Colossal: Or How I Learned to Stop Stressing and Drop Bad Friends

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  • @tylerthell4957
    @tylerthell4957 3 ปีที่แล้ว +952

    Jason Sudekis was one of the best casting in the past decade for a friend who is secretly toxic. I see him in a movie and prepare myself for a fun loving, wholesome dad-like figure.

    • @trinaq
      @trinaq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      Precisely, you normally think of Sudekis as a fun loving, yet amicable slacker, so it was genius to cast him as the main antagonist!

    • @D9992.
      @D9992. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Exactly, I was definitely tricked at the beginning especially that I just watched the movie now, and in my mind he is Ted Lasso.

    • @CaseyfromKentucky
      @CaseyfromKentucky 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I love him so much that I completely forgot he was bad in this movie 😂

    • @maggie5990
      @maggie5990 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Bo Burnham in Promising Young Woman is another good one

    • @shaz5200
      @shaz5200 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@maggie5990 I was just thinking about that film. All of the casting was excellent for this reason.

  • @GoldDoubloons_
    @GoldDoubloons_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +826

    "Kindness w/o honesty is manipulation" yooooo I didn't think I'd see that in effect so soon after reading that quote

  • @elleliteracy
    @elleliteracy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +958

    i haven't seen this film but had no idea a godzilla-type monster film could be so deep about loneliness... brb gonna watch

    • @trinaq
      @trinaq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Definitely, there's so many poignant themes and messages in the movie that initially pass you by!

    • @adejareojo
      @adejareojo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🕞33⏰minutes🆕Record⚠🆒💡

    • @JediCoati
      @JediCoati 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Can I send you the essay I wrote on the original Godzilla film for my early japanese cinema class last semester?

    • @psychemass3448
      @psychemass3448 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      then you should watch neon genesis evangelion

    • @MrDwaters88
      @MrDwaters88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's so fucking food. I watched this strictly because I like kaiju stuff. And man when the plot hits halfway through it's a fucking tense scene.

  • @weebamcentire28
    @weebamcentire28 3 ปีที่แล้ว +441

    Also interesting that the 2 white American characters are the embodiment of these destructive forces tearing through South Korea to settle something between the 2 of them that is only resolved when Gloria's monster leaves Korea and Gloria as a person enters it.

    • @RobinTheBot
      @RobinTheBot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      That's a pretty fucking powerful statement on government intervention lol

  • @Natalie-xq6dj
    @Natalie-xq6dj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +306

    Speaking of toxic relationships, what you said about gift giving...
    I remember one of my (ex)friends bought me Fenty makeup for my birthday, then whenever they wanted me to do things for them they would bring up said $45 makeup.
    That was definitely a red flag for me, you shouldn’t give gifts expecting something in return. Gift giving is a selfless act.

    • @dianakarol1134
      @dianakarol1134 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I definitely think using the gifts as blackmail to “friends” is toxic. But I think when you give a gift to someone that shows you care about them and you realize that they will never do the same for you it is okay to be saddened and upset by that. At that point you should leave that person and find people who will do those things for and with you.

  • @karolineCPH
    @karolineCPH 3 ปีที่แล้ว +330

    I broke up with my "best friend" in 2018 - went through guilt, sadness and a lot of anger, but today I feel light as a feather. Life is really too short for people who only love themselves. Now excuse me while I go watch Colossal!

  • @trinaq
    @trinaq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +295

    I actually really enjoyed this movie, and it works as a metaphor to drop toxic friends who only serve to drag you down. I also thought it was interesting that Tim and Oscar, Gloria's ex and prospective new beau, have similar hair and beard styles, as well as controlling tendencies.

  • @maevemonroe
    @maevemonroe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +199

    I love it when film criticism starts out with an article on neurobiology. A+

  • @cherrybepsi
    @cherrybepsi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +220

    a movie about using your kaiju alter ego to navigate the unhealthy relationships in your life can be something so personal....... also the idea that having no friends is better than having bad friends seems so simple yet it's kinda blowing my mind because i've definitely held onto terrible relationships out of a fear of not wanting to be alone before. anyway, loved the video and analysis!!

