Hello Nanny , I Celebrate being alone , after what I have been thru , this is the next thing to Heaven , Me and JESUS live in my house and have a great relationship everyday , AMEN
Hi nanny I am a new subscriber everything you said made a lot of sense to me but I don't seem to be able to help myself I will be 82 tomorrow I will be alone I have a big family grandkids great grandkids nobody bothers me and it hurts and then I get angry I sit here and think to myself I don't really have any hobbies I seen have lost interest in everything I don't even want to cook anymore but I have to in order to eat I know I'm depressed I have been for years I won't even go out for a walk if I had somebody with me I would to talk to but I just can't seem to get myself together I'm trying take care now
@@Grace-qr9cf Welcome you our channel, Grace…and thank you for sharing… I think you have to reach out to your family NOW…start with your children and let them know you miss and need their love …I’m sure there is someone in that big family who will respond… you must advocate for yourself, Grace…you might be surprised how it helps! God bless you and keep us posted!🤯🙏
Love you, Nanny. Yes, I poured by heart and soul into my granddaughter as her childcare from birth to 6 years old on a daily basis. My daughter is a single mother who needed to work. When my granddaughter started school, I was her pickup everyday; then once a week during middle school. During covid, I was in her bubble as she navigated zoom schooling. Now, she will be 15 in July. After covid isolation, she is much more social minded, and I am no longer in her daily life. It was a true grieving experience for me, and I did go into a deep depression at first. However, we text or see each other at least twice a month for lunch or dinner. It was her idea for me to take a class at our community college to adapt my novel (published when I was 78, now 82)into a screenplay. I registered for the class with mostly 20 year olds, a few 30 year olds and two 40-50 year olds. I could have been the grandmother or mother of all of them. I was frightened to be "the old lady" in the back row, but the experience was a wonderful one. It took courage, but was so worthwhile to "put myself out there". I know I am loved by my granddaughter, and truthfully wish I could be more a part of her life as it was, but I accept she needs to lead her own young life with me as her sideline guide not her central figure. I never miss your videos. Thank you. At 82, I know it is a gift to be here. Love you and Moose🥰
You were very fortunate to have all those years with your granddaughter, Arleen…(and she with you, also) …the fact that she was the one to suggest the class for you proves that you will ALWAYS be in her heart. Congrats on your book….would love to hear more!!❤️
You did a wonderful job of presenting this topic. I am 86 and I don't have an issue with feeling alone or invisible and am so thankful for the gift of aging. I am recently widowed but that's another story. Love your channel.
It was a great vlog today Nanny. I found it really interesting and very accurate. At 75 I have found that I am sometime invisible. I have always been quite outgoing and somewhat attractive so getting attention was just part of life. As I aged I noticed that it has changed, younger people looked at me a bit differently and it was somewhat more difficult to be heard. So I began to understand why older women tend to wear brighter colours, flashy scarves and even put purple or red streaks in their hair. I noticed it happening years ago but didn't really get it until I turned 70 or so. It does take some adjusting to my attitude and my expectations. We have all had our turn at it, it's now the younger generation who are in the lime light and that's ok. I now make choices to ensure that I am not lonely or depressed. I was widowed at 45 and had lost both parents by then. My 2 sons were in university and living about 20 miles away. I had absolutely no family around me so I made a decision that I would have to make friends my family. And it has worked. My sons live closer now but they know I have a good support system them helps them to worry less about me. This is long and drawn out but I felt the need to add my 2 cents. xo
Thank you for sharing, S…Being widowed by 45 snd losing both parent by then is hard…but you seem to have come through it all beautifully…with great self-esteem! Hugs and love, , Nanny❤️
Things are changing since our grandkids are teens. We used to keep them, play games and talk with them, especially during lockdown. (but not necessarily just then) The other day my 15 year old grandson talked to me about his concerns about how things are going in the world. Believe me, kids are concerned about the state of the world. We worked away in my flowers and we talked about Jesus and God's sovereignty. We have to be available to our family when they need encouragement and live on purpose. I get busy doing crafts and gardening. My health only limits my mobility and I am always here for a hug, a prayer and some comfort for my family. Maybe your family needs you more than you realize❤ I think we should always be available to them. Much love to you Nanny and Moosey🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Good morning Nanny. This topic hits home with me. Yes, I feel all of those feelings. Invisible, lonely, unwanted or needed, unimportant. It makes me very sad that this society, especially in this country, sweeps us under the rug. For years I have said that I feel invisible. I did not know that anyone else used that term. My husband and best friends have passed on. My daughter has distanced herself from me which includes my grandson. My son is always too busy. Yes he calls me on the way home from work. But I need to see family in person. As I try to form new friendships, I find that many have their husbands and a closeness with their families. They don’t understand my loneliness. Due to strokes I no longer drive. Uber is expensive. The quilt and needlework shops have closed as have many brick and mortar stores. So I cannot go there for classes. The adult school classes don’t have the quality of instruction that I seek. I am a loving, creative person and have much to offer. But no one cares or has time. I was told to go play Bingo. Yes that can be fun, however, I need to have conversations, especially with like minded people. Or people who are interesting. While playing Bingo, there is no conversation. If I tell my son that I need to see the family, it bothers him. I think that he feels frustrated that he is being pulled in too many directions. That makes me feel guilty. Oh I have my hobbies; stitching, card making, reading, cooking, my little pot - oops - container garden no I don’t grow pot…lol. And of course I have my wonderful fur baby Molly. She is the only one who still needs me. But I long for companionship. I absolutely do feel blessed to still be here. However I want to make the most of it. I want a loving relationship with my family. In some cultures the elders are respected and honored. They are included in everything and when they can no longer care for themselves, they are included in the home and family of a son or daughter. If you watch television, society cares for other categories of people…children, veterans, certain cultures, etc. AS THEY SHOULD! However seniors, well how much do you hear about us. If we get old we get shoved into a nursing home. When we die we are forgotten. When we visit my husbands resting place, some spaces are never visited. At any holiday the cemetery looks very festive with flowers, but MANY places never have anything. We live, love and care for family and friends, have had careers, some of which have saved people’s lives or benefited society greatly. Then we age…we are disposable (a fourth D). I would add a fifth “D”. Death. My dearest friends. My buddies, my support group, they are all gone. I was told by my 96 year old friend (who is also gone) to surround myself with younger people. That problem is how busy they are. We are a burden or forgotten. Oh Nanny, believe me I have told family and friends. But it falls on deaf ears. No one wants to hear it. Their time is budgeted to their own activities. I would be a burden to be included. Your soup sounds so good! Yummy with crusty bread. I know that Moose was very grateful for a good comforting meal. You are both blessed with family and each other. I know that you occasionally feel down, however you always seem to bounce back. I was always taught to push things down and be strong. Go forward. Well I am not sure that is a good thing. Recently I have broken down. Tears flowed. Then I pull myself back. It is more difficult with poor health and pain. But again I grit my teeth and move on. Enough gloom! Blessings to you both, love, Sharon
I feel lonely and invisible and I'm only 59. I noticed the decline in things to do too. I used to take adult school classes and now they've been pared down to nothing except language classes and tai chi! What happened to ceramics and jewelry making? Out of desperation, I do go to Bingo sometimes but that's at night. I need something to do during the day. I have grown kids a couple of hours away but no grandchildren I also feel like the only one who needs me is my best friend-my dog. I do have one close friend that I cherish and another friend as a back up but there are too many long hours in the day to fill and I hate most television so I read but I have a hard time finding good books.
@@lindabolique72 Hello Linda. I am sorry that you are suffering. You are young and hopefully still in good health. Maintain your health and hopefully you will still drive for years to come. I cannot emphasize enough how important hobbies are. I put on old music and with my fur baby by my side I make things. Nights are the worst. I don’t care much for regular television, however I do like the mysteries on PBS and KCET. I record them and they are ready when I am. Best of luck to you.
I am so sad to hear this, Sharon…your children don’t realize what they are miśsing by not keeping in regular contact with you…unfortunately they might have to live with regrets and remorse some day…sending much love ,prayers and hugs,❤️🙏
I can’t tell you enough how much watching your videos has helped me. You have a way of knowing exactly what to say to make our lives more fulfilling, even though many of us are very lonely and often begin to feel sorry for ourselves due to circumstances sometimes beyond our control. I drift into that “poor me” mode occasionally as well, but know that my family love me and have busy lives, along with their own set of problems to deal with, and I do consider myself fortunate to still be here, no matter what. Thanks for touching on a very valid topic Nanny…..I’m sure it hit home with many of us.🤗😘
Nanny, you always bring hope to me about aging. Thank you for showing me that even with all the aches and pains and problems that come with aging, one can still find happiness and reasons to live. I am not as afraid as I once was to approach 70. Thank you
Good morning! About a week ago I discovered your videos & am enjoying them so much. I’m 72 & live alone but have a nice circle of friends & family. I especially enjoyed your view on how we are still loved even when we aren’t needed by the younger family members. I have my 1st great grandchild & enjoy her visits. Thanks for putting yourself out there & sharing your ideas & views with rest of us.
