In the 1960s when my parents married they decided to buy a 2 family home with my Grandparents. I can’t tell you how much my life was enriched having my Grandmother/Grandfather and my Great Grandmother just a few steps away from me, for my entire growing up life. I think multi-generational shared living space is really under estimated. I found that all parties wanted the same things - privacy and boundaries but also community and the comfort of knowing that nobody was left to struggle or fend for themselves.
This is the way I was raised as well. Never went to day care. My grandmother walked me to school every morning. When I came home from school I had baked bread and cookies on the table that my grandma made. Those were the days and We had it made. .
@@strawberrytart321 Women CAN STILL WORK! Read Proverbs 31. In the Old Testament, read up on Deborah the Judge or Lidia the Married Businesswoman in the New Testament, who was a Cloth Merchant. BALANCE is the key. With today's technology it is even easier for WOMEN to work from home and have their gifts utilized, while making a financial contribution.
I'm not sure, though, why she can't be considered a friend and member of the family who can just enter at will. Neighborhood kids likely can come in and yell "Hi, Mrs L!" but everyone here is so enamored with the fact that the grandmother "knows her place and doesn't disturb". My grandmothers, if they hadn't died in the 60's and 80's would have free reign of my house just like my kids, my kid's friends, my best friends, etc. If there WERE a fight or sex going on on the kitchen sink, she could always bow out gracefully ;) And don't get me started on how men traditionally see the mother-in-law as a problem. They aren't. But men have proven through time to be "bad boys" who do bad things, and so the MIL's attack in defense of their daughters and then men think that MIL's are "bad".
Very sensible to keep good, polite boundaries. No-one wants to feel others are interfering. Everyone knows that they have to call or text me first, not just turn up. It is only sensible, polite & considerate. That way they do not have a wasted journey & I do not have people turning up when I am just about to wash my greasy hair. They can come a bit later when I am all nice & clean.
I watched this initially to get guest house ideas, but I’ve rewatched several times because the mother daughter relationship made me emotional. I miss the times when families lived very close to each other. Also, great use of space in the guest house.
It's so lovely to see a family that works together to take care of all of their family members. We need more of that these days. Too many families don't have that concern these days. This is really a very special setup for her mother in law and all of the family members. They're close enough to help each other out and yet far enough away to have their own private lives. And financially everyone wins. This is just wonderfully perfect!
This is typical filipino families and sometimes it is annoying. Sometimes they would ask you when are you getting married? Or when are you going to have a child?
I guess what I meant wasn’t that specific arrangement, but we had several German friends that were either living with parents or the parents were living with them. They all told us that wasn’t unusual in Germany because housing was quite expensive.
@@rneustel388 If people have a big house, they sometimes live on different floors of the same house. Or they get an apartment in the same complex or street. That's not uncommon. But most children move around and then stay where they got a job they want to keep. So, yeah, if living together is what you mean, that's true. Sometimes millennial children built a house in the bigger gardens of Boomer parents. Land has become very expensive.
A bit pompas I thought LOL but at least she does knock on her daughters door , which is the right thing to do , I believe if you don;t live there , you knock ...LOL
The mother is very sweet. She has as she says what she needs. She is not a minimalist - but good for her. She is full of life in her cocoon as she puts it. Thanks.
All housing should be planned with 'aging in place' or injuries/recovering from surgery considered. All pathways should be wide enough for a walker and wheelchair. Showers should be low or no threshold. Sooner or later, you'll be glad you planned ahead.
California housing prices are no joke. Glad to see Stacy improvise, adapt and overcome it. It inspires others to also have this kind of solution as well.
For the same amount of money they have invested in that place, I can buy a 3,000 square foot house with a few acres where I live. Absolutely foolish to live in the state of California nonsense.
@@rubencohen2936 And where is that? Do you have the same kinds of amenities and lifestyle people in California have? There are always tradeoffs - and not everyone wants to live in a rural area, which is what you have, by definition, if everyone has several acres or more.
This lady is a mother in law of dreams. As an Asian, I've never in my entire existence seen a MIL this respectful of boundaries. I so wish someday I'll get a similar MIL and if not, then at least I can become like her when the time comes.
Fairy7 princess, I have been telling my friends to do just that. I bought in the auction, a house with a huge garage. Turned the garage into a 2 + 2 , furnished it and rent out. Many people are looking for fully furnished space. Initially, I wanted to stay in the garage and let my son and daughter in law stays in the main home. Never know , perhaps in the future.
Also as a Asian, I would say if I let my MIL live inside the garage( regardless how well it has been renovated), she and her whole family are going to accuse me abusing her and might try to snap on my face.
You can be a respectful and kind mother in law if that’s your goal. My mother is love by all her daughters/sons in law and they have great relationships. Unfortunately I don’t have a nice MIL 😞 but I forgive her as she didn’t have a nice upbringing so she’s bitter and not very helpful. I promise to myself to be nice, kind and respectful to my future son/daughter in-laws and I know it’s possible.
@@2011liya Oh yes, so true. I can't imagine the direct and indirect taunts I'll receive if I dared do something like that. But the double standard is, no one cares or will care about my parent's well being, they should survive on their own in old age (because having something between your legs equals to important parents in my culture).
princess But world are changed right? If a man can't do the same thing for my parents that he expected me do for his, then I should have the right to refuse! Anyways, personally I use one and only one standard to deal this situation. I do what you can do, and I refuse what you refuse!
