@@CabbageCorn You cannot seriously expect to have any idea what life through Dele's eyes are. I suggest you try to learn some empathy for others. Because you sound like Hitler.
@@CabbageCorn lol this is such a weird take. attitude is a result of your mental health, if you are depressed or suffering from PTSD, then it is going to be a lot more difficult for you to stay motivated, and you will also self sabotage.
Gary Neville deserves extreme amount of credit for how he handled himself in a difficult interview. This is almost a therapy session and Gary comes across as a fantastic therapist. Full praise to dele as well unbelievably brave.
@@rubenreuvekamp6611 id like to see him at everton now that he’s got the confidence of how much the club has backed him ajax would be a good fit as well
As a psychology graduate, Gary did really well here. There are some pretty specific guidelines that are used in these sorts of situations and Gary did well not to stray too far from them. For example, notice when Dele was sharing personal information Gary never once said "I understand".
Mourinho made the same observation we all would make not knowing his story and just watching the player's attitude. Good on him to quickly realize that it wasn't as simple as him being "Lazy" and apologizing to alli a week after he arrived.
It doesn't matter if he ever finds his way again on a football pitch. I hope Dele finds his way in life and gets as close to peace and serenity as he can. Excellent interview.
Judging by his interview he’s already there mate! He’s found some kind of peace and even if he doesn’t get back to that number 10 role well I’ll always remember that goal against palace. He will get there! He’s got similarities to Gazza but it’s a different era now and things can change for Del Boy whereas with Gazza it was too late in football terms. Just look back on some of them right footed volleys Dele scored. You never lose that kind of skill, that’s something he was born with and he can come back and he will never lose that natural technique not ever. Good look Del!
It makes me so angry that the tabloids have forced him into this. He left rehab a few weeks ago, he says he's in a good place but he obviously has a lot of processing to do. Very brave decision but awful that it comes to this. You're not alone Dele.
I feel for the lad, and I hope he can reach the heights in football that he was once at but the papers were right at the end of the day. He says they overstated his partying a bit at the start but other than that they were right in what they said.
What happens in his personal life has got nothing to do with us yet some average Joe's and nobodies think we are owed the personal info of celebs 🤔 let him rebuild his career and leave him alone
As a victim of sexual abuse myself at the age of 10, the hardest part was telling someone and hoping that you won't be judged or ridiculed and that it was not your fault...you're a brave man and an inspiration to many, thank you.
The world and the internet might be full of trolls and toxic c*nts but just know that there are way more people that would gladly give you a hug for support. Take care
Was embarrassed to say that I suffer from Depression and had thoughts of taking my own life ... I thought I was weak & was embarrassed but after watching this video... I reached out from professional help Thank you Dele & all the best going forward
In terms of impact, this is huge. Two men having an honest conversation about addiction, trauma, recovery, change and growth is necessary for society. Props to Dele and Gary
Hats off to Gary Neville being proactive and wanting to speak to this young lad. He's clearly struggling mentally and needs as many people to talk to as possible to help him through whatever he's going through. I genuinely hope we see a resurgent Dele Ali. For above all else, himself....I hope this is a turning point for him.
Dele Alli has no one to blame but himself. Maybe getting filmed while being sucked off wasn't a smart idea. Why should any coach try to help him when he can't help himself. He needs to spend less time getting terrible tattoos and more time actually working.
I won't lie, I never liked Dele Alli and a lot of that comes down to bitterness as an Arsenal fan I'll admit. So naturally I bought into the narratives of him being lazy, not working hard, having poor work ethic and was loving his fall from grace. This interview though really turned me around. Brought me back to remember you never really know what goes on behind the scenes. I wish nothing but the best for this guy and hope he finds himself again. Incredible strength to endure what he's been through.
Gary, you've created a platform where someone like Dele feels comfortable opening up about these major, often overlooked issues. That in itself deserves praise, so well done
As a survivor of child sexual abuse myself, I just want to say thank you Gary for giving Dele the platform to not only let him speak his truth but by giving the space for this topic to be put out there. Thank you for that. And to Dele also. Thank you for sharing, it’s never easy to speak on such things, so again, thank you. ❤️
Classic football fans. Watch what happens when Harry maguire kills himself cause of the constant shit he gets. All the little mongy hypocrites will come straight out the woodwork pretending they care
I was the same age as Dele when I was abused in that way. when he choked up, I felt that. I still do it myself when I try to verbalise what happened to me. He got the words out, I still can’t. Not yet. Massive respect to him.
Not alone bud. Trauma therapy can be completed in imagery or in many other formats. I am a therapist and if any way you are feeling you are struggling you can find an avenue for help
@@aaronpenberthy107 Thanks for the kind words. I don’t let it impact my life now, though that’s only because of many years of therapy. It’s just still something that is not easy to say out loud.
You are not alone my man, a lot of people go through similar things. I wish you nothing but the best in your future and stay strong and push through it 💯🙏🏼
On behalf of a die hard gunner here, really wish all the best for him, nobody deserves that sort of start in life. The fact he's even managed to make it into professional football given all that in his early days is remarkable in of itself. Good on him for that and good on him for having the nuts to put his story out there to help other people who've experienced the same.
Ditto from another Gooner. Very disarming, candid and humble version of his traumatic life experiences to date. He's young enough to resurrect his career and anyone who has watched this video, irrespective of their club affiliations, will wish him a long and distinguished future.
I feel guilty that I allowed the media to taint my view of Dele. I shed a tear watching this because of how sad his early life was and how brave he is to get through it. I really hope he succeeds in the future and I'll be a supporter for life. Well done lad ❤👍
Just wanted to say how grateful I am that this was released at this time. Life's been rough for me recently and I've felt like I've lost myself. While I can't sit here and say that I have suffered the immense trauma that Dele has, I relate to so much with what he was saying. Him sharing his story and his message has inspired me and saved a life. Thank you!
Stunning and brave. The hardships this man has endured sitting on a bench getting paid millions. The children of Africa weep for his very difficult life.
@@apk4381 money isn't everything mate, mental health issues can make your life shit whether you have £1 or £100000000. of course dele alli is luckier than a lot of the kids in africa, but its not a competition on who can feel the shittest.
Absolute HERO. I'm not a regular fan of football but Dele's honesty, bravery and courage, crosses every boundary - to the only thing that matters: humanity. A true HERO, in every sense of the word.
It's all about the future if he's serious about evolving take a pay cut and come to a club like Aston villa I don't truly believe it that he's willing to do it
We took a geeza on Paul mcgrath that was a chronic alcoholic and gave him stability and access to help we payed him handsomely and we made him feel loved ❤😢 that's why Aston villa is special 😢
He would not have achieved what he achieved without his childhood. On the pitch he was fearless. I hated him because he found a way to destroy my team Chelsea always. I loved him for the common ancestry. I can only wish him the best. The road to recovery is a long one. He is in the action phase. There is always a risk of relapse into bad old ways but if he is open and honest with himself he will find a way. I hope Poch will bring him to Chelsea.
same thing happened with Jesse Lingard, everyone attacked him not knowing what he went through, people have just gotta stop fucki*g assuming everything and thinking they know it all.
@@ChuckNorrisFakebecause of people like you some will never take mental health for serious. Robert Enke, ex german nationalkeeper threw himself under a train in 2009. Was that done for reputation as well?
It's not questioning someone's character. If you forget about the character and just look purely at the football and the wasted talent, that's fair. And that's why he gets stick. He's obviously talented but the football hasn't shown that
I don't normally comment on videos but this one I just feel needs to be appreciated. I'll be honest, I was a person who felt he was ruining a career that looked so promising, but to hear his struggles only makes me admire what he has achieved so far. A true inspiration for people going through hard times and seeking help to make themselves better. Well done Dele!
Sounds like he’d already conquered those issues waaaaaaaay back. It’s the ones that cropped up in 2019 onwards that are the issue and have ruined his career. I just don’t know why he didn’t seek help much much earlier.
As a Tottenham fan, I followed Dele most of his career and could not understand till today what happened. Dele, you are a fighter. I hope you become your best self and go back to being an amazing footballer!
same here. i got into football just a bit before he started playing for spurs & it felt so unfinished & sad to see his quick downward slide & then get sold. this feels like so much justification & resolution & brings so much understanding. in addition, as someone that has dealt with chemical addictions with the same trauma as dele as the root issue (had a liver transplant last year from alcoholism) - this hits deeply. so glad this happened & he's gotten to this point. brave & beautiful.
He's a very brave man but let's not act like he's 16 mate. A random guy in his late 20s would have that reasoning. Especially having have the experience he had
I’m guessing you’re all under 50. At 27 To be open like this is incredibly mature. I don’t know a lot of 27yo in therapy let alone able to publically talk about it.
This is by far the most powerful interview any footballer has ever done, period. As someone who caged up trauma from childhood and let it lead my life for years, I can relate to everything he’s saying. I make this promise to anyone who is going through any type of depression. When you are ready to seek help, and open your eyes to the world again, you’ll be amazed at the freedom you feel. Keep pushing.
