Very insightful episode! Let me know what you all think! If you could also do me a massive favour and hit the like button that would be amazing, it helps this channel out massively 🙏
Legitimately so powerful! The parts about vulnerability versus broadcast, about asking for a raise without binary conditions, practicing the final 12th step in AA, and understanding that there is reciprocity in holding space ... ALL OF IT is transformative! Thank you @Steven and @Simon. I look forward to the day I will meet you both and have as fulsome a conversation as this (and more) 🤩
He highlights various key points throughout the conversation: 1. Developing Human Skills: Sinek stresses the importance of human skills in navigating the complexities of the modern world. These skills include active listening, providing and receiving feedback, and engaging in difficult conversations. 2. Fear as an Obstacle: Sinek suggests that fear is the underlying reason why honest conversations often elude us. He argues that developing human skills is particularly important in overcoming this fear. 3. Balancing Self-care and Helping Others: Sinek recognizes that while helping others can be positive, it can also lead to neglecting oneself. He emphasizes the role of early experiences in shaping patterns and behaviors and suggests that finding friends committed to self-care can facilitate positive change. 4. Team Approach to Helping Others: Sinek advocates for an accountable and responsible approach to helping others. He highlights the importance of listening as a crucial skill in understanding others' problems. 5. Mindset as a Universal Capability: Sinek asserts that mindset is not a privilege, but rather something each individual can control. He acknowledges that experiences and upbringing shape mindset but emphasizes that all individuals have the ability to shape their own mindset. 6. Empathy and Burnout at Work: Sinek discusses how empathy in the workplace can lead to burnout and stress for employees. He suggests creating safe spaces for venting outside of work and warns against comparing work cultures to idealized social media narratives. 7. Young People Quitting Jobs: Sinek notes that quitting jobs has become increasingly normalized, with little stigma attached to it. However, he expresses concern about a potentially high number of job changes in a short period of time, as employers value experience and resilience. He suggests that employers may need to take extra measures to ensure younger employees can cope with high-intensity work cultures. 8. Managing Expectations: Sinek emphasizes the importance of honesty in managing expectations in both personal and professional relationships. He suggests that companies should be transparent about their culture and work expectations, while individuals should be honest about their career aspirations and work-life balance needs. 9. Communication in Relationships: Sinek asserts that communication is key to successful relationships. He recommends active listening, providing more context, including the other person in decision-making, and being honest in difficult conversations. 10. Giving Feedback at Work: Sinek advises being straightforward and removing emotion when giving feedback at work. He suggests that while good news can be emotional, bad news should be conveyed in a dispassionate manner. Sinek believes that people appreciate honesty and directness. 11. Gender and Entrepreneurship: Sinek suggests that men may be more likely to succeed in entrepreneurship due to their experience with risk and rejection, which could be attributed to traditional gender roles and social interactions during their youth. He acknowledges that women may be less inclined to take risks and assert themselves in the workplace. 12. Honesty with Oneself: Sinek underscores the importance of being honest with oneself. He discusses what makes a good interview and emphasizes genuine curiosity and asking open-ended questions. Sinek acknowledges that self-doubt and insecurity are common but clarifies that vulnerability should not be conflated with broadcasting one's feelings. 13. Timing of Honesty in Conversations: Sinek suggests that being completely honest in the heat of the moment can lead to irrational conversations. He argues that honesty can be delayed to align with both rational and emotional states in a conversation. 14. Pricing and Emotional Connection: Sinek believes in keeping prices low to prioritize learning, even if a product may currently have bugs. He also mentions the potential for changing the name of his video subscription library to increase its perceived value. Sinek emphasizes using language to create an emotional connection with the audience. In conclusion, Simon Sinek's interview with Stephen Bartlett delves into the importance of human skills, overcoming fear, self-care, teamwork, managing expectations, communication, feedback, gender dynamics, honesty, and emotional connection. Sinek's insights aim to help individuals navigate personal and professional relationships successfully in a complex and ever-changing world.
As someone who comes from an abusive background, I agree that mindset is a privilege. My dad taught me to think in twisted ways and I had to undo that and learn how to think like a normal person as well as trying to fix my mental struggles as a result of that. Ive got my degree and other qualifications but I had so much more along my path than my peers had, and I saw them sail through it much more smoothly than me. I even had to learn how to be happy and what happiness was, and how to handle stress and how to build self esteem. Those are just the tip of the iceberg. The lessons were endless and I found myself confused constantly
@xanna , what you have mentioned is so relatable. May your days be good and kind, and that our past trauma will be the catalyst to make us stronger. Blessed days and nights to all who are healing from something.
I get what you are saying and can very much relate. In my case, my mother was the toxic one, and very good at it . I am in therapy and learning a lot. Where my opinion is different though, is that i am now learning to see the abuse and it's consequences on the deepest parts of me, and that is slowly changing my mindset. So to me, it is learnt and can be re-learnt and re-framed. I kind of think if it is a privilege to have a great mindset from your upbringing, you can build one for yourself if the one you were trained to have is crappy. We can heal and get strong and resilient, even when we have been damaged by abuse. At least that's what I am hoping :)
“The thing we give to the world is the thing we need the most.” Oooooh that hit hard. I am a protector from a manipulative and abusive childhood, and I’ve built myself around having peoples back, protecting them, and trying my best to communicate directly and honestly. Having someone be honest with me, and protect me, is one of my deepest desires. I want to be protected.
I hear you! I realized pretty young that this was my mother’s problem in that she gave to all the neighbours and got zero back! Unfortunately that meant she had less time for her own family and zero time for herself. I learned from her mistakes and frankly, I only help people who have my back.
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for..
@Alethia-q9s The crazy part is that those advisors are probably outperforming the market and raising good returns but some are charging fees over fees that drain your portfolio. Is this the case with yours too?
@Alethia-q9s Nah I Can't say I can relate, VICTORIA CARMEN SANTAELLA charge is one-off and pretty reasonable when compared to what I benefit in returns.
Sometimes when witnessing someone’s boundary get approached it can get so uncomfortable to witness the tension but this was SO satisfying in part because of his comfort with the discomfort and in part because he so eloquently dropped the veil on “vulnerability”👏
Perhaps the title should have been, difficulties Gen Z are facing. It is amusing to hear individuals take about another group of people as if they understand them when they are not part of the group. And even more basic, no group of people are the same. The current low wages, coupled with climate crises, inflation, and culture demonization and divisiveness are more than enough stressors for anyone to face. Come on man, do better than this...
When children watch their parent put their careers first, they lose in teaching the importance of family values. This has another problem in society at large.
I think, as a parent who has a career, it all comes down to how present you are when you are there. Also demonstrate what good work life balance is. My mom was a stay at home parent and was not present and it was not good for her or us.
@simonsinek speaks to this to a degree in the paradox of the individual and groups. A family is a group. If a parent is focussed only on themselves as individual and focussed on your career for that reason that’s one thing. If a parent is sacrificing to provide or show the way that’s another. If either leads your children to feel unseen and unheard then that may have little to do with a career and more to do with how a parent shows up when they are there. As a parent I communicate as best I can what I’m doing and why. I focus on quality - defined as attention and being present - over quantity.
I loventhe part that some folks are calling awkward. Because in the same podcast where the guest speaks about how essential it is to navigate boundaries with clarity and confidence, we watched him do it live. Unwavering, clear and nonviolent communication in action
@@Sandboxlion Thank you, yes, absolutely! I guess I was in a particularly snarky mood. It’s painful for me to hear wonderful speakers and authors talk about the benefits of listening and empathy and the benefits of being vulnerable with others and not hear a reference to the practice that flourishes unnoticed. People have to luck into finding it at the time that their relationships are falling apart. My hand is raised on that one. 😄
There’s nothing wrong with only wanting to work 45 hrs a week and not wanting to be a CEO. As long as in those hours you do your job. And on the odd occasion you do your boss a favour. And your boss returns that favour. I’m sick of social media telling everyone that unless they run a business they will be miserable and worthless. Some people are not cut out to be leaders. Or even want to be. But If put to task. Can work very hard and produce great work.
agree with you. I thought like this and still do. I work in a field where I can earn heaps of money and run my own business but I 'chose' not to because it just wasn't for me. Finding balance btw life and work was more important for me (and I know some ppl can earn heaps of money and still find balance, but for me- I am not able to choose both).
Also, I´m kind of super sick of this uber produced "storytelling" about success stories... god they should say they are in the acting bussiness, actually all self help nowadays is so manufactured is becoming sickening 🤮.
Exactly. Why should anybody work 60h/week? I am pretty sure that employers won't have the luxury of being like: U changed too many jobs because most candidates would be like that. Instead, they would have to improve the working environment. Some people need to teach..some to do science...Do these people ever imagine a world where 80% are trying to make it CEO?
Gen Z here, straight A's in my masters (my 3rd post-secondary accreditation) and working a high value corporate job. Lots of great interpersonal points in this video, one thing I will say is that Gen Z is disillusioned from romanticizing hardship. I think a lot of older generations (outside of Millennials) forget that baby boomers and their kids also had things VERY easy for their time, and also received a lot of flack from the wartime generations for having things too easy. The older generations seem to have this pattern of "i struggled so you should too" because they were too afraid to push boundaries, often times it FEELS (which may not be the truth) like they push that resentment onto younger generations… for example: working from home (WFH). A lot of Gen Z AND Millennials like WFH but I've heard sentiments from my colleagues (all in their 40s) that it should end because "I had to go into work so you should too"… but why? We're advancing technology to the level wherein you don't have to be in office to do work, this makes it so i can be sick and work from home without having to take a week off or risk the health of my colleagues. But some people just don't like change, don't be the generation resistant to change… out with the old and in with the new, please. Because Gen Z is completely aligned with understanding that you don't have to fall in love with stress, it exists yes, but you don't have to let it define you.
To be fair, lots of studies have concluded that overall productivity drops because most people are incapable of effectively working from home. Definitely not everyone, but it’s the same as (in engineering) where 90% of the work is completed by 10% of the engineers on staff.
@@njits789 okay but OPs whole argument is that boomers are bullying millennials and Gen z kids because they want to work from home. The reality is most people (especially inexperienced Gen z) are incapable of working from home. So in this case it’s 💯 relevant
As someone in recovery, AA, the line we need the "help others" section 🙏 so true. When I struggle, it's always because I am not helping others, and thinking only selfishly
A Fantastic insight, Josh! Your fine comment does HELPS me a lot. I sure hope I recall it, the Lesson, in the moment when I go to apply it. I pray I do the right thing at that time.
If you read Maslow's original paper (called "A theory of human motivation"), he never says that one need is preceded by the other. No need is more important than the other. He says that all of us need a bit of each, that everyone has their own threshold for each need to feel satisfied, and meeting each need to reach our thresholds is the driving force behind our motivations. The paper is not long. I highly recommend reading it!
I think Simon is right about it being not entirely right because if you define hierarchy it basically means that a particular need needs to be met first at a certain individual threshold in order to progress to the higher level of hierarchy. Although, Maslow might've came up with the theory in a general sense since in history, basic needs such as food and shelter are considered primary needs. Both authors make valid points, it just that it doesn't apply to everything and everyone.
And... the CONTEXT of who Maslow was as a professional and what he was THEORISING (only) about in that context - motivation - was lost to this guest. It was a paper written, what? - in the 1950's (correct me if I'm wrong). Maslow didn't test it for reliability or validity - it was just a theory. Certainly helpful in gaining some understanding of priority of needs needing to be met BEFORE you can go on to... but...
Ernst Becker mentioned Mazlov in The Denial of Death. His view (since he knew Mazlov I think) was that we omit the reason for the hierarchy. It does not stand alone. It makes more sense when you see it as steps at dealing with inevitable death. Obviously physical needs come first. It is about first extending time and making the best use of your still limited time. Memento morí.
