Mr. Smith came to class with the CORRECT ANSWERS TODAY!!! I'm so glad we don't have to confiscate your phone this time. We're still watching you though 🤣✊🏾
My mother did not play the"Why?" game with any of her children. When she assigned us chores, all we could say was "Yes, ma'am," and get them chores done. "Why?" wasn't even part of our vocabulary. All "Why?" did was get you smacked in the mouth along with "That's why."
Before I read the comments. I'm going to state my facts. I am a 44 year old white male. Raised by my mom and father. My father has been passed since 2017. I have 2 daughters. So ...now that those facts are straight. If I would ever ask twice shit would hit the fan. If I talked sideways to either of my parents....I'd walk funny for a week. I know for a fact my girls wouldn't even question my statements
Far too many people are listening to psychologists who need to burn their PhD. New age discipline cant touch old school teachings like "Spare the rod... spoil the child." If it aint broke dont fix it!
When my daughter was growing up, I made sure to explain that since she wasn't paying rent, she had a responsibility as a member of the household to help it stay together by mowing the lawn on occasion, washing dishes Tuesdays and Thursdays, etc. I did tell her that she could ask questions about things that didn't make sense or didn't understand, but that chores were not a questionable option. She's finishing college, still does the Tuesdays/Thursdays dishes, and has never been an issue with me, her teachers, or any other adults.
I'm 34 years old. I've experienced some of what many here are saying about not asking why...Asking why should not be considered disrespect. It's the when and how you ask why. Here's a different perspective. Do you know how many generations of families do things with no logical reason why they do things because they never asked why? Grandparents and parents will have the next generation of their family following traits and habits with no explanation. Think of superstitions...step on a Crack you will break your mamas back. You ask your Grandparents why you can't step on a crack they will look at it as disrespect instead of reflecting on it and just saying I don't know why you shouldn't say that. That's one of a lifetime of examples.
@@BRIM5450 man them dumb as superstitions nonsense. I was like that as a kid but I got out that as a teenager lol You know how many mothers with broken backs it would of been. It’s common sense at the end of the day. Some things don’t need to be explained but at the same time some people don’t have any common sense. Only thing I never like doing was walking under fire escape ladders. Final destination 2 made me look at them differently lol
@Shadeed McCall 😄 the first final destination got me the same way when driving behind trucks with giant logs on them. I immediately move to the left lane and get in front...I agree with everything you said though.
Right! I’m all for asking if you Really don’t know why. But there is a way to ask the question respectfully! And when the parent gives you an answer, Then Accept The Answer! PERIOD!
The title alone is going to get a Child of Color knocked out 😭 Let's NOT confuse inquisitiveness with disrespect, they are NOT the same. Reverence & Respect are a MUST because TONE & ATTITUDE are ALWAYS being measured and calculated 🤣🤣🤣🤣
We raised our children “you can say anything you want as long as it’s respectful “. Now my 37yrs old daughter has 3 children with her husband. A 13yr old autistic son, a 9yr old son, and a 3yr old son. When her 9yr old was 3, I told her he needed guidance to what was respectful and what wasn’t. I instructed him and disciplined him, as I did, his mother and his uncle. She took the explaining route. Now his 9, and she FaceTimes me (they live in another state), to talk to him when he’s being disrespectful. I don’t have that problem with him. Shuler is right. These kids are going to go out into the world one day, it’s not going to be pretty. And for Black kids, you don’t have the privilege like white children to act disrespectful in certain situations. Once I had to tell my boss off, without raising my voice, without cursing, but getting my point across. I gave him no reason to write me up or fire me, and he respected me from then on. My actions came from the way I was raised. Y’all setting these kids up.
The answer to all of our "why" questions from back in the day was "because I said so"! I agree with you Schuler. We were not entitled, we were respectful and disciplined.
That's why kids are so disrespectful now, we give them too much rights. We are the parents and just like our parents, "Do as I say and not as I do" and "What I say goes".
@Hazel E I take it that you didn't read the other comments, you came directly for mine but you say that you weren't directing your comment towards me. I feel you were. It was my opinion, not a comment for a debate.
@Hazel E I was yelled at, insulted, criticized and cussed at and out but, that didn't cause me to be disrespectful. Regardless to those things being done to me, I was still taught to respect not just my parents but everyone. But I still never ever questioned my parents because I knew better. That was not allowed in the household that I grew up in and I didn't allow it in mine.
@@lavercherayjohnson1570 so true, i am 41yrs+, i still call my father daddy,...oh man he was in the army and he can cuss ,whoop me and my other siblings ass, call me names etc..and never once i ever disrespected him, nor would i accept any of my brothers or sister to try, not that the do...i also so other people respect and i look forward for the same, when you give a child too much rights they began to feel you and them are of same age group or level, so they would want to act and talk to you any how infront of anyone at any time
I approve this PSA. All of this🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 This is why the world is out of control now....lack of discipline. Standing ovation is due to you, Shuler King👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
I agree. I think it’s ok for children to question and adults should welcome that but I also agree that there’s a place, time and way to do so. It has to be respectful.
