Psychologist explains symptoms of depression
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 มี.ค. 2023
- About 1 in 5 people will experience clinical depression at some point in their lives, yet the symptoms of depression are still not well understood by most people.
These symptoms include:
Depressed mood
Anhedonia
Insomnia or hypersomnia
Increased or decreased appetite
Psychomotor agitation or retardation
Fatigue
Difficulty with focus, concentration, and memory
Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
Passive or active suicidal ideation
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This is me nearly all of my existence. From 10 to now. Just dragging my way through life.
I feel similar to that also
Imagine doing it for 40 years but you will find a way we all must somehow.
Same
Same for 54 years
Same. Can’t find a medication or therapy that works. I have lost 20 years of my life due to this evil disease.
The cat interuption was the first thing that has made me laugh today. Thank you for keeping that in!
Same. We need more Cupcake. 🧁😍
agree! including a cupcake in videos would bring more smiles to cat people here 😻💓
😊me too
I loved cup cake
The cat was awesome 🐈
I already knew I loved this man not only for his insight, his sincerity in helping people suffering and for his perfect explanation of concepts but then when his cat appeared behind the curtain and to find out he is a cat lover. ❤ This man rocks
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@@DrScottEilers I think you should make video what not to say to person with any type of mental illness.
@@izabelaswa85 that’s a great idea. I think I will
Would you consider discussing depression and long term illness, and/or injury which causes extreme change of lifestyle? Until my hip is replaced in 2 months, I can’t move with extreme pain, and the pain meds are strong and changing my disposition/personality-I am depressed.
I was crying at the start as missing lost family which is most of them tbh, then only thing I've laughed at all day is the cat as I have a bunch of them, as wondered what was up! Cat people are usually nice
What does depression feel like inside? I'm 65 and have suffered from depression all my life. When people ask, I use this analogy: Imagine your mind, or your brain, is hemorrhaging internally- not blood, but sadness and hopelessness- forever. That's what depression feels like.
Have you never used anti depressants? Or didn't they work?
Look Idont know if you will ever se this but. This sound stupid but ho friking cares.(English Isn't my first language so don't judge me just so you know and this is going to be loong to). Look I'm a 14 year old femel and have feelt depression for 2 years. My problem is that I care to much about pepole and feel their feelings more than they do and feel like It basically my problem that i deal whit. I'm stress unecessary, introvert, dont feel alive sometimes, fell left out becuse no one seems to care and feel one whit the wall. I don't know how to cam me down when I'm stress luckily I'm geting help from a terapist and a organisation ho helps children ho feel depression. Efter a month i will get tips and stuff to cam down and feel not depresst. If you feel something that I feel I will nethier way tell you what they told me to mabey help you❤.Bayy whis you a great day!😁 Like if Some one se this pls
This is so much better than the other depression videos. I love that you talked about anhedonia so thoroughly, because for me, it’s the number one most frustrating symptom of my depression (and usually the first sign that it’s getting bad again). And I feel like most videos talk about the feelings of sadness… not the utter, grey, joyless flatness that I usually experience.
This video expjlaned everything 100 percent how I feel,
I know I have never heard of some of these symptoms but I now recognize that I have them. I can't remember the last time I felt joyful about anything. I remember one Christmas I kept staring at an ornament that said JOY and wondering how that felt. 😢
I wish I felt sadness. I just nothing, constant numb emptyness. Always flat no matter what. When I know I should feel sad/grief at times, or feel some joy at least .
Same here ... exactly.!
.... this sucks. Life isn't enjoyable anymore.
@@lucialuciferion6720wow,. I've been feeling exactly this way, but couldn't explain this to anyone. I don't have my feelings anymore. I thought I was the only one like this,... it has scared me so much. Depression is so scary and uncomfortable.... Hope we get better, and feel correct emotions again 🙏
My experience of depression is self-hatred and the desire to refuse any life extending medical treatment. I also have had a do not resuscitate order put on my medical records, making it illegal for any doctor to save my life. I also refuse blood tests of anything that might diagnose life-threatening illnesses. I don't want to know because I have no intention of seeking medical treatment for it.
Im totally devastated. Its been 6 months of night/day suffering. You're explanation on Anhedonia is my life now. I don't enjoy even my favorite hobby or activity. I have no interest in living, and life. Im unable to snap out of this dread. My life totally ended,.... when i Foolishly retired! I didn't even have to.! My regret is unbearable! My mental and physical health are declining,
I hate living... and life without my job. My workplace atmosphere, my friends, coworkers, structure, identity, purpose etc......
