10 Ways ALCOHOL & DRINKING Ruined My Life!
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- 10 ways that drinking alcohol everyday for years and years ruined my life.
1. My Health
2. My Job
3. My Friendships
4. My Relationships
5. My Sleep
6. Trouble with the Law
7. My Eating Habits
8. My Memory
9. My Mental State
10. My Emotional Growth
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I stopped drinking and I’m happier. I finally started to lose weight and I have energy to explore my interests and hobbies outside of just going to a bar. Great video!
It's really about being the best version of yourself after going a 1 year I'm like I don't wanna be a beer drinker like those overweight white guys, I notice even more girls give me compliments since I have a clear look in my eye not waiting up hungover ever again.
righton!
Drinking allowed me to be outgoing in a world where my family was abusive. Moved to weed, less problems but still problems. After solving family issues I found I do not need anything but being productive to be happy now.
Hell yea
Sobriety delivers everything alcohol promised.
Oh, I love this! It is so very true. Going to borrow it. Thank you.
Nicely put
Brandon Novak said that best!
❤
SO TRUE
5 days no alcohol and I can’t lie. I forgot how good it feels to not be hungover.
I gave up drinking, and a few days later… heard gunshots and a window being broken a few doors down, heard a woman screaming that she was shot. In the morning I walked to my car and saw the broken window of a neighbor… and a bottle of liquor on the floor outside. It’s like god was showing me how horrible of a drug alcohol is that it could lead someone towards maximum violence. Good luck everyone, keep fighting for a better life ❤
My main regrets are health (nerve damage, chronic pain, not to mention shit like high blood pressure and I'll prob die sooner), but even moreso, I just let shitty people into my life while I was drinking and I let good people walk away. You tolerate much lower quality in friends if they're fun, and you will often find yourself sinking to their level. You might eventually find that you yourself have become the shitty friend. At the end of the day you are who you spend the bulk of your time with, and I wish I had made better choices.
A lot of folks are afraid to be alone. Then later, might wish they had stayed to themselves.
Facts
Omg... what I'm going through now! I used to be a solid person with morals and values, thought before I spoke and cared about people. I hang out with shit people now, am too numb to care about how I'm perceived and have become dumb and obnoxious. Uggh time for a change! Hope you're doing well!
I can totally relate bro!!
I'll be 2 years sober January 15th, 2023. Life is so much better.
I drank for 50 years.
Thank God, I'm still in pretty good health. Lost alot of weight too.
Life is good!!
Don't ever want to go back to those dark days...
Great video👍👍
I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU ANTHONY !!! THATS REALLY COOL🙌🏾🙏🏾
Dang bro you broke down everything on why I left drinking as well , 5 months sober
I’m done with alcohol and weed, quitting while I’m ahead.
alcohol literally makes my skin sag and gives me strech marks/cellulite if i drink for 2 days in a row. and it takes a week just to redeem myself from those 2 days. it's a heinous cycle
First time seeing your vids, man. I appreciate the message. I'm 34 years old and drank for quite a while myself. It's incredible what improves when you put down the bottle. 5 months sober, and I'm not looking back.
I’m at 32 ! Do you feel that with your improved health you feel more capable to pursuit your goals ?
Been struggling for 5 with my alcohol abuse. It's getting better, but I slip up from time to time and get into fights, get hurt or do something embarrassing I regret later. Don't drink kids.
just stop. say to yourself I am NOT going to do this anymore and then find a way to keep that mantra going.
bro you not alone trust i dealing with it too
The memories aren't being erased but rather were not being recorded because that part of the brain the stores and organizes memories was offline. I found that was pretty interesting when I learned that, the memory was never recorded in the 1rst place
Tim I think this is your calling.. the subject of sobriety really flows easily for you. Not to mention you’ve been my sponsor/ motivation for over 2yrs now. Thank you.. you’ve helped me fight through temptation so many times. I’ve been binge watching your videos all weekend for encouragement.
I support you too man! Really struggling to start living sober and these kind of comments encourage me.
Rasheeda, Jordan, you don’t need substances. My Aunt was a health food expert, and she said booze leaches vitamins from the body. Also wreaks havoc on the stomach lining. More power to you both.
