You would be a great asset to Disney Luv!💜 seriously ...Think Big!!! Manifest and envision your dream job! You always crack me up and make me smile! Thank you for being you! Go ahead and vent! We are great listeners and I’m sure we all have our issues too! Children are scary!!!! lol ... especially when they become teenagers!👹 You have plenty of time to have kids!!!! Can’t wait to see your next cosplay costume! I’ve been taking sewing classes to design apparel ... it’s a lot of fun! I paint too. I love being creative😊 Stop comparing yourself to others... you fucking rock ! Excuse my French 💋
Hi Rachel! When it comes to Disney and filmmaking are you more interested in the live-action work or would you be interested in the animation side of things also? This is just me being a nosey grandma XD ALSO loving the plaid pj's!
Honey you do not have to have children until you are ready or at all. My husband and I decided after a few years of being together that we didnt want children. We much like you enjoy lazy days and going on trips and our doggies (4). I am super awkward around kids too but I love my nieces and nephews and that's where I pour my motherly insticts. Enjoy the early years of your marriage, see the world, meet different people etc. before both of you decide to have kids. Kids change the dynamics if a relationship a lot. Take care!
I'm so happy someone else mentioned this too. Not to pressure Rachel, but to make another way of life known and accepted. Thank you! (I decided at age 13)
I had pretty much made up my mind about not having kids early in my teens. When I met my husband I told him that if he wanted children that I was not the right girl for him. He was OK with it. After we got married we talked about children again, but by this point we had been living together for two years and had been married another year and we decided that we enjoyed each other's company and our own leisurely lifestyle and that children was not something we wanted to add to our lives. My mom was not happy at first, but I made it clear to her (respectfully) that this was not her decision to make and that our happiness as a couple was far more important than her "need" for another grandchild. She finally got over it when I wouldn't budge to any of her arguments on the point. We have turned our home into our escape from the world and coming home from work and closing the door behind me is the best feeling. Enjoy your lives and don't allow anyone to dictate to you on whether you need to have children or to make you feel selfish or guilty for not thinking like them.
Same here! My husband and I both decided we didn't want kids. He's 15 years older than I am, and we both just feel we're not the right people to be parents. I feel it's not selfish to say, "we wouldn't make good parents". It's responsible to admit to that and not inflict it on a kid to have to grow up with two people who aren't really fit to take care of a child.
I'm really scared to say this on the internet but seriously, kids aren't for everyone. At 41, I am so happy every single day that I didn't have children, and am not going to (even though I have plenty of friends having babies at 37-42) ...since I still feel the exact way you're describing.
seltzermint5 this NEEDS to be spoken about and accepted as a choice for everyone! Many women love their children but regret motherhood. Not to mention world does not need MORE humans.
my partner and i have agreed no children :) I used to nanny 50+ hours a week so we got a full on experience on what it might be like and decided it wasnt for us :)
51, no kids, no regrets. All my life I've traveled, saved dogs, volunteered with Special Olympics, wildlife rehab, homeless shelters, and I give generously every month to an orphanage in India for kids with aids. But I hear I'm "selfish" for not making a mini "me". Whatever, lol .
Sandra Schuld late to comment, but just wanted to say, the world is very well populated, so you're not selfish. Well done for all the good you do! (Not that you were looking for praise, but being charitable deserves it)
I agree, not selfish at all. In fact, with the way the world is today, I sometimes think it's more selfish to bring innocent life into when they are bound to suffer just because you wanted to preserve your gene pool. I had a few congenital defects that didn't manifest until I was in my 20's and found out there was a long family history. When they started to adversely effect my health, I decided I would never do that to another person by having kids.
I have 3 kids. My first at the age of 30 (I'm 37 now) and the best advice I can give anyone is DON'T RUSH HAVING KIDS!!! I love my kids more than anything but once you have kids your personal goals take a back seat. 26 is VERY young. Accomplish as many goals as you can, travel, enjoy and grow your relationship with your husband before you have kids. I wish my husband and I had more time together before we had kids. I got pregnant 4 months after we got married! Enjoy this time because it goes so fast! Also, the only person you have to live up to is yourself! Comparing one's life to another's never helped anyone. Ok, I'm going into "mommy mode". Sorry about that. Be brave and keep going. 💖💖💖
I wouldn't say 26 is very young. I had my daughter at 23. It really depends on who you are, where you are at in life, what you want in life. People need to focus less on the something as silly and trivial as age, and more on the things that matter, like your maturity and wants.
