These are generalities, but they are strong and quite accurate. There are always individuals who self develop more, and they tend to be happiest outside of Korea itself. Always wishing all well! Including all Koreans, don’t take it personally! 🙏
that might be true, but MAJORITY of KOREAN netizens personality, character, culture are what the guy in the vlog is talking about.. he is actually even taking it in a neutral level and subtle on his obsevations... and not being too direct and raw and honest..so, just so you know. Have you been to S. korea??
@@Lawrence_of_Asia let’s look at the Human Development Index…. South Korea isn’t just “High” it’s ranked as Extremely High Human development. Your generalizations are a world wide societal issue and if that’s the case then you have no one to blame except the west. This whole materialistic complaint you have has been around for centuries. It just blows my mind that you blame Koreans and judge based from a major metropolitan city like Seoul for not being accommodating to your needs. 😂 Don’t ever come to New York City because you’re in for a rude awakening….Didn’t Madonna make a world wide hit song long ago saying that we live in material world 🌎 . 😂
@@lotuspocus2165 I’ve spent a fair amount of time in New York, was very pleasant always. Folks can’t grasp the reality here unless they have been here. I never said it wasn’t developed and convenient… it is extremely, however, it’s really the high pressure and expectation enforced on the children and younger generations that weighs so heavy on society. Highest Suicide Rates, Lowest Birth Rates… I deeply care about all people including Koreans and the society here, a lot of it is heartbreaking. Make the most of it wherever You are! 🙌
Thank you for you video. I returned from Korea 2 weeks ago, it was my first visit there. The majority of my travels have been the far East. I also felt a total disconnect with the people, no small talk, no eye contact. I have been travelling solo for many years but this was the first trip I actually felt lonely. The country was every bit as beautiful as I imagined. But for me, the people make the country. Sadly, it was so difficult to make a connection.
I totally empathize with You. We must be that which we wish to see in the world. Carry forward with Your positive attitude towards others, as it’s the Best way of living!
It's true that Koreans are obsessed with appearance, but your analysis is also only skims the surface. Koreans and Southeast Asians have different cultures when it comes to dealing with people they don't know well. The same goes for Southern Europe and Northern Europe. Even Florida and New York in the US. It's probably a universal truth that Northerners are more blunt than Southerners in any region of the world. Koreans refer to their country as 'Our' country, not 'My' country. The phrase 'Our' is often used throughout the Korean language. As you can see from these language customs, it's important to belong to a group in Korea. Whether it's family, school, work, or a hobby club, Koreans will treat you differently depending on if you're belong to same group with them or not. Korean culture is a culture of relationalism, where people call each other brother and sister even if they are not related by blood, and Korean people share more with each other than in the West, so it is a culture of deep relationships. This is why I said that your analysis is superficial, because you are evaluating Korea as if you know it from the outside, without really diving into the culture. You seem to expect people to smile and be shallowly friendly to strangers, just like in Southeast Asia, the summer vacation destination for Europeans. but South Korea, and Seoul in particular, is not the same vacation destination as Southeast Asia.
Please listen to the full video! We’ve birthed 3 children here. I’m fully aware of Your points, and I appreciate Your insight and contributions. Subscribe, and continue to share Your insight!
i agree with you. i am from spain, my country is known for being very friendly, but we can be friendly in a shallow way. deep conections happens when you engage for long time and create moments with people, not by being friendly and looking in the eyes, that just helps with warmth and smoothness in a relationship, specially to break the ice with new ones, which is good, but its not conecting minds/souls. i think koreans lack being expresive and warm but they may engage deeply in their relationships with their close social circle, or thats just an observation based in what i heard, i have never being there.
Yes, there has been many studies linking warm climate and relaxed lifestyle. More sun == healthier mind. I know a couple people who got depression from length rainy season in Seattle.
@@Khroma-uz3zk Yes, such Spanish or Latin culture is one of the things that Koreans envy. Not only do Koreans not engage in small talk with strangers, but the influence of Confucianism makes them reluctant to make physical contact, especially between men and women. Not to the extent of Islam, of course. So people on the street don't smile at strangers, they don't express warmth. but the really weird and funny thing is that there's a culture that coexists where when something bad or difficult happens to someone on the street, people on the street suddenly stop and turn into friend and family mode as if they knew them since before and help them. It's always hard to describe a culture in a single sentence like this.
@@Khroma-uz3zk I understand what you mean about Spanish people being friendly in a superficial way. I have lived in Spain. I met some silly people. However, because I was able to chat to lots of people, there were some who actually became my friends. They are my friends still. I actually prefer the Spanish way of socialising. Es mas facil cuando ambas personas tienen la posibilidad de comunicarse en el castellano.
This is like any other big city in the world. :) Outsode of Seoul we found a lot of very friendly people. In a small village people were greeting us upfront and waving hands.
So true! Outside of cities people do tend to warm up in general… though I’ve had some wiled encounters in the country side… Folks often in other folks business too much. Especially older folks. For instance, I was swimming in a river to cool down near our hotel and an old man started screaming at me for 20 minutes telling me to get out of the water… WTF…. Was insane… still I agree with You overall’
I totally agree with the extreme lookism problem in Seoul. You have to dress to the nines every time you step out of your house, even if you're just going to the supermarket just to avoid being criticized by judgmental eyes of total strangers! That was the biggest turnoff for me - the lack on individuality in their society. No wonder they all look the same when they get plastic surgeries. As for their failing birthrate and young adult suicide rate, I think their biggest problem is the hagwons. Not only is it very expensive for parents (lack of money is a big factor for not wanting to have babies), but attending hagwons is very stressful for kids too. Imagine going home at 11 PM every weekday because the kids have to go straight to the hagwons after school. These kids barely have enough time to sleep! And lack of sleep + too much stress to excel can very well lead to suicide. Korean parents put wayyy too much pressure on their kids to excel in school, it's very unhealthy for both parents and child.
I have a question for non-Koreans. Do you speak Korean and understand Korean culture? If I, as a Korean, went to the U.S. but couldn’t speak English or didn’t follow American customs, would it be possible for me to build meaningful relationships with other Americans? Additionally, can a city truly be called a 'city with soul' if, in the name of freedom, people dress carelessly and crime is widespread? I respect your perspective, but I believe it may be too surface-level.
Eh, its all about the citizens' willingness to accomodate and assimilate other cultures into their own. Me and my non-American friends have no problems at all to build relationships with Americans. Then again the US is literally a nation of immigrants so assimilation is by design. I'd wager its Korea itself refusing to change/adapt since its so homogenous like Japan, very averse to outsiders/things that does not conform to the prevailing trends/norms. Compared to other Asian nations, these 2 countries are extremely xenophobic in terms of immigrants from other nations coming and living there permanently. I would know since I'm an ASEAN citizen. I've seen so many news of Koreans and Japanese treating my people like second class humans, very stupid considering their education levels imo. But well, brains and money can't buy class, i suppose.
He said he speaks korean well enough. also he said he had no problems feeling the friendliness and welcoming from the people in Southeast Asia despite not speaking the language at all. Koreans act the same way here in LA, so it has nothing to do with whether you can speak the language or not. Believe it or not, people from different countries really have different characteristics.
