Why and when do Men and Women reject intimacy? Part 1
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- The intimacy series has been requested again and ins Allah I will try to be more academic this time in the language I use yet not make it so complicated like in the books. This is part 1 of the question of why men and women reject intimacy. We will continue with part 2 ins Allah
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Women crave appreciation, being taken care of and told she's beautiful. Men crave respect and gratitude for their actions.
Tell your spouse what you want to see in them "sweetie you're so beautiful, you're such a good mother." For husband's, ladies build their confidence say "whatever you think" if they ask you a question about a way to proceed; look at him when he's speaking, accept gifts from him. We are all in need of khair but in different ways.
Missed a key ingredient: obedience and servitude to husband
Assalamu alaikum,
personally I think the frankness of your previous intimacy series was very refreshing. Sex is such a taboo amongst Muslims and it’s not something that is talked about with close friends/family or even the local community leaders. So this frankness is never found. Hence why many turn to western sources and pornography to learn about issues around intimacy.
The Prophet SAW conveyed this to us too. I fear this new approach of ‘holier than the Prophet SAW’ will mean you will miss your target audience which is a real shame. The Muslim community needs someone like you who says it like it is, based on your experience of counselling and most is importantly backed up by Quran and Sunnah.
Dude it's crazy, out of all the islamic/muslim content creators out there, for some reason, I really listen 👂 to you. I look up to you as a older brother and leader, who is great to follow because by listen at you I actually want to be like you. You have that near perfect balance ⚖️.
I don't know man there no Fakeness when it comes to this guy, that's why when he's says something I as a men recognize and listen.
Bro he is rear, a real Man
I guess that's why
That's how you know he is a true alpha
You feel me
The sad thing in muslim men, particularly men in my area they don't compliment at all their wives........they might do that when courting her but after mariage this is flat dead.
May Allah reward you for raising awareness on this topic. It is a needed topic to understand women’s psychology.
And men's.
@JESUS LOVES MUSLIMS
It's not Muslims who encourage promiscuity and debauchery and produce dirty movies, is it ?
@JESUS LOVES MUSLIMS
AND HE DOESN'T LOVE CHRISTIANS.
@JESUS LOVES MUSLIMS Yh, and the hypersexualised cultures are the westerns the “christians” and we are obsessed about sex. 😂😂 ffs go somewhere else to mislead with false facts
@JESUS LOVES MUSLIMS that's not true. I am a myslim convert from the US and I have seen most non muslims to obsess over that. I'm sure you know that better
The after birth part is real. A woman body changes so much! And a lot of things won't go back as how they where. But also during pregnancy... If men could feel it maybe they would understand. You are tired, nauseous, disgusted by smells, your stomach hurts, you are bloated, your breasts hurt...you never felt this bad in your life. And then, this gentleman you once loved( but right now just gets on your nerves), starts making moves towards you. In your head you are like "Ya Allah make him leave me alone, I just want to sleep😭😭😭💔".
Who can relate? Lol
Hence why polygyny is so important.
@@hanzalaomar3234 😂 polygyny is very important for many good reasons but this one...I don't find it so good. It's like: woman feeling sick, not being able to fulfill this right towards her husband= husband taking an other wife to replace her instead of being patient, compassionate and caring. = You are lacking something so I'm going to find it somewhere else ( forgetting that she is in this situation because she is sacrificing her health, her body to bear your child. It feels kind of selfish and it is hurtful)VS Husband being sick, not able to provide for a while= what should the wife do? She cannot have a second husband to replace him...
Personally I would rather have my husband taking an other wife just because he feels like having an other one and he can be responsible and fair to both. Than using this moment of hardship and vulnerability as an excuse to do so. ( It's like non-muslim man cheating on their parner while she is pregnant. This is very low).
Just my opinion 🤷
If men understood women emotions it would be like :
Wife: Sorry my love, I really feel so bad right now and so tired... As much as I hate to displease you I'm not comfortable to do it right now. Would you forgive me?
Husband: No worry honey, don't be sorry, I understand that you are going through a lot. Can I do something to help? (And maybe he would massage her feet or just cuddle)
After that she would feel so grateful to have this amazing man as her husband. She would make lots of duas for him (don't under estimate the duas of her pregnant lady...) And by this gesture he would have filled her love tank and earned her respect for years. As a result, she would think this way " this husband of mine is so patient, loving and mercyful. Even though he says it is ok, I don't want to disappoint him. Let me make an effort. Ya Allah help me to please husband" ( And she might rest a little and wake up during the night or the next day and give him what he wanted. Both will be happy, pleased and grateful to eachother).
