All three of the "friends" need a wake-up call about, you know, being sentient beings who think "I'm hungry, better get food" rather than waiting for food to magically appear.
@@potatospeedwagon3994 No. Sounds like they are being reasonable. If you can't afford to buy food, then you shouldn't live there. It's clearly way too expensive. If it's your only option, then ask for help. There are programs, friends, or family. It's not OP's responsibility to feed his roommates. Especially when they don't even ask.
Give me a break. They're not angry that Simon got hospitalized: they're angry that OP decided to put his foot down and stop giving them free meals. OP should move somewhere else and get rid of those leeches.
Also Simon's parents are the true aholes here. Bad parents always blame someone else but if they were so concerned why weren't they sending him money for food? I think a lot of people are missing that point.
Them: "HOW DARE YOU HIDE IN YOUR ROOM WHEN WE ARE TRYING TO LEECH OFF YOU?! HOW SELFISH CAN YOU GET?! WE NEED FOOD TOO!!!" Simon's parents are honestly disgusting. If they are SOOOO concerned about Simon not getting any food, they ducking buy him some damn food! Not blame OP simply because of the convenience that he has food.
The story about OP sticking up for his sister is scary. The husband is clearly abusive and it sounds like the wife has no choice but to endure this. OP is NTA, the wife needs help.
yeah it's his responses to stories like this that have been making me hesitant of this channel. there is no way that a*hole of a husband deserves the same rating as a rude delivery driver.
I agree and thought the same thing. It would be one thing if they were just having a normal argument and the brother got involved. However from this story this husband is verbally, emotionally and I would have to question if maybe not physically abusive. The brother's actions where small here, but with a big message. He did not attack his brother in law, he did not yell at him, he did not poison him, etc. He simply made an ass out of his brother in law to nobody but those in the house. He is NTA here. If this makes the husband treat the wife even worse, that is just one more red flag on top of a pile of red flags. Based on rslash's logic for this story had the brother seen the husband stab or beat is sister he should have just walked away as after all he is a guest in the house and shouldn't stop a husband from assaulting his pregnant wife.
I agree OP is NTA cause it was op's sister of all people, u have to defend family against people like the husband, yeah op is a guest but op is blood as well, it was more annoying op didnt say anything before
Completely agree here. You need to put yourself in the shoes of OP. If RSlash is giving OP a score, then does that mean he would do nothing if his sister was in the exact same situation? Something needed to be done, and what OP did was a brilliant way to do it. He didn't try to fight him, maybe just hurt his wittle pwide 🤣
@@Diamonia16 100% disagree. If the sister is being abused, OP's little stunt didn't magically convince the abusive husband to stop. If anything, it made him angry, and his poor wife dealt with that anger later. The plastic cutlery story is cute and funny BUT it doesn't solve the situation! All it did was piss off the abuser. OP needs to take his sister away from the situation and talk some sense in to her, and NOT rile up the person who could potentially hurt his sister.
OP: "My sister laughed." Rslash: "I bet you upset your sister." Swing and a miss on this one, dude. This guy literally makes his very pregnant, exhausted wife turn on his showery wowery fow his wittle toesies. He needs a much harsher wake-up call them he got - and no normal, compassionate guest would watch this behaviour continue without intervening.
eh disagree if the husband is abusive( this isnt my idea but others have said and i agree) then op shouldve talke to the sister and checked if she was ok or convinced her to leave upseting the abuser just causes more problems and it sounds like it didnt help at all it just cause more arguments. All tho he proberbly didnt upset the sister but he did not help the arguments and potential abuse at all and proberbly made it worse
@@gothicgolem2947 I can kinda see where your point is but it dosen't make OP an technical asshole because I feel like OP dosen't see the real danger of the situation I just feel like thats a whole thing on its own yeah OP messed up but OP didn't do this to defend her against abuse it was ment as a prank
For that first story: You're telling me that they had NO other food in the house that Simon could've eaten whatsoever? Simon intentionally starved himself, knowing that he has this medical condition, and then blamed the consequences of his actions on YOU? No. Unacceptable.
As a diabetic, I find it disgusting how Simon leveraged his illness in order to filch someone's food. It doesn't matter "how much he struggled to take care of it". I would never do that to someone; if I were offered to get food ordered and I hadn't eaten that day, I would ABSOLUTELY take up that offer!
Same here. I'll also help anyone with food or meals if they just explain to me they're broke, and/or diabetic, sick, whatever. Bread, peanut butter, and jelly can be a cheapish way to eat. Maybe not the best food, but at least it's food. I've don my share of living off PB&J, or Remen, or generic box of mac and cheese that around here cost $0.50 a box. I've used water in place of milk or butter when I was out of those items. Not necessarily tasty, but it was food.
Also, given he was at home, surely there was some form of sugar that he could consume in order to avoid a hypo. Even if you’re broke a pack of candy or cookies that cost a dollar would have already helped avoiding a hospital visit. Sure you could argue that due to poor management he didn’t feel the low blood sugar. But still then you might have checked your blood sugar if your management had been very poor so far
It's so confusing to me. When my mom was found to be diabetic, we made sure we had all sorts of candies and orange juice lying around the house in case her blood sugar got dangerously low. It's confusing that Simon didn't do that just in case, he instead relied on an uncertain source of food. What if OP couldn't get food that day? It's not just leveraging his illness, he's being incredibly dumb. He should of had foods with lots of carbs in case something happened. Like yeah, it isn't Simon's fault that he's diabetic, but it definitely IS his fault that he had that happened to him. A big bag of candy only costs $6, and it's not like he's able to eat it all in one sitting, that bag can last for WEEKS if he's only using it for emergencies.
Story 3: You say that's not his family to care about, but it literally is, that's his sister that has to put up with this good for nothing douchebag, she's 6 months pregnant ffs, who else is gonna stick up for her? Also OP is not really a guest, he's a hostage to the situation, he got kicked out at 17, where tf else was he supposed to live, on the streets, so he wouldn't disturb the marriage? give me a break rslash.
Agreed. Rslash f-ed up on that one. I'm an only child and I WISH I had a sibling that would stand up for me against an abusive partner the way OP did. My whole family is full of toxic people who just don't care about each other. Least of all me. I plan to go no-contact when I move out of my mother's house. And none of them will be coming anywhere near my wedding or be around my children. Once I take that step and start my life all over I won't have a family anymore. Just my In-Laws. I don't have an abusive partner anymore, my current one is an angel. But if I was in an abusive marriage who would stand up for me? No one.
i was so shocked at the "everyone sucks here" verdict because that's literally OP's PREGNANT SISTER. of course it's his business to defend his sister against this abusive asshole of a husband
"marital problems", the dude is straight up misusing his heavily pregnant wife and she's about to collapse from exhaustion, that's abuse. OP is not in the wrong for "disrespecting" him, it doesn't matter that they're living in the couple's house, that's a trivial detail. He's a jackass and he needs to learn that, and OP is a trooper for standing up for their sister. No wrong done here except for the husband.
eh disagree if the husband is abusive( this isnt my idea but others have said and i agree) then op shouldve talke to the sister and checked if she was ok or convinced her to leave upseting the abuser just causes more problems and it sounds like it didnt help at all it just cause more arguments.
@@gothicgolem2947 OP is 17 and the shit husband has a lot of control, it's not like he can do a lot or if talking to his sister can do much in the first place. Since having a baby can make it 100x harder for her to leave, which happens often.
@@gothicgolem2947 The fact that your going into multiple comments to try and make your point just makes me think your covering for your own abussive nature.
"This is not your home, not your family" this is literally OP's sister, there's absolutely no reason why OP should refrain from meddling in their "marital problems" when there's quite obvious abuse occurring right under OP's nose. Let alone the fact that we're talking about a pregnant woman - I'm pretty sure that the stress her husband is putting her under is far more damageable than any petty prank her sibling pulls on him. Not the a-hole, by a far cry.
Exactly, she's in a toxic relationship! Even if it's not his place to speak, literally the woman is pregnant and have been worked over time for this husband, it would be more of an asshole score if the brother knew and did nothing about it
@@mantekiyo3078 she wasn’t acting like a child, in fact it was the opposite. The husband acted like an actual child needing to be waited on hand and foot, and OP did something that could barely be seen as immature. He deserved to have a wake up call
You totally missed the mark on the gay brother one. Her husband is straight up being abusive, and there is no such thing as meddling in their marital problems when you are trying to stick up for your sister who’s being abused. Plus, she laughed when she saw that OP had given her husband the toy plate and cutlery, so I would say that he isn’t making her life much harder, and they probably would have ended up fighting that night anyway.
Yeah, that was my thought. She wasn't mad about it. Honestly, if the husband doesn't shape up, the sister should move out. It's not like the husband is helping with anything as it is. She'll just have one less child [the husband] to take care of.
About the gay brother staying at his pregnant sister's place: I completely disagree with you. Her husband is clearly being abusive, especially while she's pregnant. She doesn't need to put up with all this and she clearly is not in a position to properly defend herself. The husband is toxic and it's going nowhere fast. I think what the brother did was perfectly acceptable and might actually be the wake-up call that his sister needs to escape the abusive marriage or at least wake her up to the fact that they need professional counseling. Sometimes, outside perspective is necessary, especially in a potentially abusive relationship
i agree with you - op got a glimpse of what his sister’s husband is like at their home. its possible to assume he does this all of the time, and its made even worse when you consider not only is the sister pregnant so doing literally everything in the house is even more physically taxing, but the husband mightve been acting “better” than usual since there was a guest at their home. either way, this behavior doesnt just spring out of nowhere one day, its clear hes been abusing her mentally and emotionally for a while now
@@weirdkraken I completely concur. I never even thought about the issue of appearances. I mean, if he's willing to act like that around a house guest, what if you willing to do in private?
They never said they were gay though. Brother could be bi for all we know. Homophobes hate bi people too. Coming out doesn't necessarily mean gay but could be bi. Just saying that we shouldn't assume their sexuality.
If the husband is abusive, he will probably take it out on the sister. I agree that OP should help his sister out of the relationship, but, in the short term all he has done is enraged the abuser. And OP isn't going to be one taking the flack, it'll be the sister who bears the brunt of it.
*First OP:* Is OP supposed to read Simon's mind or something? It's not OP's fault that Simon isn't prepared. NTA. *Second OP:* OP's male family members could've unalived Tim by hiding his inhaler. OP is NTA and should go NC with her family. *Third OP:* LOL, -OP is kind of TA, but he's justified.- After thinking about it some more, OP is defending his sister. NTA at all. His parents and BIL are the -bigger- AHs, though. *Fourth OP:* Good for the OP for reporting the delivery woman's behavior to the restaurant. OP is NTA, but the delivery woman definitely is.
@@d.phantomfan1216 the only explanation is she hated the cold, snowy weather regardless of tip. If that has to do with her throwing a snowball at the door of all things to do in frustration. "Fuck this snow! It was nice and cozy inside. Nyeeh!"
For the 3rd story, you have to wonder how long that marriage will last if the BIL doesn't wake the hell up. His blatant disrespect and disregard for his wife and her well being is off the charts. Get that jackass to some counseling to work on his apparent deep insecurities. If that doesn't work or he refuses, prepare to be a single mom. When I was a baby my father came home from work and suggested that my mother (looking after 4 kids under 5) was sitting on her ass all day doing nothing. For the next several days my mother let us run wild and did nothing to pickup after us. My dad couldn't take it and admitted he was wrong. 🤣🤣 Believe me, he was NOT one to apologize or admit he was wrong.
Story 1: He literally offered to get food for Simon and it’s NOT OP’s responsibility to feed another grown ass man. Simon is fully aware he’s diabetic, he needs to take precautions for himself.
If op and simon gets the same amount of money and op is having some issues with money, then simon would definitely have problems too cause insulin and all of the supplies cost many thousand dollars a month
He cant just go to the store to buy food, if he has low blood sugar, you cant walk alone or you risk passing out somewhere alone+ with low bloodsugar your brain doesnt work, you vant think
@@Hraheheheha I can’t see all of your comments but closed mouths don’t get fed. Literally. If he’s struggling to feed himself he needs to actually open his mouth and say so.
There was a diabetic child in my class on elementary school. He managed his stuff like a pro, he asked for food around three times in four years. This seven year old was more mature than the guy in this story.
Yeah, there was so much wrong there that I would either think it was made up or that the delivery driver needs their head examined and their urine tested for drugs.
I used to drive delivery too and I once had a delivery that was so close I didn’t even drive over there because it was basically on the same little side street as the store’s car park and walking it over was actually quicker! This driver was probably just using OP as a way to vent after a bad day/shift. Pretty shocking behaviour either way though!
It is Simon’s fault. All he had to do is say “hey mate I haven’t eaten and I have no cash can we share and I will get you back next time.” Ramen is like a pound, bread, pasta, there are options but he chose to starve, why didn’t he ask the other roommates? Op is feeding 3 extra people who don’t want to spend their own money and scrounging off them.
My grandpa is a diabetic and he avoids carbs at all costs because they can make your blood sugar too high but your point still stands. There's always cheap food available especially if you learn to cook, it's a skill that everyone needs and they're making a point by not learning it
@@caicat722 The thing with carbs is it depends on the type of diabetes and the type of carb. Type 2 diabetics have insulin-resistance that causes blood sugar to go up, hence the need to avoid certain carbs, but their blood sugar can drop low due to their diabetes meds, especially if the person doesn't eat at all. On the other hand, type 1 diabetics don't produce their own insulin so their blood sugar runs low by default, and they tend to need carbs. Your grandfather is probably type 2 as that's the most common type that happens later in life, but since Simon is so young, it'd be a pretty safe guess that he's type 1, and if that's the case there really is no excuse. Potatoes, pasta, rice, and bread are all cheap...but even if he himself couldn't afford food, I doubt there's absolutely no food in the house at all.
Second story: that’s not a prank, that’s a threat to Tim’s life. He could have died if he needed his inhaler and they wouldn’t give it to him. Props to OP for having her fiancé’s back and standing up against her pathetic excuse of a family. My advice: keep the fiancé and dump the family telling you to get over it. Send them invites to the wrong place and, when they get mad, call it a prank.
Oh yes, get the pranks on! Tell them you're coming to visit and don't come. Ups, a prank! Send them wrong invites. Haha prank! Drive by and slash all their tires. Oh, sorry Dad and uncle, i just thought that was soo funny! Lets see how they like their shit served back to them.
Toxic masculinity and needless machismo at its finest. Sounds like OP's family members havent grown out of the frat boy phase,good one on her for tearing them a new asshole.
As someone who has lived with diabetes for thirty years I can assure OP that he is no way to blame for Simon's failure to look after himself. Simon is headed for a well deserved Darwin award and your room mates are idiots. He needs to find some adults to live with. As for the family who "pranked" the fiance, they do not deserve to be invited to the wedding. They do not deserve civility after slashing tires. These are criminals who deserve criminal charges.
1st Story: Let's be honest Simon is gonna keep having episode if OP doesn't stop him from stealing his food (What was the point btw Simon?) 2nd Story: Just cut the entire family out. Not worth any trouble. Hell petty revenge isn't worth it
Third story: The OP didn't "stick his nose in" to a situation he has to live with. And the Hsuband is acting like a child. OP shouldn't get any butthole score at all for standing up to his brother-in-law who is being an abusive a$$hole
The second story: My god, hiding an asthmatic's inhaler could literally fucking kill them. I'm so scared that my dad would do this to my fiance, who has asthma and my dad likes to "challenge" like that, too. New fear unlocked.
This was the fucking equivalent to shooting the father in the leg and leaving him alone for 7 hours as a “challenge”. It could have easily lead to Tim’s death on the way home if he had an attack on the drive back. These “macho men” need to have the fear of God scared beaten into them as a “challenge”. Lets see how the wittle babies react to their life in danger.
