"When it comes to beautiful objects, you become more beautiful by being near beauty. You can ruminate on that, if you'd like." Oh you better believe I'm gonna ruminate on that. It's gonna be the only thing I think about for months.
We should all chip in and make a thread on how to turn our utilitarian objects into artful pieces for our daily rituals. The toothbrush idea is a revolutionary one in my book
The beautiful items I have/want/planning on making or buying are: Artful Notebook/journal sleeve Unique pens, bookmarks, mug/glasses Appealing Reusable Grocery Bags, a big wooden block for a cutting board Beautiful comb and hairbrush Sphere Ice Cube trays(I live of iced coffee) and perhaps a nice lunchbox(I always forget about lunch smh) Appealing BINS Decorated nail clippers set
-A cute microwave! I’ve seen the most adorable retro ones online! -A vintage popcorn machine (to replace microwaveable popcorn!) -All light fixtures and lamps (it might be really lovely to create a theme with them! Futuristic, retro, medieval, fantasy, etc.)
My goal is to have mostly handmade objects in my home (dishes, clothes, storage items, etc.). Handmade items hold a different vibration and add to the 'ritual' quality of life!
the part about beautiful utilitarian items is actually groundbreaking for me. beauty is missing from sooo many everyday items these days and it's important to fight back against the oppression of cultural minimalism !!
Minimalism is cool, but at the rate it’s going…it can also cause desolation and apathy. It’s time for beauty to step in and save, without context or explanation.
You put into words how I taught myself to clean my house, do my skincare every night, and go to the gym. I'd never thought of it like that. It kind of sums up how I feel inspired to do things when I see people doing aesthetic videos on tiktok or whatever. Now that I can think about it this way, maybe I can get myself to ritualize working and cooking, haha
You are absolutely amazing. I'm a 36 year old Nigerian man who's on a journey to find himself and live a more fulfilling life. Your channel is a god send!
So true I love the ritual of daily makeup & pretty dresses even for law school. “We have to stop rushing around” thank you I so agree. Discerning the best activities for YOU fulfills us individually.
7:30 this is so crazy cause I was checking out some vintage utensils form Senegal and all the spoon and forks are almost bespoke. Very well crafted utensils. Almost like art.
Im personally a nihilist, i see no meaning in my life, but i enjoy beautiful things. I rather focus on the meaning in the details than trying to find a bigger purpose in my life.
Yes! This is what I've veen trying to do the last few months put into words ❤ the most recent step I've been taking is switching out all my old sweats and tanks I wore for pajamas to beautiful sets. Even when I'm alone 😌 it makes me feel so feminine and pretty. I also noticed that it sets a vibe that makes my PM skincare routine and the tea or CBD drink I have before bed more of enjoyable!
hahahaha we are on the same page about toothbrushes. i feel so validated. i like wood ones and they are actually very cheap, but also my aesthetic is pastel so i don’t mind plastic ones that are like, white/pastel pink :)
"You become more beautiful by being near beauty." /shatters nearby mirror, laughs in low self-esteem/ 🙃 Hahaha but seriously thou, this statement is so subtly powerful, made me choke on my coffee and triggered a full retrospect on how I've been living and my relationship with objects that surround me.
@@browndiamond457 And so is giving others unsolicited advice. Dark humor is how I cope up with my depression and ptsd. Please kindly mind your own business 🙂
I have a poem that I think suits this video pretty well. No I didn’t write this lol "to fulfil your potential, let go, let go, let go and more than you will ever know is there is here is now held in and free paradoxical delight delighting in me open your eyes to me this is the whisper of now this is the sentence of life open to eyes to me"
5:37 Agreed, definitely do not overpack your schedule, but also be wise with your time. An indulgence here and there is fine for a special event that is meaningful to you, or if the mood strikes, or if you determined that you are at your absolute best if you ritualize certain aspects of your life, but this has to be determined on a case-by-case basis and looked at on an individual basis.
