Exactly! The audacity of this girl to justify her cheating by saying, "I'm proud I cheated." I usually don't criticize people based on their looks, but when someone's attitude is as terrible as this, it's hard not to. Just looking at her silhouette, I get the sense that she’s proud of the cheating because she’s trying to prove that, even if she isn’t conventionally attractive, she can still cheat and attract someone else.
It’s an insightful perspective that reflects the reality in some cases: men’s cheating is often viewed as impulsive or driven by physical desire, while women’s infidelity is seen as more emotional, tied to deeper feelings of love or connection.
That's an interesting observation, and it really makes one think about the different ways society interprets infidelity. Do you think these perceptions about men and women might influence how people justify their own actions or judge others? What’s your take on whether these stereotypes hold true in most cases?
That's an interesting point you bring up. It’s true that societal perceptions often categorize men’s and women’s infidelity differently, but I wonder if these perceptions always reflect the full complexity of human relationships. Do you think that people’s reasons for cheating are influenced more by societal expectations, or do personal experiences and emotions play a bigger role in these situations?
I totally get where you're coming from. It’s interesting how society tends to have these differing views on why men and women cheat. The emotional aspect of women's infidelity often gets highlighted, while men’s actions might be dismissed as impulsive or purely physical. But do you think these stereotypes might actually be oversimplifying the complexity of human relationships? What’s your take on how society should evolve in understanding these behaviors better?
Notice how they're after the excitement and thrill of the initial stage of the relationship, leaving behind the partner who stood by them through worst times. They don't value the history and commitment they've shared with their person. Cheating is cheating, and there are no valid excuses for it. I'm referring to ALL cheaters, not just them.
I decided to left my ex the moment i realized i got cheated on. Gusto nya pang kumapit pero i chose to left kase sobrang unfair na ng situation lalo na he made me feel na he only needs me when it favors him. Umalis ako nang wala man lang narinig na sorry sa kanya despite him wanting me to stay.
Cheaters crave for love but aren’t willing to give it genuinely. Instead of facing issues in their relationship and breaking up, they choose to find someone else. Ayaw nila maging mag-isa at ma-heartbroken kaya naghahanap na lang sila ng fallback while in a relationship. And what's really annoying is when they do that just to make it look like their partner is the one at fault or lacking, even when the truth is they just don't know how to be contented.
more on the guy's story only, not contended even when there is zero issues on his relationship, he did it for ego boost and vanity. while the girl's story for me, the girl was in a wrong relationship, toxic
@@yekaterina0116 yes i agree. Pero yung reason sa girl is more understandable kung bakit nya ginawa, is what im saying. Both reasons are not justified.
THIS IS A NICE CONTENT-KNOWING DIVERSE PERSPECTIVES OF VARIOUS PEOPLE ABOUT THIS!! BUT WE ALWAYS HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT THERE IS NO SUCH THING, LITERALLY NOTHING, THAT VALIDATES CHEATING. CHEATING IS CHEATING.
Cheating is sometimes validated due to societal pressures, personal insecurities, or unmet needs in relationships. Rationalizations like entitlement, dissatisfaction, or emotional neglect can lead to justifying unethical behavior.
@@pomp4401 Cheating can ONLY be validated by some parallel experiences from the same doers, which are the cheaters themselves. Dahil sila lang naman ang nagkakaintindihan. But outside the thinking of cheaters, no thing is a justification of cheating, not even "sometimes." Because the reality is, you are responsible for your traumas, insecurities, and whatever issue that you have within yourself. You cannot use these things as an excuse to cheat. That's why, you gotta work on yourself first before entering any kind of relationship, romantically in particular, for this topic. Do not project your issues, insecurities, unmet needs as a human being onto people and relationships by committing such unethical behaviour, morally wrong act.
See? People don't cheat because may mali sayo. Nag-cheat sila kasi pinili nila. My sympathy goes to the victims of cheating na up until now baka nag-susuffer pa rin doon sa ginawa ng mga taong nag-cheat sa kanila. Sa mga taong hanggang ngayon, hinahanap 'yung sarili nila dahil sobrang dinurog sila ng isang careless action. Para sa mga cheater, sana mag-heal kayo at hindi na ipasa kung ano man ang meron sa inyo na hindi niyo maayos-ayos sa sarili niyo. At some point, it will hit you. Yung mga pinaggagawa niyo. It will. Tao rin kayo. Makakaramdam at makakaramdam kayo ng guilt. Makikita at makikita ninyo kung naging worth it ba yung na-inflict niyo sa partner ninyo. I'm sorry but you have to take ownership of the consequence of your action and choices. Sana talaga mag-heal kayo.
Fr. The reasons are so backhanded too. Like calling yourself 'malandi' isn't a compliment and 'feeling pogi' when the only reason you're cheating is because you apparently have a nice GF who tolerates your bs. 🤡
Cheating is SOOOO wrong pero I can't help but note their different reasons. Girl: I got neglected. The "carrying the bags" incident is a HUGE reflection kung ano yung status ng relationship nila. She found that very filler ng malaking void sa ibang lalaki. Boy: Crowning glory, lakas makapogi pag marami kang chicks.
@@hldydrmrtrue. Cheating is cheating they picked to cheat. Pero you can’t deny the fact that cheating comes at venerable times. For me people get tempted especially in through the hardest times but that’s really up to them when they cheat or not. As we concluded They didn’t have a strong mindset upon dealing into a relationship. Instead they do had a weak mindset kaya nila nag awa mag cheat
I can't believe I was able to watch 14 minutes' worth of pure SELFISHNESS. I'm not saying that the girl's story is more valid (Cheating is never valid!), but when compared to that guy's toxicity in the video, she's the "lesser evil" of them two, I guess. Ugh, there are no words for this guy who's a walking red flag. 🙄
@@donndelfin1312Kawawa yung GF niya. Imagine ang bait mo sa partner mo and ganun gagawin kasi bored daw siya sayo. Like, mas gusto mo ba if salbahe ako?
but the bigger picture here is si guy learned his mistake and regretted it meanwhile si girl never regretted it and jinajustify nya pa na parang ok lang na ginawa nya yun ew
There are layers to the woman who cheated on her boyfriend. She was neglected in their relationship, yet she didn't let go of him. Maybe she was hoping for her boyfriend to change and treat her better. And when she met the 2nd guy, she felt what she wanted to feel from her OG bf. Deep inside, she wanted to feel seen and appreciated, which the 2nd guy gave her. CHEATING IS WRONG- let's emphasize that... and only if she broke up with her OG bf from the start of their issues, maybe it could've been a better ending for her and the 2nd guy...
Meanwhile the guy's reason for cheating is because he found this crowning glory chick. In short, he cheated to prove something out of his friggin ego. Where most cheaters can relate 🙂
the girl still cheated no need to justify what she did, she had a choice, pwede naman nyang iwan yung past bf nya yet she did not. It came from her mouth ang word na "baka malugi ako" kaya pinag sabay nya. And the bigger picture here is she did not regret what happened and jinajustify nya pa na parang ok lang ginawa nya, meanwhile si guy cheated and learned from it. Both cheaters but the difference is ang isa may remorse yung isa wala na nga jinajustify nya pa.
At 33 years old, I’m still healing from my dad’s infidelity. Hanggang ngayon fractured ang relationships ko dahil sa nagawa ng papa ko. Hindi na ako marunong pa magtiwala sa tao. Going through therapy now but it takes WORK, TIME, and RESOURCES.
Same hehe, he's still doing it now tho. I'm starting to feel that rage towards him. Malala pa ay apektado ang relationships ko with other people, friends man or even my partner.
Natatawa talaga ako sa contrast ng dalawa 😭 Girls' perspective be like "Ang dami kong unresolved trauma dahil nag-cheat yung dati kong boyfriend sa akin noon, and he didn't care about me" and the Guy's perspective is just: "Yeah I was bored. We didn't have time, di naman ako umuuwi sa Pampanga. Plus the new girl is someone everyone wanted, I wanted to be king of the office!" 😭 idk idk the difference makes me laugh so hard. I believe na cheating is cheating no matter what the gender, but sometimes trash comes from different places, and some are cleaner than others (love and ego) 🤷
the girl still cheated no need to justify what she did, she had a choice, pwede naman nyang iwan yung past bf nya yet she did not. It came from her mouth ang word na "baka malugi ako" kaya pinag sabay nya. And the bigger picture here is she did not regret what happened and jinajustify nya pa na parang ok lang ginawa nya, meanwhile si guy cheated and learned from it. Both cheaters but the difference is ang isa may remorse yung isa wala na nga jinajustify nya pa. Now tell who's the cleaner trash?
