To the young folks: I'm 59. I have deep "elevens" that came from squinting -- it's from not wearing sunglasses and not doing a good job of keeping up with my eye prescriptions (I'm nearsighted). Your eye care also affects your skin. Take care of your eyes!
Honestly I really hate when stores jump on the seasons and holidays early. I’m not a Scrooge, I just want to live in the moment and enjoy the current season, not constantly looking forward.
Just want to let you know how much I appreciate and take to heart, and put into practice, your expertise and advice. Although I’m almost 70 now, I think it’s better late than never for this native southern Californian sun/beach worshipper to get on board with good practices. I enjoy many of your great product recommendations. I finally just graduated from adapalene to tretinoin. Thank you for putting in the regular and consistent effort to reach all of us out here, and for being such an inspiration. (I think you are so adorable and you remind me of my daughter)
Dental health also helps us look young. My parents lost teeth as they aged and didn’t get them replaced. It makes your jaw shrink. There was a lot of air pollution as well. Everyone had a coal fire and the air would be brown!
I really like online classes and online meetings, too. It's so much easier to focus when I'm relaxed, barefoot, and able to review things that have been recorded by the instructor, and I'm not sitting in an uncomfortable chair in a classroom.
I had some INTENSE and terrible depression in my early 20s and it was HORRIBLE- and thankfully I am not depressed anymore now in my mid 30s so I totally believe that I had to learn life skills to manage the stress and disappointments of life.
I high jumped as a teenager and in college and I am from a Caribbean island. I recently found out that a couple of aunts, an uncle and a cousin had to have a surgical procedure to remove a growth from their eyes caused by over exposure to sun. Due to the fact that I have worn sun glasses because of track I basically never have gone without for over 30 years so I do not have the lines between the eyes nor have I had any issues with my eyes. An added perk is looking cool while wearing them!
I love that you love stickers. 💗 I smoked and drank for 20 years. I did a 180, stopped both of those, switched to water and started taking care of my skin. I honestly look younger now than I did 10 years ago. 💗
I don't think it's that mental illness mellows out with age, exactly; rather, the sufferers we see who are past a certain age have obviously survived, while others have succumbed earlier in some way. Every day that a sufferer of an illness survives can feel like a kind of, if not "triumph," then at least a fact that bodes well for the day/s further. It's like resigning oneself to the sense that, "Well, i got through today, and through the day before that; so maybe, just maybe, I'll get through tomorrow, even if thru inertia." And before you know it, a week or a month or a year has passed. Now, there *is* something to be said with all the hormonal changes and brain development from adolescence even into the mid 20s, and I do remember the intensity of my own mental difficulties during that age period could feel particularly hard to handle. But I don't think my condition's mellowed out so much as I've learned from experience how best to manage it, I know better where/how to get help and who to trust, i can see loved ones around me more clearly and really understand the consequences to others if i don't manage my illness, and like I said above, there's a little awareness in the back of my mind that anyway I've gotten this far already.
@@Pamela-B and smokers used to buy non-smoking seats! They would go and smoke up the back of the plane then go sit in the non-smoking section! The idea that there was some kind of magic barrier between smoking and non-smoking sections was of course ridiculous
My mother feels the same about the heat as you. She loves it, hates the cold and is angry about it lol. I myself am the exact opposite. Heat makes me feel horrible, and the cold feels so refreshing 😊 It was hot here in Virginia this summer and I’m so happy to see the temps drop some this week.
I know for me I have had mental illness all my life. I am now 36 years old. And off all medication! But I am functioning the same way as I was when on meditation. I think my illness was way worse in my early 20's. My anxiety was so bad I had to cancel plans. I have lots of diagnoses some are: Ptsd, bipolar, borderline...so for all of you young adults in ur early 20s that suffer with mental illness please know that life will calm down and get better!
I think a large part of it is people’s perception of human life has changed. You’re not “old and used up” by a certain age anymore. This leads to people actually putting effort into their appearance and fitness well into their later years.
Anyone else just look forward to Dr. Dray’s videos? It feels like I’m chatting with a friend. A few things. I agree about mental health being at its peak in the younger years. I love those Tom’s sunglasses. Also been loving the peach slices salicylic acid products as well as the cetaphil ones she recommended. Those stickers are adorable!! Hope everyone has a great day. 💕
Mental health is more intense in young people because of big dreams, high expectations of finding blissful happiness, and the fact that they're more passionate about everything. It hurts when reality settles in and you realize everything in life is hard. It calms down with age because every year of life is another year of exposure therapy. You grow numb to the little things, and the presbyopia blurs your imperfections so much that your mirror is like a snapchat filter. Mental health gets pretty bad with chronic illness though, especially painful ones... the depression gets really bad while in debilitating pain for years.
Dr. Dray, I so look forward to your weekend vlogs. They are very informative and very entertaining. My daughter is an attorney in Houston and I am always trying to see if I recognize the areas you are driving in. Have a wonderful day! ❤️
I love that line of stickers....they're cute. Another reason we aren't aging as much (skin-wise) is we're no longer an agricultural nation. The majority of the country farmed, and spent beacoup hours out in the sun/weather with no sun screen. Now most people don't spend that kind of time outside.
I'm with you about being cold. I hate winter and feeling like I'm curled in a ball all the time. I also can't sleep in a cool bedroom, it's impossible for me to get comfortable. Give me summer warmth any day! :D I remember seeing pictures during the 50's of Hollywood stars between takes on a movie set where they were all smoking cigarettes. It was rare to find a star from that era that actually took good care of themselves, Esther Williams comes to mind as one of the few.
Don’t worry about the heat going away. It’s hotter for longer than it is cooler and there are prolonged droughts. Sometimes I think restaurants are cooler to freeze the insects. 🤣
Marilyn Monroe used to weight train, which was practically unknown for women in her day. Didn't use very heavy weights, but still, she did it. She ran too. Didn't smoke. Ate a high protein, low carb diet. Her downfall was prescription drugs she was give for her very severe anxiety which she suffered more and more seriously from as her career progressed, and pain from what seems likely to be endometriosis.