I wanted to tell you i am so grateful TH-cam recommended me your video. You deserve so much more exposure because your teachings are so authentic and pure. I want to tell you I’ve been binging all your videos. I almost very leave comments but this time I wanted to express my appreciation for you ❤
It is as if I am sharing my life view. But much much much more articulate. You are an old soul in a young body. You reminded me of who I am. Thank you from practically the other side of the world
2:05 Agreed, the supportive moments, as you call them, are just as important, and cumulatively, they can be more important than major events by sheer volume.
10:57 I agree with that "savor every moment" and "make every moment count" sentiment. My caveat would be to enjoy the way that feels most natural and supportive to you as an individual and to critically consider the hierarchy of what is indeed most meaningful to you.
Overtime I find more often then not I enjoyed myself more during the supporting moments then the main moments. I’ve kind of learned to not put too much importance on the main moments, because they usually don’t live up to their hype. Enjoy the simple. That’s where it’s at.
I love your channel. It's honestly so refreshing and as a fellow aesthete, it's incredibly satisfying and enjoyable to hear you talking about how crucial beauty is.
I 💗 love 💗 the idea and the ability to do ritualize and romanticize while being single and childless. Romanticizing daily life is definately a luxury for people with children, lol 😅🤣
I would definitely agree… and I do believe there are small steps to take (also just being aware that young children are beautiful just by existing and how they interact with the world) but ALOT of family life is messy in a not so romantic way. Maybe when I am older and have had children I’ll report back with tips.
I think children just naturally romanticize life! I love going through my day with my daughter and seeing how she turns mundane everyday moments into magical & imaginative encounters. It requires shifting out of the adult “getting things done” mode and seeing the world through a child’s eyes, but when it happens it’s amazing 😍
@@HeavenSentHoney We have 3 under 6 and one more on the way, and it's a never ending story of house work, service and duties sprinkled with cute but short-lived moments of love and joy. Kids are made of pure and they are the sweetest angels, but o'boy I surely take every last drop of my free time as priceless luxury itself!
I am really enjoying your content and the stuff you say about beauty and here, about rituals. If I may recommend a book, Art as Experience by John Dewey, a work of aesthetics from the early 20th century. It's a great book, and Dewey argues that to experience the world in an aesthetic way is to have a similar kind of experience of things to how you describe here. For example, if you have a dinner party, to experience it aesthetically is to focus on it as an experience from the start (planning, preparing, getting ready) all the way to the end (washing up before bed). That's a rough and ready version, but it's worth a read!
I am a new subscriber of yours, I have found your channel just a few days ago and watched a bunch of your videos. I "feel" so much everything you say!!! Sending you a hug from Italy
8:33 Fascinating. I have owned many types of toothbrushes throughout my life, and the one I like the most is the Oral B electric toothbrush because I have seen it get food gunk out of my teeth so quickly. I simply love it, as long as it's not running out of charge while I am brushing my teeth, lol.
4:04 That is not feasible nor sustainable on a consistent basis. That is a privilege once you are able to set up your life in such a way, and it comes with opportunity costs. For instance, taking three hours to get ready cuts into time that could be used to meal prep, sleep, exercise, walk in nature, etc. One needs to take inventory and note which experiences they value most, help their future self more, and recharge them and replenish them the most.
2:59 Some are more habits or routines that define or sustain your life as a whole rather than rituals for specific events, but otherwise, yeah, that's a way to look at them, sure.
6:43 You can also practice detachment and witness the inherent beauty in everything that exists with gratitude that you can experience so many diverse phenomena. If you have the choice to purchase something that you aesthetically prefer versus something that hurts your eyes, definitely do so, but if you are unable to do that yet, due time, money, and energy constraints, it's okay to relax and appreciate what you do have right now without judgment or criticism.
9:52 We can, and we can also recognize that meaning is a mapping that we assign from an object, event, or experience to some importance or relevance to our value system. Why is that important? Because meaning is arbitrary, and we can change it whenever we want, and that includes doing so retroactively.
1:22 That is not always available. You need to make sure that you are in the mental and emotional space to do so before starting that practice. First make sure that you are not super overwhelmed, triggered, tired, upset, etc., and then it is much easier to appreciate and refine and elevate the mundane.
0:18 If you are going through a really traumatic event or are experiencing intense symptoms from a mental health disorder, experiencing your life with disdain some days will probably happen. It's not permanent, but if it happens, that too is okay as you can always change in the next moment.
