I’ve also found this is true in general about jobs, friends, other situations… if it makes you physically/mentally feel unhealthy, IT IS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU!
I used to have a job as a swim teacher/manager in charge of training, which was terrible for my body. But I loved it, so I ignored all the symptoms. Spending full-time hours in chlorine caused any hair that sat in the water to break away like I’d had an undercut, the rest of my hair was bleached and developed a weird texture, my body would be covered in essentially chemical burns, and I had acne all over my face and body from the skin damage. I had to shower every night and smother my entire body in aquaphor so my skin would heal JUST enough to do it all over again the next day. I’d be so exhausted that sometimes I would fall asleep before I could finish my dinner, food in my lap. I finally left because I fell pregnant and my manager (who’d been trying with IVF for awhile) treated me poorly and ignored all my concerns, and I received an amazing job offer elsewhere that solved ALL of my problems. It wasn’t until I left and my body started to heal (ZERO acne, hair growing back thick and full, eating better, getting better sleep, etc.) that I realized how badly I’d been treating my body for three whole years. I was so sad to leave a job I loved, but I realized after how important it really was to take care of your body. I look back at pictures from that time now and can’t believe no one told me to run for the hills.
Ive been doing for awhile but mine was from several deaths too close together of all really close relatives. I wish i had the control to walk away from it but unfortunately its not always possible.
I’m experiencing this in my job; it’s not just relationships. My relationship is wonderful and my fiancé is the only thing in the world that doesn’t cause me anxiety and can calm me down in seconds. My job and living situation are what stress me and cause anxiety, he never does or will
Same for men as well. I know two men who were balding, and when they got out of their bad relationships, their hair actually started growing back, which is absolutely insane to me!
This is so true! I ignored my body’s signals for months until I couldn’t deal with the stress anymore. I was constantly in fight or flight mode, was disassociated, and would often cry but I thought I had to “fight for the relationship” when in reality, all I was doing was forcing a relationship with the wrong man. I’m glad it’s over and I learned my lesson. Scarcity mindset makes you believe you will not find anyone well suited for you out there and that is a LIE! Letting go of what wasn’t for me allowed me to make space for what is.
I can be in stress or even upset with my husband but when we go to sleep I can always lay my hand on him to relax and fall asleep because the body does respond and know the truth of what is good for you. This is very solid advice she's sharing
I have always been taught that the spirit is connected to the body to form the soul. When the spirit is hurt, the body is hurt as well in some way. If someone hurts your soul you'll feel it, spiritually as well as physically. Listen to your soul. It will let you know who's right for you and who's hurting you
If you ask God for a sign, (doesn’t matter what it is, bc it’s between you and him) he will give you a sign. From then on, the more ignorant you are of reading the signs, (or intentionally misreading them just to confirm your own bias) your own spirit will want to leave your body. In that order!
Yeah my ex was such an awful person and it took the worst toll on my body. I had terrible acne, nightmares, anxiety, and broke out into the craziest hives all over my body. Now that I’m married to the greatest man EVER I literally have zero issues. Your relationships with other people matter!
As a man who suffers from addiction I can honestly tell you that this is 100% true. Girls know when a man is using porn or drugs ever heard of a woman’s and I say woman’s intuition good message Bret
Lol most women don't even know when they are over eating or being combative . How would hey know what you've viewed. Any females worried about porn use. Lok at her phone. As say hi to the other 3-5 guys she's got lined up. 100% .
My husband learned this when our daughter was 2. She had some funky symptoms and I looked him dead in the face and said “she has leukemia” he kind of blew me off…he took our daughter’s health seriously but assumed I was overreacting. I finally convinced him to go to the ER with us (I was going either way, but I wanted him there) our daughter was soon life flighted to Children’s Hospital because she had NO platelets and they said she could spontaneously bleed out and die at any moment from leukemia that had completely taken over her body. My husband has never questioned my gut feelings since! (And FTR our daughter is now a happy healthy 13 year old). I think men can learn to trust their guts too but being way more pragmatic and being the problem solvers, it gets pushed down with the feelings. I hope you’re doing well. Addiction is brutal. I empathize.
@@pdawg2716 those who have any addictions. Women can feel it in their guts like something is not quite right. It’s a gift from God so they can protect them selves. I’m an addict and my wife can tell when I’m slipping and I have learned to trust her. When she is irritable is when I can tell that my mind is slipping into the addictive behavior. When I am clean she is much happier. Not because she knows I’m clean but because her spirit knows I’m clean.
THIS IS SO TRUE. I’ve luckily never been in a abusive relationship- but my best friend became extremely toxic and awful. Among a myriad of other things I avoided hanging out with her because after being around her I would have the worst headache and full body aches and exhaustion. Never experienced anything like that with anyone else. My body was experiencing the stress far before my brain had realized what a bad friendship it had begun.
This was me my whole life. The relationship was my family. I'm so deregulated from being raised by deregulated people and being in constant stress. My life revolves around chronic pain conditions that i truly believe manifested from this constant imbalance.
Right person wrong time is also SO REAL me and my boyfriend broke up because we were both struggling mentally, we got back together a couple months later and we're better than ever!
Yes… but also stress in total for any reason can do this. Don’t break up with someone good for you thinking that your stress is a sign to break up when your stress was coming from work, or past trauma, or just dealing with life.
It is true that bad relationships damage your body. It's also true that sometimes life is fucking hard and this is it no matter what. So good dating advice but if you're twenty years info a marriage the advice is much different.
