Hi Guys! I love that you guys are sharing your coffee favs from Starbucks! Keep sharing them! You're giving me such great ideas. I'm going to try a few in my upcoming videos. Maybe I'll choose yours!
Venti Cafe Vanilla Frappuccino with no whipped cream, add caramel drizzle with 2 extra shots!! Not too sweet, no clue about calories. Probably awful. But THE best drink. lol.
I get either a 9w1 or 6w5 on the online quizzes. It really depends on the situation (I could be a healthy 6 and act like a 9 or be a stressed 9 and look like a 6... it's hard to tell). Conflict is a big fear of mine, but I also overanalyze everything and worry for safety. I also always see both sides to situations and like to know other people's opinions and thoughts before making a decision or before they ask my opinion so that I don't say something that could cause conflict.
I kind of disagree with what you said being afraid of conflict and type 6. I still get confused about whether I’m a 6 or a 9 because I feel strongly that my core desire is security. But I hate conflict and I am anxious about engaging in it. The only difference is if a conflict arises I will anxiously engage as soon as possible because I want it over with. If I ignore it I will constantly be anxious over it, but there are certain conflicts I’ve had where I feel like a super unhealthy 9. That’s the thing I’m confused by, when I feel stressed, usually negative stress, I become very 9 rather than 3. But I am definitely not a core 3😂 And when I’m more healthy I feel that I can accomplish things like a 3😂 So then I wonder if I’m a 9 but the harmony desire doesn’t resonate nearly as strong as the 6 desires and fears
In my experience, "cannot make decisions" is probably one of the most defining traits of Type 6. Example: A 6w5 I know once wanted to buy a bicycle to get in shape. When he got to the bike shop, he spent a very long time looking at the various bikes on display, and then found a manager & proceeded to ask him about a thousand questions. He wasn't sure which bike was best for him, and he had issues with the store's returns policy (you could return a bike, but only for store credit). Finally he left, saying he'd have to think over his decision. And then once he got home, he sent pictures of some of the top contenders to a couple of his friends to "get their input".
I enjoyed this video! I'm a type 2, but I find your videos contrasting the various types to be very helpful so I can understand others better. Thanks for what you're doing!
I am a 4 and I used to work with a 6 and this is how we differed. I would have something hit me emotionally and I would be upset and shaken, but then in thinking about it, my 5 wing would rationalise it and settle me with logic and reason. The 6 was the opposite. Something would hit her and then in her thinking more about it, her thoughts would make her more troubled and emotional. In that sense, 4s and 6s are backward. 4s are emotion first, then 5 wing logic and reason to help balance. 6s are head first and then in thinking more, their thoughts make them feel worse, as they move onto worst-case scenarios and projections that everyone hates them, etc.
This video was very helpful. I mistyped as almost every type on the enneagram. Especially 7, 9 and 4. I mistyped as 7 because it's my wing, as 9 because I'm a phobic 6, and the 4 is a little more complicated... I'm very emotionally intense. Sure, I'm mostly in my head 24/7, i overthink but i also overfeel. My emotions are very overwhelming and i can't control them most of the time, even when my 7 wing tries to avoid negativity, i always end up drowning in my emotions and my sadness. I think mental health is very relevant here tho, I've always struggled with depression and my therapist thinks i could have bipolar disorder. That would explain the overwhelming emotions. I also felt misunderstood growing up and like other people didn't introspect like i did or didn't have my kind of depth lol but i think this can be explained with tritype (having a 4 fix does that to you huh). I think what made me realize i was a 6 core and not a 4 is that i don't have the issue 4s have against being "normal" or "part of the crowd". Being authentic or true to myself is really not that important to me. I'm a social variant 6 therefore i care a lot about belonging and i like being as human as possible and going along with others, unlike 4s who sometimes think they're not human lol. I think people forget being a 4 is not only about being overemotional (that you can be overemotional and still be a head type) but about authenticity. After all the fear of the 4 core Is not having a significant or authentic identity, not standing out, not being more than what others expect of them. 6s on the other hand, we don't care about standing out and we're happy following other people's expectations most of the time. After all we mostly fear being without their guidance!
