The way I heard it explained, and like best, is that Bandit is NOT saying he loves Bingo more, not at all. He is simply saying that, in some ways, Bingo is easier to take care of sometimes, and it would be nice if Bluey was that easy to take care of too.
I took it more as that Bingo just so happens to have more characteristics that are beneficial to her parents. The fact that she's tidy, she's quiet, and it wasn't covered in this episode, but Bingo can keep herself occupied while Bluey can't.
I can relate. I have a 10 years old son who is kind, helpful and can keep himself entertained. And I have a 6 years daughter who is a wild creative adhd. She’s adorable, but exhausting on daily basis. Never will say I PREFER my son. But I have to recognize sometimes I get myself thinking where do we did wrong with her 😓.
My guess is Bandit and Chilli made a lot of rookie mistakes in raising Bluey that made her not as well-mannered, hard-working, or organized as Bingo, so when Bingo came into the picture, the parents learned from their mistakes and applied better parenting techniques on her, which is why Bingo is generally has better behavior. Of course, nobody is perfect, which Bingo proves in the end.
That actually makes sense, and makes their characters look more realistic and imperfect which is a good thing Me and my brother are extremely different too, and mom has admitted she's not only made some mistakes she still regrets while raising me but sometimes she feels helpless about applying her experience to my brother since he just doesn't work like me
It’s possible. But it’s also possible that Bluey is neurodiverse and just operates differently. It’s inevitable that you learn from your early parent-child interactions and apply those lessons with the next child or even the same child the next day/week etc. But sometimes you do more or less the same and get very different results coz the genetics/temperament of each child can be so different that the same treatment can produce very different responses.
Dunno, my youngest is a wild, confident and creative adhd, she’s an adorable little tornado exhausting on daily basis. My older is a shy, kind and helpful and intelligent but highly insecure kid. Sooo 🤷♀️
Idk I think we underestimate how much of personality is already built in to us. My two are only a year apart and within a few months of the second being born it was clear they were going to be completely different people. Not to say nurture has nothing to do with it, but I think how we’re raised affects our morals and how we deal with feelings and problems as opposed to our basic personality traits. Like, we see both bingo and bluey taking care of each other and helping each other work through their feelings on the regular, that seems like something they learned to do for each other, as opposed to bingo being laid back and bluey being more high energy, that’s more like something that they were born with.
"The Sign" was unfortunately really mishandled by Ludo. There were so many great messages in that episode that just go completely steamrolled over in the last minutes of the episode. They set up that change is inevitable and rather than fearing it, you should face it, because even though it could be bad, it could also be good, so have some optimism. They set up that there CAN be good reasons for uprooting yourself and moving (Radley is celebrated for deciding to move). They set up that it is okay to be scared and uncertain. Then they completely steamroll over all those messages with Bluey outright saying that they aren't getting a happy ending unless they stay and Bandit unilaterally deciding to tear out the sign after he gets the phone call from the realtor. Imagine how much more powerful that scene could have been, WHILE paying off on all the threads that were set up earlier, if Bandit had turned to Chili and said, "that was the realtor, the buyer's changed their mind, do you think this may be a sign (see what I did there) that we shouldn't go through with it." Have Chili reply, "I've never wanted to move, but we have to do what's best for the family." Bandit could then say, "Well, then we're staying" and proceed to struggle to pull out the sign, when he can't immediately pull it out of the ground, have him pause and turn to Chili, "wait, am I making a mistake", for her to walk over to the opposite end of the sign from him and give, "maybe, but we're making it together" as they then both pull the sign out together. Those last two lines were essentially already there, but they were added as afterthoughts. It still leaves open that there could have been a good reason to move, Chili who has been very vocal about not wanting to move is admitting that the move might still be best. It still leaves open that change is inevitable, you can fear it or face it, because they still had the last minute change, and they had to decide how they were going to handle it (really decide, not just have an emotional spur of the moment outburst). And most important, they pay off that it is okay to be scared and uncertain, because Bandit is openly saying that he's scared to make this decision, and Chili reassures him that it is okay, because they'll get through it.
This is the only episode that made me sad because the resolution just didn’t hit - I wish the parents had apologised to Bluey and reassured her that she IS wanted and loved. I’ve always related to Bluey - my sister is a CLASSIC bingo - and it hurt my heart to see her feel so unwanted/feel too much
Comparing kids is so inevitable because kids are different - I'm very curious if some day Bluey will tackle one of the girls being better at schoolwork/academics than the other and the pros/cons of siblings comparing themselves to each others accomplishments. Like, the gifted one may begin to feel like their achievements begin to become so normal that good grades are expected rather than celebrated. (And they will notice if the non-gifted child is celebrated for getting one good score whereas the gifted child gets good scores every week and goes uncelebrated.) And the non-academically gifted one may have to work harder than other people to be "good enough" or they may feel "stupid".
Baby Race already tackled this idea a little bit. The episode begins with Bluey comparing herself to Bingo and then Judo about how well she could do the monkey bars. It then talks about Chilli doing the same thing with baby Bluey and baby Judo. It also shows that Bluey ends up as the last child to learn how to walk.
@@princesspikachu3915I think it would still be worthwhile to explore this idea again in an academic context involving both sisters. There are nuances that can be explored there, and Bluey has already revisited certain ideas from different perspectives. And if the rumors are true that Bluey season 4 will have a few-year time skip, then I see this as quite likely.
I love you therapizing bluey. My three kids love the show and honestly so do I. As parents it's hard not to compare because each kid does better with some things and has different struggles. And I know how easy it is to accidentally look like you're favoring a kid when that one is being a bit easier. But this episode is a good reminder to not do that. At least not in front of them. 😂
I think getting along better with one child than the other is sometimes inevitable. But as a parent, you shouldn't let your kids know, you gotta treat them equally.
Growing up as a youngest child, I did a lot of the things that my siblings did when they were my age - not necessarily because I wanted to, but because I thought that was what I was supposed to do at that age. I never really got into doing what I myself wanted to do until I realized that I could be a different person than them and still be a happy and successful person.
