ExJW - Sexual Repression Growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness
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- I want to speak up about this Because it NEEDS to be talked about. I simply want to rase awareness and give a space for others to feel seen and heard about their experiences growing up.
This is the video and Channel that inspired me to share my Story.
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The elders finding it normal to interrogate young guys like that shows what kind of perverts they are!🤬 Much respect to you for being so open and brave for talking about this!❤
What a incredibly honest post. I am a 70 year old mother that woke up 3 years ago. My son had a similar experience. I am guilt ridden that it was because I raised him in the religion that he went through this. I remember him telling me when he was about 9/10 that he “was a sick kid.And meeting with the elders only added to his feelings of worthlessness.i tried to reassure him why that wasn’t true and that he was precious,special even But now I realize that it could not overcome all the indoctrination THAT I HAD INFLICTED ON HIM by raising him in this religion. His words haunt me to this day. He is in counseling & I hope one day he can truly feel deep in his core what a GOOD & and fine man he is. Your video broke my heart. I hope you too can feel deep down what a GOOD and remarkable man you are.I wish you all the best. You deserve it. ❤️
@@LynnVandervort hey Seriously thank you for your Comment, Glad you both have more clarity now thats what counts❤️🙏🏽
Hey Noah, Im an old guy of 75 years now, i was a JW in my childhood and up until i was 29. I had the same feelings about masturbation as you have had, thank God we both got out of it before our lives were gone! I hope you now have a good life and slowly enters into af NORMAL human living with all the joys and sorrows a normal life contains. I will love to follow you here, many warm hugs from Ole, Denmark, Europe
@@oleukrudt the thing is we all have these feelings.
Normal feelings that they’d shame us for.
You are doing so much good by sharing your experience.
@@CP-xj7kz thank you. 🙏🏽
@ im grateful for this community
“Anyone that feels worthless and like they need saving - they’re going to kiss up to the savior.” TRUTH. It is a 100% about control.
Dude just reading your title I already agree with your point…I was terrified to wear a simple spaghetti strap top till I was in my effing 20’s. So sad.
You’re incredible , your courage shines like sparkly diamonds on the water in the sunlight. I feel extremely lucky to know and hear your truth as a young adult growing up in a organization religion’s or otherwise that controls people by fear and guilt dividing family and friends. What a shame , time is precious. Maybe we all can become a little wiser as we grow. The possibilities are endless. Thank you once again for sharing such a personal experience. Keep on keeping on :)
@@vincetriscell5838 hey Thank You❤️🙏🏽
Excellent Excellent Video ❤!!!!
@@tammyg8031 hey Thank you. 🙏🏽
Noah, you are correct!
I remember the when the young people ask book came out and thinking this is ridiculous! Then the elders ask all the in-depth questions and I’m sure end up getting their jollies just hearing it.
It leads depression and self loathing which is already affecting young ones. Great coverage and thank you for your openness and compassion for others !🥰♥️🥰
@@evaarnold5838 hey Thank you for sayin that ❤️❤️🙂
this was so incredibly honest…how strong you are to share this.
i (F30s) left officially about 10-12 years ago, but i never really took the time to find like-minded exJWs, i was just focused on getting out and staying away. recently i’ve been looking more into nagging feelings i’ve had about our upbringing. i agree… it does need to be talked about. i always thought it was inappropriate that there were so many talks about masturbation and pornography given the number of children (like myself) in the audience. luckily i had no way of actually accessing porn, but the idea of it made me curious about this sex thing everyone was so weird about. i had access to other materials than the YPA and other publications about puberty so i was getting the “it’s your body it’s your business you're not supposed to share that with others” message more than the “this sin and your fault if you can’t control yourself” message, plus the messaging seemed to be focused, even in talks, towards guys. by then i’d already learned to keep the little bits of good in life to myself so i honestly never really felt guilty, but i’m extremely horrified to know that this is how others may have been treated because they thought they were supposed to ask for help because they explored and enjoyed their own bodies in private.
treating a child like this opens them up to so much sexual trauma and abuse imo. i can’t imagine letting ANYONE that isn’t a professional talk to a child that isn’t theirs about their masturbation habits. the idea that these elders are to sit down with a child that isn’t theirs, alone in a back room, about this is horrifying. asking all of those details... you're right it’s easy to see how grooming and abuse can readily spawn from these situations. i am so so so so so very sorry that you went through this, i truly am; but i'm also extremely proud of you for doing the really hard work to find your healing. sending you so much love and peace.
@@gatifloxacinkochi hey Thank you so Much for your kind acknowledging Comment. Feel seen and heard and Im glad that Im finally able to be honest about my experience. I truly hope the best for All humans and want to spread awareness, Kindness, and Peace. Thanks again for you words 🙏🏽🙂💛
Congrats for waking up and getting out ! It's huge ! It's such a big achievement in life !! Take Care, God bless Noah
@@muma6559 thank you my friend!❤️❤️❤️
How traumatic for a young guy 😢 When I was in the org, I remember reading that a couple's sexual activity helps to fill their needs. I would think, sooooo single people DON'T have those same needs???
