thats exactly what happened to me, sadly: my father never showed real interest in me until he married his wife. they did end up getting custody of me: ive been no contact with him for 6 years now.
That was my case too. He and his whore only want our 35 years of marital assets$ which they got and I got full custody of our 15 yr old. He died a few years after the married and his probate case was under seal so our son got nothing from his father's estate. His divorce lawyer was also a Legislator on the Judicial Committee for 20 years so he was ABEL to hand pick the Judges$ in our divorce and he fought for full custody which the father and his girlfriend didn't want. Congre$$ has minion over Judges$ comPENsation and perks$ and why it is against Constitutional Law for anyone to work in 2 offices aka as an officer of the court and as an officer in the Legislature = corruption byway of the BAR CLUB$ ... that infiltRATed and took over ALL BranCHES$ and lEVEls$ of gOVERnMMEnt = corruption ... JuDas$ JuDges$ are the HEAD of the BEA$T whilst CONgre$$ is the BODY" of the BEA$T because the BAR CLUB$ are the power$ that be of goLIAth LIArs$
How do you figure. he's the one shelling out cash for a lawyer. he'll never make that back in child suppory from her. if she is committing fraud she is probably doing other shit
She already had primary physical custody while she was with that long-term boyfriend; she wasn't fighting for custody. Now she is fighting, but it appears she's not in a relationship. Dad's married, so that will probably work to his advantage, whether or not it should, considering he must have been dating this woman at some time while he had his custodial time as well. Funny how history can be rewritten. Single people date and single parents use babysitters; but walk into family court and watch it be portrayed as irresponsible or unstable.
@@catherineeckstein2705 You're right, that should be the case, but it's not when it comes to a custody case. When you get family court involved, everything's their business, and by extension, the opposing parent. Dad dons the cloak of the respectable husband while mom's made to look unstable because she dares to date or live with someone or use a trusted babysitter. Just look at some comments here; too many people fall for this narrative -- half of them have probably been single parents themselves, dated, used babysitters, and don't have a totally clean past. It's amazing how people forget their own past and struggles while they judge others in comments sections. :)
@@catherineeckstein2705 legally speaking, it is when a child is involved. Because that child will be around whoever is in the moms life. This is why the court can make a ruling that no one of the opposite sex that is not a relative or married be allowed around that child. Not sure if you’ve ever dealt with child custody… but this is a common thing and for a good reason. What if the mom was being abused in front of the daughter?? Or worse, the daughter being abused by the moms boyfriend?? It most definitely is his business. And the same goes for her if the shoes were reversed
Exactly. I refused to even try to date anyone until a year after breaking up with my ex and winning full custody of our daughter. My daughter needed to have the stability first
Bigen, it's really surprising that Dad's attorney and the Judge felt they had to ask the Mom if she minded Dad's current wife was in the room listening to the hearing .. she is going to be a testifying witness, and should be sequestered from listening to the hearing until after she testifies. This is already starting out ridiculously. If nothing else, the Judge should know better; he should be the one enforcing the law, not questioning it.
No...I disagree. Even if she testifying later, the current spouse doesn't need to be in the proceedings making little comments and jabs at the mother of the child. Been there, done that. The current spouse usually only knows one side...what the husband shared and that may not be an honest report.
I HATE when they say the “stepmother” is dynamic and has a job at home and can be there for the child. The stepmother is not the child’s mother She may be a good person but she’s not the mother
True, but if she's a good step-parent and a good advocate for the child, then she deserves respect for that, too. My son's Stepmom helped us raise him, whether I liked it or not. When she gor pregnant, I shut down any and all animosity, and we *all* got along for YEARS. Seriously, my son's little brother never knew that we *brawled* in the streets like trash, back in the day! He just installed my new bathroom sink, in fact. I told him, "See? My evil plan worked! I was NICE to you, and now that I'm OLD you're totally taking care of me, bwah ha haaah!" But MAN did I used to *despise* his Mother. Made her sit in the car for 3 years at drop offs! I should've had her in for coffee, talked about my son, COMMUNICATED, and most of all I should have *thanked* her for being SO damned *good* to my kid, regardless of his Dad and I's horrible animosity. Now THEY'RE divorced, Stepmom is on a spiritual awakening in India, and the Ex just completed their gender reassignment surgery,. NOW, THEY want me to hate the Stepmom for "abandoning" her. NOPE!! Suck it up, buttercup! Lol, I must have made it look easy. IT WASN'T, and she'd best swallow that pride when we get Grandkids, or she's gonna miss OUT!
As of now mom seems like she’s doing all the right things. I believe her when she says the dad is trying to control the situation and didn’t participate like he was supposed to in the past. Looks like his wife or gf is with his child when he’s not around. I get her point that she should be able to get help with childcare from her landlords that treat Emma like a granddaughter
Really? They're *strangers* though. They could have ulterior motives, taking in a desperate FELON and young daughter, Emma is better off with her Dad than *this* FLAKE. The Flake seems to be the one trying to control the situation, putting her feelings above what's *actually* BEST for her daughter. She just doesn't want to pay child support! She LIVED off of it for years, now that the shoe is on the other foot, she's the one who's a deadbeat full of bs excuses! I waa a single Mom, and you'd better *believe* I kept my butt out of jail, too!
The mother came off quite well to me. If what she said about her ex-husband is true, she should have primary custody, but I am reserving judgment until I hear the entire story. Interesting hearing PCB. You either find or receive some of the most interesting cases for us. 👍💗💓💖
After the judge gave his ruling and the father response about the mom can have her??? Really. That just solidified my thoughts on the father….he only wanted the child to control the mom/his ex
The attorney is really trying to make Wendy look as bad as he can. I believe her more than the attorney. He’s playing dirty I just want to scream ASKED AND ANSWERED!! Every time he asks her the same thing over & over. Attorney is so concerned about Emma being on mom’s health insurance but isn’t concerned enough for dad to have her on his insurance. Dad hasn’t paid child support but attorney isn’t concerned enough to make dad pay.
So far, even with the police record, I’m leaning towards the mother’s side. She’s handling cross exam very well…not getting angry, only making a few remarks. None of the situations the lawyer described should keep her away from her child. There is no parent who has emergency daycare 100% worked out. People figure this stuff out on the fly, and it doesn’t mean you are a bad parent. On the other hand, some of the father’s lawyer questions to her are pretty inflammatory.