Totally agree @aaronsmith7828 we keep everything in and it effects our life. We lose relationships and keep a guard between ourselves and those we can’t trust due to these traumas. I think it’s brave for him to do this interview and it makes total sense as why he has always had to defend himself on the pitch the way he does. Poor lad we have all dragged him through the mud for his so called “lack of interest” but trauma has controlled him all his life. Any one or any footballer needs our support.
So sorry to hear you've struggled and amazing that you've found a way through. But, I have to challenge that statement about feeling free. Everyone's depression is unique and so you can't necessarily understand how other people feel. In this case (and yours from the sound of it) it's clearly linked back to a trigger event and whilst you'll always carry the scars, you can address the root cause and free yourself from the depression. However, there are people who suffer from Chronic depression and luckily they may never have had your trauma but equally they will never be free of it. Medication and therapy can help but they will always suffer from depression no matter what. What they need are some tools to manage it and having a great network of people around them (if they're lucky enough too) Definitely, everyone should open up and seek help when ready as that is liberating but for some, it's here to stay and it's important that people realise that rather than thinking help will alleviate it completely.
This is some of the best TH-cam / football content I’ve seen in my life. Dele inspiring millions. GNev asking great questions and getting even better answers. Praise to all involved for the passion, honesty, and bravery in this production.
As a Spurs fan I’ll always love Dele for the memories he gave us on the pitch, but as a father, a youth pastor and a man I admire and applaud him even more for what he’s talked about today. This has taken more courage and bravery than anything he could do on a football pitch. My love and prayers go towards him for this new beginning in his life, may it be a fruitful and blessed one.
This is Gary's best interview of all time. Dele's been through so much that is so difficult to talk about. Gary did a great job of creating the environment where he was able to share. I really hope Dele can find his peace and find joy again in football.
" I refuse to blame mourinho. I want to make that very clear . He didn't know. No one knew. It was always me against myself. I'm my own hero and my worst enemy" Wow. My respect for him just went though the roof
It must be hard for anyone that's suffered such an abusive upbringing to open up about it, but to be someone in the public eye, in a profession thats so highly criticized from every angle, i think it's HUGE what Dele has done here. He has helped so many by doing this. Best of luck to the guy, deserves every success.
Deli I was abused by my father from the age of 4 until I was 15. I left home at 18 and for nearly 5 years I was homeless on the streets of London. Deli your a survivor and yes by speaking out in the way you are firstly brings tears to my eyes because know child should ever ever be abused full stop. Secondly you my friend will change lives for the better and I firmly believe that your talent on the football field will shine brightly again. I just want to wish you all the best for your future. Doug
Gary Neville is a legend on and off the pitch. To facilitate the conversation like this with Dele, to make him feel safe and comfortable when he's putting his demons out there is nothing short of special
His nervous laughter is the ultimate in heartbreak. That's his (and many others) defence mechanism to cope in tragic times. We have to learn to laugh these things away, so that we seem "normal". It's the saddest part of all of this. Real respect for Dele (and to Gary for being so delicate and respectful) for doing this whole interview. I hope he gets better from here and I hope it helps many others suffering in similar ways. From a West Ham fan
By watching closely on body language Delle Alli curls his feet onto the sofar that shows how much sufferings he has gone through comparing with Neville posture am in charge. Good that Delle pour it out and Neville shows he cares.
@@swirl._.3its become the norm now 🤦♀️. People's way of saying 'even though you're an enemy on the pitch I can still be nice off the pitch' I don't love it but it's not going anywhere🤷♀️🙃
"I think if you let people in, that's the way they can hurt you the most in the end". God bless you Dele, I felt that. I pray for a speedy return back to your best, on and off the pitch. ❤
It's easy as a football fan to be detached from the real person behind the player. The vitriol and hate thrown at Dele from the media and fans has been atrocious. The bravery and strength he's shown to tell his story cannot be underestimated. Good on you, Dele.
I hope all the people who called him "lazy" and a "bad attitude" humble themselves a little bit. None of us know the personal lives of these players, so making judgements is a silly thing to do.
Absolutely agree, this is exactly why I never call a player trash, finished, horrible or whatever else derogatory. Footballers are people not fictional characters. Decent people treat each other with respect. In almost all comment sections of football related content, 90% of the comments are mean-spirited, immature and unproductive shit. Love the sport, hate the fans tbh
This makes that conversation he had with Jose take such a deeper meaning "I don't know what is going on inside you and why you went from being so successful to up and down. Maybe it's something personal. Maybe you use to be an amazing professional and you became a party guy. I will never know the true answer. Only you can know that. But I just want you to demand more from you " Indeed only dele knew....
The fact that he got to the level he was a few years ago is nothing short of incredible considering the situation he came from and the childhood he had.
Not going to lie, this was proably one of raw and visceral Interviews ,I have heard in a long time. As a Spurs fan, this cuts deeper as well. We all wish him well, and hope he finishes on the high ,he deserves. Huge kudos to Garry, for that amazing interview , the sensitivity, compassion and gentle questioning, were exemplary.
As a Gooner and a recovering addict of prescription opiates, this subject is way beyond anything: Being human, honest, open and real! You cannot be your true self if you’re lying all the time. Big respect to you for doing this! Peace ✌🏼
@@BH-ui5ebhe’s just expressing himself😭. Do you know how much hate he’s had since his decline in football? ALOT. It’s not playing the victim card, it’s just him taking the world what’s up
@@BH-ui5ebThe only thing that is pathetic is your comment, bud. Do you have the courage to talk about some of the things he did on national television?
@@CourageOfMyConvictions Courage! ha dont make me laugh! What amazing courage from a spoilt brat who has wasted his talent set a terrible example to kids and now will be lauded for his bravery in speaking up. He is playing the victim card in a last-ditch attempt to save his career and idiots like you believe him.
Wow this brought tears to me. I was sexualy abused when i was 8 and it wasnt until i was a teenager until i told someone. Thank you dele alli for speaking up it really helps me and others to not feel ashamed of it.
We all share in Delle's struggles. At 5 my dad was murdered in front of me, as a kid thought this would go away and pretended but haunted me for the past 25years and even now I still get nightmares of the same as a grown up. Stay strong Delle and anyone going through thesame,God's got you.🙋
I'm so sorry to hear about this 🙏 There are many trauma informed facilitators who will be able to support you in gently exploring and meeting that pain, should you wish to get support 🙏 wishing you peace!
Going through what Dele went through and being able to talk about it and express his emotions and going through rehab on top of that is worth more than any trophy in football. What a man!
To slam on the brakes to a halt and stop this cycle shows incredible strength. To speak to the world and try and help others by facing your demons, while holding yourself with dignity, is on another level of strength and courage completely. Nothing but love, care and admiration Dele.
Incredibly sad, I cried throughout. Well done Gary for handling the situation so well. Hoping Dele gets back playing even better than before. He’s an inspiration.
Gary said, he wasn’t expecting that, I certainly wasn’t. I think it was a natural reaction, reaching out to someone in distress. We’ll have all learnt from that. I don’t think any harm was done.
Gary spontaneously comforting dele like that for me was possibly the most moving part of this entire interview. Such a tough moment for both men, palpable discomfort but gn behaved like a real human. If someone gets offended because someone else displays empathy, i find it’s usually because they don’t have enough
Huge respect to Dele. I did not know he had to endure this kind of struggles. Coping with all that while being a top-level athlete must have been terribly hard.
It must be definitely hard. If I had his money, I'd stop everything. However, since I'm grinding to makes end meet. That begins the push for me to get up and talk to people. Every basic things are difficult for me and required much more effort than people think it would be. Which is why telling people with mental illness to toughen up, shin up has opposite effect of what you wanted. The struggle is unimaginable to average people. I don't wish this sort of thing in my worse enemy. Nobody should be going through this.
He will be acknowledged mostly for his bravery and rightly so. Incredible. But for me it’s the personal accountability he takes for his situation that inspires me the most. He never blames anyone despite an awful upbringing. I hope so so much he comes back to the level he once was bc he deserves it.
The thing is Gary is a guy who genuinely cares for Dele and other people. Glad Dele let us in to understand his struggles. He’s definitely impacting lives through this interview
@@stenbergskij101 If you google, you’ll find he’s addressed that criticism plenty of times…but you probably know that and just choose to ignore it. Yes Neville’s loaded, but it’s clear he backs up his politics in what he says and does. The idea that liberals with money should be martyrs and show solidarity by living in poverty is bollocks frankly. They should use their privilege and platform for the vulnerable and oppressed, and people like Neville and Lineker do. The fact is you don’t get an interview like that from someone with a more right-wing outlook, because there generally is less tolerance, empathy and understanding of different experiences to their own, and the interviewee doesn’t reveal anything. In fact, it’s almost certain that the right-leaning elements of the press were the ones ready to expose this story against Dele Alli’s will. Really pleased that he got his message across properly by speaking to someone genuinely decent and compassionate. If there’s anyone immorally after money at the expense of others, it’s the gutter press, not Gary Neville.
As an Arsenal fan, I have a new found respect for this guy. I hope he gets back on the pitch soon enough and shows us an even better footballer than we saw of him under Pochettino. I'm rooting for you Dele
Dele, you've saved so many lives with this interview. Your an absolute warrior. There's alot of young men out there that need to listen to this. I wish you all the best in the future.