@@Alisha-zq6vh yeah you cant win, god was blessing you with self control training but if you are married you must give the other their due because thats how it is. 🎃 Thanks for your comment ❤️❤️😀
Same! I thought the same ! Why punish the single people more? That is just so unfair! True! I had those needs since I was 12! It is horrible what they did to my life!!!!
Hi Noah, i hope you are doing well.😀
You seemed a bit down or maybe you were super serious in this upload. It is so good for you to expose the repression as i think many will recognise their own situation and then understand they are not alone. 🫶🏻
I love your bravery and honesty.
I am a mum that had 4 boys and the basis of the cult is guilt and fear. It is hard to overcome the indoctrination but you will get there.
Take care of yourself ❤️
@@mimiderooy8790 hey Thank you very much. 🧡 Yeah I thjnk its just the serious nature of the topic. Thanks for you kind comment tho. 💙🙂
Really good video, such an important topic, and takes a lot to talk about it. I want to make a video someday on this topic from my perspective as a female, because it’s one of the things that helped me wake up. And needs to be talked about more. After feeling that guilt and shame to extreme extents, for something that is very normal especially as a young person, will break you. Just got out this year, amazing how much relief there is when the shame is gone, and realizing we didn’t do anything wrong.
Totally get it. When I was growing up and attended the meetings this was by far the hardest thing to overcome. I would feel extreme guilt for doing it but it was too hard to stop. The repression did great damage to me. Thank you for sharing.
Noah it’s so interesting, all of us who grown up in the organization have no choices… obey obey obey
I’ve out of the organization for almost 10 years still struggling with this.
You were extremely honest going to the elders with masterbation issues. Geez, I can't imagine. I never went to them before I was married with similar issues or even after being married. I wasn't raised within. It had to be so devastating to your natural and healthy development as a male. I never realized how much awful, unhealthy bs born-ins had to go through not only with parents but with elders! Then, the questions the elders ask in such situations. Is it any wonder born-ins leave home, leave the religion, hurt themselves. JW young people get scarred for life....for what? For normal young people stuff? If there is a judgement day I hope that religious leaders like elders are judged very critically and thoroughly. I am sorry for all that you and probably every young person associated with JWs have been through or, are currently going through.
@@JD-nb4rp hey Thanks For your Comment. I really dont fault the elders, I mean, Grown men should grasp that what they are doing is wrong and I think they do on many levels, But they are following policy. Twisted sick policy. It Needs to stop.
Agreed 💯 percent @@superfreakinzoomedin
He was probably raised in a loving environment despite the religion. Plenty were so honesty is still the best policy
The elder story broke my heart. Here you were, struggling with all these problems. Punishing yourself for feeling certain ways, and the elder had the audacity to tell you what he had done so casually. That probably would’ve been my breaking point tbh. Glad you’re finally set free from carrying the burden of following all those rules.
@@CaroLynn-o2f hey Thanks for saying that. I think in a way it really did break me. But all those small cracks were fuel for my waking up so its all Good. :) ❤️
Thanks Noah, you have shared very well, in this video and others I've watched, how your thought process and sense of self was so adversely affected by the indoctrination and culture your high control group, JW. I put up with almost the same level of insanity myself as a young adult when I put myself in a different cult. My parents didn't bring me up in it; I chose it myself and it took some years to wake up and let myself start thinking for myself and get away from it. Thankfully, I had many friends from the "old days" who were still there for me when I came back to reality.
Good night, I can’t wait see yours news videos ❤
Completely agree with this. The shaming you get for for any acting out and the price you pay (privileges, embarrassment, etc..) drives people to hide it, which only makes it worse. The whole system is not only evil but counterproductive. Thank you for this.
Watching listening to your honest opinion my friend, keep sharing☺️❤️
I used to draw pictures of what it looked like to God and the angels when I would engage in that habit to try to shock myself out of doing it.... It didn't work... I continued doing that since I was trying to endure my singleness from my teens into my 30s
Exactly I suffered addiction because of the JW trauma, I’ve healed sense, but it was rough, much love bro ❤️
@@elliotpaul-music9899 Yeah, thanks for saying that Bro, Love Back atch You🙂💜✊🏽
That was almost my exact experience. It crushed me. And this was all around Sept 11. So the Armageddon propaganda was going hard
Amazing video, you are not alone brother, stay strong 💪
@@Tomato20208 🙏🏽❤️🙂
The boogeyman approach the borg associates with masturbation and then comes back with try not to do it again’ should be a huge wake up call to the youths to pomo out of this cult.
