thinking to join a true bible believing Christian communal group, prep for the tribulation too right?? I am praying to God that I don't spend these end times on my own.. So painfully lonely sometimes. My name is Rosie in Sydney. Where are you??
@@sisigs4820 Thanks for your encouragement, but we WILL be here FOR the tribulation dear one. No where in the bible does it say we will be raptured before it. I wish and pray we would be, but we also must be at peace knowing our Master will be with us THROUGH it all for times such as these. HalleluYAH!!
Amanda Brank , Finding God's remnant seed spoken of in Rev 12:17 is where you will find the truth. All other churches are counterfeit churches created by Satan to get you lost and confused in. Where you will not grow Spiritually. Find this ONE remnant of God, and there you will be ENLIGHTENED and blessed! All the other churches are heading for unity in the soon coming 1 world church. The third angels message preached by God's remnant says "Come out of her my people "(out of Babylon ). Gods people are to be seperate from Babylon. Search for God's 1 remnant church and find truth. And the truth shall set you free, the Bible says so. Stay blessed!
I feel like I've been alone for years brother my family back East is not close, that I was married once I got divorced he was into drugs that I never got remarried, seems like the same kind of guys kept coming my way,I tried to tell people at my church that I need companionship but they have families and kids and they always tell me that I'm not alone, I hate when they say that it doesn't help at all,I wish they would say something like we are here for you we are family if you're ever lonely come over and fellowship with us but they never say that they only say You are not alone but they never offer any kind of fellowship from them, it's super hard,your video really helps though I like videos like this makes me feel like the Person is talking to me directly,God bless you seem like a sweetheart stop pushing people away especially if they want to be there for you, my problem is people see me as needy sometimes,they know I don't want to be alone but they always try to convince me that I can do it, it gets annoying lol🌸💖
The wilderness. Its the journey of all believers. I have issues understanding how to separate wordly relationships from Godly ones so I isolate myself completely. Most times sub consciously. Discernment feels like a curse as its a daily removal of people. Its exhausting but good to see its not just me.
I completely relate, though at age 65, I don't care anymore & am not as anxious or as awkward around people as I used to be. But I do wonder how much of this is *_you isolating yourself._* I've come to understand the way our modern society is set up keeps people overwhelmed with things they have to do & I'm just saying I don't think it's all *_us isolating ourselves,_* but others not having time, or being too busy to live life with us. In the old days we'd just be working & living together & going together to a little church we could walk to. In almost constant fellowship - bonding & living together. Praying together. Mourning or rejoicing together. Studying the bible together. Caring for all our needs TOGETHER. The way we live in this modern society is *NOT NATURAL.* Sitting alone at a desk 8 hours or more a day, or whatever other job situation we have.. most of our time is *_there.. alone_* or without the people we are closest to. Think about it. It's NO WONDER we get tripped up in this ARTIFICIAL SOCIETY. Please consider this.
would you connect how we behave with our western values? by this I mean western ideals can be pretty mean and selfish which does manifest itself in Churches. Only got to look at the sickening 'wealth and health' megachurch ministries to see such things. One great book I read years ago was about a bunch of Christians in Siberia, who were deeply blessed. When they gained freedom into the western world...many went thier own way and the group sort of died out
Yes, I hear ya bro...I have a tough time with relationships as well. About to end a relationship again. I'm so stupid...keep hooking up with unbelievers..they say they believe, but they never pursue God, nor his word...get pissed off if u bring it up....Like God said, marry in the faith...your chances will probably be much better... God bless.
I absolutely agree brother. But I have to add something I have personally seen. Sometimes, we don't do it. Sometimes people do it for you. If 1 thing is found off that does not align with their theology or way of life....you're out. Its lonely out here. But I'd rather that than the rather
What about being content being alone what if when you reach out and that’s when you are in chaos I think God gives us gifts as in contentment we seek his face in truth and Joy of him I have found his wonderful kindness . When I reach out that’s when it stirs up something uncomfortable in me. I truly think God does keep our souls quiet it’s when we reach out to want friendships it’s the want that confuses the mind .God Bless you want not and keep peace with God.
I'm aware that people care but oftentimes people don't know how to engage with people who are hurting and in need. Many simply want to play church and don't really take interest in your life or are political and cliquishness abounds. Or simply put people are so caught up in their own stuff that you don't usually see them stepping out of that to think about others... again, inherent sinful selfishness at play here.. I go to church because it's biblical, half the time I don't get what I feel I should get from church, but right now I go in spite of that.