There’s also the reality that your body won’t change, and you can live in the dark with your decisions forevermore, as you’re lying to God before any other human… 👁️👁️👁️
@rachelcoleman4693 i don't know when I am going to have them. It is like my body is locking up. It also affects my brain. I have a lapse and kinda travel back in time. Once I had a strong one and asked the kids where the dog was that had been dead for 4 years. I hope that helps
I was in a very tense and controlling marriage for 15 years. I got out of the marriage and spent quite a few years single and repairing. I am now married to the love of my life for almost 30 years and the difference is night and day. God is always there for us❤I am in my later years and loving life with my soulmate. I am very impressed with you Brett. I wish I had the wisdom and common sense you do when I was your age. God bless❤❤
This 100% applies both ways, everyone should listen to their bodies and respond as quickly as possible. I can assure you it takes its toll if you don't.
I have a huge crush on a friend of mine, and he means the world to me. I fell in love with his personality, and I think he’s so cute. I feel so calm around him, and I don’t think we need a conversation when I walk with him after lunch. I can walk next to him, and feel at peace. I’ve even noticed he matched my pace, and walks slower so I can easily keep up. I really hope we can get togetherr soon, he is my everything and I hope I can be his.
@@crazysilly2914 I did! He said no, but only because he feels he hasn’t known me long enough. I am so sure I still have a chance, and one of my good friends is his best friend and she’s rooting for us. I will not give up hope!
@@MaraMummsy yes women should ask guys out more often, especially with guys being afraid of getting harassment charges. There is this girl I have been working with that I have a huge crush on for a year and a half. I think she may like me back? But I am too afraid to ask her because of the workplace.
On the flip side, my husband was my first real relationship, so I was very stressed and anxious because I had never experienced that type of relationship before and didn't want to mess it up or was discovering things about myself I had never dealt with before. It was a crazy time, but it wasn't because of him I felt that way. In fact everytime I prayed about it and thought about breaking up because it was hard, God would show me that it was myself holding me back. As I finally relaxed into the relationship I did experience a lot of calm and peace. Don't confuse the stress for you just being scared of a relationship, be sure it's because the guy isn't right for you. I almost ended what is one if the best things that ever happened to me because of anxiety.
This is a big issue in children who have traumatic upbringings and abusive parents and it's not talked about enough. I ended up cutting off my biological mom at 14 and had to go through another court hearing so it ended up being 6 months after cutting her off 3 months after the hearing before i actually started puberty and developing because the amount of stress delayed it for so long and with the growth spurt being so late and rapid I'm now covered in stretch marks. It needs to be talked about a lot more than what it is
And a healthy relationship could be a “pain killer”! I have been suffering from period cramps for the past 4-5 years ever since I stopped taking birth control pills, and every month I had to take ibuprofen. Recently I got engaged to my bf and while I was visiting him (we’re in a long distance relationship) I miraculously had 2 periods that’s 100% pain free! But after I got back to my city, the pain came back…😅 Can’t wait to marry him next year ❤
This is so true! I wish I would have listened to my body before, it would have saved me from the stress and pain that I endured. I now have CPTSD, anxiety, severe depression and used to get really bad heartburn in the middle of the night, turns out it was the amount of stress my body was under. My mental health is extremely important and happy to say it’s improved and understand control l. I’m no longer taking medications for unless needed (specifically anxiety) but it’s been good.
FACTS! I just gotten divorced from a real awhole and I am feeling better but I have a long road to healing. I am looking forward to getting back to a better me. I am 53 and there is no age, your right.
I understand this. I have a weird case of accurate anxiety and when it hit me was after the one year mark of a wonderful relationship. No red signs, no disrespect lots of love and then I stated focusing more in school and ot fell apart
I have an experience like this, not when it comes to my relationship, but when it came to my first job. I was convinced I needed to get tested for about million mental disorders mostly because of the bad boss and the miscommunications management caused. I stayed with that job for a year but I should have gotten out months before then. Gut intuition is something we should all learn to read and stop ignoring.
The first commenter nailed it. It’s biology that we’re all taught early on, it’s just not put into the proper perspectives. Stress = cortisol increase = health problems. But no one seems to link a bad relationship that is *stressing you out* to your body taking repeated cortisol hits.
Life is generally very stressful. It is especially horrible and stressful if a lady continuously makes bad decisions to pursue the wrong guy. Date wisely
I believe this 150%!! when with my ex my health suffered, stress/depression/anxiety, hair falling out, weight fluctuations, addiction, hormone irregularity, constant bladder infections, poor immunity, etc, I think it was my body saying “we’re not a match”
I lost 30 pounds in 3 months 50 in 7 mo it’s after my last relationship. 15 of that coming in the first month. All I did was move home. It was Covid I’m from MA no gyms a were open. I wasn’t working out. I just was away from that man and his mother. GOOD LORD HIS MOTHER what a piece of work
I have always said that 'butterflies' is not a good sign for relationships. If your body feels calm around someone, that's the best foundation to build on.
That's true also for "friends" and "family members". Cut out anyone that brings stress in your life. A lot of people use it to manipulate others. Including in media and politics. Laugh will cure your souls :)
This happened to me. When my ex and I dated about a couple month or so. I would start getting sick. After. I ended things. I felt a million times better. Best decision they ever made.