I didn’t have siblings growing up, but I did have a younger cousin and we were always being compared to. She was always doing well in school and I was struggling, so my aunts would tell me to work a little harder like she did, even though she’s 4 years younger than me and doesn’t have a learning disability (which no one but my mom knew at the time as I was diagnosed when I was 6 and she never told anyone, including me, until I was 16). But if I spent a weekend at her house, she’d be playing with her food or talking loudly or moving around in her seat while I sat quietly eating my dinner. My great nana would take notice and say “See how (I’m) eating her dinner quietly and calmly” to my cousin, which seemed to anger her.
Oh god, you just shook loose a piece of trauma that I had almost forgotten about. I had cousins who were true wunderkinder and my aunts and uncles would NEVER let me forget it. "Oh, you were able to raise your GPA from a 2.9 to a 3.4 and you passed the audition for jazz band, that's nice, did you know Becca made the honor roll with a perfect 4.0 and recently won a state title in swimming." They could never just let my achievements be my own, it always had to be something that one of their kids had one upped me on.
She used to get away with a lot too! If she did something, we both got talked to. If I did something, she would stand there smugly while I was told “you don’t see her enough. Can’t you just play her way?” She loved being a tattletale. When I was at my aunts house for a weekend and my cousin was coming over to be babysat, she would come into my room as I was starting to wake up and start hitting, pinching, pulling my hair, and climb all over me to get me to wake up. My aunt would gently tell her it wasn’t nice, then turn to me and say I needed to go to bed earlier so I could wake up earlier, even though it was 9AM when my cousin was dropped off.
Don’t mind me, I’m just over here crying. I have struggled with comparing myself to my sister my entire life. This episode really resonated with me. Thank you for your insights.
I wish at the end of the episode the parents would have apologized to Bluey and said we are so sorry for hurting your feelings and that we are sorry that we don’t sometimes have the patience for you that we should . Maybe we can work on finding things that work for you and us and show them trying new ways of organising her books and putting her toys away.
I would like to point out that Bandit made a comparison. Then Chili asked Bluey to keep better track of her things, and Bluey asked 'what about Bingo?' Which prompts Mom to give her an answer. I don't know of that comparison is on mom
I’m AuDHD and so are my two young kiddos. We picked up early on that Bluey has ADHD and possibly Autistic too. It’s actually really cool to see some of those traits represented in a realistic way (creative, energetic, natural leader who is also impulsive and sometimes chaotic).
This episode kind of stung when I originally watched it. I was definitely more Bluey (the singing, the noise, the messiness especially) as a child and while my parents made a point of saying we don't have favorites, I still had the suspicion that my sister--who was more like Bingo--was liked more. I would have liked a moment in this episode where the parents make a more pointed effort of saying "even though you are very different, we love you both the same" before Bingo has to show them that she can be a handful as well--which she did as a show of love for her sibling.
I have an ex whose mom told me that her oldest son (my ex) and his sister were her favorites. She had a second son born between them and said this within hearing distance of him. Thankfully her husband tried hard to make up for her obvious favoritism with the younger son, but I still couldn't believe she actually told people that.
@rach3092 It was in the first or second season. I forget what it's called, but Bandit and the girls go to the store. On the way there, Bluey asks Bandit who his favorite of the two is, and she learns why he doesn't pick one later on.
this episode is more about them prefering bingos easy going personality over blueys headstrong personality and not so much about favoritism. what you favorite vs what you prefer are 2 different things.
It's harsh and sad, but at the same time, Bluey spent the first part of the episode revealing she does these things fully on purpose. She isn't forgetfing to put her toys away, she's leaving them out on purpose. She isn't asking questions and then getting distracted and not listening to the answer, she's intentially asking obvious questions and not listening because she thinks it's fun. She whines during chores just because and purposefully mopes around and is unhelpful on purpose. She's fully aware she's being obnoxious and thinks it's funny until people get annoyed
I'd love to see the episode where Bluey is Mimicking and copying Bandit and they have to come to terms with death. I'd love to hear your thoughts on how things play out and stuff ❤
I need to get to that level of confidence of accepting myself when I feel like I'm being annoying, and no one has said anything about it. Cause MAN does that happen all the time. Especially when I am severely geeking out over something 😅. I haven't watched any Bluey still, but I enjoyed this episode! Thanks, Jono!
Please do "Cricket". I know the game isn't an American thing, but it's a great episode about perseverance, and about how families can still work closely when one parent is absent, in this case serving in the military and posted overseas. Plus it's got some of the most beautiful examples of siblings looking after and teaching each other.
The end is my favorite part because we get to see Rusty as an adult and this 42 year old woman maaay have squealed excitedly when they show Rusty as an adult.
I needed this so much. Thank you. I can't wait for you to get to the episode called "Rug Island". That is my favourite one and my go to comfort episode. That and "Sleepytime"
The lesson of having "a high degree of mutual tolerance," like you were saying, is also explored in the episode "Smoochy Kiss." The kids want dad all to themselves while mum tries to smoochy kiss him. Then the kids discover how disgusting he can be, and they say that they can keep each other after airing out all their bad habits lol. The tagline of the episode is "you've gotta take the good with the bad." Good pair with this episode!
Parents would never admit it out loud. But they 100% would have a favorite if they were more behaved and helped out. Or at the very least they were considerate and unselfish
Sadly not always. More than once I've seen favoritism where the unfavored child goes to sometimes self-destructive lengths to be considerate, helpful, responsible, etc, and it's still not "enough" to be treated the same as the favored child. Being a "good" kid (aka easy to deal with) doesn't always make you the favorite.
@Izzy-cp8yt That's very true. I damn near drove myself nuts trying to be as good a kid as I could be and honestly, it just made my parents dislike me even more (they have their own issues but we're not getting into that today🙄)
He does realize in one episode (forgot the name) how different they are because Bluey LOVES to rough house but Bingo hates it, so Bandit apologizes hugely and teaches her how to use her big girl bark to remind him to play nice with her. 😊
The ironic thing is that the kid who is the more "cooperative"/"well behaved" early on in life isn't necessarily the one who does better academically later down the road and it can feel like a weird role reversal. I have seen this growing up and either way, it makes me glad to be cf. I feel like life is crazy enough as it is, but I have a great respect for parents who can juggle well.