Thank you for addressing this issue! Explaining the "circle" is a great way to visualize our life journeys! I think we all need a reminder no matter our life decade! ~ Belinda
Thank you for addressing topics we sometimes shy away from! It has hit home with me today! My eyes are filled with tears ....thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us! You are such a loving and caring person!❤️
Oh you’ve really touched my heart with this video today .. I live alone now but spent many many yrs taking care of family and elder parents etc .. I feel “ invisible “ lately sometimes . Your so lovely at making people feel comforted and supported .. thank you so much nanny for being here and being YOU 💕
Nanny, this is the best part of getting old. Not a care in the world, couldn’t care less of others attention or opinion. I wear what I want, do what I want and no one messes with us cause we’re “senile”. 😂😂😂
68 and count it a blessing to age - husband 70 soon - we see our circles changing - we have raised our children and watched two grandchildren grow up - still have a little 7 year old grandson and treasure every moment with all of our family. Thank you for loving us all enough to talk about this topic. Life is a journey and I look back and forward with a grateful heart. Love to you and Moosey.
FABULOUS VIDEO! We need to be our own advocate if possible! Than’ you for all your input into aging. Pitying oneself is not an answer to our age. Being grateful for the little things brings bigger things into our lives. Getting involved in other people and their lives is so beneficial. Volunteering is one way to give back to those less fortunate than we. Love, Love, Love our family no matter what age they are or what age we are Thank you again for your philosophy and sharing all that you do. Many continued BLESSINGS to you and your family!
I think one reason, why grandparents get physically disconnected from their grown children and so forth, is the many hard working hours needed to get by in this day and age. -Leaving people to zapped of energy to socialize.
Nanny, you are so right!!!! I just retired in July 1, 2023 It is MY RESPONSIBILITY TO make First move w my Kids to tell them I miss them , now I have more time then they do! Thank you , love your videos Pamela married to Bob Barker in Oklahoma
My mother, at 96, watches your videos and thoroughly enjoys them. She is very limited in ability to do much, and leaving home is now only for doctor appts, sadly. She lost my dad a year and a half ago after 75 years of marriage. He was her caregiver. I introduced her to you a month or so ago, and she so looks forward to your videos. Sadly, she is a negative person, difficult to be around, so many avoid her. Thank you and bless you for the joyfulness that comes forth from your videos. Blessings!
Interesting topic in today's video. Actually, watching your videos has helped me cope with loneliness and getting older issues. Sometimes you just need some reminders of things you can do to create happiness and fulfillment in your life. I have heard that volunteering can pull you out of a slump. Of course that was tricky during the pandemic. I'm invited to birthdays and holidays at my only nieces house, and I make the most of it. I have a small family group, and am lucky to have a few good friends that I will go out for lunch or dinner with, maybe once or twice a week. I have an older sister who I don't have much of a relationship with, unfortunately. Maybe we voted for different candidates, and may have destroyed our relationship. Too bad, but nothing I can do about it. I tried. It could have been a result of the pandemic. She was one who was afraid to be around others due to the virus. Now when I think about it, we used to have regular neighborhood get-togethers, a few times a year, which ended during covid. Haven't started up again. So there's that. That pandemic threw a wrench into a lot of people's lives. This is where your theory of being proactive concerning feelings of loneliness and being invisible. Anyway, rambling again. Okay, one more point. When I had cancer, over five years ago now, I did loose people from my life. I had read about this kind of thing happening when illness strikes, or perhaps if you get a divorce, or even sometimes if you become a widow or widower. Friends and family can sometimes desert or abandon you. Its not necessarily you, and more often them having a fear of illness or something else. I saw this when I was a caretaker for my sister who had MS. I would wonder how her best friends in some cases, not all, would stay away. Even some family members couldn't cope with her not being who she once was. She was quite a strong, successful person who had lived a full life. I being her caretaker, decided to make the most of it. The old saying "When life hands you lemons, you make lemonade". As it turns out, lemons are good for you. Haha. I should mention that others can come back into your life when you are going through something. Also new people show up sometimes too. "One door closes, another door opens". Well I've said too much. Your video has got me thinking, Nanny. Final thought, that soup looked delicious! I will sign off for now. Have a great weekend. See you in the next video. Take care. MJ♥️🤸🍋
Thank you for sharing your story, MJ…sounds like you are keeping busy with friends and hobbies…yes…the pandemic did mess society up a lot…and maybe people just got used to caring less about friendships and keeping in touch…someday it will become history with all kinds of theories…hugs and love, ❤️
Wow Nanny you sure have a great topic today. I'm 78 and since I've retired find myself in the situation you talked about since my son and 3 grandsons jhave grown and moved away. They are only 3 hours away. In Riverside county in different cities. They come to see me and I travel there and in the meantime I do keep myself busy with gardening, my 2 cats, church and many relatives who are nearby. I do still get lonesome for my son and grandsons but I'm able to be happy anyway so thank you for the much needed pep talk and I love you too❤
What a much needed topic of conversation. Sometimes people and their families are just broken and hard to fix. It does no good to assign blame as that simply does not fix anything. I know a family that needs a bad guy to be blamed for being responsible for the rift. These are good neighbors and friends and it is hard to watch. What a sad way to live! Your soup looked great. At my house I welcome Saturdays by cleaning out my fridge and making soup almost weekly. Our son loves to take home a huge container of that soup to eat on all week, My precious neighbors across the street were so glad for me to get my kitchen back. She is a hard working mom who has no extra time to cook and truly appreciates every single meal. They have adopted the husband's relative's wee daughter because of a health problem. They are such a great family and it is so wonderful to help them cope. Families are often created without a blood connection, aren't they? Sometimes we can find a whole new family if yours no longer exists.
Thanks for this, Nanny. You are a breath of fresh air. I agree with your idea re. 'distance' and loneliness that distancing creates. Covid has been so destructive to sooo many relationships, in my opinion, and we cannot deny the loneliness that covid created. Thanks for your wisdom. :)
I live totally alone,no family or friends,many times i feel a burden to society,because i have a severe back problem,some people feel threatened,being around me in case i need help,im 80
Moosie has wondered that, too, ANNE…but then he kids around with people when he is in his wheelchair…like calling..”beep beep”.. and making light of it…many times, though, people will want to hold doors,help and smile…not be threatened! just OWN IT, ANNE..you can do it! God bless!🙏❤️
Hello Anne: wondering if you have a Senior Center in your community? Some communities will even have rides available. Great for some socializing. Crafts; games, field trips. I also have back pain and wish you comfort! May you feel God’s blessing today😊
@@MercyUS Thank you Mercy for your concern,i have tried senior centres but my brain is too advanced so i have nothing in common,its difficult because i need help for travelling,i have found people who are like me with nobody are less likely to get help,but people with family do get help,Thank you once again. Anne
Hello Nanny, what a nice video on loneliness! I’m 82 years young, and live alone. Many times, since growing older, I feel a sense of loneliness, forgotten and invisible. While it’s difficult to accept, it’s real nonetheless. The reality is that I could do more to help myself by getting involved with other things, but I don’t really have the desire to do so. I guess that’s a part of life. I’m grateful to my Heavenly Father that He has blessed me with this gift, because there are MANY people whose lives have have been cut short at a very young age, including my sweet husband who passed away of a massive stroke at the age of 60. Your words of encouragement were so inspiring, and your wonderful soup looked so delicious. Looks like Moose enjoyed it! He is so fortunate to have you and you are fortunate to have him. I need to make a big pot of soup and invite a friend over.
Thank you Nanny for reminding me that I am still here and that it’s a blessing. I will think about when I will feeling down. You said it all with the circle of life. Loved the soup it smells good. The family photos were lovely. Love you Nanny and God bless you all.
