I accidentally sent a nude to my mom one morning thinking I was sending it to my bf at the time in Afghanistan. Panicked I called my little sister since she and my mom were typically together. She answered and was able to delete it from the messages before my mom saw. My sister has now passed and this memory is one I cherish so much. Her reaction to seeing my nude and having to delete it was priceless.
This reminds me of the one time I accidentally left one of my….toys in the shower by accident and my sister told me before my parents saw it! I was so embarrassed I venmoed her $5 for being chill and helped me out. I’m really sorry you lost your sister.
Hey Morgan and Lauren! I know you once spoke about being unsure about the long episodes but from someone who listens every week, I LOVE and prefer the super long episodes! I'm about to clean my apartment and this will be perfect to listen to while cleaning :) keep them up, love you guys!
Especially during such an important and emotional moment like the father daughter dance! Like if you're going to pull this stunt at least pull it when everyone is dancing and drunk
So story 7 - I was a professional nanny for 8 years after college, working 60 hour weeks and watching multiple littles Monday through Friday. While I love kids, I cannot stress how (at the time) I would much rather scoop my eyeballs out with a rusty spoon than watch another child on my few precious hours off. Being a nanny was one of the most draining, difficult experiences of my life and I can 100% see why the sister needed childfree time of her few days off. That being said, living rent free at the age of 20 is a blessing so maybe a small amount of her paycheck could have gone to covering utilities/a little rent while she continued to live with her sister.
I was pretty surprised by their take on the story. the whole time i was thinking that the OP sounds like she wanted an additional parent for her child. Such as when she got offended that the sister bringing up that she made an 18 year commitment. It’s not that she’s the asshole, more just that she is self centered? not necessarily the word i’m looking for either. i just think that the sister made clear boundaries and said she’ll leave no problem. BUT OP wants the benefits of her sister living there, not that she wants to help her sister necessarily. Basically i think OP isn’t necessarily doing this out of the kindness of her heart but rather for benefits. which is why the sister isn’t an asshole for setting boundaries.
@@clairefox341 exactly what I thought, op didn’t say I love having my sister here, I love knowing she’s safe, or anything along those lines , op said I love the extra help. While I do agree the sister should contribute some money to the home other than her own shopping , which i assume is grocery and personal care. Op’s reason for wanting her little sister around is selfish. And should understand that 50 or more hours a week with children, who are not your own, is a whole lot. And that one or two days are needed for her mental health and just over all health.
@@mayas883 YES, also they started talking about OP paying for the sister and everything...like you CANNOT hold that against her. She deserved to be raised and cared for. You cannot be saying she owes them for raising her when she was a CHILD!
Hey! 17:56 just letting you guys know cause there seems to be some confusion, the Petty Revenge happened at OP and Michelle’s wedding, right after Todd proposed. So Lucy had no reason to be stressed cause it wasn’t her wedding, and it was immediate Karma. I think OP was fully justified, and he probably only took maybe 2 weeks to talk to Todd. So I think it’s reasonable
Agreed. This has been going on as long as Todd has been alive. 29 years is a long time to wait to have your moment and it was OP’s wife’s moment at that.OP’s parents messed up big time.
I was coming to comment the same thing. That’s why OP checked with his bride to make sure it was ok to do at THEIR wedding and why he mentions that he didn’t get back to his family until after his honeymoon.
Last story- I’m a mother of 2 and my little 19 year old brother lives with me rent free- just because the sister lives there rent fee doesn’t mean she’s your live in baby sitter. She works, helps around the house, and usually DOES watch the kid so if she wants to be with friends and use a day to run errands child free, she should be able to. She didn’t chose to have kids so that’s just really not fair
Exactly! She agreed to help out. I don't care if she had a different job then. If working longer hours or in a nanny job was going to change her arrangement with the sister (i.e. being too tired or being "kidded out") then she should have talked to her before taking the job and let her know circumstances were changing.
Almost that dumb but not quite. Flat earthers are on a whole other level . To say that space is fake and the sun is in the clouds and the moon is a cold plasma ball that slowly disappears and regenerates is just insane
It is a very crazy one. I can kind of get the 6000 year old thing, as if someone just knows literally nothing about geology or biology that sounds sort of plausible, but just to assert that they were put in the ground as a test? What test? Why is your "God of Truth" lying to everyone so much? Is he running a Prank Channel? I just can't wrap my head around it. Though, I think people who have taken biology or geology classes and still think the world is 6000 years old have some serious ability to handle cognitive dissonance. You have to just straight up reject *all information* aside from what random pastors say. The idea that the earth was young was not even universal at the dawn of Christianity, for example. A bunch of church fathers disagreed with any attempts to try and date the earth via the scriptures because they thought they were clearly theological and non-literal. Sorry bit of a rant. I just hate that I was taught that dinosaurs were literal dragons, that some could breath fire, and that knights killed them in the middle ages when I was a kid. It is so much fun having to deconstruct that nonsense.
Story 3: the mom wasn’t threatened by your presence until you became pregnant because that means it’s serious. It made her realize you weren’t going anywhere. She was always nice because she didn’t think (or want to accept) that you would be around for a while
either that, or she genuinely likes OP and thinks she’s a beautiful woman. however, when she got pregnant the envy kicked in since she is now an older woman unable to become pregnant. pregnancy envy is very very real in older women, i see it happen to friends and coworkers all the time. one minute they’re great friends with other women and getting along then when they’re pregnant they get told snarky and passive aggressive comments.. and yes, i’ve seen it and heard it first hand standing next to them . 😕
Yeah. She knows she can keep up a nice mask temporarily. But realizing that its serious, she doesn't want to have to keep pretending and lets the mask slip. Possibly trying to make OP go away in the process.
I agree. Also the mom is a narcissist. They are “nice” around most people but not around certain people, and gaslighting. Feel bad for her that her husband was not supportive.
Last story of the babysitting. As a mother, I fully understand how difficult just a single child can be let alone more than one, and it makes it a million times easier when their your own but when your watching other people’s children professionally, it would take all the joy and happiness out of doing it out of your profession. Think a chef, do you think they want to go and cook for others all day long and come home and cook meals for the entire family, or a professional house cleaner that scrub everyone else’s homes on a daily do you think they want to spend their extra time scrubbing their own home head to toe ? If you still need help and aren’t comfortable with the sister living rent free and not watching the child ask for rent going forward and use the rent money to hire a sitter/the extra help.
I 100% agree. To expect a 20 year old to have the patience to watch other peoples kids over 50 hours a week is pretty unrealistic. I have worked in childcare and it is draining.
yeah its kinda crazy to expect her to help after 50 hours a week with kids, and then they want her to dangle the fact that the sister took care of her so she should take care of the nephew? I don't like that.
Yes!! As someone who was in college and had a 20 hour job teaching everyone from small kids to adults, I was so fucking tired on my day offs that I just wanted to do my chores on my one. It was the most time I could spend alone and by myself without worrying so much
@@troubl38 yess, the OP took custody of younger sister so this is essentially like adoptive parents doing it to her. If it wasn’t a sister but an actual parent they would’ve understood, The “she helped you when you were a minor so step up” mentality is so off.
Thank you! I came here to say this! As someone who has worked as a nanny and later as a teacher, the last thing I would ever want to do after my long work week would be to come home and watch more kids. You need days off. Yes, the sister was amazing for taking her in when she was 20 but the other sister was 13 and didn’t ask for that either. Her mom was unable to care for her so that was a traumatic situation for both and should not be used as leverage to get her to over exert herself. Asking her to watch the baby once in awhile for short periods of time is fine but it sounds like OP wants her sister to watch the baby on both of her days off which is absolutely not ok.
Fr bc how do you not believe in dinosaurs, it's science, I can't comprehend how someone cannot believe in something that they haven't even investigated lmao.
Story 7: do we know how often the OP is really asking her sister to babysit? And is she actually asking or volen-telling her sister for babysitting duty since she is the “professional”? I used to be a nanny and I can’t tell you how many times my sister would just leave her kids with me on family outings or at our parents house. I am wondering if the OP has been imposing on the sister more childcare responsibilities than originally agreed upon and also guilting the sister into staying: “I gave up my 20’s for you, so you should do this for me.” I could totally see that happening
Yea I was thinking the same, she took her sis in because it makes sense and it’s an honourable thing to do ofc. But she shouldn’t feel like the sis owes her in babysitting duty now, it’s not the same. I can’t imagine anything worse than being with kids 50hrs for work and then a screaming baby when you get home, that you’re expected to watch on top! I think the sis could contribute in different ways like chipping in with the cleaning/cooking/laundry/bills/rent, but it sounds like she’s doing her best and deserves child-free days off!
OMG THIS !! my sister does the same thing . i’m 22 and i live with my dad, on top of that i work night shifts so i sleep during the day from 9am to about 4 pm. my sister always dumps her two kids off (7 & 4) early in the morning without even asking me!! and i’m the only adult home since my dad works and my brother is only 14 !! i never sleep when she does it and my dad doesn’t care to put an end to it because to them i’m “taking it out on my nephews”. i can’t wait to move out but rent is so high.
@@twocathome399 thats very unfair, its not your responsibility and its selfish on her part. theyre her kids. i understand family is a big thing for a lot of people but she could atleast have the decency and respect for you to ask . i hate when people feel as though theyre entitled to certain things.
About the first story. Your telling me you are “so religious” that you don’t want to be in the indirect presence of dinosaurs??? But your going to go STAY ALONE IN YOUR BOYFRIENDS BEDROOM?! 😅😅😅 anyone else pick up that major hypocrisy
The story where the twin was told she couldn't be Maid of Honor got me so steamed. She asked if she had overreacted, but if anything, she underreacted. I would have pulled my kids from the wedding and not attended either. That was such a slap in the face, as well as a major betrayal. EDIT: WOO HOO! I just listened to the end of the story! Way to go Ursula!!!
the last one really made me sad. As an eldest sibling who was expected to care for my sibling who is 16 years younger than me AND pay rent to my PARENTS at 18 years old … the older sister is taking advantage. She works long shifts and still comes home to help clean and other chores. She doesn’t want her to leave because she obviously helps enough to make a decent difference. The older sister needs to pay for childcare like everyone else. And allow her hard working sister to fucking relax
Same. I’m the oldest of 5. And that story made me SOO sad because I was always responsible for my siblings up until I was 20 and moved out. I purposely live an hour and a half away from my mom because I don’t want to continue to raise my siblings. It’s so sad for us who have been through it. That poor sister, she’s not responsible for her sisters kid 😭
That's a wild take at the end. It's interesting...that the older sister took on and paid for the care of the minor she agreed to take on? No. It's life. You became her mom at that moment. You should not EVER use that against her and I'm kinda sad Morgan thinks the older sister should.
i feel the same way. it should never be like that , its manipulative to bring it up.. guilting her into that is just so messed up beyond words. have her pay rent if its a problem.. but holding so much over her head - no rent, and the fact that she took her in when sister was 13 and op was in her 20's is so over board. compromise, but op bringing that up as a thing for others to side with her is way too much, the other things i get.. but THAT was uncalled for as it was op's decision not her sisters as it wasnt even her choice to make in the first place.