I understand what your saying. I tend to be an extrovert but feel the need to isolate lately. I'm sure it's satan....endure till the end. Great analogy.
I just don't seem to fit in anywhere. Its not like I havent tried. But7 I am oodd compared to the rest of the body and people don't know what to do with me. Agter a nasty abusive marriage breakdown, the church I was involved in pretty much ignored me pastorally. I was /am chronically ill and couldnt go anymore, so I know that loneliness is a hardship ,
I graduated high school in 2015. So I am not in youth group, teen choir, and I can't go to summer camp. I kinda feel like I "graduated" from the body of Christ so to speak. Even though I'm only 18. This wasn't meant to be a pity party. Just hoping that someone reads this and knows that they are not alone
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Even the most talkative people shut down when around me and so I know it's me. Im the one who makes things awkward with my social anxiety. So I always feel left out, even at church. Seems everyone cliques up. But I have my wife who is just like me. I thank God for her! Thanks for making this video. God bless you.
God is separating people right now, much more than he ever has! I have been alone for years and I have been mistreated for years by many, as I knew I was somehow different from the rest! I didn't fit in and I never will, my soul loves God! I have many encounters with people, although they are very, very, very short. 15 minutes here, 20 minutes there, and while I have family no one speaks to me, and I am often the subject of ridicule! But, I know God loves, me and I he strengthens me, whenever I need it! So, if you are truly saddened, you must pray to God for companionship, he will send it, just make sure you pray to God that this new companion is from him! God Bless You
Mustbeheard1 gee you sound like me. Times are tough for true Christian Hang in there Peace will come
The loneless I feel in church it sometimes make me cry. I wonder maybe I should join a new church but there are a few who are kind.
I exactly know how you feel I'm in the college group at my church and it's split after the teacher of the college group and one of the guys who actually started the college group got into a whole War because the guy who started it was past the age and the teacher ask him if he can move up a level to the young professionals and he took that as an insult and it ended badly finally it ended but still there's something there before this God put it on my heart that something big was going to happen to the college group I lost a good friend in the college group over a small thing and I tried reaching out to people cuz it hurt my heart cuz I miss that person and I would get the same old advice wait on it short and sweet but no one was really there for me during those times except God and it's been going on for 2 years I feel I can't relate with the group some in the group like one or two people I can but it feels like everytime I talk about something I'm judged or they look down upon me even though what I say is biblically true and it's hard to relate and after the whole fighting thing I knew who was there for me might be one to two people but God gave me wisdom in my loneliness for a reason sometimes he gives loneliness to people to make them see how he sees from the outside looking in to get the whole picture he's always done this in my life and that's why I can give wise advice to those people cuz I've seen alot
Mustbeheard1 I would like to ask you, it seems you are satisfied and happy NOW, but when this first started, did you feel agonizing loneliness?
Amen bro.encouraging.continue the faith.stay strong .all we need is loving the Lord more than anyone or anything. love bro!
I wish someone could tell me how not to feel so lonely at church. I cannot make even one friend. After service I see or hear from no one. I reach out and am blown off. No one has time. Maybe because I am older?
Lynda, I understand how you feel. I'm a man age 64 and haven't attended Church for many years, because it has become a musician center with audio-visuals and a light show. It's meant to be Christians genuinely caring for one another face-to-face providing encouragement and social bonds. But it just isn't there anymore. So, I feel the pain and loneliness you feel. I'm socially isolated except for a part-time job 8 hours a week at my local aquatic center. Just meeting people there and having an acquaintance with them helps. But we need at least one deeper social contact for mutual talking and listening. I wish you the very best and empathize with your loneliness.
I've gone to church almost every Sunday over last two years. Did a Bible study, became a member, still not one person will ever call or encourage me. I do it to others all the time but then one day, I figured if it isn't mutual, forget it. So I deleted my contacts and decided I would only add them back in if they contact me. That was 7-10 months ago; still waiting... Assembling is great, and I totally envision a time of Christian friends coming over for dinner and sharing Christ. However, that has not happened. I've now tried 4 other churches and still nothing. The only people who want to assemble are non believers. So those are my friends. Of course, it can only go so far and it's really not edifying. My point is, while I agree with your video, it's just not the reality I've encountered.
Wow I feel the same and it’s so hurtful.🥺
I can relate. I have a hand full of childhood friends that know me well and family..that’s all I have. My friends are not Christian and somehow I can connect with them on a deeper level than I can with others in church. I’m an introvert so social gatherings are difficult as well as small talk. I need connections on a much deeper level.