It's hard to believe that he's fluent in Korean. His language skills seem to be below even a kindergarten level. I have a question: do Westerners always warmly welcome and treat Asians kindly? Why did he expect Koreans to welcome him for no reason? He's not a celebrity, just an ordinary foreigner. Honestly speaking, he doesn’t meet Korean standards in terms of appearance(fashion, style), and there’s a slightly negative vibe about him. (Do people criticize New Yorkers for being "soulless" just because they dress well?) Instead of being grateful for not facing street crime or racial slurs abroad, he seems to have an overly arrogant attitude.
It's hard to believe that he's fluent in Korean. His language skills seem to be below even a kindergarten level. I have a question: do Westerners always warmly welcome and treat Asians kindly? Why did he expect Koreans to welcome him for no reason? He's not a celebrity, just an ordinary foreigner. Honestly speaking, he doesn’t meet Korean standards in terms of appearance, and there’s a slightly negative vibe about him. (Do people criticize New Yorkers for being "soulless" just because they dress well?) Instead of being grateful for not facing street crime or racial slurs abroad, he seems to have an overly arrogant attitude.
I find it hard to believe that he’s fluent in Korean. His Korean level seems to be even lower than that of a kindergartner. I have a question: Do Westerners always warmly welcome and treat Asians kindly? Why did he expect Koreans to welcome him without any reason? He’s not a celebrity, just an ordinary foreigner. He should be grateful that he’s not subjected to crime or racial mockery in the streets, yet he came to Korea with an overly entitled mindset. He didn’t even make the minimum effort to present himself well to Koreans. Just look at his terrible fashion and unkempt hair. Does he walk around like that in New York too?
Good perspectives on what you've experienced.. Agreed that there has to be many issues if suicide rates are high, along with low birthrate. Having children myself, it's the greatest reward and blessing in life. Connections are needed to help build upon friendship and family...
I think I understand what this guy is saying. Travel to Seoul, then travel to Bangkok, Manila, or Sai Gon, then you will see the vibe of the locals and how you interact with them are totally different.
I find your videos interesting. I am a Korean college student. Koreans have scars inside because they have experienced pressure to go to good universities and work in a competitive atmosphere since they were young. And because of the remaining culture of Confucianism, my parents train me to hide my emotions from an early age. There is also a vertical culture in Korea. There is a Honorific word like '-요' of the Korean language that is only found in Korea. I attend Korean English worship services in korean church. There, foreigners are active in expressing and expressing their feelings to others without hesitation. I learned about expressing emotions and learned the joy of human nature through that experience. If you have any questions about Koreans, please ask me questions.
So, since you are used to the more American-esque type of politeness where interaction and small talk is polite and friendly it sounds like you look at the world through this lens. I'm from Sweden and we get these words from Americans too. "Swedish people are quite cold unless you drink with them" but it is an introverted culture and for us it is more polite to not disturb strangers because you never know how busy they might be and they're probably on their way somewhere and if you small talk with them they might be too kind to tell you that they need to go or they'll be late because it will sound rude, so automatically it is more polite to not disturb strangers and interrupt their day unless it is important. That time on the bus might be their only time for themselves between work and kids so if you talk to them they have no unwinding time that day, you know? You never know. But, when we drink we know nobody is going anywhere. Introverted vs extroverted cultures have different outlooks on what counts as polite and it's okay if it doesn't fit your personality. It does feel like you are unfairly judging them though.
I’m really not describing only my experience here. Korea are some of the strongest judgmental folks and also racist as well. I don’t get as much of that hate, but there is too much overall for anyone in Korea who isn’t Korean. Even the Koreans who were not born and raised in Korea are all hated in Korea and judged very harshly’
@@Lawrence_of_Asia many of these korean americans can't speak Korean so why would Koreans be particularly friendly to them. actually wouldn't that be racist? your points are contradictory.
@@Lawrence_of_Asia Sorry, but I'll have to disagree. Have you even ventured out and interacted with people outside Seoul? Those were some of the friendliest, most helpful people I've met while traveling around Asia, minus few language barriers. Seems unfair to paint a whole nation based on one city. Sure, certain parts of the city, such as Gangnam district, can feel extremely cold, but Seoul still doesn't compare to New York or Miami from my personal experience.
@@XGN05 you're coping so hard. no city is more dystopian than seoul. name me another city or country where more than 90% of all women get extensive plastic surgery on their face.
they will laugh at you for wearing off brand products just because i wore a good cloth s and they liked it but as soon as i told them their personality changes but as always not everyone
Thank you for this interesting, but somewhat sombre video. I have worked in South Korea more than once. The first time was in the early 2000s and the most recent was between 2019 and August of this year. I kind of agree with what you are saying. However, I get the impression that some things have changed enormously over the past 20 or so years. Back in the day, adult Koreans were sometimes very very keen to practice their English with me. What this meant was that sometimes it was only a gimmick, but sometimes I was able to hear people's opinions and stories. I was even taught a little bit about Korean history. I began to make friends with Koreans as well as westerners. Surprisingly, even people who spoke only Korean wanted to chat to me in Korean. As a result, I took my first steps in Korean. Consequently, I got the feeling that South Koreans were a lot more friendly and open than the Japanese. Yes, they had the same obsession with group harmony and rank within the group. However, they were warmer and more direct. That said, I realise that the default position was more like Japan. South Koreans were interested in talking to me primarily because of the craze for English, and because it might help them careerwise. But it made them more friendly in practice. I left South Korea. When I returned, I experienced a little culture shock. Nobody outside of work spoke. The city I was in was different than where I had lived previously. But I might as well have emigrated to rural Japan. Nobody spoke, except to sell something. And the foreigners were at least as bad! They thought it was silly to bother with other foreigners. But they seemed cold. What saved me was making friends with people in Seoul. I made friends there, and eventually moved to the edge of that city. Because I made friends with some great people in Itaewon, and from one job I did, I did not feel that lonely in South Korea. However, I do see a huge difference in South Korean attitude. Twenty years ago, there was a LOT of pressure to get top grades, go to an SKY university, and join a conglomerate of get a "safe" government job. This was because South Korea has a LOT of small businesses with relatively poor and unstable conditions, leading to the pressure, stress, and unhappiness. Even so, I still think it was not as bad as now. In the year 2000, Koreans had gained a new confidence in themselves due to the success of the "economic miracle." Their wealth had grown. Surely the future would be much better, even if the present was frenetic! Surely there was going to be more improvements for the average person. People felt optimistic.
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Cmon y’all he’s not racist or anything it’s not that deep, it’s just an eye opener of how society actually in Seoul and he’s not talking about all of s korea obviously. It is very materialistic and may look very modern but there is still heavy influence of old Korean ideals and standards, you don’t need to be Korean or have been to Korea to know
I live in korea and have a wife here i agree that most koreans are really just surface level friendship the funny part is even most koreans i talked to dont even like korea because of the coldness and the newer generation dont really listen much to their parents
The New generation is prob best not to listen to much to their parents… I think that’s really the root of the issue… Feel free to subscribe it You have not already. 🙏
Don''t judge by appearance. Smiles or kindness always don't show their authenticity. Koreans generally don't like exaggerated expressions, especially for people they don't know.
post 1953 Korea is a facinating subject, ultra capitalism suddenly slapped on top of ancient embedded Confucianism. What could go wrong - other than everything..............
