TIM GUNN tells all in this VERY candid podcast interview about life, love + Runway judges

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  • #TimGunn - your favorite #fashion and style mentor, gets cozy and candid with Kara. He dishes on so much, you'll hardly believe your ears. He reveals how he REALLY feels about the #ProjectRunway judges, what he does in the privacy of his own home, family troubles, how he feels about being single, and what he hopes will happen on Project Runway. It's like a therapy session - or an intimate chat between old friends.
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  • @pinkfairy1557
    @pinkfairy1557 6 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    This is basically like listening to a tim gunn therapy session. It's fascinating!

    • @pinkfairy1557
      @pinkfairy1557 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I also really respect his outlook and opinions. He values the fashion on the show more than the fame and the "reality tv" aspect of it. Much respect.

    • @v.a.carter5406
      @v.a.carter5406 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Don't you just love him?! I know I do!!

    • @laurab9867
      @laurab9867 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree. I do admire Tim and it's good to learn about 'the man.' However, this is interview is uncomfortable to listen to in parts. He was very gracious but honestly, I question the interviewer's judgment.

  • @lorettabrail9441
    @lorettabrail9441 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    The fact that Kara does not interrupt and take over the conversation makes this so enjoyable!

  • @Ursaminor31
    @Ursaminor31 6 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    This is fascinating, and I want to give him a hug because I know how strong and yet fragile he is, how he has sustained abuse in the past and I understand him. Such a unique man

  • @nubbyrose
    @nubbyrose 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    “Point of order, point of order!” That’s so funny and so Tim Gunn. That would have made for a totally excellent TV moment. I would have loved to have seen Zac Posen’s face. What do you mean I can’t look at clothes close up? It’s like telling someone they can look at the car but don’t look under the hood to see if it has an engine. Tim Gunn is the heart and soul of the show.

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      🎯👏👏👏

    • @alliinwonder9675
      @alliinwonder9675 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love that they started looking at the clothes up close, however, the way Zac molests the clothes and models on the show grosses me out every time. Especially when it’s not a model and it’s a family member of the designers or regular women who don’t do this as a job and regularly get poked and prodded. This insight was interesting and I’m glad my instincts about him were right.

  • @grittykitty50
    @grittykitty50 6 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    That was a good interview. You asked questions and let your guest answer them in his own time without interrupting. Tim obviously trusted you enough to dish some serious dirt on things he feels strongly about. Kara, you did an excellent job and I enjoyed the interview thoroughly.

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      grittykitty50 thank you for this, you made my day 😃 Really, really appreciate the feedback and super happy you enjoyed listening. I hope you subscribe to the podcast & check out my other interviews on ReallyFamousPodcast.com (24 celebs & counting 🎧🌟🎉). If you listen, I genuinely welcome your feedback so please don’t be a stranger, keep in touch! 👍🎬🎯

  • @Shahrizade
    @Shahrizade 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Please do another Tim Gunn interview! This was such a pleasure to listen to

  • @barbarashikiar6
    @barbarashikiar6 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you for explaining Ashley's unbelievable win. I was amazed and horrified at her victory. I am a plus size and I would never wear her designs. Love you Tim Gunn. You are the best. Loved the interview.

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He's so candid, I just love it. He has always been very supportive of honoring plus size women, it's wonderful. Happy you enjoyed our interview!

  • @bronxbear8126
    @bronxbear8126 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Mr. Gunn. as always, reveals himself to be a very worthy man of substance and character, and it is indeed a matter of privilege and delight to experience this via the far beyond capable and worthy wit and sensibility the host brings to the endeavor. Thanks to all who've made this experience possible.

  • @katebc9148
    @katebc9148 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Tim Gunn is a class act. Love his honesty.

  • @manifestdigitalagency
    @manifestdigitalagency 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Love Tim Gunn. It takes some strong spirit to be in the limelight like this and not become an utter idiot who's all ego. He is true to himself and a wonderful person. I got interested in him when I was trying to learn more about style, but now that I see the person behind the clothes, he is a wonderful human being as well. Thank you for this interview.

