Midwesterner here, the Irish goodbye is definitely a power move. I've seen my wife say goodbye for 2 hours once, half of it was outside with the car running.
Yep, true midwest goodbyes start when they first get ready to go, then everyone migrates to the front door where the conversation continues for another 5-30 minutes, then maybe to the front porch for another 5-30 minutes, then they get in their car and you chat in the driveway for another 5-30 minutes, then they drive off and everyone will wave and they might honk the horn as they drive off if they're feeling adventerous. I used to hate the whole ritual as a kid but now as an adult find myself and my friends doing the exact same thing.
As a Southern Mass guy, I don't use the Irish goodbye, just hug the people I was last talking with and the host, then walk past everyone to the door, announce in leaving for some vague excuse like work early or plans with friends, then wave and leave. My mom hates it a little.
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@@markschade6951 Yeah, same here. It's tradition and part of our culture.
if my grandma did that to my grandpa he'd just leave her and go home. for context he was a second generaton irish man she was a first generation slovak
The absolute worst thing that could happen after a Midwestern goodbye is, when you FINALLY got away, realizing you forgot something and having to go back.
There's no going back! A friend of mine called it "an exit strategy" when visiting grandparents. You started trying to leave the minute you get there. Two hours later, maybe you get lucky. And get to leave.
Definitely the worst. Ohioan here, been stuck in the Midwestern Goodbye before, going back is a death penalty because the whole thing starts all over again. Was only planning on staying an hour or two, next thing I knew it was like 8 hours later smdh
Saying goodbye at my Grandma's house during Thanksgiving or Christmas Eve was arduous. Easily 50 people in a tiny condo that you need to have a "quick chat" with. Then the final boss, my Grandma who absolutely refused to let you leave without two bags worth of leftovers and at least two pies. She passed last year and honestly I'm really going to miss the whole ritual.
We Southerners have perfected the saying 'Well, let me let you go!" when dealing with phone calls, holidays, or family gatherings! Granted, you're still waiting through half an hour for the goodbyes to finish before you can leave (unless you're really close with the family, then you gotta be one of the last ones to leave so you can talk about private things and other people who left hours ago. . . .) Best part of playing in the neighbourhood with your friends, and having all your parents talking was hearing one of them shout '5 more minutes!'. You knew you had half an hour at most to continue to run around with your friends. At the end of that '5 minutes' you could beg for 'just another 5 more minutes'. Cut to an hour later, and everyone is still trying to leave even though literal bats are flying about, trying to attack the birdy to the batmitten game all y'all are still playing in the dark, even though you can barely see the birdy, except when it's 10cm from your face. I miss those days.
@@TheOReport1994 Wait a sec did you use METRIC???? Yeah Midwest, Northeastern, Southern, or whatever we use imperial here... just using 10CM means AT BEST you're an engineer like me.... If you honestly use metric you're NOT IN ANY WAY Southern at all!!! Way to prove you're wrong instantly! Also I live in New England where our goodbye is "F#@k off!" at best!!!
My life from 1960-2001 when I moved to Florida, but all picks right back up when I go back to visit. I wish I had me some good Tupperware like that though.
This is maybe my favorite video from this channel so far. I have a large family and I've quantified the three stages of our goodbyes at parties: Phase 1 is where you say goodbye inside and start gathering your things, phase 2 is when you're at the front door halfway out of the house/on the front porch, and phase 3 is when we're in the car talking to them while the window is down. Avg time of 35 mins to get through all the phases.
Spot on. Add 8 minutes for each child on top of that. Not that they only take 8 minutes, but a batched out average for total sum. And dontcha forget that beep beep as your then pulling away slowly HA! Cheers!
Canada checking in, and almost all the boxes were ticked. I no joke have an aunt that can take 4 hours to say goodbye once she's already got her boots and coat on.
You don’t refuse leftovers!! This one hit me to the core. I’ve tried to politely decline some of my mother in law’s leftovers, but it’s definitely an offense. She’ll also give you half of what is in her pantry. So I’m left with 24 cupcakes that no one ever touched, potato casserole, tuna salad, jello salad, three bags of hotdog buns, 5 hamburgers, a bag of dried apricots, & 3 month old Nutter Butters from the cookie jar.
@Katannep. Lol how about an extra can of jellied cranberries, some pickled pigs feet, finger jello blocks, and a heaping cool whip container full of mystery fluff. Thanks for making my day. Happy holidays.
Just say thank you, take it and then throw it away. Yes, it is a waste. But if no one eats it anyway and she gets angry if you decline the food offer then that is a white lie. Or accept her anger if she gets angry over your decline. Which I would find petty of her. It should always be okay to say no. Or take the stuff and give it to someone else who actually wants it.
Yep, I take a dish to a friend-group party? The host sends me home with at least one leftovers serving of _everything_ - tho in my friends' defence, that's bc they all know I'm on struggle street rn & there seems to be this tacit agreement among all my angelic peeps that they're collectively Grandma, now.😂 Seriously, the last big potluck I went to, I struggled to fit everything I came home with into my 'fridge, lol. In my case, tho, I do eat it all, & my heart constantly runs over with gratitude for how blessed I am.
Milwaukee born & raised. Bith sides of the family live in various parts of Wisconsin. When we were kids, my dad would say "get your coats on & load up!" My cousins and I continued to play for another 2 hours..... because that's how long the goodbye would take!! This is so spot on!! Sending it to my siblings & cousins!
Yep same here. Italian family. And as the family got larger, (marriages, children, etc) the goodbyes increased on length. My Italian mother in law died last week, end of that era. But we are starting our own, with our kids who are married and having their own children. Last week one daughter's new boyfriend was inducted into the family goodbye, but he's from a big family himself so he wasn't daunted at all. Having another daughter's boyfriend over for the "Meet the Parents" dinner, in a couple weeks....we'll see if he survives.
I get genuine pleasure from sneaking out of events unnoticed. One time my gf and I were at a Halloween party and I snuck out through the front door when no one was looking. Got an hour and a half nap before everyone started calling me wondering where I was. Bliss.