@@orangejuice0718sorry but she has all the right to cheat her partner cheated first kung ginawa sakin yon ng partner ko id do the same tapos parang walang pake? Lmao id hurt him first before leaving him. But then again my partners were always good to me :3 specially my fiance now because of our relationship hes the only exception though that even if he cheated on me id probably just leave and not hurt him but sa ibang lalake and even past relationships ko i wouldve done the same. Yung galit na yan you should transfer it to the guy here kasi kadiri talaga wala naman issue yung first girlfriend nya pinagsabay tapos proud pa sya hes aware that it was just temporary but he chose to cheat over and over again because of his own selfishness
@@DoraTheDestroyerrr if you go down sa level na same sa ginawa sayo ano pinagkaiba mo sa kanya? Ask yourself if it is really worth it na manakit dahil nasaktan ka, ask yourself if tama ba, isipin mo kung ikakabuti mo ba yun, isipin mo kung much better human being ka ba pag ginawa mo yun, tanongin mo sarili mo kung magiging proud ka ba sa sarili pag ginawa mo ang ginawa sayo
@@orangejuice0718 sa totoo lang its different for everyone but for me since im an entj idgaf i would sleep soundly at night knowing that person got the karma they deserved 💕 and by how that guy is speaking he definitely deserves to understand the pain that he inflicted on his ‘og girlfriend’ i mean who even talks like that lmao og girlfriend lmao its like the guy doesnt have any genuine relationship w anyone. Some people learn through experience so a good fast karma would do that trick on most 💕
@@orangejuice0718 but i understand mas conservative mga lumaki dito sa philippines and thats probably why your morals are different. And youd probably give him a pass just because hes a guy.
@@christineeee23 Trust me, men think differently than women. You might want to google what "immaturity" means also and maybe you'll understand what I just commented.
I have this realization about cheating that it’s not about the issue on contentment but more of an issue in being self-aware and controlling yourself. Actualy, I read or watched somewhere that people are naturally polygamous, the same as most animals are. Kumbaga, one of the instincts yun ng tao. However, tao tayo and may sariling pag-iisip compared with animals. Hence, if you let your instinct to cheat to win over you , then you are no different with animals that have no control over their actions. Parang ganun. In conclusion, cheating is a decision and will never be excused because you know it’s wrong but you still let yourself do that. Although, being self-aware and having control over yourself take alot of practice kaya naniniwala din ako na cheaters could still change for the better once they mature. Ayun!
Whoever says they are proud of cheating is telling a lie. I guess they’re just standing by their decision to avoid further shame. Just break up if you feel like you’re falling for someone else.
Fr. People who are proud of being a cheater/affair partners are almost always the type to back up when shit gets real. They call themselves baddies but still need validation from others or run away when consequences start showing up.
"Make me feel special" - yung longing ni girlfriend. Better to communicate kesa gumanti sa pain he caused you. And no you can't change people, manage your expectations and if u really can't get whatever treatment u demand. Leave. Don't cheat.
The pain who got cheated on was the worst for me - unending cycles of self blame, relapses, and being hopeless. It destroyed me. But it made me smarter and wise. To my ex gf, I hope you’re happy now and I’m sorry if nagkulang ako. Jan 09, 2024 was the time we broke up and the time I’ve known you cheated
Doon sa boy-cheater na nagsabi ng "i should set her free" and "second gf should know her place" Son, you took yourself out kaya hindi na siya nakakulong sayo. Good for the woman na nainform siya agad, kasi boy-cheater will never ever let it known.
cheating is a choice, when people are insecure in their relationship they will cheat. Lack of conscience ,values and morality is dangerous. Always pray for GOD to guide you guys and always choose to do good, pag di na masaya let go! Don’t Cheat!
Whatever your reasons are, "The game of life is a game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds, and words return to us sooner or later with astounding accuracy."
Cheating is just an excuse for people who are insecure, emotionally unstable who finds comfort on other people instead of fixing or ending their relationship with the toxic one. It's a selfish act especially if the new person doesnt even know, they are just passing the pain to the other people. Dont make things complicated, if you're not contented and appreciated just let go.
I like the part that the guy is aware that a genuine lover can be rare in his life time. And that he realize the mistake of letting it slip away. I think the lesson changes him for the better.
Why 2 people lang yung ininterview? Dapat meron ding person na nagkabalikan sila ng partner & how awkward it is to still go on kahit you both cheated another person who still keeps cheating & why they still don't settle for one until now another person na who got cheated on lang & never pa nagcheat lol parang medyo common yung story, & seems like these 2 sobrang past na yung nangyari & buti walang preggy na naganap
Sobrang sakit to be cheated on. Until now hirap ako mgtiwala sa tao dahil I experienced that. 6 years na akong single and tinatanonga ko na lang kay Lord kung my tao ba talagang darating na hindi magchicheat sakin.
All my past relationships cheated on me. Hearing all of this makes me puke. Im just praying that my husband will never cheat on me because the trauma of being betrayed , sobrang sakit at mahirap na magpatiwala.
They realized their mistakes, they learned their lesson. Damage has been done and they were honest about it. I hopr they still find genuine love and happiness sa next relationship nila pati na rin dun sa mga ex nila.
Napaka cheap nung Manila girlfriend na crowning glory kuno. My goodness alam mo nang may jowa na pinatulan mo pa and you even have the audacity to ask him na makipag break sa unang girlfriend. Pero yung lalake, lakas maka feeling pogi. Itsura reveal nga, parang tank build naman.
I was cheated on too. More than 10 years of relationship. We were young back then but maybe things could have been better if he told me he fell out of love and not because of someone new.
Same 10yrs na nangabet asawa ko sa boss nya sa callcenter to justify their relationship lagi nila ako pinagtutulungan na masama ako mukhang pera ako para lang mapagaan kunsensya nila
I cheated. And I am sorry. It's something that I would probably regret my whole life. No one deserves to be cheated. I know what I did and Im not proud of it. I've learned my lesson and I'll still try to be better everyday. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
nah y'all don't deserve to be happy and to be in another relationship. kahit magkaroon pa kayo ng redemption era. di deserve ng cheaters mabigyan ng second chance kahit sabihin nyo pang mag babago kayo. kahit sabihin nyo na hindi na kayo cheater. once a cheater, always a cheater.
Nakakatakot. I feel scared while watching, people's backstory of why they cheated will never justify that it is still your choice to hurt people. DISGUSTING.
Objectively, this video is really eye-opening to how people end up cheating with both of the persons in this video presenting two various perspectives and situations that led them to do so. It's really courageous of them to present their experiences when they did cheat with their partners knowing that they're previous experiences will be up for debate, along with their morals being questioned by us, the viewers who are complete strangers. Don't take this statement as me defending their actions as I believe that what they did was wrong (Which they did state at the end of the video), but more on pointing out how this video can help develop healthy conversations and self reflection through the various situations and perspectives presented by the two people in the video. Hopefully, they do stay true to what they said about learning from their mistakes in the past and optimistically that they've grown into better people, and hopefully to all of us who consumed this content, we can learn a thing or two by comparing our situations to theirs to avoid putting ourselves in the same positions as they did which is what led to them deciding to cheat (Example: How the woman already felt the mistreatment but still stayed.) (More subjective part) I didn't really appreciate how the guy was treating women as trophies (speaking as a guy myself) and started talking about how he believed getting together with this one woman would suddenly make him superior to his co-workers. I felt nauseous when he began talking about how his work GF spilled the beans to his real GF and he began talking about how she "knew her place" and how she "wasn't supposed to do that", I literally paused the video in shock because of the audacity to blame his work GF for "stepping over the line" even though it was his fault for deciding to get with her even though he himself knew he was taken and then he started blaming her for being honest to his real GF which he couldn't do. The number of times where I cringed whenever he referred to women as "chicks" just because it felt like he was treating women more like a number than actual human beings. (Which again, treating women as trophies.) The woman, although still wrong for cheating, compared to the guy, felt more grounded in what led her to cheat. She was pushed to the edge by how (based on her recounting) less caring and unkind her BF was to her even after she caught him cheating but still decided to stay. She found what she needed in "Babe" and what she decided to do was history. (Back to being objective) Again, both were wrong for cheating, but it sounded like they've moved on and have realized their own wrongs. We have to remember that although we're capable and allowed to express our opinions, we have to remember that our biggest critics are always ourselves which I'm sure is true for the two people in the video. No matter what we say, nothing can ever hit as hard as what they think of themselves. Also we have to take everything with a pinch of salt knowing that this is only one side of the story and most likely will never get another side of it. Thanks Rec•Create for another video!