Asking a question has parameters. A time and a place keeps order. Tone and body language💎 Discipline vs abuse will have consequences for everyone's future. Choose wisely✌️
As a Kenyan (born n raised by strict parents) all I gotta say is: I wish my son and daughter would!!!😡 EDITS: It's🤡like Elliot (I deliberately omitted the abbreviation "Dr." cuz dude is sick in his head) who are enabling dysfunction, in the name of raising Pookies/ Pookeyshias, Bobokeyshias, Ray Rays, Man Mans and Tyrones, who are out here wild'n tf out. Smh!
When I was little we (my brother and sister) took turns washing dishes and we would do it on a weekly basic. On my week I had just finished cleaning the kitchen when my brother (baby brother) decides to make him some French fries. He peeled the potato, put the grease in the smallest pot we had, drop the wet potatoes in and grease spattered everywhere. I got so mad at him I took the broom handle and busted him upside the head, my mom came in and wanted to know what the commotion was all about and I told her what happened. My brother was over there rubbing his head thought tears would get to her heart and get me in trouble, but she looked at him and the mess he created and told him he would have to clean the kitchen for the next 2 weeks. He had the audacity to ask why, and I’m not kidding, she turned her neck in slow motion, we knew what that meant, and he immediately apologized to me and said yes ma’am to her. O, the good ole days😅😅😅
I never thought asking a question was disrespectful. What's disrespectful is asking a question to which you already know the answer. Also, a question should no be mistaken for a challenge. A challenge will get you hurt!😏😏😏
Context matters. My mother was a strong disciplinarian, meaning that fresh beatings were always on the menu. She gave me discipline without explaining the ultimate messaging. I grew up hating my mother instead of recognizing that she was preventing my environment from determining my future. I grew up to become a Vet and an attorney. I too handed out fresh discipline to my twin sons when they were younger. BUT, I explained why I was doing it and what behavior was needed to keep them on the right patch. You can have a respectful conversation with your kids without making them fearful of asking why/understanding why things are happening to them and without them being insubordinate. They needs those skills, too.
This reminds me of that episode of Everybody Hates Chris where he asked why he had to do all the chores while the other 2 kids NEVER had to do anything. In this episode, he was actually right. I mean the kid had a job and goes to school and then has to come home and do everything by himself! The mom didn’t even have a job lol
Very true statement there by Mr. King my mother taught me, and my big brother a valuable lesson in 89 she told us straight up I'm not your friend they live across the street I'm here to teach and raise you up into respectful adults now as a 43 year old man I still say yes to my mother when I answer my phone when she calls me never a what or why your calling me.
My son is sitting in a Florida jail at this very moment.. I use lie and make excuses for him.. Now he's facing thirty years.. So trust me when I say discipline them now.. Or cry later ❤.. Be blessed family ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
My mama raised 3 boys by herself and me being the oldest I knew the assignment full well and told my brothers “don’t test mama, or that’s your ass” unfortunately they had to learn the hard way that mama wasn’t the one 😂😂
Agree to an extent. Abuse, neglect etc. I had many questions and answered them myself when I went to foster care and started a loving family and broke all those generational curses!
I grew up in the 70's and I'm the youngest of 4. We were allowed to have conversations with our parents and ask questions as long as we were respectful. This did not mean we questioned everything we were told to do. I know this taught me how to be a leader and question things if needed. I also believe this taught me how not to fall for anything. This is my perspective based on how I was raised. Not looking for anyone's approval just giving my perspective. Peace, Love, Joy and blessings to you all💖
I see where he is coming from myself, since as a kid I learned the best when my parents explained what the consequences of not doing something is. It’s sad he suggested it in a disrespectful way like asking, “why?” 😂
Shuler on some real talk, well amen I'm doing my job as a mother🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾and my goodness that was funny, the condom broke. Amen this is real talk right here. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The problem is that parents now these days raise their kids like if they’re friends. My daughter knows my house is ran like a dictatorship, there ain’t going to be any 21 questions 50 cent type rules.
The way your parent treat you is the way you learn how to be loved. That to me is the most important part of parenting. My dad taught me to walk on egg shells and it's taking a long time to try to unlearn what he taught. Patents need to teach more instead of always getting their pride and ego involved. I asked why all the time when I was very young bc I wanted to understand everything. Shutting down the why child is telling them to stop being curious and stop trying to understand. And you're not wrong at all about needing to teach them if you ask the wrong question at the wrong time you might get you butt handed to you rearranged.😂 facts about real world vs rich world!!