VS
Husband: So you are denying my right! (Making her feel cheap, like having acces to her body is all that matter. And go to sleep upset so the Angel will curse her. She might give him what he wants because of takwa, but he would have lost a big part of estime in her heart. And women may forgive, but don't forget being hurt and disapointed this way )
Or
Husband: See why I should go take an other wife...
Wife: then you should not have made me pregnant in the first place if you cannot be patient with it (bla bla, tears, getting emotional etc etc)
@@arielle-nadyak.camara6460
You live in your own selfish little world. You shouldn't eat food or sleep under the roof he provides, if you think that way.
@@arielle-nadyak.camara6460 I understand what you're saying. But realize that if the women feels sick/tired/nauseous etc, as you've described. How long will that sickness last? Normally women don't feel that way forever. It's short. They are healthy and ready to make love. If someone has some long persisting sickness, then this is a huge problem where the man might need to consider a second marriage on the basis of his desires not being met and too much fitna around to hold him back. It's not like he's refusing you or replacing you. It's a legitimate concern. If you were a guy you would understand how strong this hunger and urge/craving for intimacy men have. It's heartbreaking if our wives reject and expect a lovey-dovey "oh dont worry" attitude towards intimacy if the wife is sick. He will wait abd be patient for as long as it takes until she is fine. But if this is a weekly life-long reality of the women being too sick and pushing herself to be intimate, then that's a problem for the man. There are women out there literally jumping on men making all sounds of seductive, erotic noises, alluring them, calling them to sex 24/7 and we are here being patient with our wife who is apparently sick and needs to push herself to be intimate with him. (Im talking only if this "sickness" persists for long)
My belief is women during pregnancy might have some problems. But after birth, this is not the case. They have a choice to work out, be healthy and have passion and enthusiasm for intimacy.
The women who give up, and let their body go, and gain weight, and lose interest in intimacy are the real problem because they have chosen fitna for their husbands. (likewise men should also not give up to please the wife)
عن أم سلمةَ رضي الله عنها أن أمَّ سُليم - وهي امرأةُ أبي طلحة - قالت: يا رسول الله، إن الله لا يستحيي مِن الحق، فهل على المرأة الغسل إذا احتلمت؟ قال: ((نعم، إذا رأتِ الماءَ))؛ الحديث، متفق عليه.
Educating society for the sake of creating awareness has no shame!
Brother thank you for this. I work in social work in the Gulf and there are more and more complaints from the sisters that their husbands lost interest after years of marriage and children, irrespective of all the women's efforts (beautification, softness, seduction). Most of the time it has to do with drop of male libido as compared to the female, contrary to conventional understanding. This is not usually addressed by muslim scholars, and the woman is left suffering in silence and often a sense of shame. Stressors for the men are usually work, overdoing or obssessed with the gym, poor nutritional status and hormonal dips, sickness especially metabolic syndrome including obesity, taking wife for granted, lack or breakdown of communication and passive aggressive relationship etc.. please address in your next episode.
Another professional observation of the above cases: marriage then becomes a roommate housemate relationship, where Muslim partners are very civil and even good friends but not lovers and often stay together for sake of their growing children. The men is content with his routine and sees intimacy as a chore on top of all the stressors, and the woman decides to sacrifice herself and her needs because of the marriage and the children.
Thank you for raising these points! I was also wondering do husbands just get bored of their wife after 10+ years of marriage no matter how much effort she makes with her appearance and behaviour?
@@yasminm5385 Men are polygynous in mind. They need multiple women to spice things up. Novelty and variety!
A lot of women and men talk about their 1st night of the wedding or pressurize the couples to perform and then tell afterwards. Education is lacking and segregation is all time sickening.
Ooo the metabolic deseases are bad! It messup your overall health.
Eating healthy is important.
I don't know why the taboo in our communities. Communication needs to be open. My father taught me diddly squat about anything which is wrong. Islamqa doesn't cover everything and it was one embarrassing first night as a result lol! These issues raised in this video can help couples understand their problems. I am very open with my kids about this kind of stuff. Oh and one more thing... Due to insane rent prices all over the world some of us can't afford a place to house our elder parents separately so the wife and her mother in law end up living under the same roof. And some women just can't hack it no matter how nice either of them are. And this effects the mood of the wife a lot and she rejects intimacy as a result. It seems the system these days is just geared towards creating problems between married couples.