I love the part where Simon admits he has self doubt, like every human being, and then follows it up with "it's none of your business." Honest and direct.
Why do you love it ? His last answers about himself were the ones that were actually the most interesting and he didn't answer a single one of them in an honest and open way. He always found a way to wiggle through them by saying a lot without saying anything like a politician and he always answered from the perspective of a ''normal human being'' without admitting anything from his private life. That was truly disappointing in my eyes. Seemed to me more like an image he wants to maintain about a guy that always has an answer to everything. While admitting fears and weaknesses is actually something that let's you relate.
@@JesuisPartei rewatched it again and I think a large part of it is him saying nothing is that simple. People often want an easy answer to why someone is successful or why someone is perceiving themselves to fail continuously. And it really is not that simple. It’s a well rounded approach
That was the only part I didn't like. Not because he didn't share but because after talking about reading a room etc, he drops a rather vicious line. It felt far too harsh and unsettled the whole feeling of the conversation they were having. He could have achieved the same results with far less friction.
I loved how Simon Sinek was analysing everything and thinking out loud trying to see the made point. So nice to hear such an intelligent conversation ❤
I’m Gen Z, I promise you we don’t all believe in TikTok values 😅 I think a lot of the issues are partly tied to how young even the eldest gen z people are. I’m about to turn 26, and I fully acknowledge I still don’t know much about how to be a real grownup just yet. The people who are living through their TikTok lens are going to eventually reap the results of their distorted worldview, and they’ll pay the price. I just hope it doesn’t make too much of a mess along the way.
Your generation has not been forgotten! I’m an older millennial, the older generations are hoping everyone in gen z can find the light and join us lol. Keep going!
That implies senior citizens ever grew up. Interesting (not completely true). Be you, or keep "looking" for you no matter which "generation" you're in. HUGS!!
"Accountability to take responsibility on one's self" - Perfect quote about giving up on certain people. You can only do so much, but the person in need has to be in the same mindset.
Simon Sinek is quite possibly my favourite guest you've had on of all time, at no disregard to other guests because you've had truly remarkable people on - but that speaks volumes to my views of Simon. I absolutely LOVED his last appearance a few months ago and this was also incredible. His was of explaining and breaking down questions is unmatched imo. Also, have to give credit to you too, Steven, as you're one of the best interviewers I have come across.
If there was a person I truly resonated with, it would be Simon Sinek. He is an empath, deep thinker, visionary and completely genuine. Listening to him reminds me of how much I need to speak out more bc more authenticity is needed in this space. Thank you Simon for your energy and knowledge that you’ve shared! ❤ also I love the diary of a CEO! I’m new here but you truly are an amazing interviewer/host and I’m excited for more content! 😊🎉
I hadn't realized I've listened to his book like 10 times over. Wasn't familiar with his face nor name, just liked the book. Saw one 5 sec clip and instantly knew, this is my typa person.
Wow, wow, wow, wow! ✨️The way he set his boundaries around what he'll share with people he loves vs. someone trying to make a good podcast was SPOT ON 👏🏾 Broadcasting vs. Vulnerability, that needs to be a book. Thank you, Simon 👑 This was epic- per usual for every talk he gives!
Mindset is not a privilege- you have to build it and learn it. Saying it’s a privilege gives people an excuse to keep playing the victim. I didn’t grow up with a great mind set. I earned it. Mindset is not like anxiety. Mindset is in YOUR control. So own it. Change it. It’s on you.
I disagree. I was born with a strong mindset, and it's just innate to me. My parents were awful with money, business, and delayed gratification. However, somehow I was just naturally good at those things. I'm naturally good at delayed gratification as well. These are things I noticed others struggle with. I didn't do anything to create that mindset, I was just born that way. I can remember as far back as elementary school being "different" in these ways.
I am a training specialist, developing training on driving results through inspirational leadership. I have watched Simon tell the same stories over and over and this was the most genuine conversation I have seen him have. Great Questions.
This conversation is a total f**king privilege to listen to. Being a fly on the wall as two minds collide in curious conversation, instead of trotting out rehearsed lines, makes me very grateful.
Simon Sinek just described me. I resigned from my fulltime job because as an empath in nursing, you take on so much. Not only that, a work environment with complainers was not the right place to be. So i left. That is the best decision I made for myself. Taking time off for me. Great interview.
I’m an empath an in nursing and I’m struggling because even I feel my colleagues stress in her workload or case. I’m trying to get out to a less intense field.
I'm an empath too and used to be a social worker and struggled with cognitive dissonance all the time (but didn't have the word to describe it) to the point where it affected my health. Three years on and I have started to feel better. I think I've complained a lot in my work (always caring profession) because I noticed that not everyone cares and the fight and struggle to get people to care is impossible. I'm a carer part time (private clients) and I love it because I get to care for others on my own terms. It's such an honour to care for someone in their latter years. The good people always leave but not enough is done to make them want to stay (I'm thinking local government as I've never worked much in the private sector).
I strongly believe that empaths should not work in healing careers e.g mental health, nursing, counseling because the emotional burden you take on will be too much. Empaths should choose careers where they are helping but not healing e.g. teaching, training, guiding, etc.
When Simon spoke in the segment about confrontation at work with colleagues and management and how we communicate, my heart almost stopped when I was listening this because it was just so true. I hope I can get better in communicating in my personal and professional life about boundaries.
I think the point about mindset being a privilege is super fascinating. I've come from a very privileged family - I'm from a middle class family in Australia, I always have the backup of moving back in with my parents and to have their financial support. But in so many areas of my life I struggle. And after listening to the podcast I've begun to consider that the mindset I was raised with may play a large part in that. I want to feel in control & empowered. But when considering the idea of living above or below the line, I often find myself falling into the victim mentality. Holding in my mind a disempowerment - when challenges arise my default is 'There's nothing else I can do.' And I think that comes down to the mindsets I was exposed to as a kid. My dad went around blaming everyone and everything around him for his anger management issues, and my mum just sat in quiet complacency, staying in the marriage and saying she is fulfilled by her friends so doesn't want to go through the stress of leaving my dad. This mentality has definitely carried on to me. And while I never went through physical abuse, and had the privileges of money and a private schooling, the mindsets I was exposed to when growing up weren't something that set me up with an idea of empowerment. Until I heard that comment about mindset being a privilege, it's never crossed my mind. It's a default setting in my brain that I have to constantly fight & educate myself via the internet on strategies to overcome it.
This is interesting I think having that financial parent net to fall back on also has been crossing my mind in regards to my lack of ambition/ motivation in life. I’m wondering how you are overcoming this if you’d like to share :)
Hi,I am 59, I have always had my father to fall back on,when he died, he left money to my sister and I, so even though yes I had some down times,homeless, drug addiction, but he was always there, so don't worry about your privilege,, we don't choose who our are parents or what life we are born into,this is luck,life is not easy,as Philipe Djan said "you can't live under the sky and not see a few clouds" !
me too. we share the same story. let me just say that never have i seen anyone share the same exact situation as me online up till now. it made me feel heard. like im spoiled but i sometimes remind myself km luckt/ we are meant for something great, we just need lost of time to grow. but there are definitely advantages.
Same here :) I'm come from a privileged family too. My parents have money too buy mostly the thing that I want. My parents always have backup plan for my career and my life. But they rarely told me hold to do things. I've learned much in book then real life. Whenever I wanted to learn things in life like cooking, singing, making songs on yt or traveling I always a the feeling that they didn't want me to do. Also they usually say "study first" and "you will learn that when you go to Uni". They wanted me to have a stable job (dentist) but I'm still not yet figured it out if I wanted too. Mindset isn't what I've been taught through life. I grew up having a fixed mindset and a big big ego. My mom also like to complain about other people's job. Like one of my friend that chose to study bachelor of music, she always says that he will had a hard time doing his job. I mean who doesn't have a hard time working...
I am currently 25 years old and then just listening and working. I realized that all the topics of conversation were similar to what happened to me last year, so I realized that I had learned the lessons I really needed for myself.
I’ve experienced what it’s like not having depression and anxiety and I also know what it’s like to have it. And it’s definitely made me more empathetic to what others may experience even if I can’t understand it because sometimes it’s actually a health issue no different than any other disease
same but thing is that I’ve been clinically diagnosed with depression by my doctor and recommend me go to counseling…another few sessions and look idk how many but that’s all he said to my mom. But having depression and anxiety has made me connect with the world in a deeper way and made me feel some type of way for some people struggling with it as well
@@mariamart_0 these days they’re fast to put an lable on a person. It could say 2 things, we’re wrong and we put a lable on them or we’re right and something is wrong except we don’t care
I agree that mindset can be a privilege. Take anxiety, for example. One doesn't wake up in the morning and decide to be anxious and fearful. It's built into us by various factors. We can work on it and you don't have to act helpless in the face of anxiety, but people who do not have that obstacle in the first place have a kind of privilege.
there are solutions though, and there’s plenty of ways to access information to find those solutions but do YOU value yourself enough to want to look for ways to live and deal with the trauma and problems you face. Can you look at yourself and say you believe you’re worth the effort that would require?
@@nabDoesTH-cam Oh Boy, I certainly would hope so! Yes, because Everyone is Worth It, they have the SelfValue to know that it's worth it to try stuff that you learn to do, to help it, help us, me, and soon understands the solutions.
Yes, my parents were very overprotective. I wasn‘t scared of anything and tried everything out. But it got worse and i ended up having anxiety over normal things 🙃
Weak mindsets are sewn through out the fabrics of the general public. It needs to be, we can't run tests on the wealthy who can fight back. People don't want us running tests on animals. It doesn't leave much wiggle room for options. Thus the general public and upper middle class will be the test subjects. Upper middle class seems like the trap zone
Mindset is a privilege is one of those things that I strongly believe, and a major reason that I don't share what I think sometimes. Some people will never know, because I know it through the experiences that I've lived that I can't simply put into words and give to someone. On the other hand, this is where story-telling becomes such a great skill because strong story-tellers are able to convey the experience through their words. For story tellers their words are the paint to the canvas of the minds of their listeners.
Be grateful! My grandfather always said if you're grateful and respectful then you'll find your way out of anything life throws at you ...yeah this video makes me think he was right
49:23 "How do I get my employees to stay forever (and putting in the same amount of work as me)?" You can NEVER expect your employees to work as much as you like if it's their own company because it's simply NOT.It's YOUR company and when that "relationship" dissolves, you're the only one who gets to keep the whole company, they don't get to keep any part of it!
Simon's idea is the same as Japanese work-style. Japanese employees normally see their company as their home and their colleagues as their family. And their vision is if you do your work do it the best way possible.
@@victoriamarfina9819 Yep, and it literally KILLS them! Not for nothing exists the term "Karōshi" which means death by over work in Japan. That alone speaks volumes about how deep worker exploittions runs there
I operate my company with transparency. My staff treat it as if it’s their own. They are rewarded with bonuses and most important recognition and gratitude .
Simon Sinek is an incredible speaker. First discovered him from his interview with Tom Bilyeu and never looked back since. But also have to appreciate the host for not interrupting! These podcasts are so long but they’re so worth the listen. Thank you.
Waiting till someone can rationally receive a rational answer is something I wasn’t able to put into words, but something that I’ve observed as being needed in life.
OMG my husband and I both were crying during the communication in a relationship when your afraid to say how unhappy you are but say nothing! We had just been through this and realized how things could have been different if just one of us had opened our mouth and said something! ( he had an affair and I found out) we’re working on mending things now! ❤️ 🇨🇦
Ouch he cheated on u? I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope your marriage recovers. Adultery and sexual immorality ruins so many marriages and destroys families. That's y God warns us against committing these sins. David had his best friend killed in battle so he can get with his wife. They had a kid together. he tried to hide what he did lol but a prophet named Nathan confronted him.
