How to adjust to your entire relational world being confined to one place, Part 1 - Esther Perel
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ก.ย. 2024
- The first of four live workshops from Esther Perel covering how we engage with the new normal from a relational perspective.
For more from this series, visit estherperel.com/lockdown.
Esther is the mother, sister, friend, counselor we all need right now
Esther's husband interrupting her half-way through...priceless. Love Esther!
Feminine men are the best🏳️🌈❤️❤️
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Pay very close attention to the language because it's very cryptic. It's not really about relationships but feminizing men.
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@Black Knight Fool no ways...
One of our great ideas was to go to a pub in our balcony. We put on restaurant playlist on spotify, we had a delivery from a good hamburger place, put some candles and twinkle lights on and opened some beer. We didn't have a good table so we made one from some piece of wood we had placed on a small chair. I put on make up, we wore nice clothes and just had a great time. Ate ice cream as desert because we eat desert only when we go out to eat somewhere. That was super fun and when we "came back home" we felt much better and as if we actually went out.
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I've realized my husband and I still love each other's company after 48 years. We've been together non stop for 2 months and we're still laughing, and making the best of this socially distant time. This has been a dark time for the world and going forward we will be most appreciative of the light that is in front of us. Be well, everyone. Thank you once again, Esther.
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Esther, From the bottom of my heart I just want to say THANK YOU! I love your brain, I Iove your ideas. You make the world a better place :)
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Agreed!
I hope to be as relevant, attractive, and great a communicator as Esther is in her 60's!! Shocking!! Can't believe how wonderfully vibrant she is!! 💪🏽🧡🙆🏻♀️
Hi Esther as always your words enlighten us. Im 63 alone at home doing well. I face loneliness, Covid--19 took our agendas away , not working now. This is an impasse where I admit not knowing whats going to happen, Im trying not to anticipate the future. Basically nurturing spiritually, I chat with God & pray for the world. Im in control of few things nowdays, so it is. Trying to see & appreciate all the good things in my life, always good to be grateful. This shall pass & we will need new resources & new thoughts to get along & transform our lifes. Bless u all .
I am single. Solo in quarantine but I appreciate Esther so much. She is smart and wise and I have a crush on her brain. You don't need to be in a relationship to learn from her.,
I should have said, specifically an intimate/couple relationship. She offers much for all relationships of our lives.
we need you and your wisdom right now more than ever. thank you so much for uploading these videos here for free.
So, That was time well spent for me, and I think Many others.
I will re-listen to this later and maybe ask a couple of key questions that I think Esther may be able to help with. I know she is trying to answer many dozens (hundreds?) of questions. She is but one woman; but WHAT a wonder woman she is!
Thanks, Esther Perel, for decades of hard work and progress. You have made a difference. You are making a difference still.
You will make the world a little happier.
Hers is the soothing, intelligent voice that brings peace and calm🥰
Esther Perel for President!!
lol, @ 21:18 "excuse me, you have to be quiet, I'm in the middle of a webinar, sorry"... "excuse me", lol... I LOVE this real time, Esther at work with her hubby in the house... absolutely love it!
Congratulations on your wedding anniversary. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your acumen with us across the globe. Blessings!
2020 taught me one thing for sure, and that is that we could never be complete masters of our circumstances
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I was worried about how isolation would have an impact on relationships and how good it would be for you to address it. And here it is. You're awesome Esther! Thank you
Thank you Esther for helping us strengthen our mental health. I could not travel home fast enough. So I am sheltered in place in NZ. Safe but alone. Away from my loved ones. I am blessed to be where I am.
I stumbled upon this video after some time of not being able to follow you and I just want to say THANK YOU for doing these chats for us. I listened to you while making breakfast and it made my cry and laugh and feel accompanied in these challenging times. What you discussed I can apply to my relationship with my daughter which has been a bit strained from my side under the burden of all the roles I need to play nowadays and how emotionally exhausted I feel. So thanks for coming to have bfast with me today and talk and soothe me ♡
I enjoyed listening. Esther is so gorgeous & comforting.
