EXTREME BEDROOM DECLUTTER | Before & After || Confessions of an Emotional Hoarder (pt 3)
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- Never in my life have I felt so much peace in my bedroom.
Here it is, the final video in this first chapter of my house-decluttering series. I knew the bedroom would take a WHILE. It held almost a decade of emotional items, and sorting through all of those years was bound to take a few weeks. So far, I don't regret ANY of this decluttering. I don't miss my wardrobe items, I don't miss the decor I've purged, I don't miss the extra jewelry, the makeup, the hats. All I feel is absolute joy and peace.
I hope you'll all join me next week for the kitchen declutter!
Much love,
Kristina
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Gentle reminder that this is not simply a "nesting phase." If you have watched the other two videos, I mentioned that I have been working toward being in a healthy mental space to declutter my home for two or more years - and have been decluttering that entire time. While I have learned to laugh it off and most things don't bother me, as a creator with several mental health struggles that have culminated in a home full of clutter, it can get overwhelming to see all of my (years of) hard work get labeled as as a temporary phase due to the end of a pregnancy.
The only real part of this unplanned pregnancy that has affected why I am doing it now is that I know how much harder it will be to do with a newborn around.
And for all those wondering when I'm due, March 9 ;)
Much love! xo
I don't think anyone meant to offend with the nesting comment. 🙂🥰
Kristina you have done an incredible job! Very inspiring. Your bedroom is beautiful and so reflective of all the things that you dearly love. I so enjoy your channel (longtime sub, occasional commenter ;0) I too am a sentimental, vintage loving non-minimalist! I have spent the past few years going through the house and only keeping what I truly love. It has been a very freeing experience. I still adore thrifting but have made myself a promise that if something new comes in than something else goes out. So far it has worked well. Honestly the thrill of thrifting at any of our local stores here in the South Sound has been a bit frustrating as "thrifting" has become the new "trend" which seems to have made prices skyrocket! I did get a few lovely items at V. Village last week (thank you 20% off coupon that I got for donating!) I would love to see more "day in the life" and "de-cluttering" style videos, all of your videos are lovely. I hope that you continue to enjoy the winter months and do remember to put your feet up and take care of yourself. I too have to remind myself that as wife and mother "I cannot fill from an empty cup."
KRISTINA U have done such a wonderful Job. The room.looks so Kozy an konfy an Spacious.I love it
Congratulations 🎉🎉 how wonderful❤
I love that you are being proactive about changes in the new year. That's really really important! And it can be very difficult, but it is absolutely worth it and you are doing great!
This will sound weird. Watching your de-cluttering videos, I feel like I’m watching myself trying to take care of my own cluttered life. You’ve been very inspiring.
Agreed!
It's bedtime here, but I'm thinking if I turn on this series when I'm working on my own bedroom, I won't feel so alone and hopefully will avoid the decision fatigue burnout that always stops me.
Yes
@@lbatemon1158I'm OCD, among other things, and I think "I can't make it perfect right now so what's the point"? And then I do nothing bc it's so overwhelming
I'd like to shop your perge
The physical, mental and emotional strength it took to achieve this. You should be so proud of yourself and what a great example to set for the kiddos. ❤
You are so gloriously relatable! Thank you!!
I love that you are decluttering a "normal" house. The after pictures do make me breathe easier, hope it still does that for you too!
My.Dear.Girl! You are one HARD worker!! You've done a FABULOUS job decluttering your bedroom. Holy Smokes! You should be very proud of yourself.
I am so so proud of how you've been doing with this (and in all fairness, if you went through and only got rid of 2 things, I'd STILL be proud of you!). My husband is also a keeper and I can completely sympathise with how difficult this process can be, how emotional if can be, and the fact that you are doing this in front of the camera for the world to see is SO brave. You've done so amazingly well.
Great job young lady! I started my journey 2 years ago, if not used in a year, it was donated. I am much older, and I didn't want my retirement to involve daily cleaning, nor did I want my loved ones to go through my things when I am gone. I feel lighter, less stressed, and it's okay to take a break, it's hard to break a habit, especially if just beginning.
