I don’t think y’all understand how many of us want to hear from healed/healing, secure men, who value and love themselves. I absolutely love these discussions, I do wish they were longer.
Conversations like these are so necessary. I appreciate seeing, and hearing from men who truly understand the value of dating, and receiving love from a Black Woman.
Nice to hear men talking about 'heart', 'mind' and a 'higher knowing'. When it is about relationship material, it does come down to exactly that. 'Types' will only get you so far. There needs to be more to it than just a box that is checked 😉
Wow you are speaking so much truth! It’s sad to see but we are the only group that has been systematically oppressed and have been taught to be divided as a race, we need our black mothers and fathers to teach our black children that self love and unity come first.
thats not true, u r talking about white people and westerns. Every other ethnic culture gets asked this question too! You don't know that bc u r probably only interested in African-American videos, so it doesnt show up on ur recommended.
Nope. You're wrong every culture speaks about the possibility to marry outside of your race, religion, ethnicity (etc...). I would recommend you to talk to other people about their culture and marriage.
Fighting to keep your partner is the best thing to do. Dr ighalo, helps returned ex lover back with is powerful love spell..I believe there are lot of people going through heartbreak and cheating partner..on how to get yours solved.. talk to me now
how quickly he changed his answer from probably to defiantly in the end, damn its been awhile since id seen a blk man with such confidence and self assurance, instead of going with the grain these days
It was refreshing to hear all prospectives including the fact that you can have a type and that not determine who you end up with. Dating someone who has your own cultural and racial experience or at least understands/recognizes/empathizes is definitely top of list. I couldn’t imagine living life black in America and going home and always having to justify your experiences to get support. How do NBA players do it? Jk but not jk
@@jayc5756 I feel you... Thank you for your response and acknowledgment. Not only do they push their agenda on TH-cam, its everywhere. Commercials, Billboards, movies, etc. You name it.....
I like hearing what they are saying, people miss a Great woman or Man, looking at the outside instead of in. I vibe off of Energy myself & being lead by God. And I love my black Men period.
I use to think that way... always dated black men but now spiritually awaken the Divine makes it perfectly clear that your Divine masculine can look totally different than your norm but he is the perfect one that the Lord made for you. Therefore now I date what my heart desires and not just the ego.
Nope, because men are not sociately engineered in that way. That guy talking about intellect and heart is an exception. Most men dont care about those 2 things. However, they may come around later in life when their other head stops working and/or they are faced eith their mortality.
@@teascobie6557 Although I understand where your statement is coming from I think it's dangerous for women to keep stating this falsehood. Honestly, we don't know what all men care and don't care about. Everyone is different and personally, I will continue to hold the belief that an intellectual and spiritual-based man is out there (in every age bracket). We gotta believe it, give them the benefit of the doubt and stop carrying toxic past beliefs (and experiences) into new relationships.
If you’re a woman in your 30s, I would consider opening up your age gap. It’s a whole new world out there, plenty of men 38-45 like Timon sis. I was afraid to do it because I have young parents, but when I did, my dating life elevated. Keep an open mind. I feel you though so man 30 yr old black men are out here living like Peter Pan.
@@earthsoulyams3344 People keep telling me that lol. I'll be 29 in April, I think that's too big of a gap for me lol, kinda grosses me out, to be honest. Thanks for the suggestion.
Now this was so much better than the last round table with those young bucks. Sad to see that this was so short. I really wanted to here more of what these mature gentleman had to say. I'm a sapiosexual as well. Of course I'm attracted to looks too but that won't be the thing that keeps me there. You must stimulate my mind mentally with intellectual conversations. 💞
Love this type of conversation among our black men ✊🏾🧡😁 I agree on mental stimulation and getting to know the spirit man (your heart). It is so important in this day and age. Let's keep this going. Here for all the information.👌🏾
Absolutely agree with the intellect and energy statement. As an woman who works in supply chain management, an area dominated by white older men, I constantly have to stay informed/educated about what's happening in the industry. I just long to see the black family unit together with the black father with his black wife and black children. I love all cultures, however, I have a special place in my heart for people who look like me. Great topics and discussions.