Yes 🙌🏾
He has a way with words. I never had an alcohol problem, buti enjoy listening to this and the rest of his videos.
I cracked a beer and found this guy channel, with in a minute I poured my drink out..
I'm one week in I decided to stop drinking a week ago and I feel better already. But what made me make the decision to stop was I got into an argument with my neighbor upstairs and I said horrible things to her the next day I felt embarrassed and very ashamed I can't carry this embarrassment anymore it feels lonely and horrible.
good for you!
Being 66, I recall my “prime years” as being filled with friction. If someone insulted me, I had to fight back. Somehow, I developed this new survival skill. I just give a little smile and play the fool. I let other person rant, then get on with my day. Is a time-saver!
I went through the same thing. Personally I believe that losing certain friends, and even family members, is a blessing. Being drunk or broke or jobless or in jail/prison will let you know who really loves and cares about you.
Well hate to agree but most of all, the hard truth we all have to realize is the person who we really hate is the one we share a brain with.
Honestly this is the wrong takeaway lol. Caring about a drunk is often an abusive experience. They're taking care of themselves by leaving you. And tbh I've found the fun drunk friends typically disappear when you stop being fun and drunk.
@@joeschmidt8415 Whenever you see a comment that’s over a week old just fall back. 😂😂
@@carpediem4512 Yeah ima take advice from an abusive drunk ;)
@@joeschmidt8415 What are you talking about? 😂😂 Learn to distinguish between advice and a suggestion.
You addressing the boredom factor was such a breath of fresh air! For some of us drinking doesn’t necessarily fit the definition of an “addiction” but a habit, yet it still comes with most of the same consequences. Anyone on here want a sober buddy to chat with I’d be interested! Thank you, Tim!
Hey Jennifer hope your journey is going great ! Im just getting started on my sobriety let me know if we can talk would love a sober buddy to connect with !
@@enoc3400 definitely! I have been alcohol free since March first. I’ve resolved all my health concerns through dropping alcohol and sugar (both metabolized by our bodies in the same way, alcohol is just a step farther along than sugar and processed food) and my outlook has changed entirely. Life is so much better without the junk. We really underestimate how much all this garbage affects our brains and bodies through inflammation and hormone roller coasters. Dude, you won’t regret going alcohol free.
@@jenilynneful Thanks for sharing Jennifer that really is an amazing transformation! It is a challenge to get sober when almost all of our relationships have grown from drinking. But overall it must feel good to have discipline back in our lives. And those hangovers ! They are so annoying lol but I’m glad things are going great for you (:
This was me...working it out currently
One time I woke up naked in the backseat of someone's car... A complete strangers car in their driveway! One of my worst blackouts ever. Luckily the homeowner found me there incapacitated in the morning and was a relatively cool about it. He was actually more worried for me. And he should have been because I was completely out of control in my life.
Been there
Recently had an awful black out,I hate alcohol
Hey Tim! I work at a hospital and had to do 1:1 with a few people recovering from alcohol, both homeless and wealthy people. It's very sad...I so glad you have bettered yourself.
I also had a couple friends who depended on alcohol, were in denial, and I had to distance myself. I rarely drink myself (only special occasions) I'm glad you made positive changes in your life.
I almost relapsed about an hour ago after 28 days sober, the clerk at the gas station I used to be a regular at stopped me, I feel so weak, I didn't drink though so I guess I'm just gonna put in more work
Yo the point about not wanting to meet new people now, that hit home so badly. my drunken terrible behavior has me isolating from people. So many drunk hurtful things I said and did. Friends lost, relationships broken. Man, drinking is the fucking devil.
It's a spirit that takes over your body!!!!
im in the exact same boat. lost friends of 10+ years for things i did while blacked out. hurts when the thing ruining your life is yourself. i dont even know who i am when im drunk, i betray myself by hurting the people i love.
Tore my marriage/family apart. Husband abusive drunk. Lives changed forever.
The devil is the things you are drinking to oblivion for, which are unaddressed and often a person can be blind to themselves. Drink just brings the emotions those things cause to the surface through disinhibition.