I like your honest opinion on things, too many people on youtube water the truth down so as to not want to offend anyone, I hate that. I'm half Filipino from Australia and went to the Philippines just recently for the 1st time and was shocked how it really was there, would love your honest opinion about the Philippines, the lack of education really shows and the customer service is a 4 out of 10 and thats putting it lightly, I did not have the best experience there, to say the least, I hope things can get better there, the morale is really low in the country, people dont have hope as they only make $15 AUD a day, it really shows in their expression as they can be sad/angry/toxic as a result, which I guess I can understand, if I were in that position it would be hard to be happy.
In all honesty it’s my least favorite in Asia. There are some lovely and sweet people and easy to connect in the sence that everyone speaks English there, or many… but the food was quite bad, got food poisoning and overall didn’t find it very appealing.
@Lawrence_of_Asia I agree, food is a big part of a country and the food just doesnt seem fresh there like it does in Thailand, it's like everything is just microwaved or something, hard to get a good fresh meal in the Philippines, also healthy food options are limited, whereas Thailand as plenty
I can definitely see that. Heart, soul, and depth doesn’t come into play until personal connections are made. I can't figure it out either, why that's so. Most Koreans in the US give off the same vibe. I wonder if it's a cultural thing?
Inherently we all pick up on our parents characteristics, however in my experience American Koreans are far more open and warm… Could also have something to do with growing up in condensed cities. Stay Sharp and don’t sweat it! 😅 Subscribe if not already! 🙏 Thanks for the comment! 🙏
That's like that with foreigners. It's not like that with locals. I've lived in U.S. for last 40 yrs and I would have to say the same here in the U.S. No matter how close you get with others here, so many ppl here are so individualistic that it is very difficult to connect with ppl here.
I agree with u on it being the fact that he is a foreigner. But it’s still different in Korea specially bc of the culture and country being very homogeneous. America is not a homogeneous place. People in Korea tent to have the same kind of thinking and ways of doing things which makes it more harder for foreigners to connect with ppl there and build genuine connections
@@Lawrence_of_Asia 首都 means Capital City. Korea used to use Chinese characters. King Sejong the Great created the Korean alphabet, or Hangul, in 1446 to make it easier for more people to learn to read and write. He was correct. Chinese is the only language that a child cannot learn to read on his own. It's a very stupid language. Even Mao realized that. He realized old Chinese type writer needed 40000 keys while Latin typewriters needs only 44 characters.
Even in squidgames, we can still see the uniqueness of individual. You just need to look deeper and slower when everything looks shallow and fast pace.
@@Lawrence_of_Asiathis is very biased. Im a korean American living in the States. I cant go to Simi valley and expect white people to open up to me. Its not fair that i also have to be firyced to be somewhat extroverted here in the states. I live near a black community now and they saw my kindness as weakness and now im forced to file restraining orders.
As bad as East Asia is, consider that the west is falling and disappearing due to their "open" culture... SE Asia is a non comparable to NE Asia... Different IQ, different level in many ways... ❤
Yes, All True! Sad to see the West fall! Feel Free to Subscribe! The homogeneous cultures tend to be far more peaceful on the whole… Korea in particular is rather rough to foreign folks, but they have also maintained to keep their society in tact…
Really interesting. Aren't you nervous people will overhear your critiques of their country lol? A lot of them know English very well even though they're shy about their abilities.
@@abena8339 thanks! Feel free to subscribe! I’m heading out now to make a video. Not at all nervous, just truths. Happy to say it as it is…. The truth is never wrong’ I don’t do it to hurt anyone, but to shed light on reality! 🙏🌞🙏
You know it’s really easy talkin’ sh-t about a country that you damn well know has very little to no natural resources and a small population. Everything rests on education and a strict structured society. I mean, I know plenty of countries that would trade their problems for Korean problems. Talking about connecting 😂 , c’mon man gimme a break, plenty of European societies do not like randomly connecting with strangers. Like how you just described Koreans. Maybe you should be a little more respectful to a country that has obviously allowed you to conduct business in it.
Come live here and then say that! You have no clue. But thanks for the comment. Look at the comments… anyone who lives here or who has basically agrees… it’s not talking shit… talking facts… and reality and my honest perspective… and I could be 10x harsher…
@@Lawrence_of_Asia buddy, I’ve been traveling around the world and in Asia for the past 10 years and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that if I’m a guest in someone else’s house (country) I don’t turn around and openly criticize and insult them for not accommodating me in a way that I see fit. I have read some of the other comments and let me say that this is nothing new when it comes to English teachers or wannabe entrepreneurs trying to make money in a country that offered to take you in. You said you could be 10x harsh 😂 just your sheer arrogance gives me a clear picture of what type tourist you are. I welcome your offer, give me the 10x harsh, please. My only request is that reveal you what country you’re from. Let’s go 😉
you think you have solution to their low birth rate. its simple, it costs too much to raise a child and they would rather not bring a child into the world where the child will not be happy because lack of financial resource.
The idea and standard around raising children is far too high in Korea… the most expensive country to raise a child. But in actuality the children have next to no freedom or childhood… The idea of how to raise children in Korea is one that is of far too high expectations and standard. It leaves the children empty and miserable… It doesn’t need to be expensive. And happiness isn’t from material, but that’s another false belief, that makes folks miserable.
Interesting. I was a Turk drama fan with the eye contact and genuine connections I saw especially in the Behzat series. I gave up when the new Turk genre favors drugging and kidnapping girls. So then I went to k drama for the stories which are now mostly boring since the culture is so full of hitting and drunkenness. Degradation. Your comments are particularly poignant. What a death culture. I saw it when they hounded the actor Mr Lee to death. We are watching a culture that can’t sustain itself.
I've been n Korea for 3 years and everytime I try to say this, people say I'm generalizing. Fair enough, but there are just traits that reflect the society's values and I notice that a lot having been raised in another culture. After dating two Korean guys, I also realized marriage is impossible for me because men treat women as means to enhance their status and cheating is almost expected.. Anyway, I originally moved here because of the language (I am a translator) and I absolutely love it and love the traditional culture and food. I love Korea, but hate Korea.
Can totally relate! If You end up with a serious Boyfriend, I recommend travel South East Asia together if possible… for perspective on another culture… you both may prefer it. And can still find the Korean Restaurants… There is strong pushback when criticizing Korea, people take it personally generally… where as I as an American do not take criticism of America personally. Thanks for Your comment. Consider subscribing! 🙏
You cannot develop a deep relationship after you pass a certain age, generally after your middle/high school years. It does not matter what country or culture you are in. I'm from Canada. Have not made any friends since high school and I do not have desire to make any. Only need capable associates or business partners. It is the same as anywhere else in the world. South Korea has probably the highest IQ on average if you compare it worldwide. And people who generally have high IQ and high income are less likely to have kids and have a higher rate of suicide. Income and fertility are correlated. You can even just look at USA Birth rate by household income. Your stereotypical theories on Korea are wrong my friend.
Your comment dismisses the fact that different groups of people have different characteristics. I've never made any new or lasting friendships after high school myself, but that has nothing at all to do with feeling unwelcome or face a general coldness from the general population like people describe facing in korea. They act the very same way in the US, cold and aloof.
@@stuka80 If you are a minority in any country or place, most people will avoid you. Again, this is the same as anywhere else in the world. Ethnicities/race generally stick with their own kind. Because of discrimination and stereotypes. Kind of like what this fellow who made this video is doing; stereotyping.
