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  • @fernandaraamirez
    @fernandaraamirez ปีที่แล้ว +650

    better things coming queen !!!!! not worth your stress ♥️♥️♥️

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Love u so much girl ❤️❤️

  • @valosteen2085
    @valosteen2085 ปีที่แล้ว +655

    ignore the haters! As a college student myself, seeing people act like this giving high school behavior

    • @laurynblake3824
      @laurynblake3824 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      It’s crazy how much the high school behavior doesn’t go away in college

    • @kaelahmoore3717
      @kaelahmoore3717 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Right. Like grow up

    • @soobunii4871
      @soobunii4871 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      middle school even

    • @truthfullytiggy5860
      @truthfullytiggy5860 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      They are still going to be like that…even as grown adults 🤦🏾‍♂️

    • @thegreatesttoeverdoit
      @thegreatesttoeverdoit 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thats what happens when you go to party led state schools

  • @nyalee04
    @nyalee04 ปีที่แล้ว +882

    people are so jealous of you and your accomplishments its so sad. they hate you cause they ain't you tamara

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +39

      I'm blushing ❤ sm love to you!!

    • @kaelahmoore3717
      @kaelahmoore3717 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Right. People are crazy

    • @SheilaLJones
      @SheilaLJones ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ikr! Those types of people are usually insecure with themselves

    • @imageword5576
      @imageword5576 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      yaaaas slay queen?

  • @tashbelle5671
    @tashbelle5671 ปีที่แล้ว +186

    freshman year being difficult is a topic that so overlooked

    • @mrtwellman
      @mrtwellman ปีที่แล้ว +19

      YES. i’ve never felt so out of place. i never knew how hard it would be to make friends and actually stay friends instead of talking to them during welcome week only and never again

    • @tashbelle5671
      @tashbelle5671 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      not feeling like yourself in a new environment was the worst thing! when i was a freshman people would post a ton on social media of them "having fun" and i always wondered why is my experience so different... despite my internal struggles i learned so much about myself. freshman year is the year to REALLY put yourself out there but it gets better i promise!!

  • @gabihart8020
    @gabihart8020 ปีที่แล้ว +378

    Miami is one of a kind. I went away for college, and THANKFULLY had an amazing experience. But I learned how much of a treasure Miami is.

  • @sassysabs1118
    @sassysabs1118 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    as a girl from a place like miami (brasil) that ended up in a school in the midwest - everything you're saying is SO valid and I can def relate to and understand. the midwest and the big college experience are not the vibe for everyone, and in a year's time, you're going to be so happy with your decision!!! you're way cooler than state school greek life anyways :)

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank u soooo much ❤ means alot

  • @MaddieDobson
    @MaddieDobson ปีที่แล้ว +125

    a girl from my high school class also went to IU and transferred back to a state school, don’t feel guilty for leaving, i’m glad you realized it and doing what’s best for you. trying to stay and make it work will not be worth it. i also transferred home and i was upset and lost a lot of friends from doing it at school, but now i look back and everything has happened for a reason and i can tell it was meant to happen. now i am at the school i didn’t get into out of high school and always dreamed of originally going to. obviously try to have some fun for the rest of the semester while you can but i just started watching your videos and i’m so happy you’re making a happy change! it’s so exciting ❤️

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Hearing this is so nice ❤ I’m glad you did what’s right for you and I’m looking forward for what’s to come too!

    • @CancelHappiness
      @CancelHappiness ปีที่แล้ว +1

      IU is incredible. So is Bloomington

    • @ladesigner8764
      @ladesigner8764 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@CancelHappinessagree! Love the town, grew up there. Sorry about the judgement. I did leave and lived all over the world. I would still live there, but part-time only.

  • @emilyxoxkate
    @emilyxoxkate ปีที่แล้ว +38

    “Things can get better somewhere else” YES!

  • @aimeekelly1172
    @aimeekelly1172 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    I am so sorry you had such a horrible experience. I went to high school in Bloomington but chose not to go to IU. I went to college in Nashville and so happy I did looking back on it. You are way too mature and sweet for those houses and those people. The people harassing you are either jealous of your success or just bored…or both. Just keep doing your thing. Your attitude, morals and values will get you so much further than any of them. Just stay true to yourself and ignore hateful people. They are the ones with the problem.

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This means the world to here, I appreciate it so much ❤ Grateful for mature people like you!

  • @juliacohen950
    @juliacohen950 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    im so sorry that you are/had to go through this, im also a college freshman, attended school out of state, and also had a terrible and experience. I moved back over winter break and have been at community college for this past semester and it’s the best decision i have made !! can’t wait to see what this new chapter brings for you !!!

