God it reminds me of my mom. Its always so heartbreaking to look around and see other mothers being gentle with their childs mistakes knowing you grew up being afraid of making them.
I grew up without my mom, but I have a young brother who is not my father's son. It hurts to see her being so affectionate with him and having neglected me my whole life
My mom and me have issues because of how controlling she is. And she sees nothing wrong with how she acts even when I cry to her about them. Instead, it's always about her. Yes, she tries her best, but she needs therapy and refuses to go. My dad was the only one in my family who hurt me and apologized. Mommy issues are hard no matter what kind and I'm so glad you pointed out how well this animation shows it.
never really had my 'mom' growing up, since she was never ready to take care of me. I'm so lucky people like my aunt, grandma, and even my awesome stepmom were there to help fulfill that role. tbh i'm still not super sure of what would make an actual 'mom' to someone, since none of them ever actually portrayed any kind of soft side like that.
As someone who always had problems w her mom, whenever I see a mother and her daughter just…. Bonding or being not toxic to eachother, my brain just doesn’t think that’s normal. Least to say my mom was always pretty dismissive and cold towards me.
@@levar404 That can happen only if the mother muster the strength to look at her daughter for the way she is and acknowledge that she played a role in pushing her daughter away from a strong bond.
Same friend. As sad as it sounds, it's kinda nice to see other people who've had similar experiences with their parents, or in our cases our moms, see things like that and think it's just so abnormal even though we know it isn't. My mom and I already had a really rocky start when she had me and it only got worse a few months before I turned ten and she went from just toxic, emotionally neglectful, dismissive, and cold to dismissive, cold, and abusive. It lasted like that until I turned fifteen when she decided to try to repair our relationship. Now that I'm about to turn twenty six our relationship is finally healed enough that we're right back to where it started and she doesn't seem all that interested in repairing it any further. I guess she thinks this is good enough. Parents suck
So much same. My relationship with my birth mom(emotionally immature/neglectful) strains my ability to nuture a relationship with my Bonus Mom who is her polar opposite. Things that are natural to do for my Bonus Mom make me question and panic though there is No threat or Need to Fear. It sucks but therapy is getting me to understand and learn.
Same... a lot of women my age are open with their mom. But... me? Last time I was open with my mom about sexual things or feminine hygiene she called me a whore and a slut. "Oh you're wanting to use birth control? Are you planning to start sleeping with a lot of boys? Do you wanna look like the town slut?" "Oh you want summers eve feminine wash? You know only where's use that stuff right?" "Oh you wanna use tampons? You wanna stretch yourself out?" Just horrific things to a developing 13 year old who's already self conscious of her self with an ED.
The clothing the kids are wearing was a nice subtle touch! The little bunny is allowed to wear a dinosaur suit, expressing themself. The koala clearly likes a more punk style, but in the backstory, she's wearing a pink dress and pearl earrings... probably chosen by her mother. This was a beautiful animation!
A detail I really appreciate is that the owner of the laundromat is clearly a “mom-friend.” The intro shows that she works with a lot of customers and spends a lot of her time teaching people how to do their laundry. She actively demonstrates the kind of maternal care and patience that she wasn’t shown herself, and I think that’s something a lot of people in real life can relate to as well.
What im seeing her mom was being such judgemental was because she didnt recognize it was her own daughter's shop (from the fact she turned around before the mom can get a really good at her). when she finally notices ans was pushed off. She realizes how disconnected she was from her snd tries to make amends. She tried her push her away so much that caused the mental breakdown. You can tell how scared she was when she frozed fron the hug. But she knew she cant avoid any longer and tries to mend their relationship since the mom looks truely sorry.
@@PersonTP The daughter willingly hugged her back. She was just surprised and unused to it. Not everything that someone does who used to be hurtful is always malicious. There needs to be room to allow people to change. It would be different if the mom were clearly blaming the daughter for feeling bad, but here she takes full responsibility. Also, it's a short animation. There isn't time to explore the nuances of forgiveness and the gradual process of healing.
My father hugged me for the first time when I was 16, I froze and couldn't do anything but sob. He then said that was the last time he hugged me because I'm ungrateful and don't deserve his attention. He hugged me right after complaining that I was wearing platform boots that MY MOM gave me and saying that my mom's cancer was my fault and I ruined her possibly last time going out in her life(he was screaming at me the whole trip and the whole time we were there). I remember how he always looked at me with disgust since I started expressing myself minimally. I remember him saying nobody would ever love me. I remember him telling me I was a shame to the family because I cried over "just a bird"(my cockatiel) when I was 9. I remember saying I won't get far in life, and even if I do he won't be proud of me because I won't deserve any of that. I remember him saying he doesn't share any family pics because I'm in them and he's ashamed of me. I literally could only cut my hair half as short as I always wanted at fucking 15. I've always wanted short hair. I'm not allowed to cut or dye my hair, have piercings, heavy makeup, baggy clothes or any of that stuff. I'm 17. Fucking 17. And he still won't let me work because apparently I just "want to go out and do shit behind" his back. I still kinda work my way around the clothes stuff and buy them with my own money, but whenever I wear them I'll get shitted on for 4 hours straight on how I disrespect them and have no love at all for them, that they never did me wrong for me to be this cold to them. They abused me my whole life. He threatened to t0rtvr3 me for something that wasn't even my choice.
Girl i feel so bad for you, your father is a shitty one like parents are there to care and support you, not to put you down even in your deepest part of your life.I really hope your father becomes a better person and change for the better.