Forgot to ask, what has been your husband's reaction? Take care!
Oh he’s so happy about it 😂 he grew up with a mom who is sort of minimalist and he doesn’t mind STUFF but he loves getting rid of things.
Declutterred spaces leads to a decluttered mind:) you are incredible!! Such an inspiration (your cats are adorable) ❤
@@WithLoveKristinathat's wonderful, my husband is quite the opposite, he is used to holsing on to the stuff because his Mom is a hoarder
Your musical choices are brilliant. I'm usually distracted by music in videos, but I'm actually really enjoying your decluttering segments with the very expressive music! I feel like the music is describing your emotions as you do the work. Just perfect.
Your room is so cozy and inviting and homey. Is that an aesthetic? 😂 It should be!!
Girl clean doesn't always mean Pinterest ready. This is such an improvement, and I'm sure you feel the difference!
When I call it "curating my collections," it feels so much better than when I call it "decluttering my stuff." You did such a great job! I hope you weren't sore long, and I'll bet it was worth it. For me it was crucial to have a tidy house when a baby was on the way. The kids are a charming inclusion in this video. OMG, that little voice in the background! So cute. And your little-man assistant. Carpe diem those days (which I lovingly remember as the "sticky years"). I'm a new sub and enjoying you very much. ttfn ~ Somebody's Gramma
I know a lot of people will think you kept too much but as someone who struggles to let things go I am so proud of you for working through those feelings to find what will actually make you happy. This is an amazing step forward 🎉
We are kindred spirits
I love how much you love your home and your things.❤❤❤
Way to film, declutter, edit and show a real average home like so many of us have. It’s so sweet.
Hoarding is an inward sign of loss. Loss of family, relationship..you comfort yourself by having the things around you love.. one of my ways of not cluttering is take photos ! Truly helped me.. I can not imagine what you’ve gone through young lady..but, your very strong and tackle things on your own! Bravo! Love your site..
I saw where a lady, for each dress took a zip lock bag and hung it on the hanger with the gloves and jewelry for that dress. That way she had matching outfits and not a lot of extra stored and forgotten. She did not waste time picking out her accessories as they were ready and waiting.
I do that when I travel! I never thought to do that at home! That’s a great idea-although I wear the same accessories most days
That’s brilliant!
I love these videos, you have a very calming presence and you are very agreeable to watch and to listen to. I am happy to see you tackle things that may affect your mental health to bring some positive change. I am prone to hoarding myself, especially my old clothes and school stuff, these videos inspire me to not let it take over my life.
This was so awesome. I don't know you personally, but I am so proud of you. You must have done half the work before you started, because you knew exactly your course of action and had made up your mind to get this completed. Looking forward to the rest of your success and the precious baby.
I know you said that your room isn’t “aesthetic”, but I think it’s cute! I think we place too much emphasis on “picture perfect” rooms vs. really lived in spaces that reflect the interests and personalities of people there. 😊
Right? It has such a warm vibe.
Before and After is so satisfying. Also love the braid crown hairstyle so much!
I love your house. It's a home. I love your way of decorating your home. It's just lovely & your home is real! ❤
Watching you for years, and never have I felt more “connected” with you than in this series.
My bedroom and two closets are in the before category. In front of my clothes closet is a mountain of clothes spilling over laundry baskets. Vintage dresser, emotional hoarder, collector of decor and props, and also always a single mom working full time.
This winter you are inspiring me to evaluate my entire thought process and do what you have done.
My pretty home - but I don’t have people over - my messy bedroom - the piles do not allow me to start a day with calm and confidence.
Your tears and struggle combined with determination are REAL inspiration. Real life, real struggle. Thank you so much!!!!!
I remember the collars,we always wore them over sweaters, like sweater girl style.