I don't get this "he was in his house, therefore, he can't defend his sister" argument. I mean, it's his sister's house too, even if he is the 'bread winner', and the sister was fine with being defended. Going through pregnancy and being a homemaker ARE contributions to a relationship. Furthermore, you don't just invite someone into your home then use it as an excuse to be the worst kind of bully you can manage to be. That's his flesh and blood. He has a right to feel some kind of way about this man child bullying his 6 MONTHS PREGNANT SISTER. There's also the duty of a host to make their guest comfortable. I'm so confused about this. We have the whole 'your home is your castle thing' over here in the UK too, but to my ear, there's something deeply toxic about the argument that once someone's in your home, you can behave in whatever manner you want, whether it causes the guest suffering or not, and not fear retaliation - PARTICULARLY if they were invited. Furthermore, it doesn't matter whether the sister invited him - they're a couple, so as far as I'm concerned, he invited him too. I don't know. It just seems to me like - what if I can just invite any random person into my house then make them and their kin as uncomfortable as I can manage, but they can't ever retaliate because it's my house? The husband sounds like an abusive, childish bully and he got put in his place, like he deserves.
Yes! To my ear, this smacks of an abusive situation, and defending the pregnant sister in a pointed (and not even aggressive) way sounded fitting to me.
I agree 100% What is Dabby thinking??? So Dabby thinks you should take abuse if you are a guest? I think Dabney feels he should take the abuse since he's a gay teen who had no place to go!1 I think Dabney must see gay teens as weak perhaps if he expects them to cower down at the bully's feet! Hell NO!
"Well it's his house you're disrespecting him in" Mhm and that's OPs sister he's actively abusing I love Rslash but man, sometimes he has some really bad takes
Your private marital business isn't private when you literally have a guest sleeping in the room next to yours. If you're going to get into a screaming match with your exhausted to the point of being considered physical abuse, 6 months pregnant wife, I'm pretty sure that's EVERYONE'S business.
Even if you are not a guest, getting involved can literally save lives. Just knocking on a neighbours door can be the difference between life and death. The husband is abusive, emotionally that is. And maybe even physically.
Yeah I call a bad take on this one. If my brother in-law mistreated my sister Infront of me like that then he'd be lucky to not get his foot in his mouth and my shoe up his ass. If that makes me the asshole than so be it. It doesn't matter the level of mistreatment. The husband was being a royal prick and deserved to get humbled.
Yeah, I have exactly zero idea wtf was going on in rslash's head during that segment. Homie normally is like "dudes an abuser, op is fine" but this segment has a brain work or two somewhere
@@musicloverepeat yeah it makes me think does he treat his own wife like that because he makes youtube coin and she is home taking care of the baby. Like you have a stay at home wife and you pay for everything. I don't think so but the thought has now crossed my mind due to this odd response
I don’t think you’ve actually witnessed a sibling in a abusing relationship. It’s heartbreaking and op has every right to put him in his place. Regardless
I get what you're saying, but OP totally went about it the wrong way. Antagonizing an abuser doesn't fix the situation; if anything, it makes it worse. If OP actually wants to help his sister, then he needs to sit down with her and talk to her about how screwed up her relationship seems.
eh disagree if the husband is abusive( this isnt my idea but others have said and i agree) then op shouldve talke to the sister and checked if she was ok or convinced her to leave upseting the abuser just causes more problems and it sounds like it didnt help at all it just cause more arguments.
@@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603 Sure, but antagonizing the husband also puts more stress on the sister. Now, in addition to all their existing arguments, she has to put up with the husband screaming at her because OP is disrespecting him in his own house.
@@CatacombD That is true but if the sister realizes she's being abused that would put a lot more stress on her along with the baby. It doesn't even sound like she has anywhere to go either sadly.
I love how the overgrown baby in story 3 is such a manly man that he feels it's beneath him to scoop up his own food OR START HIS OWN SHOWER! Does she have to wipe his ass for him too? He doesn't have a wife, he has an indentured caregiver.
Third story. I could agree if you'd said "OP handled it poorly by antagonizing the abuser and making him lash out even more, worsening the abuse on his sister." But how the HELL can you suggest it's not OP's business when it is HIS FAMILY that is being abused? Big disagree on your logic there. I mean, you literally said it's "not his family"... Bruh. It literally is.
The brother who defended his sister: She's in an abusive situation and it's HER home too. All he did was speak up for her. How in anyone's mind BUT a butthole's is he wrong?
and you are calling rslash a butthole of course you are.... you're calling someone who has a wife and daughter a butthole because you don't understand how abusing works or how house ownership works.... The Husband is the breadwinner he PAYS for the house if he stops paying the house goes poof wife cant do shit about that even if it it "her home too" second of all "all he did was speak up for her" SHE ALREADY WAS SPEAKING UP FOR HERSELF they quite literally was no need for op to get involved because his SIL had it under control and finally "all he did was speak up for her" thats the fricking problem he didnt do anything else but worsen the situation by taking the mic out of he husband he didnt stop the husband from shouting at his wife. he didnt get his SIL out of the situation all he did was get involved in a argument and make the argument even worse then it already is
@@leandroresende7581 the way he spoke to her. The fact that she was working, exhausted, and six months pregnant, and he yells at her because he couldn't make his own plate. Abuse. You not understanding that= 🚩🚩🚩🚩 run away people
@@Dom.Johnson People have different relationship dynamics. Just because you or I don’t like theirs doesn’t make it abuse. There are plenty of families who are very traditional where the man goes out and works and the woman takes care of the home. I don’t agree with the yelling but plenty of couples fight. I wouldn’t call it abuse but the wife can also divorce him if she thinks it’s to much or talk to him about the relationship dynamic that they have. Don’t be so quick to call someone else’s relationship that you have only seen through the lense of a single Reddit post abusive.
Third story: I don't think you've got a great take on this one. It sounds like the husband at the very least is verbally abusive and that his entitlement causes pretty much daily fights. If this is the way he acts towards his wife when someone is around the house to hear and see the fights it sounds like he could be much worse when there's no one else around. And even if he isn't worse when no one else is around, this behavior is shitty enough. His wife doesn't owe him all of those things, she's already taking care of a 2 year old and she's six months pregnant, on top of that she apparently also has to take care of her manchild of a husband who throws a fit whenever she doesn't obey and do whatever he wants whenever he wants it. If the fucker can't even plate his own dinner he can just starve ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I applaud OP for sticking up for his sister, I'd have been ashamed of myself if I had been in the same situation and done nothing.
eh disagree if the husband is abusive( this isnt my idea but others have said and i agree) then op shouldve talke to the sister and checked if she was ok or convinced her to leave upseting the abuser just causes more problems and it sounds like it didnt help at all it just cause more arguments.
@@gothicgolem2947 Sure OP could have handled it a bit better and spoken to her in private about it first, but I also don’t blame him for doing what he did. I mostly wrote the comment about me not agreeing with rSlash’s take on it (just staying out of it because OP isn’t part of their marriage is a big no for me, sometimes someone gotta get involved somehow), so my comment isn’t so much about if the method OP used was the best or not. I do of course hope that OP also takes time to talk to his sister about the way her husband is behaving.
Why does Simon not have any hypo snacks? Like if he’s been a diabetic for any amount of time it’s really common to have things like juice boxes around to avoid hypos. This is Simon being neglectful of himself and does not fall on OP.
I'm not diabetic but I have hyposnacks because my best friend and grandma are. It's not hard or expensive to keep a candy bar or even some sugar tablets around.
@@ArinaCoryn I am and can say from experience, you can just have a damn bottle of Coke around. It's not that expensive *or* hard to do, Simón is just an idiot.
Sounds like OPs roomies have made it a habit to mooch off of OP especially given they tend to hover over his takeaway orders once he orders it [given it sounds like their broke] I'm glad his diabetic roomie is okay but the roomates need to get off their high horse thinking OP was somehow obligated to share his meal. Having hypo snacks in the house should be a given. Edit to Add- I now have a mental image of his roommates as the seagulls from Finding Nemo.
The "don’t stick your nose into someone else’s marriage or home" mentality is the reason why domestic abuses can go unpunished for decades. Maybe the brother should’ve done things differently but something had to be done
The brother *definitely* should've done things differently. Antagonizing an abuser doesn't magically fix the domestic issue. If anything, it will make the domestic issues worse. It's not that the brother should mind his own business; It's that the brother should talk to his sister about the problems he sees. And regardless of anything else, it is still asshole behavior to bite the hand that feeds you. If OP finds the husband's behavior that disgusting, then he needs to start finding himself a different place to stay. Preferably, someplace that he can move into with his sister.
@@CatacombD Exactly. He should have talked to his sister, made her see that what was going on is not okay, and possibly made an exit plan for them as well as the children. Or looked for a way to get the husband out.
IKR besides op wasnt getting involved in their marriage problems, op was just treating the guy how he was acting! not all issues in a marriage are purely marital issues. some are just issues and that guys issue is he never learnt to do things without his mommys help
@@sevenfgaming Did you seriously ask what's abusive about what that "husband" is doing?? He's expecting her to wait on him, be at his beck and call, do anything and everything immediately when he orders it, and refuses to do even the barest minimum for himself, like not making a SIX MONTH PREGNANT WOMAN get up to serve him food! Then there's the fact that he expects HER to "run showers for him"?? WTF?? How much of a pathetic man-child is this husband that he can't get off his ass and do things for himself? Yeah. He is absolutely an abusive ass, he's causing her undue stress during a pregnancy (and undoubtedly outside the pregnancy,) and being a horrible example of an adult to grow into for the two year old. Frankly, I hope that poor woman leaves him.
@@sevenfgaming It's abuse since he's it seems like he's constantly telling at his wife over small things when she does ALL the chores while taking of a kid and being six months pregnant. That type of stress can mess with the child. I suggest you look into mental abuse.
Exactly. Some things aren't a "mind your own business" thing. So many times awful things happen and no one does anything because "it wasn't their business". Make it your business.
RSLASH is really just being an idiot and holding finance relief over OP and the wife’s head. If I’m right there’s a term for that kind of shot, it’s called financial abuse. Considering their marriage isn’t going well and the wife might not want to leave out of that concern, like why shouldn’t OP intervene. Especially when by the looks of it their parents are crappy parents and wouldn’t help them in the worse circumstances.
As a former delivery driver, I *relished* short and quick deliveries. Any runs that were 10 mins or less were a dream for me and that really came to ahead last year when i was the only driver for most of the year. The less time and shorter distances i had to travel was a blessing on me and my car. Plus i agree that that shorter deliveries mean you can can back sooner for the next run. So for the woman driver to be all pissy about a 10 block delivery is either new or angry about something else. I'd had loved to have been a fly on the wall for that conversation between her and the manager. i would have told her off myself if i worked there.
Thanks for your comment. I was wondering myself now because I order delivery from a Chinese restaurant less than 10min from my house often and I was doubting myself because of that story. I also, assumed, hey get a tip for a quick drive, what's not to like.
Simon knows he has diabetes and yet, he pushes the limit just to try to get free food. Op needs to find new roommates because it's insane how he would rather risk his health and blame others instead of accommodating himself. It's hardly considered meddling when he's being abusive towards his wife, Op's sister. Just because he is one of the owners of the house doesn't mean he is immune to being called out for acting like a gigantic man baby.
Seriously I don't understand why blame OP for something that one OP asked if Simon wanted to order food. He said no. So OP isn't the butthole. Not only that where the roommates that can get food?
@@mousetrapped_ "Crock" used this way comes from older term for stewpot or heavy roasting pan - made from pottery/crockery, precursor to modern crock pots. my grandparents used it to imply someone was dishing out a large amount of unmitigated lies (or BS).
I have to disagree with the ruling of the third story. That sounds like abuse the husband is putting his wife through, meddling is practically called for.
I agree, like I understand staying out of marital problems but by that point it's no longer a marital problem, it's a family problem of a Husband treating his wife like a maid (A very pregnant maid at that) in front of the wife's brother. As a brother, you treat my sister like a person and with respect, I treat you like a person with respect.
And who is the husband going to take out his anger on? I agree that the husband deserves it. But at the end of the day, I don't think he helped at all, and just made life more difficult for the wife.
@@Yemto Divorce is an option. If her brother can help her to even consider it I'd call it a day. Husbands can get violent with their wives even if no one is messing with them at all, it's not a matter of "if you just ignore it, it won't get worse."
@@Yemto Your absolutely right, but doing nothing and just watching his sister get treated they way she does would definitely put the brother in the 3 maybe 4/5 butthole scale. It's definitely a tricky situation that's for sure
@@cellsongg I agree, and I never said anything about ignoring the behavior, sorry if it comes across that way. Helping the victim of abuse is much better than antagonize the abuser.
Third story: OP is NTA. It is absolutely his business if his sister is literally abused by her husband. "Marital problems" aren't just "marital problems" if there's abuse involved. Besides OP mentioned that his sister laughed at this situation and even though it could've been nervous laughter, I think she was more relieved that someone finally took her side and actually cared about her
@@McSnezzly no he isn’t. You think OP should have just sat there and be ok with his sister being overworked at 6 months pregnant and being abused? You think OP should have just sat there and be quiet…? The sister laughed!! You act like the absolute 1 brain cell twat that called OP an asshole of the story where he defended a woman they didn’t know against her husband for breastfeeding in public as a “you caused problems for her” when she gave OP a smile for defending her. People like you don’t care how the wives feel, ignoring how they act for the sake of being right about the complete opposite you’re trying to press for. Get a life bro
@@McSnezzly Not necessarily. If the sister gets more support from her brother and realizes she can trust him, he could actually help her get out of a broken marriage or get some other form of help for her
As someone with an 'invisible illness' that sometimes makes me unable to even go out of my house, if a delivery person had said that to me, it would have been abusive towards a disabled person. It could have been grounds for dismissal by the company because legally I (hypothetically) could have taken further action over it. Most disabled people have invisible disabilities, they are more common than visible disabilities. And we deal with crap like that all the time. But regardless of the situation, stop judging other people. Can't we just be kind? Why is that so hard for some people?
Rslash casually defending abuse in relationships, the husband in the 3rd story is a child, the OP had a right to do what they did, guest or not because the husband is a trash human. Put yourself in everyone's shoes, you are literally using the excuse 'oh, you're a guest so you shouldn't try to stop abuse' if he was hitting her, would you change your tone then? Probably
"he'd lose what little respect they had for him" They can take their self righteous 'respect' and shove it, that's worthless. Then they go running to mom to get her to reinvite them, isn't that the same shit they ridiculed him for? That's fresh. This family is SUUUPER toxic.
But to slash another's tires? There'd be property of their's destroyed everywhere! Plus those assholes would be all in the ICU on life support giving them a minimal chance of survival! You never ever touch a man's car not even as a prank!
@@SinisterScoundrel6562 The tires was bad, but hiding the guys rescue inhaler was worse. The guy could've ended up in the hospital...or worse. (I'm an asthmatic, and believe me, I know.)
Yea, hiding the inhaler could have KILLED the fiance. I was so mad listening to this story and saying "it's just a prank" would have set me off and I would've cut them off permanently. I'm also asthmatic and if I don't have my inhaler it gets bad.
The 3rd story is literally my fear with being a stay at home mother and totally financially dependent on my husband. I get that its about making sure to choose the right partner but people change. What op's sister is going through sounds like hell. Also it's not a private matter if they don't even try to make it private. I don't think op deserves any butthole score above 0.he stood up for his sister. Just because someone is paying for you doesn't mean they can try any kind of way. The husband was acting like a shitty toddler that happens to make money.
My parents are divorcing and for me it's goes the other way around. My Mum was a stay at home mum and even when she started working 4.5 years ago it's never been full time. My Dad provided everything for her and supported her during her whole way through Uni (My Dad is an Electrician) he's done a lot for her and the family and now she has been saying that she sacrificed her life for him and he was an abusive husband when he has never touched her. She's also been emotionally manipulating my siblings and I've been growing to resent her more and more, she also did a lot of terrible shit while he was at work and I've been at school. I'm kind of happy their divorcing though because I noticed how terrible she was to my Dad.
You know, I'm wondering if she shouldn't have pressed charges in the story where they took her fiances inhaler, cause it literally might've been a murder attempt since he seemingly kept failing their "tests."
It IS a murder attempt, or at least manslaughter. They didn't intend to kill him probably, but what they did COULD kill him. Regardless of their intentions. They deserved a 5/5 for that.