This is 100% true. Was with a horrible man, my body was shutting down constantly, I was losing hair, couldn’t sleep, in survival mode all the time. Finally dumped him for good and suddenly my hair grew back, no more random blackouts, no more fatigue and despair. Yikes!
Yes this happened to me, my mind and body was a mess. The stress turned in to bad anxiety and depression lost major weight. Pls don’t stay and get to that point. Really great video to bring awareness to this
Gabor Mate has a great book and a lot of lectures about the correlation of trauma, stress, etc and health issues. Because when the body says no, baby, that means it's time to go!
This so much. Sure, there are situations when the relationship will cause you stress even when it's a good one, like for example if one of you gets cancer or stuff like that, but especially when you get to know someone, listen to your body and your feelings. Don't only focus on how you feel when they get you gifts or tell you they love you, think about whether or not you generally feel safe and loved with them. I knew my girlfriend is the one for me when I realized that just hearing her voice calms my anxiety, just hearing her talk about her current interests helps me feel calmer, and that's the best sign of a good relationship imo.
This is also true about jobs!! I was so exhausted in my last job, that I thought I was not good enough, I was stupid, I was nervous every time I had a team meeting. It was awful
Guys, this is so true! We cannot forget how intertwined our mental and physical health are to each other! I got fired from my job, and it was really unfair, but honestly it may have been the best thing for my health. While i was working there I had insomnia every night, massive anxiety before the job, and I even got shingles...
My health was/is what you would consider very healthy. Never have had anything major. My last relationship, if you want to call it that, was one of the worst experiences of my life and I’m 40. I had two hospital visits and multiple full blown panic attacks over the course of 4 months! Turns out the woman I was with, was cheating the entire time, my body was literally revolting and I wouldn’t listen. Crazy now how it’s over, my weights back and I’m healthy again.
I'm in grad school, super stressed, not sleeping well, perpetually fatigued, pms getting worse, gray hairs coming in. 6 months in and I'm not the same person as when I started
This is so true. Things I thought couldn't heal have all been healing. As in the Bible, iron sharpens iron. You and your partner influence each other either for the better or the worse. ❤ Disclaimer: you need to verify that it's the person you're with before breaking up with them though. I've had other issues while with an amazing man, because of my work. Work has actually caused me more problems due to bad work problems and relationships.
Stress will do crazy things you didn’t even know it could do. Anything that causes stress, whether it be a relationship, job, etc. should be taken care of. Our bodies were not made to be living under stress.
Vehemently agree. However, I will add that we should also develop a healthy level of self-awareness because the majority cannot deny, very likely _you_ reading this included, that we can self-sabotage. We _can_ have habits we are unaware of that cause these feelings as well, especially if you've have prior unhealthy relationships whether that be a partner or parent(s). If you're seeking relationship, it'd be beneficial to give a benefit of a doubt. Your next guy/gal isn't your ex or the parent that should've loved you. Nonetheless, I'm willing to put the work in, give chances, but once I feel my mental health start to deteriorate, I'll drop any woman. We're adults, enough of the mind games. If you like someone, act like it.
This applies to jobs too. I literally got heart problems and high blood pressure from a previous job (even got sent to the clinic for chest pain from the floor one day). I finished my commitment and found a new job that I love and now I'm healing my body.
I never had panic attacks in my life until I got with my ex boyfriend and they would happen very frequently. And since we broke up (3 years ago) I’ve only had 2 and they were due to stress from college. This is very truuuueee
This happens so often with sex outside of marriage. Our inner self knows it’s not safe or secure. We pay for it in many ways. Best to wait. Peace of mind, healthier body, MUCH healthier relationships. Many blessings ❤️🔥🕊️✝️🙏🏽
Be careful.. i was tired, losing dangerous weight, felt like shit... Had been in my relationship 7 years.. Turns out it was the cancer... Sometimes it isn't your relationship. Don't ignore your issues, see a doctor. 14 years and we're still happy as can be.
Another thing to consider if you feel too excited to be around someone. Like they gave you butterflies. It could also be a signal that something's wrong.
Literally got Uclerative Colitis from being in a toxic narcissistic relationship. Leave while you can… RUN if you must! Even if they threaten to harm themselves, if they threaten you, reach out and plan with someone! Get police escort involved and don’t let the partner know where you’re going. Just have police take you to the place you need to go. Please just get out. Being sick isn’t worth it.
Really, you should be discerning God’s will when it comes to your relationships, as anything that leads you away from Him will only bring pain and misery to your life.
I got hives around my eyes from looking at my ex when he was lecturing me. My immune system began rupturing blood vessels in my thighs causing itchy brusises. I had 40 of them. I was sick all the time. It was awful. Now I rarely get sick and never got hives again.
Yup dated this person for a little over 2 years. Who is abusive. Started out destroying the apartment his stuff. Then he would destroy my stuff and throw things and hurt the pets. Then I finally got physical and he would choke me. Anyways listen to you 1st!!! Barely a year After we broke up I was diagnosed with brain tumors. Followed by three brain surgeries in the first one failed. Leaving me in one of the top most painful health conditions at 26 yrs old. #trigeminalneuralgia Don't wait till it's too late, leave when you know, the 1st time..