Depression is horrible
Hey man, i usually don't comment much on youtube but your comment moved me, because i know how you feel, and from what i read it seems that maybe you are i this shit for the first time... (sorry if thats not the case, then i misunderstood)
I just wanted to tell you that I know your pain and how absolutely debilitating it can be to just do the basics of a normal day... Day in and day out. I want to tell you that although I'm in an episode too right now, I had the same shit going on 3 years ago for 6 months straight and i came out of it the other side... And that is my biggest life lesson so far, the knowledge that it really can get better and eventually you will feel normal again. I sincerely wish all the best to you and i hope that this comment is maybe a little ray of hope in your experience. Because 3 years ago, one of the most terrorizing thoughts for me was to not be sure if this will ever go away.... Trust me, it will. Although its cheesy af, there is light at the end of the tunnel, and you got this, one day at a time. Greetings from germany and much love to u ❤
@@JogrehanTHANK YOU SO MUCH.... Im suffering horribly. I hope so too,... I could think positive again. I'm restricted mentally and physically. I want myself back, o want my life back, my mind back,... my normal happy thoughts. It's so horrible. Thank you for the comforting message. 🙏🫶🙌
I was diagnosed with major depression when I was 19 along with panic disorder. I was in college at the time. It was hell. It lasted for 4 years. I couldn't eat sleep or walk down the hallway in a straight line. I felt like I had A cloud of cotton around my head all the time. Horrible experience that you can't understand unless you go through it through it And you don't want to.
Amen to that!!! 🙏🏻
Would absolutely love a video on C-PTSD if that's not already in the works!
This sucks really bad. Cptsd is a constant non stop depression and anxiety. For me the biggest thing with this is mostly a constant high anxiety/hypervigilance that increases the depression
I haven’t smiled all week, but cupcake just gave me a smile…cupcake should feature regularly
Yes, the Cupcake interruption and Scott's inter-action with Cupcake soothed my stomach with a love potion, Thanks. It felt so good.
Your videos should be required viewing for all aspiring therapists. After a lifetime dealing with mental health professionals this is the first time ive heard someone who actually knows what it feels like.
Amen!!!🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
I appreciate you for making this video. I have been struggling with depression for most of my life and this is the first time I’ve heard someone speak about the differences from person to person in such detail. I believe through your videos a lot of people will be saved. Thank you
Thank you so much Deon! It means a lot to me that you understand what I’m going for. You might also like my latest video on anxiety!
Thanks mate for doing these vids for free. I’m in my 70s and can’t wait to die and I’m so unhappy and lonely. Too late for me to change my fucked up life but I know your work and sharing will make a difference to so many younger people who still have a life ahead of them. Go well.
It’s not too late for you ❤
Never late
@@heinmolenaar6750looks don't mean a thing... Most try to smile for the camera, many in bad shape can put on a really good front.
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@@heinmolenaar6750 💖🙏✨
9:14 when your cat appeared and then you held it in your arms was so cute! as a cat person it made me smile, Cupcake is adorable! 🐱💕 Also, Dr. Scott Eilers thank you very much for your videos, I've watched them all, and rewatching again along with listening to your Spotify podcasts, helps me with my anxiety.
Thank you for breaking it down so well. It’s sad that I don’t have anyone interested in understanding or watching this in order to do so. You describe it very well. I’m having a major depression episode that has lasted for a couple years now. I’m 98 lbs from my normal 120 lbs. I sleep most of the time and feel like I have brain fog most of the time. I’m physically weak. I’ve lost interest in the things I love. Cooking, creating art, gardening…
I recently went on a trip from NY to NM to maybe help snap out of this depression. I have visited many times and lived there for a couple years. My Dad was born n raised there. I have lots of family there too. I got lost when I first got there and the trip spiraled down from there. I was overwhelmed with anxiety n could barely drive my rental car. Finding my Airbnb was a nightmare. I ended up coming home 3 days into my 7 day trip. I barely made it back to the airport to catch my flight.
I’ve traveled since I was a teen by myself. It was always such a thrill for me. I hadn’t a fear in the world.
This trip I felt like a nervous child who lost her parents. I am. I was going to honor the 20th anniversary of my Dad’s passing. My Mom passed 2 years ago in November. I had a tiny bit of both of their ashes n I was going to do a little memorial at the top of the Sandia’s. My Dad passed up there while hiking in 2003. I never made it up there to do my memorial. I didn’t do anything the 3 days I was there and I didn’t see any of my family. Although they knew 3 months in advance that I was coming.
I get it, life is busy. However, being depressed I always think it’s me somehow. I’m not worthy of their time. They don’t really like me anymore.
These things are probably not true but in a depressed mind they are. You beat yourself up about it. It’s a horrible place to be. I can’t watch the news because it wrecks me when I see the things going on right now. It’s physical as well as mental. It’s exhausting. It’s very hard to break out of.
I don't have any words of wisdom, but maybe you can try a local grief support group? And try to take that trip with a friend or two(if you have them , and yes if they can make time ). It sucks, I understand what you're going through. If not in local grief support group, perhaps online forums? Hugs ❤
I'm in the same exact boat. And it's overwhelmingly frustrating, too. You're not alone in your experiemces. Wishing you peace and a happier life.
Especially if you have been the one making other people's issues your own. And they can't be bothered...
