@Tacom4ster yeah I hope after watching the video you've learned something and no know that "it's capitalism" is a very simplistic answer that removes any responsibility for your own anger from you.
@@RyGuy147 it really is just capitalism. Doom scrolling is a product of the society of the spectacle. Which is the controlling mechanism of choice for the neo liberal governing body.
Welllllll there's way too much individual responsibility instead of talking about the system that oppresses us enough to make most people irrationally angry towards everything except the system.
I am so sorry, Salari. Thank you for still making videos. For this one, and all the others you've made since the beginning. I can't support financially but I am so grateful for your meaningful contributions to this cruel, dying internet.
On the travel point, I will 100% die on the hill that it is not the unwillingness or not wanting to travel, it's the affordability. Americans, most of us, simply cannot afford it. I just got my passport this year and I shit you not, this little booklet cost me $200. The trip I'm planning and will be slowly playing for in installments costs me a total of about 5k which will be paid off over a couple years. Capitalism is the driver for much of this shit.
I dont know you and wont act like i do.. I would like to know how old you are. Ive found (for myself) that as ive gotten older -40+ - what i thought was expensive earlier in life is more than do able if you want to and budget. When i was younger and looked up comics which costs a thousand dollars my mind was blown. Now i wouldn't spend a thousand on a comic but i know if i wanted it i could save for a few months and get it. It comes down to whats important i guess.. From my experience I wouldn't spend 1500 on the big screen but ive spent that on my pc for example
I can BARELY afford to leave my state - let alone experience a culture different than mine. Like, my landlord needs me to support his lifestyle - how can I leave AND supply rent?
@@derekofbaltimore I'm 25. Mind you I'm only able to do what I said above because I am lucky enough to be able to live at home with my mother, capitalized off of Pell grants due the low income, went to community college first and thwart the shitty "I'll say we're hiring but we're not actually hiring" practices of many of the companies in my area so I could work while doing so, if still off and on.
This part of the video pissed me off a little too, because to most people it does come to not being able to afford or sustain travels. And it's not just the money, but you legal vacation days, what to do with your pets and family, etc.
If anyone wants to know the antidote to rage bait on the Internet, just tune into Salari’s livestreams. It’s great fun, relaxed, everyone knows each other AND MAYBE you’ll hear some decent voice acting.
Lately it feels like people want Videogames shows and movies to fail more than succeed, and that’s just sad like people just want to hate something and half of those times feels like they don’t care about the subject or they’re just looking for a reason to hate something, then there’s the word woke
I’m sorry to hear about the abuse from commenters. You don’t deserve it, nor should anyone else who creates such great useful and meaningful content. I don’t know why some are so hateful I will support your channel if I can help you out. What you do is valuable and needs to be appreciated.
I'm sure someone else has said this, but as an American, I believe the #1 reason Americans don't travel is because they literally can't. We talk about the economic disparity in the US but when it comes to the travel criticism, a lot of people forget that passports, plane tickets, room and board, food, etc. costs money that a shit ton of Americans don't have. There a lot of people out there who want to travel internationally and probably never will. Having an education might even make it *less likely* for Americans to travel, given how expensive it is.
The thing I find annoying about the "Americans don't travel" argument is that the economic angle tends to get overlooked. It's not cheap to travel, especially for Americans. Not that Americans shouldn't travel, but it feels tone-deaf when this criticism is brought up without acknowledging a major barrier to doing so.
I think technically (and i do mean technically) it is "likely" easier for Americans to travel than others because we technically are the richest people in the world.
@@lilithowl it definitely depends on where, and I'd want to dig into some statistics before fully agreeing, but it is true that geography makes international travel more difficult than it is for, as an example, most of Europe. People in the north can drive or take an affordable ferry to Canada, people in the southwest can drive to Mexico, but otherwise, just getting to a different country requires a long and expensive international flight or cruise (or multiple days of driving to a border, but only if you want to go to one of two countries). And I'll be honest, I've been to Canada, I loved it, but an American going to Canada is really not expanding their cultural horizons very much.
@@lilithowl I never said it was? America is far away from most other countries, necessitating expensive flight travel. Not to mention our lack of guaranteed vacation makes taking time off for anything, let alone international leisure insanely difficult.
@@derekofbaltimore America is only the "richest" because of a handful of obscenely wealth individuals. Most people in the US aren't rich enough to travel far very often.
I hate that this is how it is. I prefer watching videos about stuff people love, and I know creators prefer making those kinds of videos, but they get paid less when they do. Grrr.
There are plenty of channels with huge subscriber bases who make positive content. Sadly, youtube is a popularity/attention marketplace. Noone is owed a full time job as a youtuber. If you have to make content you don't like to pay the bills, you probably quit your day job too soon.
I have a lot of recommendations on watching people do stuff. It's interesting if it's something I'd like to do and either cannot do myself or the video is made in a way that I can learn something (for example sewing videos, I love to sew). But then the weirder recommendations are for example from BookTube. Why would I want to know what people are GOING TO read? I'd much rather hear your thoughts about books you've already read. Just a random thought I had a few days ago. 😅
I'm sick of TH-cam trying to push drama videos at me, especially since most of the time it's about someone I've never even heard of and I have *zero* investment in it. On the other hand, if it's someone whose content I've watched before (or god forbid, someone I'm subbed to) I feel like I *have* to click it, if only to read the comments. Not even because I want to be angry, but because I live in constant fear of being the one person still supporting a neo-Nazi child molester because I failed to stay informed. I'll admit it can feel good to be righteously angry sometimes. In short bursts, otherwise I just get overwhelmed and depressed, lol.
Same. Since 2016, TH-cam has been mostly about drama content. I used to remember when it was about creativity. Maybe there is, but its mostly drama, react content, livestreamers and politics these days.
The whole thing about you losing patrons is so freaking real and frankly quite sad. Not many think about the entitlement viewers have and just how abusive they can be. All thanks to them knowing they can do these things cuz no one knows who they are. I pray that you, your wife, and loved ones will be alright.
I'm a bad movie enjoyer, and get excited for movies everyone says are bad. Baldy executed movies can still have the artistic vision the director, cast, and crew had for it or just be fun to watch how it fails. The key is that someone cared about it, but they lacked the skill, knowledge, time, money, or some combination to make a well made movie. The Borderlands movie disappointed me by being exceedingly bad. I didn't feel like anyone cared about it other than to make money.
One request/perspective from a random internet stranger (who doesn't currently patronize you). Please don't regard any support or patronage that I may or may not provide as endorsement of you yourself as a person, and don't regard withdrawal of such support as anything more meaningful than me happening to feel shitty that day. I might support creators on a whim for reasons as silly as cool facial fair, and might withdraw it for similarly trivial reasons. While you may pour your heart and soul into your videos, and I may, vary rarely, resonate deeply with them, it's far more likely that I've just superficially latched on to a talking point. I don't matter, and anything hurtful I might say doesn't matter. Any financial support that I may provide might matter more, but anger isn't really likely to be the factor that decides whether I do that. That said, I do recognize that any hate I target at a creator may be minor to me but contribute to a wall of hate from hundreds of commenters, and try to keep that in mind. I also think that leaving a final hostile remark when withdrawing patronage is a pretty shitty move.
I recently deactived my Twitter, and while I still feel the occassional urge to log on, I’m so much less unhappy now. Twitter is curated to make you upset, and it’s draining. I’m very sorry about you and your wife’s experience. I somewhat disagree with the cancel culture not being a thing. While a lot of the complaints about it are stupid (especially when it’s from people who have been exposed as predators), a lot of people have a tendency to jump on the opportunity to hate on someone, often grasping at straws to make their case. A recent example for me has been Chappell Roan who has gotten so much vitriol for basically anything she does. Notice how it’s often marginalized people who are the most vulnerable to this sort of thing.