It causes a very very huge problem when in laws live together
It will restrict so much for the couple..
Women can say no to living with in laws in the marriage contract that's her islamic right, provided that the husband has his parents taken care of.
@@shembeliever6095 rights rights rights what about the rights of the parents in these trying times where sooo many of us can't afford to house our elders elsewhere? What, should we stop pro creating?? What about compromise for the sake of Allah ... We don't live in the time of the sahaba where a house used to be one small room.
@@Joseph-qb1es No brother take knowledge from the ulama and the fiqh of marriage. If she cannot reconcile with that arrangement, she can decline the marriage proposal and move on. She has to know herself and know whether she can take it long term with kids and everything else..And vice versa if he has to lodge his parents, then he should find a woman who will be fine with that arrangement from the get go. If this is not discussed thoroughly from the beginning, the consequences are often catastrophic as we see today.. so much external pressure on the relationship and divorce.
@@Joseph-qb1es there are women who will accept living with inlaws, these are the women to marry
Communication
Communication
COMMUNICATION!!!!
It is PIVOTAL that we try to talk to eachother AND that we LISTEN.
No one wants to listen OR our listening skills have dissolved away.
Listening with the intent to reply is NOT listening iether! Its 'hurry up! It's my turn now!' Where are these basic skills????
Do we need to go back to basics????
Please keep these talks on-going!!!
Each couple is an individual unit of the family, they must both agree to what is acceptable according to trust and not just black and white rules.
true
Rejection of intimacy also occurs when you are under the influence of certain type of sihr!
There are a lot of women out in the world where the women crave for intimacy from their husband but the husband does not want when the women want. Like your saying with men who come from work stressed out and want the intimacy to relieve their stress from their wife but some women also want this from their husband. In some cases then the husbands does not understand this and can even get defensive or angry due to their wives asking for too much intimacy. It’s a losing battle when it comes to this issue. I think a lot of men have this idea or thought backwards thinking and not actually learning my Islam that it’s not just the men who have this right over a women but also a women having this right over their husband.
You shoudl change the my Islam part since it implies your Islam is a different one when there is only one Islam
When muslim women hear about their right =😘😍😍
When muslim women hear about their responsibilities =🙄😏😏
Same for with men
@@khasMSF don't you get feed ?
@@khasMSF Whaaaaaat?
Why r u generalizing? Would u like it if I generalized all the Muslim men?
True indeed I echoed what the brothers mentioned , our parents were never open with such discussions , as a 24 year old I've just heard tidbits from others which you can discuss it as an older brother , the do's and don'ts what is Halaal and what is not , something for him and something for her , with all due respect to our honourable parents but they are useless with such topics for some reason , thank you so much brother for being there for those who must still take the journey through marriage
To answer ur question: don't they just get over the initial attraction they must've had? If ppl are married it's just not "allowed" to reject ur partner. That's why divorce exists. Women aren't as shy after their first time. So if they lose interest or dislike their partner and have no fear of Allah they might even commit adultery.
BROTHERS PLEASE READ!!!!
when you compliment a saying she is beautiful, you should highlight specifically what is beautiful about her. Her eyes, her hair, her cooking, her fashion, her art skills e.c.t.
Also low self esteem is plaguing our sisters, some times she will respond with "You are calling me beautiful because you have to as you are my husband no one else thinks i am"
Firstly you should validate her and say I married you because you are beautiful and i am not saying that for the sake of saying it., secondly you should question why she has the belief about herself and try and get to the root, it could reveal some trauma about her childhood like bullying.
Also lack of intimacy could be linked to hormonal issues. If you notice your wife is one month intimate every day and the next month so cold, it could be due to with hormonal imbalances. Normally a woman should have a pretty consistent pattern of intimacy that repeats every month (normally links to her cycle) . If its all skewed with no external factors, perhaps talk 2 a GP, birth control can help!!!.
Finally mental blockage is a thing. If she is stressed and worried. Calm her down and say encouraging words and validate her feelings. Don't always just jump into the solution. (She probably knows what the solution is)
Hope this helps!!!