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree, Talulah. Tim is really something special. Glad you enjoyed our talk!

  • @oliviagarrison2087
    @oliviagarrison2087 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Tim Gunn is a national treasure! I can’t believe I’m just finding your podcast. This interview is just fabulous. You are an amazing interviewer and allow your guests to open up completely without prodding. So wonderful!

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  ปีที่แล้ว

      Welcome, Olivia! I appreciate your feedback and I’m happy to have you on board!

  • @OrleneE
    @OrleneE 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    this is incredible, i love how frank he his. its so bloody refreshing!

  • @audreysmith6052
    @audreysmith6052 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am right on board with him with respect to gifts. I have never before heard someone convey exactly how I feel about this very thing!

  • @jimbo91262
    @jimbo91262 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tim Gunn is the best. So honest and forthcoming. Such a breadth of fresh air!

  • @xoxoamazingful
    @xoxoamazingful 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Just finished season 14 and it's satisfying to hear him say exactly what I was thinking about why Ashley won 👀

  • @Alexa-oi4ml
    @Alexa-oi4ml 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I could listen to Tim talk all day! Such an interesting person!

  • @wesleynicholls
    @wesleynicholls 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    He doesn't like receiving gifts because he doesn't want to feel obligated to reciprocate.. I can respect that.

  • @EmilyKresl
    @EmilyKresl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love how no one skips a beat even with sirens in the background. How new York. Next time get Tim to talk about any of his books! Have you heard his Vivian Vance story❤️😆?

  • @lovethyneighbour8287
    @lovethyneighbour8287 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This is how an interview should be

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amazing! I did many more like Tim's - if you subscribe to Really Famous - bit.ly/rfamous - you can listen to all my interviews for free -- with celebs like Daymond John, Chazz Palminteri, Michael Rapaport, Aida Turturro, Michael McKean and others.Thanks for commenting!

    • @lovethyneighbour8287
      @lovethyneighbour8287 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Really Famous Podcast I subscribe with pleasure and praise you for your highly enjoyable and professional work. I have a passion for listening to interviews but they disappoint me most of the times. The interviewers are too often clearly ignorant about the person they deal with. A lot of them are interested in being themselves in the center of attention or they are not really interested in the answers they get, therefore they interrupt their guest all the time. Some of them just do a silly and superficial work. Others are coldly detached and cannot make the guest feel at ease and willing to give something real to the audience. You created the atmosphere of an intimate dialogue between two persons , not two fake public personae. Surely the exquisite Gunn contributed to this with his own unique personality, but you seem driven by the sincere will of trying to penetrate a soul. Even to help him: I perceived a sweetness from your attitude towards him. Sorry for the lenghth of this comment (and I hope for you that my English is ok!), but I think that a job so delighfully well done deserves all the words that are necessary. Best wishes to you and thanks for your comment.

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is fabulous to hear, Love Thyneighbour -- thank you! What you think is exactly right. I am truly interested in who I interview and love to help if I can. Thank you again for subscribing and listening. I'm not sure where you're from, but your English is very good!

    • @lovethyneighbour8287
      @lovethyneighbour8287 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Really Famous Podcast thank you and greetings from Italy. :)

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Italia! Bella!

  • @leslijones4443
    @leslijones4443 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How about “Generous fashion” show?
    I am so glad he wants to represent all women! Lovely, gracious , thoughtful man and so incredibly talented.

  • @ballet07
    @ballet07 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Mr.Gunn is facinating.🤭🤫😏🤗

  • @RichLux713
    @RichLux713 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    love tim gun

  • @sandrasykes3026
    @sandrasykes3026 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you, Tim, for saying ALL sizes should be in the same place!

  • @frickteung
    @frickteung 6 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I love Tim Gunn more.