Thank you:) loneliness brought me here....I also have social anxiety
Asha Jeganathan , 1 church of God to look for and that is the remnant of God spoken of in Rev 12:17. They preach the third angels message "Come out of her my people " (out of Babylon ) where all the other churches led by the Catholic Church are in and very soon will be a 1 world church. Gods people are to be seperate from Babylon.
Hi me too💖
Praying for you. Please pray for me also.
2018, my loneliness brought me here. Being Native American, a new born Christian of 9 months, being a tomboy (bc I prefer wearing t-shirts and jeans rather then a blouse or a dress), and no church fellowship bc I Havent found a church who excepts me for the way look. My family cant relate to me bc they are deeply rooted in our Native American culture. My friends cant relate bc they aren't believers. I picked up a KJV Holy Bible in Oct. 2017. I have a hard time reading it, but online sermons help me to understand. Now thats pure loneliness. Sometimes I cry bc of it. But i choose GOD through Jesus Christ, I refuse to believe in any other way.
Amen my sis if you need someone to talk to hit me up here's my email Deeone868@gmail.com
Tami, where do you live? Our church has an informal dress code and you would be welcome here. It's very important for believers to have a church community, not only for worship and Biblical teachings, but also for fellowship and social gatherings. Our church accepts all members, be they single or married. But you are probably out in Wyoming or Montana. But I will help you find a church wherever you live. Blessings
Im a born again Christian and i also struggle with loneliness and i have to constantly pray to the lord everytime the loneliness starts creeping in, i even have trouble in my church to fit in with people that sometimes i feel like a complete outcast, i need to learn how to be more social and open up to people, i've been praying and praying to the lord to break this chains that hold me back from starting relationships and being social with people.
I feel that pain. God bless you and be with you. I have too struggles to fit into church. That's so depressing. Church should be a loving family not club or something where you have to watch how things are going alone. It's about friendship and caring not pushing someone away. God bless
I feel your pain 😥 I'm starting to get the feeling that if you didn't grow in these churches they don't care if you come or go. When the new sheep walk into the church they are most important person in the church and need to be shepherd too the most but that never seems to be the case. Most of these churches are just businesses and don't care about the flock it's really sad. I pray that God brings a uprising and shakes things up with these churches and bring em back to the spirit 🙏
I feel lonely in my church.
Me and my husband (we have 1 son who is a baby) also have financial problems, while we give our thithe. I can't always attent things at church where we have to pay for it. My old (godly) friendships has seem to fade when I became a mum and have less time for them. And now I also have less money.
It seems (to me) that you cant have friends nowadays when you dont have the money to go to a restaurant or other do other nice things. Money seems to be always something you need to keep your friendships interesting. And that makes me sad.
Your "condition" sounds eerily familiar to me! Judging by the comments to this video, there seems to be a lot of us out there. Thanks for the words of encouragement.
When you are all armored up with Sword, the Lions cannot touch you. Jesus was alone in the wilderness for 40 days. Actually I get more stronger in isolation than in crowd of zombies. Lol
However it gets lonely for sure but you talk to your best friend, Jesus Christ. He is a good listener.
The BEST Listener Awakened sky and the only one we must go to for our answers AMEN!
John, thank you for sharing this video about loneliness. I am a born again Christian, living a celibate life and have same sex attraction. Social anxiety has become a big part of my life, especially at church where I am usually surrounded by married couples with kids and others dating or wanting to be dating someone. I have hopped around from church to church trying to fit in... I have been kicked out of one church because the leadership told me I could not stay even though I had done nothing wrong... saying they are not equipped to counsel me or have me as a member even though I had been there for many years. I was so involved with the youth, writing special music, singing and playing my guitar. It breaks my heart and makes me feel less than human. It’s very hard to trust people, especially those in church.
3:13 WOW , i didn't expect to hear that , didn't expect an American to know this stuff , i'm a 26 years old guy from iran who converted to christianity , i feel very lonely time to time , i'm single never had a real girlfriend or anything like that , i just looked up being lonely and i kinda stumbled upon this video , god bless brother , thank you for your words of encouragment and wisdom
I'm a bit like you. I'm not saying YOU are, but I'm a highly sensitive person so I find being in big groups quite difficult. After an abusive marriage breakdown, I found myself "rejected " by the church and pretty much isolated from the body of Christ. I might add that I have had fibromyalgia for most of my life so getting to church hadn't been easy anyway. I understand what you're saying, and you are precious in His sight. We're not all made the same. But beautiful people we definitely are. God bless you my brother
I can relate to this so much. I have horrible social anxiety even though no one knows that about me. I've isolated myself to the point where I have no one left. Also, I'm going to be a senior in high school so it's sad to know that I'm going to have to look back on these years with sadness because I lost all of my friends because of my anxiety, which turned to depression. I'm starting to realize though that maybe God put me in this position so that I will cling to Him and realize that I need Him more than any other person and He is the only one who can fill my heart. I love how raw this video is, thanks for the wisdom!