Abigail Trumbo There's no reason why everyone couldn't accommodate this way. You can also convert a basement area into an apartment with outside entrance.
that's not always true...my mother endendentured me as a child...and smoked 4 packs a day most of her life....not my problem...she was a mean old bitch....it is nice to see family that is respectful of each other...
We did something similar in 2007. My parents added a "Granny house" 700 sq ft, 1 bedroom, 1 bathroom, living/kitchen/dining great room. My family moved into the front house. My parents, who retired in 2002, still travel, so we all save on our house costs, and my 14 year old daughter (who was 18 months old when we did this) has a great relationship with her grandparents. Wonderful garage conversion!
Charming plenty of room for everyone, not on top of each other. Very Intelligent way to spend money wisely . And keep family together in harmony caring way. Respect for each member is primordial. And Love.
Not easy to do. I did the same for my Dad for three years 24/7 after Mom died and he was diagnosed with cancer. I had a 16 yr old at the time, too. I'd do it all again if I could have him back.
Inspirational & a Great story! I quit my job to care for my 90yo mom 24/7. I rent though, we're in a one bedroom/one bath + a den & a balcony apt. She has the bedroom & I'm in the den. We're comfortable. The only drawback for us is the tub/shower combo. Apts for seniors are not so easy to rent. So, we work with what we have.
This is a very good way of saving $ and helping your family if my mother in law was still alive I would have lived with her as well she was a amazing person! Keep your family close to you as long as you can because tomorrow is never promised ❤️
Most of the world have multi-generations of family living together regardless of financial situation. Living on your own or away from family is a Western thing.
@@avilik13 I've been a nurse for decades, I e watched western civilization give up their most vulnerable to the systems the government has put in place here. Please judge us knowing we are the most programmed of countries.. our people have been programmed to follow the leader...
@@janeysiegrist5061 not sure what country you're from but I'm from a Western country too. Well, a country with Western ideals. And I wasn't judging. Just stating fact.
That's so sweet of you to do this for your mother in law. I can tell she absolutely loves it, and is very proud of her new digs ! It's also a peace of mind to know you can keep an eye on her more easily, as she grows older and she feels secure in knowing family is close by. Very nice reno!
@Vincent T. - Americans used to do this. But builders stopped building homes with an in law suite. That's why the only houses you see now with one are older
Wow! I love the idea of family working together to help each other. Nobody is being greedy or needy. It's about their relationship with one another and the love they have for one another.
I luv how the mom is so considerate and realizes she doesnt need be in kids face all the x. And I'm sure this situation is gonna work for all wonderful
Stellar contractor...they got lucky with someone who cares as if she were his own mother. The original fees to the city of $25,000.....sorry about the tragic fires but glad it helped them and others avoid the city wrongfully stealing from them. Real nice home in the end, makes me smile seeing Mom content.
@@suesheification I worked very hard for my second home, in order to be closer to my family, and you think I should essentially purchase another home for someone else? I would wager a lot of money that you would NOT do the same.
So true , I have 3 children, my son was only one that wanted to be there for me , unfortunately I lost him , the 2 daughters have no intention of being there
First, your contractor is an amazing and thoughtful person!!!! You all made the best of the situation and it's truly beautiful and respectful of each families privacy. Congrats.
This is how it should be. And as it gets worse in our country, more people will need to do this. This video tour may inspire others to save themselves this way.
I wish, but not feasible for many of us. People only go to nursing homes or assisted living when they need that level of care. My dad needs an attendant all the time & we both work. Trust me, we'd rather not spend $100k per year to keep him in assisted living.
They do this quite a lot in the Northwest, not necessarily with a garage conversion, more usually with a shed to house conversion. They call them granny flats up in Washington state.
Aloha! I am a young 72, very active physically, but I can feel some of the limitations coming on. To make a long story short, I relocated to Seattle from Kona, HI due to traumatic life changes. My daughter and her husband have kindly made room for me in their tiny 300 sq. ft. mother-in-law which I have happily decorated and made mine. We are very much separate from one other, which is great for privacy for BOTH of us. But they are close enough where they can keep a distant eye on me, and I can help them with doggie/plant/mail care when they go out of town. I so much agree with some of the comments regarding aging parents. Where are the good ol' days where we looked out for one another. If I got sick or infirm enough, of course, I wouldn't impose myself on them. I'd live in assisted living or have someone come in...whatever. Thanks so much for posting this video. Much needed!!!
We bought a house 8 years ago with a converted 3 car garage/workshop in law suite for my mom. She has 890 sq. ft and it is off our kitchen. It works great and since she is 80 years old now (still driving etc) at least she is here just in case but also has helped with my kids over the years too. My boys now see how it can work well, so might be something that happens again for us in the future.
JRRnotTolkien - Jobs were lost and businesses closed due to the Great Recession that began in 2007 under Bush. It was the Obama administration that pushed laws that helped people save their homes, it was the Obama administration that subsidized COBRA health insurance premiums and it was the Obama administration that jump-started the exit from the recession for businesses and individuals. We are still living with the increased trajectory (employment, stock market, business growth) begun under Obama.
Just placed my mother in a care home in 2019. She is so stubborn. Mother has to have everything her way. It makes my heart happy that some families can make multiple generations living and loving together work well. Life as it should be.