You are right on about the circles Nanny, I think when old people need help like in sickness and their is no help or interest it can take a toll being alone getting to appointments and Doctors. When there is no help in the area. Thank you Nanny for having this talk. Hugs Bea
Thank you Nanny for a great video. You have done a great service for your friends here on TH-cam. The circle of life is fascinating. We raise our children to become independent and capable to be on their own, then sometimes we miss the way it used to be.!! Soup smells good!! Beautiful family picture. Love you!
Hi Nanny, I really enjoyed this video and can relate to it in many ways. I have four grandsons that I have always been very close to and spent a lot of time with. I love them to pieces and I know they love me but you’re explanation of the circle expanding really hit home. I know this is the way it’s supposed to be but at the same time it can be bitter sweet. You do tend to miss the times when they were younger and always wanted to be with you. but it is part of life in the circle of life and we just have to accept it. Yes growing old is a gift yet again it’s not for sissies. Lol. Thanks for explaining and reminding us. You are a sweetheart! Hugs, Dolores. 🥰❤️
I love this video. I think you have given good advice. My take away from this is,"To have a better life, think positive! " My grandmother always said," 90% of what happens to you starts above your eyes." Nanny this great information for all of us.
I am single well divorced since 2002. I have found out no one can make me happy but me. I am some what a loner I am 74. I am raising my grandson from 8 to now 15. He is into the teen years and a little grumpy and likes to play games in his room. I was born late in my mothers life so I was sorta like an only child growing up. That helps with being alone. I just found your channel and love it, I am going right now to Amazon and buying your makeup. I love your glow.
Nanny I just love watching your videos!!! I look forward to seeing what’s next. I am alone and I’ve been divorced for about 33 years. I need to see my 4 children (grown) and my 5 grandchildren as often as possible. I do feel abandoned sometimes but now I do things with friends and my church family. I love you both too, you make my day! ❤❤
You are needed and appreciated and that is a key part to feeling happy in our senior years. Those of us who have lost our spouses and/or are far from family and don't get around easily miss that so much. You are blessed.
I just lost my husband who I cared for like you... There are no words for how I am feeling. I wish I could run to your house and color, or play the piano as your grandchildren once did. You are a comfort to me Nanny. ❤
Nanny you are spot on, I feel this video was God sent. My sister and I were talking about this very thing this morning. We are at this very place in our lives, and you said it so well. Thank you so much for doing this video, I love you too and God Bless Us All.🥰
I feel like you Nanny. I am content with where I’m at at 80. Your way of incorporating the circle was very wise , and interesting because it’s very true. One of my summer hobbies is raising monarch butterflies. I enjoy FaceTimeing with friends and family is also a blessing to me. I enjoy going to lunch with girlfriends, little bit of shopping here and there. Of course, seeing the kids and grandkids that are near. I also like keeping up my house with new things here in there. My garden, flowers and just my own time alone reading. My spirituality , cooking for my husband most of the time is enjoyable. Sometimes I just want go out and let others cook and serve us. Thank you, Hugs & love
Wonderful video. My mom used to call me, saying I just wanted to hear your voice. Well now, I would do anything nearly just to get one of her calls again 💔 All your points were excellent & I want to add to the 3rd D about disputes. As we age we have to let go, and let God. Forgive someone who you feel has wronged you- more important for YOUR well being than theirs. I can't stress REACH OUT enough. Your family & friends cannot read your mind. Put a smile on your face before you make that call. It will come through in your voice. Love, hugs, & blessings to you & Moosie. We will be traveling home tomorrow (Tues) after 3 wks here taking care of mom's funeral & all the aftermath. Will have to come bk next month of course, and probably a few more times before we're done (400 mi trip one way). ❤
This really hits home. I'm 57 years old, disowned by my mother and siblings - and I'm single. The word "invisible" is correct. I started noticing it a few years ago - at the grocery store. No eye contact - no simple greetings, etc. I found it odd and I found myself in a new place that I've never experienced before. I do have my adult son - but it's not his job to fill the void. I do enjoy living alone, but at times I'm lonely. Not always - but sometimes.
Nanny. I love the messages you give us in your videos. I am so blessed as my three single sons and I share a home together. This time especially, as two of us are quiet sick with virus's and my youngest is taken it on himself to be care caregiver. God has blessed us with a wonderful old home, and has plenty of room. I spent 8 days in the hospital and it it weren't for my son, I would no longer be here. Yes, very serious. However he got very sick and was rushed to the hospital. I believe in prayer and have spent the past two weeks praying for all of us. God has been listening and it seems today we may be rounding the corner. I love your little cottage, Moosie and yo are such great friends, as well as husband and wife. Some times when I am awake at night (which has been quite often) I turn on my computer and look for you! Thank you for all of your videos. God Bless us All...........and may we all find peace in our lives and hearts.
Hi Nanny,😊. I love your new banner, slogan and pictures. I've used that phrase Carpe Diem many times. I write it when signing cards or well wishes to someone, or just in my journal. I got a letterboard for Mothers Day and I may put your whole slogan on there! Thanks for the idea...🎉 You could be a motivational speaker, you're videos are so uplifting. I look forward to each one. Hope you and Moosie have a great rest of your week🦋🌞🙋♀️
Wow, thank you for this. I loved your explanation of the circles. I am 68 with grandchildren who are now 10 and 13. I babysat them from the time they were a few months old when my daughter went back to work and still go to their home when they get off the school bus. I am now seeing they need me less and less. It makes me sad but your explanation of the circles has made me realize that although they need me less, they still do love me and my husband. I needed to hear this today.
I have spent the lasr 20 hrs dreading turning 80, and now its here, i turn 80 this year. First of all i am so happy i made it. I come to realize it's just a number. Life is good at any age, and i am looking forward for next 10 yrs.
Nanny, you have such a wonderful take on aging and life not be the same as it was long ago. I am so grateful I'm still on this beautiful planet that God gave us. I will be seventy five, live alone and barely get lonely. I always find something to do. What I love most about aging Is the wisdom we possess. We always will have the great memories of when we and our children were young. Yes, time changes us in many ways but love what we have now and live the remaining years the best we can. You are sincerely a joy to watch and listen to! Blessings come in many ways and we are blessed having you. Give hugs to Moosie. Your soup looks amazing!!! I love soups. See you next time!! ❤
I can relate to everything you have said. Yes! We must be our own best advocate. And!!! I am grateful for each and everyday. Bless you and Moosey. Love you. Hugs 🤗love ❤️ and prayers🙏
Thank you. thank you for the assuring talk! I'm alone, widowed with no children but I look forward to small things: gardening, lunch with friends, phone calls with siblings and crafting, etc! As long as I can I will "carpe diem"! Be blessed!🎉🎈😊
Thanks for the words of wisdom from your heart. I'm 71 and live far away from my 2 daughters but talk almost everyday. I am fortunate to be married to a wonderful man who also has kids far away. We have 2 cats and a dog that helps with the loneliness and I enjoy cooking and a little gardening in pots. We just have to enjoy the small stuff and be thankful for life as it is very precious. I always enjoy your videos and learn something new every time. Love to you and Moosie.
Thank you nanny you always make sense for so many of us ,we should be thankful to be getting old I have good memories of my grandchildren,as I cared for them when they were babies, all good thank you. Blessings to you and moose 🙏👍👏🌹😘
O the soup looks delish,What a wonderful topic today. Know there’s lots of loneliness today. Just have to take a day at a time. We are so blessed,we’re 79 and I have some difficulties getting around,had polio but I’m getting around,don’t get to travel like we use too. So please go on trips and enjoy while you can! Enjoy your videos so much,tell Moosie hello,he did so good on your vacation,know you’ll enjoyed it so much. Your son and daughter in law So Nice!💕
I enjoy spending time with you @Nanny and @Moosie and your happy family because you're "normal" folk, filled with love. I'm grateful I have my loving husband who is my best friend. My adult children won't associate with me. They are in a high control "cult" and believe I am "demonized". They were taught to fear me, because I don't believe what they believe. I doubt many people understand my dilemma.
I've already commented on this, but wanted to add a habit I've been trying to remember to do daily, and that is to text, "good morning" to a few of my kids and grands. Plus saying, I love you! I always get a response, and it just makes me feel better that I've reached out to thrm! I still send birthday cards and just cards to say I miss you!! Try it, friends❤ it's a habit my sweet mother taught me😂
@@jenniewinchester8792 Thank you for your kind words, Jennie. I do send emails to my son like that. And he does respond with an email full of preaching. With my daughter, I don't even have an email or a phone number. She has her facebook set to private. She has blocked me.