@@btarczy5067 Yeah, I know the wording is clumsy, but I feel like I would be giving Twitter too much credit by saying that its absence makes me happier lol.
@@aggepakke7763 Oh, I didn’t mean to say it was clumsy. It looked intentional to me and it fits some aspects of my life even if I have only ever experienced Twitter vicariously through TH-cam videos.
In honesty, a key reason I do not support anyone on Patreon is exactly that I do not wish to financially back any individual's political opinion pieces, at the risk of endorsing views I might not agree with. I think it's a reasonable reason to withdraw support.. but I don't think it's okay to send a nasty message about it through the exit survey.
I think the only thing I'd disagree about cancel culture is that it can become a slippery slope towards vigilante justice, which might expose people to doxxing and physical threats, with the justification given as "because they're being cancelled anyway"
Watching until the end of your video I'm truly sorry what happened to you and your wife, and to your career. I'm not in the know as to what happened, but you didn't deserve all the abuse you've been getting. I'm arguing that this is 'cancel culture' at work, it does exist and it's a dangerous weapon that can go out of control real fast.
Honestly the no travel thing for me and my family was: "It's something only rich people can do." so we never did it. That might not be true, but that's the perception about travel. Travel is time consuming and expensive. I feel like there's a huge class blindness when it comes when people talk about how few people have passports in the US. Leaving the US wasn't a financial possibility for me until I was in my 30s, and now I'm bogged down with a career and limited time off. Am I going to spend my 1 week of vacation learning about a completely new culture and the struggles that brings, or am I going to just stick to something safe like a trip to a regional tourist trap somewhere in the States and hope my burnout has at least somewhat ameliorated by the time I'm back to work? Traveling isn't a day trip kind of activity in the States like it is out in Europe. Not to mention, I really have to wonder how many "people with passports" visit countries that are all that different than theirs. Oh damn you went from the UK to France or Germany, very impressive!
@@razoras yeah, I think a better comparison with Europe would be to ask how many Europeans have travelled outside of Europe. I do think you have much more cultural diversity within Europe than the States, but people in countries like Belgium are a few hours Drive from plenty of different countries. Not comparable with the US (or Brazil, or India, or China...) situation
"Dopamine. People like it when someone agrees or interact with you." I officially sponsor this channel not just with money, but mostly with dopamine. You're welcome 😆 Please give the cats a kiss/pat for me, I miss them
It's so heartbreaking to hear how the hate you received affected you and your wife, all because you told people to examine their parasocial relationships. I have never understood parasocial relationships or celebrity worship, and I have been called *weird* for NOT being enjoying them. I'm sorry you went through all of that. I love your deep and thoughtful content! Your video on "Why are the Japanese so Lonely" is the first one I found and it spoke to me so heavily that I immediately subbed to the channel, (me at the time being an undiagnosed autistic person also with undiagnosed adhd unaware I was severely disabled lol) so thank you for doing what you do, Salari
Sorry to hear about what happened to you and your wife! It's awful how simple disagreements can cause people to go nuclear online to make sure that other people's lives are as bad as they can make it. On that note, I think that we gravitate towards outrage because it gives us purpose in life. Every day, we hear how the wealth gaps are getting bigger, everything is getting more expensive and it's getting harder and harder for the average person to get by. The reasons why that is happening and the things we can do about it are extremely nuanced and there are very few avenues to do anything about it since those that are causing the issues have so much power and influence that they can easily ignore us, regardless of how loud our cries are (then there's social media platforms censoring some forms of speech). When we get angry about a store not selling the thing we want or someone insisting on introducing themselves with their pronouns, that's us being able to exercise the little power we have in hopes that it'll help make our lives a little better. Trying to cancel people and force them into hiding is a form of change that we can do without having to put much effort into it. And knowing that our negative actions are causing that sort of harm gives us the feeling of power that we've been seeking all our lives. Unfortunately, all this does is serve as mere distractions to the real reasons we are in the state that we are in now. Taking care of that requires coordinated effort and time that a lot of us don't have. Screaming at people behind a keyboard makes us feel important, so we do that instead.
The funny thing about the Discord ping is that I didn’t have the same problem because I was on phone with notifications off. I rewound just to say, dude you recorded while Discord was on? The a few seconds later, oh you sneaky.
What interests me the most about just HOW MUCH ppl are addicted to hate is how it pushes aside and obfuscates either some important aspect of the truth of the situation, or A LOT of it. There is no nuance anymore, only "right" or "wrong", which may not even be the case cuz certain facts are missing; nobody can look at them cuz they're too busy being angry. And when it's brought up people simply don't want to look. This is, of course, very broadly/generally speaking. There will always be the exception
I find it pretty incredible that someone could be so flaky and fickle, that they were offended by any video you’ve put out. You’re about as tame and inoffensive as humanly possible, so these “patrons” must have just been extraordinarily snowflakey. Honestly you’re better off without them because it was only a matter of time before some benign comment sent them packing anyway.
Your work is fantastic in quality and especially writing. Not everyone will love its content, but never for a second more doubt your quality, Salari. Further, I can prove it: if you were not of a high enough quality to elicit an emotional reaction to people, they would never have attacked you. It sucks that it happened, but it can be more than a scar on your psyche.
American. Over 50. Well-traveled and decently educated. I can't tell you how many words I've used to say what you did in just a few: "apply for a passport, bih" Every country I visit opens my eyes to things we get wrong (and occasionally right).
I’m very sorry this happened to you. This is an excellent video and your honesty is an invaluable component in its impact. Thank you for your work. I think this is an essential video for 2024
Sometimes I roll my eyes at a few of his conclusions. TH-cam is full of drama. When he said his WIFE was crying over comments - my heart broke. Absolutely awful, like what the actual fuck? Life is so hard for most people lately...Why must we make it worse? :/
I have some serious, serious, and occasionally (although more often by far in the past) violent anger issues. Also female, hi! Don't mind me punching people in the face. Anyway, point being despite all that, I really cannot fathom leaving comments vitriolic enough to make someone's wife cry. I don't get the point of it. If I'm angry at a YTer, I will explain to them why as best I can, or just leave a channel without saying anything. I really don't get the level of petty it takes to try to ruin someone to that degree unless we're talking like, world leaders who need to be brought down. Sounds like you were right to say people should rethink their parasocial relationships, tbh. I wish your income didn't have to depend on Patreon, I can't personally afford to give to everyone I'd want to, so it's like a weird hunger game culling deciding who gets it. As someone already mentioned, capitalism is the true enemy, and YT should darn well act like the employer they are and pay up, because you KNOW they're raking it in. I'm sorry I can't contribute financially, I'm sorry you had to deal with that BS, and if nothing else I hope that I as one lone angry bizch can say to you: you did not deserve that, and your work is worth being proud of.
I beg your pardon. I am not trying to rub salt on you, but you said you dont think canceling is real then a short while later, you proceeded to talk about a traumatic experience you had when patreons pulled away and people harrased you in comments and on twitter. Thats canceling, they didn't like what you said and wanted you to quit. And if they couldn't make you quit, they wanted to hurt you. People live in fear of being canceled because they know they dont have the sort of strength you displayed under that pressure, and those people know they would cave in. Now you know what they are afraid of. I hope you are doing well. I have very different views than you do, but i greatly appreciate your perspective.
I avoid the Internet drama, and unfortunately too poor to support creators. What happened? You are as non-controvesial compared to others who's performances I enjoy as humanely possible. You are kinda one of my motivation that not loud and affectative people can do good video essays thus motivating me to do it.
Keep up your excellent work and your spirit! Unfortunately negative responses are way more common than positive feedback. People that appreciate the work/content of others usually don't write anything cause there is nothing to add. But we be out here and we outnumber those bad faith followers or rage commentators. I for one would really muss something if you'd stop making content. So please take the love in this comment section to heart. Thank you for what you are doing and thank you for being this open about a topic that clearly got under your skin.
