My love and gratitude to those of you who watch these videos ❤ and also to the people I talk to IN the videos ... their courage and vulnerability allow for healing at scale.
Billions of people on this planet, and TH-cam suggested you for me to listen to,, a few days back. You’re now on the top 10 list of important people on my list already. Thank you so much for all the “dissections”
Absolutely extraordinary, but simple and clear and honest. I've been watching mind/self help/psychology type stuff for years, but never come across anything quite like this before.
Oh goodness. This is so relevant. My father is James as well. And his father before him too. We are currently forming a new relationship, and yes, it's has so much to do with my own shifts. I did believe my father was narrow minded, but no longer believe that. The impact that would have had on him was huge. I am so thankful to be healing my self and interacting with those I love in new ways. It's groundbreaking! Thanks so much for sharing this!! And I appreciate it from a male viewpoint. Many blessings and lots of love!!
FnnnA Peter when you speak I get it so simple… I need to walk around with you in my pocket to get the obvious of life. Filled with gratitude that you share yourself with us
I love that you are uploading more videos like this one. I honestly cannot tell you how much they impact my perception on my own struggles! ❤ I love you so much Peter 😊
Guaranteed, I used to think my dad was 90% a$$hole and 10% nice guy. Then I switched it in my head to 90% nice guy and 10% a$$hole and it was like he was a different person. Surreal. I even asked mum, is dad being extra nice this week. She said nope.
My partners Dad and Mother never acknowledged who he was as an individual and now he doesn't speak to them because he's given them so much space to be themselves and yet it's not reciprocated. So in his case he's had to give them full space to be themselves because the dynamic is very draining. They did promise him things that they didn't deliver because the mother peojects her view of my partner onto the Dad even though they split up decades ago.. so i imagine this would work for someone that doesn't have someone actively trying to sabotage. Thankfully my partner is very resilient and doesn't blame himself.. oh and he has chronic pain and was called lazy by his mother and she's still flippant to her part in all that. I wish i could apply this info in that case. I have used this info for things like work bosses.
While being resilient, it seems there is still an expectation for the parents to be different to however they are, e.g., that they "should" reciprocate, behave in some other way etc. Maybe that's where part of the work is for you and him - what would it mean for them to just be how they are and for you to be truly at ease with it?
@adove5843 we know now to accept them as they are it's just they presented a very alternative view of being helpful and apparently wanting to be involved at first. Words and actions not matching up sort of thing. Now he knows that they don't really mean it so that's what's taken the time and caused frustration in the meantime figuring this out. We're pretty good overall now 👍 I think I just felt like letting out some frustration the day I wrote that comment. I had hoped better for him but that's not reality.
I really enjoyed this video but I’m still struggling with the ‘how’ - in terms of changing what we don’t like. So let’s say I have always felt put down by my brother. If I raise this (based on previous conversations) it will cause a row and I’ll be dismissed. So I can still attend family events and dread them knowing I will be put down, I can ignore the behaviour by being compassionate and have inner knowing that this is a projection of his own whatever’s onto me, and not a true reflection of me. But how do I stop it hurting me? I’m not there yet and I’ve 44 years worth of resentment on this issue. Do I just say look bro, for as much of our life as I can remember you’ve been a douchebag to me so now you can do one?! If I do then my children don’t get to grow up with their cousins etc. In that moment when the put down comes, what can I say to put it back on him without engaging in the power struggle? It feels I’ve got 3 choices, endure it, don’t endure it or stand up for myself which will just cause drama. I don’t know what me being different in this scenario will produce, given I’ve tried lots of methods to produce a closer relationship. But actually the reality is I don’t want a closer relationship now and I’m sad because I know I won’t be able to provide the whole family vibe for my children. Like you, both our parents died by the time my brother and I were 21 and 23 respectively. So we have wounds. I have huge compassion for him as a man losing a father at 13. That compassion has meant I have overlooked and ignored his treatment of me (which could just be down to him just wanting control of me to steady himself etc) and I have very little respect for him now which he can probably feel. It’s complex but I’m honestly already dreading Christmas!! When I got divorced he went into a deep depression etc that was all my fault etc! I can so see how and why this is happening but ultimately I can’t stand being in his company anymore as I feel like I’m being scapegoated all the time. So, still can’t see how to move through this. But will take each day as it comes and try not to be reactive if and when that moment strikes again!