Love your story, the same with us. We built an in-law on our daughter's home and took care of the children sending them to school and homework and took them where they needed to be. It was jist as good for us as they kept us active. They're all grown now but I seem them all the time. Now that I'm alone they are always around checking on me, All is good.
You look beautiful today, as always. I was sitting here agreeing with you about how things change as kids grow older. We were also very involved in the caretaking of our grands. Now they are teens and drive. So we aren't needed. But I know they love us. We want things to stay the same, but it doesn't. They grow up too fast! So we need to enjoy them. You're right. That's what I've always said too. You just need to SHOW UP! Make an appearance and tell your family you've missed them! My hubby and I do have each other. Our children all live from 1 mile to 40 miles away. They are busy with their jobs and raising kids. We should be thankful we've been blessed to see them grow up. Many people don't get that chance. We also have a great relationship with all our kids. I'm glad you approached this topic. I think we have to make things happen Read, sew, I also like to garden! I do all the cooking but it's ok. We have to remember our blessings. And thank you for your support on these subjects about getting older. Love you❤❤❤❤❤ Your soup looks yummy. Did you mean zucchini or cucumber in that soup??? 😂 I've always said families need to make the effort to see each other. It's work. But I won't be guilty of not trying!
Thanks for sharing this episode on the topic . It's something that I needed to hear and how to improve loving myself and be an advocate for myself and to spread the love . I try to add calls more often to check on family and friends. I love you, you're the best.😊
Love what you did in the kitchen!! Great advice! As we get older we have to contact people sometimes to do things. I join groups, sewing, etc. Your garden in so beautiful💕
Such a great topic. I love the way you explained getting older with the circle. It made so much sense and it made me subscribe to your channel. I don't think anyone could have expressed these feelings better. You brought tears to my eyes. You surely have the best attributes of the Irish heritage. Wisdom and the gift for words among them. I didn't see my one grandma much when I became a teenager, but when I was in elementary school I rushed home from school when I knew she would be visiting. She passed away when I was in my early teens and I regret that I didn't spend more time with her. I love her so very much, still, and hope to see her again one day. But not too soon. We have the "Distance" problem and you have given great advice. It's true our children and grandchildren do love us. When we see them a couple of times a year, they are so kind and loving towards us. They love laughing with their funny granddad and hang on his every word. And they ask me, Ya Ya, Grandma, to help with things still. Thanks again for this video, I will watch it again with Papoo. Grandpa. And now on to make a delicious soup. Love to you and Moose.
Great reminder. I think many older parents wait for an invitation rather than asking for connection and then feel invisible. Younger people are often overwhelmed with the busyness of children and careers and may not always know when older parents need something. Good message to all of us to speak up and not expect mind reading or to assume we are not loved .
Nanny…. My Dearest, most favorite gift to myself with Moosie too. For my 70th big bash to myself I’ve placed you both to take residence in my happy place of my heart and brain. Thank You, BigBigHug, yes let’s make soup, Love 💕 You /Bye 💫
You just took your story from my book. I really related to “we might need them more than they need us”. So true. But we still share wonderful memories, know we are loved and our life stages are constantly changing.
Thank you Nanny for sharing your sage advice and wisdom. I had to not respond right away after watching because sometimes things are just what they are hard. No one escapes the good or the bad. The best any of us can and should do is to be positive and know God has a plan for us no matter our age. We are not alone or invisible to to our Lord Jesus! God bless you and Moosie and your family. Bless all here! Hugs, Elizabeth XX 🤗❤️🙏☀️🌸🥰😀🌻
You look beautiful Nanny, even w/o your makeup & a bedhead! So many useful tips and tricks you have. And I appreciate seeing you cook & garden. It brings joy to my heart to see you luvin life! We are in the beginning of our 70s and we no longer have a family circle. My only son passed 4 yrs ago, but we do have our friends and that's good enough. Thanks for sharing you & Mossies' life with us. ... Glenda
Hi Nanny and Moosie. Lovely video. Never made minestone before. You've inspired me to make some. Yum. I do feel a bit invisible with my family. They moved to the East Coast. Although I've asked them to call, they don't. Too busy with their lives. They rarely text. A case of out of sight out of mind. So I keep busy taking cooking, Tai Chi and strength classes. Use the local Sr. Ctr. Then have classes with my church several nights a week. Have managed to form a support group of friends. It hurts that my family is too busy to contact me but I have adapted and happy. Blessings
Thank you for this wonderful video and your words. Your words are very helpful and a blessing to realize that your words are so true!! We all should find contentment in our circumstances, if possible. I love you so much for your sharing and precious personality!!!
Thank you so very much for this video. I could go on for a long time why it has touched me but I'm afraid I'd short circuit my keyboard with tears. I am good, I'm fine being alone and aging. My children are amazing professionals with Masters and I am so very grateful but, sometimes I do feel invisible. Again, thank you.
I didn't realize about the circles but now I do. I see was feeling depressed because I am so very close to my children and grandchildren BUT it seems things are changing and i need this show to help me the change is normal so i am OK Thank you Nanny I think I'll make vegie soup tomorrow and share some with my grandbabies...Love you and take care :D
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this so much. I've been binge watching your channel. Found it at a perfect time. Thank you for being so uplifting and encouraging. May God bless us all.
Hello Nanny , I Celebrate being alone , after what I have been thru , this is the next thing to Heaven , Me and JESUS live in my house and have a great relationship everyday , AMEN
I am so happy for you, Bonnie…you have found the best of living❤️🙏
Hi nanny I am a new subscriber everything you said made a lot of sense to me but I don't seem to be able to help myself I will be 82 tomorrow I will be alone I have a big family grandkids great grandkids nobody bothers me and it hurts and then I get angry I sit here and think to myself I don't really have any hobbies I seen have lost interest in everything I don't even want to cook anymore but I have to in order to eat I know I'm depressed I have been for years I won't even go out for a walk if I had somebody with me I would to talk to but I just can't seem to get myself together I'm trying take care now
@Grace-qr9cf just keep watching these videos - they will help you feel less depressed 🌺🌺
@@Grace-qr9cf I understand Grace.
@@Grace-qr9cf Welcome you our channel, Grace…and thank you for sharing… I think you have to reach out to your family NOW…start with your children and let them know you miss and need their love …I’m sure there is someone in that big family who will respond… you must advocate for yourself, Grace…you might be surprised how it helps! God bless you and keep us posted!🤯🙏
Love you, Nanny. Yes, I poured by heart and soul into my granddaughter as her childcare from birth to 6 years old on a daily basis. My daughter is a single mother who needed to work. When my granddaughter started school, I was her pickup everyday; then once a week during middle school. During covid, I was in her bubble as she navigated zoom schooling. Now, she will be 15 in July. After covid isolation, she is much more social minded, and I am no longer in her daily life. It was a true grieving experience for me, and I did go into a deep depression at first. However, we text or see each other at least twice a month for lunch or dinner. It was her idea for me to take a class at our community college to adapt my novel (published when I was 78, now 82)into a screenplay. I registered for the class with mostly 20 year olds, a few 30 year olds and two 40-50 year olds. I could have been the grandmother or mother of all of them. I was frightened to be "the old lady" in the back row, but the experience was a wonderful one. It took courage, but was so worthwhile to "put myself out there". I know I am loved by my granddaughter, and truthfully wish I could be more a part of her life as it was, but I accept she needs to lead her own young life with me as her sideline guide not her central figure. I never miss your videos. Thank you. At 82, I know it is a gift to be here. Love you and Moose🥰
You were very fortunate to have all those years with your granddaughter, Arleen…(and she with you, also) …the fact that she was the one to suggest the class for you proves that you will ALWAYS be in her heart. Congrats on your book….would love to hear more!!❤️
You did a wonderful job of presenting this topic. I am 86 and I don't have an issue with feeling alone or invisible and am so thankful for the gift of aging. I am recently widowed but that's another story. Love your channel.