She cheated because she was hurt and neglected. He cheated because he got bored. Again they’re both became selfish on the part they wanted to be happy. Cheating is always a choice. They could be more happier if they chose to end up their relationship first. But those events taught them. 😊
Most people are happy in their marriage. Pero nagawa pa din nila mag cheat kasi nawala na yun newness and novelty sa relationship nila sa tagal. So na eexcite pag may bagong lover. Sa guys mostly pag msy nagkagusto pa sa kanila kahit may jowa, ka live in o asawa na sila. Feeling pogi sila o talaga pogi sila, di lang feeling. For a woman something much deeper. Maari in love sila sa mister/jowa nila. Pero may unresolved emotion, intense feelings o unfinished business sila sa isang guy. Kaya yun nagkaron uli sils ng contact, sumiklab uli yun damdamin nila. Meron nga pareho may asawa pero nagkagustuhan. Pero sa kin no excuse for chrating. You must remain loyal to your partner. Itatapon mo ba yun tumanggap sayo unconditionally and accept your past but still love you sa panandalian saya. Wag ka makipag contact sa taong may feelings ka, kinikilig ka, sexually attracted ka, may unresolved emotions and unfinished business ka sa social media.
being proud that you got what you wanted in a relationship after cheating is crazy, I understand you got cheated on kase so have I pero cheating back and genuinely thinking that what you did was the right thing is delusional. I really hope rec create knew what they were doing when they let her be on the video
Cheating is definitely wrong but this also gives us another perspective in a story we believe we all know. I hope we can be people who sit down, maybe agree and disagree at some parts, but mainly listen beyond the words that went out of their mouths. There is time to speak up, but there's also a kind time to listen. Especially to the stories where we can't do anything but just merely forgive because we can't turn back time anymore.
not listening to allat bc the audacity to even speak is crazy. It's one of those times where I believe not everyone deserves freedom of speech. idgaf abt their reason, CHEATING IS CHEATING.
When I was 12 years old, I cheated on my first girlfriend, though I didn’t realize it at the time. Once I became aware of what I was doing, I decided to end the relationship. I was too young and naive to fully grasp the complexities of cheating and the seriousness of relationships. To this day, I remind myself of that mistake, even though I know I wasn’t fully aware of my actions at the time because I was just a kid. Later, when I was truly ready for a relationship, I experienced being cheated on as well. One reason some people cheat is that they're seeking happiness in the moment, chasing the thrill and attention. That’s exactly how I felt as a 12-year-old, entering a relationship without understanding the weight of that decision.
Kapag nagwowork sa DepEd, tanggal/revoke ang lisensya talaga, lalo't minor ung student. Kapag CHED, teacher and student relationship is no license revocation. Basta may utmost professional discretion. Pero kapag may cheating, a big NO. Since Teacher sya in the first place..
i got cheated on and forgave multiple times by this one person. got caught in a trauma bond. then when i had the courage to let go, its still a stabbing pain that this person is not even guilty nor have any remorse at all for what he did. 7yrs passed and im okay, but scarred to still feel and still choking whenever i remember why i deserved his treatment...
Wala naman nagjajustify sa kanila ng ginawa nila. Siguro thier younger selves, yeah. But now, they're being honest, they know they fucked up, and now they're both growing and learning from their mistakes.
As a person na may trauma sa cheaters, lahat ng ex ko nag cheat. At ang pinaka recent 5 years + kami. Ang sakit. Iba na yung trauma ko. Sobrang hirap ibuild uo ulit ng sarili mo tapos iiwan ka ulit sa same reason. Hanggang ngayon, kahit may new partner na ako at happy naman kami nandon pa din yung doubts and trauma exp ko. Sobrang sakit talaga. Kahit anong rason nyo para mag cheat, sana maisip nyo na may taong masasaktan kayo at hinding hindi nila yon makakalimutan.
as someone who is in the middle of a family issue caused by infidelity. if this is between a couple, sila lang ang maaapektuhan. but if it is between a married couple, their kids will be the one who is badly affected by it. always remember that cheating is a choice, think of the people that will get involved and the trauma that you will inflict.
I hate how people see the girl as the "lesser evil" compared to the guy. Two of my exes cheated on me and I both ended it on the spot I knew. Getting cheated on is not an excuse to cheat, being hurt is not an excuse to cheat, struggling is not an excuse to cheat. Pag cheater ka edi cheater ka. Skl, common trait ng mga cheater ay ampapanget depota
It’s courage to admit that you did something wrong because not all the people can do it. People in the comment section are quick to judge even calling it as an audacity when not all people can admit that they hurt people and acknowledge it. Watch, listen and observe past their egos, there is a lesson in this video that most people missed and that is they are just people too who made mistakes and are haunted by it, be it the girl’s perspective or the guy’s. Yes, cheating is cheating. Cheating is a choice, but so is judgement. People are quick to judge another person’s character in just a measly 14 minute video when this is just the summarization of what they dealt with. I acknowledge their confession and glad that they did so as we can finally get some answers as to what cheating is and what drove them to do it but cheating does not define them as a person. Remember that.
exactly. people commenting the audacity eh need ng content ng channel plus never it will be an excuse but people has their reason why they cheat. understandable why they are proud, they cheat because they need validation, answer for the things thats in their head. they achieved it. they hurt people. they reflect on their action and hopefully work to be the better version of themselves. closed minded mga taong galit agad/judge agad sa mga nakagawa ng mali. again, never an excuse but they had their reasons, valid or not.
I had this guy around March 2021, I mer him in a dating site. Our relationship lasted 1 year and 4 months, I caught him cheating on me. Pinagsabay nya kami ng kabet nya. So buong relationship namin ako pala yung kabit and I didn’t know. But now I moved on na, happy with my life and dating someone now after him. 😊
Never been into serious relationship but hearing these two cheaters, I realize they are not only selfish but also apathetic, pitiless, and cold hearted. I know there are many cheaters out there, so for those who still love sincerely, beware of these kind of people.
I've been there, I was that 2nd girl. kulang nalang din sabihan nya ko ng "know your place" and the worst part is I really believed him that it's my fault. in the end he chose the OG girl and she still took him back. he said he'll marry her, and i'm left alone misserable. In my defense I didn't know na may gf sya first 4 months of our situationship. He promissed to break up with the og gf for me, almost 2 years of waiting, he never did. He was so mad when I told the other girl and left me. Guys like that will never understand, aside from the guilt of dating him kahit taken na, sobrang nawalan ako ng self worth. Para akong basahan na tinapon lang.
I think he just used you to compensate for his insecurities and ego. There is no love in that. And no love in being a second option. Siguro your mistake is staying after knowing he was taken, and you are rightfully guilty for that. But know na that experience does not define you. If anything it defines the guy who took you as a side piece for his own selfish reasons. Your self-worth is inherent and inwards. This experience does not negate it, and you can still be whole after it, especially if you’re committed to growing from it. Nakakalungkot lang to hear a person describe themselves as you did. People are more important than the mistakes that eat their guilt.
Cheating is cheating-no excuses. If you no longer love your partner or don't want to continue the relationship, then have the decency to tell them. Stop justifying your actions. At the end of the day, you cheated, and that betrayal will leave a lasting scar on the person you hurt. I AM SAYING THIS GENERALLY.
I maybe a very insecure girlfriend to my boyfriend but something I can never do is cheat. I believe in the wise words of "Respect begets respect." and "Don't do what you don't want others to do onto you." Karma is real. If you cheat, you will not only hurt another person but also yourself because you killed the opportunity of finding a faithful partner. Cheating is not a mistake, it is a choice. If cheating comes into your mind, leave the person.