When I was at child…My 102 year old grandmother would have wrapped that 3 braided mulberry switch around me like a belt if I would have came outta my mouth slick like that.
@7:29 Mr. King, you had me on the floor😅😂! Because my Dad when we were teenagers, basically said the same exact words to one of my brothers, with our mom, having already making it Loud and Clear!
Exactly! Asking “why” with an attitude is a behavior issue- and that’s when I say “oh heck no!” Asking why respectfully out of genuine curiosity is totally different. It all comes down to tone. ❤
My mom always said I'm raising my children & grandchildren to be productive members of society, my parents were very good disciplinarians, stayed on top of everything. They're older now n I still show them the respect they taught me. But I understand not everyone came from a good household. So my prayers go out to those who have such a tough time with their kids. I get it truly. All will be well 1 day n hopefully sooner than later in life. Amen ☝️ 🙏 🌐🎯🕯🗣🫂
Shuler, "thank you," for this profound and enlightening message about children and discipline. My late parents were old-school and I appreciate the life's lessons that they instilled in me. One was sometimes you may want to give your opinion about something, but it maybe to your advantage to keep quiet, period!
@@1limited669 and I've heard 'em tell their parent/parents I'll call the police if you whip me🙃🙃🙃um... let's just say a certain cultural of us😅😅😅don't care who you call... don't do it to yourself. I tried it and I still remember that a** whippin'😅🤣🤣R.I.L. mama and thank you
It depends on what they're asking why about. If its a life lesson, I have no problem explaining it so I can prepareyou for the world. If its something I told you to do or said no to, I'm not explaining myself...
Children shouldn't disrespect their parents,but being allowed to ask why is understandable. That's why people grow up now not knowing anything, because parents don't want to explain themselves.. but most of the time it's because they don't have the answers and they don't wanna look stupid I tell my children anything they wanna know and I don't sugar coat anything. Why would I send my children out into the world blind?
I agree! A lot of kids nowadays don’t know the difference because their parents classify anything as disrespectful which in turn makes their emotions hard to handle for themselves and everyone else. You can’t expect a child to be properly upright in the world if you don’t teach them.
I feel the same. Some parents are afraid of being percieved a way when they don't have the answers because naturally as a child you expect them too. At the same time I also feel they think they don't have to answer because of the impacts from our ancestral upbringing. But that's just my opinion.
Well they want to know. If you're not prepared to answer at that time. Get the answers and come back to the table. It is a learning experience for both.
I'm an 80s baby and child and my parents didn't play when my older siblings asked "why" when we were told to do house chores. My sister asked that question and our parents gave her an earful of yelling and profanity along with "because I said so!". My kids don't ask why when I tell them to do something, they go ahead and do it.
Stuff like this is why these teens and young adults are running rampant actin a fool shootin each other and disrespectin everyone... Cause they didn't get roundhoused for asking anything.... I've seen Moms whoop kids butt for ASKING his mom if he can have a piece of candy from the store.
Please stop lying. Y'all kids been running around and engaging in gang activity since forever. How did pac and biggie die again? Bet it wasn't from getting disciplined and not asking why. Y'all always like to make up random, ignorant stuff all the time.
There was three of us growing up. We each had one chore for a whole week. If we skipped one day of not doing that chore that was one more week of that chore on top of you're new chore. I got stuck with six weeks of washing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen along with my other chores. I learned my lesson
I think as long as this is not being done in a disrespectful way then there isn't anything wrong with asking why especially if it is something that you want to know.
Yessss, Absolutely correct. If they ask respectfully, they need to get a reply because I didn't have the gut to ask my parents anything and I was emotionally abuse because they were so entitled because they were parents.
I’m 26 & I wish I would ask my momma “why” for any freakin thing. My mom is great at explaining things to me but I learned that I don’t like negative consequences of any kind, so ain’t no way I’m bucking up, breathing wrong, rolling my eyes, scoffing, sucking my teeth, whatever! That’s what happens when you DISCIPLINE your children!!
We had to get permission to open the fridge and get a drink. 😂 when we woke up we had to say good morning mom good morning dad and your teeth and face must be clean before you come to breakfast..these new age kid coming with mouth drool and eye snot to breakfast.
Absolutely not. I’m 52…I didn’t consider ever talking back. When my mom THOUGHT I did, she reminded me she had a rifle with a scope (1982 in Oscoda, Mich). I didn’t tolerate it from my kids…and no matter how cute they are…don’t from my grandkids either. I wish they would even try it. Got my pressure going up😂
I agree children should listen and we should explain things to them. I did everything my parents ask and said. As an adult, however, it took a long time to develop the confidence to ask for more information and why especially in the workplace.