My only quibble with the attorney's opening statement was his seeming dislike that the mom had the person she's staying with take the kid to school. Mom ensured the kid got to school. I don't think it matters if she took her or had a friend do it. She got the kid to school. As long as the kid was on time, I don't see a problem
@Lulu Jac does your ex not knowing your friend mean your friend can't take your kid to school? Would I let someone I don't know take my kid? Not if I had my kid in my possession. Would I be upset if my ex tried to tell me someone I knew and they didn't couldn't take my kid to school? Yes, because that's an unreasonable request. Do I know everyone my ex knows? Do they know everyome I know? No... and therefore I don't get to dictate who they have around my kid, generally. Specifically, there are obvious exceptions, but just because I don't know a person doesn't mean my child's other parent doesn't know them as well. If they know the person and I don't, which is the situation here, unless there's a specific issue, one parent doesn't get to dictate who the other parent has in their kid's life. I'll give you an example of why this is BS: Mom has a kid with her ex. Mom's sister is married, and sister's husband, the child's uncle, has been around the kid 8 of the 9 years she's been alive. Mom's husband gets sick and has to go to the hospital. Mom asks her brother in law, the uncle, to watch her kids while she takes her husband to the hospital. Dad doesn't know the uncle because they don't intermingle. Is it reasonable for Dad to be upset?
@lulujac9196 exactly. When a child lives with someone who isn't directly related to the child it puts that child extensively higher risk for abuse. No male should be driving her to school that isn't directly related meaning father, full brother, grandparents.
@leslie974 risk =/= actual abuse. By your definition, I shouldn't be able to be around the step kids I raised since they were 2 and 5 even though they are now 13 and 16. New people, absolutely. But this entire position is completely unreasonable for people, you know. You can't just go around assuming everyone is an abuser. Most people aren't. You take reasonable precautions in the beginning and then apportion your allowance to the trust you have in that person based on evidence. And people are abused by their parents more than any other group of people....
@Mewse1203 well even though I was raised with a stepmother and brother from a very young age. I don't remeber them not being around. I was still abused by both. So it doesn't change the statistics that anyone that is not directly related to the child, statistically raises the chance of being abused for the child. Now as to my statement that no one should be driving the child...that was referring to the circumstances in this video alone.
If mother is able to alter her shifts to start later, and she works 40 hours/week she'll have similar issue in picking her up from school. Being a sole parent is difficult. Men tend to solve the problem by finding another live-in partner who also serves as a housekeeper.
Dad dont work so he shouldnt have no problem taking/picking her up. But his wife does yet they have a problem w moms housemates taking daughter? I liked that “gotcha” question. His lawyer seemed off on most of his clients bad history lol
Precisely so why does this lawyer seem to paint her in a negative light because she’s problem solving and enacting a “tribe” of people to assist her in the care of her daughter.
@Deborah Hershey Yes, I was very lucky in that regard. He provided financially for them. Unfortunately, he was mentally abusive and that is why I left him.
So far, mom sounds pretty credible. Dad's atty tried to score some points, but mostly fell a little flat. With dad's Show Cause for Contempt on unpaid child support pending, you gotta wonder if she might not be correct about why custody is being challenged now. But we've only heard from mom. Can't wait to hear what dad has to say.
I agree about this attorney.. it feels like he keeps repeating questions in a “gotcha” sort of way. Mom feels like she is being super candid - warts and all. Dads going to have to come up with something super duper to change my mind..
Never ever try to represent yourself! Always lawyer up. Her lawyer would have objected to her recent charges being entered onto the record and might have gotten it sustained.
I take issue with the whining about mom not dropping child off to school. There has been no question of the safety of any other person in the child's life connected to Mom... just whining that mom doesn't drop child off herself. It doesn't friken matter who drops the child off so long as the people that are around her are safe and dad never questioned that. He is just being petty and controlling and thinks he has the smoking gun with that issue and he doesn't. It's OK for stepmom to drop child off to school but man if I insist mom do it personally I can screw with her employment and if as a result her employment doesn't work out I can then further demonize her using the employment issue.
@@courtneyr6645 Yep ... new significant others get groomed ... to disbelieve "the X" among other things. They also get filled with horrific stories about how "the X" mistreats the kid(s). Don't worry ... she will figure it out when he is grooming her replacement and is spinning his stories about her.
@@kendraowen2841 Oh yes, I have firsthand experience with the ‘stories’. It got to a point where a simple conversation about the kids, about the need for stable coparenting, and wishing him well in his new relationship got turned into me apparently begging for him to come back, groveling, admitting I was wrong, and how my life is screwed without him. Never even happened, but it’s his story to his ex, who he convinced so thoroughly that I was the devil. I never even knew or met her, and she shared all the details of my horrible nature to anyone who would listen 😂 Poor thing had no idea the kind of habitual, pathological gaslighter that man was. I felt so much pity for her, that she got sucked in so easily. He’s a master at his craft, and he’s far from the perfect victim he portrays himself to be. But they deserve each other. She was cheating on him with multiple men and had a secret OnlyFans 🤣🤣
@@courtneyr6645 ummm…Were we married to the same a-hole? 😂 You just described my ex to a T. He had me stalked on fb by idk how many women (one for over a year b4 I knew she existed) bc he was telling every girl he met that I wanted him back. And told everyone he knows that he divorced me for cheating. Bahahaha. I divorced HIM for cheating constantly and being a grouchy a hole. He shut up about that when I made my divorce Filing (showing me vs him) as my background on fb. And he stopped telling all his new womens my name so they could stalk me. (I took my maiden name back so they usually can’t find me unless he tells them my name) He’s got more issues than People magazine and too much time to tell all about, but dang it sounds a lot like your ex. My sympathies, and also my congratulations on the divorce. My divorce was the happiest day of my life except for the birth of my children. 🎉.
@@Annie1962 what are saying? She should not have the kids, or the crime is not enough to keep the kid from her? I can see it both ways. She talked up her financial situation, but she would get child support and other help. If she really has a job I think she would be better off with her daughter and her daughter seems like a motivation. Also I didn’t like the father, casually seeing her after long periods. Idk but if the kid loves him shared custody seems right. I don’t know. Do you know what shared custody is like? I left with my mother and was happy.
Unless the child is abused. Parents deserve to share custody. Parents dissing each other for no reason, is immature. They don't deserve sole custody. My opinion.
