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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ก.ค. 2024
- We've all been there, right? That terrible date where you find yourself questioning your life choices and trying to figure out how to make your escape. Well, that's us this week! Come join us as we share cringe-worthy stories of "Gaijin Hunters" and blind dates going terribly wrong in Japan.
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who had the worse date? 😦
Meng’sかな
Not being able to look at the other person’s face sounds quite uncomfortable. The other guy could have been autistic or something. I would listen to him & OK, “bye!” 👋 But I would feel bad as Meng if for whatever reason I can’t look at them 😅
I think Meng wins because of how absolutely awkward that situation would be, plus, even if it is that guy's fault that he didn't post pictures and created this expectation on his looks... still, poor dude, it's not his fault that he's ugly, he was born like that. So yeah, a shity sutuation all and all.
Andrew's date was shitty but at least I would take it as an interesting story to tell with how blunt and cold that guy was. Meng's it's just a sad story 😭😭
Andrew's, for sure. I think you can laugh about how bad the food is - it can be something to bond over. I also think it's ok to say that chemistry is impossible to predict until you meet someone in person and there's no chemistry but you're an awesome person. I think that is what Meng should have done. I have made some great friends from failed dates. Andrew's date though, OMG, leaves you feeling cold and yucky inside even just talking about it. Like, Andrew could have gone his whole life without meeting this cold, awful person.
A guy with a black hole in his gums… NPNC!!
Adrew.
In a weird way, I sort of 'respect' the blatant honesty of Andrew's date. At least, he is being upfront about his intentions and not leading people on by pretending to be in love with them. I have heard so many stories of people pretending to love someone so that the person will marry them and then they can get permanent residence in the U.S. / Canada / Europe / Australia / etc. Then, as soon as they get their permanent residence, they leave the person and that can be so painful for the person who sponsored them.
“It’s, like, very American but I see why you like it though.” - The New York Times
So bitchy... I love it
I always feel like I’m having a sit down with friends when they catch me up on their lives when you both make videos like this 😌🍵 love it
It’s so nice to see the dynamic duo again ❤
I went on a date and they “forgot” their wallet. Give me a rice crispy square any day!
You can always say "oh, what a coincidence, I forgot it too" :)
I’m kinda team bad teeth. But only because Meng chose to meet the guy without first insisting on a clear picture. I wouldn’t say bad teeth exactly catfished, because he didn’t use a fake picture and attractiveness is subjective so it is not a lie to say that some people find him attractive.
It’s nice that Meng gave the guy a chance and tried to look passed his appearance. But if the guy was really unattractive I wouldn’t have been able to pretend to like him either.
I don’t agree because he did provide written descriptions that did not align to what he actually look like. I mean the real deal is let’s quit playing games 95% of the time if they’re hiding their faces it’s for a reason that goes beyond them not being out. I don’t know what app they were using but many of them allow you to have disappearing pictures or if you try to take screenshots of it, the picture won’t appear.
Andrew, about your encounter, it reminded me a lot of how adults with autism act.
Your description of that guy sounded like you were describing a friend of mine... and your surprise with him and your advice sounded the same as the advice I gave my friend (before he was diagnosed with autism and high abilities)
Yes I have a friend who used to act very strangley and didn't seemed to be aware of the politenesses of social interaction. Years later his boyfriend was diagnozed with autism and he decided to get assessed himself and he was also diagnozed with autism and that now explains all his actions.
He didn't sound like he was on the spectrum, he sounded like he wanted a Green card, lol.
@@danieldavis3035 please give me an example of a neurotypical adult wanting a green card and an autistic adult wanting a green card.
I want to learn to differentiate them.
@@danieldavis3035 but most people with that goal wouldn't be so upfront about it on a first date. they'd do what the other example did and trick the one they married for a green card.
Hmm autistic people are not psychopathic.... This guy sounded like he didnt feel anything....
Ah, this was so fun! Ace job on the hilarious graphics, and you guys are so cute. I feel sorry for Bad Teeth Guy because he's probably still out there striking out (unless he got to a periodontist and fixed his gums lol). Meng, you were compassionate and survived the ordeal as best you could.