Sana pinakita niyo yun mukha para next time na makita namin yun mga cheaters, iiwasan namin sila. Iyang mga cheaters na iyan ang nagbibigay ng trauma sa mga loyal at faithful na tao
The main question is.... Why not break up with the present first? If you feel di ka na appreciated nung present, why stay and cheat kung pwede naman iwan mo muna bagonka humanap ng iba... Tama yung comments dito... Cheating is cheating kahit san anggulo mo pa tingnan, cheater will always be at fault
Right!? Like mas pinili mong mag cheat rather than communicating at makipag break THEN mag date ng iba. Hindi yung mag paplay victim at sasabihin na walang thrill or etc Cheating is a choice talaga
see, when a girl cheats, it is usually due to a deeper reason, not because it's a crowning glory for her but because of the things she deserves to feel habang nasa current relationship siya, lalo na kung willing din siya mag-work sa part niya sa relationship. maybe if she was treated right, she would not find the need sa ibang tao. pero sabi nga, nothing can validate cheating.
Theres no need for me to cheat, i love my partner so much to the point that i will never experience any regret in life. My life was wonderful with him and that made me so grateful everyday.
Kaya hindi pumayag yung mga kaybigan ko sa idea ng "ganti" nung nag cheat ex ko dati e. Nakakatakot raw sa feeling na baka maoverwhelm ka then sa susunod ikaw na talaga yung cheater.
ik some people hate that woman's pov for speaking up but if you watched the full video and her perspective carefully, you'll definitely understand her point. Not that I am glamorizing cheating, I just think that she could've just worded her thoughts differently but i get her point. When it comes to situations where you've been emotionally abused in a relationship many times, there will really come a time na maaattract ka na lang doon sa taong biglang dadating na ibibigay yung mga bagay na never binigay sa'yo nung current jowa mo (and you're in a toxic relationship pa🥲) and you'll be attracted by that.
Too bad they felt as selfish this way. . i am with, used to be with a cheater. .. And until now I am hurting ... i love him too much but i have no peace of mind, constant anxiety and happiness is temporary while loneliness is becoming chronic Maybe I should tell myelf, he's not worth it ..
2 months break today. My ex left and cheated on me. I confronted the girl thrice and she deny it kapatid lang daw ung turing nia sa ex ko and denial din si ex ko after forcing him na aminin kase i will set him free naman pero wala denial pa din siya, napagod lang daw siya sa relasyon namin. After break up nahuli ko din sila dalawa sa coffee shop at nghalikan sa bar. Kitang kita mismo ng dalawang mata ko. Sakit! Sana lang masaya sila sa ginawa nila sa akin. Til now dala dala ko pa rin un pain na idinulot nila sa akin. 4 years ko iningatan ang puso ko bago pumasok ulit sa isang relasyon dahil takot akong masaktan pero ito na naman ako, nasasaktan ulit. Ung mga cheater hindi niyo alam kung ano epekto na nagawa niyo sa amin, sana nakakatulog kayo ng maayos gabi. Pa sa Dios ko nalang lahat.
IF someone was "CHEATED ON" we can understand kung ano ang mga salitang gusto nilang sabihin ma- express lang nila ang "Hurt" na naramdaman nila, pero sa mga "NAG CHEAT", never ever use the word that they were "EMOTIONALLY ABUSED" regardless kung ano pa ang gender nila. Magpakumbaba na lang at magbago, bago mag demand ng pagbabago sa ibang tao.
These confessions really justified the ideology that a woman was driven to cheat because she's longing for love, while a man cheats because of lust and "panandaliang ligaya." But still, cheating is cheating.
i can't believe i am gonna watch this video again after got cheated recently. sad part is she's proud of what she got from this guy with initial MD and even posted it on her fb. i gave it all naman and spoiled her kaso i guess pag may history ng cheating ang isang tao hindi na pala dapat pagkatiwalaan pa. sarap magmura lalo sa mga cheaters. you guys don't even know how painful and traumatic mga pinaggagawa nyo.
Theirs a different talaga when a Men and Women when Cheating One is just to be seen and appreciated, and the other by the thrilled and to satisfied their ego. Pero masama parin mag cheat nuh.
maganda ren sana kung may perspective din ng LGBT/M2M na relationship na na-feature, kasi mas maraming cases ng eventual breakups because of cheating sa demographic na un.
it is not the courage to open up, it's the audacity.
Mismo, tol! Nasapul mo sa Itlog! Sometimes opening up about something you SHOULD be ashamed of, isn't courage... BUT SHAMELESS AUDACITY!!
LOUDER
@@delacruzalyssajoyd.888 anong louder walang mic dito
Exactly! The audacity of this girl to justify her cheating by saying, "I'm proud I cheated." I usually don't criticize people based on their looks, but when someone's attitude is as terrible as this, it's hard not to. Just looking at her silhouette, I get the sense that she’s proud of the cheating because she’s trying to prove that, even if she isn’t conventionally attractive, she can still cheat and attract someone else.
AGREEING TO THIS
It’s an insightful perspective that reflects the reality in some cases: men’s cheating is often viewed as impulsive or driven by physical desire, while women’s infidelity is seen as more emotional, tied to deeper feelings of love or connection.
@@joyzzbalbin4475 100%
True
That's an interesting observation, and it really makes one think about the different ways society interprets infidelity. Do you think these perceptions about men and women might influence how people justify their own actions or judge others? What’s your take on whether these stereotypes hold true in most cases?
That's an interesting point you bring up. It’s true that societal perceptions often categorize men’s and women’s infidelity differently, but I wonder if these perceptions always reflect the full complexity of human relationships. Do you think that people’s reasons for cheating are influenced more by societal expectations, or do personal experiences and emotions play a bigger role in these situations?
I totally get where you're coming from. It’s interesting how society tends to have these differing views on why men and women cheat. The emotional aspect of women's infidelity often gets highlighted, while men’s actions might be dismissed as impulsive or purely physical. But do you think these stereotypes might actually be oversimplifying the complexity of human relationships? What’s your take on how society should evolve in understanding these behaviors better?
Notice how they're after the excitement and thrill of the initial stage of the relationship, leaving behind the partner who stood by them through worst times. They don't value the history and commitment they've shared with their person. Cheating is cheating, and there are no valid excuses for it.
I'm referring to ALL cheaters, not just them.
Its wrong to justify “history”. Literally thats sunk cost fallacy. They couldve just left and start another relationship
I decided to left my ex the moment i realized i got cheated on. Gusto nya pang kumapit pero i chose to left kase sobrang unfair na ng situation lalo na he made me feel na he only needs me when it favors him. Umalis ako nang wala man lang narinig na sorry sa kanya despite him wanting me to stay.
Cheaters crave for love but aren’t willing to give it genuinely. Instead of facing issues in their relationship and breaking up, they choose to find someone else. Ayaw nila maging mag-isa at ma-heartbroken kaya naghahanap na lang sila ng fallback while in a relationship. And what's really annoying is when they do that just to make it look like their partner is the one at fault or lacking, even when the truth is they just don't know how to be contented.
Annoying talaga! Eto yung part ng sa babae. Nagmamahal lang sila kase natutugunan yung gusto nilang matanggap. Kapag wala... wala na.
more on the guy's story only, not contended even when there is zero issues on his relationship, he did it for ego boost and vanity. while the girl's story for me, the girl was in a wrong relationship, toxic
@@o.b.c.6377 pero hindi pa rin reason yon sa girl. she can just simply leave the toxic relationship
@@yekaterina0116 yes i agree. Pero yung reason sa girl is more understandable kung bakit nya ginawa, is what im saying. Both reasons are not justified.
The girl is craving, while the guy naman over confident eeekkkk 😂
THIS IS A NICE CONTENT-KNOWING DIVERSE PERSPECTIVES OF VARIOUS PEOPLE ABOUT THIS!! BUT WE ALWAYS HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT THERE IS NO SUCH THING, LITERALLY NOTHING, THAT VALIDATES CHEATING. CHEATING IS CHEATING.
Cheating is sometimes validated due to societal pressures, personal insecurities, or unmet needs in relationships. Rationalizations like entitlement, dissatisfaction, or emotional neglect can lead to justifying unethical behavior.
@@pomp4401 Cheating can ONLY be validated by some parallel experiences from the same doers, which are the cheaters themselves. Dahil sila lang naman ang nagkakaintindihan. But outside the thinking of cheaters, no thing is a justification of cheating, not even "sometimes." Because the reality is, you are responsible for your traumas, insecurities, and whatever issue that you have within yourself. You cannot use these things as an excuse to cheat. That's why, you gotta work on yourself first before entering any kind of relationship, romantically in particular, for this topic. Do not project your issues, insecurities, unmet needs as a human being onto people and relationships by committing such unethical behaviour, morally wrong act.