Every episode of Bluey is so special to our family. They each contain lovely lessons and reflections that have honestly helped improve our parenting approach and even helped explain some tricky concepts to our kiddos - eg in Grannies where Chilli taught Bluey that sometimes you can’t insist on being right (with the other person being wrong) *and* repair the relationship with the other person. That and it was the first time we learned what ‘flossing’ was 😆
A good episode, its always tough. Being the "favorite" riled my siblings but most of them had such extroverted traits for my parents I think it was nice to have someone quiet and respectful and trying to please them. Overall my father loved all the children equally, my mom had some biases I knew at EOL, but she loved them all differently.
I am a grown man as well but love to consider myself as a child. I love bluey and the content you make regarding it. Can you kindly make next one on the Bluey episode called "Flat Pack". It is an awesome episode that could be good for your channel as it is liked by lots of people
My parents did kinda compare us but it was subtle so we never felt weird about it. And we all got along pretty well. It wasn't till my mom compared me kind of rudely in front of my friend to my friend about how I wasn't achieving as much as my friend and how my other friends were worse than her because they wouldn't want to be hugged or touched really. And it was a side I never saw of my mom before but it kinda changed everything made me doubt how good of a person she really was and if her being so pushy was really for me to make me better to make me more likeable or better to her.
Can you cover the episode Space sometime? My therapist recommended I watch this one and it helped me with coping with my c-ptsd. I think it would be a great one for many others to see with your input included.
Could you do a review of the episode Army? As an additional kid, that one hot home really hard and was exactly what I wish younger me could have seen represented, and how I wish younger me had been treated by peers
I hoped you would get to this one! I get what this episode is trying to say, but I feel like they purposely upped how loud Bluey actually is, so the comparison isn't actually fair anyway.
I have heard this SO many times, and I don't argue against it or anything, but I also don't understand it. "You are worthy of love even if you're annoying or hard to deal with" I can't logistically wrap my head around it. Maybe because I wasn't treated right, or maybe I wasn't taught that? Idk. Can someone explain it better please? The automatic, inherent worth a life has is lost on me. (Yes I have issues, I know)
Thank you for being so open about it. It is a hard concept to grasp, really. Most of us experience conditional love a lot (if you are pleasing, if you are funny, if you are helping out a lot) - people will love you because they get something from you. "You are worthy of love even if you're annoying or hard to deal with" -> that means unconditional love. Not because you bring something to the table but because you just exist. And I think you will have people in your life that you love unconditionally. No matter what they do and how they behave. You just love them. Doesn't mean that you are not mad at them every now and then (sometimes even longer), but if they need you, you will be there without expecting anything. Everyone of us has people like that and everyone of us deserves people like that in our lives. And no you won't feel like that for everybody. That is more like a cognitive concept, not something we (need to) feel.
It's the same for me. I know kids (and people) are worth of love independently of their achievements, or how well they behave, but man I struggle applying that to myself.
A concept I learned in the process of becoming a teacher is explaining behavior vs self. First off, we have to understand that behavior is communication, even if the link is distant or flawed. Let's say we have a 4th grader (age 9) who frequently calls out in class with rude or off topic comments. It's easy to write the behavior off as rude, attention seeking, class clown, trouble maker, etc. But maybe what we don't know is that same child recently had a parent leave. Maybe the walked out, maybe they're incarcerated, or something else. If the child feels ignored at home during this tumultuous time, it makes sense that they would call out in class in order to receive the attention that they're missing at home. They feel lost and overlooked, and are using the only method they know how to say "see me! I'm here too! Don't forget me!" So as a teacher, I want to explain to to the student that I don't like their behavior, but I do like THEM. Because if I send the message that I don't like THEM as a person, then there's no way from them to change that. Their just an automatic failure. So instead I explain "when you call out in class, it makes it hard for your classmates to learn, and it makes me feel hurt because you're saying rude things. It seems like when you call out, you like having everyone pay attention to you - how about instead of you calling out, we try something different? I'm going to give you this table card that's red on one side and green on the other. When you're feeling like I'm not seeing you, you flip your card to red, and I'll come make sure you feel seen, okay? And in return, I want you to practice not calling out as much, okay? I'm glad we had this talk, and I'm proud of you for being willing to try something new, even if it's hard". Behavior can change, who someone intrinsically is can't. So when we're discussing behavior, coming at it objectively helps make sure we aren't shaming kids for just being. Explaining why the behavior is harmful instead of why the CHILD is harmful makes them an active participant in solving the situation instead of a target to be blamed.
I think the next episode you therapize should be "Seesaw". What to do when people say you can't do something? Maybe you feel like you're too small or weak. But remember that you're hardy!
And bingo is also Sometimes hard to take Care of, like for example in the episode “movie’s”! In that episode, bingo is annoying too, by running all over the movie theatre! And there, she was super annoying to deal With! So bingo was rhigt! And she does take very Long wees, including Bush-wee’s!😂
Please Therapize “Bin Night”. It’s about bingo telling to her parents about her new classmate who somehow bullies her. I love Bandit and Chilli’s intervention where they don’t helicopter on her and let her deal with it but in the same time don’t neglect her struggles with the new classmate with somehow having a struggling personality.
This is a lot like my kids because my older son...yes my life would be technically easier if he was like my younger son and we have very different personalities...(My older son and i) But he is him and i wouldnt change either. Hes so stubborn anf if i give an inch he'll take a mile...and i swear any time i tell him off he thinks 'oh! An argument! Lets go!' *cracks knuckles...stretches* but he loves his family, especially his brother, stands up to bullies and refuses to let something go if he doesnt think its fair.y job as the parent is to help him with what he stuggles with play to his good qualities.