It’s pretty normal rejection after sometime especially for those mens who got busted and then Trying to repair the relationship. It can goes both ways, both parties can loose interest and its very difficult to please each other. Moreover, don’t forget some have medical conditions and they feel pain during and after its very complicated topic
Talk about it and never mind the ignorant people the people who complain might be getting their education from the" wrong sources" and are hijacking us Ppl who want to learn from Islam properly =w=
We want to learn not everybody is able to read the books or even understand them right in case of studying them
This may be off topic but as muslimah and living in Uk, We as adults, parents need to approach this taboo and break traditions speak to our children , there’s no shame about talking about intimacy when you are raising children as they are exposed to stuff in school on tv i
I talk about puberty , intimacy before marriages the wrongly why as I am raising him as a Muslim I talk about the the LGBTG community we have to we all adults,,,
brother can you make a video about the death what happen after we died, non-muslim vs Muslim this will bring awareness to our Muslim brother and sister
Thank you for the video. Please ignore the sensitive and ignorant people that want you to censor the way you speak about such a serious and taboo topic. It’s refreshing to hear an in-depth conversation of a significant and important part of marriage. I Look forward to the next episode and hoping you don’t hold back. Nothing is wrong with having an open censor free conversation to help guide people.
For most men it's anytime any network, unlike for women.
It is not true that the hadith says that a women will be cursed for refusing to go to bed, even if she has an excuse. It's refers to a women who uses sex as a for of manipulation. Therefore, the reasons that Br. Gabriel cites here are all valid excuses, and would not cause her to be cursed.
Can you please talk about Premature ejaculation ?
what if a husband reject a woman's desire , especially when she almost always intiates sex and intimacy.
your videos need to be more condensed👍
Jazakallah khair sheikh Gabriel, I think women have issues from all the social media they are into, they want to look like those glamour models and then look in the mirror but don't realise those models have been photoshopped.
They bring trouble onto themselves
May Allah bless and accept brother Gabriel's efforts - first came across the brother on peacetv some years ago ; regardless the topics you bring and talk about is excellent and what is needed. I find it strange that some people are mentioning that you're perhaps talking shamelessly or something but there's no shame in learning the Deen of Allah. And intimacy is an act of ibadah (done in a permissible manner of course) and thus needs guidelines and knowledge to be known and implemented.
Does this guy address any issues besides sex? Not hating , honestly, just curious
When it comes to Islam there’s no shame. I though I put that out there. :)
But you aren't talking about the other thing which is that women who are too tired or stressed out can't be forced to, and maybe the hadith isn't probably talking about that type of situation? Just like there's asbab al nuzul, the hadith must have a context. Obviously being in a car they have to go somewhere private together or if she's making dinner she has to turn off the oven or make sure the salad is covered. And then they can even skip the foreplay if she doesn't mind. Physical appearance is part of it but most women are going to deal with normal things like stretchmarks or a scar. Her unwillingness most likely is due to a sickness or anger and women do sometimes have a right to reject if they really are not feeling well. Even psycologically. There is a fatawa in a book for women about this (published by Darusalaam I think). I believe the specific fatwa was from sheikh al Albani.
They can only reject with valid reason, not in the mood in NOT valid reason
Also if she gets exhausted from working, then working in this case is haram
@@aatif7518 working is not haram we as human being are suppose to be working and making a living both females and males . Just like Khadija the wife of the prophet .
@@HmTradez lame excuse about Khadijah RA. She didn't work. SHE HIRED NABI MUHAMMAD ﷺ TO WORK FOR HER!!!
@@HmTradez nope
Khadija, she was in the early stages of Islam, laws of islam were not revealed yet
Husband and family comes first
Women don't need to work, it's only the man's obligation
Females should depend on their husbands income
@@aatif7518 throughout Khadija’s life even to her death she has always financially supported the prophet peace be upon him , all the the info is in his Seerah , so check that out before you say anything.
What do you say about that then .
Thank you brother
Excellent topic
My husband thinks calling me fat is a compliment.
@@Benkub123 kkk Somali kaftan waa la is fahmi la'yahay.
You have to tell him seriously that it should be the last time when he tells you that. Otherwise you will go away.
@syrian slayer I am gonna be a Muslim, but I also think that nobody can say anything bad to you, especially your husband - the closest person ever. Today he says that you are fat, tomorrow he will tell that you are stupid, the day after tomorrow he will beat you.
@@emiliakova2056 Poor advice. A woman who leaves her husband's house without his permission is cursed. Insulting the wife by calling her "fat" is not okay but neither is leaving the house without permission.
