Put YOUR Assumptions to the Test... Interactive Tell My Story
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ม.ค. 2019
- This time, YOU get to help tell their story and play along with the video. Test your assumptions by answering poll questions about the daters.
It’s certainly easier to make assumptions about people than it is to spend time getting to know someone. We wanted to put assumptions to the test to see what we're missing out on because we're so busy assuming we already "know" a person. Join us as we discover why you should never judge a book by it’s cover in our series 'Tell My Story.'
We are all conditioned with certain biases. In this experiment, we challenged these biases by asking people to guess their blind date partner's interests and past experiences based only on their partner's appearance. When they learned their partner's real answers, they were shocked by how wrong they were.
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They both seem really genuine but yea no chemistry at all lol
Are you kidding me? They both showed interest in each other at the end. And he kinda perked up with happiness and hope. I think he is just suffering some sadness or depression because of his last marriage or his brother dieing. So he doesn't really expect good things form a relationship so thats why he doesn't even want to try to date her because he only thinks sad thoughts. BUT SHE has hope and likes him so keeps trying and thats why at the end he perks uP :D I honsetly think there is chemistry he just needs to let go of the past.
@@addiej5497 I think they have some differences and he might be right to say no but part of me thinks that he might be thinking so much about not wasting precious time he might miss out on a romantic relationship. He's obviously had at least 2 major losses in his life. The death of a brother and his marriage. Personally I've lost both my parents which was hard but they were older. One of the hardest losses I've had was the death of my friend's daughter who was 15. It was sudden. There is something about the loss of young person and when my marriage ended by mutual agreement I felt like my insides were being pulled out of me. Hopefully he has seen a therapist to work out the loss. In the end he might really had no at first sight attraction.
@lifetobelived i'm sorry to hear all this . it must of been hard. losing your parents and divorce. and as i was reading your comment i was expecting from it a depressed opinion about life . but i didn't find any and instead you were more considerate about him and very positive in general and i love it!!! so let me tell you that you are a strong person , i know you've been through alot and i know you will find happiness at the end of your road
@@cm7403 it's really pathetic to reply to yourself on a different account
@AddieJ HAHAHA! this made me laugh so hard, you know what's really pathetic? when you think you're smart but you're not.
When he spoke about his late brother, you could see the genuine sadness on his face :( rip
I feel she missed the chance for nurturing kindness there. However it could have been editing
Yes, you know he was about to cry when he cleared his throat
Your profile pic is trippy
Yea he was devastated about that experience.
when one side rejects the other it just hurts so much to watch probably because i fear rejection
Kat that’s very self-aware of you. Relatable!
I have always felt men know more when there isn't a match.
When you start dating, rejection becomes a familiar bedfellow and it doesn't affect your choices as much.
Everyone fears rejection. If you're not afraid of being rejected, then you don't want it enough
Messofanego i date, i still fear rejection
This dude is quite attractive
My jaw literally dropped when I saw him haha
Yes and heard
I think by dancer, he secretly meant stripper. Cause his physique just screams, "STRIPPER!"
He’s Italian he’s obviously attractive
And who would be nuts enough to let him go!!!!!
“I killed it” - me when I get all the answers wrong. So relatable 😂
I think they purposely mismatch people
Oh... they wouldn't because that would mean... people would talk about it furiously in the comments, they'd generate views on purpose...
noooo.. that's absurd
Haha we do our best to match them up with people we think they'll actually like! But it's harder than you'd think to match people up when we've only spoken to each of our participants once before we match them up.
@@Participant you should do people who are equally attractive and see if they like each other still after the assumptions
can't you just see who is more attractive immediately like in this case the guy is a lot more attractive hence wouldn't be attracted to her in such a small timeframe?@@Participant
@@kr9256 Attractiveness is not measurable. It's completely subjective. YOU think he is more attractive than she is. Not everyone is going to feel that same way. You're also throwing his integrity under the bus by suggesting that he, who very CLEARLY said that he does not choose partners based on shallow things like physicality, was rejecting her based on her looks.