How are you doing now? With your walk with the Lord. And just in general.
Nailed it...I believe for me it's a defense ...self protection thing...when u hurt to the core mind..soul and spirit. ...all you want is peace...for years and years I have found I only feel comfortable with God alone...it is lonely but it is lesser of the 2 evils...praise God you are making steps to break through. ..i hope someday I will be free as well..all far as the churches I'm a widow of a pastor I know to much behind the scenes to long...I will say this I walked away from the church 5 years ago...my choice to do that was good. .I'm closer to God then ever before...but it's not for the weak
True sometimes we can feel more alone around people especially if there toxic.
Brother, I think the Lord led me to this video, just as He led you to make it. Thank you for making yourself vulnerable, and putting it out there. I needed to be challenged in this area, and to hear some of the things you said. I've never before considered that there could be a connection between being put out of the church to a place where the devil is waiting as a roaring lion for the destruction of flesh and the natural (or supernatural) consequences of putting oneself out of fellowship. In the past year, I would guess that I've attended less than 20 church services, among several congregations. That's a number I hadn't even considered until just now. In the past two months, I haven't gone at all. Like you, I could probably find ways to justify this. A new job, working nights, old church splitting up, people moving away, friends changing, facing various disappointments, etc. The truth is that regardless of my circumstances, I NEED to have some meaningful fellowship with sincere believers. I've been isolated for far too long, and I feel weak. Pray for me if you would. I will be looking for a new church home.
Thanks Brian for taking the time to write this it was helpful to me and that my brother is no small thing GOD Bless you and know that the Lord has his hand on your life....
Brian Crow , 20 church services? Probably all the counterfeit churches created by Satan. The Bible speaks of a remnant seed of God in Revelation 12:17. They preach the third angels message "Come out of her my people " (out of Babylon ). There's a 1 world church coming were all these counterfeit churches will join together in unity in Babylon. Gods remnant church is to be seperate from Babylon. When you find this remnant seed of God, there you will find truth. And the truth shall set you free, the Bible says so. Free from the Babylon confusion. Stay blessed brother!
"Meaningful fellowship..." that's the point right there! What my church considers "fellowship" is eating and talking about your job, the latest crisis in their family, renovations on their house, where they plan to go for vacation -- you get the idea. If this is fellowship then the whole world are believers!
I see me being lonely as a momentary light affliction it won't always be this way just got to push through it or pray until something happens just gotta keep it together
How are you now brother??
I understand brother I feel so alone. I've too convinced myself that no one cares, I am a 24 year old man and will soon be 25 at the end of the year. My life is passing me by and everyday that goes by feels like a waist. I live on my own and do EVERYTHING alone. I never would have thought in my youth years that I would grow up and be a loner..... Never.... I get so depressed that I want to end my life, but what keeps me going is the hope that God will one day change me and in that change my life. I have been blessed by god with material things, but honestly my inside is sore. I feel so sad sometimes and I have been rejected by alot of people lately I too struggle with bonding with people and creating a relationship. It always seems like people are interested in me in the beginning but soon they quickly shy away from me and I have no clue why. I am different in many ways. But I am also relatable. I wish my life could change soon, but who knows if it ever will.... Please pray for me thank you.
How's it been man.
Bro I truly understand I'm 40 yrs old still going thru isolation and social anxiety for one I stutters real bad and I feel ashamed about that l do have kids they treat me like a stranger as well. Its hard to start a relationship without women being judgemental about my speech problem family to strangers treat me very cold but Jesus says to me trust me and I will exalt you in due time stay faithful to Jesus my brother everything going to work out for us..
Wow, I needed to hear this. I've been trying to go it alone for the past couple years. I know I should join a church, but it's been hard for me to reach out.