Dating is a global epidemic. How is it that my girl friends and I are having the exact same conversations (all the way over the pond) and it seems men are too, but we can’t seem to get it together.
This was a very interesting conversation. I was definitely expecting them to say something else but I was pleasantly surprised. This also made me think about the things that I want and what I may end up with. I don't plan to compromise but I do think I'll be more open to certain things.
Why is dating outside of our race such a hot topic in the Black community? No other race has that big question of "Would you date outside of your race?" because they seek community first. It's kind of tiring tbh. But I enjoyed their responses.
Moreso it's women that really give black men a hard time for doing it. I have a friend who gets flack all the time and he's never said he doesn't love black women. I have a white/native friend who's only liked black women. And his wife whom he is still with today is black and I introduced them and was his best man at the wedding. His parents were okay with her but the rest of the family no so much. She's never been Criticized for dating and marrying him by her family they just wanted her happy
It's encouraging to see a productive conversation. Nothing comes from hate but more hate. I intentionally searched this topic because I know these conversations exist, but anything positive portraying Black people as a happy unit is never highlighted.
Interesting when the question was asked to the lightskin guy with the gray melanin t-shirt "would date outside of your race"? The guy on end starts to laugh as though he was going to say something demeaning against black women or laugh because he thought the answer would be yes. The brother answered and said I'm sticking with what I know, probably not and ended with definitely not. 💪🏾😉
These conversations with real men, definitely makes you consider the sociological depth one connects with his inner being... experiencing the grown growth! 🤔
Yessss Come on beautiful black men 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽that’s my answer if God doesn’t send me my Black King I think I will just be single....My desire is to marry my black king. I was married once to a black man whom obviously was not the one. But will definitely try it again🙏🏽
@@Nokss_20 no sis I want beautiful & real love with my black King!!!! I just love our black men can’t see myself with no other ❤️ we just get each other and we can grow and prosper together!!! He’s just gotta be the RIGHT one for me 🙏🏽
You better not have had kids with you're previous otherwise you're pretty much out of the dating game. Most forward thinking men don't go for single mothers.
@@sidneyasiegbu My Lord and Savior is in control over what will & will not happen in my life. If it’s in his will then it will happen. In Jesus name Amen. I don’t go by what society says or shows. Peace & blessings !
It’s so interesting to hear men speak on this bc I think women assume we know what men want but this is a little surprising. I love the energy and heart comment; of course you’ve gotta be attracted to someone but if they’re not deep, emotionally intelligent, and is a good person then it’s probably not going to work. Good stuff! 🙏🏽😋
That went by way too fast... great segment though. Having a type is overrated but nonetheless, some things I won’t compromise. Must be independent and confident!!
No white woman can relate to the Black experience, I don't care how well intended she may be. I met a white woman who had to tell me her boyfriend was Black, and then she told me he was angry with her because of an encounter they had with the police. She thought she was protecting him by verbally attacking the white male cop. She was confused because her boyfriend told her to stay out of it. I told her she should follow her boyfriend's lead when encountering police or a hostile white crowd bc her actions could get her boyfriend arrested or worse, killed. I don't understand how brother's who date white women can live in a constant state of begging and educating his partner to understand him, and respect his journey. It doesn't make sense.
This would have been a good opportunity to talk about colorism in the black community and dating. I've seen other videos with these men and many of them are with very light skin black women and even non-black, light skin women. It would be nice to see a conversation on how we interrogate our "type" or "preference," with societal beauty standards, how those have changed for these men (or not), how we can show up more for those in our community that are marginalized (darker-skinned black women), etc.