Agree. Also their relationship should be better. I know my older sibling wouldn't do this to me. Ever. The sister may move out in a year or 2, the kid is the OP's responsibility 100% and it's not fair to her sister at all to join in on the responsibility of having a kid. It is not hers. The rent had nothing to do with helping around and like you said, it is manipulative
That part, as the oldest out of 5, I took care of my siblings mainly the 2 after me my sister texts me on mothers day always saying "thank you for raising me" that was MY choice I wanted to do that. I don't want kids but if for some reason I change my mind I'm not expecting them to take care of my children cause again that was MY choice I don't do things so I can get something in return that's weird. But that's also why I don't ask people for help unless I realllly need it. Cause they might hold it over your head.
I feel crazy with that last story cause I seriously disagree. Some things that got brought up really really bothered me. The comment of “she took the younger one in when she was in her early 20s and the younger didn’t help financially” yeah cause she was 13, being taken from her mom and placed into the care of her sister. At that moment the dynamic changed completely. If they were not related and she was just a super young foster mom- would we then criticize the child for not helping support themselves? Obviously not. Also the comment about how the younger should pay rent and the older should use it to pay a babysitter: Does everyone miss that this is just asking the younger to pay for a baby sitter? The only difference is her older sister/ guardian moving the money, it’s so insulting to say she should tell her younger sister to pay for a babysitter if she won’t be willing to do it for free. Think about it- she’s admitted her younger sister is a professional nanny and is insisting that she provide this service for free… or literally pay someone else to do it. I think it’s a very clear case of a guardian wanting one of their oldest children to watch the younger ones for free. I don’t think there is a great solution, it’s only gonna get solved with compromise, but to act like the younger sister owes her older for being a guardian to her is sickening. Being a guardian to a child should never have those kinds of strings attached.
Oh yeah the oldest child tender age of 20, living rent free, has been parentified for the last 2 months of their life 😥 (even though the sister practically begs her to watch him for one night and she says no and sister says okay)
@@samanthag6613 EXACTLY!! OP chose to have a child. if it wasn’t her sister but her eldest daughter, would be still “owe” her? is she going to do the same thing with her baby and they eventually have other children?
exactly. the whole thing with there being an underlying obligation to the older sister makes me upset. its very unreasonable to ask her to use her ONLY days off to watch another child when she already does that for 50 hours A WEEK ! i do understand the rent free part but im super torn on this. i hate the whole idea of people "owing" others in general . i also forgot that she did agree in the beginning , but she now has a different job than before..ugh i really do feel torn on this . its not like the younger sister is lazy or taking advantage . she obviously has her hands full , asking her to do that would lead to burn out in the long run and im not understanding why op isnt being considerate either .. i believe no one should owe anyone anything . younger sister is working hard and getting her life together, i understand having a child is difficult as it is but does she not have anyone else to care for the child ? you're right the dynamic did change. i really do feel like in some way op feels as if shes owed something .. she took on the responsibility of caring for her sister , right then and there all obligation like that is gone .. you have to think , she did raise her sister a fair amount if she cared for her since 13. i mean would they think their child owes them too for caring and raising them ..? thinking about this situation in so many ways makes me terribly upset. there needs to be compromise for sure but the whole owing and obligation thing is a terrible way to think about things or life in general .
The story is one sided for me... when I was 10 I had to move with my aunt's family in a different city. We had family issues and I had to support as 2nd Mother. When the issues passed in 2-3 years I was a teen and needed quality time to study, make friends, have hobbies...My other cousin was also at school (8-9) and I was labeled as the lazy one who doesn't help just because they were expecting the previous levels of support. Even though, the required efforts were significantly less and we had 1 more person that can support with some tasks . ....and the listed times she helps look cherry picked. And we have no idea how often that girl helps and with how many chores. We have only info about 1 thing she refused - to do chores and errands with a toddler.
Fun Fact! The Best Friend from story 5 who couldn't get it up actually commented on the post, and tried REALLLLY hard to defend himself while bashing OP. It turned out about as well as you think, he also makes a point of mentioning that OP has the hots for the gf so he asked her to "put on a show" for him. 😂
About last story: Why does the sister has to paid for her lack of parents? OP can't hold over her sister's head all the things she did and bought for her, so I found myself disagreeing with Morgan's comment about the sister repaying what OP gave her. The sister was a minor and the alternative of going to foster care is horrible, almost unthinkable, so she was just a child when her sister took her in. It's so unfair to call the sister entitled, she is already working 50 hrs weekly taking care of kids. I can't imagine how exhausting that is.
Ya, I really didn't like the way she said op did her sister 'a favor'...needing an adult to raise you as a child should never be held against someone once they're older.
I only slightly agree, because the sister didn’t need to house her after she was a legal adult, that was a favor, but once the sister got a job and started her own life, it was on OP to renegotiate her living arrangements. Her staying there rent free is a favor, so asking for help from the sister isn’t an AH move. But where she is wrong is to not take into consideration how her sister wants to payback the favor. If she wants to pay rent, let her pay rent, be it at your place or her own. Also, if she only has two days off, be considerate of what she wants to do with those days off too. The older sister obviously wants time off from her kid, so why is it so shocking to her that her sister would also want time off from those kids.
I'll never understand why God would need dinosaur bones to test people's faith. Don't little kids die of cancer every day? Get trafficked? Also, I think you're talking about narwhals, which are whales, not seals. ❤ Love the show, keep up the great work!
There are a lot of debates even within the christian and catholic churches about this. Personally, I don't believe they are conflicting. God created the earth and everything that was and is on it. We did evolve, you can't dispute that, and as far as Genesis it's not to say that everything started there and then, it is the story of the begining of God's relationship with human beings.
@@noactuallywerejustgoodfrie1328also, how are people going to argue that they can contemplate how God works as we are, by definition, not on the same level as God. What makes the “days” listed in the scriptures a 24 hr rotation period? Trying to pin down Gods creation process and timeline to the ideas and timekeeping processes made by humans is ridiculous. To take them as mutually exclusive as a christian is to assume God isn’t all powerful and can’t have done these millions of years of intricate creation because a story originally developed via oral tradition had to keep the story accessible to the minds of the people.
on the babysitting story: i think we're forgetting that op's sister is not just sitting down an watching bridgerton. she will be helping around the house cleaning and she said that the baby doesnt like to be put down. its going to be really inconvenient and she also did say she;d help to pay for a sitter. I understand op's frustration but the sister also has a good reason to say no.
yes i felt crazy seeing morgan so angry at the little sister because my take was totally the opposite of hers!! little sister even offered to pay for a babysitter but older sister refused for some reason
Last story: I hated when Morgan said “What extra help is she getting? Watching the baby for 30 minutes while the mom is going to the bathroom?”. OP said that the sister helped around the house. And bothe Morgan and Lauren are siding a lot with OP, when she herself said that why would she hire a stranger when she has a professional in the house. Like, wtf, she’s coming home tired from work and the sister OFFERED TO HELP PAYING FOR A NANNY! Sister could watch the baby a little more, yes, but OP feels completely entitled to her sister’s time and that’s not fucking okay
The sister told HER to pay a baby sitter. Morgan said watching the baby for 30 SECONDS is not help. Yeah when you live somewhere, doing house chores and cleaning YOUR room is not help. And the sister is working 50 hours for herself because she is paying NOTHING for rent or bills
46:50 you guys are describing being a super feeler or caretaker. Therapists say all caretakers want is for someone to take care of them as they do it to others
Wedding revenge story: I think Reddit is forgetting that there are real people involved again. (Unless it's fake.) You're talking about three people's lives - Todd's, Lucy's and their kid. Although I think Morgan brings up a good point that it's interesting Lucy just automatically believed it. IIRC the story mentions bringing false "proof", so that didn't help, but it does make me wonder if there were cracks as well. All that said, OP got what he wanted. He needs to set the record straight. And yes, Todd and Lucy are obnoxious AF. But ruining their family is over the top. OP should just not have invited them in the first place.
I agree. I’ve heard this one before and everyone is always cheering on the OP. But it’s like, prank over, good job. You ruined his proposal, which was the goal. Don’t ruin their whole family. That has permanent repercussions. But also, I’m so sure this is fake.
Was Op a tad over the top maybe?... but after years of taking todd's crap and not getting an apology. (I highly doubt todd has ever) People can only take so much which can result in some over the top actions. its also very clear todd is the parents golden child, so even if op didn't invite him more than likely the parents would of made a fuss. weddings are hard enough and op has to worry about him and his wife as a family. Todd is a grown adult who should of known better, don't want shitty things to happen to you then don't do it to others. I kind of feel bad for lucy but even with the fake ''proof'' if you have a strong relationship and nothing happened you'd be able to prove nothing happened, or the very least lucy should be able to trust todd enough to not blindly believe this ''proof''. Hopefully todd will learn to be a better person.
For story 5: This is the reason you need enthusiastic consent in sexual situations. Someone who’s fantasised about watching a couple go at it would probably have taken the whole thing as seriously as the friend wanted. That said it is a fairly common occurrence in new people to any kind of kink to be nervous and a bit uncomfortable and sometimes you find out mid-act that the thing you thought you wanted isn’t for you. That’s why safe words exist. Uncomfortable or unsexy whatever. Plenty of things sound fun and wind up not doing it for you. Having a sense of humour and communicating with people involved “hey let’s talk this out after we try it so we can check in” OP will always have a story for sure 😂😂
I agreed but also might think the friend was taking it way too serious. One of the first things I learned about with Kink is like with any intimate situation it can be awkward especially trying something new, and aside from seriousness around safety it doesn't need to be overly serious. Sometimes and trying new things you're going to be awkward and bust out and giggle fit and that's okay.
Speaking as a sister who had to take on legal guardianship of her 13 year old sister at the age of 19 for similar reasons. Their dynamic is something most people don't understand. Now i can't speak for them specifically but I've been taking care of my sister way before I got guardianship (like during childhood). For me, our relationship has been very maternal. I love my sister but truly it was never an option to not take responsibility of her. Times were hella rough. I put my dreams aside to raise her. Something that didn't become apparent until i had my own kids was caretaker fatigue. Ive spent my whole life taking care of someone, and now i have a lifetime more of it to go. Now, this isn't the little sister's fault at all. I'd never dream of forcing anyone to watch my kids who didn't want to. But i can feel big sisters struggle between needing help but being seized with a super weird form of empty nest syndrome at the thought of her sister moving out. I truly hope they can come to a compromise that works for both.