I'm a four and yeah the being authentic and not going with the crowd is a big part. For example, I'll avoid listening to certain types of music or bands even if they're nice because they're popular. Also, the way I dress is important. If I feel like what I'm wearing isn't true to my personality, I get uncomfortable wearing it for a long period of time or repeatedly. Also, I do get really scared sometimes but not much is going through my head when I get scared, I just am scared. I just feel scared. "Sure I know operating this machine won't hurt me and I'm safe but I'm still scared. Maybe it's too loud or something. Don't know but my heart is still beating like a loud speaker and it feels as if there's a tight grip around my throat." Stuff like that.
Thank you so much for making this informative video!!! :) Everything that you mentioned about the type 6 described me well except for when you said that they aren’t as afraid of conflict as a type 9. I tend to avoid conflict because it stresses me out. Would you say that there are some type 6’s who are very conflict avoidant?
My mother is a conflict avoidant 6. This is a random thought but maybe 6s are conflict avoidant because they're thinking about what could go wrong as a result of that conflict while maybe 9s avoid conflict because it disturbs their peace which might cause them to feel emotions they don't want to feel or make them deal with problems that they don't want to deal with.
So here is the thing. I have an odd mix of disliking conflict but at the same time seeking it out/ stepping up to conflict when it is something a care about. Like i fear the fallout, but cant always stay away
Yes, I am confused. I have a inner critic of one and wish to avoid conflict. (Sounds like a 9w1) Yet I also have huge inner doubt, am sensitive, and often do not know what to trust and what to trust in myself in particular. (a 6 if there ever was one...) - Yet I am slower to think... and do not have quick comebacks like a 6 is supposed to have. (...much like the Tin Man without any oil...) I really don't ask for 'trusted other's opinions'... because I have learned not to trust people all that deeply as I used to do . (It is either doubt... or more of a total blind trust in me, sadly... learning not to do the latter.) When tested, I came out as a 9-5-4... and I was good with that until I see all of this 6 in me that has to be more than just a 9 under stress to 6 line connection. If asked to describe myself, one thing I would say is that I am 'curious'... which comes under a 6 and not under a 5 like I would think it would.( I love books - but more as resources and quite specific in subject matters.... not 'to know everything'.) 6's are very complex, and I really didn't want to be typed as one even in a tritype (sorry fellow 6's...) due to the fear-factor or something... I don't know. ( I wanted to be that bookish, private sort of 5...) The dreaded (to me) 9-6-4 tritype is called the 'Seeker'... triple doubting...intense seeking...ponders... and rethinks... fears making a mistake which would bring shame, blame and criticism...(conflict!) and has fears of danger, being unable to survive on own, being targeted, chaos and on and on... All this doubt brings insecurity - which increases anxiety... which drives me nuts. During this kind of high anxiety thinking, I need to get into some serious alone time... and take each thought captive and question, "Who do I believe?" ( Either what God says IS Truth - or it is not.... faith is not a feeling... trust Him and His character... no matter what bells and sirens are going off in my head... ) It is a real battle of the mind that I can overcome - but part of the challenge is to embrace this as GOOD - and good for my growth. ( Breathe... keep breathing... and 'stay in 'today'.) Whew! Just keep learning and soul-searching ~ It will become more clear. (Thanks for the upload and info!)
Thank you for sharing. You know I love reading your comments! I loved your questions to yourself at the bottom. SO GOOD! And you're right, just keep learning and searching. You're doing the right thing!