  • @lilydejong
    @lilydejong ปีที่แล้ว +131

    I figured this was the video coming out next! I actually transferred to IU from another school. And I wouldn’t be having a good time if my fiancé wasn’t here. We literally just walk our dog and people watch 24/7 in this crazy college town lol. The Greek life stigma here is WILD to me and honestly entertaining. I’m also NOT a party gal and it’s all ppl do here. If it’s ur crowd, it works. But if partying isn’t ur thing, I totally see why u want to try something new. (Plus all ur other crazy and unfortunate circumstances). I’ve loved ur videos and can’t wait to see more wherever you go! Keep ur head up!

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I love this and think that's awesome what you guys do hehe ❤ but thank you sooo much!

  • @kaelahmoore3717
    @kaelahmoore3717 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    You’re not the only one that feels drained, if it isn’t the professors being weird, it’s the students. It’s good that you’re happier getting out of that

  • @sofiacobos9334
    @sofiacobos9334 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    as a college student at cornell who didn’t rush i experienced something really similar. clearly the kind of people who are ostracizing you have nothing better to do. keep your head up and do your thing because you are way better off!! sending you love ❤

    • @maryb.5668
      @maryb.5668 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wait, is Cornell like this??

    • @emilydangelo2479
      @emilydangelo2479 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@maryb.5668 yes

    • @Imbored-wx8fj
      @Imbored-wx8fj ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@maryb.5668 YES!

    • @sofiacobos9334
      @sofiacobos9334 ปีที่แล้ว

      @James Conoway greek life is a huge part of the social scene, but i wouldn’t say u need it to make friends! join clubs and def be outgoing :)

  • @edwinarobertson3462
    @edwinarobertson3462 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    Girl you deserve so much better. You are so real and raw and undeniably you! I have always been so inspired by you and no one should ever make you feel that way. It’s so horrible how these people in small college towns are so small minded and clearly have no sense of real life or the world around them outside of their college life. 💝💝💝

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That means so much to me ❤ thank you

    • @CancelHappiness
      @CancelHappiness ปีที่แล้ว

      Bloomington is an incredible city, with incredible people, and IU is a great school.

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@CancelHappiness so happy you feel that way, but everyone is entitled to their own options through their own experiences

    • @CancelHappiness
      @CancelHappiness ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TamaraAvinami I've lived in Indiana all my life, kid. Well other than a couple years where I lived in NYC and San Diego. And if you think Bloomington, of all places, is full of "close minded people" you just have no idea at all lol. IU is a fantastic school abd Bloomington is a great town and I know people who would kill for the opportunities you so casually throw away.

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@CancelHappiness dude it’s not that deep lol it’s 1 person transferring schools 😀

  • @mocabacaa
    @mocabacaa ปีที่แล้ว +59

    girl I get this 100%. I’m transferring back home to Miami and I couldn’t be happier. Do what makes you happy, don’t let anyone else change that ❤

  • @amberloisyt
    @amberloisyt ปีที่แล้ว +92

    Keep your head up Tamara!! We all support and love you so much, do what’s best for you always 🤍

  • @mckenziealise9144
    @mckenziealise9144 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Girl I can totally relate to the last part and applying to schools once again, (I graduated in 2022 also) and just didn’t find the right university for for me, so I’m here applying again and I would have never imagined going through that process again! Just want to send you all the good vibes and love for the rest of your year and your future endeavors💘

  • @w6ndolyn
    @w6ndolyn ปีที่แล้ว +74

    we're all so proud of u tamara for how much u've overcame throughout ur freshman year of college. im still in highschool so i cant really relate but i hope ur doing better and find ur purpose in another area!

  • @sarahrowan9547
    @sarahrowan9547 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    This is crazy. I’ve seen SO MANY other videos from other vloggers at parties where you can see underage drinking. Know that you’re a good person and this experience will just make you stronger.

  • @may3677
    @may3677 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    This is such a good way showing the difference sides of college do what’s best for you it will work out 💕

  • @heyjulian05
    @heyjulian05 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I have never seen any of your videos before but I am currently a freshman at IU this year and plan to transfer after this year. Everything you said about really hoping that everything would work out and then being the opposite, and thinking it was exactly what you wanted in HS senior year is exactly how I feel too. I can’t say I can relate too much to the ostracism you have sadly had to deal with, but I can only imagine how difficult that must have been.
    Just wanted to say that this video and everything you said means a lot to me.

