Maybe in 100 or 200 years time Dr Shefali will be called the woman who changed, or even saved, the world. Her message is so clear and obvious once understood. Imagine being the person who began the end of human violence, competitive capitalism and the belief that from the moment we arrive here we are owned. Truly remarkable lady.
So sad that so many miss her message and meaning and can't or won't understand, what it is the is actually saying.. I just stumbled upon her video's and books and to me.. she sees it exactly how it is 💖
I wish I could put thousands of likes for this interview. Dr. Shefali and Jay Shetty some of the most enlightened people on Earth 💙 Some parts of this kind of parenting I already practiced intuitively and keep working on myself, because I'm certain about "my kids raising me" , so true!
Now i am in a situation where i don't have a good relationship with my dad. I don't want to look at myself as "I'm right, or i know better than he does" but honestly right now i feel like my voice does not matter!! I feel like it's my duty to follow my dad's dreams for my life and what he wants and what i want are two different things.... And i am not heard by my dad, he doesn't want to listen to me. But through this all i don't feel like a victim ..... I honestly feel very sad for my dad because i feel that he has so much to overcome given the environments that have shaped his being right now. It's soo hard for him than it is for me. Dr Shefali is just on point. I love her talks, i can relate sooo much. Just like Dr Wyne Dyer said "Every child is a living soul that is trying to come to life and live authentically. A child came from a parent but is not for the parent." I keep asking God to never take away what i am going through now....... I just want him to add to my faith to carry this through!! I am growing and i am loving it.
So true dr. Shefali thank you. I'M Reading your book Conscious Parenting and I' m from Holland. Till now I have reached so Many moms and they all are buying your book too.
Wow, I hope that your message will reach to every parent & future parents so they or their kids won't live in fear but of peace, desire for doing good to others & even acceptance & unity in tough times. Thank you doctor Shefali & Jay
We All as Parents need to Dim our Light in the face of Basic instructions or demonstration of a teaching opportunity as to allow for no expectation of performance but of free Flow experience of their own.
Our children are from us but not us and not us do they belong. They are spirits through us and we need to encounter them at their terms !! Are we ready for that !! We rob of them of their intimate connection with their ownselves and thereby suppress their inner voice , once disconnected with their inner voice , it gets substituted by other noises around to fill the void !!
In The U.S.A. Parents From Pre-K to 18. Their Lives are Dictated in Structure and Legal Obligations like the Requirement to HOLD A HOUSEHOLD FOR A MINOR EVEN IF YOUR NOT THE PRIMARY CARE GIVER. AS YOUR CHILD BECOMES 18 And Freedom is taken by them into the world with their own choices and directions apart from you. (success of the INDEPENDENT AND CONFIDENT ADULT) THE REFOCUS OF SELF IS NEEDING GUIDANCE AND SUPPORT BY YOU.
Dr. Shefali was/is brilliant as usual. My disappointment is really with the interviewer... the moment he said the name of those celebrities who embody what is totally wrong with our society, that was a huge waste of life...
How to Move from Parent to Empty Nester in your 40's as a Single Parent with no Social Connections because parenting was the focus and the schools had Controlled your life? How to Recreate in Positive ways?
Yes Dr Shafali's teachings are not the most popular . its sounds contraversal and too straight and deep , easy to misunderstand and become bitter about Her works ... .. may be in 20 years . but better start now than late ... and best "on the spot question" for me is .. what is the advice you would give to your younger self ? !! I love the answer and its very much resonate with my own life .. wow!!
So we must just let kids behave as they want to treating them as independent spirits, isn't telling the kids whats good or bad for them part of parenting? I think a lot Shefali's book is a response to perhaps her own controlling Indian parents. But i do agree with the wreckage part, where she says " In wreckage will come growth" .
I have binged watched her talks for 3 days now, i never got the sense she was not grateful for parents. What I am getting from her, is she is helping parents see parenting in a different light, the message is you don't possess your child to go with this mind set. I don't know if you have any kids. If you don't you will never understand until you have even one.
Awakening... Mia Angelo's Love for her Mother and Liberation. A Terrible Mother of Young One's but this also means redefining positive relationships with the Adult Child using these.
Sorry! We didn’t have a child to make our lives better! Our lives were good even before having our child. We were happy even when we were just the two of us.
