YES! I was thinking about how we avoid "bad" feelings often and try to immediately replace them with "good" ones. Which is disingenuous. Being uncomfortable isn't good or bad, it just is. So there is no need to fear it. :)
Every time Connor posts a video I take a break to listen to him, then listen to myself. Kinda like some type of therapy homework lol. Thank you for sharing your experiences! I grew up watching you because you looked like my cousin (I was little and I didn't understand English) and I'm glad I did! ❤
my mission this year is to be brave. i realised recently that a coward was something I hated to think of myself as, but I was kind of acting like one. my main fear is of regretting a mistake i make, or a wrong decision. my inner critic is harsh, and it paralysed me. for me, the mantra of 'i will be okay after' is really 'i will be kind to myself after'. even if i make a mistake i deserve gentleness from myself. thanks for this video :)
As a person with anxiety myself, this is exactly it. Fake it til you make it. I talk myself through so many things that are "easy" for others. And sometimes, I find that I don't have to talk myself through certain things anymore because my body remembers how too.
I'm moving out of my parents' house in 2 weeks, to a city 2000 km away. I haven't even told them yet; I'm so scared that if they say one discouraging thing I'll start panicking and not go. So I'll tell them at the last moment. This video is timely. I'll have faith (blind faith, really) in my ability to handle this.
this is amazing :D what helps me a lot in frightening times is the "surrender meditation" by Jason Stephenson here on TH-cam. Maybe this will help you - especially after your move, because sometimes another panick wave hits us after a big step and this might help navigate the wave
Hey Connor, I highly doubt you will see this, but I just wanted to share my thoughts. I have been following your videos since I was in high school and albeit I haven’t watched a good handful due to my being in college, followed by grad school, I saw this video pop on, and put it on my TV after getting some work done after work. I sat on the table right in front of it, and it genuinely just felt like I was having a conversation with an old friend that brought me a strange sense of comfort. I thought back to where I was when I first started watching your videos over a decade ago, and have reflected on how much I have changed, and how much I have watched you change sporadically throughout the years. I am now working in the field I have worked my ass off to be in for about 6 or 7 to 8 years, considering all of my time. The messages of being anxious and stressed and what it does to take courage brought me solace, and it was a nice way to, in a sense, touch-in with an old friend. Continue to be well. - 💙
I’m going through a difficult moment with a situationship where I felt very scared of the future and my healing process. I really needed this video, and I thank you sm for casually post about this. If anyone is going through a bad moment now, think about how much you have left to live and experience new things and that it will be ok
Connor, please know that I love you, and I enjoy your videos the most. That's why I would like for you to research how "sketchy" betterhelp is, that might affect your decision of partnering with them again.
I’ve seen so many more sponsorships from them lately. It really fucking sucks, I want more people to be aware of how terrible this company is, under the guise of helping people, which is such a horrible deception. I’m sure he’s not aware but I appreciate you leaving the comment in hopes that he will become aware.
This is real, authentic, charming, and endearing. You created something that is never created anymore in this world of 2024 post covid. You’re gorgeous, friend.
You’re at a point where you’re looking for new experiences and pushing boundaries. I’m 67 and I’m finally doing the unfamiliar and pushing my own boundaries. I’m grateful I’m no longer that naive 22 year old out of college taking the predictable career path. I’ve learned a lot about life, the good, the bad and the ugly and TBH I am a stronger person for it. Whatever doesn’t kill you…I’ll keep tabs on you and how navigate through your day to day. Stay well.👍🙏😎
I relate to this because I am looking to start a master's degree program to become a mental health clinician and it does come with discomfort. I look forward to working through those feelings and get one step further to advance my career!
I can't believe you were not only in the city i live now but also visited the part of the country where i was born (la Patagonia)😭❤️ I'm glad you liked it and i hope you were able to heal at least a little bit with that beautiful view
i can’t tell you how comforting this was! i’m moving to uni later this year and this mindset is so similar to mine and it was really affirming to hear someone i respect talking about something almost like what i’m facing in my own way edit: fixing typo lol
Good for you talking about courage and taking the step to do whatever it is you must do and need to do. Fear is far too consuming on many levels. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
I can't believe I've been watching your videos since middle school, now I'm graduating college this year. these videos of yours will always be my favorite and I'm so happy that you are indeed just an "anxious girlie" just like the rest of us, much love to you ❤
Dear sweet Connor...I've been watching your videos since the beginning.... I admire you so much - love your sweet spirit and thoughtful demeanor. I literally laugh out loud. You are not only adorable, but strong and brave. Thank you for being you! You are fearfully and wonderfully made..... truly truly truly...... I love watching your journey and cheer you on at each and every stage. And - if I may comment - you look so much better without the moustache! I am not sure why that is trending so much? My twenty-year old son has one and I just cant get on board! REGARDLESS - you are awesome and I just wanted to send you some positive vibes to make sure you KNOW - you are amazing!
