I hadn't experienced true loss before my little brother passed. My mom told me to come home one day while I was at work which was odd since I lived over 2 hours away. She told me when I arrived that my brother had shot himself and I just started screaming. I couldn't believe how final it all was. Death is so hard to comprehend without being first hand impacted by it. My brother has been gone for about 4 years now and every time I think about him my eyes well up with a bit of sad and a bit of happy. I miss you Marshall and I do everyday. Stay safe out there guys.
Make a Wish kid here who used (my own) stem cells to get better. I loved this episode when it came out, I was pretty hurt that some friends never visited me in the hospital and this episode helped me understand why. As for the wishes, the limits on what you can ask for are for things to do while you're sick and because of treatment, most kids can't travel.
@@breadcat1055 Music 🎶. A drum set, acoustic guitar, a really cool pedal for my electric guitar, and editing software. Never got particularly good, but I loved it.
@@breadcat1055 Music. I got a drum set, an acoustic guitar, wawa pedal, and a laptop so I could edit music while I was in the hospital. I never got very good, but I was very well entertained that whole year 😁
just watched the blooms video that came out earlier and then this comes out 😭guess im spending my birthday watching south park video essays and I do NOT regret it
Dude, I love that memory of your favorite shirt... It's so heartbreakingly precious. "MA. ITS PERFECT. It's black, so it matches the funeral vibe. Grandpa is dead, so the skull fits the theme too. And he'd WANT me to wear my favorite shirt... COME ON, MOM." So hilarious, the things our brain holds on to during traumatic times like that. ❤
My cousin and her husband just had to explain this to thier 3 kids after losing her mom/ my aunt. Their older two probably understood more than their youngest and only daughter. I remember keeping an eye on thier daughter and when my cousin in law came and explained what happened. She started crying and it just broke my heart. It'll be a year in January.
I'm currently losing my mom we're not sure how long she has left this video really struck a chord with me and helped me see my emotions from a more logical angle and understand my feelings are normal and it's ok to feel the way I do especially resonated with the antidote about your grandpa as I'm going through the same cycle of Hope and despair
I was scrolling this comments to see if i see someone similar. For me I was losing my mother. Similar to Stan I was in denial. I tried to avoid as much as possible. My mother felt I do not care for her. However it pained me to see her like that. I even tried to keep myself busy in college and i went to a different city (1800 km away), finally receiving a call one day that she is gone. I still have very less memory of the ride to airport, flight and ride after that. I just want to forget it. But at the same time, I felt myself grateful that I did whatever I could to make her happy in the brief period I was with her. From making jokes with her to taking her out for food (its a big deal, my parents childhood was in abject poverty). Still it pains me to this day (may be survivors guilt), now that all our money problems are gone, we can buy whatever we want (I am not rich but quiet well off in a 3rd world country), but here she was gone at 48 before I could earn anything big. So spend time with your mother.
I love it because it seems out of place because before his death they never actually interacted on screen, but it adds a bit of much needed layers to Kyle and Kenny friendship
I'd just like to remind you that you're making up touching head-canons about a paper cut-out animation about poop jokes and being as offensive as possible.
22:17 ❤Thanks so much for your explanation of grieving. At 54 I have been grieving since I was 12 years old dealing with my first passing experience. Now after losing my mother and father recently I thought I had no reason take carry on in this life, however your explanation of grief and grieving has helped me to see things in a different light.
Thank you so much for sharing your story about your grandfather. I had a very very similar experience when it came to my paternal grandfather getting cancer and passing away as well, except I was a bit older when it happened. Your story really stuck with me. May their memories be blessings 🩷
I have a personal headcanon that this (and the subsequent year-long absence) was the moment when Kenny found out about everyone forgetting his deaths. Up until this point, he assumed they just didn’t care, as shown by his angry rant in Cherokee Hair Tampons. But here? His death is extremely slow, over the course of several days, and he’s able to witness his friends and family grieving him firsthand. As opposed to the majority of his deaths, where they’re over in a matter of seconds, and the most he gets to hear is the “omg they killed Kenny” catchphrase. So he’s given undeniable proof that his friends do indeed feel grief over his deaths. Cut to a year later upon his return, and he’s met with his friends asking him where he was, with seemingly no memory of his time in the hospital. His first response is to lie, claiming that he’s just been “hanging around,” all while the truth finally sinks in for him. They do care, they always have. They just don’t…or rather, CAN’T remember.
@ Indeed, but Kenny doesn’t know that. Or maybe he does, maybe he found out while possessing Cartman, and found out that while he remembers, he just doesn’t care.
I think though they can’t remember, it gets to him pretty hard. In The Coon trilogy when Kenny’s is his superhero character Mysteryion he’s gets so upset people don’t remember his deaths.
9:08 I was around 18 when i lost my grandfather (on my dads side). Im 28 now. And i still remember burying him and watching my oldest brother genuinely cry for the first time and it broke me. My dad left when i was 6months old but his dad still stayed around and visited us when he could. He was a better dad to us and i still miss him. Im still glad to this day my mom gave me my grandfathers name as my middle name. I remember him more than my own dad. Miss you grandpa.
7:29 my dad died when I was only 3 years old. I barely remember anything about him. However even though I barely remember anything from when I was three I actually do remember the trip to the hospital. I remember talking to him on his deathbed when he was returned home, although I don't remember seeing him die there and that most likely could be because my mom made sure there was no chance of me seeing that. Mom told me much later in life that supposedly back then I said "Daddy broken and Daddy gone."
@@xavlanza7486 You think this is funny you think someone battiling such traumatic experience is funny the more you push this to people you'll end up putting them in a rabbit hole of insanity which could result in self execution you think that's funny? imagine i walk up to you laugh at you having a traumatic experience i hope you feel good about yourself ,what am i saying you say these things becuase you know your broken and the only way you express it is by doing this SICK SHAME ON YOU
@@ashkrum5001tbh it would’ve humanized him but i feel like mattrey thought it would be out of character for him, since he’s primarily a selfish character to the core, that’s a bit of a bummer.