Thank you for making your vids. Some of them have really helped me while I was very angry at the world or very depressed. You make me reflect on certain assumptions which is always worthwhile. I did not know that one of your vids had caused this kind of backlash and it saddens me that you got hurt to this extent. We will probably never meet, but I would like you to know that I appreciate you and what you contribute to the world.
28:59 that's so sad. I'm sorry that happened to you. You are the most tame and understanding content creator, I can't understand why someone would be cruel in their withdrawal for support over saying something factual. Now that's insanity. Over stating a fact, not an opinion. If they took a college course on physchology, they may learn about parasocial relationships. People are allowed to withdraw their monetary support for any reason, and they don't need to give it necessarily. But I have noticed society's... decline. The ability to be cordial is a dying art. I attribute this loss to social media. It has ruined the human psyche.
You're awesome and deserve way more subscribers! Please keep on going - you make a difference, and this means a lot to many people. Don't want to sound parasocial 😅 I just like your content and online persona!
Thanks for being so honest about the effect online vitriol has had on you. So many people want to forget about the real impact anger has on it's target, so I think being transparent can remind people to be kind.
Given your tragic and traumatic experience with people as a group taking action that threatened your financial situation, mental health, wellbeing, and the mental health and wellbeing of your loved ones over saying something they didn't like but wasn't harmful do you suppose that perhaps the creators who express fear of being 'canceled' despite having done nothing to warrant this might be expressing fear of the exact situation that happened to you through slightly different terms?
I'm so sorry that people made you feel that way. Even now, you're trying to be empathetic to those that hurt you so deeply. As one stranger on the internet to another, I'm sending support to you and your wife.
This video was fantastic! I’m currently trying to stop watching reactionary content and stop visiting snark subreddits, it’s hard, I wanna know all the gossip. This video really helped remind me why I am quitting consuming content like that!
I think relying on Patreon for your livelyhood is a bad idea. Sure it's a nice bonus but this is the internet. If you're going to rely on random strangers for money, dont be surprised if they take it away for random reasons. I don't know the specific content of the mean comments you recieved, but it seems like you're giving them significant power over you. Abusive comments comes with the territory of being a youtuber (or so I've heard). If they are this traumatic for you, maybe you should take a break for a while.
This was the first time I watched one of your videos. It started with me being curious about a topic and has ended with me crying out of empathy with a completely unknown to me. Anger is a power feeling but empathy sometimes is even stronger. What I'm trying to say is... keep it up. You're are a great communicator capable of making people feel. If that feeling is anger or happiness shouldn't make you feel less valuable.
Stopping to support someone on patronite is not abuse. As someone who also makes a living creating content I can relate to that situation but you shouldn't be guilt-tripping your viewers
I've become so exhausted by the constant push towards outrage and the small start of blocking tiktoks, reels, and shorts has made a huge difference in my mood. It's too much to have all the rage bait and videos about people doing bad things, nasty comments on even the most innocuous videos, combined with internet 'discourse' on TH-cam and social media. It was poisoning me to listen to every person's ire over everything and cutting back on opportunities to feel that way is only doing me good.
in a few years what happened to you will be seen as the wrong it is. Right now there's not much anyone can do but narcissists always find a way to destroy themselves
Sal (can I call you Sal?), Those weirdos who disagreed with your take(s) and then left weren't really listening. Your calm nature is why I listen to you, even if I don't find your prescriptions to be aligned with my own. Ridiculous. You're a respectable content creator that this platform needs more of. These weirdos are dangling their patreon memberships out of rage is babybrained stuff.
I almost did not click on this video, because I am actively trying to watch less anger-content. But I trust you to not try to make me angry, so I went ahead. Sounds like you've had a rough time now, sorry to hear. Hugs. ❤️ I always rather watch your more light-hearted vids and enjoy your great mind. :) Well-wishes to you and Wife. ❤️
I would say I’m immune to this, but then I saw a link to the film critic Mark Kermode’s review of Megalopolis, because it said it was a rant in the caption. One of my favourite videos on TH-cam is him reviewing Sex And The City 2 cos he loses it and starts singing. That being said, I do also subscribe to the podcast the review is from and enjoy him gushing about a smaller film that I may not have found otherwise.
Thank you for your perspective. Getting trashed on Twitter over something trivial seems to have fundamentally reordered my reaction to outrage bait to feeling sadness, empathy, intimidated, and/or suspicious rather than the usual anger. I'm no longer capable of intuitively understanding why people react the way they do, so having someone break it down for me like this is the only way I can make sense of it.
I'm very sorry this happened to you and your wife. Your videos are always so thoughtful, so I can't imagine why people would get so upset with you to the point where they become abusive. It's good that you spoke out and I wish you all the best! 💖
Yeah the anger thing seems to be a meta phenomenon. A negative death spiral in reaction to ones own observation of their own success in life. That observation could be real or make believe or just exaggerated
uhh you lost me at giving money to you and then no longer paying you after that is financial abuse sounds pretty similar to the entitlement of the people complaining about being cancelled that you don't believe is real
If I had never played a team hero shooter before Concord would have been fine for me because the whole idea would have been exciting. But when Overwatch, Apex and Valorant all exist it was just very mid in context.
I'm fairly new to your channel, I do like it. I just want to comment on your take with getting canceled not being out of hand. You first say if you're getting canceled it's because you did something awful. Yet later on in the video you talk about anger and how you've lost friends because of your anger. Are you telling me if there was video of you losing those friends because of your anger wouldn't have gotten you canceled or at the very least, lose countless subscribers? And I also want to point out that I did like this video, but I wouldn't have commented on it without saying the negative I posted above. I'm cognizant of that and if you're reading this you might have a slightly elevated focus of this comment lol. At ease, you're doing good stuff.