I so get what your saying! I watch his videos and don't see how anything can truly change just by explaining things with the mind. Trauma is locked in the body, in our cells! Knowledge and compassion only goes so far
I’ve recently come across your videos and mostly appreciate your teaching and way of being and relating. Thank you. However this is a charged topic for me, partly because I’m struggling in relationship with my parents, but i also don’t like how these matters often are discussed. If love shows up like giving shame to your kid, or any other hurtful behaviour… saying “how love shows up though is not how he thinks it should or how he wants it” kind of makes the child appear egoistic, almost spoiled and somewhat unintelligent, and it’s reaction a pure misunderstanding, even narrow minded. Ofc you react as a child, and many of the parents behaviours come from being blocked from love. I don’t think it’s entirely true to say love shows up like this. Going on saying the parents feel hurt, disrespected by the reaction of the child, when it started with their blockage and behaviours, and placing the responsibility on the child (if that was what you meant?) is just so backwards. It’s understandable reactions to the childs reaction but if the parents feel this way, f.ex “my child feels restricted towards me”, it’s on them to look at themselves what in their own ways might have resulted in their childs reaction. Not to say the child can investigate themselves too.. it’s more the context how wisdom is used sometimes, in favour of the parents and placing the child in an unfair position in my view. I don’t think my reaction here is purely based on my own struggles and interpretations.
Great video. Not sure i would agree that new generation is more advanced. Regression exists. Every generation is different and a product of its time, yes. More advanced, not sure about that..
New generation still has upgraded operating system, but in some cases more dysfunctional software, creating the illusion of regression in consciousness.
@@MattiasTheGamer upgraded operating system with increased dysfunctional software is not much of an upgrade, is it? We got so "smart" we no longer know what a woman is. I listen to some college graduates trying to make a cohesive argument about any topic and wonder what happened to us. But AI is advancing forward, so there is that
@@valkarkauskas9488 I don't think anyone would deny we have a long way to go as a species. The point of operating system is simply about the potential of the next generation over past generations. Doesn't mean that potential is tapped into (as you've pointed out) :)
So if the children are the evolved version of the parents, which I 100% agree with, why are you saying that his father isn't the one with the narrow mind? That would then by default be true, so why are you claiming the opposite in the beginning? Being stuck in a way of thinking and doing things because of fear of dissaproval - as seen here - is a trauma response, not being narrow minded. But other than the lack of attunment to the severity of some of these situations, which I know partly is your gig, you do have some decent points.
Yeah that's an interesting point you bring up. I think his point was that labeling someone as narrow-minded is a judgment call. Consciousness evolves and perspectives shift and therefore our experience in life is different than previous generations. But I don't think that makes it better or worse (cus that'll be another judgment call) but rather different
@@maiablondes7183 But Peter just made one on him? What doesn't align for me is the fact that he flips his script by seeing the man in the hot seat as narrow minded but doesn't acknowledge that his father then by default, referencing his theory - see my first comment, is even more narrow minded than him. Thus making it almost impossible for him not to be - but really it's a trauma response. So he takes full blame for something that's inevitable, a trauma, it's the lack of sensitivity and attunement and the bypassing that's the issue for me
My love and gratitude to those of you who watch these videos ❤ and also to the people I talk to IN the videos ... their courage and vulnerability allow for healing at scale.
Thank you for sharing your light and wisdom, always 🤍🙏🏻
Sending much love Peter.🙏
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Peter, how do we get to attend an event like this? Great listening! 🙏 Barbara
thank you Peter, your words have changed my life
Billions of people on this planet, and TH-cam suggested you for me to listen to,, a few days back. You’re now on the top 10 list of important people on my list already.
Thank you so much for all the “dissections”
Go watch what he does with Aubrey Marcus' wife, Vylana.
You have lots of great videos to watch enjoy ❤
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What a gift! Thank you for this!!
Absolutely extraordinary, but simple and clear and honest. I've been watching mind/self help/psychology type stuff for years, but never come across anything quite like this before.
This just made me cry. I look at the way I talk to my dad and I feel so sorry I was so snotty and dismissive. Thank you for this
It’s fascinating to see the connection between intuition and our emotions; it really makes you reflect on your own experiences.