That unlike bluey and his brother I never got to grow into my own personality due to the constant teasing my siblings did and the fighting my parents did and the cleaning we had to do. And now as an adult I wanna grow into my own person..
Guys I think they know that they’re girls now… anyway Chu, that really sucks, I hope you can heal and grow into your own person soon 🫂 your past doesn’t need to define the rest of your life
Wow, hopefully you never have neurodivergent kids, she absolutely was not 'trying to be annoying', and that assumption is terribly damaging to kids with developmental differences. :/
Totally agree with you. Kids do that. They push buttons, they push boundaries because of the different variations of reactions they get when they do so. And when they see an amusing reaction to whatever they’re doing, they will repeat to try to get the same one. I did the same for a time as a kid. Bluey knows her parents get annoyed but to her it’s a funny game until it’s not when they have the “look” on their faces. Bluey teaching Bingo that she whines when doing tasks or chores when asked is definitely being deliberate. But is bandit losing patience? No. He sees that she’s still doing the task and just rolls his eyes and continues on. Asking questions that she never lets one finish to answer and just asks another; she knows exactly what she’s doing, and she knows her parents get exasperated with it, but they don’t snap at her, so in her mind she’s knows it’s annoying but it’s tolerable, for a time until it WILL be at the limit. Sometimes her acts are funny, sometimes they’re annoying but they react with rolled eyes and just try to play along, or when it’s a bad day and they need order they will probably use the stern voice to let her know stop with the games and be serious. This episode was definitely a lesson for both parties, but hopefully as you said, Bluey, for her part,will realize that.
@@tobydandelion Watch it again. I'm not saying Bandit and Chili were right to compare her to Bingo, but nearly everything Bluey did was done purposely.
@@SogekingFirebirdStar it was done purposely for the sake of entertainment. Let's use the singing as an example: at no point did Bluey say "I like being annoying". She was singing because she enjoys singing, which is what she says. It's only after she's given the message that her parents don't like the way that she is that she labels herself as annoying, and it's with sadness. Neurodivergent kids frequently display "annoying" behaviors that have nothing to do with trying to be annoying. An autistic child who frequently vocalizes to stim isn't trying to be annoying - stimming is usually an expressive or self-soothing behavior, so the child is trying to either communicate or self-soothe. You finding it "annoying" doesn't mean the child is TRYING to be annoying - they're trying to take care of themselves, and you're finding their existence annoying. That's the difference.
Why is it that Bluey gets criticized that harshly for her shortcomings but not Bingo?🤔 I adore them both, don't get me wrong. But I hardly see anyone bring up how Bingo was acting up the whole time they were at the movies and not listening to Bandit. Or slowing down everyone's morning on purpose during Featherwand just bc she couldnt go to Chloe's party. She herself admits in this episode, she has her cheeky moments too. Just like Bluey has her moments where she's the easier pup to deal with.
I feel bad for Bluey..The dad just wants her to be just like her sister instead of being her. “Double Bingo.” Basically I wish you didn’t exist and I just had two of the other one.
I feel bad for Bluey..The dad just wants her to be just like her sister instead of being her. “Double Bingo.” Basically I wish you didn’t exist and I just had two of the other one.
I think you've interpreted it how Bluey did because that is NOT what Bandit meant 😭 it was a slip of the tongue and hurtful to hear in Bluey's shoes but Bandit and Chili do NOT wish Bluey was GONE, they were just really busy and Bingo's behavior was more tolerable to deal with in the episode than Bluey's, hence the comment.
The way I heard it explained, and like best, is that Bandit is NOT saying he loves Bingo more, not at all. He is simply saying that, in some ways, Bingo is easier to take care of sometimes, and it would be nice if Bluey was that easy to take care of too.
It seems like he wishes Bluey’s personality was just gone and she was someone else.
@rach3092
Yeah, but MAN that must feel bad for Bluey.
I took it more as that Bingo just so happens to have more characteristics that are beneficial to her parents.
The fact that she's tidy, she's quiet, and it wasn't covered in this episode, but Bingo can keep herself occupied while Bluey can't.
Right, but even if that's true it is still hurtful
I can relate. I have a 10 years old son who is kind, helpful and can keep himself entertained. And I have a 6 years daughter who is a wild creative adhd. She’s adorable, but exhausting on daily basis.
Never will say I PREFER my son. But I have to recognize sometimes I get myself thinking where do we did wrong with her 😓.
I didn’t realize until just now, Bluey says, “I’ll tell you that for free” just like Bandit at the beginning in the kitchen!
Bluey: a kids show
Me, a 22 year old childless adult: already obsessed
My kids are in their 20s, and I'm obsessed, too!
Childless adults in their 20s who love Bluey gang, represent!
That is exactly me
Genres are for publishers, not people.
My guess is Bandit and Chilli made a lot of rookie mistakes in raising Bluey that made her not as well-mannered, hard-working, or organized as Bingo, so when Bingo came into the picture, the parents learned from their mistakes and applied better parenting techniques on her, which is why Bingo is generally has better behavior. Of course, nobody is perfect, which Bingo proves in the end.
That actually makes sense, and makes their characters look more realistic and imperfect which is a good thing
Me and my brother are extremely different too, and mom has admitted she's not only made some mistakes she still regrets while raising me but sometimes she feels helpless about applying her experience to my brother since he just doesn't work like me
It’s possible. But it’s also possible that Bluey is neurodiverse and just operates differently. It’s inevitable that you learn from your early parent-child interactions and apply those lessons with the next child or even the same child the next day/week etc. But sometimes you do more or less the same and get very different results coz the genetics/temperament of each child can be so different that the same treatment can produce very different responses.
Dunno, my youngest is a wild, confident and creative adhd, she’s an adorable little tornado exhausting on daily basis. My older is a shy, kind and helpful and intelligent but highly insecure kid. Sooo 🤷♀️
Idk I think we underestimate how much of personality is already built in to us. My two are only a year apart and within a few months of the second being born it was clear they were going to be completely different people. Not to say nurture has nothing to do with it, but I think how we’re raised affects our morals and how we deal with feelings and problems as opposed to our basic personality traits. Like, we see both bingo and bluey taking care of each other and helping each other work through their feelings on the regular, that seems like something they learned to do for each other, as opposed to bingo being laid back and bluey being more high energy, that’s more like something that they were born with.