I was with you until the financial ab*se line... someone disagreeing with you and deciding not to support you on Patreon anymore is ABSOLUTELY NOT financial ab*se, and it's really insulting to people going through that to say that. No one owes you a dollar a month on Patreon
I heard the Kindle deleted 1984, allegedly (probably happened anyway lol). So, here's a little thing I concocted as a post-modern parody of the supposed manuscript, but modernized: *2024: The 21st Century's 1984* _TH-cam def: Socioeconomic echo chamber that peddles along various cultural controversies for the growth of ad revenue and prospective shareholders. As a result, it creates a predominately procrastinating atmosphere of counterproductive measures for ensuring our wellbeing, in the form of either infighting or face-value-high-reward content (a.k.a. slop), presented as a form of “edutainment” (low-brow or high-brow). From drama, to politics, to small niche introspections, no one is solving anything, only either generating more personal or existential controversy, “textualizing” (as opposed to contextualizing) viewpoints, or having those who partake in the consumption peddle along the same ideas and “perspectives” promoted by the algorithm. It mostly lacks sincerity, purely reeks of mediocrity, and creates a facade of movement and direction by having multiple TH-camrs talk about the same thing, unionizing over that thing, where neither are they vulnerable from partaking in the consumption of monetizable slop, perpetuating the cycle of further slop. They are the culprits, as they too are the victims, all in part due to the system._ This is not to say that all content on TH-cam is bad, but rather the only good content on the platform is productive videos. Productive videos break the mold of “edutainment”, and though they can take the form of it, they seem to provide skill sets and reveal ways of going about solving certain issues. For instance, watching someone deconstruct a musical piece with a keyboard, drawing repetitively with a voice over (as lackluster as it sounds) to have the viewer understand the form or substance of what they are creating. *The issue is this:* TH-cam focuses on monetizing the human experience, at the expense of the individual; it’s more of an echo chamber for individuals, not a marketplace for individual pursuits as it previously was in the early 2000’s. In other words, the best way to use TH-cam in 2024 and onward is to seek critical constructive Learning, as it promotes individual values such as the improvement of analysis and supplemental education. So basically, be autistic, integrate, and proliferate. [Simply put, the so-called “perspectives” aren’t of much perspicacity as one might think. Remember, it’s a for-profit, socioeconomic echo chamber, something that validates your viewpoints to fuel the dopamine train further into the echo chamber. What should be done, arguably and for the sake of our sense of equilibrium in this vapid realm of para social transactions, is productively discussing, in-depth, the perspectives of all sides, which rarely anyone does anyway; in other words, discussing beyond what the person did and having enough integrity and cognitive hindsight to discuss why anyone does anything. Thus, it is with a burden of speculative proof that I say that the content on your “For You Page” is not prone to this lack of “perspective”. Your “For You Page” lacks the very epistemic definition of perspective. *_Simply put, you are the perspective, you make the perspective. Get your head out of the echo chamber. At the very least, remove your long-term dependency on the algorithmic enthrall of these shareholder’s superficial recommendations_* ] Another issue deals with time complexity [not in a technical sense]. This is to address the “For You Page,” or in other words the TH-cam recommendations. When it comes to certain videos, there seems to be an underlying value that could be gained from clicking on the interesting video thumbnail. But wait, TH-cam is an echo chamber composed of fiduciaries and shareholders as its top belligerents. I say belligerents because it’s not the TH-camr who’s showing you the video, it’s the prospective shareholder; the man in the middle who seizes your attention algorithmically peddles you this video, when if you really wanted to actually have someone help you, you’d go out of your way to find the type of video yourself, just like anyone would with anything back then. It’s an allure of readiness. They make you think that this type of video, based on all of the other types of videos you view, is “special” in that it was readily handcrafted just for this occasion (or whatever thought you have in mind), when it’s simply a slippery slope to set you up on a trip to content addiction. They may show you big TH-camrs with a promising base of opinions and thoughtful “perspectives,” or, with all due respect, sympathy-riddled, humble TH-camrs trying to make it in the big world of social media. But remember, they’re never the answer, they’re part of the solution. From all of my experiences tackling this issue head on in my life, the one thing that I learned from content consumption is that you will always be the answer, and only if you could just sit in your room with your thoughts, would you develop the same, cool, niche inclinations and ideas that your favorite creators and communities have. Remember, the algorithm doesn’t mold your interests, it feeds off of what you like. So, why aren’t you doing what you like, or at least abstracting about what you like, you know for fun? And if you are doing what you like, my apologies, but I guess this isn’t for you. *_~ "Every day’s a New Year, and I Want to Grow Up. Every New Year’s Eve is 24 hours, as so is every day. Therefore, every day is a new year. Simply create your own fiction to own your own reality. Use the constructs of the system, parse out the scattered virtues, and claim them as your own. If ownership in the material leads to the numbness of the soul, then ownership in the immaterial will rectify it." ~_*
6:33 I thought the ‘Ghostbusters’ (the Paul Feig reboot) was fun and I will die on that hill. I still didn’t get the criticism (not related to the movie’s content)
unrelated, but responds makes the algorithm think people are interested, I had fun mishearing you, I thought you said you like to burn stuff, I got confused when you started talking about dog's noses. maybe dogs can smell hotter stuff because of it? but sadly it was unrelated I mis heard it was an intro to advertisement
I had no idea you received so much hate for telling people to examine their parasocial relationships. I thought it was an important message that people needed to hear.
This video broke my f-ing heart. I have always loved your videos and the nuance you always provide while being a gentle cinnamon roll of a person. But to your video and the point you are making - once you realize how anger is being peddled on youtube for views, a lot of videos become a lot less appealing. I don't want nearly as many analysis videos because they always put me in such a sour mood... and that was a horrible way to go about every day. So when I see things like the Stanly cup outrage... I just pass. It doesn't affect me and I choose not to care.
i get that like, ur trauma is real and significant and u should have support working through it and all that but as someone who whom 'not wanting to exist' has been the background hum of existing for as long as i have somewhat continuous memory that didn't rly sell it v well. i know that just means i also rly need help(and like i'm getting somewhere i think) and shouldn't rly invalidate ur feeling that that's important and fucked up just hit weird for me and had to point that out i guess.
Okay funny story. The team shooter genre is something that I have never been into, but for some reason, Concord (to me) seemed like just the game for me to try to get into the style. It seemed ridiculous enough to match what I hoped for in a game, but before I could even buy it... poof! GONE. I take that as a sign that I'll never be into the genre.
Like, it goes on uncomfortably long and starts to sound like whiny cishet white tears over facing consequences for doing or saying something shitty. If anyone can convince me otherwise with receipts I'll retract this but it just sounds like this guy is whining about how hurt he is to be found out for doing something bad
@@davidcrawford9026The whole point is that people do this over nothing, over minor disagreements. It's toxic, counterproductive, and ridiculous behaviour.
@@davidcrawford9026 I'm sorry you don't grasp basic human decency and likely have narcissistic tendencies but that's a you issue. YOU are the one engaging in toxic and dysfunctional behaviour here. And I say this as someone trained as a board-certified therapist. It's normal and healthy for people to be hurt by a situation like this. If you're not hurt by it happening to you, then something is very wrong. If you don't understand that another person would be hurt by it, then you lack basic empathy. It's also normal and healthy for people to talk about it. Do you behave this way towards people offline too? Do you think your behaviour is healthy, that it would be tolerated by most people, or that it helps create a functional community? Do you think it helps anyone at all? Or does it only stroke your ego and make you feel good? One thing I've been shocked by online is the lack of basic human decency and empathy and the extreme self-centredness I see coming from some people, yourself included. Often combined with totally misplaced self-righteousness. Mostly coming from Americans. It reminds me of nothing so much as the behaviour I see from fundie Christians. Perhaps that's why most of it comes from Americans - the fundie/evangelical Christian influence. And it's like you don't grasp at all how profoundly dysfunctional, destructive, immature, and antisocial it is.
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The answer is capitalism, I already know this, but will watch your essay
Exactly! Talent is always around, we just don't get to see it anymore because of it.
@Tacom4ster yeah I hope after watching the video you've learned something and no know that "it's capitalism" is a very simplistic answer that removes any responsibility for your own anger from you.
@@RyGuy147 it really is just capitalism. Doom scrolling is a product of the society of the spectacle. Which is the controlling mechanism of choice for the neo liberal governing body.
@@Tacom4ster heyhey no spoilers
Welllllll there's way too much individual responsibility instead of talking about the system that oppresses us enough to make most people irrationally angry towards everything except the system.
This isn't limited to America, but the concept that "my group is the best" is the root of so many evils.
America, China, India all seem like the places where nationalism has gone to a truly new level the last thirty years or so.
Except America IS the best 🇺🇸
USA! USA! USA!
I am so sorry, Salari. Thank you for still making videos. For this one, and all the others you've made since the beginning. I can't support financially but I am so grateful for your meaningful contributions to this cruel, dying internet.
On the travel point, I will 100% die on the hill that it is not the unwillingness or not wanting to travel, it's the affordability. Americans, most of us, simply cannot afford it. I just got my passport this year and I shit you not, this little booklet cost me $200. The trip I'm planning and will be slowly playing for in installments costs me a total of about 5k which will be paid off over a couple years. Capitalism is the driver for much of this shit.
I dont know you and wont act like i do.. I would like to know how old you are. Ive found (for myself) that as ive gotten older -40+ - what i thought was expensive earlier in life is more than do able if you want to and budget.
When i was younger and looked up comics which costs a thousand dollars my mind was blown. Now i wouldn't spend a thousand on a comic but i know if i wanted it i could save for a few months and get it. It comes down to whats important i guess.. From my experience
I wouldn't spend 1500 on the big screen but ive spent that on my pc for example
I can BARELY afford to leave my state - let alone experience a culture different than mine.