  • @elijahhh02
    @elijahhh02 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Aw Tamara. I was in EXACTLY your place last year. I came in freshman year so excited for Kelley and for IU and in return it all ended not in my favor. I came home and attended a college nearby where I am now going to transfer as a junior this fall somewhere thats a lot more relaxed & much less prestigious Indiana (Colorado State hopefully). Kelley was SO rough. I understand trying genuinely SO hard on a test and it always being unattainable.

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yessss felt that with the intensity of the classes too! But i'm glad you're happy with where you are now :)

    • @elijahhh02
      @elijahhh02 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TamaraAvinami I also ended up staying home for a year, doing online community college, and traveled to Israel, Turkey, Italy, and Spain! A learning experience that college could never give you! Enjoy your last couple months at Indiana as they, for me, were really bittersweet. And you're allowed to be upset & frustrated because you were so excited for it. It is truly unfortunate how many people that have been derailed off their course by Indiana.

  • @juli6848
    @juli6848 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    i have also been having a tough time in my first year at uni and i cant explain how much this video meant to me. Better things are coming, i wish you all the best. ❤️

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Awww I'm so sorry to hear that but I really do wish you the best and am wishing the best for you too ❤

  • @morganlusk8778
    @morganlusk8778 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I'm from San Diego, and went to school in Washington. I absolutely HATED it, going from sd to Washington was a bigggg change, it was a tiny college town where everyone only partied. I transferred to community college and I could not be happier. seriously best decision of my life!!!!!! You won't regret it

    • @sophiefischel382
      @sophiefischel382 ปีที่แล้ว

      what school, if you don’t mind me asking?

    • @morganlusk8778
      @morganlusk8778 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sophiefischel382 sorry for the late response, but Washington state in pullman.

    • @gabibook5575
      @gabibook5575 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@morganlusk8778 Did you ever regret leaving? I’m currently a student there and the only thing holding me back from transferring rn is the idea of me missing it later on lol

    • @morganlusk8778
      @morganlusk8778 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi sorry for responding late, but absolutely not! I seriously cannot express how happy I am that I transferred lol. I didn't have any good friendships there though, so it wasn't hard for me to leave. I would say just trust your gut, good luck!

    • @morganlusk8778
      @morganlusk8778 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@gabibook5575 not once!!! I go to sdsu now and love my life lol I also knew so many people that transferred out of there and loved where they ended up

  • @AlexandraPragastis
    @AlexandraPragastis ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I lived in California my whole life and I went to college on the East Coast. I hated my school and I felt so guilty for wanting to go back to California. I transferred to a school in San Diego after a year on the East Coast and I'm SO HAPPY I did. Everything happens for a reason. Don't feel guilty for wanting to go back. I promise things will get so much better.

    • @coris9503
      @coris9503 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Any chance you would give a clue as to the school back east? I am from San Diego and looking at IU and two school back east. Thanks

  • @watermelonsoccer9018
    @watermelonsoccer9018 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I hope you’re okay girl ❤️ your “friends” there definitely suck too because why would they go in knowing your by yourself and also stayyy without u there knowing they won’t let u in its so sad! I hope you’re okay what’s meant for u will be!!

  • @daanniib
    @daanniib ปีที่แล้ว +47

    girl i definitely feel you on this decision. i was at IU for a year and a half and it was not for me, and it was a hard decision to make to move back home. i ended up doing it for my own good. i wish you the best with whatever you decide to do from here on out :)

  • @giannamcgee934
    @giannamcgee934 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    You handle situations so well, me personally… lol. We’re all here rooting for u girl! 💌💌

  • @EPDUBSKIII
    @EPDUBSKIII ปีที่แล้ว +60

    Girl you are going to THRIVE no matter where you end up. I decided to transfer back to a school close to my home and it was the best decision I could’ve made. Your grades will be better, you’ll get your personality back, and you’ll be so relieved when you finally decide on where you want to go 😌😌😌 So excited for u - good luck!! 💝

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Awww, so exciting to hear! Thank u so much ❤

  • @Molly-ur9nf
    @Molly-ur9nf ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm a transfer as well and just found this video after watching a bunch of your content- I can't even imagine how difficult it would be to feel like you're on a public stage being booed all the time while just trying to get through college. Proud of you for coming to this decision and I'm sure you will settle in wherever u end up!!

  • @AvaRosenberg
    @AvaRosenberg ปีที่แล้ว +91

    I have so much respect for you. It's sad that people in COLLEGE are acting like MIDDLE SCHOOLERS. People can be so deluded. Keep doing you.