@@whossoul I 100% agree with you. Although I know a lot of women have a thing about wanting their _own_ baby... time is not running out. Even if you wait until you can no longer have children, there are babies born every day who need a loving mom and dad.
this is kinda funny to hear in 2020 where you are a full time youtuber :) amazing what you accomplished! (why yes I'm on a quarantine channel bingewatch 👀)
Girl, treasuring your free time is NOT selfish, it is just real talk! As a single mom of two, let me tell you I have had to rearrange my whole brain structure to find my way out of the morass of all consuming parenting in order to find myself again and get started on squaring away time for my own dreams, as much as I adore my children, I need to be myself! It's a real journey trying to rediscover myself.
Ohhh Rachel please don't stress yourself out on having kids or not, actually it's very responsible for you to think that you're not ready for kids and think about what you really want to provide for your kids! In Hong Kong, women will be blamed by their parents if they don't have kids before 30 years-old, many women, despite the lack of financial support, still decided to give birth to a baby before their 30s so that their husband and their mother-in-law will be "happy". Turns out a lot of young mothers here in HK are depressed and cannot provide the best to their children, some even think their children are a burden to them. I think it's cute when a couple grow old, they sit next to each other and pat their dog/cat, maybe have a nice cup of tea together. So please don't feel bad if you don't want a child yet, you're still young and there are still a lot for you to explore! We all love you, please take care and if you really need a break from TH-cam, we can wait! (Please pardon my bad English, but I hope you understand what I meant)
Def don't give into the pressure of having kids, especially when you're in a place of limbo. There is seriously no shame in waiting or not having them at all. Take your time (like you're gonna be 26? still very young), wait until things become stable and you are comfortable if you do want to have them. Anyways, this video was lovely, always love your GRWM videos
We all care about you even if you upload a video a day late or skip a week of uploads. The most important thing is that you are happy! Do what works for you, and if you have plans on editing day just breath and upload later. Your videos are totally worth that wait.
If you're feeling discouraged about TH-cam and like its taking time away from your social life take a break or only post every other week. I look forward to your weekly videos but you have a life to enjoy! ❤
I had the same thoughts when I found out I was pregnant. I was terrified that I would lose my me-time and time with my husband... and surprisingly enough, our baby hasn't taken up our time like so many people say. He's a joy to spend time with and makes both of us smile... and honestly he won't be demanding literally every moment of my time at home until he's old enough to at least try to have conversations with us. And that in itself is a while off and fun. If you make out having a kid or two or three as a time taker and burden of any kind, they definitely will be. If you just treat them as someone you want around anyway, kids are actually pretty fun. I know others may disagree with what I've said, but as a woman who wanted to go to concerts, drink, stay up as long as I want, etc before my pregnancy, I was surprised just how much I like spending time with my baby boy. Anywho. There's my two cents.
Please don't ever feel pressured to post videos regularly! It's always a special treat to see that you uploaded new content, but it needs to be done with whatever works well with your life and schedule. We will understand. :)
After reading some of the comments below, I wanted to weigh in with the “you don’t have to be a mom” crowd. I spent many hours agonizing over what was right for me and what was right for my relationship. My partner and I decided that kids weren’t for us. We have been following our dreams and exploring the world ever since! I’m 33 and I don’t regret this decision. I adore children but I would have regretted motherhood. And giving up on my goals of traveling the world (that’s part of what I’m paid to do for my job- crazy, right?) I would have regretted that for the rest of my life. Do what’s best FOR YOU. ❤️
That's amazing!!! I think I'm 50/50 on it, sometimes I really want kids and then sometimes I want to be selfish and travel the world and chill out on weekends without having to worry about the needs of another life 😂 Time will tell!
Rachel I don't think it sounds bratty to say that you like to be lazy and enjoy your free time. I made the decision in my teens that I don't want to have kids. I am selfish with my free time and that's okay. It's one thing we should be selfish with. You're so close in age to me (I'll be 26 in October), but you seem so much mature to me. Also I ❤Frodo so much.
I decided in my teens that I didn't want children. I thought about it again in my 20's, when I first got married. I told my fiance that I didn't want kids, and he was fine with that. When my friends started having kids, my husband and I decided it definitely wasn't for us. If YOU TWO don't want kids, don't have them. It doesn't matter what anyone else says.
Never be ashamed of your stance on kids... I'm almost 2x your age, & never had them for very similar (if not the exact same) reasons as you. We don't regret it & have had very fulfilling lives to date, & plan on continuing to! Just do what feels right when it feels right.