Re mental health and age: I volunteer in community services and younger clients on the whole are usually far more lucid than older clients (and by older I mean in the 30s to 60s age range not necessarily elderly), despite having many of the same mental health and substance abuse issues. So take from that what you will. I do think traumas tend to compound with age: divorces, loss of parents, loss of friends, even mental health episodes in themselves are a kind of trauma. For some people these compounded traumas affect them in perhaps irreversible ways.
It is amazing how your humanity and professionality are intertwined, you speak so well about subjects such as mental illness and keep such a human aproach, being truly yourself. I was, am and will be a fan! thank you for all your content
I can attest to mental illness mellowing out over the decades. I'm doing so much better these days for whatever reason. What I personally put it down to is having to research diet and making sure my body gets every nutrient. Since taking control of that, my symptoms have reduced to a level where I'm able to function and even create art again. My 20s and early 30s were a living HELL that I barely survived. I just hope I never regress again.
I hope this is true about mental illnesses mellowing out. A loved one of mine has bipolar 1, he's 30. It is intense right now. I pray that it mellows in time! Great vlog as usual Dr. Dray!
I wore my long sleeve swimsuit today at a swimming hole out in way west texas (super hot and sunny.). I got some stares but it seemed like I was the only fair skinned person without a burn at the end of the day. Worth it! I got the suit after watching your videos!!
Anything hotter than 75'f and I'm literally having palpitations....sitting in the shade. The sun actually makes me I'll in warm months. The falls apricity is beautiful. Sunny with big clouds and cool breeze. I'm currently driving to the gym in flip flops. It's January in Pennsylvania. Loving. It. ❄️🤗❄️ I'm energized.
A lot of what you discussed about mental health weighing heavier on people in their 20-30’s hit the nail on the head with the “27 Club”. Life is hard. Right when you think you have it bad….someone always has it worse.
I only wear cheap sunglasses because I only lose expensive ones! I had a nice 300$ pair and I jumped in the river with them on. My 20$ pairs last me for years 😂
Thank you for bringing up the coldness of restaurants, I thought I was the only one lol I’m cold easily in general (I also get hives when it’s too cold) and I hate when everyone is having a good time, I’m over here focusing on staying warm 🙃
The reason restaurants are kept cold is for the workers. The wait staff are running around working up a sweat, and the kitchens are brutal. Air conditioning is expensive to run....a restaurant would keep it warmer if it wasn't for concern the staff would faint.
I started my second semester of nursing school and we’re on zoom for lecture but in person for skills learning and clinical. Saw my first c-section yesterday!
I struggled more with being too cold in Florida because of AC. You’re just sitting there, freezing. It’s easier for me to live in cold places because the interiors are never as cold than in hot places!
Lord that’s true! Your swear turns to frost on your body immediately upon stepping indoors and I swear in some houses I can see my breath. That’s why so many southerners are overweight … to insulate themselves while indoors! Lol
I agree that people seem to level out as they get older. I’m 28 and Im just now starting to feel stable. My friends seem to as well. It was the worst around age 18, at last for me. I think there’s generally more awareness regarding mental health these days too which probably helps accelerate self acceptance.
I need my glasses mainly for driving at night but a few years ago my insurance was having a deal on prescription sunglasses, so I got a pair. LOVE! I will never be without them again. I also have worked in a hospital for 40 years. I remember when smoking was allowed there! We would have patients in for COPD, have a smoke and then cry for a nebulizer treatment. Crazy.
Yes! I always make sure to bring a sweater with me wherever I go. I keep it in the car, but go and grab it if the restaurant is freezing. Same with movie theaters.
I have cranial facial Hyperhydrosis & I HATE HOT WEATHER & heat. It gives me so much anxiety. I wish you could PLEASE do a video on Cranial Facial Hyperhydrosis! Have a great day!!
Assalaam Alaikum everyone. Quote of the day: “ Let your unique awesomeness and positive energy inspire confidence in others” Have a great day everyone and lots of love from Zahra, lol. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Happy Sunday, Dr Dray! When I was growing up, smoking was allowed in doctor's office waiting rooms and in patient's rooms in hospitals!! 🤦Your new stickers are cute. Thanks for another fun vlog. Hope you have a restful evening. 💙
Finally someone putting products on eyelids and the space below eye brows. Be it moisturiser or eye cream, People simply apply under eye are (atleast in front of camera) and just neglect the upper area and I always wonder what's wrong with these people. Thanks for specifically showing applying eye cream/moisturiser on eye lid and below eye brow areas.
Hope everyone is having a great Sunday! As far as mental illness, I think PMS kicks your butt in your twenties and thirties and makes it seem like you've got a problem. Also Bulova does make watches .
Those stickers are so cute and useful! As a disabled student with limited mobility, I really love virtual school and wish the option would stick around forever.
My father died from emphysema (smoked since age 15) in 1989. I remember a few weeks later opening a magazine to a full two-page spread ad for Camel cigarettes featuring "snappy comebacks" when someone tells you they are bothered by your cigarette smoke. Can you even imagine???? I was so livid. So glad those days are over.
Virtual school for the 2nd year here in Dubai. :( Also thank you for everything you do. I'm 17yr guy and, in my society they think it is too "feminine" or "gay" to do skincare. Which is absolutely ridiculous. Glad I grew out of that toxicity. And, now I'll continue taking care of myself. They'll all age faster and, I'll be still glowing. 😈
I'm the same way when I'm cold. I am not a happy camper inside really cold places. Even as a child in family photos out in the snow ... you can tell that I am not happy. I agree about the smoking ban making us age less and making us healthier as a whole.
Based on the vlog yesterday I was taken back to when my car failed the emissions test this year because I haven't driven it much. I was so surprised, had to drive it more for 2 weeks and then it passed yayyyy 🤗 happy Sunday Dr Dray and peeps ❤️ 🥳🥰💖☕
I love the heat and dread fall/winter. I don’t care if it is 100 out- just as long as it is not below 70☀️ I have such bad nerve pain in the cold and hate overly air conditioned stores and winter because it sends my pain levels through the roof. My husband and I are considering a move to Florida or Texas from the northeast because we love heat.