If yo kids don't listen to you at home then they gone be listening to a Corrections Officer or Prison Warden.
Mr. Smith came to class with the CORRECT ANSWERS TODAY!!! I'm so glad we don't have to confiscate your phone this time. We're still watching you though 🤣✊🏾
Yeppers 👍
Fo sho
Facts 💯
Say it again! Schuler preach and came in with the holy Amen❤
My mother did not play the"Why?" game with any of her children. When she assigned us chores, all we could say was "Yes, ma'am," and get them chores done. "Why?" wasn't even part of our vocabulary. All "Why?" did was get you smacked in the mouth along with "That's why."
I know that’s right my mother and grandma didn’t play that neither…
Thats why black people are fucked up today 😂 they just follow rules and dont ask questions
SUPER FACTS FRFR🙏💯🖤🧐😎
INDEED!!
WHY are the kids today are so disrespectful? BECAUSE THEY DIDNT HAVE THE MOM & GRANDMA WE HAD! That’s *WHY* 💯👍🏿
Lol, right!
Growing up, your parents asked you one time to do something and if you didn't do it you caught a Belt across your behind.
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@Robert Smith What's good with you, bro? 👊🏻 The Sixers are in the playoffs! 🗣
@@jayskicksnfits9372 I'm doing good bro how about you?👊 They deserve it they played hard all year.
@@RobertSmith-ru1ck I'm chillin bro, no complaints over here. 👊🏻 They really fought hard despite the injuries and the trades.
With some extra special sauce on the side " because I say so . "
Race tracks shoes brushes whatever and when that why came to mind you instantly remembered that whooping and why went and sat down somewhere
If you don't discipline them someone else will.
The prison system will fo sho!!!
The govt 😂😂😂😂 for example thise nonsense boys who shot up family over Christmas presents.
They will discipline you later...
I'm 60 yrs old, still don't ask my Mama why😂 Just do what you're told!
And live long and prosper
Hello 🤣🤣
lol facts, my mama had that look🤨 you knew and only had two choices do as your told or get that belt lol
#METOO!😅
Me too
Before I read the comments. I'm going to state my facts. I am a 44 year old white male. Raised by my mom and father. My father has been passed since 2017. I have 2 daughters. So ...now that those facts are straight. If I would ever ask twice shit would hit the fan. If I talked sideways to either of my parents....I'd walk funny for a week. I know for a fact my girls wouldn't even question my statements
Correction comes in all ethnicities and if you're southern you should nuff got it and got it bad.
The old generations raised their kids right.
Far too many people are listening to psychologists who need to burn their PhD. New age discipline cant touch old school teachings like "Spare the rod... spoil the child." If it aint broke dont fix it!
Same!
I know that's right 😂
"Don't ask questions that will get your ears put together!"😂
Very vivid image. 🤣🤣🤣 I saw two hands coming together upside both side of the kids’ head. 🤦🏾♀️
When my daughter was growing up, I made sure to explain that since she wasn't paying rent, she had a responsibility as a member of the household to help it stay together by mowing the lawn on occasion, washing dishes Tuesdays and Thursdays, etc. I did tell her that she could ask questions about things that didn't make sense or didn't understand, but that chores were not a questionable option. She's finishing college, still does the Tuesdays/Thursdays dishes, and has never been an issue with me, her teachers, or any other adults.
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I agree
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Amen
Spot on.
"Why" Children SHOULD DISRESPECT their parents.........I'm old school, "Disrespect thy parents" was NOT tolerated in our family!
Amen that meant you needed a new address 😉
I'm 34 years old. I've experienced some of what many here are saying about not asking why...Asking why should not be considered disrespect. It's the when and how you ask why. Here's a different perspective. Do you know how many generations of families do things with no logical reason why they do things because they never asked why? Grandparents and parents will have the next generation of their family following traits and habits with no explanation. Think of superstitions...step on a Crack you will break your mamas back. You ask your Grandparents why you can't step on a crack they will look at it as disrespect instead of reflecting on it and just saying I don't know why you shouldn't say that. That's one of a lifetime of examples.
Sounds like an easy way to get hurt..😂😂😂
@@BRIM5450 man them dumb as superstitions nonsense. I was like that as a kid but I got out that as a teenager lol You know how many mothers with broken backs it would of been. It’s common sense at the end of the day. Some things don’t need to be explained but at the same time some people don’t have any common sense. Only thing I never like doing was walking under fire escape ladders. Final destination 2 made me look at them differently lol
@Shadeed McCall 😄 the first final destination got me the same way when driving behind trucks with giant logs on them. I immediately move to the left lane and get in front...I agree with everything you said though.
"The condom popped and Trojan won't answer the phone!"😂
Lord have mercy!