This is such a great channel. It's exactly what ive been searching for on youtube - the stories of the experiences during the days of alcoholism, the recovery, and the reasons why you got sober. I never believed in going to group meetings - so these types of channels are my therapy
Me too. Real stories, real ppl. So we can relate and learn and empathize.
@@MsSheilaC 100%. Hope you’re doing well!
@@caesar349 Thank you! You as well :))
I have been sober since about 2013, never looked back.
You're very right Tim. You don't get out unscathed after years of drinking. I developed diabetes which I now have to deal with. Upside is that it did make me stop drinking, so there you are. Sobriety = freedom. I deeply love being sober and my new life. My problems did not disappear but now I can handle everything much better and the chaos and self-sabotage have left my life.
Wow! Tim you totally described my 30 yr drinking career spot on to a tee. I'm sober now 3 yrs & life's way better. You really kept it real in your talk & gave me a good laugh remembering when... Thank you for all you've done & do & stand for. Sobriety rocks true that. Bless up ❤
One time I got so drunk that I came home and got into a stupid argument on my part and decided to break my PS5. When I tell you how pissed I was when I woke up… Man!!! 🤦🏾♂️but now fast forward to a year it took me going to Miami with my boys recently to decide to stop drinking, now I’m going on a week of being sober.
Man.....thank you so much for this....you just told my story by telling your story.....I've seen so many self help videos on alcohol and none come close to this one.....this is as real as it gets.....
Ik this is an older vid but i lost a really good girl in my life from drinking bc i was too sick to hangout and i neglected her needs. She left me. It was devastating. I would throw up until midnight throughout the next day… literally the worst hangovers ever ive experienced. My hangovers last 2-4 days mostly. The puking hangovers last mostly all day. I need to stop. I can tell my body is just breaking down slowly 😔
Hi Tim I just wanted to thank you for your encouraging words about alcohol I staying sober I got 1 year and 3 months as of 6-6-2021 I see someone gave you 2 thumbs down if I could give you 1 million THUMBS UP I WOULD BECAUSE YOUR WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT HAVE BEEN A BLESSING TO ME IF YOU CAN TOUCH 1PERSON IN LIFE YOU HAVE DONE YOUR JOB TIM AND I FEEL BY TELLING YOU AND YOUR FOLLOWERS THAT YOU HAVE BEEN A BLESSING AND TO HAVE THE COURAGE TO SHARE YOUR DARK MOMENTS WITH THAT POSIN TIM I HOPE MY BEING ALCOHOL FREE I NEVER FELT BETTER NO MORE HANGOVERS CALLING IN FROM WORK THE BEST PART TIM I AM ABLE TO SAVE MONEY 💰💰💰 I KNOW THIS HAVE BEEN A LONG COMMENT BUT I AM VERY VERY VERY VERY HAPPY NOW AFTER BEING ALCOHOL FREE THANKS AGAIN TIM YOU AND FAMILY MEMBERS AND FOLLOWERS YOU CAN QUIT ALCOHOL TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME LOVE YOU GUYS ❤️
I recognized I have a food addiction (use it for a crutch) much like some use alcohol. Working through a program now. OMG, its been such a relief and I feel genuine hope for the first time. Thank you for sharing your story.
Started on new year. Have to stop because alcohol messed up my digestive system to the point i couldn’t digest anything and had serious ibs problems. I have no choice but to quit. Wish me luck guys
Good luck David! I know we talked already but I wanted to offer you some more encouragement. You got this brother!
How are you doing?
I can really relate to you're experience. I didn't start drinking until I was 26,I'm now 32 and I just can't handle my drink. I never know when to stop and the amount of awful mistakes I made from drinking makes me feel dreadful. I say everytime,never again yet the following week something will happen and I'll relapse and cause more issues from blacking out or drinking too much and saying things I shouldn't. I tell myself it makes me feel better because it takes me away from all of my traumas but its causing so many problems for my close family I need to stop and deal with my traumas and grief in a different way before it's too late to change my ways
I know exactly what you’re going through Sophie. And how tough it is, and how painful it is after another episode of drinking to much and embarrassing yourself. Please know that you can over time get your drinking under control and take your life back. You can be proud of yourself instead of dwelling on the mistakes. It takes time, and it’s hard work, but it’s definitely possible. Please keep fighting, at 32 you have so many awesome years of life ahead of you, and once you get this under control you will be able to live those years to the fullest. I’m praying for you, hang in there!