Happy Sunday!! I grew up where smoking in restaurants was normal and I hated it!! There was a “non-smoking” section but yea right it traveled throughout!! 🤢
And I had such allergies to the cigarette smoke. I could be sitting in a restaurant looking in the window of the one across the street seeing someone smoking and then I would start sneezing. Restaurants were not too kind when you asked for the non-smoking area, that area was reserved and clean and when you sat in the smoking area, patrons heard me ask and then they all decided to light up. I wasn't bold enough then to say you know what, never mind we can eat someplace else. You can surely isolate Us in the other section but you're afraid you may have to clean a table again and you'd prefer I be uncomfortable and unhealthy and pay you for this food.
When you put sunscreen on of course you put it under your nose. I have had two small skin cancer places under my nose and just realized that though I have worn makeup or sunscreen…they popped up. I think it’s because I have allergies and have to wipe or blow my nose often. Of course , I didn’t reapply and I am guessing that’s why those have occurred!
PMHNP here. 20’s and 30’s is when you see the mental breakdowns because that is the time these people are having their first psychotic breaks. During the first few years, people are often not staying consistent on a med regime that works causing the symptoms to be exhibited worse.
mental health amelioration: its probably a correlation between the coping skills and experience gained with aging rather than anything physiological to do with the brain. i personally have seen people's mental health deterioration over the 40s and 50s so.... its really about how much you can do as early on as you can to help yourself cope if you do have a physiological issue. it could ultimately go either way.
I’m the same! I (not so) jokingly say that I have a 4-5 degree range where I am comfortable! I sleep in long pants, light sweatshirts, sometimes a tank or tee under it, & socks year round!
Schizophrenia is an intriguing subject for me directly. I am a fragile x carrier and unclear where it stemmed from. Now, I’ve heard my great grandfather was “crazy” and likely afflicted by schizophrenia. Interestingly he was an orphan during the depression and once married had approximately 12 daughters and 2 sons. Only one son survived. He was also a farmer raising tobacco, cotton, and sugar. So you tell me: crazy with schizophrenia or crazy because of situation. Perhaps both are true.
I hate being too cold from air conditioning if I'm chilling at home or like you mentioned, restaurants can be freezing! If it's winter I don't mind to bundle up in a big sweater and wrap but my family drive me crazy keeping the house too cold. 😬
Yes I can't function if I'm freezing especially if I'm in a restaurant trying to relax and enjoy a meal and company. I used to ways take a jacket but I haven't been out in so long!
Dr. Dray, I was watching an old video that you did on urea. It was great. However, I’m still confused about if used in higher concentrations how it differs from an AHA. For example, how does a 12% urea cream differ from 12% lactic or 12% glycolic acid lotion? Would you consider doing a video that contrast urea with AHA and BHA and/or how they can support each other? Thanks.
So if anyone likes a bit of chemistry, the hydration and exfoliation aspect has to do with the hydrogens involved. Hydrogen bonding occurs when things are hydrated, keeps things looking plump and juicy (physical), whereas exfoliation is when a proton is donated by the acid which is a chemical reaction. I think polyhydroxy acids work like this too
@@floraafroza1365 a subscriber gifted her a foot care cream with urea (it's in an older vlog, but I remember it was from the brand MD) and she said that the concentration was very high so u wouldn't like to put that on your face...40% is considered a high concentration?
Tell us about the dangers of using expired care products. I’m wondering why nail polish expires (other than separating how can you tell it’s expired?), why aerosols expire, and why soap expires specifically.
I live in SoCal and the same thing happens here with AC. My husband and I always carry a wrap to put on when going into a restaurant or store. If I get seated under an AC vent by the time we leave I feel as though I’ve caught a cold - my nose is running, I’m shivering, and I have goosebumps on my arms. This is dating myself, when I was in college, professors and students could smoke during class - talk about second hand smoke! In grad school the class sizes were small and the lecture rooms were too, by the end of the hour/two hour class, my eyes, nose, and throat were stinging. If I get lung cancer it will be from that exposure. Eric Clapton did the Cocaine song.
I agree that the intensity of symptoms for someone with MH Disorder may decrease in time but have seen older adults experiencing episodes at times that would counter that idea. I worked with adults of all ages and even our psychiatrists noted that illness intensity lessens as they age. IMO I think their brain just slows down with that energy maybe younger folks have naturally.
Thank You Sooo Much Dear Sweet Friend!! Happy Sunday!! I Hope You're a Having a Wonderful Day, and I Hope Your Evening Will Be Relaxing and Beautiful!! Many Blessings, and God Bless You Always!!
I love the skin aqua sunscreen too. I have prescription sunglasses, but they weren't expensive. The site I get them from is called $39 glasses, but I think it is a little more for the sunglasses. My regular glasses also darken outside, but it isn't enough in our summer sun. It was worth it to invest in an extra pair of actual sunglasses. My eye doctor is adamant about wearing a hat and sunglasses. I hate hats, but I am determined to start wearing one this year. I just bought a fedora with sun protection. I am hoping it will look good and be an incentive to cover my head more.
I, too, am MISERABLE in the cold! I've always been that way to a degree, but even more so after my liver transplant 4 yrs ago. My immuno- suppressants exacerbate it to the inth degree! When we go out for dinner, my husband knows to request a table with no direct A/C vents blowing on it!
A couple of years ago you did a video on caring for mature skin. Any chance you could do an update? There are so many products I get confused. I just use Aveeno for my body and Cetaphil as a facial cleanser. For facial moisturiser I use CeraVe and I am yet to find a tinted sunscreen or indeed any sunscreen I can use around my eyes. I am in Australia.
Personality disorders do tend to get less with age but schizophrenia does not get less and in fact gets worse as does actual bipolar disorder (most of the people who say they are bipolar are actually borderline for insurance billing purposes). One of these days I’ll make may own TH-cam channel.