For the sake of discussion. From my living, there is no mono black experience. Just because someone is of a different ethnic group, doesn’t mean they couldn’t have empathy for your plight or struggle as a Blackman. There are many groups that undergo much of the same dealing with racism, violence, a history of extreme suppression and genocide, etc who with their own narrative can hold space for you. Generalizing that only a Black person can understand is false as well, hence why there are so many diverse opinions and perspectives about being Black on this planet. If you’re solely looking for someone to agree every time you feel some kind of way, where is the expansive and emotional intelligence to be gained from exploring the subject ie, is it always the other person or could your own hyper sensitivity also have you living in defense mode where you can’t believe another person from a ethnic group doesn’t have it in for you. I love the discussion but we also must examine these generalities we lean so heavily on solely based on race. When I was wed, my partner and I came from two differing narratives, backgrounds and life experiences and I was clueless as hell to understanding what it meant to walk in his shoes as a brother from St. Louis who grew up way differently than I did. Our melanin was not what created understanding, it was our willingness to learn from one another and our devotion that created a beautiful foundation. As I am divorced now, I have no idea based on region, spiritual component, mindset, etc etc what the future holds for me as a women who would like to be in a relationship again. I won’t stand in line hoping a Black man sees me, chooses me or loves me. I love my Black men, ie my former partner and black suns, I know they love me, but the relating we shared started in 8th grade and was built in some special magic and divine blessings. As a woman who loves love and desires partnership, more sapiosexual with a polyamorous belief system, the pool of those who get the understanding is slimmer, so why limit oneself ? We are all unlimited beings who’ve had trajectories of life experiences facilitated via racial constructs, however we are so vast, so deep, so dynamic, so spacious wonderful and loving- I think it’s good to live in your blessed vibrational and learn about other humans no matter their meat suit. We’re more alike than different and we must also be mindful of closing the doors on experiencing other folks who are mere reflections of ourselves- learn, grow, dive into your soul and be open hearted. I think I’m sacred and profound enough to find love and BE in love with a complimentary soul who is in harmonious resonance with myself. Heck you could just find a good friend to talk to, are you not going to talk to them cause they don’t look like you in the outside? Comprised of billions of cells and called into time before time, will we only seek a covering as the credentials for sharing our lives?? Just my 5.5 cents based on my personal account thus far. Good luck to anyone standing in the light of availability and the willingness to love or love again. Peace.
This is BS. I want honest truth. Men want skinny women who have long hair and hazel eyes. Not big women with natural hair. You’re attracted to the physical 1st. You won’t know if the woman is intellectually stimulating and has a great heart if she isn’t attractive to you so you can find out!
Well. Lucky for us ladies you and men like you don’t get to determine that. And what’s wrong with big women with natural hair? Just because their not your type doesn’t mean they’re not other men’s type. You’re opinion isn’t objective.
Can we get a separate OWN series of just the men talking because this is refreshing!
I agree! We need more shows like this.
Right! Was so let down when it was over. Lol
@@simplyrickeeta They have about eight or nine episodes here on YT so check it out! I'm still working my way through the videos
@@MT-hk9cp Girrrrl, I saw them and need more. So much more! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thats funny because I like listening to the women and enjoy it
I don’t think y’all understand how many of us want to hear from healed/healing, secure men, who value and love themselves. I absolutely love these discussions, I do wish they were longer.
Conversations like these are so necessary. I appreciate seeing, and hearing from men who truly understand the value of dating, and receiving love from a Black Woman.
Most of us love yall, dont let social media fool you
@Bari Vule why you say that?
@@darrylbrumfield7659 You're right.
@@pandoraheartsvd 💖
@@darrylbrumfield7659 I appreciate your comment. I wish I saw it more. It's rare to see a black man with a black woman on the west coast.
"I won't say probably, ill say definitely". #Heard 🥰
Ok. . Got me smiling over here.. over that whole part !
That part for me too ☺️
Agreed!
Yessssssss
Love him
Nice to hear men talking about 'heart', 'mind' and a 'higher knowing'. When it is about relationship material, it does come down to exactly that. 'Types' will only get you so far. There needs to be more to it than just a box that is checked 😉
I agree. We all (men and women) need a starting point. From there on, we begin exploring and (hopefully) understanding, who 'fits' us best ;)
WHY ARE BLACK PEOPLE ALWAYS TAKING A TEST ON WHETHER OR NOT WE WILL DATE OR MARRY INTERNATIONALLY??? EVERY OTHER CULTURE IS TAUGHT SELF FIRST.