Lovely home . I’m converting my attic for my daughter and her partner. They have upstairs and I have downstairs.. they have their own front door the only thing we share is the garden. Young people in my area of Britain can not afford their first home and I would rather have her upstairs than miles away. It can work if a plan is made and boundaries set from the start.
I know taxes are quite high in the UK, and we have many British transplants here in America. Many prefer Michigan because the weather is similar with four seasons, rains a great deal, lots of fog, and green emerald grass.
Perfectly-Beautiful! We were able to provide my mother with a mother-in-law apt. after my father passed away, offering her security and independence in our home. Now that I am a widow, I would LOVE to have this little bit of paradise as you have helped your mom into. Continued Peace & Blessings to your family!
I feel like they were able to build very healthy boundaries by rethinking the use of those spaces. It is awesome that the in-law has a cozy and comfortable space and still close to the main family :)
Beautiful home...very kind of you dear lady to have your mom in law there....very special...today times are tough and I live like this too.....well done and God bless you all....
I think this is a great solution to senior living. My husband’s parents are Old Order Amish and this is the normal way of aging. It’s convenient and allows for privacy and dignity for both parties.
I love this place! It reminds me so much of the beloved cottage my ex-husband built for me at the rear of his property (yes, you did read that right...we were good friends). It was 500 sq. starting out, so it was a bit larger than this garage BUT with the same cozy feeling. Eventually, he added a formal dining room for me that allowed me to have my son and his family over for dinner. Then came the addition of the closet, off my bedroom...it was 6' x 18' and I utilized every square inch of it. It contained my washer and dryer as well as all my craft supplies, my Christmas knick-knacks and ornaments, and a few other precious items. I lived there for 12 years. It bordered on a wooded area and the amount of wildlife I saw was incredible...over 20 varieties of birds (from a great blue heron to hummingbirds!), deer, raccoons, squirrels, chipmunks, bunnies...and the list goes on and on. There were frogs and toads, dragonflies and damselflies. Sadly he died at much too young an age, forcing us to sell the house and, with it, the cottage. It was just as well because new neighbors had moved in the house next door and had the feud going with the people in the house on the other side of my husband's house and I truly thought there would eventually be major problems. However, I will forever miss that little place. It was perfect for one person. I could also live very happily in this garage conversion...it's wonderful! I wish the "tenant" many years of happiness there!
As long as they respect each others space this is good for an aging mother. She will be close enough to be cared for or looked after when the time comes.
Great to see a story like this. The city and county fees in Sonoma county are through the roof. The house I was in prior to moving east is gone from the fires, Lots of my friends have lost homes as well. Nice to see the city lowered fees in the tragedy that hit. Thank you Kirsten for the great videos
Dayesleeper Vote for candidates who promise to lower your taxes, not raise them. You have that power. There is no reason why people should pay $23,000 in fees to convert a garage! A $25 permit is enough in most places. Vote those corrupt officials out!
I just love this mother in law! I hope she is appreciated. And hats off to the contractor...it really sounds like he was looking out for their best interests!
Now this is what I'd call truly the most efficient Tiny house. It's not TOO small that it gives claustrophobia, no custom furniture, economic, re-purposed use of existing place, no complicated stairs or hidden furniture. Actually designed to house one person and does not try to overcrowd. Excellent
This could also be classified in The Tiny House Category. Love that you converted a garage into a nice apartment, with way more privacy for your Mom. Beautiful!
This is FABULOUS!!! If my Mom were still here I would TOTALLY do this for her!! Oh my gosh what a sweet little space all of her own!! Awesome awesome awesome!!! In fact, maybe in years to come, I will do this with my garage and rent it out!! Hats off to you guys!!!
Not to be morbid, but when grandma is gone someday, that apartment becomes a retirement income for Stacy as an AirBnB. Incredible investment. I also love that grandma is being revered, respected and taken care of, and grandma is even helping her kids by having helped to pay for the apartment.
@darlingUSA1 I don't think it's morbid either. The mother in law said this way she could see what she would've left for them (i,e money) working out for them. She's very practical. I want to be her when I'm older 😊
I had something like this at my mothers house. We all had our own space. My room was big enough to make it a home. But I had to leave because it was an unhealthy environment but I wish my family had this level of respect for each other. But I plan on doing something like this with a group of trusted friends and my fiancé. Family is so Important. I love this video
I love it!!!! Great job. And wonderful help for your mama. You are a blessed daughter and wonderful. And she gets the #1 Best Mother in Law award. Wow!!!
What a great little house! It's compact but didn't feel cramped at all, and it has great storage for a 380 sq. ft. space. The built-in desk and bookshelves in the living room and the large BR closet were great. The bathroom and shower were a nice size too. The covered patio and outdoor spaces were great too. Sounds like it's working for three generations!
Great when family relations are healthy enough to do this! The garage home turned out lovely. Personally I need to be able to look out the window and see the outside. But if that's not your thing, this is a wonderful solution.
Both of them must have a very good relationship. You don’t see that often. The mother in law seems like a nice lady who is contended with the simple things. The daughter-in-law seems like a caring and kind lady. That is very nice . Such a nice conversion .
I simple Love Love Love the term ''Hug House". Beautiful layout & arrangement. Your post just renewed my hope & plan to move closer to my Son. Thank You so much for sharing. Wishing ALL of you many many years of love, happiness, health & support. Be safe and keeping loving each other.
What a lovely family! I'm living with my daughter and son in law and it's been the most pleasurable experience. But, having this type of arrangement, is genius.