I hollered 😂😂
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As a South African, I tried several times, but couldn't make out the last part🤣🤣🤣 until you wrote out the Trojan part
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😂😂😂😅😅😅caught me off guard with that one
"Wash the dishes so that I don't have hospital bills!" 😂
Shuler needs prayer!
LoL 😂😂😂😂
Urgent care here I come, if I didn’t do my chores. Inside house and the neighborhood
PREACH Shuler. Alot of people are learning manners from you. You are telling it like it's. 💯👊🏽👏🏿👏🏿
Right! I’m all for asking if you Really don’t know why. But there is a way to ask the question respectfully! And when the parent gives you an answer, Then Accept The Answer! PERIOD!
The title alone is going to get a Child of Color knocked out 😭 Let's NOT confuse inquisitiveness with disrespect, they are NOT the same. Reverence & Respect are a MUST because TONE & ATTITUDE are ALWAYS being measured and calculated 🤣🤣🤣🤣
That sends shivers up my spine just thinking about it. I don't even ask my mom "why" till this day😅😅😅
Exactly!😂
Right!!!! 😂😂
Same
Respect
My grandmother had a stroke and suffered from dementia. I was still too afraid to get out of line with her. Nope not happening!
He's about to single-handedly revive the belt manufacturing industry.
OOOH WEEE, SHOLE IS 👈🫣🫢
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We raised our children “you can say anything you want as long as it’s respectful “. Now my 37yrs old daughter has 3 children with her husband. A 13yr old autistic son, a 9yr old son, and a 3yr old son. When her 9yr old was 3, I told her he needed guidance to what was respectful and what wasn’t. I instructed him and disciplined him, as I did, his mother and his uncle. She took the explaining route. Now his 9, and she FaceTimes me (they live in another state), to talk to him when he’s being disrespectful. I don’t have that problem with him. Shuler is right. These kids are going to go out into the world one day, it’s not going to be pretty. And for Black kids, you don’t have the privilege like white children to act disrespectful in certain situations. Once I had to tell my boss off, without raising my voice, without cursing, but getting my point across. I gave him no reason to write me up or fire me, and he respected me from then on. My actions came from the way I was raised.
Y’all setting these kids up.
Very true true 5c
As if these kids weren't disrespectful AF already!;
I have absolutely NOTHING to say Shuler is 1000percent correct. I have no words.❤❤❤
The answer to all of our "why" questions from back in the day was "because I said so"! I agree with you Schuler. We were not entitled, we were respectful and disciplined.
That's why kids are so disrespectful now, we give them too much rights. We are the parents and just like our parents, "Do as I say and not as I do" and "What I say goes".
@Hazel E I agree that we both have valid opinions.
@Hazel E I take it that you didn't read the other comments, you came directly for mine but you say that you weren't directing your comment towards me. I feel you were. It was my opinion, not a comment for a debate.
@Hazel E I was yelled at, insulted, criticized and cussed at and out but, that didn't cause me to be disrespectful. Regardless to those things being done to me, I was still taught to respect not just my parents but everyone. But I still never ever questioned my parents because I knew better. That was not allowed in the household that I grew up in and I didn't allow it in mine.
@@lavercherayjohnson1570 so true, i am 41yrs+, i still call my father daddy,...oh man he was in the army and he can cuss ,whoop me and my other siblings ass, call me names etc..and never once i ever disrespected him, nor would i accept any of my brothers or sister to try, not that the do...i also so other people respect and i look forward for the same, when you give a child too much rights they began to feel you and them are of same age group or level, so they would want to act and talk to you any how infront of anyone at any time
@@bizboy8631 I totally agree with you. Give them an inch and they run all over you.
I approve this PSA. All of this🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 This is why the world is out of control now....lack of discipline. Standing ovation is due to you, Shuler King👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Not the world, just western civilization.
"Honor thy Father and thy Mother"...is the Fifth COMMANDMENT! If me and my siblings didn't do this, we knew what was coming!
@Hazel E that does not apply here
Exactly 💯 👍 amen ☝️ 🙏
@@hazele1560 thank you people tend to ignore this important detail
@@wandaalston859yes it does
@@hazele1560you’re right- you see how the other person tried to act like it’s not in the Bible 🤣😂😂😂
Preach it Shuler! You are 1000% Correct. I appreciate this commentary.
Yep!!!!!!!!!!!
My parents were like Clint Eastwood when it came down to the belt growing up. They didn't miss a shot 🎯😖😩😫
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📖🎯 spare the rod,spoil the child
Go ahead..... Make my day‼️🤣🤣🤣
They asked us, "feelin' lucky, punk?" 😅😂 🤣
Parent: Do the dishes
Child: Why can't ...?
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Child:🤕 Yes ma'am/sir
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That was it, that's all.