Yes, listen to your body, first thing I was told about fax is you both have to be willing and if it's just one wanting that it's not healthy, just a small thing like that can ruin your health both physically and mentally
PMDD can be a multitude of things. Mine was from soy. Soy causes so much rage and stress in my body, it makes me see my actual lovely husband in a way different light. Causes IBS, headaches, eczema, acne. Always look at food for your mental state before making drastic changes to your life. ❤
My toxic ex made me start to imagine sounds that someone was breaking into my house.I wasnt sleeping at night because of this.I would also try to stay on the phone with him all night or call him multiple nights whete he wouldnt answer and would just ingore me, or he would tell me "oh its just one more game." Theyres photos of me with under eye bags and a lot bigger of a stomach. Once i finally had the courage to leave him, i started to immediately look brighter and started eating healthier and losing weight i was happy with. Your body does not lie to you.
I was hired at this new job I was excited to be at. The pay was great and the job was in the career field that I was wanted. 3 months in to working this new job and I literally lost my period. The people I worked with were telling me rude things since day one and thief didn’t know me. I left and my period came back 2 months later.
Your body mostly won't tell you all you need to know about somebody. That's the myth of women's intuition, which men would call "confirmation bias" - ignoring failed miraculous insights and remembering successful ones. Like thinking you can always predict a dice roll because you discount all the times you don't. Stress is real of course; she's just massively overstated the scope of this.
My mom told me about a guy she went on a date with before she met my dad. She said that she found him excessively boring, when he asked her to go on a second date she immediately got sick and ended up with a pretty bad stomach bug for a few days after that. Needless to say, they never went on a second date
Yea... an ex and I were living together and my hair had that bald pitch in the back, as well as that creep up the front and sides. I had been getting up there in age, so it made sense. We parted ways and then met up like a month and a half later... and she was amazed. My hair was grown back in, I lost a lot of puff, put in some muscle and in her words, looked ten years younger. She wasnt a fan of my response that "Not being in a bad relationship will do that."
For me it was when my psychopathic aunt lived with me. At the doctors (for a different reason) I decided to ask why my nails were peeling from the bottom. He looked and asked, "Are you under a lot of stress?" It was 100% stress
Also have to look at it from the other side, You aren't always going to be happy 24/7 in anything you do. If you think "feelings" are something to go off of then you won't do very good in life
But like... also keep in mind that if you experience stress in your life it isnt necessarily because of your wife/husband. Sometimes the line is blurry.
I have dermographia - basically a skin allergy to touch 🙃 When anything touches me my skin swells, and it leaves the trace for a while there. I'm convinced it's a physical reaction to a terrible abusive childhood, yes I'm THAT sensitive. I feel like the princess and the bean lmfao It's good too that it's not big of an issue, I wonder if that made me be more gentle w everything. People love to write on me and then see the trace there, and most notice years later when I accidently touch something and I have a huge bump lmao
Jenna’s hot there’s no doubt. But just because I (and many others) think so doesn’t suddenly make it ok to AI her like that! Wtf is wrong with people???
I was with my ex at a very young age 13/1/2 years old over 15/1/2 years ago. I had no idea he was into drugs under age drinking). I ended it as well I wish I had listened to my body as well, no I didn’t handle it very well I ended up gaining weight from healthy to 165 lbs within 14 months of breaking up with my ex boyfriend). I ended up with making my unknown CPTSD worse anxiety disorder. Father’s don’t let ur 13 year old daughters get boyfriends my oldest niece Same thing I remember advising her to wait till she was mature my brother in- law didn’t think it was a big deal. I looked at like what? Letting my oldest niece at 13 to have a boyfriend if I was her guardian I d’ ve stood firm on my ground d’ ve told her wait till high school. Trust me I wish I had waited even my grandad looked at like disappointed at my father like why did u let ur youngest daughter have a boyfriend.
I've been like this before I got with my husband so it's definitely not him. I'm pretty sure for me it's mold sickness. My dad's house before his accident had black mold in it and my husband's family's house got cleaned for mold but it's still affecting us
I’ve also found this is true in general about jobs, friends, other situations… if it makes you physically/mentally feel unhealthy, IT IS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU!
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yessss. this is so true!!!
It's currently happen to me 😢.. my workplace is surrounded by toxic people
I used to have a job as a swim teacher/manager in charge of training, which was terrible for my body. But I loved it, so I ignored all the symptoms. Spending full-time hours in chlorine caused any hair that sat in the water to break away like I’d had an undercut, the rest of my hair was bleached and developed a weird texture, my body would be covered in essentially chemical burns, and I had acne all over my face and body from the skin damage. I had to shower every night and smother my entire body in aquaphor so my skin would heal JUST enough to do it all over again the next day. I’d be so exhausted that sometimes I would fall asleep before I could finish my dinner, food in my lap. I finally left because I fell pregnant and my manager (who’d been trying with IVF for awhile) treated me poorly and ignored all my concerns, and I received an amazing job offer elsewhere that solved ALL of my problems. It wasn’t until I left and my body started to heal (ZERO acne, hair growing back thick and full, eating better, getting better sleep, etc.) that I realized how badly I’d been treating my body for three whole years. I was so sad to leave a job I loved, but I realized after how important it really was to take care of your body. I look back at pictures from that time now and can’t believe no one told me to run for the hills.
Ive been doing for awhile but mine was from several deaths too close together of all really close relatives. I wish i had the control to walk away from it but unfortunately its not always possible.
I’m experiencing this in my job; it’s not just relationships.
My relationship is wonderful and my fiancé is the only thing in the world that doesn’t cause me anxiety and can calm me down in seconds. My job and living situation are what stress me and cause anxiety, he never does or will
So glad your soon-to-be can support you through this hard time☺️ I hope you can change your situation as soon as possible! 🙏
I'll drink to this comment, everything is wonderful but my job
Same for men as well. I know two men who were balding, and when they got out of their bad relationships, their hair actually started growing back, which is absolutely insane to me!