I’m so sorry that this is happening! Your father sounds like a terrible man, and I hope that once you turn 18 (a legal adult) you might be able to get more say in your OWN life! I’m truly sorry that he is like this.
Honey, I too had such an abusive father who said very bad things to me since I was little and beat me, I was only able to breathe again when I left the house and loosened relationships with my family, think that between Soon you will be of age and will be able to build your own life, I hope so with all my heart
I'm very sorry your going through all of this :[ It seems very unfair that you don't get to make your own choices and be in a better situation just because your father is this terrible, I'm sure your gonna have a much better life as an adult where your not bound by anything he does. Hang tight ❤I hope your doing better in the present.
I like the detail of the daughter's childhood bed at 1:41 having goth skull sheets hidden underneath a pink blanket, showing the side of herself that she was hiding from her mom.
My mom isn't perfect. She never will be. She made mistakes, but she's making up for them. I couldn't be happier about the relationship with my mom now. She was never horrible, but she didn't make all the right decisions when I was younger. Above all, she's always been there for support, she just didn't give it the way I needed for a long time.
Maaaan I felt this so much. No matter how old or independent I get I feels like my mom can walk into my life and have me feel like a child. I'm glad this relationship got a happy ending.
I’m glad to see it be good but a small part of me also wanted to see it end differently. Sometimes parents suck and your relationship won’t mend since they don’t see any problems with it and won’t try. Sorry, I am still happy to see a happy ending and an actual troubled mom relationship be portrayed. However I would like to see one where it ends up similar to the “dead beat dad” type story where you are able to move on from them and heal despite them not ever getting better. Maybe that’s more so just my issues talking haha but still sometimes it doesn’t work out like this.
@@RaspBerryPiesTheres actually a couple of those but I sadly don’t remember the names, however I will say the confusing relationships between a child and their abusive parent and trying to better themselves definitley still is undertalked. I think both are worth talking about, imo if you really wanna see something best bet is to write it yourself so it gets all your expectations. However I hope you are doing well.
This actually made me cry. It’s just like my mom. Being gentle wasn’t her thing. She wanted to make me a strong warrior. She got it..but the strong warrior was still broken inside, and she didn’t help the warrior when she needed it most. Because she was afraid of getting hurt by the person who made her this way.
I like that the bunny mom still has her kid help her clean up the mess. I think that's great detail because there are parents who show no care or punishment for their kid's mistakes at all. The child cleaning up their mess still teaches them what they did wrong and that they need to help fix their mistake, and the bunny mom does it in a way that's not scary.
I appreciate that the mom wasn't depicted as wholly evil, rather severely strict and emotionally unavailable, as that is the more common attitude they have. I think it adds to the confusing emotions, as while her mother was strict, she wasn't irredeemably cruel, and I imagine that would make it harder to deal with, because you might even feel guilty for resenting your parents, believing that, since you weren't horrifically abused like other victims, you aren't allowed to feel resentment. Maybe a small part of the protagonist thought that she was unfair towards her mother for being angry at her, and that her mother wasn't all that bad, and yet this doubt conflicts with her trauma over the mother's treatment of her. The protagonist was right in her emotions, and that moment of reconciliation was her mother meant the protagonist was acknowledging the hurt, while realising there was a way to right the pain. A slow but steady healing process, assuming the mother is willing to keep it up.
I can relate to this animated short. I have no issues with my mom, but me and my stepdad haven't always got along. However, I realize that deep down, he does care about me too and just doesn't show it like my mom does. But whether it's your mom or father, a stepparent or both, we shouldn't have to feel like our own parents don't like or care about us.
1:19 it was sad when she was gonna reach out to the kid and than look stunned that the mom just laughed it off and help her kid. Like she didnt think moms arent loving because of her mom
this reminds me so much of the relationship i have with my mom, things were really rocky between us during my childhood but as i’ve gotten older, we’ve gotten better at understanding each other, we’re far from perfect but it makes me happy to be closer to her now
My mom abused me for a while. The part where the mom takes the one bottle to put back, but the other grabs it, I felt that deeply for an experience. For me, it gave me the same feelings from when I was finally free for a little bit of her wrath, she forced herself back into my life. Not only that, but trying to "make up for it" with actions but not actual words or taking responsibility for the effect she actually caused. Then theres me grabbing back at the bottle, like thats my life, you are not allowed anywhere near any part of it no matter how small or minor it is, you cannot just push yourself onto me to make up for the past. Her tugging back it would be all the chances I gave her to actually do something, let me do therapy, support my identity, etc, her tugging back is her denying and taking away whats mine, to turn it into hers, how she wants it, how she wants me to be. She had every chance to be an actual mother. I gave her more chances than anyone else ever would have. You do not get to choose whether or not I forgive you or want you in my life. Then that bottle that falls, it would be her reason to snap back again at me, that thats what happens because I wont accept anything from her. Manipulate me that without her, my life is terrible basically. I personally will never forgive her or want anything ever from her ever again. She was the only parent I had, because she forced my father out of my life from how abusive she is that he had to escape too. I went to the mental hospital at 14, for my own attempt because of her. a week later I came home and she flushed away 3 months of anti- depressants down the toilet and called my doctor and lied saying I was doing yoga exercises and "essential oils" and to remove my prescription. For anti depressants. Because they "changed me." and "made me look terrible all the time, always breaking out and redness" and that "its not like its helping you anyway" I truly cannot wait for the day she is gone. Sometimes I hope she gets in an accident where shes forced to suffer till her end. She ruined her life as a kid and decided to ruin her kids life too. I have severe brain damage thats permanent for the rest of my life because of her. I have body injuries that will never heal, aches and pains that will never go away, because of her. I hate her. I hate her with everything I have and more.