At the time Kenny REALLY “died” for a while, the creators said they came to hate the character and coming up with ways for him to die all the time. Butters and Tweek were in his place and not sufficient enough for the kids. Kenny came back, and when they played superheroes he was Mysterion and angsty and all, having to repeatedly think “you don’t get it” because his ‘superpower’ is being able to die and resurrect like a zombie without anybody capable of remembering it… so they just think he’s a normal kid, really into his superhero identity. It’s a pretty neat twist. But yeah, the episode was touching … but we spend this time thinking Cartman actually at least sort of sees Kenny as his default best friend, since Stan and Kyle are best friends and care about Kenny but aren’t quite as close, and Cartman and Kenny are “the other two.” The more deviant ones. And then at the end when I was like “if I have to miss Kenny for so long and grieve him too, at least make this Cartman friendship mean something.” Goddamn it, Cartman.
My great grandfather passed when I was 7. I distinctly remember being in the hospital room and looking at a calendar that said January 4. His was the first funeral I went to, and it really sunk in knowing I would never see him again. It felt strange seeing him in the casket, to the point that I still have trouble with open casket funerals. They’re right there, but they’re not, if that makes sense.
Love ur videos… just wanna say. I am a 34 year old man who uses ur videos to help teach my 9 year old daughter… As a father who’s lost a toddler and has to deal with my other kids coping… there is NEVER an answer… nothing helps. We will always be broken. There’s no fixing this kind of pain. Just masking and staying distracted and as strong as u can for those u have left that depend on u…
I liked how you talked about loss in this video. I have been to my fair share of funerals throughout my life and I cried at all of them except my grandpa’s. It was in 2017 and I still regret forcing myself to not cry and be strong for everyone else.
I have watched South Park as a kid and into my adulthood. Your channel has opened a completely different side to South Park that I have failed to see. Thank you for opening my eyes to what this show truly is. Thank you.
I (sadly) think I can't relate to a type of media more than ones that cover grieving. I've only been on this earth for almost 19 years and I've had 7 individuals times where I've gone through intense grieving of losing someone or being deathly afraid of losing someone. It's always so hauntingly beautiful to see media portray these topics so accurately and also show how differently it is for everyone. I cried so many different times while watching both the episode and this video, especially since I lost somone only a couple months ago and opened the old wounds I had from almost 13 years ago. It's so beautiful to be reminded that we aren't the only ones going through this and I'm so glad I found this video and watched it at 1 am. I'm definitely subcribing to you man, you did an awesome job.
15:13 I know exactly how you feel, my grandpa was on the verge of dying every second. Every move and twitch was just another piece of hope that got shattered over and over again, and it would all just build back up because he was still kicking.
Honestly as someone who lost a significant other to death, grief was one of the hardest things that a person can go through. I remember when I visited him in the hospital and I saw him all hooked up to all the machines and just hearing the heart monitor sunk my deeper than ever before. I remember the last thing that we did was hold each others hands, and given the disease was affecting his brain more than anything, he just told me that he didnt know who I was or why I was there, but he could tell that I loved him, and I will never forget that moment, not even in death... it was both the most heartbreaking, but also most loving thing anyone has ever said to me. I hold it close to my heart every day.
The way you talk about greaving is really conforting i have lost multiple people, and the way people usually talk about death makes me unease sometimes.
Even when I was young accepting death was never as hard as not knowing what happened. I grew up on a farm and was quite the nature nerd, so death was pretty familiar and acceptable at an early age. Death is everywhere, everything you eat. But not knowing what happened, like if a pet or something went missing and I couldn't see a body, makes it hard to find closure. I torture myself wondering if they're still out there struggling, and in some cases blame myself for not being able to find them.
This video hit me really hard. I had to deal with my mom suddenly passing away this march and it couldn’t be harder. I can’t accept the fact that it’s happened tbh. It’s just too hard.
Time is a limited resource in life. My mom died when i was 5 and my dad dunped her shortly after getting pregnant. I lost almost everyone in my family and i also almost died once in a car accident. Im ok now but it still showed me how valuable life is. As Tristan Tate once said: never forget to enjoy life you never know how short it really is dont see life as the continuous move of whats next whats next try to reach your goals but never forget to enjoy your life. Personally i regret not caring about my time and my life. People if you are reading this and you have a crush ask them out just do it you will regret NOT doing it more than getting rejected..
I've been to some funerals... It was sad, I was sad... Because I liked these people... But If it was my parents that passed I wouldn't be sad I wouldn't even attend the Funerals because I hate them... Feeling on this topic can be... Complex
My dad was diagnosed with cancer and died within a year or so while I was in grade 5. Honestly, I just kept playing video games to avoid it and even after he passed away I truly never properly processed it. Sometime I have breakdowns now as an adult but yeh, when you are a kid, it’s something truly alien to you. The trauma though, probably never goes away.
I always felt like nothing could take me down. I've had many years where it never occurred to me, I could die any day. Last year, I got in a terrifying accident (hit by a train smashing my car to pieces) I made it through with minimal injury, but the whole experience made me shift my whole perspective. I am thankful to still be here, as the train hit, I thought I wouldn't be.
I remember someone I played soccer with, mind you I suck at it but this guy was really good and he represents the school soccer team. One day while I was in class their classroom classmate come in our class asking for a donation to save his life because he got into a car accident, I wasn't sure if it was him because what are the odds it's someone you know anyways lol? Well turns out it was him and rumour was he got hit by a car driven by an old lady during the night when he was out and about riding his motorcycle which he got the licence for VERY recently, bout 3 months or 3 weeks can't remember. He was 16, I was 17. I didn't feel anything, didn't attend his funeral, didn't ask anymore.
It's hard when you are kids. I had two friends pass in high school (leukemia & a car wreck) before that only my grandma had passed, and the consensus was she led a full life, she's in a better place. But when someone's that young, it just feels unfair.