Wow kudos to the architect who designed this beautiful place but the mother in law too has great taste how cozy her house looks .. lovely to see how the space turned out to work so well for everyone!!
It's great to see she has space to be social and have her friends over and still be an active, independent member of the outer community, as well as having the closeness her family. It's heartwarming.
That was neat to see. I live in santa rosa. What a great idea. I have attached granny for my mom sits over garage. Glad to see the elders dont get forgotten about
@@kathyyoung1774 Exactly. My parents are gone now, but they split up when I was a kid. Both of them were so nasty. There's no way I could live with either of them.
I'm so sorry that your parents weren't good ones. You are an excellent example of why not every "solution" works for everybody. Likewise, many snowflakes who still live at home with their parents insist in Comments sections that everybody should live in a tiny house and nobody needs more than 300 sq ft. Not any single solution works for everybody. I hope you are having a much better life now on your own. My best to you!
Congratulations to all of you including the architect and contractors. What a wonderful use of space, beautiful fixtures and tastefully decorated. Everyone considerate of each others' space.
I love her pride. Shes so cute. And the contractor sounds amazing. He really considered the future for the primary homeowner and not just the sake of the purse holder.
What a gorgeous little house. That's about the size of my apartment and I don't need anything bigger. What a nice family, respecting each others space is very important!😊👍👍💕
I love that this thread of comments are so sweet and supportive! I am looked down on all the time because I have the same views that family takes care of family, but almost every day I have nearly strangers that I'm weird cause my family still lives with me
When I was a kid in the 50s Lots of chicken houses and summer kitchens were converted to grandmas home. Then a man cave after she passed. Then a child got married and it was a . First Home. Repurposed at its best.
In the 1960s when my parents married they decided to buy a 2 family home with my Grandparents. I can’t tell you how much my life was enriched having my Grandmother/Grandfather and my Great Grandmother just a few steps away from me, for my entire growing up life. I think multi-generational shared living space is really under estimated. I found that all parties wanted the same things - privacy and boundaries but also community and the comfort of knowing that nobody was left to struggle or fend for themselves.
Sounds like my childhood
THAT'S HOW IT SHOULD BE...........THE GOVT TOLD FEMALES IN THE 70S THEY WANTED T O GO TO WORK..............
This is the way I was raised as well. Never went to day care. My grandmother walked me to school every morning. When I came home from school I had baked bread and cookies on the table that my grandma made. Those were the days and We had it made.
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You are very blessed to have a loving family. ❣
@@strawberrytart321 Women CAN STILL WORK! Read Proverbs 31. In the Old Testament, read up on Deborah the Judge or Lidia the Married Businesswoman in the New Testament, who was a Cloth Merchant. BALANCE is the key. With today's technology it is even easier for WOMEN to work from home and have their gifts utilized, while making a financial contribution.
This is a considerate mother-in-law who texts before visiting. Give her a medal
H.. texting 3 times a day 😂
I'm not sure, though, why she can't be considered a friend and member of the family who can just enter at will. Neighborhood kids likely can come in and yell "Hi, Mrs L!" but everyone here is so enamored with the fact that the grandmother "knows her place and doesn't disturb". My grandmothers, if they hadn't died in the 60's and 80's would have free reign of my house just like my kids, my kid's friends, my best friends, etc. If there WERE a fight or sex going on on the kitchen sink, she could always bow out gracefully ;) And don't get me started on how men traditionally see the mother-in-law as a problem. They aren't. But men have proven through time to be "bad boys" who do bad things, and so the MIL's attack in defense of their daughters and then men think that MIL's are "bad".
@@CindymeCindy Everyone has different boundaries. And those boundaries should be respected.
Jonathan Ahrens I wanna marry u!
Very sensible to keep good, polite boundaries. No-one wants to feel others are interfering. Everyone knows that they have to call or text me first, not just turn up. It is only sensible, polite & considerate. That way they do not have a wasted journey & I do not have people turning up when I am just about to wash my greasy hair. They can come a bit later when I am all nice & clean.
Love the mom. She seems like a lovely person. And it's a charming home.
I watched this initially to get guest house ideas, but I’ve rewatched several times because the mother daughter relationship made me emotional. I miss the times when families lived very close to each other. Also, great use of space in the guest house.
It's so lovely to see a family that works together to take care of all of their family members. We need more of that these days. Too many families don't have that concern these days.
This is really a very special setup for her mother in law and all of the family members. They're close enough to help each other out and yet far enough away to have their own private lives. And financially everyone wins. This is just wonderfully perfect!
I agree.. id love to offer some extra bedrooms for apartments to other seniors and nice person.. a win win for me and them.. plus company.
This is typical filipino families and sometimes it is annoying. Sometimes they would ask you when are you getting married? Or when are you going to have a child?
@@aaronbueno1653 i guess everyine has their comfort level but wjen you get older isnt it nice to think someone cares and your not disposable.
Cherrie Mckinstry yes I agree with you
@@simplyk8zin808 People caring once again.
Those are unselfish women looking out for each other's needs. Great place!!!
When we lived in Germany, we saw this everywhere. This is a beautiful, healthy multi-generational family unit.
i'm german. this is totally not a thing in Germany. what are you talking about?
I've never seen that arrangement in 35 years of living in Germany.