I like your building blocks of courage. My definition of courage is rising up and facing challenges for the better, not recklessly but with bravery which is true strength even if you don't feel like it and if it's easy to be wary or safe. I say we can gain courage by focusing on our own control with life even if the world tells you otherwise and breaking out from our fixed mindsets for growth (something that even changes can help us to do so). Courage is what we need more for the world and something that is attractive.
You’re very conscious and wise Connor! So glad to see how much you’ve grown since I began watching you in elementary school nearly 10 years ago. If you are down to share your knowledge in other ways, I would love to collaborate with you on public speaking events
I started watching you when I was maybe 8 or 9 (I know. i agree, i was too young to be on the internet lol). I am now 16 and I like to think that your channel has somewhat shaped who I am today. I really appreciate your new content, and I laugh to myself at how the hurdles you’re finding in your path at your ripe age of…(no comment😅) are so similar to the hurdles I’m facing as a 16 year old today. I have been a silent watcher for so long now and I just want to say how proud I am of myself for how much I’ve matured and grown over the years and how lovely it is to watch someone else do the same. My life right now is how you’d expect any 16 year old girl’s life to be in 2024, but when you post a reflection video like this, i feel like everything stops for a moment. It’s like the universe just knows to let me have 5 minutes of peace to listen to what wise words Connor has decided to grace us with this time.
It's a blind faith, Connor. Life has no terminus when we are young and all the world's a wonder. Wordsworth described it well with these lines: There was a time when meadow, grove, and stream, The earth, and every common sight, To me did seem Apparell'd in celestial light, The glory and the freshness of a dream. It is not now as it has been of yore: - Turn wheresoe'er I may, By night or day. The things which I have seen I now can see no more! And in a famous essay from the 19th century, William Hazlett wrote: "No young man believes he shall ever die. There is a feeling of Eternity in youth which makes us amends for everything. Death, old age, are words without a meaning, a dream, a fiction, with which we have nothing to do."
i fear we have once again shared the same braincell. pretty sure the three building blocks to courage just changed the trajectory of my life, so thanks :)
Hey Connor, I can't believe you go to a therapist for advice! Just listen to all of the voices in your head instead. I know that even though you try your hardest to be brave, you just wind up being kinda cheesy! As far as your age goes, it's a matter of beating the grim reaper at his own game by outwitting him each time he goes near you. Just enjoy being yourself and throw caution to the wind. This way you'll wind up being a happy go lucky fellow!🎉❤😊
2am in china now and I have to sleep (don’t worry I put this video in the list and I’ll watch it later)! Don’t know if you’ve travelled to China but I guess it’s worth a try… have a good day!!
what helps me navigate times of the unknown, when I have to be insanely brave, is this guided meditation called "surrender meditation" by Jason Stephenson here on youtube.. It has helped me through so many low points of my life already and I plan to use it in the future. But I love your "I was ok before this, I will be ok after this ´" mantra, because it's true :)
Connor, if you need a translator; I volunteer as tribute. Less of a joke, more on a serious note: I speak 8 languages (5 fluently, 3 conversationally) and I would die for a chance to work with you✨
🗣the boy is back wandering around his room with a microphone again 🗣
How have you been lately?
love to see it
Favorite content on TH-cam 👏
definitely love to see it, but also missing you in argentina!!! it was so lovely meeting you ❤️ and also so great knowing you had the best time 🤧
Yay! You know what's brave: doing a video in my shirt. Gutsy. Give her back!! LOL
I use, "this will make me uncomfortable, but I'm comfortable being uncomfortable." It helps in remembering discomfort is normal.
YES! I was thinking about how we avoid "bad" feelings often and try to immediately replace them with "good" ones. Which is disingenuous. Being uncomfortable isn't good or bad, it just is. So there is no need to fear it. :)
“I’m jealous of the naive” -
sure, hit me with a poetic line within the first 10 seconds..