I am 41 now,my early age was ok.I started feel depressed by the age 35,i have insomnia, anxiety,unfocus mind and many more.Our brain need time to heal,dont give it a push to think.Unfortunately we have our own problems,hope the best to all of you
I’m same but for me it started in late 20’s
Omg. What a revealing episode. I was thinking,i already tick all the boxes and i wonder if constant guilt can be a symptom... and boom. Thank you so much. This is life changing.
The lifelong guilt and shame struck me too!!
Same. I've been wanting to go out for lunch or so , or maybe get a coffee , and yet I instantly recognize i will feel guilty , towards the fact I'm having a chance to escape work, and guilt towards whoever 'serves' my table . It's bloody hopeless!
The guilt/shame thing is a major topic as well. It also comes on top of that all. Because of not functioning like before. What we remember on how it was in the past/before the episode. And the guilt trip to friends and family, because of the isolating since we maybe don't have enough energy to hold on to meetings. A bad circle. The wish to meet with others, but not being able to do it, to feel ashamed for the excuses and the sadness to again disappoint others.
im a 52 year old male that just discovered your channel tonight, and I consider myself to be fairly educated.
I'd ever heard the term "Suicidal Ideation" before, so like any good Gen X'er, I asked Jeeves, er, Googled:
What Is Suicidal Ideation?
and according to "Web M.D.", it means:
Sep 15, 2022 - Suicidal ideation means you've thought about killing yourself. Learn more, including how to get help right away.
That seems like a copout blanket statement, quite the opposite of what I learned from the first watch of your video right here.
This is part of what is wrong with the world.
Thank You for giving us "the sauce for free".
Ditto
I finally understand depression because of this video. Other videos on depression have not been this good. Thank you.
We are all just addicted to watching online videos, selfloathing and in self piti. Online addiction is what is keeping alive our depression. But it's good for the people making everyday new videos that we than can watch. They fuel our addiction
I am sad I feel lonely Nothing seems to catch my attention nothing. I was such a happy person always looked after myself made sure i look pretty and nicely 👗 dressed. I a empty much lost of joy nothing excists me. I use to get excited just going out for a walk, or dinner with friends or family now i have to forced myself to go out. I don't sleep much maybe 5hrs i wake up a few times during the night. I could go to bed after midnight and sleep 4 or 5 hrs. I do the opposite i eat a lot of junk food. I dont have the energy to cook. Omg she looked exactly like my cat, i had her 20 yrs had to put her to sleep 4 month ago. 😢 I dont like being in bed, i get anxious and have to get up. Everything is slower and feels heavy I feel TIRED. I do write a lot. Its strange because if someone calls 📞 and say they are coming over i jump up and do everything i need to do even light candles spray the home i do love a clean house. I don't like being around people, i get anxious being around people when I am not doing well thats the last thing I want to do, i can't deal with people asking me every minute, are you ok. Oh my god stop asking me. 😮 So I rather spend the time alone. I dont have to get dress or 🪮 comb my hair or take a shower i could just do what i want to do. Yes I have a mood disorder.
I'm 62 and I've always been an 'unhappy' person. I've been in every type of therapy and course available and you are the first person I've come across who 'gets' it. I would love to tell my oldest child about you but if I did they wouldn't watch you, but I just know you could really help them. They have borderline personality disorder and have struggled all their life. I love them so much but currently they don't want to have anything to do with me. I hope somehow they come across your podcast....
💔 bless you and your kids
I love Cupcake ❤ I also experience all the Anhendoia symptoms. I participate in 12 step groups and often receive shaming responses from my peers 😢😢😢 Your videos bring me hope that i am not an alien
Some people go through serious dark times in their lives , then they get through it , maybe even with help. To me that's like a " blip" in their life. Depression for me is like being possessed by a Demon , not so bad days feel like the Demon is asleep, Bad days are when its awake and won't leave you alone , Either way you know it's always there !
Frustrating I have to forgive myself and remember the devil is a liar he is the father of lies and god loves us and wants us to be happy
I never heard anyone explain my feelings of depression -blows my mind thank YOU!!!!🙏🌠
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9 out of 9...and, it's frustrating and overwhelming in itself. At least now, I feel a little bit less alone.
Hi Scott, you just summed up the last 10 years of my life. Definitely have/ had 7 out of 9 of the recognised definitions of depression. The best way I can describe it is it’s like your life is a rollercoaster but you don’t feel any of the adrenaline you get from being on this rollercoaster. That someone who isn’t suffering from depression gets, they enjoy the highs and lows, the twists and turns, the lops. I can only sit there and feel flat and numb and empty. Thank you for the insight and breaking this down for me and others.
Thank you for breaking this down into understandable terms. The grief, PTSD, (a therapist suggest ed this), and the depression have been overwhelming after caring for my beloved husband who passed from Early On-Set Alzhiemers. What was also surprising was the reaction by a long time friend, who actually said to me, "You're really milking this", after I was wanting to talk about my husband just a few months after he passed. There seemed to be a certain time frame that I was supposed to get over it.
