It's one thing if there is a betrayal but the idea that friends have to pick sides on these smaller issues is silly. You don't want friends you want unquestioning allies.
It has to be extreme to take sides, I think. My two best friends got divorced, and I had to stay neutral there. I wasn't inside their marriage, so it wasn't my place to judge and pick sides and end my friendship with one of them. Plus, I loved them both, and I wanted them both in my life. They were both mature enough to be ok with that and be glad we could still be friends. My one rule to make that work was that I would NEVER tell one what the other had said. Each was able to vent to me and know that I was a safe place.
Betrayal is the worst thing that can be done to a friendship. Personally, when two friends are going at it, I think it's best to let them handle it. I don't want to get in the middle of it. Remember there are two sides to every story and some place in the middle is the truth.
I agree with you, unless one of the people in question did something completely egregious like steal from your other friend, or sleep with the other friend’s husband…
I agree 100% with W. Some friends do not have the emotional capacity to get involved with drama and we should respect that and not expect them to be therapist.
Its one thing if a mutual friend has done some betrayal or back stabbing. But its another when theres a small issue that could be worked out. I remain neutral in friend fights because my relationship is different with each friend. No one is gonna tell me who i can or cant be friends with but if someone shows their true colors then i will definitely join my other friend in taking someone out of my life
Heard a saying once that there is always 3 sides to a story: his side, her side and the truth. Nothing wrong with being neutral as long as you're clear on either listening to all or nothing at all.
Can we just fund this show in it’s entirety so these ladies can finish their thoughts without having to constantly jump to commercials? What a waste of time and interruptions of great conversations.
Your comment reminds me of the advice to never dog a friend's ex. Because if that friend ends up getting back together with that ex, now *you* are more likely to be the one in the doghouse. When all you did was try to support your friend through a hard time. Same thing with friendships... unless one of the feuding parties did a BAD BAD thing, I'm keeping to my bubble.
There are many scenarios were a neutral friend is valid and if you think that its not good them you really dont get that friend, not everyone wants to be involve into the fights and disagreements of others.
Fun fact: the researcher who coined the terms and concepts of “alpha/beta” was only studying wolves in captivity. Wolves in the wild don’t follow that type of strongman hierarchy, they’re actually more communal. When a guy says he’s an alpha, he’s just saying of all the controlled and beaten into submission prisoners, he’s the biggest and baddest
I’m with Whoopi! I have had mutual friends break before. I was friends with both before they were together. They were together for five years so we all became even better friends throughout their relationship. It ended and I stayed friends with both of them. I shared my thoughts on what went down. To both of them. They both did wrong and then we all moved on. I’m still friends with both of them because we are all mature people.
When it’s larger issues, yes, I think you have to take a side and stand up for the friend who has been wronged. You don’t need to be mean or anything, but just gently tell the other friend you don’t agree with how they are handling things.
For those saying they would prefer Joy as the moderator no I disagree I prefer both of them as the moderator from time to time I love what Whoopi has to say when it comes to this topic this was a fun segment 💯💯💯💯
This question is a too nuanced for a 4 minute segment. There are times to stand by a friend and times when it's best to just stay out of it. Everyone captured those instances, but a deeper discussion would have brought greater clarity.
I like to remain neutral because I've had it where two people were mad at each other and each wanted me to take sides, and then the following week they were back to being friends again. Had I picked a side then I burn a bridge because of someone else's fight.
There's another side to this though. My friend cheated on his then girlfriend overseas. When she found out, he dumped her. I knew of her as his gf, she was an acquaintance if anything but she was still a part of our group of like 10. What happened afterwards was that he told all of us to stop talking to her. That I didn't like, because she did nothing wrong, he cheated and she lost her boyfriend and her friends. He was also my boy for over a decade so I couldn't leave him, but I didn't feel right to leave her. So I remained neutral, and hung out with both of them separately. Luckily, I was able to sway some of those friends and in the end, we all just hung out with them on separate occasions. I think that was the best possible outcome.
clearly it depends on the situation. I've had a few situations where i have two friends who were friends with each other but then had a falling out of sorts but Im still friends with both. That has nothing to do with me and unless its a situation where theres a clear right and wrong and it doesn't jive with me morally then I dont see an issue. In my situation the two friends started dating and then stopped and it didnt end well but it had nothing to do with one doing something wrong over the other, they just didnt like each other in the way they thought they would but felt it was too awkward to remain friends and thats fine but im not about to drop one over the other for that reason. But I agree that when someone shows you who they are believe them and If they do something shady then I will surely distance myself because I know it can happen to me just as easily. it really just depends on what happens.I agree with Whoopi. Ive had a few exes I wouldnt mind staying friends with but they felt it would be awkward which is fine and i understand but I can separate the relationships. in fact I have to because the love, attention, and trust I give a partner is different from a friend and so as long as I know where we stand im good.