I like the style of the interviewer. He lets the interviewee talk and explain, without interrupting and asking questions for them to expand their explanations or points of view. Great interview.
Post covid, as a nurse and an empath, I isolate myself from my coworkers because all the do is gossip, complain, and tear others down. I did it to protect myself. Now, I am rarely included in anything. Because I am not part of the crowd. Interesting.
So many things i could comment on, but I will pick the biggest one for me. Mr. Sinek says " That is none of your business." He says it directly but without malice. Our interviewer fully accepted it. No probing, no contempt. Just "ok" That for me is huge. So often, and I learned this living in a foreign country, Americans will push u til they get an answer they agree with. For example, someone may ask you to join a group of friends out for a drink and you say No. Most of the time, they will push until you give an excuse they will accept. In the foreign country, you say No, and the group says, "ok" and they drop it. This was very respectful 🙏
Balance, the key word. I think our biggest struggle as people who bother to try to navigate our world along with being healthy and accomplished is to seek out balance. To know WHEN to give and WHEN to hold back and why to make that decision is the biggest part of solving this dilemma
"Mindset is a priviledge" must be the most mind breaking thing I've heard, as if we're not in control of our own thought pattern. Our mind is the only thing we can control, why give that control away for- what, to not be held responsible for our own thought pattern?
When he speaks about privilege of mindset, I totally get it. There are things that you choose to do that are linked to your personality and some personalities make it easier to go through resilience and fight back and being strong or go forward in life. I have my own story about it; as I was the abused child in a toxic alcoholic family, I developed a kind of hate for what I experienced as a child and made (difficult) choices that led me to a better/stronger version of me. It was like to prove to myself (and to them) that I would NEVER be like THEM. My sister just reproduced the same family pattern because she was just feeling that "it was not so bad after all". We do not have the same mindset for sure.
Can relate. Parents were heroin addicts, from a young age I rejected their values and took in the literal opposite. My cousin did the same with his alcoholic mum. He ended up with values that are in line with "my" parents, and I ended up with the same values as "his" mother. He gets on with my folks FAR more than his own, and vice versa. Weird parallel of rejection of parents values, kinda fascinating how we both turned out tbh
Talking about how to deal with or how to have difficult conversation, setting boundaries and the difference between being honest and delaying the honesty. I like how Simon changed Steve's and my perspective of sharing/oversharing with people sometimes and we tend to do that quite often because we like to be understood.
About mindset being a privilege : Even Simon himself in the eample he gave mentioned that the person maybe learnt "not to be a victim" from their mother. Many people don't have that. Some people only have life or violence as their teacher. It doesn't give it a pass at all. I think we can acknowledge that mindset is a privilege while also understanding that while initial minset is not your fault, it is your responsibility. Noticing that mindset can be a privilege doesn't cheapen mindset but it does afford some empathy, understanding and grace for others. It helps us to better meet people where they're at when trying to help as well.
So empowering since I work in the soft development skills sector and I have these conversations everyday with HR, executives and individual contributors! I love being in the business of helping others.
That was so awkward at the end. I learnt so much Steve, how you graciously and humbly responded to Simons boundaries and his honest vulnerability as well as I learned from the way Simon stood by his own boundaries and affirmed them. Both of you demonstrated healthy yet raw and honest communication skills and it was brilliant. Absolutely brilliant podcast.
Not sure if this was written by an employee (or an outsider aligned with this creator and working to promote him), but it is very clever! Now I want to watch to the end to see what you are talking about! 😆
oh god, it's me. I'm 23. I just quit after almost three months because other people's stress became mine and I just couldn't handle it. I'm an introvert. I don't talk much to new people and they just keep venting and ventinggg about their lives. that's why I quit. So thanks Steven and Simon for this ep. I'm just gonna start thing over and not be stupid in the future.
I couldn't have thanked you more for opening my eyes. Literally today, I faced a problem of drastic changes in my schedule, and my first thought was exactly about boundaries and my limits. I started to consider it as a question of whether I respect myself or not, and in my mind, the answer was so simple. If I respect myself, I should stand up for my regular schedule. It sounds like so much, but when it comes to the truth, I'm just a person who is not responsible for managing a storm. It turns out that hosting a mainsail is definitely something that I put out of consideration when I talk about developing my career.
10:17 Brilliant 15:50 Also it pays to be self effacing, you have to make them feel that it was they themselves that solved their problem, and you have to encourage them in that thought. Truly amazing over all.
“She needs to find friends colleagues etc that are committed to taking care of her”….resonates with me. I have the most amazing friends and work colleagues and I am super rubbish at taking care of myself.
At the end of the conversation I think the host has never heard this kind of honesty before and I think it's important for him to hear it, it's not rejection but Simon really sets a very clear boundary there and it's very wise to do so. There needs to be a more of a purpose to answering such an intimate question than just having a good point in a podcast. This is how people should treat themselves with respect. If I'd asked the question I'd be grateful to receive such an answer and equally if someone asked me, this is how I'd answer.
I will give up my weekend but I negotiate double time for my weekend because if I can't buy a house anyways in this economy would I really need the extra money? So I get paid double for my weekends. Gen z is the generation that just dosn't put up with bullshit it's like waving a gun at somone suicidal you think they scared of it or anticipating it.
Right, and if you work from home then he'll pay you less. Why would anyone want to work for such a shyster? Save the lawful evil trope for Darth Vader.
Great video but if you wanna be successful, you most take responsibility for your emotions, not place the blame on others. In addition to make you feel more guilty about your faults, pointing the finger at others will only serve to increase your sense of personal accountability. There's always a risk in every investment, yet people still invest and succeed. You must look outward if you wanna be successful in life, Successful people don't become that way overnight. most people see at a glance-wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life, 🙏🙏🙏
you've remind me of what someone once said "The mind is the man, the poor is in it and the rich is it too". This sentence is the secret of most successful investors. I once attended similar and ever since then been waxing strong financially, and i most tell you the truth..investment is the key that can secure your family future.
Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth, investing remains a priority. I learnt from my last year's experience, i am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time.
I urge everyone to start somewhere now no matter how small, this is literally the time for that, forget material things, don't get tempted,i became more better the moment i realized this.
Yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to greater loss too
The segment on covid in the workplace is so true. I've seen it especially in my female coworkers (engineering firm) who vent not only about other coworkers performance but also personal relationships in an unprompted way. Now that people got so used to work and home becoming one place they've gotten really comfortable venting to coworkers and treating coworkers "like family". It's a really uncomfortable situation because it does lead to me burning out when I just want to focus on work and leave, but instead i'm having to set a boundary and tell people that I don't care about their personal problems during work hours.
@@dacksonflux the only people that i've had to explicitly tell stop telling me about your personal problems, your miserable weekends, your failing dating life, or your favorite cat are the women that I work with. Not all the women in the office are like this but all the people that are are women, that's why i said especially not exclusively. my male coworkers have their own problems but it's not relevant to the topic of this video which is why I didn't mention it lol
Mindset is a privilege. The stories we read of people turning their lives around are outliers not the norm. You can have the strongest and most positive mindset but if the situation you’re in keeps opposing that mindset, you’ll have such a harder time to overcome your doubts. Versus a person in a nourishing environment. Yes those people can be lazy, but they are lazy because they can afford to be.
This is one of the best Simon Sobel interviews I’ve listened to in a very long time. I feel like he has really changed in his delivery and feels more connected and human.
I always love listening to Simon speak. He has been a huge motivator in my life since I started with his TED Talk and his books YEARS ago. Thank you for having this interview with him and bringing in some modern thoughts to current situations. I just subbed, thank you for the awesome content and I look forward to watching more!
Simon will make you a better person , if you are willing to let him......Without having meaningful conversations ; YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO BUILD ANYTHING MEANINGFUL IN YOUR LIFE.
That last commentary of Simon's hit me between the eyes. As a parent of a 27 yr old I have to stand down on almost everything and let it be, because everything is emotional to them right now at this age, culture and time; respectfully, we need to stop parenting and understand it is their life, their consequences, life and possibly death, is theirs. Very difficult, but always on standby as a parent. ;)
Sometimes people need to fall on their faces and eat humble pie before they can learn. This is especially true for the young adults of today who have been over parented and protected to the point of suffocation.
Sometimes people need to fall on their faces and eat humble pie before they can learn. This is especially true for the young adults of today who have been over parented and protected to the point of suffocation.
Sometimes people need to fall on their faces and eat humble pie before they can learn. This is especially true for the young adults of today who have been over parented and protected to the point of suffocation.
you had your time to parent much earlier if you gave up it for alien unrelated people later you can't do shit because these are somebody else's children
Great conversation. Worth every minute. The best is emotional intelligence with personal and work cases. That is wisdom for all generation and not just Gen Z.
As a "member" of Gen Z, I think what Simon says makes a TON on sense. Throughout my life my goal has been to find meaning in the work that I do and to have that meaning was the goal. Whenever I do a job that I don't have an attachment to or that doesn't have any great meaning, that's when I tend to fall into the "Quit Quitting" style of work, or not responding to emails or wanting to work on anything overtime or on weekends. However when I have passion in the project I'll be there all long as I need to be and then some. My dad would always tell me that its interesting that there's been a shift to people HAVING to find meaning in their work, having to have full interest. Naturally, I never saw that shift but hearing Simon explain why that shift has happened and what it was, really helped everything click for me. I don't know my neighbors, I don't really hang out with people much due to me working on my own projects after work, and even past that most of my other hobbies don't involve other people. My question is, how do we as Get Z-ers combat this? Therapy seems like a clear option in order to avoid talking about personal problems in the workplace. Being more social would be a great solution, but personally I feel that it has become harder to be more social, like really social. But maybe there are some more suggestions to help Gen Z better themselves in the workplace.
Greatest thing I took from this: when addressing something that is “negative” be unemotional. When addressing a “positive” show appropriate emotion I.e. enthusiasm
51:38 What Simon says here echoes my expectations of majoring in chemistry in college. I almost burnt out during my first year because everything was new, but now during my gap year I realize not to keep my hopes to high and instead learn to love my field once I am deeper into it again
I also agree with the privilege conversation. As a manager of people for two decades, I have learned that anyone could do my job. The only difference between me and the guy running the machine is my belief that I can do more and do better. Changing others mindsets is one of the hardest things to do and that is why it is a privilege if you happen to have developed a growth mindset.
