coming out to my homophobic dad
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- coming out to my homophobic dad | in this life in japan vlog, i traveled to shizuoka and spent my chiristmas with my dad and i finally came out to him as gay. He didn't have the best reaction in the past about the lgbtq+ community. Let's see how he reacts this time around.
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Its so rare to see parents apologizing about the mistakes they've made. I was shocked and glad with how he reacted to everything; I think the time away from the family made him do a lot of self reflecting.
SAME THOUGHTS! I think he felt he was being distanced and he did a lot of soul searching and understanding why his kids are so distant instead of just wondering. Stan's papa was honestly glowing too with his interactions in this video alone and felt a lot more warm and it showed because as Stan mentioned, he was comfortable with sharing more details about his life and it led him to finally coming out and it was just beautiful and wholesome. 🥺
I was thinking the same!
especially for asian parents
In all seriousness, I was lowk upset when this comment showed up on my phone as an ad played and I feel like I’ve been cheated from seeing the end of the video /lh
I almost cried even before he came out😭
the last "my homophobic dad" to "my dad" was so powerful, made me tear up.
I'm crying now
@@jessicahernandez3090 we all r
That got me right in the feelies 🥹
Deadass i died that shit made me bawl
ikr jesus christ
The part when he said "I really didn't realize how much I've hurt you." Broke me.
Fr, I wish my parents knew :((
My father could never
@@vxsp8 same :(
Same
Fr, I was in tears. Im not gay or anything like that, but I definitely support the lgbtq community. My mum doesn’t care in I was part of the lgbtq community but my dad on the other had doesn’t support them. I feel bad for the people that have parents that won’t except you for being yourself and loves who want to love. I can’t imagine not being able to come out to your parents and them not supporting you. Major respect to the people that were brave enough to come out and also major respect for the lgbtq community.
this broke me in all the good ways. I'm a nearly 50 yr old woman from the states and my daughter is Bisexual and she NEVER had to "come out" to me, she just knew she could be whomever she wanted to be and just said to me one day at age 12 "that girl is sooo pretty" and I was like "yup I agree" and that was the extent of the conversation. I love her no matter what....Parents all over the world need to see this. Your child is your child and you love them...PERIOD
i've been wanting to come out to my parents for awhile not knowing how they would react. this gave me hope that everything will be fine :)
My parents would kick me out the house if i was gay. I agree with them. Im homophobic
@@ashtonsawesomeaussieanimal2133 why are you like this proud of being homophobic?
I see something strange that the father did not realize that the son is gay... His gestures and tone of voice are clearly gay. Maybe the father was homophobic so the son wouldn't get the nature out of him, but when the son came out, he had no choice but to accept it. 😅
@@ashtonsawesomeaussieanimal2133 I hope you're just trying to be edgy cause you're a foolish child, if not, wtf????
The fact that he actually sees the error of what he said in the past and no longer sees that anymore and is more accepting is fantastic
5:42 haha lol
Frr 😢 unlike most parents he actually sees and owns up to his mistakes! Which i value and think very highly of! 🥺❤️❤️
@@kiarita6495 I respect him highly for it he's a better man for it
❤❤❤❤❤
I wish my dad was like that. I enter his car and he starts blabbering about how liking the same gender is a sin and he loves that’s I understand.
the best thing is when someone who was previously so bad realizes they were wrong, changes, accepts they did wrong and actively does better. Good on your dad for being better
@@Delibreus how??? It hurts so many people???
@@Callum_1275 I agree with you. It is wrong to not respect some religions CANT support it but all can respect it.
@@TheHomosexualSerpente and I think I can understand that, you know? But when people use the Bible to justify being horrible to gay people and others, like, that’s not okay.
@@Delibreusyour opinion is trash and wrong
@@Callum_1275 being horrible is a different thing, like bullying someone for being gay. But not supporting lgbtq but still being nice to them is a different story.. some religions simply ask not to support and y’all should just simply understand that and take it
I find it amazing how they switch from japanese to tagalog and sometimes english when they speak, so much diversity in one conversation.
Is the father Filipino? Is the son Japanese half Filipino?
@@kito2554 Father's Filipino, Mother's Japanese, he is half yes.
in my family we do the same lolol
and Bisaya even 😭, he uses ‘ba’ and ‘boang’
Me too!! When their dad first greeted them I was so shocked hearing a familiar language (tagalog) and had to pause to process that lol
Then I tried to challenge myself to understand what they were saying by not reading the subtitles but I ended up needing them to understand what they were saying in japanese-
*lets just appreciate the man filmed the whole convo just for us, he even cried in front of us.. he even spoiled some of his back story... let’s just respect that..*
When he said, "I may not understand you, but I can accept you," I literally tore up
"Tore up"
@@Emxn_ bro, then what the fuck is it supposed to be?? Teared up?!
