@fathermosesmcpherson Father Moses thankyou for doing a talk for us women🧡I have 2 other sisters ,growing up we did not get very much attention from our father and It had so many disatrous effects on us.Once I started seeking out God things changes drastically for the better. I have 3 daughters and a son myself, they saved my life and my husband's without a doubt.Also I never had muscle til after I had kids😂thankyou for your work.
This is true. I’m 23 F, I’ve been a Christian for 3 years and I’ve never really had that emotional connection with my dad. We spent time a few times but not enough imo, I grew up seeking attention from men- online and in person. There are some days that I still crave male validation as a Christian (right before I watched this video, I was going thru it😂). But thank you for the reminder that that hole can only be filled by my spiritual Father in heaven❤❤❤
Instead of craving validation from men which for you is natural i did it sometimes too for the same reason as you did cause after 12 years of age i lost connection with my mum due to problems and struggles in our family but you have one obligation and that is to become valid for The One And Only Savior Jesus Christ and then everything will go accordingly for your salvation and inner peace.
Me too, both father and mother. Nothing compares with our blessed Lord Jesus, and His Church and all that means. He is wonderful beyond expression, and gives mothers all they need, if we lean on Him.
For those this resonates with-the Christian book “Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul” by John and Stasia Eldredge is absolutely WONDERFUL. The equivalent book by John for men titled “Wild at Heart” is also wonderful and recommended by a local priest. A woman’s wounding comes from asking “Am I beautiful and worth fighting for?” whereas a man’s wound comes from asking “Do I have what it takes?”
Not sure about book..... I was pentecostal. Seduction is seduction...... Something can be 80 %correct....... That's the danger of seducing spirits..... wyles are wyles and apostle warns to be wary and test the spirits so be wary.... And God help us Satan good at sound bites.
Thank you Father Moses! An Orthodox 32 y.o women here. You hit the nail on the head in terms of what my inner yearnings are and really succinctly offered direction on the most important things we are called to do as women of God. God bless your word and thank you again.
Fr. Moses is popping off! I used to go to his church and he put me on the path to Orthodoxy. I plan to visit your parish again sometime this summer, father.
Speaking from experience I never felt emotionally connected with my father and I looked for it in my teenage years from other men. It is so important for a girl to feel emotionally valued and loved by her father . Show her how to be loved properly
Thank you father, this video made me realize the reason I have been feeling empty lately is because i have been seeking/expecting too much affirmation from my husband, and need to turn more towards christ and prayer for fulfillment. I did not have a good relationship with my father growing up so it has skewed the way i seek affirmation and love.
This is wonderful, and yes, us women DO need our primary attention from the source of God. I did not receive the proper fatherly attention as a child. I had my first boyfriend when I just turned 18 and it was the most beautiful I had felt. When we broke up, I found myself crying in the feeling that "I was no longer beautiful". I didn't have a connection with God yet, but over time I received God and at some point I found myself "being beautiful for God", and I'd affirm that to myself while doing my hair/makeup. That wasn't very long along ago. I'm 19 now, but just having affirmed that to myself helped me go deeper into finding Gods validation in my creation. Psalms 139:13-14 says "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well." Love God and allow God to love you 💞 we love because he loved us first.
I share similar and more harsh reality and life than you but I am also older but it took me sometime to love myself and the others especially women because I suffered deep trauma through my family's burdens especially my mom but now I am so much better and moving great ahead in fact I realized deeply that I must let God bring even more love in my life be it a spouse especially or a greater quality based circle of faith Wish you the best dear from now on spread pure love in the world around you and in your husband when that time comes We men nowadays need your love in a great way cause things are so messed up we end up having really hard shell and let's say ice cold hearts that essentially only pure genuine love and appreciation can help as see God and sometimes the love of our spouse is necessarily needed for that ❤
@@icecold229 This is such a humbling message. Thank you for sharing this profound piece of advice. I hope soon God answers your prayer for your hearts most sincere wishes
@@gabbyeeee i have to unravel myself to anyone easily so that the enemy can not engrave his foothold upon me thats the first step to humility but we should be cautious to whom we allow to see our deeper ontological core... The elders of orthodoxy have made things so simple and clear its our distorted identity that puts as in harm and we are obliged to acknowledge that and move accordingly. Of course some things are for essential my inner essence to be kept but when i have the direction to do so i do it so it essentially takes me towards better knowing myself and therefore better loving myself... To me dear a woman is the only one capable of becoming one with Christs love in the most divine way possible thats not some words lets say of pat in the back its the most real and profound way of applied Gods love towards men. That i have understood well also and in fact a few years before i was in the misogynistic spectrum more or less and that cause ive been through hell and back through my real life struggle with the devil and my beloved women i mean that the pedagogical wrath of God came upon me apart from things with women, that came to realization when i found without knowing and confessed to a good holy monk and a friend of Saint Paisios the Athonite first years of my struggle but now i see clearly that it was all a corrupted interpretation of me understanding the world around me and that was amplified by the devil.... I say to you in the sweetest manner possible you are the only absolute Divine Priestesses of love and you are to be moving greatly along that path remember my words dear cause you are young but still listen to me cause ive helped lots of women that i was close or not and i am so happy now that i know they do better regardless they do their life and i do mine...... Carve your identity along that path and watchout for devils trickery and manipulation cause lots of times he plays with and through your emotions in order to make you harsh as he does it with men but with men he uses different tactics and then its difficult to stand and fight so its better to fight and resist with holy ways early on than later.... Take care i hope my words reach out on you deeply i wish you find the one and only man that can make you be not just feel rested and relieved by Divine standards that is.... Your answer was so in tune with who i am if fact you are the first one that grasps and respects my deeper need for expressing and helping myself along those lines. If you are in a state of being that allows you to get spiritual benefit from what i share with you i would think it would be great if we could share a few words like these through an email or twitter just for both of us to be safe. Anyway i was just expressing my deeper need to get helped through spiritual communication.