Simon you hit the very chord of my being by stating that: The very thing we do to serve or help others in need is the very thing we needed the most. I’ve always been responsible for my siblings and widowed mom, I would give home care, offer stability in the family and provide love, advice and affection in any way possible without expecting anything in return. My WHY was to help and serve, to love unconditionally but the “rub” of this why was I didn’t experience the same and romantic love has been so aloof, familial love grew I must admit but there is still that lack and I reached a point of where I grew tired and weary. I agree, everything we do to help others must allow “them” to remain accountable for their actions moving forward as well as remain committed to actually “be involved” and work together as a responsible team player. At the end of the day, we really need to make the Other person will really feel loved, and really feel heard, and feel seen. This is my greatest conscious practice : To listen more and shut up!!! 😊. I agree that it only takes just ONE person in our lives to say they truly love us for who we are (warts and all) and that will suffice to give us hope to continue fulfilling our Why’s!💖
Hi. I have been in the same situation as you have described. Although i like that I am able to take their responsibility I sometimes feel so empty that that giving attitude is not reciprocated back, although I should not be expecting much. Sometimes I just feel that I am not heard or seen for my desires and my lif goals by anyone. I have started to loose sight of what I want in my life since I have constantly catered to my family's needs. Its like I am searching for a roof sldesperately for myself that I have been providing to others forso long. Do you also feel te same sometimes and feel guilty of taking so much responsibility at the cost you own sacrifices?
this episode has made me subscribed to this podcast the empathy & understanding given to those from abusive childhoods, wow, i felt heard and seen just because i felt understood. Thank you diary of a ceo. Your intelligentence, emotional maturity and empathy and compassion is more then what a lot of self help authors offer
I had to double down on selfishness in my youth because anything I wanted, thought, or believed in was a "no, not for you." I am thrilled and living my best life now. I am free to make other choices. I've chosen love and people in my life. I look back, and I don't know if I could have done it much differently in order to survive. But, I'm grateful for the people who helped me to move forward
I think mind set is taught to a person through many ways. A child can be told on a daily basis from their parents n or teachers or any other mentor that they are smart, powerful, that they can accomplish anything they put their mind to. Also to be told to love themselves and others, respect n that bullying is hurtful etc; That child has more of a chance to become an adult with a healthier mindset then someone who is not told those things or is taught the opposite. That’s my take on mindset privilege. It comes to mind even more when I say or I hear someone else say “I wish I knew then what I know now” my life would be so different”. Privilege of money or status or looks will not give you inner peace n true inner confidence
This is great. We run a design and tech agency, fully remote. The best thing we did was set up a discord server that we all live on. Most of the conversations have nothing to do with work. It was a surprise to me, but now i see how valuable it is to look after each other, especially at a distance. I speak to our people on Saturday afternoons about random stuff, and we are way more productive per person than bigger companies. I am going to pursue more ways to make remote workers present in each others lives.
i am Gen X and i disagree with some of the things Simon says. I have stayed loyal to the company, worked hard, came in on weekends to complete jobs if need be. Stuck there for 8 solid years and didn't ask for a raise. They retrenched me when the O&G industry didn't do so well. That isn't the first time i got retrenched either, when i was much younger the same happened. So now i don't feel any loyalty to the company and set my boundaries as well. Not as much as Gen Z does it but... we set our boundaries nonetheless. We also don't talk to our bosses about raises because they have a fixed mentality and refused to give us a raise even though we are doing more than 2 person job when my colleagues resigned. I believe the best option is just to look for a new job when the current company don't treat you right or pay you enough. Why waste your effort talking to a boss that won't listen or see value in you anyway?
As I just commented, an employer complaining about 'unloyal' employees after the employers themselves destroyed the idea of 'job security' in the last 25-30 years is just rediculous.
Gen X here. I just resigned from my previous job because it took toll on my physical & mental health. New abusive boss was the last straw. However, I agree with what Simon said. A lot (not all) of Gen Z seem have less resilient than the generations before them because they have the opportunity to jump from work to work much more easily. Is it good or bad, only time will tell, because at the end it will be decided by the supply & demand law. If more jobs than applicants, the applicants have the leverage, and vice versa.
@@TAWD7890 Not to be that guy, but as a younger person, nothing irks me more than jobs that use "seniority" to mean anything. No job should be secure, the security should be on you yourself performing optimally within the job, don't, then get fired. Too many older people who do fuck all are hogging jobs they don't deserve cus they literally are too old or fat to move with any sense of speed. Us younger people get lumped with more work for the same pay and employers wonder why we keep leaving lmao get rid of seniority for a start, what a joke lol
@@cammokyle On seniority, I'm pretty sure you'll have a similar outspoken opinion about 'seniority' but with diametrically opposing views in about a year or 25 😉
@@cammokyle On topic: What I mean with 'destroyed job security' is not ending meritocracy. Obviously. What I did mean is that it doesn't matter if you do your job good or not. 🤔 You don't get fired because you do your job wel or not. You get fired along with a 1000 others because that might cranck up the stock exchange rate. The poor board and the majority shareholders need supporting! They can't be losing virtual $. And for the sake of their bonus, they need to act! And these folks actually dare to expect LOYALTY from the employees that remain, but could be fired just as easely if it means a higher bonus for the board members next year. Really? And they dare complain about it on a youtube channel about not receiving loyalty when not handing it out or rewarding it themselves. That was my only point: loyalty works both ways, or not at all.
I agree. The younger generations don’t have the perseverance to endure the storm. Try to teach them that it is an excruciating process. I love Simon Sinek; he has such amazing insight!
So many people didn't get the one person. The cracks in the social system are huge gaping holes. I've met so many gen z that are struggling and had no one, I'm gen x and it was the same for me. There's not always that one person for us growing up.
“Mindset is a privilege “ A BRILLIANT observation. As a W.OC. I’m intrigued. As a cultural, spiritual, energetic practitioner I’m called to sit with this question. NOT only based in financial or regional experiences 🎉🙏🏾 Open one’s mind and walk away from the traditional definition of privilege to relate to, hear what you’ve come upon with that comment-question about mindset as privilege. Please continue to explore with self and in other interviews. I’d LOVE to continue this conversation. I sense there’s so much in this question.
Great questions, great feedback. I especially appreciated Sinek’s views on separating work life from personal life. Rather than broadcast online, he holds vulnerable conversations. I have so much respect for that. Wonderful questions as well, Steve. Like Sinek mentioned, you asked profound questions unrelated to his work, to which he had to “think out load” and answer. So fun to watch. Thank you!
In reference to, 'Is mindset a privilege? at 19:44, I'd say, yes, I can agree that it's possible. My understanding of the initial question, was not in the sense of external factors, but more so of personal experience. Here's an example of that My brother went through a divorce, would talk about it often, he took it hard, but whenever he'd bring it up, my responses would be along the lines of, "it probably wasn't meant to be", "you'll be okay", "god knows best", "you're probably better off" etc... At some point, I found myself going through a divorce... and it wasn't until then that I realized, I never had a clue what he was actually going through... Not until I experienced it myself. So here, I would say I was privileged-minded, not that it was a good thing, but I think that's what was meant by the initial question. And in that sense, I can fully agree. I can also agree that external factors can and do play a role, and what we make of it is completely up to us. Though, if you were to be hit by misfortune after misfortune, over and over again, it could become much harder to keep that positivity. If you manage to pull through, you'll come out better for it. That's where the balance would come in. But this may directly affect your mindset. If you are fortunate enough to not go through that, here, you could also find yourself in a privileged position, also resulting in a privileged mindset. Even considering external factors. The possibility remains. So my take on the argument is yes, it's possible. I'll finish watching the podcast now 😁
Simon, your instance about one of your friend come to ask you for help, and you reverse in the end that spend 90 mins to talk about your stuff and seeking her advice, which cheer her up much more then you help her! This did inspire me a lot. Thank you so much, I can feel your genuine
As an INFJ myself. I can totally say Simon is an INFJ personality type for sure! I'm listening to him talk for the first time and it felt as if I was the one speaking. I relate to almost everything he says and have been saying the same things throughout my life. Honestly such a lovely podcast! Thanks Steven for speaking with him 😊
You covered so many aspects of being a human in today's society that my brain was just ping-pinging as I absorbed your thoughts, reflections and personal honesty on young people (Gen Z), work, and relationships. Genuine curiosity for the genuinely curious. Thank you both
This is actually the best interview I’ve ever seen. As a gen z, I really had these questions that I really wanna ask about. Through this conversation, I seriously learned a lot. Genuinely thank you. I never knew about both of you before, but I’m definitely going to check out this channel and the book ❤
This CD is very calming th-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq the first meditation focuses on breathing, the second guides you through the Buddhist metta bhavana--loving kindness to all, and the third is a meditation to be used when walking. him is originally from Scotland, so there is a little accent to his voice, but it is very soothing and not at all distracting. If you are a beginner to meditation, this CD will walk you through all the steps of relaxing and breathing as well as sending out the positive thoughts of love and kindness that will be returned to you. We have several CD's, but this one is a favorite that we choose most often.
As a teenager with my own experiences with mental health issues, perfectionism and all that stuff... I have come to realise that sometimes silence or noise are not the only ways to respond to pain or pleasure. While they may seem inherently deceiving--such as watching more videos on how to overcome anxiety when the answer just lies in you (a kind of external noise that one is internalising)--there are other ways too. Ways that lead to self-connection and awareness. I have found that being a little kind to yourself is how it starts. And just letting yourself be. It works. This is what I loved from this podcast episode in a very indirect and implicit manner. I loved it. Thank you. You don't have to be a roaring lion, a laughing hyena or a traumatised cat. Be like a wolf. A fox. Choose to howl when you are alone. Maybe that will help.
Simon, I find you deeply authentic, honest and socially brave. Heartfelt thanks for your time and energy here. So much appreciation. I feel braver in my approach to personal circumstance for having listened to you today.
"Expectations are premeditated resentments". A provocative statement that gives one pause. Honest communication, with self be others should result in reasonable expectations.
Very insightful episode! Let me know what you all think! If you could also do me a massive favour and hit the like button that would be amazing, it helps this channel out massively 🙏
Legitimately so powerful! The parts about vulnerability versus broadcast, about asking for a raise without binary conditions, practicing the final 12th step in AA, and understanding that there is reciprocity in holding space ... ALL OF IT is transformative! Thank you @Steven and @Simon. I look forward to the day I will meet you both and have as fulsome a conversation as this (and more) 🤩
Done! Steven, Thank You so much!!
The Greatest leader is Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam.
Interesting to know if woman think this stuff is only for men?
@@M.Sid9.3 you may want to expand on this for the wider audience to really appreciate the truth and not just what is portrayed negatively.
He highlights various key points throughout the conversation:
1. Developing Human Skills: Sinek stresses the importance of human skills in navigating the complexities of the modern world. These skills include active listening, providing and receiving feedback, and engaging in difficult conversations.
2. Fear as an Obstacle: Sinek suggests that fear is the underlying reason why honest conversations often elude us. He argues that developing human skills is particularly important in overcoming this fear.
3. Balancing Self-care and Helping Others: Sinek recognizes that while helping others can be positive, it can also lead to neglecting oneself. He emphasizes the role of early experiences in shaping patterns and behaviors and suggests that finding friends committed to self-care can facilitate positive change.
4. Team Approach to Helping Others: Sinek advocates for an accountable and responsible approach to helping others. He highlights the importance of listening as a crucial skill in understanding others' problems.
5. Mindset as a Universal Capability: Sinek asserts that mindset is not a privilege, but rather something each individual can control. He acknowledges that experiences and upbringing shape mindset but emphasizes that all individuals have the ability to shape their own mindset.
6. Empathy and Burnout at Work: Sinek discusses how empathy in the workplace can lead to burnout and stress for employees. He suggests creating safe spaces for venting outside of work and warns against comparing work cultures to idealized social media narratives.
7. Young People Quitting Jobs: Sinek notes that quitting jobs has become increasingly normalized, with little stigma attached to it. However, he expresses concern about a potentially high number of job changes in a short period of time, as employers value experience and resilience. He suggests that employers may need to take extra measures to ensure younger employees can cope with high-intensity work cultures.
8. Managing Expectations: Sinek emphasizes the importance of honesty in managing expectations in both personal and professional relationships. He suggests that companies should be transparent about their culture and work expectations, while individuals should be honest about their career aspirations and work-life balance needs.
9. Communication in Relationships: Sinek asserts that communication is key to successful relationships. He recommends active listening, providing more context, including the other person in decision-making, and being honest in difficult conversations.
10. Giving Feedback at Work: Sinek advises being straightforward and removing emotion when giving feedback at work. He suggests that while good news can be emotional, bad news should be conveyed in a dispassionate manner. Sinek believes that people appreciate honesty and directness.