When he said “thank you” I knew he said no to the dating question.
That was actually kind. He appreciated the feeling of being liked from her even if he didn't feel the same way. It kind of like having an unrequited crush. Then you just to enjoy the fact that you got to crush even if it was disappointing.
she was attracted to him, he wasn't attracted to her.
i was attracted to him too, even i am guy!!!
I feel like most (straight) women will find him attractive. He is gorgeous.
IKR, even tho at the opening I guessed it'd be the other way around.... he got more confidence than her, but he does not come off as genuine at all
@@lovisamaanmies2983 I agree.
did you find that out yourself?
"I was a dancer" ... biggest burn
Aka .. "I AM into preforming arts "
but there's no chemistry
OMG I CRINGED SO HARD.
What's wrong with being a dancer !nothing
Then again I only part way thru
But the guy performs a different type of dance. If you know what I mean. [*wink*]
TBH he kinda look like a stripper.
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@@dreamyrebel okkk.....
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@@dreamyrebel lol
She was still tryna shoot her shot at the end. "I was a dancer."
Soooo persistent
Lol so awkward, although I definitely would've done the same if I was a dancer and was rejected because "not into creative arts" haha
look at him, I don't blame her lol
Can’t fault a girl for trying
IT seemed like it worked too.
I could never do this LOL I would just dissolve into the ground once the guy said ‘when I first saw you I would.... not date you’.
Lx A BUT after speaking to you I would.... not date you.
I know that’s right! Basically, I would wonder if they thought I was too ugly, fat, pale, tall, wear too much makeup, and all of the other PHYSICAL things...if they reject you in the beginning, it’s physical.
@@MissBlueBeauty pale skin is attractive to some.
Tobi Ogunsanwo very true! I think pale skin is beautiful!
Lmao
She is not his type
I do not think anyone will be his type
He clearly said that
what's a TYPE
@@aleksandrdostoevsky6621 a type is a preferential type of partner a person wishes to have
@@coppersulphate002 there is no TYPE though
Yes the guy is hot but can we just talk about how happy joyful sweet open hearted person this women is!! Idk she just gives out that perfect really innocent never been hurt and lovely vibe!!
First guy: I want someone who's not focused on superficial looks.
Girl: I think it's important someone takes care of themselves and cares about the way they look...
Soulpancake: PERFECT MATCH
Morgan Friday lmAo
She never said they had to be attractive, she just said she wants someone who lives a healthy lifestyle and puts effort into their appearance.
And then everyone in the comments says he's better looking than she is and that's why he rejected her. #humans
@@beatnickblanket Yeaaaaah, I think that was his diplomatic way of saying "sometimes you feel like a nut; sometimes you don't!"
@@okaygee4132 ...I don't get it. You're saying he's bisexual? I mean first of all, who cares, second of all, who cares?
I dont like this editing the old ones were nicer better flow
“Don’t speak”!
Lmao
He just wasn’t into her looks
Yeah, he looked like he wanted to get out of it as soon as he saw her. But honestly, she looks beautiful.
She is beautiful and yet he as a creative one knows inside what one would be like as an intimate"dance partner"
@@bridgettleigh2912 She's not your traditional beauty, but she seems kind and pleasant. Yet, I don't think he can tell what the sex and intimacy would be like just from her appearance.
In the words of Billie D. Williams "Don't let the smooth taste fool you."
jelena m yep
Yeah cause girly a twig
he just knows what he wants 🤷🏼♀️
He thinks he knows what he needs
@@coppersulphate002 we all do
@Ron Samba for sure he knows what he wants. I am not arguing that. But I highly doubt that he knows what he needs. Wants and needs are not the same thing. You need to know yourself very well before you know your needs
@@coppersulphate002 blah blah... Who are you to make that conclusion? ....
LOL I'm convinced they purposely put complete opposites together that wouldn't match 😩😂
They were pretty similar actually.
You should watch their behind the scenes video! Sometimes they have to scramble to find someone last minute plus it is hard to find a good match!