But you didn't even try to get to know the person. By obsessing on the teeth, you put your barrier up. Imagine a scenario where you meet a guy and you are in love with his looks. You started to develop feelings and thinking your future together. But he got into an accident and leave a scar/defect on his face. It's something that will bother you, how would you feel then? In my humble opinion, only those who are matured will find real love. FYI, I know what it's like when people don't want to share their pictures. I still go on a date with them if they're nice and sincere enough. I would rather see the world as a cup half full rather than half empty. Even if it don't work out at least you can make new friends.
HI Tokyo BTM, I can truly relate to this video I too was tricked and fell in love here in the USA, San Diego, CA to be exact about 10 years ago. It's wasn't for a green card, though, simply for money. It's sad that guys can be so cold hearted and robotic and even evil to treat people that way and go on with their life as if nothing ever happened. I was with this guy for 2 and half years and it truly affected me deeply emotionally, mentally and even physically. It devastated me beyond comprehension and I even lost EVERYTHING! job, car all belongings. But I persevered and I am turns out a very strong, confident and smart man maybe unknowingly at that time. Anyways good segment. Keep it up. Ganbatte!!! ❤
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sometimes we want to believe in some fairy tail that it is finally happening to us. but usually it is hard to avoid a fact, that you don't feel warmth from a partner. It is either there or not. I get that some people can be very good actors and they are following wrong path in their life. Maybe I will be left alone for the rest of my life, - but if I don't feel that the other person really truly care about me same way as I do about him, - nothing ever gonna happen.
Oh dear! Such traumas! I feel for both of you. The green card man was brazen!!! I am team Meng AND team bad teeth! Both of you were unfortunate! This is why I don’t use dating apps! Thank you for the video!
As a gay man I do find it hard to connect nowadays. I do see some relationships becoming open as they been together for some years now with the gays. Wish it was easy to find that person. 😒
I feel like the intense shift to apps is a big part of it. People used to meet people mostly in person. You might meet someone who's average looks but his manner, his body language, his presence, win you over. As a matter of fact, I have never had a good relationship with anybody who was quintessentially "my type". But now people reject huge swaths of people based on a photo alone. I suppose the upside is that if you want, you can tell more about yourself on an app, though many never do
I’m always on Team TokyoBTM ❤️
I enjoy story time like this. Invite the others and let them share their own bad dating experience too. 💯
I enjoy watching you guys talking about your bad dating experiences and another great video guys can’t wait for next video.
Happy Tuesday Tokyo BTM! Thanks for sharing your dating stories.
yay! a new video! thank you!
so happy hehe🤗
Oh lord both of you are making great points about dating, but I'm more into Andrew's point of you: when we find someone not showing themselves or faking it, we should let them know, because I do think sometimes they do not know better. What I hate the most is people lying about their age and showing pics from 5, 10 years ago (and honestly, sometimes they think there is no difference to be noticed). Thanks for sharing your stories!
Tbh I repect the guy in Andrew's story. He was upfront and that's way better then someone who could deceive someone for years.
You are so right. Despite Andrew stickered him with "sick dude" tag. At least he was honest. Why this guy should have emotion towards anyone if they don't know each other. Sometimes that North Ameircan thing as "being nice" all the time, - this is what I am trying to avoid as much as possible. Just be straightforward. And yep, we are not getting younger. Some of us far away than 40yo and maybe not good looking.
Yeah, I agree his honesty was good but also... what the hell? xD I get transactional relationships but what is the person who gives that guy his green card back in return? Why would anyone be with someone who doesn't love them, doesn't even have physical relations with them or offer any other benefits.... like... at least offer to be a good house husband or offer financial support or SOMETHING.. lol
A murderer could be upfront too. You are still gonna be dead 😅
@bodo887 yeah just like they said he offered Andrew nothing. I think the dude wanting a transactional relationship is completely fine but he should offer something also
@@likedmyowncomment3547 Yeah, if you want a green card then do or offer something for it... it's not like Andrew would get a Japanese green card or spouse visa in return, since Japan doesn't recognize gay marriage... Weird thinking on the Japanese guy's side.
your best episode in a long time, we want more episodes like this on dating
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Guys you’re so fun and interesting to listen to! Thanks for sharing your experiences ❤
Andrew! 14:33 I died! Brilliant editing.
Loved it - miss you! 🎉❤
I love the subscribe button with the music, like in hotel lift :-D this episode reminded me of my blind date oh never ever again 😀 😀 😀
Wow, another great subject discussed.