Almost 15 minutes in, I’m screaming *BACKGROUND CHECKS*! All these nice people , the babysitters, the good samaritans/ex-minister who let her live in their home rent free & drive her daughter to school , unsupervised. Who ARE these people?
I don’t know but it’s hard to be a single mom and sometimes you have to rely on help. I don’t have an answer about her credit card deal but whatever. The lawyer is painful to listen to .
I didn't think I could win my divorce case, but then *usespy online* swooped in like a knight in shining armor. Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise saved the day. Thank you !!
So far I'm on moms side. She seems like she's trying to do the best she can and I have a question if what she says is correct, why does he owe back child support and why didn't he pick up his daughter for his parenting time when she was a small child. Does he only want her now so child support wouldn't have to be retroactively paid and because she's older and he is now remarried? Children need both their parents and this new wife is not nor will she ever replace mom, she will be stepmom and just like mom shouldn't have really trusted her bf with her daughter, women can abuse children that aren't biologically theres as well.
This mother is well prepared and maintained her emotions very well! I don’t know if I could have kept my cool. The questioning by the attorney was very condescending and it boils my blood that he was allowed to ask certain questions.
He's a prick. The only victim will be the baby, Mom he's not gonna do the right thing. Pull your hair up and pull your sleeves, he's a prick and I'm glad the judge seen it. He was big mad. Top of his head almost blowed off. He told on himself right there his reaction showed exactly who he is.
Say what??? She makes $21 an hour at Tyson Foods with a criminal record??? Geeez!!! Hotel housekeeping and maintenance staff who work their butts off only get paid about $12 an hour!!! No hotel could be in business without these workers ... they should get paid $20 an hour. Anything less than that, is not a livable wage!!! Also, when it's a slow season, their hours get cut in half!!! Guess, Tyson is at least taking care of "their" staff!!!
Ooooo this is was a cliffhanger cuz I can’t decide. I think the judge should just do 50/50 custody and use family wizard to coparent what’s the best thing for the child. Ok I have thoughts about moms jail term. Here’s what I think happened: Mom sounds like she had a bad break up with her live in bf. They lived together and they broke up… but she was still living in the house with the exbf and even tho they were broken up she still treated things no different than before, as if they were together, like he was supporting her financially. and then BAM he reported she used the card without permission. The moral of this story is if u break up with your partner do not expect continued use of their credit cards without permission. That’s my hypothesis on the jail situation. That’s what I think happened On to part 2
This attorney is asking such irrelevant questions and questions that are not easily answered. She JUST moved into her spot and what does it matter if she has her own place or rents from someone else. Or if anyone helps her financially?? It's a cheaper situation for her. What does that have to do with her ability of being a mother. Theres a reason theres a mother and father create a family because they work TOGETHER. Then all of a sudden after a breakup a single parent has to do everything alone. That's ridiculous to expect anyone to bounce back when they've been a stay at home parent. This is nutty. She doesn't even have to answer any of his questions about her convictions unless her child was with her. Also the fact that the father withholds information about the daughter's school from the mother is so petty! Like he wants the mom to fail, but what these "parents" don't get is that it hurts their child. Actual loving caring parents do what's best for their child not their personal preferences about the other parent.
I'm from Newaygo county and I've seen several of their Court dates on this couple and I can tell you that the father has never been constant in this child's life and he is a very controlling man.
I think Dad is very much like his name dodgy. Mom is telling the truth ...she's just not in a very good situation right now and that's probably going to count against her. I'm guessing at this point the judge is probably going to make her find more stable living situation get daycare established prove up everything before he gives her custody or joint custody because it goes by wasn't the best interest or child and unstable living situation (basements are not good as apartments...no easy access exit in case of a fire...it's a code thing here) is not best for the child.
Your sigh mirrors mine. I honestly thought that you might damage yourself rolling your eyes. We both react the same here. The child deserves so much better than being used as a human chew toy to hurt each other.
Mr. Bigen, this should turn out to be an interesting decision by the Judge.⚖️ He has his hands full. 👐📄🏛 Looking forward to the second part of this hearing and the conclusion. 📜 Have a great week sir!👍😎
totally get the the father is very controlling and non communicative. Sounds like he deliberately withholds information from the mother to 'get her into trouble' with the school system. The fact of the real estate information drill his lawyer inflicted on her made me a bit.. hmm? Agreed that people with custody issues should not enter into new relationships as this just complicates things
I don’t think she should have weekend visit’s, the people she lives with are strangers, the child is a little girl and shouldn’t be subject to men even the other so called boyfriend was a stranger. She should get a place for herself then request custody, get three jobs if you need to. Given that this is part 1 I don’t see her getting custody of her daughter.
Dad's attorney scored ZERO points, with all of the "Gotcha" questions. Mom seemed credible. Yes, she's made mistakes, but that has nothing to do with Emma. Well, not to me anyway.
22:16 Why is this lawyer asking her where she’s looking for houses? How many times does she have to say where she’s looking for a house? And why does it matter?
I'm Dad and Today I had Court to try to gain joint custody of my kids . I NEVER FELT MORE USELESS being in that court room the Judge she wasn't trying to hear anything I'd say . Maybe i needed a lawyer to be taken serious. Anyways I never knew a Judge can order for my kids 2year old and 3month from another relationship to not be present while my other kids come over. But my 2 year old loves being with their brothers it just sad that I can't have them together.
For those wondering, as I was: Michael Paige is apparently a "Referee" for the Newaygo County MI Friend of the Court. FOC site says they assist parents with child custody-related matters. I guess the idea of FOC is to free judges in some way, but you wonder how it's decided what should be referred to FOC vs a judge (?) I'm not clear on their powers and duties under the law.
@@-HeyLyd- I can’t speak for Newaygo County but I live in the county directly south of there (Kent county) and here, FOC mediation is always the first step of anything related to child support or custody. If the issue is not resolved there, then you can request a formal court hearing with the family court. It may be the same there.
@@-HeyLyd- yeah, they’re actual hearings. And he’ll make a recommendation to a judge. I’d the parties disagree with his recommendation, then they request a hearing before the judge. I used mediation because that’s the closest more well known equivalent I could think of.
I hope the mother gets her life together because he doesn’t sound like a good person, especially if he was going to give up his rates as a father just so he didn’t have to pay child support
So sorry you’ve to go through Atlanta. I grew up there and moved with my husband to the mountains. Still have family there and go back a good bit. Learned to try off times, but it’s a crapshoot ❤ Lol I have bears.
