Pro tip: Ask for extras of all the things at the hospital. Pads, mesh panties, witch hazel pads, dermoplast, the ice packs you put in your pants. The amazing L&D nurses will hook you up.
This only really helps if you have good insurance. An incredibly large portion of hospitals will put all the "extras" that you take in the bill that they either send you or the insurance companies. It can actually really increase the hospital bill without you knowing until well after you leave.
@@carolinatelona6156 good to know! Thank you Carolina!! I’ll be sure to tell the hospital that I don’t want any “free samples” 😂!! Lord knows this is going to cost an arm and leg as it is. Thank goodness for medicaid right now
Ive watched probably HUNDREDS of video about post partir recovery (me single and childless), and not one of them explained these things in details like you did. You are phenomenal!!! I’m making notes for my future self! 📝
Padsicles are the easiest. Just get a large sanitary pad put some aloe Vera gel, witch hazel and lavender oil- smear it on the pad and freeze it. Then place it in your underwear. Better than keeping up with those witch hazel pads and trying to keep them in place.
To anyone about to enter this stage I say, try to go to the bathroom before you address your baby. By the time you feel the “gotta go” sensation it’s an emergency situation. I rushed to the bathroom with my baby still latched more times than I care to admit 🙈
I wore the depens diapers for longer than I needed! They were honestly so comfortable and I felt so secure knowing a pad wouldn’t shift and I wouldn’t bleed all over my furniture
An inflatable donut cushion to sit on was soo helpful for me for my tear and hemorrhoids from giving birth! You can get them for like $10 on Amazon. This made me be able to sit without pain.
I'm half way through my first pregnancy at 31 years old and I feel so lost. I am so happy I stumbled along your channel. I subscribed instantly. Thank you so much!
I found the lidocaine messed up my ability to urinate lol I had to stop using it! But this video is spot on and really helped me prepare for postpartum recovery!
I will testify! The padsicles are a life saver! Witch hazel, peri bottle, pads.. all necessary. I had multiple tears & found these to be helpful. Also, ibuprofen is helpful, too 😊
Love the FridaMom products. I also found The Honey Pot herbal infused postpartum pads to be fantastic, once I was done with the giant mattress pads from the hospital! I’m 6 weeks postpartum, recovering from vaginal birth and tear. I’ve enjoyed your videos through my pregnancy and postpartum journey. Thank you Shayla!
I made the most amazing padsickles for my postpartum recovery 3 years ago. Large pad, lavender essential oils, aloe Vera and witch hazel then free it was wonderful
Other tips - dermoplast, extra cooling packs from the hospital, TAKE A 15 MINUTE BATH (no soap or anything) every day. You might have to sit on a hand towel in the water if your bottom hurts, my mom suggested “relieving myself” in the tub, tucks pads, nice always infinity pads instead of cheap puffy pads, take ibuprofen every day
Did you tear? I was so depressed and traumatized after my birth because I got a 4th degree tear and the fear of lifelong bowel, urinary and sexual issues if I didn’t heal correctly. I asked my doctor if I could have prevented it and all he said was I should have listened to him and chose induction at 39 weeks (arrive trial and I went into labor 5 days after he wanted to schedule induction for that) 🙄. He pushed that on me the entire time and made me feel like a bad mom because I didn’t want to be induced, I wanted my baby to come when she was ready. I can’t think about having another kid right now but when I do I’m definitely getting a doula because these doctors don’t understand the whole mind body connection. Just to get baby out safely. Which is great but moms loving the birth experience is so important for after baby comes because all I could think about was feeling betrayed by the doctors and the terror of sneezing or struggling to hold her and change boobs because the left boob she kept rejecting but at the same time sitting was so painful. It is insane what moms go through...I’m just grateful for my sister who has 5 kids and was there for all my crazy moments. Her reassurance was like having someone hold an umbrella and rain jacket over me in a hurricane in the middle of the ocean
So sorry for what you went thought, if you ever have another baby I hope you have a better doctor and a doula to help advocate for you. Shayla said in a different video she did tear bc of how her baby came out. But she also talks about things you can do to prevent tearing. From peoples stories I heard it sounds like a lot of the time you tear anyway, but it may reduce the severity of the tear. Wish nothing but the best for you
I had a very bad experience with my pregnancy and birth but going to a doula puts you in danger in case of complications What I suggest is to migrate and have your baby in a private hospital in a country with a good reputation.
Uhhhh... maybe this is weird, but I DO talk to my friends about this stuff. I actually give everyone I know, a can of Dermaplast (lidocaine spray) & a soft, washable ice pack to every expecting Mama, @ their baby shower. Mainly because nobody warned me, and I feel like that's just cruel. & I also give them, like, a little basket with nice lip balms, a little hand cream, some cute barrettes, eye masks, etc. I had a friend do this for me when I had my son & I cried for 10mins because I felt so "seen"- everyone gives you stuff for the baby but nobody really acknowledges that giving birth is a BIG deal for Mama, too. So it's nice to have some little self-care items.