I'm not an introvert but I prefer short-and-sweet goodbyes as well even though I'm from Minnesota. But I will happily wait around a minute for leftovers.
Lifelong Minnesotan here also, my wife is queen of this BS! She LOVES every single get together even the damn funerals and I’m not shittin we end up with leftovers every time. I HATE this, I’m like time to go I grab my crap give a hug or two and dip out, I’m almost always waiting in the car for 20 minutes. Heated seats are the best. And I know they judge me but there’s no need for this torture.
That hit hard. In Texas the whole family ends up in the driveway for about an hour before you can finally get to your truck. Don’t roll down your window or you will get in another conversation that will require you to shut the engine off before you run out of gas.
Oh, man. My mom's family always hated us because, every holiday, we'd say goodbye to my dad's family with over an hour to spare. Then we'd say more goodbyes. Then someone'd go fishing. Then we'd get that someone back, but someone else had to pee, and a cousin we hadn't seen in months would drop in to say "hi". Late for dinner. Every year.
When they somehow end up checking out the water heater, it's so spot on 😂 It's always right as your leaving that you end up checking out that one weird house thing or the result of the latest project.
Now if ya go way back, the 70's, the butter containers, which were perfectly bowl shaped became my divorced mom's "kid cereal bowl" set with lids! Don't know which brand of butter thosewere, just remember they entered the house as a bowl of margarine and magically became my sister and I's childhood food bowls! 🤣 And ice cream sundae bowls...Mac and cheese bowls (perfect for that gub'ment cheese and Mac) LOL
Howling because I was born in the midwest, grew up in the south, and STILL save the cool whip containers! And if you leave with leftovers, nobody minds if you don't return the container that way!🤣🤣🤣
And the hideous leftovers. Brings back memories. Everyone wanted my mother's stuff because it was amazing. But one aunt. (God rest her) Obligatory take home food was even worse than the food at the table. Mystery ingredients all wrapped up in gooey sauces. Leaden cakes; one bite was way too much. And you couldn't leave quickly. Had to get stories and tchotchke tours. I loved this video!!
Love this! I married into a Midwest Norwegian family. Not big on hugs but definitely into the long goodbyes. Must stand in the doorway or driveway and wave until guests have driven out of sight.
That's my son and I .He's lives out of state and we don't phone each other real often. But when we do, after a 4 hr conversation we start the "well we better say by and after another hr ... we finally hang up. But I love that ritual. 😊
Or your phone dies while you're talking and you have to decide whether to charge it and call your mom back (she doesn't check her texts) to say you didn't hang up on her and risk talking for too long again (true story).
Yeah, what is it? I've talked with my German friends about this and lived in Germany for about a year, but haven't had this word come up in conversation. I'm genuinely curious. Don't take it as me trying toc all you out or something. Maybe it's a regional thing in Germany.
As a little kid, I dreaded the goodbye s at my Mother's friend's house. I refused to stand by the kitchen door for a half hour. I would sit until my mom actually walked out the door.
I am a German and I never heard of such an expression. We have a thing called "langer Abschied" (long saying good-bye) but I never heard that other expression. Might be very, very local. German word would be "Türtod". Door= Tür, death= Tod.
This has got to be one of my new favorite videos. It is so relatable because I live in Chicago and it usually takes 30 minutes to an hour to say goodbye.
I'm an Aussie currently living in OHIO and got married to an Appalacian man and honestly these videos are golden, the culture is so different and I think I would miss it if I were to ever leave.
My wife is from central IL and I'm from Chicago Suburbs. To this day she cannot understand why it takes 24 hugs, 2 plates of left overs, taking out the garbage, doing the dishes, and 24 more hugs to 6 people to say good bye.
@@Nathan-dt2tu Heading South Either. From Missouri and the Midwest Goodbye is just as long here. Though the "Welp, I S'pose" is replaced with "well, it's getting late/ well, [insert some excuse here]"
I ain't never felt anything more than this. Living in Michigan all we do is talk bout the weather dontcha know. It's crazy. And grandma's casserole is always the best. Ain't never gonna leave on time or without a full belly and full truck of leftovers.
I love how relatable every one of Charlie’s videos are. I have experienced at least one thing in all of them and I have a love/hate relationship with that feeling.
I grew up in Boston and recently moved to Wisconsin. This is so true! I just had a dinner party and I said goodbye to the same people 6 times. They put on their coats and everything and stepped outside the door, but ended up coming back in and left an hour later.
We here in the Midwest need to take this seriously. Just because your goodbyes currently average 97 minutes doesn’t mean you couldn’t easily slip into the goodbye twilight zone…
As an Indian kid, I can definitely relate Lol. Whenever the parents call us up to leave we all know it's gonna take them at least 30 mins to wrap things up so we usually just keep doing whatever it is we're doing until it's actually time to leave. Works out great for us since we get to have fun for an extra 30 mins!
Its like trying to get off the phone with your parents you just can’t get them to say goodbye and let you off the phone how many times you say “well I got to go love you” they won’t let you off.
This was a real banger! You totally nailed it with the making empty promises you never intend on keeping while giving out the hugs n hand shakes. Very northern new york as well on the leftovers lol
It's funny living in wisconsin all my life, I never really thought about how many things we do that people outside of the midwest don't. Until I started watching these, keep them coming and tell your folks I says hi.
@@katiekennedy8461 Been in the Twin Cities my whole life and can at least confirm that if you celebrate in the cities the time spent saying goodbye at least won't follow you to the car but once you hit hunting territory... Godspeed lol.
My sister moved from Boston to a suburb of Minneapolis. I got a text from her a month later; she was experiencing major culture shock by how nice everyone was. The Dunkin’ workers were actually happy to be there.
I play D&D with friends and we normally end around 11pm. We finished a little early one night because one of our players had to go back home (lives an hour away) and he didn't walk out the door until 3am. He's originally from the east coast and it took a few years but we finally got him to understand how important a midwestern goodbye is
Gotta love a good Midwest Goodbye. For me A Midwest Goodbye takes around 45-1hr so you really gotta plan your time. If you haven't honed your skills, if you can't escape in the 1hr you might as well stay the night, because its likely past dark at this point. At which point at the crack of dawn with a broken spine from the hard or oddly too soft couch you've slept on you creak your way into the bathroom and then get your shoes on. Before you can leave, a final test. The host is likely up at this point and you have to make your escape with this final chance or be trapped forever. Take the container of food and your promise to return it, and escape this hospitality until you can try your luck at it again next time.