When I my closet friend was diagnosed with cancer when we were teenagers I threw away my passion for art and perused Biochemistry. Day in and out I'd study like hell trying to find something that can slow down his cancer cells from spreading. Eventually went to college but with slipping grades, financial issues, my pappy's death, relationship problems, bullying/discrimination, and finally opening up about my true sexuality and gender identity I dropped out. Instead of being there for him I helped others before enlisting into the army because that's the kind of person he was and what I wanted to share with the world. Before I left he passed away and that tore my life apart. Even when I went to training I had a DS that was grieving about the loss of his brother too and we had an emotional moment. But four years since then I cut myself off from the world. I stopped taking my hormones after only being on them for two months reverting back to masculine, spending most of my nights sobbing about him, and every time I went to the gym and see high school kids working out there's always that one kid who looks and sounds just like him that echos through my memories until you know it I'm tearing my arms lifting heavier and heavier until the pain goes away. Every holiday, every night, every storm I was at his grave grieving because I tried to save him but failed and what he wanted for all of us is to live our dreams but my dream is buried 6' below ground. Eventually had an accident and went into a near death experience and not only heard his voice but saw him slowing healing and saw his scars all over his face. For that moment and only then I tackled him and screamed like the day when he died. Cradling him in my knees apologizing for failing him until he forgave me. Since then after I woke up in the same hospital, room, and bed where he died I learned how to move on. Got new friends, slowly opening up about my transition goals and sexuality, stronger relationship with my parents, (still money problems), but now after years absent from the army I have a fighting chance to get back in. It's gonna take a while but worth it. Always remember this, G-d doesn't care how you live your life or what you look like, what truly matters is that you keep a strong heart and love for all so one day regardless of your faiths or not, you get to come home to see them again.
nah this episode made me cry because I related to Stan way too hard the situation was too real it threw me back completely and I'm still in denial from what happened
.i love this episode, the reason why is cause it reminds me of a lot like me when my dad died when i was in fourth grade, on valentines. i didnt know how to cope, and still don't- but it's gotten easier. my dad got sick, and went into the hospital. for 1 month then died. stan reminds me of myself. in denial.
My friend group got hit hard because the one we all thought would be the last, ended up being the first. Truth be told, I always thought I’d be first or maybe second of the four of us. But we all agreed the one that went would be the last. Dude was sturdy, never got sick, tough as nails, and one of the most resilient people I knew who took every hardship in stride. Then one day he got by a truck that ran a red light because of a driver not paying attention. He succumbed to his injuries after a few days in the icu.
Definitely feel this. When my mom died in May I wasn't able to handle it, I cried for three days and for weeks upon weeks, I dunno, I felt little to nothing and it took a long time before my voice even change tone again or I could even manage a chuckle at anything, and I cried for three nights straight. My mind still passes into denial, still hoping for a phone call to take something to her or to come pick her up, but when I pass by the door to her room and see no lights on it's a hard reminder. Tried to post this a few moments prior but my connection divided to crap out and make me feels worse I guess.
My step dad murdered my mom when I was nine. I think I’ve gotten over it. But what I’ll never get over is how my family shattered afterward. Everyone turned on each other. To this day every one in my family only has one other member of the family that they talk to. It brought out the worst in us and no one even tried to make it better
When my niece went to her grandpa's funeral and saw him in the casket, she asked in a loud voice, ''What is Grandpa doing in a suitcase?" That definitely lightened the mood
Man, this reminds me of when my Pop Pop died. He was having complications with due to his diabetes. I remembered him being in and out of the hospital and then just one of the times when my dad informed me that my Pop Pop was admitted again, I remember thinking, "he's going to die". Idk how I knew. He passed months afterwards. Til this day, I hate myself cause while my Pop Pop was admitted, my dad stated how he would like to see me and gave me option to go visit. I declined....and I still don't really know why I did. I think I was in denial. 15 years later, I can't remember the last time I had saw my Pop Pop but I just hold on to all the awesome memories I was fortunate enough to have shared with him. And idk how, but I literally feel that he's somewhere out "there". And thats not even spurred on by my own Christian background. I miss him greatly but that thought makes me happy.
9:00 first my grandmother and grandfather died and i did not feel anything .. no sorrow.. i was felling as if they are just on a long trip.. then my other grand mother died and i was in high school and also did not felt anything.. but then when i saw my grandfather cried ..it broke me.. that was one of two my sadiest moments.. first one was when my dog dissapeared ..
My grandpa died when i was 10 years old everything happened very suddenly they brought him to the hospital and he was dead the next morning in less than 24 hours it sucked that i had to go to school that day i spent the day just crying
You can be all melodramatic and what not, but the simple fact is life is temporary. There is nothing to be done about it, if you are lucky you reach like 100 years if you even want that. But it is as it is.
My cousin died from an overdose last year and I didn't take it so well. I was getting myself ready to see an Uncle in NYC and had my plane tickets to France on my phone until I was told that my cousin passed away. I canceled my trip and stayed with my family to mourn her death. That was last year. My family has this thing of whenever someone dies you never speak about that person anymore. Sweep the dust under the rug. This post is hard.
Last one to die. Because I can sit around and call up those friends and talk about the old times with said friend. And when I'm the last I'll be that old Boomer in the bar talking about stuff we did in the past with those that passed away.