@Religion comes first Islam comes first okay okay, maybe I reacted too much, I agree and we dont know any other details. I would say to my husband directly then that I'm getting very upset when he tells that I'm fat. If he loves me he will stop.
Assalamu'alaikum brother, did you recommend the intimacy series to be watched by high schoolers? because for some of them these topics were so taboo that they ended up imagining it.
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My dear brother may Allah bless you and reward you for you hard work and may Allah protect you and you family I am Muslim from east Africa and I know we those of us who were born in and Muslims family alot of us br our backgrounds cultures which is man made is has nothing to do with Islam if you our Islamic culture we would or have issues
And you ,author,do not know all women.not all women are the same and their priorities are quite different,their preferences are different.may be in general most of the women are the same but not all women are the same.may be you are addressing those women you know or knew.
جزاكم الله خيرا for this . I don’t really see a lot of people talking about this🙏🏽☺️
One advice Shaykhana, people in the comment section aren’t always the best of people. So don’t worry about generalizing💪🏽 say what you want to say
بارك الله فيك
The hadith also applies to women that if a man rejects a woman for intimacy. I think that should also be known and said.
A woman should not priorities husband to the degree that she doesn't care enough about her parents ,her siblings.husband should not remove the wife's family from the scene intentionally or even unintentionally.
What about women who cry all night because their husbands have harmed them. She does not want intimacy because her husband has not resolved issues. She may have developed Trauma or resentful. Work makes women stressed. He doesn't make her feel beautiful. He comments. or even says I love you.
This is another thing
If the working causes woman to be stressed and lose out interest, WORKING IS HARAM
So that's why it's recommended women don't work
Husband comes first and nothing should stress out "that" with the husband
@Haarith Al-Awwal maybe lot of feminazis in that area
@Haarith Al-Awwal hahahaha
@@aatif7518 Khadija worked. She was the prophet's wife. It's not haram. Men need to man up. Men are the maintainers of women.
Brother just speak facts as you mostly do no need to butter those cultural people
Unfortunately
Hmmm I found this to be soo inaccurate in my case. Idk but according to this I behave like a man 🤷🏻♀️
If the wife is angry with the husband justly will angels curse the husband ?
Really need to check the subtitles before uploading. Fiq book of hadith.....not fake book of hadith. Theres lots of these mistakes which most can ignore but that level is just not acceptable. Take time out to edit it and that goes for all the other videos on other platforms too, seems to be a lot of it. Jzk
Brother go for it we live in a society where yes you can be careful of your wording but we all adults on this platform ,,, and ur points are on valid rights ,, no need to apologise about wording as we have to be improve ourselves to get rid of the mental blocks both parties ,,,
Sometimes you need to be blunt for people to understand ! Go for it !!!!!
What about impotent husband?
No comment on this topics. But i know that Dajaal/Antichrist said she must be 🔞, Next she needs to be 35, And after that comes ''sorry come again?' there is something called male and female marriage? what centuries did that existed? Scary right? I know, Tell me about it. Its coming
Who?
@Haarith Al-Awwal WHAT A DUMB DEAF AND BLINDED BY DAJAAL. You definitely do need a few lessons from brother Jibreel to wake you & shake you from your long deep asleep!!!
@Haarith Al-Awwal A REAL Muslim who knows the deen the Quran and the AUTHENTIC hadiths should've known that. Go learn the deen my fellow muslim jzklah. you made me laugh though
Sorry, I feel for you. its not your fault that our ULAMAS never taught you/us THE Symbolism of Dajaal. You wount EVEN hear Gabriel talking about it or teaching us and EXPLAINING to us who's behind all of this Facaad and fitnah. WHO IS IT REALY THATS BEHIND IT??? They'll NEVER tell you!!!! Believe me, i tell myself ''its either the way they understood the Quran & the hadiths OR they are scared of you know who!!! You'll know whom i am talking about when you watch this.Allaah knows best of whey shi'ukhs/madrasa teachers/da'es like Gabriel And ALL OF THOSES THAT YOU WATCH THEIR SO CALLED LECTURES N E V E R TOLD US ABOUT THIS PHENOMENA. The thruth thats inbeded in the Quran? Its soo plain and clear! SUBHAAN'ALLAH . Listen to the LEARNED one and please please pay Attention i BEG of you my brother or sister. it'll be like a light bulb has been switched on in your brain. thank me later th-cam.com/video/2q7JLhoWPh0/w-d-xo.html
@Obama Care DONT YOU WORRY MY DEAR. WE SHALL SEE WHO IS MAD ON THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I completely agree with you.