Like, my landlord needs me to support his lifestyle - how can I leave AND supply rent?
@@Obiwancolenobi two imcome household?
Dont get me wrong though, i dont travel myself so im not promoting the lifestyle
@@derekofbaltimore I'm 25. Mind you I'm only able to do what I said above because I am lucky enough to be able to live at home with my mother, capitalized off of Pell grants due the low income, went to community college first and thwart the shitty "I'll say we're hiring but we're not actually hiring" practices of many of the companies in my area so I could work while doing so, if still off and on.
This part of the video pissed me off a little too, because to most people it does come to not being able to afford or sustain travels.
And it's not just the money, but you legal vacation days, what to do with your pets and family, etc.
If anyone wants to know the antidote to rage bait on the Internet, just tune into Salari’s livestreams. It’s great fun, relaxed, everyone knows each other AND MAYBE you’ll hear some decent voice acting.
This! 👆
This!
This. 💯
I don't like Livestreams
^^ Beavers about to make a dam
I'm sorry that happened to you and your wife
It's sad that these people only feel alive when they hatemonger.
Lately it feels like people want Videogames shows and movies to fail more than succeed, and that’s just sad like people just want to hate something and half of those times feels like they don’t care about the subject or they’re just looking for a reason to hate something, then there’s the word woke
I’m sorry to hear about the abuse from commenters. You don’t deserve it, nor should anyone else who creates such great useful and meaningful content. I don’t know why some are so hateful
I will support your channel if I can help you out.
What you do is valuable and needs to be appreciated.
I'm sure someone else has said this, but as an American, I believe the #1 reason Americans don't travel is because they literally can't. We talk about the economic disparity in the US but when it comes to the travel criticism, a lot of people forget that passports, plane tickets, room and board, food, etc. costs money that a shit ton of Americans don't have. There a lot of people out there who want to travel internationally and probably never will.
Having an education might even make it *less likely* for Americans to travel, given how expensive it is.
The thing I find annoying about the "Americans don't travel" argument is that the economic angle tends to get overlooked. It's not cheap to travel, especially for Americans. Not that Americans shouldn't travel, but it feels tone-deaf when this criticism is brought up without acknowledging a major barrier to doing so.
@@friedmattato2158 so what is it that makes you think that it's inexpensive for people from other countries to travel?
I think technically (and i do mean technically) it is "likely" easier for Americans to travel than others because we technically are the richest people in the world.
@@lilithowl it definitely depends on where, and I'd want to dig into some statistics before fully agreeing, but it is true that geography makes international travel more difficult than it is for, as an example, most of Europe. People in the north can drive or take an affordable ferry to Canada, people in the southwest can drive to Mexico, but otherwise, just getting to a different country requires a long and expensive international flight or cruise (or multiple days of driving to a border, but only if you want to go to one of two countries).
And I'll be honest, I've been to Canada, I loved it, but an American going to Canada is really not expanding their cultural horizons very much.
@@lilithowl I never said it was? America is far away from most other countries, necessitating expensive flight travel. Not to mention our lack of guaranteed vacation makes taking time off for anything, let alone international leisure insanely difficult.
@@derekofbaltimore America is only the "richest" because of a handful of obscenely wealth individuals. Most people in the US aren't rich enough to travel far very often.
I hate that this is how it is. I prefer watching videos about stuff people love, and I know creators prefer making those kinds of videos, but they get paid less when they do. Grrr.
There are plenty of channels with huge subscriber bases who make positive content. Sadly, youtube is a popularity/attention marketplace. Noone is owed a full time job as a youtuber. If you have to make content you don't like to pay the bills, you probably quit your day job too soon.
I have a lot of recommendations on watching people do stuff. It's interesting if it's something I'd like to do and either cannot do myself or the video is made in a way that I can learn something (for example sewing videos, I love to sew). But then the weirder recommendations are for example from BookTube. Why would I want to know what people are GOING TO read? I'd much rather hear your thoughts about books you've already read.
Just a random thought I had a few days ago. 😅
I'm sick of TH-cam trying to push drama videos at me, especially since most of the time it's about someone I've never even heard of and I have *zero* investment in it. On the other hand, if it's someone whose content I've watched before (or god forbid, someone I'm subbed to) I feel like I *have* to click it, if only to read the comments. Not even because I want to be angry, but because I live in constant fear of being the one person still supporting a neo-Nazi child molester because I failed to stay informed.
I'll admit it can feel good to be righteously angry sometimes. In short bursts, otherwise I just get overwhelmed and depressed, lol.
Same. Since 2016, TH-cam has been mostly about drama content. I used to remember when it was about creativity. Maybe there is, but its mostly drama, react content, livestreamers and politics these days.
The whole thing about you losing patrons is so freaking real and frankly quite sad. Not many think about the entitlement viewers have and just how abusive they can be. All thanks to them knowing they can do these things cuz no one knows who they are. I pray that you, your wife, and loved ones will be alright.
Hating something is not a personality trait, these "critics" are just shallow chasing the bag from other bigots
I'm a bad movie enjoyer, and get excited for movies everyone says are bad. Baldy executed movies can still have the artistic vision the director, cast, and crew had for it or just be fun to watch how it fails. The key is that someone cared about it, but they lacked the skill, knowledge, time, money, or some combination to make a well made movie.
The Borderlands movie disappointed me by being exceedingly bad. I didn't feel like anyone cared about it other than to make money.
One request/perspective from a random internet stranger (who doesn't currently patronize you). Please don't regard any support or patronage that I may or may not provide as endorsement of you yourself as a person, and don't regard withdrawal of such support as anything more meaningful than me happening to feel shitty that day. I might support creators on a whim for reasons as silly as cool facial fair, and might withdraw it for similarly trivial reasons. While you may pour your heart and soul into your videos, and I may, vary rarely, resonate deeply with them, it's far more likely that I've just superficially latched on to a talking point. I don't matter, and anything hurtful I might say doesn't matter. Any financial support that I may provide might matter more, but anger isn't really likely to be the factor that decides whether I do that.
That said, I do recognize that any hate I target at a creator may be minor to me but contribute to a wall of hate from hundreds of commenters, and try to keep that in mind. I also think that leaving a final hostile remark when withdrawing patronage is a pretty shitty move.
I recently deactived my Twitter, and while I still feel the occassional urge to log on, I’m so much less unhappy now. Twitter is curated to make you upset, and it’s draining.
I’m very sorry about you and your wife’s experience.
I somewhat disagree with the cancel culture not being a thing. While a lot of the complaints about it are stupid (especially when it’s from people who have been exposed as predators), a lot of people have a tendency to jump on the opportunity to hate on someone, often grasping at straws to make their case. A recent example for me has been Chappell Roan who has gotten so much vitriol for basically anything she does. Notice how it’s often marginalized people who are the most vulnerable to this sort of thing.
@@aggepakke7763 I like „less unhappy“ instead of „happier“. Well, not that it’s a good thing but it’s a wording that I can relate to.
@@btarczy5067 Yeah, I know the wording is clumsy, but I feel like I would be giving Twitter too much credit by saying that its absence makes me happier lol.
@@aggepakke7763 Oh, I didn’t mean to say it was clumsy. It looked intentional to me and it fits some aspects of my life even if I have only ever experienced Twitter vicariously through TH-cam videos.
In honesty, a key reason I do not support anyone on Patreon is exactly that I do not wish to financially back any individual's political opinion pieces, at the risk of endorsing views I might not agree with. I think it's a reasonable reason to withdraw support.. but I don't think it's okay to send a nasty message about it through the exit survey.