NNNOOOOOO, You don't have to pick a side BECAUSE... You can choose not to get involved like Whoopi said. People sometimes demand you get involved and ya'll, not my Circus... figure it out and I will be here.
I agree with Whoopi. If I’m not part of the feud to begin with then it’s not my business and you can leave me out of it. Sure, I’ll listen to you and offer my sympathies but that’s the extent. Some might consider that toxic. Personally I consider the soap operas some of y’all are living in to be toxic.
Yvette and Sunny are talking about black and white issues. Most issues between friends are very grey, like "I am offended that you said you dont like my man!" like, I am not ending a friendship because somebody doesn't like your man. I will be neutral on most things unless whatever one friend did, creates a trust issue for me or is unethical or something.
Depends on the situation. Generally I do not pick sides in someone else's business. I have a group of friends that fell apart, over the last year, for some reason that I do not care enough to learn about. I am still friends with both groups. When my wife and I split up, many of our friends felt they had to choose sides... but my ex and I stayed friends. If we stayed friends - why did the others feel like "picking sides"? Because they are immature. 😎
Obviously it’s a case by case basis. But don’t put me in the middle and force sides. Plus everyone thinks they have a right to judge. My feeling is this- I don’t know all the circumstances to make an assessment b/c if I’m only hearing one side - then I don’t have all I need to make that call. And until you walk a mile in someone’s shoes it’s very hard to understand what someone might be going through. Two sides to every coin
It definitely depends on the situation. I mean if I’m in the wrong, I want my friends to tell me the truth - that I was wrong. If it’s me and someone else bickering about nonsense, then of course it’s fine to be neutral because it’s nonsense after all lol 😂
I never lose. I either win or I learn. - Whoopi was just correcting someone on the view last week about this phrase. I think she has sweatshirts made up with her favorite quotes.
I want that sweatshirt! I think it's okay to be for peace first, and not to take sides or even need to have an opinion about everything. Sometimes it's nice to be a little Buddhist.
i dont like friend groups i have many friends that i hangout just one on one . the only time i have groups is with my family , i do believe in locality
The answer ultimately depends on how clear cut who the "wrong" party is. If it's not then it's a little harder to pick sides. If it is clear and you still choose to be neutral then if I'm the "right" party, I would done with both!
Nope nope nope. I had a friend for 10 plus years then she went and got new friends which is fine i dont care but when it gets to the point where these “friends” changed her for the worse to where she would think the wrong thing is the right thing, she would act differently around them versus with me. I hated them for talking crap about my daughter and she still chose them. Im not going to lie i had my faults as well but even after i apologized for my wrongdoings, she still wouldn’t let it go. She does the same thing to her babies father. I loved that girl but unfortunately that toxicity i had to let go.
Alyssa trying to fit in so bad and she is on the show almost everyday and Yvette Nicole Brown is on sometimes and she doesn't have to try to fit in or try to hard 💯💯💯💯
Is avoiding the murder of thousands of Palestinian civilians in favour of the murder of Israeli civilians in conversation by the view hosts a red flag? I mean they talk about everything else that they ‘think’ is important… stand up for the people who are being oppressed. Stop playing the game. Silence is complicity.
So, if neutral friends are regarded as negatively as someone who actively sides against them, the participants are basically saying they want an echo chamber. They’re not open to other points of view. Things aren’t always black and white.
UNITED NATIONS (Reuters) - The U.N. Security Council on Monday condemned the mass shooting Of 50 GAY Man By Arab Muslim Palestinians Descent Florida gay nightclub as the United States urged dozens of United Nations member states to drop their opposition to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) equality. 0:25
Whoopi's right. Making other people choose sides based off of YOUR relationships is incredibly unfair and selfish. That's YOUR relationship. DEAL with it on your own. Don't drag other people into your mess.