I also would chose to go first if it was my choice but that's me being selfish 😞 idk that pain of losing people I love hits too hard but then again I gotta keep living
I remember when I heard the news my nan had cancer, I didnt react (or react like someone would), I remember, I was playing Bayonetta 2 on my Wii U and I was told and I just nodded and continued playing, I should say I have Autism and ADHD But the weeks when my nan was dying, I just buried myself in games, loud music like Green Day and stuff, in my head, it was normal for me but when my highschool called my step-dad in to talk to him because they noticed I was shutting myself out from the rest of the world, he told them whats been going on and how I was taking it and I remember hearing him say it, it clicked in my head that this isnt right, that I wasn't doing what I thought I would do and I inadvertently put on a facade and it was that day that the facade I put on just broke and I realised the real gravity of everything and this isn't the time to shut myself away and should be there, unfortunately I learnt that far too late and a week later, we got news my nan took a turn, we got to the hospital late due to traffic and me, my brother, step-dad and biological mother where in the waiting room when the final news where delivered My nan died 5 minutes before we arrived and the first thing I did was punch the wall because I was angry that I wasn't there but also because I had all these emotions built up and needed to get out Since then, I've tried my best to be there and to enjoy life instead of shutting myself away Life is unfair but life is beautiful
I remember back in sophomore year of high school one of my classmates ended up jumping off a phone tower or cell tower or whatever it was called. I didn't know him too well but he was always nice to me in the few classes i had with him. I was confused on how to feel. I didn't know him that well and yet i felt uncomfortable. I wouldnt say it was distraught though... Just uneasy. I remember my parents chastising me for not being sad enough and getting punished. I felt like there was something wrong with me maybe i didnt feel things correctly. Everyone around me seemed to be sad when they had never even spoken to him. I remember forcing tears to convince my parents that I had feelings. It was uncomfortable
It is perfectly normal to recognize the sadness of someone dying "before their time" and feeling empathy for that loss to people emotionally close to the deceased. Acting like there was something wrong with you for not experiencing GRIEF when you barely knew the deceased ... that was effed up, and you should not have been treated that way by your family or anyone. In middle school/high school there was a kid who was shot (and made quadriplegic) by his twin brother. My best friend was kinda going out with the shooter, so I was acquainted. There were also deaths of a coupke students that I knew, but wasn't close to. I remember being appalled and feeling almost more upset by the public displays by people who likewise weren't really friends. It felt gross! When I voiced my opinion (once!) in class when it was decided we needed to talk about it, people were REALLY offended. Baffling. Yes, these were upsetting, tragic incidents, but literally cry about "losing" someone you smiled and nodded at, but never ate lunch with? Nah. Bullshit, greedy, attention-seeking selfishness. Tl;dr: nothing wrong with you. Your feelings were/are totally appropriate.
While I agree with most of what you said, I cannot stress enough that people need to stop releasing balloons to honor the dead. Eventually, those balloons have to fall somewhere, and they end up being an environmental nightmare. But planting a tree in honor of a lost one is an excellent idea
man this might sound weird but when my grandma died, the first thing i experienced was shock then nothing, it faded fast and moved forward faster. Don't know why, i loved her sure but when she was gone, there wasn't anything.
Lost my husband only 46 to colonncancer that spread to everything Inc bones. We caught to late. 2 months later I still hurt. But his Dr being honest fm day one made the process a smidgen easier. He almost made 3 yrs. Was only told may get 2 max
I thought my grieving was letting it out when I needed to. One day, I was driving past the graveyard where my girlfriend is buried. I hit the gas and held it down until I lost control. It was stupid of me, but it was a back road, no one should have been there. I'm glad they were though, I got lucky, and my friend helped me out of the ditch. I rolled, going 110mph(170kph). I got a helicopter ride and a 3 day hospital stay. Let your grief out in a place where you won't hurt yourself or others. Forgot to add that I have a plate in my arm from the roll over, I see why race cars have a net on the window lol
to answer the question near the end, I'd rather be the last person in my friend group to die, because of the only truth in this world "I will be there, always" until the day you die.
12:05 seems to imply that Harvard made a study on experiencing grief and created the theory of 5 stages of grief. Actually it was a female medical doctor from Switzerland - dr Kubler-Ross in 1969.
Not Randy of all people handling explaining death to a child better than my own parents. They didn't even tell me. I literally walked in our dog being put down! Though tbf we had experienced a self deletion earlier in the year so I can understand why but man did that mess me up more than that - mainly paranoia, depression, and the way I process grief was completely messed up. Then 2020 came along with some more (truly) sudden deaths as the cherry on top. Main point I'm making behind all this trauma dumping is that YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR CHILDREN! The longer you leave it the more damage you'll do to them.
I knew something was gonna happen to Arthur in rdr2 (health wise) all cause of this South Park episode showing me a consistent cough for a long is probably more then a cold
I hadn't experienced true loss before my little brother passed. My mom told me to come home one day while I was at work which was odd since I lived over 2 hours away. She told me when I arrived that my brother had shot himself and I just started screaming. I couldn't believe how final it all was. Death is so hard to comprehend without being first hand impacted by it. My brother has been gone for about 4 years now and every time I think about him my eyes well up with a bit of sad and a bit of happy. I miss you Marshall and I do everyday. Stay safe out there guys.
i’m so sorry for you and your families loss, Marshal is a dope name, i hope you know he’s watching over you and so proud.
Hey, hope you and your mum are doing alright
Make a Wish kid here who used (my own) stem cells to get better. I loved this episode when it came out, I was pretty hurt that some friends never visited me in the hospital and this episode helped me understand why. As for the wishes, the limits on what you can ask for are for things to do while you're sick and because of treatment, most kids can't travel.
What was your wish?
@@breadcat1055 Music 🎶. A drum set, acoustic guitar, a really cool pedal for my electric guitar, and editing software. Never got particularly good, but I loved it.
R u still alive?
@@Adoniss99 nope, and it's super spooky I'm in the chat 👻
@@breadcat1055 Music. I got a drum set, an acoustic guitar, wawa pedal, and a laptop so I could edit music while I was in the hospital. I never got very good, but I was very well entertained that whole year 😁
just watched the blooms video that came out earlier and then this comes out 😭guess im spending my birthday watching south park video essays and I do NOT regret it
Happy birthday
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday 🎉
Happy Birthday🎉🎉
Happy birthday man I hope it’s great
I’ve experienced enough grief thru out my lifetime, and this episode has comforted me soooo much over a few different instances.
Dude, I love that memory of your favorite shirt... It's so heartbreakingly precious. "MA. ITS PERFECT. It's black, so it matches the funeral vibe. Grandpa is dead, so the skull fits the theme too. And he'd WANT me to wear my favorite shirt... COME ON, MOM." So hilarious, the things our brain holds on to during traumatic times like that. ❤
My cousin and her husband just had to explain this to thier 3 kids after losing her mom/ my aunt. Their older two probably understood more than their youngest and only daughter. I remember keeping an eye on thier daughter and when my cousin in law came and explained what happened. She started crying and it just broke my heart. It'll be a year in January.
Sorry for your loss!