11. Gender and Entrepreneurship: Sinek suggests that men may be more likely to succeed in entrepreneurship due to their experience with risk and rejection, which could be attributed to traditional gender roles and social interactions during their youth. He acknowledges that women may be less inclined to take risks and assert themselves in the workplace.
12. Honesty with Oneself: Sinek underscores the importance of being honest with oneself. He discusses what makes a good interview and emphasizes genuine curiosity and asking open-ended questions. Sinek acknowledges that self-doubt and insecurity are common but clarifies that vulnerability should not be conflated with broadcasting one's feelings.
13. Timing of Honesty in Conversations: Sinek suggests that being completely honest in the heat of the moment can lead to irrational conversations. He argues that honesty can be delayed to align with both rational and emotional states in a conversation.
14. Pricing and Emotional Connection: Sinek believes in keeping prices low to prioritize learning, even if a product may currently have bugs. He also mentions the potential for changing the name of his video subscription library to increase its perceived value. Sinek emphasizes using language to create an emotional connection with the audience.
In conclusion, Simon Sinek's interview with Stephen Bartlett delves into the importance of human skills, overcoming fear, self-care, teamwork, managing expectations, communication, feedback, gender dynamics, honesty, and emotional connection. Sinek's insights aim to help individuals navigate personal and professional relationships successfully in a complex and ever-changing world.
Thank you so much for this 😊
Thank you so much.
Thank you so much !
As someone who comes from an abusive background, I agree that mindset is a privilege. My dad taught me to think in twisted ways and I had to undo that and learn how to think like a normal person as well as trying to fix my mental struggles as a result of that. Ive got my degree and other qualifications but I had so much more along my path than my peers had, and I saw them sail through it much more smoothly than me. I even had to learn how to be happy and what happiness was, and how to handle stress and how to build self esteem. Those are just the tip of the iceberg. The lessons were endless and I found myself confused constantly
@xanna , what you have mentioned is so relatable. May your days be good and kind, and that our past trauma will be the catalyst to make us stronger. Blessed days and nights to all who are healing from something.
Mindset is something you control.
Mental state is not.
I get what you are saying and can very much relate. In my case, my mother was the toxic one, and very good at it . I am in therapy and learning a lot. Where my opinion is different though, is that i am now learning to see the abuse and it's consequences on the deepest parts of me, and that is slowly changing my mindset. So to me, it is learnt and can be re-learnt and re-framed. I kind of think if it is a privilege to have a great mindset from your upbringing, you can build one for yourself if the one you were trained to have is crappy. We can heal and get strong and resilient, even when we have been damaged by abuse. At least that's what I am hoping :)
Shxt.. I'm in the same boat
I feel like Im walking in circles
Thank you for sharing
“The thing we give to the world is the thing we need the most.”
Oooooh that hit hard.
I am a protector from a manipulative and abusive childhood, and I’ve built myself around having peoples back, protecting them, and trying my best to communicate directly and honestly.
Having someone be honest with me, and protect me, is one of my deepest desires.
I want to be protected.
I resonate with this so much. It hits really deep
This really hit me
I hear you! I realized pretty young that this was my mother’s problem in that she gave to all the neighbours and got zero back! Unfortunately that meant she had less time for her own family and zero time for herself. I learned from her mistakes and frankly, I only help people who have my back.
If you got abused you were weak and deserve it.
I share the same feeling as you, this is so profound
''Hearing the words that are spoken to you is not listening. Listening is when the other person feels heard.'' nice one
I'm 54 and my wife and I are VERY worried about our future, gas and food prices rising daily. We have had our savings dwindle with the cost of living into the stratosphere, and we are finding it impossible to replace them. We can get by, but can't seem to get ahead. My condolences to anyone retiring in this crisis, 30 years nonstop just for a crooked system to take all you worked for..
@Alethia-q9s That's actually quite impressive, I could use some Info on your FA, I am looking to make a change on my finances this year as well
@Alethia-q9s The crazy part is that those advisors are probably outperforming the market and raising good returns but some are charging fees over fees that drain your portfolio. Is this the case with yours too?
@Alethia-q9s Nah I Can't say I can relate, VICTORIA CARMEN SANTAELLA charge is one-off and pretty reasonable when compared to what I benefit in returns.
@Alethia-q9s I will give this a look, thanks a bunch for sharing.
The unspoken emphasis on boundaries in this podcast 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Simon saying ‘it’s none of your business’ is teaching me how to be kind, yet firm.
Boundaries are Essential
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Sometimes when witnessing someone’s boundary get approached it can get so uncomfortable to witness the tension but this was SO satisfying in part because of his comfort with the discomfort and in part because he so eloquently dropped the veil on “vulnerability”👏
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can he just use a softer language，the host was not pushing an answer
Perhaps the title should have been, difficulties Gen Z are facing. It is amusing to hear individuals take about another group of people as if they understand them when they are not part of the group. And even more basic, no group of people are the same. The current low wages, coupled with climate crises, inflation, and culture demonization and divisiveness are more than enough stressors for anyone to face. Come on man, do better than this...
When children watch their parent put their careers first, they lose in teaching the importance of family values. This has another problem in society at large.
What are family values
I think, as a parent who has a career, it all comes down to how present you are when you are there. Also demonstrate what good work life balance is. My mom was a stay at home parent and was not present and it was not good for her or us.
@@pauldi7268I think you already know Pinocchio. Maybe just don’t want that
Well said ur right Tu for standing out.
@simonsinek speaks to this to a degree in the paradox of the individual and groups. A family is a group. If a parent is focussed only on themselves as individual and focussed on your career for that reason that’s one thing. If a parent is sacrificing to provide or show the way that’s another. If either leads your children to feel unseen and unheard then that may have little to do with a career and more to do with how a parent shows up when they are there. As a parent I communicate as best I can what I’m doing and why. I focus on quality - defined as attention and being present - over quantity.
I loventhe part that some folks are calling awkward. Because in the same podcast where the guest speaks about how essential it is to navigate boundaries with clarity and confidence, we watched him do it live. Unwavering, clear and nonviolent communication in action
Also note that the follow up questions from the host in that moment were not about getting the answer, but understanding why the answer wasn't given.
Absolutely- I loved him (even more for that part)
If I watch this will I hear a reference to Nonviolent Communication as a shareable practice because I don’t have time for anything else.
@@aninsidestory not mentioned explicitly, but they are both great practitioners
@@Sandboxlion Thank you, yes, absolutely! I guess I was in a particularly snarky mood. It’s painful for me to hear wonderful speakers and authors talk about the benefits of listening and empathy and the benefits of being vulnerable with others and not hear a reference to the practice that flourishes unnoticed. People have to luck into finding it at the time that their relationships are falling apart. My hand is raised on that one. 😄
There’s nothing wrong with only wanting to work 45 hrs a week and not wanting to be a CEO. As long as in those hours you do your job. And on the odd occasion you do your boss a favour. And your boss returns that favour. I’m sick of social media telling everyone that unless they run a business they will be miserable and worthless. Some people are not cut out to be leaders. Or even want to be. But If put to task. Can work very hard and produce great work.
agree with you. I thought like this and still do. I work in a field where I can earn heaps of money and run my own business but I 'chose' not to because it just wasn't for me. Finding balance btw life and work was more important for me (and I know some ppl can earn heaps of money and still find balance, but for me- I am not able to choose both).
Also, I´m kind of super sick of this uber produced "storytelling" about success stories... god they should say they are in the acting bussiness, actually all self help nowadays is so manufactured is becoming sickening 🤮.
Not everyone is able to run their own business. Some can’t even mind their own business, so that’s asking a lot of them.
@@andreachdso….why are you here?!! 😂😂
Exactly. Why should anybody work 60h/week? I am pretty sure that employers won't have the luxury of being like: U changed too many jobs because most candidates would be like that. Instead, they would have to improve the working environment. Some people need to teach..some to do science...Do these people ever imagine a world where 80% are trying to make it CEO?
Gen Z here, straight A's in my masters (my 3rd post-secondary accreditation) and working a high value corporate job. Lots of great interpersonal points in this video, one thing I will say is that Gen Z is disillusioned from romanticizing hardship. I think a lot of older generations (outside of Millennials) forget that baby boomers and their kids also had things VERY easy for their time, and also received a lot of flack from the wartime generations for having things too easy. The older generations seem to have this pattern of "i struggled so you should too" because they were too afraid to push boundaries, often times it FEELS (which may not be the truth) like they push that resentment onto younger generations… for example: working from home (WFH). A lot of Gen Z AND Millennials like WFH but I've heard sentiments from my colleagues (all in their 40s) that it should end because "I had to go into work so you should too"… but why? We're advancing technology to the level wherein you don't have to be in office to do work, this makes it so i can be sick and work from home without having to take a week off or risk the health of my colleagues. But some people just don't like change, don't be the generation resistant to change… out with the old and in with the new, please. Because Gen Z is completely aligned with understanding that you don't have to fall in love with stress, it exists yes, but you don't have to let it define you.
Right!! Love Simon but I feel his response was polarized and perspectively based this time.
I'm 45 and I automatically discredit every sentence starting with '(Sigh) Youth these days...'
To be fair, lots of studies have concluded that overall productivity drops because most people are incapable of effectively working from home. Definitely not everyone, but it’s the same as (in engineering) where 90% of the work is completed by 10% of the engineers on staff.
@@mratlas3364 That is true, but it's not a generational issue
@@njits789 okay but OPs whole argument is that boomers are bullying millennials and Gen z kids because they want to work from home. The reality is most people (especially inexperienced Gen z) are incapable of working from home. So in this case it’s 💯 relevant
As someone in recovery, AA, the line we need the "help others" section 🙏 so true. When I struggle, it's always because I am not helping others, and thinking only selfishly
A Fantastic insight, Josh! Your fine comment does HELPS me a lot. I sure hope I recall it, the Lesson, in the moment when I go to apply it. I pray I do the right thing at that time.
If you read Maslow's original paper (called "A theory of human motivation"), he never says that one need is preceded by the other. No need is more important than the other. He says that all of us need a bit of each, that everyone has their own threshold for each need to feel satisfied, and meeting each need to reach our thresholds is the driving force behind our motivations. The paper is not long. I highly recommend reading it!
I think Simon is right about it being not entirely right because if you define hierarchy it basically means that a particular need needs to be met first at a certain individual threshold in order to progress to the higher level of hierarchy. Although, Maslow might've came up with the theory in a general sense since in history, basic needs such as food and shelter are considered primary needs.
Both authors make valid points, it just that it doesn't apply to everything and everyone.
And... the CONTEXT of who Maslow was as a professional and what he was THEORISING (only) about in that context - motivation - was lost to this guest. It was a paper written, what? - in the 1950's (correct me if I'm wrong). Maslow didn't test it for reliability or validity - it was just a theory. Certainly helpful in gaining some understanding of priority of needs needing to be met BEFORE you can go on to... but...
Ernst Becker mentioned Mazlov in The Denial of Death. His view (since he knew Mazlov I think) was that we omit the reason for the hierarchy. It does not stand alone. It makes more sense when you see it as steps at dealing with inevitable death. Obviously physical needs come first. It is about first extending time and making the best use of your still limited time. Memento morí.
Thanks for the heads up.
I got it presented to me as Maslow's hierarchy of needs and argued about it then. First sensible word I've heart or read in this video.
I love the part where Simon admits he has self doubt, like every human being, and then follows it up with "it's none of your business." Honest and direct.
Why do you love it ? His last answers about himself were the ones that were actually the most interesting and he didn't answer a single one of them in an honest and open way. He always found a way to wiggle through them by saying a lot without saying anything like a politician and he always answered from the perspective of a ''normal human being'' without admitting anything from his private life. That was truly disappointing in my eyes. Seemed to me more like an image he wants to maintain about a guy that always has an answer to everything. While admitting fears and weaknesses is actually something that let's you relate.