As someone who lives in Minnesota and visits my grandparents, getting out of great grandmas house after dinner (Get there at around 6-7) is always a struggle, we're always there too long and by the end of it we're getting out at 11, this video couldn't have spelled out the struggle of leaving other peoples houses any better.
Oh wow! Large Irish family on both sides from North Carolina and trying to leave from a family reunion took hours!! But…. Had a car load of great left overs!! Laughed out loud at the cool whip container “ Tupperware “ !!
This perfectly walked the line between parody and real life and is genuinely one of the best things you have written and produced so far, Charlie. To see your talents grow and excel from the original Manitowoc Minute, through your superb stand up and your continued collaborations and solo sketches to now really makes me proud to be able to point at you as a bright point in Wisconsin as a whole. Well done, bud.
Agree. Just have to comment again because this is so, so good. The acting, the script, the timing, the music. Incredible. Even the plopping of the tuna casserole in the good Tupperware. Amazing. You feel the terror, the desperation. He just wants to leave but Charlie is right there, in his face. My only problem with this is it leaves you hoping for more episodes. Did anybody actually get to leave? Did Father Joshua get back to church? Wow!
Yep when I was a kid, my aunts and uncles would say we are leaving. My cousins and I knew we had at least an hour to play, cause they stand at the door for more than an hour !
Thanks for the reminder! I've gotta return my mom's "good tupperware" before Thanksgiving so she's got something to pack my leftovers in. So, I suppose...
I love the Irish goodbye. My brother on the other hand, despite being born and bred on the west coast, is incapable of anything other than a Midwest goodbye.
I grew up in Wisconsin and live in Texas now but I just did the "welp I s'pose" at work and went home 4 hours early and nobody said anything. Amazing. I didn't even know I had this power.
They could base it on Invasion of the Body Snatchers. People would find giant zucchinis under their beds that would hatch and release a midwesterner. Then the real terror of church basement pot lucks and lutefisk dinners could begin.
My dad was a preacher, and down south in southern Bible Belt, you’d say goodbye and the whole family would follow you out to the car and keep talking…for almost an hour more. Kids in the back just waiting while mom and dad kept talking to whom we were visiting from the car window. It went on and on and on.
Jesus Christ this hit close to home. I grew up on the west coast, my mom's from the Midwest so when we moved back to live closer to her family, I was NOT prepared for the Midwest goodbye. The goodbyes would last an hour, minimum. But once I got my drivers license, I made my mom promise that the goodbyes would be cut down to 15 minutes max otherwise I was leaving. One time, it strayed into the 20 minute zone and I was out the door with the keys and she was scrambling to catch up to me. The Cool-Whip leftover container is spot on. We'd get a Country Crock tub for Thanksgiving leftovers.
I'm a Minnesotan living in Ireland, and the "Welp, I Spose" knee-slap is one of quite a few Midwest things I haven't been able to stop doing even though I've lived in Ireland almost twenty years now. At least now I have this video to prove it's not just me that does it!
Hi! I am from Ohio and spent some time in Ireland right after high school. The NICEST people I ever met in my life and the most beautiful place as well. It was actually hard to say goodbye.
Nebraskan here - 100% accurate. Literally takes me an hour to leave every event and I do slap my knee and say “welp I s’pose”. Like, LITERALLY this video is accurate down to the T. Also, yes, you HAVE to accept the leftovers.
Charlie your videos are always funny, but this one had me dying. I grew up in the U.P. and as kids we knew when my parents said it's time to go, we still had a few hours to play. You nailed it.
Now imagine this..a Greek-American family living in the Midwest. That was my reality growing up. Not only do you get the infini-goodbyes, but the forcible feeding of pretty much anyone on the street who so much as glances at the house.
Many of them come from Finland, Scandinavia, or Germany. All our ancestors came from those countries about 150 years ago and brought over their customs with them.
Before I visited the Midwest I created a schedule so I can visit all my families and friends. The long goodbye ruined it all. The schedule burned down on day one. 😂
Honestly I get the feeling something like this could make a good SCP entry. That no one actually lives they are all the unfortunate victims that wander into this strange mysterious house that just seems to draw you in, and any time you try to leave you keep being drawn back to the house like months to a flame before you can even make it off the property. Almost like the house itself doesn't want you to leave. Give how suddenly is attitude changed and even he couldn't explain it. Like something was messing with his head. There are already SCP foundation entries that are similar premises, But only in the sense that you can't escape. Like the infinite Ikea. Once you wander in you'll never find the exit, or the town where it's always Christmas. You can get trapped there celebrating Christmas forever.
New Englander here (not Boston though) and I feel like our goodbyes can be something like this as well. I've had goodbyes last longer than an hour an any given holiday.
I've lived in Missouri for 20 years and I still get impatient at the Midwestern goodbye. My father in law is the KING of dragging out goodbyes when we're trying to leave.
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Could also call this the "Saskatchewan goodbye!" We're a lot like the Midwest: it takes half an hour to the door after saying goodbye, then another half an hour of small talk while you warm up the car and get your parka and boots on, if it's winter time (which is about 8 months of the year, for us Canadians!). Love your videos, it's like watching my friends and family, except with a different accent! Go 'Riders, f*** the Bombers, eh!😆
Yeah, no, it's not. We over here across the Cheddar curtain from youz guys, grew up with this. And while I may have grown up within an hour and a half of the border, Charlie here is over on our east coast, so, must be state-wide :).
@@ajb.822 love being a hop skip and a jump away from yall. I can hop the boarder and get some spotted cow and curds so fresh they squeak in your mouth. Still only 20 minutes away from the twin cities so I get the best of both worlds. Best thing is I stopped taking our roads for granted after driving on youralls haha(I’m just kidding, love Wisconsin and her majestic hills.