Thank you Esther. I am such a fan. I always tell my daughter I want to be you when I “grow up” haha. You are such an inspiring woman. Thanks for the support.
You’re truly a big help, Esther! This is what I needed to hear. Your avid fan from Philippines 🇵🇭
“I have just transgressed myself ...” you have me now if not forever ♾ such beauty & high emotional iQ! Thank You 🙏🏽💙🌏💚
You’ve been such an inspiration for me in so many ways the main reason I started watching and listening to you is September 11 2016 I was stabbed beaten kidnapped at knife point and jumped from a moving vehicle traveling 55 mph broke several bones leaving me disabled and I was having nightmares, and still don’t want to be around people but I suffer from bipolar disorder. Not only this I lost all 3 of my friends one in 2009 one 2015 and the third 2019 I’m friendless now I watch and listen to every video I want to thank you. I met my fiancé 2 days before I had planned my suicide he saved my life
Thank you very much for this. I live on my own and learning to do this on my own. I'm not any more lonely than before, but I do need to find ways to connect so that I don't get more lonely. There are two different types of loneliness - the one because of your choices, and the one because of someone else's choices. I think I find the loneliness because of my own choices easier to live with.
I'm alone too, Facebook has Al-Anon Online. An amazing place that makes me feel so grateful to NOT be in a bad relationship. It's a way we can connect while we're in isolation, I highly recommend it. Chin up
Thats me and loads of other people
Such a wonderful, soulful, intelligent, warm person.
Hello to Esther and everyone who is watching. Virtual hug to all.
Virtual hug back to you!
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I can apply everthing Esther is saying to my relationship with myself. She is so loving and powerful.
This is brilliant Esther. Changing the script and the role play is something I never considered and it's a great idea!
It is just facing reality... It has always been painful, and we always try to face it and manage it... I love your copping method.
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Thank you! It was soo soothing to hear you acknowledging these difficult times, and giving practical ideas. I am alone in the lockdown with a dying cat, so aloneness is very heightened -& so look forward to hearing the aloneness session too. Much love .
Hugs to you...i have 5 cats and i feel your pain ❤
Sending healing wishes & comfort to you and your beautiful feline soul 🐱😽
Esther! You are such a high level, brilliant thinker ❤ Thank you for this workshop and giving us language and insight into our own human experience. The collapsing of roles into a single space with no delineation between made total sense to me. I appreciate your work and look forward to the next session
Thank you for the valuable wisdom of understanding the
the inner instinct that would be very useful to make this world a better place for all of us
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Big hugs to everyone watching this. Esther, you are such a role model
I love this so much, thank you Esther! Boundaries are something essential to be reminded about. Much love to you!
Dear Esther, you are so honest, real..., you talk about different coping styles/ balancing each other out....that's what it is about. You are such an inspiration in my life and work. Thank you so much Esther
I learn something everytime I listen to you.......merci pour votre implication.
Thank you Esther. I a fan from Cameroon in Africa and I watch lots of your stuffs. Currently reading your great book on Rethinking Infidelity and that's deep for real. Am a CBT therapist in my early 40s and am just happy to have you to learn from virtually. Hardly any such in my country. Thanks for all indeed
I've absolutely loved every minute of this. such a beautiful reminder of loving in different ways and loving yourself most important. Thank you so much Esther, you're amazing.
Hi Esther, a question I hope you can answer on Wednesday: many out there live in very disfunctional 'couple' relationships and the lock down only accentuates the disfunction; there's no time out to come to the surface for air. How can one start transforming or opening the dialog with a spouse or partner who's unwilling ? Where should one begin? Love your podcasts, often my go-to source of solace.
Thank you for being a light in the world!
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Greetings from Singapore to you Miss Perel, I am so glad to have found this TH-cam of yours about the subject topic at this crucial moment of period for everyone in the world. Stay safe and healthy!
Such a wonderful lady. I love listening to her.
This was such a good talk for me at this time. It applies in such a relatable way to all areas of all our lives right now. Thank you so much.I will be an alert for all the other parts in this series..