Andrew's looking SO GOOD in that shirt, like damn
I live in Japan now, and also love your videos THANK YOU! and I live near a Jonathans... and I've taken lots of guys there on first dates! And... I've had the green card talk too, LOL
I'm Team Meng for sure but I also feel bad for Team Bad Teeth as they will likely continue this cycle throughout their lives. I also don't think they have the capacity to feel guilty about wasting someone else's time which reflects a selfish way of thinking/behaviour cause they may have pretty low self-esteem (don't we all on some level) and getting to be able to meet someone above their perceived grade is already a win for them.
Perceived grade? Wow.. seriously. No wonder people have become superficial beings.
@@kenjin3797 And the advent of social media and dating apps does not help either.
I don't think anyone is a villain in this case because he didn't lie. He just didn't show any picture (or any one in which his face is clearly visible). Lesson learnt for Meng (and for everyone else) - if looks are a thing you care about to some extent - basically 95% of the population if I'm being generous, don't agree to meet someone without a proper picture. It's also not fair to say that mr bad teeth wasted someone else's time as he has clearly stated his intention which is wanting to meet someone without presenting a picture. If Meng (or whoever else) agrees to meet him, it's really on them as this was a consensual meet up, even if it seems like a waste of time on hindsight.
Alternatively, you have to feel ok to just politely excuse yourself upon meeting so you don't waste your own time. I've done that when a hookup turned out to look different than the pics he sent. "Sorry I'm not really feeling it. Good luck!" takes some getting used to saying but ultimately came in really handy.
MENG: Demand that Andrew make you a Rice Krispies Treat from scratch! I love them and even I couldn't stomach those pre-made, foil-wrapped Treats. Andrew, Andrew, Andrew! Make Meng a fresh batch of Rice Krispies Treats so he can taste the real thing, not those preserved, foil-wrapped disappointments. I presume (&hope) they have marshmallows, butter and Rice Krispies in Japan. There is no comparison between homemade & store-bought.
Yes, they are so easy to make, and taste so much more delicious!!!
My immediate thought exactly. And you can do variations too.
totally agree! there is nothing like a freshly backed batch of the real thing! we used to make them as kids. I won't eat the premade packaged version....
More dating stories please!
Thanks for the blog guys…you guys look terrific 😊 better lighting on today’s blog..Meng, love the nails❤ If Meng’s experience was a “ blind date” my opinion would be just that, blind dates are just about meeting someone to see if you have anything in common..As far as Anndrew’s date, after realizing what this guy was after, I would have “ played” him, telling him I could get his green card,BUT, we would have to become more intimate in order to pass immigration.Then, after awhile, if things weren’t going well, I would have dumped him, telling him “ it’ not you, it’s me”😂
I am disappointed at people's disapproval of someone's honesty. that person wasn't hiding from his true motive for the sake of how socially acceptable he should be. it was just take it or leave it situation. wasn't that just fantastic for someone who wasn't playing a game or pretending who he was not?
Def having been tricked is worst, that’s two whole years of someone’s life gone they could’ve been developing a relationship with someone who actually cares for them. I would be devastated 😢
Andrew’s guy sounds like a Tokyo guy I briefly chatted with on Grinder who seemed to fixate the chat towards crypto
Meng's story reminded me of my stay at Trades Hotel in Blackpool, England, well known as one of the crusiest gay hotels in the country. I was in the bar in the early evening and the bar man lowered the mood lighting so that you could make out people's faces in general but you wouldn't see their blemishes. Anyway this guy approached me and he appeared to have nice hair and he was quite slim. He told me he was a regular but everyone thought he looked ugly so he never had much luck. I began to tell him that I thought he was decent enough looking guy and he shouldn't put himself down. A couple hours later he asked if he could join me in my room for some fun. I led the way and I turned on my light just before he came in the door. When I turned around I suddenly realised that he WAS UGLY!! Anyway after all my encouragement I couldn't tell him this so I did my best to have fun and not look at him and at the end I said I wasn't used to spending all night with others in the room so he went up to leave but not before I told him again that I thought he was a nice guy and to feel good about himself. I'd like to think that brutal honesty would NOT have been the decent thing to do in this particular case. Andrew's story is amazing. I have heard similar stories.
This isn’t the same as the story Meng described.