The Mother seems to be doing ok. There is nothing wrong with having get some when suddenly on your own. She is working, has roof over their heads and she makes sure the daughter is supervised at all times. More than some moms
Any parent who has been absent for any amount of time and/or doesn’t fully utilize their court ordered parenting time shouldn’t be able to judge and grill the other parent about how things were done. If you don’t get along there’s many apps you can use to keep in full contact and coparent peacefully. Yes she’s not been perfect but dang his attorney (and I agree with her about the child support being behind that much but can pay an attorney??) really went over the privacy line with the questions. Just my opinion. I fully agree with the cohabitation not happening but even being married doesn’t make the possibility of something bad happening by non bio person any less unfortunately.
It’s easy to look at the Mom as a loser since she went to jail, but he doesn’t sound that great either esp if he asked the judge how he could give up his rights, just so he didn’t have to pay child support
Love your channel, Bigen II! This is quite an interesting case and I'm looking forward to Part II. My push comes to shove, if I was the judge I would request to talk with the daughter and ask who she would prefer to be with. Please know, too, that I don't think that the D.A. is incompetent, but he sure seemed unprepared with all his hustle and bustling trying to get his paperwork together. Yep, I'm looking forward to Part II of this mess, but thank God, the daughter is doing well in school and seems to be happy.
Come off, mums are just as shitty. Divorced people can be shitty to each other, it's both men and women. Don't claim sexism, because it's HEAVILY weighted towards the mother.
Obviously subject to change, but it sounds like a tale as old as time (or at least the mid-80s). Couple get married, have a child, Mom takes care of the child and Dad provides for the household. Dad leaves. Mom has to figure out how to make it on her own after never having been in/a decade or more since being in the workforce. Dad has reasonable visitation and child support, but is sporadic in visitation and payment. Dad gets a new wife. Now, Mom is "withholding" the child, who "thrives" with him and New Wife. And how can Mom care for the child anyway, with her work schedule and sub-par housing? Don't worry! New Wife stays home with the kids in a lovely home Dad and New Wife own, so New Wife can take care of _all_ of those needs. My only real criticism is that *no boyfriend/girlfriend should be living in the same house as an unrelated child.* The risk of abuse jumps up enough when an adult married to the parent of an unrelated child moves in. It _soars_ when an adult who is _unmarried_ to the parent of an unrelated child lives with them. Just don't do it.
You know buddy, I actually like a limit to length of around 30 minutes anyway. I hate to say it but I kinda find it hard to commit to 1 to 1/30+ for any one channel. Purely because I like more than one channel and wow…there is not that many hours in a day for me to get them all in. I’m sure that everyone has their own opinion on it and that’s ok too. After all, I’m just a Canadian guy thawing out in Alberta, sharing his opinion. Cheers. 🇨🇦
I don't know what I would have done without *usespy online* help in my divorce case. Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise were like a lifesaver. You're my hero!
I think Dad is going to leave kiddo with the wife,he travels for work,that’s great,but all have to agree,stepparents can be AWSM ,however they may not,it’s scary when Mom&Dad are dating/living with others,until everything is worked out,it’s an awful situation,on to pt.2👍🏻👍🏻✌🏻💕
Typical case of a deadbeat dad who gets a girlfriend who pressures him to get custody for control and financial reasons. Gross.
thats exactly what happened to me, sadly: my father never showed real interest in me until he married his wife. they did end up getting custody of me: ive been no contact with him for 6 years now.
That was my case too. He and his whore only want our 35 years of marital assets$ which they got and I got full custody of our 15 yr old. He died a few years after the married and his probate case was under seal so our son got nothing from his father's estate. His divorce lawyer was also a Legislator on the Judicial Committee for 20 years so he was ABEL to hand pick the Judges$ in our divorce and he fought for full custody which the father and his girlfriend didn't want. Congre$$ has minion over Judges$ comPENsation and perks$ and why it is against Constitutional Law for anyone to work in 2 offices aka as an officer of the court and as an officer in the Legislature = corruption byway of the BAR CLUB$ ... that infiltRATed and took over ALL BranCHES$ and lEVEls$ of gOVERnMMEnt = corruption ... JuDas$ JuDges$ are the HEAD of the BEA$T whilst CONgre$$ is the BODY" of the BEA$T because the BAR CLUB$ are the power$ that be of goLIAth LIArs$
How do you figure. he's the one shelling out cash for a lawyer. he'll never make that back in child suppory from her. if she is committing fraud she is probably doing other shit
A parent should avoid living with or pursuing a relationship when you're trying to gain custody of a child as that never seems to end well.
She already had primary physical custody while she was with that long-term boyfriend; she wasn't fighting for custody. Now she is fighting, but it appears she's not in a relationship. Dad's married, so that will probably work to his advantage, whether or not it should, considering he must have been dating this woman at some time while he had his custodial time as well. Funny how history can be rewritten. Single people date and single parents use babysitters; but walk into family court and watch it be portrayed as irresponsible or unstable.
@@-HeyLyd- the mom’s private life is none of the dad’s business-legally speaking
@@catherineeckstein2705 You're right, that should be the case, but it's not when it comes to a custody case. When you get family court involved, everything's their business, and by extension, the opposing parent. Dad dons the cloak of the respectable husband while mom's made to look unstable because she dares to date or live with someone or use a trusted babysitter. Just look at some comments here; too many people fall for this narrative -- half of them have probably been single parents themselves, dated, used babysitters, and don't have a totally clean past. It's amazing how people forget their own past and struggles while they judge others in comments sections. :)
@@catherineeckstein2705 legally speaking, it is when a child is involved. Because that child will be around whoever is in the moms life. This is why the court can make a ruling that no one of the opposite sex that is not a relative or married be allowed around that child. Not sure if you’ve ever dealt with child custody… but this is a common thing and for a good reason. What if the mom was being abused in front of the daughter?? Or worse, the daughter being abused by the moms boyfriend?? It most definitely is his business. And the same goes for her if the shoes were reversed
Exactly. I refused to even try to date anyone until a year after breaking up with my ex and winning full custody of our daughter. My daughter needed to have the stability first
The fact that she works x amount of hours or at such and such time, doesn’t negate her capability of parenting her daughter.