@@monkeystar69 Again, you are trying to blanket it as people everywhere act the same, they dont. While its obviously true that people are more comfortable with their own group, it doens't prevent them from being friendly and open with outsiders. In the US where i live, i have a much easier time striking up a conversation with a hispanic person than a korean, who will not even make eye contact with me. As this guy said, he gets a completely opposite reaction from strangers in Southeast Asia than in Korea. I dont know why you pretend to think that people everywhere in the world have the exact same temperament and behave the same way, they dont and you know this. If you dont then either you've never travelled outside of your own country or you're ignoring this very basic fact about peoples and cultures for whatever reasons.
@@monkeystar69 okay so you do basically acknowledge that some groups of people are friendlier than others. I hate to have to constantly state what is obvious that I'm speaking in generalization as you do and the video maker does. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule. But you seem to agree then that koreans are less friendly than southeast asians. And we're not talking about deeper relationships or intentions, we are only talking about surface level friendliness, like what everybody does when meeting strangers in passing, like saying hello or giving a smile, do you feel a warmth and friendliness when dealing with the people, etc. we're not talking about anything deeper than that. Sorry but your analysis on why SE asians are friendlier is completely wrong. Filipinos for example speak english very well and they are very friendly towards foreigners in their country, in fact it is a very famous trait of theirs. Inviting complete strangers to their house and feeding them, expecting nothing in return, you see countless examples of this from online posts. Thai and Vietnamese also are known for their friendliness despite not speaking english that well. It plays out the exact same even when they're not in their own country. I live in LA, where you can find different peoples from all over the world in large numbers. I've had extensive contacts with Filipinos, Vietnamese and Koreans in the 30+ years i've been living here and by far Filipinos and Vietnamese are alot friendlier and warmer than Koreans. This is common knowledge here in fact.
@@stuka80 why don't you watch some of Nick K's Korean travel videos? He bike travels all over Korea and meets Korean strangers. See if they are really less warmer.
This honestly makes me feel kind of glad I was adopted to the US from Korea, at least I have a soul and other cultural experience with people (aka don't obsess over material goods and social status). Sucks that nuance and enlightenment is sparse there.
외국인들이 한국에 단기 체류 하면서 외롭다고 불평을 하는 이유에 대해 // 1,,기본적으로 한국인은 외국인을 싫어한다,,수년전 부터 백인들에게도 멀리 하려고 하고 불편해 하는것 같아,,, 우리는 언어가 잘통하고 문화나 정서가 같은 한국인 사이에서만 교류 하는데 ,,이는 한국인들 특징이다,,,, 외국인은 한국어가 미숙하고 문화도 다르므로 우리는 구태여 쓸데없이 대화를 하고 싶지 않은것이다 2,,,한국인에게는 스몰토크 문화가 없다,,서양 사람은 이를 기대 하지 말아야 한다,, 한국인의 친교는 사적인 용무를 가지던가 특별한 관계가 되야 시작이 되는데 ,,그전에는 거의 대화를 안한다,, 일단 친해지면 아주 깊히 교류 및 대화를 한다,,친해지면 번거로울 정도로 간섭하러 든다..이점이 일본인 및 서양 사람들과 가장 큰 차이이다,, 일본 및 서양 사람은 아무리 친해져도 상대와 사적이나 깊은 대화는 하지 않지,,,한국인은 이점으로 인해 서양 백인은 개인주의적이라고 비판 한다,,,, 이같은 교류 성향은 러시아 사람들이 그러하다고,,러시아인들은 친해지기 전에 아주 무뚝하다가 일단 친해지면 아주 친절해진다고 한다 3,,, 한국은 고도로 발전한 산업국가이고 부유한 나라인데 이러한 국가는 대체로 사람들이 개인주의적이고 용무 적인 것 이외에 타자와 대화를 잘안한다,,더군다가 대도시에 거주 하는 시민은 더욱 심하다,, 이들은 시간이 중요하므로 남의 시간도 자기 시간을 귀중하게 여긴다,,다른 아시아 지역 은 산업국가가 아닌 개발도상국가들인데,,그들은 시간이 여유롭다,,, 한국도 산업화 이전의 후진국가 시기에는 동남아 지역과 유사 하였다,,
호스트는 한국인들이 먼저 자신에게 말을 걸어야 한다고 믿는것 같아,,즉 동남아세아에서 같이 말이다,,, 백인은 고귀히므로 높은 대접을 받아야 한다는 의식구조로 보인다,,호스트는 백인우월주의가 상당한 수준으로 판단이 된다 ,, 그러나 한국인에게는 누구던간에 성가신 외국인중 1인 뿐이다,,,한국내에 외국인들이 너무 들어와서 범람 하는 지경이라고 ,,,,, 그래서 이제는 백인에 대해서 우리들은 이제는 싸늘하다,,그리고 호스트는 나이가 많아 보이고 외모도 좋지 않아,,, 그러면 외면을 당한다 당신과 같은 불평을 늘어놓는 외국인이 최근에 늘어났다,,
I agree with Your other comment but not this one. This is not accurate. I don’t believe, nor do most whites believe that they aught to be treated as nobles. In our culture, however we give gracious curtesy, and it’s ‘nice’ to receive it back. It’s not expected, but nice… And when folks don’t have basic curtesy and are often rude or stare with disdain, it weighs on anyone after sometime. The White Supremacy statement is purely hatred and extremely racist to say. And totally inaccurate.
Wow, You are actually the exact kind of person I’m referring to in the video! 🤣. Thanks for proving my point! Do You All see the Hate!? Listen to the video, and then look at this comment. It’s purely racist and full of hate. Thanks for proving my point’ Judging all based on looks, because too often in Korea, it’s only a focus on looks and next to no substance or depth, or actual self development. This is the root of the issue.
These are generalities, but they are strong and quite accurate. There are always individuals who self develop more, and they tend to be happiest outside of Korea itself.
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that might be true, but MAJORITY of KOREAN netizens personality, character, culture are what the guy in the vlog is talking about.. he is actually even taking it in a neutral level and subtle on his obsevations... and not being too direct and raw and honest..so, just so you know. Have you been to S. korea??
K-Netizens aren't Koreans..
They are Chinese people who pretend to be Koreans..
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@@Lawrence_of_Asia let’s look at the Human Development Index…. South Korea isn’t just “High” it’s ranked as Extremely High Human development. Your generalizations are a world wide societal issue and if that’s the case then you have no one to blame except the west. This whole materialistic complaint you have has been around for centuries. It just blows my mind that you blame Koreans and judge based from a major metropolitan city like Seoul for not being accommodating to your needs. 😂 Don’t ever come to New York City because you’re in for a rude awakening….Didn’t Madonna make a world wide hit song long ago saying that we live in material world 🌎 . 😂
@@lotuspocus2165 I’ve spent a fair amount of time in New York, was very pleasant always. Folks can’t grasp the reality here unless they have been here. I never said it wasn’t developed and convenient… it is extremely, however, it’s really the high pressure and expectation enforced on the children and younger generations that weighs so heavy on society.
Highest Suicide Rates, Lowest Birth Rates…
I deeply care about all people including Koreans and the society here, a lot of it is heartbreaking.
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Thank you for you video.
I returned from Korea 2 weeks ago, it was my first visit there. The majority of my travels have been the far East. I also felt a total disconnect with the people, no small talk, no eye contact. I have been travelling solo for many years but this was the first trip I actually felt lonely. The country was every bit as beautiful as I imagined. But for me, the people make the country. Sadly, it was so difficult to make a connection.