I relate to this a lot. Though, after my experience of taking over caring for 2 younger siblings, I realized that I didn't want to do it all again. It's one part of the collection of reasons that I've decided to be child free. If I hadn't already been leaning towards being child free and I entered up in a situation where I had a child I definitely could understand how that fatigue would set in. It wouldn't entitle me to the help of my younger siblings but I think it's relevant to this conversation
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Watching a child/baby while a parent goes for a walk or to the restroom or gets a shower is ABSOLUTELY HELPING!!!!! As a mother that’s all some can ask for! That poor sister is going above and beyond already! Pay 👏 her 👏
Last Story: Relationships go through tons of struggles when people play the IOU Olympics. There are no medals. No one will win. I’m super torn but honestly it sounds like what most 20 year olds go through (even in the best of circumstances). It seems like a phase of their relationship ended super gradually and this new dynamic with OP having kids and OPs sister graduating, having a job, and establishing herself as an adult has crept up on them. This was bound to happen eventually and maybe to preserve the family it’s time this ended. No one is entirely wrong in what they’re asking but incompatible needs are a thing. OP and her Sister should have a real heart to heart w/o accusing anyone or trying to bring up past favours as some sort of IOU race to see who is owed the most. Maybe it’s best if sister is just that and has to live on her own. Not a babysitter. Not a quasi daughter. Not a roommate.
THIS! Like I don't believe OP should expect free babysitting from sister but I also think that sister doesn't understand she could have gone through school being self sufficient like many others and doesn't realize how lucky she is to not pay rent as a student. I feel like OP should just ask sister to pay a portion of utilities as that price alternates throughout the year, if sister can't even agree to that she is not entitled to live rent free as an adult.
Damn she thinks dinosaurs are made up? Well, I have news to give my pet birds. They’re gonna be shocked to find out they’re not real! (Also, if you think dinosaurs are fiction, what’s wrong with fiction about dinosaurs? There’s a lot of things that aren’t real that you watch movies about lmao)
I am religious but that never made sense to me bc, if god created anything why do they think he created things out of thin air? Could he have not created humans by evolving apes? Create animals by changing the environment and stuff? Like 😭😭 why do they envision like a magic spell and it suddenly appears
@@mikanchan322 exactly, even if the first movie leans more into the science, it’s still purely fictitious. Not like you’re sitting down and watching a documentary like walking with dinosaurs or prehistoric planet. Just really strange
I grew up extremely catholic, and for a hot second there I didn’t believe in them. I thought scientists made them up to disprove gods existence. I’m older now and got out of the religion, so I fully know they did in fact exist and there’s no huge god hating conspiracy lmao
@@iridescentsolace I'm catholic and that's what I've always thought. All animals change over time, like dogs being a thing it's not hard to imagine what animals may have looked like way back when and acknowledge that they've likely changed over time. I'm totally Team Birds used to be Dinosaurs.
Lauren’s story about the people bailing on the boat is heart breaking!🥺. If that happened to me I would literally never want to organize any social event ever again! I am glad she didn’t get totally screwed in that situation and at least got reimbursed for the boat.
Could have been! Like not magic but all seals used to have horns and even an ancestor of turtles had horns so I don’t doubt there was some horse ancestor/relation with a horn
FUN FACT: THE UNICORN MYTH COMES FROM….RHINOS!!! Basically, way back when in Europe, there stories of people who had seen “horses with horns.” Those horses with horns were just Rhinoceroses over in Africa, Asia and/or potentially an extinct giant rhino who lives in Eurasia. If you look up “medieval bestiary unicorn drawing” you can see how people used to think unicorns looked like. That unicorn imagery is rather…uh, well…ugly compared to our modern idea of a unicorn.
I think for the last story the mom could offer to do de sister laudry or some of her errands in exchange for de baby sitting so she could get her things done on her free day. It's like if your a professional cook, most professionals don't want to cook at home everyday since they do it all day, we don't want to take our jobs to our homes. I think it might be a cultural difference but in my country most young adults still live with their family since rent is really expensive (specially nowadays), so what most families do when they start to work is set up a monthly fee, it is usually something small (nothing close to a rent price), that helps the family pay for the monthly expenses like water, electricity and such. Some families that have a more stable financial income don't charge any fee's but the kids would contribute with running errands or helping around the house, or pay for their own groceries and do their own laundrys and stuff. So if I look at the situation I see the younger sister more like a "daughter". The younger sister probably views the house as her home too since she's lived their for the past 10 year, if she helps around the house and pays for her own groceries and stuff, I think it is a fair traid and she has a right to refuse to babysit, specially when she spends 50 hours a week doing it as a job. Also, after reading some of OP replys in the comment section I feel like she is more of the asshole in this situation. She wants her sister to look after her child and according to her "she just needs to feed him and put him down or hold him" and it would be easy enough to do errands with it, but she doesn't want do her own errands with him and that's exactly why she is asking her to babysit.
With the last story I’m on the sisters side I have been in a somewhat similar situation. Though I do give my mom a portion of my checks I am not paying what I would if I was living on my own (Which I am very grateful for). My sister (A) lived with us and just recently moved out with her husband and kids and now my other sister(B) plans on moving in with her two kids . When A lived with us she expected my brothers and I to do a lot for her involving her kids even though her husband could have done it all. Like rides or babysitting or errands. My brothers both work one goes to school as well but she would expect them to give rides and get all her stupid pregnancy cravings when she was pregnant. I work a full time job and I want my days off to be my days off. i was not involved in making your kids so I’m not obligated to take care of them because I happen to seem like I am free. Also didn’t mention before that sister A isn’t working and quit her job to do TH-cam full time so she is almost always home. This was a condition that my brothers and I gave sister B if she were to move in because we don’t want to be used again. Again no one is obligated to care for YOUR responsibilities
Story 3. I am honestly so jealous of other people's relationships with their moms sometimes. My mom does this to me all the time and no one believes me because she's nice to them, and nice to me infront of them. My mom is constantly lying to me and other people. It breaks my heart that I don't have a relationship with my mom, like other mothers and daughters.
i feel the EXACT same way. no one believes me either and its so draining . seeing her with other girls around my age and how she treats them , how caring she is to them crushes me. its like shouldnt it be of all people your child that you show that compassion / bond with. ive made peace with knowing shes a narcissist .. they twist things to make them look good bc at the end of the day they feel their image is imp. atleast it set an example for me to be the best mother in the future no matter what and hopefully that'll heal some part of me too.
@@kristakielman8441My boyfriend didn't believe me about my evil mother until my sister died and i found out from a coworker a week later 28:02 . I had my boyfriend call my sisters local police and they told us. I called my dad and he was so cold towards me. I asked him for some of her ashes ( we live about four miles away from each other) they mailed them to me!!!
A man who is so against divorce that he will risk your relationship with your sister is a man who will do a lot of scary things to avoid the label of divorcée…. Even though the sister is hurt, I hope she keeps tabs on her sister who’s getting married & watches out for signs of abuse. Including, isolation from family. Be there for her when he won’t let her leave, and be safe. Edit- and I heard the update. Yay.
First story, the girlfriend would hate me, I’m in the works of getting a dinosaur sleeve tattoo. The dinosaurs I picked are based off of Jurassic Park and Land Before Time. The artist asked me if I was a paleontologist because of my knowledge of dinosaurs. I would hurt that girl’s feelings.
So with the babysitting story, I can kind of see both sides. I lived with my sister for a few years in my mid 20s. I was working and going to school, and then working and looking for a teaching job. At some point, after I finished school, my sister wanted me to start helping with rent, and to help with cooking once or twice a week and to help with cleaning. The amount she wanted in rent was completely reasonable and much better than if I had lived on my own at the time. I did eventually move out a few months after getting my first teaching job, but staying with her that first semester of teaching helped me a lot and I'm forever grateful for that. She had her son the next year, and while she would ask me if I would babysit, was always very thoughtful about it and said it was ok if I said no and she would pay me. There probably were times where I was like "sorry I'm busy" or just "sorry, I can't". And she was always ok with it. I have enjoyed the times I have babysat because I do love my nephew, but my sister understands that I might be busy. I think I might've been more open to babysitting if I had still been living with her when she had her son, but she also probably would've paid me then too. I think the OP is helping by letting her sister stay with her and should push for her to help around the house and help with bills and stuff. The sister is living there too, so she should contribute. But I also feel like it's very entitled of the OP to just expect her sister to babysit without compensation, especially when the sister works a full time job. It feels very much like they're both trying to use the current situation to their advantage and not thinking about the other person.
Thank you so much for your little rant about people who don't drink. As someone who doesn't drink for a number of reasons, it bothers me so much when I get questioned or judged over it!
I fkn love the og crew! Their true honest self & opinions come out no fear of the hate mob. Hearing them say believe what you believe don’t force anyone else’s believes on someone else don’t make someone else small ugh it’s a breath of fresh air hearing
Just wanted to say that I'm going through a really rough time right now and going back to watch all these episodes is my saving grace right now so thank y'all for being you and helping distract me from how cruel and unexpected life can be.
Story 4. I’m a triplet and I can not imagine any of us getting married without one of the 3. I stared in this world with them and my most important moments will be with them in there.
#4. That woman dodged a major bullet. The fact that her fiancé took away her mobility by taking her cane, is disgusting behavior. I can't imagine what abuse she would've gone through had she become his wife...
thats what i was thinking! and she might not have been able to leave if they went through with the wedding because his family doesnt believe in divorce.. so glad she got out
Last Story: That OP is entitled, it’s HER kid, not her sister’s kid. Sister is under no obligation to babysit. Good for her for setting strong boundaries, big sis would clearly take advantage otherwise.
44:34 this conversation right here!! I recently came to those terms too. Some people will have different perspectives on situations and the energy to explain yourself with people who aren’t even going to try to understand is energy wasted. What Morgan says is true too. Some people will have things to say no matter what you do. The easy solution is to cut off that negativity but it’s more complicated with family and in law situations..
Morgan, I absolutely love your podcast, and all your friends that join you! It’s the highlight of my week. Father knows best is awesome as well. Thank you for always taking time to creat amazing content for the listeners. I love you guys so so much! ❤
Lauren, literally my cat wouldn’t eat this new food I bought her so I tried it to see why she was rejecting it and it was unbearably salty! I bought her a different food and she ate that without an issue. Sometimes you just gotta try their food 🤷🏼♀️
Morgan, the silly thing about the people who steal your content, is that some of them will act like you’re the rude one when you copyright strike them 💀 the math doesn’t math there, but you’re a genius for the mic covers!!
The last one- you guys came up with the perfect solution! No one is an asshole- they just have a tricky sitch. BOTH of them have gone through it. Lil sister deserves to live a 20 year old life and big sis has sacrificed ALOT! They’re going to end up being so strong because of this. 😌
The dinosaur story, man lady have you never been to a doctors office where they play movies for kids, like half of the ones in mine were dinosaur movies. Imagine getting yelled at cause you thought the kids would like to watch dinotopia! Like I didn't believe in Santa as a kid but I didn't have a pity party cause the teacher put on Polar Express(especially cause my parents raised me not to ruin it for other kids and play along so you dont ruin the fun for them)
Story 3: Its so familiar! I wish I had done what this wife is doing! It might have saved my marriage. We did group therapy, marriage counseling, individual counseling as well as family counseling. My husband just couldn't see it until it was too late. I hope that man wakes up and doesn't lose his family because of his mother.