I also think tritype is very important! I'm a 649 and it's stressful when you have TWO types that are so focused on the external environment and other people and one type that's self referencing and it's constantly introspecting and wants to be "separate" from others, unlike our 6-9 fixes. It brings a lot of self doubt with the constant introspecting and overthinking 😓
I love the iced caramel macchiatos and regular caramel macchiatos! Not too sweet and not too many calories. You can also customize it to have less or more caramel. I also do almond milk because I'm lactose intolerant, and it still tastes great! Dirty chais are also safe if you want something that tastes really yummy, but they have a lot more calories. Lots of sugar in their chais!
When I was young I used to always buy a decaf french vanilla, just black... But that was probably 15 or 20 yrs ago! I feel so old! Starbucks closed in our area...
Your Starbucks closed? What a bummer. Although I'm not a huge Starbucks fan, its just the closet coffee shop to my house. If I have a second cup of coffee in the day I'll have decaf. Thanks for sharing!
Hillary McCaskey Yes I know what you mean! Starbucks isn’t my favorite either, but when I was younger I loved going there to get fancy coffee lol ☕️ I like Dunkin, but usually get tea...
I’m a six… but one, two and four came up strongly as well… I was thinking I may not be a six after all… but from watching this I can see I probably act like a 1,2 and 4 sometimes
I’m an 8, and that may have nothing to do with this, BUT why would you drink an expensive drink you don’t like??? Also, why Starbucks? I make my fav coffee right at home:)))
Thanks for the video! I've watched it twice now, and it's helped me to be more certain that I'm a 9, now that I know a bit more about enneagram. Some people on discord have conjectured that I was a 6, but I tried to observe myself and I just don't fit it well. I know two people that are 6s. They both have called me a calming influence and say that I'm not normally anxious. As far as conflict, I tend to be pretty passive with people. I'm not that afraid of a fist fight, but I don't like it when people scream at me, especially when it's my fault. I think I'd rather take a punch than a passionate scream in the face, especially in public. Like, the other day I explained to someone that I didn't want them scrolling their phone while driving because of the reaction a cop might have. I wasn't worried about getting a ticket, or being bad. I was a bit angry and anxious because to me, it's not worth it to tick off a cop just so that you can look up the closest restaurant. Just choose some place at random along the road, lol. Anyways, what you mentioned about how 9s and 6s handle conflict was really handy! My gut was to passively convince someone to change their actions in order to avoid another conflict with a potential cop. I think that I'm 9w8 Sx/So, but I don't have time to explain my thought process for all of that here, and this video wasn't about instincts and wings so I guess it's probably not necessary. Thanks again, and I hope that I'm not the only person that finds typing oneself to be very strange. -BB
Green Tea Frappuccino, with almond milk instead of milk and sugar free vanilla syrup 😄😄 i only get 1 scoop of powder to cut calories. It taste like heaven.
Okk so for some reason now I'm more confused than I already was😂 On the online tests I literally got A LOOT of enneagrams. My first test that I took said that i was a 7w8, but idk if I was completely honest or if I wasn't. (I also had VERY little of the 6) Then i thought I might be a 4 because I can be moody, I also care about image but idk if I care about it that much because HEY, EVERYONE CARES ABOUT IMAGE a little bit🥲 I also used to blame others for my problems, but the thing is i'm not that.. uh.. bitter-sweet and I don't especially seek to be unique. I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT I SEEK i try to see what my core desire is but I DON'T EVEN KNOW. Theeen I thought i was a 3 because when I was in school, I used to not be so good at maths and I used to try to show others that I'm good enough, to show my abilities, my achievements and even bring others down just for me to feel better. Yea, i know. It sucks. BUT if u think about it sixes go to three in stress SO YEA AGAIN I DONT EVEN KNOW. Besides, yes i care about how I'm seen, but I don't try to be the best of the best I just try to be good-ish and not stupid😂 Now I'm trying to be a little different cuz I am starting to help others and help them feel better about themselves. I also try to be more optimistic and happy and idk more "seven like" because i always thought if I was a seven it would be cool. I mean I think that' s the best mindset: to try and just be happy. In this way u dont hurt others because u dont seek conflict or attention or anything, u just seek happiness. I also thought i was a 2💀 I don't even know what I am anymore and when I try to figure it out It's like I don't know why I'm doing what I'm doing and what I want exactly. If it helps, I'm an ENFP. (i can't be 100% sure about that either, sometimes i am, sometimes im not) I hope someone will read this even if it s a long message and try and help me🥲 Btw: sometimes I just wish that I meet someone who's a specialist in Enneagram or Cognitive functions and can help me and tell me EXACTLY what I am cuz I just want to know once and for all, I always end up questioning it💀💀
And another thing: I always worry that I'm a 4. I don't really want that (sorry for the fours here, i dont have a problem with them but when i imagine that I CAN be a four i dont like it, idk why)
Hi Guys! I love that you guys are sharing your coffee favs from Starbucks! Keep sharing them! You're giving me such great ideas. I'm going to try a few in my upcoming videos. Maybe I'll choose yours!