@@icecold229 I'm not 100% sure I'm in a current state that allows me to be receptive to any advice. Things are changing in my life and I'm being very resistant towards them. I'm feeling the turn of a great clock and I'm at a loss of how to handle this correctly and morally. During these dark hours I've always given into sin, temptation, immorality. I'm trying to hold still and committed to changing how I respond to this great darkness that has repeatedly entered into my course of life. Thank you
@@gabbyeeeethat's natural processes of finding and knowing ourselves first then we move towards God Just hold deep inside what I told you essentially and you will be fine regardless I've been through that path I know what that is just love and forgive yourself and fight and follow the path of Orthodoxy it will clear out all your ontological noise God bless take care of yourself and fear not and plow ahead, we need time some time to find ourselves and in the process we make mistakes or sins that's natural that's something that anyone has been through Love and forgive cause in the end nothing is to greave more than not acting to that and I know that very well that's why I talked to you ❤
I was rolling along with you, taking notes - I have a daughter. But, when you came to the self-denial part, I got the fear. It never occurred to me that part of my mental definition of a woman is an absence of self-denial. I never thought it could be otherwise. Thank you, Father.
You are very wise. Although I’m not Orthodox I recognize the truth you speak as a fellow follower of Christ. Always look forward to these vids. Ignore the trolls. God bless.
This was beautiful. Thank you! I hope you would’ve touched upon monasticism in the third part. And pouring into community/spiritual children for those who don’t have biological ones.
@@fathermosesmcphersonis there any way i can message you personally? i’m in a very confusing situation and it’s very hard for me to convert to Orthodoxy. thank you for the videos Father Moses 🙏
Thank you so much! I love that you really hit the nail on the head! Yes, my Mom and I sat down and had deep conversations; not so much with my Dad, but after 10 years of being with my common-law husband (Russ), my Dad took me aside and said how proud he was of me, because I had quit smoking and settled down with Russ. That meant everything to me. 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you father I really find value in these personal videos where you sit down and just have a chat with us. Please keep doing these father! May God have mercy on us all! ☦️
Thank you Father. This is valuable insight to me as I have a 6 month old daughter. Her reactions to me bear out what you said about girls having a deep connection to their father early in life.
I cannot thank you enough for this video. Point three put into words the exact struggle I've been contemplating and attempting to pinpoint for some time now. Thank you for approaching this topic with love and respect.
I'm very thankful for this video, Father Moses. I would love more videos geared towards Godly womanhood and esp. the topic of distrust towards husbands in early years like you mentioned. Thank you for the reminder to get our affection first from The Lord, then our Husbands and after that our children. A very encouraging message, thank you!
thank you father. I really appreciated this video and it made me have such a deeper connection within myself and the eagerness to build a better relationship with God and the figures in my life who are male.
along with you so many men are in the same phasis I am almost 31 and I hope I believe in God but then again I may stay single in fact as the years pass by even for us men marriage is a greater of a burden than when we were younger physiology is moving not helpfully so But then again maybe God gives us his blessing in far ahead but then again how aligned Will we be then to his Will I hope we find out there what we deserve regardless of marriage ❤
Ahhh ! Father Moses, I had to stop and pause on the 3:20 story mark about the difference in attention between boys and girls. It was such an aha! Moment and wink from God for me. Thank you as always for sharing and providing insight into these things.
This is a true, caring , loving message to all women! Thank you Father for your advice. I agree 100% with you, God help us to be the women and mothers you created us to be in the name of Jesus!!
A basic green flag for an emotionally healthy girl is to have a secure family with both parents and a firm father figure. Education and community guidance also helps. Otherwise there's a lot of work to put in. If you are a young woman who wasn't born into ideal circumstances, then the simplest may be to find a godly husband and submit to him.
My dad worked hard for us but never spent much time with us and now he regrets that because our bond is not strong or deep even tho he foes everything for us. I felt like asexual until I was 27 and then met my bf and weve been together 10 years now with 2 kids😊
I really appreciate your sharing the emotional experience, I’m often so ashamed of my range of emotions, I imagine throwing them into a hole, but they just come back.
15:22 Cracks me up. So true! When my two svelte sisters helped me move, both of whom had two or more small children at home, every time I said, "That's a two-person lift" one of them would snatch it up by herself. They were steady like mules. And they hardly broke a sweat.
Hey Father, I am 37 year old Orthodox unmarried woman, tried monasticism over 10 years ago, it did not work out. I have tried dating orthodox men, doesn’t work out. I also have a chronic mental illness since age 25 and have struggled with marijuana addiction for almost 18 years. I am clean and sober now. My mom passed away almost 18 years ago when I was 19. She had a chronic physical illness my whole life, and my dad took good care of her and was a good husband and father. However I think he was burned out most days. We did do a lot together like watch old TV shows and black and white movies. We attended church every Sunday and he served at the altar as a sub deacon. I attend a local parish and participate in the sacraments, and I have had the same spiritual father since 2017. My question is: what now? It’s hard for me to get involved in church, I do sing in the choir and attended the Antiochian women’s meeting last week, but my parish priest misunderstands me whenever I have a manic episode. Thank you for these videos. YP sent me here.