Rachel, It's not selfish or bratty to not what children yet. At all. I think its really hard to have children. I used to nanny full time and it was HARD, the amount of times i cried was insane, and i got to give them back at 5pm every day :P (it was also really fun and i LOVE the kids i nannyed with every bit of my shriveled heart) If you're worried about fertility when you're older, maybe you could freeze some eggs? then later you can try make a bean with 26 year old eggs, while you're in your 30s. But i think people sometimes rush into having children, its great that you value your career, and you should, our lives don't lose value when you don't have kids before 30. It's your life too, not anyone elses. My partner and i have decided not to have kids, and its difficult because we are judged heavily, and told "you'll change your mind when you're older" but i AM older, i'm 28 this year. But if you feel pressured into having children before you are ready, the person who is pressuring you is the selfish one, it's no ones business bar yours and Nick's. Just remember to focus on what you want, and work towards that too. I mean, kids won't stop you from working towards your dream, they might slow you down a bit, but you can still get there :) also, i totally understand those movie goals, I'm in New Zealand and would KILL to work in the costume department at Weta. Keep being awesome xx
Ahhh thank you so much you're so totally right 😭❤️ I'm definitely glad to know others are going through the same struggle and I actually love seeing people decide kids aren't for them instead of being pressured into it! And OMG YES WETA, that would be amazing!!!
I remember the first time i came accross your channel and saw a vid. It was love at first vid. You're so purty and silly and it cheers me up how genuine you are. Also its okay to just be a pup momma
Ah yes..that blessed age when you have to make all these important life decisions 😁 Not envying you right now! I felt like you about kids when I was your age (37 now) and for me, it just never changed. I have a 2,5 year old nephew and recently I‘ve become godmother to a little baby girl...and I love that...but doing the whole 24/7 mother thing? No, thank you 😎 I definitely recommend spending serious time around little kids before you decide...it’s not just the lack of sleep and having to give up so much of your time and energy to them (unless you can afford a nanny or have a family support system)...kids can be rather...you know....‘boring‘ after a while. Now who sounds selfish? Not newborn baby’s, they really trigger a very strong emotional reaction and basically make your body drug you into complacency (even if you’re not the mother), but later on....uhhh. Playing 3 hours with a 2 year old....naming the same things over and over again while moving toy cars around. It makes my head shrivel up every time...and my nephew is the most adorable little boy imaginable. I don’t know how people do it. Can’t speak to the TH-cam thing, of course, although I sure hope you stick around! I’m already looking forward to your spring lookbook 🤗. You’re doing one, right?? Pleeaaasee??? Personally, I would much prefer, if TH-cam was organized like a music streaming service. You pay a couple bucks each month and it gets distributed to the artists you listen to. Or something along those lines. Instead of the annoying adds everyone ignores anyway. They are just so badly made, for the most part. Advertisers don’t seem to get, that tv style adds don’t work for TH-cam. I could totally see you working for Disney, though. You’re crazy talented! They would be mad to pass up on you. Oh boy, I need to run! Hugs!
Hahaha exactly! I'm so bad at playing with kids too 😂😂😂 whenever my nephew Henry wants me to play I just get SO AWKWARD like OH GOD IS HE GONNA KNOW IM FAKING IT?! 😂😂😂
I completely agree.. well, I adore kids and mine are my life and my joy and my passion, BUT I understand that not everyone feels that way. The truth is that parenthood is all consuming (or should be if you’re doing it right). It’s not the kind of thing you can try and then decide “Ya know what? This isn’t for me after all!” Once you have a kid it changes your life forever and there is no way to walk that back. There’s not a single thing wrong with wanting to wait to have kids, or even *gasp* choosing not to have children at all.
Diane Shiffer thanks for sharing your view. That's the important thing to learn from others and do your reseaech. It's brave to take that chance to become a parent in my opinion. For me the risk is too great because I'd hate to become a parent and the regret that choice. I ask is people give considerable time to making the decision to become parents.