Yep! That how that go...😊
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As my husband says, everything starts at home!
In our community, even if you asked, you'll be met with the diabolical answer "Because i said so!"
RESPECT goes BOTH ways.
So DON'T start none, WON'T be none. 🍵 😏
Word!
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I TOTALLY agree.
I'm not explaining and OVERLY explaining myself.
It's how , when and why a child is asking...
Watch the tone.
Respect and tone is 🔑, some ppl can’t wrap their heads around it.
I agree. I think it’s ok for children to question and adults should welcome that but I also agree that there’s a place, time and way to do so. It has to be respectful.
If he’s speaking about our children, he must be trying to set them up .
😂😂 Yes he is and he look like a set up himself 😅.
Kids owe their parents obedience and respect.
Exactly , these children now days live in a whole another world. The world we where raised and trained in no longer exist.😂😂😂😊
I am shout'n 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Joyce Washington.I always wish those days were still here.
In my house it does... IT APPLIES EVERYDAY!!!
We better bring that world back... If it ain't too late🙄
Asking a question has parameters.
A time and a place keeps order.
Tone and body language💎
Discipline vs abuse will have consequences for everyone's future. Choose wisely✌️
As a Kenyan (born n raised by strict parents) all I gotta say is: I wish my son and daughter would!!!😡
EDITS: It's🤡like Elliot (I deliberately omitted the abbreviation "Dr." cuz dude is sick in his head) who are enabling dysfunction, in the name of raising Pookies/ Pookeyshias, Bobokeyshias, Ray Rays, Man Mans and Tyrones, who are out here wild'n tf out. Smh!
Amen to that!!!
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Amen!😂😂😂
From a fellow Kenyan my daughter tried- ask her how the movie ended😂😂
When I was little we (my brother and sister) took turns washing dishes and we would do it on a weekly basic. On my week I had just finished cleaning the kitchen when my brother (baby brother) decides to make him some French fries. He peeled the potato, put the grease in the smallest pot we had, drop the wet potatoes in and grease spattered everywhere. I got so mad at him I took the broom handle and busted him upside the head, my mom came in and wanted to know what the commotion was all about and I told her what happened. My brother was over there rubbing his head thought tears would get to her heart and get me in trouble, but she looked at him and the mess he created and told him he would have to clean the kitchen for the next 2 weeks. He had the audacity to ask why, and I’m not kidding, she turned her neck in slow motion, we knew what that meant, and he immediately apologized to me and said yes ma’am to her. O, the good ole days😅😅😅
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Disrespecting your parents = you know what🤣
I never thought asking a question was disrespectful. What's disrespectful is asking a question to which you already know the answer. Also, a question should no be mistaken for a challenge. A challenge will get you hurt!😏😏😏
Context matters. My mother was a strong disciplinarian, meaning that fresh beatings were always on the menu. She gave me discipline without explaining the ultimate messaging. I grew up hating my mother instead of recognizing that she was preventing my environment from determining my future. I grew up to become a Vet and an attorney. I too handed out fresh discipline to my twin sons when they were younger. BUT, I explained why I was doing it and what behavior was needed to keep them on the right patch. You can have a respectful conversation with your kids without making them fearful of asking why/understanding why things are happening to them and without them being insubordinate. They needs those skills, too.
Thank you, thank you. Exactly.
My dad always told me that sometimes you gotta be an asshole. Now that I'm older, he's ABSOLUTELY right😅
Had I asked my mama why when given a task I’d look like this 😶
I totally agree my brother,old school no chaser👊🏾💯
This reminds me of that episode of Everybody Hates Chris where he asked why he had to do all the chores while the other 2 kids NEVER had to do anything. In this episode, he was actually right. I mean the kid had a job and goes to school and then has to come home and do everything by himself! The mom didn’t even have a job lol
Dude is out here trying get kids KILLED!!! WHAT??? 😮 Did he forget that we’re BLACK?!?! 🤣
Exactly!! That's exactkyvwgst I thought. Sone people are allowed celebrity status just so they can bring chaos
Very true statement there by Mr. King my mother taught me, and my big brother a valuable lesson in 89 she told us straight up I'm not your friend they live across the street I'm here to teach and raise you up into respectful adults now as a 43 year old man I still say yes to my mother when I answer my phone when she calls me never a what or why your calling me.
Exactly I'm 52 and I still answer my 71 year old mother ma'am
Productive members of society
My son is sitting in a Florida jail at this very moment.. I use lie and make excuses for him.. Now he's facing thirty years.. So trust me when I say discipline them now.. Or cry later ❤.. Be blessed family ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
The best commentary I have heard in a LONG......LONG...LONG......time. Wow!....Please give Mr. SK thumbs UP on this 1!!!
