Therapy & Counseling just ain't the answer for everything, this entire relationship was based on a lie, there is no coming back from that , I'm not even buying the Update, because you can't put a bandaid, on an wound which requires surgery, END IT NOW 💯
Therapy and counseling was the answer. If she wanted a divorce, she should have let the judge serve him. When kids are involved, they need to understand the role. That’s with any divorce
This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back
Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being
Agree with you. I’m not blaming her for heartedly because Gabriella/Shawn should’ve been straightforward in do what they wanted to do. Instead of drag individual into their complicated life. But she knew what was going on. There was no way you can be blinded about not sleeping with each other. Seeing that your husband started to distance himself and dressing the way that he did. Smh
It is so important to heed the red flags in any and every relationship. Ask questions. Investigate. Get those answers so 1) you won't get duped; 2) you can't say "I didn't know.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
I don’t think that she even cares that he transitioned. I think she used that as leverage to express her other concerns and take a majority of the responsibility off of her. I think he agreed to come because he wanted to be able to get counseling and other resources to help with his transition.
That sounds like oh I’m not gonna be able to afford the rent and the mortgage all by myself and take care of these kids and buy some groceries to me😮😂😂😂😂
I just do not understand why judge Star was hesitating to have him sign those papers I feel like she just kept asking her making her second guess. She said several times this is not a marriage so clearly she wants out.
The fact that they delivered the update from the backseat of a car strikes me as odd for some reason. "Let's go to the grocery store. Oh, you know what? Let's film an update while we're in the parking lot!" Sus!
Wow!!! I thought she was definitely having him served, I was floored! This was a lot 2 take in and if we're honest with ourselves we've probably all been in relationships or situations we didn't ask enough questions. U live and u learn however that doesn't excuse the lies, dishonesty and manipulation here. Saying u r bisexual has absolutely nothing 2 do with u wanting 2 be a woman nor does it give u a pass 2 cheat, with anyone. So I'm guessing she may have thought it didn't matter because so was she and it didn't on her end. He's definitely shown her who he truly is now. I hope she got that therapy.
I don't think she wants a he/she for a husband even though she sexually likes women. According to the last part of the show they're still together. Looks like they're working it out i guess. One of the main take aways from this episode is just be honest about what you want, communicate with the people you claim to care about most importantly youself. I wish them well. Good job judge.
@@addicted2love57 they have a community of their own now and their influence is strong. I don't agree with homosexuality but I don't impose my beliefs on people either, live and let live.
I think Gabriela was afraid to say anything beforehand; I think they'll come back together as friends eventually. That was a nice update, im glad to see theyre doing better.
Always take your time and get to know people if you see any sign that they are in two different types of people different lifestyles is your time to leave peacefully.🤬👎🏼🤯🤡
He is still a man regardless of his preference. We are born male or female. He used her as a beard while he felt strong enough to show the world. He is clearly a homosexual and that is it. Not to mention he committed adultery and said as if it wasn’t a big deal. What more needs to be discussed when he clearly said he has always wanted men. She is again setting her self up for failure. She doesn’t want to go and her self worth has to be low, low, low. She should have walked out the courtroom with her maiden name and moved on with her life.
Ok when I turned this 9n I'm like ok where is the husband why 2 women, until he opened his mouth that deep voice threw me like woww 😮🙄😮 that is the man
Sign them papers what in God's name is this. Why would she stay with a person who doesn't even know who they are? Why drag a women into your confusion. A mess!!!
I already knew she was crazy, but she confirmed it when she turned down the Mazarati like here you go again making bad decisions🤦🏿♀️. Side note: what Smokey Jr do for a living or use to do cuz uncle sugar daddy sounds like he lives a nice, comfortable life. Travels often, beach house in Hawaii, giving away Maserati's like he's Oprah lol...good for him💪🏿👏🏿👏🏿😂😂😂. We love to see it! Unc prob worked hard over the years to get to a comfortable place financially.
Ladies, when dating a man, be sure to ask him if he has any gay tendencies 🤷🏽♀️ That's the hard question to ask when he presents himself as a 100% man.