I grew up in the 40's and 50's. My father was a major in WW2 and my mother lived very frugally, being the daughter of a Colonel and army surgeon who traveled the world all through WW1. I've never seen a house quite like this video. Not that I've never gone through stuff and drastically reduced an oversupply. I got into thrifting everything for years and once counted 33 little dresses for my baby daughter hanging in the closet, some of which she never wore. The thinking was, if they are so cheap, and a little is good, then a lot must be better. Also one day I was appalled to not be able to get my fingers between the hangers in my closet. My life changed that day and since then I've kept a grip on what I would call illogical buying. So though stuff was never piled around, I understand the impulse to over-buy. It is a great relief to lean into giving things away in proportion to accumulating more things which in the end don't lead to happiness or fulfillment. In fact, three times in my life I have literally gotten rid of everything so that all my belongings fit into the trunk of a car. Those were the times I felt the most free and realized how little I needed to be fully functional. Yes it's different with children in the picture but if they don't learn a certain sparseness in the home they have a difficult time really grasping financial wisdom in the future. I learned some good useful things in your cleaning and decluttering videos which will come in handy in the future. Emotional attachment to things is certainly real. Since I'm 81 I think a lot about what is worth saving and passing down to my family. Not much! Honestly, my most valuable possession is my Bible.
I think declutter videos are as therapeutic for me as they are for my youtubers, they are my favorite type of videos.
Every time you said you were letting something go I cheered for you! “When in doubt, throw it out!”
Beautiful music . Great camera . Also I can tell you’re finding your groove and getting better at letting go. It seemed like you don’t freeze up when deciding what goes where. Keep it up !
Oh for sure. Once I got over the clothes it was much easier to handle the rest! Thank you!
I second that, I really enjoyed the music as well!
Hello from the UK. I am so sorry you are feeling unwell. Props to you for not only decluttering, but also video creation, in spite of that. I am watching from my 'sick bed', well into my second week off work with some throat/chest infection that just won't quit, and has completely drained me.
That dress is hella cute, I have to say.
You are doing a grand job ❤️
From my cold dead hands, they can pry it! I like it that way 😁
bahahahaha!
You seemed a lot lighter and happier in this video than the last couple declutters 😊
Have you ever thought of opening an Etsy store ?! That what has been helping me ❤ Absolutely Love your channel ❤
Watching your decluttering videos is like looking through the treasures in your closet. Such cute style. You’re from a different time.❤
I remember watching this quite a while ago. It is still amazing to follow you and your thought process. I wish you could be here to talk me through the process. I am so proud of you!
It was so sweet to watch your little daughter “working” along side of you❤️. The room looks fantastic!
You have given me inspiration to get on with decluttering & tidying my bedroom space 😊❤
Your bedroom looks so much easier to navigate and function in now! Taking away the options you never reach for is really going to make what you do use shine. Maybe you'll find a bolt of cloth long enough during the seweing declutter to cover the shelves, that will take away some of the visual clutter since it's containers and not things that bring joy like the hats. You did so great here and should be very proud of yourself.
Wow! I’m really proud of you, you did a great job. Looks like it was tough, lots of great things, but you made some hard choices and got rid of a lot! Well done.
LORD LORD. Amazing how much you did in 1 day. A closet can be just so overwhelming. It took me a week just to go through my clothes to get rid of them. It's the decisions that are so difficult. Thanks for being real!
I am so proud of you. I understand how hard this work can be, and the peace of finding the balance between belongings and space is indescribable.
Kristina, let me say first that I have the greatest respect for your efforts to declutter your home. I can imagine how difficult some of the decisions must be for you. In this video you are showing some lovely vintage items like the Remington shaver, the hankies Lady or your collar collection. I know you are trying to get rid of things you don't need or use and this is fine. But on the other hand I think that keeping pieces you really love is no shame at all. Midcentury or even earlier pieces are great to have, they'll rise in value over time and maybe one of your kids might be interested in them later.
Please don't get me wrong, the last thing I intend is to thwart your remarkable efforts, all I am saying is that it is ok to keep selected things if you want to. Even if you don't use them as props. Love from Europe
Love that you are
comfortable enough to go thru your bedroom and closets in front of us-Love love love your purses especially the strawberry ones!