Why would they purposely do that? Who wins in that scenario?
@@illillyillyo everyone wins in that scenario. The participants get paid, the company has a entertaining product, and we are here (as we all are) to be entertained.
Movies, sitcoms, and reality shows have all used this concept, from The Real World, Survivor, to Big Brother, just to name a few...
This is more of a social experiment than them actually trying to match people.
The interactive format was cool.
“Not into the performing arts”
“I was a dancer”
🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓
It’s interesting how many people are obsessed with whether they two walk out on a date at the end, but i think the whole purpose of this exercise is to break down assumptions and by anticipating and discovering the other person, better understand our own selves. It’s not the end that matters, but the process and reflection.
I sat straight up after seeing their postures lol
Not saying she isn't attractive, I think she takes very good care of herself... It's just the guy is like a super model with a sexy voice and a logical open minded personality, he could get anyone he wants. He just wasn't attracted to her, and also they are total opposites to the extreme, not too much chemistry going on because of it.
@K Dubbs You draw WAY too many false assumptions from this video.. you have NO idea what he's looking for in a woman.. yeah the lady was nice and she wasn't by any means unattractive, but a man isn't allowed to not be attracted to a woman? rofl get real.
@K Dubbs I think you have a complex about something completely unrelated to this man and are projecting.. just keep your insecurities to yourself dude yeesh.
He's overrated. He's a 7.
@K Dubbs Looking back at my comment I was very misleading the way I wrote that out, I actually would thumbs it down if I ran into it now haha. I totally agree with what you are saying. I think I meant to say that he shouldn't feel like he should have to settle with a certain girl out of lets say desperation. I don't think any guy should have to, regardless of their looks. Sadly many guys end up doing so because they lack the confidence to believe that they can eventually get what they are looking for. He should have no issue going for these types of girls. Even though she is also attractive and well put together, their personality's don't match and he shouldn't just feel the need to go for her based off her looks. He has a lot going on and can pretty much easily find what he is looking for. Feels a bit condescending saying that but I think that's what I was going for lol.
Also now that I have re-watched this video, I think they have more in common than what I perceived the first time. They could have very well been compatible, not sure why I judged it differently before. Maybe it was based off the stupid differences like karaoke and Halloween... I just don't think he was physically attracted to her, which I do think is reasonable and plays a roll when in the dating scene. I don't believe that defines a person. I agree with you on some level but I don't agree that he is that type of asshole that is looking for a fine piece of ass. I genuinely believe that this particular man has some level of class and maturity and experience and is looking for a real relationship and not just a piece of ass to wake up to. There is nothing wrong with looking for a woman that you are physically attracted to. On the same note, everyone is going to have their type of person that they find to be attractive. Being attracted to someone can come in many different forms. It's not all about the looks, but imo there is nothing wrong with wanting to be physically attracted to whoever you are pursuing.
@@DJayAce4 its not rocket science. Its simple. She liked what she saw but he didnt. If and only if he liked what he saw, she could tell him anything that is so unrelated to him yet he wudda still dated her. Thats life. Its all about the physical attraction that gets u at least a 2nd date
So you also changed the camera settings... Well unfortunately... it's not very appealing. You can't see their faces - at least not good enough to see the emotions, to see how they look at each other.
Please go back to your roots, SoulPancake. I used to love this show.
And sometimes (in the inbetween interviews) the focus is not even right, so the person is blured and the background setting is clear.. That's just bad camera work. Hope you get it right soon. It's not fun to watch anymore.
jeez chill a bit? They are only humans
louvillages I agree with you completely.
louvillages yes i agree whats the use if we cant see their reactions
You all need someone else to match these dates. There was zero interaction. Both are beautiful and interesting it can't be that hard.
"I sensed that we were too similar" what no opposite
Yh, really did not seem similar to me at all
They were extremely similar. The have similar views on marriage, dating, religion, pregnancy/abortion, they were similar in age - hell, they even both danced! He just wasn't physically attracted to her.