Venti Cafe Vanilla Frappuccino with no whipped cream, add caramel drizzle with 2 extra shots!!
Not too sweet, no clue about calories. Probably awful. But THE best drink. lol.
@@sarah3gee sounds amazing!!!!
@@enneagramandcoaching oh. It is. 😜
I get either a 9w1 or 6w5 on the online quizzes. It really depends on the situation (I could be a healthy 6 and act like a 9 or be a stressed 9 and look like a 6... it's hard to tell). Conflict is a big fear of mine, but I also overanalyze everything and worry for safety. I also always see both sides to situations and like to know other people's opinions and thoughts before making a decision or before they ask my opinion so that I don't say something that could cause conflict.
Sounds more like a developed 6w5
I kind of disagree with what you said being afraid of conflict and type 6. I still get confused about whether I’m a 6 or a 9 because I feel strongly that my core desire is security. But I hate conflict and I am anxious about engaging in it. The only difference is if a conflict arises I will anxiously engage as soon as possible because I want it over with. If I ignore it I will constantly be anxious over it, but there are certain conflicts I’ve had where I feel like a super unhealthy 9. That’s the thing I’m confused by, when I feel stressed, usually negative stress, I become very 9 rather than 3. But I am definitely not a core 3😂 And when I’m more healthy I feel that I can accomplish things like a 3😂 So then I wonder if I’m a 9 but the harmony desire doesn’t resonate nearly as strong as the 6 desires and fears
In my experience, "cannot make decisions" is probably one of the most defining traits of Type 6.
Example: A 6w5 I know once wanted to buy a bicycle to get in shape. When he got to the bike shop, he spent a very long time looking at the various bikes on display, and then found a manager & proceeded to ask him about a thousand questions. He wasn't sure which bike was best for him, and he had issues with the store's returns policy (you could return a bike, but only for store credit). Finally he left, saying he'd have to think over his decision. And then once he got home, he sent pictures of some of the top contenders to a couple of his friends to "get their input".
I enjoyed this video! I'm a type 2, but I find your videos contrasting the various types to be very helpful so I can understand others better. Thanks for what you're doing!
Thank you! ❤️
I am a 4 and I used to work with a 6 and this is how we differed. I would have something hit me emotionally and I would be upset and shaken, but then in thinking about it, my 5 wing would rationalise it and settle me with logic and reason. The 6 was the opposite. Something would hit her and then in her thinking more about it, her thoughts would make her more troubled and emotional. In that sense, 4s and 6s are backward. 4s are emotion first, then 5 wing logic and reason to help balance. 6s are head first and then in thinking more, their thoughts make them feel worse, as they move onto worst-case scenarios and projections that everyone hates them, etc.
Yep! All of this makes sense. Thanks for sharing Jessica.
The mistyping series is so helpful! Thank you!
Oh good!!!!!
As far as Starbucks, its been a while since I was there. Iced Caramel frappucino was what I usually ordered there.Great video! Good information.
Thank goodness! I’ve been confused for months and am 60% sure that I’m 100% a 6
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Lol!