I appreciate your honesty with decluttering…I have been decluttering my home for 4 or so years. Prior I just moved piles around but now stuff has actually left my home. It feels good and I hope that you remember how good it will feel too😊
I was born in 1950. I remember in 2nd and 3rd grade going up to my Mom's bedroom and trying on all of Mom's gloves and matching scarves while she was watching her soap operas. You might find upur girls might have fun dressing up with some of those items you don't want anymore. I loved doing that. 😊
You did a fantastic job. It might not mean much since we don't know each other, but i just want you tk know that i am proud of you.🤗
Looks absolutely amazing beautifully done ❤❤❤ and if you are At peace now it's a great blessing ❤❤❤
Loved every minute of this.I can’t believe I never thought to find a vintage purse and actually use it. I suddenly realized what an ugly purse I’m carrying around lol. This video was very inspiring. ❤
This is incredible! Im an emotional hoarder as well. I try to take bites out of areas of my house throughout the year. Im inspired to go through my closet again!
Can I just say beautiful music selection so soothing making want to keep watching!!!!
Oh good! Music is one of my favorite things to choose for the vibe of my videos, I'm so glad you like it!
When I was late-pregnant with our fifth, (and last) baby, I started to declutter and never looked back. For me, staying focused can be such a challenge, so from a random person on the internet, “you’re doing great! Keep it up!”
Hah same! I decluttered while pregnant with our fifth and last and I’m so glad that I did!
Fantastic job 👏👏👏 not easy to declutter when your a collector!💛
I sent my grand daughter your video...she has a hard time with things and always has. And you are so cute and vintage, love it. Fun to watch.
I’m wondering if this was filmed a few months ago because of the orange boy. We lost our cat last month and every time I saw your orange cat I got emotional because I know he passed.
Again, so amazed at all you accomplished and realizing I need to go through my scarf bin…
Oh that’s 😞 sad so sorry for the loss! I know how hard that is❤
What a great job you did tackling such a hard task. It looks great! You should be very proud.
Thank you!
I don't know if you can see it, but your bedroom now looks MORE vintage in a homey and true way. The way an actual person would live. Well done!
It is actually a very aesthetically pleasing video 😊You've done so well 👏I am not a minimalist and don't think I'll become one but have been seeking a healthier relationship with objects so seeing something like this, where you don't end up with a mat and one pillow, is extremely inspiring. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your journey 💕
So very proud of you to the point i got teary eyed! Love what you did with your bedroom especially the rack between the windows I thought it was the perfect space for it! Can’t wait to see what this journey has in store!
JUST PLAIN WOW!!!!
after watching each video to the end I felt so refreshed ,renewed in my own mind of the need to start my own decluttering ,the want of the satisfaction to envelope me as I to want to walk through my home of less,but still having my eyes hold a special piece . Thank you so much for sharing the past 3 videos . Have a lovely week !
I love the bedroom furniture 😍
I love your method of decluttering. It’s a raw and realistic view into how to let go of the things that no longer serve a purpose. Some things are only meant to be with us for a season. Thank you for your beautiful videos into that process 🍓❤️
Seeing you get rid of the clutter and find joy in the free space is so nice!
I am definitely an emotional hoarder when it comes to clothes but now that my style is changing too, trying to sell stuff and downsize as well.
Your house is lovely!
I had that Lady Remington in 1969....Lovely video, lovely music, and lovely you!
Wow, this was so much work! Both physically and mentally it must have been exhausting. You did such a great job and I love how the bedroom looked in the end! Decorating with the hats you're actually wearing is a great system and looks so pretty!
I enjoyed the bedroom declutter videos a lot! Love how you showcased your handbags on the clost shelf. The room looks so nice and restful. Looking forward to "visiting" with you while you continue the process. 💕
Thank you! I'm looking forward to continuing the process!
I love the kitty! I have 2 tuxedos and a golden beauty that looks like yours
7:44 i absolute LOVE your style here! All of it, the hair, makeup, dress, brooch…❤😍
I hung a skinny curtain rod above my mirror, hung S shower curtain hooks off of it and that's how I hang my 50+ necklaces. They don't get messed up and I see them all in front of me. Works great.