  • @Emilia_Rae
    @Emilia_Rae ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thank you sm for posting this. I’m a college freshman too and I’ve really been considering transferring and I’m glad there’s someone I can relate to🤍

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aw I’m so glad I could help❤

  • @elisehutts
    @elisehutts ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Hey girl, I transferred home from IU Bloomington after first semester! I hated so many of the hateful/privileged kids at IU and I had to get out bc they gave me major ick. I completelyyyyyy agree with how u related their sororities/frats as high school all over again, in a not good way, and I didn’t even rush. It’s just so many kids that had their parents wipe their ass until their 18th bday and I couldn’t relate and that’s okay🌟

    • @elisehutts
      @elisehutts ปีที่แล้ว +1

      To explain the student body: my roommate and I (who came from the same town and with good morals) kept a running count of how many times someone couldn’t even hold the door open for us when walking in after them

  • @ameliahanalei
    @ameliahanalei ปีที่แล้ว +4

    aw bby im so sorry i can tell this has been a rly stressful experience, im so glad ur changing ur situation for the better but it sucks that you have to. the fact that ppl have shit on you for the friends you've made because of popularity rly blows my mind, i can't believe that still a thing at a large university like iu. i literally made my college decision yesterday and at one point iu was my top school but yesterday i decided to go somewhere else, im gonna think it was meant to be. i hope ur last two months are a lot better, we all support you💗💗

  • @luciahaven2470
    @luciahaven2470 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    I never comment on videos but I just want you to know I’ve thought you were the coolest person ever for the last 3 years. I’m a current high school senior, and seeing you go through high school inspired me to be more social and try things, and seeing you go through the college process made it easier for me this year. I always hoped you were happy there but of course things don’t always go to plan. I think you are going to kill it at UMiami or wherever you end up. Your TH-cam and your ability to create is a gift not everyone has and I think it’s a good idea to be in a place of like minded people. Plus! Tan all year round! ur awesome girl keep slaying

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This is so sweet I’m gonna cry ❤ I’m so glad I helped u in any way and this comment just helped put a smile on my fave

    • @tutujohnson7356
      @tutujohnson7356 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      No cause I swear on my life I wouldn't have been more social during highschool and made the friends I have if it wasn't for tamara

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@tutujohnson7356 this is so precious 🥺 I’m so glad wow ♥️♥️♥️

    • @mahamkhan7481
      @mahamkhan7481 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@TamaraAvinami Same goes for me! Your videos have helped me step out of my comfort zone in HS as an introvert and talk to everyone around me :) I get so excited every time I get a notification that you've posted, as I am always learning things from you, and I love following your journey. You're like my virtual big sister and I want to say that you are incredibly strong and it is commendable that you continue to persevere even with the toxic people that surround you. I wish you the best at your new college & don't ever let insecure people make you doubt what you do. Your impact on us is so much larger than you ever could imagine

  • @VeraEnting
    @VeraEnting ปีที่แล้ว +9

    this is genuine so sad, im so so sorry this all happened to you. I truly hope youre in a better place now, you deserve that more than anybody. sending you so so much love as always !!! better things are coming your way I can just feel it. I love u forever tamara, you genuinely don't know how much of a positive impact you made on my life. so grateful for you always :,)

  • @katiemaraldo8371
    @katiemaraldo8371 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    people are so jealous and cruel, it's like you can never win when they're trying to tear your successes down. i feel a similar way with not liking the school i'm at : i'm at a good school but hate the environment and i 100% agree that getting a degree from a good college isn't worth sacrificing your happiness! i'm so happy 4 you that you decided to take this step and i wish u the best on your journey!❤

  • @heyhailey582
    @heyhailey582 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    You have such a huge platform which you have used in a positive way. I have watched you for a really long time now and it is really unfortunate that it was something held against you in the rush process and now. Having a platform is very beneficial to you and if you were to rush a sorority again. I hope you find what it is better for you and your mental health. I am proud of you and happy for you, for choosing what will better come later and to be more positive!!

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      I appreciate you so much! Thank you for this love and support ❤

  • @kelsybias
    @kelsybias ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I honestly can't say anything else but applude you, you have such an amazing mindset and heart, you did what is best for you and nobody can judge you for that, ik ur future is so much brighter than any of the people that made you go through that. Love you 💕, i have for the past 4 yrs🤍

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This is soo sweet!❤ thank u, my heart is so full and i love u!

  • @meganosullivan4344
    @meganosullivan4344 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    So sorry you went through this. I went to IU and graduated in 2018. I had an extremely hard time acclimating from the beginning. Liked to go parties but also not the only thing I wanted to do. I went to high school in Tampa but I am from Chicago and promise this is not a general midwest thing (the judgementalness) but also agree on your comments about the crowd in Bloomington. I almost transferred sophomore year due to a variety of reasons such as major depression and anxiety, as well as just not being happy, but I got into a non housed sorority and I hate to be like “thats why I didn’t transfer” but I had 3 friends at IU and that was it. I already had acceptance to another school and everything so I was very close. Definately relate to your comments about greek life at IU because we were a “bottom tier” house and were looked down upon but I didn’t care because I found my place. I am so sorry you had this experience but proud of you for standing your ground and leaving to do what’s best for you. Best of luck on the rest of your college career, you will be successful no matter what!!!