My mama raised 3 boys by herself and me being the oldest I knew the assignment full well and told my brothers “don’t test mama, or that’s your ass” unfortunately they had to learn the hard way that mama wasn’t the one 😂😂
Agree to an extent. Abuse, neglect etc. I had many questions and answered them myself when I went to foster care and started a loving family and broke all those generational curses!
“The condom popped and Trojan won’t answer the phone” I’m in tears!😂😂😂😂😂😂
I grew up in the 70's and I'm the youngest of 4. We were allowed to have conversations with our parents and ask questions as long as we were respectful. This did not mean we questioned everything we were told to do. I know this taught me how to be a leader and question things if needed. I also believe this taught me how not to fall for anything. This is my perspective based on how I was raised. Not looking for anyone's approval just giving my perspective. Peace, Love, Joy and blessings to you all💖
I agree. If my children had asked me why more, I would have been a better mother with well-informed children.
I see where he is coming from myself, since as a kid I learned the best when my parents explained what the consequences of not doing something is. It’s sad he suggested it in a disrespectful way like asking, “why?” 😂
Shuler you telling the truth.
Shuler on some real talk, well amen I'm doing my job as a mother🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾and my goodness that was funny, the condom broke. Amen this is real talk right here. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
The problem is that parents now these days raise their kids like if they’re friends. My daughter knows my house is ran like a dictatorship, there ain’t going to be any 21 questions 50 cent type rules.
Like I told my daughter I'm Michael Jackson and your Tito she is grown now and completely gets it😂😂
Preach shuler!!
The way your parent treat you is the way you learn how to be loved. That to me is the most important part of parenting. My dad taught me to walk on egg shells and it's taking a long time to try to unlearn what he taught. Patents need to teach more instead of always getting their pride and ego involved. I asked why all the time when I was very young bc I wanted to understand everything. Shutting down the why child is telling them to stop being curious and stop trying to understand. And you're not wrong at all about needing to teach them if you ask the wrong question at the wrong time you might get you butt handed to you rearranged.😂 facts about real world vs rich world!!
When I was at child…My 102 year old grandmother would have wrapped that 3 braided mulberry switch around me like a belt if I would have came outta my mouth slick like that.
@7:29 Mr. King, you had me on the floor😅😂! Because my Dad when we were teenagers, basically said the same exact words to one of my brothers, with our mom, having already making it Loud and Clear!
This touches my soul coz i live with a bunch of them "why" types.
Whew chile. 🙏🏽
Exactly! Asking “why” with an attitude is a behavior issue- and that’s when I say “oh heck no!” Asking why respectfully out of genuine curiosity is totally different. It all comes down to tone. ❤
My mom always said I'm raising my children & grandchildren to be productive members of society, my parents were very good disciplinarians, stayed on top of everything. They're older now n I still show them the respect they taught me. But I understand not everyone came from a good household. So my prayers go out to those who have such a tough time with their kids. I get it truly. All will be well 1 day n hopefully sooner than later in life. Amen ☝️ 🙏 🌐🎯🕯🗣🫂
The military (and my mom) said it this way, ‘yours is not to reason why, yours is but to do or die.’
Shuler, "thank you," for this profound and enlightening message about children and discipline. My late parents were old-school and I appreciate the life's lessons that they instilled in me. One was sometimes you may want to give your opinion about something, but it maybe to your advantage to keep quiet, period!
Yes they should be allowed to ask why the answer should not be because I said so it makes them shut down like he said explain
Thank you!
I didn't ask you to be here the condom pop,honestly I wasn't ready 😂😂😂😂😂
You're 💯 right
gone are the days of using belts, switches, shoes, anything to knock some sense into the kids of today
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@@andrewroles3417 how we were disciplined back in the day is considered abuse these days 🤷🏽♀️
@@JacquelineL. I know I just put that because I was thinking about what you said another way I should have been more clear excuse me
Exactly!....Use a belt, switch today, Kids got the child abuse hotline on speed dial!😂😂
@@1limited669 and I've heard 'em tell their parent/parents I'll call the police if you whip me🙃🙃🙃um... let's just say a certain cultural of us😅😅😅don't care who you call... don't do it to yourself. I tried it and I still remember that a** whippin'😅🤣🤣R.I.L. mama and thank you
I asked that question 1 time, it was the first time, with an answer "Because I said So" with a look, making it the last and only time!!😂
There is nothing wrong with the child asking why as long as they're respectful in doing so.
It depends on what they're asking why about. If its a life lesson, I have no problem explaining it so I can prepareyou for the world. If its something I told you to do or said no to, I'm not explaining myself...
Children shouldn't disrespect their parents,but being allowed to ask why is understandable.
That's why people grow up now not knowing anything, because parents don't want to explain themselves.. but most of the time it's because they don't have the answers and they don't wanna look stupid
I tell my children anything they wanna know and I don't sugar coat anything. Why would I send my children out into the world blind?