Did father change the title of the video or am I tripping out? I was looking for the video titled “why some girls don’t become women” a follow up from the “why some boys don’t become men”
47 years old, never married, never found a good girl. I mean some messed up women, I'm afraid to even try again. My sons mother is a far left radical feminist, took him 1,000 miles away. Cut off contact with me. I never did anything wrong.
I am not a woman but this was so insightful to understand them. A whole new angle that I was not aware of. Thank you Father Moses. God bless you. Greetings from an orthodox Albanian.
There are three levels of existence: the physical, the psychological and the spiritual. From the physical to the spiritual, the distance is the same in all people, but in women the middle level is a bit higher than for men, that is why sometimes women confuse psychological states with spiritual states. It is more difficult for men to confuse the two, but they are more vulnerable on the physical level. Women can stay longer on the psychological level, whereas men cannot; they fall too quickly on the carnal level. We priests specially must know that and always be on our guard. The distance between the ordinary level of life as we all live it, and the level of sanctification is the same for both male and female, but the distances between the three levels - physical, psychological and spiritual - is different in men and women. Fr. Sophrony explained this to us, and it is something useful to know in our pastoral care. It is good to know where our vulnerability lies, so that we are careful. Archimandrite Zacharias The Hidden Man of the Heart (1 Peter 3:4) The Cultivation of the Heart in Orthodox Christian Anthropology
Hey Father Moses. Could you speak on smoking marijuana and cigars in a future video. I personally believe smoking weed is demonic but I want to know your opinion on it. Thanks :)
we need more powerlifter priests father i find it hard to avoid the build up of pride when it comes to lifting, not vanity but more of a looking down on people, how physically unwell we as a society are, etc. i find it hard to not make comparisons individually, looking down on people for their physical health and seeing myself as "better" for that i feel the same with competition, how do we regulate/keep this in check? how do you avoid that build up of pride, or this constantly competitive mindset/worldview a video on competition and pride, and how competition ought be kept in check would be great God bless you father
We all struggle with pride. It is exactly that, looking down on people for whatever reason. Pride and arrogance. We should put ourselves in their shoes. And we should remember that we know nothing of them, but only God knows them.
When Father Moses talks about how women see emotions in technicolor and attributes that to being able to reach deeper into their souls and enables them to be more spiritual usually it made me think that is partially why God made Eve from Adam and why we become one with marriage. It allows for them to gain what they're missing that the other one has. It may be far-fetched, and as someone new to it- apologies if this is left field thinking- when Jesus tells us that ideally, he would prefer that we were like him and didn't need one another (marriage) but it's okay if we do because someone who is filled with the Holy spirit doesn't need things of this earth to aid them. But if they do, then God has established marriage for us, including children. This may be too far-fetched, but the though came to me as he was on the topic.
Thank you, Father. What if I do if I am as sensitive to the emotional world, such as the nous, but I am a man? I cannot search for a man, what woman do I need?
I am not the priest obviously, but I consider myself similar to you. I am very sensitive and feel things deeply. I always went after sensitive and "deep" women, but it always ended badly. I longed for a woman who "just gets me", but that had, like Fr. Moses says, more to do with being neglected as a child. I worked through this a lot with a priest. The wound healed. I prayed to God to bring me the woman he wanted. My now wife, is very sweet, but she is very practical. Not lost in la la land like I used to be, and that has helped to ground me. Our marriage is wonderful and I am very happy I did not get the "sensitive artist" I used to want. That is my advice to you. Let God guide you and discern your decisions with the help of a Spiritual Father who really knows you.
Hello father, thankyou for your insight. I want to become an orthodox christian.i am an englishman living in sydney.the 2 closest orthodox church's are 'eastern orthodox'. Is that ok or is there a specific type of orthodoxy for westerners? Thanks again. Sam.
Father, I have a serious problem. When I my prayers, specifically morning, after I feel like they were not good enough, so I say them again, and I let my pride judge me, not god. Every morning I say the Jesus prayer 50 times and say repentance psalm 50. But I feel like I did not say them to get closer to God. Thoughts go on in my mind when I pray, and it is hard to get them out. So I say them again. Please help me, I don’t know what it means to get closer to God, it is confusing for me. I’m only 11 years old.
Hello there! Sometimes it feels like God is distant, somwhere far away. But feeling are not facts. Because you know, God sees and hears everything. He knows you perfectly. He knows 100 % all the time of everything and everyone. So you can be sure that He hears your inner prayers, your quiet thoughts. He sees your heart, he knows what you are like and he understands everything about you. Sometimes we humans forget this 😅. We can't understand, we don't know everything. So we can't fully understand God either. Pray. Quietly or out loud, he sees you. He knows what you are going to ask before you even say it. Pray honestly from you heart, like David did in his Psalms..❤ May the Lord bless you❤
Hello there! Sometimes it feels like God is distant, somwhere far away. But feeling are not facts. Because you know, God sees and hears everything. He knows you perfectly. He knows 100 % all the time of everything and everyone. So you can be sure that He hears your inner prayers, your quiet thoughts. He sees your heart, he knows what you are like and he understands everything about you. Sometimes we humans forget this 😅. We can't understand, we don't know everything. So we can't fully understand God either. Pray. Quietly or out loud, he sees you. He knows what you are going to ask before you even say it. Pray honestly from you heart, like David did in his Psalms..❤ May the Lord bless you❤
Im curious, did any of the early church father's write about women's "tendency to be more spiritual than men"? If so which early church father & specifically what was it that they said?