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Aw this means a lot to hear and I'm sorry you went through what you did too! Hope you are doing well now and thank you for ur kind words❤

    • @meganosullivan4344
      @meganosullivan4344 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TamaraAvinami Thank you!! I am doing so much better, post college life is so much better, I promise. I enjoyed college but don’t miss it. The best of your life is still ahead!🤍

  • @jarwatch23
    @jarwatch23 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Hey Tamara, I’m glad you found the time to understood what need to be done and I am so sorry you went through all of this, just know things will get better I promise you that… here’s a quote that I live by day to day “ a rejection is a redirection, something might not be going well in the moment, but just know the future will always have a better outcome”❤️❤️

  • @alexissutherland491
    @alexissutherland491 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    omg!!! im extremely excited for you to be back in Miami!! You're literally gonna thrive at Umiami or ANY other school in Florida. Definitely the right decision, were so proud of u

  • @morganaddy2905
    @morganaddy2905 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Hi Tamara! Your videos have been my comfort videos throughout college. You handled this situation with such grace and maturity and I admire you a lot for that because it definitely did not sound easy. I am excited to see you thrive wherever you end up and watch your college journey continue. You gave IU your best and that's all anyone could ask for. Keep your head up and a smile on your face!!

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      My heart is so full ❤ thank you for the support and for your kind words

  • @keigoiwao3808
    @keigoiwao3808 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i am so proud of you for making such a hard decision🤍🤍 thank you for sharing!!

  • @TonyB2279
    @TonyB2279 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Found this older video on my feed. Sorry you went through all that! You should do more sort of "contemplative" videos like this, where you talk about deeper / emotional stuff.

  • @SM-gy5wv
    @SM-gy5wv ปีที่แล้ว +15

    wow tamara this was truly a breath of fresh air. i hope miami is way better on your mental health and full of better people

  • @JESUS_SAVES2005
    @JESUS_SAVES2005 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    keep your head up!!! all those people are just mad about your success! I'm really happy for you that you are now transferring. hugs from FL

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sooo sweet ❤ much love to you!

  • @nataliecontreras7466
    @nataliecontreras7466 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    this was all redirection for something better!! I hope you know you're such a gem and you deserve the very best. Super happy you didn't settle and chose right by not staying at an environment that didn't deserve you. On the bright side, I'm happy you're back home. Oh how much I've missed the Miami vlogs! un abrazo Reina!

  • @gracie2796
    @gracie2796 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m so sorry you had to go through that that’s absolutely NOT okay. girl you don’t need to be in that negative space at all. you have so much more in life that’s coming up. the frats are embarrassing asf. greek life is absolutely not all fun and partying at all. I think you’re going to thank yourself later on for leaving and starting fresh where you feel 100% yourself. I was born and raised in Japan and I moved to the US for the college experience after high school but I’m moving back after being here for 2 years because I realized how incredible my home is. I relate so much to how you felt judged and not being your full self. transferring was a big fear of mine because I felt like a failure not finishing college in the US but you have to do what’s best for you! everyone is so different and wherever you go you will succeed girl. I know this was a difficult video to make but I’m so proud of you for being able to open up and be yourself. I love you tamara❤ and thank you for this video because it helped with my situation.

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love you too ❤ thank u for this!

    • @gracie2796
      @gracie2796 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TamaraAvinami keep your head up babe!❤️

  • @jadencouder3415
    @jadencouder3415 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I recently transferred colleges because of the same reason you explained at the beginning of people being closed minded. I’m proud of you doing what right for yourself. You deserve the best!

  • @katieb3172
    @katieb3172 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m so sorry to hear about your experience. I don’t think there are enough channels that talk about the toxic side of state schools like greek life drama/just college generally bringing out the absolute worst in people. From being in college long enough I think it’s just a given that when you’re in this weird transitional space between childhood and adulthood people either don’t know how to act or end up learning real fast. It took me two years to figure out that the expectations I had as a senior in HS simply did not fit the person I was and that I needed to lose the toxic bs, drama, habits, isolate myself and just do me in order to be happy. You should be proud of yourself for making such a major change!!! I wish you so much luck and love!