I guess what I meant wasn’t that specific arrangement, but we had several German friends that were either living with parents or the parents were living with them. They all told us that wasn’t unusual in Germany because housing was quite expensive.
@@rneustel388 If people have a big house, they sometimes live on different floors of the same house. Or they get an apartment in the same complex or street. That's not uncommon. But most children move around and then stay where they got a job they want to keep. So, yeah, if living together is what you mean, that's true. Sometimes millennial children built a house in the bigger gardens of Boomer parents. Land has become very expensive.
@@withyoctopus Yes, this was exactly what I meant. I’m sorry it was confusing. 😉
She is a classy educated considerate mother in law, that's why her daughter in law likes to live closer to her. Smart.
A bit pompas I thought LOL but at least she does knock on her daughters door , which is the right thing to do , I believe if you don;t live there , you knock ...LOL
I believe I understood that she's the daughter. She mentions her son-in-law, so pretty sure it's the daughter
Clara McClure - I think that's her mother, _not_ mother-in-law. It's a mother-in-law unit, but for her actual mother.
Why dont we ask
It's mother & daughter.
The mother is very sweet. She
has as she says what she needs.
She is not a minimalist - but good
for her. She is full of life in her
cocoon as she puts it. Thanks.
There are different levels of minimalism, and she’s definitely in there.
The builder/contractor really went the extra mile! What a thoughtful man 😄
All housing should be planned with 'aging in place' or injuries/recovering from surgery considered. All pathways should be wide enough for a walker and wheelchair. Showers should be low or no threshold. Sooner or later, you'll be glad you planned ahead.
California housing prices are no joke. Glad to see Stacy improvise, adapt and overcome it. It inspires others to also have this kind of solution as well.
The more income you make, the more tax you pay.
For the same amount of money they have invested in that place, I can buy a 3,000 square foot house with a few acres where I live. Absolutely foolish to live in the state of California nonsense.
Many cultures many customs..in India our parents esp the sons parents stay in the same house or on the top or lower level of houses.
In Russia I can byu home with a big yard in a far village , for K4$ .....and vill die out boredom...
@@rubencohen2936 And where is that?
Do you have the same kinds of amenities and lifestyle people in California have?
There are always tradeoffs - and not everyone wants to live in a rural area, which is what you have, by definition, if everyone has several acres or more.
‘I’m living in a hug!” So beautiful!
This lady is a mother in law of dreams. As an Asian, I've never in my entire existence seen a MIL this respectful of boundaries. I so wish someday I'll get a similar MIL and if not, then at least I can become like her when the time comes.
Fairy7 princess, I have been telling my friends to do just that. I bought in the auction, a house with a huge garage. Turned the garage into a 2 + 2 , furnished it and rent out. Many people are looking for fully furnished space. Initially, I wanted to stay in the garage and let my son and daughter in law stays in the main home. Never know , perhaps in the future.
Also as a Asian, I would say if I let my MIL live inside the garage( regardless how well it has been renovated), she and her whole family are going to accuse me abusing her and might try to snap on my face.
You can be a respectful and kind mother in law if that’s your goal. My mother is love by all her daughters/sons in law and they have great relationships. Unfortunately I don’t have a nice MIL 😞 but I forgive her as she didn’t have a nice upbringing so she’s bitter and not very helpful. I promise to myself to be nice, kind and respectful to my future son/daughter in-laws and I know it’s possible.
@@2011liya Oh yes, so true. I can't imagine the direct and indirect taunts I'll receive if I dared do something like that. But the double standard is, no one cares or will care about my parent's well being, they should survive on their own in old age (because having something between your legs equals to important parents in my culture).
princess But world are changed right? If a man can't do the same thing for my parents that he expected me do for his, then I should have the right to refuse! Anyways, personally I use one and only one standard to deal this situation. I do what you can do, and I refuse what you refuse!
It's a good thing to keep your family close but you can live your life as normal without being in each other's way. 👏 Bravo
they took care of you when you were a child, now it's your time to take care of them as they are growing old ❤️
Exactly !!!
Harshit Sood She will never regret it. These times with her sweet mother will be with her for a lifetime.
Abigail Trumbo There's no reason why everyone couldn't accommodate this way. You can also convert a basement area into an apartment with outside entrance.
that's not always true...my mother endendentured me as a child...and smoked 4 packs a day most of her life....not my problem...she was a mean old bitch....it is nice to see family that is respectful of each other...
@@pjj9491 sorry that you didn't have a Happy childhood coming up, hope all is well now. Be blessed 🙏😇❣️
We did something similar in 2007. My parents added a "Granny house" 700 sq ft, 1 bedroom, 1 bathroom, living/kitchen/dining great room. My family moved into the front house. My parents, who retired in 2002, still travel, so we all save on our house costs, and my 14 year old daughter (who was 18 months old when we did this) has a great relationship with her grandparents. Wonderful garage conversion!
Charming plenty of room for everyone, not on top of each other. Very Intelligent way to spend money wisely . And keep family together in harmony caring way. Respect for each member is primordial. And Love.
we built one for my mom -she wouldnt prosper in a nursing home and asst living is way above her means, i care for jer 24/7 shes 90
Not easy to do. I did the same for my Dad for three years 24/7 after Mom died and he was diagnosed with cancer. I had a 16 yr old at the time, too. I'd do it all again if I could have him back.
Blessings to you both!!!!!! It's how we should treat our elders
You will have no regrets ... God Bless you🙏❤️
You are awesome! God bless you!