1) You weren’t at a disadvantage because everyone in the room had their faces obscured.
2) you chose to be in a space with a level of anonymity and consented to being in that space. You aren’t being “tricked” like Meng was.
3) Some people, including myself, see dimly lit spaces of sexual encounters as a kink. We don’t necessarily place an emphasis on needing to see face in these spaces. This is completely different than setting up a meeting via platform.
Ok, we are being very pedantic here. In relation to your first point everyone in the room did not have their faces obscured, I think there was a blue spotlight or something near us two. Had I moved with him to another part of the room I guess nothing would have happened in terms of fun in the room but I wouldn't have stopped talking to him. As for your second point yes you are right I wasn't being tricked by the person I was talking to but as a result of a trick of the light I was mislead, so light bulbs fault, lol. As for your third point the place wasn't dimly lit from a kink point of view, I mean there was still a fair bit of light. I would describe it more as 'mood' lighting with different colours, I think white, red and blue. So this 'memory' was one of me thinking I was speaking to a cute guy, because in that blue light he looked OK and then in the 'full light of day' so to speak I saw the real face. I didn't say that my experience was exactly like Meng's experience but rather it 'reminded me' (key phrase here) of an experience of my own and in that sence it most definitely is not completely different, thankyou, @@imhoned4532
lmaooooo not Andrew telling Meng's date to be honest about their ugly face 😭
I'm with Meng but sympathetic to Bad Teeth. Another thing to struggle with in the dating world. Excellent vid guys! Again!!
Meng: luckily, i am good-looking! mood :)
I think that... Yes, photos people send shouldn't be obscured or misleading but, wait! How do we pick out a photo for our profiles? Right: I'm gonna take five shots and use the one of me I consider to be the worst... That's my plan!
We don't do that, do we? Andrew. 😂❤ Great video, loved it. And Andrew, yes in fact I do see what you were saying, also. No easy answers here.
It's definitely complicated 🥹
I get Asian guys, especially from the Philippines, hitting me up online all 👏 the 👏time👏 cause they want to move here. "You live near Holly WOOD?" "You fly my over to Holly WOOD?" - yeah, sure. That's not how it works. Plus, they think they're going to become actors or something.
you cannot help it. lack of education and their local government politics are getting people to the place where they are. My Cambodian friend (real friend) suggested another day a guy he knows in Cambodia who wants to build some relations. And after I tried to talk to that guy couple of times, - realized he is willing to do nothing in his life. They think they have body they have everything and not supposed to do anything anymore. Like they will be taken care of. Never ever gonna happen. I excused myself and never talked to his friend anymore. And part of situation, - that the other guy didn't want to study English, - at least to put some efforts to it. Like ZERO motivation to do anything.
Heartbreak is a heartbreak - pure raw pain. Reason doesn't matter.
I admire and envy the people who after a bad date can pick themselves up, dust themselves off and try it again. I find it very hard to do that. It takes a level of emotional maturity and /or either a lot of practice (hehe) to be able to do that.
Great talk, guys :) I loved your story, Andrew 😂 Meng, you had the perfect excuse to bail! Food poisoning! 😂 I would have stayed a bit and excused myself... When I used apps I didn't reply if they didn't have pictures, but it could happen that even with a picture it ends up being a horrible date... To be fair I've tried to make the most of those situations but as soon as the food was over I would have maxed just walked a but with them and then ran away l😅
Andrew, I'd rather know up front so I can avoid that landmine. Meng! Honey, your nails 💅🏻! Yas, queen! 🇺🇸🤝🇨🇦🇨🇳 I'm #TeamMeng ☝🏻because you're not bullshitting us. You question whether or not you're the villain and I respect that. ✊🏻 Props, Meng.
💅 Meng ❤❤❤
As a top, I find that there has to be some attraction on my end to make things work. I dated a person who I really liked and was a great person, but I couldn't make intimacy work.
Andrew had the worse date. Because Mengs at least wanted to date and Andrews was “anyone will do”
That metal slime sitting there shocked 😮
Take it from an American rice crispy treat connoisseur… my mom used to make them at home. But the mass produced one that you just tasted does taste very artificial. I wish that wasn’t the first one you’ve tried. Believe it or not the ones from Starbucks taste much closer to home made.
Guest top: the metallic slime.