I've lived in Lower Michigan all my life and always thought the midwest goodbye was a bit long and it was easier just to sneak out undetected . After watching this, I see that I wasnt just imagining it. If you're somewhat of an introvert, the midwest goodbye can really test your patience! Cool video
My parents would send us out to the car while my dad stood inside with his hand on the doorknob for at least an hour - this was in the Winter, mind you! Being the youngest of five, I was always voluntold to go in and get them so we could start the 3 hour trek home in the blizzard (there was always a blizzard).
Midwesterner here, the Irish goodbye is definitely a power move. I've seen my wife say goodbye for 2 hours once, half of it was outside with the car running.
Yep, true midwest goodbyes start when they first get ready to go, then everyone migrates to the front door where the conversation continues for another 5-30 minutes, then maybe to the front porch for another 5-30 minutes, then they get in their car and you chat in the driveway for another 5-30 minutes, then they drive off and everyone will wave and they might honk the horn as they drive off if they're feeling adventerous. I used to hate the whole ritual as a kid but now as an adult find myself and my friends doing the exact same thing.
As a Southern Mass guy, I don't use the Irish goodbye, just hug the people I was last talking with and the host, then walk past everyone to the door, announce in leaving for some vague excuse like work early or plans with friends, then wave and leave. My mom hates it a little.
@@markschade6951 Yeah, same here. It's tradition and part of our culture.
if my grandma did that to my grandpa he'd just leave her and go home. for context he was a second generaton irish man she was a first generation slovak
This is also a southern thing and we call it a southern goodbye.
The absolute worst thing that could happen after a Midwestern goodbye is, when you FINALLY got away, realizing you forgot something and having to go back.
Its not yours anymore. Let it go
There's no going back! A friend of mine called it "an exit strategy" when visiting grandparents. You started trying to leave the minute you get there. Two hours later, maybe you get lucky. And get to leave.
Definitely the worst.
Ohioan here, been stuck in the Midwestern Goodbye before, going back is a death penalty because the whole thing starts all over again.
Was only planning on staying an hour or two, next thing I knew it was like 8 hours later smdh
what could you have possibly left there that wouldn't be easier and faster to replace off Amazon?
@@chrissnyder4439 Anything that is essential for securing your escape: keys, plane tickets, phone...
Saying goodbye at my Grandma's house during Thanksgiving or Christmas Eve was arduous. Easily 50 people in a tiny condo that you need to have a "quick chat" with. Then the final boss, my Grandma who absolutely refused to let you leave without two bags worth of leftovers and at least two pies. She passed last year and honestly I'm really going to miss the whole ritual.
100% .. mine are still around and we joke about it but I know that’s what we will miss .. especially the older we get
Sounds atrociously wholesome
Bless you
My family was the same! Most have left us, but I still have so many fond memories. It took about an hour to escape lol. Hugs to you.
I felt that on a spiritual level. Requiescat in pace dear grandmas of the world.
🎶🎶"You can check out any time you like, but you can Never leave..."🎶🎶
The hotel wisconsin lmao
Lowkey start belting a guitar solo then realized im not a guitar
On a cold, frozen highway, frost stuck to my hair
Warm smell of brats and cheese curds rising up through the air
The constant pushing of beer is too real. That and saying "Welp, I s'pose..."
We Southerners have perfected the saying 'Well, let me let you go!" when dealing with phone calls, holidays, or family gatherings! Granted, you're still waiting through half an hour for the goodbyes to finish before you can leave (unless you're really close with the family, then you gotta be one of the last ones to leave so you can talk about private things and other people who left hours ago. . . .)
Best part of playing in the neighbourhood with your friends, and having all your parents talking was hearing one of them shout '5 more minutes!'. You knew you had half an hour at most to continue to run around with your friends. At the end of that '5 minutes' you could beg for 'just another 5 more minutes'. Cut to an hour later, and everyone is still trying to leave even though literal bats are flying about, trying to attack the birdy to the batmitten game all y'all are still playing in the dark, even though you can barely see the birdy, except when it's 10cm from your face.
I miss those days.
@@TheOReport1994 Wait a sec did you use METRIC???? Yeah Midwest, Northeastern, Southern, or whatever we use imperial here... just using 10CM means AT BEST you're an engineer like me.... If you honestly use metric you're NOT IN ANY WAY Southern at all!!! Way to prove you're wrong instantly!
Also I live in New England where our goodbye is "F#@k off!" at best!!!
Watch for deer
My life from 1960-2001 when I moved to Florida, but all picks right back up when I go back to visit. I wish I had me some good Tupperware like that though.
😢😂😂😂that's a horror movie!
I love how it morphs from a joke to a horror movie
And then to Stockholm syndrome
This is maybe my favorite video from this channel so far. I have a large family and I've quantified the three stages of our goodbyes at parties: Phase 1 is where you say goodbye inside and start gathering your things, phase 2 is when you're at the front door halfway out of the house/on the front porch, and phase 3 is when we're in the car talking to them while the window is down. Avg time of 35 mins to get through all the phases.
Spot on. Add 8 minutes for each child on top of that. Not that they only take 8 minutes, but a batched out average for total sum. And dontcha forget that beep beep as your then pulling away slowly HA! Cheers!
It's one of my favs, bc I'm from the Midwest, now living east coast, not far from Boston
This was my family leaving my grandmother's house after every visit.
This is also my experience. Lol
@@helsphoenix2623 Only 30 minutes? That’s fast in my family lol. 😂
"I gotta be somewhere in 10 minutes"
"well ya shoulda thought about that 7 hours ago"
🤣
Growing up with relatives from Minnesota this hit's all the marks lol. "I spose" the cool whip container for leftovers, hour long goodbyes. Nailed it
Canada checking in, and almost all the boxes were ticked. I no joke have an aunt that can take 4 hours to say goodbye once she's already got her boots and coat on.
What happens if we need to take a break half way through the goodbye? Do we have to start again?