I totally empathize with You. We must be that which we wish to see in the world. Carry forward with Your positive attitude towards others, as it’s the Best way of living!
It's true that Koreans are obsessed with appearance, but your analysis is also only skims the surface. Koreans and Southeast Asians have different cultures when it comes to dealing with people they don't know well. The same goes for Southern Europe and Northern Europe. Even Florida and New York in the US. It's probably a universal truth that Northerners are more blunt than Southerners in any region of the world.
Koreans refer to their country as 'Our' country, not 'My' country. The phrase 'Our' is often used throughout the Korean language. As you can see from these language customs, it's important to belong to a group in Korea. Whether it's family, school, work, or a hobby club, Koreans will treat you differently depending on if you're belong to same group with them or not.
Korean culture is a culture of relationalism, where people call each other brother and sister even if they are not related by blood, and Korean people share more with each other than in the West, so it is a culture of deep relationships. This is why I said that your analysis is superficial, because you are evaluating Korea as if you know it from the outside, without really diving into the culture.
You seem to expect people to smile and be shallowly friendly to strangers, just like in Southeast Asia, the summer vacation destination for Europeans. but South Korea, and Seoul in particular, is not the same vacation destination as Southeast Asia.
Please listen to the full video! We’ve birthed 3 children here. I’m fully aware of Your points, and I appreciate Your insight and contributions.
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i agree with you. i am from spain, my country is known for being very friendly, but we can be friendly in a shallow way. deep conections happens when you engage for long time and create moments with people, not by being friendly and looking in the eyes, that just helps with warmth and smoothness in a relationship, specially to break the ice with new ones, which is good, but its not conecting minds/souls. i think koreans lack being expresive and warm but they may engage deeply in their relationships with their close social circle, or thats just an observation based in what i heard, i have never being there.
Yes, there has been many studies linking warm climate and relaxed lifestyle. More sun == healthier mind. I know a couple people who got depression from length rainy season in Seattle.
@@Khroma-uz3zk Yes, such Spanish or Latin culture is one of the things that Koreans envy. Not only do Koreans not engage in small talk with strangers, but the influence of Confucianism makes them reluctant to make physical contact, especially between men and women. Not to the extent of Islam, of course.
So people on the street don't smile at strangers, they don't express warmth. but the really weird and funny thing is that there's a culture that coexists where when something bad or difficult happens to someone on the street, people on the street suddenly stop and turn into friend and family mode as if they knew them since before and help them. It's always hard to describe a culture in a single sentence like this.
@@Khroma-uz3zk I understand what you mean about Spanish people being friendly in a superficial way. I have lived in Spain. I met some silly people. However, because I was able to chat to lots of people, there were some who actually became my friends. They are my friends still. I actually prefer the Spanish way of socialising. Es mas facil cuando ambas personas tienen la posibilidad de comunicarse en el castellano.
This is like any other big city in the world. :) Outsode of Seoul we found a lot of very friendly people. In a small village people were greeting us upfront and waving hands.
So true! Outside of cities people do tend to warm up in general… though I’ve had some wiled encounters in the country side…
Folks often in other folks business too much. Especially older folks. For instance, I was swimming in a river to cool down near our hotel and an old man started screaming at me for 20 minutes telling me to get out of the water… WTF…. Was insane… still I agree with You overall’
I totally agree with the extreme lookism problem in Seoul. You have to dress to the nines every time you step out of your house, even if you're just going to the supermarket just to avoid being criticized by judgmental eyes of total strangers! That was the biggest turnoff for me - the lack on individuality in their society. No wonder they all look the same when they get plastic surgeries.
As for their failing birthrate and young adult suicide rate, I think their biggest problem is the hagwons. Not only is it very expensive for parents (lack of money is a big factor for not wanting to have babies), but attending hagwons is very stressful for kids too. Imagine going home at 11 PM every weekday because the kids have to go straight to the hagwons after school. These kids barely have enough time to sleep! And lack of sleep + too much stress to excel can very well lead to suicide. Korean parents put wayyy too much pressure on their kids to excel in school, it's very unhealthy for both parents and child.
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They all take it for granted that that’s how things have to be…
I have a question for non-Koreans. Do you speak Korean and understand Korean culture? If I, as a Korean, went to the U.S. but couldn’t speak English or didn’t follow American customs, would it be possible for me to build meaningful relationships with other Americans? Additionally, can a city truly be called a 'city with soul' if, in the name of freedom, people dress carelessly and crime is widespread? I respect your perspective, but I believe it may be too surface-level.
Eh, its all about the citizens' willingness to accomodate and assimilate other cultures into their own. Me and my non-American friends have no problems at all to build relationships with Americans. Then again the US is literally a nation of immigrants so assimilation is by design.
I'd wager its Korea itself refusing to change/adapt since its so homogenous like Japan, very averse to outsiders/things that does not conform to the prevailing trends/norms. Compared to other Asian nations, these 2 countries are extremely xenophobic in terms of immigrants from other nations coming and living there permanently. I would know since I'm an ASEAN citizen. I've seen so many news of Koreans and Japanese treating my people like second class humans, very stupid considering their education levels imo. But well, brains and money can't buy class, i suppose.
He said he speaks korean well enough. also he said he had no problems feeling the friendliness and welcoming from the people in Southeast Asia despite not speaking the language at all. Koreans act the same way here in LA, so it has nothing to do with whether you can speak the language or not. Believe it or not, people from different countries really have different characteristics.
It's hard to believe that he's fluent in Korean. His language skills seem to be below even a kindergarten level. I have a question: do Westerners always warmly welcome and treat Asians kindly? Why did he expect Koreans to welcome him for no reason? He's not a celebrity, just an ordinary foreigner.
Honestly speaking, he doesn’t meet Korean standards in terms of appearance(fashion, style), and there’s a slightly negative vibe about him. (Do people criticize New Yorkers for being "soulless" just because they dress well?)
Instead of being grateful for not facing street crime or racial slurs abroad, he seems to have an overly arrogant attitude.
It's hard to believe that he's fluent in Korean. His language skills seem to be below even a kindergarten level. I have a question: do Westerners always warmly welcome and treat Asians kindly? Why did he expect Koreans to welcome him for no reason? He's not a celebrity, just an ordinary foreigner.
Honestly speaking, he doesn’t meet Korean standards in terms of appearance, and there’s a slightly negative vibe about him. (Do people criticize New Yorkers for being "soulless" just because they dress well?)
Instead of being grateful for not facing street crime or racial slurs abroad, he seems to have an overly arrogant attitude.
I find it hard to believe that he’s fluent in Korean. His Korean level seems to be even lower than that of a kindergartner. I have a question: Do Westerners always warmly welcome and treat Asians kindly? Why did he expect Koreans to welcome him without any reason? He’s not a celebrity, just an ordinary foreigner. He should be grateful that he’s not subjected to crime or racial mockery in the streets, yet he came to Korea with an overly entitled mindset. He didn’t even make the minimum effort to present himself well to Koreans. Just look at his terrible fashion and unkempt hair. Does he walk around like that in New York too?
Good perspectives on what you've experienced.. Agreed that there has to be many issues if suicide rates are high, along with low birthrate. Having children myself, it's the greatest reward and blessing in life. Connections are needed to help build upon friendship and family...