@@catpoke9557 Yep, refusing to believe asthma exists isn't going to protect you from an attempted murder charge, in fact it makes the case that their actions were pre meditated if he DID die.
hard agree. the tire slashing alone warranted criminal charges. the asthma inhaler is just too much. have them all arrested for attempted murder/manslaughter. OP's fiancé had some restraint not decking them all a long time ago. OP not inviting them to the wedding is rather weak, cut them off or even cut them open!
I read a story about a girl whose sister died of an asthma attack, one that could have been avoided if bullies hadn't run away with her inhaler. She literally died of bullying.
Family: *"It's just a prank bro!!"* **Uninvites whole family from wedding** Family: **Surprised Pikachu Face** *"B-but, it's just a prank bro!!"* OP: *"It's just an uninvite, BRO."*
What really gets me in this story is that, if Tim had a peanut allergy, would the get him to eat peanuts and hide his epipen? What they did by hiding his inhaler could have turned into attempted murder. I think that the men in OP's family sounds jealous of the fact that Tim went to college and therefore have a better chance in the future. They are acting like a bunch of inbred hicks.
10 blocks is definitely not "just a few!" Adding in the fact that it's after dark, cold, and there's an under 2 toddler involved, it's an easy NTA! No delivery person has any business judging a customer for any reason, unless they didn't tip, or they're rude in some way.
I have ordered delivery from businesses much closer than 10 blocks, and I have never had that kind of bad attitude from the delivery person. Even OP added tip to the order, which others would not do. Considering the circumstances she described, the way the delivery girl reacted seemed totally bitchy to me.
As someone with two brothers if their wife/husband did this to them, I’d also stand up for them, rslash you get 5/5 assholes for not understanding that as a sibling you have a duty to stand up to abusive assholes for your siblings.
Completely agree. I kind of hope rSlash doesn’t have siblings if this is how he feels. I’m a big sister and would literally do anything for my little siblings, and they know that.
If you're having a fight in front of somebody else, it becomes that other person's business. Hide your garbage activity away if you don't want people sticking their nose in it.
I can't agree with RSLASH about how OP "served" dinner to his brother in law. His sister is being bullied. And she laughed! Yeah, it was pretty passive aggressive, but the kid is 17! If he really wants to help his sister, then advise marriage counseling because the husband is bullying his wife and he sounds like a straight up douche bag!!! Maybe his sister is timid or afraid of her husband. I hope he gets a clue or she gets out of this before it gets physical. With guys like this it usually does. Op wasn't interfering with his sister's marriage at all. I mean, do you wait until the bullying turns into a slap here and there. Do you wait until she has a black eye. He's her brother!!! It sounds like she needed that laugh and I hope OP keeps "interfering" on his sister's behalf every chance he gets!!!
This is exactly what I was thinking. Honestly, what would he do if it was his own sibling getting abused by their spouse? You don't just walk away from that, you fight tooth and nail against the person mistreating your family. I would know because I've been abused, and once I realized it I started pushing back against my abuser. He's just way off the mark on this one and is seriously misjudging the situation.
So when one person's the one doing all the work outside of the house it's only fair that someone does all the work inside of the house people don't get a free ride in this world
@@sevenfgaming The issue is at the end of the day he had home cooked food and he couldn't even make a plate for himself? It's the attitude that's the problem. When we were young I stayed home with our daughter and my husband worked. We had one car so my trips to the bank and grocery store were on foot with a baby. After he got home EVERYTHING was 50/50 as did our friends as well. If he had a long week then I did extra and if I had a long week, usually with a teething baby he picked up the slack. In a true partnership you don't keep score!!!
Having had a diabetic roommate, I feel for the first OP. It's hard to not feel responsible, especially when they have to go to the hospital for being either too high or too low. My roommate had not one but TWO episodes where she got dangerously high. She's type 1, and both times, she'd gone without insulin for like a day and a half due to delayed shipments (we lived in a pretty remote town, lots of things were delayed). The first time it happened, I felt so guilty. I kept thinking I should have spoken up quicker when I saw she was clearly not well. Fortunately, she never blamed me for it, and after a few days in the hospital, she was fine. The second time, we got her to the hospital sooner, so she didn't get quite as high, but it still scared the shit out of me and our friends.
Third story, OP’s sister thought it was Funny. He was standing up for her, the husband was fighting HIS sister in front of him MAKING it HIS business. What he did wasn’t dangerous or horrible and his sister thought it was funny. Not the Butthole at all, he stood up for his sister in a non dangerous and funny way.
I think the implication is that OP May have inadvertently made things harder and more stressful on the sister by pulling this stunt. Which, yeah, in a situation like this is a valid take. So OP would be a SLIGHT justified butthole in this situation for that. Even though I agree with him standing up for his sister. At least the sister has a good sense of humor, though and didn't take out her stress on OP, like I've seen others in similar situations do. Still, he's in a precarious situation as is. I don't know if rocking the boat (at this moment and time) without a back up plan is the smart play here.
Story 2: That's literally abusive behavior. How do they not realize that? Oh wait, they definitely do, but don't want to admit it. Even the "just a prank" excuse is telling
I agree. And who does the mom Think she is telling OP to “lEt ByGoNeS bE bYgOnEs”? They literally could’ve killed the fiancé. A prank is only a prank when they’re both laughing. Once it escalates to putting someone’s life in danger, it’s no longer a prank. It’s attempted murder. OP definitely should’ve started drawing a line sooner, but she is completely justified in disinviting those abusive people.
@@morgandouglas6014 maybe op should put some hair dye in her moms shampoo so her hair turns blue or something and if she gets upset just say 'why are you so upset, it's just a prank'
In the third story: How does one "prepare a shower"? Thats not a bathtub that you can fill water into, so does he need his wife to take his socks of and turn on the shower? Can someone really be this useless? Also, i have to disagree with OP about the kids tools. Any kid that is old enough to use tools is far less useless than this dude.
I would assume that in order to get warm water to take a shower you would have to do something manually for it to happen. Like press a button or something and wait 20 minutes before turning on the water. Or the husband in the story is probably so exuasted that he doesn't have the energy to simply turn the water on.
Some days, when my husband has had a really long day, he'll ask me to do this (happens 1-3 times a year tops). He works in an industrial plant, and sometimes he's coated in really gross stuff. For me, it'll be getting his clean clothes, making sure he has a towel and the things he needs. When he gets home, I'll take his clothes and put them down in the washer right away. He turns on the water himself because he likes lukewarm showers where I like it boiling.
OPs dad: I will have lost respect for your fiancé tho if you make me apologize OP: fine. I’ve lost all respect for you so your respect is meaningless. This is how it should have gone.
I always made a point of tipping more than I probably should have when I ordered pizza while I still lived in the city, and the pizza place wasn't that far from me either, the same logic could be applied there, but the one pizza guy was always smiles when he saw me show up at the door, it was super cool. I had the delivery drivers call when they arrived, and I always got "It's pizza delivery!" in the most enthusiastic voice. So hearing that last story is just insane.
As a delivery driver I love the close to store orders. And the fact that OP tipped that much on a close order would make me love it even more. Those are the best deliveries to take IMO. On top of that, even if I was disgruntled about taking a delivery I would NEVER openly be hostile towards a customer like that. That's just bad business.
Simon is a grown man and needs to get his own food. If he's broke, he should get some Ramen or a bologna sandwich or ask his family for money to get food.
@in desperate need of a scotch I didn't say anything about that 🤨 I just said that insulin is expensive in the USA. Like, it can cost $300 for one vial and most need 6 in a months. That's a lot of money, which can explain why Simon has none. But it is still only to be teeny tiny bit fair.
The second story is 100% a hill to die on. Severe asthma attacks are no joke. If anybody did this to my sister that has asthma, I would absolutely cut them out of my life even if they were family. Good job taking a stand against the bullying OP 👏
For the first time I’m going to MASSIVELY Disagree with you on the third one. I grew up in an abusive household and so did my nan. That behaviour is EXACTLY like how my Nan’s childhood was. Its not “marital problems” it’s riding that line of abuse….no it’s LITERALLY abuse.
Rslash wtf is up with the OP at sisters house story? The kid was kicked out and placed into a home were abuse is taking place. And on top of that this man child of a husband wants OP out and on the street anyways. The whole “your a guest and this is their marital issues” is legit saying “well your a guest so let the abuse, abuse” hell no. This kid is a saint for standing up to this cowardly bully
First story: My mum is a diabetic and has glucose tablets when her blood sugar gets too low. She also has to sip TONS of water if her glucose gets too high (Apparently this kinds dilutes the sugar in her blood and allows her body to adjust). Thankfully she has only collapsed twice, due to high blood sugar, but hasn't "yet" been hospitalised for it (Paramedics called though). OP's room mates are d0uchebags relying on OP to literally feed them everyday. They should just buy their own food and if they can't then look at their own finances and see what they don't need to spend too much on. Far too many people spend money on frivolous things, like expensive coffee and not on necessities.
I only go to Starbucks when I'm traveling. If I'm traveling I HAVE to get Starbucks. But on a trip I have the extra money to throw around for a nice cup of coffee. I make my coffee at home or if I really want coffee from somewhere else I do McDonald's. McDonald's has a lot of flaws but I'll be damned if they don't make good coffee. And smoothies. I'll admit that I do eat out too much but I'm also in a house with a mother who can't cook because of health and I don't know how which is why I'm off to culinary school to learn. I plan to start a baking business one day. I'd also like to be a bartender because I think it's cool and fun knowing how to mix your own drinks. I plan on being smarter with my money in the future.
@@truthseeker9249 My family eats out just once a week (usually take away/takeout). Sometimes it's going to a café for a cooked breakfast. It's extremely rare that we break this rule. My parents were always frugal, due to being working class and I didn't have the best clothes or the best toys growing up. That said we have always had practically no debt, or the debt was paid off early. My parents paid off two mortgages by the time I was 15 (mid 90's) and a vehicle loan in about 5 years. they were able to do this by not going aboard for holidays (holidaying in our own country once every other year), replacing something only when it can't be fixed and not overspending on luxury. While all my student peers went on holiday twice a year, a new car every two to three years, the best clothes and best stuff every couple of months....and they were all swimming in debt by living on credit.
story 3: NTA, the husband needs to learn to respect his wife, she's pregnant and forcing her to over exert herself so he doesn't have to get up and walk ten feet to the kitchen is abuse. that's putting a major strain on her body and will affect the baby too
I'd never forgive anyone who willingly hides an inhaler, as an asthmatic it feels like you're suffocating. I'm terrified when I can't get access to my inhalers
Second story: if my SOs family slashed my tires to see what kind of man I was, I would be on the phone with the law enforcement. Then probably take them to small claims court
Hats off to the brother in the third story!! I LOVE how he showed support for his sister in a non-agressive, hilarious way. We need more people like that!
WE NEED LESS PEOPLE LIKE THAT we need more people who ACTUALLY know how to stop abusive situations RATHER then idiots like op geting involved and making the abusive even worse up till this point it had just been verbal abuse but because of ops involvement it could easily escalate to physical had op actually asked his sister if she was alright and wanted him to get invovled beforehand sure but he didnt even confirm whether his involvement was needed
@@goku-sangreen4510 He is an underage person, and he reacted the only way he knew how. I feel like he took a stand and if the situation was abusive he would have acted too, as he's shown his support to his sister. I believe a kid like that would recognise abuse, as he recognised the husband being a baby. We have nothing it this story that suggests he is abusive, he is selfish and misogynistic, and there are tons of people like that in the world and being unhelpful at home is unfortunately not a criminal offense, it's her choice to stay with him or not!
@@gothicgolem2947 I agree with you IF the husband was abusive. IF the kid knew that something like this would escalate to violence, which doesn't look like this was the case. In my mind, this would further show his sister that she might have to reconsider her relationship. But I do see your point.
With 4 guys in their early 20s? It is not impossible. Even OP would save money by just buying frozen dinners than ordering delivery every night. Doesn't sound like anyone is cooking either.
@@Ikajo so how is this guy living there with no money and no food? The room mates called his parents, why couldn't he call his parents to send money or at least order him so food. Dude needs to go back home. He isn't ready to be an adult yet
@@neffyg35 I can't say, I've lived alone since I was 20. Handling things best I can. But I can also cook and know to buy quick meals when needed. Heck, I've made homemade pizza more than once. But I also have friends who, like me, are in their 30s and still don't know how to cook.
@@Ikajo not knowing how to cook is not a very good excuse for this guy. He can literally got to the dollar store and get a TV dinner or a bag of m&m. No cooking knowledge needed beyong how to open a package and how to use a microwave. Or better yet he could call his parents to have a burger delivered to him if he is that helpless.
My mother is a type one Diabetic, and she knows that if she doesn't eat regularly, things get bad. He kept saying he didn't need food from Op, so anything that happened to him after that was on him. My ma hates it when we have to "treat her like a child" when she sugars get low. I don't want to get into a rant, but Op's roommate pisses me off because I've seen the bad side of sugar crashes.
2nd Story: If they manage to break their legs and needed crutches to walk, hide it as a "prank" and insult them that being temporarily disabled is not an excuse to walk like normally.
That second story is horrifying. Normal “testing the fiancé/bf” is just implying that if they hurt you then they will hurt him. It’s probably outdated but definitely not stealing a needed medical aid!
Sorry but absolutely dropped the ball in the third story. The attitude of not sticking your nose into other peoples' business is how abusive or just shitty relationships go on so long. Because nobody says anything, nobody intervenes. OP humiliated a grown man acting like a misogynistic baby, it was 100% deserved.
The two were just having a shouting match and they just antagonized the husband for fun. "Putting your nose in their business" in a meaningful way is calling the cops on abuse or telling somebody to seek help. This is not as a heroic as you want it to be.
Yeah but OP wasn’t being helpful either. All he did was make more problems. How are they helping if they make an issue and just leave? As someone who was abused you don’t do things like this because they always retaliate on the victim. I know they are young but if they really wanted to help then they should talk to the sister more and see if she has plans. Help her find a way out or get someone who can help her. Don’t make things worse. Retaliation doesn’t work it always leads to more retaliation on the victim.
OP's actions do leave me a bit concerned for his sister's safety if OP is not in the house and the husband is; however, I feel like her laughing at the situation could also be a first step to coming to grips with the situation she's in and, hopefully, seeking help. There's a lot in this story since it starts out with OP being there just because he came out, and his parents expecting him to "turn back to normal" or whatever. To me, that sounds like the family back home could be the ultra conservative type, and that's why his sister is in this kind of terrible relationship. That's just speculation, of course. But I do really hope that things turn out alright for both OP and his sister.
So true. Was home with my 2yo niece and it was already dark and raining. Had worked a double the night before and was wasn't in the mood to wrestle my niece into clothes she would keep taking off. I ordered from a restaurant that was 5 min walking distance. The delivery guy called to confirm the address and was verry chill. I paid and that was it.
Hi, for the second story as someone who had asthma as a kid, hiding someone’s inhaler is absolutely fucking stupid. What if that person has an asthma attack? OP’s fiancé could’ve died if that happened. OP’s uncle, cousin, dad, and brother are insane for that “prank”
As someone currently with asthma i agree. You can literally die from this and they're treating it as some prank.. What happens if the fiance dies? Then what would they say at the funeral? "Its just a prank I'm sorry"? Idiotic! I think cutting them out of the wedding is letting them off easy. They're lucky op didn't go no contact
saw this story online where a schoolboy literally died from an asthma attack because the school took his inhaler and put it in (I think it was) the principals office. So yeah hiding the inhaler could’ve been lethal to Tim.
“Hey, do you want me to order extra food FOR YOU?” “Nah I’m good.” *Food comes* “Okay, I’m going to go eat MY food, that I ordered with MY money, that YOU REFUSED TO ACCEPT YOUR OWN PORTION OF.” *Shocked Pikachu*
I actually disagree. OP did have the right and obligation to call out his sister's husband, but the way that he did it wasn't going to produce results. If he was stressed and acting like a child, putting toys in front of him was not the way to help him have the realization of what he was doing to his wife. If would only piss off a stressed person more. I agree he absolutely should have stepped in to say something, but insulting him right off the bar was not going to help, especially after OP said that he would completely ignore it and mind his business before. To the husband it would feel like just a completely out of the blue insult. His heart was in the right place, but not a good start if he truly wants to help the situation.