  • @thedaydreamgallery
    @thedaydreamgallery 3 ปีที่แล้ว +523

    I don't trust people who don't like Anne Hathaway!!
    She's an amazing actress.✨

    • @trinaq
      @trinaq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Seconded, Anne acts brilliantly in the movie, and it's definitely one of her most underrated performances!

    • @thedaydreamgallery
      @thedaydreamgallery 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@trinaq yes!!! She deserves more recognition.

    • @ernestparham47
      @ernestparham47 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      She is have you seen her in the movie havoc that was one of my favorite movies ❤️❤️❤️🙌

    • @user-mb9nm7bq5e
      @user-mb9nm7bq5e 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Remember when she was hated by the media around the time she was in les mis? Never got why

    • @thedaydreamgallery
      @thedaydreamgallery 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@user-mb9nm7bq5e same! It made no sense

  • @gnalkhere
    @gnalkhere 3 ปีที่แล้ว +221

    wow perfect timing i cut out my best friend of 7 years a couple weeks ago and I feel free.

    • @marisacohen93
      @marisacohen93 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I know what that's like. I hope you're doing okay and I'm happy you finally get to feel free

    • @fernanda5487
      @fernanda5487 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I hope you're doing okay! It's hard sometimes but u gotta stay firm knowing you did the best for yourself

    • @gnalkhere
      @gnalkhere 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Thanks. I'm feeling alright, like there's 1 less daily texts from someone and less birthday presents but also less unprecedented banter, less TMI, less unfiltered oversharing, less walking on eggshells. It feels good

  • @workinprogressdotdotdot
    @workinprogressdotdotdot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    this is so topical for me right now. I don't even like my current friends anymore and they don't really like me. we're just a few lonely people complaining to each other about our depressions. being friends with them feels...empty. and yet it's less scary than a complete loneliness.

    • @PSL_Lover2024
      @PSL_Lover2024 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      After and during quarintine I realized what little friends I actually had... not many people would text me or check up with me. Social media is a lie.

  • @PsycheAi
    @PsycheAi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    Sometimes I’m not sure if I was the toxic friend or if my friends were toxic to me.

    • @cl0thes0ff
      @cl0thes0ff 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      It often is both

    • @marad786
      @marad786 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@cl0thes0ff Yes! A toxic friendship can be like unhealthy romantic relationships - in that it often brings out the absolute worst side in both parties 😔✌️

    • @milky4367
      @milky4367 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      dude you're speaking my language right now, i've been through the exact same thing and it sucks.

    • @ruaoneill9050
      @ruaoneill9050 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Going through this right now

    • @lesbiangoddess290
      @lesbiangoddess290 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same. That's what therapy is for

  • @jonginisholy
    @jonginisholy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    My "best friend" for 12 years just ditched me like it was nothing back in 2018. As horrible as she was, it hurt so much when she just stopped talking to me after we graduated high school. I always think im over it, but then i catch myself thinking back and noticing all the toxic things she would do and how i was always so naive and never questioned any of that.

    • @marad786
      @marad786 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I can relate to your experience! Due to covid restrictions not permitting unecessary travel, I didn't see one of my oldest friends for several months. Instead of being reasonable, she got personally offended and cut me off at the beginning of 2021. Since being rudely removed from all contact with her I've reflected upon our friendship... and the more distance is put between us, the more I realize she wasn't ever a real friend to me. Since our teenage years she'd stolen from me, used me, chipped away at my confidence, ordered me around and mocked me. When they say " better alone than in bad company" its no lie 😳

    • @jonginisholy
      @jonginisholy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@marad786 "better alone than in bad company" wow i don't think I have heard that phrase before.

  • @annawars6054
    @annawars6054 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    I'm unstable, so I mostly become the problematic part of a relationship. When I get to that point, I just pick myself up, turn around, and I throw me out of their lives lol

    • @astoldbynickgerr
      @astoldbynickgerr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I do that too :(

    • @Maple_loop222
      @Maple_loop222 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Omg !! Never related soooo much with a comment before !!!!

    • @Grace-he8qn
      @Grace-he8qn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      SAME

    • @maratamara5591
      @maratamara5591 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Now that's self awareness!

  • @CimoreneTheRebel
    @CimoreneTheRebel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    I don't know a single person who watched this movie and its always been so frustrating because the ending of chucking an abusive man right into the ocean is so so good and I want more movies to end that way.