Next month will mark 12 full years without my mother, I still miss her like crazy. I feel like my inner child is coming out of me right now.
@@myral3880 Womp Womp
@@xavlanza7486djungleskog, i expected better.
@@OMGoobero I’m sorry I will repent
I'm currently losing my mom we're not sure how long she has left this video really struck a chord with me and helped me see my emotions from a more logical angle and understand my feelings are normal and it's ok to feel the way I do especially resonated with the antidote about your grandpa as I'm going through the same cycle of Hope and despair
I was scrolling this comments to see if i see someone similar. For me I was losing my mother. Similar to Stan I was in denial. I tried to avoid as much as possible. My mother felt I do not care for her. However it pained me to see her like that. I even tried to keep myself busy in college and i went to a different city (1800 km away), finally receiving a call one day that she is gone. I still have very less memory of the ride to airport, flight and ride after that. I just want to forget it.
But at the same time, I felt myself grateful that I did whatever I could to make her happy in the brief period I was with her. From making jokes with her to taking her out for food (its a big deal, my parents childhood was in abject poverty).
Still it pains me to this day (may be survivors guilt), now that all our money problems are gone, we can buy whatever we want (I am not rich but quiet well off in a 3rd world country), but here she was gone at 48 before I could earn anything big.
So spend time with your mother.
While Kenny was on death bed , I believe he told Kyle that him and Butters were very close friends, so make him your fourth friend after I die
That’s precious
then they bully the fuck out of him
@@bojarckhoosemanschnarf5851 Exactly, they realize that he was Kenny's friend, not theirs, so they tried to get someone else to be their 4th member
I love it because it seems out of place because before his death they never actually interacted on screen, but it adds a bit of much needed layers to Kyle and Kenny friendship
I'd just like to remind you that you're making up touching head-canons about a paper cut-out animation about poop jokes and being as offensive as possible.
22:17 ❤Thanks so much for your explanation of grieving. At 54 I have been grieving since I was 12 years old dealing with my first passing experience. Now after losing my mother and father recently I thought I had no reason take carry on in this life, however your explanation of grief and grieving has helped me to see things in a different light.
Thank you so much for sharing your story about your grandfather. I had a very very similar experience when it came to my paternal grandfather getting cancer and passing away as well, except I was a bit older when it happened. Your story really stuck with me. May their memories be blessings 🩷
“Kenny can’t die - he’s my f-f-f-friend” the stuttering just breaks me 😢
I have a personal headcanon that this (and the subsequent year-long absence) was the moment when Kenny found out about everyone forgetting his deaths. Up until this point, he assumed they just didn’t care, as shown by his angry rant in Cherokee Hair Tampons.
But here? His death is extremely slow, over the course of several days, and he’s able to witness his friends and family grieving him firsthand. As opposed to the majority of his deaths, where they’re over in a matter of seconds, and the most he gets to hear is the “omg they killed Kenny” catchphrase.
So he’s given undeniable proof that his friends do indeed feel grief over his deaths. Cut to a year later upon his return, and he’s met with his friends asking him where he was, with seemingly no memory of his time in the hospital. His first response is to lie, claiming that he’s just been “hanging around,” all while the truth finally sinks in for him. They do care, they always have. They just don’t…or rather, CAN’T remember.
except for the one throwaway line in the Cartmanland episode, where cartman says "what, kenny? He dies all the time!"
@ Indeed, but Kenny doesn’t know that. Or maybe he does, maybe he found out while possessing Cartman, and found out that while he remembers, he just doesn’t care.
I think though they can’t remember, it gets to him pretty hard. In The Coon trilogy when Kenny’s is his superhero character Mysteryion he’s gets so upset people don’t remember his deaths.
This is one of South Park's most powerful episodes.
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I was around 18 when i lost my grandfather (on my dads side). Im 28 now. And i still remember burying him and watching my oldest brother genuinely cry for the first time and it broke me. My dad left when i was 6months old but his dad still stayed around and visited us when he could. He was a better dad to us and i still miss him. Im still glad to this day my mom gave me my grandfathers name as my middle name. I remember him more than my own dad. Miss you grandpa.
7:29 my dad died when I was only 3 years old. I barely remember anything about him. However even though I barely remember anything from when I was three I actually do remember the trip to the hospital. I remember talking to him on his deathbed when he was returned home, although I don't remember seeing him die there and that most likely could be because my mom made sure there was no chance of me seeing that. Mom told me much later in life that supposedly back then I said "Daddy broken and Daddy gone."
Womp womp
@@xavlanza7486 No one will miss you.
@@BlurroBlue hopefully 🙏
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@@xavlanza7486 You think this is funny you think someone battiling such traumatic experience is funny the more you push this to people you'll end up putting them in a rabbit hole of insanity which could result in self execution you think that's funny? imagine i walk up to you laugh at you having a traumatic experience i hope you feel good about yourself ,what am i saying you say these things becuase you know your broken and the only way you express it is by doing this SICK SHAME ON YOU
Nah because I still try to understand how Kenny and Cartman are hinted as best friends when he literally did THIS 💀
Yeah, i agree. It was a bad idea to undercut Kenny's loss. Cartman should have just gotten the research ready too late and end it that way.
@@ashkrum5001tbh it would’ve humanized him but i feel like mattrey thought it would be out of character for him, since he’s primarily a selfish character to the core, that’s a bit of a bummer.
@@maybe8985 it would have added at least a bit of depth. I mean, his best friend was dying. That would make almost anyone act out of character
You have to remember, Cartman is just a child, as evil as he is we all were distracted easily and some of us were kind of selfish
im not crying while watching something about south park you are.
At the time Kenny REALLY “died” for a while, the creators said they came to hate the character and coming up with ways for him to die all the time.
Butters and Tweek were in his place and not sufficient enough for the kids. Kenny came back, and when they played superheroes he was Mysterion and angsty and all, having to repeatedly think “you don’t get it” because his ‘superpower’ is being able to die and resurrect like a zombie without anybody capable of remembering it… so they just think he’s a normal kid, really into his superhero identity. It’s a pretty neat twist.