I am loving my binge through your channel! A lot of creators are so cookie cutter consistent that you can't tell old videos from new but i feel like, even though I'm late to this journey, I'm along for the ride as I watch from the beginning ❤
Oh man! I thought you were totally my age with the marriage and the house. You are only 26!? Most of my friends are still getting married and just having their first baby. We are just about to be 30, so girrrrrrrrl, SLOW YOUR ROLL! You can stop worrying about "getting started". However, I know everyone else has their own idea of life, but I just wish to relieve the pressure off of you. Please know that kids are not for everyone. You can also look into fostering older children and volunteering with children to get a good handle on what parenting is like. I love working with children, but I know I do not want to have them. You are not alone when you ride the fence about having them. Society plays weird tricks on us. Do whatever makes YOU happy. I do want to remind you I love your videos, makeup, hair, and costumes THEY ARE YOUR ART!! Please keep making videos and I personally would understand if you didn't make some for a week or two just to live your life. You are only human after all. It's like a good friend who lives long distance. It's just good to hear and see your face. Wishing you a blissful weekend. : ]
I have been watching you for almost a year now. I found your channel by accident when looking for vintage looks. I’m a guy, so i can’t take and use most of the tips you have, but I love your enthusiasm, energy, and corkiness. You’ve helped me look for vintage stuff in new places, and ways and more importantly I just enjoy your videos. And holy cow do I enjoy the music!!!!
So my parents had me at 30 and my sister at 35, and they realized it was so much better than having kids in their 20s. They weren't old parents. Yeah, they were older than my friend's parents, but it never hindered anything. And I'm 29 this year. They coached softball, bowling, took us to band, camping, they were extremely active. I'm waiting until my 30s. 30s are not your 30s when my parents were that age. Don't feel pressured to rush into kids have kids when you want to when you can sit down and look at your husband and say "let's have kids, lets do this." Don't let your age get in your way. Yes, you do have to think about some complications if you do get pregnant 35+ but with all the medical technology and such, you don't have to worry so much as people have in the past. You do you girl. Don't let the world dictate how you feel.
I always look forward to these GRWMs! It's so nice to be able to watch a calm video. There's never a point where I feel like switching to another video in the middle like I do with most other videos. I love your content!
I just had my first baby last October (I’m 27)... and yeah it is a totally different lifestyle than the laid back life I had before 😅 but I love my son so much... it’s quite a complicated change but wouldn’t go back ❤️
I completely understand how you feel about kids, jobs etc. I’m studying fine art and trying to get my foot in the door working in galleries and eventually curating. Life is so overwhelming and scary but I think that’s just part of being human and an adult. Thank you for openly talking about these things because figuring your life out is so hard and scary and so many people are feeling the same way ❤️ it’s nice to know that I’m not alone either in trying to figure my life out
My parents had me when they were 32 and 31 and they were considered the young parents so don't worry just yet! They had both me and my younger sibling just fine
It's been 3 years since this video came out! And ppl still watch) I'm a newbie.. And I love all your videos!...and love you,ofc! I can say that we are so proud of you! you made alot of progress through out the years!! Well done 💪
Let me tell ya, that whole kid situation is my life x10. I've felt like that for a long while and I am now 33, which isn't anything really but we do only plan on one if we do have a wee human. I just think about how life hasn't been ready for that to happen, and it's hard to think it fits in the near future too.. Either way I know with time you'll start your family when its ready. Just know I understand that weird pressure it comes with.
My partner and I are about your age, and even though we *e v e n t u a l l y* want kids, there's no rush. Not only all the responsibility it entails, but also the economy is shit for young people. Also, I take issue with the phrase "start a family". We both say that we're a family of two, that we became a family, because that's what it feels like. So, I consider you and your family a beautiful family of four!!
You have no idea how comforting this is to me. It's always interesting to find comparisons within yourself in complete strangers BUT currently 26, just had my first adult vacation to Disney, also significant other to a Nick, dog mom and ginger. I'm going through similar decisions and avoiding important conversations and it's just taking a toll and I'm glad that it's a normal situation that other humans go through. Anywhoooo, Good luck on buying the house and I think more look books would be great content 🙂
Family pressure and expectations suck but seriously, don't let them twist your arm or make you feel bad about kids. You may want kids in ten years, you may want them in fifteen, or you may not want them at all. Any of those options are perfectly acceptable as long as it's what YOU and your husband want :) That said, I think older parents are better than younger ones. 35 and 40 is still pretty young in my book, so long as you play it safe and feel healthy about a pregnancy. Good luck with your career aspirations first and foremost my dude, and thanks for being candid with us
Giiiiirl the kids thing is so real! I’m 25 this year and my fiancé and I are getting marrried next year. Growing up I always thought I’d have kids young but now I just... don’t...? I value my free time and my time with my friends and fiancé so much! It’s not selfish in a negative way- just knowing what you want. We’ve decided to wait until our late 20s/ early 30s to even seriously consider it and I am so happy with that decision. There’s no rush! All that “it’s harder to have kids after 30” is bull anyway since it’s based on a study from the 1800s. 🤷🏼♀️ Thanks for sharing with us! 😘
It is not selfish to enjoy free time. I'm in school until I'm 25-26. I for sure want to spend a few years just enjoying adulthood before raising a human child. Hopefully all works out. As a fellow overthinker, it sucks not having a good plan.