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This is so true! I ignored my body’s signals for months until I couldn’t deal with the stress anymore. I was constantly in fight or flight mode, was disassociated, and would often cry but I thought I had to “fight for the relationship” when in reality, all I was doing was forcing a relationship with the wrong man. I’m glad it’s over and I learned my lesson. Scarcity mindset makes you believe you will not find anyone well suited for you out there and that is a LIE! Letting go of what wasn’t for me allowed me to make space for what is.
I can be in stress or even upset with my husband but when we go to sleep I can always lay my hand on him to relax and fall asleep because the body does respond and know the truth of what is good for you. This is very solid advice she's sharing
I have always been taught that the spirit is connected to the body to form the soul. When the spirit is hurt, the body is hurt as well in some way. If someone hurts your soul you'll feel it, spiritually as well as physically. Listen to your soul. It will let you know who's right for you and who's hurting you
If you ask God for a sign, (doesn’t matter what it is, bc it’s between you and him) he will give you a sign. From then on, the more ignorant you are of reading the signs, (or intentionally misreading them just to confirm your own bias) your own spirit will want to leave your body. In that order!
Yeah my ex was such an awful person and it took the worst toll on my body. I had terrible acne, nightmares, anxiety, and broke out into the craziest hives all over my body. Now that I’m married to the greatest man EVER I literally have zero issues. Your relationships with other people matter!
As a man who suffers from addiction I can honestly tell you that this is 100% true. Girls know when a man is using porn or drugs ever heard of a woman’s and I say woman’s intuition good message Bret
Lol most women don't even know when they are over eating or being combative . How would hey know what you've viewed. Any females worried about porn use. Lok at her phone. As say hi to the other 3-5 guys she's got lined up. 100% .
My husband learned this when our daughter was 2. She had some funky symptoms and I looked him dead in the face and said “she has leukemia” he kind of blew me off…he took our daughter’s health seriously but assumed I was overreacting. I finally convinced him to go to the ER with us (I was going either way, but I wanted him there) our daughter was soon life flighted to Children’s Hospital because she had NO platelets and they said she could spontaneously bleed out and die at any moment from leukemia that had completely taken over her body. My husband has never questioned my gut feelings since! (And FTR our daughter is now a happy healthy 13 year old). I think men can learn to trust their guts too but being way more pragmatic and being the problem solvers, it gets pushed down with the feelings. I hope you’re doing well. Addiction is brutal. I empathize.
Wait do you mean watching porn or those who have a porn addiction?
@@pdawg2716 those who have any addictions. Women can feel it in their guts like something is not quite right. It’s a gift from God so they can protect them selves. I’m an addict and my wife can tell when I’m slipping and I have learned to trust her. When she is irritable is when I can tell that my mind is slipping into the addictive behavior. When I am clean she is much happier. Not because she knows I’m clean but because her spirit knows I’m clean.
@@pdawg2716it is easy to tell when a man has a porn addiction because of the way he acts, speaks, and even looks
THIS IS SO TRUE. I’ve luckily never been in a abusive relationship- but my best friend became extremely toxic and awful. Among a myriad of other things I avoided hanging out with her because after being around her I would have the worst headache and full body aches and exhaustion. Never experienced anything like that with anyone else. My body was experiencing the stress far before my brain had realized what a bad friendship it had begun.
This is so true for many things in general! Had hair loss at 20 years of age due to extreme stress in my life. Now my hair has grown back completely!
This was me my whole life. The relationship was my family. I'm so deregulated from being raised by deregulated people and being in constant stress. My life revolves around chronic pain conditions that i truly believe manifested from this constant imbalance.
Right person wrong time is also SO REAL me and my boyfriend broke up because we were both struggling mentally, we got back together a couple months later and we're better than ever!
Yes… but also stress in total for any reason can do this. Don’t break up with someone good for you thinking that your stress is a sign to break up when your stress was coming from work, or past trauma, or just dealing with life.
It is true that bad relationships damage your body. It's also true that sometimes life is fucking hard and this is it no matter what. So good dating advice but if you're twenty years info a marriage the advice is much different.
True, but hopefully at that point you've established that the person you're with is a good match for you overall.
There’s also the reality that your body won’t change, and you can live in the dark with your decisions forevermore, as you’re lying to God before any other human… 👁️👁️👁️
I'm 28 and still find it crazy that people marry that young, if I was still into the same guy I was at 21 I'd have cortisol face body everything 😂😂
I got pimples, gained weight. Always nauseous because of the anxiety. I'm glowing now after I blocked him. ❤
I always say that my heart and mind might deceive me but my body is always honest .
20 years with an abusive narcissist. PTSD and stress induced seizures. Even 10 years after leaving the marriage. Please listen to your body!
Can I ask what your seizures are like?
@rachelcoleman4693 i don't know when I am going to have them. It is like my body is locking up. It also affects my brain. I have a lapse and kinda travel back in time. Once I had a strong one and asked the kids where the dog was that had been dead for 4 years. I hope that helps
@@jenniferhinrichs6415 Thank you for replying. ❤️
I was in a very tense and controlling marriage for 15 years. I got out of the marriage and spent quite a few years single and repairing. I am now married to the love of my life for almost 30 years and the difference is night and day. God is always there for us❤I am in my later years and loving life with my soulmate. I am very impressed with you Brett. I wish I had the wisdom and common sense you do when I was your age. God bless❤❤
This 100% applies both ways, everyone should listen to their bodies and respond as quickly as possible. I can assure you it takes its toll if you don't.