This video was very helpful. I mistyped as almost every type on the enneagram. Especially 7, 9 and 4. I mistyped as 7 because it's my wing, as 9 because I'm a phobic 6, and the 4 is a little more complicated... I'm very emotionally intense. Sure, I'm mostly in my head 24/7, i overthink but i also overfeel. My emotions are very overwhelming and i can't control them most of the time, even when my 7 wing tries to avoid negativity, i always end up drowning in my emotions and my sadness. I think mental health is very relevant here tho, I've always struggled with depression and my therapist thinks i could have bipolar disorder. That would explain the overwhelming emotions. I also felt misunderstood growing up and like other people didn't introspect like i did or didn't have my kind of depth lol but i think this can be explained with tritype (having a 4 fix does that to you huh). I think what made me realize i was a 6 core and not a 4 is that i don't have the issue 4s have against being "normal" or "part of the crowd". Being authentic or true to myself is really not that important to me. I'm a social variant 6 therefore i care a lot about belonging and i like being as human as possible and going along with others, unlike 4s who sometimes think they're not human lol. I think people forget being a 4 is not only about being overemotional (that you can be overemotional and still be a head type) but about authenticity. After all the fear of the 4 core Is not having a significant or authentic identity, not standing out, not being more than what others expect of them. 6s on the other hand, we don't care about standing out and we're happy following other people's expectations most of the time. After all we mostly fear being without their guidance!
I'm a four and yeah the being authentic and not going with the crowd is a big part. For example, I'll avoid listening to certain types of music or bands even if they're nice because they're popular. Also, the way I dress is important. If I feel like what I'm wearing isn't true to my personality, I get uncomfortable wearing it for a long period of time or repeatedly. Also, I do get really scared sometimes but not much is going through my head when I get scared, I just am scared. I just feel scared. "Sure I know operating this machine won't hurt me and I'm safe but I'm still scared. Maybe it's too loud or something. Don't know but my heart is still beating like a loud speaker and it feels as if there's a tight grip around my throat." Stuff like that.
I'm enjoying this series a lot! Thanks for this great content!
I’m so glad! Thank you!!
Thank you so much for making this informative video!!! :) Everything that you mentioned about the type 6 described me well except for when you said that they aren’t as afraid of conflict as a type 9. I tend to avoid conflict because it stresses me out. Would you say that there are some type 6’s who are very conflict avoidant?
Yes, they can be. And you’re so welcome!
I'm a phobic 6 and I'm as conflict avoidant as the 9w1s in my family. Sometimes even more. I think this is normal in phobic 6s
My mother is a conflict avoidant 6. This is a random thought but maybe 6s are conflict avoidant because they're thinking about what could go wrong as a result of that conflict while maybe 9s avoid conflict because it disturbs their peace which might cause them to feel emotions they don't want to feel or make them deal with problems that they don't want to deal with.
So here is the thing. I have an odd mix of disliking conflict but at the same time seeking it out/ stepping up to conflict when it is something a care about. Like i fear the fallout, but cant always stay away
white chocolate mocha half-caff with almond milk. hot or cold
I love the green tea frappecino with coconut milk a shot of raspberry. Otherwise, I am a huge nitro cold brew fan.
Hmmm...that does sound good! I’ll try it! Thanks Emily!
I relate to the self-preservation 6, self-preservation 2, and self-preservation 9.
Yes, I am confused. I have a inner critic of one and wish to avoid conflict. (Sounds like a 9w1) Yet I also have huge inner doubt, am sensitive, and often do not know what to trust and what to trust in myself in particular. (a 6 if there ever was one...) - Yet I am slower to think... and do not have quick comebacks like a 6 is supposed to have. (...much like the Tin Man without any oil...)
I really don't ask for 'trusted other's opinions'... because I have learned not to trust people all that deeply as I used to do . (It is either doubt... or more of a total blind trust in me, sadly... learning not to do the latter.)