I can so relate to what you’re saying about work. I know how hard it is to stick with something that doesn’t fulfil you when you’re a creative person, but also how stressful it is being in your 20s and not being sure what you want when you “grow up”. Ugh! X
Dear Rachel, I adore your personality, I love your style, and I like whole aesthetic of your films. Your films gives your followers joy, so if making them makes you happy as much as we like to watching them, keep doing it darling! I'm turning 26 this month, so when I watch you, I can relate to you in some way and find myself in some things that you're saying. For example when you talk about still being a big kid :) and when you talk about figuring your life, enjoying your free time after getting home from work, or being stressed about having kids. I personally can't wait to have them, but also I know exactly what you mean, when you saying that this topic freaks you out ;) Obviously having them will change our lives. But I deeply believe, that this change, although it could and probably will be tough, would make us happy, and will give us lots of love, strenght and joy :) Don't be afraid of being mom (I'm sure you and your lovely husband will make great parents, whenever you decidet to became them! ), but also don't put any pressure on yourself, and remember, that every change in your life needs right time. Listen to your heart, keep calm and make your dreams come true :) I've been watching your films near a year from now, and I've been always thinking of write you a comment, but never did. This film makes me do it. I send you greetings from Poland!
You're gorgeous in curlers and curls! Can't wait for a house tour! It's crazy how so many females feel pressured to have children. I'll likely foster and may adopt, but I probably won't deliver one. I'm your age, but don't want to think about delivering for another 10yrs lol. Well known pg statistics are out dated. A persons health matters more than age. 30s and 40s isn't too old.
My 15yo daughter introduced me to your videos and I love love love them! Thanks for what you do. You make me want to dress fancier and display more of the vintage decor I got from so many of my ancestors, cool stuff that's just sitting in boxes and drawers. Don t stress about the kids; I had my 1st at 29 and my 3rd at 34. The early years were tough but we've always had fun. Love you!
I just love your honesty. I totally over think and compare myself to others so I get what you're saying and I'm right there with you. It's not easy but it's also nice to remember that you can do things because it's fun, and I think with youtube if it's not fun, then you don't have to do it. Just like with anything else. So I hope you always have fun and do it because you love it. ALSO- so cool you wanna work at Disney- that totally was my dream in middle school. I wanted to go to art school for animation and work for Disney. Never did BUT its never too late either! AND- (lol sorry!) I CAN NOT WAIT TO SEE ALLOY FINISHED. Holy crap on a stick, that's going to be an *AMAZING* cosplay. Okay- I'm done rambling in your comment section XD
I always feel good watching your videos. Having kids is a challenge that many parents don't put enough thought into. You sound like you would be a great parent, but there are no rules that you must have kids. Be happy, and have kids when it is best for you.
Frodo, no armpits😅😅😅😅 Definitely do a Boston meet up... that would be cool. You've got so many sweet places up that way for folks to check out in general. I'd definitely attend... does that sound weird, hope not. Never been to Boston, just drove thru the state on my to and from home/Bowdoin college during my schooling years at school in Maine. I never thought of myself as momma material... big kid myself... but you just learn and go with the flow... they just become a fun part of your life. That's so cool y'all are buying your house. Much luck and success with that process... it can be stressful. As you say... byeeeeee🤗
Literally found out last night my friend from when I was a child has cancer and I have been watching your videos all day today. They make me so happy and help me stop crying. Today has been super tough but I feel like you are here with me.
You have like... 10 years before you even need to start worrying about "running out of time" to have kids. The concept of female fertility divebombing after age 30 is largely overblown. Look into it, and rest easy :)
@@LauraBeeDannon and some of us are way less fertile. Giving advice like this is risking breaking the heart of any woman stupid enough to listen to you. I hate everyone who told me I had plenty of time. Hate them.