Thank you, Louise…so happy to hear that you are enjoying our channel and…Aging!❤️
It was a great vlog today Nanny. I found it really interesting and very accurate. At 75 I have found that I am sometime invisible. I have always been quite outgoing and somewhat attractive so getting attention was just part of life. As I aged I noticed that it has changed, younger people looked at me a bit differently and it was somewhat more difficult to be heard. So I began to understand why older women tend to wear brighter colours, flashy scarves and even put purple or red streaks in their hair. I noticed it happening years ago but didn't really get it until I turned 70 or so. It does take some adjusting to my attitude and my expectations. We have all had our turn at it, it's now the younger generation who are in the lime light and that's ok. I now make choices to ensure that I am not lonely or depressed. I was widowed at 45 and had lost both parents by then. My 2 sons were in university and living about 20 miles away. I had absolutely no family around me so I made a decision that I would have to make friends my family. And it has worked. My sons live closer now but they know I have a good support system them helps them to worry less about me. This is long and drawn out but I felt the need to add my 2 cents. xo
Thank you for sharing, S…Being widowed by 45 snd losing both parent by then is hard…but you seem to have come through it all beautifully…with great self-esteem! Hugs and love, , Nanny❤️
Things are changing since our grandkids are teens. We used to keep them, play games and talk with them, especially during lockdown. (but not necessarily just then) The other day my 15 year old grandson talked to me about his concerns about how things are going in the world. Believe me, kids are concerned about the state of the world. We worked away in my flowers and we talked about Jesus and God's sovereignty. We have to be available to our family when they need encouragement and live on purpose. I get busy doing crafts and gardening. My health only limits my mobility and I am always here for a hug, a prayer and some comfort for my family. Maybe your family needs you more than you realize❤ I think we should always be available to them. Much love to you Nanny and Moosey🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Good morning Nanny. This topic hits home with me. Yes, I feel all of those feelings. Invisible, lonely, unwanted or needed, unimportant. It makes me very sad that this society, especially in this country, sweeps us under the rug. For years I have said that I feel invisible. I did not know that anyone else used that term. My husband and best friends have passed on. My daughter has distanced herself from me which includes my grandson. My son is always too busy. Yes he calls me on the way home from work. But I need to see family in person. As I try to form new friendships, I find that many have their husbands and a closeness with their families. They don’t understand my loneliness. Due to strokes I no longer drive. Uber is expensive. The quilt and needlework shops have closed as have many brick and mortar stores. So I cannot go there for classes. The adult school classes don’t have the quality of instruction that I seek. I am a loving, creative person and have much to offer. But no one cares or has time. I was told to go play Bingo. Yes that can be fun, however, I need to have conversations, especially with like minded people. Or people who are interesting. While playing Bingo, there is no conversation. If I tell my son that I need to see the family, it bothers him. I think that he feels frustrated that he is being pulled in too many directions. That makes me feel guilty. Oh I have my hobbies; stitching, card making, reading, cooking, my little pot - oops - container garden no I don’t grow pot…lol. And of course I have my wonderful fur baby Molly. She is the only one who still needs me. But I long for companionship. I absolutely do feel blessed to still be here. However I want to make the most of it. I want a loving relationship with my family. In some cultures the elders are respected and honored. They are included in everything and when they can no longer care for themselves, they are included in the home and family of a son or daughter. If you watch television, society cares for other categories of people…children, veterans, certain cultures, etc. AS THEY SHOULD! However seniors, well how much do you hear about us. If we get old we get shoved into a nursing home. When we die we are forgotten. When we visit my husbands resting place, some spaces are never visited. At any holiday the cemetery looks very festive with flowers, but MANY places never have anything. We live, love and care for family and friends, have had careers, some of which have saved people’s lives or benefited society greatly. Then we age…we are disposable (a fourth D). I would add a fifth “D”. Death. My dearest friends. My buddies, my support group, they are all gone. I was told by my 96 year old friend (who is also gone) to surround myself with younger people. That problem is how busy they are. We are a burden or forgotten. Oh Nanny, believe me I have told family and friends. But it falls on deaf ears. No one wants to hear it. Their time is budgeted to their own activities. I would be a burden to be included.
Your soup sounds so good! Yummy with crusty bread. I know that Moose was very grateful for a good comforting meal. You are both blessed with family and each other. I know that you occasionally feel down, however you always seem to bounce back. I was always taught to push things down and be strong. Go forward. Well I am not sure that is a good thing. Recently I have broken down. Tears flowed. Then I pull myself back. It is more difficult with poor health and pain. But again I grit my teeth and move on. Enough gloom! Blessings to you both, love, Sharon
I feel lonely and invisible and I'm only 59. I noticed the decline in things to do too. I used to take adult school classes and now they've been pared down to nothing except language classes and tai chi! What happened to ceramics and jewelry making? Out of desperation, I do go to Bingo sometimes but that's at night. I need something to do during the day. I have grown kids a couple of hours away but no grandchildren I also feel like the only one who needs me is my best friend-my dog. I do have one close friend that I cherish and another friend as a back up but there are too many long hours in the day to fill and I hate most television so I read but I have a hard time finding good books.
@@lindabolique72 Hello Linda. I am sorry that you are suffering. You are young and hopefully still in good health. Maintain your health and hopefully you will still drive for years to come. I cannot emphasize enough how important hobbies are. I put on old music and with my fur baby by my side I make things. Nights are the worst. I don’t care much for regular television, however I do like the mysteries on PBS and KCET. I record them and they are ready when I am. Best of luck to you.
You are very brave Sharon, to share this. -You are certainly appreciated here! -Always interesting to read your comments.
@@sharondevries1985 Thank you Sharon
I am so sad to hear this, Sharon…your children don’t realize what they are miśsing by not keeping in regular contact with you…unfortunately they might have to live with regrets and remorse some day…sending much love ,prayers and hugs,❤️🙏
I can’t tell you enough how much watching your videos has helped me. You have a way of knowing exactly what to say to make our lives more fulfilling, even though many of us are very lonely and often begin to feel sorry for ourselves due to circumstances sometimes beyond our control. I drift into that “poor me” mode occasionally as well, but know that my family love me and have busy lives, along with their own set of problems to deal with, and I do consider myself fortunate to still be here, no matter what. Thanks for touching on a very valid topic Nanny…..I’m sure it hit home with many of us.🤗😘
Thanks, Kathleen. for the very nice comment.❤️🙏
Nanny, you always bring hope to me about aging. Thank you for showing me that even with all the aches and pains and problems that come with aging, one can still find happiness and reasons to live. I am not as afraid as I once was to approach 70. Thank you
Good morning! About a week ago I discovered your videos & am enjoying them so much. I’m 72 & live alone but have a nice circle of friends & family. I especially enjoyed your view on how we are still loved even when we aren’t needed by the younger family members. I have my 1st great grandchild & enjoy her visits. Thanks for putting yourself out there & sharing your ideas & views with rest of us.
Thanks for being here, Londe…and enjoying our videos❤️
Thank you for addressing this issue! Explaining the "circle" is a great way to visualize our life journeys! I think we all need a reminder no matter our life decade! ~ Belinda
Thank you, Belinda…❤️
I just love your channel. You are so upbeat, common sense and not afraid to speak out on anything. Love that.
Thank you for addressing topics we sometimes shy away from! It has hit home with me today! My eyes are filled with tears ....thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us! You are such a loving and caring person!❤️
Oh you’ve really touched my heart with this video today .. I live alone now but spent many many yrs taking care of family and elder parents etc .. I feel “ invisible “ lately sometimes . Your so lovely at making people feel comforted and supported .. thank you so much nanny for being here and being YOU 💕
Nanny, this is the best part of getting old. Not a care in the world, couldn’t care less of others attention or opinion. I wear what I want, do what I want and no one messes with us cause we’re “senile”. 😂😂😂
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68 and count it a blessing to age - husband 70 soon - we see our circles changing - we have raised our children and watched two grandchildren grow up - still have a little 7 year old grandson and treasure every moment with all of our family. Thank you for loving us all enough to talk about this topic. Life is a journey and I look back and forward with a grateful heart. Love to you and Moosey.
Well said, Jean..❤️🙏
FABULOUS VIDEO! We need to be our own advocate if possible! Than’ you for all your input into aging.
Pitying oneself is not an answer to our age. Being grateful for the little things brings bigger things into our lives.
Getting involved in other people and their lives is so beneficial. Volunteering is one way to give back to those less fortunate than we.
Love, Love, Love our family no matter what age they are or what age we are
Thank you again for your philosophy and sharing all that you do.
Many continued BLESSINGS to you and your family!
Thank you ,Donna , for the nice comment and the blessings…AND glad to hear you are enjoying Aging!🙏❤️
Well done Nanny.💕 one day at a time sweet Jesus.
I think one reason, why grandparents get physically disconnected from their grown children and so forth, is the many hard working hours needed to get by in this day and age. -Leaving people to zapped of energy to socialize.
That’s true, FERNIE…❤️
You have no idea how much you are helping everyoe- thank you!
Thank you ,Jo Ellen…❤️
Nanny, you are so right!!!!