I think the only thing I'd disagree about cancel culture is that it can become a slippery slope towards vigilante justice, which might expose people to doxxing and physical threats, with the justification given as "because they're being cancelled anyway"
Watching until the end of your video I'm truly sorry what happened to you and your wife, and to your career. I'm not in the know as to what happened, but you didn't deserve all the abuse you've been getting. I'm arguing that this is 'cancel culture' at work, it does exist and it's a dangerous weapon that can go out of control real fast.
You had me with that discord ping, ngl
Honestly the no travel thing for me and my family was: "It's something only rich people can do." so we never did it. That might not be true, but that's the perception about travel. Travel is time consuming and expensive. I feel like there's a huge class blindness when it comes when people talk about how few people have passports in the US. Leaving the US wasn't a financial possibility for me until I was in my 30s, and now I'm bogged down with a career and limited time off. Am I going to spend my 1 week of vacation learning about a completely new culture and the struggles that brings, or am I going to just stick to something safe like a trip to a regional tourist trap somewhere in the States and hope my burnout has at least somewhat ameliorated by the time I'm back to work?
Traveling isn't a day trip kind of activity in the States like it is out in Europe. Not to mention, I really have to wonder how many "people with passports" visit countries that are all that different than theirs. Oh damn you went from the UK to France or Germany, very impressive!
@@razoras yeah, I think a better comparison with Europe would be to ask how many Europeans have travelled outside of Europe. I do think you have much more cultural diversity within Europe than the States, but people in countries like Belgium are a few hours Drive from plenty of different countries. Not comparable with the US (or Brazil, or India, or China...) situation
"Dopamine. People like it when someone agrees or interact with you."
I officially sponsor this channel not just with money, but mostly with dopamine. You're welcome 😆
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It's so heartbreaking to hear how the hate you received affected you and your wife, all because you told people to examine their parasocial relationships. I have never understood parasocial relationships or celebrity worship, and I have been called *weird* for NOT being enjoying them. I'm sorry you went through all of that. I love your deep and thoughtful content! Your video on "Why are the Japanese so Lonely" is the first one I found and it spoke to me so heavily that I immediately subbed to the channel, (me at the time being an undiagnosed autistic person also with undiagnosed adhd unaware I was severely disabled lol) so thank you for doing what you do, Salari
Sorry to hear about what happened to you and your wife! It's awful how simple disagreements can cause people to go nuclear online to make sure that other people's lives are as bad as they can make it.
On that note, I think that we gravitate towards outrage because it gives us purpose in life. Every day, we hear how the wealth gaps are getting bigger, everything is getting more expensive and it's getting harder and harder for the average person to get by. The reasons why that is happening and the things we can do about it are extremely nuanced and there are very few avenues to do anything about it since those that are causing the issues have so much power and influence that they can easily ignore us, regardless of how loud our cries are (then there's social media platforms censoring some forms of speech).
When we get angry about a store not selling the thing we want or someone insisting on introducing themselves with their pronouns, that's us being able to exercise the little power we have in hopes that it'll help make our lives a little better. Trying to cancel people and force them into hiding is a form of change that we can do without having to put much effort into it. And knowing that our negative actions are causing that sort of harm gives us the feeling of power that we've been seeking all our lives.
Unfortunately, all this does is serve as mere distractions to the real reasons we are in the state that we are in now. Taking care of that requires coordinated effort and time that a lot of us don't have. Screaming at people behind a keyboard makes us feel important, so we do that instead.
The funny thing about the Discord ping is that I didn’t have the same problem because I was on phone with notifications off. I rewound just to say, dude you recorded while Discord was on? The a few seconds later, oh you sneaky.
I am sorry that happened, I hope you’re on a better place. I can’t imagine what such negative feedback can do to a person. Love your content!
What interests me the most about just HOW MUCH ppl are addicted to hate is how it pushes aside and obfuscates either some important aspect of the truth of the situation, or A LOT of it. There is no nuance anymore, only "right" or "wrong", which may not even be the case cuz certain facts are missing; nobody can look at them cuz they're too busy being angry. And when it's brought up people simply don't want to look. This is, of course, very broadly/generally speaking. There will always be the exception
I find it pretty incredible that someone could be so flaky and fickle, that they were offended by any video you’ve put out. You’re about as tame and inoffensive as humanly possible, so these “patrons” must have just been extraordinarily snowflakey. Honestly you’re better off without them because it was only a matter of time before some benign comment sent them packing anyway.
Your work is fantastic in quality and especially writing. Not everyone will love its content, but never for a second more doubt your quality, Salari.
Further, I can prove it: if you were not of a high enough quality to elicit an emotional reaction to people, they would never have attacked you. It sucks that it happened, but it can be more than a scar on your psyche.
American. Over 50. Well-traveled and decently educated. I can't tell you how many words I've used to say what you did in just a few: "apply for a passport, bih"
Every country I visit opens my eyes to things we get wrong (and occasionally right).
Also new subscriber, this is a really well presented piece. Thanks.
I’m very sorry this happened to you. This is an excellent video and your honesty is an invaluable component in its impact. Thank you for your work. I think this is an essential video for 2024
Sometimes I roll my eyes at a few of his conclusions. TH-cam is full of drama.
When he said his WIFE was crying over comments - my heart broke. Absolutely awful, like what the actual fuck? Life is so hard for most people lately...Why must we make it worse? :/
I have some serious, serious, and occasionally (although more often by far in the past) violent anger issues. Also female, hi! Don't mind me punching people in the face. Anyway, point being despite all that, I really cannot fathom leaving comments vitriolic enough to make someone's wife cry. I don't get the point of it. If I'm angry at a YTer, I will explain to them why as best I can, or just leave a channel without saying anything. I really don't get the level of petty it takes to try to ruin someone to that degree unless we're talking like, world leaders who need to be brought down. Sounds like you were right to say people should rethink their parasocial relationships, tbh.
I wish your income didn't have to depend on Patreon, I can't personally afford to give to everyone I'd want to, so it's like a weird hunger game culling deciding who gets it. As someone already mentioned, capitalism is the true enemy, and YT should darn well act like the employer they are and pay up, because you KNOW they're raking it in. I'm sorry I can't contribute financially, I'm sorry you had to deal with that BS, and if nothing else I hope that I as one lone angry bizch can say to you: you did not deserve that, and your work is worth being proud of.
I beg your pardon. I am not trying to rub salt on you, but you said you dont think canceling is real then a short while later, you proceeded to talk about a traumatic experience you had when patreons pulled away and people harrased you in comments and on twitter. Thats canceling, they didn't like what you said and wanted you to quit. And if they couldn't make you quit, they wanted to hurt you. People live in fear of being canceled because they know they dont have the sort of strength you displayed under that pressure, and those people know they would cave in. Now you know what they are afraid of.
I hope you are doing well. I have very different views than you do, but i greatly appreciate your perspective.
I avoid the Internet drama, and unfortunately too poor to support creators. What happened? You are as non-controvesial compared to others who's performances I enjoy as humanely possible. You are kinda one of my motivation that not loud and affectative people can do good video essays thus motivating me to do it.
Too much outrage will get you depressed.
You'll start to believe nothing good is left in the world.
Like i do.
Facts, I used to watch those type of videos years ago then realized how miserable they make you feel.
I have gone out of my way to make avoid a lot of the rage machine over the last several years and its done a world of good for my mental well being
Keep up your excellent work and your spirit! Unfortunately negative responses are way more common than positive feedback. People that appreciate the work/content of others usually don't write anything cause there is nothing to add. But we be out here and we outnumber those bad faith followers or rage commentators. I for one would really muss something if you'd stop making content. So please take the love in this comment section to heart. Thank you for what you are doing and thank you for being this open about a topic that clearly got under your skin.
Honestly outrage culture really is a problem when it comes to mental health.🐱
So sorry for what you had to go through Salari 💔 .
Thank you for making your vids. Some of them have really helped me while I was very angry at the world or very depressed. You make me reflect on certain assumptions which is always worthwhile.