Who knows the names of the owners of the houses they haven’t even signed a lease for? Some of the housing questions are irrational.
There were no attorneys present to object and they don’t know to object based on speculation or relevance.
Bigen, it's really surprising that Dad's attorney and the Judge felt they had to ask the Mom if she minded Dad's current wife was in the room listening to the hearing .. she is going to be a testifying witness, and should be sequestered from listening to the hearing until after she testifies. This is already starting out ridiculously. If nothing else, the Judge should know better; he should be the one enforcing the law, not questioning it.
It's typical to have the witness in the "court room" and it's up to both sides if the witness is sequestered.
It's just the standard request made to both parties in family court, asking if they want the hearing closed and/or witnesses sequestered.
No...I disagree. Even if she testifying later, the current spouse doesn't need to be in the proceedings making little comments and jabs at the mother of the child. Been there, done that. The current spouse usually only knows one side...what the husband shared and that may not be an honest report.
@@peepla7 It's a public court hearing. Anyone can attend.
@@JeremiahLOsborne unless you are testifying. That is why he explained about sequestering witnesses.
I HATE when they say the “stepmother” is dynamic and has a job at home and can be there for the child. The stepmother is not the child’s mother She may be a good person but she’s not the mother
True, but if she's a good step-parent and a good advocate for the child, then she deserves respect for that, too.
My son's Stepmom helped us raise him, whether I liked it or not. When she gor pregnant, I shut down any and all animosity, and we *all* got along for YEARS. Seriously, my son's little brother never knew that we *brawled* in the streets like trash, back in the day!
He just installed my new bathroom sink, in fact. I told him, "See? My evil plan worked! I was NICE to you, and now that I'm OLD you're totally taking care of me, bwah ha haaah!"
But MAN did I used to *despise* his Mother. Made her sit in the car for 3 years at drop offs! I should've had her in for coffee, talked about my son, COMMUNICATED, and most of all I should have *thanked* her for being SO damned *good* to my kid, regardless of his Dad and I's horrible animosity.
Now THEY'RE divorced, Stepmom is on a spiritual awakening in India, and the Ex just completed their gender reassignment surgery,. NOW, THEY want me to hate the Stepmom for "abandoning" her.
NOPE!! Suck it up, buttercup! Lol, I must have made it look easy. IT WASN'T, and she'd best swallow that pride when we get Grandkids, or she's gonna miss OUT!
As of now mom seems like she’s doing all the right things. I believe her when she says the dad is trying to control the situation and didn’t participate like he was supposed to in the past. Looks like his wife or gf is with his child when he’s not around. I get her point that she should be able to get help with childcare from her landlords that treat Emma like a granddaughter
Really? They're *strangers* though. They could have ulterior motives, taking in a desperate FELON and young daughter, Emma is better off with her Dad than *this* FLAKE.
The Flake seems to be the one trying to control the situation, putting her feelings above what's *actually* BEST for her daughter.
She just doesn't want to pay child support! She LIVED off of it for years, now that the shoe is on the other foot, she's the one who's a deadbeat full of bs excuses!
I waa a single Mom, and you'd better *believe* I kept my butt out of jail, too!
The mother came off quite well to me. If what she said about her ex-husband is true, she should have primary custody, but I am reserving judgment until I hear the entire story.
Interesting hearing PCB. You either find or receive some of the most interesting cases for us. 👍💗💓💖
@@momsterzz I agree. Something is off.
After the judge gave his ruling and the father response about the mom can have her??? Really. That just solidified my thoughts on the father….he only wanted the child to control the mom/his ex
She was in jail, she did not come across well to me, the dad has a better job, a stable home, he should get full custody
The attorney is really trying to make Wendy look as bad as he can. I believe her more than the attorney. He’s playing dirty
I just want to scream ASKED AND ANSWERED!! Every time he asks her the same thing over & over.
Attorney is so concerned about Emma being on mom’s health insurance but isn’t concerned enough for dad to have her on his insurance.
Dad hasn’t paid child support but attorney isn’t concerned enough to make dad pay.
So far, even with the police record, I’m leaning towards the mother’s side. She’s handling cross exam very well…not getting angry, only making a few remarks. None of the situations the lawyer described should keep her away from her child. There is no parent who has emergency daycare 100% worked out. People figure this stuff out on the fly, and it doesn’t mean you are a bad parent. On the other hand, some of the father’s lawyer questions to her are pretty inflammatory.
My only quibble with the attorney's opening statement was his seeming dislike that the mom had the person she's staying with take the kid to school. Mom ensured the kid got to school. I don't think it matters if she took her or had a friend do it. She got the kid to school. As long as the kid was on time, I don't see a problem
So you wouldn’t mind a man you don’t know taking your 12 yr old daughter to school???
@Lulu Jac does your ex not knowing your friend mean your friend can't take your kid to school?
Would I let someone I don't know take my kid? Not if I had my kid in my possession. Would I be upset if my ex tried to tell me someone I knew and they didn't couldn't take my kid to school? Yes, because that's an unreasonable request. Do I know everyone my ex knows? Do they know everyome I know? No... and therefore I don't get to dictate who they have around my kid, generally. Specifically, there are obvious exceptions, but just because I don't know a person doesn't mean my child's other parent doesn't know them as well. If they know the person and I don't, which is the situation here, unless there's a specific issue, one parent doesn't get to dictate who the other parent has in their kid's life.
I'll give you an example of why this is BS:
Mom has a kid with her ex. Mom's sister is married, and sister's husband, the child's uncle, has been around the kid 8 of the 9 years she's been alive.
Mom's husband gets sick and has to go to the hospital. Mom asks her brother in law, the uncle, to watch her kids while she takes her husband to the hospital.
Dad doesn't know the uncle because they don't intermingle. Is it reasonable for Dad to be upset?
@lulujac9196 exactly. When a child lives with someone who isn't directly related to the child it puts that child extensively higher risk for abuse. No male should be driving her to school that isn't directly related meaning father, full brother, grandparents.
@leslie974 risk =/= actual abuse. By your definition, I shouldn't be able to be around the step kids I raised since they were 2 and 5 even though they are now 13 and 16.
New people, absolutely. But this entire position is completely unreasonable for people, you know. You can't just go around assuming everyone is an abuser. Most people aren't.
You take reasonable precautions in the beginning and then apportion your allowance to the trust you have in that person based on evidence.