5:01 Best freeze frame.
Not Jonathan's serving Dubious Food 😵💫
Also for the record I'm always Team Tokyo BTM 💜
Meng spilled the tea-th 🍜👀 For me it was guys lying about their height. Some would say that's not a deal breaker but it was always awkward showing up and being taller than they were-despite their profiles saying they should have been 10cm taller than me haha
Hi guys! Loved the video, I too can relate. Not only I got tricked like Meng, but also I even got tricked with old photos too! ☠ I think that guy probably didn't have enough confidence on his looks and that's why he decided not to show himself. I agree with what Andrew said, also recommend that guy a therapist too lol.
Fun fact iHere in Argentina we have a lot of inmigrants (I was kind of like 'dating' / going out?) with a Mexican and he introduced me a lot of his friends from Mexico, Colombia, Perú... And it was really common for them to marry argentinian people for convinience (of course both parties agreed to it). What I found it to be really funny is that one of his friends is a lesbian, married to a straight guy while dating with her now girlfriend 😂(I'm not saying is a common thing to do so, but It does happens! I was a bit of surprised since many of his friends did this).
Now concerning Andrew's particular episode, the way this guy talked to Andrew was really direct and close to "sin tacto". That whole conversation could have been talked on Grindr and you both wouldn't have wasted your time. But on the other hand, he was blunt but also honest, he was telling exactly what he wanted and even said that to you the first time you both met. I'm not defending that guy, but I'd give him credit at least he had the guts to say it first and wait for your response. I'd have been terrible if it turnout like Meng's friends story.
His fault, yes Meng was at a huge disadvantage. NPNR or NPNC is the best option. Especially if they can’t share a pic in dm’s. Okay, no public pics; but, come on for meeting! PICS!!!
I would love to hear the flip side too. Their best date
"im looking for someone to get me a green card"
"ok, thatll be 40,000 dollars"
The lack of empathy on the first guy is giving me 100% sociopath vibes.... and the fact that he's absolutely unaware of it?? like damn... that guy's dangerous!
I work on a show called '90 Day Fiance' in the states and hear stories like that ALL the time.
After a dinner party a guy gave me a ride home and asked me did I rent or own, what car did I drive and what job I had. And then he just said goodbye and drove away. I'm glad I didn't pass his test
I love this but can we talk about Meng’s painted nails on only one hand? 😂🫶
Love Meng! Just wait till he gets an engagement ring we're gonna lose our sight watching that video 😂❤
I did both hands, silver on the other hand ✨
@@TokyoBTM You rocked it 👍🏻
Definitely the other guy was a jerk. I can understand not having a clear picture on your profile in a country like Japan but once you start a conversation, send the damn picture already! It’s not like we’re going to pass it around! I usually just reply: do I know your, friends, place of work, family…? Then who am I gonna tell?
I’m so over any dating app for almost a year now and I’m much better off!
Between the scammers and the guys who just want a free meal… no thanks!
I rather spend my evenings at home with my pets!
In terms of the disaster date Andrew had, I am curious to know why a Japanese person will want to leave Japan so bad that they are willing to get married to someone that they don't love. To me, the guy sounds like he was desperate to leave and would do anything for a green card. Is it the economy? The societal pressures? is it because he is gay?
I’ve had that happen to me… In New York! Word for word. 😂
Andrew's story: The sheer psychopathic levels of boldness that guy had to be to openly say "yea i want to use you for a green card, what of it?" is kinda terrifying but at least you didn't have to waste any more time on him.
Meng's story: Even though personality should be more important then looks, i think we really need to stop kidding ourselves that looks don't matter. You're not a bad person for wanting looks AND personality, everyone does whether they want to admit it or not. Though of cause beauty is subjective so someone's 1/10 could be your 10/10.
I don’t EVER meet without a face anymore. If you can’t show me your face, then there’s somebody else for you!
You two are so cute i could watch you everyday
Andrew the 1st one sounds psychic.
at least the first guy was honest ❤
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In AustraliaI had a boyfriend named Meng he was Thai Chinese.
Andrew, clearly the guy who met is a much better scenario. He was very upfront that it would just be a 'business' transaction. He should definitely have made it clear or 'sold' the reason for you to enter into the agreement. Is he going to buy you a house? Pay your rent for the few years? What? Would you rather him pretend and build a several year relationship on lies. Then just leave you, never having cared about you at all. That would be disturbing.