I just retired in July 1, 2023
It is MY RESPONSIBILITY TO make First move w my Kids to tell them I miss them , now I have more time then they do!
Thank you , love your videos
Pamela married to Bob Barker in Oklahoma
My mother, at 96, watches your videos and thoroughly enjoys them. She is very limited in ability to do much, and leaving home is now only for doctor appts, sadly. She lost my dad a year and a half ago after 75 years of marriage. He was her caregiver. I introduced her to you a month or so ago, and she so looks forward to your videos. Sadly, she is a negative person, difficult to be around, so many avoid her. Thank you and bless you for the joyfulness that comes forth from your videos. Blessings!
Thanks for sharing,Terry,,,and being here with us..sending blessings to your mom and you, too.🙏❤️
You do feel like family to me, I'm in a very low mood right now,and your videos just comfort me,thank you so much❤
So happy to hear you enjoyed our video today, Judi…hugs,❤️
Interesting topic in today's video. Actually, watching your videos has helped me cope with loneliness and getting older issues. Sometimes you just need some reminders of things you can do to create happiness and fulfillment in your life. I have heard that volunteering can pull you out of a slump. Of course that was tricky during the pandemic. I'm invited to birthdays and holidays at my only nieces house, and I make the most of it. I have a small family group, and am lucky to have a few good friends that I will go out for lunch or dinner with, maybe once or twice a week. I have an older sister who I don't have much of a relationship with, unfortunately. Maybe we voted for different candidates, and may have destroyed our relationship. Too bad, but nothing I can do about it. I tried. It could have been a result of the pandemic. She was one who was afraid to be around others due to the virus. Now when I think about it, we used to have regular neighborhood get-togethers, a few times a year, which ended during covid. Haven't started up again. So there's that. That pandemic threw a wrench into a lot of people's lives. This is where your theory of being proactive concerning feelings of loneliness and being invisible. Anyway, rambling again. Okay, one more point. When I had cancer, over five years ago now, I did loose people from my life. I had read about this kind of thing happening when illness strikes, or perhaps if you get a divorce, or even sometimes if you become a widow or widower. Friends and family can sometimes desert or abandon you. Its not necessarily you, and more often them having a fear of illness or something else. I saw this when I was a caretaker for my sister who had MS. I would wonder how her best friends in some cases, not all, would stay away. Even some family members couldn't cope with her not being who she once was. She was quite a strong, successful person who had lived a full life. I being her caretaker, decided to make the most of it. The old saying "When life hands you lemons, you make lemonade". As it turns out, lemons are good for you. Haha. I should mention that others can come back into your life when you are going through something. Also new people show up sometimes too. "One door closes, another door opens". Well I've said too much. Your video has got me thinking, Nanny. Final thought, that soup looked delicious! I will sign off for now. Have a great weekend. See you in the next video. Take care. MJ♥️🤸🍋
Thank you for sharing your story, MJ…sounds like you are keeping busy with friends and hobbies…yes…the pandemic did mess society up a lot…and maybe people just got used to caring less about friendships and keeping in touch…someday it will become history with all kinds of theories…hugs and love, ❤️
The soup looked yummy
Enjoyed the wonderful message well said Mary
Wow Nanny you sure have a great topic today. I'm 78 and since I've retired find myself in the situation you talked about since my son and 3 grandsons jhave grown and moved away. They are only 3 hours away. In Riverside county in different cities. They come to see me and I travel there and in the meantime I do keep myself busy with gardening, my 2 cats, church and many relatives who are nearby. I do still get lonesome for my son and grandsons but I'm able to be happy anyway so thank you for the much needed pep talk and I love you too❤
Thank you for sharing,Frankie…and I’m happy you keep busy between visits…❤️
Another generous, inciteful and kind video. You really have a gentle soul Nanny. Much love to you both from Melbourne Australia . ❤
What a much needed topic of conversation. Sometimes people and their families are just broken and hard to fix. It does no good to assign blame as that simply does not fix anything. I know a family that needs a bad guy to be blamed for being responsible for the rift. These are good neighbors and friends and it is hard to watch. What a sad way to live! Your soup looked great. At my house I welcome Saturdays by cleaning out my fridge and making soup almost weekly. Our son loves to take home a huge container of that soup to eat on all week, My precious neighbors across the street were so glad for me to get my kitchen back. She is a hard working mom who has no extra time to cook and truly appreciates every single meal. They have adopted the husband's relative's wee daughter because of a health problem. They are such a great family and it is so wonderful to help them cope. Families are often created without a blood connection, aren't they? Sometimes we can find a whole new family if yours no longer exists.
It’s so Wonderful to be able to help others, Sharon…and yes…loving families don’t have to be ‘related’…🙏❤️
Thanks for this, Nanny. You are a breath of fresh air. I agree with your idea re. 'distance' and loneliness that distancing creates. Covid has been so destructive to sooo many relationships, in my opinion, and we cannot deny the loneliness that covid created. Thanks for your wisdom. :)
Hi Nanny………..you are so right 👍. God bless you 🙏💕
Thank you, Albena…🙏❤️
I live totally alone,no family or friends,many times i feel a burden to society,because i have a severe back problem,some people feel threatened,being around me in case i need help,im 80
Moosie has wondered that, too, ANNE…but then he kids around with people when he is in his wheelchair…like calling..”beep beep”.. and making light of it…many times, though, people will want to hold doors,help and smile…not be threatened! just OWN IT, ANNE..you can do it! God bless!🙏❤️
Hello Anne: wondering if you have a Senior Center in your community? Some communities will even have rides available. Great for some socializing. Crafts; games, field trips. I also have back pain and wish you comfort! May you feel God’s blessing today😊
@@MercyUS Thank you Mercy for your concern,i have tried senior centres but my brain is too advanced so i have nothing in common,its difficult because i need help for travelling,i have found people who are like me with nobody are less likely to get help,but people with family do get help,Thank you once again. Anne
Delightful video! I love watching you and Moosey…your both “loved” by everyone who joins you on TH-cam! Such a joy!
Very interesting video, Nanny! I love it! 🥰👍& I agree with you 100%!
You and your Moosie are such a precious couple. I'm very sure you've become 'family' to a lot of us who are living our lives solo!
Thank you, Mia.., ❤️
Hello Nanny, what a nice video on loneliness! I’m 82 years young, and live alone. Many times, since growing older, I feel a sense of loneliness, forgotten and invisible. While it’s difficult to accept, it’s real nonetheless. The reality is that I could do more to help myself by getting involved with other things, but I don’t really have the desire to do so. I guess that’s a part of life. I’m grateful to my Heavenly Father that He has blessed me with this gift, because there are MANY people whose lives have have been cut short at a very young age, including my sweet husband who passed away of a massive stroke at the age of 60. Your words of encouragement were so inspiring, and your wonderful soup looked so delicious. Looks like Moose enjoyed it! He is so fortunate to have you and you are fortunate to have him. I need to make a big pot of soup and invite a friend over.
Thank you Nanny for reminding me that I am still here and that it’s a blessing. I will think about when I will feeling down. You said it all with the circle of life. Loved the soup it smells good. The family photos were lovely. Love you Nanny and God bless you all.
Thank you, Fernanda..God bless.🙏❤️
You are such a great teacher - mentor. It's a blessing to click on your channel and always know there will be honest inspiration. ♥️♥️
Thank you, Mariann❤️
I love you, Nanny. You make this aging process so understandable. For the peace and happiness, you bring to my day I sincerely want to say thank you.
That soup looks absolutely delicious. Wish we lived closer. You and I could be best friends sending hugs, love, prayers, and kindness.❤❤❤
You are right on about the circles Nanny, I think when old people need help like in sickness and their is no help or interest it can take a toll being alone getting to appointments and Doctors. When there is no help in the area. Thank you Nanny for having this talk. Hugs Bea
Thank you Nanny for a great video.
You have done a great service for your friends here on TH-cam. The circle of life is fascinating. We raise our children to become independent and capable to be on their own, then sometimes we miss the way it used to be.!!
Soup smells good!! Beautiful family picture. Love you!
Hi Nanny, I really enjoyed this video and can relate to it in many ways. I have four grandsons that I have always been very close to and spent a lot of time with. I love them to pieces and I know they love me but you’re explanation of the circle expanding really hit home. I know this is the way it’s supposed to be but at the same time it can be bitter sweet. You do tend to miss the times when they were younger and always wanted to be with you. but it is part of life in the circle of life and we just have to accept it. Yes growing old is a gift yet again it’s not for sissies. Lol. Thanks for explaining and reminding us. You are a sweetheart! Hugs, Dolores. 🥰❤️
Thanks for sharing, Dolores…yes, life is sometimes bittersweet…❤️
I love this video. I think you have given good advice. My take away from this is,"To have a better life, think positive! " My grandmother always said," 90% of what happens to you starts above your eyes." Nanny this great information for all of us.