The first story is the definition of victim-blaming behavior, OP made sure Simon didn't want to eat dinner, unknowing of the fact he hasn't eaten knowing his condition, OP did nothing wrong and shouldn't be blamed for Simons own self-destructive behavior
@@eduardofonseca5087 exactly. I think he refuses to eat and gave himself hypoglycemic intentionally to attempt to prove a point and make OP keep buying him free food
@@saoranachnah-alba723 So? do you pay for treatment of every person you know is sick? Simon is an adult AND has a family to fall back to, also he has other roommates, so there is no excuse.
@@saoranachnah-alba723 Yeah, dude knew Simon had diabetes. What OP DIDN'T know is that Simon wasn't eating. That isn't on him. That's be like me going days without eating, and not seeing anyone enough for them to know and then getting mad that they didn't know. Op works, I'd hope Simon does too. How are they supposed to know what the other is going through?
The one about the brother-in-law. 1. Who is he, my abusive grandfather that told my mom to make him coffee literally 30 minutes after she finally was able to go to bed? 2. My brother-in-law is the bread winner. Before my sister's health went to hell, he STILL did a lot around the house.
My thoughts in order from each story: 1. Time to get new roommates, they're mooches and they're using the episode of a coma scare to guilt you into providing for them. You're not their mother, and your not their servant. 2. Time to get a new family, think about it. What if, by the grace of RNJesus, you have a newborn that has asthma, would seriously trust that they wouldn't "Tease" your future kid like that?. Also, that's not funny, you don't hide someone's inhaler, its like hiding an EpiPen from someone with allergies. Your family think life threatening complications that people are born with is just 'weakness' and should be mocked. That is dangerous. 3. He's actually a good brother, and his sister seriously needs a new husband. Still a bad houseguest, but I'd prefer a awesome brother who can make me see what my relationship looks like, because no grown woman wants to be seen married to a child. 4. you don't need to justify a delivery service, you could be the laziest person to the most busiest person on the planet, no one should ever be bullied into thinking they aren't good enough for a service. That restaurant needs a new deliverer.
Second story : Slashing tires isn't a prank!!!!! That's a crime! Hidding medicine isn't a prank; it's a crime! They aren't pranksters they are bullying petty criminals! "Oh your boyfriend is going to loose my respect!" Their respect means nothing! OP should be loosing respect for her family! This isn't "boys will be boys" shit! This it toxic masculinity and bullying shit!
Okay- Simon needs to care about his own self. I’m not a diabetic by any means- but I have grown up with some other undiagnosed issues I’m just finding about and I’m not using those as a crutch for free food. I fend for myself and do what I need to to stay healthy. He’s an adult, he didn’t even say anything ! *edited for a typo*
That second story: As a girl myself, if my father, uncle and brother did that to the man I was going to marry, I'd have a problem with it too. This story reminds me of the story you told a while ago about the women testing the new women coming into the family and they all came in white to the wedding. Granted, this story's worse. While the other story is hurting one girl's feelings, this story the men literally put OP's fiancé's life in danger. I hope OP not only keeps them far away from their wedding but also their kids. You don't want the father and brother and the rest teaching the kid those things and maybe get them to treat their father the same. Also, that third story, whenever I hear a story like this, makes me angry. It's infuriating to read when the husband and wife are expecting and the husband still expects the wife to do all the work around the house. I mean, it wouldn't hurt him to do his own laundry or start his own shower or, if she's too exhausted, heat up a frozen dinner for a night or two and eat that. Seriously, all the expecting couples I've met the husband's thrilled about his wife being pregnant and will bend over backwards for her, not wanting her to suffer like that by taking on more responsibilities. That's not to say she should do nothing, but given how exhausted she is, she does need more help. That fourth story, I think I get why the delivery driver was so mad. For places farther away, she's probably able to slack off and do other things and take longer to get back and blame it on traffic. In that sense, she's getting paid for doing whatever she wants before she decides to come back to the burger place. OP ordering and being so close to the place means she can't do that. She has no excuse but to come straight back to the burger place and do whatever it is she does there while she waits for the next order, ruining her master plan to do as little work as possible. That's my theory anyway.
One thing that infuriate me the most is that they call asthma an "Excuse." OP better go NC with them for her husband's safety because they're not gonna call ambulance if her husband health suddenly goes down and need immediate medical attention. Resulting his death.
@@ReigoVassal I agree completely. I know people with asthma and I don't see it as an excuse for anything. They didn't ask for it. I mean, imagine even if their children have asthma as well. If the men in OP's family see it as the "excuse" they claim it is, they're a danger of not just killing her future husband but kids as well. I hope she goes NC for the sake of keeping her family safe.
If the man you're about to marry doesn't enforce his boundaries (or has none to begin with) and lets it get this far, I'd suggest you're not about to marry a man. The guy in the story needs to grow a spine and stand up to them. That could be as simple as saying "No." or walking out of the room. If he doesn't, they will never respect him.
@@ReigoVassal Yeh, you don't fuck with a person's inhaler. It's just not on. That said, any retaliation on her part will just be seen as his weakness. He needs to stand up for himself (really, he should have done that the first time they messed with him). The simplest (and least messy) way to do that is to just not give them the time of day beyond being cordial. If they want to hang out - they can call when they learn to act like adults. No threats, no yelling, no fighting, NO ULTIMATUMS - just enforcing your boundaries.
@@233kosta If you're referring to the third story, I definitely agree. However, when you're about to marry someone and you don't want to cause any riff between you and the family because your SO loves them, then you aren't going to make too big a fuss. If you ask me, what he did was very mature and adult of him. He didn't punch anyone or anything and he's made his boundaries known already. Heck, OP has enforced and backed her fiancé on those boundaries in the past. He just left the trip, came back home and told OP what happened because it was clear to him that they didn't respect him or his health at all. One would argue that he's not being a man by not facing his problem and letting his SO handle it for him, but he did the right thing. When dealing with people like that, they aren't going to listen to the person they have no respect in. You'd hope they have some respect for OP and they seem to, but it doesn't feel like it because while they're trying to show respect to her, they're showing disrespect to her fiancé. Putting myself in OP's shoes, imagining my father saying what the men of her family said to OP in the direction of the man in my life, I'd consider it a slap in the face both ways. I hope she goes NC.
3:33 THANK YOU FOR POINTING THAT OUT!!!!!! im a type 1 diabetic i always have juice on hand in case i go low i make sure i have food or can get food. Simons Lazyness is not on OP or the roommates due to Simons clear inability to take care of himself. if Simon cant take care of himself he needs to be put in a nursing home or a group home.
my lord. as a hypoglycemic, I will also add to the first story that the warning signs hit well before you're going into an episode. you KNOW how you feel. it's hard to ignore, it makes you feel incredibly sick and awful. homie screwed himself on purpose with the intent to blame the op, starved himself for hours because he was too lazy to order/find his own food. awful behavior, absolutely frustrating
Third story: OP is absolutely not the a*hole. He was defending his sister who was being physically and emotionally ground down. I'm also confused - in a previous video, you called men who don't stick up for their wives "pussies". Well, her husband wasn't being supportive but her brother was. The brother was doing the exact thing you want people do to and now you're giving him a score?! Being a bit harsh there. Finally, the sister laughed at the situation... I don't know what that means but she clearly approved of her brother's actions. She is the one having all this stress heaped on her.
This... I can't get out of my head that r/slash is giving this OP a score because he's a young non-heteronormal person and not a "family man". I don't want to read too much between the lines but I can't shake the feeling that r/slash feels closer to the figure of the father or man of the house. He's particulary upset by bad parents, and pretty much favorable to OP's that are "head of the household". He went out of his way to state that it was the husband's house (like if it was not hers too), and OP was disturbing the "peace" in someone else's house. As if not rocking the boat for who he percieves as the head of household was more important than call out actual abuse.
Lmfao if my husband was behaving like that and my little brother served him dinner with children's utensils, I'd be in tears from laughing so hard and tell him he deserved every bit of it. Yeah OP was KIND of an asshole, but in this case I think it was justified given how awful the husband was acting.
I think she was relieved that her brother was actually standing up for her, it was probably that exhausted laugh of, "Oh, so I'm not crazy he really is acting like a child."
First story: I have a T1D little brother. Even tho he is only 10 years old he is more responsible than Simon in that story. It's concerning to me that he isn't able to take care of himself bc of you don't take care of yourself when you have T1D it can lead to severe consequences. Worse things than a hypoglycemic episode. I really hope he tries to get his health on track.
Third story: okay, I just had to stop when the BIL said “I’LL TELL YOUR PARENTS WHAT YOU DID!” The frick? Is this guy really an adult or a petulant child in an adult’s body? What grown adult seriously says, “WAHHH! You hurt my feelings and made me feel bad so I’m gonna tell on you!” I hope the sister dumps him. If it was me, I wouldn’t want my child being raised by another child, nor would I want to be married to a child.
Not even that, but OP's parents are pretty abusive, and kicked him out for being gay until "he went back to 'normal'". Does his BIL really think OP will listen to two abusive and homophobic douches? If anything it's more likely the BIL will be the one kicked out of the house.
I think he handled that situation perfectly this guy is acting like a three-year-old might as well treat him like one just because you're the breadwinner doesn't mean you can't do anything else I have a full-time job I still make my own food I still make my own showers I still do my own laundry
11:10 (third story) come on rSlash, OP didn't stick their nose on their " -pre-marital- private marital business". OP stood up against a man who was abusing his -fiancée- wife. Domestic violence isn't just physical violence. It's completely unacceptable that a grown man gets angry and starts yelling just because their 6 month pregnant partner didn't put the food on the table. He's a grown man and she's not his slave. The -fiancé- husband is abusive and seems to be violent, and it was very clear that this type of completely unjustifiable behaviour is very frequent and OP just stood with their sister against abuse. Definitely not a "Everyone sucks here" situation. They're not fighting, there's no nunace on this. The guy is abusing his -fiancée- wife and that's it. He had it coming. I hope OP's sister leaves him before it's too late. Domestic violence should never considered be private business
honestly, i did a double take on the "everyone sucks here" rating, because OP's PREGNANT sister is literally being used as a fucking maid or something and all they're supposed to do is just keep ignoring that?? the fiance is a sexist and abusive asshole and if OP and their sister don't get out of there ASAP, that verbal abuse will eventually turn physical
Story 1: as a fellow hypoglycemic, Simon did that ON PURPOSE. No way in hell there wasn’t a slice of BREAD in the house. And as a diabetic, it’s basically a divine commandment to carry candy. He put HIMSELF in the hospital out of pure SPITE. He knew he was perfectly safe, he set this up.
Simon needs to learn to take care of himself. At this point, it could be argued that he’s trying to kill himself.
All three of the "friends" need a wake-up call about, you know, being sentient beings who think "I'm hungry, better get food" rather than waiting for food to magically appear.
I would seriously call whomever to do a wadda-call-it care check on him.
Absolutely. He sounds like he is either incredibly immature and helicopter parented ,has special needs or has social issues.
If he can't afford to pay for food then he should go live with his parents or move to a cheaper place.
@@potatospeedwagon3994 No. Sounds like they are being reasonable. If you can't afford to buy food, then you shouldn't live there. It's clearly way too expensive. If it's your only option, then ask for help. There are programs, friends, or family. It's not OP's responsibility to feed his roommates. Especially when they don't even ask.
Give me a break. They're not angry that Simon got hospitalized: they're angry that OP decided to put his foot down and stop giving them free meals.
OP should move somewhere else and get rid of those leeches.
Also Simon's parents are the true aholes here. Bad parents always blame someone else but if they were so concerned why weren't they sending him money for food? I think a lot of people are missing that point.
@@wheelhouse15 That's one of the first things I was thinking.
His roommates are the one that should move
Them: "HOW DARE YOU HIDE IN YOUR ROOM WHEN WE ARE TRYING TO LEECH OFF YOU?! HOW SELFISH CAN YOU GET?! WE NEED FOOD TOO!!!"
Simon's parents are honestly disgusting. If they are SOOOO concerned about Simon not getting any food, they ducking buy him some damn food! Not blame OP simply because of the convenience that he has food.
See, we don't like parasites 'round here. Everyone knows what we do to parasites. Fellas, fetch these guys some nice concrete shoes.
The story about OP sticking up for his sister is scary. The husband is clearly abusive and it sounds like the wife has no choice but to endure this. OP is NTA, the wife needs help.
yeah it's his responses to stories like this that have been making me hesitant of this channel. there is no way that a*hole of a husband deserves the same rating as a rude delivery driver.
I agree and thought the same thing. It would be one thing if they were just having a normal argument and the brother got involved. However from this story this husband is verbally, emotionally and I would have to question if maybe not physically abusive. The brother's actions where small here, but with a big message. He did not attack his brother in law, he did not yell at him, he did not poison him, etc. He simply made an ass out of his brother in law to nobody but those in the house. He is NTA here. If this makes the husband treat the wife even worse, that is just one more red flag on top of a pile of red flags. Based on rslash's logic for this story had the brother seen the husband stab or beat is sister he should have just walked away as after all he is a guest in the house and shouldn't stop a husband from assaulting his pregnant wife.
I agree OP is NTA cause it was op's sister of all people, u have to defend family against people like the husband, yeah op is a guest but op is blood as well, it was more annoying op didnt say anything before
Completely agree here. You need to put yourself in the shoes of OP. If RSlash is giving OP a score, then does that mean he would do nothing if his sister was in the exact same situation? Something needed to be done, and what OP did was a brilliant way to do it. He didn't try to fight him, maybe just hurt his wittle pwide 🤣
@@Diamonia16 100% disagree. If the sister is being abused, OP's little stunt didn't magically convince the abusive husband to stop. If anything, it made him angry, and his poor wife dealt with that anger later.
The plastic cutlery story is cute and funny BUT it doesn't solve the situation! All it did was piss off the abuser.
OP needs to take his sister away from the situation and talk some sense in to her, and NOT rile up the person who could potentially hurt his sister.
OP: "My sister laughed."
Rslash: "I bet you upset your sister."
Swing and a miss on this one, dude. This guy literally makes his very pregnant, exhausted wife turn on his showery wowery fow his wittle toesies. He needs a much harsher wake-up call them he got - and no normal, compassionate guest would watch this behaviour continue without intervening.
eh disagree if the husband is abusive( this isnt my idea but others have said and i agree) then op shouldve talke to the sister and checked if she was ok or convinced her to leave upseting the abuser just causes more problems and it sounds like it didnt help at all it just cause more arguments. All tho he proberbly didnt upset the sister but he did not help the arguments and potential abuse at all and proberbly made it worse
Yeah, that was a key point he missed out.
without beating the shit out of the guy
@Alexandria yeah for sure but what op did did not help anything
@@gothicgolem2947 I can kinda see where your point is but it dosen't make OP an technical asshole because I feel like OP dosen't see the real danger of the situation I just feel like thats a whole thing on its own yeah OP messed up but OP didn't do this to defend her against abuse it was ment as a prank
For that first story: You're telling me that they had NO other food in the house that Simon could've eaten whatsoever? Simon intentionally starved himself, knowing that he has this medical condition, and then blamed the consequences of his actions on YOU? No. Unacceptable.
It's literally toddler level "I'm going to hurt myself to make you pay for upsetting me"
As a diabetic, just mix plain sugar in warm water. Ain’t great but it works
@@Mr_GabblesA grown man could easily drive to the store for snacks
As a diabetic, I find it disgusting how Simon leveraged his illness in order to filch someone's food. It doesn't matter "how much he struggled to take care of it". I would never do that to someone; if I were offered to get food ordered and I hadn't eaten that day, I would ABSOLUTELY take up that offer!
Same here. I'll also help anyone with food or meals if they just explain to me they're broke, and/or diabetic, sick, whatever. Bread, peanut butter, and jelly can be a cheapish way to eat. Maybe not the best food, but at least it's food. I've don my share of living off PB&J, or Remen, or generic box of mac and cheese that around here cost $0.50 a box. I've used water in place of milk or butter when I was out of those items. Not necessarily tasty, but it was food.