@@SnailBob3348 actually yes😭😭
@@SnailBob3348 that’s literally what it’s supposed to be..
@@vxrcetti999 nvm, I read the dictionary and it has two "past tense" Alternatives: "tore" Or "teared"
I actually got chills when "my homophobic dad" turned into "my dad" I love this so much😭😭😭✨✨✨
Same 😢
Yeah I also got tears idk why 🥺
time stamp?
@@kyra2009k Allllll the way at the end
@@kyra2009k 16:22 end of the video after crying
Your dad did a lot of self-reflecting and he owed up to his faults and apologized. I'm so happy and proud of u Stan!! Amping pirmi!!
fr
Stuff like this is what restores faith in humanity
Are u filipino, Bisaya?!
Man, I wish my parents reacted like that. I’m bisexual. I didn’t even get to tell them. They found out by THEMSELVES. I had a girlfriend at the time, (now ex girlfriend, unfortunately.) and they had found out. They told me to go to my room and don’t come out until they say. The thing is they weren’t mad I was dating someone, they were mad it was a girl. To this day they still make fun of LGBTQ+ people right to my face, knowing that I’m Bi.
honestly if I were your parent I would gladly accept you
@@yayamilkyway Thank you I appreciate that❤️
@@yayamilkywayyeah same
@@AddyEditsPJO Screw them, as long s you're happy :)
Proud of your parents
I'm literally sobbing the end was so wholesome, I really hope that you and your dad's relationship will start to strengthen from here. Such a huge difference in his disposition proves that humans can change :')
No cause same. This was so wholesome 🥺💜💜
ive just finished the video and im crying this is so wholesome
Like tissues all over my bed sobbing
Me too I was crying 😢
thought i was the only one
The most heartbreaking thing about this video is that you can see Stan getting visibly uncomfortable and anxious, he's playing with his fingers and avoiding eye contact while bringing up the topic. Usually the Stan we see is incredibly bright, talkative, outgoing, and charismatic. This goes to show that coming out to your parents is incredibly difficult, it's a feeling that you can't describe, no matter how outwardly supportive or unsupportive your parents seem to be. I'm really happy for you Stan! You deserve everything good and positive in this world
I couldn't stop watching his hands 😭
@@CrisOnTheInternet same lol
I did this on the phone.
Im a indian closeteted bisexual and when my parents called the community "unnatural" and "diseased" I went up to my room crying. Props to you for having the guts to come out to your dad. Im still a minor, and I will probs tell my parents when im out of college.
Edit: yall in the comments are so supportive 😭
I hope you are doing well, I'm really sorry that happened to you... also Happy New Year!
@@lucillecaluza6772 happy new year! And in doing better, thank you!
I’m sorry! Although this is not an excuse many Indian parents can have that mentality (insert my parents) what’s important is that u don’t change and remember you are beautiful just the way you are
@@Aki-vi3ot thank u for the support!
i’m so sorry to hear that, i wish the best for you when the time is right and just know that you have so much support from us online. take care of yourself i’m rooting for you
yo, i love this guy, it seems that he is genuinly sorry about the things he did in he past, and wants to set that in stone that he really wants to change with all the resent he carries for his past self. Even the reaction he had when you came out is just soooo good. greatvid, i was on the edge of my seat the whole time.
But he's gay
@@yoshissbkgod6285 you dont have to comment on something just because your opinion says its wrong, if you're homophobic why are you commenting under a coming out video?
@@Hello22-q4d To let them know my beliefs
@@yoshissbkgod6285 if your homophobic why are you even watching this video??
@@killer_cat-321 to express my opinion
“This conversation is not about me understanding you, its about accepting you”
was so powerfully empathetic. We will never truly ‘understand’ how the world works and why things are they way they are and that’s okay. As long we just learn to co-exist with respect and peace. I’m so so proud of you Stan and hope that this chapter brings you and your dad closer. I can only hope for the same with my parents and I.
I also liked how he encouraged Stewie to say it loud and clear and proudly. He probably already knows what he’s going to say and that he will love him regardless, but he wants it to be healing for his son as well. His dad seems to be very emotionally intelligent and that’s a really big step.
not being rude just saying he is not stewie he is stan
He thinks his subscribers got one braincell.such a huge stage presence and he doesn't know his son does youtube? I call bs
@@erikascencen um you know you can block users on TH-cam right?