I don’t know if this was the meaning of your title- but SUDs made me think of the mental health acronym Subjective Units of Destress, which fits the story. Moreover, I like how the mother, when meeting her child in the future, looks at her with sorrowful eyes. Many times with these types of stories where the teen grows away from their strict parent, the parent is scornful and wonders why their child doesn’t visit (unable to see their errors). However, while this Mom still doesn’t understand her child, she knows she’s at fault for how she treated them in the past as she looks at them with eyes full of regret and reaches out to them many a time
It’s nice seeing something that doesn’t portray having issues with a father but with a mother, my mom isn’t from America. She’s from El Salvador so she was obviously raised in a different manner, especially since she grew up during a war. She’s always been more harsh on me than my father. At times, even getting so upset as to saying things that she doesn’t mean but in the heat of the moment spew out And struggles with apologizing, but she’s working on it. My dad has always been the gentle one in the relationship and my mom has always been very stern but that doesn’t mean I don’t love her sometimes I think back to when I was little and how she used to punish me sometimes it would be a spanking, but other times she would say things that would hurt a lot more than getting spanked. She now realizes her mistakes and has become a little bit more gentle. She still is learning and it’s hard to break habit, especially when it’s one that you were raised with even now that I’m much older and in high school she still sometimes says things that hurt, but I can definitely relate to 2:35 when the mom is criticizing things the daughter has an in the laundromat sometimes my mom is like that with my stuff, but my dad reminds her that i’m my own person and I’m gonna have my own style and she’s slowly coming to terms with that especially since I’m more expressing myself now that I’m older
This is actually the most relatable animation I’ve ever seen in my life. As a person with a similar aesthetic as the protagonist and has the fear of making mistakes because of my mom, I was mesmerized by this masterpiece.
Unfortunately those moms usually don't change, only get worse with age and never feel sorry or regretful. Even when they pretend to love you it's a manipulation to gain something back from you.
Amazing communication through body language, a tough thing to pull off with no real spoken dialogue. Love the colors and the mood the music adds too! Great work!
Ah the pain of seeing a compassionate mother loving her child and laughing with them, I know it too well 🥲 Love how the mom gently grabs her ear, and for a second she thinks it's out of love, only for her to realize she's just criticizing her... Even without words, that emotion comes across very well, tuggin' at my childhood trauma bro 😂 Wonderful animation and design, 10/10 ❤😊
Animation! Telling a story with no words! This is why I want to become an animator and your work is truly beautiful. I love the way you gave some lines life! The way we could understand the story with no words, every frame being planned and everything having detail with no words like the characters. ❤❤❤
I want to thank everyone who helped make this animation a reality. My own mother was very similar, but I do not believe she will ever really try to fix our relationship because I am trans and she has decided she would rather have me go no contact and move to the other side of the world than use my preferred name or pronouns. She was always embarrassed of me, and I believe she feels attacked by me being trans. I am glad I can somewhat live vicariously through this animation and get to see someone be accepted by their mother and potentially repair their relationship.
My mother wasn’t particularly harsh, nor did she yell, but she GLARED. I felt ignored, maybe not neglected at all, but ignored. scared to wake up my mom. Scared to tell her things. scared to make mistakes. I didn’t trust myself to touch other peoples things. I was so convinced that I ruined things that I touched. I was afraid when teachers asked me to do things for the class, not because I was shy, I was just afraid of making a mistake and disappointing someone again.
I love this so much...IV been watching it on repeat. My favorite part is the mother seeing her daughter and checking her earrings out and tugging on them. Not sure why she was doing that? 🤔. They are very similar to her own just black and shorter
It was different in style, the mothers was a gold, and to my understanding they were to be very dressy earrings, while the daughters is to more represent a more punky very pierced kind of earring situation
If only all it took was such a thing to mend relationships. I'm still upset with all the pain my mom caused ad knowing she doesn't think she did anything wrong, or said "Okay, I'm a "bad" mom, so what." Still makes things almost irreparable. Couldn't even go to my Nana's funeral with that side of the family.
This is so heartfelt! I think it's a good message that you don't have to change yourself, but you can still understand someone else and meet them halfway, whether you're the kid or the parent.
I can relate bc my mom calls me names and gets mad really easy so I cry a lot and idk how to make it better so the only way I’m really happy is when at school or with my bf
@@ConnieCranford Please tell me you've found a safe adult to tell these things to. You'll need a safe place if things go awry, even if just for the night.
Oh, how I wish my mother would treat me like this, actually realizing her mistakes and trying to fix them. She always acted so sickly sweet the few times she interacted with me, treating me like a brainless toddler and constantly lying to me and manipulating me emotionally to rely on her and no one else, ranting at me and forcing me to listen if I expressed the slightest different opinion, then spent the majority of her days ignoring me entirely, not even buying food, so I was starving most of the time. I wish my mother would be like the mother here, even though I know that'll never happen.
belts with the metal rings hurt a lot more then paper towels... I truly hope more people have better childhoods then homecell, hang on to those family's and freinships n stuff hard to repair some of them but if its not impossible ~♡
My real mom yes she was never really there to care with me. She left. She took her drugs. She did not care for my health and my well-being when I was born so I can relate to this animation. omg thanks for 19 likes that means a lot 🥹 OMG MY COMMENT WAS HIGHLIGTED!!!!!!!!!!!