  • @leratomotsebe3534
    @leratomotsebe3534 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Just know all the way from South Africa all love from support Tamara

  • @lielezroni8292
    @lielezroni8292 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    All of this is so disheartening and I am so sorry that this is what your are experiencing cause no one deserves to be treated like this. Like you said, a degree from a "top" school is not worth putting your mental health on the line. As a college student who grew up in NY and is now in aschool that is kinda closed minded I get where you are coming from (to a certain extent ofc). Going back to florida/miami sounds so great :) I have been watching your videos since you were in 10th grade and have continued to love your content! Stay strong queen you got this!!!!!!!

  • @samm.alexandra2365
    @samm.alexandra2365 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    that’s why I don’t go to a college that’s in the middle of nowhere. People are bored and hate anything that’s new to them. 😭😭😭

  • @kennedyrwhite
    @kennedyrwhite ปีที่แล้ว +4

    JERRY AT THE FRONT DESK. He will not care, no one will....I loved this explanation you are full of class. I will miss you

  • @ReganSimeon
    @ReganSimeon 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I never comment on TH-cam videos, but I just had to come on here and let you know how much this video means to me. I went through a VERY similar experience at IU and ended up transferring this semester to a completely different school and it literally changed my life. I felt like such a failure for leaving IU but I did everything in my power to try to like it from going out, joining clubs, and even rushing, but I still hated it. This video was something that I went back to MULTIPLE times during those dark times at IU, and it was something that gave me hope for a better future. This video made me feel seen, valued, and not alone. So thank you for this!!

  • @prettyclassybear7683
    @prettyclassybear7683 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It’s okay bby. I’m transferring too! Wish you luck! ❤

  • @abbiechovan1869
    @abbiechovan1869 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i'm a new fan of you and I go to IU and I totally get this. Greek life is crazy stupid here and I've seen it effect so many people I've met along the way so badly, its def dumb at times for sure. but keep your head up love, great great things are coming !!! im excited to see where you go next :)

  • @TeamKlaus
    @TeamKlaus ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thanks for opening up with us ❤ we’ll always support u and I’m sure you’ll have a great experience in a florida uni

  • @md444my
    @md444my ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i always love all ur content but tbh i missed all the miami content anyways! luv u sm and i hope everyone goes as plan, sorry IU wasnt what u thought itd be i remember how excited u were :(

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      Yea it's sad but it's okay! I love u more ❤

  • @eleanorblakely
    @eleanorblakely ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ugh im so sorry. I did this at the end of the fall semester (under different circumstances) but still, I know how stressful and frustrating it can be being far from home and other issues. you got this, keep your head up beautiful!

  • @katewiesbrook2992
    @katewiesbrook2992 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    girl I fully committed to iu as a transfer and changed last minute to switch to university of Illinois and I’m so glad I did. IU gives me such judgemental vibes

  • @cassukee35
    @cassukee35 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I’m so sorry about everything. No one should deserve this. You are so strong for sticking through to the end. I definitely agree location of a school has a lot to do with the community of people. I’m glad I go to college in NYC, which is a very open environment and has a lot of diverse people. I know not all schools with frats and sororities are bad but I’m glad I go to a college without them. I like going to a small school but i’m also glad my school has a campus. I hope everything goes well for you with the rest of your college process!

  • @tiaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
    @tiaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa ปีที่แล้ว +12

    do what makes you happy girly. here to support you always n forever !!! 🤍

  • @ifoundpeaceloveandhappiness
    @ifoundpeaceloveandhappiness ปีที่แล้ว +8

    hey tamara , i have been watching u like since idek and i have always felt like u were someone that i could really relate to and inspire me, i go to UCF now and i moved from nc and it has been the hardest thing but watching u and going thru similar things (being on campus first semester to living at my new home) has given me so much hope and i feel for you so much you are the strongest grl ik and i know everything happens for a reason 🥰🥰

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      This is so sweet and I am so glad I was able to help/inspire you in any way ❤ wishing you the best!

  • @kailamccullough34
    @kailamccullough34 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    As an alumni I couldn’t be more prouder of you to come into realization of what’s truly best for you. It’s so refreshing to hear other people who are able to self assess what’s worth it & what isn’t worth it. You’re on the right path to success & the fact that you’re mature about it right now to see past through the shade of what others are throwing at you. You should be proud of yourself. I’m so sorry to hear that these people have discriminated & treated you differently but to be honest, it’s a them problem not you. So glad to watch you through your journey! Excited to see your next chapter ❤

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      This warms my heart so much to here, thank you so much for the support❤

    • @kailamccullough34
      @kailamccullough34 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TamaraAvinami heck yeah girl anytime ❤️