What you said about having kids. I feel 100% the same way. I don’t know how to ever be ready.. Me and my bf have been together for 10 years (and both turning 30 this year) and he’s always said that he really wants kids. But we’re totally kids ourselves. On another note. Will stick with your channel forever. Thank you for continuing with TH-cam. I hope it works out with the house 💙
oh my god giiiirl i completely understand you on the kid front??? i am not even married yet but i'm the oldest grandchild on both sides and also oldest kid and family keeps asking me about it? and i just stare at them like "uh, no thank you???" 😂
Since watching your videos I have been inspired to dress vintage when I go to class! At first I was really afraid but then I realized how comfortable I was and now I do it because I love it. Thank you for helping me in that area and thank you for your content! ❤️
Your videos are so wonderful and I love watching them whenever and however often you post them! You’ve inspired me to pursue my own little creative outlets, and try vintage styles without caring a whit what other people think of me. I guess what I mean is; your sweet, genuine, and wonderful self is a blessing to everyone who knows you, whether in person or through a camera. Thanks for being you! 😘
When you're from the great white North and you go somewhere warm; suddenly turns into cat and basks in the sun. Need to soak up as much vitamin D as possible lol
Thank you Rachel for all of the care and joy you put into your videos. I can totaly relate to the stress of being uncertain of what the future holds. And I too am an overthinker 😂😂 it is a great curse. But just know that your videos bring me great joy and have inspired me so much 💗
You are the only TH-camr I would consider crossing the Atlantic for a meetup...for... Bad sentence. ANYWAY! It's okay to not want to rush into having kids. I'm 28 and I feel nowhere near ready or inclined to have them, and I think you deserve a shot at your dreams before anything else. You're meant to live your life, not your biology. If that makes any sense. I don't know, I haven't had enough coffee today. Also, furbabies are real babies :3
Oh boy, I just absolutely adore you! And I'm so glad you opened up about your feelings surrounding kids, I don't have anyone in my family understanding it and hearing it from you and reading the comments really give me a feeling of acceptance 😇 You really save my days
Honestly, whatever path you choose (TH-cam or not) I’m excited for you to grow! You are one of the most relatable and genuine person I watch on TH-cam.I literally stop everything to watch your amazing videos! So, thank you for the goofs and gafs you have provided for me ❤️❤️❤️ we are here for you!!!
You are adorable! I've been watching a bunch of your vintage videos and you're funny, smart, adorable and beautiful! I'm so inspired by your videos! You explain your vintage style so well! I'm so inspired!
You are probably my favourite you tuber. You always make me smile and laugh. You also brought me back to my love for vintage. Love you! Hope to always be able to watch your videos!!
I just love your videos. They are really honest and relatable. I am much older and have already had my children and now have granddaughters, l remember having to navigate all the things you discussed. It is exciting and scary to plan a future life with children, but with your creativity and thoughtfulness those future kids will have a great mama.
Weekends are precious (we love the precious). Protect your time, your vibe, your personal needs first! Most of us will still be here even if you posted once a month. Don’t let “industry” pressure get to you.
You are so amazing, the adult struggle is real. Babies, moving, jobs, bills all of that.....but don't forget to be happy and Live your life in the meantime.
I never had a “clock” ticking away. To sum it up I was indifferent about having kids. But when I did I realized I now have this really cool person to hang out with and do stuff I like. Why? Cause that tiny human is part you and part your spouse, they are the perfect mixture that makes them your perfect little bestie. I now have four kids, two I had and two are awesome bonus kids. I now have my own entourage. And we like the same weird cool stuff.
Im turning thirty-one next month and my husband and I are in the same position you are kids-wise: we love our free time and it's a huge commitment. We've discussed how we'll be happy in life with our without kids. However you feel about it is perfectly valid. It's really hard not to compare yourself to others. Just keep doing what feels right. You're crushing it. LOVE your channel.
As the girl that’s always adamantly never wanted kids, I so wholeheartedly LOVE that everyone in the comments is very supportive and understanding. A lot of times what I’m faced with is “oh it’ll change. Oh you’re still young give it Time.” (I’m 21 years old and have 5 nieces from 3 months old to going on 13 years old and have lived with them all before so I know what goes into taking care of them)
Oh totally, everyone is so supportive here I'm lucky!!! Trying to explain that kinda stuff to relatives always seems like it goes in one ear and out the other 😂
The Pinup Companion amen girl! Like yeah I might change my mind but like I don’t see that happening and literally no one I’ve come across cares lol I tell em and it’s the same old NO NO YOU WANT BABIES SWEAR.
I'm currently working on my vintage shop and watching your GRWM while I'm working makes it feel like we're just hanging out and it's amazing - love ya you're great xx
I love those chatty moment You're so honnest and yourself You are always saying thank you to us for being here but we also can thank you a hundred times for making such great videos, reading the comments and answering to them You're lovely and amazing and telented and you make us smile ! And there is nothing more wonderful ! 😁😁
Looking forward to the HP look book!! Love all you do. ♥️ Chin up Buttercup, you do you and don’t worry about anyone else’s expectations. Life is meant to have joy in there, too. Never forget that! 😊 xxxxx
I love your presence. You have been a big influence on my dipping my feet into vintage dress. I'm loving trying things out and you made me realize age has nothing to do with it. I'm 50 and enjoying my femininity for the first time. Thank you, Rachel.