It’s just really sad to me that so many people have gone through the same thing, that it became an integral part of childhood to be afraid of parents and mistakes
This would have to be the best animation I have ever seen, the two relationships between the mother and the child working out at the end really warmed my heart 10/10 on the animation
4:10 I feel like the rigid lines in that scene is a great design choice- as I theorize myself that it might show that it still isn’t perfect, but it’s working, just like the animation.
When ever I see a mom and her daughte bonding and being so nice and kind to each other. i just immediately feel heart warmed since I never ever got attention by my mom and dad ;)
this made me so sad due to me relating to the unstable mother relationship in the video. When the mother starts being loving to her daughter and starts crying thats how i react when my mum even gives me a simple bit of affection. but ofcourse the rudeness continues for me. This honestly portrays so many mother and daughter issues so well
This honestly makes me think of how I was treated and (probably) tricked in a sense to make me think I had a happier childhood than I did- it’s sad how much this speaks to me
Sometimes when i see other moms whom are gentle and kind ya know A MOM I get envious because its not how my mom was this reminded me somewhat of my own mother i was not ready to heal even the daughter dresses like me and shi. Atleast it means others have went thru this and felt like a disappointment especially the piercing tug part I've felt that way to many times
This hits really hard- I haven’t really gotten to the point in my relationship with my mother where it’s getting better. She thinks we have a good bond but we really don’t.
It's cool to see the ending work out between son/daughter and mother, but unfortunately it's not always like that, some people hurt us just with their presence. If you want to fix a relationship then fix it,But if not... don't hurt yourself trying
This got me crying so much. im always worrying about what others think and not what I think and always end up hurting myself. Ty for the reminder of God's love ♥️
Lo qué más duele de todo es qué muchos niños viven la escena del vaso derramado cuándo le tiraron el trapo pero muy pocos llegan a la parte de la aprobación
It didn't really feel like the mom improved as a person so I really don't think the daughter should've given her anymore chances :\ the mom just seemed like a huge asshole and if the daughter keeps her in her life she'll probably just get hurt more
While I agree with this and I’m not trying to excuse what the mom was like there’s a whole multitude of reasons as to why the mom could be like this and the fact that she was trying to repair this relationship that she knew that she messed up takes some serious responsibility however I do agree that the daughter shouldn’t have to forgive her however you can also think of it as the daughter repairing the relationship but maybe not fully forgiving her
God it reminds me of my mom. Its always so heartbreaking to look around and see other mothers being gentle with their childs mistakes knowing you grew up being afraid of making them.
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I think it’s nice that parents are gentler nowadays so their kids don’t have to grow up scared the way we did
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I grew up without my mom, but I have a young brother who is not my father's son. It hurts to see her being so affectionate with him and having neglected me my whole life
The way the mother bunny looks so exhausted but still treats her child with respect and love, even if he made a mistake 🥺
Uhm… It’s a koala but okay.
@@theplushees dude she's not talking about the main characters, she's talking about the bunnies
@@theplusheesthey’re talking about the bunnies, dum dum
The person who said "Uhm... It's a koala but okay" is a kid who makes Roblox videos and joined in 2023. Don't worry about it.
It reminds me of my mother, she always was and is good at all times
I love how they don’t need words to show the emotion in having a bad relationship with your mom and be able to overcome it
You talking to me
@@GageMead that doesn’t even make sense
Don't care
@@GageMead ok??? Then stop talking I mean clearly this isn’t even a conversation anymore this is just confusing
@@GageMeadThat isnt even the point of this comment so shut your goofy Aaa mouth Okay??You are just like the others...
Finally something that doesn't portray daddy issues but with mom. Some people are not lucky enough to have a present mother who cares about you.
Ikr ☹️
My mom and me have issues because of how controlling she is. And she sees nothing wrong with how she acts even when I cry to her about them. Instead, it's always about her. Yes, she tries her best, but she needs therapy and refuses to go. My dad was the only one in my family who hurt me and apologized. Mommy issues are hard no matter what kind and I'm so glad you pointed out how well this animation shows it.
Same here but my mom doesn't try to get better..
never really had my 'mom' growing up, since she was never ready to take care of me. I'm so lucky people like my aunt, grandma, and even my awesome stepmom were there to help fulfill that role. tbh i'm still not super sure of what would make an actual 'mom' to someone, since none of them ever actually portrayed any kind of soft side like that.
@@internet-bugger974 I'm glad you had female roles who were/are there for you
As someone who always had problems w her mom, whenever I see a mother and her daughter just…. Bonding or being not toxic to eachother, my brain just doesn’t think that’s normal. Least to say my mom was always pretty dismissive and cold towards me.
I sympathize with you and hope that you have a good relationship right now
@@levar404 That can happen only if the mother muster the strength to look at her daughter for the way she is and acknowledge that she played a role in pushing her daughter away from a strong bond.
Same friend. As sad as it sounds, it's kinda nice to see other people who've had similar experiences with their parents, or in our cases our moms, see things like that and think it's just so abnormal even though we know it isn't. My mom and I already had a really rocky start when she had me and it only got worse a few months before I turned ten and she went from just toxic, emotionally neglectful, dismissive, and cold to dismissive, cold, and abusive. It lasted like that until I turned fifteen when she decided to try to repair our relationship. Now that I'm about to turn twenty six our relationship is finally healed enough that we're right back to where it started and she doesn't seem all that interested in repairing it any further. I guess she thinks this is good enough. Parents suck
So much same. My relationship with my birth mom(emotionally immature/neglectful) strains my ability to nuture a relationship with my Bonus Mom who is her polar opposite. Things that are natural to do for my Bonus Mom make me question and panic though there is No threat or Need to Fear. It sucks but therapy is getting me to understand and learn.