@@TimothyWard thank you so much for the reply. It can feel so lonely when you're stuck in this rutt. I'm so far 4 days alcohol free,I know it doesn't sound like a long time but it's a start. I lost my grandfather and brother suddenly within 6 months of one another last year and it just worsened for me. I couldn't handle the fact my brother was gone and having no answers made me worse as he passed on his 40th birthday and I was with him just 5 hours before he was found so I couldn't accept it and I still haven't tbh with you. I just hope I can gain back control and move forward without thinking a bottle will help me through. Take care Tim you're a great guy! Much love from Wales UK
0 for 6 in relationships....all unforced errors....that does suck.....though I cant imagine you being drunk or mad or aggressive....you've grown and evolved so much....much respect to you....💯
The effect on others is profound. Friends, spouses, parents, children. This was better than Alanon. Thanks for this Tim.
31 and happily quit drinking all together thanks for sharing
Maybe my story will help somebody out there. I’m 17, but have only been drunk about 10 or 15 times in my life. Last week, I made a complete ass of myself in front of several close and mutual friends (about 10 of us). It was my buddy’s birthday, so we went deep in the mountains out camping and of course, there was alcohol involved. And I mean, a lot. I told them “yeah I don’t really drink. I might get sorta drunk tonight”.
Well, your boy ended up taking 4 shots of Vodka (skinny guy and also have a low tolerance) and was easily the most drunk person there. I was laying on the ground screaming in pure excitement. This girl had to escort me back to my tent. Even though we were all extremely drunk and they were dying laughing at me in my drunken state, with us all having fun, it was still extremely embarrassing for me the next day. I didn’t blackout, but there were plenty of things I didn’t remember until It was told to me afterward. Seeing the videos of me in such a state where I had almost no regard for anybody’s opinion of me is quite scary honestly. I haven’t heard from most of them since then. Granted, it’s only been about a week and a half at this point. The lows probably outweighed the highs in the end. I would’ve had fun sober. Never, ever getting anywhere near that drunk again. From now on I’ll be that one guy who’s just a little tipsy.
Just left my first meeting. Hi Tim. Rockford, IL
You look familiar seen ya around jumping joes
Melissa, congrats. The more important meeting is the next one. Did you go back? Sending love and light for your recovery
@@truckersmitty not me. :) Rockford IL
@@5thdimension625 I did!!! 6 days sober today
Bravo, Melissa! You deserve a medal.
Awww that woman u were with for 4 years will hopefully come back around! I would tbh, and I’m 25 and these stories really are a wake up call for me. The dui risk scares me enough to not want to drive drunk again
I was losing weight not eating going back and forth to the doctor feeling like my life was skidding out of control. Got help and realized all the perceived health issues were in my head. The alcohol had me trippin! My skin stopped itching no more night sweats or anxious feelings cause my body thought it needed a drink. I forgot how it felt to wake up fresh with energy and focus for the day. I’m coming up on a year in July and I’m proud of myself. I can still kick it with folks and not drink but still enjoy the moment. This from someone who was ALWAYS on one but you wouldn’t know it. Feels good to be me again. I wish you all peace and strength on your sobriety journey 👊🏾
Congratulations! You did it!
Amazing story, Dre. You’ve been to hell & back. Sounds like you faced things head-on. Bravo!
Still watch this as a reminder to keep going. Thank you Tim. .."One drunk night" is all it takes to derail so much good momentum and blessings in our lives. #TGIF #Blessed
I have not drank for five years and I had a lot of similar experiences. My mind was very affected by alcohol when I was drinking, which in turn, affected my friendships and relationships. Thank you for sharing your story!