@@erikascencen some parents don’t know they have TH-cam channels and other don’t care, don’t watch or know their kids channel name?
@Galactic Studio’s I doubt they never questioned his source of income.Also even if parents don't ppl around parents do
You can tell how much he has been reflecting, not a lot of parents manage to change themselves like this and apologize for their mistakes. This really was a healing trip for both of you. I'm so so happy for you Stan and really proud ♥ Wishing you all the best!!
as someone who’s closeted this really made me tear up. im so proud of you and your dad for changing his ways.
i'd just like to say, as someone who was closeted until pretty recently, i know it's really difficult to come out. i don't know what situation you're in, but whatever's happening in your life, remember that tomorrow is worth living for.
I am Christian and I alway get so happy when I see another Christian finally learn to love people not for gender or sexuality or race but for being a good person the change in him is outstanding
samee
Amen
Same!
?? Do you even read the Bible?
@@qiqimarji do you know it was mistranslated?
He saying "thank you for opening up to me son", girl I wished that was what my dad said to me when I came out to him. Honestly your dad is in the A tier
honestly, it just needs some time. everyone's mind can change with time, especially when there are forces pushing them (like family connection or belonging value by Stan's dad)
not me tearing up like this 😭 your dad reminds me so much of my own dad, and when I came out to him. That shit takes a lot of balls, and it's great that he's willing to accept you for who you are.
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Hi edwarddd! Collab with stan pls hahaha!
Collab with stan pls 🥹
Love you both 🥹🥹🥹
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HIM FARTING AS UR ABOUT TO COME OUT BYE
IKR
Literally crying 😭 Coming out, especially to people who have been homophobic, biphobic etc is the hardest thing to do. The fact his dad had acknowledged his faults, took ownership and apologized for his actions and was willing to accept Stan for who he is and be supportive feels like such a full circle moment. So happy for you ❤️
homophobic is for all lgbt community
Not to be rude but what does biphobic mean?
@@copy-rightedname against bi people
@@yuhitsmegirly2449 ok thank u
Bruh biphobic? . Can we just stop adding another words like I think homophobic is enough to describe someone who hate homosexuals and bisexuals.
i lost it at the removal of ‘homophobic’ as us viewers have come to know your dad as, and i’m crying happy tears, proud tears for such a huge healing moment in your life and relationship with your dad. thank you for sharing such a powerful, vulnerable moment with us, stan! ❤🏳️🌈
Same that very last second made me burst !!
Same that made sob so hard 😭
This man has done so much inner work. Recognizing past failures, addressing it and making the effort not to operate in the same way. His growth even goes beyond you and your sexuality . So you can actually be very proud of your dad
I dont agree
@@arloNYCI don’t think they care…
@@theharshtruthoutthere Love is a thing made by man, though. Love is a chemical, but the institutions we have in place for things marriage like marriage are institutional. Homosexuality is present in nature, and has been present as long as mankind itself. For example, a large amount of penguins and giraffes are naturally homosexual. Also, abuse is obviously not love, nobody said it was. But do you know what system supports abuse? Abstinence, and the church, holding off desires and getting married simply because you're lustful and can't wait to participate in intimate activities. Also, the church is responsible for the systemic abuse of children. If you STILL think homosexuality is harmful, with all the knowledge and information out there and REAL statistics, get a hold of yourself. Knowledge is power, and you're only hurting yourself by not letting yourself know more.
@@Suzuro BIBLE gives perfect answer what love, lets stick with it, and forgot mans lies.
@@Suzuro homosexuality is abomination to GOD.
this is so heartwarming. and you dad is the best . hes so open and understanding. and the last part when it says"my homophobic dad" to "my dad" was sooo impactful it made me tear up. and i love the diversity you and your dad have, because i could actually understand everything
It's so sweet seeing a father finally accepting his son of being gay, and also kudos to you stan and your father for speaking 3 languages in a conversation. Crying but still slaying.💅✨
What languages btw??
@@yuliaaraya6654 Japanese and englis, idk what others though- might be a dialect?
@@orteney. i think it's filipino?
@@zenitsuagatsumanezukochann8502yea I was thinking Tagalog too
@@yuliaaraya6654 They were talking in a combination of Japanese, Tagalog, and English.
gahhhh I was crying with you and at the end when I saw the "my homophobic dad" becoming "my dad" it was my last straw. Congratulations Stan you deserve all the love in this world!!!!!
SAMEEE THATS THE PART I LITERALLY STARTED BAWLLING MY EYES OUT
BRUH I'M TEARING UP FR
right.. i lost it at that part
that ending with the "homophobic" fading away gave me chills, I'm so happy for you Stan and you paved the way for your little brother!