I can’t remember where I’ve read it, but it has been said that women are more naturally inclined. But there’s lots of anecdotal stories from the saints. Ever notice how many of their mothers were pious and passed that on to their sons? Lots!
Saint Basil wrote about it. "Basil also stresses the complete equality of both genders, deriving from the same human 'lump' (φύραμα), both in the image of God, endowed with the same honour and dignity (ὁμοτίμως), in perfect equality (ἐξ ἴσου). Men even risk being inferior in piety (Homily on Julitta 241B). Likewise, in Homilies on Psalms 1, PG 29.216-17, he insists on the Socratic and Stoic tenet, here Christianized, that man and woman have 'one and the same virtue' and 'one and the same nature' (φύσις). Their common creation was of equal honour and dignity (ὁμότιμος); they have the same capacity and activity (ἐνέργεια), and will be given the same reward.”
@@fathermosesmcpherson the last time I heard the opinion "women are more spiritual than men" was from a lead pastor who had put a woman over all the young men in his congregation. Women are more agreeable than men, more compliant than men, and bunch of other things but those are not the same as "spiritual". If women are more spiritual, why would God reveal himself as masculine?
It's because of the power and heartly essence father here says absolute Truth women are more Faith based and inclined men are more applied action based and inclined that is shown really well in the new testament and sometimes in the old but none of them alone leads to theosis that's why we need marriage ❤
@@icecold229 Women also statistically fall more into Eastern mysticism/foreign spiritual nonsense like: Yoga, astrology, heart chakra crap, & shamanic/hallucinogen "retreat" garbage. I'm curious as to why our spiritual shepherds don't discuss this. If sins of vanity "manifestation" astrology cults are more likely to he sought out by women, & these outlets are incontrovertibly demonic via an Eastern Orthodox theological worldview, then are these problems not addressed?
@ wow, thank you so much for answering🙏 How do I go about finding one? Will any priest do? In any church or an Orthodox one specifically? (I grew up Protestant but have visited 2 Catholic and 1 Orthodox parish. My first impression of their respective fathers wasn’t amazing. I didn’t feel seen nor heard.)
Mi first born has almost no attachment to me, his mother. He is now three and we really struggle. My second boy is very much a mamas boy. What do I do? His dad is great!
Hello Father and God Bless I noticed that you have tattoos and I was wondering what is your opinion on them and when did you get them because you are the only priest that I've ever seen with tattoos, love your videos btw!
Father, please talk about relationship, pre marriage
Thank you Father Moses. I love the way you speak about your wife with such respect. Sending my love to you and your family. God bless you.
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@fathermosesmcpherson Father Moses thankyou for doing a talk for us women🧡I have 2 other sisters ,growing up we did not get very much attention from our father and It had so many disatrous effects on us.Once I started seeking out God things changes drastically for the better. I have 3 daughters and a son myself, they saved my life and my husband's without a doubt.Also I never had muscle til after I had kids😂thankyou for your work.
This is true. I’m 23 F, I’ve been a Christian for 3 years and I’ve never really had that emotional connection with my dad. We spent time a few times but not enough imo, I grew up seeking attention from men- online and in person.
There are some days that I still crave male validation as a Christian (right before I watched this video, I was going thru it😂).
But thank you for the reminder that that hole can only be filled by my spiritual Father in heaven❤❤❤
Instead of craving validation from men which for you is natural i did it sometimes too for the same reason as you did cause after 12 years of age i lost connection with my mum due to problems and struggles in our family but you have one obligation and that is to become valid for The One And Only Savior Jesus Christ and then everything will go accordingly for your salvation and inner peace.
@@icecold229 thank you
@@deeds7529 Stay hard and take care I'll do the same btw I am Stefanos from Greece
Thank you Father. Most of us have a lack of paternal love and guidance. I had to forgive and move on seeing Christ as my real and only father.
Amen! My too! But what I lost in my childhood was surpassed by Christ!
Me too
Same here.
Same 🥹
Me too, both father and mother. Nothing compares with our blessed Lord Jesus, and His Church and all that means. He is wonderful beyond expression, and gives mothers all they need, if we lean on Him.
For those this resonates with-the Christian book “Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul” by John and Stasia Eldredge is absolutely WONDERFUL. The equivalent book by John for men titled “Wild at Heart” is also wonderful and recommended by a local priest.
A woman’s wounding comes from asking “Am I beautiful and worth fighting for?” whereas a man’s wound comes from asking “Do I have what it takes?”
Wow great insight, thanks for sharing brother, god bless you.
You’re heaven sent, thank you
My roommate and I today were listening to this today, specifically the part on the central wounding for men and women as you quoted! It’s so trueee!
Thankyou so much for this book recommendation 🧡
Not sure about book..... I was pentecostal. Seduction is seduction...... Something can be 80 %correct....... That's the danger of seducing spirits..... wyles are wyles and apostle warns to be wary and test the spirits so be wary.... And God help us
Satan good at sound bites.
Thank you, Father. I found your analysis of a woman's nature to be insightful, uplifting, and true. This was truly edifying.
Thank you Father Moses! An Orthodox 32 y.o women here. You hit the nail on the head in terms of what my inner yearnings are and really succinctly offered direction on the most important things we are called to do as women of God. God bless your word and thank you again.