@@JesuisPartei rewatched it again and I think a large part of it is him saying nothing is that simple. People often want an easy answer to why someone is successful or why someone is perceiving themselves to fail continuously. And it really is not that simple. It’s a well rounded approach
That was the only part I didn't like. Not because he didn't share but because after talking about reading a room etc, he drops a rather vicious line. It felt far too harsh and unsettled the whole feeling of the conversation they were having. He could have achieved the same results with far less friction.
I loved how Simon Sinek was analysing everything and thinking out loud trying to see the made point. So nice to hear such an intelligent conversation ❤
I’m Gen Z, I promise you we don’t all believe in TikTok values 😅 I think a lot of the issues are partly tied to how young even the eldest gen z people are. I’m about to turn 26, and I fully acknowledge I still don’t know much about how to be a real grownup just yet. The people who are living through their TikTok lens are going to eventually reap the results of their distorted worldview, and they’ll pay the price. I just hope it doesn’t make too much of a mess along the way.
totally
I’m 41 and I still don’t know how to be a grownup
Your generation has not been forgotten! I’m an older millennial, the older generations are hoping everyone in gen z can find the light and join us lol. Keep going!
That implies senior citizens ever grew up. Interesting (not completely true). Be you, or keep "looking" for you no matter which "generation" you're in. HUGS!!
Grownup is just a word
"Accountability to take responsibility on one's self" - Perfect quote about giving up on certain people. You can only do so much, but the person in need has to be in the same mindset.
amen
Simon Sinek is quite possibly my favourite guest you've had on of all time, at no disregard to other guests because you've had truly remarkable people on - but that speaks volumes to my views of Simon. I absolutely LOVED his last appearance a few months ago and this was also incredible. His was of explaining and breaking down questions is unmatched imo. Also, have to give credit to you too, Steven, as you're one of the best interviewers I have come across.
What has he done?
Yeah I’m feeling Steven.
If there was a person I truly resonated with, it would be Simon Sinek. He is an empath, deep thinker, visionary and completely genuine. Listening to him reminds me of how much I need to speak out more bc more authenticity is needed in this space. Thank you Simon for your energy and knowledge that you’ve shared! ❤
also I love the diary of a CEO! I’m new here but you truly are an amazing interviewer/host and I’m excited for more content! 😊🎉
He's quickly become one of my success idols. I couldn't say it better!
I hadn't realized I've listened to his book like 10 times over. Wasn't familiar with his face nor name, just liked the book.
Saw one 5 sec clip and instantly knew, this is my typa person.
Wow, wow, wow, wow! ✨️The way he set his boundaries around what he'll share with people he loves vs. someone trying to make a good podcast was SPOT ON 👏🏾 Broadcasting vs. Vulnerability, that needs to be a book. Thank you, Simon 👑 This was epic- per usual for every talk he gives!
Mindset is not a privilege- you have to build it and learn it. Saying it’s a privilege gives people an excuse to keep playing the victim. I didn’t grow up with a great mind set. I earned it. Mindset is not like anxiety. Mindset is in YOUR control. So own it. Change it. It’s on you.
💯💯
I think it can be a privilege if it's given out right but I think it can be learnt as well
Agreed, being hung up on IF mindset is a privilege is a waste of time. As you say, it facilitates a lack of responsibility and a victimhood mindset…
I disagree. I was born with a strong mindset, and it's just innate to me. My parents were awful with money, business, and delayed gratification. However, somehow I was just naturally good at those things. I'm naturally good at delayed gratification as well. These are things I noticed others struggle with. I didn't do anything to create that mindset, I was just born that way. I can remember as far back as elementary school being "different" in these ways.
that‘s just from my perspective but I love your take on it it‘s right if people use this phrase in a wrong way they will victimize themselves
I am a training specialist, developing training on driving results through inspirational leadership. I have watched Simon tell the same stories over and over and this was the most genuine conversation I have seen him have. Great Questions.
This conversation is a total f**king privilege to listen to. Being a fly on the wall as two minds collide in curious conversation, instead of trotting out rehearsed lines, makes me very grateful.
Simon Sinek just described me. I resigned from my fulltime job because as an empath in nursing, you take on so much. Not only that, a work environment with complainers was not the right place to be. So i left. That is the best decision I made for myself. Taking time off for me. Great interview.
I’m an empath an in nursing and I’m struggling because even I feel my colleagues stress in her workload or case. I’m trying to get out to a less intense field.
I'm an empath too and used to be a social worker and struggled with cognitive dissonance all the time (but didn't have the word to describe it) to the point where it affected my health. Three years on and I have started to feel better. I think I've complained a lot in my work (always caring profession) because I noticed that not everyone cares and the fight and struggle to get people to care is impossible. I'm a carer part time (private clients) and I love it because I get to care for others on my own terms. It's such an honour to care for someone in their latter years. The good people always leave but not enough is done to make them want to stay (I'm thinking local government as I've never worked much in the private sector).
I strongly believe that empaths should not work in healing careers e.g mental health, nursing, counseling because the emotional burden you take on will be too much. Empaths should choose careers where they are helping but not healing e.g. teaching, training, guiding, etc.
When Simon spoke in the segment about confrontation at work with colleagues and management and how we communicate, my heart almost stopped when I was listening this because it was just so true. I hope I can get better in communicating in my personal and professional life about boundaries.
I think the point about mindset being a privilege is super fascinating. I've come from a very privileged family - I'm from a middle class family in Australia, I always have the backup of moving back in with my parents and to have their financial support. But in so many areas of my life I struggle. And after listening to the podcast I've begun to consider that the mindset I was raised with may play a large part in that. I want to feel in control & empowered. But when considering the idea of living above or below the line, I often find myself falling into the victim mentality. Holding in my mind a disempowerment - when challenges arise my default is 'There's nothing else I can do.' And I think that comes down to the mindsets I was exposed to as a kid. My dad went around blaming everyone and everything around him for his anger management issues, and my mum just sat in quiet complacency, staying in the marriage and saying she is fulfilled by her friends so doesn't want to go through the stress of leaving my dad. This mentality has definitely carried on to me. And while I never went through physical abuse, and had the privileges of money and a private schooling, the mindsets I was exposed to when growing up weren't something that set me up with an idea of empowerment. Until I heard that comment about mindset being a privilege, it's never crossed my mind. It's a default setting in my brain that I have to constantly fight & educate myself via the internet on strategies to overcome it.
This is interesting I think having that financial parent net to fall back on also has been crossing my mind in regards to my lack of ambition/ motivation in life. I’m wondering how you are overcoming this if you’d like to share :)
I 💯 agree with this
Hi,I am 59, I have always had my father to fall back on,when he died, he left money to my sister and I, so even though yes I had some down times,homeless, drug addiction, but he was always there, so don't worry about your privilege,, we don't choose who our are parents or what life we are born into,this is luck,life is not easy,as Philipe Djan said "you can't live under the sky and not see a few clouds" !
me too. we share the same story. let me just say that never have i seen anyone share the same exact situation as me online up till now. it made me feel heard. like im spoiled but i sometimes remind myself km luckt/ we are meant for something great, we just need lost of time to grow. but there are definitely advantages.
Same here :) I'm come from a privileged family too. My parents have money too buy mostly the thing that I want. My parents always have backup plan for my career and my life. But they rarely told me hold to do things. I've learned much in book then real life. Whenever I wanted to learn things in life like cooking, singing, making songs on yt or traveling I always a the feeling that they didn't want me to do. Also they usually say "study first" and "you will learn that when you go to Uni". They wanted me to have a stable job (dentist) but I'm still not yet figured it out if I wanted too. Mindset isn't what I've been taught through life. I grew up having a fixed mindset and a big big ego. My mom also like to complain about other people's job. Like one of my friend that chose to study bachelor of music, she always says that he will had a hard time doing his job. I mean who doesn't have a hard time working...
I am currently 25 years old and then just listening and working. I realized that all the topics of conversation were similar to what happened to me last year, so I realized that I had learned the lessons I really needed for myself.
I’ve experienced what it’s like not having depression and anxiety and I also know what it’s like to have it. And it’s definitely made me more empathetic to what others may experience even if I can’t understand it because sometimes it’s actually a health issue no different than any other disease
same but thing is that I’ve been clinically diagnosed with depression by my doctor and recommend me go to counseling…another few sessions and look idk how many but that’s all he said to my mom. But having depression and anxiety has made me connect with the world in a deeper way and made me feel some type of way for some people struggling with it as well
@@mariamart_0 these days they’re fast to put an lable on a person. It could say 2 things, we’re wrong and we put a lable on them or we’re right and something is wrong except we don’t care
I agree that mindset can be a privilege. Take anxiety, for example. One doesn't wake up in the morning and decide to be anxious and fearful. It's built into us by various factors. We can work on it and you don't have to act helpless in the face of anxiety, but people who do not have that obstacle in the first place have a kind of privilege.
there are solutions though, and there’s plenty of ways to access information to find those solutions but do YOU value yourself enough to want to look for ways to live and deal with the trauma and problems you face. Can you look at yourself and say you believe you’re worth the effort that would require?
@@nabDoesTH-cam Oh Boy, I certainly would hope so! Yes, because Everyone is Worth It, they have the SelfValue to know that it's worth it to try stuff that you learn to do, to help it, help us, me, and soon understands the solutions.
Yes, my parents were very overprotective. I wasn‘t scared of anything and tried everything out. But it got worse and i ended up having anxiety over normal things 🙃
Weak mindsets are sewn through out the fabrics of the general public.
It needs to be, we can't run tests on the wealthy who can fight back.
People don't want us running tests on animals.
It doesn't leave much wiggle room for options.
Thus the general public and upper middle class will be the test subjects.
Upper middle class seems like the trap zone
@@nabDoesTH-cam bro ur rly not getting it. Pls stop.
Simon is a miracle to this generation...This man is totally out of this world. His understanding and how he thinks is just different...what a man!!
17 minutes in and I already feel like I'm having a therapy pep talk. Thank you for this, already hits harder than I thought it would.
Mindset is a privilege is one of those things that I strongly believe, and a major reason that I don't share what I think sometimes.
Some people will never know, because I know it through the experiences that I've lived that I can't simply put into words and give to someone.
On the other hand, this is where story-telling becomes such a great skill because strong story-tellers are able to convey the experience through their words. For story tellers their words are the paint to the canvas of the minds of their listeners.
Be grateful! My grandfather always said if you're grateful and respectful then you'll find your way out of anything life throws at you ...yeah this video makes me think he was right
49:23 "How do I get my employees to stay forever (and putting in the same amount of work as me)?" You can NEVER expect your employees to work as much as you like if it's their own company because it's simply NOT.It's YOUR company and when that "relationship" dissolves, you're the only one who gets to keep the whole company, they don't get to keep any part of it!
Thank you, finally someone is saying it!!!
Simon's idea is the same as Japanese work-style. Japanese employees normally see their company as their home and their colleagues as their family. And their vision is if you do your work do it the best way possible.
@@victoriamarfina9819 Yep, and it literally KILLS them! Not for nothing exists the term "Karōshi" which means death by over work in Japan. That alone speaks volumes about how deep worker exploittions runs there
I operate my company with transparency. My staff treat it as if it’s their own. They are rewarded with bonuses and most important recognition and gratitude .
For real and when things get tough companies won’t hesitate to cut your position no matter how loyal you’ve been.
Simon Sinek is an incredible speaker. First discovered him from his interview with Tom Bilyeu and never looked back since. But also have to appreciate the host for not interrupting! These podcasts are so long but they’re so worth the listen. Thank you.
I also wanted to add that I enjoyed this guest so much. A true thoughtful genuine person….something the world needs more of.