I did not know that one of your vids had caused this kind of backlash and it saddens me that you got hurt to this extent. We will probably never meet, but I would like you to know that I appreciate you and what you contribute to the world.
It's so easy to forget that the person on the other end of the internet is a human. I'm sorry you've been through that, friend.
28:59 that's so sad. I'm sorry that happened to you. You are the most tame and understanding content creator, I can't understand why someone would be cruel in their withdrawal for support over saying something factual.
Now that's insanity. Over stating a fact, not an opinion. If they took a college course on physchology, they may learn about parasocial relationships.
People are allowed to withdraw their monetary support for any reason, and they don't need to give it necessarily. But I have noticed society's... decline. The ability to be cordial is a dying art. I attribute this loss to social media. It has ruined the human psyche.
You're awesome and deserve way more subscribers! Please keep on going - you make a difference, and this means a lot to many people.
Don't want to sound parasocial 😅 I just like your content and online persona!
Thanks for being so honest about the effect online vitriol has had on you. So many people want to forget about the real impact anger has on it's target, so I think being transparent can remind people to be kind.
Given your tragic and traumatic experience with people as a group taking action that threatened your financial situation, mental health, wellbeing, and the mental health and wellbeing of your loved ones over saying something they didn't like but wasn't harmful do you suppose that perhaps the creators who express fear of being 'canceled' despite having done nothing to warrant this might be expressing fear of the exact situation that happened to you through slightly different terms?
I'm so sorry that people made you feel that way. Even now, you're trying to be empathetic to those that hurt you so deeply. As one stranger on the internet to another, I'm sending support to you and your wife.
Aw you did me dirty with that discord ping.
This video was fantastic! I’m currently trying to stop watching reactionary content and stop visiting snark subreddits, it’s hard, I wanna know all the gossip. This video really helped remind me why I am quitting consuming content like that!
I think relying on Patreon for your livelyhood is a bad idea. Sure it's a nice bonus but this is the internet. If you're going to rely on random strangers for money, dont be surprised if they take it away for random reasons.
I don't know the specific content of the mean comments you recieved, but it seems like you're giving them significant power over you. Abusive comments comes with the territory of being a youtuber (or so I've heard). If they are this traumatic for you, maybe you should take a break for a while.
This was the first time I watched one of your videos. It started with me being curious about a topic and has ended with me crying out of empathy with a completely unknown to me. Anger is a power feeling but empathy sometimes is even stronger. What I'm trying to say is... keep it up. You're are a great communicator capable of making people feel. If that feeling is anger or happiness shouldn't make you feel less valuable.
It truly saddens me to hear your trauma story. You're an amazing creator. Keep doing what you're doing.
Stopping to support someone on patronite is not abuse. As someone who also makes a living creating content I can relate to that situation but you shouldn't be guilt-tripping your viewers
I've become so exhausted by the constant push towards outrage and the small start of blocking tiktoks, reels, and shorts has made a huge difference in my mood. It's too much to have all the rage bait and videos about people doing bad things, nasty comments on even the most innocuous videos, combined with internet 'discourse' on TH-cam and social media. It was poisoning me to listen to every person's ire over everything and cutting back on opportunities to feel that way is only doing me good.
in a few years what happened to you will be seen as the wrong it is. Right now there's not much anyone can do but narcissists always find a way to destroy themselves
The idea that there are real people behind usernames seems not to sink in with a lot of people, which sucks
edit Sorry I made my joking comment about canceling you before I saw what they did. Sorry they did that to you.
What happened?
Thise are some cute looking macarons and delicious looking cats.
how dare you make me switch tabs lol
this feels like a word salad video like just a list of the most popular negative social concepts
Sal (can I call you Sal?),
Those weirdos who disagreed with your take(s) and then left weren't really listening. Your calm nature is why I listen to you, even if I don't find your prescriptions to be aligned with my own.
Ridiculous. You're a respectable content creator that this platform needs more of. These weirdos are dangling their patreon memberships out of rage is babybrained stuff.
I almost did not click on this video, because I am actively trying to watch less anger-content. But I trust you to not try to make me angry, so I went ahead.
Sounds like you've had a rough time now, sorry to hear. Hugs. ❤️
I always rather watch your more light-hearted vids and enjoy your great mind. :)
Well-wishes to you and Wife. ❤️
I would say I’m immune to this, but then I saw a link to the film critic Mark Kermode’s review of Megalopolis, because it said it was a rant in the caption. One of my favourite videos on TH-cam is him reviewing Sex And The City 2 cos he loses it and starts singing. That being said, I do also subscribe to the podcast the review is from and enjoy him gushing about a smaller film that I may not have found otherwise.
The bald big baby man looks like he was dropped on his head when he was a fetus. Good vid
I appreciate this so much ❤
If I'm not outraged or joking about things, I am hopeless and catatonic and that's arguably worse
That discord ping really got me !!
His poor fingy 😭
lol "wait what, i didn't realize i had discord running" "oh"
Thank you for your perspective. Getting trashed on Twitter over something trivial seems to have fundamentally reordered my reaction to outrage bait to feeling sadness, empathy, intimidated, and/or suspicious rather than the usual anger. I'm no longer capable of intuitively understanding why people react the way they do, so having someone break it down for me like this is the only way I can make sense of it.
Heeey a new video essay!
Critical life lesson: Emotions are always valid but not always correct 36:39
I'm very sorry this happened to you and your wife. Your videos are always so thoughtful, so I can't imagine why people would get so upset with you to the point where they become abusive. It's good that you spoke out and I wish you all the best! 💖
Yeah the anger thing seems to be a meta phenomenon. A negative death spiral in reaction to ones own observation of their own success in life. That observation could be real or make believe or just exaggerated
i would agree that beig able to travel over seas has helped improve my world view. o country is the best or worst just different from each other.
Joke's on you; I deleted my discord months ago
Algorithm comment hehe
uhh you lost me at giving money to you and then no longer paying you after that is financial abuse
sounds pretty similar to the entitlement of the people complaining about being cancelled that you don't believe is real
gosh dang it, that ping noise got me xD
Posting for the algorithm.
If I had never played a team hero shooter before Concord would have been fine for me because the whole idea would have been exciting. But when Overwatch, Apex and Valorant all exist it was just very mid in context.
I'm fairly new to your channel, I do like it. I just want to comment on your take with getting canceled not being out of hand. You first say if you're getting canceled it's because you did something awful. Yet later on in the video you talk about anger and how you've lost friends because of your anger. Are you telling me if there was video of you losing those friends because of your anger wouldn't have gotten you canceled or at the very least, lose countless subscribers?
And I also want to point out that I did like this video, but I wouldn't have commented on it without saying the negative I posted above. I'm cognizant of that and if you're reading this you might have a slightly elevated focus of this comment lol. At ease, you're doing good stuff.
I was with you until the financial ab*se line... someone disagreeing with you and deciding not to support you on Patreon anymore is ABSOLUTELY NOT financial ab*se, and it's really insulting to people going through that to say that. No one owes you a dollar a month on Patreon
I heard the Kindle deleted 1984, allegedly (probably happened anyway lol). So, here's a little thing I concocted as a post-modern parody of the supposed manuscript, but modernized:
*2024: The 21st Century's 1984*
_TH-cam def: Socioeconomic echo chamber that peddles along various cultural controversies for the growth of ad revenue and prospective shareholders. As a result, it creates a predominately procrastinating atmosphere of counterproductive measures for ensuring our wellbeing, in the form of either infighting or face-value-high-reward content (a.k.a. slop), presented as a form of “edutainment” (low-brow or high-brow). From drama, to politics, to small niche introspections, no one is solving anything, only either generating more personal or existential controversy, “textualizing” (as opposed to contextualizing) viewpoints, or having those who partake in the consumption peddle along the same ideas and “perspectives” promoted by the algorithm. It mostly lacks sincerity, purely reeks of mediocrity, and creates a facade of movement and direction by having multiple TH-camrs talk about the same thing, unionizing over that thing, where neither are they vulnerable from partaking in the consumption of monetizable slop, perpetuating the cycle of further slop. They are the culprits, as they too are the victims, all in part due to the system._
This is not to say that all content on TH-cam is bad, but rather the only good content on the platform is productive videos. Productive videos break the mold of “edutainment”, and though they can take the form of it, they seem to provide skill sets and reveal ways of going about solving certain issues. For instance, watching someone deconstruct a musical piece with a keyboard, drawing repetitively with a voice over (as lackluster as it sounds) to have the viewer understand the form or substance of what they are creating.