Can’t throw this on her because of his decision to pretend to b a woman She married this man and that is what she knew .. he did this and he is what he IS GODS EYES AND IN REALITY!!! These Followers in these positions smh HE WAS NOT TRUTHFUL 💯💯
I can't help but be honest here, I hadn't thought ahole lot about how the children will perceive this. ai can't help but wonder if he is thinking about that & given some credence to that, as they get older, they will look for him; & with today being as advanced as it is, he needs to deal with that as soon as they are old enough to comprehend it.
No therapy is needed for the two of them but individually. He used her as a beard without consent for his own selfish reasons yet still living out his truth and she doesn’t want to let go because that means she had her head in the sand and was used and so much time went by and she couldn’t change him. You can’t change a man PERIOD. He does what he wants so move on NO FRIENDSHIP because of his betrayal and being untrustworthy and take this L
It seems you missed part of the story: a year before they got married, he told her he was attracted to men, that he was going to start hormone therapy, and that he had an affair-all before the marriage. While he was wrong, she also has equal accountability in the situation.
The honest answer to all of this is that she is bisexual. The first part of this case when she said it put everything into perspective. Like star said the "WHy" in allowing all of this and then ignoring things had alot to do eith all these problems. I just wanna know about the intimacy part because the math here dont make sense. He seems to really want a guy.
No amount of therapy aint gomna bring back her husband. She has to accept that and heal in order to move on. He is selfish and used her as a beard to cover his "shame". He's a weakling
How is she not comfortable with his transitioning but she’s a bisexual woman make that make sense and he waited until he was 50 to transition to a woman not his 20s not his 30s not his 40s but 50s to transition to a woman
I don’t get it. Shannon got corrected and told she should’ve asked questions. But who thinks to ask their husband, “Do you want to be a woman “? This was all his fault!
Shawn/Gabriella is going to do the same thing to someone else. Except it will be a man that he leads to believe that he's always been female. It won't be fair to that person, because they may not be interested in being in a relationship with someone who was male in their prior life.
Kinda too late for him to have identity issues he's 50 years old he needs to let her go and she can walk away from him he's selfish and she can walk he used her as a cover up to do him
He’s really selfish. However, her playing victim is really irritating… Like you could’ve walked away the first time he cheated, start taking therapy, and told you he’s interested in sleeping with men 🤔
🙂 sooooo Shannon basically ended up doing the EXACT thing Gabriella was talking about during the whole court session which is them staying together and her learning to love Gabriella for Gabriella... I believe Gabriella genuinely thought Shannon would grow into what Gabriella truly wanted to do since Shannon is bisexual... There's nothing wrong with Gabriella wanting to hold on to a person Gabriella finds comfort, security, has a long history and time with, hard to let go of people you truly love but it is selfish to keep major secrets... Shannon is somewhat rude so I can see why Gabriella probably had a hard time opening up with her, Shannon seems like if EVERYTHING isn't going her way it's a problem....💯
Therapy & Counseling just ain't the answer for everything, this entire relationship was based on a lie, there is no coming back from that , I'm not even buying the Update, because you can't put a bandaid, on an wound which requires surgery, END IT NOW 💯
I agree. My heart goes out to her. So sad. May God be with her.
Therapy and counseling was the answer. If she wanted a divorce, she should have let the judge serve him. When kids are involved, they need to understand the role. That’s with any divorce
@@natalieross6558she’s weak and a doormat.
Exactly 💯 and I'm out of here I can't even watch the rest of this right here it's making me sick 😢
She did all that talking just to backtrack at the end.. she needs to take some accountability
Omg I just said this!!!,
There’s no coming back from this!!!!- This is OVA!!!! Next case
👩🏾⚖️👩🏾⚖️
This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back
Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?
Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being
Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.
Yep! He told you a piece of it and you ignored that huge red flag. You have to own up to that, ma'am. You played a part in this.