When tested, I came out as a 9-5-4... and I was good with that until I see all of this 6 in me that has to be more than just a 9 under stress to 6 line connection.
If asked to describe myself, one thing I would say is that I am 'curious'... which comes under a 6 and not under a 5 like I would think it would.( I love books - but more as resources and quite specific in subject matters.... not 'to know everything'.)
6's are very complex, and I really didn't want to be typed as one even in a tritype (sorry fellow 6's...) due to the fear-factor or something... I don't know. ( I wanted to be that bookish, private sort of 5...) The dreaded (to me) 9-6-4 tritype is called the 'Seeker'... triple doubting...intense seeking...ponders... and rethinks... fears making a mistake which would bring shame, blame and criticism...(conflict!) and has fears of danger, being unable to survive on own, being targeted, chaos and on and on...
All this doubt brings insecurity - which increases anxiety... which drives me nuts.
During this kind of high anxiety thinking, I need to get into some serious alone time... and take each thought captive and question, "Who do I believe?" ( Either what God says IS Truth - or it is not.... faith is not a feeling... trust Him and His character... no matter what bells and sirens are going off in my head... ) It is a real battle of the mind that I can overcome - but part of the challenge is to embrace this as GOOD - and good for my growth. ( Breathe... keep breathing... and 'stay in 'today'.)
Whew! Just keep learning and soul-searching ~ It will become more clear. (Thanks for the upload and info!)
Thank you for sharing. You know I love reading your comments! I loved your questions to yourself at the bottom. SO GOOD! And you're right, just keep learning and searching. You're doing the right thing!
I also think tritype is very important! I'm a 649 and it's stressful when you have TWO types that are so focused on the external environment and other people and one type that's self referencing and it's constantly introspecting and wants to be "separate" from others, unlike our 6-9 fixes. It brings a lot of self doubt with the constant introspecting and overthinking 😓
I love the iced caramel macchiatos and regular caramel macchiatos! Not too sweet and not too many calories. You can also customize it to have less or more caramel. I also do almond milk because I'm lactose intolerant, and it still tastes great! Dirty chais are also safe if you want something that tastes really yummy, but they have a lot more calories. Lots of sugar in their chais!
I LOVE your videos!
Thank you! ❤️
When I was young I used to always buy a decaf french vanilla, just black... But that was probably 15 or 20 yrs ago! I feel so old! Starbucks closed in our area...
Your Starbucks closed? What a bummer. Although I'm not a huge Starbucks fan, its just the closet coffee shop to my house. If I have a second cup of coffee in the day I'll have decaf. Thanks for sharing!
Hillary McCaskey Yes I know what you mean! Starbucks isn’t my favorite either, but when I was younger I loved going there to get fancy coffee lol ☕️ I like Dunkin, but usually get tea...
I’m a six… but one, two and four came up strongly as well… I was thinking I may not be a six after all… but from watching this I can see I probably act like a 1,2 and 4 sometimes
I love coconut milk frappaccinos just espresso no crazy flavors, so yum :)
Yum!!!!!
But let me spend a ton of time on this video talking about Starbucks! Lets talk about type 6 or coffe
I’m an 8, and that may have nothing to do with this, BUT why would you drink an expensive drink you don’t like??? Also, why Starbucks? I make my fav coffee right at home:)))
😂 Your not wrong LOL
Chai latte is one of my favorites at Starbucks very tasty
So good!
I like the iced mocha latte. It’s my go to drink. 😋
Yum! Now I need one! ☕
Such a helpful video.
Thanks for the video! I've watched it twice now, and it's helped me to be more certain that I'm a 9, now that I know a bit more about enneagram. Some people on discord have conjectured that I was a 6, but I tried to observe myself and I just don't fit it well. I know two people that are 6s. They both have called me a calming influence and say that I'm not normally anxious.