Proud of you for making your home YOUR home instead of it being another source of stress. I've lived with that kind of stress but without being in a position to exercise that level of control to clear it out. Then suddenly it was all purged from my life with little control over that, too. Mine is a long boring story with little point, but I have to tell you that watching you do your clear out kind of healed me from some issues of my life in relation to my "lost stuff" that I hadn't realized have been gnawing at the back of my mind for the past few years. Thank you for sharing. I have adopted you like a good neighbor. LOL! Seeing your children, I can tell you are a good mom. It's nice to find good people thriving.
You go girl!!!!!! Looks so amazing!!! So proud of your hard work!!!
Oh wow, I am so glad you have posted this. I am feeling more motivated about my spring clean/re-sort. Organization is an adventure at times, I don't have to dread it anymore. Thank you so much, Kristina🌻
I have that same lady Remington razor and trust me if you haven’t gotten around to it it is awesome, I have literally bought back ups for if it ever dies. Super quick and easy to shave dry like 5 minutes and out the door with no razor burn at all I wish they made all electric razors like this still. Love you and the honest positivity you put out there. ❤
Ok well now I REALLY want to try it!
I agree. I had one andgave it to someone who needed it more than I do. I miss it.
As an amateur short film actor and costumer I am oh so familiar with the bag of wigs😂 I finally found a better place for our 2 “good wigs” literally this month after years of grocery bag storage. I loved the mention of your husbands film costumes because that has been taking over my life and it’s nice to know I’m not the only one with a bedroom drowning in film supplies
My mom uses vintage sheets as curtains! They look super cute and you can just slide a curtain rod through the top hem! I’m not sure how large your closet is but sheets are super long and if you find a full or queen size it would be wide too! I currently have a sheet over my dorm closet and it makes a huge difference!
So glad you kept the white gloves. And i give you fill permission to keep them way past your year time test, regardless if you wore them, ❤❤❤
Your videos have definitely helped my center myself and going going on decluttering my own home and life 💗
Kristina. You are BRAVE to show you bedroom. I had seven babys back to back and weekend I had step kids n grand kids. THIS IS THE HOME OF A HARD WORKEN HOARDER MOM.
My kids are long grown and I shouldn't have it like this butttt I DO! I'm an EMOTIONAL HOARDER. I get attached to it. Many things belong to people long gone. I can feel happiness are sadness in my vintage items . When I sell them I'm happy they got a new home n not in the trash. You'd be surprised familys just toss everything of mom n dad in trash . We come along n give it love n new life. It's ok to be a HOARDER. You are a utuber you put you whole life in the eyes of viewers n that's ok. Your a mom of five a full time UTUBE job n probably need more closet space. There's just no room for it all. Don't beat your self up have a yard sale sell what I can n move forward . It's ok if anyone gets smart tell them talk to me lol Gypsy Roselee
Less is sooo much more!❤️
Great job girlfriend! The room looks lovely. And you purges have definitely inspired me to let go of some things before we move. I'm trying to gently encourage my mom to do the same (for her sanity and mine ;) )
So, I have been praying about decluttering for a year, and have finally started. I just got married and feel like I need to simplify life for me and my husband, especially as we look for a new home together. 🏡 But I too am an emotional hoarder and its painful haha. I watched many of your videos today with redecorating and thrifting and thought "I love that, but all this seasonal decorating stuff is what got me in this mess." And now here is your video on decluttering....soul sister! Cant wait to binge the whole series while I box up sheets from 2016....
I’m watching the gloves part right now 🧤 Since you have dresses you want to pair them with, maybe put them in a bag and hang them around the dress hanger. So you remember to wear them. ☺️
Hoping you are feeling better Kristana. Thank you for sharing.❤️
I am! Thank you!
I want to thank you for sharing the thought process before tackling the projects. I woke up early this morning. My hubby went fishing. I drank my coffee and then began replacing my winter clothing with summer clothing. With my hubby's help, I I can send all of the winter clothes up into the attic. Oh, I actually carry hankies in my purse just like my grandmother did. I just love hearing you talk through your plans.