But yeah, the episode was touching … but we spend this time thinking Cartman actually at least sort of sees Kenny as his default best friend, since Stan and Kyle are best friends and care about Kenny but aren’t quite as close, and Cartman and Kenny are “the other two.” The more deviant ones.
And then at the end when I was like “if I have to miss Kenny for so long and grieve him too, at least make this Cartman friendship mean something.”
Goddamn it, Cartman.
My great grandfather passed when I was 7. I distinctly remember being in the hospital room and looking at a calendar that said January 4. His was the first funeral I went to, and it really sunk in knowing I would never see him again. It felt strange seeing him in the casket, to the point that I still have trouble with open casket funerals. They’re right there, but they’re not, if that makes sense.
Love ur videos… just wanna say. I am a 34 year old man who uses ur videos to help teach my 9 year old daughter… As a father who’s lost a toddler and has to deal with my other kids coping… there is NEVER an answer… nothing helps. We will always be broken. There’s no fixing this kind of pain. Just masking and staying distracted and as strong as u can for those u have left that depend on u…
I liked how you talked about loss in this video. I have been to my fair share of funerals throughout my life and I cried at all of them except my grandpa’s. It was in 2017 and I still regret forcing myself to not cry and be strong for everyone else.
I have watched South Park as a kid and into my adulthood. Your channel has opened a completely different side to South Park that I have failed to see. Thank you for opening my eyes to what this show truly is. Thank you.
I (sadly) think I can't relate to a type of media more than ones that cover grieving. I've only been on this earth for almost 19 years and I've had 7 individuals times where I've gone through intense grieving of losing someone or being deathly afraid of losing someone. It's always so hauntingly beautiful to see media portray these topics so accurately and also show how differently it is for everyone. I cried so many different times while watching both the episode and this video, especially since I lost somone only a couple months ago and opened the old wounds I had from almost 13 years ago. It's so beautiful to be reminded that we aren't the only ones going through this and I'm so glad I found this video and watched it at 1 am. I'm definitely subcribing to you man, you did an awesome job.
Grief has a lot of form. However South African Park had done an amazing job with the portrail of all forms of grief.
i love south african park
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south african park is crazy
I’d argue that South Korea Park did just a little bit better
Chef's speech was what actually happened to him
15:13 I know exactly how you feel, my grandpa was on the verge of dying every second. Every move and twitch was just another piece of hope that got shattered over and over again, and it would all just build back up because he was still kicking.
Literally watched this yesterday. Underrated episode for sure
Thanks for this video, I’m sorry for your loss.
You make great stuff.
Honestly as someone who lost a significant other to death, grief was one of the hardest things that a person can go through. I remember when I visited him in the hospital and I saw him all hooked up to all the machines and just hearing the heart monitor sunk my deeper than ever before. I remember the last thing that we did was hold each others hands, and given the disease was affecting his brain more than anything, he just told me that he didnt know who I was or why I was there, but he could tell that I loved him, and I will never forget that moment, not even in death... it was both the most heartbreaking, but also most loving thing anyone has ever said to me. I hold it close to my heart every day.
The way you talk about greaving is really conforting i have lost multiple people, and the way people usually talk about death makes me unease sometimes.
Even when I was young accepting death was never as hard as not knowing what happened. I grew up on a farm and was quite the nature nerd, so death was pretty familiar and acceptable at an early age. Death is everywhere, everything you eat.
But not knowing what happened, like if a pet or something went missing and I couldn't see a body, makes it hard to find closure.
I torture myself wondering if they're still out there struggling, and in some cases blame myself for not being able to find them.
This video hit me really hard. I had to deal with my mom suddenly passing away this march and it couldn’t be harder. I can’t accept the fact that it’s happened tbh. It’s just too hard.
Every one: 😢😭
Kenny during 19:50: 😈
Time is a limited resource in life. My mom died when i was 5 and my dad dunped her shortly after getting pregnant. I lost almost everyone in my family and i also almost died once in a car accident. Im ok now but it still showed me how valuable life is. As Tristan Tate once said: never forget to enjoy life you never know how short it really is dont see life as the continuous move of whats next whats next try to reach your goals but never forget to enjoy your life. Personally i regret not caring about my time and my life. People if you are reading this and you have a crush ask them out just do it you will regret NOT doing it more than getting rejected..
I've been to some funerals... It was sad, I was sad... Because I liked these people... But If it was my parents that passed I wouldn't be sad I wouldn't even attend the Funerals because I hate them... Feeling on this topic can be... Complex
My dad was diagnosed with cancer and died within a year or so while I was in grade 5. Honestly, I just kept playing video games to avoid it and even after he passed away I truly never properly processed it. Sometime I have breakdowns now as an adult but yeh, when you are a kid, it’s something truly alien to you. The trauma though, probably never goes away.
This right here is a man on the grind
I DID NOT JUST CRY ABIUT SOUTHPARK😭
I’m sorry, deathbed conversion, you said conversation 😫 I had to no one else mentioned it
These videos that take SP episodes and break them down into serious analysis are excellent. Best new(ish) channel on YT.
I was expecting a south park video not a emotional heart to heart
i really miss chef he was such a great character
“I just wish my grandpa would have told me he didn’t like my shirt. Instead of dying and making me wear a different one” 💀💀💀🤣
22:28: Yeah, it's like what Butters said.
man i miss my dad
I always felt like nothing could take me down.
I've had many years where it never occurred to me, I could die any day.
Last year, I got in a terrifying accident (hit by a train smashing my car to pieces)
I made it through with minimal injury, but the whole experience made me shift my whole perspective.
I am thankful to still be here, as the train hit, I thought I wouldn't be.
Never thought a video about a south park episode could be so touching
Thank you for this channel, it's really informative, entertaining, and effective.
I remember someone I played soccer with, mind you I suck at it but this guy was really good and he represents the school soccer team. One day while I was in class their classroom classmate come in our class asking for a donation to save his life because he got into a car accident, I wasn't sure if it was him because what are the odds it's someone you know anyways lol? Well turns out it was him and rumour was he got hit by a car driven by an old lady during the night when he was out and about riding his motorcycle which he got the licence for VERY recently, bout 3 months or 3 weeks can't remember. He was 16, I was 17. I didn't feel anything, didn't attend his funeral, didn't ask anymore.