I just stumbled across your channel and wow am I glad I did!! Your personality is so fun and very helpful info!! I’m in my early 2nd Trimester and trying to soak up all the knowledge I can!
Just putting a plug in for pelvic PT - just found your videos (looking at the travel ones) and stumbled across this one. Been a pelvic PT for a LONG TIME - let me know if you have any questions I can help with!
33 weeks today! I've been eyeing the FridaMom kits and I've had multiple friends tell me to put together a post partum bathroom kit for each bathroom. Definitely doing this!
Couldn’t agree more! You’ll likely need more than what the frida mom kit gives you so if you just skip it that’s an option too. Sounds like you’ve got great friends!
If I have a bidet do I still need the little water bottle thing? Also what's everyone's thoughts on Thinx underwear? I have a few heavy ones for period. Would I need even heavier ones and would I need a lot more than that? Or are diapers the better way to go?
Shayla - I came across your channel and LOVE it! Do you know if I can buy those diaper pad things or can you only get them in a hospital? I’m going to a birth center and they told me to bring my own pads.
And GET THE STITCHES! I was not aware that there is a chance that your tear will not heal back together. And I declined stitches... guess who's getting reconstruction surgery after her next baby??
I had to get a perineal repair also 2 years after my birth 🥴🥴. Or aka perineoplasty. But I did have tears but I did get stitches but my stitches popped and my dr didn’t want to re stitch me 🙃 So I ended up NOT healing right whatsoever and actually tore more, and the tissues didn’t come together and I got SCAR tissue. So it had to be cut out and restitched. (perineoplasty) it’s very very painful recovering. I’m 4 weeks post op but it’s worth it ! And I wish I did it sooner. Can’t wait to be fully healed and I just wanted to share with you my experience. If you got it done I would love to hear yours !
I can't find any Canadian youtubers who talk about what they packed apparently my hospital in Toronto gives you basically nothing 🥲 Thanks for the video Shayla!
@@heyshayla haha when I saw the what to bring list on the hospital website I was like what the heck. Do they even give me anything?! 🤣 I guess they don't because it's "free" here 🤷 but like they could supply the baby diapers at least? 😂
Hey Shayla. My baby went in oblique lie all of a sudden in 38th week. :'( Please help me know if I can turn it longitudinal in one weeks time. I'm crying.
Well I’m on week 15 and I’m officially traumatized 😂 oh joy! I think I should have waited until I was at the “get this thing out of me & tie my tubes” stage 😳 On a serious note, you’ve been so wonderful. I’m a new subscriber and SO overjoyed I found you. I’m going to be pretty codependent upon your channel for the next 6 months 😂 So hi new bestie, I’m nicky. You’re Kinda stuck with me as a sub now 🙃👊🏻❤️
@@heyshayla I found myself wanting several pairs of comfy pants, maybe a hoodie cuz it gets cold in there, and just enough undies and clothes for a few days just in case it's difficult to leave! I was glad I overpacked
Blog about how to recover after healing: www.heyshayla.com/how-to-heal-after-labor
Expectingandempowered.com HEYSHAYLA for $10 off!
She's the best friend we all NEED!! Thanks Shayla. xo
Seriously, I came just to say this lol I need to find me a her and befriend her.
Yesssss!!! Exactly what I was thinking too!!
Pro tip: Ask for extras of all the things at the hospital. Pads, mesh panties, witch hazel pads, dermoplast, the ice packs you put in your pants. The amazing L&D nurses will hook you up.
This only really helps if you have good insurance. An incredibly large portion of hospitals will put all the "extras" that you take in the bill that they either send you or the insurance companies. It can actually really increase the hospital bill without you knowing until well after you leave.
@@carolinatelona6156 good to know! Thank you Carolina!! I’ll be sure to tell the hospital that I don’t want any “free samples” 😂!! Lord knows this is going to cost an arm and leg as it is. Thank goodness for medicaid right now
Or if you live in Australia... Then it's all free for everyone :)
Ive watched probably HUNDREDS of video about post partir recovery (me single and childless), and not one of them explained these things in details like you did. You are phenomenal!!! I’m making notes for my future self! 📝
Padsicles are the easiest. Just get a large sanitary pad put some aloe Vera gel, witch hazel and lavender oil- smear it on the pad and freeze it. Then place it in your underwear. Better than keeping up with those witch hazel pads and trying to keep them in place.