Man the 2nd point you made was like “pow!” For me- I feel that way EXACTLY! still introverted to this day because of the stupid crap I did ruining friendships
Hey Doby, time is your friend. You can forgive yourself now that you’ve matured.
There is nothing quite like that moment when someone mentions something that triggers a memory from when you blacked out. I just got to a point where I told people, "stop right there! i don't wanna know"... lmao ... hahaha my sense of humor had to get real dark and i had to completely shed my sense of shame to handle some of the things i did. in the long run, that part of the end result is great, but i could have taken way healthier and safer roads to get here.
Hey Tim, I've decided to quit drinking recently due to waking up and having no recollection from the night before, your videos are helping alot, thanks very much 👍
The truth is inside you..alcohol creates more anxiety than it does help. Don't have to spend all that money** great quote
Tim your transparency is a godsend you wouldn’t believe how many people can relate to what your talking about. The shame the embarrassment is enough to make you want to go hide. However as I’m watching you I don’t feel alone in this anymore. I am so thankful the urge to drink is finally gone. I can walk by it in the grocery store and keep on strolling. I no longer run to it as a coping mechanism for my life issues. Thank you again and again Tim for being honest and open and encouraging us all to walk away from what is not serving us or making us better. 🤗💕
I just feel very blessed to be able to use my story to help others. It feels like to ultimate 'diamonds out of coal' situation.
@@TimothyWard ooo I like that it! Well said!
I can totally relate to the ruined relationship thing. That's a painful one, once you realize it.
Man. I can relate so much to you. Specially the not knowing how to go about a relationship. Almost four years sober and I’m still learning (39 y/o).
Mann thanks for being brave enough to share your story Tim. I'm 6 days sober and I'm pretty sure I'm DONE with drinking as it has "ruined my life" so to speak as well
This is a great video. I can relate 100% with the same problems. My three year relationship just ended due to my alcohol problems. Im so distraught, but all I can do is grow
Best of luck for what ever lays ahead in the future.
im going through this now i feel that this video was meant for me thank you for this
Quitting drinking for me was paramount in my mental health. It took me a long time to really quit, I would quit for a year and then drink for a few months, and then not drink for two years and drink for a month - now I don’t. I’m so much happier!🎉
I’m so glad that you stated right away that it hasn’t totally ruined your life and that you feel like you have a blessed life. So many people are in the same boat as you, or what was you and feel like there’s no way out. There’s always a way out. Keep taking care and thank you for being an inspiration for me to move on to the seasonal work. I am about to embark on a whole new life and I’m so looking forward to it!
6 weeks of travel to “detox” from my current life coming up and I know that cleansing period will be vital to moving forward. Honest, candid people like you help others to get right💕
Thanks Tim! For being honest about your story. Its good to know that Im not alone.
HI my third vid of yours today I was searching for help and you hit my heart with your honesty and no blah blah stuff just real this is my third time letting go of the alcohol only day one in .. I related to everything you shared thank you Tim ❤️🇳🇿🇳🇿🇳🇿🙏
This is a certified classic
Great work! I'm 34 and I'm working on my sobriety. Your videos are hitting great points and I can relate big time.
Your honesty is wow!!
You facing all that and being honest with yourself and owning and letting it sink in and face like that is gonna heal your soul and elevate you to the next level!
Again I 💯feel you! You are like playing my record with this…
I totally feel you!!! You are not alone!!
I truly believe after just watching a couple of your videos…Good things are coming your way!! You are learning to love yourself!! and move past all that terrible shame👿the worst!!! and whatever trauma you were trying to work through with alcohol before..and when you are ready and want to you’re gonna find the partner you want going forward! I see it!! You are in yourself
It's crazy how many parallels you and I have in our lives Tim. Thanks for sharing. When I listen to you I feel like it's me talking to myself.
Messed up a potential relationship from doing the whole drunk texting thing. So I drank even more until I suddenly stopped and then came the withdrawals which at that point I decided it was time for it to go. Sober me wouldn't have messed up.
I got a DUI, but got it reduced to reckless, so I learned from that, still cost me a lot of money and time. It's a stupid habit that just takes you in circles.