Ik it was so touched to see that and his dad seemed to realize the mistakes and accepted Stan for who he is🥺 im so glad for their relationship 😭
THAT PART MADE ME SOB 😭
Very "Falcon and the Winter Soldier" the outro credits change to reflect a milestone at the end of the series.
No because my jaw dropped and I tried not to cry
the way I cried
i’m russian and i’m closeted from my family. i was so nervous when you started talking to your dad, like i was there and the one who was coming out is me. i’m so proud of you telling him! i don’t think i will ever be able to talk to my parents about this.
if you ever do, make sure that you move out if the country first, because the lgbtqia+ community is considered a "terrorist organization" in Russia
@@guney2811 yeeah, i know. you can literally go to jail for loving a person. that becomes even more insane when you think about it…
@@riririruri yeah it's very bad, the government is also trying to make being gay illegal in my country (Türkiye), so I'm also closeted, be careful, I hope you can find a safe place soon :)
@@guney2811 be careful too! i hope you will at least find some queer friends. it’s always good to have someone who understands how you feel and who you can share problems with. uuuggh why can’t everyone just let queer people live normal lives?
as a christian i have never heard such an amazing and kind response from another christian before when they find out their child is gay. That is literally how a real christian should react.
real
Reallllllll
I'm Christian and lesbian
Edit: Now I'm Genderfluid, Omnisexual And Asexual
no. its not isnt it a literal sin???
@@scorpi4928you can look at it how you want to but your sexuality is not a sin
istg i thought the title said "coming out as homophobic to my dad"
Same-
HONESTLY SAME?!???!?!
What I thought the same wtfff
SAME HELP
LMBOO
My face is soaked. This was the most beautiful thing I’ve seen in a while. The “my dad” at the end was absolutely ethereal. Congrats Stan!!!!
I’m straight, but one time I was hanging out with my friends (they’re a lesbian couple) and my dad didn’t know that but he knew that one of the girl’s parents are a lesbian and gay couples so she had two dads and two moms and yelled at me for hanging out w/ ppl who can “influence” me. Like bruv… wut???
literally crying my eyes out. I teared up when your dad says "Thank you for opening up to me, son" ... This is the character development we've been waiting for!
Dude same I’m crying so much-
im also crying. its just so emotional when coming out bc its such a hard thing to do. im glad his dad supports him now 🏳🌈
This made me cry wtf, watching a dad who had Homophobic views accept and be proud of his son for coming out 😭
second reply to a comment with 1k likes? also agree
A medal for not being homophobic? Is the bar really so low?
@@hereforthechaos7614 yes, i have two parents who dont want to see me as who i am (im trans) and so seeing someone come around FOR THEIR CHILD is emotional for me
Homeight moment
i like that your dad made it clear that he might not understand you and how you have feelings romantically towards other men but he accepts you for who you are.
such a healing interaction between beautiful humans. 🥲💜 also the fluidity speaking tagalog-japanese-english is amazing. 🤩
Thanks, we're all crying now 😭💔😢
It's so great to see that his dad seems to have reflected a lot of his past actions. And it's so beautiful that he immediately accepted and supported him. He knew that it must've have been really hard for Stan. Best wishes only!
All?
@@Stee_123fr
@@Delibreus it's just a comment it's not that deep
Your dads ability to communicate and express himself so beautifully and eloquently is making me bawl my eyes out right now. He really wants to do better. "I'm only a human being." "It's not a sin because you're not in control." I'm sorry for the father you had in the past, but I feel that you're so lucky to have the one I see now. He transformed himself and I hope he's proud. "Come come, I will embrace you my son. Thank you for opening up to me." Sorry for literally repeating everything he's saying but I've never seen such a wholesome and pure reaction. I AM A MESS.
@𝗳 𝘂 𝗻 𝘁 𝗹 𝗶 𝗰 𝗸 𝗲 𝗿シ I understand what you are saying but I think you are mistaken about the sin. Being gay is not pride, sure people may have pride because of it, but pride and being gay are two separate things. For example: Someone can be gay and be the opposite of prideful with it and rather be shameful. If it were to fall under any category it would most likely be sexual immorality, not pride which is a separate or different sin. I can see why you would think that; as a portion of the community associates itself with pride. But they are two separate things. I'm simply just trying to tell you that being gay wouldn't necessarily fall under pride. Sure it may lead to some having pride but it isn't necessarily related.