Wow you are speaking so much truth! It’s sad to see but we are the only group that has been systematically oppressed and have been taught to be divided as a race, we need our black mothers and fathers to teach our black children that self love and unity come first.
💯
Facts
thats not true, u r talking about white people and westerns. Every other ethnic culture gets asked this question too! You don't know that bc u r probably only interested in African-American videos, so it doesnt show up on ur recommended.
Nope. You're wrong every culture speaks about the possibility to marry outside of your race, religion, ethnicity (etc...). I would recommend you to talk to other people about their culture and marriage.
This definitely was not long enough
Fighting to keep your partner is the best thing to do. Dr ighalo, helps returned ex lover back with is powerful love spell..I believe there are lot of people going through heartbreak and cheating partner..on how to get yours solved.. talk to me now
how quickly he changed his answer from probably to defiantly in the end, damn its been awhile since id seen a blk man with such confidence and self assurance, instead of going with the grain these days
It was refreshing to hear all prospectives including the fact that you can have a type and that not determine who you end up with. Dating someone who has your own cultural and racial experience or at least understands/recognizes/empathizes is definitely top of list. I couldn’t imagine living life black in America and going home and always having to justify your experiences to get support. How do NBA players do it? Jk but not jk
Well stated! It was so refreshing to know that these handsome black men having love and appreciation for black women and our culture. Made my day! 🥳😊
You are so right!
@@jayc5756
I feel you... Thank you for your response and acknowledgment.
Not only do they push their agenda on TH-cam, its everywhere. Commercials, Billboards, movies, etc. You name it.....
😂
I can tell u that any ethnic person can relate to that.
Love to see black men being portrayed like this. It’s really healthy
Healthy conversation from mature men is so beautiful. I’m sure they kept going but this little taste was a tease. More please !’
“I relate to that thing that I know” ❤️
I will love to see men talk more like this
I just appreciate hearing a brotha saying he prefers sistahs. It seems so rare these days 👏👏👏
But "sistas" to black men these days are biracial or racially ambiguous black women
Rare? Isn't that like 90% of black men married to black women?
@@fritzdeuces I rarely see young black couples where I live
@@fritzdeuces it’s only 80% but only like 24% of black people are married. So out of that small percent, by and large we marry each other.
@@laurawilliams4087 you probably lived in white area
"I won't say probably I'll say definitely" LOL You better let 'em know!!!!
Okay, I need these video’s to be longer!
Right!
@@jayc5756 Ha! Thank you!
Hello somebody! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Exactly
Yessss Timon! Intellect and energy, that’s what attracts me most. He just became more attractive.
And come through with that definitely at the end👌🏾
Yesssss I'm like the first guy, attracted to energy and intellect too absolutely. And it's hands down black men only.😁
Love the #BLACKMEN✊🏿 round table conversations you learn a lot in 10-15 minutes of a man's truth I 🖤it 😍
We need our men to speak whatever is on their minds and hearts their thoughts on issues of life. It's good to hear educated brothers speak.
I like hearing what they are saying, people miss a Great woman or Man, looking at the outside instead of in. I vibe off of Energy myself & being lead by God. And I love my black Men period.
Amen to that!!
True
Where is the full video of this conversation?
I use to think that way... always dated black men but now spiritually awaken the Divine makes it perfectly clear that your Divine masculine can look totally different than your norm but he is the perfect one that the Lord made for you. Therefore now I date what my heart desires and not just the ego.
I like what Timon said about being Sapiosexual...👏👏👏👏👏👏🔥🙂
Great conversation y'all are having. Shutout from Botswana 🇧🇼🇧🇼🇧🇼🇧🇼
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Right, I loved hearing him speak about intellectual attraction...I definitely go by that instead of the traditional beauty and outward attraction
Beautiful leaves indeed, there is something incredible about having an intellectual partner...I am glad I found one.
Same.
Shout out neighbour (South Africa) 🇿🇦
Mentality, Spirituality and Heart matter most to me also... physical attributes fade. Love the conversation fellas ❤️
Black Love we need more of THIS content. Thank you
Can I please get a 30 something year old man that values intellect, energy and heart first!?