What an inspiration, it takes such guts to talk about such personal, traumatic events - you have helped me realise trauma is something a lot of us deal with even if you can't tell on the outside, thank you Dele for making me feel less alone
As a Spurs fan I’ll always love this man. And as a former addict myself, you can tell that he is 100% genuine and hits the nail on the head. We are all human at the end of the day and it’s nice to see an interview examining the human condition in footballers. Good job Gary,
Same. As an addict (and I mean generally, diagnosed as an addict per se.. so drink, drugs, food etc. It can be anything) it can last a long time. Took me 18yrs to kick worse addictions and still have some of the lesser ones. Very very brave of Deli, and this is first step. Have to be on your guard not to relapse but this is huge step. He’s very articulate and intelligent, he can conquer this in his personal life and professionally he can recover and get back to his best. I believe in him, there will be bumps in the road, important to reset and not give up. Long term fix, not easy. Rooting for him, as a spurs fan he was amazing for Tottenham and can be again.
*Immense respect to Dele for having the courage to open up about his struggles. Seeing someone with his profile be this vulnerable about addiction and trauma is so powerful. His story will undoubtably inspire others going through similar battles to know they are not alone. Speaking up is brave. Seeking help is brave. No matter how hard things get, there is always hope. Dele embodies the strength it takes to acknowledge pain in order to heal. His desire to use his platform to connect with people and make a difference during difficult times is truly admirable. This conversation shines light on issues that are often stigmatized but so deeply affect lives. I hope it sparks more open, compassionate dialogue around mental health. Wishing Dele continued healing and happiness ahead. His honesty and empathy in this episode will stay with me.*
Thanks to Gary, and the Overlap team, for covering this. As a Spurs fan, Dele gave me so many amazing memories and it was so sad to see his decline. Proud of him for speaking out and addressing the issues he faced. Wherever he ends up, I hope he fully rediscovers himself and finds happiness!
The worst and the heartbroken side is that people just blame you and insult you without even knowing what you are going through. Get well Dele and stay strong.
I hope Dele knows he is still adored by everyone at Tottenham. We will never forget how amazing he was for us, what a player and what a guy. Love you Dele. We’ve got Alli, Dele Alli.
Came on against Palace and changed the game for us, wouldn't have gotten that result without him. Of course, he's not had much of an impact overall, particularly because of how our deal with Tottenham is structured and our limited finances, I hope Dyche can at least help him to find some sort of work ethic
@@catto1980palace fan here lol. That goal is the best I’ve ever seen at selhurst man, hope he can get the help he needs he’s absolutely unreal when it’s clicking and England don’t have another player like him
@@jamesandrews1545 he's only got 6 games to make an impact before we pay Tottenham £10 mil, which is why we loaned him out and why he hasn't played much for us, really unfair on him because we don't have the luxury to spend that, he ideally needs a fresh start somewhere with the right people around him and a club who's willing to put in the time with him
i remember his first champions league game vs real madrid at wembley.....the stadium singing his song for 10 mins after he missed a header for his hattrick...
My thoughts and prayers go out to Dele!!! As a man in recovery daily for 6 years now, I believe that he can recover!!! God bless him, his family and friends!!!!
I always knew something was up with him and he wasn’t just “lazy”. Takes courage to open up about everything and he’s going to help so many others by doing so. You can tell he’s a deep genuine guy, I’ve got a lot of respect for him
As someone recently out of Rehab for drugs and alcohol, I commend you on your bravery speaking out on your struggles. There is a stigma around addiction but when your in its grip, it can honestly feel like there is no way out. Well done Dele Alli and wish you all the best!
I was in rehab for sex addiction, and it was a hard time, I would often turn round and knock cups from tables, and once as I turned around during a hard time I even accidently got my boner trapped in a womans foot long subway as she was about to have a nibble, she got quite a mouthful.
It doesn’t matter if his career gets back to the glory days or not. He has achieved so much more by opening up about this. So many people will be helped by this. What a bloke. 👏
I hope he doesnt put pressure on himself to get back to the player he was , this will hopefully be a huge weight lifted off his shoulders and he can get help , the last thing he needs is the media putting pressure on him to be the player he was , he needs to enjoy football again first , without that he will just continue doing what he is doing. i sadly dont think he will ever be that Dele Ali we knew 5 years ago , but seeing Dele Ali back enjoying football and glimpses of his skills should be enough for the time being
@@terrymcc100 If he's going to give it a real go, I'd love nothing more than to have him back. He's always been a fan favourite and has unfinished business here!
Come home Dele, we love you, always have. Never wanted you to leave but could never understand your decline in football terms….but now it’s out….all credit to you, the strength you’ve shown in doing this is greater than any goal you could ever score. Be safe and happy Dele.
Fantastic but harrowing talk and it’s great to hear Dele sounding healthier and somewhat happier. You can tell he’s speaking from the heart and that he’s being honest and truthful. I hope this is the start of his journey back to full fitness and back on the pitch
Proof that footballers are more than just a performance or transfer fee. The fact that he opened up and told us all those heartbreaking, traumatic things about himself is incredibly admirable, I can't even begin to imagine how hard that was to do. I will be a Dele Alli fan for life after that, he's an inspiration. All the best for your career, but more importantly for you! 👍🏻
Would love to see you back at spurs. You are still a legend you were not lazy. You more than anyone kept popping up in the right place with the perfect skill and effort. Had to be a real reason that you came off the boil. Sometimes trauma in the past catches up. Time for healing and find true ❤️. Well done man. Let's hope your talents return to grace the pitches of England even as an Everton player. M Joy and love to you. Don't try to recover alone. There are real people around to support and help you. Your future can be good, enjoy your God given gifts. Find the the depth in yourself that can now grow. Be an example.
As an Arsenal fan I’m now rooting for Dele and hope he can find peace, irrespective of whether he regains his form. I think this interview will be a turning point for him and the game as a whole 🤞
After interviews like this one, many people stay in a corner in their room taking breaths starting to believe on themselves that they can do a step to the light too. Thank you Dele ♥️
As a Spurs fan I will always love Dele as a player, but today will always love him as a person! What he shared today was not only brave but also an inspiration to others that may find themselves in a similar position. Hats off to you Dele 👏🏾 🙌🏾 ❤
I will personally cheer every single goal this lad scores for the rest of his career irrespective of club allegiance.... absolutely sending all my positive vibes to him on his journey to finding inner peace with himself
I’m completely taken aback by this interview. Having experienced how crippling and isolating mental illness can be, it really is inspiring to hear Dele speak so openly about his struggles and take so much accountability. What a cracking young man. Would love to see him reach the heights that he’s capable of reaching. Come on Dele!
Also what I love about him is that he doesn't beg for sympathy. Pogba had a similar interview a year ago and he was like "United never trusted me. Mourinho was mean to me. The fans booed me. They all destroyed me" Dele kept repeating "Mourinho gave me tough love but he couldn't know and later he apologized The media lied about me many times but I was to blame for that Managers after Poch seemed fake to me but they were not actually fake. I just didn't want to listen to them because I wanted to close myself Players tried to help me but I didn't listen I don't want anyone to feel sorry for me. I'm the main responsible as I'm the one who made the mistakes. I just want people to understand where my poor judgment comes from " That is true maturity
Massive amount of respect for Dele and Gary for creating this space of vulnerability to understand where Dele has come from and what he's been through. He looks well onto the road to recovery and we couldn't be more proud of him. ❤️
Gary’s line of questioning to me, a non native speaker, at times feels a bit too confrontational and doesn’t fit the setting. He could use different wording; ‘can you be more specific’ vs ‘could you elaborate on that’ just one example.
17:58 straight tears. That breath by Gary Neville hits hard. Knowing someone you care for didn't have someone to protect them went they weren't able to protect themselves. 6-year-old needs someone to guard them always. A guardian is the most important role on earth.
One thing annoys me, people forget footballers are only humans. They have emotions. What a man. He probably won't understand how many people this will help. Very very brave off him. Wish you the best mate!
Every single preconception I had of dele has been completely changed. What an intelligent and sensitive young man. Hope to see you back at the top of the football world.
That’s good. But at the same time it’s a lesson to not be manipulated by the media and “pundits”. The same media that had everyone thinking Sterling was a menace to society.
The addiction to numbing the pain during depression is such a disgusting cycle to end up in, I’ve been there and its soul destroying. I bounced back and dedicate my life to saving others for a career. I hope Dele turns it around too, I hope anyone reading this knows they can always turn it around no matter how low you feel you’ve sunk 💙
I'm glad you were able to bounce back. May I ask what was key in helping you do so? "The addiction to numbing the pain during depression" is very, very real.
I’ve suffered exactly from the same problems all of my life. Thank you Dele for sharing with us your struggle. It was therapeutic. What a wonderful player and person. Hope the best for you!!
Trauma is trauma. If this interview gets people to understand the roots of their own addiction, that will be huge. Well done, Dele. You're amazing mate, big love.
