I enjoyed the lecture very much, but I would like to see more data when those kids are in their 40's or even in their 60's. Sometimes an obedient responsible child that does everything that he's told to do can snap and break the rules. Being a student at the age of 18 is not a guarantee of being successful later in life.
I feel like I delay my gratification almost a little too much.... it's almost become compulsive behavior. I too would like to see the results over time. /do these results matter according to culture or how they were raised up this point? if a child grows up with one meal a day vs three will they gain a better sense of appreciation and learn to make that one meal last ? Or will they gobble it all in one setting and just hope the circumstances change? This is a lesson in learning how to manage your resources right ? I have so many questions.... and I have to write a short paragraph... this is torture.
According to my psychology textbook, a lot of other people in the field disagreed about this for the same reason and that everyone changes a lot overtime; however, I think it's a good principle in general to have. Should not be considered factual but rather test the strategies of an individual. I was wondering about what would I have done as a kid in this situation. I hate marshmallows, but if something else I liked was at play, I think I would be too scared to eat it because I was afraid I would get in trouble based on my upbringing. However, I do not think I would be considered a successful person. I got decent grades in school but my journey just to get my associate's degree has been super long and is about to be put on hold again. I live paycheck to paycheck and work two jobs just to try and make ends meet.
The data is clear enough. They really did find what they said they found. However, their sample size was small and the selection pool was narrow. So the real question is what the results show. Correlation is not causation, after all. What exactly do the results tell us about success? There was a big replica study completed in 2018, which you can easily find online now. To quote the Atlantic, "Ultimately, the new study finds limited support for the idea that being able to delay gratification leads to better outcomes. Instead, it suggests that the capacity to hold out for a second marshmallow is shaped in large part by a child’s social and economic background-and, in turn, that that background, not the ability to delay gratification, is what’s behind kids’ long-term success." In other words, the speaker's conclusion was incorrect, but he didn't have enough data to know that, at least not in 1990.
Success can mean many things to many people. This study narrows the definition to something that can be measured - academic success. As a college professor of many years, I can affirm that self-discipline rather than intelligence is the most important factor to success in education. That it can be identified at such an early age and with such simple means is quite a revelation. This study has huge implications for parents who are bullied by toddlers every time they pass impulse items at the check out counter.
Yes. Voluntary suffering (or delaying gratification) with the purpose of improving oneself is the most important aspect of success imo. Martial arts is all about learning the state of mind that allows one to accept pain and discomfort as a natural part of growth.
@@lilacosmanthus i think it can vary because i used to be impatient waiting for people, but i could wait 3 years for a late person. Sure, i get annoyed and on my cellphone watching videos or texting but i can wait.
My read180 teacher showed this video to my entire class, recently I have left middle school and am going to high school. I will always come back to this video mainly to remember my teacher, he was such a nice guy and I'm gonna miss him. Goodbye, Mr Ramirez.
When roasting a marshmallow, I feel the same rule applies, only the consequences play out in ten minutes rather than ten years. Setting the marshmallow on fire takes 30 seconds, but makes the s'more taste like ash. However, slow roasting the marshmallow takes ten minutes, but gives the s'more a rich caramelized flavor.
What he convienently leaves out, is that later on they went and compared the backrgound of the children: those who could not resist, came almost exclusively from poor parents, while those who could wait, almost exclusively came from wealthier parents. This had nothing to do with discipline or will power, but everything with what is known as a "poverty-mechanism", and the reason why poor ppl immediately spend all the money they might get interim on stupid things like TVs, clothes, and whatnot. That said, yes not eating the marsh mallow is a lesson to train and to learn, because those poor ppl hamper their own success by immediately falling into the poverty-mechanism. The instant gratification gives them the impression that indeed they earned something, but at the same time of course does not help them to leave their poor status in the first place. It is a vicious circle, if you like. This is why it is important to support families in need so that their kids do not learn that poverty mechanism early on, and why it is also important to train oneself for self-discipline later on.
Exactly. Not only did he write the book about it, he also gave a talk on TED a few months ago called " Philip Zimbardo prescribes a healthy take on time." It would be nice if this Posada would give credit to the man, instead of just referring him as "a professor."
I agree with Joachim.Although the experiment very small but it had shown an obviously conclusion that a self-discipline teenager can be success in he/she grades and life. So please be self-discipline from time to time so that success will come and with you.
This is very interesting and im sure that delayed the satisfaction im many ways can help us deal with discipline and self control.. no doubt!! But what trigger me in this video, it's the fact that he imply that a succesful individual is one who goes to university and have good grade along the way.. A succesful person for me, is one who is happy and content with his life and that can be achieve without university and good grades! True happiness is found inside no matter how big the curriculum is!!