  • @lilyk9933
    @lilyk9933 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    these people bullying you online are so jealous and void of self-confidence. its such a reflection on themselves. you're amazing I hope you know that and no matter what, people who are insecure will find anything and anything to hate on.. it just unfortunately was you this time. I have been through a similar experience so I know how u feel girl. "its time to go" by Taylor Swift kind of describes how walking away from bad situations isn't a weak thing to do, its the strongest. walking away from something early when its not working out is such a brave thing to do and I just KNOW you're going to flourish wherever life takes you. IU has taught you some good life lessons I think, and you'll take it with a grain of salt in the future to make you an even better person. Can't wait to see the things you will do Tama! we love ya girl xx

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      Love this so much and I appreciate you! ❤

  • @jaelynconely6794
    @jaelynconely6794 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This really is a prime example of you never know what someone is truly going through or what something is really like behind the camera. Although I can not relate to what you've gone through there, I can relate to wanting something to work out so badly and things just keep happening. My freshman year of college was horrible from the very beginning. I attended Purdue University (which is also in Indiana lol). I'm no longer there now and still trying to figure things out/where to transfer to. I was also accepted into IU and your videos actually made me want to go. I've been watching your vids wishing that my freshman year could've gone like yours, without any awareness of what you've been facing. People are jerks and you didn't deserve any of that. With all that being said, I hope you have an amazing time wrapping up your freshman year surrounded by those people who make you happy!

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      Aww I'm glad I could help your relate and I'm sorry ur situation at Purdue didn't go as planned but I wish you the best and know we will both find the perfect place for us! ❤

  • @zoenaomi7385
    @zoenaomi7385 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Omg Tamara! First better things are coming!! But this video could have not come at a better time. Ive been planning on transferring due to the social aspect, drama, and just the overall education aspect of my college. Idk this video has helped me to solidify my decision of transferring. Best of luck to you and future transferring!!

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      Aww thank you, best of luck to u too❤

  • @malambar21
    @malambar21 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I just know God will bring you peace and happiness in the next season of your life. Stay strong ❤

  • @emmabarrett1545
    @emmabarrett1545 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    very similar situation rn for me at a different college & also not in a sorority! transferring will be life-changing for us

  • @laurynl202
    @laurynl202 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    i know it’s definitely scary but like you said, things can get better elsewhere and that is def what is best for you right now. i’m so sorry for what these immature, jealous, people have put you through! they are seriously not worth your time and the new chapter that is coming will be so amazing, i can guarantee it!! everything happens for a reason and even though this situation has been tough for you, the following journey that you will go on now is going to be so enlightening. you got this tamara

  • @Valentinaaarojas
    @Valentinaaarojas ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am so sorry that u have that experience, amazing things comingggg love u so much

  • @clemmiepinkerton753
    @clemmiepinkerton753 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hey tamara, I feel like you never felt fully at home in Indiana, definitely never as happy as you are at home in Miami, everythings happen for a reason, take ur time!!!

  • @abbys9873
    @abbys9873 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Life is so short and at the end of the day it’s so important to do what you want despite what others think. So proud of you for making this change for the better ! You’re doing and are going to continue doing great things Tamara ❤️❤️

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank u with my whole heart! ❤

  • @sophiejackman2709
    @sophiejackman2709 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this is the exact same reason i left michigan state after my freshman year. i’m now a sophomore, living at home doing cc and i’m transferring in the fall. I’m working my ass off, have a boyfriend and working on bettering myself. proud of u

  • @GolfingwithCollin
    @GolfingwithCollin ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i’m so glad you made this decision

  • @camibabii13
    @camibabii13 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You're a big city girl! You would thrive in NYC! I know you talked about staying in Florida but I could see you having the time of your life in Manhattan and really finding your true self. Especially in the fashion industry

  • @Jasminekuwonu
    @Jasminekuwonu ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Damn I’m sorry you had to experience that!!!! Great things are coming your way Tamara💕

  • @Imbored-wx8fj
    @Imbored-wx8fj ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Tamara!! Since you’re leaving can we now pleaseeee get a storytime on what happened to your first roommate? Like what was that whole situation. If you don’t wanna make a whole video on it then please just respond to this comment about it. Pretty please with a cherry on top!😫🧁🍒

  • @britneynascimento71302
    @britneynascimento71302 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    One can I just say you’re such a pretty cryer haha
    Two they’re just some haters babe. Just remember at the end of the day you are winning and they’re all jelly about WHO YOU ARE as a person!
    You’re going to do amazing where ever you go queen!
    We’re all here for your happiness only!

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Pls not the crying hahahah❤ but love u so much thank you!