the character development we’ve all been waiting for. i’ve followed stan’s channel since the time he started sharing about his life, vlogs on how you showed us the times you had to change and hide your true self just to please your dad when you visit him and not cause arguments with him for being ‘homophobic’. Now, seeing the two of you conversing and finally opening up things to him and getting that pat in the back after he finally understood you, his own mistakes and accepted who you are. I’m happy for you, Stan. ☺️❤
sameee i got teared up ;;;
^^
STOP YOUR DAD IS SO SWEET I WANT TO HUG HIM😭😭😭
I was literally so nervous and crying with you. Coming out is one of the most open and vulnerable things that a person could do. I’m so proud of you Stan and I’m so happy that your dad is being accepting.
i felt the same, rlly happy to see all positive comments
yes… i agree with everything you said
it’s really hard to come out to parents that do and don’t accept u, the most important thing is to accept yourself before telling anyone else..
you don’t need everyone’s approval in life we just need and deserve respect and we deserve to be treated equally no matter what, that goes for everyone and everything out there sometimes..
“How can I condemn you? Son” I wish more people had the courage to recognise their mistakes and learn from them and try to become better. I adore you Stan and your dad’s improvement is admirable. Your courage is also admirable. ❤
The way he switched from saying he wouldn't tell his dad he had a bf yet, to telling him, made me feel real happy. I love how you enjoyed your time with him enough to trust him with that information.
I'm a straight ally and a Christian and something I hate seeing is parents getting mad at how God made their child it hurts my soul but when his dad said "that's how God made you" brought hope for me love you man ❤️
What really pisses me off is so many people saying homosexuality is a sin while the Bible quite literally says the exact opposite
@@Nebby_Webbywhere does it say that homosexuality is NOT a sin? You are delusional.
its so cool hearing you and your dad switching between english, filipino, and japanese.
That was the other language! Thank you 🙏🏼
That's why I heard Filipino
Ty
I thought I was hearing things
@@lenovo9269 same same HAHA-
The way your dad addresses you as
“my son" is so wholesome 🥲 and the end made me cry 😭
I have no idea who this guy is I didn't know this channel existed but now I'm crying over some dad and his son in this world having a wholesome moment that ended so happy, luckily. Without knowing anything else about the story I'm so touched and want to hug all of you in the comments who have struggles with their families because of something like this 🫂🫂🫂
Same it just randomly popped up in my recommended
Honestly same
Same here
Same me too
same here
he's healing and growing and it is so good to see. he's seen how much his actions have affected him in his life, and he's willing to change. that's beautiful
I went from giggling at a cute father son date to crying in the train to work, I’m so happy for you and your dad Stan😭😭
"I will not condemn you because there is a creator higher than me. How could I condemn you, son?"
This is very powerful. Hats of to your dad, Stan! I am so proud for both of you
Half a million subscribers of openly gay man channel.And you all think nobody of these half million knows him irl and told dad? The naivety 😀😀
@@erikascencen so what? what’s your point?
@saiko do you have difficulties understanding text? There's no way dad didn't know anything given Internet presence his son has
@Korin it does take everything away.Thus being a dishonest video.
@@erikascencen no bc why would anybody out him randomly??? thats literally disrespectful
ive never seen you before, but im crying over a dad and a child reunion. its not also about the wholesomeness, but my dad said straight to my face “if you are lgbtq+, you are kicked out of this family,” and im always so scared if i became it.
I'm so sorry that Your dad hasn't understand yet, but you're amazing and beautiful just the way you are, you should never be scared of being yourself❤️
If you ever find out you’re LGBT, please make sure you are in a safe space before coming out. Stay safe, I’m sorry for you
Same
When you get the chance, get a place of your own and then tell them. I'm bi, and thankfully, my grandparents are fine w it. My uncle is gay too, but my 'mum' isn't a good person, and I was kicked out at 10. If you have some family who are ok w it go to them
@@rHamUK AT 10?!??!?! jesus christ
if he knew your english accent he would've known for years
So true
its audible in japanese fs
This was very personal. I don’t usually comment but it literally felt like I was watching a documentary on someone’s struggle coming out to their parent. The fact that you literally filmed this yourself and uploaded it just show how much you really care for your audience and supporters. I’m sure you wanted us to be part of this process as intimate and scary as it was, you took us with you and I have a whole new level of respect for you Stan. Dad is right, you did do well for yourself and you should be absolutely proud of yourself❤
as someone with a toxic father, i really didn’t have much hope going into the video, but i’m crying with happiness for you stan, i’m so happy for you. i really admire that you had the courage to do this and that you’re trying to have a relationship with your father. i hope things continue to get better with him. ❤️
as a person who also has a toxic father, do you know how I can deal with him. I dont want to be around him anymore but I feel this guilt leaving him as he is my father. he wont accept me for who I am and I am scared for my future with him. I'm not out yet as he is extremely homophobic. I hope you have a great day
@@Demon-xp4hc I know how you feel. I'm wishing you and "Shio" a good life
my dad was talking about someone who was apart of lgbtq+ who said their home life was hard, and he said “no wonder your home life is hard, your queer and that’s a sin. god made us this way it’s adam and eve not adam and steve” and I was so shocked..