Lol, can we , please!
Nope, because men are not sociately engineered in that way. That guy talking about intellect and heart is an exception. Most men dont care about those 2 things. However, they may come around later in life when their other head stops working and/or they are faced eith their mortality.
@@teascobie6557 Although I understand where your statement is coming from I think it's dangerous for women to keep stating this falsehood. Honestly, we don't know what all men care and don't care about. Everyone is different and personally, I will continue to hold the belief that an intellectual and spiritual-based man is out there (in every age bracket). We gotta believe it, give them the benefit of the doubt and stop carrying toxic past beliefs (and experiences)
into new relationships.
If you’re a woman in your 30s, I would consider opening up your age gap. It’s a whole new world out there, plenty of men 38-45 like Timon sis. I was afraid to do it because I have young parents, but when I did, my dating life elevated. Keep an open mind. I feel you though so man 30 yr old black men are out here living like Peter Pan.
@@earthsoulyams3344 People keep telling me that lol. I'll be 29 in April, I think that's too big of a gap for me lol, kinda grosses me out, to be honest. Thanks for the suggestion.
Now this was so much better than the last round table with those young bucks. Sad to see that this was so short. I really wanted to here more of what these mature gentleman had to say. I'm a sapiosexual as well. Of course I'm attracted to looks too but that won't be the thing that keeps me there. You must stimulate my mind mentally with intellectual conversations. 💞
Love this type of conversation among our black men ✊🏾🧡😁 I agree on mental stimulation and getting to know the spirit man (your heart). It is so important in this day and age. Let's keep this going. Here for all the information.👌🏾
Absolutely agree with the intellect and energy statement. As an woman who works in supply chain management, an area dominated by white older men, I constantly have to stay informed/educated about what's happening in the industry. I just long to see the black family unit together with the black father with his black wife and black children. I love all cultures, however, I have a special place in my heart for people who look like me. Great topics and discussions.
Dating is a global epidemic. How is it that my girl friends and I are having the exact same conversations (all the way over the pond) and it seems men are too, but we can’t seem to get it together.
This was a very interesting conversation. I was definitely expecting them to say something else but I was pleasantly surprised. This also made me think about the things that I want and what I may end up with. I don't plan to compromise but I do think I'll be more open to certain things.
Great topic. I just wish these videos were longer 😩
Loved the video so much me and my sisters reacted to it. Feels good to hear black men talking about their love for black women. Thank you.. :)
Much needed conversation, to hear it is simply beautiful. The media is doing everything to hide these conversations. Thank you for this.
I seen this channel and skipped it. This is actually good to hear different views from brother. Good topics and funny!
Why is dating outside of our race such a hot topic in the Black community? No other race has that big question of "Would you date outside of your race?" because they seek community first. It's kind of tiring tbh. But I enjoyed their responses.
Moreso it's women that really give black men a hard time for doing it. I have a friend who gets flack all the time and he's never said he doesn't love black women.
I have a white/native friend who's only liked black women. And his wife whom he is still with today is black and I introduced them and was his best man at the wedding. His parents were okay with her but the rest of the family no so much. She's never been Criticized for dating and marrying him by her family they just wanted her happy
It's encouraging to see a productive conversation. Nothing comes from hate but more hate. I intentionally searched this topic because I know these conversations exist, but anything positive portraying Black people as a happy unit is never highlighted.
Love the gentle correction and emphasis... I won't say probably, I'd say definitely. Goooone King 🤴🏿
I need to get to know the man wearing that Melanin T-Shirt. And the way these men spoke about their wives melted my heart ❤️
He used to be on Queen Sugar. I don’t watch it anymore, he may still be in there.
Very mature conversation.
Interesting when the question was asked to the lightskin guy with the gray melanin t-shirt "would date outside of your race"? The guy on end starts to laugh as though he was going to say something demeaning against black women or laugh because he thought the answer would be yes. The brother answered and said I'm sticking with what I know, probably not and ended with definitely not. 💪🏾😉
These conversations with real men, definitely makes you consider the sociological depth one connects with his inner being... experiencing the grown growth! 🤔
I like this round table talk. Good deal guys. Intellect is definitely attractive to me.