Waiting till someone can rationally receive a rational answer is something I wasn’t able to put into words, but something that I’ve observed as being needed in life.
Simon was the last lesson my mentor left me with “ study Simon Sinek “ then he past away a few weeks later . Best lesson in seven years
OMG my husband and I both were crying during the communication in a relationship when your afraid to say how unhappy you are but say nothing! We had just been through this and realized how things could have been different if just one of us had opened our mouth and said something! ( he had an affair and I found out) we’re working on mending things now! ❤️ 🇨🇦
Ouch he cheated on u? I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope your marriage recovers. Adultery and sexual immorality ruins so many marriages and destroys families. That's y God warns us against committing these sins. David had his best friend killed in battle so he can get with his wife. They had a kid together. he tried to hide what he did lol but a prophet named Nathan confronted him.
@@SnitchRat thats crazy bro
I like the style of the interviewer. He lets the interviewee talk and explain, without interrupting and asking questions for them to expand their explanations or points of view. Great interview.
Post covid, as a nurse and an empath, I isolate myself from my coworkers because all the do is gossip, complain, and tear others down. I did it to protect myself. Now, I am rarely included in anything. Because I am not part of the crowd. Interesting.
So many things i could comment on, but I will pick the biggest one for me. Mr. Sinek says " That is none of your business." He says it directly but without malice. Our interviewer fully accepted it. No probing, no contempt. Just "ok" That for me is huge. So often, and I learned this living in a foreign country, Americans will push u til they get an answer they agree with. For example, someone may ask you to join a group of friends out for a drink and you say No. Most of the time, they will push until you give an excuse they will accept. In the foreign country, you say No, and the group says, "ok" and they drop it. This was very respectful 🙏
Balance, the key word. I think our biggest struggle as people who bother to try to navigate our world along with being healthy and accomplished is to seek out balance. To know WHEN to give and WHEN to hold back and why to make that decision is the biggest part of solving this dilemma
This is probably the most honest and realist conversation I’ve heard. Great insight!
"Mindset is a priviledge" must be the most mind breaking thing I've heard, as if we're not in control of our own thought pattern. Our mind is the only thing we can control, why give that control away for- what, to not be held responsible for our own thought pattern?
Simon is a guy who's done a lot of therapy... Absolutely brilliant!!!!
When he speaks about privilege of mindset, I totally get it. There are things that you choose to do that are linked to your personality and some personalities make it easier to go through resilience and fight back and being strong or go forward in life. I have my own story about it; as I was the abused child in a toxic alcoholic family, I developed a kind of hate for what I experienced as a child and made (difficult) choices that led me to a better/stronger version of me. It was like to prove to myself (and to them) that I would NEVER be like THEM. My sister just reproduced the same family pattern because she was just feeling that "it was not so bad after all". We do not have the same mindset for sure.
Can relate. Parents were heroin addicts, from a young age I rejected their values and took in the literal opposite. My cousin did the same with his alcoholic mum. He ended up with values that are in line with "my" parents, and I ended up with the same values as "his" mother. He gets on with my folks FAR more than his own, and vice versa. Weird parallel of rejection of parents values, kinda fascinating how we both turned out tbh
Talking about how to deal with or how to have difficult conversation, setting boundaries and the difference between being honest and delaying the honesty. I like how Simon changed Steve's and my perspective of sharing/oversharing with people sometimes and we tend to do that quite often because we like to be understood.
I quietly quit my job 6 months ago. Less stress was the result and now I have time to find my next opportunity. Love this conversation.
About mindset being a privilege : Even Simon himself in the eample he gave mentioned that the person maybe learnt "not to be a victim" from their mother. Many people don't have that. Some people only have life or violence as their teacher. It doesn't give it a pass at all. I think we can acknowledge that mindset is a privilege while also understanding that while initial minset is not your fault, it is your responsibility. Noticing that mindset can be a privilege doesn't cheapen mindset but it does afford some empathy, understanding and grace for others. It helps us to better meet people where they're at when trying to help as well.
So empowering since I work in the soft development skills sector and I have these conversations everyday with HR, executives and individual contributors! I love being in the business of helping others.
That was so awkward at the end.
I learnt so much Steve, how you graciously and humbly responded to Simons boundaries and his honest vulnerability as well as I learned from the way Simon
stood by his own boundaries and affirmed them.
Both of you demonstrated healthy yet raw and honest communication skills and it was brilliant.
Absolutely brilliant podcast.
I don’t find it awkward at all but agree with everything else you said!
Not sure if this was written by an employee (or an outsider aligned with this creator and working to promote him), but it is very clever! Now I want to watch to the end to see what you are talking about! 😆
The intros to these episodes are like movie trailers. Nice work to everyone involved.
The more I listen to Simon talk, the more I respect him. What an admirable person he is... I wish I could chat with him everyday.
oh god, it's me. I'm 23. I just quit after almost three months because other people's stress became mine and I just couldn't handle it. I'm an introvert. I don't talk much to new people and they just keep venting and ventinggg about their lives. that's why I quit. So thanks Steven and Simon for this ep. I'm just gonna start thing over and not be stupid in the future.
I couldn't have thanked you more for opening my eyes. Literally today, I faced a problem of drastic changes in my schedule, and my first thought was exactly about boundaries and my limits. I started to consider it as a question of whether I respect myself or not, and in my mind, the answer was so simple. If I respect myself, I should stand up for my regular schedule. It sounds like so much, but when it comes to the truth, I'm just a person who is not responsible for managing a storm. It turns out that hosting a mainsail is definitely something that I put out of consideration when I talk about developing my career.
10:17 Brilliant
15:50 Also it pays to be self effacing, you have to make them feel that it was they themselves that solved their problem, and you have to encourage them in that thought.
Truly amazing over all.
“She needs to find friends colleagues etc that are committed to taking care of her”….resonates with me. I have the most amazing friends and work colleagues and I am super rubbish at taking care of myself.
"Replace relationships with jobs, all the same rule applies." Dang, he hit the nail there.
At the end of the conversation I think the host has never heard this kind of honesty before and I think it's important for him to hear it, it's not rejection but Simon really sets a very clear boundary there and it's very wise to do so. There needs to be a more of a purpose to answering such an intimate question than just having a good point in a podcast. This is how people should treat themselves with respect. If I'd asked the question I'd be grateful to receive such an answer and equally if someone asked me, this is how I'd answer.
"Gen Z are the least resilient generation because they won't give up their weekend so I can earn more money"
I will give up my weekend but I negotiate double time for my weekend because if I can't buy a house anyways in this economy would I really need the extra money? So I get paid double for my weekends. Gen z is the generation that just dosn't put up with bullshit it's like waving a gun at somone suicidal you think they scared of it or anticipating it.
Right, and if you work from home then he'll pay you less. Why would anyone want to work for such a shyster? Save the lawful evil trope for Darth Vader.
Great video but if you wanna be successful, you most take responsibility for your emotions, not place the blame on others. In addition to make you feel more guilty about your faults, pointing the finger at others will only serve to increase your sense of personal accountability. There's always a risk in every investment, yet people still invest and succeed. You must look outward if you wanna be successful in life, Successful people don't become that way overnight. most people see at a glance-wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life, 🙏🙏🙏
you've remind me of what someone once said "The mind is the man, the poor is in it and the rich is it too". This sentence is the secret of most successful investors. I once attended similar and ever since then been waxing strong financially, and i most tell you the truth..investment is the key that can secure your family future.
Starting early is the best way of getting ahead to build wealth, investing remains a priority. I learnt from my last year's experience, i am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time.
I urge everyone to start somewhere now no matter how small, this is literally the time for that, forget material things, don't get tempted,i became more better the moment i realized this.
Yeah investment is the key to sustaining your financial longevity but venturing into any legitimate investment without a proper guidance of an expert can lead to greater loss too
you're right Forex trading is surely a lucrative way to invest whether you want growth, leverage, stable income or something in between.
the fact that this is free is blowing my mind with excitement - i am 39 mins in right now and its awesome!
The segment on covid in the workplace is so true. I've seen it especially in my female coworkers (engineering firm) who vent not only about other coworkers performance but also personal relationships in an unprompted way. Now that people got so used to work and home becoming one place they've gotten really comfortable venting to coworkers and treating coworkers "like family". It's a really uncomfortable situation because it does lead to me burning out when I just want to focus on work and leave, but instead i'm having to set a boundary and tell people that I don't care about their personal problems during work hours.
I'm sure it's just the woman.
It would be the only place I've ever been to that men don't make their own drama. Cute misogyny you got there.
@@dacksonflux the only people that i've had to explicitly tell stop telling me about your personal problems, your miserable weekends, your failing dating life, or your favorite cat are the women that I work with. Not all the women in the office are like this but all the people that are are women, that's why i said especially not exclusively. my male coworkers have their own problems but it's not relevant to the topic of this video which is why I didn't mention it lol
Mindset is a privilege.
The stories we read of people turning their lives around are outliers not the norm.
You can have the strongest and most positive mindset but if the situation you’re in keeps opposing that mindset, you’ll have such a harder time to overcome your doubts. Versus a person in a nourishing environment. Yes those people can be lazy, but they are lazy because they can afford to be.
This is one of the best Simon Sobel interviews I’ve listened to in a very long time. I feel like he has really changed in his delivery and feels more connected and human.
I always love listening to Simon speak. He has been a huge motivator in my life since I started with his TED Talk and his books YEARS ago. Thank you for having this interview with him and bringing in some modern thoughts to current situations. I just subbed, thank you for the awesome content and I look forward to watching more!
Simon will make you a better person , if you are willing to let him......Without having meaningful conversations ; YOU ARE NEVER GOING TO BUILD ANYTHING MEANINGFUL IN YOUR LIFE.
That last commentary of Simon's hit me between the eyes. As a parent of a 27 yr old I have to stand down on almost everything and let it be, because everything is emotional to them right now at this age, culture and time; respectfully, we need to stop parenting and understand it is their life, their consequences, life and possibly death, is theirs. Very difficult, but always on standby as a parent. ;)
Sometimes people need to fall on their faces and eat humble pie before they can learn. This is especially true for the young adults of today who have been over parented and protected to the point of suffocation.
Sometimes people need to fall on their faces and eat humble pie before they can learn. This is especially true for the young adults of today who have been over parented and protected to the point of suffocation.
Sometimes people need to fall on their faces and eat humble pie before they can learn. This is especially true for the young adults of today who have been over parented and protected to the point of suffocation.
you had your time to parent much earlier if you gave up it for alien unrelated people later you can't do shit because these are somebody else's children
loved that. the ending taught people how to be happy and have meaningful relationships and realise social media is just a tool.
Simon is an incredibly intelligent man, could listen to him describe social constructs and concepts all day.
my physics teacher was the one who saw sparks in me and believed me . Having one such person really gave me meaning . 25:12
Great conversation. Worth every minute. The best is emotional intelligence with personal and work cases. That is wisdom for all generation and not just Gen Z.
Would love to see a podcast with Simon Sinek and Dr. Gabor Mate - great synergies between their work and so important with all society is dealing with
i find them to be miles apart mate' does not say alcoholism is a disease as this guy does.
I'd love it too. Sinek has a lot to learn from Mate.
Yes I agree.. I think Gabor is phenomenal and has a deeper understanding on most of the issues discussed
As a "member" of Gen Z, I think what Simon says makes a TON on sense. Throughout my life my goal has been to find meaning in the work that I do and to have that meaning was the goal. Whenever I do a job that I don't have an attachment to or that doesn't have any great meaning, that's when I tend to fall into the "Quit Quitting" style of work, or not responding to emails or wanting to work on anything overtime or on weekends. However when I have passion in the project I'll be there all long as I need to be and then some.