@@eugenetswong Basically XD
You don’t refuse leftovers!! This one hit me to the core. I’ve tried to politely decline some of my mother in law’s leftovers, but it’s definitely an offense. She’ll also give you half of what is in her pantry. So I’m left with 24 cupcakes that no one ever touched, potato casserole, tuna salad, jello salad, three bags of hotdog buns, 5 hamburgers, a bag of dried apricots, & 3 month old Nutter Butters from the cookie jar.
years ago I learned to just take them and throw away what I don't want without saying anything about that part...
@Katannep. Lol how about an extra can of jellied cranberries, some pickled pigs feet, finger jello blocks, and a heaping cool whip container full of mystery fluff. Thanks for making my day. Happy holidays.
Just say thank you, take it and then throw it away. Yes, it is a waste. But if no one eats it anyway and she gets angry if you decline the food offer then that is a white lie. Or accept her anger if she gets angry over your decline. Which I would find petty of her. It should always be okay to say no. Or take the stuff and give it to someone else who actually wants it.
Mmmmmm, Nutter Butters.......
Yep, I take a dish to a friend-group party? The host sends me home with at least one leftovers serving of _everything_ - tho in my friends' defence, that's bc they all know I'm on struggle street rn & there seems to be this tacit agreement among all my angelic peeps that they're collectively Grandma, now.😂
Seriously, the last big potluck I went to, I struggled to fit everything I came home with into my 'fridge, lol.
In my case, tho, I do eat it all, & my heart constantly runs over with gratitude for how blessed I am.
Fun fact that if you use the Irish goodbye as a form of introduction you’ll never have to say goodbye in the first place
First I heard of this Irish goodbye most people in Ireland go through a similar process but I actually do use this idea of just leaving
Milwaukee born & raised. Bith sides of the family live in various parts of Wisconsin. When we were kids, my dad would say "get your coats on & load up!" My cousins and I continued to play for another 2 hours..... because that's how long the goodbye would take!! This is so spot on!! Sending it to my siblings & cousins!
Married into a family where you started to say goodbye a couple hours ahead of time. Spot on! (Watch out for deer!)
And tells yer folks I says hi!
Yep same here. Italian family. And as the family got larger, (marriages, children, etc) the goodbyes increased on length. My Italian mother in law died last week, end of that era. But we are starting our own, with our kids who are married and having their own children. Last week one daughter's new boyfriend was inducted into the family goodbye, but he's from a big family himself so he wasn't daunted at all. Having another daughter's boyfriend over for the "Meet the Parents" dinner, in a couple weeks....we'll see if he survives.
It’s the worst!
i have 2 cousins, dont know how they do it, they show up 30 mins late, and they leave b4 pie
Deer! I have tried to get out of a semi-rural gathering by pointing out that I'd like to get going before dark because of the deer -- to no avail.
As an introvert, I actually felt my fight-or-flight kick in while watching this. My goodbyes generally consist of the short-and-sweet "ok ciao"
I get genuine pleasure from sneaking out of events unnoticed. One time my gf and I were at a Halloween party and I snuck out through the front door when no one was looking. Got an hour and a half nap before everyone started calling me wondering where I was. Bliss.
Funny, I'm an introvert but I don't mind the goodbyes, if I know about it ahead of time.
"Ope! Hey, before ya head out, you mind helping me out with something real quick? It'll only be a second."
I'm not an introvert but I prefer short-and-sweet goodbyes as well even though I'm from Minnesota. But I will happily wait around a minute for leftovers.
Skill issue
That was the best documentary about Wisconsin that I have ever seen.
I grew up & still live in Minnesota; I've always felt vaguely guilty because I like to slip quietly out of parties without saying goodbye to anyone.
Ope, that's no way to say goodbye, doncha know. You gotta make it count ay.
Don't feel too guilty, you just have a strong survival instinct!
Totally understand.
Shame on you!! (But I’ve tried it too!!)
Lifelong Minnesotan here also, my wife is queen of this BS! She LOVES every single get together even the damn funerals and I’m not shittin we end up with leftovers every time. I HATE this, I’m like time to go I grab my crap give a hug or two and dip out, I’m almost always waiting in the car for 20 minutes. Heated seats are the best. And I know they judge me but there’s no need for this torture.
Can we all take a moment to appreciate charlie for the amazing video quality.
only a moment then
@@RobFeldkamp You're not from the Midwest.
Absolutely. This was amazing!
This was more terrifying and suspenseful than any horror film I have ever watched
That hit hard. In Texas the whole family ends up in the driveway for about an hour before you can finally get to your truck. Don’t roll down your window or you will get in another conversation that will require you to shut the engine off before you run out of gas.
Oh, man. My mom's family always hated us because, every holiday, we'd say goodbye to my dad's family with over an hour to spare.
Then we'd say more goodbyes.
Then someone'd go fishing.
Then we'd get that someone back, but someone else had to pee, and a cousin we hadn't seen in months would drop in to say "hi".
Late for dinner. Every year.
@@robertbeisert3315 Ain’t it the truth ? But you wouldn’t change them for the world.
@@randyrhyne1195 amen
Wisconsin is just north Texas, all those states in between are in-laws
All while complaining mosquitoes are eating you alive!
When they somehow end up checking out the water heater, it's so spot on 😂 It's always right as your leaving that you end up checking out that one weird house thing or the result of the latest project.
The cool whip container literally had me scream out loud laughing and I live in an apartment complex 😂😂😂😂
The nice Tupperware. 😄
Lol everyones grandma no matter what coast your on always pulls out lots of cool whip containers 😆
Now if ya go way back, the 70's, the butter containers, which were perfectly bowl shaped became my divorced mom's "kid cereal bowl" set with lids! Don't know which brand of butter thosewere, just remember they entered the house as a bowl of margarine and magically became my sister and I's childhood food bowls! 🤣 And ice cream sundae bowls...Mac and cheese bowls (perfect for that gub'ment cheese and Mac) LOL
Howling because I was born in the midwest, grew up in the south, and STILL save the cool whip containers! And if you leave with leftovers, nobody minds if you don't return the container that way!🤣🤣🤣
And the hideous leftovers. Brings back memories. Everyone wanted my mother's stuff because it was amazing. But one aunt. (God rest her) Obligatory take home food was even worse than the food at the table. Mystery ingredients all wrapped up in gooey sauces. Leaden cakes; one bite was way too much.