@@pomp4401if needs are unmet in a relationship after communication , then leave. No need to cheat. It will never be justified
@@justshenn you are wrong
@@justshenn You're correct.
See? People don't cheat because may mali sayo. Nag-cheat sila kasi pinili nila. My sympathy goes to the victims of cheating na up until now baka nag-susuffer pa rin doon sa ginawa ng mga taong nag-cheat sa kanila. Sa mga taong hanggang ngayon, hinahanap 'yung sarili nila dahil sobrang dinurog sila ng isang careless action.
Para sa mga cheater, sana mag-heal kayo at hindi na ipasa kung ano man ang meron sa inyo na hindi niyo maayos-ayos sa sarili niyo. At some point, it will hit you. Yung mga pinaggagawa niyo. It will. Tao rin kayo. Makakaramdam at makakaramdam kayo ng guilt. Makikita at makikita ninyo kung naging worth it ba yung na-inflict niyo sa partner ninyo.
I'm sorry but you have to take ownership of the consequence of your action and choices.
Sana talaga mag-heal kayo.
@@MeralynMelitante onga nang maging mabuting tao naman sila
I won't wish them to heal. I wish them hell.
Fr. The reasons are so backhanded too. Like calling yourself 'malandi' isn't a compliment and 'feeling pogi' when the only reason you're cheating is because you apparently have a nice GF who tolerates your bs. 🤡
Cheating is SOOOO wrong pero I can't help but note their different reasons.
Girl: I got neglected. The "carrying the bags" incident is a HUGE reflection kung ano yung status ng relationship nila. She found that very filler ng malaking void sa ibang lalaki.
Boy: Crowning glory, lakas makapogi pag marami kang chicks.
inang reason yan. sino ba satin ang hindi naranasan ma neglect? it's just an excuse! don't believe a cheater cus they're always a cheater. yuck!
@@hldydrmr I didn't say I believe her but ok
@@hldydrmrtrue. Cheating is cheating they picked to cheat. Pero you can’t deny the fact that cheating comes at venerable times.
For me people get tempted especially in through the hardest times but that’s really up to them when they cheat or not. As we concluded They didn’t have a strong mindset upon dealing into a relationship. Instead they do had a weak mindset kaya nila nag awa mag cheat
@@hldydrmrbut she got cheated on, lets also emphasize that. lol pag babae grabe pag lalaki okay lang? :p
@@johnvalencia7009 exactly
I can't believe I was able to watch 14 minutes' worth of pure SELFISHNESS. I'm not saying that the girl's story is more valid (Cheating is never valid!), but when compared to that guy's toxicity in the video, she's the "lesser evil" of them two, I guess. Ugh, there are no words for this guy who's a walking red flag. 🙄
Ang nakakabahala dyan kahit ganun na ang kwento nung sa side ng lalaki makaka loko pa ulit yan ng marami pang biktima
@@donndelfin1312Kawawa yung GF niya. Imagine ang bait mo sa partner mo and ganun gagawin kasi bored daw siya sayo. Like, mas gusto mo ba if salbahe ako?
But he seemed to have grown more from it, she did not regret it at all
@@cevcena6692Di naman din angel ex niya... Nangbabae din si Kuya. She should have just left.
but the bigger picture here is si guy learned his mistake and regretted it meanwhile si girl never regretted it and jinajustify nya pa na parang ok lang na ginawa nya yun ew
There are layers to the woman who cheated on her boyfriend. She was neglected in their relationship, yet she didn't let go of him. Maybe she was hoping for her boyfriend to change and treat her better. And when she met the 2nd guy, she felt what she wanted to feel from her OG bf. Deep inside, she wanted to feel seen and appreciated, which the 2nd guy gave her. CHEATING IS WRONG- let's emphasize that... and only if she broke up with her OG bf from the start of their issues, maybe it could've been a better ending for her and the 2nd guy...
Meanwhile the guy's reason for cheating is because he found this crowning glory chick. In short, he cheated to prove something out of his friggin ego. Where most cheaters can relate 🙂
@@Sayuri199x t*ng*nang ego yan
anong layers binabanat mo...MALANDI at MAKATI lang talaga siya lol!
Cheating is cheating. No need for justification or kung ano man layer layer yan or something.
the girl still cheated no need to justify what she did, she had a choice, pwede naman nyang iwan yung past bf nya yet she did not. It came from her mouth ang word na "baka malugi ako" kaya pinag sabay nya. And the bigger picture here is she did not regret what happened and jinajustify nya pa na parang ok lang ginawa nya, meanwhile si guy cheated and learned from it. Both cheaters but the difference is ang isa may remorse yung isa wala na nga jinajustify nya pa.
At 33 years old, I’m still healing from my dad’s infidelity. Hanggang ngayon fractured ang relationships ko dahil sa nagawa ng papa ko. Hindi na ako marunong pa magtiwala sa tao. Going through therapy now but it takes WORK, TIME, and RESOURCES.
Same!
@@LAMODÉLISTE hope you heal too 🙏
Same hehe, he's still doing it now tho. I'm starting to feel that rage towards him. Malala pa ay apektado ang relationships ko with other people, friends man or even my partner.
Same but its my brother..
Natatawa talaga ako sa contrast ng dalawa 😭
Girls' perspective be like "Ang dami kong unresolved trauma dahil nag-cheat yung dati kong boyfriend sa akin noon, and he didn't care about me"
and the Guy's perspective is just:
"Yeah I was bored. We didn't have time, di naman ako umuuwi sa Pampanga. Plus the new girl is someone everyone wanted, I wanted to be king of the office!"
😭 idk idk the difference makes me laugh so hard. I believe na cheating is cheating no matter what the gender, but sometimes trash comes from different places, and some are cleaner than others (love and ego) 🤷
the girl still cheated no need to justify what she did, she had a choice, pwede naman nyang iwan yung past bf nya yet she did not. It came from her mouth ang word na "baka malugi ako" kaya pinag sabay nya. And the bigger picture here is she did not regret what happened and jinajustify nya pa na parang ok lang ginawa nya, meanwhile si guy cheated and learned from it. Both cheaters but the difference is ang isa may remorse yung isa wala na nga jinajustify nya pa. Now tell who's the cleaner trash?
@@orangejuice0718sorry but she has all the right to cheat her partner cheated first kung ginawa sakin yon ng partner ko id do the same tapos parang walang pake? Lmao id hurt him first before leaving him. But then again my partners were always good to me :3 specially my fiance now because of our relationship hes the only exception though that even if he cheated on me id probably just leave and not hurt him but sa ibang lalake and even past relationships ko i wouldve done the same. Yung galit na yan you should transfer it to the guy here kasi kadiri talaga wala naman issue yung first girlfriend nya pinagsabay tapos proud pa sya hes aware that it was just temporary but he chose to cheat over and over again because of his own selfishness
@@DoraTheDestroyerrr if you go down sa level na same sa ginawa sayo ano pinagkaiba mo sa kanya? Ask yourself if it is really worth it na manakit dahil nasaktan ka, ask yourself if tama ba, isipin mo kung ikakabuti mo ba yun, isipin mo kung much better human being ka ba pag ginawa mo yun, tanongin mo sarili mo kung magiging proud ka ba sa sarili pag ginawa mo ang ginawa sayo
@@orangejuice0718 sa totoo lang its different for everyone but for me since im an entj idgaf i would sleep soundly at night knowing that person got the karma they deserved 💕 and by how that guy is speaking he definitely deserves to understand the pain that he inflicted on his ‘og girlfriend’ i mean who even talks like that lmao og girlfriend lmao its like the guy doesnt have any genuine relationship w anyone. Some people learn through experience so a good fast karma would do that trick on most 💕
@@orangejuice0718 but i understand mas conservative mga lumaki dito sa philippines and thats probably why your morals are different. And youd probably give him a pass just because hes a guy.
most of the cheaters are INSECURE.
not really, some do it for bragging rights, showing off and immaturity.
and PANGIT
@@polyento3535 those are also signs of insecurity. if you have a strong sense of self and your worth, you won't have to brag about anything.
Cheaters are narcissists. They're willing to sacrifice their relationship basta makuha lang ang gusto nila or masatisfy yung fantasy nila.
@@christineeee23 Trust me, men think differently than women. You might want to google what "immaturity" means also and maybe you'll understand what I just commented.