And people are abused by their parents more than any other group of people....
@Mewse1203 well even though I was raised with a stepmother and brother from a very young age. I don't remeber them not being around. I was still abused by both. So it doesn't change the statistics that anyone that is not directly related to the child, statistically raises the chance of being abused for the child. Now as to my statement that no one should be driving the child...that was referring to the circumstances in this video alone.
If mother is able to alter her shifts to start later, and she works 40 hours/week she'll have similar issue in picking her up from school. Being a sole parent is difficult. Men tend to solve the problem by finding another live-in partner who also serves as a housekeeper.
Hence why men with stable relantionship s are better for custody
@@thomasjust2663 hence why you mischaracterized what I said.
Dad dont work so he shouldnt have no problem taking/picking her up. But his wife does yet they have a problem w moms housemates taking daughter? I liked that “gotcha” question. His lawyer seemed off on most of his clients bad history lol
Precisely so why does this lawyer seem to paint her in a negative light because she’s problem solving and enacting a “tribe” of people to assist her in the care of her daughter.
I am glad I never had to go through this. I divorced when my youngest was 17 and my kids father always made sure the kids had what they needed.
Lucky for you and your children but for some of us, we married a prince charming that turned out to be a frog. lol
@Deborah Hershey Yes, I was very lucky in that regard. He provided financially for them. Unfortunately, he was mentally abusive and that is why I left him.
Dads attorney really bugged the hell out of me!!
Oh I don’t like the tone of that lawyer…I side with the Mother right now…..sounds like his control issues are front and center….
This attorney is out of line speaking to her in a condescending way as if she is subhuman.
So far, mom sounds pretty credible. Dad's atty tried to score some points, but mostly fell a little flat. With dad's Show Cause for Contempt on unpaid child support pending, you gotta wonder if she might not be correct about why custody is being challenged now. But we've only heard from mom. Can't wait to hear what dad has to say.
I agree about this attorney.. it feels like he keeps repeating questions in a “gotcha” sort of way. Mom feels like she is being super candid - warts and all. Dads going to have to come up with something super duper to change my mind..
Never ever try to represent yourself! Always lawyer up. Her lawyer would have objected to her recent charges being entered onto the record and might have gotten it sustained.
The father's movements and gestures reminded me of my controlling ex.
Same
3 mins in and this dude is guessing his kid's birthday? That's not good.
That was his lawyer. The dad corrected him.
I take issue with the whining about mom not dropping child off to school. There has been no question of the safety of any other person in the child's life connected to Mom... just whining that mom doesn't drop child off herself. It doesn't friken matter who drops the child off so long as the people that are around her are safe and dad never questioned that. He is just being petty and controlling and thinks he has the smoking gun with that issue and he doesn't. It's OK for stepmom to drop child off to school but man if I insist mom do it personally I can screw with her employment and if as a result her employment doesn't work out I can then further demonize her using the employment issue.
Exactly. This is what I feel is happening, and it’s a control thing. Just thumbscrews. It’s unfortunate if the new wife’s is supporting that.
@@courtneyr6645 Yep ... new significant others get groomed ... to disbelieve "the X" among other things. They also get filled with horrific stories about how "the X" mistreats the kid(s). Don't worry ... she will figure it out when he is grooming her replacement and is spinning his stories about her.
@@kendraowen2841 Oh yes, I have firsthand experience with the ‘stories’.
It got to a point where a simple conversation about the kids, about the need for stable coparenting, and wishing him well in his new relationship got turned into me apparently begging for him to come back, groveling, admitting I was wrong, and how my life is screwed without him. Never even happened, but it’s his story to his ex, who he convinced so thoroughly that I was the devil. I never even knew or met her, and she shared all the details of my horrible nature to anyone who would listen 😂
Poor thing had no idea the kind of habitual, pathological gaslighter that man was. I felt so much pity for her, that she got sucked in so easily. He’s a master at his craft, and he’s far from the perfect victim he portrays himself to be. But they deserve each other. She was cheating on him with multiple men and had a secret OnlyFans 🤣🤣
@@courtneyr6645 ummm…Were we married to the same a-hole? 😂 You just described my ex to a T. He had me stalked on fb by idk how many women (one for over a year b4 I knew she existed) bc he was telling every girl he met that I wanted him back. And told everyone he knows that he divorced me for cheating. Bahahaha. I divorced HIM for cheating constantly and being a grouchy a hole. He shut up about that when I made my divorce
Filing (showing me vs him) as my background on fb. And he stopped telling all his new womens my name so they could stalk me. (I took my maiden name back so they usually can’t find me unless he tells them my name) He’s got more issues than People magazine and too much time to tell all about, but dang it sounds a lot like your ex. My sympathies, and also my congratulations on the divorce. My divorce was the happiest day of my life except for the birth of my children. 🎉.
It makes me crazy when lawyers repeat things instead of just keeping it short and sweet!
She sounds great so far, but the father has not said anything yet. The father being controlling sounded true. That is worrisome.
she went to jail for CC theft
@@Annie1962 what are saying? She should not have the kids, or the crime is not enough to keep the kid from her? I can see it both ways. She talked up her financial situation, but she would get child support and other help. If she really has a job I think she would be better off with her daughter and her daughter seems like a motivation. Also I didn’t like the father, casually seeing her after long periods. Idk but if the kid loves him shared custody seems right. I don’t know. Do you know what shared custody is like? I left with my mother and was happy.
@@Annie1962 what was the context and what does that have to do with possession?
Afternoon Bigen thanks for uploading great content. I've been non stop watching your channel.
Glad you're computer is working out for ya.
This lawyer is so condescending.
Lawyers tend to be a lot of the time.
Agree, but it's his job.
Unless the child is abused. Parents deserve to share custody. Parents dissing each other for no reason, is immature. They don't deserve sole custody.
My opinion.
Almost 15 minutes in, I’m screaming *BACKGROUND CHECKS*! All these nice people , the babysitters, the good samaritans/ex-minister who let her live in their home rent free & drive her daughter to school , unsupervised. Who ARE these people?
Big mouth NEW wife should have been charged with contempt ----- end of story!!!!
If I had to guess I’m sure when daughter was w dad & step mom they filled her head w all sorts of stuff against her mother.
Hey part two just showed up while I'm watching part one.... good going Bigen....no waiting...that's a plus.