I'm a mental health therapist, and have worked in several community mental health and substance use settings, and I can't speak to the severity necessarily, but I would say the majority of clients are usually under 50, so there could be something to that.
People always ask me why i don’t have many eye wrinkles at 51. I have been wearing sunscreen on my face since my 20’s, but I wonder if it’s because I ALWAYS wear sunglasses. I have to wear glasses to see well, so I almost never go out without my sunnies. I live in Los Angeles where theres bright glare & sunny days year round. However I did smoke occasionally in my 20’s, so the skin around my mouth didn’t hold up as well.
I have always worn sunglasses religiously due to sensitivity to light and I have had crows feet since i was 19. So, theory debunked in my case. Genetics and having an overly expressive face is what I blame it on. And no botox. 😬
@@HeatherFonseca How would wearing sunglasses not help prevent crowsfeet? I'm sure it helped you! I mean, you're stopping the sun almost completely so no sun damage can actually occur. Lines are predominately caused by photoaging. I have photosensitivity and have always worn them, since a young adult and seems like the only person doing so on overcast days. At 52, I am just starting to see some lines when I smile. I'm not claiming to look 25 years younger or whatever, but my eye area looks great still
@@ac4181 I definitely have a lot more aging skin on the bottom of my face then around my eyes and brow. I usually wear a hat and almost always wear sunglasses during the day. Makes sense to me
I have bipolar I disorder and it has gotten better as time has gone on and I am still in my 30’s. It has been extremely difficult to deal with though. The biggest source of my improvement has been making sure I sleep at least 10 hrs and having a top of the line doctor. Also the medication matters. The miracle drug for me has been VRAYLAR! Lol
Eye doc in the chat. You can also get Clip Ons if you find it is too expensive to buy a separate pair of prescription sunglasses. Also there is the Transitions XtraActive that turn 100% dark in the Car.
I'm bipolar 2. When I was in my 20's I had a lot of manic episodes and then I would crash. this was in the mid 70's. I was on Lithium. Awful stuff. As I got older, the manic episodes lessened and depression became a bigger problem. Now, I'm 68 and I haven't had a manic episode in years. Not since I was in my 50's and I was working 2 full time jobs.. Even when I wasn't taking a mood stabilizer. But, depression got way worse. I'm in a good place now, but it's been a journey. Yes, my mental illness has changed as I have aged. xo~linda
5:25 my husband HATES this about me but i will ask to be moved to another table and go as far as to ask the waiter if they can adjust the thermostat. I have no shame.
Getting colder in WI now. I can’t join Costco or I would be broke. I had no tan this summer which was a good break for my skin. I was a sun lover in past. But still like being outside on my bike or ATV.
I miss your mom. Sunday's with mom were great videos. How is she? I do think of her often. I don't always read the comments, therefore if you have shared - I have missed it. Hugs to her.
To the young folks: I'm 59. I have deep "elevens" that came from squinting -- it's from not wearing sunglasses and not doing a good job of keeping up with my eye prescriptions (I'm nearsighted). Your eye care also affects your skin. Take care of your eyes!
Yes, and I think to much sun exposure effects your night driving when you get older (makes night driving harder, earlier in life).
I’m the opposite. I am miserable in the heat but feel energized and joyful in cold weather. Of course being from Vermont I know how to dress for it. 😊
The same here. I live in Chicago. Happy Sunday! 🙂
I'm the same. Vermont is my dream 😩( I'm in Mass)
I get u so much...And I leave n Florida...But I hibernate in the summer I hate to go outside for anything..lol..💯👊🙏👍
I live in Wisconsin and hate the cold winter. Lol! I become a hermit for 5-6 months. :-/
I dream of living in Vermont, it’s the most beautiful state in my opinion! I’m terrified of the winters, though.
I love how you look at everything in the stores and take your time, it’s super relaxing to watch!
Totally agree - and the funny comments are a giant plus!
Honestly I really hate when stores jump on the seasons and holidays early. I’m not a Scrooge, I just want to live in the moment and enjoy the current season, not constantly looking forward.
I JUST WANNA FEEL THIS MOMENT
Just want to let you know how much I appreciate and take to heart, and put into practice, your expertise and advice. Although I’m almost 70 now, I think it’s better late than never for this native southern Californian sun/beach worshipper to get on board with good practices. I enjoy many of your great product recommendations. I finally just graduated from adapalene to tretinoin. Thank you for putting in the regular and consistent effort to reach all of us out here, and for being such an inspiration. (I think you are so adorable and you remind me of my daughter)
Thanks for being a constant in a crazy world Dr. Dray
Thanks for watching
Dental health also helps us look young. My parents lost teeth as they aged and didn’t get them replaced. It makes your jaw shrink. There was a lot of air pollution as well. Everyone had a coal fire and the air would be brown!
I really like online classes and online meetings, too. It's so much easier to focus when I'm relaxed, barefoot, and able to review things that have been recorded by the instructor, and I'm not sitting in an uncomfortable chair in a classroom.
Ikr
I had some INTENSE and terrible depression in my early 20s and it was HORRIBLE- and thankfully I am not depressed anymore now in my mid 30s so I totally believe that I had to learn life skills to manage the stress and disappointments of life.
I high jumped as a teenager and in college and I am from a Caribbean island. I recently found out that a couple of aunts, an uncle and a cousin had to have a surgical procedure to remove a growth from their eyes caused by over exposure to sun. Due to the fact that I have worn sun glasses because of track I basically never have gone without for over 30 years so I do not have the lines between the eyes nor have I had any issues with my eyes. An added perk is looking cool while wearing them!