How did the 1 out 3 kids gain this ability of self control? Was it mainly nature or mainly nurture or both? What about their parents? What were they like? Grand parents? Family culture? Religion? Income? Anything that explain this?
there are qualities or values that if not tough at an early age can make an individual`s life more difficult. This experiment teaches "Patience" and Self-Control. two qualities that are needed when setting goals in life. Thanks for posting It !
My parents are very working class, my dad has a relatively low wage but supports the family just fine, and my mum didn't work at all while raising me. In contrast I have friends with very successful parents who have been brought up disconnected from them. Paying for university isn't much of an issue in my country, though.
LOL I'm not so affirmative about this method. My mom tested this approach on me and my bro when we were 4. I ate it but my bro didn't. And now, my bro is a police and I'm an intern. I have a great relationship with my teachers and my teammates, I serve as a leader. Well I still in love with marshmallow and I'll eat it up if you do the same method on me again.
I had bad grades during junior year, but i still went to an university for 5 years and graduated! I doubled major too. I'm going back to college for nursing so i can wait a year to 2 years to get in and become a nurse. I'm not sure how i would have done, but i was a troublemaker and my communication skills in elementary school was horrible.
I think alot of people here are confused about what delayed pleasure is. In terms of success, it is the people who plan ahead, discipline themselves or can simply just stop and think about the situation before acting. Those who can do these things are the ones who display delayed pleasure and, consequently, have a better chance at success in life.
You know? Knowing my people, they were probably thinking they lied and would take the marshmallow away, so they took the chance, that's why they ate it first and the way the girl came up with an idea to cheat, shows ingenious malice, which its seen here a lot.
Dorothy Lensa The test was showing correlation. He mentioned that some of the kids who “ate the marshmallow” are still successful, but the majority are not. So there are chances that they are still thriving, but there are more who doesn’t compared to the ones who are patient enough to wait.
Self-control = maturity. Data collection was done on the original kids in this experiment. They experienced fewer divorces, longer friendships, less drug abuse, suicide and depression, fewer arrests and imprisonment, had higher incomes, savings, net worth and success in education, the arts, sports and business, and gave more money and time in service to others. Self control.
Yea i was thinking that as well. I was also thinking about the parents who will inevitably try this test on their children. After seeing that their child ate the marshmallow... they might automatically assume their child is stupid/slow/dumb..
Listen, i'm going to be honest, i am 12 years old and fortunate enough to buy me 4 things that changed my life. Even at 12 i learned much from my martial arts training such as self discipline, self control, sacrifice, loyalty, etc. The three others are "Don't eat the marshmallow...yet" and "Don't Gobble the Marshmallow...Ever!" and his third book my great parents or ordering for me to read. and to KGM i never get everything i want and i am thankful of that so your wrong. Thanks Mr. Posada =)
Because it becomes an engrained part of who you are. While the phrase "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" isn't always correct - it is certainly true in most cases that teaching and old dog new tricks/habits is much harder than teaching them to a young dog.
rewards are given to those who meet specific criteria, all this experiment does is prove that such a system exists, whereas the intent is to point at some inherent superiority of those 1/3 of children.
According to Abraham Maslow, our actions are motivated in order to achieve certain needs. - He invented hierarchy of needs in which people are motivated to fulfill the basic needs and then the more advanced needs. -Maslow was always interested in learning about what makes people happy and the things they do to achieve them. - He emphasized self-actualization, which is a process of growing and developing as a person in order to obtain individual potential. - Self-actualization is at the highest level in Maslow’s theory. Self-actualization instills a sense of contentment and happiness. It comes easily to cooperators and with extreme difficulty to competitors. In this process of success, an individual has to give up lots of desires and wishes and if she or he is able to do so, success will eventually come faster to them than others.
I wish they would take this a few steps further: 1) How can we TEACH kids about the strategy of delayed gratification? 2) IS delayed gratification REALLY always the best strategy? In this case, in fact, ONE marshmellow IS better than two--since it's actually shit food. Maybe a simple, spontaneous, guilt-free and simple pleasure now IS better than "greed" for more marshmellows... 3) The broader lesson: one's FEELINGS and DESIRES don't always jibe well with reality.
If you go to radiolab you would find a podcast with much more information on the issue. Is called Mischels Marshmallows Posted: Sun, 08 Mar 2009 22:04:28 -0700 "Psychologist Walter Mischel explains how one little test involving a marshmallow might tell you a frightening amount about what kind of person you are. And Radio Lab favorite Jonah Lehrer helps us make sense of the results. This ones all about our will power (or lack thereof)."