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I think I understand what this guy is saying. Travel to Seoul, then travel to Bangkok, Manila, or Sai Gon, then you will see the vibe of the locals and how you interact with them are totally different.
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I find your videos interesting. I am a Korean college student.
Koreans have scars inside because they have experienced pressure to go to good universities and work in a competitive atmosphere since they were young.
And because of the remaining culture of Confucianism, my parents train me to hide my emotions from an early age.
There is also a vertical culture in Korea. There is a Honorific word like '-요' of the Korean language that is only found in Korea.
I attend Korean English worship services in korean church. There, foreigners are active in expressing and expressing their feelings to others without hesitation. I learned about expressing emotions and learned the joy of human nature through that experience. If you have any questions about Koreans, please ask me questions.
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I’m happy to hear You found the freedom to express Your emotions. I believe it’s healthy.
I appreciate Your insight! 🙏
So, since you are used to the more American-esque type of politeness where interaction and small talk is polite and friendly it sounds like you look at the world through this lens. I'm from Sweden and we get these words from Americans too. "Swedish people are quite cold unless you drink with them" but it is an introverted culture and for us it is more polite to not disturb strangers because you never know how busy they might be and they're probably on their way somewhere and if you small talk with them they might be too kind to tell you that they need to go or they'll be late because it will sound rude, so automatically it is more polite to not disturb strangers and interrupt their day unless it is important. That time on the bus might be their only time for themselves between work and kids so if you talk to them they have no unwinding time that day, you know? You never know. But, when we drink we know nobody is going anywhere. Introverted vs extroverted cultures have different outlooks on what counts as polite and it's okay if it doesn't fit your personality. It does feel like you are unfairly judging them though.
Well I’ve lived in Sweden as well. World Traveled 16 years…
There is literally no comparison. Sweeds are Cool…
I’m really not describing only my experience here. Korea are some of the strongest judgmental folks and also racist as well.
I don’t get as much of that hate, but there is too much overall for anyone in Korea who isn’t Korean. Even the Koreans who were not born and raised in Korea are all hated in Korea and judged very harshly’
@@Lawrence_of_Asia many of these korean americans can't speak Korean so why would Koreans be particularly friendly to them. actually wouldn't that be racist? your points are contradictory.
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You like it there?
I love your blog because it's the truth
I can say that to so many major cities around the world.
Yes, cities tend to have that commonality, but more extremes here in Korea…
@@Lawrence_of_Asia Sorry, but I'll have to disagree. Have you even ventured out and interacted with people outside Seoul? Those were some of the friendliest, most helpful people I've met while traveling around Asia, minus few language barriers. Seems unfair to paint a whole nation based on one city.
Sure, certain parts of the city, such as Gangnam district, can feel extremely cold, but Seoul still doesn't compare to New York or Miami from my personal experience.
@@XGN05 you're coping so hard. no city is more dystopian than seoul. name me another city or country where more than 90% of all women get extensive plastic surgery on their face.
Yes, I’ve traveled the entire country… East, west, south and north. Have many friends here… but I stand behind everything I stated.
That’s wild right!?
It's not a baby issue it's a personality problem!
Right! Mindset!
they will laugh at you for wearing off brand products just because i wore a good cloth s and they liked it but as soon as i told them their personality changes but as always not everyone
@@AviX-25 caught up on the wrong things’
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Thank you for this interesting, but somewhat sombre video. I have worked in South Korea more than once. The first time was in the early 2000s and the most recent was between 2019 and August of this year. I kind of agree with what you are saying. However, I get the impression that some things have changed enormously over the past 20 or so years. Back in the day, adult Koreans were sometimes very very keen to practice their English with me. What this meant was that sometimes it was only a gimmick, but sometimes I was able to hear people's opinions and stories. I was even taught a little bit about Korean history. I began to make friends with Koreans as well as westerners. Surprisingly, even people who spoke only Korean wanted to chat to me in Korean. As a result, I took my first steps in Korean. Consequently, I got the feeling that South Koreans were a lot more friendly and open than the Japanese. Yes, they had the same obsession with group harmony and rank within the group. However, they were warmer and more direct. That said, I realise that the default position was more like Japan. South Koreans were interested in talking to me primarily because of the craze for English, and because it might help them careerwise. But it made them more friendly in practice.
I left South Korea. When I returned, I experienced a little culture shock. Nobody outside of work spoke. The city I was in was different than where I had lived previously. But I might as well have emigrated to rural Japan. Nobody spoke, except to sell something. And the foreigners were at least as bad! They thought it was silly to bother with other foreigners. But they seemed cold. What saved me was making friends with people in Seoul. I made friends there, and eventually moved to the edge of that city. Because I made friends with some great people in Itaewon, and from one job I did, I did not feel that lonely in South Korea.
However, I do see a huge difference in South Korean attitude. Twenty years ago, there was a LOT of pressure to get top grades, go to an SKY university, and join a conglomerate of get a "safe" government job. This was because South Korea has a LOT of small businesses with relatively poor and unstable conditions, leading to the pressure, stress, and unhappiness. Even so, I still think it was not as bad as now. In the year 2000, Koreans had gained a new confidence in themselves due to the success of the "economic miracle." Their wealth had grown. Surely the future would be much better, even if the present was frenetic! Surely there was going to be more improvements for the average person. People felt optimistic.
Cmon y’all he’s not racist or anything it’s not that deep, it’s just an eye opener of how society actually in Seoul and he’s not talking about all of s korea obviously. It is very materialistic and may look very modern but there is still heavy influence of old Korean ideals and standards, you don’t need to be Korean or have been to Korea to know
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@@Lawrence_of_Asia will do, hope all goes well
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Sounds like a very sad story but like saying they're like a brain injury
I live in korea and have a wife here i agree that most koreans are really just surface level friendship the funny part is even most koreans i talked to dont even like korea because of the coldness and the newer generation dont really listen much to their parents
The New generation is prob best not to listen to much to their parents… I think that’s really the root of the issue… Feel free to subscribe it You have not already. 🙏
Don''t judge by appearance. Smiles or kindness always don't show their authenticity. Koreans generally don't like exaggerated expressions, especially for people they don't know.
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Koreans dont talk to strangers. Just like Japan. Japan is more private.
post 1953 Korea is a facinating subject, ultra capitalism suddenly slapped on top of ancient embedded Confucianism. What could go wrong - other than everything..............
I like your honest opinion on things, too many people on youtube water the truth down so as to not want to offend anyone, I hate that. I'm half Filipino from Australia and went to the Philippines just recently for the 1st time and was shocked how it really was there, would love your honest opinion about the Philippines, the lack of education really shows and the customer service is a 4 out of 10 and thats putting it lightly, I did not have the best experience there, to say the least, I hope things can get better there, the morale is really low in the country, people dont have hope as they only make $15 AUD a day, it really shows in their expression as they can be sad/angry/toxic as a result, which I guess I can understand, if I were in that position it would be hard to be happy.
In all honesty it’s my least favorite in Asia. There are some lovely and sweet people and easy to connect in the sence that everyone speaks English there, or many… but the food was quite bad, got food poisoning and overall didn’t find it very appealing.