Dr Dray the crew neck, low pony, hoops and sunnies look is so cute on you. Thank you for all the free education and happy Sunday
Thank you so much
I love that you love stickers. 💗
I smoked and drank for 20 years. I did a 180, stopped both of those, switched to water and started taking care of my skin. I honestly look younger now than I did 10 years ago. 💗
I don't think it's that mental illness mellows out with age, exactly; rather, the sufferers we see who are past a certain age have obviously survived, while others have succumbed earlier in some way. Every day that a sufferer of an illness survives can feel like a kind of, if not "triumph," then at least a fact that bodes well for the day/s further. It's like resigning oneself to the sense that, "Well, i got through today, and through the day before that; so maybe, just maybe, I'll get through tomorrow, even if thru inertia." And before you know it, a week or a month or a year has passed. Now, there *is* something to be said with all the hormonal changes and brain development from adolescence even into the mid 20s, and I do remember the intensity of my own mental difficulties during that age period could feel particularly hard to handle. But I don't think my condition's mellowed out so much as I've learned from experience how best to manage it, I know better where/how to get help and who to trust, i can see loved ones around me more clearly and really understand the consequences to others if i don't manage my illness, and like I said above, there's a little awareness in the back of my mind that anyway I've gotten this far already.
I remember when people were still able to smoke in restaurants and having to ask to be seated in “non smoking” section.
Yes! Lol meanwhile they should have been labeled "smoking section" and "secondhand smoke section" 😅 😫.
Have not seen your Mom lately. Hope she is doing great. I always love your channel.
That’s a really interesting perspective. You can see how smokers have such bad and aged skin. And passive smokers suffer too.
Not all 😩 genetics has a play
Glad there is no smoking in planes..that was intense
@@DrDrayzday oh I know!! I was a smoker during those days and even I was gasping for air during those flights. Terrible!
@@Pamela-B and smokers used to buy non-smoking seats! They would go and smoke up the back of the plane then go sit in the non-smoking section! The idea that there was some kind of magic barrier between smoking and non-smoking sections was of course ridiculous
My mother feels the same about the heat as you. She loves it, hates the cold and is angry about it lol. I myself am the exact opposite. Heat makes me feel horrible, and the cold feels so refreshing 😊 It was hot here in Virginia this summer and I’m so happy to see the temps drop some this week.
I know for me I have had mental illness all my life. I am now 36 years old. And off all medication! But I am functioning the same way as I was when on meditation. I think my illness was way worse in my early 20's. My anxiety was so bad I had to cancel plans. I have lots of diagnoses some are: Ptsd, bipolar, borderline...so for all of you young adults in ur early 20s that suffer with mental illness please know that life will calm down and get better!
I think a large part of it is people’s perception of human life has changed. You’re not “old and used up” by a certain age anymore. This leads to people actually putting effort into their appearance and fitness well into their later years.
Anyone else just look forward to Dr. Dray’s videos? It feels like I’m chatting with a friend. A few things. I agree about mental health being at its peak in the younger years. I love those Tom’s sunglasses. Also been loving the peach slices salicylic acid products as well as the cetaphil ones she recommended. Those stickers are adorable!! Hope everyone has a great day. 💕
Mental health is more intense in young people because of big dreams, high expectations of finding blissful happiness, and the fact that they're more passionate about everything. It hurts when reality settles in and you realize everything in life is hard. It calms down with age because every year of life is another year of exposure therapy. You grow numb to the little things, and the presbyopia blurs your imperfections so much that your mirror is like a snapchat filter. Mental health gets pretty bad with chronic illness though, especially painful ones... the depression gets really bad while in debilitating pain for years.
Dr. Dray, I so look forward to your weekend vlogs. They are very informative and very entertaining. My daughter is an attorney in Houston and I am always trying to see if I recognize the areas you are driving in. Have a wonderful day! ❤️
Thanks so much!
Thank you Dr. Dray. Your videos are a blessing, especially in these tough times. So informative, soothing and entertaining. You're the best! 🌹
I love that line of stickers....they're cute.
Another reason we aren't aging as much (skin-wise) is we're no longer an agricultural nation. The majority of the country farmed, and spent beacoup hours out in the sun/weather with no sun screen. Now most people don't spend that kind of time outside.
I'm with you about being cold. I hate winter and feeling like I'm curled in a ball all the time. I also can't sleep in a cool bedroom, it's impossible for me to get comfortable. Give me summer warmth any day! :D I remember seeing pictures during the 50's of Hollywood stars between takes on a movie set where they were all smoking cigarettes. It was rare to find a star from that era that actually took good care of themselves, Esther Williams comes to mind as one of the few.
Don’t worry about the heat going away. It’s hotter for longer than it is cooler and there are prolonged droughts. Sometimes I think restaurants are cooler to freeze the insects. 🤣
I dislike Winter and colder months but I can’t sleep in a warm/hot room lol.
Marilyn Monroe used to weight train, which was practically unknown for women in her day. Didn't use very heavy weights, but still, she did it. She ran too. Didn't smoke. Ate a high protein, low carb diet. Her downfall was prescription drugs she was give for her very severe anxiety which she suffered more and more seriously from as her career progressed, and pain from what seems likely to be endometriosis.
Dr. Dray is my daily inspiration of self-love 💕 I have been using sunglasses since I was a teenager and I can't live without them.
Re mental health and age: I volunteer in community services and younger clients on the whole are usually far more lucid than older clients (and by older I mean in the 30s to 60s age range not necessarily elderly), despite having many of the same mental health and substance abuse issues. So take from that what you will.
I do think traumas tend to compound with age: divorces, loss of parents, loss of friends, even mental health episodes in themselves are a kind of trauma. For some people these compounded traumas affect them in perhaps irreversible ways.
It is amazing how your humanity and professionality are intertwined, you speak so well about subjects such as mental illness and keep such a human aproach, being truly yourself. I was, am and will be a fan! thank you for all your content
I can attest to mental illness mellowing out over the decades. I'm doing so much better these days for whatever reason. What I personally put it down to is having to research diet and making sure my body gets every nutrient. Since taking control of that, my symptoms have reduced to a level where I'm able to function and even create art again. My 20s and early 30s were a living HELL that I barely survived. I just hope I never regress again.
I hope this is true about mental illnesses mellowing out. A loved one of mine has bipolar 1, he's 30. It is intense right now. I pray that it mellows in time! Great vlog as usual Dr. Dray!