Same... a lot of women my age are open with their mom. But... me? Last time I was open with my mom about sexual things or feminine hygiene she called me a whore and a slut. "Oh you're wanting to use birth control? Are you planning to start sleeping with a lot of boys? Do you wanna look like the town slut?" "Oh you want summers eve feminine wash? You know only where's use that stuff right?" "Oh you wanna use tampons? You wanna stretch yourself out?" Just horrific things to a developing 13 year old who's already self conscious of her self with an ED.
The clothing the kids are wearing was a nice subtle touch! The little bunny is allowed to wear a dinosaur suit, expressing themself. The koala clearly likes a more punk style, but in the backstory, she's wearing a pink dress and pearl earrings... probably chosen by her mother.
This was a beautiful animation!
A detail I really appreciate is that the owner of the laundromat is clearly a “mom-friend.” The intro shows that she works with a lot of customers and spends a lot of her time teaching people how to do their laundry. She actively demonstrates the kind of maternal care and patience that she wasn’t shown herself, and I think that’s something a lot of people in real life can relate to as well.
What im seeing her mom was being such judgemental was because she didnt recognize it was her own daughter's shop (from the fact she turned around before the mom can get a really good at her). when she finally notices ans was pushed off. She realizes how disconnected she was from her snd tries to make amends. She tried her push her away so much that caused the mental breakdown. You can tell how scared she was when she frozed fron the hug. But she knew she cant avoid any longer and tries to mend their relationship since the mom looks truely sorry.
This is a toxic message in my opinion, she is traumatized by her and to accept that forceful apology is just enabling her.
Wdym mental breakdown? That was kinda just crying
Everyone's story is different.
@personTP everyone's story is different.
@@PersonTP The daughter willingly hugged her back. She was just surprised and unused to it. Not everything that someone does who used to be hurtful is always malicious. There needs to be room to allow people to change. It would be different if the mom were clearly blaming the daughter for feeling bad, but here she takes full responsibility. Also, it's a short animation. There isn't time to explore the nuances of forgiveness and the gradual process of healing.
i hope the parents watching this know- you(butyouunderstoodthepoint,didntyou)re kids WILL remember.
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My father hugged me for the first time when I was 16, I froze and couldn't do anything but sob.
He then said that was the last time he hugged me because I'm ungrateful and don't deserve his attention.
He hugged me right after complaining that I was wearing platform boots that MY MOM gave me and saying that my mom's cancer was my fault and I ruined her possibly last time going out in her life(he was screaming at me the whole trip and the whole time we were there).
I remember how he always looked at me with disgust since I started expressing myself minimally. I remember him saying nobody would ever love me. I remember him telling me I was a shame to the family because I cried over "just a bird"(my cockatiel) when I was 9. I remember saying I won't get far in life, and even if I do he won't be proud of me because I won't deserve any of that. I remember him saying he doesn't share any family pics because I'm in them and he's ashamed of me.
I literally could only cut my hair half as short as I always wanted at fucking 15. I've always wanted short hair. I'm not allowed to cut or dye my hair, have piercings, heavy makeup, baggy clothes or any of that stuff. I'm 17. Fucking 17. And he still won't let me work because apparently I just "want to go out and do shit behind" his back. I still kinda work my way around the clothes stuff and buy them with my own money, but whenever I wear them I'll get shitted on for 4 hours straight on how I disrespect them and have no love at all for them, that they never did me wrong for me to be this cold to them. They abused me my whole life. He threatened to t0rtvr3 me for something that wasn't even my choice.
Girl i feel so bad for you, your father is a shitty one like parents are there to care and support you, not to put you down even in your deepest part of your life.I really hope your father becomes a better person and change for the better.
I’m so sorry that this is happening! Your father sounds like a terrible man, and I hope that once you turn 18 (a legal adult) you might be able to get more say in your OWN life! I’m truly sorry that he is like this.
Honey, I too had such an abusive father who said very bad things to me since I was little and beat me, I was only able to breathe again when I left the house and loosened relationships with my family, think that between Soon you will be of age and will be able to build your own life, I hope so with all my heart
@cute11-i7g if you are a kid, I recommend not using youtube until you're older
I'm very sorry your going through all of this :[ It seems very unfair that you don't get to make your own choices and be in a better situation just because your father is this terrible, I'm sure your gonna have a much better life as an adult where your not bound by anything he does. Hang tight ❤I hope your doing better in the present.
When I saw that glass of water hit the floor, I thought so much worse things were gonna happen, which is kind of heartbreaking
I like the detail of the daughter's childhood bed at 1:41 having goth skull sheets hidden underneath a pink blanket, showing the side of herself that she was hiding from her mom.
Let me say this how can she wipe that whole thick big puddle with one tiny towel and didn't had help. I think thats why that was her worst memory.
Omg yeah!
The trauma is so sad fr 😕
1:28 this?
I think she/he meant this 1:43
@@P1LL0W_C4S3 Add a they/them and a xe/xem
My mom isn't perfect. She never will be. She made mistakes, but she's making up for them.
I couldn't be happier about the relationship with my mom now. She was never horrible, but she didn't make all the right decisions when I was younger. Above all, she's always been there for support, she just didn't give it the way I needed for a long time.
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Maaaan I felt this so much. No matter how old or independent I get I feels like my mom can walk into my life and have me feel like a child. I'm glad this relationship got a happy ending.
I’m glad to see it be good but a small part of me also wanted to see it end differently.
Sometimes parents suck and your relationship won’t mend since they don’t see any problems with it and won’t try.