As far as conflict, I tend to be pretty passive with people. I'm not that afraid of a fist fight, but I don't like it when people scream at me, especially when it's my fault. I think I'd rather take a punch than a passionate scream in the face, especially in public. Like, the other day I explained to someone that I didn't want them scrolling their phone while driving because of the reaction a cop might have. I wasn't worried about getting a ticket, or being bad. I was a bit angry and anxious because to me, it's not worth it to tick off a cop just so that you can look up the closest restaurant. Just choose some place at random along the road, lol.
Anyways, what you mentioned about how 9s and 6s handle conflict was really handy! My gut was to passively convince someone to change their actions in order to avoid another conflict with a potential cop. I think that I'm 9w8 Sx/So, but I don't have time to explain my thought process for all of that here, and this video wasn't about instincts and wings so I guess it's probably not necessary.
Thanks again, and I hope that I'm not the only person that finds typing oneself to be very strange.
-BB
strawberry açaí lemonade refresher 🤩
My husbands go to drink too!
Is me not wanting to be typed as a 6 is a signal that I'm actually a 6? Is me not knowing what I'm afraid of also 6-ish?
I am a 6w7SP and I sometimes test as a 2.
That can happen 😃
Ah, get the top 3 from tests and then explore the cores from there 🤓
Nitro cold brew with cold foam- 70 calories
👏👏👏
Green Tea Frappuccino, with almond milk instead of milk and sugar free vanilla syrup 😄😄 i only get 1 scoop of powder to cut calories. It taste like heaven.
Omg! This sounds amazing. Trying it! Thanks Tatum!
Flat white with whole milk
its always only eliminated 2
Not too long at all... U r gorgeous btw
I think you should park again and allow every type react. Ha!
You park like a 9.
Tall chai tea latte hot.
Yum! I used to get these when I didn't know I was lactose intolerant. I wonder if they'd be just as good with almond milk.
I do no like how you parked. :)
I didn’t want to be overtly critical, it’s just a pet peeve.... BUT I HAD THE SAME REACTION! 😜 Is that the type 1 in me?
Okk so for some reason now I'm more confused than I already was😂 On the online tests I literally got A LOOT of enneagrams. My first test that I took said that i was a 7w8, but idk if I was completely honest or if I wasn't. (I also had VERY little of the 6) Then i thought I might be a 4 because I can be moody, I also care about image but idk if I care about it that much because HEY, EVERYONE CARES ABOUT IMAGE a little bit🥲 I also used to blame others for my problems, but the thing is i'm not that.. uh.. bitter-sweet and I don't especially seek to be unique. I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT I SEEK i try to see what my core desire is but I DON'T EVEN KNOW. Theeen I thought i was a 3 because when I was in school, I used to not be so good at maths and I used to try to show others that I'm good enough, to show my abilities, my achievements and even bring others down just for me to feel better. Yea, i know. It sucks. BUT if u think about it sixes go to three in stress SO YEA AGAIN I DONT EVEN KNOW. Besides, yes i care about how I'm seen, but I don't try to be the best of the best I just try to be good-ish and not stupid😂 Now I'm trying to be a little different cuz I am starting to help others and help them feel better about themselves. I also try to be more optimistic and happy and idk more "seven like" because i always thought if I was a seven it would be cool. I mean I think that' s the best mindset: to try and just be happy. In this way u dont hurt others because u dont seek conflict or attention or anything, u just seek happiness. I also thought i was a 2💀 I don't even know what I am anymore and when I try to figure it out It's like I don't know why I'm doing what I'm doing and what I want exactly. If it helps, I'm an ENFP. (i can't be 100% sure about that either, sometimes i am, sometimes im not) I hope someone will read this even if it s a long message and try and help me🥲
Btw: sometimes I just wish that I meet someone who's a specialist in Enneagram or Cognitive functions and can help me and tell me EXACTLY what I am cuz I just want to know once and for all, I always end up questioning it💀💀
And another thing: I always worry that I'm a 4. I don't really want that (sorry for the fours here, i dont have a problem with them but when i imagine that I CAN be a four i dont like it, idk why)