I love your channel!! I know you’re not a mom but if you felt inspired I’d love your take on living a romantic beautiful life as a mom..❤ or whatever your takes on motherhood are I think you would have intriguing ideas
I actually don’t think I have any authority at all to say anything because being a mother I KNOW is going to be an immense challenge for me. I actually fear that I will lose an integral part of myself in the process because I will have to bow to the “ugliness” of toys scattered on the floor and changing diapers. Children however are some of the most beautiful pure spectacles on this earth and their bewilderment and awe is probably enough to reaffirm my belief in beauty daily.. but the other stuff I know will be difficult.
9:38 I mean... It's both, not exclusively one or the other. Each human is but a speck of dust in the universe, AND each human is the main character in their own story. There is no shame in that. Ditto with the fact that we are biologically animals who eat, shit, piss, have sexual urges, etc. We can also create art, skyscrapers, rocket ships, music, and so much more. What a blessing to be all things at once and to embrace the totality of that.
I watched this video while preparing my son's lunchbox for work. When you said "time should be holy" -- GIRL!! This message needs to be shouted from the hilltops - Do you have a book?
@@HeavenSentHoney I had just discovered your channel today and already shared the message of this video with a Rider while I was driving for Uber . It resonated with him as well!
how do you romanticize your job?my current job isn’t the most fabulous as i work in a fast-paced environment in the fast food industry and it’s hard to be able to live a slow paced beautiful life when i’m there
Personally with jobs I didn’t like, I chose to pretend like my time there wasn’t real, like I could skip over it, and it wasn’t my life. My advice would be to find a better situation babe. At the end, if you are struggling and don’t have any way out, look for details. Details will save you. How prepare something, how you open a store…etc. in places I hated, I focused on the ritualism required for most jobs, like going through steps required and doing them swiftly and adequately each time and getting lost in the process. Hope this helps ❤️
"When it comes to beautiful objects, you become more beautiful by being near beauty. You can ruminate on that, if you'd like." Oh you better believe I'm gonna ruminate on that. It's gonna be the only thing I think about for months.
We should all chip in and make a thread on how to turn our utilitarian objects into artful pieces for our daily rituals. The toothbrush idea is a revolutionary one in my book
The beautiful items I have/want/planning on making or buying are:
Artful Notebook/journal sleeve
Unique pens, bookmarks, mug/glasses
Appealing Reusable Grocery Bags, a big wooden block for a cutting board
Beautiful comb and hairbrush
Sphere Ice Cube trays(I live of iced coffee) and perhaps a nice lunchbox(I always forget about lunch smh)
Appealing BINS
Decorated nail clippers set
I like this idea!
-A cute microwave! I’ve seen the most adorable retro ones online!
-A vintage popcorn machine (to replace microwaveable popcorn!)
-All light fixtures and lamps (it might be really lovely to create a theme with them! Futuristic, retro, medieval, fantasy, etc.)
My goal is to have mostly handmade objects in my home (dishes, clothes, storage items, etc.). Handmade items hold a different vibration and add to the 'ritual' quality of life!
Maybe I’ll make a video of the objects I use and desire to replace my ugly things? I’ve wanted to do that for a while!
the part about beautiful utilitarian items is actually groundbreaking for me.
beauty is missing from sooo many everyday items these days and it's important to fight back against the oppression of cultural minimalism !!
Minimalism is cool, but at the rate it’s going…it can also cause desolation and apathy. It’s time for beauty to step in and save, without context or explanation.
This is pure feminine wisdom
You put into words how I taught myself to clean my house, do my skincare every night, and go to the gym. I'd never thought of it like that. It kind of sums up how I feel inspired to do things when I see people doing aesthetic videos on tiktok or whatever. Now that I can think about it this way, maybe I can get myself to ritualize working and cooking, haha
Wow same!
Pshhh cooking no problemmmm
You are absolutely amazing. I'm a 36 year old Nigerian man who's on a journey to find himself and live a more fulfilling life. Your channel is a god send!
Thank you for gifting me your time!!
So true I love the ritual of daily makeup & pretty dresses even for law school. “We have to stop rushing around” thank you I so agree. Discerning the best activities for YOU fulfills us individually.