Subhanallah so true.
How would you deal with a spouse who is extremely overweight?
Give her money to buy more vegetables and she stops making sweets for your family.
Develope a healthy eating habbit for the both of you. Go for walks or have a bicycle in house. You know that one which doesn't move like this 🚲
Keto diet is effective to lose excessive fat fast but is tough for variety of reasons. Such as less flexibility in cooking and eating. And it's just a weird diet.
Eating two moderate meals a day is the best for everyone I think without refined sugar.
@syrian slayer disagree
@syrian slayer
What about if a man is overweight is divorce better unless he changes?
@@aliay2743 Why would you say Her ? it could of been a He.
@gabrielalromani , I have got a question for you ? Do you think that women should work? Do you think that women can work ? Is it halal for the women to work with her degree?
He has a very strong opinion about women staying at home and taking care of children and their upbringing.
@@shabinanaaz7581 I know right
If he thinks like that, is that a problem ?
@@mr.knockknock3705 Hope you go to 🔥obviously women can get degrees and work
I so desperately wanna get married after this video 😆
Go what are you waiting for
@Haarith Al-Awwal You still didnt answer me where are you from 😁
@Haarith Al-Awwal 🤣🤣🤣
I'm not married yet. But I'm assuming some of these women who get upset by this hadith is because the husband is not going about it the right way. You have to stimulate a women emotionally and mentally she's not a doll that just takes it. Get to know the psychology of a women before you get married to one 🤦♀️ its not that they have a problem with the hadith the problem is YOU. I've heard stories where men want to be intimate with their wife and quote this hadith loool what do you think this is luv this is not a military convention chill.
🔞
Why.?
Why?? My kids are young and they hear everything from me about couple relations. Would you rather tik Tok teach them??
@@Joseph-qb1es I don’t need to teach my boy couple relations, my parents did not teach me that, I learned it by myself , this is in human nature.
@@arabicwomannamedsahar1114 No, No, No....he will learn from TIKTOK and PORN etc. or CRAZY PEOPLE on the internet. There's NOTHING you can do the stop this the older he gets and becomes a grown man. Learning this is a RAHMAH from Allah SWT. There's no one who says: I was better off not learning useful information (?). Also the brother clearly states that this is actually in the SUNNAH, so it's important to EDUCATE yourself and follow ISLAM vs. CULTURE. You are clearly choosing the side of CULTURE instead of ISLAM.
@@deedeee6271 I don't allow him to use social media.
Yasir Qadhi and Muhammad Al Shareef providing advice and you can even take a test. Is that what dawah has been reduced to?
Don’t listen to yasir qadhi
What if the wife has more than the husband?
Has what more?
"Academic" he said, OK bro, women are shown to be TWICE AS LIKELY AS MEN to lose interest in their partner.
"Marriage itself tends to make routine what was once transgressive and sexy in ways that especially impacts women, “over familiarising” our spouses in a fashion that we struggle with.’ Meana’s work suggests we women long for and respond to lustful gazes from strangers.
Her findings and other data contradict everything we’re told about women needing intimacy and familiarity to feel sexy."
It is 100% about the men: we simply ARENT PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH ON AVERAGE to keep her attention.
Think about it: something haram has to be inherently destructive, or the mu'mineen would suffer nothing by disobeying. If you allow women to work w/ men, to travel alone, to remove hijab, they WILL AND DO cheat because it is in their fitrah. If you want a big house and 6 kids so much that your greed causes you to let your wife work, you will be punished by raising 3 kids that aren't even yours.
All of Gabriel's excuses here are only to preserve the feelings of women because society says they're the innocent, shy, low-libido romantic sex. Only at 14:20 did he admit "you aren't the one."
www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6211153/The-rise-female-infidelity.html
That's why women should stay home
That's why in Islam it's recommended for women to stay home
Walhi the brother is not even shy about some of the stuffs that he says. 🤦♀️🤦♀️Astaakhfirullaah
@@salmaa2871 it's because of this mentality Muslims lack and don't enjoy 💯 in this area
@@aatif7518 what Hadiths says that women should stay at home
@@HmTradez numerous authentic hadith