Inspirational & a Great story! I quit my job to care for my 90yo mom 24/7. I rent though, we're in a one bedroom/one bath + a den & a balcony apt. She has the bedroom & I'm in the den. We're comfortable. The only drawback for us is the tub/shower combo. Apts for seniors are not so easy to rent.
So, we work with what we have.
This is my dream. The family together yet separate. ❤️ Happy for these people.
This is a very good way of saving $ and helping your family if my mother in law was still alive I would have lived with her as well she was a amazing person! Keep your family close to you as long as you can because tomorrow is never promised ❤️
The whole world needs more of this!!🥰
Jane Siegrist I agree.
Most of the world have multi-generations of family living together regardless of financial situation. Living on your own or away from family is a Western thing.
@@avilik13 I've been a nurse for decades, I e watched western civilization give up their most vulnerable to the systems the government has put in place here. Please judge us knowing we are the most programmed of countries.. our people have been programmed to follow the leader...
@@janeysiegrist5061 not sure what country you're from but I'm from a Western country too. Well, a country with Western ideals. And I wasn't judging. Just stating fact.
That's so sweet of you to do this for your mother in law. I can tell she absolutely loves it, and is very proud of her new digs ! It's also a peace of mind to know you can keep an eye on her more easily, as she grows older and she feels secure in knowing family is close by. Very nice reno!
It sound like they had a great contractor💜
Exactly. I would like the contractor's contact information!
I agree.
I want one like that!
@Vincent T. - Americans used to do this. But builders stopped building homes with an in law suite. That's why the only houses you see now with one are older
@Vincent T. Not true
Wow! I love the idea of family working together to help each other. Nobody is being greedy or needy. It's about their relationship with one another and the love they have for one another.
I luv how the mom is so considerate and realizes she doesnt need be in kids face all the x. And I'm sure this situation is gonna work for all wonderful
Stellar contractor...they got lucky with someone who cares as if she were his own mother. The original fees to the city of $25,000.....sorry about the tragic fires but glad it helped them and others avoid the city wrongfully stealing from them. Real nice home in the end, makes me smile seeing Mom content.
Very creative and family friendly. Love the respect they have for each other.
I own 2 homes, but would give them both up in a heartbeat if my daughter would agree to do this in either direction...family is everything.
You don't need two homes. Sell one significantly under market for someone who needs it
My daughter is realizing how important family is now Covid-19 pandemic has kept us (all) shut-ins.
@@gloriahanes6490 So very true.
@@suesheification I worked very hard for my second home, in order to be closer to my family, and you think I should essentially purchase another home for someone else? I would wager a lot of money that you would NOT do the same.
So true , I have 3 children, my son was only one that wanted to be there for me , unfortunately I lost him , the 2 daughters have no intention of being there
oh what a beautiful family story! I love the converted house the grandmom has, they did so much with the limited space
Let’s bring family together instead of being apart! Family is strength.
She has a very interesting book collection tbh, good to see Herman Hesse in there, along with many. Great family respect.
*Bhagavad-Gita per dictionary . com
First, your contractor is an amazing and thoughtful person!!!! You all made the best of the situation and it's truly beautiful and respectful of each families privacy. Congrats.
This is how it should be. And as it gets worse in our country, more people will need to do this. This video tour may inspire others to save themselves this way.
This is what we should do for our aged parents instead of dumping them in nursing homes.
I wish, but not feasible for many of us. People only go to nursing homes or assisted living when they need that level of care. My dad needs an attendant all the time & we both work. Trust me, we'd rather not spend $100k per year to keep him in assisted living.
TourPace64 your choice is fully comprehensible. May god bless you and your dad to live the best of your life
Let everyone decide for themselves
They do this quite a lot in the Northwest, not necessarily with a garage conversion, more usually with a shed to house conversion. They call them granny flats up in Washington state.
or leaving them homeless
Aloha! I am a young 72, very active physically, but I can feel some of the limitations coming on. To make a long story short, I relocated to Seattle from Kona, HI due to traumatic life changes. My daughter and her husband have kindly made room for me in their tiny 300 sq. ft. mother-in-law which I have happily decorated and made mine. We are very much separate from one other, which is great for privacy for BOTH of us. But they are close enough where they can keep a distant eye on me, and I can help them with doggie/plant/mail care when they go out of town. I so much agree with some of the comments regarding aging parents. Where are the good ol' days where we looked out for one another. If I got sick or infirm enough, of course, I wouldn't impose myself on them. I'd live in assisted living or have someone come in...whatever. Thanks so much for posting this video. Much needed!!!
We bought a house 8 years ago with a converted 3 car garage/workshop in law suite for my mom. She has 890 sq. ft and it is off our kitchen. It works great and since she is 80 years old now (still driving etc) at least she is here just in case but also has helped with my kids over the years too. My boys now see how it can work well, so might be something that happens again for us in the future.
This is a very normal living arrangement in many parts of the world.
JRRnotTolkien that recession started before Obama even took office what are you on about 😂
It was in the usa until ww2
JRRnotTolkien - Jobs were lost and businesses closed due to the Great Recession that began in 2007 under Bush. It was the Obama administration that pushed laws that helped people save their homes, it was the Obama administration that subsidized COBRA health insurance premiums and it was the Obama administration that jump-started the exit from the recession for businesses and individuals. We are still living with the increased trajectory (employment, stock market, business growth) begun under Obama.