I have a huge crush on a friend of mine, and he means the world to me. I fell in love with his personality, and I think he’s so cute. I feel so calm around him, and I don’t think we need a conversation when I walk with him after lunch. I can walk next to him, and feel at peace. I’ve even noticed he matched my pace, and walks slower so I can easily keep up. I really hope we can get togetherr soon, he is my everything and I hope I can be his.
well, ASK HIM OUT!!!! Otherwise you will not get him
@@crazysilly2914 I did! He said no, but only because he feels he hasn’t known me long enough. I am so sure I still have a chance, and one of my good friends is his best friend and she’s rooting for us. I will not give up hope!
@@MaraMummsy If he was attracted he'd say yes even if he was just looking to get laid. Quit while you're ahead. They're all the same.
@@MaraMummsy yes women should ask guys out more often, especially with guys being afraid of getting harassment charges.
There is this girl I have been working with that I have a huge crush on for a year and a half. I think she may like me back? But I am too afraid to ask her because of the workplace.
On the flip side, my husband was my first real relationship, so I was very stressed and anxious because I had never experienced that type of relationship before and didn't want to mess it up or was discovering things about myself I had never dealt with before. It was a crazy time, but it wasn't because of him I felt that way. In fact everytime I prayed about it and thought about breaking up because it was hard, God would show me that it was myself holding me back. As I finally relaxed into the relationship I did experience a lot of calm and peace. Don't confuse the stress for you just being scared of a relationship, be sure it's because the guy isn't right for you. I almost ended what is one if the best things that ever happened to me because of anxiety.
This is a big issue in children who have traumatic upbringings and abusive parents and it's not talked about enough. I ended up cutting off my biological mom at 14 and had to go through another court hearing so it ended up being 6 months after cutting her off 3 months after the hearing before i actually started puberty and developing because the amount of stress delayed it for so long and with the growth spurt being so late and rapid I'm now covered in stretch marks. It needs to be talked about a lot more than what it is
And a healthy relationship could be a “pain killer”! I have been suffering from period cramps for the past 4-5 years ever since I stopped taking birth control pills, and every month I had to take ibuprofen.
Recently I got engaged to my bf and while I was visiting him (we’re in a long distance relationship) I miraculously had 2 periods that’s 100% pain free! But after I got back to my city, the pain came back…😅
Can’t wait to marry him next year ❤
85% or more cocao chocolate really does help with that. I don't think I would want to trust ibpufine they can give a person kidney failure.
This is so true! I wish I would have listened to my body before, it would have saved me from the stress and pain that I endured. I now have CPTSD, anxiety, severe depression and used to get really bad heartburn in the middle of the night, turns out it was the amount of stress my body was under. My mental health is extremely important and happy to say it’s improved and understand control l. I’m no longer taking medications for unless needed (specifically anxiety) but it’s been good.
FACTS! I just gotten divorced from a real awhole and I am feeling better but I have a long road to healing. I am looking forward to getting back to a better me. I am 53 and there is no age, your right.
I understand this. I have a weird case of accurate anxiety and when it hit me was after the one year mark of a wonderful relationship. No red signs, no disrespect lots of love and then I stated focusing more in school and ot fell apart
I have an experience like this, not when it comes to my relationship, but when it came to my first job. I was convinced I needed to get tested for about million mental disorders mostly because of the bad boss and the miscommunications management caused. I stayed with that job for a year but I should have gotten out months before then. Gut intuition is something we should all learn to read and stop ignoring.
The first commenter nailed it. It’s biology that we’re all taught early on, it’s just not put into the proper perspectives. Stress = cortisol increase = health problems. But no one seems to link a bad relationship that is *stressing you out* to your body taking repeated cortisol hits.
❤ u Brett. I loved the video on the hurricane.
Life is generally very stressful. It is especially horrible and stressful if a lady continuously makes bad decisions to pursue the wrong guy. Date wisely
I believe this 150%!! when with my ex my health suffered, stress/depression/anxiety, hair falling out, weight fluctuations, addiction, hormone irregularity, constant bladder infections, poor immunity, etc, I think it was my body saying “we’re not a match”
so true. when i’m with my bf my face clears up and i feel so insanely calm. which is rare for me.
I lost 30 pounds in 3 months 50 in 7 mo it’s after my last relationship. 15 of that coming in the first month. All I did was move home. It was Covid I’m from MA no gyms a were open. I wasn’t working out. I just was away from that man and his mother. GOOD LORD HIS MOTHER what a piece of work
The music is fire, good pick!
I have always said that 'butterflies' is not a good sign for relationships. If your body feels calm around someone, that's the best foundation to build on.
That's true also for "friends" and "family members". Cut out anyone that brings stress in your life. A lot of people use it to manipulate others. Including in media and politics. Laugh will cure your souls :)
This happened to me. When my ex and I dated about a couple month or so. I would start getting sick. After. I ended things. I felt a million times better. Best decision they ever made.
This is 100% true. Was with a horrible man, my body was shutting down constantly, I was losing hair, couldn’t sleep, in survival mode all the time. Finally dumped him for good and suddenly my hair grew back, no more random blackouts, no more fatigue and despair. Yikes!