John, thank you for being vulnerable. I, too, struggle with opening up to people I do not trust, and find it incredibly difficult to develop relationships, aside from childhood friends and some family; it's hard for me to make friends, initially, because of social anxiety... I was baptized at a church in my hometown; I attended this church a few times with a friend, but soon moved away for college. Mind you, I have never attended church regularly in my life (pagan family), so naturally, when I move away, I'm avoiding church like the plague. It's almost 2 years now since my baptism, and still no church (I study and worship alone). Recently, I began the vetting process of finding a church, and found a spot that aligns with my values. A buddy from my hometown (an hour away) even knows some of the members at this church, mentioning that he (my friend) could talk to them so I don't have to go alone... This sort of thing, where the stars align, has rarely happened in my 25 years of life. And yet, I'm having severe anxiety just thinking about attending church with people I don't know, only to find myself inevitably forced to converse with more people that mean well, but don't understand my need for self-preservation-- in this case, avoiding small talk and personal space. I resonate with your willingness to talk about God and theology; this part of church is what attracts me and has largely convicted me (along with The Holy Spirit) to seek out what I know is good for me... Whomever is reading this, first of all, thanks for reading! Secondly, pray for me, brothers and sisters.
We all been (or are) there. We need godly (not church going) people in our lives. A. W. Toler says if you feel alone then you most likely serious about God and value your walk. We have to continue our walk as true saints. So we need to pray that God open the door for us to talk to and connect with other God fearing people at the right time. We need to encourage each other from time to time but also to celebrate God in our lives together
Thank you brother for making this video. I've struggled with social anxiety and depression for about 20years and i've isolated myself for so long because the thought of having a future where I can actually enjoy the company and relationships of other people can at times seem impossible. But it's good to know that other believers struggle with it too is very encouraging. It's a daily battle and I've got to start being a doer of the Word and not just a heater like i've been for so long. God bless bro!
I am isolated almost completely except for church on Sundays and Wednesdays. And while I am in the church building I am still alone. People just leave when the service is over. But the rest of the time I am alone in my apartment. I am nearly broke, sustained an injury that keeps me from being able to marry, although I probably wouldn't be able to if I was healthy. I am shy, unsocial, and very depressed. And singles groups are nowhere around, as 80% of the churches are married families. Right now things are a mess! And I have no idea how to resolve this problem!
Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing your real feeling s with us that most people hind including me. I was crying while watching your video because I feel that way and I thought I was the only one. I can be in a crawd full of people and still feel alone, the only time I feel any peace is late at night I have a hard time sleeping I never knew loneliness could be this painful I feel like I have a permanently broken heart and all I can do is pray about it and hope for something better.
I went through four jobs because of how apart and different I am then my coworkers. I always am the person isolated . Thats ok Jesus is with me.
kudos for talking about such an "embarrassing" issue , takes courage and, in a way, confidence and groundedness. thank u for this, and amen brother
This is the most relatable video I've ever seen. Tried joining a church but ultimately felt unwelcome because of my introverted nature. It's hard.
This is exactly what I am going through. I'm glad there's hope and it's calming to know there are other people that go through this. I've made myself believe that I am the only one
Far from being alone Lizzy we have an awesome God who loves us and cares for us weather we FEEL it or not
i hear ya man. even with my family i feel like theyre gonna humiliate me. jesus christ has helped me. its definitely due to trust issues in my childhood. praise the god for nurturing us to come out of our shells at the right time and make us feel safe. sometimes we just need a little tlc from god, especially when people scare us
I understand, it's tough, it's hard, it's out of your personality,
You feel it's best to be alone, but one big thing we forget is God loves us, no matter who we are, what we face, God is with us. God is love. God is everything
Wow... You've explained what I've felt for years.
The strange thing is in Germany, when i walk into a church where they ministring, i hear a few words from the pastor and i walk right out. Although im born again....i just do not belive in Religion. ..x-mas...and so on!...
Thank you for sharing your insight. This helped me today. I am longing for friends and community but now I realized that I have been seeking them in wrong places.
This has helped me so much, just what I needed to hear tonight. An answer to prayer. So glad you shared this, can't have been easy. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for being willing to share this. It took a lot of courage. I can identify with everything you've said. It's just very hard to find other Christians that live for Christ and won't turn around and hurt you (often purposely) in the end. What do you do when everyone you meet is a wolf in sheep's clothing. I just get tired of getting hurt over and over again.
I write to all who suffer loneliness HERE:
Your not alone...Many people suffer from loneliness and depression along with social anxiety. Its incredibly debilitating to the mind and soul... I truly understand....I will like to share some amazing info with you today!
If JESUS CHRIST and you had a flourishing relationship then the loneliness & depression will soon disappear.
He will fill your thoughts and your time with so much wisdom and work and soon enough the word loneliness, depression, anxiety will be words will no longer feel but always will relate to it, from a stand point of your past...... The Lord will fill you up completely with his LOVE!