I have always tried to stay the neutral friend. Especially with break ups. And if friends are fighting I never tell the either whar other what has vented to me. Its never worked out well. Especially with the couples. They all get pissed at me for talking to the other and BOTH parties end the friendships. Lol People want you to pick sides when battle lines or drawn whether you want to or not.
Just watched the segment about the Elvis movie and it’s disgusting how they all praised the movie but didn’t speak to the fact that PRISCILLA WAS JUST 14 and WHOTE AMERICA ALLOWED THAT PREDATOR ELVIS TO GET AWAY WOTH THAT!!!! So sad!!!! But none of them spoke to that. They all were silent and instead encouraged the movie
I think we should all go into an election as neutral to claim loyalty to either side in this day in age is completely irresponsible knowing that money rules politics we are supposed to hear the candidates & do our research. To vote the same way in every election even if your candidate was Adolf Hitler is just shameful. All these women talk about is politics to push your views through the mainstream is despicable.
All along the interview there was an elephants I the room!!!!! Go watch the interview!!!! There’s NO WAY THAT IM SUPPORTING A movie about a 25 year old man laying with a 14 year! Getting her pregnant and marrying her! Yet the director comes on the show and you all didn’t say a word and instead celebrated her body of work. The director has the opportunity to speak on it and she says… IMAGINE YOUR FORST KISS BEING BY ELVIS AT 14?!? WHAT?!?!?
Yvette Nicole Brown "I got another story" 😂
It's one thing if there is a betrayal but the idea that friends have to pick sides on these smaller issues is silly. You don't want friends you want unquestioning allies.
Bring back Meagan!😢
and whats wrong with that? we all need a few loyal people
@@simplywild3648The fact that its wrong.
It has to be extreme to take sides, I think. My two best friends got divorced, and I had to stay neutral there. I wasn't inside their marriage, so it wasn't my place to judge and pick sides and end my friendship with one of them. Plus, I loved them both, and I wanted them both in my life. They were both mature enough to be ok with that and be glad we could still be friends. My one rule to make that work was that I would NEVER tell one what the other had said. Each was able to vent to me and know that I was a safe place.
Betrayal is the worst thing that can be done to a friendship. Personally, when two friends are going at it, I think it's best to let them handle it. I don't want to get in the middle of it. Remember there are two sides to every story and some place in the middle is the truth.
I agree with you, unless one of the people in question did something completely egregious like steal from your other friend, or sleep with the other friend’s husband…
That hoodie Whoopi is wearing is everything. LOVE IT...very wise saying by Mr. Nelson Mandela.
I agree 100% with W. Some friends do not have the emotional capacity to get involved with drama and we should respect that and not expect them to be therapist.
Its one thing if a mutual friend has done some betrayal or back stabbing. But its another when theres a small issue that could be worked out. I remain neutral in friend fights because my relationship is different with each friend. No one is gonna tell me who i can or cant be friends with but if someone shows their true colors then i will definitely join my other friend in taking someone out of my life
Heard a saying once that there is always 3 sides to a story: his side, her side and the truth. Nothing wrong with being neutral as long as you're clear on either listening to all or nothing at all.
Can we just fund this show in it’s entirety so these ladies can finish their thoughts without having to constantly jump to commercials? What a waste of time and interruptions of great conversations.
Right on!
Put the show on a network that we pay for if that’s what it takes! It’s ‘The View’, but we cannot hear anyone’s view!
Sara " Chi Chi was robbed" 😂😂😂😂
There are some behaviors you can’t be neutral about.
Obviously
@@bonanimathambo8721 not obvious to everyone.
Facts
Ya if you aren't a democrat, you are a Nazi! By the way, what topics are you talking about.
I love Yvette 😂❤️ love watching her talk
It depends on how serious the situation is. When it's petty beefs I always stay neutral because then they make up anyway.
Your comment reminds me of the advice to never dog a friend's ex. Because if that friend ends up getting back together with that ex, now *you* are more likely to be the one in the doghouse. When all you did was try to support your friend through a hard time. Same thing with friendships... unless one of the feuding parties did a BAD BAD thing, I'm keeping to my bubble.
@@heatherriley3963 exactly!