I’m new on this journey, two weeks in. Been binge watching lots and lots of videos on TH-cam and I just found you. At first I was going to go 90 days but very soon after I decided to make it a year minimum.
The one consistent comment long-term sobriety posters make is that while FOMO is real, from what I can tell it never pays off. Having that drink after many months or years never feels as good as we imagine it will, or ‘remember’ it. For me that’s the most powerful lesson so far.
Looking forward if I do come to a time where I’m tempted I will just remember that it wont be worth it.
Sorry for the long winded comment.
Bro watching Leaving Las Vegas got me straight!!!!!!!! Thanks for your tip to fill up on water. Genius!!! Do a video of how you felt in early sobriety please
Chas, ur right, that movie showed the degradation. Life’s hard enough,eh?
@@rubyparchment5523 Not just in him either but Elisabeth Shue too!!! Maybe those things were due to happen but her life seemed to be somewhat stable and solid until she started toiling around with him.
I absolutely love your transparency. I am also CLEAN and, sober. More clean than sober because I was not really a drinker. However, drinking led me to other things. I absolutely Love You Timothy Ward. You continue the hike. The sky is NOT the limit for if it were there would have been no footprints found on the moon!
I’ve just discovered your channel and I’ve been watching a lot of your content over this week.
How weird that someone at the other side of the world that I’ve never met is being such a good friend to me.
Thank you for your courage to share and openness, warmth and joy.
I feel hopeful and centred 😊 ❤
Nice to meet you Elizabeth! Welcome to the community!
@@TimothyWard Thank you 🙏 I’m happy to be here.
Great video this helped me relate to a lot of those bad nights man thank you... gonna give it a go at sober again before I turn 30 soon.. it’s time!!
I’m about to turn 29 and. Yes it’s time
Domt set an age to do it. Am not jus alcohol anything anything you know you have a problem with. Do it NOW. the longer you wait the harder it gets. Jus a thought from someone who did the "I'll stop before I hit this age or that age". If nothing else atleast start trying now. Bc atleast from my experience an those I know with dependence issues alcohol or whatever it's not an overnight thing. So if you start at at 29 bc you think you'll be OK by age 30, you might just find yourself not being sober by 30. Not preaching by Ant mean take it as a grain of salt. But keep it in mind.
I'm sober 4yrs7months and it sucks truly, 49yrs old I have a son who has 4children I had dangled in video, nobody's interested even trying get know me again I'm sober and that's it nobody deserves alienation from children and grandchildren and family asking why I'm sober why I'm here nobody responded I don't know what to do bi polar disorder and depression and suicidal symptoms I don't want be alone my kidneys are bad but nobody's around it scareing me but keep it inside I just wish it would end
Jackie, I can relate to family estrangement and kidney disease. (I’m 66, so past midlife pressures.) Diagnosed with kidney failure ‘11. Everyone turned their backs on me. Each one got 1 day of crying, then I accepted that they were gone. A “click” effect. (It’s trendy now to blame folks for being sick.) Started eating these salads with gyro meat, just that, 1 a day. 7 years in bed. ‘18, tested normal. Downsized and moved. None of “those people” have my address, phone, nor fb. Repeat after me: Eff Them. Early ’21, got Covid, which attacked kidneys. Hired a Bangladeshi Helper who calls each morning to ask what I need that day. Nobody criticizing, demanding, being ungrateful - life is so good now.
Great talk. Maybe you should consider doing a talk like this at schools. In school we were taught the negative effects of alcohol. However none of those talks came from people that have been there and have done that. The advice given at that time didn't even seem real. Seemed like it came from a perspective that it only really happens to other people. The level of detail you gave in this talk covers alooooooot of bases. If perhaps a young person don't take your advice right away, should they run into any of the points you covered, they may turn the tide and be able to self reflect before they do REAL harm.
Thank you for sharing Brother, appreciate U
We are with you Brother 😊
You should really be proud of yourself and I’m sure an inspiration to many thank you for sharing
Thank you for being open and transparent.