I think this is very useful, I am totally agree this video. I also think that the self-discipline is the most important thing of successful and I hope that I can do it in my life.
samesongtwice, you make my point for me... a dog isn't taught self-control, it is taught to obey until the master gives the command to eat. That dog then gobbles up the marshmellow ravenously & will do the same if another is pitched at it in a second. Thats order/command responce not delayed gratification. Conformity is definity whats being tested here.
A conditional statement is not a command. He's not saying "don't eat the marshmallow", he's saying "you can eat it if you want, but if you do not, there will be a reward for you if you restrain yourself."
I would like to know if the parents were told what the study was presuming (if their kid ate the marshmallow then they would not show Self-Control). If it was assumed by the parents and even if not said directly to them, what the presumed outcome of the test would be (less likely to be successful in life if ate the marshmallow/less self-control). If that would change how the outcome was for the child in the future just based on how they were treated afterwards for the remainder of their years. We are learning about how there are a variety of factors in determining personality and success. One big one is if your parent believes their child passed a test that proves they are likely to be very successful in life THEN those children would be highly likely to be looked upon and treated differently. It is the "love in the eye" effect of when your child walks into the room does a parent or a person who is of great value to them have a sparkle in their eye? Which gives a child a feeling of love, acceptance and self-esteem. If the study did reveal to parents about the outcomes, then, this test was unethical. It had the potential to change lives based on a marshmallow. Even just the kids having common sense, they know what is up when adults are doing studies, they know they are NOT supposed to eat the marshmallow. They know it was "not ideal/failed " if they ate it. I can just imagine how these greedy adults acted when they came back and the sweet was eaten! The look. "Oh, you ate the marshmallow well ok, you did not want to wait!" The variables are so great! So how "controlled" was this study? Wonder if we said that the bases of the test were that the children who ate it or licked it or smelled it were ACTUALLY THE SMARTER MORE SUCCESSFUL people. Because basic human instinct is empirically proven that eating/licking sugar is a basic human instinct. So NOT would be an unbalance. Hmm what about that!?!
@KGM2750 In fact, in the US, parents with a high paying job have almost no time to raise their kids. In my own experience, I had to work 60 to 80 hours a week to earn a good salary and then realized, nearly too late, that I was missing the best years of my children's lives and even my own life. The higher the salary, the more the company demands from you.
Being successful requires self discipline and that involves self control when it comes to behavior modification. I believe there is a reward not only being successful but I use a reward system by rewarding myself for good grades like buying someone I have been wanting just not extreme.
Right, but I've never seen anyone try this experiment and add that dimension. If you took half the kids who ate the marshmallow and trained them to delay gratification, would they turn out like the ones who waited or the ones who didn't?
In general, I agree with the speaker. One way to success is a high level of self-discipline. Maybe I can't agree with him about ages of the people, who can be tested. To my mind, for a very small child, the ability to delay gratification is not the same as self-discipline.
@tyrannicoystercult: Yeah. And such patterns work very well for living in the selective environment in which they developed--and considerably less so in modern society. Delayed gratification, for example, is one that would probably be much less important on the savanna, and considerably more important in modern culture. BEST in modern culture is to free ourselves from reactive, patterned behavior and instead make truly rational decisions on things. THAT would be a great lesson for children.
I think this girl is so funny～I agree his opinion，because I didnt have self-discipline,but I watched this video, I know that self-discipline is very important,so I will learn to be a self-discipline person.
The conclusion from this experiment is quite old. TED normally provides more cutting-edge information. What was the great achievement of Mr. de Posada? He repeated the experiment in Colombia. Wow, I am impressed. A minor detail that did not convince me, is his claim that 100% of those who delayed gratification were happy... I am not sure if there is an academic criteria to measure "happy"...
For instance, when Mischel gave delay-of-gratification tasks to children from low-income families in the Bronx, he noticed that their ability to delay was below average, at least compared with that of children in Palo Alto. “When you grow up poor, you might not practice delay as much,” he says. “And if you don’t practice then you’ll never figure out how to distract yourself. You won’t develop the best delay strategies, and those strategies won’t become second nature.”
I didn't know that the marshmallow experiment could develop principles and abilities for children's future success. The meaning of the last one, "This is because we are eating more marshmallows than we produce now," was thought to be eating sweet marshmallows without developing important principles and abilities for future success. That's why you said we should learn about Korea's marshmallow experiment.
Im not sure why theres great emphasize on gratification. Are 4 year olds, evolved enough to grasp the concept of time and in this case are they able to predict the future. Being able to extrapolate the consequences of actions into the future is key for survival. Most 4 year olds live in the now because they don't have the experience to predict the future.