JRRnotTolkien Did you just make that up?? You really need to change the news channel. Fox has you in la la land, not America.
so true
Just placed my mother in a care home in 2019. She is so stubborn. Mother has to have everything her way. It makes my heart happy that some families can make multiple generations living and loving together work well. Life as it should be.
Lovely home . I’m converting my attic for my daughter and her partner. They have upstairs and I have downstairs.. they have their own front door the only thing we share is the garden. Young people in my area of Britain can not afford their first home and I would rather have her upstairs than miles away. It can work if a plan is made and boundaries set from the start.
Young people everywhere. Good mom!
I know taxes are quite high in the UK, and we have many British transplants here in America. Many prefer Michigan because the weather is similar with four seasons, rains a great deal, lots of fog, and green emerald grass.
Lovely thought, good luck to all.
Perfectly-Beautiful! We were able to provide my mother with a mother-in-law apt. after my father passed away, offering her security and independence in our home. Now that I am a widow, I would LOVE to have this little bit of paradise as you have helped your mom into. Continued Peace & Blessings to your family!
I feel like they were able to build very healthy boundaries by rethinking the use of those spaces. It is awesome that the in-law has a cozy and comfortable space and still close to the main family :)
Beautiful home...very kind of you dear lady to have your mom in law there....very special...today times are tough and I live like this too.....well done and God bless you all....
I think this is a great solution to senior living. My husband’s parents are Old Order Amish and this is the normal way of aging. It’s convenient and allows for privacy and dignity for both parties.
I love this place! It reminds me so much of the beloved cottage my ex-husband built for me at the rear of his property (yes, you did read that right...we were good friends). It was 500 sq. starting out, so it was a bit larger than this garage BUT with the same cozy feeling. Eventually, he added a formal dining room for me that allowed me to have my son and his family over for dinner. Then came the addition of the closet, off my bedroom...it was 6' x 18' and I utilized every square inch of it. It contained my washer and dryer as well as all my craft supplies, my Christmas knick-knacks and ornaments, and a few other precious items. I lived there for 12 years. It bordered on a wooded area and the amount of wildlife I saw was incredible...over 20 varieties of birds (from a great blue heron to hummingbirds!), deer, raccoons, squirrels, chipmunks, bunnies...and the list goes on and on. There were frogs and toads, dragonflies and damselflies. Sadly he died at much too young an age, forcing us to sell the house and, with it, the cottage. It was just as well because new neighbors had moved in the house next door and had the feud going with the people in the house on the other side of my husband's house and I truly thought there would eventually be major problems. However, I will forever miss that little place. It was perfect for one person. I could also live very happily in this garage conversion...it's wonderful! I wish the "tenant" many years of happiness there!
Sounds like you had a contractor with great, problem solving ideas.
great idea - families need to be together to support and love one another ...
So nice! Glad to see this family working the situation out. Life changes and we need to adjust. Bless them all!!!
I love how you renovated your property. Very clever to create privacy for each household. God Bless you❤️
As long as they respect each others space this is good for an aging mother. She will be close enough to be cared for or looked after when the time comes.
Not all Moms are like this one. She seems like a sweet and respectful of her daughters space.
Love the design. Smart ise of space. Mother in law gratitude is inspiring.
Great to see a story like this. The city and county fees in Sonoma county are through the roof. The house I was in prior to moving east is gone from the fires, Lots of my friends have lost homes as well. Nice to see the city lowered fees in the tragedy that hit. Thank you Kirsten for the great videos
Dayesleeper Vote for candidates who promise to lower your taxes, not raise them. You have that power. There is no reason why people should pay $23,000 in fees to convert a garage! A $25 permit is enough in most places. Vote those corrupt officials out!
I just love this mother in law! I hope she is appreciated. And hats off to the contractor...it really sounds like he was looking out for their best interests!
I really like the mother's respect of boundaries and space for her daughter and the daughter's family.
What a classy MIL. She is well organized and has great taste.
I love this! It is such an adorable hug of a house. The lady who lives there is happy and comfortable. Congratulations to this family.
Very cute and a GREAT use of space... combining family spaces while keeping individuality was/is AWESOME!
Now this is what I'd call truly the most efficient Tiny house.
It's not TOO small that it gives claustrophobia, no custom furniture, economic, re-purposed use of existing place, no complicated stairs or hidden furniture.
Actually designed to house one person and does not try to overcrowd. Excellent
This could also be classified in The Tiny House Category. Love that you converted a garage into a nice apartment, with way more privacy for your Mom. Beautiful!
Your home is just lovely. It's nice you can live so close to each other and also respect each other's boundaries.
This is FABULOUS!!! If my Mom were still here I would TOTALLY do this for her!! Oh my gosh what a sweet little space all of her own!! Awesome awesome awesome!!! In fact, maybe in years to come, I will do this with my garage and rent it out!! Hats off to you guys!!!
Not to be morbid, but when grandma is gone someday, that apartment becomes a retirement income for Stacy as an AirBnB. Incredible investment. I also love that grandma is being revered, respected and taken care of, and grandma is even helping her kids by having helped to pay for the apartment.
Cindy Maybe by that time one of the kids is old enough and wants to pay some rent for space of their own.
I would just get a renter rather than have your "loser of the week" show up and trash the place. Or one of the kids could move in.