Sorry, I am still happy to see a happy ending and an actual troubled mom relationship be portrayed. However I would like to see one where it ends up similar to the “dead beat dad” type story where you are able to move on from them and heal despite them not ever getting better.
Maybe that’s more so just my issues talking haha but still sometimes it doesn’t work out like this.
@@RaspBerryPiesTheres actually a couple of those but I sadly don’t remember the names, however I will say the confusing relationships between a child and their abusive parent and trying to better themselves definitley still is undertalked.
I think both are worth talking about, imo if you really wanna see something best bet is to write it yourself so it gets all your expectations.
However I hope you are doing well.
This actually made me cry. It’s just like my mom. Being gentle wasn’t her thing. She wanted to make me a strong warrior. She got it..but the strong warrior was still broken inside, and she didn’t help the warrior when she needed it most. Because she was afraid of getting hurt by the person who made her this way.
I like that the bunny mom still has her kid help her clean up the mess. I think that's great detail because there are parents who show no care or punishment for their kid's mistakes at all. The child cleaning up their mess still teaches them what they did wrong and that they need to help fix their mistake, and the bunny mom does it in a way that's not scary.
I appreciate that the mom wasn't depicted as wholly evil, rather severely strict and emotionally unavailable, as that is the more common attitude they have. I think it adds to the confusing emotions, as while her mother was strict, she wasn't irredeemably cruel, and I imagine that would make it harder to deal with, because you might even feel guilty for resenting your parents, believing that, since you weren't horrifically abused like other victims, you aren't allowed to feel resentment. Maybe a small part of the protagonist thought that she was unfair towards her mother for being angry at her, and that her mother wasn't all that bad, and yet this doubt conflicts with her trauma over the mother's treatment of her. The protagonist was right in her emotions, and that moment of reconciliation was her mother meant the protagonist was acknowledging the hurt, while realising there was a way to right the pain. A slow but steady healing process, assuming the mother is willing to keep it up.
3:46 she looked so surprised and confused while her mom is hugging her, i cried- why is it so relatable whyyyy
I can relate to this animated short. I have no issues with my mom, but me and my stepdad haven't always got along. However, I realize that deep down, he does care about me too and just doesn't show it like my mom does. But whether it's your mom or father, a stepparent or both, we shouldn't have to feel like our own parents don't like or care about us.
Womp womp 😂
@@STAM24Learn to respect others please
Rude
@@STAM24 Ew, another dude that uses "womp womp" 🤢 Like c'mon, where the hell did that even come from? A kindergartens class? Absolute cringe.
@@STAM24 Ew, another person that uses "womp womp" 🤢 Like what are you people, 7 yrs old? It's such another horribly cringy, gen alpha word lmao.
omg her skull shirt became a heart shirt at the end!! so cute
STOP THIS MADE ME WANNA CRY
This made me actually cry...
Same here
1:19 it was sad when she was gonna reach out to the kid and than look stunned that the mom just laughed it off and help her kid. Like she didnt think moms arent loving because of her mom
this reminds me so much of the relationship i have with my mom, things were really rocky between us during my childhood but as i’ve gotten older, we’ve gotten better at understanding each other, we’re far from perfect but it makes me happy to be closer to her now
My mom abused me for a while. The part where the mom takes the one bottle to put back, but the other grabs it, I felt that deeply for an experience. For me, it gave me the same feelings from when I was finally free for a little bit of her wrath, she forced herself back into my life. Not only that, but trying to "make up for it" with actions but not actual words or taking responsibility for the effect she actually caused. Then theres me grabbing back at the bottle, like thats my life, you are not allowed anywhere near any part of it no matter how small or minor it is, you cannot just push yourself onto me to make up for the past. Her tugging back it would be all the chances I gave her to actually do something, let me do therapy, support my identity, etc, her tugging back is her denying and taking away whats mine, to turn it into hers, how she wants it, how she wants me to be. She had every chance to be an actual mother. I gave her more chances than anyone else ever would have. You do not get to choose whether or not I forgive you or want you in my life. Then that bottle that falls, it would be her reason to snap back again at me, that thats what happens because I wont accept anything from her. Manipulate me that without her, my life is terrible basically. I personally will never forgive her or want anything ever from her ever again. She was the only parent I had, because she forced my father out of my life from how abusive she is that he had to escape too. I went to the mental hospital at 14, for my own attempt because of her. a week later I came home and she flushed away 3 months of anti- depressants down the toilet and called my doctor and lied saying I was doing yoga exercises and "essential oils" and to remove my prescription. For anti depressants. Because they "changed me." and "made me look terrible all the time, always breaking out and redness" and that "its not like its helping you anyway"
I truly cannot wait for the day she is gone. Sometimes I hope she gets in an accident where shes forced to suffer till her end. She ruined her life as a kid and decided to ruin her kids life too.
I have severe brain damage thats permanent for the rest of my life because of her. I have body injuries that will never heal, aches and pains that will never go away, because of her.
I hate her. I hate her with everything I have and more.
I know it's been five months but, Can I hug you? That's a lot for you to hold. 🫂
I don’t know if this was the meaning of your title- but SUDs made me think of the mental health acronym Subjective Units of Destress, which fits the story. Moreover, I like how the mother, when meeting her child in the future, looks at her with sorrowful eyes. Many times with these types of stories where the teen grows away from their strict parent, the parent is scornful and wonders why their child doesn’t visit (unable to see their errors). However, while this Mom still doesn’t understand her child, she knows she’s at fault for how she treated them in the past as she looks at them with eyes full of regret and reaches out to them many a time
I was thinking of the flu that Spongebob contracted, sneezing bubbles.