@@joliviala im so sorry❤ i am muslim and i belive in god but if my son or daughter would come out i would support them!
@@muratbulat7691 Good on you! I know many Muslims are not supportive, so knowing that you would support your child no matter what is so refreshing to hear.
This was so sweet 😭 your dad's character arc from homophobic to accepting is so heart warming 😭😭😭
This entire video was a hell of a rollercoaster, let me tell you this. BUT what made me really happy and hopeful throughout the entire video was that your dad seems to understand that he made mistakes in the past and he actively tries (and has tried) to change his behaviors. When he said "I really didn't realize how much I've hurt you" I almost started crying - because it hit right in my heart. I don't have any sort of relationship with my biological dad myself because of a lot of bad stuff happening in the past, but your video gave me hope and kind of encouraged me to be more open about possibly trying to fix it. Most often I don't have any urge to ever talk to him again; however, I did forgive him. But I've also learned that forgiving someone doesn't necessarily mean that you want/need them (back) in your life. But watching your video until the end, hearing how genuine your dad seems to be nowadays, and especially his response to you coming out to him filled my heart with so much love. Actually, I'm a believer as well, but I have never heard such a beautiful thing like "it can't be a sin because it's not in your control and God created you this way" - that's for sure something I will carry with me for a long time. I'm very very happy for you that this worked out so well, and I hope and pray that you can continue to strengthen and re-building your relationship. Only the best for you. Sending lots of love from Germany!
The hair rub when he realised that your apartment meant you’d built a life for yourself, it was so heartwarming
as a Filipina with a strict and absent father, this shit really hit. My dad is distant and I have so much pent up emotions and anger and its still hard for me to want to rebuild our relationship because of the trauma and burden I've carried for years. I hope to reconcile like this with him too.
I hope so for you too.
I’ve heard of people sending their parents videos here and there. Videos of wholesome family videos like this one, ones discussing sensitive topics but also being respectful, etc. Sometimes if you give them time SOMETHING will spark in their heads and some change will be made
i rlly felt this comment, im hoping we can reconcile someday…
I’m so glad your dad has matured and accepted you for who you are. I’m also glad to see your relationship with him grow more. Honestly seeing at the end how it went from “My homophobic Dad” to just “My Dad” made me tear up. It really warms my heart to see people doing what’s right. Stan we love you and remember you are strong so strong and worthy. You are one of the bravest people I know keep shining💜✨
i definitely cried. This was so touching. I'm so sorry that you had to carry this burden alone and that he's said such a vile thing to you but I'm also so glad and proud of him for changing, and I'm proud of you for finding the courage to tell him. It's beautiful that you guys have been able to get your relationship to this level of closeness ❤
Being a straight female I didn’t quite realise just how tough some people’s lives are. As a straight person - you don’t have to “come out” to anyone….. it’s so upsetting how difficult some people’s lives are over something so normal! So proud of you Stan
“i don’t think it’s a sin because it’s not under your control. it’s how god made you.”
someone get this guy a medal
edit: to everybody saying to look in the bible, why? this comment was meant to point out what the man said and has nothing to do with the bible
No it isn’t. Being gay isn’t normal.
he said it so well!! i’m christian and i think this way as well. i wish many other christian’s can understand this ☹️
Actually it doesn’t sound well to my ears. It’s as if he’s saying that it’s not “his fault” to be gay, as if it was something to be at fault
@@chiarapavone780 not what he meant though. He meant that if that's the way God intended his son to be, who is he to argue? His dad can't decide what God wants. He realized that all he can do is accept it and follow the greatest commandment; love thy neighbor.
@@pinkmiku12 it is man go read 1 Corinthians 6:9
I cried 😭😭 being one of the witnesses of this historic moment in Stan's life made me feel anxious, nervous, excited, proud, and happy together with Stan throughout the video. I can't imagine how much courage you made Stan to be able to do this now 🥺🥺 and for that I love you 💖 Thank you so much Stan's Dad for changing your perspective in life for the sake of your loved ones 🥰 This is truly a breath of relief for all of us 💛 Congratulations Stan✨
ME TOO! Were so proud of you STAN!💖❤💜
ikr..❤ i’m happy stan feels comfortable around his father now 💗
when i saw that “ homophobic dad “ turn into “ my dad “ i started balling my eyes out.
