We also normalize our behaviors of our parents or significant care givers , we really don't know any different until you have that defining moment, or realization that this is not acceptable behavior, and this is toxic for me , but like you say it's starts from developing , honouring your own self love , finding your worth and value in this world . It's such a dark heavy messy process in healing , just continue to trust the process , you do reach a level of acceptance, letting go and finding that peace . Ive been there , I studied it all at uni, and experience the whole process . We just learn new ways of managing it all , I don't think healing never stops ❤️
I really appreciate how you handle yourself and how you handle the comments that are negative, triggering (for me), and just don’t get it. Thank you for that. Appreciate your content. Following. :-)
Our conditioning from our care givers in life is detrimental to our self concept of who we are and how we look at ourself . Karl Rogers explains all of this in his books . Your very person centered, humanistic 🥰.
As a Mother of two kids, I found difficult to talk about my kids grandparents and No Contact at all. My oldest daugther is teenager and autistic high funtion. I was talking about my narci parents in the way she understand. She is really concrete "I don't like them, I don't care about them. We are together" ☀️ To me was easy to deal with. But my boy 6 years old, he ask questions, he feels different. And We live in very small town and toxic place. If he is vulnerable, and affect his view of him self in this place at school. It's bad idea to have a conversations about my parents. I just try to gain time and moving to new place soon and have a new process of grieving🤔 I don't know. I will protect my kids for more abuse in the community
I'm 50 and I still can't say No to my dad. If I am honest, he still has the ability to make me feel really ill/churned up in knots/fight or flight....and I've had so much therapy.
Hey Katy, I hope you don’t mind me saying but I can completely relate but to my mother. She does absolutely nothing beneficial for me or my daughters life and holds a sense of entitlement, and for some reason I cannot help but feel guilt if I don’t allow that entitlement… especially when it comes to my daughter and her relationship with her nan. It’s such a difficult mindset to have and it restricts your emotional well-being. Be kind to yourself and continue watching these videos to get validation for yourself x
@@duggankatie thank you for your reply Katie I really appreciate it..,👍 I don't mind you saying at all.. sometimes it needs input from others to help me realise I'm not alone in this .. it's tough isn't it? Josh is so helpful and I also find Gabor Maté helpful as I had huge addiction issues in the past..x
We also normalize our behaviors of our parents or significant care givers , we really don't know any different until you have that defining moment, or realization that this is not acceptable behavior, and this is toxic for me , but like you say it's starts from developing , honouring your own self love , finding your worth and value in this world . It's such a dark heavy messy process in healing , just continue to trust the process , you do reach a level of acceptance, letting go and finding that peace . Ive been there , I studied it all at uni, and experience the whole process . We just learn new ways of managing it all , I don't think healing never stops ❤️
You have really helped me so much, I am grateful, Thank you
More of these josh, great stuff 👍👍
I really appreciate how you handle yourself and how you handle the comments that are negative, triggering (for me), and just don’t get it. Thank you for that. Appreciate your content. Following. :-)
Our conditioning from our care givers in life is detrimental to our self concept of who we are and how we look at ourself . Karl Rogers explains all of this in his books . Your very person centered, humanistic 🥰.
Carl Rogers is a hero of mine ❤️
As a Mother of two kids, I found difficult to talk about my kids grandparents and No Contact at all.
My oldest daugther is teenager and autistic high funtion.
I was talking about my narci parents in the way she understand. She is really concrete "I don't like them, I don't care about them. We are together" ☀️
To me was easy to deal with.
But my boy 6 years old, he ask questions, he feels different.
And We live in very small town and toxic place.
If he is vulnerable, and affect his view of him self in this place at school. It's bad idea to have a conversations about my parents.
I just try to gain time and moving to new place soon and have a new process of grieving🤔
I don't know.
I will protect my kids for more abuse in the community
This is too good
I'm 50 and I still can't say No to my dad. If I am honest, he still has the ability to make me feel really ill/churned up in knots/fight or flight....and I've had so much therapy.
Hey Katy, I hope you don’t mind me saying but I can completely relate but to my mother. She does absolutely nothing beneficial for me or my daughters life and holds a sense of entitlement, and for some reason I cannot help but feel guilt if I don’t allow that entitlement… especially when it comes to my daughter and her relationship with her nan.
It’s such a difficult mindset to have and it restricts your emotional well-being. Be kind to yourself and continue watching these videos to get validation for yourself x
@@duggankatie thank you for your reply Katie I really appreciate it..,👍 I don't mind you saying at all.. sometimes it needs input from others to help me realise I'm not alone in this .. it's tough isn't it? Josh is so helpful and I also find Gabor Maté helpful as I had huge addiction issues in the past..x
I love the honesty about healing.
This why watching Jordan Peterson feels so stupid.
Like rules of life and The End 🤦♀️😔
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