Also, given he was at home, surely there was some form of sugar that he could consume in order to avoid a hypo. Even if you’re broke a pack of candy or cookies that cost a dollar would have already helped avoiding a hospital visit.
Sure you could argue that due to poor management he didn’t feel the low blood sugar. But still then you might have checked your blood sugar if your management had been very poor so far
Wonder if the roommates would be willing to foot those few dollars
@@Barry-rc5nf probably not bc OP is in the house
It's so confusing to me. When my mom was found to be diabetic, we made sure we had all sorts of candies and orange juice lying around the house in case her blood sugar got dangerously low. It's confusing that Simon didn't do that just in case, he instead relied on an uncertain source of food. What if OP couldn't get food that day? It's not just leveraging his illness, he's being incredibly dumb. He should of had foods with lots of carbs in case something happened. Like yeah, it isn't Simon's fault that he's diabetic, but it definitely IS his fault that he had that happened to him. A big bag of candy only costs $6, and it's not like he's able to eat it all in one sitting, that bag can last for WEEKS if he's only using it for emergencies.
Story 3: You say that's not his family to care about, but it literally is, that's his sister that has to put up with this good for nothing douchebag, she's 6 months pregnant ffs, who else is gonna stick up for her? Also OP is not really a guest, he's a hostage to the situation, he got kicked out at 17, where tf else was he supposed to live, on the streets, so he wouldn't disturb the marriage? give me a break rslash.
1000% facts..
YUS! The douche needs to man up or let his wife walk ... he is a maroon
Agreed. Rslash f-ed up on that one. I'm an only child and I WISH I had a sibling that would stand up for me against an abusive partner the way OP did. My whole family is full of toxic people who just don't care about each other. Least of all me. I plan to go no-contact when I move out of my mother's house. And none of them will be coming anywhere near my wedding or be around my children. Once I take that step and start my life all over I won't have a family anymore. Just my In-Laws. I don't have an abusive partner anymore, my current one is an angel. But if I was in an abusive marriage who would stand up for me? No one.
i was so shocked at the "everyone sucks here" verdict because that's literally OP's PREGNANT SISTER. of course it's his business to defend his sister against this abusive asshole of a husband
@@truthseeker9249 I did the same thing, cut my toxic mom off and let her drown in her bitterness lol. Best decision I've ever made!
"marital problems", the dude is straight up misusing his heavily pregnant wife and she's about to collapse from exhaustion, that's abuse. OP is not in the wrong for "disrespecting" him, it doesn't matter that they're living in the couple's house, that's a trivial detail. He's a jackass and he needs to learn that, and OP is a trooper for standing up for their sister. No wrong done here except for the husband.
Not just that but due to overwhelming exhaustion on a pregnant woman could not only the termination of the pregnancy but could also end the woman.
eh disagree if the husband is abusive( this isnt my idea but others have said and i agree) then op shouldve talke to the sister and checked if she was ok or convinced her to leave upseting the abuser just causes more problems and it sounds like it didnt help at all it just cause more arguments.
@@gothicgolem2947 OP is 17 and the shit husband has a lot of control, it's not like he can do a lot or if talking to his sister can do much in the first place. Since having a baby can make it 100x harder for her to leave, which happens often.
@@aleumuru6682 exactly this.
@@gothicgolem2947 The fact that your going into multiple comments to try and make your point just makes me think your covering for your own abussive nature.
"This is not your home, not your family" this is literally OP's sister, there's absolutely no reason why OP should refrain from meddling in their "marital problems" when there's quite obvious abuse occurring right under OP's nose. Let alone the fact that we're talking about a pregnant woman - I'm pretty sure that the stress her husband is putting her under is far more damageable than any petty prank her sibling pulls on him. Not the a-hole, by a far cry.
Exactly, she's in a toxic relationship! Even if it's not his place to speak, literally the woman is pregnant and have been worked over time for this husband, it would be more of an asshole score if the brother knew and did nothing about it
he shouldve done it by talkign to the sister not antagonisign the abuser and make it worse
@@gothicgolem2947 is completly right there is a correct way to do things acting like a child as a guest is not one of them
@@mantekiyo3078 yeah
@@mantekiyo3078 she wasn’t acting like a child, in fact it was the opposite. The husband acted like an actual child needing to be waited on hand and foot, and OP did something that could barely be seen as immature. He deserved to have a wake up call
You totally missed the mark on the gay brother one. Her husband is straight up being abusive, and there is no such thing as meddling in their marital problems when you are trying to stick up for your sister who’s being abused. Plus, she laughed when she saw that OP had given her husband the toy plate and cutlery, so I would say that he isn’t making her life much harder, and they probably would have ended up fighting that night anyway.
Yeah, that was my thought. She wasn't mad about it. Honestly, if the husband doesn't shape up, the sister should move out. It's not like the husband is helping with anything as it is. She'll just have one less child [the husband] to take care of.
Ding ding ding!
THIS all day long!
Exactly what I was thinking!
About the gay brother staying at his pregnant sister's place:
I completely disagree with you. Her husband is clearly being abusive, especially while she's pregnant. She doesn't need to put up with all this and she clearly is not in a position to properly defend herself. The husband is toxic and it's going nowhere fast. I think what the brother did was perfectly acceptable and might actually be the wake-up call that his sister needs to escape the abusive marriage or at least wake her up to the fact that they need professional counseling. Sometimes, outside perspective is necessary, especially in a potentially abusive relationship
i agree with you - op got a glimpse of what his sister’s husband is like at their home. its possible to assume he does this all of the time, and its made even worse when you consider not only is the sister pregnant so doing literally everything in the house is even more physically taxing, but the husband mightve been acting “better” than usual since there was a guest at their home. either way, this behavior doesnt just spring out of nowhere one day, its clear hes been abusing her mentally and emotionally for a while now
@@weirdkraken I completely concur. I never even thought about the issue of appearances. I mean, if he's willing to act like that around a house guest, what if you willing to do in private?
They never said they were gay though. Brother could be bi for all we know. Homophobes hate bi people too. Coming out doesn't necessarily mean gay but could be bi. Just saying that we shouldn't assume their sexuality.
If the husband is abusive, he will probably take it out on the sister. I agree that OP should help his sister out of the relationship, but, in the short term all he has done is enraged the abuser. And OP isn't going to be one taking the flack, it'll be the sister who bears the brunt of it.
@@maximaldinotrap thats not really the point, but saying someone is gay can be an umbrella term for not straight.
*First OP:* Is OP supposed to read Simon's mind or something? It's not OP's fault that Simon isn't prepared. NTA.
*Second OP:* OP's male family members could've unalived Tim by hiding his inhaler. OP is NTA and should go NC with her family.
*Third OP:* LOL, -OP is kind of TA, but he's justified.- After thinking about it some more, OP is defending his sister. NTA at all. His parents and BIL are the -bigger- AHs, though.
*Fourth OP:* Good for the OP for reporting the delivery woman's behavior to the restaurant. OP is NTA, but the delivery woman definitely is.
for the third one he is what we in the AITA community call the Justified A-hole
Good on you for looking at it some more and changing your opinion, that's respectable
Story 4: I really hope that delivery person got fired, because that temper tantrum was just stupid, entitled, and, uncalled for.
@@d.phantomfan1216 the only explanation is she hated the cold, snowy weather regardless of tip. If that has to do with her throwing a snowball at the door of all things to do in frustration.
"Fuck this snow! It was nice and cozy inside. Nyeeh!"
For the 3rd story, you have to wonder how long that marriage will last if the BIL doesn't wake the hell up. His blatant disrespect and disregard for his wife and her well being is off the charts. Get that jackass to some counseling to work on his apparent deep insecurities. If that doesn't work or he refuses, prepare to be a single mom. When I was a baby my father came home from work and suggested that my mother (looking after 4 kids under 5) was sitting on her ass all day doing nothing. For the next several days my mother let us run wild and did nothing to pickup after us. My dad couldn't take it and admitted he was wrong. 🤣🤣 Believe me, he was NOT one to apologize or admit he was wrong.
Story 1: He literally offered to get food for Simon and it’s NOT OP’s responsibility to feed another grown ass man. Simon is fully aware he’s diabetic, he needs to take precautions for himself.
If op and simon gets the same amount of money and op is having some issues with money, then simon would definitely have problems too cause insulin and all of the supplies cost many thousand dollars a month
And if he just got diabetes he may forget to get himaelf aomething, ive had diabetes for 12 years and i still forget sometimes
He cant just go to the store to buy food, if he has low blood sugar, you cant walk alone or you risk passing out somewhere alone+ with low bloodsugar your brain doesnt work, you vant think
@@Hraheheheha I can’t see all of your comments but closed mouths don’t get fed. Literally. If he’s struggling to feed himself he needs to actually open his mouth and say so.
@@Hraheheheha that’s understandable but it’s made abundantly clear he didn’t forget. He felt entitled to eat some of OP’s food.
There was a diabetic child in my class on elementary school. He managed his stuff like a pro, he asked for food around three times in four years. This seven year old was more mature than the guy in this story.
As a former delivery driver: I LOVED getting the short hops, for the exact reason you stated. That driver is the exception, not the rule.
Yeah, there was so much wrong there that I would either think it was made up or that the delivery driver needs their head examined and their urine tested for drugs.
I used to drive delivery too and I once had a delivery that was so close I didn’t even drive over there because it was basically on the same little side street as the store’s car park and walking it over was actually quicker! This driver was probably just using OP as a way to vent after a bad day/shift. Pretty shocking behaviour either way though!
@@scribblefoxstories That or they were almost out before OP made the order.
@ghostoftime1 This is correct and so do I.
It is Simon’s fault. All he had to do is say “hey mate I haven’t eaten and I have no cash can we share and I will get you back next time.” Ramen is like a pound, bread, pasta, there are options but he chose to starve, why didn’t he ask the other roommates?
Op is feeding 3 extra people who don’t want to spend their own money and scrounging off them.
He might have intentionally given himself hypoglycemia to attempt to prove a point and force him to keep buying him free food
My grandpa is a diabetic and he avoids carbs at all costs because they can make your blood sugar too high but your point still stands. There's always cheap food available especially if you learn to cook, it's a skill that everyone needs and they're making a point by not learning it
@@caicat722 The thing with carbs is it depends on the type of diabetes and the type of carb. Type 2 diabetics have insulin-resistance that causes blood sugar to go up, hence the need to avoid certain carbs, but their blood sugar can drop low due to their diabetes meds, especially if the person doesn't eat at all. On the other hand, type 1 diabetics don't produce their own insulin so their blood sugar runs low by default, and they tend to need carbs. Your grandfather is probably type 2 as that's the most common type that happens later in life, but since Simon is so young, it'd be a pretty safe guess that he's type 1, and if that's the case there really is no excuse. Potatoes, pasta, rice, and bread are all cheap...but even if he himself couldn't afford food, I doubt there's absolutely no food in the house at all.
Second story: that’s not a prank, that’s a threat to Tim’s life. He could have died if he needed his inhaler and they wouldn’t give it to him. Props to OP for having her fiancé’s back and standing up against her pathetic excuse of a family. My advice: keep the fiancé and dump the family telling you to get over it. Send them invites to the wrong place and, when they get mad, call it a prank.
Oh yes, get the pranks on! Tell them you're coming to visit and don't come. Ups, a prank! Send them wrong invites. Haha prank! Drive by and slash all their tires. Oh, sorry Dad and uncle, i just thought that was soo funny! Lets see how they like their shit served back to them.
I'd find whatever blood pressure or cholesterol medication her dad takes and hide it "as a test". I can't believe full grown men act like this.
@@Scarlett.Granger oh hell yes. Prank wars, Ben Phillips style. 😈
Yes, my first thought: you're calling attempted murder a "prank"????
Toxic masculinity and needless machismo at its finest. Sounds like OP's family members havent grown out of the frat boy phase,good one on her for tearing them a new asshole.
As someone who has lived with diabetes for thirty years I can assure OP that he is no way to blame for Simon's failure to look after himself. Simon is headed for a well deserved Darwin award and your room mates are idiots. He needs to find some adults to live with.
As for the family who "pranked" the fiance, they do not deserve to be invited to the wedding. They do not deserve civility after slashing tires. These are criminals who deserve criminal charges.
1st Story: Let's be honest Simon is gonna keep having episode if OP doesn't stop him from stealing his food (What was the point btw Simon?)
2nd Story: Just cut the entire family out. Not worth any trouble. Hell petty revenge isn't worth it
Third story: The OP didn't "stick his nose in" to a situation he has to live with. And the Hsuband is acting like a child. OP shouldn't get any butthole score at all for standing up to his brother-in-law who is being an abusive a$$hole
The second story: My god, hiding an asthmatic's inhaler could literally fucking kill them. I'm so scared that my dad would do this to my fiance, who has asthma and my dad likes to "challenge" like that, too. New fear unlocked.
I wonder if he introduced them to a piece of rebar upside the head if they'd be tough men.
This was the fucking equivalent to shooting the father in the leg and leaving him alone for 7 hours as a “challenge”. It could have easily lead to Tim’s death on the way home if he had an attack on the drive back. These “macho men” need to have the fear of God scared beaten into them as a “challenge”. Lets see how the wittle babies react to their life in danger.
I don't get this "he was in his house, therefore, he can't defend his sister" argument. I mean, it's his sister's house too, even if he is the 'bread winner', and the sister was fine with being defended. Going through pregnancy and being a homemaker ARE contributions to a relationship. Furthermore, you don't just invite someone into your home then use it as an excuse to be the worst kind of bully you can manage to be. That's his flesh and blood. He has a right to feel some kind of way about this man child bullying his 6 MONTHS PREGNANT SISTER. There's also the duty of a host to make their guest comfortable.
I'm so confused about this. We have the whole 'your home is your castle thing' over here in the UK too, but to my ear, there's something deeply toxic about the argument that once someone's in your home, you can behave in whatever manner you want, whether it causes the guest suffering or not, and not fear retaliation - PARTICULARLY if they were invited. Furthermore, it doesn't matter whether the sister invited him - they're a couple, so as far as I'm concerned, he invited him too. I don't know. It just seems to me like - what if I can just invite any random person into my house then make them and their kin as uncomfortable as I can manage, but they can't ever retaliate because it's my house?
The husband sounds like an abusive, childish bully and he got put in his place, like he deserves.
Yes! To my ear, this smacks of an abusive situation, and defending the pregnant sister in a pointed (and not even aggressive) way sounded fitting to me.
I agree 100% What is Dabby thinking??? So Dabby thinks you should take abuse if you are a guest? I think Dabney feels he should take the abuse since he's a gay teen who had no place to go!1 I think Dabney must see gay teens as weak perhaps if he expects them to cower down at the bully's feet! Hell NO!
I agree! Maybe it's a cultural thing but in my culture of course this would be the brother's business as well because it's about his sister!
"Well it's his house you're disrespecting him in"
Mhm and that's OPs sister he's actively abusing
I love Rslash but man, sometimes he has some really bad takes
@@MiraTheWarlock To be fair if there's a AITA video where he doesn't have a shit take, I'd be worried.
It's like an unwritten rule for him.
Your private marital business isn't private when you literally have a guest sleeping in the room next to yours.
If you're going to get into a screaming match with your exhausted to the point of being considered physical abuse, 6 months pregnant wife, I'm pretty sure that's EVERYONE'S business.
Even if you are not a guest, getting involved can literally save lives. Just knocking on a neighbours door can be the difference between life and death. The husband is abusive, emotionally that is. And maybe even physically.
Yeah I call a bad take on this one. If my brother in-law mistreated my sister Infront of me like that then he'd be lucky to not get his foot in his mouth and my shoe up his ass. If that makes me the asshole than so be it.
It doesn't matter the level of mistreatment. The husband was being a royal prick and deserved to get humbled.
Yeah, I have exactly zero idea wtf was going on in rslash's head during that segment. Homie normally is like "dudes an abuser, op is fine" but this segment has a brain work or two somewhere
@@musicloverepeat yeah it makes me think does he treat his own wife like that because he makes youtube coin and she is home taking care of the baby. Like you have a stay at home wife and you pay for everything. I don't think so but the thought has now crossed my mind due to this odd response
@@musicloverepeat it'll possibly get cut like some segments in many other videos.