Fr. Moses is popping off! I used to go to his church and he put me on the path to Orthodoxy. I plan to visit your parish again sometime this summer, father.
Speaking from experience I never felt emotionally connected with my father and I looked for it in my teenage years from other men. It is so important for a girl to feel emotionally valued and loved by her father . Show her how to be loved properly
Thank you father, I went into this video feeling hesitant and scared but I had to overcome my pride to receive such pearls of wisdom.
Thank you for the kind words. Please share with other women. :)
Thank you father, this video made me realize the reason I have been feeling empty lately is because i have been seeking/expecting too much affirmation from my husband, and need to turn more towards christ and prayer for fulfillment. I did not have a good relationship with my father growing up so it has skewed the way i seek affirmation and love.
You’re truly a second father to me. The way you talk about these things and especially from a Christian understanding is perfect
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This is wonderful, and yes, us women DO need our primary attention from the source of God. I did not receive the proper fatherly attention as a child. I had my first boyfriend when I just turned 18 and it was the most beautiful I had felt. When we broke up, I found myself crying in the feeling that "I was no longer beautiful". I didn't have a connection with God yet, but over time I received God and at some point I found myself "being beautiful for God", and I'd affirm that to myself while doing my hair/makeup. That wasn't very long along ago. I'm 19 now, but just having affirmed that to myself helped me go deeper into finding Gods validation in my creation. Psalms 139:13-14 says "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well." Love God and allow God to love you 💞 we love because he loved us first.
I share similar and more harsh reality and life than you but I am also older but it took me sometime to love myself and the others especially women because I suffered deep trauma through my family's burdens especially my mom but now I am so much better and moving great ahead in fact I realized deeply that I must let God bring even more love in my life be it a spouse especially or a greater quality based circle of faith
Wish you the best dear from now on spread pure love in the world around you and in your husband when that time comes
We men nowadays need your love in a great way cause things are so messed up we end up having really hard shell and let's say ice cold hearts that essentially only pure genuine love and appreciation can help as see God and sometimes the love of our spouse is necessarily needed for that ❤
@@icecold229 This is such a humbling message. Thank you for sharing this profound piece of advice. I hope soon God answers your prayer for your hearts most sincere wishes
@@gabbyeeee i have to unravel myself to anyone easily so that the enemy can not engrave his foothold upon me thats the first step to humility but we should be cautious to whom we allow to see our deeper ontological core...
The elders of orthodoxy have made things so simple and clear its our distorted identity that puts as in harm and we are obliged to acknowledge that and move accordingly.
Of course some things are for essential my inner essence to be kept but when i have the direction to do so i do it so it essentially takes me towards better knowing myself and therefore better loving myself...
To me dear a woman is the only one capable of becoming one with Christs love in the most divine way possible thats not some words lets say of pat in the back its the most real and profound way of applied Gods love towards men.
That i have understood well also and in fact a few years before i was in the misogynistic spectrum more or less and that cause ive been through hell and back through my real life struggle with the devil and my beloved women i mean that the pedagogical wrath of God came upon me apart from things with women, that came to realization when i found without knowing and confessed to a good holy monk and a friend of Saint Paisios the Athonite first years of my struggle but now i see clearly that it was all a corrupted interpretation of me understanding the world around me and that was amplified by the devil....
I say to you in the sweetest manner possible you are the only absolute Divine Priestesses of love and you are to be moving greatly along that path remember my words dear cause you are young but still listen to me cause ive helped lots of women that i was close or not and i am so happy now that i know they do better regardless they do their life and i do mine......
Carve your identity along that path and watchout for devils trickery and manipulation cause lots of times he plays with and through your emotions in order to make you harsh as he does it with men but with men he uses different tactics and then its difficult to stand and fight so its better to fight and resist with holy ways early on than later....
Take care i hope my words reach out on you deeply i wish you find the one and only man that can make you be not just feel rested and relieved by Divine standards that is....
Your answer was so in tune with who i am if fact you are the first one that grasps and respects my deeper need for expressing and helping myself along those lines.
If you are in a state of being that allows you to get spiritual benefit from what i share with you i would think it would be great if we could share a few words like these through an email or twitter just for both of us to be safe.
Anyway i was just expressing my deeper need to get helped through spiritual communication.
@@icecold229 I'm not 100% sure I'm in a current state that allows me to be receptive to any advice. Things are changing in my life and I'm being very resistant towards them. I'm feeling the turn of a great clock and I'm at a loss of how to handle this correctly and morally. During these dark hours I've always given into sin, temptation, immorality. I'm trying to hold still and committed to changing how I respond to this great darkness that has repeatedly entered into my course of life. Thank you
@@gabbyeeeethat's natural processes of finding and knowing ourselves first then we move towards God
Just hold deep inside what I told you essentially and you will be fine regardless
I've been through that path I know what that is just love and forgive yourself and fight and follow the path of Orthodoxy it will clear out all your ontological noise
God bless take care of yourself and fear not and plow ahead, we need time some time to find ourselves and in the process we make mistakes or sins that's natural that's something that anyone has been through
Love and forgive cause in the end nothing is to greave more than not acting to that and I know that very well that's why I talked to you ❤
I was rolling along with you, taking notes - I have a daughter. But, when you came to the self-denial part, I got the fear.
It never occurred to me that part of my mental definition of a woman is an absence of self-denial. I never thought it could be otherwise.
Thank you, Father.