1:27 such a cute family
Especially the dino onesie x)
@@Nini-vj8sw I know it’s so cute
It’s nice seeing something that doesn’t portray having issues with a father but with a mother, my mom isn’t from America. She’s from El Salvador so she was obviously raised in a different manner, especially since she grew up during a war. She’s always been more harsh on me than my father. At times, even getting so upset as to saying things that she doesn’t mean but in the heat of the moment spew out And struggles with apologizing, but she’s working on it. My dad has always been the gentle one in the relationship and my mom has always been very stern but that doesn’t mean I don’t love her sometimes I think back to when I was little and how she used to punish me sometimes it would be a spanking, but other times she would say things that would hurt a lot more than getting spanked. She now realizes her mistakes and has become a little bit more gentle. She still is learning and it’s hard to break habit, especially when it’s one that you were raised with even now that I’m much older and in high school she still sometimes says things that hurt, but I can definitely relate to 2:35 when the mom is criticizing things the daughter has an in the laundromat sometimes my mom is like that with my stuff, but my dad reminds her that i’m my own person and I’m gonna have my own style and she’s slowly coming to terms with that especially since I’m more expressing myself now that I’m older
3:37 Don't rub your eyes! You're covered in laundry detergent! You are going to get it in your eyes!
Good observation, Crazycatboysolomon7006
This is actually the most relatable animation I’ve ever seen in my life. As a person with a similar aesthetic as the protagonist and has the fear of making mistakes because of my mom, I was mesmerized by this masterpiece.
Unfortunately those moms usually don't change, only get worse with age and never feel sorry or regretful. Even when they pretend to love you it's a manipulation to gain something back from you.
some truth being spat there, I've been through the same back and forth with mine a million times over
They do change IF they see that what they did was wrong. Mums who always pretend to be perfect will never have a change of heart.
Amazing communication through body language, a tough thing to pull off with no real spoken dialogue. Love the colors and the mood the music adds too! Great work!
Ah the pain of seeing a compassionate mother loving her child and laughing with them, I know it too well 🥲 Love how the mom gently grabs her ear, and for a second she thinks it's out of love, only for her to realize she's just criticizing her... Even without words, that emotion comes across very well, tuggin' at my childhood trauma bro 😂
Wonderful animation and design, 10/10 ❤😊
Dude, what a beautiful animation, and it even talks about facts that really exist.
I love happy endings! 💕💞
Same❤
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Elsa????
Animation! Telling a story with no words! This is why I want to become an animator and your work is truly beautiful. I love the way you gave some lines life! The way we could understand the story with no words, every frame being planned and everything having detail with no words like the characters. ❤❤❤
I want to thank everyone who helped make this animation a reality. My own mother was very similar, but I do not believe she will ever really try to fix our relationship because I am trans and she has decided she would rather have me go no contact and move to the other side of the world than use my preferred name or pronouns. She was always embarrassed of me, and I believe she feels attacked by me being trans. I am glad I can somewhat live vicariously through this animation and get to see someone be accepted by their mother and potentially repair their relationship.
My mother wasn’t particularly harsh, nor did she yell, but she GLARED.
I felt ignored, maybe not neglected at all, but ignored.
scared to wake up my mom.
Scared to tell her things.
scared to make mistakes.
I didn’t trust myself to touch other peoples things.
I was so convinced that I ruined things that I touched.
I was afraid when teachers asked me to do things for the class, not because I was shy, I was just afraid of making a mistake and disappointing someone again.
I feel you…
I love this so much...IV been watching it on repeat. My favorite part is the mother seeing her daughter and checking her earrings out and tugging on them. Not sure why she was doing that? 🤔. They are very similar to her own just black and shorter
She disapproves of it, hence the tug and the look
It was different in style, the mothers was a gold, and to my understanding they were to be very dressy earrings, while the daughters is to more represent a more punky very pierced kind of earring situation
If only all it took was such a thing to mend relationships. I'm still upset with all the pain my mom caused ad knowing she doesn't think she did anything wrong, or said "Okay, I'm a "bad" mom, so what." Still makes things almost irreparable. Couldn't even go to my Nana's funeral with that side of the family.
This sent me into tears, my dad always treated me in such a horrible way. Ive always been scared of him
This is so heartfelt! I think it's a good message that you don't have to change yourself, but you can still understand someone else and meet them halfway, whether you're the kid or the parent.
We're all lucky we have a mom that loves us❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I can relate bc my mom calls me names and gets mad really easy so I cry a lot and idk how to make it better so the only way I’m really happy is when at school or with my bf
Sounds like you should break off contact to your mother.
Yeah well I would but I’m 13 so I can’t really but I’m just going to pray it gets better which it kinda is
@@ConnieCranford Please tell me you've found a safe adult to tell these things to. You'll need a safe place if things go awry, even if just for the night.
@@ConnieCranfordJesus loves you ❤
And remember He always cares for you :)
so heartbreaking... this made me cry alot..
Same
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Oh, how I wish my mother would treat me like this, actually realizing her mistakes and trying to fix them. She always acted so sickly sweet the few times she interacted with me, treating me like a brainless toddler and constantly lying to me and manipulating me emotionally to rely on her and no one else, ranting at me and forcing me to listen if I expressed the slightest different opinion, then spent the majority of her days ignoring me entirely, not even buying food, so I was starving most of the time. I wish my mother would be like the mother here, even though I know that'll never happen.
This environment is so beautiful, and the characters are so cute and well animated
I enjoy new topics on TH-cam and fresh new animations from beginning artists vs long time experience ones. I love this film now.