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I know, right? What's not to love? The more I know Tim, the more I adore him. If you can swing over and rate & review the interview, I'd be super appreciative! - www.reallyfamouspodcast.com/rate-and-review/ Thank you!!!!

    • @frickteung
      @frickteung 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm missing him in the new Project Runway so I didn't even bother watching it.

  • @susansheldon2033
    @susansheldon2033 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    What a great interview. A wonderful conversation with an intelligent interviewer and a candid, thoughtful guest. Thank you!

  • @shezug
    @shezug 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is a wonderful interview. I love that Tim opened up so much. He seems like a humble Everyman.

  • @filmpuff
    @filmpuff 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I admire you even more, Tim!

  • @ludobaker
    @ludobaker 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omg I am kinda the same way damn love this interview love it I'm crying thank you and thank you Tim gunn

  • @ripmomcovid4678
    @ripmomcovid4678 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I knew I loved Tim's style AND kindness. I had no idea he thinks just like me.

  • @vincenowell9172
    @vincenowell9172 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was great! A combo therapy, and spill the tea session. Love Tim. ❤️

  • @transcan1
    @transcan1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Came across this video after starting on a binge of Tim Gunn videos on TH-cam. Love it! Wish we could hear more about Tim's opinions on the current President and the farce of his administration. I'll bet it would be both juicy and hysterical!

  • @BuffyKNC
    @BuffyKNC 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He's awesome and candid plus has the integrity to be there that much for the designers where they don't feel he's biased with the judges.

  • @RianShafer
    @RianShafer 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was a fantastic interview. If I ever need a therapist, I'd like Kara to be it. Knowing just the right question & word... priceless! I bet Tim had a whole lot to think about afterwards because she brought out some real truths for him. Tim called a lot on the White House issues, it's in the past now being 2022. I like Tim even more now.

  • @doberchic
    @doberchic 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I developed a problem opening mailed gifts later in life. I thought I was the only one who was weird about getting gifts. It's haunted me for a long time as I'm ashamed of it and don't understand why, although Tim touched on his reasoning that I relate too.
    One thing is I'm highly disorganized and have a lot on my plate, so I feel guilty when i get gifts sent to me...

  • @ladydulaney
    @ladydulaney 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Amazing. Loved every moment of this!!

  • @9094nancyj
    @9094nancyj 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love you Tim Gunn! I love you even more after hearing this!

  • @hotram1
    @hotram1 ปีที่แล้ว

    I noticed about 20 minutes into this interview that it sounded really familiar. You re-posted this video in 2021 the first podcast with Tim, which I already watched. It was still enjoyable the second time around.

  • @EmilyKresl
    @EmilyKresl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh I've seen this before ❤️but I'll watch it again ! Thank you 😊💕 you gotta have him on again !

  • @karolyngrady6327
    @karolyngrady6327 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If I won a date w/Tim in a charity auction, I'd let him stay in his PJs watching TV, eating popcorn, w/ Michelle! Love you, Tim!

  • @v.a.carter5406
    @v.a.carter5406 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I absolutely LOVE this man's energy and sense of reasoning!!!!

  • @marymohagheghi4875
    @marymohagheghi4875 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I so sorry for your loss...... I really really respect you

  • @nmikloiche
    @nmikloiche 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I would love if I could naturally be one of these early riser types who make their bed daily.

  • @catherineblaynay
    @catherineblaynay 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Excellent interview with an excellent man.

  • @deejaytori
    @deejaytori 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love his honesty.

  • @jagilo9677
    @jagilo9677 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    The only reason I even watch the fashion show is to watch Tim Gunn. I love his professionalism and honesty

  • @lorettabrail9441
    @lorettabrail9441 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi from Alaska! Tim Gunn is the main reason I watch the runway shows. I learn so much on so many levels! I sew for plus sizes but very privately. I am always learning and since I make quilts, figured why not try sewing clothes? My idea at first was mixing tops and merging them to create a new or different look. Still like doing that! But you have been a huge influence. So has Christian whose name I cannot spell right now... He was so young when he won project runway and is so gifted. A really amazing designer. Anyway! Great interview!!!😎

  • @melissahitchcock2124
    @melissahitchcock2124 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you Tim for being honest about Ashley.I'm not trying to be mean,but the clothes were horrible.There was nothing new there.I was so put off by this season.