Hi Cynthia, Unbelievable to me that a " friend" would say such a cruel thing to you in a moment of vulnerability! I am so sorry this happened, that is on THEM, speaks to their level of compassion, lack there of! Do not accept it. ❤
GOSH! So sorry that happened to you. And soooo unbelievable
@@ERRNCJThank you for your kind comment❤
@@louisecampbell2628Thank you. ❤
I hope you have other people in your life to give you comfort and compassion. That friend has no empathy at all. I would limit how much time to be around them. Just a thought.
You explained everything so well. People with depression, and people who interact with depressed people, really need to watch this video. I came away really understanding what depression, and a depressive episode look, and feel. So glad I found your videos on TH-cam. Thank you so much for doing this.
It's extra fun when you have ptsd and panic disorder too. I really tend to think that the anxiety and panic are what cause me to feel depressed. When I have brief periods of less anxiety I feel less depressed. But was diagnosed with recurrent major depressive disorder as well.
I am so thankful I found you. I have no access to psychological help where I live. Everything you’ve talked about is so clear and concise. You have described me exactly, I’m trying to keep my cool and not bother people by not talking about how I feel. I don’t ride my horse anymore, I don’t enjoy drawing and painting anymore or my friends.
I experienced depression as a cold, hollow void. I think of my worst episode as my zombie days, which is appropriate because I was working grave shift then. I deliberately chose grave shift to avoid as many people as possible. Some days I felt like I had a black hole in my head sucking what little energy I had out of me at every waking moment. It manifested physically, like headaches, backaches, insomnia, and appetite loss, and I was constantly freezing cold. It took many small victories over a span of about a year before I started to feel alive again. I had bloodwork done, which revealed levels of Vitamin D3 and B12 that were so low that my thyroid was reacting negatively to it, a fact I never would have known if I hadn't seen a doctor. This was back in 2012.
Now, as an American in 2023, it's less affordable and a bigger hassle to see a doctor than ever, so if I ever have another episode, I might have to go it alone like I had to back in my freshman year of high school, where I got failing grades because I literally couldn't sleep more than two hours every other night for the span of about five months, so you'd better believe depression, anxiety and ADHD symptoms were all exacerbated in me. Then my mother, well-meaning yet ignorant Boomer that she is, dismissed my depression as "everyone has depression. Do your homework."
The avoidant, dismissive, and careless nature of our society makes me genuinely ask "why do I bother?" but then I keep going, day after bloody day, because luckily, it's what my survival instincts urge me to do. Those instincts come in handy, because despite how low I've felt, how hopeless, useless, and unwanted I've felt over the course of my life, I do manage to get my head above water eventually, and when I do, the most damaging and devastating of thoughts and emotions subside, and I enter into a calm that's generally warm and OK. Every day I feel "OK" is now a blessing thanks to how awful I know I can feel. Honestly, I can live with that. I think we all stand to benefit from being OK with feeling OK. I only want to feel extreme sadness, anger, or even joy in situations that actually call for it, you know?
Anyway, I'll stop rambling now. Love your videos, Dr. Scott. Take care. :)
High five, I also have low B12 and extremely low vitamin D levels. The fun part is - I don’t know for how long, tho. 😅 (I have a hunch and yes - graveyard shifts (several years ago)) Currently in relatively heavy depressive episode. Still fighting, but somehow stuck. Finally will start to take supplements, because everyone else is always more important than my own problems. I will also go and ask to test my calcium and phosphorus levels, just because my family doctor doesn’t give a shit. It seems that all of my problems - depression, anxiety, tinnitus and some others may be interlinked, and again - nobody gives a shit to ask. 😀 Thank god I have studied biology and can read myself.
And yes - currently writing from anger and spite, but somehow it is also exhausting to be fueled only by anger and sadness, so I better take care of myself (despite the directions some “wise” doctors point me to). Then I can care after people I love.
P.S. "Then my mother, well-meaning yet ignorant Boomer that she is" ... 😁😁 Thanks for the laughts. 🤘
Depression the emotion, i always refer to as sadness.
Then for me, Depression means Clinical Depression.
They are two completely different experiences.
This man is a gift.
I've had probably 8 of nine and have had depression since I was 17. I'm almost 59 now. I've never found anything that really helps. Therapy or drugs. I've had suicidal ideation since 2014. My husband has to force me to get to work. I just don't want to do anything. I just don't care and I actually have so much to live for
I love how cupcake just appeared from behind the curtains to steal the show. I believe she cared about depression more than you realize. In fact, she was reminding the audience that pets can be anti-depressants too.😊
If she had that much empathy she would stop randomly peeing on the couch 😂
aaaw!! how can she do that?? i'm sure she didn't mean to.. she says she wont do it again if u give her treats everyday.
@@DrScottEilers get her checked out---peeing outside the box can indicate a medical issue ❤
Episodes hit me and last about 3 days to a week. Thank Jesus I am retired.
Particularly for PTSD Which is probably the reason why childhood trauma & War vets are addicted to drugs , alcohol , gambling or sex - desperate for something to make them feel good or ANYTHING just to escape what they truly feel which is fear, torment &
torture.