I wore my long sleeve swimsuit today at a swimming hole out in way west texas (super hot and sunny.). I got some stares but it seemed like I was the only fair skinned person without a burn at the end of the day. Worth it! I got the suit after watching your videos!!
Anything hotter than 75'f and I'm literally having palpitations....sitting in the shade. The sun actually makes me I'll in warm months. The falls apricity is beautiful. Sunny with big clouds and cool breeze. I'm currently driving to the gym in flip flops. It's January in Pennsylvania. Loving. It. ❄️🤗❄️ I'm energized.
A lot of what you discussed about mental health weighing heavier on people in their 20-30’s hit the nail on the head with the “27 Club”. Life is hard. Right when you think you have it bad….someone always has it worse.
I’m an in person teacher, it’s so much better for the students that struggle. I need more response boards for my math class.
You’re so soothing to watch Dr. Dray 💕
I only wear cheap sunglasses because I only lose expensive ones! I had a nice 300$ pair and I jumped in the river with them on. My 20$ pairs last me for years 😂
Me too😂. I would buy like 20 pairs whenever I see them on sale.
Thank you for bringing up the coldness of restaurants, I thought I was the only one lol I’m cold easily in general (I also get hives when it’s too cold) and I hate when everyone is having a good time, I’m over here focusing on staying warm 🙃
I get hives when it’s too cold, too. Cold induced urticaria
The reason restaurants are kept cold is for the workers. The wait staff are running around working up a sweat, and the kitchens are brutal. Air conditioning is expensive to run....a restaurant would keep it warmer if it wasn't for concern the staff would faint.
I started my second semester of nursing school and we’re on zoom for lecture but in person for skills learning and clinical. Saw my first c-section yesterday!
I struggled more with being too cold in Florida because of AC. You’re just sitting there, freezing. It’s easier for me to live in cold places because the interiors are never as cold than in hot places!
AC ! I hear you ! Who wants to undress to try on a bathing suit when the AC temp feels like it could snow any moment ?
Lord that’s true! Your swear turns to frost on your body immediately upon stepping indoors and I swear in some houses I can see my breath. That’s why so many southerners are overweight … to insulate themselves while indoors! Lol
I agree that people seem to level out as they get older. I’m 28 and Im just now starting to feel stable. My friends seem to as well. It was the worst around age 18, at last for me. I think there’s generally more awareness regarding mental health these days too which probably helps accelerate self acceptance.
Wait till your late forties early fifties. They were a wild ride for me. Mostly in a good way. Still miss those days.
I need my glasses mainly for driving at night but a few years ago my insurance was having a deal on prescription sunglasses, so I got a pair. LOVE! I will never be without them again. I also have worked in a hospital for 40 years. I remember when smoking was allowed there! We would have patients in for COPD, have a smoke and then cry for a nebulizer treatment. Crazy.
I used to always forget sunglasses. I love my Dr. V sunglasses. It helps with the prevention of melasma with the side barrier.
Yes! I always make sure to bring a sweater with me wherever I go. I keep it in the car, but go and grab it if the restaurant is freezing. Same with movie theaters.
I have cranial facial Hyperhydrosis & I HATE HOT WEATHER & heat. It gives me so much anxiety. I wish you could PLEASE do a video on Cranial Facial Hyperhydrosis! Have a great day!!
Assalaam Alaikum everyone. Quote of the day: “ Let your unique awesomeness and positive energy inspire confidence in others” Have a great day everyone and lots of love from Zahra, lol. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Greetings Zahra Qauomi hope u r well n Happy Sunday😀👍💜….
Happy Sunday
Happy Sunday Zahra lovely words have a great day my friend 😀🌷🤗
Greetings Mary Ann Gonzalez hope u r well n Happy Sunday😀👍💜….
@@whitneybrown4067 enjoy 😉
Happy Sunday, Dr Dray! When I was growing up, smoking was allowed in doctor's office waiting rooms and in patient's rooms in hospitals!! 🤦Your new stickers are cute. Thanks for another fun vlog. Hope you have a restful evening. 💙
Finally someone putting products on eyelids and the space below eye brows.
Be it moisturiser or eye cream, People simply apply under eye are (atleast in front of camera) and just neglect the upper area and I always wonder what's wrong with these people.
Thanks for specifically showing applying eye cream/moisturiser on eye lid and below eye brow areas.
Hope everyone is having a great Sunday! As far as mental illness, I think PMS kicks your butt in your twenties and thirties and makes it seem like you've got a problem. Also Bulova does make watches .
Those stickers are so cute and useful! As a disabled student with limited mobility, I really love virtual school and wish the option would stick around forever.
My father died from emphysema (smoked since age 15) in 1989. I remember a few weeks later opening a magazine to a full two-page spread ad for Camel cigarettes featuring "snappy comebacks" when someone tells you they are bothered by your cigarette smoke. Can you even imagine???? I was so livid. So glad those days are over.
OMG ~ finally signed up for Drop.
So many great tips from you. My 59 y/o skin has never looked better.
Happy you showed the stickers! So fun:) They are super cute!
Virtual school for the 2nd year here in Dubai. :( Also thank you for everything you do. I'm 17yr guy and, in my society they think it is too "feminine" or "gay" to do skincare. Which is absolutely ridiculous. Glad I grew out of that toxicity. And, now I'll continue taking care of myself. They'll all age faster and, I'll be still glowing. 😈
I'm the same way when I'm cold. I am not a happy camper inside really cold places. Even as a child in family photos out in the snow ... you can tell that I am not happy.
I agree about the smoking ban making us age less and making us healthier as a whole.
I love when my husband travels. I blast the heat the second he leaves.
Based on the vlog yesterday I was taken back to when my car failed the emissions test this year because I haven't driven it much. I was so surprised, had to drive it more for 2 weeks and then it passed yayyyy 🤗 happy Sunday Dr Dray and peeps ❤️ 🥳🥰💖☕
I have heard of that happening to folks. Glad you passed!
Yes they always suggest you run it a bit first. It happened to me also. Glad you passed.