  • @bichiAllen
    @bichiAllen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    The day I cut ties with my so-called best friend since highschool, was such a freeing day, I felt lighter, she always belittled me and gave mme backhanded compliments to keep me in "my place" but I only realized when I was finally away from her.

    • @marisacohen93
      @marisacohen93 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      there should really be some sort of support group for this. People who don't experience this don't take it as seriously when its not a romantic relationship, but in my experience, its worse when its a best friend.

    • @bichiAllen
      @bichiAllen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@marisacohen93 it really is and it even feels like a deeper wound. There really should be a support group for it

    • @marad786
      @marad786 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I experienced this! I recently stopped talking to an old friend and it's amazing how putting distance between myself and her has made me realize all the cute little ways she used to enjoy making me insecure. When we were 13 she told me she liked me enough that when she was "rich and famous" she'd buy me a "nice nose"........ I had never mentioned being insecure about my nose 😔✌️

    • @marisacohen93
      @marisacohen93 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@marad786 that is a terrible thing for someone to say to a friend! Even if you did say you were insecure about your nose, that wouldn't have been okay. I'm glad you were able to distance yourself from them.

  • @ColorMeIn
    @ColorMeIn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Because sometimes the alternative too bad friends isn’t always good friends, sometimes it’s just no friends at all.
    Lol that line just hit me like a ton of bricks. I dropped my *entire* group of “friends” in 2017 after realizing they never valued my companionship to begin with. It’s horrible to feel that completely alone. I wouldn’t wish it on anybody.

  • @anishinaabae
    @anishinaabae 3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    this is one of my favourite movies almost nobody has seen. my partner and i were initially drawn in by kaiju knowing nothing else about the movie and were pleasantly surprised with the plot! right off the bat we felt uneasy with jason's character but because a lot of movies play these dynamics off as genuinely romantic, we weren't sure how to watch the film.
    and then the mask finally came off, and we both breathed a sigh of relief!
    thanks again for another interesting video! i'm happy to see that people in the comments are adding this to their watchlist.

  • @PantsOHara
    @PantsOHara 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I watched this movie based on the monster concept alone and was so pleasantly surprised by its deep storyline. I can't believe how few people talk about how great it is. I'm so glad you decided to tackle this.

    • @clautastic9186
      @clautastic9186 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Right? Same here. Seems like most of youtubers focus more on making video essay about problematic movies or characters ignoring films that have good messages, like this one.

  • @DCMarvelMultiverse
    @DCMarvelMultiverse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    The quarantine was heaven sent for me. I needed a break from people because that was killing me and not the lack of social bonds. My job was nothing but people and connections all the time. Now I have lost weight, have savings, and no one talking to me or wanting something. No more drama at work, no more gaslighting from co-workers, and no more "no end in sight." The pandemic saved my life.

    • @HanQ28
      @HanQ28 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Omg the weight loss after losing toxic people in one's life. That (plus more savings) happened to me too. I have some toxic family members and friends who were very discouraging and manipulative for the longest time.
      Even after the lockdown in my city ended, I found myself almost instinctively saying "no thanks I'm busy with work" to all of them when they invited me to have dinner or whatever. I'm not that busy. But I'd rather stay at home or go out on my own than staying with people who I strongly dislike.
      And now after a year of self-isolation and 100% focus on work and relaxation at home, although it gets lonely sometimes, I've just been sleeping better, naturally losing weight, having much less mood swings, and having far less gaslighting negative voices in my head telling me that I'm doing this wrong or that wrong.
      Funny how my life gets so much better after blocking out all those people who "cared" about me and loved to tell me how to live my life the "RIGHT" ways.

    • @lesbiangoddess290
      @lesbiangoddess290 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      No but literally. But my mental health has been really bad lately. But that's just me

  • @autumn7809
    @autumn7809 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Interestingly, I've always chosen to dip out on shitty people instead of putting up with them, even in adolescence. I think it's helped by the fact that I tend to isolate myself unhealthily and am an incredibly guarded person. It comes with plenty of other problems, but hey, at least I didn't have to put up with shitbags in high school.