I question the base premise. I even doubt that delayed gratification is being measured here. Whats being measured here is how much the children submit to the authority of adults & follow rules without question. If you want to find the really succesful kids find the ones that ask the adults why they shouldnt have a marshmellow now in addition to the one promised later. Why is eating the marshmellow now considered bad and worth punishment?
my school did this to us in 5th grade and i took bits of the marshmellow and licked it and it got stick in my hand and just left it alone and now 10 years later im in college
I am curious to see if there is a correlation for children who learn martial arts at an early age, with the self discipline it takes not to eat the marsh mellow. I mean martial arts is considered by many to require and boost self discipline, so is this the same self discipline one uses to resist the temptation of instant gratification?
Perhaps in the book he shows how they correct for other correlating factors: perhpas the kids do not trust the authority figure and do not believe another marshmellow will be given, or they might not want another marshmellow (one is enough). There could be dozen of other correlating factors besides a self-displine issue. I guess I am saying that the conclusion seems too clean without addressing other potential relationships.
Watching the children was lovely, but I want us to consider that the "delay of gratification" is a technique that is imposed upon us and is not necessity to live. The society that we live in was erected in such a way that gratification has to be delayed. Could we possibly regulate another part of life where gratification is not needed to delay to attain success? (Internships, apprenticeships etc.)
There is a more recent study, offering a different explanation: www.rochester.edu/news/show.php?id=4622. In this case, it tests the child's expectation of whether the promise will actually be fulfilled.
This experience tells you that the success you are. It was destined for you . You do not have to be arrogant and brag about what has been destined for you, meaning that you have the tools for success since birth This, in my opinion, has some validity. As for what is true, I will not tell it to anyone now, or I may write it in the form of a photoelectric equation. Hahahaha
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I enjoyed the lecture very much, but I would like to see more data when those kids are in their 40's or even in their 60's. Sometimes an obedient responsible child that does everything that he's told to do can snap and break the rules. Being a student at the age of 18 is not a guarantee of being successful later in life.
I feel like I delay my gratification almost a little too much.... it's almost become compulsive behavior. I too would like to see the results over time. /do these results matter according to culture or how they were raised up this point? if a child grows up with one meal a day vs three will they gain a better sense of appreciation and learn to make that one meal last ? Or will they gobble it all in one setting and just hope the circumstances change? This is a lesson in learning how to manage your resources right ? I have so many questions.... and I have to write a short paragraph... this is torture.
agreed
@@keycod3d961 Yes, I would like to see the results too.
According to my psychology textbook, a lot of other people in the field disagreed about this for the same reason and that everyone changes a lot overtime; however, I think it's a good principle in general to have. Should not be considered factual but rather test the strategies of an individual.
I was wondering about what would I have done as a kid in this situation. I hate marshmallows, but if something else I liked was at play, I think I would be too scared to eat it because I was afraid I would get in trouble based on my upbringing. However, I do not think I would be considered a successful person. I got decent grades in school but my journey just to get my associate's degree has been super long and is about to be put on hold again. I live paycheck to paycheck and work two jobs just to try and make ends meet.
The data is clear enough. They really did find what they said they found. However, their sample size was small and the selection pool was narrow. So the real question is what the results show. Correlation is not causation, after all. What exactly do the results tell us about success?
There was a big replica study completed in 2018, which you can easily find online now. To quote the Atlantic, "Ultimately, the new study finds limited support for the idea that being able to delay gratification leads to better outcomes. Instead, it suggests that the capacity to hold out for a second marshmallow is shaped in large part by a child’s social and economic background-and, in turn, that that background, not the ability to delay gratification, is what’s behind kids’ long-term success." In other words, the speaker's conclusion was incorrect, but he didn't have enough data to know that, at least not in 1990.
Success can mean many things to many people. This study narrows the definition to something that can be measured - academic success. As a college professor of many years, I can affirm that self-discipline rather than intelligence is the most important factor to success in education. That it can be identified at such an early age and with such simple means is quite a revelation. This study has huge implications for parents who are bullied by toddlers every time they pass impulse items at the check out counter.
This is hilarious, I admired that small girl who found another way of dealing with the marshmallow.
its called being colombian
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@@mojungle3054 its called being a patriot dude
Right
Delayed gratification always hard at the beginning but bring us much more than our expectation at last.
It is a good think to let kids to know self-discipline when they are still young.And self discipline is one of the important way to being success.
Yes. Voluntary suffering (or delaying gratification) with the purpose of improving oneself is the most important aspect of success imo. Martial arts is all about learning the state of mind that allows one to accept pain and discomfort as a natural part of growth.