Wendy It is not intended to be taken 100% literally, it is a figure of speech and her aim is to challenge our perspective of the parent-child relationship. Rather than deluding ourselves and seeing our children as an extension of us, we can shift that perspective to value it as a true relationship. A relationship that has two parties, two sides, and essentially allow parents to learn from children too.
First giving them space by moving away !! Then asking only open ended questions, Not being overly inquisitive Not preaching not sermonizing Not giving your opinion !!
I feel with her message is that if you change your perspective, change how you feel about the tantrum get in touch with your own emotions you will know what to do. She is really ahead of her times, I can see how some people don't get her. I am 53 and have a 25 year old deaf son. Her books where not out but I did most of what she said. It was not always perfect believe me. but my mind and heart were in tune with her teachings before even I found out of her. When my son did a tantrum in the middle of the shopping center.....I just stayed calm let him express even though judging eyes were watching me....and even though it was not convenient, I said we are leaving we would leave usually it was because he was tired. I now babysit my nephews and I find when they are upset it's because they are not feeling understood. I let them yell and scream, with no judgement, then they calm down and come and tell me what was upsetting them they are now 4 and 6. Remember they have to deal with unconscious adults around them it's very tough for such pure souls. If it gets out of hand i find, time out, is the best, with an explanation why they are in time out. (never in their room) usually in a corner on a stool. And always remind them they you love them even though they are in time out.
Lynda thanks for the advice, I am 28 with b/g twins, my boy is usually the one with angry issues, and is true is usually because they are tired or he won’t tell me what he truly feels. I also need to work on myself because I don’t have a lot of patience but I acknowledge it and stop myself sometimes from acting crazy, is an everyday struggle😩
Rosana Leon So true. Speaking through their emotions is a way to handle the moment. Works for me with twin girls. Still not good at it. Consciously practicing everyday
There is so much your child already knows and has divine intelligence ; so plugging into this divine intelligence is the real wisdom
Dr Shefali !! Boon on this Earth !!
Love each word of what you say !!
Maybe in 100 or 200 years time Dr Shefali will be called the woman who changed, or even saved, the world. Her message is so clear and obvious once understood. Imagine being the person who began the end of human violence, competitive capitalism and the belief that from the moment we arrive here we are owned. Truly remarkable lady.
So sad that so many miss her message and meaning and can't or won't understand, what it is the is actually saying.. I just stumbled upon her video's and books and to me.. she sees it exactly how it is 💖
@R C it's all a matter of being present and knowing that you are exactly where you need to be right now
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@@logangomez1209 wQWW
Basically it is Lord Buddha s teaching 🌸 I m so thankful for Dr Shefali for sharing her wisdom to the world.
Love from Sri Lanka.🌸 big fans of both Shefali n Jay
she is a wonderful being!!!! truthful and wise
Whoa what a beautiful language... you've got such a wonderful vocabulary Dr.Shefali...
I wish I could put thousands of likes for this interview. Dr. Shefali and Jay
Shetty some of the most enlightened people on Earth 💙
Some parts of this kind of parenting I already practiced intuitively and keep working on myself, because I'm certain about "my kids raising me" , so true!
Beautiful eyes they both have and both are spiritually awakened souls!
Lol that's just genes
waw! their energies are so similar..their eyes say the same thing ..god bless you both
I request humbly to Dr. Shefali to hold a parenting workshop in India to educate several ignorant parents relying on past formulas.
Now i am in a situation where i don't have a good relationship with my dad. I don't want to look at myself as "I'm right, or i know better than he does" but honestly right now i feel like my voice does not matter!! I feel like it's my duty to follow my dad's dreams for my life and what he wants and what i want are two different things.... And i am not heard by my dad, he doesn't want to listen to me.
But through this all i don't feel like a victim ..... I honestly feel very sad for my dad because i feel that he has so much to overcome given the environments that have shaped his being right now. It's soo hard for him than it is for me. Dr Shefali is just on point. I love her talks, i can relate sooo much.
Just like Dr Wyne Dyer said "Every child is a living soul that is trying to come to life and live authentically. A child came from a parent but is not for the parent."