  • @Sb-kx9ne
    @Sb-kx9ne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    I have a family friend who was in this rlly toxic friendship with her best friend. It quite horrible, especially because that friend's dad and the other girl's mum eventually started an affair. I kept telling her to just cut her off, but I guess it's not quite that easy and maybe I was inconsiderate. They did eventually stop being friends

  • @iheartsinging123
    @iheartsinging123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Although I haven't seen the movie, lockdown restrictions really helped me understand the meaning of loneliness and how its more so a state of mind as opposed to objective reality! This is definitely going to the top of my "movies to watch while my city is still shutdown" list

  • @bafbaas1210
    @bafbaas1210 3 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    The hard thing is ussualy nobody is "the bad friend". They are in some ways and Some ways not and you learn to either cope with the bad traits, or adress them or totally cut them loose but the thing is because you're not perfect yourself and theyre not fully evil, no choice wil be fully satisfactory.

    • @sweetie_babie
      @sweetie_babie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      I agree with you, but in the case of the character Oscar, he is definitely the bad friend. That's what makes it so insidious. Someone who consistently gaslights and manipulates you the way he is shown to do to Gloria, doesn't just have "some bad traits you have to decide to deal with", it's an ingrained toxic and sometimes even abusive behavior that often takes a lot of therapy to undo. Constant manipulation like what is shown should never be "put up with" (which is sorta what your comment implies but I don't think you meant it that way, just wanted to leave my two cents). I just want to say that because I had a best friend just like Oscar. The sad news of it is, even if you know the trick -- that doesn't mean you won't fall for it.
      It was super satisfactory to cut her off though. I know she had her reasons, but it was one of the first steps I took in learning to love myself and put myself first. Definitely cut people off if they are "bad friends", that means they're not meant for you.

    • @MiYu-mn4km
      @MiYu-mn4km 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Perfect comment.

    • @Ilikefrogs..
      @Ilikefrogs.. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      If you think there are no "bad friends" you might be the bad friend yourself. One of the common traits of a bad friend is twisting situations to make the other person feel equally culpable for your own bad behaviour.
      Just because no person is "fully evil" doesn't mean that their actions can't be.

    • @cutienerdgirl
      @cutienerdgirl 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No. There are definitely bad friends in life. Some people are so insidiously manipulative and project their insecurities onto other people, like Oscar.

  • @hila7404
    @hila7404 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    “Because sometimes the alternative to bad friends isn’t just good friends. Sometimes it’s just no friends at all”
    I would have never known that there’s so much depth to a movie that was advertised so slap-stickly.
    Time and time again you find a way to make thematic ideas in movies so heart-wrenchingly familiar and relatable to everyone. Honestly one of the best TH-cam channels out there. We love you Yhara!!

  • @bridgetspector6703
    @bridgetspector6703 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I’m so happy to see more people appreciating this film! Watched it the year it came out & loved it but haven’t heard of anyone else who’d seen it until now

  • @courtney1329
    @courtney1329 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    When I heard about the gift giving a lightbulb went off in my head about my abusive ex and how he used to shower me with gifts and damn, for the millionth time, glad I got out of that relationship. Also great video once again Yhara!!!

  • @christinemichellle
    @christinemichellle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I had a friend that I was incredibly close too for years. But she'd randomly cut me off and say the reason was because I said something that hurt her. When I asked her what I said she would never tell me. So I started getting really paranoid about what I said not to in my her but to everyone in my life. Shed still have times where shed cut me off and I knew I didn't say anything because I had become so paranoid about what I was saying. I finally realized she just liked doing that ti me and playing the victim and making me look bad. So I catcher out of my life. It's been a few years and I have been in therapy since to try and trust that I'm not secretly a bad person that says hurtful things without even knowing. Im slowing having more trust in myself and building strong relationships with lots of wonderful and loving ppl

    • @PsycheAi
      @PsycheAi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wow! Yeah. I’m having almost the exact same issues here. That’s what I’m trying to work through in therapy myself. Thank you for putting in words. I hope the work is going well so far.

  • @Rozdlc
    @Rozdlc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I remember I had a friend who helped me out of a funk just like Anne Hathaway in the movie. She wasn't awful, but she wasn't great. She would stop talking to me without warning only to suddenly appear whenever something big happened. First time she told me she had moved but was back and pregnant. Like, when did you move?? Second time I was feeling salty that she ghosted me again, but then she texted that her husband left a few days after the baby was born and I couldn't just not respond after that.
    I ended up babysitting her kid and it was alright. Though she would complain to my sister instead of me directly about things she didn't like.
    Then I got a housekeeping job and told her I wasn't going to be able babysit anymore. Never called me back after that. My sister asked what happened and when I explained, she said.
    "Some people only want to see you when they need you. "
    It really hit home after that. The friend messaged me on Facebook awhile later, but at that point I was done.