I saw the dog show they held. It was adorable. And even though I am more a fan of larger dogs, I think that Ana's dog should have won.
A friend to all is a friend to none
There are many scenarios were a neutral friend is valid and if you think that its not good them you really dont get that friend, not everyone wants to be involve into the fights and disagreements of others.
Right? It’s incredibly toxic to think anyone who doesn’t side with you is a bad friend
Yvette Nicole Brown and Sara Haines 😂😂😂😂
Whoopie just dominating the end of this conversation is a total alpha move, love it girl.
Because she is the Total Alpha Blooooop
Same here 😂😂😂😂
Seriously,
Whoopi is ALWAYS the ELEPHANT in the ROOM...
Sometimes in a H E R D...
Fun fact: the researcher who coined the terms and concepts of “alpha/beta” was only studying wolves in captivity. Wolves in the wild don’t follow that type of strongman hierarchy, they’re actually more communal. When a guy says he’s an alpha, he’s just saying of all the controlled and beaten into submission prisoners, he’s the biggest and baddest
Very Scorpio ishhh of her 😂
I’m with Whoopi! I have had mutual friends break before. I was friends with both before they were together. They were together for five years so we all became even better friends throughout their relationship. It ended and I stayed friends with both of them. I shared my thoughts on what went down. To both of them. They both did wrong and then we all moved on. I’m still friends with both of them because we are all mature people.
When it’s larger issues, yes, I think you have to take a side and stand up for the friend who has been wronged. You don’t need to be mean or anything, but just gently tell the other friend you don’t agree with how they are handling things.
For those saying they would prefer Joy as the moderator no I disagree I prefer both of them as the moderator from time to time I love what Whoopi has to say when it comes to this topic this was a fun segment 💯💯💯💯
This question is a too nuanced for a 4 minute segment. There are times to stand by a friend and times when it's best to just stay out of it. Everyone captured those instances, but a deeper discussion would have brought greater clarity.
Yvette brings great chemistry to the table
Shirley in the house 😍😍😍😍
I agree with Whoopi unless the person was abusive I stay friends eith both. I just would not discuss one with other.
There are two sides of every story and than the truth. Do not take sides. Be a good listener, but do not get involved.
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I always love when Yvette Nicole Brown guest co-host on the view
Yes! Such a nice surprise today! 😊
Love how Nicole, Sonny and Whoopi have real honest points of view.
Not 'carefully thought out 'responses'
Right 💯
they are authentic, poor Sara is a people pleaser and says what others want to hear.
Whoopi just says it 😂😂😂
@@JocelynE-v8x sometimes. But most of her points are very legit and thoughtful.
I like to remain neutral because I've had it where two people were mad at each other and each wanted me to take sides, and then the following week they were back to being friends again. Had I picked a side then I burn a bridge because of someone else's fight.
I am here for a Yvette Brown and Sunny podcast!
There's another side to this though. My friend cheated on his then girlfriend overseas. When she found out, he dumped her. I knew of her as his gf, she was an acquaintance if anything but she was still a part of our group of like 10. What happened afterwards was that he told all of us to stop talking to her. That I didn't like, because she did nothing wrong, he cheated and she lost her boyfriend and her friends. He was also my boy for over a decade so I couldn't leave him, but I didn't feel right to leave her. So I remained neutral, and hung out with both of them separately. Luckily, I was able to sway some of those friends and in the end, we all just hung out with them on separate occasions. I think that was the best possible outcome.
clearly it depends on the situation. I've had a few situations where i have two friends who were friends with each other but then had a falling out of sorts but Im still friends with both. That has nothing to do with me and unless its a situation where theres a clear right and wrong and it doesn't jive with me morally then I dont see an issue. In my situation the two friends started dating and then stopped and it didnt end well but it had nothing to do with one doing something wrong over the other, they just didnt like each other in the way they thought they would but felt it was too awkward to remain friends and thats fine but im not about to drop one over the other for that reason. But I agree that when someone shows you who they are believe them and If they do something shady then I will surely distance myself because I know it can happen to me just as easily. it really just depends on what happens.I agree with Whoopi. Ive had a few exes I wouldnt mind staying friends with but they felt it would be awkward which is fine and i understand but I can separate the relationships. in fact I have to because the love, attention, and trust I give a partner is different from a friend and so as long as I know where we stand im good.