I don’t understand how nobody has liked this comment. I agree with your opinion
And I'm just sitting here, procrastinating...
Let's see, if I can apply the lesson that I just learned.
*must resist urge to klick the next video*
that's a hard one.
Discipline becomes so much more ambiguous once one has grown up.
@@lilacosmanthus i think it can vary because i used to be impatient waiting for people, but i could wait 3 years for a late person. Sure, i get annoyed and on my cellphone watching videos or texting but i can wait.
This was for our listening comprehension in online classes but I came here so I could watch it as many times as I want
My read180 teacher showed this video to my entire class, recently I have left middle school and am going to high school. I will always come back to this video mainly to remember my teacher, he was such a nice guy and I'm gonna miss him.
Goodbye, Mr Ramirez.
When roasting a marshmallow, I feel the same rule applies, only the consequences play out in ten minutes rather than ten years. Setting the marshmallow on fire takes 30 seconds, but makes the s'more taste like ash. However, slow roasting the marshmallow takes ten minutes, but gives the s'more a rich caramelized flavor.
This is genius
I love burnt marshmallows though
I like the taste of ash.
What he convienently leaves out, is that later on they went and compared the backrgound of the children: those who could not resist, came almost exclusively from poor parents, while those who could wait, almost exclusively came from wealthier parents. This had nothing to do with discipline or will power, but everything with what is known as a "poverty-mechanism", and the reason why poor ppl immediately spend all the money they might get interim on stupid things like TVs, clothes, and whatnot. That said, yes not eating the marsh mallow is a lesson to train and to learn, because those poor ppl hamper their own success by immediately falling into the poverty-mechanism. The instant gratification gives them the impression that indeed they earned something, but at the same time of course does not help them to leave their poor status in the first place. It is a vicious circle, if you like. This is why it is important to support families in need so that their kids do not learn that poverty mechanism early on, and why it is also important to train oneself for self-discipline later on.
Exactly. Not only did he write the book about it, he also gave a talk on TED a few months ago called " Philip Zimbardo prescribes a healthy take on time." It would be nice if this Posada would give credit to the man, instead of just referring him as "a professor."
I agree with his values very much.Personally,delaying gratitutions is significantly important for our development.
I agree with Joachim.Although the experiment very small but it had shown an obviously conclusion that a self-discipline teenager can be success in he/she grades and life. So please be self-discipline from time to time so that success will come and with you.
This is very interesting and im sure that delayed the satisfaction im many ways can help us deal with discipline and self control.. no doubt!! But what trigger me in this video, it's the fact that he imply that a succesful individual is one who goes to university and have good grade along the way.. A succesful person for me, is one who is happy and content with his life and that can be achieve without university and good grades! True happiness is found inside no matter how big the curriculum is!!
How did the 1 out 3 kids gain this ability of self control? Was it mainly nature or mainly nurture or both? What about their parents? What were they like? Grand parents? Family culture? Religion? Income? Anything that explain this?
Nature vs nurture (It's both. It's everything you mentioned)
I agree, this does not get old. I hope i can teach this to my children.
i hate strict parents.
there are qualities or values that if not tough at an early age can make an individual`s life more difficult. This experiment teaches "Patience"
and Self-Control. two qualities that are needed when setting goals in life.
Thanks for posting It !
I totally agree with him.Having a good self-discipline can be more patient to do other things,and that’s the way to be successful.
My parents are very working class, my dad has a relatively low wage but supports the family just fine, and my mum didn't work at all while raising me. In contrast I have friends with very successful parents who have been brought up disconnected from them. Paying for university isn't much of an issue in my country, though.
LOL I'm not so affirmative about this method. My mom tested this approach on me and my bro when we were 4. I ate it but my bro didn't. And now, my bro is a police and I'm an intern. I have a great relationship with my teachers and my teammates, I serve as a leader. Well I still in love with marshmallow and I'll eat it up if you do the same method on me again.
The other group who ate the marshmallow all did not have trouble . It means some them. I think you are successful part of this challenge
All by themselves 0:36.
Make it to university 2:30
Dropped out 2:34
Go into 5:00
All walks of life. 5:20
I had bad grades during junior year, but i still went to an university for 5 years and graduated! I doubled major too. I'm going back to college for nursing so i can wait a year to 2 years to get in and become a nurse. I'm not sure how i would have done, but i was a troublemaker and my communication skills in elementary school was horrible.
I think alot of people here are confused about what delayed pleasure is.
In terms of success, it is the people who plan ahead, discipline themselves or can simply just stop and think about the situation before acting. Those who can do these things are the ones who display delayed pleasure and, consequently, have a better chance at success in life.