  • @standanddeliver24
    @standanddeliver24 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Thank you for doing an analysis of this film. It’s such an underrated gem.

  • @P-P-Panda
    @P-P-Panda 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I like how in the closed captions you put “ red flag “ when he told her about stealing the keys lol

  • @marisacohen93
    @marisacohen93 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    That moment you start crying because you genuinely relate to a monster movie 🤪 seriously though, I have my past with emotionally abusive narcissistic friends just like this, and I can tell you, this is ACCURATE.

  • @rampion1228
    @rampion1228 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Not me watching Colossal as soon as I had time specifically so that I could watch this video without getting spoiled

  • @Littlestraincloud
    @Littlestraincloud 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Yhara back at it again with appreciating and analyzing underrated gems. Every video essay you put out is a gift. Bless.

  • @sweetpeabee4983
    @sweetpeabee4983 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've been the bad friend too often; I still regret it a lot. But...watching this video, I'm starting to be unsure that it's always been me. Got used to thinking about myself as the bad guy, but based on the picture painted of Oscar here, parts of that sound an awful lot like someone I used to be close friends with. I think this movie goes to the top of my watch list now.
    Sorry to overshare; thanks Yhara, as ever, for thoughtful recs! 🧡

  • @chibiktsn3
    @chibiktsn3 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your video reminded me of why I love this movie, and I actually rewached it with my husband who had never seen it last night.
    Another thing I love about this movie is the metaphor of how people who deal with addiction sometimes think they are only harming themselves because they can't see the other people they are hurting. Gloria doesn't know at first she is harming people, she has no connection to them. When she realized her addiction isn't only harming her, but hurts others, she accepts responsibility for her actions and fights her addiction to protect others.

  • @zayansayed1060
    @zayansayed1060 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I’ve always loved this film but no one ever talked about it. I’m so glad It’s being recognized for how awesome it is. Love this analysis ❤️

  • @CheziahKatt
    @CheziahKatt 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I was just about to message someone who is so incredibly bad for me, out of loneliness.
    Thanks! 💕💕

    • @marad786
      @marad786 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah, this video dropped exactly when I needed to hear its message most ❤️✌️

  • @beck5401
    @beck5401 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I cut out pretty much all of my friends in the past few months because they were toxic to me, and I'm not close with anyone right now. I feel very lonely, but I'm happier and feel less anxiety about pleasing others than I ever have before. It's nice to feel reassurance that I'm not being unfair in cutting toxic people in my life, and I am better off alone than in bad company.

  • @adejareojo
    @adejareojo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    That Dr. Strange love reference💯🚀🔧🌇🌚💤

  • @AndieZhang
    @AndieZhang 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    omg i'm so excited i love this movie and it's so underappreciated!! i think it was marketed incorrectly and the trailers didn't do it justice but it's just so good honestly

  • @TheNumnutRandomness
    @TheNumnutRandomness 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hearing you give the surface summary of the first half of the movie _really_ reflects the whole "deconstructed romcom" structure. Like, how many times do we get in those 'city girl moves back home to the country (then learns the true meaning of Christmas)' movie where the male lead just inserts himself into her life b/c "he knows better"? The girl learns a lesson in humility and priorities, and the guy... learns how to get over his ex-fiancee.
    But, like, how easy is it to be manipulated when you have no support where you came from? And how easily would it be to latch onto the first person to show you "unconditional kindness"?
    Definitely will be checking out this movie in the future. As usual, loved the hell out of this video.

  • @DCMarvelMultiverse
    @DCMarvelMultiverse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I dumped some toxic friends many times over. I keep them at a distance now. I was torn over it. And now I am better off. Same with family. Despite being by myself, I am free.

  • @dardardarification
    @dardardarification 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This video felt like a personal call out post to me from life itself. Thank you.

  • @bbrbbr-on2gd
    @bbrbbr-on2gd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This and Wisecrack uploading a video about friends, great timing.