*The issue is this:* TH-cam focuses on monetizing the human experience, at the expense of the individual; it’s more of an echo chamber for individuals, not a marketplace for individual pursuits as it previously was in the early 2000’s. In other words, the best way to use TH-cam in 2024 and onward is to seek critical constructive Learning, as it promotes individual values such as the improvement of analysis and supplemental education. So basically, be autistic, integrate, and proliferate.
[Simply put, the so-called “perspectives” aren’t of much perspicacity as one might think. Remember, it’s a for-profit, socioeconomic echo chamber, something that validates your viewpoints to fuel the dopamine train further into the echo chamber. What should be done, arguably and for the sake of our sense of equilibrium in this vapid realm of para social transactions, is productively discussing, in-depth, the perspectives of all sides, which rarely anyone does anyway; in other words, discussing beyond what the person did and having enough integrity and cognitive hindsight to discuss why anyone does anything. Thus, it is with a burden of speculative proof that I say that the content on your “For You Page” is not prone to this lack of “perspective”. Your “For You Page” lacks the very epistemic definition of perspective. *_Simply put, you are the perspective, you make the perspective. Get your head out of the echo chamber. At the very least, remove your long-term dependency on the algorithmic enthrall of these shareholder’s superficial recommendations_* ]
Another issue deals with time complexity [not in a technical sense]. This is to address the “For You Page,” or in other words the TH-cam recommendations. When it comes to certain videos, there seems to be an underlying value that could be gained from clicking on the interesting video thumbnail. But wait, TH-cam is an echo chamber composed of fiduciaries and shareholders as its top belligerents. I say belligerents because it’s not the TH-camr who’s showing you the video, it’s the prospective shareholder; the man in the middle who seizes your attention algorithmically peddles you this video, when if you really wanted to actually have someone help you, you’d go out of your way to find the type of video yourself, just like anyone would with anything back then. It’s an allure of readiness. They make you think that this type of video, based on all of the other types of videos you view, is “special” in that it was readily handcrafted just for this occasion (or whatever thought you have in mind), when it’s simply a slippery slope to set you up on a trip to content addiction. They may show you big TH-camrs with a promising base of opinions and thoughtful “perspectives,” or, with all due respect, sympathy-riddled, humble TH-camrs trying to make it in the big world of social media. But remember, they’re never the answer, they’re part of the solution. From all of my experiences tackling this issue head on in my life, the one thing that I learned from content consumption is that you will always be the answer, and only if you could just sit in your room with your thoughts, would you develop the same, cool, niche inclinations and ideas that your favorite creators and communities have. Remember, the algorithm doesn’t mold your interests, it feeds off of what you like. So, why aren’t you doing what you like, or at least abstracting about what you like, you know for fun? And if you are doing what you like, my apologies, but I guess this isn’t for you.
*_~ "Every day’s a New Year, and I Want to Grow Up. Every New Year’s Eve is 24 hours, as so is every day. Therefore, every day is a new year. Simply create your own fiction to own your own reality. Use the constructs of the system, parse out the scattered virtues, and claim them as your own. If ownership in the material leads to the numbness of the soul, then ownership in the immaterial will rectify it." ~_*
6:33 I thought the ‘Ghostbusters’ (the Paul Feig reboot) was fun and I will die on that hill. I still didn’t get the criticism (not related to the movie’s content)
unrelated, but responds makes the algorithm think people are interested, I had fun mishearing you, I thought you said you like to burn stuff, I got confused when you started talking about dog's noses. maybe dogs can smell hotter stuff because of it? but sadly it was unrelated I mis heard it was an intro to advertisement
I had no idea you received so much hate for telling people to examine their parasocial relationships. I thought it was an important message that people needed to hear.
So you made a video complaining about negativity. I get it. Interesting topic.
To be fair, Concord was comically bad and it's crash and burn legendary. And travel is REALLY expensive.
Saying that as a Canadian who cannot afford to travel, so I get it if Americans can't either.
This video broke my f-ing heart. I have always loved your videos and the nuance you always provide while being a gentle cinnamon roll of a person.
But to your video and the point you are making - once you realize how anger is being peddled on youtube for views, a lot of videos become a lot less appealing. I don't want nearly as many analysis videos because they always put me in such a sour mood... and that was a horrible way to go about every day. So when I see things like the Stanly cup outrage... I just pass. It doesn't affect me and I choose not to care.
i get that like, ur trauma is real and significant and u should have support working through it and all that but as someone who whom 'not wanting to exist' has been the background hum of existing for as long as i have somewhat continuous memory that didn't rly sell it v well. i know that just means i also rly need help(and like i'm getting somewhere i think) and shouldn't rly invalidate ur feeling that that's important and fucked up just hit weird for me and had to point that out i guess.
People not donating or no longer donating to your patreon is financial abuse?
this video made me angry grrr
Okay funny story. The team shooter genre is something that I have never been into, but for some reason, Concord (to me) seemed like just the game for me to try to get into the style. It seemed ridiculous enough to match what I hoped for in a game, but before I could even buy it... poof! GONE. I take that as a sign that I'll never be into the genre.
I don't understand the relationship people have with patreon members.
I don't know what's happening at the end thete, but good luck man
Seriously i have no idea why this guy is lecturing us about how hurt he was by losing some patrons somebody tell me wtf all this is about?
Like, it goes on uncomfortably long and starts to sound like whiny cishet white tears over facing consequences for doing or saying something shitty. If anyone can convince me otherwise with receipts I'll retract this but it just sounds like this guy is whining about how hurt he is to be found out for doing something bad
@@davidcrawford9026The whole point is that people do this over nothing, over minor disagreements. It's toxic, counterproductive, and ridiculous behaviour.
@@alanamontero4743 did he sexually abuse someone, seriously, spill the fucking tea nobody does this much over nothing
@@alanamontero4743 like, him acting like he's owed patreon dollars because he's so so uwu hurt is just a manipulation tactic
@@davidcrawford9026 I'm sorry you don't grasp basic human decency and likely have narcissistic tendencies but that's a you issue. YOU are the one engaging in toxic and dysfunctional behaviour here. And I say this as someone trained as a board-certified therapist.
It's normal and healthy for people to be hurt by a situation like this. If you're not hurt by it happening to you, then something is very wrong. If you don't understand that another person would be hurt by it, then you lack basic empathy. It's also normal and healthy for people to talk about it.
Do you behave this way towards people offline too? Do you think your behaviour is healthy, that it would be tolerated by most people, or that it helps create a functional community? Do you think it helps anyone at all? Or does it only stroke your ego and make you feel good?
One thing I've been shocked by online is the lack of basic human decency and empathy and the extreme self-centredness I see coming from some people, yourself included. Often combined with totally misplaced self-righteousness. Mostly coming from Americans. It reminds me of nothing so much as the behaviour I see from fundie Christians. Perhaps that's why most of it comes from Americans - the fundie/evangelical Christian influence. And it's like you don't grasp at all how profoundly dysfunctional, destructive, immature, and antisocial it is.
Thank you for your hard work, British Kaiserneko
Was that an Outrunners reference in the first minute?