7:30 this is so crazy cause I was checking out some vintage utensils form Senegal and all the spoon and forks are almost bespoke. Very well crafted utensils. Almost like art.
I’m going to look into utensils from Senegal now..
“Ugliness is a seriously unchecked disease.” Thank you. Fine objects ❤❤❤❤ I love drinking water out of a crystal glass I thrifted
Hell yeh
That thumbnail!!!! Perfection.
🥲thank you I try
The thumbnail picture is marvelous
This advice is golden and it’s never been said in such a way that it seeps into my bones. You always deliver, thank you Celine 🧡
BABE! Thank you so much for supporting and finding value in what I do ❤️
I love love my rituals so much, I can’t function without them
Im personally a nihilist, i see no meaning in my life, but i enjoy beautiful things. I rather focus on the meaning in the details than trying to find a bigger purpose in my life.
There are many people who believe the "meaning in the details" is, in fact, the bigger purpose
Wisdom in 100% at time. Discovering what the universe really wants above all those death.
You are amazing 💐🥂
All the love ❤️
Yes! This is what I've veen trying to do the last few months put into words ❤ the most recent step I've been taking is switching out all my old sweats and tanks I wore for pajamas to beautiful sets. Even when I'm alone 😌 it makes me feel so feminine and pretty. I also noticed that it sets a vibe that makes my PM skincare routine and the tea or CBD drink I have before bed more of enjoyable!
THE PAJAMA SETS THING IS A HUGE STEP IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU
@@HeavenSentHoney 😊 thank you! And thanks for the great content!
I’m going to do this too 💗 I’m glad it’s made such a difference for you
@@aoifecalderon383 I hope you love it as much as I do! 💖
@@DandLucy thanks luv 💗
hahahaha we are on the same page about toothbrushes. i feel so validated. i like wood ones and they are actually very cheap, but also my aesthetic is pastel so i don’t mind plastic ones that are like, white/pastel pink :)
"You become more beautiful by being near beauty." /shatters nearby mirror, laughs in low self-esteem/ 🙃
Hahaha but seriously thou, this statement is so subtly powerful, made me choke on my coffee and triggered a full retrospect on how I've been living and my relationship with objects that surround me.
Hating yourself isn't funny.please stop that, that's not helping you whatsoever.
@@browndiamond457 And so is giving others unsolicited advice. Dark humor is how I cope up with my depression and ptsd. Please kindly mind your own business 🙂
I’m so happy to hear that babe
You radiate what you are saying. So inspirational, thank you ❤
I have a poem that I think suits this video pretty well. No I didn’t write this lol
"to fulfil your potential, let go, let go, let go and more than you will ever know is there is here is now
held in and free paradoxical delight delighting in me open your eyes to me this is the whisper of now this is the sentence of life open to eyes to me"
Your channel is a simply incredible. You are creative, eloquent, wise. I have been binge watching your videos.
Omg stop same!!!
When I was doing this I would feel so good. Dropping this habit was so sad for me. 😢
Well said! Thank you! I would love to see a part two.
As I'm listening I realize I live this way on my own quite naturally.
Love to hear it
5:37 Agreed, definitely do not overpack your schedule, but also be wise with your time. An indulgence here and there is fine for a special event that is meaningful to you, or if the mood strikes, or if you determined that you are at your absolute best if you ritualize certain aspects of your life, but this has to be determined on a case-by-case basis and looked at on an individual basis.
Such a beautiful video my goodness
i feel like Dita Von Teese has this perspective too
I wanted to tell you i am so grateful TH-cam recommended me your video. You deserve so much more exposure because your teachings are so authentic and pure. I want to tell you I’ve been binging all your videos. I almost very leave comments but this time I wanted to express my appreciation for you ❤
Thank you babe!! I appreciate anyone who watches equally as much ❤️
Thank you soooo much for that!!! I had lost that... The beauty! This episode has touched me so much!!! ❤❤❤❤
My life has just changed
It is as if I am sharing my life view. But much much much more articulate. You are an old soul in a young body. You reminded me of who I am. Thank you from practically the other side of the world
2:05 Agreed, the supportive moments, as you call them, are just as important, and cumulatively, they can be more important than major events by sheer volume.