  • @Ladyknightthebrave
    @Ladyknightthebrave 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Another incredible video!!!

  • @ShivamSharma-ve4dy
    @ShivamSharma-ve4dy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    How you keep churning out such quality content is a mystery to all of us.

  • @AveryTalksAboutStuff
    @AveryTalksAboutStuff 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Here to learn about a movie I've never seen but looks great. 😊

  • @weird_f1sh
    @weird_f1sh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    It's like Evangelion but without penguins

  • @diegowushu
    @diegowushu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I absolutely loved this movie. Can't really relate to the "bad friend better than no friend" theme, as I've spent most of my time in the "no friend" camp.

  • @WeRNotAlive
    @WeRNotAlive 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great to see a video essay on this masterpiece! Colossal is one of my favorite movies of all time!

  • @toxoplasmagondi
    @toxoplasmagondi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    creepy but you have the nicest voice i've heard so far.
    Also very good video you're right about everything✨

    • @AvgJane19
      @AvgJane19 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @IntrepidFinch it's not creepy at all

    • @toxoplasmagondi
      @toxoplasmagondi 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @IntrepidFinch sounded creepy in my head when i commented this. it really isn't though

  • @JessieSamanthaEmily
    @JessieSamanthaEmily 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I do the scratching my head when I'm anxious thing. It's more like playing with the part of my hair. I cut out a best friend of 15 years in 2018 and have felt a lot better since. She was definitely one of these toxic friends that used my anxiety to manipulate me and make herself feel good.

  • @julphines
    @julphines 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    People like Oscar are the reason I have a hard time accepting gifts. Great video, I'm definitely going to watch this movie.

  • @Saycille
    @Saycille 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Need to rewatch this movie. I watched it with my parents and I remember loving it as a metaphor and my parents didn’t really get it so I just switched my opinion to theirs. Need to watch it again as an adult!

  • @watsonmelon6575
    @watsonmelon6575 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this, I've been fighting some inner turmoil on Wethersfield or not to drop a "friend" or not

  • @Spikastru
    @Spikastru 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    "Sometimes the alternative to bad friends is not just good friends. Sometimes there are simply no friends at all"
    This must be used as a mantra.

  • @RainyDayWolf
    @RainyDayWolf 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have like 5 friends left, from which I consider 3 my best friends... I'm a loner so I don't mind being alone, to be my friend your company has to really be better than me being alone... However getting rid of some people was a lot harder than others, the shared memories and all, it's also hard to admit we were wrong to call them friends to begin with. Anyway, I loved Colossal and it became one of my favorite movies instantly.

  • @clautastic9186
    @clautastic9186 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Finally someone talk about this movie!!!, I love Nacho Vigalondo's short movies and loved this one too. I think it deserves more videos and video essays. Of course it got poorly reviews, mostly from guys who expected just a kaiju movie.

    • @Ilikefrogs..
      @Ilikefrogs.. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So many great movies get bad reviews. Especially when the behaviour of toxic men is being exposed. I have to wonder about that. I remember loving Georgia Rule, Gothika and Enough, and was shocked to find out that all three movies were panned by critics.

    • @clautastic9186
      @clautastic9186 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Ilikefrogs.. totally, even the subtle criticism towards toxic male characters gets bad reviews, ugh.

  • @atomic.rabbit
    @atomic.rabbit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love the last scene of the movie so much

  • @maraneza-5370
    @maraneza-5370 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was legit terrified of Oscar when i first watched this movie
    Also i love the soundtrack by Bear McCreary (if I’m not mistaken)

  • @demonsita7931
    @demonsita7931 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Yhara for this video! I'd never heard of this movie before and it's just what I need to watch right now. Thanks for another amazing analysis, much love all the way from argentina

  • @luminousbanjo
    @luminousbanjo 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you! This movie was severely underappreciated when it came out and deserves more attention.

  • @meiday154
    @meiday154 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like that this movie is a deconstruction but that that's not ALL it is. It still has it's own point to make and isn't a deconstruction just to be a deconstruction. I like this

  • @melaniecaprio7797
    @melaniecaprio7797 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm bummed it didn't see Sudekis as the villain until way too late. It hit me like a truck. I really enjoyed this movie when I saw it! Great discussion!