Your grandma was a wise woman, Joyce..❤️
I needed to hear this as a reminder - thank you Nanny ❤
I am single well divorced since 2002. I have found out no one can make me happy but me. I am some what a loner I am 74. I am raising my grandson from 8 to now 15. He is into the teen years and a little grumpy and likes to play games in his room. I was born late in my mothers life so I was sorta like an only child growing up. That helps with being alone. I just found your channel and love it, I am going right now to Amazon and buying your makeup. I love your glow.
Love you nanny you are a real tonic God bless you always😊
Nanny I just love watching your videos!!! I look forward to seeing what’s next. I am alone and I’ve been divorced for about 33 years. I need to see my 4 children (grown) and my 5 grandchildren as often as possible. I do feel abandoned sometimes but now I do things with friends and my church family. I love you both too, you make my day! ❤❤
You are needed and appreciated and that is a key part to feeling happy in our senior years. Those of us who have lost our spouses and/or are far from family and don't get around easily miss that so much. You are blessed.
I just lost my husband who I cared for like you... There are no words for how I am feeling.
I wish I could run to your house and color, or play the piano as your grandchildren once did.
You are a comfort to me Nanny. ❤
Oh, Lisa…l am so sorry for your loss…sending love and prayers for you both…🙏❤️
Thank you Nanny! This was a great video, thank you so much for the encouragement to reach out. 😘💜
You bless my heart in a million ways ❤
Thank you for your words of wisdom Nanny!! Really needed to hear that this evening♥️
Nanny you are spot on, I feel this video was God sent. My sister and I were talking about this very thing this morning. We are at this very place in our lives, and you said it so well. Thank you so much for doing this video, I love you too and God Bless Us All.🥰
God bless you, too,Eva…❤️🙏
I feel like you Nanny. I am content with where I’m at at 80.
Your way of incorporating the circle was very wise , and interesting because it’s very true.
One of my summer hobbies is raising monarch butterflies.
I enjoy FaceTimeing with friends and family is also a blessing to me.
I enjoy going to lunch with girlfriends, little bit of shopping here and there. Of course, seeing the kids and grandkids that are near.
I also like keeping up my house with new things here in there. My garden, flowers and just my own time alone reading. My spirituality , cooking for my husband most of the time is enjoyable. Sometimes I just want go out and let others cook and serve us. Thank you, Hugs & love
You sound very happy and content, Pamela…wonderfully said! Love and hugs to you, too.❤️
Wonderful video. My mom used to call me, saying I just wanted to hear your voice. Well now, I would do anything nearly just to get one of her calls again 💔
All your points were excellent & I want to add to the 3rd D about disputes. As we age we have to let go, and let God. Forgive someone who you feel has wronged you- more important for YOUR well being than theirs. I can't stress REACH OUT enough. Your family & friends cannot read your mind. Put a smile on your face before you make that call. It will come through in your voice.
Love, hugs, & blessings to you & Moosie. We will be traveling home tomorrow (Tues) after 3 wks here taking care of mom's funeral & all the aftermath. Will have to come bk next month of course, and probably a few more times before we're done (400 mi trip one way). ❤
Thanks so much, Candy…sending prayers for peace and love.9..❤️🙏
Thank you thank you. Love this video! GOD bless nanny & moose! ❤
This really hits home. I'm 57 years old, disowned by my mother and siblings - and I'm single. The word "invisible" is correct. I started noticing it a few years ago - at the grocery store. No eye contact - no simple greetings, etc. I found it odd and I found myself in a new place that I've never experienced before. I do have my adult son - but it's not his job to fill the void. I do enjoy living alone, but at times I'm lonely. Not always - but sometimes.
Unfortunately this is a real problem for so many women, Sherry. You seem to be trying to increase your ‘happy time’…hugs, ❤️
Nanny. I love the messages you give us in your videos. I am so blessed as my three single sons and I share a home together. This time especially, as two of us are quiet sick with virus's and my youngest is taken it on himself to be care caregiver. God has blessed us with a wonderful old home, and has plenty of room. I spent 8 days in the hospital and it it weren't for my son, I would no longer be here. Yes, very serious. However he got very sick and was rushed to the hospital. I believe in prayer and have spent the past two weeks praying for all of us. God has been listening and it seems today we may be rounding the corner. I love your little cottage, Moosie and yo are such great friends, as well as husband and wife. Some times when I am awake at night (which has been quite often) I turn on my computer and look for you! Thank you for all of your videos. God Bless us All...........and may we all find peace in our lives and hearts.
God bless you snd your wonderful sons, my friend…sending prayers that all recover quickly…🙏🙏🙏❤️
Hi Nanny,😊. I love your new banner, slogan and pictures. I've used that phrase Carpe Diem many times. I write it when signing cards or well wishes to someone, or just in my journal. I got a letterboard for Mothers Day and I may put your whole slogan on there! Thanks for the idea...🎉 You could be a motivational speaker, you're videos are so uplifting. I look forward to each one. Hope you and Moosie have a great rest of your week🦋🌞🙋♀️
Thank you, Sharon…for commenting and sharing…I love storyboards and signs of reminders and quotes! ❤️
Wow, thank you for this. I loved your explanation of the circles. I am 68 with grandchildren who are now 10 and 13. I babysat them from the time they were a few months old when my daughter went back to work and still go to their home when they get off the school bus. I am now seeing they need me less and less. It makes me sad but your explanation of the circles has made me realize that although they need me less, they still do love me and my husband. I needed to hear this today.
You are a wise woman … you hit on some very good points 💕
I have spent the lasr 20 hrs dreading turning 80, and now its here, i turn 80 this year. First of all i am so happy i made it. I come to realize it's just a number. Life is good at any age, and i am looking forward for next 10 yrs.
Love to hear this, Pat…❤️
Nanny, you have such a wonderful take on aging and life not be the same as it was long ago. I am so grateful I'm still on this beautiful planet that God gave us. I will be seventy five, live alone and barely get lonely. I always find something to do. What I love most about aging Is the wisdom we possess. We always will have the great memories of when we and our children were young. Yes, time changes us in many ways but love what we have now and live the remaining years the best we can. You are sincerely a joy to watch and listen to! Blessings come in many ways and we are blessed having you. Give hugs to Moosie. Your soup looks amazing!!! I love soups. See you next time!! ❤
Thanks so much, Trudy…🙏❤️
Much appreciated....feels nice to find voices that resonate with one's own....☺
I can relate to everything you have said. Yes! We must be our own best advocate. And!!! I am grateful for each and everyday. Bless you and Moosey. Love you. Hugs 🤗love ❤️ and prayers🙏
Thank you. thank you for the assuring talk! I'm alone, widowed with no children but I look forward to small things: gardening, lunch with friends, phone calls with siblings and crafting, etc! As long as I can I will "carpe diem"! Be blessed!🎉🎈😊
..and you, too, Mrs.S🙏❤️
Oh Nanny, perfectly said. You are amazing.
Thanks for the words of wisdom from your heart. I'm 71 and live far away from my 2 daughters but talk almost everyday. I am fortunate to be married to a wonderful man who also has kids far away. We have 2 cats and a dog that helps with the loneliness and I enjoy cooking and a little gardening in pots. We just have to enjoy the small stuff and be thankful for life as it is very precious. I always enjoy your videos and learn something new every time. Love to you and Moosie.
Love to you, too, Linda…❤️
Thank you nanny you always make sense for so many of us ,we should be thankful to be getting old I have good memories of my grandchildren,as I cared for them when they were babies, all good thank you. Blessings to you and moose 🙏👍👏🌹😘
Thank you, Juanita, for sharing…🙏❤️
O the soup looks delish,What a wonderful topic today. Know there’s lots of loneliness today. Just have to take a day at a time. We are so blessed,we’re 79 and I have some difficulties getting around,had polio but I’m getting around,don’t get to travel like we use too. So please go on trips and enjoy while you can! Enjoy your videos so much,tell Moosie hello,he did so good on your vacation,know you’ll enjoyed it so much. Your son and daughter in law So Nice!💕
Thanks for sharing today, Annett…❤️
Love all you wisdom and advice. Always brings light into our lives
Precious memories, how they linger, how they ever flood my soul. thank you.
beautiful, Hannah…❤️🥰
I enjoy spending time with you @Nanny and @Moosie and your happy family because you're "normal" folk, filled with love. I'm grateful I have my loving husband who is my best friend. My adult children won't associate with me. They are in a high control "cult" and believe I am "demonized". They were taught to fear me, because I don't believe what they believe. I doubt many people understand my dilemma.