@@GoBlueGirl78 good to know!
Happy Sunday Reed enjoy your day 😃😊😘
I have worn sunglasses for years. They help a lot!
I love the heat and dread fall/winter. I don’t care if it is 100 out- just as long as it is not below 70☀️ I have such bad nerve pain in the cold and hate overly air conditioned stores and winter because it sends my pain levels through the roof. My husband and I are considering a move to Florida or Texas from the northeast because we love heat.
Happy Sunday!! I grew up where smoking in restaurants was normal and I hated it!! There was a “non-smoking” section but yea right it traveled throughout!! 🤢
Happy Sunday
Greetings Kathy Houston hope u r well n Happy Sunday😀👍💜….
@@whitneybrown4067 Hi Whitney, I hope you have a blessed week ahead 🌹💜
And I had such allergies to the cigarette smoke. I could be sitting in a restaurant looking in the window of the one across the street seeing someone smoking and then I would start sneezing. Restaurants were not too kind when you asked for the non-smoking area, that area was reserved and clean and when you sat in the smoking area, patrons heard me ask and then they all decided to light up. I wasn't bold enough then to say you know what, never mind we can eat someplace else. You can surely isolate Us in the other section but you're afraid you may have to clean a table again and you'd prefer I be uncomfortable and unhealthy and pay you for this food.
Happy Sunday Kathy enjoy your day friend 😊😘
I looove those stickers! Stationery is never enough XD also, cuteness has to be warranted in everyone's life!
When you put sunscreen on of course you put it under your nose. I have had two small skin cancer places under my nose and just realized that though I have worn makeup or sunscreen…they popped up. I think it’s because I have allergies and have to wipe or blow my nose often. Of course , I didn’t reapply and I am guessing that’s why those have occurred!
PMHNP here. 20’s and 30’s is when you see the mental breakdowns because that is the time these people are having their first psychotic breaks. During the first few years, people are often not staying consistent on a med regime that works causing the symptoms to be exhibited worse.
mental health amelioration: its probably a correlation between the coping skills and experience gained with aging rather than anything physiological to do with the brain. i personally have seen people's mental health deterioration over the 40s and 50s so.... its really about how much you can do as early on as you can to help yourself cope if you do have a physiological issue. it could ultimately go either way.
Happy Sunday, Dr. Dray 🎀🌸🤍
Greetings Maricel Gundayao hope u r well n Happy Sunday😀👍💜….
@@whitneybrown4067 same to u ☺️👋🥰
Happy Sunday
@@DrDrayzday love the stickers 💕
Eric Clapton , one of the greatest guitar 🎸 masters ever!
I agree with his gift as a musician but he should keep his politics out of his concerts
I don't know that many people know that song. But I'm glad she does
Layla is one of my favorite songs
both extremes (hot and cold) make me miserable lol. I get very lethargic if it's too hot. Books and coffee make me happy, too!
I’m the same! I (not so) jokingly say that I have a 4-5 degree range where I am comfortable! I sleep in long pants, light sweatshirts, sometimes a tank or tee under it, & socks year round!
Schizophrenia is an intriguing subject for me directly. I am a fragile x carrier and unclear where it stemmed from. Now, I’ve heard my great grandfather was “crazy” and likely afflicted by schizophrenia. Interestingly he was an orphan during the depression and once married had approximately 12 daughters and 2 sons. Only one son survived. He was also a farmer raising tobacco, cotton, and sugar. So you tell me: crazy with schizophrenia or crazy because of situation. Perhaps both are true.
Good morning Dr. Dray on this beautiful rainy Sunday.
Omg when you said lip gloss is popping 🤣. Also, I love the Lancôme Juicy lip gloss!!
I hate being too cold from air conditioning if I'm chilling at home or like you mentioned, restaurants can be freezing! If it's winter I don't mind to bundle up in a big sweater and wrap but my family drive me crazy keeping the house too cold. 😬
Some public places have cracked down on vaping. Aerosolized particles can contain THC tainted CBD and nicotine even if bubblegum flavored.
Yes I can't function if I'm freezing especially if I'm in a restaurant trying to relax and enjoy a meal and company. I used to ways take a jacket but I haven't been out in so long!
Dr. Dray, I was watching an old video that you did on urea. It was great. However, I’m still confused about if used in higher concentrations how it differs from an AHA. For example, how does a 12% urea cream differ from 12% lactic or 12% glycolic acid lotion? Would you consider doing a video that contrast urea with AHA and BHA and/or how they can support each other? Thanks.
So if anyone likes a bit of chemistry, the hydration and exfoliation aspect has to do with the hydrogens involved. Hydrogen bonding occurs when things are hydrated, keeps things looking plump and juicy (physical), whereas exfoliation is when a proton is donated by the acid which is a chemical reaction. I think polyhydroxy acids work like this too
This would be so helpful!
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@@floraafroza1365 a subscriber gifted her a foot care cream with urea (it's in an older vlog, but I remember it was from the brand MD) and she said that the concentration was very high so u wouldn't like to put that on your face...40% is considered a high concentration?
Tell us about the dangers of using expired care products. I’m wondering why nail polish expires (other than separating how can you tell it’s expired?), why aerosols expire, and why soap expires specifically.
I live in SoCal and the same thing happens here with AC. My husband and I always carry a wrap to put on when going into a restaurant or store. If I get seated under an AC vent by the time we leave I feel as though I’ve caught a cold - my nose is running, I’m shivering, and I have goosebumps on my arms. This is dating myself, when I was in college, professors and students could smoke during class - talk about second hand smoke! In grad school the class sizes were small and the lecture rooms were too, by the end of the hour/two hour class, my eyes, nose, and throat were stinging. If I get lung cancer it will be from that exposure. Eric Clapton did the Cocaine song.
Greetings Dr. Dray hope u r well n 🖐Hello Every1 n Happy Sunday😀n what a Wonderful Vlog…. thanks👍n Continued Blessings to All💜….