  • @momegranate5115
    @momegranate5115 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was one of the most realistic movies I’ve ever seen in terms of human interactions, down to how the internet reacted to seeing the monsters, and I love it! Love the review, too!

  • @mysticangel192
    @mysticangel192 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am *SO GLAD* that you deconstructed thia movie and made a video like this because I saw this movie a little over a year ago and I swear I just thought it was a terrible film with no purpose😂

  • @nonalolagirl
    @nonalolagirl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The thing the pandemic taught me was just how sh*tty my friends are. I mean, I had already known by 2019 and planned to drop them, but somehow things managed to get even worse because the pandemic made it harder to drop them and they revealed themselves to be utter awful. Throughout it all and in spite of their behavior, I've tried to better myself because I realized how toxic and awful I was around my friends. They weren't helping me grow or to be a better person, so I challenged myself to be better and kinder. Despite having very little in my life, especially in 2020--almost no friends, no family, no partner, living in a rundown place and with a low class wage at a job I can care less about--I managed to garner the envy of my friends. Much like envy Gloria received from Oscar, despite being at the lowest point in her life. I noticed it throughout every one of my friendships, but being at complete rock bottom just made it that much louder. By the end of 2020, I couldn't believe just how bad things had gotten with everyone. I thought it was bad enough that they disappeared when they found out I had covid, but that they were getting so bad at pretending they cared about me was most upsetting of all. Anyway, this video has been a reminder to follow through with my 2019 plans. I don't need this negativity in my life anymore, now I have to figure out how to drop them because my plan to up and move isn't happening as for anothe 2 years. Anyway, thanks for sharing this message. I actually started this movie years ago and stopped before the monster stuff so I had no idea what it was truly about, so thanks again.

  • @SimplyMayaBeauty
    @SimplyMayaBeauty 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This film is an underrated gem and I've been singing its praises for a while.

  • @leslierae6416
    @leslierae6416 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    ““Because sometimes the alternative to bad friends isnt always good friends, sometimes it’s just no friends at all, sometimes we know our friends are terrible for us and we know we’d be better off without them but we tolerate them and our place with them because who wants to be alone?” Damn that hit me hard. After high school graduation(over eleven years ago, god I’m old) my boyfriend slept with my best friend and all of my other “friends” at the time knew about it and didn’t care to tell me(lots of “we didn’t want to get involved” and “it wasn’t our place” bullshit), so I spent the following year of community college alone, essentially, and you just so perfectly and concisely summed up why I made that choice, and I’m glad I did because I made waaaay better friends in college and then university then I ever had in high school. Being alone and knowing your value is always always always better then being surrounded by people who don’t value you.

  • @intelligenceparadigm4931
    @intelligenceparadigm4931 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Oh this is a treat, it's definitely the sort of film I hoped you would cover, and it's great

  • @margaretdiaz6043
    @margaretdiaz6043 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    THIS MOVIE IS SO UNDERRATED IM SO HAPPY YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT IT I NEVER SEEN ANYONE TALK ABOUT IT

  • @dictatorchan5584
    @dictatorchan5584 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love this movie and I am so happy you made this video! Your videos are always thoughtful and eloquent, something this movie deserved.

  • @hectorrobertocontrerasmiranda
    @hectorrobertocontrerasmiranda 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i had forgotten most of the plot of this movie
    Thank You!

  • @alyssafitzgerald83
    @alyssafitzgerald83 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow. Seeing this and all of the ways you casually list the narcissistic behaviors without any hesitation , I’m glad I cut the person who displayed them out of my life. The gift giving with strings part really spoke to me. I was pressured into accepting a gift from them this past Christmas due to external social pressure and upon getting home immediately donated it to the nearest charity shop. I reject the strings that could turn me to a puppet.

  • @GloryHulle
    @GloryHulle 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh wow, what an amazing review! Now I've absolutely got to watch this film, and I can't wait to look at it through the lens of your take. Your content is a special kind of awesome, and I'm so very grateful for the day I stumbled across your channel. Can't wait to see what you've got in store for us next time! Keep up the greatness. 🖤

  • @fatherdeha
    @fatherdeha 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    you're the only youtuber i have notifications on for i don't regret making that decision at all. i actually get excited for your content/film analysis.