I feel so hopeless. I don’t want to get help because i feel like i’m a lost cause. I used to suffer from anxiety and depression at 11 years old but I always thought of that as a thing from the past. Why did it come back? I feel too far gone. I’m always tired and i feel heavy. I feel like there is something insanely wrong with my brain. I feel it. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want this to be the end
Thanks for this. I have bipolar disorder and I experience a lot of these symptoms. I find most people really don't understand depressive episodes. Skip experiencing a lot of the symptoms, it's most. 😅
Seems like much of my life has been a depressive episode starting definitely by 4, but at age 62 I had a real reactivation in the last month-and-a-half and I was horrified that I could not concentrate at all and could not accomplish tasks that I needed to accomplish. I was looking up ADHD and wondering if I had that even though my doctor told me that ADHD and PTSD have a lot of overlap and she didn't think that I have ADHD but that my symptoms could be attributed to PTSD. She knew what I was going through and that it was a lot and it's a comfort when you're in the pits to get validation that you're dealing with a whole lot.
Working on my mood. Working on noticing when I'm finding pleasure in something. Working on being aware of my blessings even if a lot of times life feels flat and no fun. This is a great explanation of depression and hopefully will help other people who don't experience it to understand it better. I have a friend who once told me that she didn't used to understand depression. Until at some point she experienced some loss in her life and then knew what depression was like. When she told me she didn't used to be able to understand depression I thought how lucky she was and that I felt like there was never a time that I didn't understand the feeling of depression.
Kitty, Kitty,,,,……cats can sense our depression, and when I was really sad, cats would lay on my chest and purr…that made me feel so good and loved.
You are literally explaining some of this my whole life and now, i can’t even get out of bed, i was a trainer and now I have to drag myself to the gym where I used to love to go.. still love but, lost my motivation plus I have ADHD too and high levels of anxiaty but, I don’t have that guild or isolate because I don’t want to be around people, I do isolate because I can’t stand the people that surrounded me and I feel nothing turn them whatsoever. I don’t have a bad outlook of life and not negative but, the feelings are more as numbness and activities I used to love before, food, anything excite me anymore.. I sleep at least 12 hours and not motivated to get out of bed at all most of the time.
This just explains how I feel exactly and I so wish others understood.
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My lifelong problem was in how I suffered a lack of personal energy and motivation, and I was said to be too slow of a worker. My entire working career, I was fired from one job and had to move on to the next. My so-called friends made fun of me, and other people hated me. I went to a variety of mental health people who diagnosed me with depression, and I took a number of different pills, but none of them worked
This was really helpful thank you. My smyptoms are mild but unfortunately I have the full range all the time. Because I can get up and go to work every day and mask my mood people dont realise that I would much prefer to be hiding out in my house not seeing anyone. My life is ticking by and I am wasting it but can find no joy anymore..
I get it. I consider myself a highly functional depressive. I can do everything I need to get done but underneath I am sad
Even counselors have told me to just think happy thoughts and go for a walk or something and you’ll feel much better and eventually you’ll if be happy if you just keep telling yourself that you’re happy
Oh, love your kids & buttercup making an appearance 🤣
The "isolating to avoid infecting people" definitely rings 100% true for me, but in my case, it's not about being concerned that my presence brings others down. It's the fear of conversation itself. The fear that if they actually DO understand or empathize with what I am describing, they may notice parallels in their own lives. That, as a result of this, they will investigate these parallels further, and bit by bit, everything they've known their life to be will unravel and eventually fall apart. I cannot bear the thought of inflicting that on someone.
I really needed that tonight - Cupcake is adorable and your interaction with her was uplifting. I like that you are a cat 🐱 person, just one more reason (if I needed it) to watch you. The rest of the video was enlightening; I am experiencing a reason to be depressed (the recent death of my mother and the very real fear that my cat is reaching the end of her life (nearly 20 years) whilst in a depressive episode already. I feel anhedonia is part of my symptoms and yet Cupcake got through to me and I enjoyed that moment and will remember it as a good feeling. I can’t quite explain what I AM feeling, not sure I’ve made a lot of sense. It seems that I can feel good and bad - perhaps I need to view your anhedonia video again. I think I am just very confused and dreadfully sad just now and nothing is making sense. I know one thing - I need help. I have an appointment in a couple of weeks but it’s not going to be someone as skilful and empathetic as you ❤Thank you for taking the time to read this, I am usually able to be a bit more coherent but I’m just not reasoning clearly. I guess that is what mental health is all about.
Yes! The difference in depression types vastly differs from person to person I've noticed. I tend to be more emotional, cryey, hopeless, procrastination and over-eat. My teenage son is angrier, emptier, cant sit still, no appetite.