Happy Sunday Whitney! Take care. ❤️🥰
Happy Sunday
Happy Sunday Whitney hope you are having a wonderful day my friend 😀🥰🌷🌷
I totally agree that there needs to be a term like hangry for when we're really cold - I get the same way!!
The sunscreen moustache moment😂😂😂😂
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I agree that the intensity of symptoms for someone with MH Disorder may decrease in time but have seen older adults experiencing episodes at times that would counter that idea. I worked with adults of all ages and even our psychiatrists noted that illness intensity lessens as they age. IMO I think their brain just slows down with that energy maybe younger folks have naturally.
Been watching all your vids.Thanks for sharing your expertise and moments.Take care and God bless you always!
Loved the Chat and Video Dr. Dray!! Happy Sunday a Have a Beautiful Day!! Thank You as Always!! Love and Hugs!! Xoxoxo
Happy Sunday my dear sweet friend 😘hope you are a blessed and wonderful day 😊🤗🌷💙🥰
Thank You Sooo Much Dear Sweet Friend!! Happy Sunday!! I Hope You're a Having a Wonderful Day, and I Hope Your Evening Will Be Relaxing and Beautiful!! Many Blessings, and God Bless You Always!!
@@jackiemarsh2470 thanks so much my friend God bless you and yours and have a relaxing end to your weekend 😉🤗🥰
I love the skin aqua sunscreen too. I have prescription sunglasses, but they weren't expensive. The site I get them from is called $39 glasses, but I think it is a little more for the sunglasses. My regular glasses also darken outside, but it isn't enough in our summer sun. It was worth it to invest in an extra pair of actual sunglasses. My eye doctor is adamant about wearing a hat and sunglasses. I hate hats, but I am determined to start wearing one this year. I just bought a fedora with sun protection. I am hoping it will look good and be an incentive to cover my head more.
Yes! Hate being cold 🥶 fellow Houstonian here 🙋🏼♀️ I love the heat and the humidity
I, too, am MISERABLE in the cold! I've always been that way to a degree, but even more so after my liver transplant 4 yrs ago. My immuno- suppressants exacerbate it to the inth degree! When we go out for dinner, my husband knows to request a table with no direct A/C vents blowing on it!
Happy Sunday! This is my senior year in undergrad and we are all in person, as I was last year due to my major being unteachable online! 💛💛
Those sunglasses are perfect for your face shape.
A couple of years ago you did a video on caring for mature skin. Any chance you could do an update? There are so many products I get confused. I just use Aveeno for my body and Cetaphil as a facial cleanser. For facial moisturiser I use CeraVe and I am yet to find a tinted sunscreen or indeed any sunscreen I can use around my eyes. I am in Australia.
Reverse everything when you sleep in the morning...thank you!
Personality disorders do tend to get less with age but schizophrenia does not get less and in fact gets worse as does actual bipolar disorder (most of the people who say they are bipolar are actually borderline for insurance billing purposes). One of these days I’ll make may own TH-cam channel.
I'm a mental health therapist, and have worked in several community mental health and substance use settings, and I can't speak to the severity necessarily, but I would say the majority of clients are usually under 50, so there could be something to that.
People always ask me why i don’t have many eye wrinkles at 51. I have been wearing sunscreen on my face since my 20’s, but I wonder if it’s because I ALWAYS wear sunglasses. I have to wear glasses to see well, so I almost never go out without my sunnies. I live in Los Angeles where theres bright glare & sunny days year round. However I did smoke occasionally in my 20’s, so the skin around my mouth didn’t hold up as well.
I have always worn sunglasses religiously due to sensitivity to light and I have had crows feet since i was 19. So, theory debunked in my case. Genetics and having an overly expressive face is what I blame it on. And no botox. 😬
@@AllyKit well, so much for that idea. I also have pretty oily skin. That might help me out too.
@@HeatherFonseca How would wearing sunglasses not help prevent crowsfeet? I'm sure it helped you! I mean, you're stopping the sun almost completely so no sun damage can actually occur. Lines are predominately caused by photoaging. I have photosensitivity and have always worn them, since a young adult and seems like the only person doing so on overcast days. At 52, I am just starting to see some lines when I smile. I'm not claiming to look 25 years younger or whatever, but my eye area looks great still
@@ac4181 I definitely have a lot more aging skin on the bottom of my face then around my eyes and brow. I usually wear a hat and almost always wear sunglasses during the day. Makes sense to me
jewelry, stickers, coffee, books, make me happy too:)
I agree, Yelp should require a measurement of the air conditioner coldness 🥶
Happy Sunday to everyone :)
Happy Sunday
Enjoy 😉
I have bipolar I disorder and it has gotten better as time has gone on and I am still in my 30’s. It has been extremely difficult to deal with though. The biggest source of my improvement has been making sure I sleep at least 10 hrs and having a top of the line doctor. Also the medication matters. The miracle drug for me has been VRAYLAR! Lol
Happy Sunday Dr Dray! 💗
Happy Sunday
Eye doc in the chat. You can also get Clip Ons if you find it is too expensive to buy a separate pair of prescription sunglasses. Also there is the Transitions XtraActive that turn 100% dark in the Car.
I'm bipolar 2. When I was in my 20's I had a lot of manic episodes and then I would crash. this was in the mid 70's. I was on Lithium. Awful stuff. As I got older, the manic episodes lessened and depression became a bigger problem. Now, I'm 68 and I haven't had a manic episode in years. Not since I was in my 50's and I was working 2 full time jobs.. Even when I wasn't taking a mood stabilizer. But, depression got way worse. I'm in a good place now, but it's been a journey. Yes, my mental illness has changed as I have aged.
xo~linda
5:25 my husband HATES this about me but i will ask to be moved to another table and go as far as to ask the waiter if they can adjust the thermostat. I have no shame.
Getting colder in WI now. I can’t join Costco or I would be broke. I had no tan this summer which was a good break for my skin. I was a sun lover in past. But still like being outside on my bike or ATV.
I miss your mom. Sunday's with mom were great videos. How is she? I do think of her often. I don't always read the comments, therefore if you have shared - I have missed it. Hugs to her.