Years ago I dated a Christian girl who months into dating revealed she didn’t believe in evolution, and I was so shocked I had to walk out of the room for a minute to just process that information. In all my years going to church growing up as a (now former) Catholic I’d never once met someone who thought evolution was made up. I don’t remember what denomination she was, but I don’t think it was Catholic, and her church was one of those weird ones that try luring people to come by putting up cryptic billboard ads about getting free burritos if you looked up a website, and on the website it’d tell you that you could get a free burrito for coming to the church for a mass (or whatever other demonizations call that).
I wonder what religion she was now. I was raised jehovah witness and they made us leave class in school when evolution was discussed and for a number of other subjects. But they didn't do billboards but they do have a freaking app now lol so idk. I'm always curious when i hear of other unhinged religions.
Is so weird lmao, like, i'm also a former Catholic but i went through a couple different religious schools, like, 7 years of catholic, 5 evangelical and 1 of adventist, now, during a lot of this schooling i was young enough to barely remember anything, but i do remember going on school trips to museums with dinosaurs and no one ever said anything about them being fake 💀
@@katlin.christopher I sometimes wish I would have asked because I also wonder, but it wasn’t Jehovah’s Witness because her family celebrated birthdays. Unless there subsections of JW’s who do celebrate them, the few I’ve known did not and I’ve heard that it’s how they do things but there’s always the fringe cases.
@fallingawayfromthenorm yea I'm really curious because i always find religion so interesting. The things people create are so odd sometimes. And as far as i know, jws don't have a sub group. They somehow managed to keep it all pretty tight. Im just so glad to be out of that mess. It was so toxic.
I love yours and Lauren’s voices together and I love when Lauren reads because it was so soothing for some reason lol. I love your long episodes I get so excited each week❤
You’re one of my favorite podcasts. I love your guys’ takes, I’m so sorry about your step dad and I hope your mom is ok ❤ thank you so much for the laughs and entertainment. Love you and all your guests
Also with that last story… I think it’d be extremely fucked up for the older sister to say “i spent all the money and took you on when i was 23, so you owe me now”
One thing I love about this channel is how relaxed it is and nothing feels rushed. One thing I dislike is how it seems like some “opinions” are swayed just to cater to the audience. It would be better if no comments are read and you all think of your own opinions, wether it’s with or against the final vote. Otherwise this channel is great and I love when new episodes come out.
That’s why we say our opinions first before jumping into the comments but sometimes hearing others takes in the comments does shed light to help us evolve. It’s what we do in real life situations too if ya think about it :)
It was because someone stole your audio and video I found you guys over TIKTOK. I liked y’all so much I looked you guys up on TH-cam and now I’m a regular listener, I would even replay podcasts I’ve already watch bc they’re just so good lol
I love the “rejection therapy” comment bc my raised us with the saying “always ask, the worst thing that can happen is that they can say no. And even if they say no, we’ll at least now you know” lol
As someone else mentioned: I love your super long videos ❤ I can’t stop listening to you and I wait every week for Thursday and a new episode of Two Hot Takes 😍
On the last story about the sister Baby sitting. I think the sister living rent free is an reason to bring up why she should babysit but it's not fair to her to use well her sister took her in and raised for as well as paid for everything. That was not the younger sister fault but the mother's. What the older sister did for her by taking her in was what that sister chose to do. And throwing that up could possibly make this young woman feel like it was her fault for what ever struggles they had growing up. She took the role to act as a parent role and that wasn't because of anyone fault that she had to but the parents who could not do Thier job. I'm sorry but this was hurtful to hear when others used that fact about well she took her in and feed her bought her clothes ext. 😢😢
exactly, it's like saying. "well your mom clothed you and fed you and took take of you since you were born, you OWE them." it's not a good enough reason.
For the bachelorette story, i think it depends on whether reservations were made or not for the room, then she is obligated to pay. If they did not book any room or any event/activity in advance, then she is not obligated to pay
Hi! New listener as of a month or so ago, and as a 29 year old who just moved across the country with no new friends (yet!)… I absolutely LOVE listening to the banter and feel like I’m hanging out with the girls. Lauren, I’ve heard you and Alejandra sometimes stop yourselves when going on a “rant”, and I want to say so loudly to you both PLEASE DONT DO THAT! I am struggling so badly right now with long term friends, growing up and growing apart, and really just coming to terms with who does and doesn’t deserve my time or energy. Lauren, please know that I paused this video 3 times to screen record a sentence or two of some things you said that were SAGE advice and things I really needed to hear. Thank you so much to all of you for being my first west coast friends, listening to y’all has been such a comfort in these lonely times. Running to the next episode now on my mad episode catch up game… 🏃🏼♀️
Technically, I've eaten dog food recently too. My brother is very experimental with his cooking, so he recently made Beef heart tortellini. When he asked for beef heart he was asked if it's for dogs, since that's the only use people nowadays have for beef heart I guess. So we had some tasty dog food for dinner.
I ate a piece of kibble because it was one of those expensive brands that are the best options for dry kibble. It smelled REALLY good so I got curious. It tasted kinda like if you dumped chicken, rice and veggies into a food processor to blend and dried it. After that experience I tried a piece of the kibble I was actively feeding my dog and that tasted more like cardboard.
If my husband of 7 years said my mom said some crazy shit, I wouldn’t believe him off the bat. Id have to investigate. I wouldn’t immediately shut it down but I’d have questions. But thankfully my mom would never ever do something like this. She’s literally the most amazing person I know and I trust her with my life. I also trust my husband with my life so it’s be hard for sure but I’d have to find out for myself. If he has truly never ever seen his mom be like this then no I don’t think he sucks, it’s a very hard situation. She should definitely have a sit down though.
This one was exceptionally great. I did want to weigh in one the nanny sister story. I moved out of my parents home when I was 15 due to my father. Four out of five of my siblings left his roof by 16 because of his behavior. My older brother (and absolute hero) understood this and in his early 20s took me in and let me live in his house rent-free. But he couldn’t afford to actually be a parent to me. So I had to work. I worked 2-3 jobs, and had an early bird class in high school, while keeping great grades. I don’t ever regret leaving the house. It was the best option for me. And working that hard was necessary. But I will say that going into adulthood, you experience a type of burn out that crushes you. Your life is so fresh and it’s all struggle. You don’t have joy the way normal kids do. It’s had a lasting effect on me to this day. But there was a time where my brother needed help tying the vines on the vineyard behind the house. It’s hard work. And I was tired. Most nights I would only get 3 hours of sleep. So I told him the next year. I would just work really hard and pay for someone to do it for me. Because I understood that he needed help. But I was at my wits end with stress and I just COULD NOT do it again. OP’s sister may not have worked like that when she was rehomed. But that situation does change you. I’m actually proud of her for listening to her body and mental barometer and set that boundary for herself. I feel like the best solution would actually be for her sister to pay for a babysitter. OP wants to still have her in the house for extra help, to help her with student debt , and probably for company, because that sibling trauma bond is just dope to have. OP’s sister doesn’t want to pay rent in a situation where she doesn’t have her own space as a young adult-which is incredibly understandable. It just makes sense for the sister to use her money to hire out the help that would have qualified as the figurative rent she agreed upon paying.
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I accidentally sent a nude to my mom one morning thinking I was sending it to my bf at the time in Afghanistan. Panicked I called my little sister since she and my mom were typically together. She answered and was able to delete it from the messages before my mom saw. My sister has now passed and this memory is one I cherish so much. Her reaction to seeing my nude and having to delete it was priceless.
I’m so sorry for your loss 💔
Praying for healing 🩵
I’m so sorry for your sister passing but I’m glad you have such a fun memory to bring you such joy. Sending lots of hugs, healing and prayers.!
Wish I could say my sister was the one that saw it 🥴
This reminds me of the one time I accidentally left one of my….toys in the shower by accident and my sister told me before my parents saw it! I was so embarrassed I venmoed her $5 for being chill and helped me out. I’m really sorry you lost your sister.
Hey Morgan and Lauren! I know you once spoke about being unsure about the long episodes but from someone who listens every week, I LOVE and prefer the super long episodes! I'm about to clean my apartment and this will be perfect to listen to while cleaning :) keep them up, love you guys!
That’s exactly what I do! Sometimes I’ll be laughing out loud or my jaw just drops and I got to sit down to watch their reactions 😂 Best podcast ever!
Agreed!! I love the long episodes, they help me do longer tasks🤭
Same here, joining the chore train! 😂
I second this!!
I either do it for cleaning or for my morning commute. Long episodes are amazing
Why do people still propose at other people’s weddings without getting permission first?! it’s insane
Especially during such an important and emotional moment like the father daughter dance! Like if you're going to pull this stunt at least pull it when everyone is dancing and drunk
Especially when you DIDNT have permission to do it lol
the fact that he wasn't even going to askkkkkkkk + had been explicitly told he did not have permission, i would be doneeee
And gender reveals at the wedding 😂😂😂 like my ex and his bride did. Tackyyyy
To steal the attention
So story 7 - I was a professional nanny for 8 years after college, working 60 hour weeks and watching multiple littles Monday through Friday. While I love kids, I cannot stress how (at the time) I would much rather scoop my eyeballs out with a rusty spoon than watch another child on my few precious hours off. Being a nanny was one of the most draining, difficult experiences of my life and I can 100% see why the sister needed childfree time of her few days off. That being said, living rent free at the age of 20 is a blessing so maybe a small amount of her paycheck could have gone to covering utilities/a little rent while she continued to live with her sister.
I was pretty surprised by their take on the story. the whole time i was thinking that the OP sounds like she wanted an additional parent for her child. Such as when she got offended that the sister bringing up that she made an 18 year commitment. It’s not that she’s the asshole, more just that she is self centered? not necessarily the word i’m looking for either. i just think that the sister made clear boundaries and said she’ll leave no problem. BUT OP wants the benefits of her sister living there, not that she wants to help her sister necessarily. Basically i think OP isn’t necessarily doing this out of the kindness of her heart but rather for benefits. which is why the sister isn’t an asshole for setting boundaries.
@@clairefox341 exactly what I thought, op didn’t say I love having my sister here, I love knowing she’s safe, or anything along those lines , op said I love the extra help. While I do agree the sister should contribute some money to the home other than her own shopping , which i assume is grocery and personal care. Op’s reason for wanting her little sister around is selfish. And should understand that 50 or more hours a week with children, who are not your own, is a whole lot. And that one or two days are needed for her mental health and just over all health.
Def! Also the comment OP made of "why would I pay for a sitter when I have a professional right here?" Made me really mad.
@@mayas883 YES, also they started talking about OP paying for the sister and everything...like you CANNOT hold that against her. She deserved to be raised and cared for. You cannot be saying she owes them for raising her when she was a CHILD!
Exactly!!! I have 1 child and I get sooo exhausted and so I actually get my break at work. I would never force someone to watch my child.
Hey! 17:56 just letting you guys know cause there seems to be some confusion, the Petty Revenge happened at OP and Michelle’s wedding, right after Todd proposed. So Lucy had no reason to be stressed cause it wasn’t her wedding, and it was immediate Karma. I think OP was fully justified, and he probably only took maybe 2 weeks to talk to Todd. So I think it’s reasonable
Agreed. This has been going on as long as Todd has been alive. 29 years is a long time to wait to have your moment and it was OP’s wife’s moment at that.OP’s parents messed up big time.