I don’t think you’ve actually witnessed a sibling in a abusing relationship. It’s heartbreaking and op has every right to put him in his place. Regardless
I get what you're saying, but OP totally went about it the wrong way. Antagonizing an abuser doesn't fix the situation; if anything, it makes it worse. If OP actually wants to help his sister, then he needs to sit down with her and talk to her about how screwed up her relationship seems.
@@CatacombD That'll only put more stress on the sister.
eh disagree if the husband is abusive( this isnt my idea but others have said and i agree) then op shouldve talke to the sister and checked if she was ok or convinced her to leave upseting the abuser just causes more problems and it sounds like it didnt help at all it just cause more arguments.
@@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603 Sure, but antagonizing the husband also puts more stress on the sister. Now, in addition to all their existing arguments, she has to put up with the husband screaming at her because OP is disrespecting him in his own house.
@@CatacombD That is true but if the sister realizes she's being abused that would put a lot more stress on her along with the baby. It doesn't even sound like she has anywhere to go either sadly.
I love how the overgrown baby in story 3 is such a manly man that he feels it's beneath him to scoop up his own food OR START HIS OWN SHOWER! Does she have to wipe his ass for him too? He doesn't have a wife, he has an indentured caregiver.
Yeah. I think he sees women as slaves
Third story. I could agree if you'd said "OP handled it poorly by antagonizing the abuser and making him lash out even more, worsening the abuse on his sister." But how the HELL can you suggest it's not OP's business when it is HIS FAMILY that is being abused? Big disagree on your logic there. I mean, you literally said it's "not his family"... Bruh. It literally is.
The brother who defended his sister:
She's in an abusive situation and it's HER home too. All he did was speak up for her. How in anyone's mind BUT a butthole's is he wrong?
and you are calling rslash a butthole of course you are....
you're calling someone who has a wife and daughter a butthole because you don't understand how abusing works
or how house ownership works....
The Husband is the breadwinner he PAYS for the house if he stops paying the house goes poof
wife cant do shit about that even if it it "her home too"
second of all "all he did was speak up for her" SHE ALREADY WAS SPEAKING UP FOR HERSELF they quite literally was no need for op to get involved because his SIL had it under control
and finally "all he did was speak up for her" thats the fricking problem he didnt do anything else but worsen the situation by taking the mic out of he husband he didnt stop the husband from shouting at his wife. he didnt get his SIL out of the situation all he did was get involved in a argument and make the argument even worse then it already is
Doing house chores doesnt make a relationship abuse. Dont be ridiculous.
@@leandroresende7581 the way he spoke to her. The fact that she was working, exhausted, and six months pregnant, and he yells at her because he couldn't make his own plate. Abuse. You not understanding that= 🚩🚩🚩🚩 run away people
@@leandroresende7581 you are a red flag
Seek therapy
@@Dom.Johnson People have different relationship dynamics. Just because you or I don’t like theirs doesn’t make it abuse. There are plenty of families who are very traditional where the man goes out and works and the woman takes care of the home. I don’t agree with the yelling but plenty of couples fight. I wouldn’t call it abuse but the wife can also divorce him if she thinks it’s to much or talk to him about the relationship dynamic that they have. Don’t be so quick to call someone else’s relationship that you have only seen through the lense of a single Reddit post abusive.
Third story: I don't think you've got a great take on this one. It sounds like the husband at the very least is verbally abusive and that his entitlement causes pretty much daily fights. If this is the way he acts towards his wife when someone is around the house to hear and see the fights it sounds like he could be much worse when there's no one else around. And even if he isn't worse when no one else is around, this behavior is shitty enough. His wife doesn't owe him all of those things, she's already taking care of a 2 year old and she's six months pregnant, on top of that she apparently also has to take care of her manchild of a husband who throws a fit whenever she doesn't obey and do whatever he wants whenever he wants it. If the fucker can't even plate his own dinner he can just starve ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I applaud OP for sticking up for his sister, I'd have been ashamed of myself if I had been in the same situation and done nothing.
"If the fucker can't even plate his own dinner he can just starve ¯\_(ツ)_/¯" = iconic
And don't forget in the story OP also said if your reading and listening at the same time he is also helping out around the house.
I agree with you completely. And what does he mean it's not his family??? She is his SISTER, therefore his family.
eh disagree if the husband is abusive( this isnt my idea but others have said and i agree) then op shouldve talke to the sister and checked if she was ok or convinced her to leave upseting the abuser just causes more problems and it sounds like it didnt help at all it just cause more arguments.
@@gothicgolem2947 Sure OP could have handled it a bit better and spoken to her in private about it first, but I also don’t blame him for doing what he did. I mostly wrote the comment about me not agreeing with rSlash’s take on it (just staying out of it because OP isn’t part of their marriage is a big no for me, sometimes someone gotta get involved somehow), so my comment isn’t so much about if the method OP used was the best or not. I do of course hope that OP also takes time to talk to his sister about the way her husband is behaving.
Why does Simon not have any hypo snacks? Like if he’s been a diabetic for any amount of time it’s really common to have things like juice boxes around to avoid hypos. This is Simon being neglectful of himself and does not fall on OP.
I'm not diabetic but I have hyposnacks because my best friend and grandma are. It's not hard or expensive to keep a candy bar or even some sugar tablets around.
@@ArinaCoryn I am and can say from experience, you can just have a damn bottle of Coke around. It's not that expensive *or* hard to do, Simón is just an idiot.
because he is entitled to others taking care of his health for him.
Sounds like OPs roomies have made it a habit to mooch off of OP especially given they tend to hover over his takeaway orders once he orders it [given it sounds like their broke] I'm glad his diabetic roomie is okay but the roomates need to get off their high horse thinking OP was somehow obligated to share his meal. Having hypo snacks in the house should be a given. Edit to Add- I now have a mental image of his roommates as the seagulls from Finding Nemo.
And all of them are stealing OP's food as if they are entitled to it.
Rslash witnessing his sibling in an abusive relationship: "Ah man, that sucks, but it's not my family! See ya!"
he iddnt say that he just said they made it worse which they seemingly did
@@gothicgolem2947 thats literally hat he said "oh shes getting abused by her husband in his house? welp guess she should suck it up"
@@bloody_pooodlez that’s not what he said
@@gothicgolem2947Sure he didn’t outright say that but he did imply it
Doofus moment
Damn, rslash really said the third op should've minded his business and let his sister get shit talked or worse -_-
The "don’t stick your nose into someone else’s marriage or home" mentality is the reason why domestic abuses can go unpunished for decades.
Maybe the brother should’ve done things differently but something had to be done
Exactly!
Rslash gets 3/5 buttholes for being a domestic abuse enabler!
Yeah if I was being treated like op's sister in that story, i wouldn't wind my guests to mind their own business :/
The brother *definitely* should've done things differently. Antagonizing an abuser doesn't magically fix the domestic issue. If anything, it will make the domestic issues worse.
It's not that the brother should mind his own business; It's that the brother should talk to his sister about the problems he sees.
And regardless of anything else, it is still asshole behavior to bite the hand that feeds you. If OP finds the husband's behavior that disgusting, then he needs to start finding himself a different place to stay. Preferably, someplace that he can move into with his sister.
@@CatacombD Exactly. He should have talked to his sister, made her see that what was going on is not okay, and possibly made an exit plan for them as well as the children. Or looked for a way to get the husband out.
And it’s often said by abusive people or those who do t want their SO to get free or help
I've gotta disagree with you on the third story. Getting involved saves people from abuse, and what the BIL was doing sounds like abuse.
What's abusive about doing all the work outside of the house so someone does all the work inside of house
IKR besides op wasnt getting involved in their marriage problems, op was just treating the guy how he was acting! not all issues in a marriage are purely marital issues. some are just issues and that guys issue is he never learnt to do things without his mommys help
@@sevenfgaming Did you seriously ask what's abusive about what that "husband" is doing?? He's expecting her to wait on him, be at his beck and call, do anything and everything immediately when he orders it, and refuses to do even the barest minimum for himself, like not making a SIX MONTH PREGNANT WOMAN get up to serve him food! Then there's the fact that he expects HER to "run showers for him"?? WTF?? How much of a pathetic man-child is this husband that he can't get off his ass and do things for himself?
Yeah. He is absolutely an abusive ass, he's causing her undue stress during a pregnancy (and undoubtedly outside the pregnancy,) and being a horrible example of an adult to grow into for the two year old. Frankly, I hope that poor woman leaves him.
@@sevenfgaming cringe
@@sevenfgaming It's abuse since he's it seems like he's constantly telling at his wife over small things when she does ALL the chores while taking of a kid and being six months pregnant. That type of stress can mess with the child. I suggest you look into mental abuse.
There is no such thing as "their martial problems" when one of them is being abusive towardsthe other. "Meddling in their marriage" can save lives
Exactly. Some things aren't a "mind your own business" thing. So many times awful things happen and no one does anything because "it wasn't their business". Make it your business.
Abusive is kinda a stretch. It just sounds like a shitty marriage honestly. I agree that op should have intervened tho
@@Bigburton3 It could turn INTO an abusive marriage. Think about that
@@Bigburton3 abusive doesn't have to mean that he's hitting her. He's yelling at his pregnant wife for not serving him hand and foot, that's abuse.
RSLASH is really just being an idiot and holding finance relief over OP and the wife’s head. If I’m right there’s a term for that kind of shot, it’s called financial abuse. Considering their marriage isn’t going well and the wife might not want to leave out of that concern, like why shouldn’t OP intervene. Especially when by the looks of it their parents are crappy parents and wouldn’t help them in the worse circumstances.
As a former delivery driver, I *relished* short and quick deliveries. Any runs that were 10 mins or less were a dream for me and that really came to ahead last year when i was the only driver for most of the year. The less time and shorter distances i had to travel was a blessing on me and my car. Plus i agree that that shorter deliveries mean you can can back sooner for the next run.
So for the woman driver to be all pissy about a 10 block delivery is either new or angry about something else. I'd had loved to have been a fly on the wall for that conversation between her and the manager. i would have told her off myself if i worked there.
Thanks for your comment. I was wondering myself now because I order delivery from a Chinese restaurant less than 10min from my house often and I was doubting myself because of that story. I also, assumed, hey get a tip for a quick drive, what's not to like.
Simon knows he has diabetes and yet, he pushes the limit just to try to get free food. Op needs to find new roommates because it's insane how he would rather risk his health and blame others instead of accommodating himself.
It's hardly considered meddling when he's being abusive towards his wife, Op's sister. Just because he is one of the owners of the house doesn't mean he is immune to being called out for acting like a gigantic man baby.
As a diabetic, story 1 PISSES ME OFF! It is in NO WAY OP's responsibility to take care of his roommates. What a croc!
Seriously I don't understand why blame OP for something that one OP asked if Simon wanted to order food. He said no. So OP isn't the butthole. Not only that where the roommates that can get food?
off topic but ive never heard the term “what a croc!” before and i absolutely love it
@@mousetrapped_ It's the shorter version for crock of s***. And a joke about crocs. Lol
@@mousetrapped_ "Crock" used this way comes from older term for stewpot or heavy roasting pan - made from pottery/crockery, precursor to modern crock pots.
my grandparents used it to imply someone was dishing out a large amount of unmitigated lies (or BS).
I have to disagree with the ruling of the third story. That sounds like abuse the husband is putting his wife through, meddling is practically called for.
I agree, like I understand staying out of marital problems but by that point it's no longer a marital problem, it's a family problem of a Husband treating his wife like a maid (A very pregnant maid at that) in front of the wife's brother.
As a brother, you treat my sister like a person and with respect, I treat you like a person with respect.
And who is the husband going to take out his anger on? I agree that the husband deserves it. But at the end of the day, I don't think he helped at all, and just made life more difficult for the wife.
@@Yemto Divorce is an option. If her brother can help her to even consider it I'd call it a day. Husbands can get violent with their wives even if no one is messing with them at all, it's not a matter of "if you just ignore it, it won't get worse."
@@Yemto Your absolutely right, but doing nothing and just watching his sister get treated they way she does would definitely put the brother in the 3 maybe 4/5 butthole scale.
It's definitely a tricky situation that's for sure
@@cellsongg I agree, and I never said anything about ignoring the behavior, sorry if it comes across that way. Helping the victim of abuse is much better than antagonize the abuser.
Third story: OP is NTA. It is absolutely his business if his sister is literally abused by her husband. "Marital problems" aren't just "marital problems" if there's abuse involved. Besides OP mentioned that his sister laughed at this situation and even though it could've been nervous laughter, I think she was more relieved that someone finally took her side and actually cared about her
But he’s causing more problems
@@McSnezzly no he isn’t. You think OP should have just sat there and be ok with his sister being overworked at 6 months pregnant and being abused? You think OP should have just sat there and be quiet…?
The sister laughed!! You act like the absolute 1 brain cell twat that called OP an asshole of the story where he defended a woman they didn’t know against her husband for breastfeeding in public as a “you caused problems for her” when she gave OP a smile for defending her.
People like you don’t care how the wives feel, ignoring how they act for the sake of being right about the complete opposite you’re trying to press for. Get a life bro
@@McSnezzly Not necessarily. If the sister gets more support from her brother and realizes she can trust him, he could actually help her get out of a broken marriage or get some other form of help for her
It's not there private marital business when they do that in front of him.
@@erikmckoul2478 exactly 😭
As someone with an 'invisible illness' that sometimes makes me unable to even go out of my house, if a delivery person had said that to me, it would have been abusive towards a disabled person. It could have been grounds for dismissal by the company because legally I (hypothetically) could have taken further action over it.
Most disabled people have invisible disabilities, they are more common than visible disabilities. And we deal with crap like that all the time.
But regardless of the situation, stop judging other people. Can't we just be kind? Why is that so hard for some people?
Rslash casually defending abuse in relationships, the husband in the 3rd story is a child, the OP had a right to do what they did, guest or not because the husband is a trash human. Put yourself in everyone's shoes, you are literally using the excuse 'oh, you're a guest so you shouldn't try to stop abuse' if he was hitting her, would you change your tone then? Probably
"he'd lose what little respect they had for him"
They can take their self righteous 'respect' and shove it, that's worthless. Then they go running to mom to get her to reinvite them, isn't that the same shit they ridiculed him for? That's fresh.
This family is SUUUPER toxic.
But to slash another's tires? There'd be property of their's destroyed everywhere! Plus those assholes would be all in the ICU on life support giving them a minimal chance of survival! You never ever touch a man's car not even as a prank!
Incredibly toxic and hypocritical
@@SinisterScoundrel6562 The tires was bad, but hiding the guys rescue inhaler was worse. The guy could've ended up in the hospital...or worse. (I'm an asthmatic, and believe me, I know.)
Yeah that dads respect isn’t worth shit lmao
Yea, hiding the inhaler could have KILLED the fiance. I was so mad listening to this story and saying "it's just a prank" would have set me off and I would've cut them off permanently. I'm also asthmatic and if I don't have my inhaler it gets bad.
The 3rd story is literally my fear with being a stay at home mother and totally financially dependent on my husband. I get that its about making sure to choose the right partner but people change. What op's sister is going through sounds like hell. Also it's not a private matter if they don't even try to make it private. I don't think op deserves any butthole score above 0.he stood up for his sister. Just because someone is paying for you doesn't mean they can try any kind of way. The husband was acting like a shitty toddler that happens to make money.
Housewives are a rarity in Sweden. In large thanks to subsidised childcare.
@@Ikajo half tempted to move to Sweden now hahaha
My parents are divorcing and for me it's goes the other way around. My Mum was a stay at home mum and even when she started working 4.5 years ago it's never been full time. My Dad provided everything for her and supported her during her whole way through Uni (My Dad is an Electrician) he's done a lot for her and the family and now she has been saying that she sacrificed her life for him and he was an abusive husband when he has never touched her. She's also been emotionally manipulating my siblings and I've been growing to resent her more and more, she also did a lot of terrible shit while he was at work and I've been at school. I'm kind of happy their divorcing though because I noticed how terrible she was to my Dad.