I started my sober journey when i was 27(32 now) Was sober 3 years and then got back to old friend and it didn't take long for me to start drinking again. Have tried to quit multiple times. 4 months sober, had drink again, 3 months sober and fell again... i'll keep trying til i quit.. alcohol is disgusting. It's time to quit forever. Not worth it at all.
You are articulating my life. I love your service to us afflicted.
😂😂 I love this stream, and it's nice to meet you. I'm 46, and I've been training my body to be AF for a couple of years. I conquered, not drinking and driving years ago✅️ Conquered going out and not drinking at parties last year. Now I'm a consecutive 9 days clean from not drinking at home✅️
I was a nightly tequila girl. Quick pint, and I'm good. Feels so good to be free of that life. The next goal is to write the benefits of not drinking book and helping others. I love your streams, so you are now my new gym friend😂😂 because now it's time to give up the alcohol free drinks at night as well. Time to switch up routine!
Letsgoooooooo🥳🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️
Thanks for being up front and raw. I can relate to many things you said!!
Man, you are telling some truths here.
This is really good and every single point I agree with. Especially the sleep part and affect on my mental health. I'm one of those people that alcohol triggers anxiety and depression in me.
I knew it all along, but for years, I couldn't bring myself to quit because I thought it was my only way of being social because i am shy and introverted. This is the big lie that pervades in society that you need alcohol to make friends. It's simply not true.
Very nice and kind of you to share those downs because of the alcohol in your life, Timothy. Thank you, you're courageous and kind.
Love this guy. Your hilarious and wise. Great combination. I’m 30 years old and struggled with alcohol really bad for about 5 years now. I keep quitting and relapsing. Getting back to it again today. I WILL successfully quit for good 🏆
You got this brother! Keep fighting!
This is one of the most truthful talks i have ever heard..the things you are saying are stuff whats happened to me but im too much of a wuss to admit..even to myself. Alcohol is just vile its destroyed me i keep relapsing every few months and continue to ruin my life after building peoples trust. Im seeing my doctor tomorrow i need some sort of medication to literally stop me drinking i have zero will power
Thank you for your sheer honesty its a breath of fresh air
All my love from marie .
.from liverpool in the united kingdom ❤
Good luck Marie!
I so agree with all your points dude, I'm sitting here nodding my head going yep and yep and oh yep that was me too!
Bro. Losing friends because of alcohol. Dealing with all these social dynamics... They give us the wisdom that makes us who we are. We understand things that on a level that most others will never get to experience.
It's all part of the journey. I was blessed to stop drinking out of necessity when I was 25. Even though I did a good amount of damage to my life. It taught me a lot of things and made me who I am. I am blessed for those experiences and reference points
Wow, what a powerful message man... keep on keepin on...
This video was very hard to get through I had to pause it throughout. Each and every point he hit, I went almost exactly through that and thought the same things verbatim. Wow, its comforting to know it wasnt just me but at the same time it hurts to be reminded or shown my blind spots for in each category of mess ups Ive accumulated over the years.
My first DUI wasnt even as bad as compared to what has happened since then (2018) to now.
My ultimate embarrassment is leaving or getting fired from jobs because of my drinking. Second, blackouts and knowing my neighbors probably know I have a drinking problem. 3rd, I cant go to certain hospitals anymore anytime I hit severe withdrawals because they recognize me as soon as I walk in.
Shame wise, it would always be family and good relationships ruined because of alcohol.
Thank you for this vid, It was cathartic to me to hear someone lay it out like you did. Keep it up sir, you're doing a great thing.
That was some REAL talk, thank you for opening up like that 👌
great channel tim. So far this has been the most in depth channel about drinking Ive seen on youtube. You hit every aspect of the drinking lifestyle right on the head. It takes a brave guy to come on a platform this big and share your stories. so many people have stories they want to forget with drinking many people wont admit to. the money spent on duis, car impounds, waking up stiff and paralayzed smh
I’m glad my videos could be helpful to you. And it definitely makes it easier to live with all the crazy things I did while drinking if I know sharing the stories can help others lol
Ill stop...its getting out of hand...Feels like you are telling my story seeing my past
See my cocktail substitute comment. God bless.