Agree with you. I’m not blaming her for heartedly because Gabriella/Shawn should’ve been straightforward in do what they wanted to do. Instead of drag individual into their complicated life. But she knew what was going on. There was no way you can be blinded about not sleeping with each other. Seeing that your husband started to distance himself and dressing the way that he did. Smh
She's too afraid to leave him
*her but it’s wild if you ask me..
He had no business pursuing her knowing that he had these feelings.
This is not a situation that therapy and counseling can fix.
There were more than red flags! There were engine whistles! Lightning strikes!!
😂😂right
Big Facts
Their lives are full of confusion. Can you imagine the lives of these kids?!
The kids part 🤦🏽♀️with dads lie
Yeah, I'm dating one of the children who is now 23 years old. That's all I'm gonna say.
Shannon and Gabriella both still look like low grade English teachers
You don't wanna know what happened behind the scenes
Made us spend an hour listening to bull crap about his dishonesty, only for you to continue in it
😂😂😂
Yea they need individual counseling alright!
This didn’t make any sense to me. 🤦🏽♀️
I've never seen them ask this many times are you sure over and over again.
It is so important to heed the red flags in any and every relationship. Ask questions. Investigate. Get those answers so 1) you won't get duped; 2) you can't say "I didn't know.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Cha mani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
I feel so bad for her. That hurt I couldn’t imagine. But he was honest right before the wedding
He should have been honest before he ever laid down with her. That's deplorable, disgusting and despicable.
Only partially. He didn't tell her of his intention to become transgender, only that he was bisexual
Not really.
I personally think she was worried about how it made her look and still went thru with the wedding
She as well didn't want to lose her love. Absolute CO-DEPENDENCY
Shannon, are you crazy? Girl threre is nothing to talk about. Nuff said. walk away!!!
I’m impatiently waiting for this one 😂
He was being selfish and self serving and used her. End of story🙄
I don’t think that she even cares that he transitioned. I think she used that as leverage to express her other concerns and take a majority of the responsibility off of her. I think he agreed to come because he wanted to be able to get counseling and other resources to help with his transition.
That sounds like oh I’m not gonna be able to afford the rent and the mortgage all by myself and take care of these kids and buy some groceries to me😮😂😂😂😂
Awfully deceptive
Girl wasting the judge time
Aint no F'ing way🤬🤬🤬🤬
The judge is gaslighting Shannon so much
Baby what are they salvaging??
I'm confused
I can't wait to see how this pans out!
Hot mess😡👎🏽
I just do not understand why judge Star was hesitating to have him sign those papers I feel like she just kept asking her making her second guess. She said several times this is not a marriage so clearly she wants out.
She closed her eyes and allowed him to not communicate fully what was going on BEFORE they got married.
Not that they are tryna make her feel guilty. Chile 🤦🏾♀️
Is “the court” only offering one session each of the different types of therapy.
The fact that they delivered the update from the backseat of a car strikes me as odd for some reason. "Let's go to the grocery store. Oh, you know what? Let's film an update while we're in the parking lot!" Sus!
What I want to know is; what was the update? 😂 nothing’s changed by the look of it.
Yesss finally an after court update!
If anyone understand it would be Star Jones she was once married to Al R.
I cannot believe she didn't let the papers be served!
(in my Robert voice) "Woooow"
Yes, they should get divorced.
@@NellieKAdaba agree!
This is ridiculous. I can’t watch this bs
Can someone tell the "expert" that you are NOT "assigned" your gender identity at birth!!!
🐂💩…yes you are
That therapist was just hilarious.
She was spitting foolery 🤦🏾♀️
Wow!!! I thought she was definitely having him served, I was floored! This was a lot 2 take in and if we're honest with ourselves we've probably all been in relationships or situations we didn't ask enough questions. U live and u learn however that doesn't excuse the lies, dishonesty and manipulation here. Saying u r bisexual has absolutely nothing 2 do with u wanting 2 be a woman nor does it give u a pass 2 cheat, with anyone. So I'm guessing she may have thought it didn't matter because so was she and it didn't on her end. He's definitely shown her who he truly is now. I hope she got that therapy.