U are honestly so smart I feel like what u say make so much sense
10:57 I agree with that "savor every moment" and "make every moment count" sentiment. My caveat would be to enjoy the way that feels most natural and supportive to you as an individual and to critically consider the hierarchy of what is indeed most meaningful to you.
I feel like u are so honest and I love that
Brains and Beauty ❤
Thank you sweetheart
You're reading my mind 👁️
you spoke real …
Overtime I find more often then not I enjoyed myself more during the supporting moments then the main moments. I’ve kind of learned to not put too much importance on the main moments, because they usually don’t live up to their hype. Enjoy the simple. That’s where it’s at.
Every moment is a gift thank you ❤❤❤
I love your channel. It's honestly so refreshing and as a fellow aesthete, it's incredibly satisfying and enjoyable to hear you talking about how crucial beauty is.
Your energy & hair are gorgeous ❤❤❤ thanks for sharing dolly
I 💗 love 💗 the idea and the ability to do ritualize and romanticize while being single and childless.
Romanticizing daily life is definately a luxury for people with children, lol 😅🤣
I would definitely agree… and I do believe there are small steps to take (also just being aware that young children are beautiful just by existing and how they interact with the world) but ALOT of family life is messy in a not so romantic way.
Maybe when I am older and have had children I’ll report back with tips.
I think children just naturally romanticize life! I love going through my day with my daughter and seeing how she turns mundane everyday moments into magical & imaginative encounters. It requires shifting out of the adult “getting things done” mode and seeing the world through a child’s eyes, but when it happens it’s amazing 😍
@@HeavenSentHoney We have 3 under 6 and one more on the way, and it's a never ending story of house work, service and duties sprinkled with cute but short-lived moments of love and joy.
Kids are made of pure and they are the sweetest angels, but o'boy I surely take every last drop of my free time as priceless luxury itself!
@@j.celestekee658 I understand those moments 🌙
I am really enjoying your content and the stuff you say about beauty and here, about rituals. If I may recommend a book, Art as Experience by John Dewey, a work of aesthetics from the early 20th century. It's a great book, and Dewey argues that to experience the world in an aesthetic way is to have a similar kind of experience of things to how you describe here. For example, if you have a dinner party, to experience it aesthetically is to focus on it as an experience from the start (planning, preparing, getting ready) all the way to the end (washing up before bed). That's a rough and ready version, but it's worth a read!
Where were you all this while on my SM journey? 😥 Love you!! ❤
Life is not short, we have unlimited lives😊 as many we wish to learn and grow through.
This channel is truly a gem and one of the best in this platform. Thank you!
Thank you for your time babe ☺️
I am a new subscriber of yours, I have found your channel just a few days ago and watched a bunch of your videos. I "feel" so much everything you say!!! Sending you a hug from Italy
This was unbelievably helpful!!! I appreciate the thorough explanations and logical progressions that you provided!!!❤
Thank you for watching honey!!
This video just changing my life. Thank you ❤
8:33 Fascinating. I have owned many types of toothbrushes throughout my life, and the one I like the most is the Oral B electric toothbrush because I have seen it get food gunk out of my teeth so quickly. I simply love it, as long as it's not running out of charge while I am brushing my teeth, lol.
As with your other video, you have given me great insights as to what other types of people value and prioritize. Thank you!
This video is life changing to me.. you have no idea. ❤i am grateful for this piece of wisdom.
Whoa. This is next level. I will definitely be watching this again. Thank you.
You are my favorite channel as of lately
You read my mind
I’ve watched a lot of videos on this topic but you did it best . Thanks 😊
This video is just absolutely brilliant. I loved every moment of it❤🌹
i love this way of thinking!!
4:04 That is not feasible nor sustainable on a consistent basis. That is a privilege once you are able to set up your life in such a way, and it comes with opportunity costs. For instance, taking three hours to get ready cuts into time that could be used to meal prep, sleep, exercise, walk in nature, etc. One needs to take inventory and note which experiences they value most, help their future self more, and recharge them and replenish them the most.
You’ve just gained a new subscriber. Thank you so much for this.