CHURCH can not fill up this Void, only the spirit can fill that void deep inside. Church is were you go to read and meditate and give praises to the LORD in Hims and sharing your growth with other like minded fellow Believers... Church Is not a place for Matting, Friendship, Eating Or celebrating or Music Bands and concerts.
Church is a place for simply worship and prayer and deep Learning of the full doctrine and attaining its knowledge and applying to one self for life. Jesus is always there with you , me & all of us... "Always"., No matter where you are he is there & he is listening.
We must recognize that! and begin to develop a relationship with him and not try to fill that Void inside with people & relationships. We are to fellowship with People about Our Lord Almighty Yes! but we must never expect that fellowshiping with people will fill that void one day for us ! That is not what GOD design the Church for !
As for a partner... He will send you a lifetime partner when the time is RIGHT & when you are spiritually ready. You will then get along wonderfully with that partner because it was meant to be HE/SHE have been just for you by the almighty LORD.
Till then, pray, study & meditate & sing onto the Lord a lot and start to fellowship deeply and truthfully everyday one on one with the LORD, And pray for him to lift this Melancholy & replace it with his HOLY SPIRIT and EVERLASTING LOVE...
That VOID can only be filled By the " The Holy Spirit"... Let it indwell you fully and pray about it vehemently so the LORD can move your heart to love him deeper.
Psalm 139 King James Version (KJV)
139 O lord, thou hast searched me, and known me.
2 Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.
3 Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.
4 For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O Lord, thou knowest it altogether.
5 Thou hast beset me behind and before, and laid thine hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high, I cannot attain unto it.
7 Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or whither shall I flee from thy presence?
8 If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there.
9 If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea;
10 Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me.
11 If I say, Surely the darkness shall cover me; even the night shall be light about me.
12 Yea, the darkness hideth not from thee; but the night shineth as the day: the darkness and the light are both alike to thee.
13 For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's womb.
14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
15 My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.
17 How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them!
18 If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee.
19 Surely thou wilt slay the wicked, O God: depart from me therefore, ye bloody men.
20 For they speak against thee wickedly, and thine enemies take thy name in vain.
21 Do not I hate them, O Lord, that hate thee? and am not I grieved with those that rise up against thee?
22 I hate them with perfect hatred: I count them mine enemies.
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:
24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
MAY THE LORD BLESS YOU ALL HERE TODAY..
please pray I am able to achieve what you have
Thank you for being transparent most Churh you are not able to blend in if you are completely sold out for the Lord I have parted from finding comfort in the Churh I still go but only to honor my father in heaven I completely understand what you are filling I have been alone 9 years but closer to God then those that are in churches I fight every battle on my knees be strong I think we single radical christians should pray and fast together I am trying to learn TH-cam so that I can edify and pray with those in need iron sharpens iron we all need each other I am praying for you and for all that are not giving into this world be blessed
This is a great lesson! Thanks for showing this, I know its tough making yourself vulnerable like that. I appreciate it.
Brother, you don’t know how much this video speaks to me, I can relate so much but hearing you talk about this shows me I’m not alone, we may all be on our own but we can all share that loneliness with each other.
Idk if I’m even making sense but just saying thank you so much for the video!
Thanks John for your honesty you have helped me understand what I'm going through God Bless
It breaks my heart... I use to cry but I can't even do that anymore.
Thank you. I needed that. I feel the same way in my current church and not for lack of trying.
wow, im late on this video, like waaay late.... but i feel this to the core except not exactly social anxiety but it is hard as a developing follower of christ to find those who take God as seriously as I am trying to. God has been my ONLY thoughts. to the point of obsession and it's actually very depressing to have no one to talk to because it's spiritual and not a problem in this natural realm. if you ever need someone to talk I am open to exchanging contact information. i don't have anyone close to me in which i even feel comfortable expressing my struggles with openly!
we are helpers to one another.
God Bless You
You published this video a year ago, but I just watched it today. I felt incredibly lonely today and was brought to your video. I hope to find strength in your words to build my self-esteem and become involved in a positive community. You've got a good soul.
WOW! Thanks for posting. Having a rough time in this area but I keep reminding myself, as you did, that God knows best. I may not understand it all and going to church can be very painful for me because it just reminds me of what I feel I lack/my weaknesses. But God led me to 1 Peter 6 and 1 Corinthians 12 and confirmed that I NEED the church.
Thank you my brother! Even 7 years later your words impact me. Praise Jesus!
After having given up all desires my body wanted-praise, money, fame, etc-, the pain itself started to be lessened gradually, brother. Seeing and doing only what our Father in heaven would be pleased through the help of Holy Spirit will be the best way we could do... But the treatment of you by people around or the relationship could not be improved because they seeks solely worldly things and listen only to others who belong to the world, not to God. I hope this may help you....