Oh goodness. This is so relevant. My father is James as well. And his father before him too. We are currently forming a new relationship, and yes, it's has so much to do with my own shifts. I did believe my father was narrow minded, but no longer believe that. The impact that would have had on him was huge. I am so thankful to be healing my self and interacting with those I love in new ways. It's groundbreaking! Thanks so much for sharing this!! And I appreciate it from a male viewpoint. Many blessings and lots of love!!
Thank you, Peter Crone, for being you and sharing so much; and a shout out to your students sharing life - so relatable and helpful!! ❤️✨
FnnnA Peter when you speak I get it so simple… I need to walk around with you in my pocket to get the obvious of life. Filled with gratitude that you share yourself with us
Watching these videos is a privilege-I love hearing (and seeing) you teach fills my cup - and everyone present- thank you for sharing your story.💛
Truly amazing, the shift in perspective is incredible.
reminds me of Byron Katie's work... It's really good . so glad I found this
I love that you are uploading more videos like this one. I honestly cannot tell you how much they impact my perception on my own struggles! ❤ I love you so much Peter 😊
Thank YOU for your work/play. 🦋🌟🌈
As always, it was so thought-provoking.
wow, this was great. and thanks to the guest for sharing
A perspective worth considering
masterful as usual
Guaranteed, I used to think my dad was 90% a$$hole and 10% nice guy. Then I switched it in my head to 90% nice guy and 10% a$$hole and it was like he was a different person. Surreal. I even asked mum, is dad being extra nice this week. She said nope.
Thank you Peter. Your conveyance is exceptional and so easy to understand
Always with the reminder.
Thanks Peter for sharing this. Very insightful ❤🙏
Thank you for this video Peter❤
Like always amazing❤
So good
lol why the subtitles? this man's accent isn't unintelligible. It's not like he's Scottish. Another great video, thanks Peter.
gold
My partners Dad and Mother never acknowledged who he was as an individual and now he doesn't speak to them because he's given them so much space to be themselves and yet it's not reciprocated. So in his case he's had to give them full space to be themselves because the dynamic is very draining. They did promise him things that they didn't deliver because the mother peojects her view of my partner onto the Dad even though they split up decades ago.. so i imagine this would work for someone that doesn't have someone actively trying to sabotage. Thankfully my partner is very resilient and doesn't blame himself.. oh and he has chronic pain and was called lazy by his mother and she's still flippant to her part in all that. I wish i could apply this info in that case. I have used this info for things like work bosses.
While being resilient, it seems there is still an expectation for the parents to be different to however they are, e.g., that they "should" reciprocate, behave in some other way etc.
Maybe that's where part of the work is for you and him - what would it mean for them to just be how they are and for you to be truly at ease with it?
@adove5843 we know now to accept them as they are it's just they presented a very alternative view of being helpful and apparently wanting to be involved at first. Words and actions not matching up sort of thing. Now he knows that they don't really mean it so that's what's taken the time and caused frustration in the meantime figuring this out. We're pretty good overall now 👍 I think I just felt like letting out some frustration the day I wrote that comment. I had hoped better for him but that's not reality.
Amazing ❤️🇨🇦
03:07 this it kind of reminds me of House MD “Every body lies” and he look a lot like Greg to😂
I really enjoyed this video but I’m still struggling with the ‘how’ - in terms of changing what we don’t like. So let’s say I have always felt put down by my brother. If I raise this (based on previous conversations) it will cause a row and I’ll be dismissed. So I can still attend family events and dread them knowing I will be put down, I can ignore the behaviour by being compassionate and have inner knowing that this is a projection of his own whatever’s onto me, and not a true reflection of me. But how do I stop it hurting me? I’m not there yet and I’ve 44 years worth of resentment on this issue. Do I just say look bro, for as much of our life as I can remember you’ve been a douchebag to me so now you can do one?! If I do then my children don’t get to grow up with their cousins etc. In that moment when the put down comes, what can I say to put it back on him without engaging in the power struggle? It feels I’ve got 3 choices, endure it, don’t endure it or stand up for myself which will just cause drama. I don’t know what me being different in this scenario will produce, given I’ve tried lots of methods to produce a closer relationship. But actually the reality is I don’t want a closer relationship now and I’m sad because I know I won’t be able to provide the whole family vibe for my children. Like you, both our parents died by the time my brother and I were 21 and 23 respectively. So we have wounds. I have huge compassion for him as a man losing a father at 13. That compassion has meant I have overlooked and ignored his treatment of me (which could just be down to him just wanting control of me to steady himself etc) and I have very little respect for him now which he can probably feel. It’s complex but I’m honestly already dreading Christmas!! When I got divorced he went into a deep depression etc that was all my fault etc! I can so see how and why this is happening but ultimately I can’t stand being in his company anymore as I feel like I’m being scapegoated all the time. So, still can’t see how to move through this. But will take each day as it comes and try not to be reactive if and when that moment strikes again!