She's still not going to leave
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽5 kids
It's all about accountability. You can walk away but only you can make the decision.
Wow so they’re staying together
So the wife became the husband and the husband became the wife. How very sad and confusing for the children.
DC I’m Loving the update portion of the show 😊
This is a total mess
I don't think she wants a he/she for a husband even though she sexually likes women. According to the last part of the show they're still together. Looks like they're working it out i guess. One of the main take aways from this episode is just be honest about what you want, communicate with the people you claim to care about most importantly youself. I wish them well. Good job judge.
These two freaks deserve each other and I pray they stay together and save the rest of the community from their antics
@@addicted2love57 they have a community of their own now and their influence is strong. I don't agree with homosexuality but I don't impose my beliefs on people either, live and let live.
Too funny always knew this😂🤦🏽♀️
I think Gabriela was afraid to say anything beforehand; I think they'll come back together as friends eventually. That was a nice update, im glad to see theyre doing better.
Ok. 2nd comment. My opinion! They look like fools in their updates! This foolishness is why the world is becoming so screwed up!
Don’t trust these therapists anymore.
At all
Always take your time and get to know people if you see any sign that they are in two different types of people different lifestyles is your time to leave peacefully.🤬👎🏼🤯🤡
He is still a man regardless of his preference. We are born male or female. He used her as a beard while he felt strong enough to show the world. He is clearly a homosexual and that is it. Not to mention he committed adultery and said as if it wasn’t a big deal. What more needs to be discussed when he clearly said he has always wanted men. She is again setting her self up for failure. She doesn’t want to go and her self worth has to be low, low, low. She should have walked out the courtroom with her maiden name and moved on with her life.
Why still keep that husband?
They should get a divorce.
This case is BORRRRINGGGG
So is she the dude now? I'm confused.
😂
Yes she is 🤣
Role play headasses 😂😂😂
Ok when I turned this 9n I'm like ok where is the husband why 2 women, until he opened his mouth that deep voice threw me like woww 😮🙄😮 that is the man
She stays because he makes more money and her lifestyle is comfortable 😂
Probably
Leave
Sign them papers what in God's name is this. Why would she stay with a person who doesn't even know who they are? Why drag a women into your confusion. A mess!!!
very well said 👍
He should have been honest with her
i would take that car and go...she is a stalker....scary
SHE NEED TO LEAVE 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️
I already knew she was crazy, but she confirmed it when she turned down the Mazarati like here you go again making bad decisions🤦🏿♀️.
Side note: what Smokey Jr do for a living or use to do cuz uncle sugar daddy sounds like he lives a nice, comfortable life. Travels often, beach house in Hawaii, giving away Maserati's like he's Oprah lol...good for him💪🏿👏🏿👏🏿😂😂😂. We love to see it! Unc prob worked hard over the years to get to a comfortable place financially.
I know this case is near and dear to Judge Star’s heart (😮💨Al Reynolds)
Ooooh! I forgot got about that.
What happened with him?! Now I’m headed to Google 😂
NEXXXXXXTTTTT‼️there is NO MARRIAGE HERE
She right, that wasn't a marriage 😢
Not to be mean but love yourself first "Gabriela" checked out and she can find someone who loves you 😢
Why does he look so downtrodden? 😔
Ladies, when dating a man, be sure to ask him if he has any gay tendencies 🤷🏽♀️
That's the hard question to ask when he presents himself as a 100% man.
This is a silly question to ask because that’s not how people open up loool
Can’t throw this on her because of his decision to pretend to b a woman
She married this man and that is what she knew .. he did this and he is what he IS GODS EYES AND IN REALITY!!! These Followers in these positions smh
HE WAS NOT TRUTHFUL 💯💯
I can't help but be honest here, I hadn't thought ahole lot about how the children will perceive this. ai can't help but wonder if he is thinking about that & given some credence to that, as they get older, they will look for him; & with today being as advanced as it is, he needs to deal with that as soon as they are old enough to comprehend it.
Gabriella is selfish, and they should require counseling before hormone treatments. Gabriella used their wife.