The Graphics on this channel >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
1:03 hope ted can join your next dating video ..he is hilarious🎉
For Andrews worst date if the guy was so blunt in person he should've been upfront in his app profile and not wasted your time
Meng could've confronted the bad teeth right then and there! At least he would know if it's a medical condition, or did he just really not take care of it and letting his gum rot. Oh well, in the end, it doesn't matter either way, but at least Bad Teeth would know that he might want to consider spending some money on it. (I know I want to get braces or aligners given that the US is so big on teeth-appearance)
I always thought that if a guy invites you to his place, especially at night after a date, it means he wants to finish the night with a bit of "fun". Well, during the date he said he wanted me to go to his place for a bit of Mario Kart. I accepted, thinking it was an excuse to get me there, but on the way in the train, he said "oh, but it's really just for Mario Kart, ok? I live in a sharehouse and I can't take you to my room". So I went there, we played some Mario Kart in the common room, and I left. The date itself was fine, but going all the way there for just a bit of Mario Kart felt a little weird.
We talked a few more times but never met again.
> In Andrew's story: anyone whose motive is a green card should say that before the meet, otherwise they start from a deception. In Meng's story: i think it's more difficult to say - but, if for whatever reason a person feels they cannot share a pic, saying why that is upfront might help; also, don't make claims untrue - if you're plain/looking, probably better to say that, and count on your nice personality & sincerity ~
The second guy’s story: he was the villian in that story😒
Okay I shall make a complete fool of myself. I actually Finally went to Tokyo for the 1st time in May this year. After 12 hours of flight, got to Shinjuku, dumped my bags at the Hotel. I am 10 minutes outside and i see both of you walking the street and crossing my path... There I was with heavy jetlag and looking awful (No Checkintime yet). I was like....I dont know what to do in THIS situation!? I was so not prepared! Also i did not want to be rude, since you were talking to eachother...😅😅 So i just blacked out and said nothing and kept on walking kept on walking 🤣. (Also after Andrew told the akward story of being recognised once in...was it a sauna ? not sure. I was like, maybe better i keep going.) Now i kinda regret not saying Hi though...😅
I hope you had a great trip in Japan
@@TokyoBTMsaw Andrew once in the wild when I was traveling in Japan. What are the chances. You walked so fast I turned around and you disappeared.
Sorry I was laughing so hard at Meng's story.
I had a kind of blind meet-up in Japan. One of the joys of being in the furry fandom is we don't see our real faces all that often. Someone I knew from Twitter wanted to meet up after a bit of discussion. I did not speak any Japanese, he barely spoke any English, but we both spoke furry images. Was a good time all in all. I just wish I spoke a bit more Japanese.
I mean, if you connect intellectually I am okay with the sit down and be honest with them, but what it boils down to for me is we’re all adults. We who put ourselves out there on the apps and dates deserve more and better. Teaching faceless accounts the error of their ways will get so exhausting so fast. Even in Japan as foreigner I have no tolerance for games. #TeamMeng
Let me give MY story really quick: I quickly learned that there is a trend on 9monsters of guys I’d been talking to before getting to Tokyo who wanted to meet for drinks or other things, then when I arrived they became so busy and unsure if they could find the time. Never met them, then the very day I left they text to make sure I got home safe or wanted to strike up conversation again. I’m no one’s Online Gaijin Boyfriend 😤😊
yes, we can all be superficial, but some of us over time discover that personality can also go a long way. specially when you realize that a pretty face doesnt make up for a shitty uncaring person.
and also there are people who strongly value beauty over personality and can stay in a bad relationship just cuz the 2 of them look good together, or cause the think they deserve the trophy partner
this is a tangent, but mother Teresa was far from perfect herself too. I know she is seen as this symbol of giving and compassion but seriously... she really struggled trying to live up to not only her expectations of herself but that of the greater world too. so Ming.. ya did good! sorry your date was so bad.
you guys are just so cute lolol
We need to normalize telling people who trick you or people who have ulterior motives how it makes us feel. We need to call out their behaviors instead of simply walking away. I agree with Andrew completely. Being transparent is important.
I met my boyfriend at a band camp… can u do a video about couples who meet not on apps?