And you couldn't leave quickly. Had to get stories and tchotchke tours.
I loved this video!!
Love this! I married into a Midwest Norwegian family. Not big on hugs but definitely into the long goodbyes. Must stand in the doorway or driveway and wave until guests have driven out of sight.
And you've got to take home some hot dish.
You've gotta do the phone version, where one or both parties start saying "I gotta let you go" at least an hour before you actually hang up. 😂
That's my son and I .He's lives out of state and we don't phone each other real often. But when we do, after a 4 hr conversation we start the "well we better say by and after another hr ... we finally hang up. But I love that ritual. 😊
Or your phone dies while you're talking and you have to decide whether to charge it and call your mom back (she doesn't check her texts) to say you didn't hang up on her and risk talking for too long again (true story).
Every phone call with my Mamaw. At least an hour.
I call my parents or my boss to tell them something that should take 2 minutes and we will without fail talk for at least 1/2 an hour.
I’m told by a German American friend that the Germans have a word for the goodbye at the door that goes on forever. They call it “door death “
I must know that word!!!
Yeah, what is it? I've talked with my German friends about this and lived in Germany for about a year, but haven't had this word come up in conversation. I'm genuinely curious. Don't take it as me trying toc all you out or something. Maybe it's a regional thing in Germany.
As a little kid, I dreaded the goodbye s at my Mother's friend's house.
I refused to stand by the kitchen door for a half hour.
I would sit until my mom actually walked out the door.
Google translate suggests Tor tod, with an umlaut over the o in Tor, take that for what you will!
I am a German and I never heard of such an expression. We have a thing called "langer Abschied" (long saying good-bye) but I never heard that other expression. Might be very, very local. German word would be "Türtod". Door= Tür, death= Tod.
I'm an Aussie, with Italian heritage who lives in Ireland, but I feel like I've finally found my people here! Can I start a Midwestern colony here?
Absolutely! Love to have ya, tell your folks I says hi!
I'd watch the fvck out of that reality show!
The Midwest is like the Australia of America. Come on down mate, we'll throw a brat on the barbee!
Ya, sure, you betcha! Check Galway, there's probably some already there!
Drive safe, watch out for wallaby.
This has got to be one of my new favorite videos. It is so relatable because I live in Chicago and it usually takes 30 minutes to an hour to say goodbye.
I'm an Aussie currently living in OHIO and got married to an Appalacian man and honestly these videos are golden, the culture is so different and I think I would miss it if I were to ever leave.
Enjoying that Hillbilly culture so close to West Virginia? Cleveland born and raised here...
You'll never miss it, you're not able to leave
@@matthewklun2191 its funny cause it's true, already everyone is trying to keep me here and doesn't want me to go back to Australia hahaha
Welcome to Ohio! Cleveland born and raised here. 🙂
Australian and Appalachian is such a funny combo lmao. How, if at all, does that affect your relationship?
As an introvert? This is EVERY social interaction I've ever had.
In the Midwest we have to strategically plan our goodbyes
And block out at least 45 minutes minimum for the ritual to be completed. 😂
My wife is from central IL and I'm from Chicago Suburbs. To this day she cannot understand why it takes 24 hugs, 2 plates of left overs, taking out the garbage, doing the dishes, and 24 more hugs to 6 people to say good bye.
Tell her she can't escape it by going North. Canada checking in, and oh lord was this video accurate.
@@Nathan-dt2tu Heading South Either. From Missouri and the Midwest Goodbye is just as long here. Though the "Welp, I S'pose" is replaced with "well, it's getting late/ well, [insert some excuse here]"
I'm from northern il (40 minutes outside of chicago) and this is so true. i even got roped into setting up a baby shower once.
I ain't never felt anything more than this. Living in Michigan all we do is talk bout the weather dontcha know. It's crazy. And grandma's casserole is always the best. Ain't never gonna leave on time or without a full belly and full truck of leftovers.
You need to come across to Wisconsin, then you can also talk about the Packers too!
As a Floridian, I greatly appreciate you Midwesterners.
@@entercreativename I'll stick to complaining about the lions thanks.
As someone from Minnesota, you ain’t leavin. The “Welp I Spose” is what you say when you want to try to leave in the next 2 hours.
I ended up knowing he would never leave as I wrote the comment half way. That’s how you know I’m from the Midwest. 😂
I love how relatable every one of Charlie’s videos are. I have experienced at least one thing in all of them and I have a love/hate relationship with that feeling.
I grew up in Boston and recently moved to Wisconsin. This is so true! I just had a dinner party and I said goodbye to the same people 6 times. They put on their coats and everything and stepped outside the door, but ended up coming back in and left an hour later.
I liked the horror theme. Definitely was unique as a one-off! Great job!
This is not just the midwest - as someone who grew up and still lives in the South, this is spot on for our region too.
We here in the Midwest need to take this seriously. Just because your goodbyes currently average 97 minutes doesn’t mean you couldn’t easily slip into the goodbye twilight zone…
As an Indian kid, I can definitely relate Lol. Whenever the parents call us up to leave we all know it's gonna take them at least 30 mins to wrap things up so we usually just keep doing whatever it is we're doing until it's actually time to leave. Works out great for us since we get to have fun for an extra 30 mins!
Its like trying to get off the phone with your parents you just can’t get them to say goodbye and let you off the phone how many times you say “well I got to go love you” they won’t let you off.
This was a real banger! You totally nailed it with the making empty promises you never intend on keeping while giving out the hugs n hand shakes. Very northern new york as well on the leftovers lol
It's funny living in wisconsin all my life, I never really thought about how many things we do that people outside of the midwest don't. Until I started watching these, keep them coming and tell your folks I says hi.
More of this, Charlie.. please!! It's amazing. As a fellow Milwaukeean, we need more Midwest existential terror!
Kudos to Milwaukee
Howdy, fellow Milwaukeean! Go Bucks.
He has many videos on You Tube. Check them out. He is hilarious.