  • @ballet07
    @ballet07 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Yes!!! Shirt off the back-block the door! Do not cross into the inner sanctum.

  • @babyshark154
    @babyshark154 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i Love this .... Kara you are Amazing !!!

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      jayjay 154 so glad to hear it jayjay ... thank you!!! 😘

  • @ReallyFamous
    @ReallyFamous  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks for the fab feedback! I dug up more of my conversation with Tim. You can listen starting tomorrow on Patreon.com/ReallyFamous. I'll post the first bit tomorrow. It's Tim going into detail about filming the show -- the hours, what it's like, how he feels, etc. Enjoy!

  • @evelynboyles9421
    @evelynboyles9421 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Awesome Tim!!! You are awesome!

  • @judithlorimor448
    @judithlorimor448 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    wonderful interview. Hey Zac and Isaac....burrrn

  • @pagesculptor
    @pagesculptor ปีที่แล้ว

    Tim and I are kindred spirits. No gifts. No Zac. And Lord knows I want business cards that say "NO!"

  • @Plantbliss
    @Plantbliss 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’ve been rewatching the entire anthology and this is a perfect addition. I so admire Tim and 2 fat ladies are absolutely and devilishly funny!

    • @Plantbliss
      @Plantbliss 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Also if only🇺🇸

  • @gardenlover9663
    @gardenlover9663 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I loved Life on Pieces.

  • @4fatherproductions
    @4fatherproductions 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Could lissten to him for hours! :)

  • @jihncoge5655
    @jihncoge5655 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Gawd I love him

  • @JMCNYC79
    @JMCNYC79 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I totally agree, Kelly should MOST definitely have won! But you know what, Kelly is a good person and her genuine kindness and positive energy will bring tons of food to her.

  • @lorijones9579
    @lorijones9579 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Tim Gunn rocks. I adore him. I do not have his email address and we like the same books.

  • @misstigermilk
    @misstigermilk 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Tim spills some serious T! Wow!

  • @dikshaedythe6042
    @dikshaedythe6042 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mr. Gunn is spot on regarding the comparison to Rome. The question is when will it happen and can one be prepared.

    • @gemoftheocean
      @gemoftheocean 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hope you're enjoying the outrageous inflation, energy prices, and looking at dribbling Biden.

  • @v.a.carter5406
    @v.a.carter5406 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have a suggestion about the unopened Christmas presents... Don't open them ...Just pay it forward... Lets start a list and Tim send these gifts to people on the list... No questions asked. People receiving it can say Thank you to the initial presenter of the gift. Lets give it a bit of positive energy.

  • @davidestrada4915
    @davidestrada4915 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I can't believe he eats ragu out of a jar yuk ! I do like his unpretentious attitude , very refreshing for a fashion critic

  • @4fatherproductions
    @4fatherproductions 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    He IS Project Runway. He leaves - I leave!

  • @wesleynicholls
    @wesleynicholls 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Someone hurt this man really badly... And because of that he is unable to have relationships... He is afraid of being hurt, so keeps everyone away at a distance. I understand it completely.

    • @christinaky2564
      @christinaky2564 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wesley Nicholls that may be. But if he maintains that he's perfectly happy living life on his terms, then why impose on him what society deems 'normal' as far as relationships? I have a friend who has just turned 30. she's beautiful, accomplished, has a fulfilling career and a vibrant social life. Something she's never had and has no interest in having is an intimate relationship. We've all probed and tried to figure out if there is some childhood trauma to blame. She insists there isn't. A mutual friend once asked if she likes women perhaps. Her response 'there are women and men that I like, there are women and men that I don't like'
      So funny and so simple. People are different, if they are happy then why not let them be? :)

  • @terrycee8357
    @terrycee8357 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What great questions!
    Tim, I get you! A truly wonderful person !
    We differ re Trump, but that's OK. Trump was helpful.
    I wish you both well !