I've heard about this test before,
still a great lecture!!!
Speaking as an adult - if I dont eat that marshmallow nobody will come and give me the second one, they will come and take away the first.
Nah. My parents would have left it and truly gave me more and i found a way to get even more haha
You know? Knowing my people, they were probably thinking they lied and would take the marshmallow away, so they took the chance, that's why they ate it first and the way the girl came up with an idea to cheat, shows ingenious malice, which its seen here a lot.
@@jairolondono6824 In the original one, they told the kids that they could eat it but would get the second if they waited.
It was pretty depressing, watching those kids eat the marshmallows when it implies their future possibilities are being dampened.
One of my sister's immediately "ate the marshmallows" and is still thriving, although the one that didn't is also thriving so...
Dorothy Lensa The test was showing correlation. He mentioned that some of the kids who “ate the marshmallow” are still successful, but the majority are not. So there are chances that they are still thriving, but there are more who doesn’t compared to the ones who are patient enough to wait.
Ok boomer
@@extrapathos stop with your shaming. There's nothing criminal with being boomers and that phrase is an outdated cliché.
Self-control = maturity. Data collection was done on the original kids in this experiment. They experienced fewer divorces, longer friendships, less drug abuse, suicide and depression, fewer arrests and imprisonment, had higher incomes, savings, net worth and success in education, the arts, sports and business, and gave more money and time in service to others. Self control.
I had a dream I was eating a 5 pound marshmallow. When I woke up my pillow was gone
lol
You will never get hungry ever again
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I like that small girl because she let me know that be a successful person also you can be a tricky person at the same time.
I agree with him. I think self-discipline is very important for us. If we don’t have self-discipline we cannot be a successful person.
If you want to skip to the challenge part click here 2:53
Do they...do they make marshmallows out of cocaine in Columbia? Because that little girl was tweaking
Cocaine is a helluva drug
She must be Pablo Escobar's daughter
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HAHHAHA I can not this is to funny
@@jordanabarbieri649 lol
What was that ending? I was so entranced for some reason.
Yea i was thinking that as well. I was also thinking about the parents who will inevitably try this test on their children. After seeing that their child ate the marshmallow... they might automatically assume their child is stupid/slow/dumb..
Listen, i'm going to be honest, i am 12 years old and fortunate enough to buy me 4 things that changed my life. Even at 12 i learned much from my martial arts training such as self discipline, self control, sacrifice, loyalty, etc. The three others are "Don't eat the marshmallow...yet" and "Don't Gobble the Marshmallow...Ever!" and his third book my great parents or ordering for me to read. and to KGM i never get everything i want and i am thankful of that so your wrong.
Thanks Mr. Posada =)
You can gobble the marshmallow after you've got the second one though!
his accent makes me think of gru!
Because it becomes an engrained part of who you are. While the phrase "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" isn't always correct - it is certainly true in most cases that teaching and old dog new tricks/habits is much harder than teaching them to a young dog.
Can we talk about the animation at the end?
seriously!
We must not speak of it...
That eerie melodic chanting made me make out a story to whatever was going on with those balls. It was a tragedy I wrote lol
😂😂
Must be Nokia's doing.
rewards are given to those who meet specific criteria, all this experiment does is prove that such a system exists, whereas the intent is to point at some inherent superiority of those 1/3 of children.
Amazing how much you can learn from marshmallows.
He is so cute.
Delayed gratification, the key to success.
According to Abraham Maslow, our actions are motivated in order to achieve certain needs.
- He invented hierarchy of needs in which people are motivated to fulfill the basic needs and then the more advanced needs.
-Maslow was always interested in learning about what makes people happy and the things they do to achieve them.
- He emphasized self-actualization, which is a process of growing and developing as a person in order to obtain individual potential.
- Self-actualization is at the highest level in Maslow’s theory. Self-actualization instills a sense of contentment and happiness. It comes easily to cooperators and with extreme difficulty to competitors. In this process of success, an individual has to give up lots of desires and wishes and if she or he is able to do so, success will eventually come faster to them than others.
Not going to college doesn't mean you're doing poorly..
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I wish they would take this a few steps further:
1) How can we TEACH kids about the strategy of delayed gratification?
2) IS delayed gratification REALLY always the best strategy? In this case, in fact, ONE marshmellow IS better than two--since it's actually shit food. Maybe a simple, spontaneous, guilt-free and simple pleasure now IS better than "greed" for more marshmellows...
3) The broader lesson: one's FEELINGS and DESIRES don't always jibe well with reality.
wow i loved that little animation at the end
The kids were adorable.