@Lawrence_of_Asia I agree, food is a big part of a country and the food just doesnt seem fresh there like it does in Thailand, it's like everything is just microwaved or something, hard to get a good fresh meal in the Philippines, also healthy food options are limited, whereas Thailand as plenty
@@Foden5354 lots of truth in that! 🙏
Same as in japan and china
Vs Here in America people gave up on Apearance LOL
I feel most Americans are not obsessed with looks.
No wonder! Mexico is having a problem with gentrification. Too many, European ,Americans and Asians are moving there due to Mexico rich culture.
Is that having an overall negative effect? Prices shooting up in Mexico now?
@@Lawrence_of_Asia yes, immigrants are pushing mexicans out. The legal ones like europeans and also the illegal ones like Venezuelans
Many things you are telling depends on what kind of people you are surrounded by.
Absolutely… but these are generalities and lots of facts as well…
I can definitely see that. Heart, soul, and depth doesn’t come into play until personal connections are made. I can't figure it out either, why that's so.
Most Koreans in the US give off the same vibe. I wonder if it's a cultural thing?
Inherently we all pick up on our parents characteristics, however in my experience American Koreans are far more open and warm…
Could also have something to do with growing up in condensed cities.
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Wait till you see Singapore ....
@@TooMuchForIt Singaporeans are Super Cool! They just have no time cause they are SOOO FOCUSED’. Courteous, Sharp, and Cool Folks!
That's like that with foreigners. It's not like that with locals. I've lived in U.S. for last 40 yrs and I would have to say the same here in the U.S. No matter how close you get with others here, so many ppl here are so individualistic that it is very difficult to connect with ppl here.
I agree with u on it being the fact that he is a foreigner. But it’s still different in Korea specially bc of the culture and country being very homogeneous. America is not a homogeneous place. People in Korea tent to have the same kind of thinking and ways of doing things which makes it more harder for foreigners to connect with ppl there and build genuine connections
Did you know Seoul is actually 首 (Shǒu).
I see…. Is that the old Chinese writing or is that Korean lettering!?
@@Lawrence_of_Asia 首都 means Capital City. Korea used to use Chinese characters.
King Sejong the Great created the Korean alphabet, or Hangul, in 1446 to make it easier for more people to learn to read and write. He was correct. Chinese is the only language that a child cannot learn to read on his own. It's a very stupid language. Even Mao realized that. He realized old Chinese type writer needed 40000 keys while Latin typewriters needs only 44 characters.
Even in squidgames, we can still see the uniqueness of individual. You just need to look deeper and slower when everything looks shallow and fast pace.
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@@Lawrence_of_Asiathis is very biased. Im a korean American living in the States. I cant go to Simi valley and expect white people to open up to me. Its not fair that i also have to be firyced to be somewhat extroverted here in the states. I live near a black community now and they saw my kindness as weakness and now im forced to file restraining orders.
Why would you expect anyone to connect with a stranger? Most people are just trying to survive day to day.
Common Courtesy. Just curious, is there any part of the video You actually disagree with!?
As bad as East Asia is, consider that the west is falling and disappearing due to their "open" culture... SE Asia is a non comparable to NE Asia... Different IQ, different level in many ways... ❤
Yes, All True! Sad to see the West fall!
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The homogeneous cultures tend to be far more peaceful on the whole… Korea in particular is rather rough to foreign folks, but they have also maintained to keep their society in tact…
Sounds like Paris lol
Clicking on the cutie's picture and seeing the sexpat appear is so jarring
😅 Did You Watch the video?
Ridiculous assertions.
Watch the video please
Really interesting. Aren't you nervous people will overhear your critiques of their country lol? A lot of them know English very well even though they're shy about their abilities.
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I’m heading out now to make a video.
Not at all nervous, just truths. Happy to say it as it is…. The truth is never wrong’
I don’t do it to hurt anyone, but to shed light on reality! 🙏🌞🙏
White man used to getting treated like a king getting treated like anyone else. The entitlement.
Please watch the full video!
You clearly didn't watch the video.
as a black woman, huh!? where did you get that?
Thank you,may God bless you.
Thank you too
You know it’s really easy talkin’ sh-t about a country that you damn well know has very little to no natural resources and a small population. Everything rests on education and a strict structured society. I mean, I know plenty of countries that would trade their problems for Korean problems. Talking about connecting 😂 , c’mon man gimme a break, plenty of European societies do not like randomly connecting with strangers. Like how you just described Koreans. Maybe you should be a little more respectful to a country that has obviously allowed you to conduct business in it.
Come live here and then say that! You have no clue. But thanks for the comment. Look at the comments… anyone who lives here or who has basically agrees… it’s not talking shit… talking facts… and reality and my honest perspective… and I could be 10x harsher…
@@Lawrence_of_Asia buddy, I’ve been traveling around the world and in Asia for the past 10 years and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that if I’m a guest in someone else’s house (country) I don’t turn around and openly criticize and insult them for not accommodating me in a way that I see fit. I have read some of the other comments and let me say that this is nothing new when it comes to English teachers or wannabe entrepreneurs trying to make money in a country that offered to take you in. You said you could be 10x harsh 😂 just your sheer arrogance gives me a clear picture of what type tourist you are. I welcome your offer, give me the 10x harsh, please. My only request is that reveal you what country you’re from. Let’s go 😉
you think you have solution to their low birth rate. its simple, it costs too much to raise a child and they would rather not bring a child into the world where the child will not be happy because lack of financial resource.
The idea and standard around raising children is far too high in Korea… the most expensive country to raise a child. But in actuality the children have next to no freedom or childhood…
The idea of how to raise children in Korea is one that is of far too high expectations and standard. It leaves the children empty and miserable…
It doesn’t need to be expensive. And happiness isn’t from material, but that’s another false belief, that makes folks miserable.
@@Lawrence_of_Asia it comes from first hand experience. money isn’t everything but it’s very big part of how their life will lead. dont be so naive.
그냥 대충 살아라… 외국인들은 도대체 한국에서 얼마나 대우받기를 기대하고 오는거냐..한국이 무슨 디즈니 랜드임?
It’s simple common courtesy, go Travel and experience a different world!
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Then move to that different your dream world~ it is also very simple. Isn't it?
@@ori5581 did you watch the video?
@@ori5581 I’m world traveler of 16 years
@@ori5581 can see You are one of the hateful one’s 🤣
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Looking Away ??? japan its the Same way its Rude to look face 2 face
That’s got some truth.
Interesting. I was a Turk drama fan with the eye contact and genuine connections I saw especially in the Behzat series. I gave up when the new Turk genre favors drugging and kidnapping girls.
So then I went to k drama for the stories which are now mostly boring since the culture is so full of hitting and drunkenness. Degradation.
Your comments are particularly poignant. What a death culture. I saw it when they hounded the actor Mr Lee to death. We are watching a culture that can’t sustain itself.
I’ve read .6 as well. They are in an extinction phase.
Sounds like a very sad society and very unhappy humans
In many ways unfortunately…
*Inhum@ns
It's the opposite in America, right?
出る杭は打たれる
Right, that’s a common feeling in Korea as well…. As to say ‘different is wrong’
They don’t like you because you’re an expert on their society.
Basically don’t like anyone…
algo
I've been n Korea for 3 years and everytime I try to say this, people say I'm generalizing. Fair enough, but there are just traits that reflect the society's values and I notice that a lot having been raised in another culture. After dating two Korean guys, I also realized marriage is impossible for me because men treat women as means to enhance their status and cheating is almost expected.. Anyway, I originally moved here because of the language (I am a translator) and I absolutely love it and love the traditional culture and food. I love Korea, but hate Korea.