Probably because you weren’t close to him
This video was so good 😢
Watched the blooms china one and just found out your channel . Guess today is my lucky day.
Cartmans hatred of hippies is my spirit animal.
It's hard when you are kids. I had two friends pass in high school (leukemia & a car wreck) before that only my grandma had passed, and the consensus was she led a full life, she's in a better place. But when someone's that young, it just feels unfair.
I like your documentaries
Thanks a lot Isaac! Hope to be making even more in the future!
bru tf im crying to dis
Keep it up man just found this channel
2 week's of straight gas bro is speed running becoming a youtuber
When I my closet friend was diagnosed with cancer when we were teenagers I threw away my passion for art and perused Biochemistry. Day in and out I'd study like hell trying to find something that can slow down his cancer cells from spreading. Eventually went to college but with slipping grades, financial issues, my pappy's death, relationship problems, bullying/discrimination, and finally opening up about my true sexuality and gender identity I dropped out. Instead of being there for him I helped others before enlisting into the army because that's the kind of person he was and what I wanted to share with the world. Before I left he passed away and that tore my life apart. Even when I went to training I had a DS that was grieving about the loss of his brother too and we had an emotional moment. But four years since then I cut myself off from the world. I stopped taking my hormones after only being on them for two months reverting back to masculine, spending most of my nights sobbing about him, and every time I went to the gym and see high school kids working out there's always that one kid who looks and sounds just like him that echos through my memories until you know it I'm tearing my arms lifting heavier and heavier until the pain goes away. Every holiday, every night, every storm I was at his grave grieving because I tried to save him but failed and what he wanted for all of us is to live our dreams but my dream is buried 6' below ground. Eventually had an accident and went into a near death experience and not only heard his voice but saw him slowing healing and saw his scars all over his face. For that moment and only then I tackled him and screamed like the day when he died. Cradling him in my knees apologizing for failing him until he forgave me. Since then after I woke up in the same hospital, room, and bed where he died I learned how to move on. Got new friends, slowly opening up about my transition goals and sexuality, stronger relationship with my parents, (still money problems), but now after years absent from the army I have a fighting chance to get back in. It's gonna take a while but worth it. Always remember this, G-d doesn't care how you live your life or what you look like, what truly matters is that you keep a strong heart and love for all so one day regardless of your faiths or not, you get to come home to see them again.
nah this episode made me cry because I related to Stan way too hard the situation was too real it threw me back completely and I'm still in denial from what happened
The part about your grandfather got to me, since I lost my grandfather ALS.
This one made me think and cry.
Man, I wish I had this advice 8 years ago when my father passed on.
.i love this episode, the reason why is cause it reminds me of a lot like me when my dad died when i was in fourth grade, on valentines. i didnt know how to cope, and still don't- but it's gotten easier. my dad got sick, and went into the hospital. for 1 month then died. stan reminds me of myself. in denial.
My friend group got hit hard because the one we all thought would be the last, ended up being the first. Truth be told, I always thought I’d be first or maybe second of the four of us. But we all agreed the one that went would be the last. Dude was sturdy, never got sick, tough as nails, and one of the most resilient people I knew who took every hardship in stride.
Then one day he got by a truck that ran a red light because of a driver not paying attention. He succumbed to his injuries after a few days in the icu.
Definitely feel this. When my mom died in May I wasn't able to handle it, I cried for three days and for weeks upon weeks, I dunno, I felt little to nothing and it took a long time before my voice even change tone again or I could even manage a chuckle at anything, and I cried for three nights straight. My mind still passes into denial, still hoping for a phone call to take something to her or to come pick her up, but when I pass by the door to her room and see no lights on it's a hard reminder.
Tried to post this a few moments prior but my connection divided to crap out and make me feels worse I guess.
My step dad murdered my mom when I was nine. I think I’ve gotten over it. But what I’ll never get over is how my family shattered afterward. Everyone turned on each other. To this day every one in my family only has one other member of the family that they talk to. It brought out the worst in us and no one even tried to make it better
When my niece went to her grandpa's funeral and saw him in the casket, she asked in a loud voice, ''What is Grandpa doing in a suitcase?" That definitely lightened the mood
I'm not crying, you are!
I feel bad for laughing at “My wish is to not die”. Death is a tragedy but sometimes you just have to chuckle
Man, this reminds me of when my Pop Pop died. He was having complications with due to his diabetes. I remembered him being in and out of the hospital and then just one of the times when my dad informed me that my Pop Pop was admitted again, I remember thinking, "he's going to die". Idk how I knew. He passed months afterwards. Til this day, I hate myself cause while my Pop Pop was admitted, my dad stated how he would like to see me and gave me option to go visit. I declined....and I still don't really know why I did. I think I was in denial. 15 years later, I can't remember the last time I had saw my Pop Pop but I just hold on to all the awesome memories I was fortunate enough to have shared with him. And idk how, but I literally feel that he's somewhere out "there". And thats not even spurred on by my own Christian background. I miss him greatly but that thought makes me happy.
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first my grandmother and grandfather died and i did not feel anything .. no sorrow.. i was felling as if they are just on a long trip.. then my other grand mother died and i was in high school and also did not felt anything.. but then when i saw my grandfather cried ..it broke me.. that was one of two my sadiest moments.. first one was when my dog dissapeared ..
My grandpa died when i was 10 years old everything happened very suddenly they brought him to the hospital and he was dead the next morning in less than 24 hours it sucked that i had to go to school that day i spent the day just crying
You can be all melodramatic and what not, but the simple fact is life is temporary. There is nothing to be done about it, if you are lucky you reach like 100 years if you even want that. But it is as it is.
This is exactly how I felt when my aunt passed away at the young age of 40 due to an massive hart attack
My cousin died from an overdose last year and I didn't take it so well. I was getting myself ready to see an Uncle in NYC and had my plane tickets to France on my phone until I was told that my cousin passed away. I canceled my trip and stayed with my family to mourn her death. That was last year. My family has this thing of whenever someone dies you never speak about that person anymore. Sweep the dust under the rug. This post is hard.