🤷🏻♂
editing skills never disappoint
aw thanks shannon :')
Every time Connor posts a video I take a break to listen to him, then listen to myself. Kinda like some type of therapy homework lol. Thank you for sharing your experiences! I grew up watching you because you looked like my cousin (I was little and I didn't understand English) and I'm glad I did! ❤
❤❤❤
aaw this is so cute! What was your language growing up? :)
@@voyance4elle 2 actually! :) Catalan and Spanish.
Thank you Connor for always having the right words at the right time ❤️
❤!!
my mission this year is to be brave. i realised recently that a coward was something I hated to think of myself as, but I was kind of acting like one. my main fear is of regretting a mistake i make, or a wrong decision. my inner critic is harsh, and it paralysed me. for me, the mantra of 'i will be okay after' is really 'i will be kind to myself after'. even if i make a mistake i deserve gentleness from myself. thanks for this video :)
sending you strength and love! ♥
As a person with anxiety myself, this is exactly it. Fake it til you make it. I talk myself through so many things that are "easy" for others. And sometimes, I find that I don't have to talk myself through certain things anymore because my body remembers how too.
I'm moving out of my parents' house in 2 weeks, to a city 2000 km away. I haven't even told them yet; I'm so scared that if they say one discouraging thing I'll start panicking and not go. So I'll tell them at the last moment. This video is timely. I'll have faith (blind faith, really) in my ability to handle this.
this is amazing :D what helps me a lot in frightening times is the "surrender meditation" by Jason Stephenson here on TH-cam. Maybe this will help you - especially after your move, because sometimes another panick wave hits us after a big step and this might help navigate the wave
Hey Connor, I highly doubt you will see this, but I just wanted to share my thoughts. I have been following your videos since I was in high school and albeit I haven’t watched a good handful due to my being in college, followed by grad school, I saw this video pop on, and put it on my TV after getting some work done after work. I sat on the table right in front of it, and it genuinely just felt like I was having a conversation with an old friend that brought me a strange sense of comfort. I thought back to where I was when I first started watching your videos over a decade ago, and have reflected on how much I have changed, and how much I have watched you change sporadically throughout the years. I am now working in the field I have worked my ass off to be in for about 6 or 7 to 8 years, considering all of my time. The messages of being anxious and stressed and what it does to take courage brought me solace, and it was a nice way to, in a sense, touch-in with an old friend. Continue to be well.
- 💙
I’m going through a difficult moment with a situationship where I felt very scared of the future and my healing process. I really needed this video, and I thank you sm for casually post about this. If anyone is going through a bad moment now, think about how much you have left to live and experience new things and that it will be ok
sending you love ❤❤❤
Connor, please know that I love you, and I enjoy your videos the most. That's why I would like for you to research how "sketchy" betterhelp is, that might affect your decision of partnering with them again.
Was looking for this. Slightly disappointed he accepted this sponsorship but its probably naivety
@aldenbarnes2179 Yeah, i am sure he just didn't know...
I’ve seen so many more sponsorships from them lately. It really fucking sucks, I want more people to be aware of how terrible this company is, under the guise of helping people, which is such a horrible deception. I’m sure he’s not aware but I appreciate you leaving the comment in hopes that he will become aware.
You seem like someone I would like to sit and talk for a while about life
Thank you for this speech
I think you described the plot of Barbie.
im just ken
😍@@ConnorFranta
This is real, authentic, charming, and endearing. You created something that is never created anymore in this world of 2024 post covid. You’re gorgeous, friend.
Just what I needed today. Thank you.
no worries! :)
I've missed you! Been here since the OG Crew videos 🥹 So glad you're doing well, and you'll always have me cheering for you in Michigan ❤
Time to binge Connor Franta videos, since you know I got locked outta my old profile and after 3 years finally actually made another one.
You’re at a point where you’re looking for new experiences and pushing boundaries. I’m 67 and I’m finally doing the unfamiliar and pushing my own boundaries. I’m grateful I’m no longer that naive 22 year old out of college taking the predictable career path. I’ve learned a lot about life, the good, the bad and the ugly and TBH I am a stronger person for it. Whatever doesn’t kill you…I’ll keep tabs on you and how navigate through your day to day. Stay well.👍🙏😎
"I am Rome. I hope I'm not Ceasar" love
Could be worse: Caligula, Nero.
your videos are always a highlight omfg
that's so sweet of you to say :')
I relate to this because I am looking to start a master's degree program to become a mental health clinician and it does come with discomfort. I look forward to working through those feelings and get one step further to advance my career!