Kids are also their own people with their own personalities and their own preferences. It's normal and natural, if frustrating for parents.
"Space" needs to be therapized! It is an amazing episode.
LOL i was about to comment that before i read this
Seconded! I think it would be interesting to see from a therapist point of view how Mackenzie works through his trauma.
If you haven't seen it yet... "The Sign" will wreck you so hard in the best ways possible. It would be terribly interesting to hear your take on it.
Best if you seen the rest of the show, as the build up makes for a perfect payoff.
@@MotherOfOwlbears agreed
Poor Jeremy
That and Ghostbasket
"The Sign" was unfortunately really mishandled by Ludo. There were so many great messages in that episode that just go completely steamrolled over in the last minutes of the episode. They set up that change is inevitable and rather than fearing it, you should face it, because even though it could be bad, it could also be good, so have some optimism. They set up that there CAN be good reasons for uprooting yourself and moving (Radley is celebrated for deciding to move). They set up that it is okay to be scared and uncertain. Then they completely steamroll over all those messages with Bluey outright saying that they aren't getting a happy ending unless they stay and Bandit unilaterally deciding to tear out the sign after he gets the phone call from the realtor.
Imagine how much more powerful that scene could have been, WHILE paying off on all the threads that were set up earlier, if Bandit had turned to Chili and said, "that was the realtor, the buyer's changed their mind, do you think this may be a sign (see what I did there) that we shouldn't go through with it." Have Chili reply, "I've never wanted to move, but we have to do what's best for the family." Bandit could then say, "Well, then we're staying" and proceed to struggle to pull out the sign, when he can't immediately pull it out of the ground, have him pause and turn to Chili, "wait, am I making a mistake", for her to walk over to the opposite end of the sign from him and give, "maybe, but we're making it together" as they then both pull the sign out together. Those last two lines were essentially already there, but they were added as afterthoughts. It still leaves open that there could have been a good reason to move, Chili who has been very vocal about not wanting to move is admitting that the move might still be best. It still leaves open that change is inevitable, you can fear it or face it, because they still had the last minute change, and they had to decide how they were going to handle it (really decide, not just have an emotional spur of the moment outburst). And most important, they pay off that it is okay to be scared and uncertain, because Bandit is openly saying that he's scared to make this decision, and Chili reassures him that it is okay, because they'll get through it.
This is the only episode that made me sad because the resolution just didn’t hit - I wish the parents had apologised to Bluey and reassured her that she IS wanted and loved. I’ve always related to Bluey - my sister is a CLASSIC bingo - and it hurt my heart to see her feel so unwanted/feel too much
Comparing kids is so inevitable because kids are different - I'm very curious if some day Bluey will tackle one of the girls being better at schoolwork/academics than the other and the pros/cons of siblings comparing themselves to each others accomplishments.
Like, the gifted one may begin to feel like their achievements begin to become so normal that good grades are expected rather than celebrated. (And they will notice if the non-gifted child is celebrated for getting one good score whereas the gifted child gets good scores every week and goes uncelebrated.) And the non-academically gifted one may have to work harder than other people to be "good enough" or they may feel "stupid".
Baby Race already tackled this idea a little bit.
The episode begins with Bluey comparing herself to Bingo and then Judo about how well she could do the monkey bars.
It then talks about Chilli doing the same thing with baby Bluey and baby Judo.
It also shows that Bluey ends up as the last child to learn how to walk.
@@princesspikachu3915 Yeah, thankfully the babies didn't feel any of the envy/competition of the parents 😊💙
@@princesspikachu3915I think it would still be worthwhile to explore this idea again in an academic context involving both sisters. There are nuances that can be explored there, and Bluey has already revisited certain ideas from different perspectives. And if the rumors are true that Bluey season 4 will have a few-year time skip, then I see this as quite likely.
10:21 “Every healthy relationship requires a high degree of mutual tolerance”. I will remember this. Thank you! Anyway I love all of your videos.
I love you therapizing bluey. My three kids love the show and honestly so do I. As parents it's hard not to compare because each kid does better with some things and has different struggles. And I know how easy it is to accidentally look like you're favoring a kid when that one is being a bit easier. But this episode is a good reminder to not do that. At least not in front of them. 😂
I think getting along better with one child than the other is sometimes inevitable. But as a parent, you shouldn't let your kids know, you gotta treat them equally.
It is not that Bingo gets more privileges but that Mom is not asking Bingo where her library book are.
Growing up as a youngest child, I did a lot of the things that my siblings did when they were my age - not necessarily because I wanted to, but because I thought that was what I was supposed to do at that age.
I never really got into doing what I myself wanted to do until I realized that I could be a different person than them and still be a happy and successful person.
I didn’t have siblings growing up, but I did have a younger cousin and we were always being compared to.
She was always doing well in school and I was struggling, so my aunts would tell me to work a little harder like she did, even though she’s 4 years younger than me and doesn’t have a learning disability (which no one but my mom knew at the time as I was diagnosed when I was 6 and she never told anyone, including me, until I was 16).
But if I spent a weekend at her house, she’d be playing with her food or talking loudly or moving around in her seat while I sat quietly eating my dinner. My great nana would take notice and say “See how (I’m) eating her dinner quietly and calmly” to my cousin, which seemed to anger her.
Oh god, you just shook loose a piece of trauma that I had almost forgotten about. I had cousins who were true wunderkinder and my aunts and uncles would NEVER let me forget it.
"Oh, you were able to raise your GPA from a 2.9 to a 3.4 and you passed the audition for jazz band, that's nice, did you know Becca made the honor roll with a perfect 4.0 and recently won a state title in swimming." They could never just let my achievements be my own, it always had to be something that one of their kids had one upped me on.