NNNOOOOOO, You don't have to pick a side BECAUSE... You can choose not to get involved like Whoopi said. People sometimes demand you get involved and ya'll, not my Circus... figure it out and I will be here.
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I knew Whoopi was going to say something after Sunny finished talking as always 😂😂😂😂
I kind of agree with Whoopi
Don’t try to drag Whoopi into your business.
Cha Cha WAS ROBBED! 😂😭
I agree with Whoopi. If I’m not part of the feud to begin with then it’s not my business and you can leave me out of it. Sure, I’ll listen to you and offer my sympathies but that’s the extent. Some might consider that toxic. Personally I consider the soap operas some of y’all are living in to be toxic.
Lol facts
Yvette and Sunny are talking about black and white issues. Most issues between friends are very grey, like "I am offended that you said you dont like my man!" like, I am not ending a friendship because somebody doesn't like your man. I will be neutral on most things unless whatever one friend did, creates a trust issue for me or is unethical or something.
I Loved what Whoopi said at the end and I agree 100 percent 💯
Same. I agree.
Great tshirt quote Whoop 🙌
Whoopi Goldberg "wait hold up" 😂😂😂😂😂
Right?? 😂😂😂
'ChaCha was robbed!' 😂😂
😂😂😂
Depends on the situation. Generally I do not pick sides in someone else's business. I have a group of friends that fell apart, over the last year, for some reason that I do not care enough to learn about. I am still friends with both groups. When my wife and I split up, many of our friends felt they had to choose sides... but my ex and I stayed friends. If we stayed friends - why did the others feel like "picking sides"? Because they are immature. 😎
Obviously it’s a case by case basis. But don’t put me in the middle and force sides. Plus everyone thinks they have a right to judge. My feeling is this- I don’t know all the circumstances to make an assessment b/c if I’m only hearing one side - then I don’t have all I need to make that call. And until you walk a mile in someone’s shoes it’s very hard to understand what someone might be going through. Two sides to every coin
Omg I was there during the dog show 😂😂
depends on situation for me.
I agree with Whoopi.
Ok but Chacha was robbed!
Exactly if I'm not involved in the drama don't involve me
What Sara was describing about Ana Navarro sounded more like something Sunny would be doing 😂😂😂😂
Sara was going to hear it either way. Ana and Sunny are so competitive, it's hilarious😂😂😂
@@debbiedoodiedandi 😂😂😂
I think so.
Whoopi is wise
Amen!
There goes smartypants Whoopi, always thinking she knows everything that she even has to correct the audience. Bish please 🖐🏼🙄
It definitely depends on the situation. I mean if I’m in the wrong, I want my friends to tell me the truth - that I was wrong. If it’s me and someone else bickering about nonsense, then of course it’s fine to be neutral because it’s nonsense after all lol 😂
I never lose. I either win or I learn. -
Whoopi was just correcting someone on the view last week about this phrase. I think she has sweatshirts made up with her favorite quotes.
I want that sweatshirt! I think it's okay to be for peace first, and not to take sides or even need to have an opinion about everything. Sometimes it's nice to be a little Buddhist.
First, the neutral friend MUST explain why the neutrality. And then you judge the REASON, not the friend.
i dont like friend groups i have many friends that i hangout just one on one . the only time i have groups is with my family , i do believe in locality
I should be able to not involve myself in others mess.
The answer ultimately depends on how clear cut who the "wrong" party is. If it's not then it's a little harder to pick sides. If it is clear and you still choose to be neutral then if I'm the "right" party, I would done with both!
Always choose the friend who has more money. duh lol
Nope nope nope. I had a friend for 10 plus years then she went and got new friends which is fine i dont care but when it gets to the point where these “friends” changed her for the worse to where she would think the wrong thing is the right thing, she would act differently around them versus with me. I hated them for talking crap about my daughter and she still chose them. Im not going to lie i had my faults as well but even after i apologized for my wrongdoings, she still wouldn’t let it go. She does the same thing to her babies father. I loved that girl but unfortunately that toxicity i had to let go.