13:28: Yeah, that's what I personally call "unrealistic optimism".
Last one to die. Because I can sit around and call up those friends and talk about the old times with said friend. And when I'm the last I'll be that old Boomer in the bar talking about stuff we did in the past with those that passed away.
When I was 8, one of my friends died at 8 too and now I’m nearly 12 and still have the tramau of it all, also it gave me fear of death to this day
Damn boi you putting out some good crap
9:28 when watching this scene I BAWLED.
Ceric is the Family Guy to Blooms the Simpsons
8:10 WOW, i was not expecting that
I also would chose to go first if it was my choice but that's me being selfish 😞 idk that pain of losing people I love hits too hard but then again I gotta keep living
I remember when I heard the news my nan had cancer, I didnt react (or react like someone would), I remember, I was playing Bayonetta 2 on my Wii U and I was told and I just nodded and continued playing, I should say I have Autism and ADHD
But the weeks when my nan was dying, I just buried myself in games, loud music like Green Day and stuff, in my head, it was normal for me but when my highschool called my step-dad in to talk to him because they noticed I was shutting myself out from the rest of the world, he told them whats been going on and how I was taking it and I remember hearing him say it, it clicked in my head that this isnt right, that I wasn't doing what I thought I would do and I inadvertently put on a facade and it was that day that the facade I put on just broke and I realised the real gravity of everything and this isn't the time to shut myself away and should be there, unfortunately I learnt that far too late and a week later, we got news my nan took a turn, we got to the hospital late due to traffic and me, my brother, step-dad and biological mother where in the waiting room when the final news where delivered
My nan died 5 minutes before we arrived and the first thing I did was punch the wall because I was angry that I wasn't there but also because I had all these emotions built up and needed to get out
Since then, I've tried my best to be there and to enjoy life instead of shutting myself away
Life is unfair but life is beautiful
I remember back in sophomore year of high school one of my classmates ended up jumping off a phone tower or cell tower or whatever it was called. I didn't know him too well but he was always nice to me in the few classes i had with him. I was confused on how to feel. I didn't know him that well and yet i felt uncomfortable. I wouldnt say it was distraught though... Just uneasy. I remember my parents chastising me for not being sad enough and getting punished. I felt like there was something wrong with me maybe i didnt feel things correctly. Everyone around me seemed to be sad when they had never even spoken to him. I remember forcing tears to convince my parents that I had feelings. It was uncomfortable
It is perfectly normal to recognize the sadness of someone dying "before their time" and feeling empathy for that loss to people emotionally close to the deceased. Acting like there was something wrong with you for not experiencing GRIEF when you barely knew the deceased ... that was effed up, and you should not have been treated that way by your family or anyone. In middle school/high school there was a kid who was shot (and made quadriplegic) by his twin brother. My best friend was kinda going out with the shooter, so I was acquainted. There were also deaths of a coupke students that I knew, but wasn't close to. I remember being appalled and feeling almost more upset by the public displays by people who likewise weren't really friends. It felt gross! When I voiced my opinion (once!) in class when it was decided we needed to talk about it, people were REALLY offended. Baffling. Yes, these were upsetting, tragic incidents, but literally cry about "losing" someone you smiled and nodded at, but never ate lunch with? Nah. Bullshit, greedy, attention-seeking selfishness.
Tl;dr: nothing wrong with you. Your feelings were/are totally appropriate.
While I agree with most of what you said, I cannot stress enough that people need to stop releasing balloons to honor the dead. Eventually, those balloons have to fall somewhere, and they end up being an environmental nightmare. But planting a tree in honor of a lost one is an excellent idea
man this might sound weird but when my grandma died, the first thing i experienced was shock then nothing, it faded fast and moved forward faster.
Don't know why, i loved her sure but when she was gone, there wasn't anything.
Lost my husband only 46 to colonncancer that spread to everything Inc bones. We caught to late. 2 months later I still hurt. But his Dr being honest fm day one made the process a smidgen easier. He almost made 3 yrs. Was only told may get 2 max
My first time I experienced death I was 5 it was right after my brothers birth like 2 days after my great grandma died
I thought my grieving was letting it out when I needed to. One day, I was driving past the graveyard where my girlfriend is buried. I hit the gas and held it down until I lost control. It was stupid of me, but it was a back road, no one should have been there. I'm glad they were though, I got lucky, and my friend helped me out of the ditch. I rolled, going 110mph(170kph). I got a helicopter ride and a 3 day hospital stay. Let your grief out in a place where you won't hurt yourself or others.
Forgot to add that I have a plate in my arm from the roll over, I see why race cars have a net on the window lol
to answer the question near the end, I'd rather be the last person in my friend group to die, because of the only truth in this world "I will be there, always"
until the day you die.
Watching chief die was so sad. When he died he took all the goodness he gave the town with him. Damn that fruity cult!
11:05 "these can all be good alternatives for helping bring closure to a child . . . now, lets get back to south park"
12:05 seems to imply that Harvard made a study on experiencing grief and created the theory of 5 stages of grief. Actually it was a female medical doctor from Switzerland - dr Kubler-Ross in 1969.
Not Randy of all people handling explaining death to a child better than my own parents. They didn't even tell me. I literally walked in our dog being put down! Though tbf we had experienced a self deletion earlier in the year so I can understand why but man did that mess me up more than that - mainly paranoia, depression, and the way I process grief was completely messed up. Then 2020 came along with some more (truly) sudden deaths as the cherry on top.
Main point I'm making behind all this trauma dumping is that YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR CHILDREN! The longer you leave it the more damage you'll do to them.
I knew something was gonna happen to Arthur in rdr2 (health wise) all cause of this South Park episode showing me a consistent cough for a long is probably more then a cold
My best friend just died. Thank you sir
Hang in there and be the best you can be, so your friend can look down to you and smile from above
I love this Show
My dad was diagnosed too late with liver cancer last year
I really like your videos they are really good you deserve so many more subscribers