I agree! A lot of kids nowadays don’t know the difference because their parents classify anything as disrespectful which in turn makes their emotions hard to handle for themselves and everyone else. You can’t expect a child to be properly upright in the world if you don’t teach them.
@@devbyrd6127 exactly.
I say the same thing there is a line between education with questioning, and discipline and we can draw it properly 🎉
I feel the same. Some parents are afraid of being percieved a way when they don't have the answers because naturally as a child you expect them too. At the same time I also feel they think they don't have to answer because of the impacts from our ancestral upbringing. But that's just my opinion.
Slavery/violence still has a stronghold! Mostly from mothers who’d rather shut you up than say IDK and not feel powerless.
Well they want to know. If you're not prepared to answer at that time. Get the answers and come back to the table. It is a learning experience for both.
I'm an 80s baby and child and my parents didn't play when my older siblings asked "why" when we were told to do house chores. My sister asked that question and our parents gave her an earful of yelling and profanity along with "because I said so!". My kids don't ask why when I tell them to do something, they go ahead and do it.
Luv this. Needed to hear this as a parent of teens that are on my nerves. Ugh
If you instruct a child correctly the first time, they won't, and won't have to ask why. And if they do, they know that hell follows the answer.
Children today straight up tell you what, they are not going to do. The law does allow parents to handle children like they need to be.
"The condemn Poppin Trojan won't answer the phone," that is soo funny because it's true. 😂
1. Provide
2. Protect
3. Prepare
Asking questions is for people who pay bills in the house.
NEVER DISRESPECT YOUR PARENTS
During my childhood, DISRESPECT was a word we couldn’t say, spell or think! It was because we didn’t want to be bald, toothless, or bruised. 😳😊
Point was presented thoroughly and precisely.
Stuff like this is why these teens and young adults are running rampant actin a fool shootin each other and disrespectin everyone... Cause they didn't get roundhoused for asking anything.... I've seen Moms whoop kids butt for ASKING his mom if he can have a piece of candy from the store.
Or the reason why they want to get into a relationship cause they want the partner to do all the work
Please stop lying. Y'all kids been running around and engaging in gang activity since forever. How did pac and biggie die again? Bet it wasn't from getting disciplined and not asking why. Y'all always like to make up random, ignorant stuff all the time.
It “strucketh” me!😂😂😂😂
HIS CHURCH PHRASE
"Don't get your ears slapped together."😂😂😂
There was three of us growing up. We each had one chore for a whole week. If we skipped one day of not doing that chore that was one more week of that chore on top of you're new chore. I got stuck with six weeks of washing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen along with my other chores. I learned my lesson
I think as long as this is not being done in a disrespectful way then there isn't anything wrong with asking why especially if it is something that you want to know.
Yessss, Absolutely correct. If they ask respectfully, they need to get a reply because I didn't have the gut to ask my parents anything and I was emotionally abuse because they were so entitled because they were parents.
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Cool to ask a question as they should be comfortable to do so. But when it comes to chores - we all got a job in this house 😂
@@rogers5622 lol
Some parents unfortunately can't tell the difference between discipline, and treating your kids like you're on a plantation smh
As my Big Mama would say, you will listen to somebody!! Lol
I’m 26 & I wish I would ask my momma “why” for any freakin thing. My mom is great at explaining things to me but I learned that I don’t like negative consequences of any kind, so ain’t no way I’m bucking up, breathing wrong, rolling my eyes, scoffing, sucking my teeth, whatever! That’s what happens when you DISCIPLINE your children!!
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We had to get permission to open the fridge and get a drink. 😂 when we woke up we had to say good morning mom good morning dad and your teeth and face must be clean before you come to breakfast..these new age kid coming with mouth drool and eye snot to breakfast.
Lol.
I agree with you 💯💯💯👍👍👍👍👍
Absolutely not. I’m 52…I didn’t consider ever talking back. When my mom THOUGHT I did, she reminded me she had a rifle with a scope (1982 in Oscoda, Mich). I didn’t tolerate it from my kids…and no matter how cute they are…don’t from my grandkids either. I wish they would even try it. Got my pressure going up😂
I agree children should listen and we should explain things to them. I did everything my parents ask and said. As an adult, however, it took a long time to develop the confidence to ask for more information and why especially in the workplace.
My parents said I can't watch The Breakfast Club anymore. They passed on some years ago but I still know what their opinion would be. 😁
In my home, WHY would get your teeth KNOCKED out😂
Damn my Mom would tell me and sisters, " bought you into this world and I can take you out"😂😂
Well said!Thank you Mr. Shuler . Delivered again!
Spoil the child.spare the rod.❤