As a Masshole who moved to the Midwest and hates the whole "leaving the party" ritual, I feel this deeply.
I'm from NH and about to move to Minnesota. These videos are the only thing preparing me for what to expect in the midwest lol
@@katiekennedy8461 Been in the Twin Cities my whole life and can at least confirm that if you celebrate in the cities the time spent saying goodbye at least won't follow you to the car but once you hit hunting territory... Godspeed lol.
My sister moved from Boston to a suburb of Minneapolis. I got a text from her a month later; she was experiencing major culture shock by how nice everyone was. The Dunkin’ workers were actually happy to be there.
Then just stay. Easy.
Omg 😱 I am a former Mass hole too yikeees
On the one hand, the level of politeness makes me want to visit. On the other hand, eternal goodbyes and tuna casserole ❤❤
You guys should do a twilight zone skit about a guy stuck in an infinite loop of midwestern goodbyes.
P.S. Guys take it easy it’s just a dumb idea lol
I.... is that no what we just watched?
that's just a normal midwestern goodbye, though.
I think you meant YOUS GUYS. GEEZ!
Ground Corn Day 🌽🐭
That's pretty much exactly what this video is
This is gold. Thank you. The Irish goodbye almost always works most of the time
mastered the Irish goodbye in College. Now as a parent I find myself teaching my kids the midwestern goodbye. What a horrifying cycle
i really enjoy the subtle horror movie music that plays each time he shows up.
I’m from Chicago. Saying goodbye at family parties is about a 2 hour process.
Yep...alot of us have elders that are from the South as well. Those customs came with them.
I play D&D with friends and we normally end around 11pm. We finished a little early one night because one of our players had to go back home (lives an hour away) and he didn't walk out the door until 3am. He's originally from the east coast and it took a few years but we finally got him to understand how important a midwestern goodbye is
You are terrible friends
Yep this is how it goes . My family will say goodbyes around 5 on Thanksgiving and we end up leaving at 630 pm lol. It never gets old 😂.
Gotta love a good Midwest Goodbye. For me A Midwest Goodbye takes around 45-1hr so you really gotta plan your time. If you haven't honed your skills, if you can't escape in the 1hr you might as well stay the night, because its likely past dark at this point. At which point at the crack of dawn with a broken spine from the hard or oddly too soft couch you've slept on you creak your way into the bathroom and then get your shoes on. Before you can leave, a final test. The host is likely up at this point and you have to make your escape with this final chance or be trapped forever. Take the container of food and your promise to return it, and escape this hospitality until you can try your luck at it again next time.
As someone who lives in Minnesota and visits my grandparents, getting out of great grandmas house after dinner (Get there at around 6-7) is always a struggle, we're always there too long and by the end of it we're getting out at 11, this video couldn't have spelled out the struggle of leaving other peoples houses any better.
"What do you say we check out the hot water heater?"
"Why?"
Hardest I laughed in the whole skit haha.
I knew right away this would have to be pretty condensed, a proper midwestern goodbye is at least 15-25 minutes on a good day.
Oh wow! Large Irish family on both sides from North Carolina and trying to leave from a family reunion took hours!! But…. Had a car load of great left overs!! Laughed out loud at the cool whip container “ Tupperware “ !!
Yeah but “Irish Exit” implies leaving without telling anyone. Such bliss to just bail
This perfectly walked the line between parody and real life and is genuinely one of the best things you have written and produced so far, Charlie. To see your talents grow and excel from the original Manitowoc Minute, through your superb stand up and your continued collaborations and solo sketches to now really makes me proud to be able to point at you as a bright point in Wisconsin as a whole. Well done, bud.
Agree. Just have to comment again because this is so, so good. The acting, the script, the timing, the music. Incredible. Even the plopping of the tuna casserole in the good Tupperware. Amazing. You feel the terror, the desperation. He just wants to leave but Charlie is right there, in his face. My only problem with this is it leaves you hoping for more episodes. Did anybody actually get to leave? Did Father Joshua get back to church? Wow!
@@verak66 we need an episode 2.
Yep when I was a kid, my aunts and uncles would say we are leaving. My cousins and I knew we had at least an hour to play, cause they stand at the door for more than an hour !
Thanks for the reminder! I've gotta return my mom's "good tupperware" before Thanksgiving so she's got something to pack my leftovers in. So, I suppose...
As an Iowan, I 100% agree on these goodbye terms. Its a MUST
I love the Irish goodbye. My brother on the other hand, despite being born and bred on the west coast, is incapable of anything other than a Midwest goodbye.
"They're just playing Euchre" is the best part of this video
never mix an irishman and a midewstern, They will never let you leave...
I grew up in Wisconsin and live in Texas now but I just did the "welp I s'pose" at work and went home 4 hours early and nobody said anything.
Amazing. I didn't even know I had this power.
Seriously, make a full feature based on this. This scared the living bejesus outta me. Cripes!
They could base it on Invasion of the Body Snatchers. People would find giant zucchinis under their beds that would hatch and release a midwesterner. Then the real terror of church basement pot lucks and lutefisk dinners could begin.
@@greyeaglem Or what if someone there could only leave if a new person (victim?) took their place?
My dad was a preacher, and down south in southern Bible Belt, you’d say goodbye and the whole family would follow you out to the car and keep talking…for almost an hour more. Kids in the back just waiting while mom and dad kept talking to whom we were visiting from the car window. It went on and on and on.
Gold! Traumatizing GOLD!
These goodbye skits are so frigging accurate. I gotta move 🤦🏼♀️
❤ from Ohio!
Jesus Christ this hit close to home. I grew up on the west coast, my mom's from the Midwest so when we moved back to live closer to her family, I was NOT prepared for the Midwest goodbye. The goodbyes would last an hour, minimum. But once I got my drivers license, I made my mom promise that the goodbyes would be cut down to 15 minutes max otherwise I was leaving. One time, it strayed into the 20 minute zone and I was out the door with the keys and she was scrambling to catch up to me. The Cool-Whip leftover container is spot on. We'd get a Country Crock tub for Thanksgiving leftovers.
I believe the midwest and south have something in common!
More than one thing, to be fair.