She used to get away with a lot too! If she did something, we both got talked to. If I did something, she would stand there smugly while I was told “you don’t see her enough. Can’t you just play her way?” She loved being a tattletale.
When I was at my aunts house for a weekend and my cousin was coming over to be babysat, she would come into my room as I was starting to wake up and start hitting, pinching, pulling my hair, and climb all over me to get me to wake up. My aunt would gently tell her it wasn’t nice, then turn to me and say I needed to go to bed earlier so I could wake up earlier, even though it was 9AM when my cousin was dropped off.
Don’t mind me, I’m just over here crying.
I have struggled with comparing myself to my sister my entire life. This episode really resonated with me. Thank you for your insights.
I wish at the end of the episode the parents would have apologized to Bluey and said we are so sorry for hurting your feelings and that we are sorry that we don’t sometimes have the patience for you that we should . Maybe we can work on finding things that work for you and us and show them trying new ways of organising her books and putting her toys away.
I would like to point out that Bandit made a comparison. Then Chili asked Bluey to keep better track of her things, and Bluey asked 'what about Bingo?' Which prompts Mom to give her an answer. I don't know of that comparison is on mom
As a female with ADHD - it’s this episode with UNICORSE which crystallises my theory that Bluey has ADHD. There are so many signs here.
I’m AuDHD and so are my two young kiddos. We picked up early on that Bluey has ADHD and possibly Autistic too. It’s actually really cool to see some of those traits represented in a realistic way (creative, energetic, natural leader who is also impulsive and sometimes chaotic).
Oh yes! I've never watched it before and even from these short clips she seems at least ADHD. (I'm ADHD too).
This episode kind of stung when I originally watched it. I was definitely more Bluey (the singing, the noise, the messiness especially) as a child and while my parents made a point of saying we don't have favorites, I still had the suspicion that my sister--who was more like Bingo--was liked more. I would have liked a moment in this episode where the parents make a more pointed effort of saying "even though you are very different, we love you both the same" before Bingo has to show them that she can be a handful as well--which she did as a show of love for her sibling.
what's even worse is that they have an episode where they explain that favoritism is bad.
I have an ex whose mom told me that her oldest son (my ex) and his sister were her favorites. She had a second son born between them and said this within hearing distance of him. Thankfully her husband tried hard to make up for her obvious favoritism with the younger son, but I still couldn't believe she actually told people that.
@rach3092 It was in the first or second season. I forget what it's called, but Bandit and the girls go to the store. On the way there, Bluey asks Bandit who his favorite of the two is, and she learns why he doesn't pick one later on.
@@waterbat95 The episode is called Kids - the girls make Bandit and Bingo be kids, and she is the parent while they are out on a shopping trip.
@@shiistrana Thanks!
this episode is more about them prefering bingos easy going personality over blueys headstrong personality and not so much about favoritism. what you favorite vs what you prefer are 2 different things.
It's harsh and sad, but at the same time, Bluey spent the first part of the episode revealing she does these things fully on purpose. She isn't forgetfing to put her toys away, she's leaving them out on purpose. She isn't asking questions and then getting distracted and not listening to the answer, she's intentially asking obvious questions and not listening because she thinks it's fun. She whines during chores just because and purposefully mopes around and is unhelpful on purpose. She's fully aware she's being obnoxious and thinks it's funny until people get annoyed
I'd love to see the episode where Bluey is Mimicking and copying Bandit and they have to come to terms with death.
I'd love to hear your thoughts on how things play out and stuff ❤
The episode is called Copycat.
I need to get to that level of confidence of accepting myself when I feel like I'm being annoying, and no one has said anything about it. Cause MAN does that happen all the time. Especially when I am severely geeking out over something 😅. I haven't watched any Bluey still, but I enjoyed this episode! Thanks, Jono!
Please do "Cricket". I know the game isn't an American thing, but it's a great episode about perseverance, and about how families can still work closely when one parent is absent, in this case serving in the military and posted overseas. Plus it's got some of the most beautiful examples of siblings looking after and teaching each other.
The end is my favorite part because we get to see Rusty as an adult and this 42 year old woman maaay have squealed excitedly when they show Rusty as an adult.
I needed this so much. Thank you. I can't wait for you to get to the episode called "Rug Island". That is my favourite one and my go to comfort episode. That and "Sleepytime"
The lesson of having "a high degree of mutual tolerance," like you were saying, is also explored in the episode "Smoochy Kiss." The kids want dad all to themselves while mum tries to smoochy kiss him. Then the kids discover how disgusting he can be, and they say that they can keep each other after airing out all their bad habits lol. The tagline of the episode is "you've gotta take the good with the bad." Good pair with this episode!
4:06 I think it should be acknowledged that she took the phrase from Bandit because he said it at 1:43
Pleeaaaseee therapzie the epsiode "Space" about abandonment issues. I love these videos
All I’m saying is you could do a weekly Bluey Gets Therapized for a few years and I don’t think anyone would be mad 👀😌
Parents would never admit it out loud. But they 100% would have a favorite if they were more behaved and helped out. Or at the very least they were considerate and unselfish
Sadly not always. More than once I've seen favoritism where the unfavored child goes to sometimes self-destructive lengths to be considerate, helpful, responsible, etc, and it's still not "enough" to be treated the same as the favored child. Being a "good" kid (aka easy to deal with) doesn't always make you the favorite.
@Izzy-cp8yt That's very true. I damn near drove myself nuts trying to be as good a kid as I could be and honestly, it just made my parents dislike me even more (they have their own issues but we're not getting into that today🙄)
I relate. I have 4 very different kids. They are amazing and challenging simultaneously and at times balancing the two and their feelings is hard.
He does realize in one episode (forgot the name) how different they are because Bluey LOVES to rough house but Bingo hates it, so Bandit apologizes hugely and teaches her how to use her big girl bark to remind him to play nice with her. 😊
The ironic thing is that the kid who is the more "cooperative"/"well behaved" early on in life isn't necessarily the one who does better academically later down the road and it can feel like a weird role reversal. I have seen this growing up and either way, it makes me glad to be cf. I feel like life is crazy enough as it is, but I have a great respect for parents who can juggle well.