I have this realization about cheating that it’s not about the issue on contentment but more of an issue in being self-aware and controlling yourself. Actualy, I read or watched somewhere that people are naturally polygamous, the same as most animals are. Kumbaga, one of the instincts yun ng tao. However, tao tayo and may sariling pag-iisip compared with animals. Hence, if you let your instinct to cheat to win over you , then you are no different with animals that have no control over their actions. Parang ganun. In conclusion, cheating is a decision and will never be excused because you know it’s wrong but you still let yourself do that. Although, being self-aware and having control over yourself take alot of practice kaya naniniwala din ako na cheaters could still change for the better once they mature. Ayun!
And di excuse yung pagkukulang ng partner (kung meron man) to cheat. Kasi pwede ka naman makipagbreak if di mo na matiis talaga.
Cheating is cheating. No matter how you justify your action, you still choose to do wrong and cheat.
Him referring to his girlfriend as the "OG girlfriend" speaks VOLUMES.
But then, a powerful conclusion to the video.
True creep vibes from the guy i felt uncomfortable watching his side of the story like i was watching an unlikeable serial killer
Whoever says they are proud of cheating is telling a lie. I guess they’re just standing by their decision to avoid further shame. Just break up if you feel like you’re falling for someone else.
Fr. People who are proud of being a cheater/affair partners are almost always the type to back up when shit gets real. They call themselves baddies but still need validation from others or run away when consequences start showing up.
They're all FOR THE STREETS!
Making excuses for cheating is horrendous
Right? And saying she did not regret it made me want to puke. Wtf.
@@yourbigotilyo yeah puke more sa story ng dude, nit picker
Si kuya is so full of himself. King of the office? Kingina mo.
HAHAHAHAHHAAHAH
Baka King of the Jungle no? Hahahhahahahahahahahahhaha
I get the feeling from his voice na hindi din naman sya kagwapuhan HAHAHAHAHAHAHA i'm so sorry lol
HAHAHAHHAHA feeling sya nalng lalake sa mundo
😂😂😂😂
"Make me feel special" - yung longing ni girlfriend. Better to communicate kesa gumanti sa pain he caused you. And no you can't change people, manage your expectations and if u really can't get whatever treatment u demand. Leave. Don't cheat.
The pain who got cheated on was the worst for me - unending cycles of self blame, relapses, and being hopeless. It destroyed me. But it made me smarter and wise. To my ex gf, I hope you’re happy now and I’m sorry if nagkulang ako. Jan 09, 2024 was the time we broke up and the time I’ve known you cheated
Sa birthday kopa naman yan sir. 😅😭
Doon sa boy-cheater na nagsabi ng "i should set her free" and "second gf should know her place"
Son, you took yourself out kaya hindi na siya nakakulong sayo. Good for the woman na nainform siya agad, kasi boy-cheater will never ever let it known.
THE OTHER SIDE THAT WE'VE BEEN WAITING FOR!! ANG SAKIT SO MUCH
came here for the comment section ONLY ...why would I bother hearing their excuses??
cheating is a choice, when people are insecure in their relationship they will cheat. Lack of conscience ,values and morality is dangerous. Always pray for GOD to guide you guys and always choose to do good, pag di na masaya let go! Don’t Cheat!
Whatever your reasons are, "The game of life is a game of boomerangs. Our thoughts, deeds, and words return to us sooner or later with astounding accuracy."
Cheating is just an excuse for people who are insecure, emotionally unstable who finds comfort on other people instead of fixing or ending their relationship with the toxic one. It's a selfish act especially if the new person doesnt even know, they are just passing the pain to the other people. Dont make things complicated, if you're not contented and appreciated just let go.
I like the part that the guy is aware that a genuine lover can be rare in his life time. And that he realize the mistake of letting it slip away. I think the lesson changes him for the better.
i get the vibe that the guy views women as objects…
real. yikes
the way palang na tinatawag niya yung mga babae as "chicks"
I was so shocked when he said he got mad at the second girl.
Same!
HAHAHAHAHAHA crazy may masisi lang sya eh noh
the a u d a c i t y
Why 2 people lang yung ininterview?
Dapat meron ding person na nagkabalikan sila ng partner & how awkward it is to still go on kahit you both cheated
another person who still keeps cheating & why they still don't settle for one until now
another person na who got cheated on lang & never pa nagcheat
lol parang medyo common yung story, & seems like these 2 sobrang past na yung nangyari & buti walang preggy na naganap
Sobrang sakit to be cheated on. Until now hirap ako mgtiwala sa tao dahil I experienced that. 6 years na akong single and tinatanonga ko na lang kay Lord kung my tao ba talagang darating na hindi magchicheat sakin.
8:47 bro really thought he had the right to get mad
exactly, the audacity talaga
Its always the ugly ones
the audacity to say na she know her place supposedly is just insane
Cheating is still cheating. Walang reason na makakapag-justify ng panloloko mo sa partner mo.
All my past relationships cheated on me. Hearing all of this makes me puke. Im just praying that my husband will never cheat on me because the trauma of being betrayed , sobrang sakit at mahirap na magpatiwala.
Hugs!!!!! The trauma still haunt us. Praying for healing!! ❤
They realized their mistakes, they learned their lesson. Damage has been done and they were honest about it. I hopr they still find genuine love and happiness sa next relationship nila pati na rin dun sa mga ex nila.
grabe iba talaga ang cheating ng babae sa lalaki. love and ego talaga.
trueee
Kapal nung muka ng side ng lalake, kesyo na bore daw, na gusto makuha ung hottest woman para ego boost. Tsk
"Love" ba talaga yun or is it their version of stroking their ego?
cheating is cheating no matter the reason what their situation was doesn't matter because yung victims nila yung totoong kawawa.
very different based on their stories but don't set the standard na it's always love for women and ego for men
Napaka cheap nung Manila girlfriend na crowning glory kuno. My goodness alam mo nang may jowa na pinatulan mo pa and you even have the audacity to ask him na makipag break sa unang girlfriend. Pero yung lalake, lakas maka feeling pogi. Itsura reveal nga, parang tank build naman.
tank build pota HAHAHAHHA
Parang ang asim naman ee HAHAHAHA umisa pa talaga. Umaay! Hahahaha
I was cheated on too. More than 10 years of relationship. We were young back then but maybe things could have been better if he told me he fell out of love and not because of someone new.
Same 10yrs na nangabet asawa ko sa boss nya sa callcenter to justify their relationship lagi nila ako pinagtutulungan na masama ako mukhang pera ako para lang mapagaan kunsensya nila
I cheated. And I am sorry. It's something that I would probably regret my whole life. No one deserves to be cheated. I know what I did and Im not proud of it. I've learned my lesson and I'll still try to be better everyday. I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Cheating shouldn’t be justified.
Who's justifying cheating🤷🤦
nah y'all don't deserve to be happy and to be in another relationship. kahit magkaroon pa kayo ng redemption era. di deserve ng cheaters mabigyan ng second chance kahit sabihin nyo pang mag babago kayo. kahit sabihin nyo na hindi na kayo cheater. once a cheater, always a cheater.
Nakakatakot. I feel scared while watching, people's backstory of why they cheated will never justify that it is still your choice to hurt people. DISGUSTING.
Objectively, this video is really eye-opening to how people end up cheating with both of the persons in this video presenting two various perspectives and situations that led them to do so. It's really courageous of them to present their experiences when they did cheat with their partners knowing that they're previous experiences will be up for debate, along with their morals being questioned by us, the viewers who are complete strangers. Don't take this statement as me defending their actions as I believe that what they did was wrong (Which they did state at the end of the video), but more on pointing out how this video can help develop healthy conversations and self reflection through the various situations and perspectives presented by the two people in the video. Hopefully, they do stay true to what they said about learning from their mistakes in the past and optimistically that they've grown into better people, and hopefully to all of us who consumed this content, we can learn a thing or two by comparing our situations to theirs to avoid putting ourselves in the same positions as they did which is what led to them deciding to cheat (Example: How the woman already felt the mistreatment but still stayed.)