I would argue that theres no real differets besides location.
I'm a Minnesotan living in Ireland, and the "Welp, I Spose" knee-slap is one of quite a few Midwest things I haven't been able to stop doing even though I've lived in Ireland almost twenty years now. At least now I have this video to prove it's not just me that does it!
Hi! I am from Ohio and spent some time in Ireland right after high school. The NICEST people I ever met in my life and the most beautiful place as well. It was actually hard to say goodbye.
Another wonderful documentary. Keep up the good work. You'll be on the History Channel soon enough.
I'm not from the Midwest, but this is exactly how saying goodbye works where I live
Saying goodbye for an hour. Some things I miss from the Midwest. And I did sneak out a lot when I was younger.
Nebraskan here - 100% accurate. Literally takes me an hour to leave every event and I do slap my knee and say “welp I s’pose”. Like, LITERALLY this video is accurate down to the T. Also, yes, you HAVE to accept the leftovers.
GBR! If that's you in the pic, I would try and make it an hour as well? You are lovely...
This is legit how it feels sometimes going to someone's house for the first time. Not just a Midwest thing lol. Too funny, Charlie. Keep er movin
Charlie your videos are always funny, but this one had me dying. I grew up in the U.P. and as kids we knew when my parents said it's time to go, we still had a few hours to play. You nailed it.
Absolute masterpiece. This is close to as good as the small town bar skit! This is definitely my 2nd favorite.
Now imagine this..a Greek-American family living in the Midwest. That was my reality growing up. Not only do you get the infini-goodbyes, but the forcible feeding of pretty much anyone on the street who so much as glances at the house.
ah yea, that sounds like a particularly dangerous combo
Literally backing out the door & people still making conversation. Completely accurate. Go Pack!
I'm Finnish and I find it hilarious how many Midwestern quirks are common in Finland as well. 😁
Makes sense. Lots of people in the Midwest are descended from Nordic immigrants to America.
Many of them come from Finland, Scandinavia, or Germany. All our ancestors came from those countries about 150 years ago and brought over their customs with them.
Before I visited the Midwest I created a schedule so I can visit all my families and friends. The long goodbye ruined it all. The schedule burned down on day one. 😂
Honestly I get the feeling something like this could make a good SCP entry. That no one actually lives they are all the unfortunate victims that wander into this strange mysterious house that just seems to draw you in, and any time you try to leave you keep being drawn back to the house like months to a flame before you can even make it off the property. Almost like the house itself doesn't want you to leave. Give how suddenly is attitude changed and even he couldn't explain it. Like something was messing with his head.
There are already SCP foundation entries that are similar premises, But only in the sense that you can't escape. Like the infinite Ikea. Once you wander in you'll never find the exit, or the town where it's always Christmas. You can get trapped there celebrating Christmas forever.
as someone from around Boston I was dying at this... because we do, or at least I do, try to just leave without saying anything
This was great. You guys really nailed the subtleties.
Father Joshua was stunning.
New Englander here (not Boston though) and I feel like our goodbyes can be something like this as well. I've had goodbyes last longer than an hour an any given holiday.
I've lived in Missouri for 20 years and I still get impatient at the Midwestern goodbye. My father in law is the KING of dragging out goodbyes when we're trying to leave.
This is one of the best videos you've done. Great job to all involved.
One of the best decisions i have ever made. Sifu Post has taught me so much and I've grown a lot in the nearly 2 years that I attended. While there I not only learned how to fight, i learned to focus my energy into more positive things in life, and met some amazing people along the way. In doing so I have become more aware of what I want from life and it has helped me to set goals and achieve them. Unfortunately my decision to leave Colorado means that i can no longer train with Sifu Post. My experience here will stick with me for life and I’m very grateful to have found this place. I hope to keep pursuing martial arts, but this place certainly ignited a spark. - Cole McCormick
Could also call this the "Saskatchewan goodbye!" We're a lot like the Midwest: it takes half an hour to the door after saying goodbye, then another half an hour of small talk while you warm up the car and get your parka and boots on, if it's winter time (which is about 8 months of the year, for us Canadians!). Love your videos, it's like watching my friends and family, except with a different accent! Go 'Riders, f*** the Bombers, eh!😆
Always heard it as the Minnesota goodbye, glad to know it’s not just us!
Yeah, no, it's not. We over here across the Cheddar curtain from youz guys, grew up with this. And while I may have grown up within an hour and a half of the border, Charlie here is over on our east coast, so, must be state-wide :).
@@ajb.822 love being a hop skip and a jump away from yall. I can hop the boarder and get some spotted cow and curds so fresh they squeak in your mouth. Still only 20 minutes away from the twin cities so I get the best of both worlds. Best thing is I stopped taking our roads for granted after driving on youralls haha(I’m just kidding, love Wisconsin and her majestic hills.
I had to keep rewinding. I was laughing so hard I kept missing Charlie's lines 🤣
I've lived in Lower Michigan all my life and always thought the midwest goodbye was a bit long and it was easier just to sneak out undetected . After watching this, I see that I wasnt just imagining it. If you're somewhat of an introvert, the midwest goodbye can really test your patience! Cool video
I can indeed confirm this is a thing and frustration every time coming from someone from the west coast.
My parents would send us out to the car while my dad stood inside with his hand on the doorknob for at least an hour - this was in the Winter, mind you! Being the youngest of five, I was always voluntold to go in and get them so we could start the 3 hour trek home in the blizzard (there was always a blizzard).
Voluntold lol I love it
This hit too close to home lol
😂 SPOT ON midwestern goodbye! You always have to leave 10-15 minutes before you actually want to leave.
10 to 15 minutes? God love you.
The 1000% accuracy living in the center of the Midwest myself. "What do you say we go check on the hot water heater" 😂😂😂
This is amazing
You must take the leftovers
No thank you it’s chemical weapons lmao
😂
I'm new to this channel, and the videos are absolute gold. I've only lived on both of the coasts so haven't experienced this long goodbye.
Actually terrifying, one of my favorite videos so far.
The intesity in Charles face when thgs. get real about how long he's been there was scary and funny at the same time. Gave me chills.