I was coming to comment the same thing. That’s why OP checked with his bride to make sure it was ok to do at THEIR wedding and why he mentions that he didn’t get back to his family until after his honeymoon.
This makes wayyyyy more sense.
Hey sorry, super off subject... How do you do a time stamp 😅
@@princesset91 you just type the time as like 00:00 and it stamps automatically :)
Lauren taking a dinosaur class in college is everything lmao I love her
Hahaha I love you too
She's always on my favorite episodes. She's cool AF!!
I agree. I wish that was an option for me when I started college lol
@@mariar2651 thank you so much Maria!! You’re the cooolest ❤️
@@Lauren-ib3ok I took dinos 101 too!!
Last story- I’m a mother of 2 and my little 19 year old brother lives with me rent free- just because the sister lives there rent fee doesn’t mean she’s your live in baby sitter. She works, helps around the house, and usually DOES watch the kid so if she wants to be with friends and use a day to run errands child free, she should be able to. She didn’t chose to have kids so that’s just really not fair
except she did say she could watch the kid at one point. and you can just be a decent sister by watching her kid one day
Exactly! She agreed to help out. I don't care if she had a different job then. If working longer hours or in a nanny job was going to change her arrangement with the sister (i.e. being too tired or being "kidded out") then she should have talked to her before taking the job and let her know circumstances were changing.
people who don’t believe in dinosaurs are on the same level as flat earthers to me
Almost that dumb but not quite. Flat earthers are on a whole other level . To say that space is fake and the sun is in the clouds and the moon is a cold plasma ball that slowly disappears and regenerates is just insane
It is a very crazy one. I can kind of get the 6000 year old thing, as if someone just knows literally nothing about geology or biology that sounds sort of plausible, but just to assert that they were put in the ground as a test? What test? Why is your "God of Truth" lying to everyone so much? Is he running a Prank Channel? I just can't wrap my head around it.
Though, I think people who have taken biology or geology classes and still think the world is 6000 years old have some serious ability to handle cognitive dissonance. You have to just straight up reject *all information* aside from what random pastors say. The idea that the earth was young was not even universal at the dawn of Christianity, for example. A bunch of church fathers disagreed with any attempts to try and date the earth via the scriptures because they thought they were clearly theological and non-literal.
Sorry bit of a rant. I just hate that I was taught that dinosaurs were literal dragons, that some could breath fire, and that knights killed them in the middle ages when I was a kid. It is so much fun having to deconstruct that nonsense.
Story 3: the mom wasn’t threatened by your presence until you became pregnant because that means it’s serious. It made her realize you weren’t going anywhere. She was always nice because she didn’t think (or want to accept) that you would be around for a while
Yeah there's no use in sitting down and discussing things. If she's doing this, it won't stop. I know, I deal with it
either that, or she genuinely likes OP and thinks she’s a beautiful woman. however, when she got pregnant the envy kicked in since she is now an older woman unable to become pregnant. pregnancy envy is very very real in older women, i see it happen to friends and coworkers all the time. one minute they’re great friends with other women and getting along then when they’re pregnant they get told snarky and passive aggressive comments.. and yes, i’ve seen it and heard it first hand standing next to them . 😕
Yeah. She knows she can keep up a nice mask temporarily. But realizing that its serious, she doesn't want to have to keep pretending and lets the mask slip. Possibly trying to make OP go away in the process.
I agree. Also the mom is a narcissist. They are “nice” around most people but not around certain people, and gaslighting. Feel bad for her that her husband was not supportive.
@@jubilant_jessica4106 Indeed. I am pretty sure her husband is the golden child.
“Dinosaur bones were placed on earth to test us.” OKAY BUT WHATS THE TEST?!?
probably to see if we would believe in evolution over God
Apparently, because they weren't mentioned in the Bible, they don't exist. Something weird like that.
Last story of the babysitting. As a mother, I fully understand how difficult just a single child can be let alone more than one, and it makes it a million times easier when their your own but when your watching other people’s children professionally, it would take all the joy and happiness out of doing it out of your profession. Think a chef, do you think they want to go and cook for others all day long and come home and cook meals for the entire family, or a professional house cleaner that scrub everyone else’s homes on a daily do you think they want to spend their extra time scrubbing their own home head to toe ? If you still need help and aren’t comfortable with the sister living rent free and not watching the child ask for rent going forward and use the rent money to hire a sitter/the extra help.
I 100% agree. To expect a 20 year old to have the patience to watch other peoples kids over 50 hours a week is pretty unrealistic. I have worked in childcare and it is draining.
yeah its kinda crazy to expect her to help after 50 hours a week with kids, and then they want her to dangle the fact that the sister took care of her so she should take care of the nephew? I don't like that.
Yes!! As someone who was in college and had a 20 hour job teaching everyone from small kids to adults, I was so fucking tired on my day offs that I just wanted to do my chores on my one. It was the most time I could spend alone and by myself without worrying so much
@@troubl38 yess, the OP took custody of younger sister so this is essentially like adoptive parents doing it to her. If it wasn’t a sister but an actual parent they would’ve understood, The “she helped you when you were a minor so step up” mentality is so off.
Thank you! I came here to say this! As someone who has worked as a nanny and later as a teacher, the last thing I would ever want to do after my long work week would be to come home and watch more kids. You need days off. Yes, the sister was amazing for taking her in when she was 20 but the other sister was 13 and didn’t ask for that either. Her mom was unable to care for her so that was a traumatic situation for both and should not be used as leverage to get her to over exert herself. Asking her to watch the baby once in awhile for short periods of time is fine but it sounds like OP wants her sister to watch the baby on both of her days off which is absolutely not ok.
As paleontologist I love the first story xD Also love that you took your dino-denying ex bf to your class
Fr bc how do you not believe in dinosaurs, it's science, I can't comprehend how someone cannot believe in something that they haven't even investigated lmao.
Story 7: do we know how often the OP is really asking her sister to babysit? And is she actually asking or volen-telling her sister for babysitting duty since she is the “professional”? I used to be a nanny and I can’t tell you how many times my sister would just leave her kids with me on family outings or at our parents house. I am wondering if the OP has been imposing on the sister more childcare responsibilities than originally agreed upon and also guilting the sister into staying: “I gave up my 20’s for you, so you should do this for me.” I could totally see that happening
I completely agree! I feel like OP is leaving things out
Yea I was thinking the same, she took her sis in because it makes sense and it’s an honourable thing to do ofc. But she shouldn’t feel like the sis owes her in babysitting duty now, it’s not the same. I can’t imagine anything worse than being with kids 50hrs for work and then a screaming baby when you get home, that you’re expected to watch on top! I think the sis could contribute in different ways like chipping in with the cleaning/cooking/laundry/bills/rent, but it sounds like she’s doing her best and deserves child-free days off!
OMG THIS !! my sister does the same thing . i’m 22 and i live with my dad, on top of that i work night shifts so i sleep during the day from 9am to about 4 pm. my sister always dumps her two kids off (7 & 4) early in the morning without even asking me!! and i’m the only adult home since my dad works and my brother is only 14 !! i never sleep when she does it and my dad doesn’t care to put an end to it because to them i’m “taking it out on my nephews”. i can’t wait to move out but rent is so high.
@@twocathome399 thats very unfair, its not your responsibility and its selfish on her part. theyre her kids. i understand family is a big thing for a lot of people but she could atleast have the decency and respect for you to ask . i hate when people feel as though theyre entitled to certain things.
but she lives there rent free
About the first story. Your telling me you are “so religious” that you don’t want to be in the indirect presence of dinosaurs??? But your going to go STAY ALONE IN YOUR BOYFRIENDS BEDROOM?! 😅😅😅 anyone else pick up that major hypocrisy
Girlie don't believe in dinosaurs, that's enough of red flags
Soooooo typical!
Weird behavior.
Lauren picked awesome stories, I was baffled and highly opinionated the whole time 😂👏🏽
The story where the twin was told she couldn't be Maid of Honor got me so steamed.
She asked if she had overreacted, but if anything, she underreacted. I would have pulled my kids from the wedding and not attended either. That was such a slap in the face, as well as a major betrayal.
EDIT: WOO HOO! I just listened to the end of the story! Way to go Ursula!!!
OMG Lauren picked such good stories. Story 4 with the sisters and the wedding had such a satisfying ending. the update had me gasping!!!
Same here but was such a good one and I'm so glad it went the way it did
the last one really made me sad. As an eldest sibling who was expected to care for my sibling who is 16 years younger than me AND pay rent to my PARENTS at 18 years old … the older sister is taking advantage. She works long shifts and still comes home to help clean and other chores. She doesn’t want her to leave because she obviously helps enough to make a decent difference. The older sister needs to pay for childcare like everyone else. And allow her hard working sister to fucking relax
Same. I’m the oldest of 5. And that story made me SOO sad because I was always responsible for my siblings up until I was 20 and moved out. I purposely live an hour and a half away from my mom because I don’t want to continue to raise my siblings. It’s so sad for us who have been through it. That poor sister, she’s not responsible for her sisters kid 😭
That's a wild take at the end. It's interesting...that the older sister took on and paid for the care of the minor she agreed to take on? No. It's life. You became her mom at that moment. You should not EVER use that against her and I'm kinda sad Morgan thinks the older sister should.
i feel the same way. it should never be like that , its manipulative to bring it up.. guilting her into that is just so messed up beyond words. have her pay rent if its a problem.. but holding so much over her head - no rent, and the fact that she took her in when sister was 13 and op was in her 20's is so over board. compromise, but op bringing that up as a thing for others to side with her is way too much, the other things i get.. but THAT was uncalled for as it was op's decision not her sisters as it wasnt even her choice to make in the first place.
Agree. Also their relationship should be better. I know my older sibling wouldn't do this to me. Ever. The sister may move out in a year or 2, the kid is the OP's responsibility 100% and it's not fair to her sister at all to join in on the responsibility of having a kid. It is not hers. The rent had nothing to do with helping around and like you said, it is manipulative
Me too. I'm sad Morgan had that take too.
That part, as the oldest out of 5, I took care of my siblings mainly the 2 after me my sister texts me on mothers day always saying "thank you for raising me" that was MY choice I wanted to do that. I don't want kids but if for some reason I change my mind I'm not expecting them to take care of my children cause again that was MY choice I don't do things so I can get something in return that's weird. But that's also why I don't ask people for help unless I realllly need it. Cause they might hold it over your head.