Agreed. She was blinded by his looks lol
Nice name you got there
Don't worry girl ....u r a smart independent employed person...u will find better men who have a real job like you♥️
hes so intriguing and mysterious!
yeah...he'd break my heart
@@eve2000daley I agree with you!
lady boner to the max
@@eve2000daley ugh
Eh, it's just the accent. Foreign men can be jackasses underneath that
Looooool that last part when she SAID “ I WAS A DANCER “ was a last minute reach 😩😩😭😭😭😭😂😂
Nah, it was more of a "Well you got it wrong" kinda thing...
@@jojobee42 nope it sounded like a final attempt
IKR, it made me feel so bad for her.IMO she's beautiful af and seems to be a really genuine/kind-hearted soul. I sincerely hope someone will show up in her life someday to show her that she deserves better~
Nahhh
I don't thinn it was about her looks
Its confidence
He likes people that are sure of themself (genuine, says what's on their mind) and that's not her vibe
When Ottavio talked about the loss of his brother and you see the emotion come over his eyes in recalling him and the impact of the loss, it really resonated with me. The ‘baggage’ he spoke of is real, because I have it. I lost my sister to a disease that took its toll on her; it’s hard. Even when recollecting a few years later. That part stayed with me in this interview. Ottavio and JJ seem like really nice ppl, I hope they meet someone who makes them feel special and loved. ❤️
How is your family dying considered your baggage to other people ? Ps sorry for your loss 💔
sing to me Paolo
Lmaooooo
YAAAAS, hit me with that Lizzie Mcguire movie reference!
BetterThanBill 😂😂😂😂😂
This is the only good comment on this video 😂😭
Lmaooo🤣 *This is what dreamssss are made offffffffff*
his accent makes him 5X sexier
It's the second time I see that a guy says:I don't want them to be superficial. But then decide not to date his blind date after first sight.
I mean, that's perfectly fine if you are into some types of people, but then just stop saying crap like "I don't like superficial people" in the first place.
I feel like those are different things though? Disliking when people care too much about their own looks doesn't mean you are attractive to the whole world.
@@MissGio12 Well, like I said, it's perfectly fine that you don't into someone's appearance; but then that's called superficial, which is fine though. The only problems is: don't talk about craps like "I don't into superficial people"while he himself is the one who turns someone down at the first sight just because her looks. He didn't even get to know her, he is exactly what he said: "...only you know, in love with physical things."
He is superficial, which is fine, just don't like that he says he doesn't like superficial people while he is actually being one.
@@user-pr3jb5rx7z I get what you're saying. But if I say "I dislike superficial people" I would mean that I don't like people who spend hours in front of the mirror obsessing about themselves. I think that's what he meant by it, I could be wrong though and in that case I agree with you
I think so many people misinterpret what “superficial” means. It doesn’t mean this blown out of proportion person who’s obsessed with their looks. It means that someone is drawn to appearances rather than reality. That could mean physical looks, money, etc. So he does kind of indicate a bit of hypocrisy here: he says he dislikes people who don’t go beyond appearances (superficial), but then preceded to close himself off and not really open up because he’s not attracted to her right off the bat. Like you said OP, he just shouldn’t say that in the first place. So many people would benefit from embracing that they are in fact shallow in some ways, it’s not bad to not be attracted to someone. It’s bad to deflect and pretend like there’s a possibility when you really just want to say “no.” SoulPancake videos remind me of how difficult talking to people is lol.
Well said
I didn’t get a strong couple vibe, but I like how they had a mature conversation.
Him: “I need someone more in the performing arts”
Her:
*i was a dancer*
"Nice sweet woman"= zero attraction.
Now as a male watching him I could see he was checking out her body so Italian boy didn't see the package he was looking for
"Looking with someone with art" ya right 😂😂😂
And he was the one you said he didn't like superficial people lmao
keem g high five.
@@ThisIsMissCheeky he may or may not be superficial but she doesn't look healthy or fertile and doesn't think she wants to get married. He wants to get married and probably would like the option of have children especially within Marraige.