I can't believe you were not only in the city i live now but also visited the part of the country where i was born (la Patagonia)😭❤️ I'm glad you liked it and i hope you were able to heal at least a little bit with that beautiful view
cant believe it either and i live in buenos aires
Ever time I need something I find myself watching Connor’s videos and it’s always perfect timing 😊
“The new befriends the uncomfortable” that phrase hit a little too hard on my mind yet it made me understand a lot of things 🫠
hope it lead you to peace
I’m waiting for your Podcast channel like forever
I really do wish to bring it back...
1:35 I love using those words in creative ways. Love it!
i can’t tell you how comforting this was! i’m moving to uni later this year and this mindset is so similar to mine and it was really affirming to hear someone i respect talking about something almost like what i’m facing in my own way
edit: fixing typo lol
aw im so glad it resonated with you :)
Good for you talking about courage and taking the step to do whatever it is you must do and need to do. Fear is far too consuming on many levels. Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
i loooooove this type of content! so relatable to what im experiencing in my own life, thank you connor for sharing your words & your art🥰
This is probably the only TH-cam channel that I like to watch its vlogs. I actually really missed you! ❣️
aw that's too kind of you to say :')
I can't believe I've been watching your videos since middle school, now I'm graduating college this year. these videos of yours will always be my favorite and I'm so happy that you are indeed just an "anxious girlie" just like the rest of us, much love to you ❤
Dear sweet Connor...I've been watching your videos since the beginning.... I admire you so much - love your sweet spirit and thoughtful demeanor. I literally laugh out loud. You are not only adorable, but strong and brave. Thank you for being you! You are fearfully and wonderfully made..... truly truly truly...... I love watching your journey and cheer you on at each and every stage. And - if I may comment - you look so much better without the moustache! I am not sure why that is trending so much? My twenty-year old son has one and I just cant get on board! REGARDLESS - you are awesome and I just wanted to send you some positive vibes to make sure you KNOW - you are amazing!
It still blows my mind how comforting Connor’s videos are, I hope that made sense
always my goal to provide more peace ♥
babee new connor franta vid just dropped 🙌
honestly a video I’ve been needing for a while. thank you Connor 🥹🫶🏻
I like your building blocks of courage. My definition of courage is rising up and facing challenges for the better, not recklessly but with bravery which is true strength even if you don't feel like it and if it's easy to be wary or safe. I say we can gain courage by focusing on our own control with life even if the world tells you otherwise and breaking out from our fixed mindsets for growth (something that even changes can help us to do so). Courage is what we need more for the world and something that is attractive.
I love this Video so much !!!!
1:32 my brain at 2 am every night
lol
Connor, I love your videos and always has been! I just wanted to encourage you to research the controversies of Better Help.
your videos are so healing
This voice makes me feel peaceful 😢❤
Some good quotes that I’m using for inspiration ❤️
You’re very conscious and wise Connor! So glad to see how much you’ve grown since I began watching you in elementary school nearly 10 years ago. If you are down to share your knowledge in other ways, I would love to collaborate with you on public speaking events
i just came back to ur channel and haven’t looked u up since i was in like middle school, you were my favorite youtuber❤️
UR AN ANGEL
i hope you enjoyed your trip & glad to have you back
♥♥♥
a friend of mine has a new word every year which she relates her experiences back to and maybe mine can be courage for 2024 😌
Connor, I love these types of videos where you talk about deep thoughts! You should do a TedTalk!
love you con 💕💕💕💕
♥♥♥
Your voice is literally the most soothing sound ever but i love you con thank you for being my biggest inspiration
♥🥺
@@ConnorFranta ❤️❤️
These videos have always been like therapy to me❤️
❤❤❤
I started watching you when I was maybe 8 or 9 (I know. i agree, i was too young to be on the internet lol). I am now 16 and I like to think that your channel has somewhat shaped who I am today. I really appreciate your new content, and I laugh to myself at how the hurdles you’re finding in your path at your ripe age of…(no comment😅) are so similar to the hurdles I’m facing as a 16 year old today. I have been a silent watcher for so long now and I just want to say how proud I am of myself for how much I’ve matured and grown over the years and how lovely it is to watch someone else do the same. My life right now is how you’d expect any 16 year old girl’s life to be in 2024, but when you post a reflection video like this, i feel like everything stops for a moment. It’s like the universe just knows to let me have 5 minutes of peace to listen to what wise words Connor has decided to grace us with this time.
the way that i needed to hear this thank you so much for puttng this video out i really enjoyed it
❤❤❤
Loved this video!