Sending love , hope and hugs , Ester.❤️🥰
I've already commented on this, but wanted to add a habit I've been trying to remember to do daily, and that is to text, "good morning" to a few of my kids and grands. Plus saying, I love you! I always get a response, and it just makes me feel better that I've reached out to thrm! I still send birthday cards and just cards to say I miss you!! Try it, friends❤ it's a habit my sweet mother taught me😂
This is a wonderful habit that is hard to ignore a response, Jennie…especially the simple “I love you’❤️
@@jenniewinchester8792 Thank you for your kind words, Jennie. I do send emails to my son like that. And he does respond with an email full of preaching. With my daughter, I don't even have an email or a phone number. She has her facebook set to private. She has blocked me.
Love your story, the same with us. We built an in-law on our daughter's home and took care of the children sending them to school and homework and took them where they needed to be. It was jist as good for us as they kept us active. They're all grown now but I seem them all the time. Now that I'm alone they are always around checking on me, All is good.
Wonderful, Maureen…you are blessed…❤️🙏
Well said Nanny, well said. God bless us all.❤
You look beautiful today, as always. I was sitting here agreeing with you about how things change as kids grow older. We were also very involved in the caretaking of our grands. Now they are teens and drive. So we aren't needed. But I know they love us. We want things to stay the same, but it doesn't. They grow up too fast! So we need to enjoy them. You're right. That's what I've always said too. You just need to SHOW UP! Make an appearance and tell your family you've missed them! My hubby and I do have each other. Our children all live from 1 mile to 40 miles away. They are busy with their jobs and raising kids. We should be thankful we've been blessed to see them grow up. Many people don't get that chance. We also have a great relationship with all our kids. I'm glad you approached this topic. I think we have to make things happen
Read, sew, I also like to garden! I do all the cooking but it's ok. We have to remember our blessings. And thank you for your support on these subjects about getting older. Love you❤❤❤❤❤
Your soup looks yummy.
Did you mean zucchini or cucumber in that soup??? 😂
I've always said families need to make the effort to see each other. It's work. But I won't be guilty of not trying!
I meant zucchini, Jennie…and used a cucumber!! Moose pointed that out, too.!!🤪🤪😂thanks for sharing…so glad you are happy with aging, too.❤️
Thanks for sharing this episode on the topic . It's something that I needed to hear and how to improve loving myself and be an advocate for myself and to spread the love . I try to add calls more often to check on family and friends. I love you, you're the best.😊
The soup looks delicious. A really good talked Nanny, thank you for the reminder of still being loved. Love you and Moosie and Nanny.
Love what you did in the kitchen!! Great advice! As we get older we have to contact people sometimes to do things. I join groups, sewing, etc. Your garden in so beautiful💕
Sure needed to hear this now! Thank you so much! Big Hugs!
Nanny, you are so wise! Love you guys!❤. Marilyn & Ray
Such a great topic. I love the way you explained getting older with the circle. It made so much sense and it made me subscribe to your channel. I don't think anyone could have expressed these feelings better. You brought tears to my eyes. You surely have the best attributes of the Irish heritage. Wisdom and the gift for words among them. I didn't see my one grandma much when I became a teenager, but when I was in elementary school I rushed home from school when I knew she would be visiting. She passed away when I was in my early teens and I regret that I didn't spend more time with her. I love her so very much, still, and hope to see her again one day. But not too soon. We have the "Distance" problem and you have given great advice. It's true our children and grandchildren do love us. When we see them a couple of times a year, they are so kind and loving towards us. They love laughing with their funny granddad and hang on his every word. And they ask me, Ya Ya, Grandma, to help with things still. Thanks again for this video, I will watch it again with Papoo. Grandpa. And now on to make a delicious soup. Love to you and Moose.
Thanks for sharing,Patsy.❤️
Great reminder. I think many older parents wait for an invitation rather than asking for connection and then feel invisible. Younger people are often overwhelmed with the busyness of children and careers and may not always know when older parents need something. Good message to all of us to speak up and not expect mind reading or to assume we are not loved .
I LOVE YOUR KITCHEN AS IT IS!!! And thanks for the pictures of your family.
❤❤❤ Wisdom is so valueable especially these days ❤ thanks for sharing 🌹
Hi… I am Claire. 63 with mobility issues. Thank you for this video. ❤😊
Thanks for being here, Claire…❤️
Thank you nanny for that program today. I really liked your advise today. You are remarkable! Love and prayers❤Ann See
Thank you, Ann..❤️🙏
Nanny…. My Dearest, most favorite gift to myself with Moosie too. For my 70th big bash to myself I’ve placed you both to take residence in my happy place of my heart and brain. Thank You, BigBigHug, yes let’s make soup, Love 💕 You /Bye 💫
Happy Birthday, Elvia..what a cute and lovely way to express yourself…thank you so much…❤️🥰
Keepin busy is key ❤
You just took your story from my book. I really related to “we might need them more than they need us”. So true. But we still share wonderful memories, know we are loved and our life stages are constantly changing.
Thank you Nanny for sharing your sage advice and wisdom. I had to not respond right away after watching because sometimes things are just what they are hard. No one escapes the good or the bad. The best any of us can and should do is to be positive and know God has a plan for us no matter our age. We are not alone or invisible to to our Lord Jesus! God bless you and Moosie and your family. Bless all here! Hugs, Elizabeth XX 🤗❤️🙏☀️🌸🥰😀🌻
God bless you, too, Elizabeth…🙏❤️
@@crushingtheir80snannyandmoose 🥰
Wonderful video!
Sage advice Nanny- and red really is your colour/color - stay fabulous - Love Jas xx
You look beautiful Nanny, even w/o your makeup & a bedhead! So many useful tips and tricks you have. And I appreciate seeing you cook & garden. It brings joy to my heart to see you luvin life! We are in the beginning of our 70s and we no longer have a family circle. My only son passed 4 yrs ago, but we do have our friends and that's good enough. Thanks for sharing you & Mossies' life with us. ... Glenda
Thanks for sharing, Glenda..Hugs,❤️
Aging truly is a blessing! Love your soup ingredients…looks delicious. 😇
Superb video ,love the new banner! I'm sharing this to my sister who is wheelchair bound due to a severe stroke.I hope it will help her.
Thanks, Rhonda..love to you and your sister…❤️
Hi Nanny and Moosie. Lovely video. Never made minestone before. You've inspired me to make some. Yum. I do feel a bit invisible with my family. They moved to the East Coast. Although I've asked them to call, they don't. Too busy with their lives. They rarely text. A case of out of sight out of mind. So I keep busy taking cooking, Tai Chi and strength classes. Use the local Sr. Ctr. Then have classes with my church several nights a week. Have managed to form a support group of friends. It hurts that my family is too busy to contact me but I have adapted and happy. Blessings
Wonderful talk Nanny.
I'm fortunate that we have a close family but yes grandchildren all going up but still share quality time with them.
Thank you for this wonderful video and your words. Your words are very helpful and a blessing to realize that your words are so true!! We all should find contentment in our circumstances, if possible. I love you so much for your sharing and precious personality!!!
Oh Nanny ... you are the best! What a great subject to talk about and with such a great perspective to help others. Your soup looked delicious!!
Thank you so very much for this video. I could go on for a long time why it has touched me but I'm afraid I'd short circuit my keyboard with tears. I am good, I'm fine being alone and aging. My children are amazing professionals with Masters and I am so very grateful but, sometimes I do feel invisible. Again, thank you.
You’re not alone, Dalia…I’m sure you are very much loved…life in the Golden Years is just a little different. ❤️
I didn't realize about the circles but now I do. I see was feeling depressed because I am so very close to my children and grandchildren BUT it seems things are changing and i need this show to help me the change is normal so i am OK Thank you Nanny I think I'll make vegie soup tomorrow and share some with my grandbabies...Love you and take care :D
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this so much. I've been binge watching your channel. Found it at a perfect time. Thank you for being so uplifting and encouraging. May God bless us all.
Thank you, Darlene…and yes..God bless us all🙏❤️