Thx for making such a transparent video. Christians on a whole experience this so why aren't we coming together. I tried doing a fb search to see if you were on to ask for a friend requests cuz like you I can sit and talk about the things of God all day but there's not many like minded believers to talk with. Stay in Christ and endure faithfully. God really already has it all worked out for you.
Thank you for sharing this, it is so helpful to hear that other people experience this too.
God bless you beautiful soul I really needed this thank you! No friends is hard, and humbling
Great video brother, thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your heart. I can relate to a lot of what you said.
I appricate you putting this out.
Thank you brother. God bless.
Thank you for your transparency. Encoraging to know other believers struggle to connect within the church. Blessings to you. :)
I found this quote a while back that might help someone. Not to take away from John's message, which clearly touched many. I think maybe we're alone so we can hear God better? :
Great eagles fly alone; great lions hunt alone; great souls walk alone-alone with God. Such loneliness is hard to endure, and impossible to enjoy unless God accompanied. Prophets are lone men; they walk alone, pray alone and God makes them alone.
Leonard Ravenhill
I love that quote by ravenhill! Good point
I never feel isolated until I go to church. I don't fall in the married with children category so it's hard to find a niche in a world that's focused on the nuclear family
Amen God bless you, a much needed word in the world and in the body of God.
Even ppl in the work place try to understand and help ppl with anxiety or any issues that can be caused because of a lack of social skills. How come ppl in church do not have that kind of heartwarming, considerate and understanding mind sets.
You just got yourself a new subscriber! God Bless you!
Thank you for making this video
I was not lonely before I started to follow God to places; learning more about His Word, growing character and being back; I have no family or real friends or community- I love God and He is worthy of it all- however; churches can be so the opposite of a healthy community and I have to keep trying not following past hurt and pain of ministry and other christians! Howver; I am not sure how many seasons i can continue to give without having a safe community around me for myself
I hear ya sister.. Especially with these lock downs and uncertainty about the future. I keep thinking to join a true bible believing Christian communal group, prep for the tribulation too right?? I am praying to God that I don't spend these end times on my own.. So painfully lonely sometimes. My name is Rosie in Sydney. Where are you??
@@rosiemcking72 God's people will be raptured before the tribulation.
@@sisigs4820 Thanks for your encouragement, but we WILL be here FOR the tribulation dear one. No where in the bible does it say we will be raptured before it. I wish and pray we would be, but we also must be at peace knowing our Master will be with us THROUGH it all for times such as these. HalleluYAH!!
Hey John, I feel you. I've dealt with those feelings all my life.
Thanks for this video. I have the same struggle and I don't know how to overcome it
Amanda Brank , Finding God's remnant seed spoken of in Rev 12:17 is where you will find the truth. All other churches are counterfeit churches created by Satan to get you lost and confused in. Where you will not grow Spiritually. Find this ONE remnant of God, and there you will be ENLIGHTENED and blessed! All the other churches are heading for unity in the soon coming 1 world church. The third angels message preached by God's remnant says "Come out of her my people "(out of Babylon ). Gods people are to be seperate from Babylon. Search for God's 1 remnant church and find truth. And the truth shall set you free, the Bible says so. Stay blessed!
God Bless you and thank you for this message
Lonelines can be, a form of shyness, practice being friends...God Bless your interactions. Amen.
I am not lonely by being alone, this is when I thrive.
I feel like I've been alone for years brother my family back East is not close, that I was married once I got divorced he was into drugs that I never got remarried, seems like the same kind of guys kept coming my way,I tried to tell people at my church that I need companionship but they have families and kids and they always tell me that I'm not alone, I hate when they say that it doesn't help at all,I wish they would say something like we are here for you we are family if you're ever lonely come over and fellowship with us but they never say that they only say You are not alone but they never offer any kind of fellowship from them, it's super hard,your video really helps though I like videos like this makes me feel like the Person is talking to me directly,God bless you seem like a sweetheart stop pushing people away especially if they want to be there for you, my problem is people see me as needy sometimes,they know I don't want to be alone but they always try to convince me that I can do it, it gets annoying lol🌸💖
The wilderness. Its the journey of all believers. I have issues understanding how to separate wordly relationships from Godly ones so I isolate myself completely. Most times sub consciously. Discernment feels like a curse as its a daily removal of people. Its exhausting but good to see its not just me.
amen. brother i was alone and lonely for a while too, bro. God helped me a lot on that
I hear you my friend i feel the same i deal with it all the time.