Aww I’m actually so happy for you. It’s so lovely to see your dad be happy for you 😊
this is so wholesome. His dad is so proud of his accomplishments with the new apartment and you can tell his dad really loves him. He may not have been the most supportive in the past but he’s making up for it and learning.
That's what I'm talking about! You can clearly see the enthusiasm and how proud he is. Personally it stung so bad when Stan said that everyone else but him already knew, where I really felt hard empathy for the dad. Knowing he has done so much hurt to his children, to the point where they never felt like they could rely on him, it hurts even from a side view, moreover when you're facing that situation. It's clear that he's come to light about his mistakes not that long ago, considering that Stan still thought that he is the same father he was before. Overall I am so proud of this.. I can't explain the feels this gave me, even though I'm not part of lgbtq+. It's so wholesome
AND THATS ON PERIOD !! Not all Filipino Fathers react that way and im so grateful for you and for all those who came out. For those who still can't, I support you every step of the way and as a whole community we will strive for a better place for us !! ILYSM STAN !! 💗💗💗
Yep. Facts all across this comment section I swear!
Around this time, it's my 1 year anniversary of coming out to my mom and sister
I can't tell you how fcking happy I am for you. I'm so happy that your dad decided to be a good father and accept you for who you are. I'm really proud of you that you have a loving family that accepts and loves you for who you are. I cried so much watching this because I know my religious Muslim parents will NEVER accept me for who I am I really wish such life for no one. Love y'all
"i have to tell you something"
*farts*
lmaoo
Am filipino and this hits hard especially since they are speaking tagalog. While watching the video, I was pausing and delaying the coming out part since I was nervous for Stan. Although I am very outspoken, I have yet to come out to my parents. I am very proud of you Stan! I hope nothing but more happiness to you and your family. Your videos are literally a energizing pill I take meticulously. GO BAYOT! 💕
You’re so right ang hirap panoorin for me kasi nagtatagalog sila 😭
Same
Japanese and tagalog
as a filipino person this def made me cry
same
When you removed the homophobic as an adjective it hit too hard. I am so happy you came out to your father and maybe this is the start of a closer relationship for you two. I think he is a well spoken man as most people when they hear big news they just say great or bad and your father asked you if this was a burden for you etc It's great that you are fully living your identity and are not afraid to be yourself and this feels like the last stepping stone to complete your own inner peace 💜
I literally burst into tears just thinking how much he loves you, not every one has that tbh.
mhm. i dont want to be stereotypical but specially in the asian standard. He didn't either. But now he does..and that'sall that matters.When they finally realize their mistakes it's already too late, but I'm happy for him.If only everyone could have such an outcome...maybe things would've been so much better. Maybe the world could feel so much more safer.
Neck
@@sezellefax
You burst into tears over someone coming out?
Weirdo.
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I STARTED TEARING UP THIS IS SO WHOLESOME 😭😭 IM SO HAPPY U HAVE A SUPPORTIVE DAD
Your dad's come a long way. I remember when my dad apologized to me for everything he did, it was the first time I ever saw him cry. I'm so so proud and happy for you
Im so proud of you stan, you're so brave that you have the courage to come out to your father😚😚.The reaction of your father made me cry😭, the way that he accepted you and tried to understand who you are is so amazing. And the way you removed the "homophobic" is so touching😭😭😭
No cause same ❤ it was so wholesome I’m so happy for him
I cried watching this. I don’t think I’ve cried from watching a coming out video before, but because I followed you from the beginning, I feel like I know you and your family. Also because you filmed the reaction and removed the homophobic word at the end, I just couldn’t hold back the tears. This is really moving for me. So glad that your dad changed and can accept who you are now. I hope everything gets better and better from now on with you and your dad. Much love for you and your family Stan ❤
im currently tearing up he's so sweet
Literally sobbing rn 😭😭
The last "my homophobic dad" to "my dad" was really touching and meaningful.
Word for word
@@roberrz literally! Like, why not just make your own comment?
bro really stole a youtube comment 💀
@@STAYgenny03 What do you mean?
Wowowowwow. Your dad has done ALL THE WORK. He knows what he has done wrong in the past and and all his energy is now focused on healing and loving his son. Stan this is so important and I am SO GLAD that you've taken this crucial step. This is the best thing that could've happened overall and AUGHHHHHH I'm so proud of both of you
It is. New chapter for the whole family. Bet he was lonely without them. It was so sweet 🥺❤️
he spoke so beautifully... i'm so glad that he has grown as a person as well, so much so that he is able to see you as you are now and be happy for you. just from these snippets, it's easy to see how much he loves you and how badly he wants to be involved in your life as you are now. happy holidays to you both, may 2023 bring you peace and love.