Every episode of Bluey is so special to our family. They each contain lovely lessons and reflections that have honestly helped improve our parenting approach and even helped explain some tricky concepts to our kiddos - eg in Grannies where Chilli taught Bluey that sometimes you can’t insist on being right (with the other person being wrong) *and* repair the relationship with the other person. That and it was the first time we learned what ‘flossing’ was 😆
I can't wait for season 4 and I hope we get more flashbacks or flashforward episodes
A good episode, its always tough. Being the "favorite" riled my siblings but most of them had such extroverted traits for my parents I think it was nice to have someone quiet and respectful and trying to please them. Overall my father loved all the children equally, my mom had some biases I knew at EOL, but she loved them all differently.
I love your Bluey videos! I'd be interested seeing your reaction to the episode called Space
I am a grown man as well but love to consider myself as a child. I love bluey and the content you make regarding it. Can you kindly make next one on the Bluey episode called "Flat Pack". It is an awesome episode that could be good for your channel as it is liked by lots of people
YEEEEESSSS THIS EPISODE GETTING ANALYZED LETS GOOOO 💙💙💙
the echo XD the mic
Nice therapizing
I know about this show for a while but your vids made me curious about watching it
My parents did kinda compare us but it was subtle so we never felt weird about it. And we all got along pretty well.
It wasn't till my mom compared me kind of rudely in front of my friend to my friend about how I wasn't achieving as much as my friend and how my other friends were worse than her because they wouldn't want to be hugged or touched really. And it was a side I never saw of my mom before but it kinda changed everything made me doubt how good of a person she really was and if her being so pushy was really for me to make me better to make me more likeable or better to her.
There might not be much to therapcize but Sleepytime is my favorite episode
Can you cover the episode Space sometime? My therapist recommended I watch this one and it helped me with coping with my c-ptsd. I think it would be a great one for many others to see with your input included.
"You are unique!"
Crowd: "We are unique."
Is cheese and jam a common Australian food?
Please watch Cricket! It’s my favorite episode, it really shows the process of achievement and perseverance through Rusty.
I love this! Please, keep 'em coming!
Could you do a review of the episode Army? As an additional kid, that one hot home really hard and was exactly what I wish younger me could have seen represented, and how I wish younger me had been treated by peers
I hoped you would get to this one! I get what this episode is trying to say, but I feel like they purposely upped how loud Bluey actually is, so the comparison isn't actually fair anyway.
"Space", "Cricket", "Sleepy time", "Surprise!" and especially "The Sign" need to be therapized. More Bluey episodes in general
I have heard this SO many times, and I don't argue against it or anything, but I also don't understand it. "You are worthy of love even if you're annoying or hard to deal with"
I can't logistically wrap my head around it. Maybe because I wasn't treated right, or maybe I wasn't taught that? Idk. Can someone explain it better please? The automatic, inherent worth a life has is lost on me. (Yes I have issues, I know)
Thank you for being so open about it. It is a hard concept to grasp, really. Most of us experience conditional love a lot (if you are pleasing, if you are funny, if you are helping out a lot) - people will love you because they get something from you.
"You are worthy of love even if you're annoying or hard to deal with" -> that means unconditional love. Not because you bring something to the table but because you just exist. And I think you will have people in your life that you love unconditionally. No matter what they do and how they behave. You just love them. Doesn't mean that you are not mad at them every now and then (sometimes even longer), but if they need you, you will be there without expecting anything.
Everyone of us has people like that and everyone of us deserves people like that in our lives. And no you won't feel like that for everybody. That is more like a cognitive concept, not something we (need to) feel.
It's the same for me. I know kids (and people) are worth of love independently of their achievements, or how well they behave, but man I struggle applying that to myself.
A concept I learned in the process of becoming a teacher is explaining behavior vs self.
First off, we have to understand that behavior is communication, even if the link is distant or flawed. Let's say we have a 4th grader (age 9) who frequently calls out in class with rude or off topic comments. It's easy to write the behavior off as rude, attention seeking, class clown, trouble maker, etc. But maybe what we don't know is that same child recently had a parent leave. Maybe the walked out, maybe they're incarcerated, or something else. If the child feels ignored at home during this tumultuous time, it makes sense that they would call out in class in order to receive the attention that they're missing at home. They feel lost and overlooked, and are using the only method they know how to say "see me! I'm here too! Don't forget me!"
So as a teacher, I want to explain to to the student that I don't like their behavior, but I do like THEM. Because if I send the message that I don't like THEM as a person, then there's no way from them to change that. Their just an automatic failure.
So instead I explain "when you call out in class, it makes it hard for your classmates to learn, and it makes me feel hurt because you're saying rude things. It seems like when you call out, you like having everyone pay attention to you - how about instead of you calling out, we try something different? I'm going to give you this table card that's red on one side and green on the other. When you're feeling like I'm not seeing you, you flip your card to red, and I'll come make sure you feel seen, okay? And in return, I want you to practice not calling out as much, okay? I'm glad we had this talk, and I'm proud of you for being willing to try something new, even if it's hard".
Behavior can change, who someone intrinsically is can't. So when we're discussing behavior, coming at it objectively helps make sure we aren't shaming kids for just being. Explaining why the behavior is harmful instead of why the CHILD is harmful makes them an active participant in solving the situation instead of a target to be blamed.
John and CT should join CFP it’s a good cause
It hurt because asking for double bingo is like calling her the favorite which is a big parenting fauxpau (I know I spelled it wrong)
Therapize the Bluey episode Surprise. It’s the finale for Bluey and has a really good message in there.
Is there any therapeutic benefit to The Quiet Game episode? Because I love that one so much.
Would love you to go over the “Teasing” episode
Please do a video on the sign
please review muffin cone PLEEEAAAAAASEEEEEEE
Would you consider doing the episode Pass the Parcel?
The Sign!