It reminds of my mom, and that we've patched up, because even though we're not perfect, we still love each other
3:00 NOOO THAT WAS SO SAD SHE THOUGHT SHE WAS BEING HELD FOR HALF A SECOND
belts with the metal rings hurt a lot more then paper towels... I truly hope more people have better childhoods then homecell, hang on to those family's and freinships n stuff hard to repair some of them but if its not impossible ~♡
The people who go through this are always the nicest ppl
I love the fact that she actually took the time to visit her. Even after what they have been through
My real mom yes she was never really there to care with me. She left. She took her drugs. She did not care for my health and my well-being when I was born so I can relate to this animation.
omg thanks for 19 likes that means a lot 🥹
OMG MY COMMENT WAS HIGHLIGTED!!!!!!!!!!!
It’s just really sad to me that so many people have gone through the same thing, that it became an integral part of childhood to be afraid of parents and mistakes
This would have to be the best animation I have ever seen, the two relationships between the mother and the child working out at the end really warmed my heart 10/10 on the animation
4:10 I feel like the rigid lines in that scene is a great design choice- as I theorize myself that it might show that it still isn’t perfect, but it’s working, just like the animation.
When ever I see a mom and her daughte bonding and being so nice and kind to each other. i just immediately feel heart warmed since I never ever got attention by my mom and dad ;)
i love how her shirt Go's as a heart at the end
Her skull shirt got detergent on it, so she changed to a heart T-shirt
@@snichols1973 Yeah i Know.
From now on, I almost cried!!😢❤️🩹
Man this hurt. My relationship with my mother has always been... complicated so I really appreciate this short film!
this made me so sad due to me relating to the unstable mother relationship in the video. When the mother starts being loving to her daughter and starts crying thats how i react when my mum even gives me a simple bit of affection. but ofcourse the rudeness continues for me. This honestly portrays so many mother and daughter issues so well
I'm actually crying how relatable this is, wasn't expecting tears 10/10
This animation is so adorable
I had tears In my eyes and I cried when I wrote this😢
This almost made me cry
Same 😢
This honestly makes me think of how I was treated and (probably) tricked in a sense to make me think I had a happier childhood than I did- it’s sad how much this speaks to me
genuinely crying like i had ti take my glasses off from tears
100% honest? Absolutely stunning all around, it made me cry because I had a tough relationship with my own mom growing up. Good work!!!
So touching 💖💖💖 One of the best animations I have seen!!!
Sometimes when i see other moms whom are gentle and kind ya know A MOM I get envious because its not how my mom was this reminded me somewhat of my own mother i was not ready to heal even the daughter dresses like me and shi. Atleast it means others have went thru this and felt like a disappointment especially the piercing tug part I've felt that way to many times
This hits really hard- I haven’t really gotten to the point in my relationship with my mother where it’s getting better. She thinks we have a good bond but we really don’t.
so pretty. and very smooth
Its crazy how people can tell stories and express so much emotion without speaking
I do not see how the mom is disappointed in her daughter. The idea of a punk/goth themed laundromat is cool.
Finally something I can relate to
This made me cry so bad omg
It's cool to see the ending work out between son/daughter and mother, but unfortunately it's not always like that, some people hurt us just with their presence. If you want to fix a relationship then fix it,But if not... don't hurt yourself trying
Aww
So Wholesome
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even though its hard to make me smile but easy to make me cry, this put a smile on my face when the girl gained her relation with her mom back
I wish it was that easy... I mean, maybe it is for some people idk. Loved the animation
This got me crying so much. im always worrying about what others think and not what I think and always end up hurting myself. Ty for the reminder of God's love ♥️
Lo qué más duele de todo es qué muchos niños viven la escena del vaso derramado cuándo le tiraron el trapo pero muy pocos llegan a la parte de la aprobación
This... I... I'm at a loss of words to be honest... This nearly made me cry
I’m not even sure why I’m watching it but it’s so heartwarming
I loved it a lot. It was very sad. It was more happier. You did very good. Keep it up.😊
At the end of the video it said Sheridan college, it must mean that the koala’s name is Sheridan and she’s in college 4:30
I love my mom she’s just like the rabbit mom :)❤
I love the animation but honestly these people don't change like that because they saw their child cry, I know from experience
THIS MADE ME CRY! SO MUCH EMOTION AND BEAUTIFUL TOO
Well done!!
Very heartwarming :)
If only parents were actually like this.
It kinda reminds me of my father patching things up with my grandmother. She still has her times where I can’t stand her, but still.
It didn't really feel like the mom improved as a person so I really don't think the daughter should've given her anymore chances :\ the mom just seemed like a huge asshole and if the daughter keeps her in her life she'll probably just get hurt more
Yeah I felt the same
agreed. I didn't see any reason for any change of heart, but there's omly so much you can do as a project
While I agree with this and I’m not trying to excuse what the mom was like there’s a whole multitude of reasons as to why the mom could be like this and the fact that she was trying to repair this relationship that she knew that she messed up takes some serious responsibility however I do agree that the daughter shouldn’t have to forgive her however you can also think of it as the daughter repairing the relationship but maybe not fully forgiving her
This really makes me cry a lot I love this Animation ❤️❤️❤️
I'm crying
Важно в семье - это понимать друг друга и исправить ошибки, иначе это разобьёт отношения с членами семьи...
Автору этого мульта, ламповый респект❤
Am I the only one who cried at this animation??, I was always afraid that the relationship with my mother would be like this... 😭❤
i really like the art for this