Can totally relate! If You end up with a serious Boyfriend, I recommend travel South East Asia together if possible… for perspective on another culture… you both may prefer it. And can still find the Korean Restaurants…
There is strong pushback when criticizing Korea, people take it personally generally… where as I as an American do not take criticism of America personally.
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@@Lawrence_of_Asia done! All the best to you! I missed people with depth, it’s refreshing to see someone who works on themselves ☺️
You cannot develop a deep relationship after you pass a certain age, generally after your middle/high school years. It does not matter what country or culture you are in. I'm from Canada. Have not made any friends since high school and I do not have desire to make any. Only need capable associates or business partners. It is the same as anywhere else in the world.
South Korea has probably the highest IQ on average if you compare it worldwide. And people who generally have high IQ and high income are less likely to have kids and have a higher rate of suicide.
Income and fertility are correlated. You can even just look at USA Birth rate by household income. Your stereotypical theories on Korea are wrong my friend.
Your comment dismisses the fact that different groups of people have different characteristics. I've never made any new or lasting friendships after high school myself, but that has nothing at all to do with feeling unwelcome or face a general coldness from the general population like people describe facing in korea. They act the very same way in the US, cold and aloof.
@@stuka80 If you are a minority in any country or place, most people will avoid you. Again, this is the same as anywhere else in the world. Ethnicities/race generally stick with their own kind. Because of discrimination and stereotypes. Kind of like what this fellow who made this video is doing; stereotyping.
@@monkeystar69 Again, you are trying to blanket it as people everywhere act the same, they dont. While its obviously true that people are more comfortable with their own group, it doens't prevent them from being friendly and open with outsiders. In the US where i live, i have a much easier time striking up a conversation with a hispanic person than a korean, who will not even make eye contact with me. As this guy said, he gets a completely opposite reaction from strangers in Southeast Asia than in Korea. I dont know why you pretend to think that people everywhere in the world have the exact same temperament and behave the same way, they dont and you know this. If you dont then either you've never travelled outside of your own country or you're ignoring this very basic fact about peoples and cultures for whatever reasons.
@@monkeystar69 okay so you do basically acknowledge that some groups of people are friendlier than others. I hate to have to constantly state what is obvious that I'm speaking in generalization as you do and the video maker does. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule. But you seem to agree then that koreans are less friendly than southeast asians. And we're not talking about deeper relationships or intentions, we are only talking about surface level friendliness, like what everybody does when meeting strangers in passing, like saying hello or giving a smile, do you feel a warmth and friendliness when dealing with the people, etc. we're not talking about anything deeper than that.
Sorry but your analysis on why SE asians are friendlier is completely wrong. Filipinos for example speak english very well and they are very friendly towards foreigners in their country, in fact it is a very famous trait of theirs. Inviting complete strangers to their house and feeding them, expecting nothing in return, you see countless examples of this from online posts. Thai and Vietnamese also are known for their friendliness despite not speaking english that well. It plays out the exact same even when they're not in their own country. I live in LA, where you can find different peoples from all over the world in large numbers. I've had extensive contacts with Filipinos, Vietnamese and Koreans in the 30+ years i've been living here and by far Filipinos and Vietnamese are alot friendlier and warmer than Koreans. This is common knowledge here in fact.
@@stuka80 why don't you watch some of Nick K's Korean travel videos? He bike travels all over Korea and meets Korean strangers. See if they are really less warmer.
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This honestly makes me feel kind of glad I was adopted to the US from Korea, at least I have a soul and other cultural experience with people (aka don't obsess over material goods and social status). Sucks that nuance and enlightenment is sparse there.
외국인들이 한국에 단기 체류 하면서 외롭다고 불평을 하는 이유에 대해 //
1,,기본적으로 한국인은 외국인을 싫어한다,,수년전 부터 백인들에게도 멀리 하려고 하고 불편해 하는것 같아,,,
우리는 언어가 잘통하고 문화나 정서가 같은 한국인 사이에서만 교류 하는데 ,,이는 한국인들 특징이다,,,,
외국인은 한국어가 미숙하고 문화도 다르므로 우리는 구태여 쓸데없이 대화를 하고 싶지 않은것이다
2,,,한국인에게는 스몰토크 문화가 없다,,서양 사람은 이를 기대 하지 말아야 한다,,
한국인의 친교는 사적인 용무를 가지던가 특별한 관계가 되야 시작이 되는데 ,,그전에는 거의 대화를 안한다,,
일단 친해지면 아주 깊히 교류 및 대화를 한다,,친해지면 번거로울 정도로 간섭하러 든다..이점이 일본인 및 서양 사람들과 가장 큰 차이이다,,
일본 및 서양 사람은 아무리 친해져도 상대와 사적이나 깊은 대화는 하지 않지,,,한국인은 이점으로 인해 서양 백인은 개인주의적이라고 비판 한다,,,,
이같은 교류 성향은 러시아 사람들이 그러하다고,,러시아인들은 친해지기 전에 아주 무뚝하다가 일단 친해지면 아주 친절해진다고 한다
3,,, 한국은 고도로 발전한 산업국가이고 부유한 나라인데 이러한 국가는 대체로 사람들이 개인주의적이고 용무 적인 것 이외에 타자와 대화를 잘안한다,,더군다가 대도시에 거주 하는 시민은 더욱 심하다,,
이들은 시간이 중요하므로 남의 시간도 자기 시간을 귀중하게 여긴다,,다른 아시아 지역 은 산업국가가 아닌 개발도상국가들인데,,그들은 시간이 여유롭다,,,
한국도 산업화 이전의 후진국가 시기에는 동남아 지역과 유사 하였다,,
진짜
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감사합니다!
호스트는 한국인들이 먼저 자신에게 말을 걸어야 한다고 믿는것 같아,,즉 동남아세아에서 같이 말이다,,,
백인은 고귀히므로 높은 대접을 받아야 한다는 의식구조로 보인다,,호스트는 백인우월주의가 상당한 수준으로 판단이 된다 ,,
그러나 한국인에게는 누구던간에 성가신 외국인중 1인 뿐이다,,,한국내에 외국인들이 너무 들어와서 범람 하는 지경이라고 ,,,,,
그래서 이제는 백인에 대해서 우리들은 이제는 싸늘하다,,그리고 호스트는 나이가 많아 보이고 외모도 좋지 않아,,, 그러면 외면을 당한다
당신과 같은 불평을 늘어놓는 외국인이 최근에 늘어났다,,
I agree with Your other comment but not this one. This is not accurate. I don’t believe, nor do most whites believe that they aught to be treated as nobles. In our culture, however we give gracious curtesy, and it’s ‘nice’ to receive it back.
It’s not expected, but nice…
And when folks don’t have basic curtesy and are often rude or stare with disdain, it weighs on anyone after sometime.
The White Supremacy statement is purely hatred and extremely racist to say. And totally inaccurate.
Wow, You are actually the exact kind of person I’m referring to in the video! 🤣.
Thanks for proving my point!
Do You All see the Hate!?
Listen to the video, and then look at this comment. It’s purely racist and full of hate.
Thanks for proving my point’
Judging all based on looks, because too often in Korea, it’s only a focus on looks and next to no substance or depth, or actual self development. This is the root of the issue.