  • @brittolly12
    @brittolly12 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    tamara, i have been watching you since your freshman year of high school. you are the only one that knows exactly where your meant to be and you have to trust ur gut. it is horrible to hear about this because i have seen how excited you were to try something new. your new place will love and cherish you so much more and that is what you should be looking forward to. leave these idiotic people behind you and show them how much better you are without them (thats seriously the best kind of revenge aha). i know great things are coming for you and everything happens for a reason. you are on the right path now 🤎

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you sooo much ❤ this is so nice to hear

  • @evetteperry7034
    @evetteperry7034 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    i'm sorry you had to go through this. SO proud of you for continuing to create content and realizing that it's best for you to leave that school. idk y some people think it's ok to be mean for no reason.

  • @kaleashin497
    @kaleashin497 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm so proud of you

  • @danaa4700
    @danaa4700 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    ur mental health is important !! happy you took the right decision for you ❤

  • @emilycunningham942
    @emilycunningham942 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Love you! You will find your way don’t worry

  • @mackenziestranix9221
    @mackenziestranix9221 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love you! i am so glad you are doing something to improve you. I am obsessed with your TH-cam videos :) keep doing what you are doing 💕💕

  • @ella-oi1jk
    @ella-oi1jk ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m so sorry this happened to you Tamara, some people need to grow up and think about their actions. Supporting you whatever you decide to do next ❤❤ x

  • @mariac7739
    @mariac7739 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i'am sorry you had to experience this ! but good luck to your future endeavors

  • @emmaaa999
    @emmaaa999 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The university I go to is JUST like this!! I can’t explain enough that ranking doesn’t even EXIST yet it’s still so evident like what? Literally how old are we. There is no such thing as popularity in college and it’s so blatant that the only people that care about Greek life ranking are people in Greek life… shorty working at crumbl cookies isn’t gonna treat you any different if they know you’re in a top house babe. It’s crazy but Tamara GOOD FOR YOU! You deserve to be in an environment that feels accepting and loving.

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      Crumbl cookies please 😭😭😭 buy thank you sooo much ❤

  • @amberlyxie1183
    @amberlyxie1183 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    hey girlie just wanted to pop in and say that i’m really sorry u went thru what u did-i actually found u cause i graduated from IU last spring (ah!) and was searching iu stuff up on youtube. i hope u feel better and kno that things will turn out ok!! sending lots of love

    • @TamaraAvinami
      @TamaraAvinami  ปีที่แล้ว

      This is so sweet seriously, thank you so much ❤ sending u love too!

  • @emmanordlund
    @emmanordlund ปีที่แล้ว +2

    proud of you !! onto the next

  • @mrgoop.
    @mrgoop. ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for posting this. I’ve had a really difficult time my freshman year as well and having a hard time with my own decision to transfer ❤ this made me feel so much better and less alone

  • @bellacatherineee
    @bellacatherineee ปีที่แล้ว +3

    you handled everything so well, I aspire to be you at this point , but it’s okay because in the future you’ll have a career and you have all these supportive fans and you’ll love your life and live it to the fullest, while these “frats” probably will stay in their hometown and get a local job . Stay strong !! this was definitely the universe trying to tell you something!

  • @jasmineemich
    @jasmineemich ปีที่แล้ว +1

    im sorry girl, no one should have to go through this. you handled this very well, and you got this

  • @adrianablasini8059
    @adrianablasini8059 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    this is how i feel except i’m a junior at florida state! college is hard and an experience and definitely teaches you a lot. a lot i thought would go great also went south. i did want to transfer but i guess i was always scared and now it’s def too late to transfer but i’m sticking it out but also i will say like at least being in florida i can drive home to miami and i’ve been going home once a month since i moved to college because it’s so culture shock for me! anywhere you go you will do great! good luck

  • @dajanayaskew2740
    @dajanayaskew2740 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I'm a PhD student at IU and I completely understand where you're coming from! I have experienced some similar issues as well. I'm glad you realized that it's not worth it. You should NEVER feel unsafe at a place that is supposed to be home. Wishing you the best of luck!

  • @gladys1775
    @gladys1775 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i usually don’t comment on videos but i’m so proud of you🫶🏾wishing you the best of luck Tamara!!!

  • @laraxx5450
    @laraxx5450 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    hey tama!!! ive watched u for a long time and i wanted to let u know that we all love u so much

  • @laurynblake3824
    @laurynblake3824 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was at a lost at some point with being at the right school and I’ve transferred before. You are not alone feeling the way you do! We all support any decision you make🫶🏽 we love you
    Also people who are being so mean to you have high school behavior. I’m truly sorry! Seeing you cry makes me so sad I wish I could hug you