Gary really is a genuine and great bloke. The fact he has allowed Dele to tell his story, to everyone, every single football fan to understand his pain. This is so brave of dele and I’m glad he feels this can help other people. Hope you’re okay Dele, we’re all with you.
To Dele, I knew you from a young lad playing at Milton Keynes. I supported you at Tottenham and became a supporter of the team because of you. I lived in Potterspury so knew a little of your background. Even when the press was bad, I supported you. I knew there was a reason. Children don’t get to choose the environment they are born into. I could have never imagined how challenging it was for you. Wishing you inner peace and can’t wait to watch you play again. Need something to look forward to now the Dons are in Division 2.
I don’t think I’ve ever wanted someone to succeed more in life than this guy now. If success is on the pitch that would be amazing - but just seeing him happy and healthy is more than enough. I’d love to see him on the pitch again though - even if it’s just so the crowd can show their admiration and support.
"I don’t think I’ve ever wanted someone to succeed more in life than this guy now" That is the whole point, if it wasn't for this interview he would have struggled getting a go at Wrexham, maybe I'm too hard faced but after covid I think it's clear a lot of people are soft in the head and easily led.
@@mrjones1696 Not quite sure I follow. For me, it’s nothing to do with life post Covid or people “being soft”. It’s been clear to me for ages that this guy was battling demons and, still, many people were quick to call him lazy or overpaid. All I’ve ever seen is a genuine guy who’s had issues - until now, we didn’t know what they were but he’s been brave enough to speak out. Maybe provoked by media threats of exposing him. But he told his story really well and I have loads of respect for his honesty. As I say, I’d just love him to succeed either on the pitch or just by being happy and healthy.
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No-one knows what goes through some peoples lives. Very brave of him
The attitude you mention is probably a symptom of some underlying mental issues though. Go easy
@@CabbageCorn You cannot seriously expect to have any idea what life through Dele's eyes are.
I suggest you try to learn some empathy for others.
Because you sound like Hitler.
@@CabbageCorndid you watch the full interview? And what Gary said about him and his work rate. Your analysis and comment is stupid af
@@CabbageCorn lol this is such a weird take. attitude is a result of your mental health, if you are depressed or suffering from PTSD, then it is going to be a lot more difficult for you to stay motivated, and you will also self sabotage.
@@CabbageCornhow old are you 10?
Gary Neville deserves extreme amount of credit for how he handled himself in a difficult interview. This is almost a therapy session and Gary comes across as a fantastic therapist. Full praise to dele as well unbelievably brave.
Spot on, I had similar thoughts on top of the praise I had for Dele as well.
Respect for him and I think ajax amsterdam is the best club for him now.
Unbelievable more investment is needed into free therapy sessions so the 95 percent can get the world class health care like deli has access to
@@rubenreuvekamp6611 id like to see him at everton now that he’s got the confidence of how much the club has backed him ajax would be a good fit as well
As a psychology graduate, Gary did really well here. There are some pretty specific guidelines that are used in these sorts of situations and Gary did well not to stray too far from them. For example, notice when Dele was sharing personal information Gary never once said "I understand".
This really takes some bravery. There’s more than one way to be a role model ❤
Great interview as well GNev
Go on foster
Mourinho made the same observation we all would make not knowing his story and just watching the player's attitude. Good on him to quickly realize that it wasn't as simple as him being "Lazy" and apologizing to alli a week after he arrived.
Love to see Foster commenting, nicest guy in the game❤
Friggin Legendary comment mate
@@WesweswestsideCalm down
It doesn't matter if he ever finds his way again on a football pitch. I hope Dele finds his way in life and gets as close to peace and serenity as he can. Excellent interview.
Agree
Agree too, football is secondary.
Sort yourself out lad
Judging by his interview he’s already there mate! He’s found some kind of peace and even if he doesn’t get back to that number 10 role well I’ll always remember that goal against palace. He will get there! He’s got similarities to Gazza but it’s a different era now and things can change for Del Boy whereas with Gazza it was too late in football terms. Just look back on some of them right footed volleys Dele scored. You never lose that kind of skill, that’s something he was born with and he can come back and he will never lose that natural technique not ever. Good look Del!
Great post
It makes me so angry that the tabloids have forced him into this. He left rehab a few weeks ago, he says he's in a good place but he obviously has a lot of processing to do. Very brave decision but awful that it comes to this. You're not alone Dele.
Rats, the lot of them
Are we shocked at this point? The English media is really scummy especially to English footballers that have fallen off
I feel for the lad, and I hope he can reach the heights in football that he was once at but the papers were right at the end of the day. He says they overstated his partying a bit at the start but other than that they were right in what they said.
The English press are scoundrels.
What happens in his personal life has got nothing to do with us yet some average Joe's and nobodies think we are owed the personal info of celebs 🤔 let him rebuild his career and leave him alone
Massive respect to him, it takes a super human level of bravery to speak out like this.
Not really
Yes it does.❤
how ? what is brave about it ?
@@leowerner4049it was all he knew… he grew up in a shitty situation.
@@leowerner4049people like you really show how stupid the world is, human always comes first, not their assets and belongings
As a victim of sexual abuse myself at the age of 10, the hardest part was telling someone and hoping that you won't be judged or ridiculed and that it was not your fault...you're a brave man and an inspiration to many, thank you.
The world and the internet might be full of trolls and toxic c*nts but just know that there are way more people that would gladly give you a hug for support. Take care
You serious?
@@howardsnooks1069no
i was also abused as a child, when i was 8. i am a strong man now
Especially as a man bro, society has a habit of writing off boys sexual abuse, just know that normal people don’t judge you.
Was embarrassed to say that I suffer from Depression and had thoughts of taking my own life ... I thought I was weak & was embarrassed but after watching this video... I reached out from professional help
Thank you Dele & all the best going forward
The hardest thing to do is ask for help brother, proud of you
It's great to hear his interview had a positive impact on you and I'm sure many others too.
@@truenoae8689 you got this brother!!! YOU HAVE SO MUCH LIFE TO LIVE AND SO MUCH LIFE TO LOVE! ❤
1 year past but proud of you. Hope you’re doing alright bud 💜
I wish you all the best. Keep going❤
In terms of impact, this is huge.
Two men having an honest conversation about addiction, trauma, recovery, change and growth is necessary for society.
Props to Dele and Gary
*snowflake using excuses to get the sympathy vote. Pathetic "man"
I couldn't have put it any better, well said 👏 👏👏
@@danika181263a lot of people suffering with daily living,work families mortgages cost of living their my heroes
Thank you for sharing your story.
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Hats off to Gary Neville being proactive and wanting to speak to this young lad. He's clearly struggling mentally and needs as many people to talk to as possible to help him through whatever he's going through. I genuinely hope we see a resurgent Dele Ali. For above all else, himself....I hope this is a turning point for him.
Dele Alli has no one to blame but himself. Maybe getting filmed while being sucked off wasn't a smart idea. Why should any coach try to help him when he can't help himself. He needs to spend less time getting terrible tattoos and more time actually working.
He knew it would pull the views
@@ChuckNorrisFakeand who the hell are you to say they’re excuses?? Sounds like you’ve not watched this at all. You absolute clown
@@ChuckNorrisFake have you been through what he has?
@@ChuckNorrisFakename me more than one more time this has been done in a transfer window, 'trust me bro' you cant
I won't lie, I never liked Dele Alli and a lot of that comes down to bitterness as an Arsenal fan I'll admit. So naturally I bought into the narratives of him being lazy, not working hard, having poor work ethic and was loving his fall from grace. This interview though really turned me around. Brought me back to remember you never really know what goes on behind the scenes. I wish nothing but the best for this guy and hope he finds himself again. Incredible strength to endure what he's been through.
I love your honesty and your thought process. Its wonderful
"People used to say that I was fearless. But I wasn't fearless...I was just brave"
What a quote. ❤️👏👏👏👏👏👏
Yeah it just hit deep
@@prashantrawattIt really does
Courage isn't the absence of fear. It's feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
Yep. That made me stop & think too. -As did the rest of it.
Wow big ❤ dele get back and please come back to spurs 🙏
Gary, you've created a platform where someone like Dele feels comfortable opening up about these major, often overlooked issues. That in itself deserves praise, so well done
Stunning and brave 😏
I agree with you I don't like Gary as a pundit but in the role as interviewer/ mentor
@@abigailbarfoot3846Bet you’re an Assnal fan or Liverpool fan
@@mloose7870 I'm an everton fan and have always liked dele.
Well done Dele, extremely brave of you. Talking helps most of the time and doing this interview will you and others. Kudos to Gary as well
Brilliant. Wish Dele all the best. Thank you for sharing your story.
Well said Spen
@@mmr0221?
@@mmr0221 Hope your child doesn't pity itself one day when it realizes who his father is.
@enzofrancescoli1260 hopefully it doesn't reproduce
@@enzofrancescoli1260it would be surprising if anyone wants to be with this guy long enough to have a kid lmao
As a survivor of child sexual abuse myself, I just want to say thank you Gary for giving Dele the platform to not only let him speak his truth but by giving the space for this topic to be put out there. Thank you for that.