It's exactly what I thought jejejej
@darlingUSA1 I don't think it's morbid either. The mother in law said this way she could see what she would've left for them (i,e money) working out for them. She's very practical. I want to be her when I'm older 😊
Airbnb more work than having a good renter. More income with a renter in the long run.
I like what you have done with the garage. You have shown what a loving daughter does for her mother. Only one mom fantastic.
I had something like this at my mothers house. We all had our own space. My room was big enough to make it a home. But I had to leave because it was an unhealthy environment but I wish my family had this level of respect for each other. But I plan on doing something like this with a group of trusted friends and my fiancé. Family is so Important. I love this video
This is beautiful! Perfect for this kind of situation. So close to family to check on you yet your own space. Love it!
great set up to live close but separate and nice to respect each other’s privacy by not just walking in unannounced
Totally awesome how they work together in their relationship. Nice apartment for the mother.
👍Terrific. So glad they were able to pool their resources together & support each other.💝
This is so awesome. What a blessing to be able to do this, and have your age parent close and living comfortably.
I love it!!!! Great job. And wonderful help for your mama. You are a blessed daughter and wonderful. And she gets the #1 Best Mother in Law award. Wow!!!
What a great little house! It's compact but didn't feel cramped at all, and it has great storage for a 380 sq. ft. space. The built-in desk and bookshelves in the living room and the large BR closet were great. The bathroom and shower were a nice size too. The covered patio and outdoor spaces were great too. Sounds like it's working for three generations!
Would like to know the size of that bathroom
Great when family relations are healthy enough to do this! The garage home turned out lovely. Personally I need to be able to look out the window and see the outside. But if that's not your thing, this is a wonderful solution.
I think more families should care enough to do something like this especially for the older generations. Lovely home.
I like the mom's personality. Cozy place.
Both of them must have a very good relationship. You don’t see that often. The mother in law seems like a nice lady who is contended with the simple things. The daughter-in-law seems like a caring and kind lady. That is very nice . Such a nice conversion .
I simple Love Love Love the term ''Hug House". Beautiful layout & arrangement. Your post just renewed my hope & plan to move closer to my Son. Thank You so much for sharing. Wishing ALL of you many many years of love, happiness, health & support. Be safe and keeping loving each other.
Such a nice property! Love seeing the family work together and Mom isn’t alone. Great team work!
The mother did the right choice in keeping that cute fan!
What a lovely family! I'm living with my daughter and son in law and it's been the most pleasurable experience. But, having this type of arrangement, is genius.
Delightful. Such a good way to handle housing needs. It is true also that lots of communities around the world doing very similar arrangements.
Wow kudos to the architect who designed this beautiful place but the mother in law too has great taste how cozy her house looks .. lovely to see how the space turned out to work so well for everyone!!
It's great to see she has space to be social and have her friends over and still be an active, independent member of the outer community, as well as having the closeness her family. It's heartwarming.
I would love a situation like that! ♥️
That was neat to see. I live in santa rosa. What a great idea. I have attached granny for my mom sits over garage. Glad to see the elders dont get forgotten about
We need to go back to multi generation living it worked in the old days.
Kat Brown No single solution works for everybody. Glad this works great for them.
@@kathyyoung1774 Exactly. My parents are gone now, but they split up when I was a kid. Both of them were so nasty. There's no way I could live with either of them.
I'm so sorry that your parents weren't good ones. You are an excellent example of why not every "solution" works for everybody. Likewise, many snowflakes who still live at home with their parents insist in Comments sections that everybody should live in a tiny house and nobody needs more than 300 sq ft. Not any single solution works for everybody. I hope you are having a much better life now on your own. My best to you!
It’s not for everyone in every situation. But this one works!
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Congratulations to all of you including the architect and contractors. What a wonderful use of space, beautiful fixtures and tastefully decorated. Everyone considerate of each others' space.
I LOVE this! I wish there would be more people out there doing such amazing project and bringing families back together. This idea should be promoted!
I love this idea! The mother-in-law seems so sweet❤️ It’s a beautiful home 🏠
I love her pride. Shes so cute. And the contractor sounds amazing. He really considered the future for the primary homeowner and not just the sake of the purse holder.
This is superb. What a great example in this day and age.
I wish I still had my Mom with me. Treasure your time together
It's my mums funeral today. Literally cannot feel anything, just numb. And so want to see and hug her.
Wow you guys did an absolutely beautiful job. Perfect one bedroom apartment, totally has everything she needs. great job
This is a beautiful story and beautiful mother in law house!
I want nothing more than tea and a tour with her! I adore her, what a gem of a woman!💕
wonderful that they were able to work it out for everyone. More and more families will be living together in the future I believe
I love this!!! This is wisdom for honoring parents and helping children.
Incredible Idea.... and you know you both have a great neighbor that you absolutely love. 🤗😉👍
I love this. It's bittersweet because I wanted something like this for my My Mom & me. Blessings. ☺
What a gorgeous little house. That's about the size of my apartment and I don't need anything bigger. What a nice family, respecting each others space is very important!😊👍👍💕
I love that this thread of comments are so sweet and supportive! I am looked down on all the time because I have the same views that family takes care of family, but almost every day I have nearly strangers that I'm weird cause my family still lives with me
When I was a kid in the 50s
Lots of chicken houses and summer kitchens were converted to grandmas home.
Then a man cave after she passed.
Then a child got married and it was a .
First Home.
Repurposed at its best.
What a delightful lady and a beautiful home!