Hold the phone. You're putting up +450? That's incredible.
I knew you lifted but wow.
Christ is Risen!
Thank you Father Moses. I'm a husband and father of 3 beautiful young daughters and I truly appreciate the wisdom you share with us.
You are very welcome!
Thank you! I commented on your masculinity video saying that I wish there was one for women, and here it is.
You are very wise. Although I’m not Orthodox I recognize the truth you speak as a fellow follower of Christ. Always look forward to these vids. Ignore the trolls. God bless.
This was beautiful. Thank you! I hope you would’ve touched upon monasticism in the third part. And pouring into community/spiritual children for those who don’t have biological ones.
Thank you father Moses I have never appreciated outward serving of my children as an ascetical that is really incredible thank you 🙏🏼 I
Beautifully said. Thank you, Father!
This was great Fr Moses! Thank you 🙏🏻
Glad you enjoyed it!
@@fathermosesmcphersonis there any way i can message you personally? i’m in a very confusing situation and it’s very hard for me to convert to Orthodoxy. thank you for the videos Father Moses 🙏
Thank you so much! I love that you really hit the nail on the head! Yes, my Mom and I sat down and had deep conversations; not so much with my Dad, but after 10 years of being with my common-law husband (Russ), my Dad took me aside and said how proud he was of me, because I had quit smoking and settled down with Russ. That meant everything to me. 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you very much Father for doing this!🙏
Thank you father I really find value in these personal videos where you sit down and just have a chat with us. Please keep doing these father! May God have mercy on us all! ☦️
Keep doing videos like this father and you'll bring a lot of souls to orthodoxy and get exposure. Kind of like father spyridon.
Thank you Father. This is valuable insight to me as I have a 6 month old daughter. Her reactions to me bear out what you said about girls having a deep connection to their father early in life.
Thank you Fr. I feel so seen and encouraged by this video.
Thank you for this video. Bless you father.
Well said Fr. Moses. Thank you for the advice
You are my absolute favorite father. There's nothing that comes out of your mouth aside from facts.
Greetings ✝️☦️
Amen! Great advice and also high praise for those amazing women and wives out there. I can’t imagine my life without mine.
Amen!
Thank you Father for such wisdom! I'm so grateful for Orthodoxy and you sharing this with me today!
God bless! Please remember me in your prayers.
This was a pleasant surprise. I almost didn't even click on this. Thank you Fr. Moses
Please like and share! :)
Amin🙏🏽 this is one of the best videos explaining the nature of men and women in our world.
This was surprisingly well articulated. Thank you
excellent talk! we need more teaching as there is so much false information concerning life issues .
Thanks GOD for your wisdom brother. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST❤❤❤
I cannot thank you enough for this video. Point three put into words the exact struggle I've been contemplating and attempting to pinpoint for some time now. Thank you for approaching this topic with love and respect.
TH-cam recommended this channel to me and I'm so grateful!
I'm very thankful for this video, Father Moses. I would love more videos geared towards Godly womanhood and esp. the topic of distrust towards husbands in early years like you mentioned. Thank you for the reminder to get our affection first from The Lord, then our Husbands and after that our children. A very encouraging message, thank you!
Paralysis of analysis is a perfect description of what I often experience. Thank you so much, Father
thank you father. I really appreciated this video and it made me have such a deeper connection within myself and the eagerness to build a better relationship with God and the figures in my life who are male.
Thanks, such a precious video. I really hope to have a good husband. I am 37.
along with you so many men are in the same phasis
I am almost 31 and I hope I believe in God but then again I may stay single in fact as the years pass by even for us men marriage is a greater of a burden than when we were younger physiology is moving not helpfully so
But then again maybe God gives us his blessing in far ahead but then again how aligned Will we be then to his Will
I hope we find out there what we deserve regardless of marriage ❤
Ahhh ! Father Moses, I had to stop and pause on the 3:20 story mark about the difference in attention between boys and girls. It was such an aha! Moment and wink from God for me. Thank you as always for sharing and providing insight into these things.
This is a true, caring , loving message to all women! Thank you Father for your advice. I agree 100% with you, God help us to be the women and mothers you created us to be in the name of Jesus!!
You are so welcome.
A basic green flag for an emotionally healthy girl is to have a secure family with both parents and a firm father figure. Education and community guidance also helps. Otherwise there's a lot of work to put in.
If you are a young woman who wasn't born into ideal circumstances, then the simplest may be to find a godly husband and submit to him.
Brother you got the knowledge I can't get in college
Blessed art thou among women.
My dad worked hard for us but never spent much time with us and now he regrets that because our bond is not strong or deep even tho he foes everything for us. I felt like asexual until I was 27 and then met my bf and weve been together 10 years now with 2 kids😊
This is so good. Women need to knoa how to become a woman! If there are any other teachings you or can recommend, I'd love to know. Thank you
Wooow thank u for reacting on our comments ❤❤❤❤❤❤ God bless you father
I really appreciate your sharing the emotional experience, I’m often so ashamed of my range of emotions, I imagine throwing them into a hole, but they just come back.
I pray one day, if it is in GODS intentions for me; that I meet a GODLY man like you. Thank you for teaching all of us. GOD bless you Father Moses!
Very considerate perspective
15:22 Cracks me up. So true! When my two svelte sisters helped me move, both of whom had two or more small children at home, every time I said, "That's a two-person lift" one of them would snatch it up by herself. They were steady like mules. And they hardly broke a sweat.