Thank you for being here ❤️
Love this! I have also recommended your channel to a few friends. You are marvelous. :)
Love your energy!
2:59 Some are more habits or routines that define or sustain your life as a whole rather than rituals for specific events, but otherwise, yeah, that's a way to look at them, sure.
6:43 You can also practice detachment and witness the inherent beauty in everything that exists with gratitude that you can experience so many diverse phenomena. If you have the choice to purchase something that you aesthetically prefer versus something that hurts your eyes, definitely do so, but if you are unable to do that yet, due time, money, and energy constraints, it's okay to relax and appreciate what you do have right now without judgment or criticism.
9:52 We can, and we can also recognize that meaning is a mapping that we assign from an object, event, or experience to some importance or relevance to our value system. Why is that important? Because meaning is arbitrary, and we can change it whenever we want, and that includes doing so retroactively.
I really love this message, thank you👏🏽👏🏽
This was so helpful, thank you
Very true. Mum thought like that.
1:22 That is not always available. You need to make sure that you are in the mental and emotional space to do so before starting that practice. First make sure that you are not super overwhelmed, triggered, tired, upset, etc., and then it is much easier to appreciate and refine and elevate the mundane.
0:18 If you are going through a really traumatic event or are experiencing intense symptoms from a mental health disorder, experiencing your life with disdain some days will probably happen. It's not permanent, but if it happens, that too is okay as you can always change in the next moment.
I love your channel!! I know you’re not a mom but if you felt inspired I’d love your take on living a romantic beautiful life as a mom..❤ or whatever your takes on motherhood are I think you would have intriguing ideas
I actually don’t think I have any authority at all to say anything because being a mother I KNOW is going to be an immense challenge for me. I actually fear that I will lose an integral part of myself in the process because I will have to bow to the “ugliness” of toys scattered on the floor and changing diapers.
Children however are some of the most beautiful pure spectacles on this earth and their bewilderment and awe is probably enough to reaffirm my belief in beauty daily.. but the other stuff I know will be difficult.
Keep being authentic
Maniacally bingeing your channel - bless the egregore for magnetizing me to your content (ﾉ◕ヮ◕)ﾉ*:･ﾟ✧
I needed to hear this thanks!
9:38 I mean... It's both, not exclusively one or the other. Each human is but a speck of dust in the universe, AND each human is the main character in their own story. There is no shame in that. Ditto with the fact that we are biologically animals who eat, shit, piss, have sexual urges, etc. We can also create art, skyscrapers, rocket ships, music, and so much more. What a blessing to be all things at once and to embrace the totality of that.
This best video that explains it. ❤
Thank You🙏🏾
Period.
thanks!
U are so smart
Great ideas! I subscribed.
Beautiful 💕
I watched this video while preparing my son's lunchbox for work. When you said "time should be holy" -- GIRL!! This message needs to be shouted from the hilltops - Do you have a book?
Thank you for finding a way to incorporate my video into your day 🥲
I do not have a book. Some projects are in the works though!
@@HeavenSentHoney I had just discovered your channel today and already shared the message of this video with a Rider while I was driving for Uber . It resonated with him as well!
wow, thank you! do you know any books about the topic?
I love your voice 😊
❤nice!
how do you romanticize your job?my current job isn’t the most fabulous as i work in a fast-paced environment in the fast food industry and it’s hard to be able to live a slow paced beautiful life when i’m there
Personally with jobs I didn’t like, I chose to pretend like my time there wasn’t real, like I could skip over it, and it wasn’t my life. My advice would be to find a better situation babe.
At the end, if you are struggling and don’t have any way out, look for details. Details will save you. How prepare something, how you open a store…etc. in places I hated, I focused on the ritualism required for most jobs, like going through steps required and doing them swiftly and adequately each time and getting lost in the process. Hope this helps ❤️
@@HeavenSentHoneythat’s amazing advice. Thank you.
You are like my soul exposed
❤❤❤
How do u get this nice tan? x
what will you say at harm
Can the gift please stop i am tired 0:17
Fomo must go
Love this. Yes, this is why I look for antiques and aesthetic materials. Life is beautiful if you make it beautiful. 🩷🌸🌿
You said it babe