Yes this happened to me, my mind and body was a mess. The stress turned in to bad anxiety and depression lost major weight. Pls don’t stay and get to that point. Really great video to bring awareness to this
Gabor Mate has a great book and a lot of lectures about the correlation of trauma, stress, etc and health issues. Because when the body says no, baby, that means it's time to go!
This so much. Sure, there are situations when the relationship will cause you stress even when it's a good one, like for example if one of you gets cancer or stuff like that, but especially when you get to know someone, listen to your body and your feelings. Don't only focus on how you feel when they get you gifts or tell you they love you, think about whether or not you generally feel safe and loved with them. I knew my girlfriend is the one for me when I realized that just hearing her voice calms my anxiety, just hearing her talk about her current interests helps me feel calmer, and that's the best sign of a good relationship imo.
This is also true about jobs!! I was so exhausted in my last job, that I thought I was not good enough, I was stupid, I was nervous every time I had a team meeting. It was awful
When I left him after 9 years, the daily nausea and puking stopped. A few weeks and I was no longer depressed or anxious
I developed PCOS when I was married. My body definitely protected me. Because now I'm divorced lol. No connections needed there for sure.
Guys, this is so true! We cannot forget how intertwined our mental and physical health are to each other! I got fired from my job, and it was really unfair, but honestly it may have been the best thing for my health. While i was working there I had insomnia every night, massive anxiety before the job, and I even got shingles...
My health was/is what you would consider very healthy. Never have had anything major. My last relationship, if you want to call it that, was one of the worst experiences of my life and I’m 40. I had two hospital visits and multiple full blown panic attacks over the course of 4 months! Turns out the woman I was with, was cheating the entire time, my body was literally revolting and I wouldn’t listen. Crazy now how it’s over, my weights back and I’m healthy again.
Work makes me feel this way. I can't sleep at night due to anxiety but here I go anyway 😭
You know what else tell you everything about someone else? A private investigator and a full accounting of their finances.
I'm in grad school, super stressed, not sleeping well, perpetually fatigued, pms getting worse, gray hairs coming in. 6 months in and I'm not the same person as when I started
Same for the silent suffering of men.
This is so true. Things I thought couldn't heal have all been healing. As in the Bible, iron sharpens iron. You and your partner influence each other either for the better or the worse. ❤
Disclaimer: you need to verify that it's the person you're with before breaking up with them though. I've had other issues while with an amazing man, because of my work. Work has actually caused me more problems due to bad work problems and relationships.
Stress will do crazy things you didn’t even know it could do. Anything that causes stress, whether it be a relationship, job, etc. should be taken care of. Our bodies were not made to be living under stress.
Vehemently agree. However, I will add that we should also develop a healthy level of self-awareness because the majority cannot deny, very likely _you_ reading this included, that we can self-sabotage. We _can_ have habits we are unaware of that cause these feelings as well, especially if you've have prior unhealthy relationships whether that be a partner or parent(s). If you're seeking relationship, it'd be beneficial to give a benefit of a doubt. Your next guy/gal isn't your ex or the parent that should've loved you. Nonetheless, I'm willing to put the work in, give chances, but once I feel my mental health start to deteriorate, I'll drop any woman. We're adults, enough of the mind games. If you like someone, act like it.
I love being in a relationship with my girlfriend!!!shes just so amazing and my body shows it!!! #SapphicForLife!!
Totally agree… I was sick and nauseas all of the time.
This applies to jobs too. I literally got heart problems and high blood pressure from a previous job (even got sent to the clinic for chest pain from the floor one day). I finished my commitment and found a new job that I love and now I'm healing my body.
I never had panic attacks in my life until I got with my ex boyfriend and they would happen very frequently. And since we broke up (3 years ago) I’ve only had 2 and they were due to stress from college. This is very truuuueee
This happens so often with sex outside of marriage. Our inner self knows it’s not safe or secure. We pay for it in many ways. Best to wait. Peace of mind, healthier body, MUCH healthier relationships.
Many blessings ❤️🔥🕊️✝️🙏🏽
Same with a good job vs a bad job
Be careful.. i was tired, losing dangerous weight, felt like shit... Had been in my relationship 7 years..
Turns out it was the cancer... Sometimes it isn't your relationship. Don't ignore your issues, see a doctor.
14 years and we're still happy as can be.
Been there, it’s so true! I also had PMDD
Another thing to consider if you feel too excited to be around someone. Like they gave you butterflies. It could also be a signal that something's wrong.
Literally got Uclerative Colitis from being in a toxic narcissistic relationship. Leave while you can… RUN if you must! Even if they threaten to harm themselves, if they threaten you, reach out and plan with someone! Get police escort involved and don’t let the partner know where you’re going. Just have police take you to the place you need to go. Please just get out. Being sick isn’t worth it.
Really, you should be discerning God’s will when it comes to your relationships, as anything that leads you away from Him will only bring pain and misery to your life.
THIS IS WHY THEYVE ALWAYS SAID STRESS IS THE #1 KILLER!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I got hives around my eyes from looking at my ex when he was lecturing me. My immune system began rupturing blood vessels in my thighs causing itchy brusises. I had 40 of them. I was sick all the time. It was awful. Now I rarely get sick and never got hives again.
Yup dated this person for a little over 2 years. Who is abusive. Started out destroying the apartment his stuff. Then he would destroy my stuff and throw things and hurt the pets. Then I finally got physical and he would choke me.