I feel crazy with that last story cause I seriously disagree. Some things that got brought up really really bothered me. The comment of “she took the younger one in when she was in her early 20s and the younger didn’t help financially” yeah cause she was 13, being taken from her mom and placed into the care of her sister. At that moment the dynamic changed completely. If they were not related and she was just a super young foster mom- would we then criticize the child for not helping support themselves? Obviously not. Also the comment about how the younger should pay rent and the older should use it to pay a babysitter: Does everyone miss that this is just asking the younger to pay for a baby sitter? The only difference is her older sister/ guardian moving the money, it’s so insulting to say she should tell her younger sister to pay for a babysitter if she won’t be willing to do it for free. Think about it- she’s admitted her younger sister is a professional nanny and is insisting that she provide this service for free… or literally pay someone else to do it. I think it’s a very clear case of a guardian wanting one of their oldest children to watch the younger ones for free. I don’t think there is a great solution, it’s only gonna get solved with compromise, but to act like the younger sister owes her older for being a guardian to her is sickening. Being a guardian to a child should never have those kinds of strings attached.
Oh yeah the oldest child tender age of 20, living rent free, has been parentified for the last 2 months of their life 😥 (even though the sister practically begs her to watch him for one night and she says no and sister says okay)
"but to act like the younger sister owes her older for being a guardian to her is sickening." AGREE. I hated how morgan said this like if it was okay
@@samanthag6613 EXACTLY!! OP chose to have a child. if it wasn’t her sister but her eldest daughter, would be still “owe” her? is she going to do the same thing with her baby and they eventually have other children?
exactly. the whole thing with there being an underlying obligation to the older sister makes me upset. its very unreasonable to ask her to use her ONLY days off to watch another child when she already does that for 50 hours A WEEK ! i do understand the rent free part but im super torn on this. i hate the whole idea of people "owing" others in general . i also forgot that she did agree in the beginning , but she now has a different job than before..ugh i really do feel torn on this . its not like the younger sister is lazy or taking advantage . she obviously has her hands full , asking her to do that would lead to burn out in the long run and im not understanding why op isnt being considerate either .. i believe no one should owe anyone anything . younger sister is working hard and getting her life together, i understand having a child is difficult as it is but does she not have anyone else to care for the child ? you're right the dynamic did change. i really do feel like in some way op feels as if shes owed something .. she took on the responsibility of caring for her sister , right then and there all obligation like that is gone .. you have to think , she did raise her sister a fair amount if she cared for her since 13. i mean would they think their child owes them too for caring and raising them ..? thinking about this situation in so many ways makes me terribly upset. there needs to be compromise for sure but the whole owing and obligation thing is a terrible way to think about things or life in general .
The story is one sided for me... when I was 10 I had to move with my aunt's family in a different city. We had family issues and I had to support as 2nd Mother. When the issues passed in 2-3 years I was a teen and needed quality time to study, make friends, have hobbies...My other cousin was also at school (8-9) and I was labeled as the lazy one who doesn't help just because they were expecting the previous levels of support. Even though, the required efforts were significantly less and we had 1 more person that can support with some tasks .
....and the listed times she helps look cherry picked. And we have no idea how often that girl helps and with how many chores. We have only info about 1 thing she refused - to do chores and errands with a toddler.
Fun Fact! The Best Friend from story 5 who couldn't get it up actually commented on the post, and tried REALLLLY hard to defend himself while bashing OP. It turned out about as well as you think, he also makes a point of mentioning that OP has the hots for the gf so he asked her to "put on a show" for him. 😂
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i was surprised morgan didn't read the update!
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long episodes all the waaay, i listen while i work and they keep me focused while also entertained, so it's great!
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Y’all were killing me with your responses to the last story
About last story: Why does the sister has to paid for her lack of parents? OP can't hold over her sister's head all the things she did and bought for her, so I found myself disagreeing with Morgan's comment about the sister repaying what OP gave her. The sister was a minor and the alternative of going to foster care is horrible, almost unthinkable, so she was just a child when her sister took her in. It's so unfair to call the sister entitled, she is already working 50 hrs weekly taking care of kids. I can't imagine how exhausting that is.
Ya, I really didn't like the way she said op did her sister 'a favor'...needing an adult to raise you as a child should never be held against someone once they're older.
I only slightly agree, because the sister didn’t need to house her after she was a legal adult, that was a favor, but once the sister got a job and started her own life, it was on OP to renegotiate her living arrangements. Her staying there rent free is a favor, so asking for help from the sister isn’t an AH move. But where she is wrong is to not take into consideration how her sister wants to payback the favor. If she wants to pay rent, let her pay rent, be it at your place or her own. Also, if she only has two days off, be considerate of what she wants to do with those days off too. The older sister obviously wants time off from her kid, so why is it so shocking to her that her sister would also want time off from those kids.
I'll never understand why God would need dinosaur bones to test people's faith. Don't little kids die of cancer every day? Get trafficked? Also, I think you're talking about narwhals, which are whales, not seals. ❤ Love the show, keep up the great work!
or maybe she was talking about walruses?
I think it’s because of the timeline aspect of things, certain religions claim the earth is only 1000 years old or something lol
There are a lot of debates even within the christian and catholic churches about this.
Personally, I don't believe they are conflicting. God created the earth and everything that was and is on it. We did evolve, you can't dispute that, and as far as Genesis it's not to say that everything started there and then, it is the story of the begining of God's relationship with human beings.
@@noactuallywerejustgoodfrie1328also, how are people going to argue that they can contemplate how God works as we are, by definition, not on the same level as God. What makes the “days” listed in the scriptures a 24 hr rotation period? Trying to pin down Gods creation process and timeline to the ideas and timekeeping processes made by humans is ridiculous. To take them as mutually exclusive as a christian is to assume God isn’t all powerful and can’t have done these millions of years of intricate creation because a story originally developed via oral tradition had to keep the story accessible to the minds of the people.
on the babysitting story: i think we're forgetting that op's sister is not just sitting down an watching bridgerton. she will be helping around the house cleaning and she said that the baby doesnt like to be put down. its going to be really inconvenient and she also did say she;d help to pay for a sitter. I understand op's frustration but the sister also has a good reason to say no.
yes i felt crazy seeing morgan so angry at the little sister because my take was totally the opposite of hers!! little sister even offered to pay for a babysitter but older sister refused for some reason
Last story: I hated when Morgan said “What extra help is she getting? Watching the baby for 30 minutes while the mom is going to the bathroom?”. OP said that the sister helped around the house. And bothe Morgan and Lauren are siding a lot with OP, when she herself said that why would she hire a stranger when she has a professional in the house. Like, wtf, she’s coming home tired from work and the sister OFFERED TO HELP PAYING FOR A NANNY!
Sister could watch the baby a little more, yes, but OP feels completely entitled to her sister’s time and that’s not fucking okay
EXACTLY
She is out of the house for at least 50 hours a week, I doubt she is using that much electricity etc
The sister told HER to pay a baby sitter. Morgan said watching the baby for 30 SECONDS is not help. Yeah when you live somewhere, doing house chores and cleaning YOUR room is not help. And the sister is working 50 hours for herself because she is paying NOTHING for rent or bills
46:50 you guys are describing being a super feeler or caretaker. Therapists say all caretakers want is for someone to take care of them as they do it to others
I really hated (maybe strong word) morgan's take on this one. I agree with you.
PLEASE have Lauren find stories more often! It’s a great find and hearing morgan react genuinely was a BLAST to hear!
Wedding revenge story: I think Reddit is forgetting that there are real people involved again. (Unless it's fake.) You're talking about three people's lives - Todd's, Lucy's and their kid. Although I think Morgan brings up a good point that it's interesting Lucy just automatically believed it. IIRC the story mentions bringing false "proof", so that didn't help, but it does make me wonder if there were cracks as well. All that said, OP got what he wanted. He needs to set the record straight.
And yes, Todd and Lucy are obnoxious AF. But ruining their family is over the top. OP should just not have invited them in the first place.
Ya. I see your point. Like why invite them if you already knew
I agree. I’ve heard this one before and everyone is always cheering on the OP. But it’s like, prank over, good job. You ruined his proposal, which was the goal. Don’t ruin their whole family. That has permanent repercussions. But also, I’m so sure this is fake.
@@zurilyjones it's almost like he invited them knowing he was gonna propose just so he could get revenge on his brother. He wanted that revenge
Was Op a tad over the top maybe?... but after years of taking todd's crap and not getting an apology. (I highly doubt todd has ever) People can only take so much which can result in some over the top actions. its also very clear todd is the parents golden child, so even if op didn't invite him more than likely the parents would of made a fuss. weddings are hard enough and op has to worry about him and his wife as a family. Todd is a grown adult who should of known better, don't want shitty things to happen to you then don't do it to others.
I kind of feel bad for lucy but even with the fake ''proof'' if you have a strong relationship and nothing happened you'd be able to prove nothing happened, or the very least lucy should be able to trust todd enough to not blindly believe this ''proof''. Hopefully todd will learn to be a better person.
@@planetofaliens if I remember correctly
C’mon, Morgan - 50 hours a week, two days off, 2 jobs means she’s working 10 hours a day. 😂
😂😂😂 she always reminds us she’s terrible at math but I was thinking the same thing
@@lilacorn gotta love her
you know me and math aint friends.
@@TwoHotTakes me neither, math can get f*cked...
For story 5:
This is the reason you need enthusiastic consent in sexual situations. Someone who’s fantasised about watching a couple go at it would probably have taken the whole thing as seriously as the friend wanted. That said it is a fairly common occurrence in new people to any kind of kink to be nervous and a bit uncomfortable and sometimes you find out mid-act that the thing you thought you wanted isn’t for you. That’s why safe words exist. Uncomfortable or unsexy whatever. Plenty of things sound fun and wind up not doing it for you. Having a sense of humour and communicating with people involved “hey let’s talk this out after we try it so we can check in”
OP will always have a story for sure 😂😂
I agreed but also might think the friend was taking it way too serious. One of the first things I learned about with Kink is like with any intimate situation it can be awkward especially trying something new, and aside from seriousness around safety it doesn't need to be overly serious. Sometimes and trying new things you're going to be awkward and bust out and giggle fit and that's okay.
Speaking as a sister who had to take on legal guardianship of her 13 year old sister at the age of 19 for similar reasons. Their dynamic is something most people don't understand. Now i can't speak for them specifically but I've been taking care of my sister way before I got guardianship (like during childhood). For me, our relationship has been very maternal. I love my sister but truly it was never an option to not take responsibility of her. Times were hella rough. I put my dreams aside to raise her. Something that didn't become apparent until i had my own kids was caretaker fatigue. Ive spent my whole life taking care of someone, and now i have a lifetime more of it to go. Now, this isn't the little sister's fault at all. I'd never dream of forcing anyone to watch my kids who didn't want to. But i can feel big sisters struggle between needing help but being seized with a super weird form of empty nest syndrome at the thought of her sister moving out. I truly hope they can come to a compromise that works for both.
I relate to this a lot. Though, after my experience of taking over caring for 2 younger siblings, I realized that I didn't want to do it all again. It's one part of the collection of reasons that I've decided to be child free.
If I hadn't already been leaning towards being child free and I entered up in a situation where I had a child I definitely could understand how that fatigue would set in. It wouldn't entitle me to the help of my younger siblings but I think it's relevant to this conversation
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Watching a child/baby while a parent goes for a walk or to the restroom or gets a shower is ABSOLUTELY HELPING!!!!! As a mother that’s all some can ask for! That poor sister is going above and beyond already! Pay 👏 her 👏
The sister gets FREE rent- watching a small child for a day is more than fair
I LOVE listening to these while I ger ready for work and it was uploaded this morning just in time!!