We love you, Esther! So happy to see you!!!
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such gratitude to you!
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I try to listen to all of your work(I try)! On all my breaks I listen to podcasts, watch TH-cam videos, etc. I respect you so much! I am considering becoming a counselor and you’re my inspiration! Sending love!
Need representation like this more often🙏🏳️🌈🏳️🌈❤️❤️
Thank you Esther... This was a breath of fresh air in these uncertain times.
Thank you for a wonderful enlightening conversation. Much appreciated.
Thank you so much, Esther. I would be grateful for your thoughts and advice for relationships for (new) couples who are not quarantined together and who many not be able to see each other in person during this time (for an unknown period of time). Thank you!
This is SOLID ADVICE PLEASE SHARE!! She saw so far into the future! I so wish I’d heard this when she first published this!
Thank you Esther. I loved your book: Mating In Captivity. It was extremely relevant and insightful. Your work and studies are extremely useful now, more than ever. Today and tomorrow, depending where in the world you live, is the full moon in Libra. Libra is the sign of relationships so manifesting hopes and wishes surrounding this topic is extremely crucial right now. Seeing those goals and wishes as though they have happened is powerful and taking active steps however big or small can put us on track, whether or not we can fully reach these with the current situation. At least we are positively making progress together. That is vibrant and powerful. I am sending love, light and healing vibrations to all. Namaste 🙏
I see my friends who are alone with this and perhaps they will find a way to allow another in their lives to share times like this...you are fantastic Esther love your books and podcasts (Niagara Falls, Ontario, Canada)
Thank you for your honest realistic share. I feel God has us stand still Moment in our lifetime. Giving us chance to think. Taking two steps backwards and viewing the world.
Helping us view ourself and the world.
Thank you Esther for starting this series. Your books and podcasts have been so helpful to me in the last year and here you are again with the simplest and most precious life gems. You are a treasure, thank you for sharing your light and vibe x
You have big shoulders Esther, thank you for thinking about all of us.
Hi from Sussex, England. Great to see a therapist dealing with boundaries spontaneously!
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I loved this! Thank you so much Esther. Be safe!
Thanks a lot Esther, from The Netherlands
I loved it when you said, “Mating in Captivity: The Quarantine Version.” You out to consider that for a title. :-)
You may find healing if you look for it. Good luck.
@@hipsister4777 You know nothing of me.
@@JALimpert I have all the information I would ever need to know about you.
Dear Esther. Hello from Louis and Merianne from Costa Rica.
How good to hear you and see in this way. Thank you so much!
No surprise, we came away with great insights and some new ideas to try. BTW, thanks so much for introducing us to Hedy. The day we spent with her was breathtakingly good.
Thank you for your brilliance, your creativity, and your mischief! We can't wait to listen to the other three workshops and sharing this information with every couple we know.
Please take care of yourself during this time. The world needs what you offer more than ever.
Your voice continues to calm my nervous system. Thank you for your wisdom and enormous heart!
Thank you very much for reminding and teaching us how to make our lifes better. Thanks also for your time and having chosen to talk to world! I admire your teachings! May you have a long life in health, good mood, luck, love, empathy, patience, success and everything you it is best for you and your life!
Thank you Esther, you are a blessing❤️
You look beautiful. Quarantine has upped your glow.
Rest. We are all going to look so much better when we get out!
Listening to the recording of last night’s live video from Cape Town, South Africa. Thank you for making it available!
This is amazing, you’re so profound and thoughtful and real, merci pour tout ce que vous faites. Je vous écoute depuis presque un an et à chaque fois j’en ressors renouvelée, avec une nouvelle perspective que je peux réellement appliquer dans ma relation. Vous avez la sagesse et vous aidez à le partager pour ceux qui en ont besoin. Merci profondément.
Thank you Esther you are wonderful❤️🌸🙏
Great to listen to you. Thank you. Love the idea of playfulness!!!!! x
Fantastic. I wish that everyone would watch this.
esther ive been needing you through this tough timeee, thank you for showing!