To anyone about to enter this stage I say, try to go to the bathroom before you address your baby. By the time you feel the “gotta go” sensation it’s an emergency situation. I rushed to the bathroom with my baby still latched more times than I care to admit 🙈
I wore the depens diapers for longer than I needed! They were honestly so comfortable and I felt so secure knowing a pad wouldn’t shift and I wouldn’t bleed all over my furniture
Lol same in 3 weeks PP still wearing them
An inflatable donut cushion to sit on was soo helpful for me for my tear and hemorrhoids from giving birth! You can get them for like $10 on Amazon. This made me be able to sit without pain.
I'm half way through my first pregnancy at 31 years old and I feel so lost. I am so happy I stumbled along your channel. I subscribed instantly. Thank you so much!
I found the lidocaine messed up my ability to urinate lol I had to stop using it! But this video is spot on and really helped me prepare for postpartum recovery!
I will testify! The padsicles are a life saver! Witch hazel, peri bottle, pads.. all necessary. I had multiple tears & found these to be helpful. Also, ibuprofen is helpful, too 😊
Omg of course, I can’t even believe I didn’t say that!! Haha ibuprofen is a must thank you l
Can you say more about your tears? We’re some of them in the labia? That’s where my tear is and it’s quite painful. 4 weeks postpartum
Love the FridaMom products. I also found The Honey Pot herbal infused postpartum pads to be fantastic, once I was done with the giant mattress pads from the hospital! I’m 6 weeks postpartum, recovering from vaginal birth and tear. I’ve enjoyed your videos through my pregnancy and postpartum journey. Thank you Shayla!
I made the most amazing padsickles for my postpartum recovery 3 years ago. Large pad, lavender essential oils, aloe Vera and witch hazel then free it was wonderful
Yaaaaaaaas
So happy I watched. I wish I could find your old travel videos.
They’re on this channel!
Other tips - dermoplast, extra cooling packs from the hospital, TAKE A 15 MINUTE BATH (no soap or anything) every day. You might have to sit on a hand towel in the water if your bottom hurts, my mom suggested “relieving myself” in the tub, tucks pads, nice always infinity pads instead of cheap puffy pads, take ibuprofen every day
Where was this 20 years ago!! Shayla........you are a goddess!
Your videos are serving as informative and the humor I'm looking for to set me up to go into labor. Thanks :)
Not pregnant just yet, but your channel is so helpful and fun! I always end up smiling and learning lots! Definitely my fav youtuber by far! 🥰
Staaaaap that makes me so happy thank you!!
Did you tear? I was so depressed and traumatized after my birth because I got a 4th degree tear and the fear of lifelong bowel, urinary and sexual issues if I didn’t heal correctly. I asked my doctor if I could have prevented it and all he said was I should have listened to him and chose induction at 39 weeks (arrive trial and I went into labor 5 days after he wanted to schedule induction for that) 🙄. He pushed that on me the entire time and made me feel like a bad mom because I didn’t want to be induced, I wanted my baby to come when she was ready. I can’t think about having another kid right now but when I do I’m definitely getting a doula because these doctors don’t understand the whole mind body connection. Just to get baby out safely. Which is great but moms loving the birth experience is so important for after baby comes because all I could think about was feeling betrayed by the doctors and the terror of sneezing or struggling to hold her and change boobs because the left boob she kept rejecting but at the same time sitting was so painful. It is insane what moms go through...I’m just grateful for my sister who has 5 kids and was there for all my crazy moments. Her reassurance was like having someone hold an umbrella and rain jacket over me in a hurricane in the middle of the ocean
So sorry for what you went thought, if you ever have another baby I hope you have a better doctor and a doula to help advocate for you. Shayla said in a different video she did tear bc of how her baby came out. But she also talks about things you can do to prevent tearing. From peoples stories I heard it sounds like a lot of the time you tear anyway, but it may reduce the severity of the tear. Wish nothing but the best for you
I had a very bad experience with my pregnancy and birth but going to a doula puts you in danger in case of complications What I suggest is to migrate and have your baby in a private hospital in a country with a good reputation.
30 weeks today! so I'm greatful for the timing of you posting this because it will be fresh in my memory ☺️
I’m 30 weeks tomorrow!! 🥰
So FYI, don't try to sterilize the Frida Mom peri bottle in a microwave sterilizer... it melts.
Uhhhh... maybe this is weird, but I DO talk to my friends about this stuff. I actually give everyone I know, a can of Dermaplast (lidocaine spray) & a soft, washable ice pack to every expecting Mama, @ their baby shower. Mainly because nobody warned me, and I feel like that's just cruel. & I also give them, like, a little basket with nice lip balms, a little hand cream, some cute barrettes, eye masks, etc. I had a friend do this for me when I had my son & I cried for 10mins because I felt so "seen"- everyone gives you stuff for the baby but nobody really acknowledges that giving birth is a BIG deal for Mama, too. So it's nice to have some little self-care items.