And to Dele also. Thank you for sharing, it’s never easy to speak on such things, so again, thank you. ❤️
I'm so sorry 😢
Deli???
No the guy who wrote this comment
@@G.C230I'm talking to the commenter, he spelt his name wrong
@@Movie_Blizzard omg thank you for pointing that out! Like sincerely thank you.
Auto correct F’d me lol
He's literally saving lives by doing this. Inspirational. Survivor. We have NO IDEA what people are going through inside.
Lol wtf.
@@xbriskx lol wtf what a stupid response. Hope you'll be as brave as Dele has been with this interview. In the meantime: get a life
Classic football fans. Watch what happens when Harry maguire kills himself cause of the constant shit he gets. All the little mongy hypocrites will come straight out the woodwork pretending they care
@@xbriskxWhat don’t you understand?
😂😂😂
I was the same age as Dele when I was abused in that way. when he choked up, I felt that. I still do it myself when I try to verbalise what happened to me. He got the words out, I still can’t. Not yet. Massive respect to him.
You’re not alone
Not alone bud. Trauma therapy can be completed in imagery or in many other formats. I am a therapist and if any way you are feeling you are struggling you can find an avenue for help
@@aaronpenberthy107 Thanks for the kind words. I don’t let it impact my life now, though that’s only because of many years of therapy. It’s just still something that is not easy to say out loud.
My heart goes out to anyone who has had to go through that. It ruins lives it really does
You are not alone my man, a lot of people go through similar things.
I wish you nothing but the best in your future and stay strong and push through it 💯🙏🏼
On behalf of a die hard gunner here, really wish all the best for him, nobody deserves that sort of start in life. The fact he's even managed to make it into professional football given all that in his early days is remarkable in of itself. Good on him for that and good on him for having the nuts to put his story out there to help other people who've experienced the same.
Same
Ditto from another Gooner. Very disarming, candid and humble version of his traumatic life experiences to date. He's young enough to resurrect his career and anyone who has watched this video, irrespective of their club affiliations, will wish him a long and distinguished future.
Ask gunner to sign him
Doesn't matter if your a gunner or not. Don't have to always mention what club you support
2 Cor 4:4, repent- Heil GOD
If you've ever been abused in life you know Dele ain't lying this really made me cry
I feel guilty that I allowed the media to taint my view of Dele. I shed a tear watching this because of how sad his early life was and how brave he is to get through it. I really hope he succeeds in the future and I'll be a supporter for life. Well done lad ❤👍
We're human mate hopefully we can learn from this and improve going forward
100%
@@MikeDelta5697theres really something wrong with u
@@MikeDelta5697 I dunno what made you think that but I just hope you never land in a place he did..no one should just heartbreaking stuff
@@MikeDelta5697Well, you're doing much better sitting here on TH-cam commenting about his life.
Just wanted to say how grateful I am that this was released at this time. Life's been rough for me recently and I've felt like I've lost myself. While I can't sit here and say that I have suffered the immense trauma that Dele has, I relate to so much with what he was saying. Him sharing his story and his message has inspired me and saved a life. Thank you!
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Keep going fella 🙏💪
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Im here if you need mate, hope you get better!
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‘I’m not fearless im just brave’ is actually iconic. I really hope that Dele is really in a good place and I take my hat off to him for doing this.
Stunning and brave. The hardships this man has endured sitting on a bench getting paid millions. The children of Africa weep for his very difficult life.
@@apk4381people can’t be brave unless they are starving children in africa… yeah makes sense that😀🤣
@@apk4381 money isn't everything mate, mental health issues can make your life shit whether you have £1 or £100000000. of course dele alli is luckier than a lot of the kids in africa, but its not a competition on who can feel the shittest.
@apk4381 with a comment like that, I think you need to be brave and face your own problems. Good luck with that!
@@apk4381 very narrow minded response tbf
Absolute HERO. I'm not a regular fan of football but Dele's honesty, bravery and courage, crosses every boundary - to the only thing that matters: humanity. A true HERO, in every sense of the word.
It's all about the future if he's serious about evolving take a pay cut and come to a club like Aston villa I don't truly believe it that he's willing to do it
We took a geeza on Paul mcgrath that was a chronic alcoholic and gave him stability and access to help we payed him handsomely and we made him feel loved ❤😢 that's why Aston villa is special 😢
The fact that he has achieved what he has with the childhood he had. It’s amazing
Absolutely. Some people are truly walking miracles... and usually, it goes unnoticed. Compassion is always the right move.
He would not have achieved what he achieved without his childhood. On the pitch he was fearless. I hated him because he found a way to destroy my team Chelsea always. I loved him for the common ancestry. I can only wish him the best. The road to recovery is a long one. He is in the action phase. There is always a risk of relapse into bad old ways but if he is open and honest with himself he will find a way. I hope Poch will bring him to Chelsea.
Same
Up th blues 💙
People can speculate but should never question someone’s character without knowing the inside story
same thing happened with Jesse Lingard, everyone attacked him not knowing what he went through, people have just gotta stop fucki*g assuming everything and thinking they know it all.
@@ChuckNorrisFakeYou don’t think mental health issues are real..? What an ignorant comment
@@ChuckNorrisFakebecause of people like you some will never take mental health for serious. Robert Enke, ex german nationalkeeper threw himself under a train in 2009. Was that done for reputation as well?
@@ChuckNorrisFake so he gets molested at 6 years old and you say it’s fake. What an idiotic comment , you are brain dead
It's not questioning someone's character. If you forget about the character and just look purely at the football and the wasted talent, that's fair. And that's why he gets stick. He's obviously talented but the football hasn't shown that
I don't normally comment on videos but this one I just feel needs to be appreciated. I'll be honest, I was a person who felt he was ruining a career that looked so promising, but to hear his struggles only makes me admire what he has achieved so far. A true inspiration for people going through hard times and seeking help to make themselves better. Well done Dele!
Sounds like he’d already conquered those issues waaaaaaaay back. It’s the ones that cropped up in 2019 onwards that are the issue and have ruined his career. I just don’t know why he didn’t seek help much much earlier.
@@adamstar7516you clearly did not watch the video at all did you
@@adamstar7516watch the vid lad, he’s only just dealing now. Peace 🙌
He hasn't achieved anything I'm football
@@marco0594 I would say playing for your country as an achievement. Playing in the Premier league as an achievement. Unless you have done the same?
The fact he managed to even become a professional football player after all that is a testament to his spirit. Inspirational young man.
As a Tottenham fan, I followed Dele most of his career and could not understand till today what happened. Dele, you are a fighter. I hope you become your best self and go back to being an amazing footballer!
same here. i got into football just a bit before he started playing for spurs & it felt so unfinished & sad to see his quick downward slide & then get sold. this feels like so much justification & resolution & brings so much understanding. in addition, as someone that has dealt with chemical addictions with the same trauma as dele as the root issue (had a liver transplant last year from alcoholism) - this hits deeply. so glad this happened & he's gotten to this point. brave & beautiful.
@@dogwalk3keep going. You are worth all the hard work❤
“To be vulnerable, there is a lot of strength in that.”
Such a mature perspective for a young man.
Dude is 27 when are u supposed to mature_?
@@victorfernandes2111He's nearly 30 and people acting like he's a kid 😂
He's a very brave man but let's not act like he's 16 mate. A random guy in his late 20s would have that reasoning. Especially having have the experience he had
I’m guessing you’re all under 50. At 27 To be open like this is incredibly mature. I don’t know a lot of 27yo in therapy let alone able to publically talk about it.
This is by far the most powerful interview any footballer has ever done, period.
As someone who caged up trauma from childhood and let it lead my life for years, I can relate to everything he’s saying. I make this promise to anyone who is going through any type of depression. When you are ready to seek help, and open your eyes to the world again, you’ll be amazed at the freedom you feel. Keep pushing.
Totally agree @aaronsmith7828 we keep everything in and it effects our life. We lose relationships and keep a guard between ourselves and those we can’t trust due to these traumas. I think it’s brave for him to do this interview and it makes total sense as why he has always had to defend himself on the pitch the way he does. Poor lad we have all dragged him through the mud for his so called “lack of interest” but trauma has controlled him all his life. Any one or any footballer needs our support.
So sorry to hear you've struggled and amazing that you've found a way through.
But, I have to challenge that statement about feeling free. Everyone's depression is unique and so you can't necessarily understand how other people feel. In this case (and yours from the sound of it) it's clearly linked back to a trigger event and whilst you'll always carry the scars, you can address the root cause and free yourself from the depression. However, there are people who suffer from Chronic depression and luckily they may never have had your trauma but equally they will never be free of it. Medication and therapy can help but they will always suffer from depression no matter what. What they need are some tools to manage it and having a great network of people around them (if they're lucky enough too)
Definitely, everyone should open up and seek help when ready as that is liberating but for some, it's here to stay and it's important that people realise that rather than thinking help will alleviate it completely.
Top man .
Nah Ronaldo. The Jacuzzi at Carrington was a disgrace!