I so get what your saying! I watch his videos and don't see how anything can truly change just by explaining things with the mind. Trauma is locked in the body, in our cells! Knowledge and compassion only goes so far
I find some younger generations are less conscious than older ones
I’ve recently come across your videos and mostly appreciate your teaching and way of being and relating. Thank you. However this is a charged topic for me, partly because I’m struggling in relationship with my parents, but i also don’t like how these matters often are discussed.
If love shows up like giving shame to your kid, or any other hurtful behaviour… saying “how love shows up though is not how he thinks it should or how he wants it” kind of makes the child appear egoistic, almost spoiled and somewhat unintelligent, and it’s reaction a pure misunderstanding, even narrow minded. Ofc you react as a child, and many of the parents behaviours come from being blocked from love. I don’t think it’s entirely true to say love shows up like this. Going on saying the parents feel hurt, disrespected by the reaction of the child, when it started with their blockage and behaviours, and placing the responsibility on the child (if that was what you meant?) is just so backwards. It’s understandable reactions to the childs reaction but if the parents feel this way, f.ex “my child feels restricted towards me”, it’s on them to look at themselves what in their own ways might have resulted in their childs reaction. Not to say the child can investigate themselves too.. it’s more the context how wisdom is used sometimes, in favour of the parents and placing the child in an unfair position in my view. I don’t think my reaction here is purely based on my own struggles and interpretations.
Where's this located? 0:42
everyone is you pushed out "Neville Goddard"
Great video. Not sure i would agree that new generation is more advanced. Regression exists. Every generation is different and a product of its time, yes. More advanced, not sure about that..
New generation still has upgraded operating system, but in some cases more dysfunctional software, creating the illusion of regression in consciousness.
@@MattiasTheGamer upgraded operating system with increased dysfunctional software is not much of an upgrade, is it? We got so "smart" we no longer know what a woman is. I listen to some college graduates trying to make a cohesive argument about any topic and wonder what happened to us. But AI is advancing forward, so there is that
@@valkarkauskas9488 I don't think anyone would deny we have a long way to go as a species. The point of operating system is simply about the potential of the next generation over past generations. Doesn't mean that potential is tapped into (as you've pointed out) :)
Thank you Peter, Berty, James and stools (not the ones Peter and Berty are sitting on)
@@MattiasTheGamer dysfunction is in the programmers
So if the children are the evolved version of the parents, which I 100% agree with, why are you saying that his father isn't the one with the narrow mind? That would then by default be true, so why are you claiming the opposite in the beginning? Being stuck in a way of thinking and doing things because of fear of dissaproval - as seen here - is a trauma response, not being narrow minded.
But other than the lack of attunment to the severity of some of these situations, which I know partly is your gig, you do have some decent points.
Yeah that's an interesting point you bring up. I think his point was that labeling someone as narrow-minded is a judgment call. Consciousness evolves and perspectives shift and therefore our experience in life is different than previous generations. But I don't think that makes it better or worse (cus that'll be another judgment call) but rather different
@@maiablondes7183 But Peter just made one on him? What doesn't align for me is the fact that he flips his script by seeing the man in the hot seat as narrow minded but doesn't acknowledge that his father then by default, referencing his theory - see my first comment, is even more narrow minded than him. Thus making it almost impossible for him not to be - but really it's a trauma response. So he takes full blame for something that's inevitable, a trauma, it's the lack of sensitivity and attunement and the bypassing that's the issue for me