Will you re-review your registry and what you thought you'd use vs. what you do use?
Literally added it to the list of videos to make soon!!!
I just stumbled across your channel and wow am I glad I did!! Your personality is so fun and very helpful info!! I’m in my early 2nd Trimester and trying to soak up all the knowledge I can!
Yay!!! I hope you get some good stuff!
Just putting a plug in for pelvic PT - just found your videos (looking at the travel ones) and stumbled across this one. Been a pelvic PT for a LONG TIME - let me know if you have any questions I can help with!
33 weeks today! I've been eyeing the FridaMom kits and I've had multiple friends tell me to put together a post partum bathroom kit for each bathroom. Definitely doing this!
Couldn’t agree more! You’ll likely need more than what the frida mom kit gives you so if you just skip it that’s an option too.
Sounds like you’ve got great friends!
Thank you for sharing this! I’m a FTM, due in May and am nervous about the healing after.
Your videos are the best! I’m being induced Saturday and love your content 😊
If I have a bidet do I still need the little water bottle thing? Also what's everyone's thoughts on Thinx underwear? I have a few heavy ones for period. Would I need even heavier ones and would I need a lot more than that? Or are diapers the better way to go?
did your bidet work well enough?
Shayla - I came across your channel and LOVE it! Do you know if I can buy those diaper pad things or can you only get them in a hospital? I’m going to a birth center and they told me to bring my own pads.
I’m sure Amazon sells them!
And GET THE STITCHES! I was not aware that there is a chance that your tear will not heal back together. And I declined stitches... guess who's getting reconstruction surgery after her next baby??
I had to get a perineal repair also 2 years after my birth 🥴🥴. Or aka perineoplasty. But I did have tears but I did get stitches but my stitches popped and my dr didn’t want to re stitch me 🙃 So I ended up NOT healing right whatsoever and actually tore more, and the tissues didn’t come together and I got SCAR tissue. So it had to be cut out and restitched. (perineoplasty) it’s very very painful recovering. I’m 4 weeks post op but it’s worth it ! And I wish I did it sooner. Can’t wait to be fully healed and I just wanted to share with you my experience. If you got it done I would love to hear yours !
When you talk about stool softeners, do you mean oral medicine, or enema style? Thanks!
Colace!
@@emilihansen7166 thank you!
I took oral stool softeners
@@heyshayla thank you!
Of course!!
Saving this!!! 🎉😅
I can't find any Canadian youtubers who talk about what they packed apparently my hospital in Toronto gives you basically nothing 🥲
Thanks for the video Shayla!
Omg seriously!!! I’m so sorry I would have set you up so poorly! Probably bc of the stupid amounts we pay in healthcare in the US
@@heyshayla haha when I saw the what to bring list on the hospital website I was like what the heck. Do they even give me anything?! 🤣 I guess they don't because it's "free" here 🤷 but like they could supply the baby diapers at least? 😂
Hey Shayla. My baby went in oblique lie all of a sudden in 38th week. :'( Please help me know if I can turn it longitudinal in one weeks time. I'm crying.
Have you looked up spinning babies?!
Well I’m on week 15 and I’m officially traumatized 😂 oh joy! I think I should have waited until I was at the “get this thing out of me & tie my tubes” stage 😳 On a serious note, you’ve been so wonderful. I’m a new subscriber and SO overjoyed I found you. I’m going to be pretty codependent upon your channel for the next 6 months 😂 So hi new bestie, I’m nicky. You’re Kinda stuck with me as a sub now 🙃👊🏻❤️
I was not prepared for peeing to take 20 minutes! The witch hazel pads were my favorite that I didn’t have a clue about until I was at the hospital.
Is there a video about bathing a baby?
No no video bathing :/
After learning this, I am asking myself if I really want to get pregnant.. do I really want to do this? I think I will never survive this. 😑
You will, see all have ❤️
@@heyshayla thank you. I have so respect for all the mothers out there!
I was told by a friend that tearing just feels like you’re pooping.
❤️❤️
Is your sun sign a fire sign by any chance 👀
Scorpio?
@@heyshayla a water sign! Cool ☺️
34 + 3 weeks and I am not ready for this 🙈
Tip: pack for the NICU just in case.
Oh good advice! How would you pack differently for NICU
@@heyshayla I found myself wanting several pairs of comfy pants, maybe a hoodie cuz it gets cold in there, and just enough undies and clothes for a few days just in case it's difficult to leave! I was glad I overpacked
why can I subscribe to you only once? I love your vids
Hahahah this makes me the most happy! Thank you ❤️❤️
Ugh. Why 😭 I just don't understand why...