Great job....😊
You said your room isn't "aesthetic" but I beg to differ. It's homey and that is what matters because you live there. Kudos to getting the job done! I have been doing the same but it's because we are downsizing and still going through a lost family member's stuff, which is a whole different ballgame. Feeling the loss again, guilt, memories, etc. Purging is never easy.
You are such a rock star tackling your clutter! I know th8s video is old to you but new to me. So inspiring! ❤️💋💄
I just watched you reorganize your closet shelves with aesthetic boxes and now to see where it was at before it's even more inspiring
The bedroom looks amazing!!!!!!! I like your hats on the wall…… I love hats!!!! I love your head dresses.
I can't even believe you got all this done with being pregnant and having 4 kids now.
I was overwhelmed just looking at all your things. O my goodness!!!!
You did such a "GREAT JOB" pulling everything out and going through each piece but thats exactly what a person has to do. I love Marie Kondo.
I've been sitting watching your video's A LOT and I haven't gotten things done here in my own apt.
I Love ❤ your style. Such beautiful smile.
I'm so very Happy for you. its sure WONDERFUL how you got all that done..
It looks beautiful.
What a wonderful transformation! Well done! I bet it feels amazing! Your room is so cute and cozy! 🥰❤
You are amazing! Thanks for your channel! Don’t listen to the ugly comments! They are just sad and miserable people so please scroll past and don’t read those negative comments. ❤
Hi Christina, What a super woman you are to be able to move furniture while pregnant!!! Thanks so much for the inspiration and encouragement to keep going... After I was widowed I had some sort of anxiety thing going on and started hoarding things that I thought I would not be able to afford in the future. There was a lot of stuff from the time I was married that I just shoved into the roof until I had the emotional energy to deal with... All my clutter would have engulfed me if I had not remarried a tidy with a talent for organisation and conglomeration of similar things. I would have been drowning by now without him.
It's finally time to sort through the stuff that I shoved up in the roof when my 10 year old was less than a year old. Seeing you go through stuff which is much more beautiful than my poor newlywed guff and do okay helps me know that I am going to be able to do this... It's going to be okay and I will be happy to finally have done it and proud of myself for going through the process of release... My mum never could... She ended up with 3 households worth of stuff to sort through and gets paralysed by grief over the losses of loved ones that she is confronting when she sorts through this... she is still surrounded... Thanks for being a healthy role model for the brokenhearted out here who need to see others get through and out the other side of the emotional attachment and anxiety valley and reclaim a new path to health and happiness in life.
I also noted your skin looks great in comparison to an older video of yours that I saw... Congrats there... I'm trying to get there too. One day.
Again, I have to express: Thanks so much for the encouragement!
I would love to see you with the hats on. You have some beautiful hats . I always feel so self conscious when I wear a hat.
It looks so wonderful. It is a big job to purge our things...
Absolutely a wonderful job you have done. The happy and relieved feeling really shows on your face and in your energy at the end. Such a release. Loved these videos of the bedroom declutter. I can remember the era of White Shoulders. All the ladies in our family got a perfume, or a powder for Christmas. Some came in a set with both. It was always used sparingly so it would last. Thank you❤️🐕🐕
You are an inspiration. God bless.
Loved this process. Thank you for taking me with you on your journey. I am on a similar journey as I have to clear out my parents house, the one I grew up in, and get it ready to sell. My mother had a tender heart, loved all things vintage, saved everything and organized nothing. I cry over losing her and the thought of really tackling this monumental burden has me depressed and anxious. Your sensitive approach has made an impression on me and I enjoyed seeing you work through it and reach the place where your bedroom is now a haven filled with the items that make you happy. Breathe peace in your beautiful place.
Hi ❤️ Beautiful 🥰 work you have done. 🥰
I am new here and definitely, need this advice. I didn't realize how cluttered my bedroom was, until I took a picture of my husband trying on his new shirt and I didn't even know whose bedroom this was??? I am embarrassed. So thanks, I will let you know how it turns out,💕😁
Bless you for sharing your vulnerability online. People like you make the world a better place 🤗
I totally relate with the gloves and suitcases. Those plaid gloves are so cute!
Wow. Wonderful transformation. And thanks for helping me figure out how to declutter my hats.