Same. As a guy I'm still struggling to open up about my problems and tend to spiral. I teared up at this video and honestly it really is inspiring
This is some of the best TH-cam / football content I’ve seen in my life. Dele inspiring millions. GNev asking great questions and getting even better answers. Praise to all involved for the passion, honesty, and bravery in this production.
couldn’t have said it better… wow ❤
As a Spurs fan I’ll always love Dele for the memories he gave us on the pitch, but as a father, a youth pastor and a man I admire and applaud him even more for what he’s talked about today. This has taken more courage and bravery than anything he could do on a football pitch. My love and prayers go towards him for this new beginning in his life, may it be a fruitful and blessed one.
Well said 👏🏾 👌🏾 I concur.
Amen🙏🏾
You sound like a good dad, may God bless you and your childs. ❤️
Word...COYS
beautiful message ❤️
This is Gary's best interview of all time. Dele's been through so much that is so difficult to talk about. Gary did a great job of creating the environment where he was able to share. I really hope Dele can find his peace and find joy again in football.
perfect questions and perfectly timed too hes building something special with the overlap
This may be one of the best/most honest interviews I’ve ever seen from a footballer. Huge respect to you Dele, I hope you get what’s coming.
" I refuse to blame mourinho. I want to make that very clear . He didn't know. No one knew. It was always me against myself. I'm my own hero and my worst enemy"
Wow. My respect for him just went though the roof
It must be hard for anyone that's suffered such an abusive upbringing to open up about it, but to be someone in the public eye, in a profession thats so highly criticized from every angle, i think it's HUGE what Dele has done here. He has helped so many by doing this. Best of luck to the guy, deserves every success.
Lukaku interview exist lol
@@fhzxcv Not the thread fella. Grow up.
@@markwood7045 stfu mark i can say whatever tf i want
Deli I was abused by my father from the age of 4 until I was 15.
I left home at 18 and for nearly 5 years I was homeless on the streets of London.
Deli your a survivor and yes by speaking out in the way you are firstly brings tears to my eyes because know child should ever ever be abused full stop.
Secondly you my friend will change lives for the better and I firmly believe that your talent on the football field will shine brightly again.
I just want to wish you all the best for your future.
Doug
How does your father have a mindset to abuse a child?
Sorry for what happened to you. Hope you are now okay and proud of yourself.
Sorry to hear that, hope you're doing well now
Gary Neville is a legend on and off the pitch. To facilitate the conversation like this with Dele, to make him feel safe and comfortable when he's putting his demons out there is nothing short of special
Well said.
It's a brilliant interview. He gave Dele room to tell his story and didn't push too far. Well done Gary.
@darrentaylordigital
He’s a complete hypocritical knobhead
Was gonna put something similar gary really showed how an interview should be held
His nervous laughter is the ultimate in heartbreak. That's his (and many others) defence mechanism to cope in tragic times. We have to learn to laugh these things away, so that we seem "normal". It's the saddest part of all of this. Real respect for Dele (and to Gary for being so delicate and respectful) for doing this whole interview. I hope he gets better from here and I hope it helps many others suffering in similar ways. From a West Ham fan
By watching closely on body language Delle Alli curls his feet onto the sofar that shows how much sufferings he has gone through comparing with Neville posture am in charge. Good that Delle pour it out and Neville shows he cares.
Was the "from a west ham fan" necessary
@@swirl._.3 yes cause it shoes even tho the two teams are rivals(spurs and West Ham) he still feels compassion
@@swirl._.3its become the norm now 🤦♀️. People's way of saying 'even though you're an enemy on the pitch I can still be nice off the pitch'
I don't love it but it's not going anywhere🤷♀️🙃
@@TYSHAAA carry out the same energy you have on the pitch as off the pitch..don't be plastic now..don't be fake
I judged a book by it’s cover and now I regret it… Man’s the bravest FR I hope to see him play again🥺🥺🥺 He’s an aspiration
Stunning and brave 😅
*inspiration.
Nah, you just got bombarded by a toxic media. We all need to learn to read between the lines and ignore the MSM.
I did too man. Feel bad now. Hope he can turn it around. Brave guy.
Bro said aspiration 😂 How did you judge a book by it's cover if you can't even understand what's written on the cover? 🤣🤣
"I think if you let people in, that's the way they can hurt you the most in the end". God bless you Dele, I felt that. I pray for a speedy return back to your best, on and off the pitch. ❤
It's easy as a football fan to be detached from the real person behind the player. The vitriol and hate thrown at Dele from the media and fans has been atrocious. The bravery and strength he's shown to tell his story cannot be underestimated. Good on you, Dele.
I hope all the people who called him "lazy" and a "bad attitude" humble themselves a little bit. None of us know the personal lives of these players, so making judgements is a silly thing to do.
Absolutely agree, this is exactly why I never call a player trash, finished, horrible or whatever else derogatory. Footballers are people not fictional characters. Decent people treat each other with respect. In almost all comment sections of football related content, 90% of the comments are mean-spirited, immature and unproductive shit. Love the sport, hate the fans tbh
Absolutely agree with you, Dele is owed a massive apology
This makes that conversation he had with Jose take such a deeper meaning
"I don't know what is going on inside you and why you went from being so successful to up and down. Maybe it's something personal. Maybe you use to be an amazing professional and you became a party guy. I will never know the true answer. Only you can know that. But I just want you to demand more from you "
Indeed only dele knew....
My respect for Dele has gone up 10 fold, it takes a brave person to open up like this, well done and I hope he finds peace from his troubles
The fact that he got to the level he was a few years ago is nothing short of incredible considering the situation he came from and the childhood he had.
Do me a favour
@@robwood8331 Rob mate you’ll be remembered when your dead as a comment on a dele Ali video
@@Nocturnalanimalswatchout incorrect I'll be remembered for far greater than that. You would too if you took the time to wake up
You have no idea how the world works do you
He a real one for opening up and showing that mental issues can hit anybody, regardless if you are rich and successful. Dele, you are the man.
Not going to lie, this was proably one of raw and visceral Interviews ,I have heard in a long time.
As a Spurs fan, this cuts deeper as well. We all wish him well, and hope he finishes on the high ,he deserves.
Huge kudos to Garry, for that amazing interview , the sensitivity, compassion and gentle questioning, were exemplary.
“As a spurs fan” bro y’all needa stfu about that
@@Luiss409-init
I was on the edge of my seat when dele described how he got molested
Cry me a river mate
@@Luiss409- you dont have to ovary react like a twat
As a Gooner and a recovering addict of prescription opiates, this subject is way beyond anything:
Being human, honest, open and real! You cannot be your true self if you’re lying all the time.
Big respect to you for doing this! Peace ✌🏼
@@JoelJason-mf2deyou don’t wanna know. if you know, you know.
@onouphriosf acts of sodomy was rife in the 90,s
That was truly inspirational. Dele’s honesty and bravery is incredible and Gary’s empathy was awesome. Massive respect to both of them.
its playing the victim card. Its pathetic
@@BH-ui5ebhe’s just expressing himself😭. Do you know how much hate he’s had since his decline in football? ALOT. It’s not playing the victim card, it’s just him taking the world what’s up
@@VBAHMED Hes received hate due to him acting like a child. And now he's realised his career is in free fall and decided to play the victim card.
@@BH-ui5ebThe only thing that is pathetic is your comment, bud. Do you have the courage to talk about some of the things he did on national television?
@@CourageOfMyConvictions Courage! ha dont make me laugh! What amazing courage from a spoilt brat who has wasted his talent set a terrible example to kids and now will be lauded for his bravery in speaking up. He is playing the victim card in a last-ditch attempt to save his career and idiots like you believe him.
Wow this brought tears to me. I was sexualy abused when i was 8 and it wasnt until i was a teenager until i told someone. Thank you dele alli for speaking up it really helps me and others to not feel ashamed of it.
We all share in Delle's struggles. At 5 my dad was murdered in front of me, as a kid thought this would go away and pretended but haunted me for the past 25years and even now I still get nightmares of the same as a grown up. Stay strong Delle and anyone going through thesame,God's got you.🙋
Thats messed up man, Hope you're doing ok
I'm so sorry to hear about this 🙏 There are many trauma informed facilitators who will be able to support you in gently exploring and meeting that pain, should you wish to get support 🙏 wishing you peace!
Omg hope ur doing ok 👌❤
that's a terrible thing to witness as a forming memory :( i'm so sorry for your loss friend
I'm sorry bro
Going through what Dele went through and being able to talk about it and express his emotions and going through rehab on top of that is worth more than any trophy in football. What a man!
Good comment and everything pal but what on earth has miles done for you to put a big cross on his face?
are u suggesting that he got no trophy in tottenham ... Cause its Tottenham?
@@ata7654He’s not, but honestly it most likely is partially why 😂😂😂
Well said, agree totally 💯
Lads honestly who’s been dele few yrs ago and hot stuff and yrs on he’s nowhere and I understand it now
It’s not over for this guy. Stay strong
To slam on the brakes to a halt and stop this cycle shows incredible strength. To speak to the world and try and help others by facing your demons, while holding yourself with dignity, is on another level of strength and courage completely. Nothing but love, care and admiration Dele.
Incredibly sad, I cried throughout. Well done Gary for handling the situation so well. Hoping Dele gets back playing even better than before. He’s an inspiration.