These are the Mike Israetel Renaissance Periodization videos of orthodoxy
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May Mother of God pray for you and for all of us my dear! God bless everyone!
spot on and refreshing wisdom for a husband and a earthly father , thank you Father Moses, Amen
Hey Father, I am 37 year old Orthodox unmarried woman, tried monasticism over 10 years ago, it did not work out. I have tried dating orthodox men, doesn’t work out. I also have a chronic mental illness since age 25 and have struggled with marijuana addiction for almost 18 years. I am clean and sober now. My mom passed away almost 18 years ago when I was 19. She had a chronic physical illness my whole life, and my dad took good care of her and was a good husband and father. However I think he was burned out most days. We did do a lot together like watch old TV shows and black and white movies. We attended church every Sunday and he served at the altar as a sub deacon. I attend a local parish and participate in the sacraments, and I have had the same spiritual father since 2017. My question is: what now? It’s hard for me to get involved in church, I do sing in the choir and attended the Antiochian women’s meeting last week, but my parish priest misunderstands me whenever I have a manic episode. Thank you for these videos. YP sent me here.
I love you, father. Persons like you come in our lives as a blessing.
Did father change the title of the video or am I tripping out?
I was looking for the video titled “why some girls don’t become women” a follow up from the “why some boys don’t become men”
47 years old, never married, never found a good girl. I mean some messed up women, I'm afraid to even try again. My sons mother is a far left radical feminist, took him 1,000 miles away. Cut off contact with me. I never did anything wrong.
Thank you Father
Spot on. Great insight.
I am not a woman but this was so insightful to understand them. A whole new angle that I was not aware of.
Thank you Father Moses. God bless you. Greetings from an orthodox Albanian.
There are three levels of existence: the physical, the psychological and the spiritual. From the physical to the spiritual, the distance is the same in all people, but in women the middle level is a bit higher than for men, that is why sometimes women confuse psychological states with spiritual states. It is more difficult for men to confuse the two, but they are more vulnerable on the physical level. Women can stay longer on the psychological level, whereas men cannot; they fall too quickly on the carnal level. We priests specially must know that and always be on our guard. The distance between the ordinary level of life as we all live it, and the level of sanctification is the same for both male and female, but the distances between the three levels - physical, psychological and spiritual - is different in men and women. Fr. Sophrony explained this to us, and it is something useful to know in our pastoral care. It is good to know where our vulnerability lies, so that we are careful.
Archimandrite Zacharias The Hidden Man of the Heart (1 Peter 3:4) The Cultivation of the Heart in Orthodox Christian Anthropology
Hey Father Moses. Could you speak on smoking marijuana and cigars in a future video. I personally believe smoking weed is demonic but I want to know your opinion on it. Thanks :)
The devil’s lettuce!
Father Spyridon did an excellent video on marijuana a while back!
we need more powerlifter priests
father i find it hard to avoid the build up of pride when it comes to lifting, not vanity but more of a looking down on people, how physically unwell we as a society are, etc.
i find it hard to not make comparisons individually, looking down on people for their physical health and seeing myself as "better" for that
i feel the same with competition,
how do we regulate/keep this in check?
how do you avoid that build up of pride, or this constantly competitive mindset/worldview
a video on competition and pride, and how competition ought be kept in check would be great
God bless you father
We all struggle with pride. It is exactly that, looking down on people for whatever reason. Pride and arrogance. We should put ourselves in their shoes. And we should remember that we know nothing of them, but only God knows them.
When Father Moses talks about how women see emotions in technicolor and attributes that to being able to reach deeper into their souls and enables them to be more spiritual usually it made me think that is partially why God made Eve from Adam and why we become one with marriage. It allows for them to gain what they're missing that the other one has. It may be far-fetched, and as someone new to it- apologies if this is left field thinking- when Jesus tells us that ideally, he would prefer that we were like him and didn't need one another (marriage) but it's okay if we do because someone who is filled with the Holy spirit doesn't need things of this earth to aid them. But if they do, then God has established marriage for us, including children.
This may be too far-fetched, but the though came to me as he was on the topic.
This format is very good! Keep it up!
keep these videos quick and impactful thank you!!!
Loved this video thank you Father
I'll pray for you father. Thank God for you
Thank you! I need it!
@@fathermosesmcpherson 🙏☦️☀️
Such a beautiful and mutually respectful and mutually loving explanation of healthy relationship dynamics. 🙏🏼 ☦️
Thanks for plugging your 450lb lifting ability tho🤣
Thank you, Father. What if I do if I am as sensitive to the emotional world, such as the nous, but I am a man? I cannot search for a man, what woman do I need?
I am not the priest obviously, but I consider myself similar to you. I am very sensitive and feel things deeply. I always went after sensitive and "deep" women, but it always ended badly. I longed for a woman who "just gets me", but that had, like Fr. Moses says, more to do with being neglected as a child. I worked through this a lot with a priest. The wound healed. I prayed to God to bring me the woman he wanted. My now wife, is very sweet, but she is very practical. Not lost in la la land like I used to be, and that has helped to ground me.
Our marriage is wonderful and I am very happy I did not get the "sensitive artist" I used to want. That is my advice to you.
Let God guide you and discern your decisions with the help of a Spiritual Father who really knows you.
This is so helpful thank you!
Brilliant annaylsis on women. Loved this. So true.✨✨✨.
Hello father, thankyou for your insight.