I don’t know but it’s hard to be a single mom and sometimes you have to rely on help. I don’t have an answer about her credit card deal but whatever. The lawyer is painful to listen to .
200 a month? I'd love to be able to pay that.
I didn't think I could win my divorce case, but then *usespy online* swooped in like a knight in shining armor. Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise saved the day. Thank you !!
"Good morning this is case number..." No nonsense judge. He got straight to it!
Half way through... Mom sounds good.
So far I'm on moms side. She seems like she's trying to do the best she can and I have a question if what she says is correct, why does he owe back child support and why didn't he pick up his daughter for his parenting time when she was a small child. Does he only want her now so child support wouldn't have to be retroactively paid and because she's older and he is now remarried? Children need both their parents and this new wife is not nor will she ever replace mom, she will be stepmom and just like mom shouldn't have really trusted her bf with her daughter, women can abuse children that aren't biologically theres as well.
This mother is well prepared and maintained her emotions very well! I don’t know if I could have kept my cool. The questioning by the attorney was very condescending and it boils my blood that he was allowed to ask certain questions.
Undecided!!! 🤔 Cant wait to see part 2. Drive safely.
I love your channel, thank you so much for all your hard work to bring these videos to us.
This lawyer is dreadful he does not know the case he is reading his opening.
He's a prick. The only victim will be the baby, Mom he's not gonna do the right thing. Pull your hair up and pull your sleeves, he's a prick and I'm glad the judge seen it. He was big mad. Top of his head almost blowed off. He told on himself right there his reaction showed exactly who he is.
I can respect that the mother is trying to get herself together. She must show a consistent state of this though.
Say what??? She makes $21 an hour at Tyson Foods with a criminal record??? Geeez!!! Hotel housekeeping and maintenance staff who work their butts off only get paid about $12 an hour!!! No hotel could be in business without these workers ... they should get paid $20 an hour. Anything less than that, is not a livable wage!!! Also, when it's a slow season, their hours get cut in half!!! Guess, Tyson is at least taking care of "their" staff!!!
Good afternoon Bigen. It's a bit cold down here in Louisiana also. Thanks for the video.
Ooooo this is was a cliffhanger cuz I can’t decide. I think the judge should just do 50/50 custody and use family wizard to coparent what’s the best thing for the child.
Ok I have thoughts about moms jail term. Here’s what I think happened:
Mom sounds like she had a bad break up with her live in bf. They lived together and they broke up…
but she was still living in the house with the exbf and even tho they were broken up she still treated things no different than before, as if they were together, like he was supporting her financially. and then BAM he reported she used the card without permission.
The moral of this story is if u break up with your partner do not expect continued use of their credit cards without permission. That’s my hypothesis on the jail situation.
That’s what I think happened
On to part 2
I think she presents extremely well, all things considered
This attorney is asking such irrelevant questions and questions that are not easily answered. She JUST moved into her spot and what does it matter if she has her own place or rents from someone else. Or if anyone helps her financially?? It's a cheaper situation for her. What does that have to do with her ability of being a mother. Theres a reason theres a mother and father create a family because they work TOGETHER. Then all of a sudden after a breakup a single parent has to do everything alone. That's ridiculous to expect anyone to bounce back when they've been a stay at home parent. This is nutty. She doesn't even have to answer any of his questions about her convictions unless her child was with her. Also the fact that the father withholds information about the daughter's school from the mother is so petty! Like he wants the mom to fail, but what these "parents" don't get is that it hurts their child. Actual loving caring parents do what's best for their child not their personal preferences about the other parent.
I think I would flip on Dad's attorney
I'm from Newaygo county and I've seen several of their Court dates on this couple and I can tell you that the father has never been constant in this child's life and he is a very controlling man.
I think Dad is very much like his name dodgy. Mom is telling the truth ...she's just not in a very good situation right now and that's probably going to count against her. I'm guessing at this point the judge is probably going to make her find more stable living situation get daycare established prove up everything before he gives her custody or joint custody because it goes by wasn't the best interest or child and unstable living situation (basements are not good as apartments...no easy access exit in case of a fire...it's a code thing here) is not best for the child.
Your sigh mirrors mine. I honestly thought that you might damage yourself rolling your eyes. We both react the same here. The child deserves so much better than being used as a human chew toy to hurt each other.
Mr. Bigen, this should turn out to be an interesting decision by the Judge.⚖️
He has his hands full. 👐📄🏛
Looking forward to the second part of this hearing and the conclusion. 📜
Have a great week sir!👍😎
I believe the mother 🥺
How rude-@14:26 the atty and ex started making noises and were obviously blatantly not listening to her
She seems to have all the bases covered.
totally get the the father is very controlling and non communicative. Sounds like he deliberately withholds information from the mother to 'get her into trouble' with the school system. The fact of the real estate information drill his lawyer inflicted on her made me a bit.. hmm?
Agreed that people with custody issues should not enter into new relationships as this just complicates things
After a certain age they should ask the child. Thru the court in a child like area with people who are verified to work with children.
I don’t think she should have weekend visit’s, the people she lives with are strangers, the child is a little girl and shouldn’t be subject to men even the other so called boyfriend was a stranger. She should get a place for herself then request custody, get three jobs if you need to. Given that this is part 1 I don’t see her getting custody of her daughter.
I'm glad I found your channel!!! You have alot of interesting cases. I haven't seen any of them before. Thanks for your hard work 😎😍😎😍
Well mother gave good answers. She seems to be level headed. Lets see what happens in Part 2 before I have an opinion.
Is it just me, or does anyone else feel like it seems Dad's attorney doesn't know what he's talking about? 🤔
I agree 👍 💯
Dad's attorney scored ZERO points, with all of the "Gotcha" questions. Mom seemed credible. Yes, she's made mistakes, but that has nothing to do with Emma. Well, not to me anyway.
@@janesmith4h I totally agree with you
Mom needs her daughter back. Shame on dad for swooping in when mom has a misstep. I agree with mom, all about child support!
He is a clown!
22:16 Why is this lawyer asking her where she’s looking for houses? How many times does she have to say where she’s looking for a house? And why does it matter?
Thank you for sharing and getting ready to watch now will you let us know when part two comes out because I definitely want to follow this case.
Me too
Thank you for sharing !