(More subjective part)
I didn't really appreciate how the guy was treating women as trophies (speaking as a guy myself) and started talking about how he believed getting together with this one woman would suddenly make him superior to his co-workers. I felt nauseous when he began talking about how his work GF spilled the beans to his real GF and he began talking about how she "knew her place" and how she "wasn't supposed to do that", I literally paused the video in shock because of the audacity to blame his work GF for "stepping over the line" even though it was his fault for deciding to get with her even though he himself knew he was taken and then he started blaming her for being honest to his real GF which he couldn't do. The number of times where I cringed whenever he referred to women as "chicks" just because it felt like he was treating women more like a number than actual human beings. (Which again, treating women as trophies.)
The woman, although still wrong for cheating, compared to the guy, felt more grounded in what led her to cheat. She was pushed to the edge by how (based on her recounting) less caring and unkind her BF was to her even after she caught him cheating but still decided to stay. She found what she needed in "Babe" and what she decided to do was history.
(Back to being objective)
Again, both were wrong for cheating, but it sounded like they've moved on and have realized their own wrongs. We have to remember that although we're capable and allowed to express our opinions, we have to remember that our biggest critics are always ourselves which I'm sure is true for the two people in the video. No matter what we say, nothing can ever hit as hard as what they think of themselves. Also we have to take everything with a pinch of salt knowing that this is only one side of the story and most likely will never get another side of it.
Thanks Rec•Create for another video!
Kung sino pa mga panget sila pa malakas mag cheat jusko 😂😂😂
Doesn't mean na ung mga good looking should get a pass sa pag cheat. Bat di nalang maging decent and matino regardless sa itsura
Baka sa world mo lang kase na aattract mo mga panget. marami akong kilala at tropa na gwapong cheater. 😂
Kahit isang redeeming quality na lang sana no? Di makapili ng struggle amputa hahaha
She cheated because she was hurt and neglected.
He cheated because he got bored.
Again they’re both became selfish on the part they wanted to be happy. Cheating is always a choice. They could be more happier if they chose to end up their relationship first.
But those events taught them. 😊
based on their shadows, ANG PAPANGIT NILA. JUSKO. ANG PAPANGIT PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. Like ang PAPANGIT NIYO.
Most people are happy in their marriage. Pero nagawa pa din nila mag cheat kasi nawala na yun newness and novelty sa relationship nila sa tagal. So na eexcite pag may bagong lover. Sa guys mostly pag msy nagkagusto pa sa kanila kahit may jowa, ka live in o asawa na sila. Feeling pogi sila o talaga pogi sila, di lang feeling. For a woman something much deeper. Maari in love sila sa mister/jowa nila. Pero may unresolved emotion, intense feelings o unfinished business sila sa isang guy. Kaya yun nagkaron uli sils ng contact, sumiklab uli yun damdamin nila. Meron nga pareho may asawa pero nagkagustuhan. Pero sa kin no excuse for chrating. You must remain loyal to your partner. Itatapon mo ba yun tumanggap sayo unconditionally and accept your past but still love you sa panandalian saya. Wag ka makipag contact sa taong may feelings ka, kinikilig ka, sexually attracted ka, may unresolved emotions and unfinished business ka sa social media.
Cheating is non negotiable
pero pag may involved na bata napakahirap kumawala
being proud that you got what you wanted in a relationship after cheating is crazy, I understand you got cheated on kase so have I pero cheating back and genuinely thinking that what you did was the right thing is delusional. I really hope rec create knew what they were doing when they let her be on the video
“with all the crisis in my life…”
KARMA YAN KUYA… KARMA! 😂
Cheating is definitely wrong but this also gives us another perspective in a story we believe we all know. I hope we can be people who sit down, maybe agree and disagree at some parts, but mainly listen beyond the words that went out of their mouths.
There is time to speak up, but there's also a kind time to listen. Especially to the stories where we can't do anything but just merely forgive because we can't turn back time anymore.
exactly
well said
Cheaters cheat because they choose to. Period.
not listening to allat bc the audacity to even speak is crazy. It's one of those times where I believe not everyone deserves freedom of speech. idgaf abt their reason, CHEATING IS CHEATING.
Let's just note that the problems they cited with their OG partners could have been solved within the relationship.
When I was 12 years old, I cheated on my first girlfriend, though I didn’t realize it at the time. Once I became aware of what I was doing, I decided to end the relationship. I was too young and naive to fully grasp the complexities of cheating and the seriousness of relationships. To this day, I remind myself of that mistake, even though I know I wasn’t fully aware of my actions at the time because I was just a kid. Later, when I was truly ready for a relationship, I experienced being cheated on as well. One reason some people cheat is that they're seeking happiness in the moment, chasing the thrill and attention. That’s exactly how I felt as a 12-year-old, entering a relationship without understanding the weight of that decision.
Kung sino pa yung mga halatang panget physically, sila pa malakas ang loob mag cheat, syempre walang mawawala eh, najajustify ang uhaw nila.
Cheating is a decision. I dont judge them. At least they learn from what they did. And sharing their cheating experiences makes others learn from it.
came from a 7yr relationship / been cheated by my partner who is a teacher with her student :) di ako natutuwa sa mga ganito
Ui tabboo, reklamo tanggal lisensya
nakaka trigger eh no? 🙃 lagi na lang sila dapat iniintindi
It's been more than a year since I got cheated too. At the sight of this, I'm literally shaking and catching my breath. Betrayal trauma is real. :')
Kapag nagwowork sa DepEd, tanggal/revoke ang lisensya talaga, lalo't minor ung student. Kapag CHED, teacher and student relationship is no license revocation. Basta may utmost professional discretion. Pero kapag may cheating, a big NO. Since Teacher sya in the first place..
i got cheated on and forgave multiple times by this one person. got caught in a trauma bond. then when i had the courage to let go, its still a stabbing pain that this person is not even guilty nor have any remorse at all for what he did. 7yrs passed and im okay, but scarred to still feel and still choking whenever i remember why i deserved his treatment...
The Justification. 🤣 gaslighting pro max hahahaha
Wala naman nagjajustify sa kanila ng ginawa nila. Siguro thier younger selves, yeah. But now, they're being honest, they know they fucked up, and now they're both growing and learning from their mistakes.
eh need ng content ng channel na to eh ano gusto mo magkwento lang sila without their own reason and conclusion?
Lol, if you feel unworthy, unappreciated, unloved, and etc. na may un- LEAVE the relationship. Cheating is cheating
As a person na may trauma sa cheaters, lahat ng ex ko nag cheat. At ang pinaka recent 5 years + kami. Ang sakit. Iba na yung trauma ko. Sobrang hirap ibuild uo ulit ng sarili mo tapos iiwan ka ulit sa same reason. Hanggang ngayon, kahit may new partner na ako at happy naman kami nandon pa din yung doubts and trauma exp ko.
Sobrang sakit talaga. Kahit anong rason nyo para mag cheat, sana maisip nyo na may taong masasaktan kayo at hinding hindi nila yon makakalimutan.
as someone who is in the middle of a family issue caused by infidelity. if this is between a couple, sila lang ang maaapektuhan. but if it is between a married couple, their kids will be the one who is badly affected by it.
always remember that cheating is a choice, think of the people that will get involved and the trauma that you will inflict.
It's funny how the girl tried to justify herself just because she's emotional and the guy is plainly trash.
I hate how people see the girl as the "lesser evil" compared to the guy. Two of my exes cheated on me and I both ended it on the spot I knew. Getting cheated on is not an excuse to cheat, being hurt is not an excuse to cheat, struggling is not an excuse to cheat. Pag cheater ka edi cheater ka.
Skl, common trait ng mga cheater ay ampapanget depota
"Dapat faithful tayo, dapat loyal tayo sa partner natin"... "we just hear that, but we don't actually consume what we hear"
I LOVE THE GROWTH FROM THEM!!!
sana yung susunod naman ung open relationship
HAHAH SILHOUETTE PALANG LAM MO NA , ANG PANGIT NG MGA CHEATERS
DAPAT SA GYM SILA MAG LAAN NG TIME 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Wag nyo rin tolerate if good looking man ang cheaters
@@user-dv9xx3yy8v Ofcourse!