This is adorable and i started to cry. This is so wholesome and amazing. Im so glad your dad accepts u
Your dad seems to have grown and evolved as a person having the support of a parent is a feeling like no other. Embrace this moment with him and create a beautiful relationship.
as a half-filipina girl, this also hit hard since my filipino mom is also super catholic and can be distant when it comes to talking about sexuality this hit really hard. i think i’m bi and i’ve get to see the day where i can tell her without risking my safety, probably when i move out 👍.
i wish u luck and a lot of happiness :) u got this!
I'm so sorry, no one should fear their safety just because of their sexuality. praying for your safety and acceptance
I was shedding tears of joy, bravery and acceptance. The amount of courage to come out is astonishingly beautiful.
Watching the word homophobic disappear from the word dad was the moment we all knew Stan now has a dad who loves him for him ❤ Thank you Stan for sharing such a private conversation ❤
i was shedding tears of anxiety and joy at the same time 😭 i’m glad stan felt comfortable to tell his dad this after all he has been through with his dad.
As a Christian this dads reaction is perfect…no yelling, no screaming, no telling him he’s “gonna go to hell”…Just loving his son, accepting him, and giving him to God. ❤💚❤
I'm atheist, but this is how all christians should be. I really admire people who really has faith in the word of their god and respect and love everyone, just how he told you all to do.
THAT CHANGE AT THE END! Literally making me tearful seeing the now change from him being known to all of us as your “homophobic” dad to just your dad is so nice to see and can’t wait to hear your relationship grow weather you publicly show it or not ❤❤❤❤
He was so supportive and sincere... it's not easy for people like him to realize all these stuff on their own- many of these things are ingrained in them from their upbringing and the culture they were exposed in. Hindi biro yung commitment nya... for him to change like that... some of these people take it to the grave but your dad chose to change his ways. It shows that he loves you guys and he does care. Sobrang laki lang nung pride na lulunukin nya to really accept everything. Alsooo... yung tagalog na may japanese accent... hits different 🥲🤧
LITERAL TEARS ROLLING DOWN MY FACE. its so hard for older generation parents to be apologetic when they know they’ve done something wrong. it always resorts to something that fuels up the fire. thank you stan for sharing this with us.
I loved when he expressed that he knew being gay was out of your control. This video showed exactly how a real Christian should react, what your dad is like now is honestly amazing
As a bisexual Filipino kid, me actually understanding their tagalog conversation is just so comforting and got my eyes tearing up. I was imagining that was my own father accepting me 🥲. Stan's dad is so much like my father, by that it also means our relationship isn't that good. It's just that, after all these years, we still dont see him being sorry for the trauma he passed onto us, his own children, and changing his old ways in order to rebuild our relationship. Hoping there will come a time that I will also have a conversation like that with my own father, and that things go well :). I'm very proud and happy for you, Stan! 🥺 I LOVE YOU.
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God, I can't stop tearing up, the ending with the "my dad" broke me. I've been following you since the beginning and you've come so far. We're all proud of you. I'm extremely happy this turned out well, you've built that yourself.
It's so beautiful to see how you both can open up to each other, how your father has grown and matured as a person and how you've gained the courage to allow yourself to talk to him
That is what you call a supportive parent. Huge respect to you for building up the confidence to tell your dad, and huge respect to your dad for realising his mistakes and misconceptions, fixing them and accepting you as a person.
“I don’t think that’s a sin because it isn’t within your control” that had me tearing up it is so sweet 😭
I want Worlfofxtra to share specifically which religion his dad is, e.g. Christian maybe, but which branch? Just curious!
Homosexuality is a sin
@@CC3193 probably Roman Catholic
he was wrong tho, being gay isn't within your control but having a bf is
@@mechachamelia6018 He cant control liking men so why not embrace it?
I actually started crying at the end I’m so glad he accepted you and when you changed “my homophobic dad” to “my dad” I started sobbing😭😭💀
this has nothing to do with the video but this makes me have motivation to tell my antifurry mom im a furry. ty. and im so glad your dad supports you! he was very understanding too.
@Tofu_Eater ty and i did tell her :D but she doesnt support. all she said was “you’re not a furry” then changed the subject:(
stan, i usually don't write comments but i know you know how meaningful this video is to other members of the lgbtqia+ community. we are so so so proud of your bravery and your effort in trying to fix your relationship with your dad. we love you so much stan 🥹🫶🌈