The judge looks like Kevin Spacey to me
I'm Dad and Today I had Court to try to gain joint custody of my kids . I NEVER FELT MORE USELESS being in that court room the Judge she wasn't trying to hear anything I'd say . Maybe i needed a lawyer to be taken serious. Anyways I never knew a Judge can order for my kids 2year old and 3month from another relationship to not be present while my other kids come over. But my 2 year old loves being with their brothers it just sad that I can't have them together.
Thank you rose
For those wondering, as I was: Michael Paige is apparently a "Referee" for the Newaygo County MI Friend of the Court. FOC site says they assist parents with child custody-related matters. I guess the idea of FOC is to free judges in some way, but you wonder how it's decided what should be referred to FOC vs a judge (?) I'm not clear on their powers and duties under the law.
Thanks for clarifying HeyLyd!
@@Bigen-11 Love your stuff, Man! Eagerly awaiting Part 2.
@@-HeyLyd- I can’t speak for Newaygo County but I live in the county directly south of there (Kent county) and here, FOC mediation is always the first step of anything related to child support or custody. If the issue is not resolved there, then you can request a formal court hearing with the family court. It may be the same there.
@@jenniferbrinks6552 I thought it might be along the lines of mediation as well, but he said this is actually an evidentiary hearing.
@@-HeyLyd- yeah, they’re actual hearings. And he’ll make a recommendation to a judge. I’d the parties disagree with his recommendation, then they request a hearing before the judge. I used mediation because that’s the closest more well known equivalent I could think of.
I hope the mother gets her life together because he doesn’t sound like a good person, especially if he was going to give up his rates as a father just so he didn’t have to pay child support
So sorry you’ve to go through Atlanta.
I grew up there and moved with my husband to the mountains.
Still have family there and go back a good bit.
Learned to try off times, but it’s a crapshoot ❤
Lol I have bears.
I try to drive through when traffic is lite. Early mornings, mid days
The Mother seems to be doing ok. There is nothing wrong with having get some when suddenly on your own. She is working, has roof over their heads and she makes sure the daughter is supervised at all times. More than some moms
She says she wants him to a constant in her life yet the mother has been in jail , I want to know more about that.
Morning Bigen thanxx 😎✌️
My decision is neither parent. For some reason some thing seems off with both of them it’s a gut feeling
The defense atty is driving me nuts😳
Any parent who has been absent for any amount of time and/or doesn’t fully utilize their court ordered parenting time shouldn’t be able to judge and grill the other parent about how things were done. If you don’t get along there’s many apps you can use to keep in full contact and coparent peacefully. Yes she’s not been perfect but dang his attorney (and I agree with her about the child support being behind that much but can pay an attorney??) really went over the privacy line with the questions. Just my opinion. I fully agree with the cohabitation not happening but even being married doesn’t make the possibility of something bad happening by non bio person any less unfortunately.
It’s easy to look at the Mom as a loser since she went to jail, but he doesn’t sound that great either esp if he asked the judge how he could give up his rights, just so he didn’t have to pay child support
What is so very sad to me with these custody cases, the parents fight but it is the child(ren) who are the ones that get affected.
Happy seeing your success buddy!
Love your channel, Bigen II! This is quite an interesting case and I'm looking forward to Part II. My push comes to shove, if I was the judge I would request to talk with the daughter and ask who she would prefer to be with. Please know, too, that I don't think that the D.A. is incompetent, but he sure seemed unprepared with all his hustle and bustling trying to get his paperwork together. Yep, I'm looking forward to Part II of this mess, but thank God, the daughter is doing well in school and seems to be happy.
I can't believe how these men try to the ruin the lives of the mothers of their children & the boyfriend putting her in jail !?!
I can't ...
Come off, mums are just as shitty.
Divorced people can be shitty to each other, it's both men and women. Don't claim sexism, because it's HEAVILY weighted towards the mother.
Obviously subject to change, but it sounds like a tale as old as time (or at least the mid-80s).
Couple get married, have a child, Mom takes care of the child and Dad provides for the household. Dad leaves. Mom has to figure out how to make it on her own after never having been in/a decade or more since being in the workforce. Dad has reasonable visitation and child support, but is sporadic in visitation and payment.
Dad gets a new wife.
Now, Mom is "withholding" the child, who "thrives" with him and New Wife. And how can Mom care for the child anyway, with her work schedule and sub-par housing? Don't worry! New Wife stays home with the kids in a lovely home Dad and New Wife own, so New Wife can take care of _all_ of those needs.
My only real criticism is that *no boyfriend/girlfriend should be living in the same house as an unrelated child.* The risk of abuse jumps up enough when an adult married to the parent of an unrelated child moves in. It _soars_ when an adult who is _unmarried_ to the parent of an unrelated child lives with them. Just don't do it.
I eagerly await your notifications daily!
He knew I was using his credit card that's why we still live together I don't live in someone else's basement
Just started watching but why was not notified about his child not having mom cause she was in jail
The lawyer shouldnt be asking for the owners renting their homes esp on zoom
Lets be real parents arent calling schools randomly to ask when conferences are and its understandable to think the father would let her know
The mom is telling the truth on this one
the suspense!!!
That was the least contentious hearing
You know buddy, I actually like a limit to length of around 30 minutes anyway.
I hate to say it but I kinda find it hard to commit to 1 to 1/30+ for any one channel. Purely because I like more than one channel and wow…there is not that many hours in a day for me to get them all in.
I’m sure that everyone has their own opinion on it and that’s ok too.
After all, I’m just a Canadian
guy thawing out in Alberta, sharing his opinion.
Cheers. 🇨🇦
A basement apt is still an apt.
That doesn’t even sound right! What judge says well you can do 1 of 2 things abuse your daughter or she can remarry and he can adopt her!
I don't know what I would have done without *usespy online* help in my divorce case. Your dedication, enthusiasm, and expertise were like a lifesaver. You're my hero!
Is it just me, or did mom look stoned at the beginning of this video? Lol
Thank you Bigen!
I'm waiting for Dad's attorney to ask her bra size. Dang
I think Dad is going to leave kiddo with the wife,he travels for work,that’s great,but all have to agree,stepparents can be AWSM ,however they may not,it’s scary when Mom&Dad are dating/living with others,until everything is worked out,it’s an awful situation,on to pt.2👍🏻👍🏻✌🏻💕
Here to witness the bias against dads.
You say “down there in Atlanta” where you at? I’m in Blue Ridge, Ga.
Near lake Lanier
Awesome! Glad to find a “local” channel!