My dad would always tell me that its interesting that there's been a shift to people HAVING to find meaning in their work, having to have full interest. Naturally, I never saw that shift but hearing Simon explain why that shift has happened and what it was, really helped everything click for me. I don't know my neighbors, I don't really hang out with people much due to me working on my own projects after work, and even past that most of my other hobbies don't involve other people.
My question is, how do we as Get Z-ers combat this? Therapy seems like a clear option in order to avoid talking about personal problems in the workplace. Being more social would be a great solution, but personally I feel that it has become harder to be more social, like really social. But maybe there are some more suggestions to help Gen Z better themselves in the workplace.
Greatest thing I took from this: when addressing something that is “negative” be unemotional. When addressing a “positive” show appropriate emotion I.e. enthusiasm
51:38 What Simon says here echoes my expectations of majoring in chemistry in college. I almost burnt out during my first year because everything was new, but now during my gap year I realize not to keep my hopes to high and instead learn to love my field once I am deeper into it again
I also agree with the privilege conversation. As a manager of people for two decades, I have learned that anyone could do my job. The only difference between me and the guy running the machine is my belief that I can do more and do better. Changing others mindsets is one of the hardest things to do and that is why it is a privilege if you happen to have developed a growth mindset.
Simon you hit the very chord of my being by stating that: The very thing we do to serve or help others in need is the very thing we needed the most. I’ve always been responsible for my siblings and widowed mom, I would give home care, offer stability in the family and provide love, advice and affection in any way possible without expecting anything in return. My WHY was to help and serve, to love unconditionally but the “rub” of this why was I didn’t experience the same and romantic love has been so aloof, familial love grew I must admit but there is still that lack and I reached a point of where I grew tired and weary. I agree, everything we do to help others must allow “them” to remain accountable for their actions moving forward as well as remain committed to actually “be involved” and work together as a responsible team player. At the end of the day, we really need to make the Other person will really feel loved, and really feel heard, and feel seen. This is my greatest conscious practice : To listen more and shut up!!! 😊. I agree that it only takes just ONE person in our lives to say they truly love us for who we are (warts and all) and that will suffice to give us hope to continue fulfilling our Why’s!💖
Hi. I have been in the same situation as you have described. Although i like that I am able to take their responsibility I sometimes feel so empty that that giving attitude is not reciprocated back, although I should not be expecting much. Sometimes I just feel that I am not heard or seen for my desires and my lif goals by anyone. I have started to loose sight of what I want in my life since I have constantly catered to my family's needs. Its like I am searching for a roof sldesperately for myself that I have been providing to others forso long. Do you also feel te same sometimes and feel guilty of taking so much responsibility at the cost you own sacrifices?
this episode has made me subscribed to this podcast the empathy & understanding given to those from abusive childhoods, wow, i felt heard and seen just because i felt understood. Thank you diary of a ceo. Your intelligentence, emotional maturity and empathy and compassion is more then what a lot of self help authors offer
I had to double down on selfishness in my youth because anything I wanted, thought, or believed in was a "no, not for you." I am thrilled and living my best life now. I am free to make other choices. I've chosen love and people in my life. I look back, and I don't know if I could have done it much differently in order to survive. But, I'm grateful for the people who helped me to move forward
I think mind set is taught to a person through many ways. A child can be told on a daily basis from their parents n or teachers or any other mentor that they are smart, powerful, that they can accomplish anything they put their mind to. Also to be told to love themselves and others, respect n that bullying is hurtful etc; That child has more of a chance to become an adult with a healthier mindset then someone who is not told those things or is taught the opposite. That’s my take on mindset privilege. It comes to mind even more when I say or I hear someone else say “I wish I knew then what I know now” my life would be so different”. Privilege of money or status or looks will not give you inner peace n true inner confidence
This is great. We run a design and tech agency, fully remote. The best thing we did was set up a discord server that we all live on. Most of the conversations have nothing to do with work. It was a surprise to me, but now i see how valuable it is to look after each other, especially at a distance. I speak to our people on Saturday afternoons about random stuff, and we are way more productive per person than bigger companies. I am going to pursue more ways to make remote workers present in each others lives.
What do u guys do?
i am Gen X and i disagree with some of the things Simon says. I have stayed loyal to the company, worked hard, came in on weekends to complete jobs if need be. Stuck there for 8 solid years and didn't ask for a raise. They retrenched me when the O&G industry didn't do so well. That isn't the first time i got retrenched either, when i was much younger the same happened. So now i don't feel any loyalty to the company and set my boundaries as well. Not as much as Gen Z does it but... we set our boundaries nonetheless.
We also don't talk to our bosses about raises because they have a fixed mentality and refused to give us a raise even though we are doing more than 2 person job when my colleagues resigned. I believe the best option is just to look for a new job when the current company don't treat you right or pay you enough. Why waste your effort talking to a boss that won't listen or see value in you anyway?
As I just commented, an employer complaining about 'unloyal' employees after the employers themselves destroyed the idea of 'job security' in the last 25-30 years is just rediculous.
Gen X here. I just resigned from my previous job because it took toll on my physical & mental health. New abusive boss was the last straw. However, I agree with what Simon said. A lot (not all) of Gen Z seem have less resilient than the generations before them because they have the opportunity to jump from work to work much more easily. Is it good or bad, only time will tell, because at the end it will be decided by the supply & demand law. If more jobs than applicants, the applicants have the leverage, and vice versa.
@@TAWD7890 Not to be that guy, but as a younger person, nothing irks me more than jobs that use "seniority" to mean anything. No job should be secure, the security should be on you yourself performing optimally within the job, don't, then get fired. Too many older people who do fuck all are hogging jobs they don't deserve cus they literally are too old or fat to move with any sense of speed. Us younger people get lumped with more work for the same pay and employers wonder why we keep leaving lmao get rid of seniority for a start, what a joke lol
@@cammokyle On seniority, I'm pretty sure you'll have a similar outspoken opinion about 'seniority' but with diametrically opposing views in about a year or 25 😉
@@cammokyle On topic:
What I mean with 'destroyed job security' is not ending meritocracy. Obviously.
What I did mean is that it doesn't matter if you do your job good or not. 🤔
You don't get fired because you do your job wel or not.
You get fired along with a 1000 others because that might cranck up the stock exchange rate.
The poor board and the majority shareholders need supporting! They can't be losing virtual $.
And for the sake of their bonus, they need to act!
And these folks actually dare to expect LOYALTY from the employees that remain, but could be fired just as easely if it means a higher bonus for the board members next year. Really? And they dare complain about it on a youtube channel about not receiving loyalty when not handing it out or rewarding it themselves.
That was my only point: loyalty works both ways, or not at all.
I agree. The younger generations don’t have the perseverance to endure the storm. Try to teach them that it is an excruciating process. I love Simon Sinek; he has such amazing insight!
So many people didn't get the one person. The cracks in the social system are huge gaping holes. I've met so many gen z that are struggling and had no one, I'm gen x and it was the same for me. There's not always that one person for us growing up.
“Mindset is a privilege “ A BRILLIANT observation. As a W.OC. I’m intrigued. As a cultural, spiritual, energetic practitioner I’m called to sit with this question. NOT only based in financial or regional experiences 🎉🙏🏾 Open one’s mind and walk away from the traditional definition of privilege to relate to, hear what you’ve come upon with that comment-question about mindset as privilege. Please continue to explore with self and in other interviews. I’d LOVE to continue this conversation. I sense there’s so much in this question.
Great questions, great feedback. I especially appreciated Sinek’s views on separating work life from personal life. Rather than broadcast online, he holds vulnerable conversations. I have so much respect for that. Wonderful questions as well, Steve. Like Sinek mentioned, you asked profound questions unrelated to his work, to which he had to “think out load” and answer. So fun to watch. Thank you!
In reference to, 'Is mindset a privilege? at 19:44, I'd say, yes, I can agree that it's possible.
My understanding of the initial question, was not in the sense of external factors, but more so of personal experience.
Here's an example of that
My brother went through a divorce, would talk about it often, he took it hard, but whenever he'd bring it up, my responses would be along the lines of, "it probably wasn't meant to be", "you'll be okay", "god knows best", "you're probably better off" etc...
At some point, I found myself going through a divorce... and it wasn't until then that I realized, I never had a clue what he was actually going through... Not until I experienced it myself. So here, I would say I was privileged-minded, not that it was a good thing, but I think that's what was meant by the initial question.
And in that sense, I can fully agree.
I can also agree that external factors can and do play a role, and what we make of it is completely up to us. Though, if you were to be hit by misfortune after misfortune, over and over again, it could become much harder to keep that positivity. If you manage to pull through, you'll come out better for it. That's where the balance would come in. But this may directly affect your mindset. If you are fortunate enough to not go through that, here, you could also find yourself in a privileged position, also resulting in a privileged mindset. Even considering external factors. The possibility remains. So my take on the argument is yes, it's possible.
I'll finish watching the podcast now 😁
Simon, your instance about one of your friend come to ask you for help, and you reverse in the end that spend 90 mins to talk about your stuff and seeking her advice, which cheer her up much more then you help her! This did inspire me a lot. Thank you so much, I can feel your genuine
As an INFJ myself. I can totally say Simon is an INFJ personality type for sure! I'm listening to him talk for the first time and it felt as if I was the one speaking. I relate to almost everything he says and have been saying the same things throughout my life. Honestly such a lovely podcast! Thanks Steven for speaking with him 😊
I’m absolutely going to rewatch this mind blowing interview. One time is never enough!
You covered so many aspects of being a human in today's society that my brain was just ping-pinging as I absorbed your thoughts, reflections and personal honesty on young people (Gen Z), work, and relationships. Genuine curiosity for the genuinely curious. Thank you both
This is actually the best interview I’ve ever seen. As a gen z, I really had these questions that I really wanna ask about. Through this conversation, I seriously learned a lot. Genuinely thank you. I never knew about both of you before, but I’m definitely going to check out this channel and the book ❤
This CD is very calming th-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq the first meditation focuses on breathing, the second guides you through the Buddhist metta bhavana--loving kindness to all, and the third is a meditation to be used when walking. him is originally from Scotland, so there is a little accent to his voice, but it is very soothing and not at all distracting. If you are a beginner to meditation, this CD will walk you through all the steps of relaxing and breathing as well as sending out the positive thoughts of love and kindness that will be returned to you. We have several CD's, but this one is a favorite that we choose most often.
As a teenager with my own experiences with mental health issues, perfectionism and all that stuff... I have come to realise that sometimes silence or noise are not the only ways to respond to pain or pleasure. While they may seem inherently deceiving--such as watching more videos on how to overcome anxiety when the answer just lies in you (a kind of external noise that one is internalising)--there are other ways too. Ways that lead to self-connection and awareness. I have found that being a little kind to yourself is how it starts. And just letting yourself be. It works. This is what I loved from this podcast episode in a very indirect and implicit manner. I loved it. Thank you.
You don't have to be a roaring lion, a laughing hyena or a traumatised cat. Be like a wolf. A fox. Choose to howl when you are alone. Maybe that will help.
Simon, I find you deeply authentic, honest and socially brave. Heartfelt thanks for your time and energy here. So much appreciation. I feel braver in my approach to personal circumstance for having listened to you today.
Simon continues to elevate my thought process and human understanding
He's full of shit, though. Like, he makes up everything that's coming out of his mouth. It's all made up.
On 53:00, I did Simon's advice and it worked. I was promoted and given a very big raise.
Well done.
Simon Sinek has been my obsession for the past few days and the questions you ask him here are just spot on, amazing interview
"Expectations are premeditated resentments". A provocative statement that gives one pause. Honest communication, with self be others should result in reasonable expectations.