Gorgeous kids btw - they convinced me to subscribe for sure 😉
I love how you Included your cat in the video. Very informative video and you brought a smile to my face
I completely understand and sympathize with everyone who is feeling this. I have just been dragging myself through this world for 20 years just waiting for it to end
Your video ending explained one thing that likely helped you … you have a reason to try to get better (your children). I’ve got no one, so no reason. You did help me understand I have PSI, though. Haven’t been able to figure out method and means yet.
Oh, sweet Kitty!!! Aw, Cupcake came in to offer some cuddle therapy for depression. Every purr helps. Sweet man🥰
You mentioned hypersomnia, that was my problem. I was always such a deep and heavy sleeper, that I could not get up in mornings, and nobody understood or cared. I suffered undeserved punishments for being late to school and I was fired from a string of different jobs. I had a psychiatrist tell me to get a loud alarm clock, as if I'd pay $200 an hour for such a ridiculously simple minded answer
It is so bizarre to me that there are people out there who need depression to be explained to them, because they have minimal/only light experiences with it!
I wish I had their lives! I don't even know if I have any memories from a time in my life where I wasn't experiencing depression in some form, and I've definitely experienced it at all levels.
I know right?! It’s like every time I slightly try my best to overcome my fears and mention my clinical disorders to others and before I even get to talk about it descriptively,
I get told, “oh yeah I got depression when I broke up with my boyfriend”.
Like help I’m not attached so how is heartbreak even related ???
And the sheer number of people who think clinical depressive disorder is just a feeling/acute stress event that magically goes away. 😅
How is this even possible?! Sounds like a fairytale to me sadly. As a child perhaps, but not since adulthood. Though I remember being lonely as a child, so who knows how long I've been depressed.
Thank you for doing videos like this. So difficult to talk about our mental health.
I’ve had tears running down my face since a few minutes into this video. You have explained this so very well. I now understand some of the moods I go through. You are a God send for those of us struggling. I’ve had family members tell me to just get over it. I’ve had PHN for 14 years now. I wish and hope and pray that one day I will just get over it. All the different stages or feelings you have described so well. Thank you SO much for doing these videos. I’m a mess but you are an inspiration and a beacon of light in this dark journey. Thank you again!!! I’ve been subscribed to your channel from the first time God landed me there. Thank you for what you are doing. You are helping immensely. I have days when I don’t even want to watch your latest video. I try but I can’t get motivated. 😢. BUT your children are beautiful!! God bless you all!!! ❤
Depression and mental illness can be difficult to deal with, and it's important to remember that it's not something you can easily "just get over."
It's great that you have found ways to cope and still keep yourself motivated in spite of the hardships. Keep up the good work and remember that you are an inspiration to others who may be struggling with mental illness as well. I hope that you can continue to find peace and happiness in your own journey. ❤
Your cat peeking in was the best ❤
#7....unwarranted guilt or shame.....ummm...could that ever possibly be just a personality trait? If not an actual trait, then maybe just a symptom of a trait..just being genuinely nice and caring and considerate of others? Asking for a friend who honestly can't remember a time when she didn't feel automatic guilt and shame simply by being present when someone else was bothered
It's possible that unwarranted guilt or shame could be a personality trait that someone is born with, or it could be something that is learned through experience.
However, feeling guilty or ashamed whenever someone else is bothered, even if they have not done anything wrong, is more likely a symptom of a deeper issue.
Feeling overly responsible for other people's feelings and feeling bad when other people are bothered could be a sign of low self-esteem, low self-worth, or depression.
It's important to explore the underlying reasons why someone is feeling unwarranted guilt or shame when around others.
My favorite part: "We stay away from other people because we're trying to protect them from us." 🩷
I'm a jinx....don't play cards or place any bets when I'm around😅
@@heatherjackson8840 LOL 🩷
I’ve listened to countless people, both professional and the common person. I’ve read more information then I can keep track of. I’ve talked to people on deep levels about their struggles and how they handle and deal with it.
I won’t say that anyone’s thoughts or ways of dealing with or understanding depression or suicidal tendencies are wrong.(except for those who say depression isn’t real)
I’ll even say, a couple of people were damn close to describing the way my mind works. I understand that we all have unique ways that our minds can betray us. We all have our own struggles, and approach it differently.
One persons answer, doesn’t work for everyone else. We are all case by case, works in progress. Our minds are complex and often misunderstood. We’re seen as weak because of our struggles... when we are anything but weak. I think more people ignore or don’t address what’s inside of them, then we’ll ever know.
One thing I personally find difficult, is hearing a person that doesn’t come from this struggle in life. If you haven’t walked in my shoes or been in the path I walk, you will never be able to truly help me. That’s how I feel. So I can’t hear you 100%.
You just got a new subscriber man. I look forward to hearing more of your thoughts and will be looking at all previous videos as well. Your approach and understanding, of unique
minds that deal with depression and darkness, are the best I’ve heard. And like I said, I’ve heard plenty.
So, Thank you. Your words, thoughts and care, are much appreciated and needed.
I hope your walk through life is going well. Stay strong man!!!
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Happiness always
Welcome aboard and thank you so much!
@@DrScottEilers keep up the great works!!!