Alyssa trying to fit in so bad and she is on the show almost everyday and Yvette Nicole Brown is on sometimes and she doesn't have to try to fit in or try to hard 💯💯💯💯
Tara Setmeyer where you at
Sunny at 0:55 "OH NO" 😂
Is avoiding the murder of thousands of Palestinian civilians in favour of the murder of Israeli civilians in conversation by the view hosts a red flag? I mean they talk about everything else that they ‘think’ is important… stand up for the people who are being oppressed. Stop playing the game. Silence is complicity.
Why does this show have commercials every 5 minutes
Like I said there are 3 sides to a story you can really figured out who in wrong at end of 3rd story
This was a fun segment 😂😂😂😂
Whoopi's shirt is a quote from Nelson Mandela, how great!! He supported Palestine 😃 free Palestine 🇵🇸
I think all their opinions are valued.
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So, if neutral friends are regarded as negatively as someone who actively sides against them, the participants are basically saying they want an echo chamber. They’re not open to other points of view. Things aren’t always black and white.
Yvette Nicole Brown "Thank you clap" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
😂😂😂 👏
UNITED NATIONS (Reuters) - The U.N. Security Council on Monday condemned the mass shooting Of 50 GAY Man By Arab Muslim Palestinians Descent Florida gay nightclub as the United States urged dozens of United Nations member states to drop their opposition to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) equality. 0:25
I am with Whoopie.
What about the sister who wants your husband and flirts and try to make you think he wants her🤔 I stop talking with her. It's sad but real.
"A Friend to All is a Friend to None" :/
Definitely true
Whoopi's right. Making other people choose sides based off of YOUR relationships is incredibly unfair and selfish. That's YOUR relationship. DEAL with it on your own. Don't drag other people into your mess.
The smartest thing is to stay neutral. Whoopi wrapped it up perfectly, especially the end
There are some things where neutrality is not a good choice. If only the world was as black and white as Whoopi tries to make it.
I have always tried to stay the neutral friend. Especially with break ups. And if friends are fighting I never tell the either whar other what has vented to me.
Its never worked out well. Especially with the couples.
They all get pissed at me for talking to the other and BOTH parties end the friendships. Lol
People want you to pick sides when battle lines or drawn whether you want to or not.
Alyssa didn’t even get a chance to speak. They gotta handle time better
They don't like her talking
😊 I can really enjoy the view today since Joy isnt there today
We can not be neutral on race issues / my physical safety issue - everything else can be worked out
I don't know I just find Alyssa fake and a flip flopper I'm sorry I don't like her on the view and wish they would of chose Tara Setmeyer instead
are we neutral to racism, homophobia and other types of hate?
Cry more 🤣
@@belfryluna1087 loser
Buh bye “neutral friends” 💣
Whoopis like...whats a friend lmao.
Just watched the segment about the Elvis movie and it’s disgusting how they all praised the movie but didn’t speak to the fact that PRISCILLA WAS JUST 14 and WHOTE AMERICA ALLOWED THAT PREDATOR ELVIS TO GET AWAY WOTH THAT!!!! So sad!!!! But none of them spoke to that. They all were silent and instead encouraged the movie
Neutral friends need to stay NEUTRAL..
I agree with Ana. Cha Cha was robbed.
I think it's a grey area....it also depends on the situation...if there's a clear RIGHT/WRONG then neutrality shouldn't/isn't be an option.
Switzerland refusing to send help to Ukraine is actively helping Russia.
I think we should all go into an election as neutral to claim loyalty to either side in this day in age is completely irresponsible knowing that money rules politics we are supposed to hear the candidates & do our research. To vote the same way in every election even if your candidate was Adolf Hitler is just shameful. All these women talk about is politics to push your views through the mainstream is despicable.
Cluck cluck cluck 🐔🐔🐔🐔
The way Sonnie is a slave owner and Wippe family from same as Sonny her Elders owned slaves as well
All along the interview there was an elephants I the room!!!!! Go watch the interview!!!! There’s NO WAY THAT IM SUPPORTING A movie about a 25 year old man laying with a 14 year! Getting her pregnant and marrying her! Yet the director comes on the show and you all didn’t say a word and instead celebrated her body of work. The director has the opportunity to speak on it and she says… IMAGINE YOUR FORST KISS BEING BY ELVIS AT 14?!? WHAT?!?!?
Exactly Alyssa 😅 She is a Mother Theresa isn’t she? 😅
I noticed when Alyssa asked Yvette Nicole Brown the question she didn't look at her when she answered it she looked at the other ladies