  • @davidestrada4915
    @davidestrada4915 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I can't believe he eats ragu out the jar yuk ! I do like his unpretentious attitude very refreshing for a fashion critic

  • @gittarollke3102
    @gittarollke3102 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why isn’t the interview visible?

    • @ReallyFamous
      @ReallyFamous  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s a podcast, audio only.

  • @davidroohy
    @davidroohy 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Starts at 1:55

  • @ReallyFamous
    @ReallyFamous  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Shop Tim Gunn's top style picks, books + more ➤ amzn.to/35lr70Q
    Thanks everyone for watching!

  • @alancoates6220
    @alancoates6220 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello.

  • @brwnbull
    @brwnbull 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    🍵 ☕️ 🫖

  • @jae5103
    @jae5103 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm still not over Kelly's robbery so this interview vindicated my feelings lol

  • @raggmopp857
    @raggmopp857 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    That "I don't have time" excuse won't work in any case. Even if they accept the reason, they'll walk away thinking, "Gosh, spending time with me is not a priority."

  • @itubeutubealltube
    @itubeutubealltube 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow, he's got some pretty big issues. Hopefully, he'll add a therapist in addition to his personal trainer.

  • @FloraWest
    @FloraWest 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh, Tim--you're still very optimistic about there being an impeachment. The House is the only body that can initiate that and their track record since the election hasn't indicated a lot of pushback against this administration. Spot on about not normalizing this, though--that is vital.

  • @ripmomcovid4678
    @ripmomcovid4678 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Is Tim a Myers Briggs INFJ?

  • @ballet07
    @ballet07 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Re: Trump- it's now 2019 and it's still going on, only worse.😑

  • @luvtohear
    @luvtohear 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What was he wanting, a President like Biden. How do you like it now?

  • @glion7792
    @glion7792 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wonder how he feels about the fool wearing the President's hat now? 2022.

  • @afringedweller
    @afringedweller 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Not surprising Mr. Gunn has the political opinions he does, since he's devoted to the NYT. I too, was a devoted subscriber, until I slowly realized the media manipulations going on. I urge you to balance out your sources, Mr. Gunn. #walkaway
    Although I believe we dodged a bullet when we ditched the Dems and git Trump, I must give a thumbs up, based on Tim's candor, making for an excellent interview.

  • @asaxearts
    @asaxearts 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Terrible questions. I like him but Who cares about unopened xmas gifts and email? Is she 12?

  • @narishaloflin9314
    @narishaloflin9314 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    WOW, Tim is one toxic, catty, bitter, old queen! How can he so viciously trash Ashley Tipton when he admits to being bullied as a child? Does he know that she actually heard his criticisms on her podcast & cried ( & later booked a session with her shrink over it)? And, Kara, was it wise of you to put this snarkiness out into the world? What kind of therapist would do this with a clear conscience? How cruel! You majorly kissed his ass in your more recent interview & made so much of his supposed "integrity". Did his conscience ever haunt him for likening Ashley to a float in a parade? Shame on him for his vituperative musings on these young, impressionaable former people he was supposed to be inspiring & lifting up! And shame on you, Kara, for providing him a forum for such vitriol. This Machine Gunn needs a really, really good therapist!

  • @backto-il9ne
    @backto-il9ne ปีที่แล้ว

    I love Tim but painting everyone else as the villain is always a red flag. The comments about Heidi were not really necessary. Mid life crisis? Really? Borderline sexist.

  • @raggmopp857
    @raggmopp857 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    That "I don't have time" excuse won't work in any case. Even if they accept the reason, they'll walk away thinking, "Gosh, spending time with me is not a priority."