This is great!!!!!!!!!!!!! love the honesty!!!! i cant stop laughing, but this is so real , you make me love youtube, this is such a healing in a comical way!!
I'm so happy for you and your sobriety, you're a leader to me
Wow…. Here in England the police would NEVER just let someone get away with being drunk & driving…even if you weren’t obviously drunk and were just over the breath test limit. They literally have zero tolerance. My brother got arrested for drunk driving about 15 years ago… when my parents found out they said “Oh, we always assumed it would be Bex that got in trouble for something like that!! 😏 …Thanks Mum, thanks Dad! 😂
I like the term ‘setback’ rather than relapse . I havent had one, but if I do that’s how I will think of it
Today's day 11 of being dry. Went to a bar both yesterday and the day before.
Last weekend, I visited my parents. They had a glass of wine with the salmon. I stuck to sparkling water.
Day before was pleasant. Told him I quit before meeting up. Friend had a beer while I was having a coke. "Long" time no see catching up and shooting the breeze. Went home alcohol free and happy about it.
Yesterday was a bit different. Went to the bar with another friend I hadn't seen in a while. Told him I quit before meeting up. He had already had 2 bottles of wine before we met up, he told me when I got there and he was sipping some cocktails. He ordered another one. Then ordered 2 because he forgot I quit. Then ordered a beer. Then got cut off by the bar tender who also is his coworker. He was still pleasant but started to get a bit tired.
Went to another bar for the last hour before they close at 10 with the restrictions. Had another beer and started to feel tired. Then ordered another one while I was in the loo.
When I came back, he was sleeping on his chair with a fresh beer before him. Woke him up and he started drinking. 10 minutes later, the bar staff started to get ready to kick the clients out (cops check etc). He was sleepy and aggitated by that point. Had a solid swig of his beer and started foam barfing. I took him out because even his friend the owner was starting to get fed up.
Took him to the bus stop at the arm so he wouldn't fall on his face. Missed the buss because of some drama he was causing, afterwards he would take the same bus half an hour later to sober up at my place.
I leave him at the bus station while I cycle home. Bus passes but he didn't get off at the stop at my place. Sent him a text if he missed the bus. Got a text back 20' later that he's home.
All of this time, I was sober as a rock.
Three weeks ago, the 2nd dude passed drunk at my place when I had had a couple beers and it was pleasant to see him, even though I had to keep reminding him to be quiet for the roomies at past midnight.
I'm proud I kept sober on both occasions. I'm convinced it is poison. Ethanol is the only alcohol that will not kill or maim us instantly, unlike e.g. methanol causing blindness to death.
Alcohol is starting to become a filter. The level of stupidity in certain people under influence didn't change, but sober me is starting to notice.
The good thing is it strengthening my resolve to just keep dry, the "bad" thing is that I see I will need to break with people. Sad as it may be, there are relationships based on alcohol and even relationships where that is the entirety of it...
Thanks for keeping at it, Tim. It took me a while to act on what was eating me and you definitely helped (to speed it up)!
Diet sodas are keeping me away from that devil piss
Are you still sober
good for you!
Amen, Wim. Socializing is for the birds. I haven’t set foot in a bar in 14 years.
Tim you are amazing. I really appreciate your truth, honesty, blunt real talk because it’s needed. My boyfriend suffers and just hearing you speak about this makes me feel better I guess it allows me to keep hope alive because Tim is living his best life lol but your greatly appreciated.
Thank you so muchhhhhh for this video!!! I’m starting today.
Fabulous. That was my story. I’m sober 1 plus years.
Congratulations on the year+ of sobriety Derrick!!!
Timothy Ward you have been a blessing to me more than you know sir. Your videos on drinking are very helpful
Dude u give me hope
@1:53:00 And THAT is exactly why I don't go to parties or clubs. As an introvert, inevitably someone asks me what's wrong or if am I okay. So frustrating! And anxiety-provoking. I look around and see folks just sitting there like I am, so why is it a problem when I do it? Gave up on that stuff a long time ago XD
These videos been a big help I'm a little over a month now. I'm about to be around friends it might get harder. I've been around people sober before though this isn't the first time I quit.