No therapy is needed for the two of them but individually. He used her as a beard without consent for his own selfish reasons yet still living out his truth and she doesn’t want to let go because that means she had her head in the sand and was used and so much time went by and she couldn’t change him. You can’t change a man PERIOD. He does what he wants so move on NO FRIENDSHIP because of his betrayal and being untrustworthy and take this L
How much you want to bet she stayed for the children
Sorry no judge Star he lied to her from the start Get counselling with a view of moving forward and away from him her she him😳
It seems you missed part of the story: a year before they got married, he told her he was attracted to men, that he was going to start hormone therapy, and that he had an affair-all before the marriage. While he was wrong, she also has equal accountability in the situation.
Therapy was suggested to help her understand why she tends to bury her head in the sand when she encountered red flags in any relationship.
I don't understand, what marriage are they focusing on? why is she turning a blind eye on the fact that he wants to be with a man, very funny.
Shawn is pathetic. As for her…..she’s getting what she asked for.
The honest answer to all of this is that she is bisexual. The first part of this case when she said it put everything into perspective. Like star said the "WHy" in allowing all of this and then ignoring things had alot to do eith all these problems. I just wanna know about the intimacy part because the math here dont make sense. He seems to really want a guy.
Co Parent and learn how to work together
Marriage is done
No amount of therapy aint gomna bring back her husband. She has to accept that and heal in order to move on. He is selfish and used her as a beard to cover his "shame". He's a weakling
They need more than one therapy session in all 3 area's.
I like your video
How is she not comfortable with his transitioning but she’s a bisexual woman make that make sense and he waited until he was 50 to transition to a woman not his 20s not his 30s not his 40s but 50s to transition to a woman
Couple therapy for wht? Does she still want to stay?
I don’t get it. Shannon got corrected and told she should’ve asked questions. But who thinks to ask their husband, “Do you want to be a woman “? This was all his fault!
The real female tried to accept this he/she. She tried hard, but sometimes
no matter how magnanimous you may be, you just can't do it anymore.
Shawn/Gabriella is going to do the same thing to someone else. Except it will be a man that he leads to believe that he's always been female. It won't be fair to that person, because they may not be interested in being in a relationship with someone who was male in their prior life.
Let me guess, noone has anything negative ti say about him because he is gay. 😩😩😩😩😩
(Christian man that believes in God). Don't believe in divorce, but Gabriela needs to pay child support & alimony if she leaves.
Kinda too late for him to have identity issues he's 50 years old he needs to let her go and she can walk away from him he's selfish and she can walk he used her as a cover up to do him
He’s really selfish. However, her playing victim is really irritating… Like you could’ve walked away the first time he cheated, start taking therapy, and told you he’s interested in sleeping with men 🤔
This should be illegal. He completely fooled her.
🙂 sooooo Shannon basically ended up doing the EXACT thing Gabriella was talking about during the whole court session which is them staying together and her learning to love Gabriella for Gabriella... I believe Gabriella genuinely thought Shannon would grow into what Gabriella truly wanted to do since Shannon is bisexual... There's nothing wrong with Gabriella wanting to hold on to a person Gabriella finds comfort, security, has a long history and time with, hard to let go of people you truly love but it is selfish to keep major secrets...
Shannon is somewhat rude so I can see why Gabriella probably had a hard time opening up with her, Shannon seems like if EVERYTHING isn't going her way it's a problem....💯
Mmmmmmm
this woman is shitty. He told her she ignored the red flag.
He was shitty for going through with a marriage knowing he’s no longer attracted to her and only wanted to be “bffs” 🙄
@@CMichelleWhite that too, agree
And hes still a dude and will always be dude dad🤷🏽♀
"Gender assigned at birth"! 🤣🤣🤣 WTF, it's a scientific fact, not an "assignment"!
No Christian will get away with telling God that no one is perfect as an excuse for willful sin.🩵🙏🏽
I know this case is near and dear to Judge Star’s heart (😮💨Al Reynolds)
Good catch !