I keep asking God to never take away what i am going through now....... I just want him to add to my faith to carry this through!! I am growing and i am loving it.
Beautiful attitude.
But honor YOURSELF.
Sending my love.
A lot of Montessori philosophy in Shefali’s guidance. well worded and easy to understand. thank you
have never missed even one video of Jay,this one is like always the best!
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So true dr. Shefali thank you. I'M Reading your book Conscious Parenting and I' m from Holland. Till now I have reached so Many moms and they all are buying your book too.
Her name is doctor,
Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹
Y'all such an inspiration 🥰
Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈
I listen Both of every day, admired by their wisdom
This is beautiful and wonderful and challenging!! Thank you!! 💖💖
wow i have two kids and I know something keep telling me I can have a better relationship with my kids yes love it! thank you .
Love you both and love your message Dr. Shefali.
Dr Shefali u r amazing. I bought your book, I can't wait to read it!
Started this book a week ago and can not put it down. Wished I had her teachings 13 yrs ago...
Thank you dear Dr,.Shefali and Jay and wish you a nice day LG Elisabeth ! ! !
Wow! Amazing conversation... can’t wait to go through this book!
Dr. Stefani ❤️❤️❤️
Shefali Tsabary is the Parenting "Goddess of the Future"
Wow, I hope that your message will reach to every parent & future parents so they or their kids won't live in fear but of peace, desire for doing good to others & even acceptance & unity in tough times. Thank you doctor Shefali & Jay
We All as Parents need to Dim our Light in the face of Basic instructions or demonstration of a teaching opportunity as to allow for no expectation of performance but of free Flow experience of their own.
Brilliant! Thank u wow wonderful work by dr shefali about parenting
Wisdom is has to be grown into and developed into !!
It is sitting in silence , deeply detached, living in impermanence !!
I am always surprised when people dislike ground breaking teaching instead of being humbled.
I love this interview Jay. I share it in my Facebook page. I want everyone I know to listen to it. Thank you Jay!!
We love dr Shifali
I wish she had an app to open consultation. Because parenting is always unique. It s diferent for each child
They both have similar looking eyes
Marcos Andre no she is not, his wife is Rahdi Devlukia
@Marcos Andre both Indians
I thought that they are related 🤔
hello good morning from cambodia my name sarin i always support all video that teacher was live
I think I should gift your book to my niece who has her first child a baby boy ❤
Our children are from us but not us and not us do they belong.
They are spirits through us and we need to encounter them at their terms !!
Are we ready for that !!
We rob of them of their intimate connection with their ownselves and thereby suppress their inner voice , once disconnected with their inner voice , it gets substituted by other noises around to fill the void !!
Magnificent!
Exactly what I have been thinking about..
I catch myself so many time to wanting read the book age to pg, and my son wants to see the end
She is brilliant
Watched.. i want to understand more .. hooked up.
Who else coming after mind valley.. in 2019?
G THANKS REAT LOVE IT SHE IS FANTASTIC to THANK YOU BE BLESSED.
Wow! This is just so true!
Pl Jay & Dr Shefali make video in Hindi so Indian parents like me can understand
Wow👏👏👏
In The U.S.A. Parents From Pre-K to 18. Their Lives are Dictated in Structure and Legal Obligations like the Requirement to HOLD A HOUSEHOLD FOR A MINOR EVEN IF YOUR NOT THE PRIMARY CARE GIVER. AS YOUR CHILD BECOMES 18 And Freedom is taken by them into the world with their own choices and directions apart from you. (success of the INDEPENDENT AND CONFIDENT ADULT) THE REFOCUS OF SELF IS NEEDING GUIDANCE AND SUPPORT BY YOU.
You two look like you're related!
I just purchased her book 😊
Amazing.. Thank you
Thanks a lot
Dr. Shefali was/is brilliant as usual. My disappointment is really with the interviewer... the moment he said the name of those celebrities who embody what is totally wrong with our society, that was a huge waste of life...
Because helicopter parenting was past model for several years in India and across the world.
How to Move from Parent to Empty Nester in your 40's as a Single Parent with no Social Connections because parenting was the focus and the schools had Controlled your life? How to Recreate in Positive ways?
But now you get to write a whole new story my love.
Nothing to fear.
Love your eagerness to ask How ??