Just go for it!
Jzst listening to you talk about the plances you've been makes my anxiety spike
Strange how you’ve never been to South America but hey, you’ve been to India and we love you ❤
Mike Heslin has a song called ‘Believe’. You’ll be motivated just by listening to it.
3:34 This Channel has existed for so many years. It launched Twink Discourse.
Oh damn I didn’t know you dropped another video
Missed you so much 🤧🫶🏻
❤
It's a blind faith, Connor. Life has no terminus when we are young and all the world's a wonder. Wordsworth described it well with these lines:
There was a time when meadow, grove, and stream,
The earth, and every common sight,
To me did seem
Apparell'd in celestial light,
The glory and the freshness of a dream.
It is not now as it has been of yore: -
Turn wheresoe'er I may,
By night or day.
The things which I have seen I now can see no more!
And in a famous essay from the 19th century, William Hazlett wrote: "No young man believes he shall ever die. There is a feeling of Eternity in youth which makes us amends for everything. Death, old age, are words without a meaning, a dream, a fiction, with which we have nothing to do."
I love these types of videos sm
aw, im glad! i really enjoy making them :)
You’re inspiring
I love you
i fear we have once again shared the same braincell. pretty sure the three building blocks to courage just changed the trajectory of my life, so thanks :)
this makes me so happy, i hope it helps you :)
You should do one of those holidays/vacations where TH-camrs go with their subscribers.
Great video as always Con, but please next time come to Brazil!
CONNOR CAME TO ARGENTINA AND I DIDNT KNOW! WHAAAAAAAAAT
Aesthetic!! Aesthetic!!
it's what i do
Et tu, Brute! I went to Columbia in Jan. 2022 when I was 70! I survived! Yay!!
Colombia!
Have a nice day yourself !
😌♥
I get very confused when people say “The secret to me not aging is good vibes.” like just say you can alleviate your trauma better.
Enjoyed that video
thanks for watching :)
I'm not American so I don't know but I imagine that this is how collage essays are
Incase u didn't notice, u r young!❤
Hey Connor, I can't believe you go to a therapist for advice! Just listen to all of the voices in your head instead. I know that even though you try your hardest to be brave, you just wind up being kinda cheesy! As far as your age goes, it's a matter of beating the grim reaper at his own game by outwitting him each time he goes near you. Just enjoy being yourself and throw caution to the wind. This way you'll wind up being a happy go lucky fellow!🎉❤😊
ok te amo volvé pronto 😭🇦🇷🙏🏻
How was your trip??
unforgettable 🥹
😂❤😢❤ i miss you welcome back ❤❤❤❤❤
2am in china now and I have to sleep (don’t worry I put this video in the list and I’ll watch it later)! Don’t know if you’ve travelled to China but I guess it’s worth a try… have a good day!!
argentina loves you 🩵
y te amo ♥
If we only had manageable thoughts, what would the poor therapist find to do?
You should come to Colombia 🩷
You're not old enough to know this yet...but getting old is extremely painful.
If you're Caesar you don't have long until the 15th... 😇
what helps me navigate times of the unknown, when I have to be insanely brave, is this guided meditation called "surrender meditation" by Jason Stephenson here on youtube.. It has helped me through so many low points of my life already and I plan to use it in the future. But I love your "I was ok before this, I will be ok after this ´" mantra, because it's true :)
Connor, if you need a translator; I volunteer as tribute. Less of a joke, more on a serious note: I speak 8 languages (5 fluently, 3 conversationally) and I would die for a chance to work with you✨
about to graduate from college next week so this vid couldn't have come at a better time ! thank you always 🥺🫶🏼
you are strong, you are brave, you are capable, and everything will be okay ❤
Honestly one of the most difficult thing for me rn is to believe in myself😭
hey, you've completed step one! you're aware of that. now, you can work on confidence and practice :)
Espero hayas disfrutado de Argentina♥
See, my problem is I was never OK before, so I can't tell myself I'll be better after lol
1:27-1:39 i get it 😂😂
watching your videos is like coming home for a nice cup of tea
I hope I am not Caesar 😂😅
Did you go to Argentina or a warzone?
WELCOME back
wondering what words in spanish he learnt during the trip
I love you! :) I hope you are aware of Brené Brown? Dare to Lead, Braving The Wilderness, etc...
oh of course. the goat.
Connor, I love all your videos and you're an inspiration to me in my life, I know you're gay, so you're going to South America!!