Same goes for chronic pain
@@johnmitchell8925 I’ll definitely agree with that. The third time my back gave out, was the beginning of my nightmare. I thought I had a high tolerance for pain. But after a long period of time dealing with pain, it changed the game. It mentally broke me, and my body became so tender and the pain was unbearable. After roughly 4 years, the pain finally relented. It’s only occasionally it gets me now.
If you’re dealing with chronic pain, that sucks. I hope you find relief and can heal. I don’t know your pain, and I’m not trying to down play it.
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Happiness always
Everything you said right here! All his videos just get it and I feel like he actually cares. I bought his book off Amazon which should arrive Friday so I can't wait to read it this weekend.
Thank you for sharing, your definition has helped me understand not only myself but has helped to give me some insight into the disease of depression . I lost someone very dear to me last year to suicide and I have struggled since trying to understand why💔😪This I will live with the redt of my life
Thank you so much for your work. I have watched all of your videos and especially this one is so helpful, because next time I have an episode I can send it to my beloved ones, so I don't have to explain when I have zero energy.
I cry constantly during depressive episode and feel like I need to hide my feelings because I don't want to worry my family.
Thank you, I've been binge watching your videos and appreciate your knowledge and your straight forward honesty.
I struggled with bad depression in my teen years and got through it, but I feel I've always had a sad part living inside me all my life.
I've had bouts of depression here and there and realized as I got older, the depressed part of me can't be hypnotized, meaning I'm a realist I don't fall for things easily and that's a good thing.
Secondly the depressed part of me almost feels like a superpower because it allows me to not care so much. Meaning it's made me resilient to lets say... insults, harsh words, failure, a critical boss, people opinions, the most calm person in a bad situation.
The sadness has made me the most sane person in the room to some degree because I'm always expecting the worst and if the worst happens my mentality is bring it because I'm_not_afraid_to_die. Your dealing with a person who is not thinking like everyone else, that's me and that's you too Dr. Eilers.
There is actually a positive side about it, of course I'm not talking about or referencing clinical depression that's a whole other level that needs more attention.
Cupcake is adorable and we totally don't mind their interruptions! 😊
The problem is that people use depression for normal sad feelings too... But depression is medical term where those normal feelings are not depression but feeling depressed!! So i think we also need to talk about how misusing this word cause problems and water down it's meaning and people disregard the feelings of a person who is really in depression by calling that yeah im I'm also depressed or in depression... These two terms are different and depression word is only for the mental condition.
Thank you for this video. It's so good, and I've experienced every single one of these things, up to all the examples. I'm just worried about the high and lows once I decide to have children. I can't always upkeep and stay out of depressive episodes. I wonder how over a lifetime, all this stuff can affects one's life, etc. Coupled with ADD, ADHD or whatever. It's all a lot! I worry about the health of my relationship because of my highs and lows. I can't keep any routine for too long before I fall off of them, and start getting into the anhedonia zone.
A good support network, including a professional treatment team, is key. Best of luck to you!
Cupcake's appearance and your response was a godsend.🥰 You seem to be such a good person, Dr. Scott 🥰Thank you for not editing that out.🥰
I needed that laugh!! Cupcake is sweet!
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Holy shit, alot of things are starting to make so much sense now
For the first time . I finally have the name of what is wrong with me. I thank God for this man. 🙏
Another great video. If you haven't done so already, can you discuss how self medicating with recreational drugs affects depression. Alcohol, opiods, aderol, Marijuana etc. I'm definitely guilty of using chemical help in the past to "pull me out" of depression and suicidal moods even though I realize they can do more harm in the long run. Thanks a lot for all you do doc. 👍🏽
I had no idea that my not caring if I died was a sign of depression. Thank you.
I am not entirely sure whats wrong with me. I havent been diagnosed with depression as of yet, however im seeing a therapist soon (hopefully). Ive tried to feel better- going to the gym 4x a week, cutting out social media, eating fairly healthily, practicing yoga, meditation, journalling, walking. You name it- ive tried it. It helps in the short term however i still feel shit and in turn this makes me feel hopeless in terms of "getting better" which i doubt i will ever truly be okay again. I have a relatively easy life for the most part. I am only 16 and i already believe i am a lost cause. I know this is a long one but i just needed to get this out. To everyone else in the same boat as me, you are not alone. I hope everyone else in the comments recieve the care they need.
Thank you thank you thank you for this video. Ive always wondered about the burst of negative energy. I've been diagnosed with major depressive disorder but never knew what psychomotor agitation was.😊
Thank you Thank you Dr. Eilers for presenting this invaluable information on symptoms of depression, etc. Your explanation was clear and concise! I am so glad that you will be doing more of these videos.
Thank you!
You and your daughter just snagged my subscription! This is the BEST explanation of depression that I have ever seen in me life.
THANK YOU.
Now, if only I could get off the eternal waiting lists for counsing... one year and counting....