Self-control is important for someone who want to be successful.If you want to get your delicious "marshmallow",please control yourself at first.
If you go to radiolab you would find a podcast with much more information on the issue.
Is called Mischels Marshmallows
Posted: Sun, 08 Mar 2009 22:04:28 -0700
"Psychologist Walter Mischel explains how one little test involving a marshmallow might tell you a frightening amount about what kind of person you are. And Radio Lab favorite Jonah Lehrer helps us make sense of the results. This ones all about our will power (or lack thereof)."
I think this is very useful, I am totally agree this video. I also think that the self-discipline is the most important thing of successful and I hope that I can do it in my life.
samesongtwice, you make my point for me... a dog isn't taught self-control, it is taught to obey until the master gives the command to eat. That dog then gobbles up the marshmellow ravenously & will do the same if another is pitched at it in a second. Thats order/command responce not delayed gratification. Conformity is definity whats being tested here.
A conditional statement is not a command. He's not saying "don't eat the marshmallow", he's saying "you can eat it if you want, but if you do not, there will be a reward for you if you restrain yourself."
I would like to know if the parents were told what the study was presuming (if their kid ate the marshmallow then they would not show Self-Control). If it was assumed by the parents and even if not said directly to them, what the presumed outcome of the test would be (less likely to be successful in life if ate the marshmallow/less self-control). If that would change how the outcome was for the child in the future just based on how they were treated afterwards for the remainder of their years. We are learning about how there are a variety of factors in determining personality and success. One big one is if your parent believes their child passed a test that proves they are likely to be very successful in life THEN those children would be highly likely to be looked upon and treated differently. It is the "love in the eye" effect of when your child walks into the room does a parent or a person who is of great value to them have a sparkle in their eye? Which gives a child a feeling of love, acceptance and self-esteem. If the study did reveal to parents about the outcomes, then, this test was unethical. It had the potential to change lives based on a marshmallow. Even just the kids having common sense, they know what is up when adults are doing studies, they know they are NOT supposed to eat the marshmallow. They know it was "not ideal/failed " if they ate it. I can just imagine how these greedy adults acted when they came back and the sweet was eaten! The look. "Oh, you ate the marshmallow well ok, you did not want to wait!" The variables are so great! So how "controlled" was this study? Wonder if we said that the bases of the test were that the children who ate it or licked it or smelled it were ACTUALLY THE SMARTER MORE SUCCESSFUL people. Because basic human instinct is empirically proven that eating/licking sugar is a basic human instinct. So NOT would be an unbalance. Hmm what about that!?!
Follow them at 30, 40, 50, 60, and 70. Repeat at 84.
@KGM2750 In fact, in the US, parents with a high paying job have almost no time to raise their kids. In my own experience, I had to work 60 to 80 hours a week to earn a good salary and then realized, nearly too late, that I was missing the best years of my children's lives and even my own life. The higher the salary, the more the company demands from you.
Imagine how hard when you know 'not the time nor the hour' 🙏
Being successful requires self discipline and that involves self control when it comes to behavior modification. I believe there is a reward not only being successful but I use a reward system by rewarding myself for good grades like buying someone I have been wanting just not extreme.
3:52 相当食べたいんだろねww必死でかわいいww
This video inspire me a lot！！sometimes need to wait and control ourselves to have a better result, otherwise too hurry may mess up everything！
Right, but I've never seen anyone try this experiment and add that dimension. If you took half the kids who ate the marshmallow and trained them to delay gratification, would they turn out like the ones who waited or the ones who didn't?
I love the comment about the national debt at the end. Very revealing parallel between how poor parenting is effecting the government.
great experiment, totally agree that self-discipline is the most essential principle for success!
In general, I agree with the speaker. One way to success is a high level of self-discipline.
Maybe I can't agree with him about ages of the people, who can be tested.
To my mind, for a very small child, the ability to delay gratification is not the same as self-discipline.
this psychology teach us that we may take attendance about self-discipline of child，some adult cant control their self too.
4:23 ! that was humorous 😂😂
@tyrannicoystercult: Yeah. And such patterns work very well for living in the selective environment in which they developed--and considerably less so in modern society. Delayed gratification, for example, is one that would probably be much less important on the savanna, and considerably more important in modern culture.
BEST in modern culture is to free ourselves from reactive, patterned behavior and instead make truly rational decisions on things. THAT would be a great lesson for children.
I think this girl is so funny～I agree his opinion，because I didnt have self-discipline,but I watched this video, I know that self-discipline is very important,so I will learn to be a self-discipline person.
That ending though :P
The conclusion from this experiment is quite old. TED normally provides more cutting-edge information.