Same! So relaxing to listen to them before taking on the stressful day
Yes! I had an hour and a half commute this morning and this was so perfect
In story 2 - he should have let his brother come to the wedding but without his girlfriend so he wouldn’t be able to propose
He shouldn’t of been able to go at all the parents couldn’t even deny his actions he should’ve gotten a live-streamed version of it 😂
I’m sober. It started off as curiosity. I’m loving it. Not going back. 4 months now
Last Story:
Relationships go through tons of struggles when people play the IOU Olympics. There are no medals. No one will win.
I’m super torn but honestly it sounds like what most 20 year olds go through (even in the best of circumstances). It seems like a phase of their relationship ended super gradually and this new dynamic with OP having kids and OPs sister graduating, having a job, and establishing herself as an adult has crept up on them.
This was bound to happen eventually and maybe to preserve the family it’s time this ended. No one is entirely wrong in what they’re asking but incompatible needs are a thing. OP and her Sister should have a real heart to heart w/o accusing anyone or trying to bring up past favours as some sort of IOU race to see who is owed the most. Maybe it’s best if sister is just that and has to live on her own. Not a babysitter. Not a quasi daughter. Not a roommate.
THIS! Like I don't believe OP should expect free babysitting from sister but I also think that sister doesn't understand she could have gone through school being self sufficient like many others and doesn't realize how lucky she is to not pay rent as a student. I feel like OP should just ask sister to pay a portion of utilities as that price alternates throughout the year, if sister can't even agree to that she is not entitled to live rent free as an adult.
Damn she thinks dinosaurs are made up?
Well, I have news to give my pet birds. They’re gonna be shocked to find out they’re not real!
(Also, if you think dinosaurs are fiction, what’s wrong with fiction about dinosaurs? There’s a lot of things that aren’t real that you watch movies about lmao)
That's the thing for me - why would you find Jurassic Park offensive when it is very obviously fictional?
I am religious but that never made sense to me bc, if god created anything why do they think he created things out of thin air? Could he have not created humans by evolving apes? Create animals by changing the environment and stuff? Like 😭😭 why do they envision like a magic spell and it suddenly appears
@@mikanchan322 exactly, even if the first movie leans more into the science, it’s still purely fictitious. Not like you’re sitting down and watching a documentary like walking with dinosaurs or prehistoric planet. Just really strange
I grew up extremely catholic, and for a hot second there I didn’t believe in them. I thought scientists made them up to disprove gods existence. I’m older now and got out of the religion, so I fully know they did in fact exist and there’s no huge god hating conspiracy lmao
@@iridescentsolace I'm catholic and that's what I've always thought. All animals change over time, like dogs being a thing it's not hard to imagine what animals may have looked like way back when and acknowledge that they've likely changed over time. I'm totally Team Birds used to be Dinosaurs.
Lauren is such a gem 🤍 I love the dynamic between you two it’s such a sweet and genuine friendship
I think a parents epsiode (lauren's mom, Morgan's dad) would be so cool lol. Love the video!
Lauren’s story about the people bailing on the boat is heart breaking!🥺. If that happened to me I would literally never want to organize any social event ever again! I am glad she didn’t get totally screwed in that situation and at least got reimbursed for the boat.
the statement "I think unicorns were real" just hits different when it comes from your favorite horse girl. love you morgan! 😂
Could have been! Like not magic but all seals used to have horns and even an ancestor of turtles had horns so I don’t doubt there was some horse ancestor/relation with a horn
FUN FACT: THE UNICORN MYTH COMES FROM….RHINOS!!!
Basically, way back when in Europe, there stories of people who had seen “horses with horns.” Those horses with horns were just Rhinoceroses over in Africa, Asia and/or potentially an extinct giant rhino who lives in Eurasia.
If you look up “medieval bestiary unicorn drawing” you can see how people used to think unicorns looked like. That unicorn imagery is rather…uh, well…ugly compared to our modern idea of a unicorn.
I think for the last story the mom could offer to do de sister laudry or some of her errands in exchange for de baby sitting so she could get her things done on her free day. It's like if your a professional cook, most professionals don't want to cook at home everyday since they do it all day, we don't want to take our jobs to our homes. I think it might be a cultural difference but in my country most young adults still live with their family since rent is really expensive (specially nowadays), so what most families do when they start to work is set up a monthly fee, it is usually something small (nothing close to a rent price), that helps the family pay for the monthly expenses like water, electricity and such. Some families that have a more stable financial income don't charge any fee's but the kids would contribute with running errands or helping around the house, or pay for their own groceries and do their own laundrys and stuff. So if I look at the situation I see the younger sister more like a "daughter". The younger sister probably views the house as her home too since she's lived their for the past 10 year, if she helps around the house and pays for her own groceries and stuff, I think it is a fair traid and she has a right to refuse to babysit, specially when she spends 50 hours a week doing it as a job. Also, after reading some of OP replys in the comment section I feel like she is more of the asshole in this situation. She wants her sister to look after her child and according to her "she just needs to feed him and put him down or hold him" and it would be easy enough to do errands with it, but she doesn't want do her own errands with him and that's exactly why she is asking her to babysit.
Lauren’s first story, he can clear Todd’s name if Todd pays him for half the wedding 🤷🏼♀️
This is actually my new favorite Morgan Quote™️: “All I said was the sky is blue! I never said the sky was fucked-up because it’s blue!” 😂
With the last story I’m on the sisters side I have been in a somewhat similar situation. Though I do give my mom a portion of my checks I am not paying what I would if I was living on my own (Which I am very grateful for). My sister (A) lived with us and just recently moved out with her husband and kids and now my other sister(B) plans on moving in with her two kids . When A lived with us she expected my brothers and I to do a lot for her involving her kids even though her husband could have done it all. Like rides or babysitting or errands. My brothers both work one goes to school as well but she would expect them to give rides and get all her stupid pregnancy cravings when she was pregnant. I work a full time job and I want my days off to be my days off. i was not involved in making your kids so I’m not obligated to take care of them because I happen to seem like I am free. Also didn’t mention before that sister A isn’t working and quit her job to do TH-cam full time so she is almost always home. This was a condition that my brothers and I gave sister B if she were to move in because we don’t want to be used again. Again no one is obligated to care for YOUR responsibilities
Side note I love my nieces and nephews but again they are not my responsibility
And obviously this doesn’t include emergencies when I would have to watch the kids
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Story 3.
I am honestly so jealous of other people's relationships with their moms sometimes. My mom does this to me all the time and no one believes me because she's nice to them, and nice to me infront of them. My mom is constantly lying to me and other people. It breaks my heart that I don't have a relationship with my mom, like other mothers and daughters.
i feel the EXACT same way. no one believes me either and its so draining . seeing her with other girls around my age and how she treats them , how caring she is to them crushes me. its like shouldnt it be of all people your child that you show that compassion / bond with. ive made peace with knowing shes a narcissist .. they twist things to make them look good bc at the end of the day they feel their image is imp. atleast it set an example for me to be the best mother in the future no matter what and hopefully that'll heal some part of me too.
I hear that. Tho my first thought at the husband being irate by being included on calls - he doesn’t like talking to his mother either!
Record or film it for a while without her knowing and send it to them.
@@kristakielman8441My boyfriend didn't believe me about my evil mother until my sister died and i found out from a coworker a week later 28:02 . I had my boyfriend call my sisters local police and they told us. I called my dad and he was so cold towards me. I asked him for some of her ashes ( we live about four miles away from each other) they mailed them to me!!!
A man who is so against divorce that he will risk your relationship with your sister is a man who will do a lot of scary things to avoid the label of divorcée…. Even though the sister is hurt, I hope she keeps tabs on her sister who’s getting married & watches out for signs of abuse. Including, isolation from family. Be there for her when he won’t let her leave, and be safe.
Edit- and I heard the update. Yay.
First story, the girlfriend would hate me, I’m in the works of getting a dinosaur sleeve tattoo. The dinosaurs I picked are based off of Jurassic Park and Land Before Time. The artist asked me if I was a paleontologist because of my knowledge of dinosaurs. I would hurt that girl’s feelings.
Lmao 💀 she probably would think you’re going to hell dude
She’d hate my Dino collection too. Guess I’m going to hell in her eyes too. I’ll drive the bus
Can the wedding story be a movie, that was the most amazing story I've ever heard
So with the babysitting story, I can kind of see both sides. I lived with my sister for a few years in my mid 20s. I was working and going to school, and then working and looking for a teaching job. At some point, after I finished school, my sister wanted me to start helping with rent, and to help with cooking once or twice a week and to help with cleaning. The amount she wanted in rent was completely reasonable and much better than if I had lived on my own at the time. I did eventually move out a few months after getting my first teaching job, but staying with her that first semester of teaching helped me a lot and I'm forever grateful for that. She had her son the next year, and while she would ask me if I would babysit, was always very thoughtful about it and said it was ok if I said no and she would pay me. There probably were times where I was like "sorry I'm busy" or just "sorry, I can't". And she was always ok with it. I have enjoyed the times I have babysat because I do love my nephew, but my sister understands that I might be busy. I think I might've been more open to babysitting if I had still been living with her when she had her son, but she also probably would've paid me then too.
I think the OP is helping by letting her sister stay with her and should push for her to help around the house and help with bills and stuff. The sister is living there too, so she should contribute. But I also feel like it's very entitled of the OP to just expect her sister to babysit without compensation, especially when the sister works a full time job. It feels very much like they're both trying to use the current situation to their advantage and not thinking about the other person.
Thank you so much for your little rant about people who don't drink. As someone who doesn't drink for a number of reasons, it bothers me so much when I get questioned or judged over it!
This is my favorite Lauren episode! Great insights from you & your mom, her advice to you was so good about the anxiety stuff ❤
Lovely to see Lauren again! And Morgan of course
I fkn love the og crew! Their true honest self & opinions come out no fear of the hate mob. Hearing them say believe what you believe don’t force anyone else’s believes on someone else don’t make someone else small ugh it’s a breath of fresh air hearing
Just wanted to say that I'm going through a really rough time right now and going back to watch all these episodes is my saving grace right now so thank y'all for being you and helping distract me from how cruel and unexpected life can be.
Story 4. I’m a triplet and I can not imagine any of us getting married without one of the 3. I stared in this world with them and my most important moments will be with them in there.
#4. That woman dodged a major bullet. The fact that her fiancé took away her mobility by taking her cane, is disgusting behavior. I can't imagine what abuse she would've gone through had she become his wife...
thats what i was thinking! and she might not have been able to leave if they went through with the wedding because his family doesnt believe in divorce.. so glad she got out
Last Story: That OP is entitled, it’s HER kid, not her sister’s kid. Sister is under no obligation to babysit. Good for her for setting strong boundaries, big sis would clearly take advantage otherwise.