Anyways listen to you 1st!!!
Barely a year After we broke up I was diagnosed with brain tumors. Followed by three brain surgeries in the first one failed. Leaving me in one of the top most painful health conditions at 26 yrs old.
#trigeminalneuralgia
Don't wait till it's too late, leave when you know, the 1st time..
This is an important message
Yes, listen to your body, first thing I was told about fax is you both have to be willing and if it's just one wanting that it's not healthy, just a small thing like that can ruin your health both physically and mentally
PMDD can be a multitude of things. Mine was from soy. Soy causes so much rage and stress in my body, it makes me see my actual lovely husband in a way different light. Causes IBS, headaches, eczema, acne. Always look at food for your mental state before making drastic changes to your life. ❤
The Body Keeps the Score
My toxic ex made me start to imagine sounds that someone was breaking into my house.I wasnt sleeping at night because of this.I would also try to stay on the phone with him all night or call him multiple nights whete he wouldnt answer and would just ingore me, or he would tell me "oh its just one more game." Theyres photos of me with under eye bags and a lot bigger of a stomach. Once i finally had the courage to leave him, i started to immediately look brighter and started eating healthier and losing weight i was happy with. Your body does not lie to you.
Listening to your body.
Gut feeling.
Intuituin.
It's all real.
When in doubt, the worst is probably true.
Act accordingly.
I was hired at this new job I was excited to be at. The pay was great and the job was in the career field that I was wanted. 3 months in to working this new job and I literally lost my period. The people I worked with were telling me rude things since day one and thief didn’t know me. I left and my period came back 2 months later.
PMDD MENTIONED!!! As someone with it in so glad people are getting to know this exists
Absolutely true.
The yellow outline around the clip makes me feal like it's supost to be national geographic. Lol
I had heart issues and puked a lot from the stress of my toxic abusive relationship.
If you feel a knot in your stomach when you’re about to have to interact with them… listen to that!
Acid reflux was a big one for me. Now I'm on meds for it while I learn to relax again.
Your body mostly won't tell you all you need to know about somebody. That's the myth of women's intuition, which men would call "confirmation bias" - ignoring failed miraculous insights and remembering successful ones. Like thinking you can always predict a dice roll because you discount all the times you don't. Stress is real of course; she's just massively overstated the scope of this.
My mom told me about a guy she went on a date with before she met my dad. She said that she found him excessively boring, when he asked her to go on a second date she immediately got sick and ended up with a pretty bad stomach bug for a few days after that. Needless to say, they never went on a second date
Yea... an ex and I were living together and my hair had that bald pitch in the back, as well as that creep up the front and sides. I had been getting up there in age, so it made sense.
We parted ways and then met up like a month and a half later... and she was amazed. My hair was grown back in, I lost a lot of puff, put in some muscle and in her words, looked ten years younger. She wasnt a fan of my response that "Not being in a bad relationship will do that."
For me it was when my psychopathic aunt lived with me.
At the doctors (for a different reason) I decided to ask why my nails were peeling from the bottom.
He looked and asked, "Are you under a lot of stress?"
It was 100% stress
This all starts with the relationship with YOURSELF
Tbh ive noticed anytime awoman accuses me of doing anything 100% they cheating
Also have to look at it from the other side, You aren't always going to be happy 24/7 in anything you do. If you think "feelings" are something to go off of then you won't do very good in life
But like... also keep in mind that if you experience stress in your life it isnt necessarily because of your wife/husband. Sometimes the line is blurry.
A little side note:
A good relationship will also make you want to be better.
trust in that gut feeling
I have dermographia - basically a skin allergy to touch 🙃 When anything touches me my skin swells, and it leaves the trace for a while there. I'm convinced it's a physical reaction to a terrible abusive childhood, yes I'm THAT sensitive. I feel like the princess and the bean lmfao
It's good too that it's not big of an issue, I wonder if that made me be more gentle w everything. People love to write on me and then see the trace there, and most notice years later when I accidently touch something and I have a huge bump lmao
This is so true!!
Finally, something that sounds more realistic than 'vybes'
This is generally true, but some people are paranoid enough that they'll have these kinds of symptoms without anything actually being wrong.
Jenna’s hot there’s no doubt. But just because I (and many others) think so doesn’t suddenly make it ok to AI her like that! Wtf is wrong with people???
Anyone else’s intuition frequently lie to them?
I was with my ex at a very young age 13/1/2 years old over 15/1/2 years ago. I had no idea he was into drugs under age drinking). I ended it as well I wish I had listened to my body as well, no I didn’t handle it very well I ended up gaining weight from healthy to 165 lbs within 14 months of breaking up with my ex boyfriend). I ended up with making my unknown CPTSD worse anxiety disorder. Father’s don’t let ur 13 year old daughters get boyfriends my oldest niece Same thing I remember advising her to wait till she was mature my brother in- law didn’t think it was a big deal. I looked at like what? Letting my oldest niece at 13 to have a boyfriend if I was her guardian I d’ ve stood firm on my ground d’ ve told her wait till high school. Trust me I wish I had waited even my grandad looked at like disappointed at my father like why did u let ur youngest daughter have a boyfriend.
There is a reason majority of people glow up significantly after a break up
I've been like this before I got with my husband so it's definitely not him. I'm pretty sure for me it's mold sickness. My dad's house before his accident had black mold in it and my husband's family's house got cleaned for mold but it's still affecting us
Bret is so cute ❤❤❤