Just saw someone getting mad when Gary touch Alli leg after the bit about molestation.
Me too I can't stop crying
Gary said, he wasn’t expecting that, I certainly wasn’t. I think it was a natural reaction, reaching out to someone in distress. We’ll have all learnt from that. I don’t think any harm was done.
Same here
Gary spontaneously comforting dele like that for me was possibly the most moving part of this entire interview. Such a tough moment for both men, palpable discomfort but gn behaved like a real human. If someone gets offended because someone else displays empathy, i find it’s usually because they don’t have enough
Huge respect to Dele. I did not know he had to endure this kind of struggles. Coping with all that while being a top-level athlete must have been terribly hard.
It must be definitely hard. If I had his money, I'd stop everything. However, since I'm grinding to makes end meet. That begins the push for me to get up and talk to people. Every basic things are difficult for me and required much more effort than people think it would be. Which is why telling people with mental illness to toughen up, shin up has opposite effect of what you wanted.
The struggle is unimaginable to average people. I don't wish this sort of thing in my worse enemy. Nobody should be going through this.
He will be acknowledged mostly for his bravery and rightly so. Incredible. But for me it’s the personal accountability he takes for his situation that inspires me the most. He never blames anyone despite an awful upbringing. I hope so so much he comes back to the level he once was bc he deserves it.
Because that’s the truth that gives you power. What a lad👊🏾
Couldn’t agree more. That’s exactly what resonated with me from this, exceptional young man ❤
Very courageous for Dele to talk about this, and appreciate Neville to be compassionate. God bless you Dele Ali
The thing is Gary is a guy who genuinely cares for Dele and other people. Glad Dele let us in to understand his struggles. He’s definitely impacting lives through this interview
That's a fact.. id rather Gary Neville interview me than Roy Keane
Gary is a sweetheart.
Champagne socialist
@@stenbergskij101 If you google, you’ll find he’s addressed that criticism plenty of times…but you probably know that and just choose to ignore it.
Yes Neville’s loaded, but it’s clear he backs up his politics in what he says and does. The idea that liberals with money should be martyrs and show solidarity by living in poverty is bollocks frankly. They should use their privilege and platform for the vulnerable and oppressed, and people like Neville and Lineker do.
The fact is you don’t get an interview like that from someone with a more right-wing outlook, because there generally is less tolerance, empathy and understanding of different experiences to their own, and the interviewee doesn’t reveal anything.
In fact, it’s almost certain that the right-leaning elements of the press were the ones ready to expose this story against Dele Alli’s will. Really pleased that he got his message across properly by speaking to someone genuinely decent and compassionate. If there’s anyone immorally after money at the expense of others, it’s the gutter press, not Gary Neville.
As an Arsenal fan, I have a new found respect for this guy. I hope he gets back on the pitch soon enough and shows us an even better footballer than we saw of him under Pochettino. I'm rooting for you Dele
well you said it , as an arsenal fan lol
Same here. I would acc like him to play for us
Dele, you've saved so many lives with this interview. Your an absolute warrior. There's alot of young men out there that need to listen to this. I wish you all the best in the future.
What an inspiration, it takes such guts to talk about such personal, traumatic events - you have helped me realise trauma is something a lot of us deal with even if you can't tell on the outside, thank you Dele for making me feel less alone
As he is only 27, if he makes this comeback to top tier football this would easily be the most incredible comeback in football history
Bro calm down wtf
R9 had 2 knee injuries came back won world cup and you talking about some besiktas player
@@ongbakvamoooo598go away.
Not really players have had cancer and come back
@@hughjarse4627innit like Eric Abidal didn’t play fucking golf boys, c’mon… still rate the fact he’s battling back even if he’s a blueshite, fair play
Beautiful soul, as a dad it breaks my heart to hear his upbringing I’ll be giving my boys a bigger hug tonight
🥺
your comments given me a pang you should be proud of being a dad who cares n can show such emotion
As a Spurs fan I’ll always love this man. And as a former addict myself, you can tell that he is 100% genuine and hits the nail on the head. We are all human at the end of the day and it’s nice to see an interview examining the human condition in footballers. Good job Gary,
Same. As an addict (and I mean generally, diagnosed as an addict per se.. so drink, drugs, food etc. It can be anything) it can last a long time. Took me 18yrs to kick worse addictions and still have some of the lesser ones.
Very very brave of Deli, and this is first step. Have to be on your guard not to relapse but this is huge step.
He’s very articulate and intelligent, he can conquer this in his personal life and professionally he can recover and get back to his best. I believe in him, there will be bumps in the road, important to reset and not give up. Long term fix, not easy.
Rooting for him, as a spurs fan he was amazing for Tottenham and can be again.
Same. Ive been addicted to a variety of drugs all my life. This shit made me reflect my own life and realize many things. Been clean for 7 months now.
@@lustwaffe9000keep pushing bro 7 months is huge!
@@lustwaffe9000I can't stay off chocolate for 7 months, you're a hero mate, keep going 👏
I'm 5 days clean and been through some of the stuff Dele is talking about here. Off to rehab in 6 weeks 😎
*Immense respect to Dele for having the courage to open up about his struggles. Seeing someone with his profile be this vulnerable about addiction and trauma is so powerful. His story will undoubtably inspire others going through similar battles to know they are not alone. Speaking up is brave. Seeking help is brave. No matter how hard things get, there is always hope. Dele embodies the strength it takes to acknowledge pain in order to heal. His desire to use his platform to connect with people and make a difference during difficult times is truly admirable. This conversation shines light on issues that are often stigmatized but so deeply affect lives. I hope it sparks more open, compassionate dialogue around mental health. Wishing Dele continued healing and happiness ahead. His honesty and empathy in this episode will stay with me.*
Thanks to Gary, and the Overlap team, for covering this. As a Spurs fan, Dele gave me so many amazing memories and it was so sad to see his decline. Proud of him for speaking out and addressing the issues he faced. Wherever he ends up, I hope he fully rediscovers himself and finds happiness!
The worst and the heartbroken side is that people just blame you and insult you without even knowing what you are going through. Get well Dele and stay strong.
Everyone goes through problems tbf. It makes sense
I hope Dele knows he is still adored by everyone at Tottenham. We will never forget how amazing he was for us, what a player and what a guy. Love you Dele.
We’ve got Alli, Dele Alli.
Came on against Palace and changed the game for us, wouldn't have gotten that result without him. Of course, he's not had much of an impact overall, particularly because of how our deal with Tottenham is structured and our limited finances, I hope Dyche can at least help him to find some sort of work ethic
I just don’t think you understand!
He only cost us 5 mil
Was better then Ozil
We had dele alli
@@catto1980palace fan here lol. That goal is the best I’ve ever seen at selhurst man, hope he can get the help he needs he’s absolutely unreal when it’s clicking and England don’t have another player like him
@@jamesandrews1545 he's only got 6 games to make an impact before we pay Tottenham £10 mil, which is why we loaned him out and why he hasn't played much for us, really unfair on him because we don't have the luxury to spend that, he ideally needs a fresh start somewhere with the right people around him and a club who's willing to put in the time with him
i remember his first champions league game vs real madrid at wembley.....the stadium singing his song for 10 mins after he missed a header for his hattrick...
My thoughts and prayers go out to Dele!!! As a man in recovery daily for 6 years now, I believe that he can recover!!! God bless him, his family and friends!!!!
I always knew something was up with him and he wasn’t just “lazy”. Takes courage to open up about everything and he’s going to help so many others by doing so. You can tell he’s a deep genuine guy, I’ve got a lot of respect for him
I got that feeling too. When he was talking to Mourinho on the Amazon show, I thought that something else was going on. You can see it in his eyes.
This is historic, Gary; Thanks for what you do. All behind Dele.
@@harrys1505grow up bro 😂
He isn't doing it for charity pal.
Historic? Don’t lose track of reality, buddy
@@Crashawsomeabsolutely is when is the last time one of the best talents in the country has conducted and interview like this
Big shout out to dele for having the guts to actually talk about his problem just a reminder we're all human
As someone recently out of Rehab for drugs and alcohol, I commend you on your bravery speaking out on your struggles. There is a stigma around addiction but when your in its grip, it can honestly feel like there is no way out. Well done Dele Alli and wish you all the best!
Well done in breaking the addiction cycle! Its a huge achievement you should be proud of!
I was in rehab for sex addiction, and it was a hard time, I would often turn round and knock cups from tables, and once as I turned around during a hard time I even accidently got my boner trapped in a womans foot long subway as she was about to have a nibble, she got quite a mouthful.
Keep going
Keep going!! You're smashing it xx
I hope it only gets better for you 💕
It doesn’t matter if his career gets back to the glory days or not. He has achieved so much more by opening up about this. So many people will be helped by this. What a bloke. 👏
Im proud of him icl
I hope he doesnt put pressure on himself to get back to the player he was , this will hopefully be a huge weight lifted off his shoulders and he can get help , the last thing he needs is the media putting pressure on him to be the player he was , he needs to enjoy football again first , without that he will just continue doing what he is doing. i sadly dont think he will ever be that Dele Ali we knew 5 years ago , but seeing Dele Ali back enjoying football and glimpses of his skills should be enough for the time being
He’s helped nobody with this interview🤣
Huge respect to Dele for sharing all that he's been through. He'll always hold a special place in every Spurs fan's heart 🤍
Well said buddy. I loved that he spoke to some of his Spurs mates before going to rehab. Would love to see him back at the Lane playing well.