This religion destroyed my childhood i feel you 💯
@@richardstriker4893 I love you friend. 🤗🙂💚
Damn rights!! You took every word out of my mouth. Emotional castration. How do you know your attracted to someone you might be inclined to marry if not aroused? Then what do you do if you have no one in your life you are not only really attracted to, but also compatible with you want to settle down with? And then, how can you just be aroused ONLY "on" that day vows are exchanged during matrimony? What do two people do who are completely attracted to each other when spending time together up to that point? Go into hiding??? How can they not be aroused or express themselves at all intimately only until "the day"? So then they rush to marry just to have sex and maybe even marry the wrong person in fear of demonizing their own God-given natural desires God gave them? How can you marry someone or be attracted to someone you are not sexually aroused by? Then supposed to be a enuch up until the point you find someone to now mate with? Makes no sense. How can what God gave you, go into limbo as if you got some sort of on/off switch? If you have to pee are you supposed to hold that in too and not pee and be in constant pain?
They have double standards....the stories i hear about elders and others Who do way more worst than you...makes me sick...what if you can't find a spouse? You're suppose to mary just about anyone to just have sex????? No Wonder there is alot of divorces among witnesses...
You took every word out of my mouth. Psychological castration. How do you know your attracted to someone you might be inclined to marry if not aroused? How can you just be aroused the day you take a vow of matrimony or be only "on" that day vows are exchanged? What do two people do who are completely attracted to each other when spending time together up to that point? How can they not express themselves at all intimately? So then they rush to marry just to have sex and maybe even marry the wrong person.
You have a great voice and you’re very handsome.
I know it doesn’t matter but I’m reminding you of things that make “you” YOU.
@@MaryWallace-wv2bn hey Thank You. 🙏🏽❤️
You got some real baritone in your voice rare these days. ✝️Jesus is Still King #exJw4Life
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As a JW myself for some 35yrs plus but faded and joining when I was about 26, I always found the JW approach to "growing up" was very controlling and very suffocating. However its not only JWs in this boat - many religions are this was as well. My point here is that if you are a person who relies exclusively on the "organisation" to guide you on living insofar as education, working a career, dating , resolving personal issues etc then you will me mostly depressed most of the time. Ive seen this myself in many situations. To stay sane, my view is that you need to have a life outside "the organisation" be it thru work, sporting club, and non-JW friends. Otherwise you are liable to go troppo.
Somebody had to say it 💛
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They make you feel your eternal life is at stake if you do any of that. It’s an awful way to live.
Yep, Great way to get results from a child, Terrible way to exist!!🫨😵💫🙂↔️🤗
I mentioned and recommended your channel Noah on my channel Justin Porter ex jw.
Hey Justin, Thanks a lot man!:)) 💙🙏🏽🙂
Aldous Huxley wrote about a utopian place where children were free to be sexually active, it's titled "Island" - a good read
Since I was 12 years old, I urged to be loved. ANd I alway feel like I am missing something important out. It was so unfair how the ugly elders could bang their wifes every night and me, should not even touch myself? Like to touch myself is the bare minimum. Why should I have thoose feelings just to supress them over 2 decades!!!!!!! I wish, I could manifest there some rules, too!!
Really to have people pry into what you do when it does not hire others like that it purly a control thing on thire part.
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@@Belinha264 Hello My Friend!!;)) ❤️❤️🙂🫶🏽✊🏽
Life in a religious cult: guilt fear and control,
How is your relationship now with your immediate family?
@@chris-julian5537 Parents have cut me off completely, And most of the old friends and family I grew up with have done the same. With the exception of a few extremely kind souls. But the vast Majority treat me like ive died.
I have 2 friends that are Jehovah witnesses. One of them don't really care What other religions his friends are He doesn't push his religion on everybody else The other one Gets really pissed off When you tell him no. They told me one time that there were religions right and mine is Wrong All I said to Them was you're not going to convince me to turn from God.
they were stepping over a job that did not belong to them. The scriptures actually say that elders should confess their sins, not young people.
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In Walkill bethel, I encountered an alarming amount of repressed gay men. Come to find out, when marriage is your only other option, lest you be relentlessly question for why you aren’t dating when a perfectly good pioneer sister is standing right over there, bethel is a common choice for these poor self loathing folks.
You were a bethelite?
@ yep, for about 2 years
@@derekmaverick5986 Oh, why did you end up leaving? If you don’t mind sharing
Wow so many turn to homosexuality tsk
@@cuarto-pounder got caught sucking a dick in a maintenance closet
OPEN YOUR EYES JW !
Osea 4:6 Il mio popolo perisce per mancanza di conoscenza. Poiché tu hai sdegnata la conoscenza, anch' io sdegnerò d'averti per sacerdote; giacché tu hai dimenticata la legge del tuo Dio, anch' io dimenticherò i tuoi figliuoli.
Young People ask, "Is it wrong to rub one out?"
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