What was the great achievement of Mr. de Posada? He repeated the experiment in Colombia. Wow, I am impressed.
A minor detail that did not convince me, is his claim that 100% of those who delayed gratification were happy... I am not sure if there is an academic criteria to measure "happy"...
For instance, when Mischel gave delay-of-gratification tasks to children from low-income families in the Bronx, he noticed that their ability to delay was below average, at least compared with that of children in Palo Alto. “When you grow up poor, you might not practice delay as much,” he says. “And if you don’t practice then you’ll never figure out how to distract yourself. You won’t develop the best delay strategies, and those strategies won’t become second nature.”
This could equally be proof that doing what your told will make you "successful".
nazis resisted the marshmallow too
Yah, Philip Zimbardo talks about it, promoting his book.
I didn't know that the marshmallow experiment could develop principles and abilities for children's future success. The meaning of the last one, "This is because we are eating more marshmallows than we produce now," was thought to be eating sweet marshmallows without developing important principles and abilities for future success. That's why you said we should learn about Korea's marshmallow experiment.
GSMST summer reading brought me here. 8/1/2015, the power of habit study guide chapter 5 question 13(activity 1).
do you have a pdf document?
Philip Zimbardo already gave a talk about this.
do this with weed....like do your work and smoke weed a lot on the weekends...it feels soooo good...after a hard weeks work!
Im not sure why theres great emphasize on gratification. Are 4 year olds, evolved enough to grasp the concept of time and in this case are they able to predict the future. Being able to extrapolate the consequences of actions into the future is key for survival. Most 4 year olds live in the now because they don't have the experience to predict the future.
How are the kids doing now? Time for an update!
that little chica huffing her marshmallow around 4 min. was pretty funny
I question the base premise. I even doubt that delayed gratification is being measured here. Whats being measured here is how much the children submit to the authority of adults & follow rules without question. If you want to find the really succesful kids find the ones that ask the adults why they shouldnt have a marshmellow now in addition to the one promised later. Why is eating the marshmellow now considered bad and worth punishment?
this is cruel :)
it's ignoring too many variables such as prior parental guidance
Those kids were adorable :D
my school did this to us in 5th grade and i took bits of the marshmellow and licked it and it got stick in my hand and just left it alone and now 10 years later im in college
Did you graduate last year
Wait a minute something doesn't add up.
Hilarious! Plus the short film at the end gave me goosebumps.
I am curious to see if there is a correlation for children who learn martial arts at an early age, with the self discipline it takes not to eat the marsh mellow. I mean martial arts is considered by many to require and boost self discipline, so is this the same self discipline one uses to resist the temptation of instant gratification?
wow!! children are so wonderful!! :)
I have to make a slideshow on this at school and I have to write tons of things. Lol!
from such little content? i feel bad for you dude
@@rohankishibe6433 yeah I did this a long time ago lol
Perhaps in the book he shows how they correct for other correlating factors: perhpas the kids do not trust the authority figure and do not believe another marshmellow will be given, or they might not want another marshmellow (one is enough). There could be dozen of other correlating factors besides a self-displine issue.
I guess I am saying that the conclusion seems too clean without addressing other potential relationships.
(Please excuse my spelling mistakes. Should have read my remarks before posting them.)
who would disagree with that?
exactly, most of these children were actually displaying their time preference in addition to delayed gratification skills.
Watching the children was lovely, but I want us to consider that the "delay of gratification" is a technique that is imposed upon us and is not necessity to live. The society that we live in was erected in such a way that gratification has to be delayed. Could we possibly regulate another part of life where gratification is not needed to delay to attain success? (Internships, apprenticeships etc.)
There is a more recent study, offering a different explanation: www.rochester.edu/news/show.php?id=4622. In this case, it tests the child's expectation of whether the promise will actually be fulfilled.
+Zan Armstrong Thank You! So in real investment world we can easily expect lower than 1 of 3 ratio. Nice to know that.
The one who ate the inside of the marshmallow was funny😅😅😅😅
yea...she was funny and soon to be conniving, manipulative and deceitful.
Can someone explain to me why there is a haze around Joachim, the speaker?
that was really cute.
who else saw that end as pure nightmare fuel
'All right marshmallow; I'm not supposed to eat you. I'm going to just sit here making chomping motions and if you get eaten it's your own fault.'
This experience tells you that the success you are. It was destined for you
. You do not have to be arrogant and brag about what has been destined for you, meaning that you have the tools for success since birth
This, in my opinion, has some validity. As for what is true, I will not tell it to anyone now, or I may write it in the form of a photoelectric equation. Hahahaha