The guy with the melanin shirt is so beautiful omg!
It was the heart part for me especially being a queen who was raised off 60's and 70's love songs, phahaha. Thx for sharing
Very refreshing to hear, "I won't say probably, I'd say definitely" #TimonForTheWin 🤗
Yesss
@ABCAM African Black Culture Awareness Community Is it on your channel?
@ABCAM African Black Culture Awareness Community I'll check it out
Love this! Please continue your good works❤️❤️
Can this be a little be longer please? Really only 3 mins?
Can you please do a round table about what men think about Kevin Samuels?
Yes @black love
Yes. We need more of this type of dialogue
The part about having a black experience at work is something your partner will easily relate to and validate if she is a foundational black woman.
I just discovered the channel . The content is amazing - someone from south africa 😊👍
Go where you’re celebrated PERIOD
I got so excited when I saw another table talk!!!
Why is this subject only a few minutes long? I would like to hear what the other men had to say too 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
Nice to hear a Male perspective on topics!
Wow! this is such a refreshing video. Made my day! It's good to hear black men still choosing black women. POWERFUL.
😥
Longer episodes please !!
The brother with the last words... not probably... I definitely won’t date outside my race❤️❤️❤️
Hmmmm.........exotical most likely.
Yessss Come on beautiful black men 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽that’s my answer if God doesn’t send me my Black King I think I will just be single....My desire is to marry my black king. I was married once to a black man whom obviously was not the one. But will definitely try it again🙏🏽
Oh you want struggle love
@@Nokss_20 no sis I want beautiful & real love with my black King!!!! I just love our black men can’t see myself with no other ❤️ we just get each other and we can grow and prosper together!!! He’s just gotta be the RIGHT one for me 🙏🏽
You better not have had kids with you're previous otherwise you're pretty much out of the dating game. Most forward thinking men don't go for single mothers.
@@sidneyasiegbu My Lord and Savior is in control over what will & will not happen in my life. If it’s in his will then it will happen. In Jesus name Amen. I don’t go by what society says or shows. Peace & blessings !
@@nikamoff5835 As a christian yes have hope. But like I said. Being realisitc. Hardly anyone will go for women with kids.
I have only dated white man and no I can not anymore. Opposite attract but it does not last forever...
I love it. I won't say probably...I'll say never. Amen
"So, probably not." Yes, Timon.
I’m sorry but these guys aren’t being real. They know this channel is for women and they’re saying things that women wants to hear.
I was thinking just that!
It’s so interesting to hear men speak on this bc I think women assume we know what men want but this is a little surprising. I love the energy and heart comment; of course you’ve gotta be attracted to someone but if they’re not deep, emotionally intelligent, and is a good person then it’s probably not going to work. Good stuff! 🙏🏽😋
Loving this!
'I relate to that thing that I know' never saw it like that, pretty interesting
can we ship them to London Brixton Uk. yes please! You are all my type!
really great conversation 👍🏾
More videos like this please!!!! 💜💜💜
Wheres the rest? Wanting more :-(
That's right, Tree! The ❤ & the 🧠
Where is the rest? More please
Love this
Real life responses
I love this
Why are these videos so short?
That went by way too fast... great segment though. Having a type is overrated but nonetheless, some things I won’t compromise. Must be independent and confident!!
I dated out of my race once with a white man and NO. 😐
Same sis...never again.
Never will lol
I’ve never had the desire... this lifetime and probably not next lifetime either. Black men turn me on 🔥🔥
How was that experience?
Is Timon married? Asking for myself 👀😅
No white woman can relate to the Black experience, I don't care how well intended she may be. I met a white woman who had to tell me her boyfriend was Black, and then she told me he was angry with her because of an encounter they had with the police. She thought she was protecting him by verbally attacking the white male cop. She was confused because her boyfriend told her to stay out of it. I told her she should follow her boyfriend's lead when encountering police or a hostile white crowd bc her actions could get her boyfriend arrested or worse, killed. I don't understand how brother's who date white women can live in a constant state of begging and educating his partner to understand him, and respect his journey. It doesn't make sense.