@@scrapsy9003 I'm sorry to hear that. :(
@@neffyg35 It's all good. It feels good to say some of the shit that's happened.
You know, I'm wondering if she shouldn't have pressed charges in the story where they took her fiances inhaler, cause it literally might've been a murder attempt since he seemingly kept failing their "tests."
It IS a murder attempt, or at least manslaughter. They didn't intend to kill him probably, but what they did COULD kill him. Regardless of their intentions. They deserved a 5/5 for that.
@@catpoke9557 Yep, refusing to believe asthma exists isn't going to protect you from an attempted murder charge, in fact it makes the case that their actions were pre meditated if he DID die.
hard agree. the tire slashing alone warranted criminal charges. the asthma inhaler is just too much. have them all arrested for attempted murder/manslaughter. OP's fiancé had some restraint not decking them all a long time ago. OP not inviting them to the wedding is rather weak, cut them off or even cut them open!
@@ThePuschkin1986 why not do both?
I feel like the "don't meddle in other people's marriage" crowd just want to not ever be held accountable
I read a story about a girl whose sister died of an asthma attack, one that could have been avoided if bullies hadn't run away with her inhaler. She literally died of bullying.
Family: *"It's just a prank bro!!"*
**Uninvites whole family from wedding**
Family: **Surprised Pikachu Face** *"B-but, it's just a prank bro!!"*
OP: *"It's just an uninvite, BRO."*
Am I the only one who noticed that the "manly men" tried to get the mother involved
Invite them to the wedding. Give them the wrong address. They show up. No wedding. Just a prank bro.
What really gets me in this story is that, if Tim had a peanut allergy, would the get him to eat peanuts and hide his epipen? What they did by hiding his inhaler could have turned into attempted murder. I think that the men in OP's family sounds jealous of the fact that Tim went to college and therefore have a better chance in the future. They are acting like a bunch of inbred hicks.
@@abyssofdemons681 They still haven't grown out of that "Mommy! They are being mean to me!!!" phase.
@@technicaldifficulties368 except they will find out the real address from family members
10 blocks is definitely not "just a few!" Adding in the fact that it's after dark, cold, and there's an under 2 toddler involved, it's an easy NTA! No delivery person has any business judging a customer for any reason, unless they didn't tip, or they're rude in some way.
I have ordered delivery from businesses much closer than 10 blocks, and I have never had that kind of bad attitude from the delivery person. Even OP added tip to the order, which others would not do.
Considering the circumstances she described, the way the delivery girl reacted seemed totally bitchy to me.
I ain’t getting mad if I was delivering over that. Easy money
Third story: act like a child, get treated like a child.
I give that little bro a 5 out of 5 on my hero scale.
As someone with two brothers if their wife/husband did this to them, I’d also stand up for them, rslash you get 5/5 assholes for not understanding that as a sibling you have a duty to stand up to abusive assholes for your siblings.
Completely agree. I kind of hope rSlash doesn’t have siblings if this is how he feels. I’m a big sister and would literally do anything for my little siblings, and they know that.
As a type 1 diabetic myself, the first story is absolutely on Simon! Rslash read the situation exactly as I did
Ah yes, lets treat the abuser with respect because we are a guest and its not your business. This totally cant backfire whatsoever!
Thank you, I was looking for this!
Yh r/ was wrong for what he said about this story
If you're having a fight in front of somebody else, it becomes that other person's business. Hide your garbage activity away if you don't want people sticking their nose in it.
I can't agree with RSLASH about how OP "served" dinner to his brother in law. His sister is being bullied. And she laughed! Yeah, it was pretty passive aggressive, but the kid is 17! If he really wants to help his sister, then advise marriage counseling because the husband is bullying his wife and he sounds like a straight up douche bag!!!
Maybe his sister is timid or afraid of her husband.
I hope he gets a clue or she gets out of this before it gets physical. With guys like this it usually does.
Op wasn't interfering with his sister's marriage at all. I mean, do you wait until the bullying turns into a slap here and there. Do you wait until she has a black eye. He's her brother!!!
It sounds like she needed that laugh and I hope OP keeps "interfering" on his sister's behalf every chance he gets!!!
This is exactly what I was thinking. Honestly, what would he do if it was his own sibling getting abused by their spouse? You don't just walk away from that, you fight tooth and nail against the person mistreating your family. I would know because I've been abused, and once I realized it I started pushing back against my abuser. He's just way off the mark on this one and is seriously misjudging the situation.
I agree with u so mush!! Like the brother is just a kid and is seeing his sister being bullied. What is he supposed to do? Just watch!?
So when one person's the one doing all the work outside of the house it's only fair that someone does all the work inside of the house people don't get a free ride in this world
@@sevenfgaming
The issue is at the end of the day he had home cooked food and he couldn't even make a plate for himself? It's the attitude that's the problem. When we were young I stayed home with our daughter and my husband worked. We had one car so my trips to the bank and grocery store were on foot with a baby. After he got home EVERYTHING was 50/50 as did our friends as well. If he had a long week then I did extra and if I had a long week, usually with a teething baby he picked up the slack. In a true partnership you don't keep score!!!
@@sevenfgaming 🤦♀️
grown ass adult refuses to feed himself, blames it on roommate
This is the episode of grown men acting like children
Where we record Man children throwing whiny fits
Having had a diabetic roommate, I feel for the first OP. It's hard to not feel responsible, especially when they have to go to the hospital for being either too high or too low. My roommate had not one but TWO episodes where she got dangerously high. She's type 1, and both times, she'd gone without insulin for like a day and a half due to delayed shipments (we lived in a pretty remote town, lots of things were delayed). The first time it happened, I felt so guilty. I kept thinking I should have spoken up quicker when I saw she was clearly not well. Fortunately, she never blamed me for it, and after a few days in the hospital, she was fine. The second time, we got her to the hospital sooner, so she didn't get quite as high, but it still scared the shit out of me and our friends.
The act like a kid story was beautiful. I don’t think he stuck his nose in, he played an absolutely harmless gag
Third story, OP’s sister thought it was Funny. He was standing up for her, the husband was fighting HIS sister in front of him MAKING it HIS business. What he did wasn’t dangerous or horrible and his sister thought it was funny. Not the Butthole at all, he stood up for his sister in a non dangerous and funny way.
I think the implication is that OP May have inadvertently made things harder and more stressful on the sister by pulling this stunt.
Which, yeah, in a situation like this is a valid take.
So OP would be a SLIGHT justified butthole in this situation for that. Even though I agree with him standing up for his sister.
At least the sister has a good sense of humor, though and didn't take out her stress on OP, like I've seen others in similar situations do.
Still, he's in a precarious situation as is. I don't know if rocking the boat (at this moment and time) without a back up plan is the smart play here.
Story 2: That's literally abusive behavior. How do they not realize that? Oh wait, they definitely do, but don't want to admit it. Even the "just a prank" excuse is telling
I agree. And who does the mom Think she is telling OP to “lEt ByGoNeS bE bYgOnEs”? They literally could’ve killed the fiancé. A prank is only a prank when they’re both laughing. Once it escalates to putting someone’s life in danger, it’s no longer a prank. It’s attempted murder. OP definitely should’ve started drawing a line sooner, but she is completely justified in disinviting those abusive people.
@@morgandouglas6014 maybe op should put some hair dye in her moms shampoo so her hair turns blue or something and if she gets upset just say 'why are you so upset, it's just a prank'
I somehow doubt they’d have the same reaction if someone hid grandma’s insulin
He’s losing THEIR respect? How could anyone respect them, ever. Bullies.
Like rSlash stated, if it's a prank, everyone would be laughing. But if noone else laughs except you, that is just straight up bullying.
In the third story: How does one "prepare a shower"? Thats not a bathtub that you can fill water into, so does he need his wife to take his socks of and turn on the shower? Can someone really be this useless?
Also, i have to disagree with OP about the kids tools. Any kid that is old enough to use tools is far less useless than this dude.
She probably turns on the shower and it's up to a temperature he likes. Lazy ass can't even be bothered to turn knobs
Maybe this was in Japan? Or OP wanted to write bath
I would assume that in order to get warm water to take a shower you would have to do something manually for it to happen. Like press a button or something and wait 20 minutes before turning on the water. Or the husband in the story is probably so exuasted that he doesn't have the energy to simply turn the water on.
Some days, when my husband has had a really long day, he'll ask me to do this (happens 1-3 times a year tops). He works in an industrial plant, and sometimes he's coated in really gross stuff.
For me, it'll be getting his clean clothes, making sure he has a towel and the things he needs. When he gets home, I'll take his clothes and put them down in the washer right away. He turns on the water himself because he likes lukewarm showers where I like it boiling.
@in desperate need of a scotch yeah i do, why would i waste all that water to wait for better times to come?
OPs dad: I will have lost respect for your fiancé tho if you make me apologize
OP: fine. I’ve lost all respect for you so your respect is meaningless.
This is how it should have gone.
I always made a point of tipping more than I probably should have when I ordered pizza while I still lived in the city, and the pizza place wasn't that far from me either, the same logic could be applied there, but the one pizza guy was always smiles when he saw me show up at the door, it was super cool. I had the delivery drivers call when they arrived, and I always got "It's pizza delivery!" in the most enthusiastic voice. So hearing that last story is just insane.
As a delivery driver I love the close to store orders. And the fact that OP tipped that much on a close order would make me love it even more. Those are the best deliveries to take IMO.
On top of that, even if I was disgruntled about taking a delivery I would NEVER openly be hostile towards a customer like that. That's just bad business.
Simon is a grown man and needs to get his own food. If he's broke, he should get some Ramen or a bologna sandwich or ask his family for money to get food.
Well, to be a teeny tiny bit fair, insulin is ridiculously expensive in the USA.
Or actually communicate with his roommate if it's really that important
One (1) candy can stop hypoglycemia btw
@in desperate need of a scotch that, or ask before hand if they'd be okay with sharing a meal, don't just assume you can take someone's food
@in desperate need of a scotch I didn't say anything about that 🤨 I just said that insulin is expensive in the USA. Like, it can cost $300 for one vial and most need 6 in a months. That's a lot of money, which can explain why Simon has none. But it is still only to be teeny tiny bit fair.
The second story is 100% a hill to die on. Severe asthma attacks are no joke. If anybody did this to my sister that has asthma, I would absolutely cut them out of my life even if they were family. Good job taking a stand against the bullying OP 👏
I have asthma and it's terrifying when you cant breathe. Taking an inhaler away is assault.
I worked with a woman who had asthma attack at home after work, could not get inhaler and she didn’t make it.
For the first time I’m going to MASSIVELY Disagree with you on the third one. I grew up in an abusive household and so did my nan. That behaviour is EXACTLY like how my Nan’s childhood was. Its not “marital problems” it’s riding that line of abuse….no it’s LITERALLY abuse.
i reckon in the future as well OP will probably be the leg that her sister needs when leaving him
Rslash wtf is up with the OP at sisters house story? The kid was kicked out and placed into a home were abuse is taking place. And on top of that this man child of a husband wants OP out and on the street anyways. The whole “your a guest and this is their marital issues” is legit saying “well your a guest so let the abuse, abuse” hell no. This kid is a saint for standing up to this cowardly bully
First story: My mum is a diabetic and has glucose tablets when her blood sugar gets too low. She also has to sip TONS of water if her glucose gets too high (Apparently this kinds dilutes the sugar in her blood and allows her body to adjust). Thankfully she has only collapsed twice, due to high blood sugar, but hasn't "yet" been hospitalised for it (Paramedics called though). OP's room mates are d0uchebags relying on OP to literally feed them everyday. They should just buy their own food and if they can't then look at their own finances and see what they don't need to spend too much on. Far too many people spend money on frivolous things, like expensive coffee and not on necessities.
I only go to Starbucks when I'm traveling. If I'm traveling I HAVE to get Starbucks. But on a trip I have the extra money to throw around for a nice cup of coffee. I make my coffee at home or if I really want coffee from somewhere else I do McDonald's. McDonald's has a lot of flaws but I'll be damned if they don't make good coffee. And smoothies. I'll admit that I do eat out too much but I'm also in a house with a mother who can't cook because of health and I don't know how which is why I'm off to culinary school to learn. I plan to start a baking business one day. I'd also like to be a bartender because I think it's cool and fun knowing how to mix your own drinks. I plan on being smarter with my money in the future.
@@truthseeker9249 My family eats out just once a week (usually take away/takeout). Sometimes it's going to a café for a cooked breakfast. It's extremely rare that we break this rule. My parents were always frugal, due to being working class and I didn't have the best clothes or the best toys growing up. That said we have always had practically no debt, or the debt was paid off early. My parents paid off two mortgages by the time I was 15 (mid 90's) and a vehicle loan in about 5 years. they were able to do this by not going aboard for holidays (holidaying in our own country once every other year), replacing something only when it can't be fixed and not overspending on luxury. While all my student peers went on holiday twice a year, a new car every two to three years, the best clothes and best stuff every couple of months....and they were all swimming in debt by living on credit.
Where did op say Simon spent money on coffee? You just assumed because of the "millennial drink starbucks" stereotype
@@littlemau1360 Neil (og commenter) used the coffee example as a figure of speech. They weren't trying to imply that Simon did that at all
@@littlemau1360 I just used that as an example. I wasn't literally saying that they spent all their money on coffee.
story 3: NTA, the husband needs to learn to respect his wife, she's pregnant and forcing her to over exert herself so he doesn't have to get up and walk ten feet to the kitchen is abuse. that's putting a major strain on her body and will affect the baby too
Hiding his inhaler in the middle of the forest. That's just straight up attempted murder.
My first thought.
Ik it is because I have asthma and let me tell you pollen and asthma together bad idea.
I'd never forgive anyone who willingly hides an inhaler, as an asthmatic it feels like you're suffocating. I'm terrified when I can't get access to my inhalers
Second story: if my SOs family slashed my tires to see what kind of man I was, I would be on the phone with the law enforcement. Then probably take them to small claims court
Hats off to the brother in the third story!! I LOVE how he showed support for his sister in a non-agressive, hilarious way. We need more people like that!
disagree if the husband was abusive hes just made it worse for her he shouldve talked to his sister and given support that way
WE NEED LESS PEOPLE LIKE THAT we need more people who ACTUALLY know how to stop abusive situations RATHER then idiots like op geting involved and making the abusive even worse up till this point it had just been verbal abuse but because of ops involvement it could easily escalate to physical had op actually asked his sister if she was alright and wanted him to get invovled beforehand sure but he didnt even confirm whether his involvement was needed
@@goku-sangreen4510 He is an underage person, and he reacted the only way he knew how. I feel like he took a stand and if the situation was abusive he would have acted too, as he's shown his support to his sister. I believe a kid like that would recognise abuse, as he recognised the husband being a baby. We have nothing it this story that suggests he is abusive, he is selfish and misogynistic, and there are tons of people like that in the world and being unhelpful at home is unfortunately not a criminal offense, it's her choice to stay with him or not!
@@gothicgolem2947 I agree with you IF the husband was abusive. IF the kid knew that something like this would escalate to violence, which doesn't look like this was the case. In my mind, this would further show his sister that she might have to reconsider her relationship. But I do see your point.
Spouse of a diabetic here: Simon is a big boy. He can feed himself. I doubt there was literally _no_ food in that house.
With 4 guys in their early 20s? It is not impossible. Even OP would save money by just buying frozen dinners than ordering delivery every night. Doesn't sound like anyone is cooking either.
@@Ikajo so how is this guy living there with no money and no food? The room mates called his parents, why couldn't he call his parents to send money or at least order him so food. Dude needs to go back home. He isn't ready to be an adult yet
@@neffyg35 I can't say, I've lived alone since I was 20. Handling things best I can. But I can also cook and know to buy quick meals when needed. Heck, I've made homemade pizza more than once. But I also have friends who, like me, are in their 30s and still don't know how to cook.
@@Ikajo not knowing how to cook is not a very good excuse for this guy. He can literally got to the dollar store and get a TV dinner or a bag of m&m. No cooking knowledge needed beyong how to open a package and how to use a microwave. Or better yet he could call his parents to have a burger delivered to him if he is that helpless.