  • @bijtmntongaf
    @bijtmntongaf 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    so true bestie

  • @ella5452
    @ella5452 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ahh you used a clip from Mary and Max- I will have to go watch again now.(highly recommend to anyone who hasn't seen it- heartbreakingly beautiful) excellent video

  • @elliel8626
    @elliel8626 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this movie is so good and was so so triggering as someone who was in a very abusive friendship at one time. this person used very similar methods to manipulate me - excessive amounts of gifts, a skewed perception of my perception of them, an obsession with knocking me down a peg, ideally in public. this movie depicts my very worst nightmare and it did it justice.

    • @elliel8626
      @elliel8626 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      my only criticism here is that i wouldn't call their relationship toxic, i'd call it abusive.

  • @sarahcrispin9325
    @sarahcrispin9325 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow, this was very thought provoking! I love your videos Yhara! Your observations and points of view are so interesting and all the effort and research you put in to put out good content is very much appreciated. Keep up the good work 👏🏼♥️

  • @reinheart
    @reinheart 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    oh my gosh, I love this film! ❤️I'm so happy you made a video about it

  • @beth387
    @beth387 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video hit a little closer to home than I was expecting...

  • @Yullible
    @Yullible 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    i love your channel, the topics you cover and the mood you set.

  • @hshoustontx
    @hshoustontx 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed this. I love you. Thank you. ❤️

  • @MissXHiem
    @MissXHiem 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    i stumbled across this film in the middle of addiction recovery and its become like a semi annual watch for me- everything about the writing and acting is so real and relatable
    this video is rly incredible, it really captures the message and themes of the movie and your editing and voice work is lovely!!

  • @arajackson
    @arajackson 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just wanna say I really appreciate your work. I love your editing, your humor is perfectly niche (I think I'm exactly your age haha), and I wanted to let you know how much I enjoy watching what you put out. Keep it up! You're an inspiration.

  • @ms42662
    @ms42662 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    A very underrated film and I'm glad we are discussing it!!!!

  • @CoCreation.with.Qualia
    @CoCreation.with.Qualia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I remember being really moved by the film; your analysis reminded me about it & almost made me cry in a good way!

  • @bunniirawse
    @bunniirawse 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank you for this ! haven't watched colossal yet, but will now.
    everything you described reminds me of the past few years of my life and just helps reinforce to me that leaving the bad friends and situations was / is the better choice.

  • @fernanda5487
    @fernanda5487 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I got this notification and ran to watch the movie before I watched your video bc the title really grabbed me. I recently cut a friend with whom I had a terrible relationship, is hard but it was needed and I like to think I'm better now. Thank you for this video and for showing me such a lovely movie 🥺

  • @missingnia
    @missingnia 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This movie triggered the ever-loving fuck out of me. I saw it by myself in theaters since it was heavily advertised as a sci-fi comedy. It's the reason I spoil every movie and show for myself before I watch them now... But it's the only film that I've seen to truly capture the absolute betrayal of gaslighting by those closest to you.
    Ironically the first person I texted after leaving the theater sobbing was a friend who'd confided in me that she'd also been ab*sed - years later we'd find out she had been scamming all of us and literally every detail of her life was fabricated to manufacture empathy.
    Anyway!!! Thank you for making this. I've never been able to get this movie out of my head. I'm glad to finally see someone talk about how chilling and moving it actually was.

  • @darkest.diamond
    @darkest.diamond 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The sound of your voice makes me *finally* understand why ASMR is a thing. 😍

  • @sabrinakimba
    @sabrinakimba 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes!! So glad someone remembers this flick, went on my own to see in theaters and it's totally stuck with me. Hope it gets more recognition as time goes on...

  • @Nicolesid1
    @Nicolesid1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I've been catching up on your videos and thought this movie would totally be up your alley.

  • @unreasonablyagreeable1081
    @unreasonablyagreeable1081 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this video and the movie, were absolute fire.
    props, friend!!

  • @Xenofauna
    @Xenofauna 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Already loved this channel but seeing this excellent essay on the best giant monster movie of the last 20+ years was really next level. ♡

  • @florencia2033
    @florencia2033 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm really enjoying your videos a lot, great job!

  • @welcometoeskastudios
    @welcometoeskastudios 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed this. Thanks so much for a wonderful video! ❤️