It's totally understandable that money is a motivator for you since you put so much time and effort into your videos and I think you're doing a great job!
I totally get how you feel. I am a similar age as you and feel the pressure to get married and have kids "before it's too late". I feel behind in life but try to remind myself not to compare my life to others.
First of all, I love your videos and content. I am a huge fan of you and your adorable style! I am 22 and have a 2 year old daughter and kids do take up a lot of time and effort but it's so worth it and your mindset and priorities do change. It's also perfectly fine to wait to have kids or never have kids at all! There's never gonna be a right time to start a family. I think whatever you decide to do is wonderful. Don't feel pressured because life is already so full of stress and worry. I hope this helped. I adore you and keep being your talented creative self. :)
Never feel pressured to have little ones - you are the one to make that choice and decision, and having children doesn't mean sacrificing your dreams either. There is always a way through difficulties. xx
You are very right that once you have a kid you figure it out. I am also just a big kid in an adult body, and also loved my freedom and being lazy. When I was surprised with finding out I was going to have a kid, I was like "there's no way I can, I'm not ready, I can barely take care of myself!" I feel like up until the day she was born I was still totally lost. But the day she was born it all clicked into place. When you are ready, you will have no problem!
I completely understand your stance on kids. I'm 27 and I'm starting law school this year, and even though I've met the love of my life and I know he wants kids (EVENTUALLY) I still have no idea if or when I'd ever be ready for it...And the "time limit" on women to have children does totally suck but.. We all have our different journeys and there is nothing wrong with wanting kids or NOT wanting kids.
You are so amazing! Thanks to you I have decided to embrace the side of me that loves vintage. I have always lacked the confidence to pull it off put after watching your videos I finally decided to take the plunge. Thank you for being so wonderful and true to yourself. As some one who does live on the East Coast, if you ever decided to have a meet and greet I would most definitely be there.
Girl I feel you on the kids. 😥 I feel like I'm a big kid and I love my alone time. My son was a surprise for my husband and I (before we got married) and I love him so much, but you definitely are always "on the job". It's hard, because self care seems impossible a lot of days, but ultimately it's worth it and as they get older it becomes easier. C: You'll figure everything out in its own time! ♡
I...am slinking in laaaaaate to the party on this one. You're seriously inspiring!! I love watching you while at work and you inspire me to get back into costuming and cosplay, and to venture into vintage
Thanks for being so real with all of your videos and showing your goofy side. I resonate with your appreciation for history and your humor. If you ever come back to California you’ve got a friend in me in San Diego 😉
Hey I was part of that group that went on rides after the meetup! We all kept saying how we don't have other pinup friends, so thank you for bringing us together ❤️
I turn 26 in June, so I completely get what you mean about that window of having kids “soon.” For me, I don’t want kids until I’m in my 30s if at all. My mom had me when she was 33 and she was glad she waited. She said she had a stable job, a home and had grown up in her 20s so she was ready. It was nice to have her tell me it’s okay to wait and not rush. I hope whatever you decide makes you happy. :)
Hearing that you're an overthinker, stress about kinda everything and have mood swings just like me but keep moving is extremly motivating for me to hang in there. Because after rain comes sun. - Oh and I love that you put the songs down in the description box, they're always great picks.
Hiiii I love you all! Just to be clear when I say I want to work for Disney, I mean I want to work for their film department, not in their parks 😛
The Pinup Companion lol 🤣🤣🤣
You would be a great asset to Disney Luv!💜 seriously ...Think Big!!! Manifest and envision your dream job!
You always crack me up and make me smile! Thank you for being you! Go ahead and vent! We are great listeners and I’m sure we all have our issues too!
Children are scary!!!! lol ... especially when they become teenagers!👹
You have plenty of time to have kids!!!!
Can’t wait to see your next cosplay costume!
I’ve been taking sewing classes to design apparel ... it’s a lot of fun! I paint too. I love being creative😊
Stop comparing yourself to others... you fucking rock ! Excuse my French 💋
Hi Rachel! When it comes to Disney and filmmaking are you more interested in the live-action work or would you be interested in the animation side of things also? This is just me being a nosey grandma XD ALSO loving the plaid pj's!