I wish i could find a psychologist like you to work with . Im grateful i found this channel
Yes! Thank you for making this video. It can be so isolating when people don't even understand that there's something they don't understand. This is very validating.
Often u hear some influencers they say keep away from negative people.....according to them do we just dump them???
I am so happy to have found your channel. Extremely grateful for your help ❤
best depression explanation I've ever heard, I can relate to everything you said. Fortunately, I only have rather mild symptoms at the moment, but there have been really bad episodes as well.
Thank you so much, your video is so helpful i.e. to explain the condition to others.
Thanks for breaking it down man. Very helpful.
all your videos make me feel so seen and heard.
Very important video!
Glad you think so!
You missed one. Warped thinking. My talk therapist talked about it with me, helped make sense out of my life. Depression can warp your thinking so we literally don't think straight. Or reasonably. Or logically.
That's what I have the greatest problem with. About 14 years ago I started hiring someone to come in once a week to pay bills, make doctor appointments, fill out paperwork, drive me places (cause left on my own I just wouldn't go.) It's not just focus, concentration, memory -- I make bad choices.
Anything that needs doing. Helps tremendously.
As I watch your vid I think of more: Unwarranted guilt or shame. Yeah. but 2 years ago I turned 70 and decided it was no longer my responsibility to save the world. Great to be free of that.
P.S. Sorry for writing so much but ...
Sometimes the idea of suicide is what keeps me from actually committing suicide. I know that sounds odd, but the thought that there's a way out is comforting.
PLEASE, PLEASE do an episode on "mandatory reporters" and push it to schools. I worked in a state where mandatory reporting was the law but very rarely did it happen; sometimes teachers might tell their principal. The laws specifically states it must be reported to child welfare directly and there need not be a solid reason.
I had a high school student commit suicide. Turned out that since elementary school and up he'd told every teacher he was being sexually abused at home AND NO ONE DID ANYTHING.
He committed suicide.
Advise teachers not to give their names. Twice I reported and each time caught hell from the principal for not telling him first. Never mind, the kids got help. Child welfare SAID they would keep my name confidential but obviously did not.
P.P.S.
The folk tale "Little Red Riding Hood" is about sex abuse.
thank you Scott.
I neglected myself when I was caring for my mother. After she died I isolated myself as much as possible. Almost a year out I continue to have trouble with sleep. I still wake up frequently at night. I was up at every little noise my mom made. Now I'm up every 2 hours most nights. Usually, I can get back to sleep after I get some water, maybe walk around the house. If not, I drink chamomile tea, read something for 30 minutes. Lately, I feel disconnected. There has been a shift in how I feel about everything and I'm not sure if it's positive or negative. The difference is palpable.
I am sorry for the loss of your dear parents. I too isolated myself after I lost my mom and the depression hasn't gone since then. The "then" is June of 2019! Edit: I have all the issues you wrote above. I feel more depressed if I eat food everyday, so I go without it for at least a day, sometimes two. Alcohol made its second grand entry into my life. Trying to cut down on it now. Turned 47 this past December. I wish you the best.🎉
Thank you for your effort, Scott .. the way you describe everything is amazing ..
When it comes to the passive suicidal ideation, what I feel most of the time is this (I just want this feeling .. this thing to just stop), and it sucks
I had struggled with passive SI since I was a teen. Once I had actually planned SI and to be honest I often regret staying. It’s annoying how even little things can trigger emotional pain. I try to stay away from people and feel a tone of pressure when I need to talk to anyone. But this kind of existence is so exhausting.
LOVED the interruption!😻 And liked your explainations. I have had recurring depressions since my late teens and it hits hard when people believe it's a question of straighten up.
It's a joke. Not real
Thanks for your videos, I just ordered your book.
This helped me understand depression . Thank you.
I'm glad I watched this. Now I can say with certainty that I do have depressive episodes. I think I've experienced most of the things you talked about.
No wonder the self-help books have never helped me much for very long. I always end up feeling like I'm just not trying hard enough. 😐
Thanks, Doc. By the way, Cupcake looks a lot like my Sonja. She went to kitty heaven a few years ago. 🌈
Incredible. Your ability to truly explain the variables of depression. > I lost my career job @ 62. I expected to continue for life as i really enjoyed enjoyed the atmosphere, friends, routes, passengers and the structure, purpose and identity i enjoyed. I went into horrible depression, with anxiety, and insomnia. All are horrible. I no longer enjoy any aspect of life. You've explained anhidonia, now i know why All thing's i used to enjoy, i don't. Also ,... my ability to feel emotions went flat. ( even sadness, unable to cry, and love feeling isn't there, etc). Passive Suicide ideation too, I've been feeling so down 24/7 .. im unable to accept my altered life., i no longer can enjoy anything at all. I isolate and don't want communication with friends, family, neighbors. With this horrible insomnia, really is making my mental and physical health worsen. My life isn't fun in anyway anymore..... i wish this all didn't happen to me,.. i always dwell on how this all could have been prevented .... and that is torturing!, because it all could have. Pls. help me... 🙏