Not being superficial doesn't mean having no preferences or nothing that isn't a deal breaker, it just means looks is not the only factor and you are open to getting to know people who may not be physically your preference to see if you are compatible.
😂😂😂😂🤣🤣
@@ThisIsMissCheeky people who say that are liars
aw they both seem like nice ppl though
can you guysl stop mismatching people on purpose
I feel JJ on the whole marriage thing! Especially if you get real close to getting married to someone you thought was “the one”.
Im so not secure enough to hear so after seeing you for the first time i wouldn't date you, and after getting to know u definitely wouldn't. I would turn into a puddle
Mush Room same
Hahaha
Right? I would wonder why too like what didn’t you like about me
Guys have to face this reality on a daily basis. Guys often have to initiate conversation first when talking to a girl and often get rejected.
True enough with Italians, straightforward and Romantic the same time. Knows exactly what they want
we are italians from italy.... and i know very well what are you talking about... :P
@@bucran0 :)
I feel like he wasn’t really attracted to her ...
It seems that he’s actually a kind guy. I didn’t think that I’d be into his personality but the straightforwardness works for him.
He is hot but I wouldn't date him, he is interesting but sounds narcissistic, kinda egoist and selfish, he's the type of guy who just leaves you when he changed his mind in an instant or kinda escapes problems, that's just my personal opinion, just my impression of him, no hates.
hellio ringos
That’s right
I was thinking the same
Hes the type of guy that wants looks or money he doesnt have much though but looks
I think she’s just to cookie cut wonder bread for him. He wants a girl with culture some spizazz. Like an exotic looking type who loves to dance or travel from Ibiza or Morocco.
looool, such imagery
I am LIVING for this exotic princess dreammm yasss 😂
CaapriceTube Basically he wants another Italian lol. I think he’d be more into Latina or Southern European women.
AndromeDa1 or maybe even a black woman
akeino xiong Yup!
I think this guy is probably the most attractive one they've ever had on Tell My Story. He's very endearing and intelligent.
I think they were compatible as friends. I loved the interactiveness of this! Keep it up Soul Pancake.
I like this guy, mature, straight forward, open minded, honest and kind!
People in the comments are so RUDE... She is not his cup of tea and GET OVER IT.... it's that simple!
WOMEN CAN NOT HANDLE REJECTION.
@@gamalsankara1388 We have many stories of men who kill women because they refused to marry them
Being confident of what you really want is sexy.
I can't believe I am the first to say this but his voice is incredible. Not just the accent, it is deep and he speaks very calmly. I pay a lot of attention to voices and his is sexy.
i can say that this guy was one of the best guys i've ever seen in these videos.
This interactive thing is a really great touch
Same I love it. I want them to keep it
I'm in love with him. His look, the way he thinks...I'm in
we are italian from italy..... italians DO it better
I felt that rejection so bad, it burned my heart.
European people are so blunt 😭
Sam Mo what does that mean?
Greta Riccardi it means they’re very honest
They're both European :)
@@TriciawiththeTRUTH No. The girl is an American of European descent. Not the same thing.
wallawizard lmao right.
Why are all of the participants so boring or don't have any chemistry 😅
I think just most people in general are boring and don't often have chemistry
How are they boring? Maybe you’re used to reading novels or watching movies about quirky and eccentric people.
These have gone off in quality a bit but I hope they will get better
Imagine spending 6 years together and then breaking up 😭
I wanna get him pregnant! hahaha
He looks goodt.
Humanature who is a feminist over here??
Humanature lmfao stop throwing the word around.
They are both adorbs and interesting and I wish to know them i feel sad and curious about his brother
There was chemistry but no offense she is so thin I think they r both great and nice if friends but ya
He's very attractive ❤️
we are italians from italy ....we are foundamentally expressive
You both seem like nice and genuine people. I hope you will find someone who you are looking for and have that instant connection.