Can you do the obstacle course? The one where Bandit cheats? No matter how many times I see it, not sure how to feel about that one.
I think the next episode you therapize should be "Seesaw". What to do when people say you can't do something? Maybe you feel like you're too small or weak. But remember that you're hardy!
I wanna watch Bluey now
Do you ever think about how different kids are compared to when you’re a first time parent vs second child?
Please do "The Sign" on cinema therapy!!!!
And bingo is also Sometimes hard to take Care of, like for example in the episode “movie’s”! In that episode, bingo is annoying too, by running all over the movie theatre! And there, she was super annoying to deal With! So bingo was rhigt! And she does take very Long wees, including Bush-wee’s!😂
This episode was 100% written for the parents 😂
Turtleboy gets a lot of praise, but Cricket is usually considered the best episode.
space
the sign
Can Clarence (another kids show) get therapised?
I'll take it's Bluey
hey, can you do "Tradies" next?
Please Therapize “Bin Night”. It’s about bingo telling to her parents about her new classmate who somehow bullies her. I love Bandit and Chilli’s intervention where they don’t helicopter on her and let her deal with it but in the same time don’t neglect her struggles with the new classmate with somehow having a struggling personality.
This episode, among others, makes it seem like Bluey has ADHD to me. She’s a lot like my 6 year old
Did you notice that Bluey act like bingo quite easily
The rest of you at Mended Light if anything happens to Schmyrtle I’m sending you all to therapy and then myself.
This is a lot like my kids because my older son...yes my life would be technically easier if he was like my younger son and we have very different personalities...(My older son and i) But he is him and i wouldnt change either. Hes so stubborn anf if i give an inch he'll take a mile...and i swear any time i tell him off he thinks 'oh! An argument! Lets go!' *cracks knuckles...stretches* but he loves his family, especially his brother, stands up to bullies and refuses to let something go if he doesnt think its fair.y job as the parent is to help him with what he stuggles with play to his good qualities.
Bro he called bingo a boy, they are sisters! 😂
That unlike bluey and his brother I never got to grow into my own personality due to the constant teasing my siblings did and the fighting my parents did and the cleaning we had to do. And now as an adult I wanna grow into my own person..
Bluey and Bingo are girls
bluey and bingo are girls
Bingo is a girl
Guys I think they know that they’re girls now… anyway Chu, that really sucks, I hope you can heal and grow into your own person soon 🫂 your past doesn’t need to define the rest of your life
Yeah I feel ya. Being teased by older siblings and my parents divorcing when I was 7. I haven't truly figured out who I am as an individual
Hopefully Bluey learns and remembers that deliberately being annoying (which she was) won't do you favors in the long term.
Wow, hopefully you never have neurodivergent kids, she absolutely was not 'trying to be annoying', and that assumption is terribly damaging to kids with developmental differences. :/
Totally agree with you. Kids do that. They push buttons, they push boundaries because of the different variations of reactions they get when they do so. And when they see an amusing reaction to whatever they’re doing, they will repeat to try to get the same one. I did the same for a time as a kid. Bluey knows her parents get annoyed but to her it’s a funny game until it’s not when they have the “look” on their faces. Bluey teaching Bingo that she whines when doing tasks or chores when asked is definitely being deliberate. But is bandit losing patience? No. He sees that she’s still doing the task and just rolls his eyes and continues on. Asking questions that she never lets one finish to answer and just asks another; she knows exactly what she’s doing, and she knows her parents get exasperated with it, but they don’t snap at her, so in her mind she’s knows it’s annoying but it’s tolerable, for a time until it WILL be at the limit. Sometimes her acts are funny, sometimes they’re annoying but they react with rolled eyes and just try to play along, or when it’s a bad day and they need order they will probably use the stern voice to let her know stop with the games and be serious. This episode was definitely a lesson for both parties, but hopefully as you said, Bluey, for her part,will realize that.
@@tobydandelion Watch it again. I'm not saying Bandit and Chili were right to compare her to Bingo, but nearly everything Bluey did was done purposely.
@@SogekingFirebirdStar it was done purposely for the sake of entertainment. Let's use the singing as an example: at no point did Bluey say "I like being annoying". She was singing because she enjoys singing, which is what she says. It's only after she's given the message that her parents don't like the way that she is that she labels herself as annoying, and it's with sadness.
Neurodivergent kids frequently display "annoying" behaviors that have nothing to do with trying to be annoying. An autistic child who frequently vocalizes to stim isn't trying to be annoying - stimming is usually an expressive or self-soothing behavior, so the child is trying to either communicate or self-soothe. You finding it "annoying" doesn't mean the child is TRYING to be annoying - they're trying to take care of themselves, and you're finding their existence annoying. That's the difference.
Why is it that Bluey gets criticized that harshly for her shortcomings but not Bingo?🤔 I adore them both, don't get me wrong. But I hardly see anyone bring up how Bingo was acting up the whole time they were at the movies and not listening to Bandit. Or slowing down everyone's morning on purpose during Featherwand just bc she couldnt go to Chloe's party. She herself admits in this episode, she has her cheeky moments too. Just like Bluey has her moments where she's the easier pup to deal with.
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I feel bad for Bluey..The dad just wants her to be just like her sister instead of being her.
“Double Bingo.”
Basically I wish you didn’t exist and I just had two of the other one.
Great content as always but that room is NOT a good recording booth!!
this episode is why im glad im an only child lol
Hi more Gilmore girls please
On the way!
Cricket and Grannymobile pleasepleasepleasepleaseplease :P
I love Bingo more- Bluey is annoying lol
I feel bad for Bluey..The dad just wants her to be just like her sister instead of being her.
“Double Bingo.”
Basically I wish you didn’t exist and I just had two of the other one.
I think you've interpreted it how Bluey did because that is NOT what Bandit meant 😭 it was a slip of the tongue and hurtful to hear in Bluey's shoes but Bandit and Chili do NOT wish Bluey was GONE, they were just really busy and Bingo's behavior was more tolerable to deal with in the episode than Bluey's, hence the comment.