Andrew, the guy did only ONE thing wrong…which was not put his intentions in the dating profile and give you the choose ahead of time to go through with it. If that’s what he’s all about then fine, he was honest and up front and very clear. It’s you who wanted to still make it non-transactional. His only mistake was that he wasted your time by not putting that in his profile. The setup makes perfect sense to me. It would be foolish to blur the line and try and extract some romance out of it. The guy doesn’t have mental health issues for wanting a green card arrangement-again, the mistake was to waste your time.
Meng you are such a sweetie. But we live and learn, sadly 😢
Welcome back, you two! Y'all look well-rested and handsome as ever :)
Slightly hurt but laughed so hard at the "It tastes a little Artificial...Very American" comment but #WhereIsTheLie?! For the record, I'm Team Meng on this one. No one is the villain here. You just weren't looking for someone with black teeth/gum. NPNR is a thing for a reason, but something tells me even if clear face pics were sent...you wouldn't have found out about the teeth situation until you met him. So, I commend you for taking a chance!
Thanks for sharing your stories/thoughts. Thanks for the AWESOME video editing once again. Keep putting yourselves out there, boys! Clubs, bath houses, coffee bars, Jonathan's....
As for "Gaijin hunter" and "My Friend Says I'm not Bad-looking", we wish you nothing but the best! Now sashay away.
Haha Jonathan's sent me 😂😂😂
That JP guy would do better to marry a lesbian foreigner who has to get married because of her family. There is no benefit for the guy providing the green card unless you are incredibly lonely and need a plutonic companion.
I have not dated for years due to gaining a lot of weight, its not even worth trying.
I’m actuallly surprised at how many people in the comments section are wanting to “extract” romance from a transactional green card arrangement-like, accept it for what it is. If I was going to marry someone JUST for the green card I’d PREFER to not have attraction complicate things. Like seriously, why would you want a relationship where you knew that a huge part of it was transactional?? It would cloud the whole thing. You guys are confusing and mysterious.
Tbh meng wasn't really bad about the bad teeth guy, cuz like sure you can follow the "love is blind" thing but it wasn't even about the looks, someone having black guns and teeth it's matter of hygiene you know, you can definitely ignore people's look but how not clean they are, that's a basic step though
It’s been awhile since I have been on TH-cam but i like this new setup and look for the interview. Now I would never ever meet someone without an up to date clear face pic. The number one reason is for your safety. If this person does something bad to you like physical harm or theft you want that photo to show police. Also I agree with Andrew it is not fair and it is a waste of your time. I never photoshop pics i would send someone and I try to take recent true pics of myself. I rather be rejected upfront then getting to someone’s house and being turned away. The dental thing would be big for me also. You don’t need perfect teeth mine aren’t and yes I am getting braces lol. It’s the black tooth and gum I couldn’t get past because I would be kissing that. Andrew’s date is crazy but you know there are some people who don’t care and just want the image of a hot bf so they would do it. The thing is I have heard horror stories of immigrants who marry someone for the green card or to get out of the country and no up in abusive situations. They are trapped because they don’t want to go back and they need this person to get the green card. They own you during that time and it is not worth it. I hope when I come to Japan in sept I run into you guys it would be nice to meet you.
I met another day Chinese guy, - and he had huge black caries in his front top teeth (between). I understand that dentist services are not good in China (this guy was in US) and he probably struggled to get money here to fix those. But he had no intention probably to do it. Just first impression and I feel sorry about him. We are all coming from different backgrounds and unfortunately issues with teeth can be very complicated
What if they fake the photos and ages, when you go to see them and really not your type. That is quite awkward situation
IMHO...Both dates sucked...and NOT in a good way! It's hard enough for a Gay person to date in their home country, much less navigating the differences in another culture. That being said, even though Andrew's date was totally honest, sounds like he was a bit of a sociopath. ! Once Meng realized his date wasn't the gay dream he envisioned, the best route would have been to just leave. I certainly give Meng respect for attempting to remain genuine to salvage whatever was there. That's a sure sign of a sensitive individual....the kind many people appreciate while others see as a doormat. Just be thankful that both your dates were not ax murderers or stalkers with bad intent. Love your vlogs guys. Be safe. Kanpai!
Can we be friends by the time the invites go out? 😂
Having a nice smile is a plus...lol