I need the man in the grey shirt in my life.
Nice
I like nerdy guys like my eldest brother! Definitely a Sapiosexual 💯
If any of them are still single…. Hello 😂😌
Shoot I want Stuart
I like Timon🥰
This would have been a good opportunity to talk about colorism in the black community and dating. I've seen other videos with these men and many of them are with very light skin black women and even non-black, light skin women. It would be nice to see a conversation on how we interrogate our "type" or "preference," with societal beauty standards, how those have changed for these men (or not), how we can show up more for those in our community that are marginalized (darker-skinned black women), etc.
Lord... Gray shirt with the sexy facial hair. 👀
Umm this wasn’t long enough🥴😌
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I bet none of them are married to a black women
y'all had to get rid of davinchi
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For the sake of discussion. From my living, there is no mono black experience. Just because someone is of a different ethnic group, doesn’t mean they couldn’t have empathy for your plight or struggle as a Blackman. There are many groups that undergo much of the same dealing with racism, violence, a history of extreme suppression and genocide, etc who with their own narrative can hold space for you. Generalizing that only a Black person can understand is false as well, hence why there are so many diverse opinions and perspectives about being Black on this planet. If you’re solely looking for someone to agree every time you feel some kind of way, where is the expansive and emotional intelligence to be gained from exploring the subject ie, is it always the other person or could your own hyper sensitivity also have you living in defense mode where you can’t believe another person from a ethnic group doesn’t have it in for you. I love the discussion but we also must examine these generalities we lean so heavily on solely based on race. When I was wed, my partner and I came from two differing narratives, backgrounds and life experiences and I was clueless as hell to understanding what it meant to walk in his shoes as a brother from St. Louis who grew up way differently than I did. Our melanin was not what created understanding, it was our willingness to learn from one another and our devotion that created a beautiful foundation. As I am divorced now, I have no idea based on region, spiritual component, mindset, etc etc what the future holds for me as a women who would like to be in a relationship again. I won’t stand in line hoping a Black man sees me, chooses me or loves me. I love my Black men, ie my former partner and black suns, I know they love me, but the relating we shared started in 8th grade and was built in some special magic and divine blessings. As a woman who loves love and desires partnership, more sapiosexual with a polyamorous belief system, the pool of those who get the understanding is slimmer, so why limit oneself ? We are all unlimited beings who’ve had trajectories of life experiences facilitated via racial constructs, however we are so vast, so deep, so dynamic, so spacious wonderful and loving- I think it’s good to live in your blessed vibrational and learn about other humans no matter their meat suit. We’re more alike than different and we must also be mindful of closing the doors on experiencing other folks who are mere reflections of ourselves- learn, grow, dive into your soul and be open hearted. I think I’m sacred and profound enough to find love and BE in love with a complimentary soul who is in harmonious resonance with myself. Heck you could just find a good friend to talk to, are you not going to talk to them cause they don’t look like you in the outside? Comprised of billions of cells and called into time before time, will we only seek a covering as the credentials for sharing our lives?? Just my 5.5 cents based on my personal account thus far. Good luck to anyone standing in the light of availability and the willingness to love or love again. Peace.
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I like Timon. Where are you baby?
Only a black woman can tell you this sir
This is BS. I want honest truth. Men want skinny women who have long hair and hazel eyes. Not big women with natural hair. You’re attracted to the physical 1st. You won’t know if the woman is intellectually stimulating and has a great heart if she isn’t attractive to you so you can find out!
They want thicc women. Skinny women aren't liked in the BC.
You can also have skinny women with natural hair. I thought that BM preferred natural hair.
Well. Lucky for us ladies you and men like you don’t get to determine that. And what’s wrong with big women with natural hair? Just because their not your type doesn’t mean they’re not other men’s type. You’re opinion isn’t objective.
@@gihanmusa6087 Big women. You mean overweight and obese??
Lol yh he says that and next thing you see he is married to other than his race woman! Heart/true love does not discriminate!!!