@@neffyg35 I'm not arguing against that. I'm just saying that it isn't impossible that there were no food.
My mother is a type one Diabetic, and she knows that if she doesn't eat regularly, things get bad. He kept saying he didn't need food from Op, so anything that happened to him after that was on him. My ma hates it when we have to "treat her like a child" when she sugars get low. I don't want to get into a rant, but Op's roommate pisses me off because I've seen the bad side of sugar crashes.
2nd Story: If they manage to break their legs and needed crutches to walk, hide it as a "prank" and insult them that being temporarily disabled is not an excuse to walk like normally.
That second story is horrifying. Normal “testing the fiancé/bf” is just implying that if they hurt you then they will hurt him. It’s probably outdated but definitely not stealing a needed medical aid!
Sorry but absolutely dropped the ball in the third story. The attitude of not sticking your nose into other peoples' business is how abusive or just shitty relationships go on so long. Because nobody says anything, nobody intervenes. OP humiliated a grown man acting like a misogynistic baby, it was 100% deserved.
Exactly. Meddling in other people's business can save a life, and his sister is going thru it rough with her shit excuse of a husband
The two were just having a shouting match and they just antagonized the husband for fun. "Putting your nose in their business" in a meaningful way is calling the cops on abuse or telling somebody to seek help. This is not as a heroic as you want it to be.
Absolutely thats how my mother got stuck in an abusive marriage. Even so called friends of her looked away.
Yeah but OP wasn’t being helpful either. All he did was make more problems. How are they helping if they make an issue and just leave? As someone who was abused you don’t do things like this because they always retaliate on the victim. I know they are young but if they really wanted to help then they should talk to the sister more and see if she has plans. Help her find a way out or get someone who can help her. Don’t make things worse. Retaliation doesn’t work it always leads to more retaliation on the victim.
OP's actions do leave me a bit concerned for his sister's safety if OP is not in the house and the husband is; however, I feel like her laughing at the situation could also be a first step to coming to grips with the situation she's in and, hopefully, seeking help. There's a lot in this story since it starts out with OP being there just because he came out, and his parents expecting him to "turn back to normal" or whatever. To me, that sounds like the family back home could be the ultra conservative type, and that's why his sister is in this kind of terrible relationship.
That's just speculation, of course. But I do really hope that things turn out alright for both OP and his sister.
Story 4: Who gets mad over delivering food from a very small distance? Plus, what if the customer was disabled and couldn't leave their house?
Hopefully the delivery person got fired
Or people can be agoraphobic. Doesn't matter if they are disabled or just lazy, they paid for delivery. F that driver.
The only thing I can think of is the tip does not go to the driver any they are paid on some sort of distance/time basis.
So true. Was home with my 2yo niece and it was already dark and raining. Had worked a double the night before and was wasn't in the mood to wrestle my niece into clothes she would keep taking off. I ordered from a restaurant that was 5 min walking distance. The delivery guy called to confirm the address and was verry chill. I paid and that was it.
Hi, for the second story as someone who had asthma as a kid, hiding someone’s inhaler is absolutely fucking stupid. What if that person has an asthma attack? OP’s fiancé could’ve died if that happened. OP’s uncle, cousin, dad, and brother are insane for that “prank”
As someone currently with asthma i agree. You can literally die from this and they're treating it as some prank.. What happens if the fiance dies? Then what would they say at the funeral? "Its just a prank I'm sorry"? Idiotic! I think cutting them out of the wedding is letting them off easy. They're lucky op didn't go no contact
saw this story online where a schoolboy literally died from an asthma attack because the school took his inhaler and put it in (I think it was) the principals office. So yeah hiding the inhaler could’ve been lethal to Tim.
@@seth-the-inactive A SCHOOL did that??
@@limiv5272 apparently. And one would think that the bs "zero tolerance" policy was the lowest the school could go, too.....
Kick FIL in the balls
“Hey, do you want me to order extra food FOR YOU?”
“Nah I’m good.”
*Food comes*
“Okay, I’m going to go eat MY food, that I ordered with MY money, that YOU REFUSED TO ACCEPT YOUR OWN PORTION OF.”
*Shocked Pikachu*
Absolutely disagree about the "martial problems" story.
I get what you're saying RSlash, but not doing anything is how abusers get away with it.
I actually disagree. OP did have the right and obligation to call out his sister's husband, but the way that he did it wasn't going to produce results. If he was stressed and acting like a child, putting toys in front of him was not the way to help him have the realization of what he was doing to his wife. If would only piss off a stressed person more. I agree he absolutely should have stepped in to say something, but insulting him right off the bar was not going to help, especially after OP said that he would completely ignore it and mind his business before. To the husband it would feel like just a completely out of the blue insult. His heart was in the right place, but not a good start if he truly wants to help the situation.
The first story is the definition of victim-blaming behavior, OP made sure Simon didn't want to eat dinner, unknowing of the fact he hasn't eaten knowing his condition, OP did nothing wrong and shouldn't be blamed for Simons own self-destructive behavior
He did know Simon had a condition tho
@@saoranachnah-alba723 but he didnt know simon would use it as a threat. And even if he did it is none of his responsibility
@@eduardofonseca5087 exactly. I think he refuses to eat and gave himself hypoglycemic intentionally to attempt to prove a point and make OP keep buying him free food
@@saoranachnah-alba723 So? do you pay for treatment of every person you know is sick? Simon is an adult AND has a family to fall back to, also he has other roommates, so there is no excuse.
@@saoranachnah-alba723 Yeah, dude knew Simon had diabetes. What OP DIDN'T know is that Simon wasn't eating. That isn't on him. That's be like me going days without eating, and not seeing anyone enough for them to know and then getting mad that they didn't know. Op works, I'd hope Simon does too. How are they supposed to know what the other is going through?
The one about the brother-in-law.
1. Who is he, my abusive grandfather that told my mom to make him coffee literally 30 minutes after she finally was able to go to bed?
2. My brother-in-law is the bread winner. Before my sister's health went to hell, he STILL did a lot around the house.
Imagine needing someone to get the shower running for you as a fully able bodied adult
There's no such thing as an entitlement to food without asking for it first, who does that!?
My thoughts in order from each story:
1. Time to get new roommates, they're mooches and they're using the episode of a coma scare to guilt you into providing for them. You're not their mother, and your not their servant.
2. Time to get a new family, think about it. What if, by the grace of RNJesus, you have a newborn that has asthma, would seriously trust that they wouldn't "Tease" your future kid like that?. Also, that's not funny, you don't hide someone's inhaler, its like hiding an EpiPen from someone with allergies. Your family think life threatening complications that people are born with is just 'weakness' and should be mocked. That is dangerous.
3. He's actually a good brother, and his sister seriously needs a new husband. Still a bad houseguest, but I'd prefer a awesome brother who can make me see what my relationship looks like, because no grown woman wants to be seen married to a child.
4. you don't need to justify a delivery service, you could be the laziest person to the most busiest person on the planet, no one should ever be bullied into thinking they aren't good enough for a service. That restaurant needs a new deliverer.
Second story : Slashing tires isn't a prank!!!!! That's a crime! Hidding medicine isn't a prank; it's a crime! They aren't pranksters they are bullying petty criminals! "Oh your boyfriend is going to loose my respect!" Their respect means nothing! OP should be loosing respect for her family! This isn't "boys will be boys" shit! This it toxic masculinity and bullying shit!
Okay- Simon needs to care about his own self. I’m not a diabetic by any means- but I have grown up with some other undiagnosed issues I’m just finding about and I’m not using those as a crutch for free food. I fend for myself and do what I need to to stay healthy. He’s an adult, he didn’t even say anything !
*edited for a typo*
That second story: As a girl myself, if my father, uncle and brother did that to the man I was going to marry, I'd have a problem with it too. This story reminds me of the story you told a while ago about the women testing the new women coming into the family and they all came in white to the wedding. Granted, this story's worse. While the other story is hurting one girl's feelings, this story the men literally put OP's fiancé's life in danger. I hope OP not only keeps them far away from their wedding but also their kids. You don't want the father and brother and the rest teaching the kid those things and maybe get them to treat their father the same.
Also, that third story, whenever I hear a story like this, makes me angry. It's infuriating to read when the husband and wife are expecting and the husband still expects the wife to do all the work around the house. I mean, it wouldn't hurt him to do his own laundry or start his own shower or, if she's too exhausted, heat up a frozen dinner for a night or two and eat that. Seriously, all the expecting couples I've met the husband's thrilled about his wife being pregnant and will bend over backwards for her, not wanting her to suffer like that by taking on more responsibilities. That's not to say she should do nothing, but given how exhausted she is, she does need more help.
That fourth story, I think I get why the delivery driver was so mad. For places farther away, she's probably able to slack off and do other things and take longer to get back and blame it on traffic. In that sense, she's getting paid for doing whatever she wants before she decides to come back to the burger place. OP ordering and being so close to the place means she can't do that. She has no excuse but to come straight back to the burger place and do whatever it is she does there while she waits for the next order, ruining her master plan to do as little work as possible. That's my theory anyway.
One thing that infuriate me the most is that they call asthma an "Excuse." OP better go NC with them for her husband's safety because they're not gonna call ambulance if her husband health suddenly goes down and need immediate medical attention. Resulting his death.
@@ReigoVassal I agree completely. I know people with asthma and I don't see it as an excuse for anything. They didn't ask for it. I mean, imagine even if their children have asthma as well. If the men in OP's family see it as the "excuse" they claim it is, they're a danger of not just killing her future husband but kids as well. I hope she goes NC for the sake of keeping her family safe.
If the man you're about to marry doesn't enforce his boundaries (or has none to begin with) and lets it get this far, I'd suggest you're not about to marry a man.
The guy in the story needs to grow a spine and stand up to them. That could be as simple as saying "No." or walking out of the room. If he doesn't, they will never respect him.
@@ReigoVassal Yeh, you don't fuck with a person's inhaler. It's just not on.
That said, any retaliation on her part will just be seen as his weakness. He needs to stand up for himself (really, he should have done that the first time they messed with him). The simplest (and least messy) way to do that is to just not give them the time of day beyond being cordial. If they want to hang out - they can call when they learn to act like adults. No threats, no yelling, no fighting, NO ULTIMATUMS - just enforcing your boundaries.
@@233kosta If you're referring to the third story, I definitely agree. However, when you're about to marry someone and you don't want to cause any riff between you and the family because your SO loves them, then you aren't going to make too big a fuss.
If you ask me, what he did was very mature and adult of him. He didn't punch anyone or anything and he's made his boundaries known already. Heck, OP has enforced and backed her fiancé on those boundaries in the past. He just left the trip, came back home and told OP what happened because it was clear to him that they didn't respect him or his health at all. One would argue that he's not being a man by not facing his problem and letting his SO handle it for him, but he did the right thing. When dealing with people like that, they aren't going to listen to the person they have no respect in. You'd hope they have some respect for OP and they seem to, but it doesn't feel like it because while they're trying to show respect to her, they're showing disrespect to her fiancé. Putting myself in OP's shoes, imagining my father saying what the men of her family said to OP in the direction of the man in my life, I'd consider it a slap in the face both ways. I hope she goes NC.
3:33 THANK YOU FOR POINTING THAT OUT!!!!!! im a type 1 diabetic i always have juice on hand in case i go low i make sure i have food or can get food. Simons Lazyness is not on OP or the roommates due to Simons clear inability to take care of himself. if Simon cant take care of himself he needs to be put in a nursing home or a group home.
my lord. as a hypoglycemic, I will also add to the first story that the warning signs hit well before you're going into an episode. you KNOW how you feel. it's hard to ignore, it makes you feel incredibly sick and awful. homie screwed himself on purpose with the intent to blame the op, starved himself for hours because he was too lazy to order/find his own food. awful behavior, absolutely frustrating
Third story: OP is absolutely not the a*hole. He was defending his sister who was being physically and emotionally ground down. I'm also confused - in a previous video, you called men who don't stick up for their wives "pussies". Well, her husband wasn't being supportive but her brother was. The brother was doing the exact thing you want people do to and now you're giving him a score?! Being a bit harsh there.
Finally, the sister laughed at the situation... I don't know what that means but she clearly approved of her brother's actions. She is the one having all this stress heaped on her.
This... I can't get out of my head that r/slash is giving this OP a score because he's a young non-heteronormal person and not a "family man". I don't want to read too much between the lines but I can't shake the feeling that r/slash feels closer to the figure of the father or man of the house. He's particulary upset by bad parents, and pretty much favorable to OP's that are "head of the household". He went out of his way to state that it was the husband's house (like if it was not hers too), and OP was disturbing the "peace" in someone else's house. As if not rocking the boat for who he percieves as the head of household was more important than call out actual abuse.
Lmfao if my husband was behaving like that and my little brother served him dinner with children's utensils, I'd be in tears from laughing so hard and tell him he deserved every bit of it. Yeah OP was KIND of an asshole, but in this case I think it was justified given how awful the husband was acting.
first op, nta Simon needs to swallow his pride and ask and explain he's broke. Nor act entitled to it
I think she was relieved that her brother was actually standing up for her, it was probably that exhausted laugh of, "Oh, so I'm not crazy he really is acting like a child."
First story: I have a T1D little brother. Even tho he is only 10 years old he is more responsible than Simon in that story. It's concerning to me that he isn't able to take care of himself bc of you don't take care of yourself when you have T1D it can lead to severe consequences. Worse things than a hypoglycemic episode. I really hope he tries to get his health on track.
Third story: okay, I just had to stop when the BIL said “I’LL TELL YOUR PARENTS WHAT YOU DID!” The frick? Is this guy really an adult or a petulant child in an adult’s body? What grown adult seriously says, “WAHHH! You hurt my feelings and made me feel bad so I’m gonna tell on you!” I hope the sister dumps him. If it was me, I wouldn’t want my child being raised by another child, nor would I want to be married to a child.
The parents who kicked him out for bring gay as well 😑
Not even that, but OP's parents are pretty abusive, and kicked him out for being gay until "he went back to 'normal'". Does his BIL really think OP will listen to two abusive and homophobic douches? If anything it's more likely the BIL will be the one kicked out of the house.
I think he handled that situation perfectly this guy is acting like a three-year-old might as well treat him like one just because you're the breadwinner doesn't mean you can't do anything else I have a full-time job I still make my own food I still make my own showers I still do my own laundry
11:10 (third story) come on rSlash, OP didn't stick their nose on their " -pre-marital- private marital business". OP stood up against a man who was abusing his -fiancée- wife. Domestic violence isn't just physical violence. It's completely unacceptable that a grown man gets angry and starts yelling just because their 6 month pregnant partner didn't put the food on the table. He's a grown man and she's not his slave. The -fiancé- husband is abusive and seems to be violent, and it was very clear that this type of completely unjustifiable behaviour is very frequent and OP just stood with their sister against abuse. Definitely not a "Everyone sucks here" situation. They're not fighting, there's no nunace on this. The guy is abusing his -fiancée- wife and that's it. He had it coming. I hope OP's sister leaves him before it's too late.
Domestic violence should never considered be private business
You are not wrong, just, the sister is married to the guy. rSlash said private martial business, not pre-martial.
My thoughts exactly! This story screamed domestic abuse and I'm glad the brother stood up to him. Hopefully they have a good outcome.
honestly, i did a double take on the "everyone sucks here" rating, because OP's PREGNANT sister is literally being used as a fucking maid or something and all they're supposed to do is just keep ignoring that?? the fiance is a sexist and abusive asshole and if OP and their sister don't get out of there ASAP, that verbal abuse will eventually turn physical
@@dronepikachu I be honest I don't agree with rslash. You don't ignore verbal abuse like that.
@@Ikajo I misheard it, I'll correct that, thanks!
If someone took my inhaler for a "challenge". I would have them charged for trying to kill me.
Story 1: as a fellow hypoglycemic, Simon did that ON PURPOSE. No way in hell there wasn’t a slice of BREAD in the house. And as a diabetic, it’s basically a divine commandment to carry candy. He put HIMSELF in the hospital out of pure SPITE. He knew he was perfectly safe, he set this up.