"Pangit" or "gwapo/maganda" CHEATING IS CHEATING PERIOD
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It’s courage to admit that you did something wrong because not all the people can do it. People in the comment section are quick to judge even calling it as an audacity when not all people can admit that they hurt people and acknowledge it. Watch, listen and observe past their egos, there is a lesson in this video that most people missed and that is they are just people too who made mistakes and are haunted by it, be it the girl’s perspective or the guy’s. Yes, cheating is cheating. Cheating is a choice, but so is judgement. People are quick to judge another person’s character in just a measly 14 minute video when this is just the summarization of what they dealt with. I acknowledge their confession and glad that they did so as we can finally get some answers as to what cheating is and what drove them to do it but cheating does not define them as a person. Remember that.
exactly. people commenting the audacity eh need ng content ng channel plus never it will be an excuse but people has their reason why they cheat. understandable why they are proud, they cheat because they need validation, answer for the things thats in their head. they achieved it. they hurt people. they reflect on their action and hopefully work to be the better version of themselves. closed minded mga taong galit agad/judge agad sa mga nakagawa ng mali. again, never an excuse but they had their reasons, valid or not.
I had this guy around March 2021, I mer him in a dating site. Our relationship lasted 1 year and 4 months, I caught him cheating on me. Pinagsabay nya kami ng kabet nya. So buong relationship namin ako pala yung kabit and I didn’t know. But now I moved on na, happy with my life and dating someone now after him. 😊
Never been into serious relationship but hearing these two cheaters, I realize they are not only selfish but also apathetic, pitiless, and cold hearted. I know there are many cheaters out there, so for those who still love sincerely, beware of these kind of people.
I've been there, I was that 2nd girl. kulang nalang din sabihan nya ko ng "know your place" and the worst part is I really believed him that it's my fault. in the end he chose the OG girl and she still took him back. he said he'll marry her, and i'm left alone misserable. In my defense I didn't know na may gf sya first 4 months of our situationship. He promissed to break up with the og gf for me, almost 2 years of waiting, he never did. He was so mad when I told the other girl and left me. Guys like that will never understand, aside from the guilt of dating him kahit taken na, sobrang nawalan ako ng self worth. Para akong basahan na tinapon lang.
I think he just used you to compensate for his insecurities and ego. There is no love in that. And no love in being a second option. Siguro your mistake is staying after knowing he was taken, and you are rightfully guilty for that. But know na that experience does not define you. If anything it defines the guy who took you as a side piece for his own selfish reasons. Your self-worth is inherent and inwards. This experience does not negate it, and you can still be whole after it, especially if you’re committed to growing from it. Nakakalungkot lang to hear a person describe themselves as you did. People are more important than the mistakes that eat their guilt.
Cheating is cheating-no excuses. If you no longer love your partner or don't want to continue the relationship, then have the decency to tell them. Stop justifying your actions. At the end of the day, you cheated, and that betrayal will leave a lasting scar on the person you hurt.
I AM SAYING THIS GENERALLY.
I maybe a very insecure girlfriend to my boyfriend but something I can never do is cheat. I believe in the wise words of "Respect begets respect." and "Don't do what you don't want others to do onto you." Karma is real. If you cheat, you will not only hurt another person but also yourself because you killed the opportunity of finding a faithful partner. Cheating is not a mistake, it is a choice. If cheating comes into your mind, leave the person.
that guy's story is literally the plot of Sweet & Sour movie :')
my anger issues cannot with this video 😭😭😭
Yung guy na nakakaramdam ng validation sa dami ng chicks, may cinocompensate. Ano cinocompensate mo, kuya? 😂
Very Machismo core si Kuya.
ego, masculinity hahhahaha
pangit kasi kahit silhouette palang
Ratbu
Mukhang tank build version naman si kuya so baka may pera? 😂
Partida na...pareho pang balyena itong dalawa lol!
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please be mindful of what we say po. Their body type has nothing to do with the issue. saying "balyena" is so offensive
The guys is full of himself I hope na matuto talaga siya ng malala, brooo you are for the streets fr
Sana pinakita niyo yun mukha para next time na makita namin yun mga cheaters, iiwasan namin sila. Iyang mga cheaters na iyan ang nagbibigay ng trauma sa mga loyal at faithful na tao
The main question is.... Why not break up with the present first? If you feel di ka na appreciated nung present, why stay and cheat kung pwede naman iwan mo muna bagonka humanap ng iba... Tama yung comments dito... Cheating is cheating kahit san anggulo mo pa tingnan, cheater will always be at fault
Right!? Like mas pinili mong mag cheat rather than communicating at makipag break THEN mag date ng iba. Hindi yung mag paplay victim at sasabihin na walang thrill or etc
Cheating is a choice talaga
My ex cheated on me and the experience wasn’t nice 😢 CHEATERS there’s nothing to be proud of.
Kuhang kuha yung inis ko netong dalawa na ‘to.
Don't hide behind the curtains if you're proud 🙄
see, when a girl cheats, it is usually due to a deeper reason, not because it's a crowning glory for her but because of the things she deserves to feel habang nasa current relationship siya, lalo na kung willing din siya mag-work sa part niya sa relationship. maybe if she was treated right, she would not find the need sa ibang tao. pero sabi nga, nothing can validate cheating.
Theres no need for me to cheat, i love my partner so much to the point that i will never experience any regret in life. My life was wonderful with him and that made me so grateful everyday.
Hindi badge of honor ang pagiging cheater, ‘wag niyo i-normalize ‘yan thinking na reasonable naman ba’t niyo ginawa.
Kaya hindi pumayag yung mga kaybigan ko sa idea ng "ganti" nung nag cheat ex ko dati e. Nakakatakot raw sa feeling na baka maoverwhelm ka then sa susunod ikaw na talaga yung cheater.
ik some people hate that woman's pov for speaking up but if you watched the full video and her perspective carefully, you'll definitely understand her point.
Not that I am glamorizing cheating, I just think that she could've just worded her thoughts differently but i get her point.
When it comes to situations where you've been emotionally abused in a relationship many times, there will really come a time na maaattract ka na lang doon sa taong biglang dadating na ibibigay yung mga bagay na never binigay sa'yo nung current jowa mo (and you're in a toxic relationship pa🥲) and you'll be attracted by that.
ang naging mali lang talaga nya is hindi sya nakipaghiwalay agad doon sa of relationship nya leading to those circumstances.
Too bad they felt as selfish this way. .
i am with, used to be with a cheater. ..
And until now I am hurting ...
i love him too much but i have no peace of mind, constant anxiety and happiness is temporary while loneliness is becoming chronic
Maybe I should tell myelf, he's not worth it ..
2 months break today.
My ex left and cheated on me. I confronted the girl thrice and she deny it kapatid lang daw ung turing nia sa ex ko and denial din si ex ko after forcing him na aminin kase i will set him free naman pero wala denial pa din siya, napagod lang daw siya sa relasyon namin. After break up nahuli ko din sila dalawa sa coffee shop at nghalikan sa bar. Kitang kita mismo ng dalawang mata ko. Sakit! Sana lang masaya sila sa ginawa nila sa akin. Til now dala dala ko pa rin un pain na idinulot nila sa akin. 4 years ko iningatan ang puso ko bago pumasok ulit sa isang relasyon dahil takot akong masaktan pero ito na naman ako, nasasaktan ulit.
Ung mga cheater hindi niyo alam kung ano epekto na nagawa niyo sa amin, sana nakakatulog kayo ng maayos gabi. Pa sa Dios ko nalang lahat.
IF someone was "CHEATED ON" we can understand kung ano ang mga salitang gusto nilang sabihin ma- express lang nila ang "Hurt" na naramdaman nila, pero sa mga "NAG CHEAT", never ever use the word that they were "EMOTIONALLY ABUSED" regardless kung ano pa ang gender nila. Magpakumbaba na lang at magbago, bago mag demand ng pagbabago sa ibang tao.
These confessions really justified the ideology that a woman was driven to cheat because she's longing for love, while a man cheats because of lust and "panandaliang ligaya." But still, cheating is cheating.
i can't believe i am gonna watch this video again after got cheated recently.
sad part is she's proud of what she got from this guy with initial MD and even posted it on her fb. i gave it all naman and spoiled her kaso i guess pag may history ng cheating ang isang tao hindi na pala dapat pagkatiwalaan pa. sarap magmura lalo sa mga cheaters. you guys don't even know how painful and traumatic mga pinaggagawa nyo.
It all stems down to insecurity. The need for external validation.
Theirs a different talaga when a Men and Women when Cheating
One is just to be seen and appreciated, and the other by the thrilled and to satisfied their ego.
Pero masama parin mag cheat nuh.
this just proves that cheating is a choice.
maganda ren sana kung may perspective din ng LGBT/M2M na relationship na na-feature, kasi mas maraming cases ng eventual breakups because of cheating sa demographic na un.