44:34 this conversation right here!! I recently came to those terms too. Some people will have different perspectives on situations and the energy to explain yourself with people who aren’t even going to try to understand is energy wasted. What Morgan says is true too. Some people will have things to say no matter what you do. The easy solution is to cut off that negativity but it’s more complicated with family and in law situations..
Morgan, I absolutely love your podcast, and all your friends that join you! It’s the highlight of my week. Father knows best is awesome as well. Thank you for always taking time to creat amazing content for the listeners. I love you guys so so much! ❤
Haha I was up to get to the post within an hour! I feel accomplished!! Your entire team brings light to my week ✨
Lauren, literally my cat wouldn’t eat this new food I bought her so I tried it to see why she was rejecting it and it was unbearably salty! I bought her a different food and she ate that without an issue. Sometimes you just gotta try their food 🤷🏼♀️
Morgan, the silly thing about the people who steal your content, is that some of them will act like you’re the rude one when you copyright strike them 💀 the math doesn’t math there, but you’re a genius for the mic covers!!
Exactly Morgan I can’t tell you how many times I tag story credit two hot takes on TikTok. It’s so messed up.
I love that you do ❤️❤️❤️ thank you
Dealing with bed bugs and have to clean out my whole apartment and put all my clothes in the dryer. Thank you Morgan, you are exactly what I needed.
The last one- you guys came up with the perfect solution! No one is an asshole- they just have a tricky sitch. BOTH of them have gone through it. Lil sister deserves to live a 20 year old life and big sis has sacrificed ALOT! They’re going to end up being so strong because of this. 😌
The dinosaur story, man lady have you never been to a doctors office where they play movies for kids, like half of the ones in mine were dinosaur movies. Imagine getting yelled at cause you thought the kids would like to watch dinotopia! Like I didn't believe in Santa as a kid but I didn't have a pity party cause the teacher put on Polar Express(especially cause my parents raised me not to ruin it for other kids and play along so you dont ruin the fun for them)
Stop. Lauren just munchin on the cookies till it’s gone makes me giggle. If it’s good, it’s good 😂😂 I love her. She’s definitely a fav for me
Please keep the long episodes ! I’m pregnant af and listening to y’all are the only reason I’m able to get my lazy ass up clean and workout! Lmao
Story 3: Its so familiar! I wish I had done what this wife is doing! It might have saved my marriage. We did group therapy, marriage counseling, individual counseling as well as family counseling. My husband just couldn't see it until it was too late. I hope that man wakes up and doesn't lose his family because of his mother.
YOU REALLY DONT KNOW HOW MUCH I WAS FEINING FOR A NEW EPISODE. It’s like crek.
Years ago I dated a Christian girl who months into dating revealed she didn’t believe in evolution, and I was so shocked I had to walk out of the room for a minute to just process that information. In all my years going to church growing up as a (now former) Catholic I’d never once met someone who thought evolution was made up. I don’t remember what denomination she was, but I don’t think it was Catholic, and her church was one of those weird ones that try luring people to come by putting up cryptic billboard ads about getting free burritos if you looked up a website, and on the website it’d tell you that you could get a free burrito for coming to the church for a mass (or whatever other demonizations call that).
I wonder what religion she was now. I was raised jehovah witness and they made us leave class in school when evolution was discussed and for a number of other subjects. But they didn't do billboards but they do have a freaking app now lol so idk. I'm always curious when i hear of other unhinged religions.
Is so weird lmao, like, i'm also a former Catholic but i went through a couple different religious schools, like, 7 years of catholic, 5 evangelical and 1 of adventist, now, during a lot of this schooling i was young enough to barely remember anything, but i do remember going on school trips to museums with dinosaurs and no one ever said anything about them being fake 💀
@@katlin.christopher I sometimes wish I would have asked because I also wonder, but it wasn’t Jehovah’s Witness because her family celebrated birthdays. Unless there subsections of JW’s who do celebrate them, the few I’ve known did not and I’ve heard that it’s how they do things but there’s always the fringe cases.
@fallingawayfromthenorm yea I'm really curious because i always find religion so interesting. The things people create are so odd sometimes. And as far as i know, jws don't have a sub group. They somehow managed to keep it all pretty tight. Im just so glad to be out of that mess. It was so toxic.
I wonder if she’s lds/mormon bc I know they celebrate birthdays and some don’t believe in dinosaurs (not all of them but a few more religious ones)
Let Lauren pick more stories!!!!!! Love herrrrrrr
This made my morning way better, I love listening to the podcast while getting ready for work 🥰
Just wanna say my husband is named “Keefe”, so hearing you two say “fuck you Keith” really made me laugh since his name is so close 😂
I love yours and Lauren’s voices together and I love when Lauren reads because it was so soothing for some reason lol. I love your long episodes I get so excited each week❤
Always so happy when Lauren’s cohosting!
You’re one of my favorite podcasts. I love your guys’ takes, I’m so sorry about your step dad and I hope your mom is ok ❤ thank you so much for the laughs and entertainment. Love you and all your guests
Also with that last story… I think it’d be extremely fucked up for the older sister to say “i spent all the money and took you on when i was 23, so you owe me now”
One thing I love about this channel is how relaxed it is and nothing feels rushed. One thing I dislike is how it seems like some “opinions” are swayed just to cater to the audience. It would be better if no comments are read and you all think of your own opinions, wether it’s with or against the final vote. Otherwise this channel is great and I love when new episodes come out.
That’s why we say our opinions first before jumping into the comments but sometimes hearing others takes in the comments does shed light to help us evolve. It’s what we do in real life situations too if ya think about it :)
Lauren your getting better at reading honestly well done
i absolutely love come back and watching episode again and see how much even my own opinions have changed
Honestly, I would love your episodes to be 8 hours long, perfect way to spend time while working ❤
I love how early you posted that way I start my work day with you in my ear.
It was because someone stole your audio and video I found you guys over TIKTOK. I liked y’all so much I looked you guys up on TH-cam and now I’m a regular listener, I would even replay podcasts I’ve already watch bc they’re just so good lol
I love the “rejection therapy” comment bc my raised us with the saying “always ask, the worst thing that can happen is that they can say no. And even if they say no, we’ll at least now you know” lol
As someone else mentioned: I love your super long videos ❤ I can’t stop listening to you and I wait every week for Thursday and a new episode of Two Hot Takes 😍
It's crazy to see that I'm not subscribed despite tuning in almost weekly for 2 years 😭 thanks for the reminder in the beginning of the video!
On the last story about the sister Baby sitting. I think the sister living rent free is an reason to bring up why she should babysit but it's not fair to her to use well her sister took her in and raised for as well as paid for everything. That was not the younger sister fault but the mother's. What the older sister did for her by taking her in was what that sister chose to do. And throwing that up could possibly make this young woman feel like it was her fault for what ever struggles they had growing up. She took the role to act as a parent role and that wasn't because of anyone fault that she had to but the parents who could not do Thier job. I'm sorry but this was hurtful to hear when others used that fact about well she took her in and feed her bought her clothes ext. 😢😢
exactly, it's like saying. "well your mom clothed you and fed you and took take of you since you were born, you OWE them." it's not a good enough reason.
For the bachelorette story, i think it depends on whether reservations were made or not for the room, then she is obligated to pay. If they did not book any room or any event/activity in advance, then she is not obligated to pay
YAY, LAUREN❤! I haven't even started listening, and I'm already loving it.
🎉🎉🎉 Thursdays are my favorite day of the week because of this podcast!! ❤
Not morgan getting confused by the proposal story, i would be the same. I absolutely love this podcast. Love lauren
Best. Intro. Ever 😂😂😂😂 nothing like Lauren and Morgan eating dog treats at the beginning of the show 😂❤
Lauren: What are the odds everyone canceled on the boat? Maybe y’all weren’t meant on that boat that day🫣
Hi! New listener as of a month or so ago, and as a 29 year old who just moved across the country with no new friends (yet!)… I absolutely LOVE listening to the banter and feel like I’m hanging out with the girls. Lauren, I’ve heard you and Alejandra sometimes stop yourselves when going on a “rant”, and I want to say so loudly to you both PLEASE DONT DO THAT! I am struggling so badly right now with long term friends, growing up and growing apart, and really just coming to terms with who does and doesn’t deserve my time or energy. Lauren, please know that I paused this video 3 times to screen record a sentence or two of some things you said that were SAGE advice and things I really needed to hear.
Thank you so much to all of you for being my first west coast friends, listening to y’all has been such a comfort in these lonely times. Running to the next episode now on my mad episode catch up game… 🏃🏼♀️
Technically, I've eaten dog food recently too. My brother is very experimental with his cooking, so he recently made Beef heart tortellini. When he asked for beef heart he was asked if it's for dogs, since that's the only use people nowadays have for beef heart I guess. So we had some tasty dog food for dinner.
I ate a piece of kibble because it was one of those expensive brands that are the best options for dry kibble. It smelled REALLY good so I got curious. It tasted kinda like if you dumped chicken, rice and veggies into a food processor to blend and dried it. After that experience I tried a piece of the kibble I was actively feeding my dog and that tasted more like cardboard.
If my husband of 7 years said my mom said some crazy shit, I wouldn’t believe him off the bat. Id have to investigate. I wouldn’t immediately shut it down but I’d have questions. But thankfully my mom would never ever do something like this. She’s literally the most amazing person I know and I trust her with my life. I also trust my husband with my life so it’s be hard for sure but I’d have to find out for myself. If he has truly never ever seen his mom be like this then no I don’t think he sucks, it’s a very hard situation. She should definitely have a sit down though.
This one was exceptionally great.
I did want to weigh in one the nanny sister story.
I moved out of my parents home when I was 15 due to my father. Four out of five of my siblings left his roof by 16 because of his behavior. My older brother (and absolute hero) understood this and in his early 20s took me in and let me live in his house rent-free. But he couldn’t afford to actually be a parent to me. So I had to work. I worked 2-3 jobs, and had an early bird class in high school, while keeping great grades.
I don’t ever regret leaving the house. It was the best option for me. And working that hard was necessary. But I will say that going into adulthood, you experience a type of burn out that crushes you. Your life is so fresh and it’s all struggle. You don’t have joy the way normal kids do. It’s had a lasting effect on me to this day. But there was a time where my brother needed help tying the vines on the vineyard behind the house. It’s hard work. And I was tired. Most nights I would only get 3 hours of sleep. So I told him the next year. I would just work really hard and pay for someone to do it for me. Because I understood that he needed help. But I was at my wits end with stress and I just COULD NOT do it again.
OP’s sister may not have worked like that when she was rehomed. But that situation does change you. I’m actually proud of her for listening to her body and mental barometer and set that boundary for herself. I feel like the best solution would actually be for her sister to pay for a babysitter.
OP wants to still have her in the house for extra help, to help her with student debt , and probably for company, because that sibling trauma bond is just dope to have. OP’s sister doesn’t want to pay rent in a situation where she doesn’t have her own space as a young adult-which is incredibly understandable.
It just makes sense for the sister to use her money to hire out the help that would have qualified as the figurative rent she agreed upon paying.