I completely relate, though at age 65, I don't care anymore & am not as anxious or as awkward around people as I used to be. But I do wonder how much of this is *_you isolating yourself._* I've come to understand the way our modern society is set up keeps people overwhelmed with things they have to do & I'm just saying I don't think it's all *_us isolating ourselves,_* but others not having time, or being too busy to live life with us. In the old days we'd just be working & living together & going together to a little church we could walk to. In almost constant fellowship - bonding & living together. Praying together. Mourning or rejoicing together. Studying the bible together. Caring for all our needs TOGETHER. The way we live in this modern society is *NOT NATURAL.* Sitting alone at a desk 8 hours or more a day, or whatever other job situation we have.. most of our time is *_there.. alone_* or without the people we are closest to. Think about it. It's NO WONDER we get tripped up in this ARTIFICIAL SOCIETY. Please consider this.
Amen, brother. Merry Christmas btw (im watching on the day our Lord)
you are a wonderful guy Everybody will love to have you as friend and brother
Thank you. I struggle with the same issues.
Thank you John this is wonderful guy amazing counsel may God Bless You.with eternal life.in future Paradise ( please read Psalns 37.)
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I'm feeling isolated live in Nashville TN and can hardly leave house at times
Gotta take time to re adjust ,however I grew up a loner and drawing a circle around myself didn't help. God Bless.
All of these hard times that come around
Remember God is watching over your life. Keep the faith my freind
would you connect how we behave with our western values? by this I mean western ideals can be pretty mean and selfish which does manifest itself in Churches. Only got to look at the sickening 'wealth and health' megachurch ministries to see such things. One great book I read years ago was about a bunch of Christians in Siberia, who were deeply blessed. When they gained freedom into the western world...many went thier own way and the group sort of died out
Me too brother. I'm really trying, even as a pastor.
I thank God I'm alone, and I only regret not having pushed back sooner.
u speak the truth! ❤️thanku
I understand you John , Be Well God is good ALL the time
Yes, I hear ya bro...I have a tough time with relationships as well.
About to end a relationship again.
I'm so stupid...keep hooking up with unbelievers..they say they believe, but they never pursue God, nor his word...get pissed off if u bring it up....Like God said, marry in the faith...your chances will probably be much better...
God bless.
Your video discribed my feelings
its just soooooooooooooooooo difficult BUT we must endure
till death !!!!
I am lonely to. tnx for this
U shared mah heart... I feel daa same way dat u said in dis video...
It might not be always sin separating us especially these end days you have to be very careful who you associate from.
@John Anders Is there a way to contact you? I have some questions for you. Thanks, brother.
I do think i would feel well in a community with my brothers and sisters who are truly born again!....but i havent found them yet.
I absolutely agree brother. But I have to add something I have personally seen. Sometimes, we don't do it. Sometimes people do it for you. If 1 thing is found off that does not align with their theology or way of life....you're out. Its lonely out here. But I'd rather that than the rather
Oh I liked this video already. Because of the title.
Your the kind of man that make a great husband!
What about being content being alone what if when you reach out and that’s when you are in chaos I think God gives us gifts as in contentment we seek his face in truth and Joy of him I have found his wonderful kindness . When I reach out that’s when it stirs up something uncomfortable in me. I truly think God does keep our souls quiet it’s when we reach out to want friendships it’s the want that confuses the mind .God Bless you want not and keep peace with God.
I'm the same way. Thank you
I'm aware that people care but oftentimes people don't know how to engage with people who are hurting and in need.
Many simply want to play church and don't really take interest in your life or are political and cliquishness abounds.
Or simply put people are so caught up in their own stuff that you don't usually see them stepping out of that to think about others... again, inherent sinful selfishness at play here..
I go to church because it's biblical, half the time I don't get what I feel I should get from church, but right now I go in spite of that.
Agree, same here.
I understand what your saying. I tend to be an extrovert but feel the need to isolate lately. I'm sure it's satan....endure till the end. Great analogy.
I just don't seem to fit in anywhere. Its not like I havent tried. But7 I am oodd compared to the rest of the body and people don't know what to do with me. Agter a nasty abusive marriage breakdown, the church I was involved in pretty much ignored me pastorally. I was /am chronically ill and couldnt go anymore, so I know that loneliness is a hardship ,
I graduated high school in 2015. So I am not in youth group, teen choir, and I can't go to summer camp. I kinda feel like I "graduated" from the body of Christ so to speak. Even though I'm only 18. This wasn't meant to be a pity party. Just hoping that someone reads this and knows that they are not alone