How is this interactive
you have to be on the computer to do it
if ur on pc click the "i" on the screen which stands for info and there you'll find the guesses
It works on the phone too! You have to press the "i" in the right corner.
@@candysweet434 No it works on my phone too
THE GUY:" superfecial stuffs isn't my thing" * reject girl because he is clearly not attracted to her physically
Yez he was probably talking about someone interested in superficial things like social media presence, makeup etc. He’s allowed to not find her attractive, while still maintaining that he doesn’t like people into superficial things. If you aren’t physically attracted to your partner it just won’t work.
They lie
EXACTLY. I like the guy and I'm not dissing him, but it's so OBVIOUS he dumped her because he wasn't attracted her physically. So he is more superficial than he maybe even realizes himself...
But most people have a certain look that they like. Some of that changes as adults get older because many older adults are more open dating someone who isn't our physical favorite or we might date someone who might be someone we wouldn't expect to be attracted to their personality but we are. I guess we care less about the little things and look at the broader picture.
Every men lol
His honesty is admirable
The guy is so sweet.....loved the entire conversation.
" He's just not that into you" is not only a movie, it is a life rule.
I somehow thought she would be the one rejecting him🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
i love that ya'll made this interactive!
I really enjoyed the ability to be interactive with the process and hope you do it again.
IF YOUR FRIENDZONED BY A GUY LIKE THAT YOU WILL NEEEEVVVER GET OUT OF THAT ZONE....EVER.
Looks and attraction still matter a great deal...case in point.
Wow, a nice feature, fun. Thx!
Great video SoulPancake 👍🏻
anyone else mildly annoyed by the length of his mustache over his lip?
I personally kept looking at that long piece of hair on the back of his head
same@@ctalley9667
YASSSS
Yes I was like wtf is that hanging over his lips 😂
Omg me too! Tought it was only me
He will date a superficially beautiful girl (20s) and repeat the pattern until 70s. Seen it all before 😴
Azaeliah of the South I fully agree. Especially since he’s already been married and likely effed that up cause he thought he could do better....
Yup he chooses the wrong type
@@cantrockthis Wow! You know what happened in this guys marriage? Two sides to every story. So jugdemental.
what are you talking about?
You realize how most women live? They date superficially beautiful men until they're 35, then marry and divorce a rich, average looking man. Now they have money, so they can go back to dating superficially beautiful men. Sounds like a nice life, doesn't it.
I love that we get to play along!!
These two are perfect for each other. I don’t know why he isn’t feeling it.
*bandersnatch has entered the chat*
i love the interactive!!!!!!
I find all of these Tell My Story segments very interesting. It is fascinating to see what causes one person to connect to another beyond the physical. In a way I think we all do this when we meet someone. Snoop around the crevices of their mind to see if there is anything there that binds us. I knew from the onset they weren't going to be a match. It's always in the eyes. The first moment when people meet. An energy.....
What a great guy!!
This was so fun! Please do it again! But without the intro in the beginning. Put it at the end. It have more of an insight of the blind part
Cheyenne Bennett ô
Lol he needs someone in the performing arts, I’m glad she said at the end FYI I used to be a dancer. The things we don’t even get to figure out when we close doors on others too quick.
I loooooove this interactive thing!
He’s so sweet and also very well spoken
"Who wants to deal with problems? Nobody." 5:32
Huge red flag.
Love his voice
Wow, she try again AND he said "You see, always something good" aww😭😍
I love the dude's accent!!! I could listen to him all day!!
His voice is smooth af
Please invite both these people back for another match.
I have a feeling if they decide to follow up with ballroom dancing his shell will start to fall. JJ is decisive.
I love the whole attracted by talent thing!
Ouuuuuu ok i like this its really cool
Good job SoulPancake ❤
Lool I love how she had to add that “I used to be a dancer” at the end because he said he’s into people who like performing arts 🤣
The fact that he avoids problems is so Italian (no intention of discrimination, I'm Italian)
They banged it out for sure
Guessed almost everything wrong, but loved their personalities so much