@@terrymcc100 If he's going to give it a real go, I'd love nothing more than to have him back. He's always been a fan favourite and has unfinished business here!
Come home Dele, we love you, always have. Never wanted you to leave but could never understand your decline in football terms….but now it’s out….all credit to you, the strength you’ve shown in doing this is greater than any goal you could ever score. Be safe and happy Dele.
Facts COYS ⚪️
Fantastic but harrowing talk and it’s great to hear Dele sounding healthier and somewhat happier. You can tell he’s speaking from the heart and that he’s being honest and truthful. I hope this is the start of his journey back to full fitness and back on the pitch
Proof that footballers are more than just a performance or transfer fee. The fact that he opened up and told us all those heartbreaking, traumatic things about himself is incredibly admirable, I can't even begin to imagine how hard that was to do. I will be a Dele Alli fan for life after that, he's an inspiration. All the best for your career, but more importantly for you! 👍🏻
Completely agree.....We loved to see him play the game we loved🎉🎉
i totally agree i’m a diehard liverpool but i think i’m going to have to buy a dele alli jersey for everton after this
Would love to see you back at spurs. You are still a legend you were not lazy. You more than anyone kept popping up in the right place with the perfect skill and effort. Had to be a real reason that you came off the boil. Sometimes trauma in the past catches up. Time for healing and find true ❤️. Well done man. Let's hope your talents return to grace the pitches of England even as an Everton player.
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Joy and love to you. Don't try to recover alone. There are real people around to support and help you. Your future can be good, enjoy your God given gifts. Find the the depth in yourself that can now grow. Be an example.
@@duhbigweiner665that’s honestly the nicest thing I’ve heard today, putting aside tribe mentality to support someone in need
If he is remembered for this more than football, then that’s a far more worthwhile legacy! Well played Dele! ✊🏻❤️
Great comment... couldn't agree more... His words might have just saved (many) lives 🤞
Exactly. Totally agree
As an Arsenal fan I’m now rooting for Dele and hope he can find peace, irrespective of whether he regains his form. I think this interview will be a turning point for him and the game as a whole 🤞
why was it relevant for us to know that you're an arsenal fan? who cares?
Because we're rivals with spuds an hate spud player's lol on a football level
This guy now has my respect an I hope he kills it now ❤
@@kfn8997..you’re not a football fan are you son.
@@benjamincorbett your dad and I are very good "friends"
"as a guy who needs attention" you mean no1 gives a f what team u support
After interviews like this one, many people stay in a corner in their room taking breaths starting to believe on themselves that they can do a step to the light too.
Thank you Dele ♥️
As a Spurs fan I will always love Dele as a player, but today will always love him as a person! What he shared today was not only brave but also an inspiration to others that may find themselves in a similar position. Hats off to you Dele 👏🏾 🙌🏾 ❤
He's one of our own.
ahhhh
bring him home
I will personally cheer every single goal this lad scores for the rest of his career irrespective of club allegiance.... absolutely sending all my positive vibes to him on his journey to finding inner peace with himself
I’m completely taken aback by this interview. Having experienced how crippling and isolating mental illness can be, it really is inspiring to hear Dele speak so openly about his struggles and take so much accountability.
What a cracking young man. Would love to see him reach the heights that he’s capable of reaching. Come on Dele!
Also what I love about him is that he doesn't beg for sympathy. Pogba had a similar interview a year ago and he was like "United never trusted me. Mourinho was mean to me. The fans booed me. They all destroyed me"
Dele kept repeating
"Mourinho gave me tough love but he couldn't know and later he apologized
The media lied about me many times but I was to blame for that
Managers after Poch seemed fake to me but they were not actually fake. I just didn't want to listen to them because I wanted to close myself
Players tried to help me but I didn't listen
I don't want anyone to feel sorry for me. I'm the main responsible as I'm the one who made the mistakes. I just want people to understand where my poor judgment comes from "
That is true maturity
@@brandonayong5823 Exactly mate. Full credit to him for being so mature and accountable.
This is one of the most powerful interviews ever.
Dele can be proud of himself, what a great person!
Admitting vulnerability is not weakness. It's courage. Kudos Dele👏👏
Amen brother🙏🏽
Massive amount of respect for Dele and Gary for creating this space of vulnerability to understand where Dele has come from and what he's been through. He looks well onto the road to recovery and we couldn't be more proud of him. ❤️
Good on you, Dele. And Neville. ❤
@repentandbelieveinJesusChrist2 and yet unless youre a Roman Catholic youre going to hell...
Hello Bhai Sajjan, Big Fan❤
Good to hear it from Nepalese celebrity
@repentandbelieveinJesusChrist2
Gary’s line of questioning to me, a non native speaker, at times feels a bit too confrontational and doesn’t fit the setting. He could use different wording; ‘can you be more specific’ vs ‘could you elaborate on that’ just one example.
for dele to even make it to where he has from where he was... He's a winner
i wish one day he can make peace with his demons
17:58 straight tears. That breath by Gary Neville hits hard. Knowing someone you care for didn't have someone to protect them went they weren't able to protect themselves. 6-year-old needs someone to guard them always. A guardian is the most important role on earth.
You can see how much Gary cares about Dele. This will help so many people. Stay strong Dele.
How will it help you?
@@Crashawsome he said it will help people, not just him. Learn to read
One thing annoys me, people forget footballers are only humans. They have emotions.
What a man. He probably won't understand how many people this will help. Very very brave off him. Wish you the best mate!
“But the money!”
🙄
so true great comment
My deepest admiration! That‘s what you call a role model! Well done, Dele and all the best for your future from an AFC-Supporter from 🇩🇪.
The way Gary conducted this interview is absolutely brilliant. Massive respect to Dele
Every single preconception I had of dele has been completely changed. What an intelligent and sensitive young man. Hope to see you back at the top of the football world.
That’s good. But at the same time it’s a lesson to not be manipulated by the media and “pundits”. The same media that had everyone thinking Sterling was a menace to society.
My thoughts exactly.
100% agree. Amazing how a bit of empathy and compassion can completely change your viewpoint.
The addiction to numbing the pain during depression is such a disgusting cycle to end up in, I’ve been there and its soul destroying. I bounced back and dedicate my life to saving others for a career. I hope Dele turns it around too, I hope anyone reading this knows they can always turn it around no matter how low you feel you’ve sunk 💙
Dele alli is finished 😂
@@Oreo_5300 odd juvenile comment
@@Oreo_5300I hope you also get the help you need.
@@Oreo_5300 that's fucked up man. If that's how you navigate through life, you're going to be a complete failure, personally and professionally
I'm glad you were able to bounce back. May I ask what was key in helping you do so? "The addiction to numbing the pain during depression" is very, very real.
I’ve suffered exactly from the same problems all of my life. Thank you Dele for sharing with us your struggle. It was therapeutic. What a wonderful player and person. Hope the best for you!!
Trauma is trauma. If this interview gets people to understand the roots of their own addiction, that will be huge. Well done, Dele. You're amazing mate, big love.
Super brave to talk about that, and the impact positive and negative it can have for him . 🙏🏻
Gary really is a genuine and great bloke. The fact he has allowed Dele to tell his story, to everyone, every single football fan to understand his pain. This is so brave of dele and I’m glad he feels this can help other people. Hope you’re okay Dele, we’re all with you.
What’s the fact??
What any journalist would love this story Dele showed bravery.
To Dele, I knew you from a young lad playing at Milton Keynes. I supported you at Tottenham and became a supporter of the team because of you. I lived in Potterspury so knew a little of your background. Even when the press was bad, I supported you. I knew there was a reason. Children don’t get to choose the environment they are born into. I could have never imagined how challenging it was for you. Wishing you inner peace and can’t wait to watch you play again. Need something to look forward to now the Dons are in Division 2.
I don’t think I’ve ever wanted someone to succeed more in life than this guy now. If success is on the pitch that would be amazing - but just seeing him happy and healthy is more than enough. I’d love to see him on the pitch again though - even if it’s just so the crowd can show their admiration and support.
"I don’t think I’ve ever wanted someone to succeed more in life than this guy now" That is the whole point, if it wasn't for this interview he would have struggled getting a go at Wrexham, maybe I'm too hard faced but after covid I think it's clear a lot of people are soft in the head and easily led.
@@mrjones1696 Not quite sure I follow. For me, it’s nothing to do with life post Covid or people “being soft”. It’s been clear to me for ages that this guy was battling demons and, still, many people were quick to call him lazy or overpaid. All I’ve ever seen is a genuine guy who’s had issues - until now, we didn’t know what they were but he’s been brave enough to speak out. Maybe provoked by media threats of exposing him. But he told his story really well and I have loads of respect for his honesty. As I say, I’d just love him to succeed either on the pitch or just by being happy and healthy.