Nice vedio Jay🙏
Jay love you 💟
Yes Dr Shafali's teachings are not the most popular . its sounds contraversal and too straight and deep , easy to misunderstand and become bitter about Her works ... .. may be in 20 years . but better start now than late ... and best
"on the spot question" for me is .. what is the advice you would give to your younger self ? !! I love the answer and its very much resonate with my own life .. wow!!
Huff Post is woke.
Beautiful
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Interview your parents already
Awesome... Was it recorded in the corner of a call center.. The background talking is shamefull
wow! jay sir good
So we must just let kids behave as they want to treating them as independent spirits, isn't telling the kids whats good or bad for them part of parenting? I think a lot Shefali's book is a response to perhaps her own controlling Indian parents. But i do agree with the wreckage part, where she says " In wreckage will come growth" .
I don't agree with most of what Dr Shefali says. I'm thankful to my parents for their love and guidance in helping me to become the person I am today.
I have binged watched her talks for 3 days now, i never got the sense she was not grateful for parents. What I am getting from her, is she is helping parents see parenting in a different light, the message is you don't possess your child to go with this mind set. I don't know if you have any kids. If you don't you will never understand until you have even one.
@@whiteangel7777777 i don't have any kids and a completely understand what she means.
Mishti Juno I’m very sure you don’t understand even one bit with what she’s saying . 😄 it’s not about you .
I do like some of the topics i have heard, but there are so many other topics you have not talked about that i tjink need to be addressed.
Awakening... Mia Angelo's Love for her Mother and Liberation. A Terrible Mother of Young One's but this also means redefining positive relationships with the Adult Child using these.
Twinnnnsssss!
Sorry! We didn’t have a child to make our lives better! Our lives were good even before having our child. We were happy even when we were just the two of us.
Sounds like some form of Empiricism or Existentialism
The child should raise the parent?
Wendy It is not intended to be taken 100% literally, it is a figure of speech and her aim is to challenge our perspective of the parent-child relationship. Rather than deluding ourselves and seeing our children as an extension of us, we can shift that perspective to value it as a true relationship. A relationship that has two parties, two sides, and essentially allow parents to learn from children too.
Gremo dalje
First giving them space by moving away !!
Then asking only open ended questions,
Not being overly inquisitive
Not preaching not sermonizing
Not giving your opinion !!
I like her knowledge But I wish she gave examples of how to deal with the child if we can’t own our kids. What about temper tantrum?
I feel with her message is that if you change your perspective, change how you feel about the tantrum get in touch with your own emotions you will know what to do. She is really ahead of her times, I can see how some people don't get her. I am 53 and have a 25 year old deaf son. Her books where not out but I did most of what she said. It was not always perfect believe me. but my mind and heart were in tune with her teachings before even I found out of her. When my son did a tantrum in the middle of the shopping center.....I just stayed calm let him express even though judging eyes were watching me....and even though it was not convenient, I said we are leaving we would leave usually it was because he was tired. I now babysit my nephews and I find when they are upset it's because they are not feeling understood. I let them yell and scream, with no judgement, then they calm down and come and tell me what was upsetting them they are now 4 and 6. Remember they have to deal with unconscious adults around them it's very tough for such pure souls. If it gets out of hand i find, time out, is the best, with an explanation why they are in time out. (never in their room) usually in a corner on a stool. And always remind them they you love them even though they are in time out.
Lynda thanks for the advice, I am 28 with b/g twins, my boy is usually the one with angry issues, and is true is usually because they are tired or he won’t tell me what he truly feels. I also need to work on myself because I don’t have a lot of patience but I acknowledge it and stop myself sometimes from acting crazy, is an everyday struggle😩
Rosana Leon So true. Speaking through their emotions is a way to handle the moment. Works for me with twin girls. Still not good at it. Consciously practicing everyday
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Is She one of your family members? Because she looks like you
Jay shetty speaking Irish accent?
What about after you have gone through raising your children and did ok, Feel like your going back to an earlier stage of development???????t
💐🙏🏼😇🕉💖
“Let the child blossom with their own guidance”????
Wendy not exactly, but trying to understand the child’s point of view
Are you guys siblings?
Jay satty indian cricketer surya kumar yadav ke jese dikhte he..duplicate both