Thank you Esther!
you're a life savior 🙏🏻
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Thank you so much for this helpful, encouraging and comforting video. I’m so grateful for you sharing your time with us and also the opportunity to see you in a different environment. I look forward to the next one 😘
sending you so much love, admiration and gratitude, from New York
I am in Italy with kids so that means I have been on lockdown since March 5th. I feel pressure from so many different directions I feel like I'm drowning. I do my best to manage the kids and their schooling, help my elderly neighbors, and take care of myself all the while I am apart from my companion, my children's father is being an ass writing nasty messages and calling the kids with nasty things to say and local people have lost their mind- while power walking I was followed for 100m by a man in a car yelling at me to go home (although where I am sport is still legal, for now). The dates when the lockdown will be lifted keep sliding so I feel like I will never reach the light at the end of the tunnel. I feel overwhelmed and alone all the while pretending to be positive for my kids. Where do I begin!?!? Ciao from Italy. ❤
Laura Pazzaglia hello from S Florida USA. I’m sorry you’re going through this. As far as the children’s father saying or texting nasty things to you and the kids, , you can set the boundary. I have a high conflict abusive ex and when I realized I don’t have to give him the audience he seems to need and it was very freeing and healing. Remember if you don’t play the game it becomes solitaire. Since you can only control yourself and not him, nor the crazy outsiders who follow you while you’re getting excercise /sport, as long as you are safe you can ignore them and go onto another street. Maybe try yoga and jumping jacks at home with the kids - could be fun, and it’s ok to tell them Mommy needs quiet time. I find a daily routine is important for the kids so maybe you can set a quiet hour or half hour daily so everyone knows that’s self care time, for you and for them...take a hot bath or whatever you find soothing. All the best to you and your family!
Hello !!!Stay safe Miss Esther Perel!!! I'm really upset by the lockdown, I'm feeling a weird strong level of anxiety and depression.
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That’s all so heavy and so real.
I can’t express properly how grateful I am for having discovered you last summer! But thank you anyway.
"Make space for the Difference that is living inside of you, and between you..."
It doesn't get wiser than this...
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdown
I cant wait for part 2 !!
Thank you for everything you offer Esther!
You are an inspiration .... merci
Thank you so much Esther.🧡 I enjoyed every part of the video.
This women is an angel 😇 for us all x love from Sydney
Hello, Esther and everyone else! Lots of love from Romania! Be safe!
Brilliant! ♥️
This is beautiful, thank you Esther. ❤️. Also how interesting it is that normaly if we bicker about things our partners do that we dislike- we learned not to make it about them as a grounds of their personality. Yet now with love and kindness thanking to have done the dishes and making it about how kind they are is a new rule. 🙏 Love this reverse way of thinking. Quite possibly I’m starting to belive that indeed we all will come out a better people, better partners after pandemic is over. ❤️
You are a wonderful human. Thank you!
Love you Esther! Thank you so much xx
Thank you for sharing examples from your own life. That is incredibly helpful!
Thank you Esther . Love to hear your thoughts on how to get thru relationship issues during this time.
Thank you so much Esther for doing this workshops & for bring all these important aspects up🤩💚🙏😎
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Hi from Swansea Wales Uk. Esther shining light, bless you.
Love this conversation. Would you be able to discuss relationships in which one partner (eg. one partner is a healthcare provider) who is much more anxious and fearful than the other?
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Esther, it was wonderful to hear your perspective and ideas. You talk about reaching out to the community and about setting boundaries. How do you handle scenarios where you reach out to people to check in with them or connect or ask for help only to be told they are.constantly busy or don't have time for you.
Reach out to people who do respond.
Happy to see you
How to deal with diverse needs? I mean, for instance, grandparents over putting expectations to see grandchildren and just ignoring the chaos young ones (us, parents) are leaving with babies.
You are just expectacular, Esther!
Thanks a lot for this video webinar.
Love you Esther, thank you for your wealth of relational-magic that you share!