I want to become an orthodox christian.i am an englishman living in sydney.the 2 closest orthodox church's are 'eastern orthodox'. Is that ok or is there a specific type of orthodoxy for westerners? Thanks again.
Sam.
I recommend ROCOR, but I would visit both, talk to the priest, etc. Get a feel for both of them and pray for discernment!
@@fathermosesmcpherson thankyou father.
Father, I have a serious problem. When I my prayers, specifically morning, after I feel like they were not good enough, so I say them again, and I let my pride judge me, not god. Every morning I say the Jesus prayer 50 times and say repentance psalm 50. But I feel like I did not say them to get closer to God. Thoughts go on in my mind when I pray, and it is hard to get them out. So I say them again. Please help me, I don’t know what it means to get closer to God, it is confusing for me. I’m only 11 years old.
Hello there! Sometimes it feels like God is distant, somwhere far away. But feeling are not facts. Because you know, God sees and hears everything. He knows you perfectly. He knows 100 % all the time of everything and everyone. So you can be sure that He hears your inner prayers, your quiet thoughts. He sees your heart, he knows what you are like and he understands everything about you.
Sometimes we humans forget this 😅. We can't understand, we don't know everything. So we can't fully understand God either. Pray. Quietly or out loud, he sees you. He knows what you are going to ask before you even say it. Pray honestly from you heart, like David did in his Psalms..❤
May the Lord bless you❤
Hello there! Sometimes it feels like God is distant, somwhere far away. But feeling are not facts. Because you know, God sees and hears everything. He knows you perfectly. He knows 100 % all the time of everything and everyone. So you can be sure that He hears your inner prayers, your quiet thoughts. He sees your heart, he knows what you are like and he understands everything about you.
Sometimes we humans forget this 😅. We can't understand, we don't know everything. So we can't fully understand God either. Pray. Quietly or out loud, he sees you. He knows what you are going to ask before you even say it. Pray honestly from you heart, like David did in his Psalms..❤
May the Lord bless you❤
Paralysis by analysis 😊over here 😂
Thank you 💖
Is it a good idea to time my rests between sets at the gym with a prayer rope? Sorry the question is off topic of the video.
Can’t hurt :) but use a timer just in case.
Hi father Moses greetings could you do a video for teenage boys or teenagers and religion just a suggestion man have a good day
I’ve always wanted a daughter. So in case I ever have some, thanks in advance Father.
Χριστὸς Aνέστη! ☦
Indeed He is Risen!
Interesting. I used to be a daddy's girl.
What should I do to become a better woman if I didn’t have the proper attention growing up?
Well said !
Im curious, did any of the early church father's write about women's "tendency to be more spiritual than men"? If so which early church father & specifically what was it that they said?
I can’t remember where I’ve read it, but it has been said that women are more naturally inclined. But there’s lots of anecdotal stories from the saints. Ever notice how many of their mothers were pious and passed that on to their sons? Lots!
Saint Basil wrote about it.
"Basil also stresses the complete equality of both genders, deriving from the same human 'lump' (φύραμα), both in the image of God, endowed with the same honour and dignity (ὁμοτίμως), in perfect equality (ἐξ ἴσου). Men even risk being inferior in piety (Homily on Julitta 241B). Likewise, in Homilies on Psalms 1, PG 29.216-17, he insists on the Socratic and Stoic tenet, here Christianized, that man and woman have 'one and the same virtue' and 'one and the same nature' (φύσις). Their common creation was of equal honour and dignity (ὁμότιμος); they have the same capacity and activity (ἐνέργεια), and will be given the same reward.”
@@fathermosesmcpherson the last time I heard the opinion "women are more spiritual than men" was from a lead pastor who had put a woman over all the young men in his congregation. Women are more agreeable than men, more compliant than men, and bunch of other things but those are not the same as "spiritual". If women are more spiritual, why would God reveal himself as masculine?
It's because of the power and heartly essence father here says absolute Truth women are more Faith based and inclined men are more applied action based and inclined that is shown really well in the new testament and sometimes in the old but none of them alone leads to theosis that's why we need marriage ❤
@@icecold229 Women also statistically fall more into Eastern mysticism/foreign spiritual nonsense like: Yoga, astrology, heart chakra crap, & shamanic/hallucinogen "retreat" garbage. I'm curious as to why our spiritual shepherds don't discuss this. If sins of vanity "manifestation" astrology cults are more likely to he sought out by women, & these outlets are incontrovertibly demonic via an Eastern Orthodox theological worldview, then are these problems not addressed?
Thank you father
What do I do if I don’t have a man or spiritual father to guide me, nor a relationship with God?
Find a priest to be a spiritual father!!!
@ wow, thank you so much for answering🙏
How do I go about finding one? Will any priest do? In any church or an Orthodox one specifically?
(I grew up Protestant but have visited 2 Catholic and 1 Orthodox parish. My first impression of their respective fathers wasn’t amazing. I didn’t feel seen nor heard.)
The Saints tell Orthodox men to strive for MATERNAL love for people.
Mi first born has almost no attachment to me, his mother. He is now three and we really struggle. My second boy is very much a mamas boy. What do I do? His dad is great!
My mom never made that transition unfortunately. I pray for her.
Хвала!
Good job in Christ please keep these videos coming !
We will!
Together it's like emotional intelligence when a person is balanced.
Amazing video. Thank you.
Hello Father and God Bless I noticed that you have tattoos and I was wondering what is your opinion on them and when did you get them because you are the only priest that I've ever seen with tattoos, love your videos btw!