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Rebecca Carroll Either! But probably live action! I'll even do commercials idc 😂😂❤️❤️
Frodo is just so stinkin' cute my God
Heehee he's such a ham 😎😎😎
you both are my favourite youtubers
fat yes same here
Honey you do not have to have children until you are ready or at all. My husband and I decided after a few years of being together that we didnt want children. We much like you enjoy lazy days and going on trips and our doggies (4). I am super awkward around kids too but I love my nieces and nephews and that's where I pour my motherly insticts. Enjoy the early years of your marriage, see the world, meet different people etc. before both of you decide to have kids. Kids change the dynamics if a relationship a lot. Take care!
I'm so happy someone else mentioned this too. Not to pressure Rachel, but to make another way of life known and accepted. Thank you! (I decided at age 13)
I had pretty much made up my mind about not having kids early in my teens. When I met my husband I told him that if he wanted children that I was not the right girl for him. He was OK with it. After we got married we talked about children again, but by this point we had been living together for two years and had been married another year and we decided that we enjoyed each other's company and our own leisurely lifestyle and that children was not something we wanted to add to our lives. My mom was not happy at first, but I made it clear to her (respectfully) that this was not her decision to make and that our happiness as a couple was far more important than her "need" for another grandchild. She finally got over it when I wouldn't budge to any of her arguments on the point. We have turned our home into our escape from the world and coming home from work and closing the door behind me is the best feeling. Enjoy your lives and don't allow anyone to dictate to you on whether you need to have children or to make you feel selfish or guilty for not thinking like them.
Same here! My husband and I both decided we didn't want kids. He's 15 years older than I am, and we both just feel we're not the right people to be parents. I feel it's not selfish to say, "we wouldn't make good parents". It's responsible to admit to that and not inflict it on a kid to have to grow up with two people who aren't really fit to take care of a child.
I'm really scared to say this on the internet but seriously, kids aren't for everyone. At 41, I am so happy every single day that I didn't have children, and am not going to (even though I have plenty of friends having babies at 37-42) ...since I still feel the exact way you're describing.
seltzermint5 this NEEDS to be spoken about and accepted as a choice for everyone! Many women love their children but regret motherhood. Not to mention world does not need MORE humans.
I'm 29 and was surgically sterilized 4 months ago. I am truly living my best life!!
my partner and i have agreed no children :) I used to nanny 50+ hours a week so we got a full on experience on what it might be like and decided it wasnt for us :)
YES some men feel the pressure WAY more than you clearly know !!!
J .S The only thing that happened when I turned 30 was my butt dropped two inches.
51, no kids, no regrets. All my life I've traveled, saved dogs, volunteered with Special Olympics, wildlife rehab, homeless shelters, and I give generously every month to an orphanage in India for kids with aids. But I hear I'm "selfish" for not making a mini "me". Whatever, lol .
Sandra Schuld late to comment, but just wanted to say, the world is very well populated, so you're not selfish. Well done for all the good you do! (Not that you were looking for praise, but being charitable deserves it)
I agree, not selfish at all. In fact, with the way the world is today, I sometimes think it's more selfish to bring innocent life into when they are bound to suffer just because you wanted to preserve your gene pool. I had a few congenital defects that didn't manifest until I was in my 20's and found out there was a long family history. When they started to adversely effect my health, I decided I would never do that to another person by having kids.
51 Proud Dog MOM!!
OMG, that is literally my dream! I aspire to be you.
This might be one of the most supportive ‘you do you’ environments on TH-cam. Loving it ❤️❤️
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I have 3 kids. My first at the age of 30 (I'm 37 now) and the best advice I can give anyone is DON'T RUSH HAVING KIDS!!! I love my kids more than anything but once you have kids your personal goals take a back seat. 26 is VERY young. Accomplish as many goals as you can, travel, enjoy and grow your relationship with your husband before you have kids. I wish my husband and I had more time together before we had kids. I got pregnant 4 months after we got married! Enjoy this time because it goes so fast! Also, the only person you have to live up to is yourself! Comparing one's life to another's never helped anyone. Ok, I'm going into "mommy mode". Sorry about that. Be brave and keep going. 💖💖💖
I plan to have kids once I hit 60 lol !
Zachary Rome sounds like a good plan! 😉
I wouldn't say 26 is very young. I had my daughter at 23. It really depends on who you are, where you are at in life, what you want in life. People need to focus less on the something as silly and trivial as age, and more on the things that matter, like your maturity and wants.
@@whossoul I 100% agree with you. Although I know a lot of women have a thing about wanting their _own_ baby... time is not running out. Even if you wait until you can no longer have children, there are babies born every day who need a loving mom and dad.
this is kinda funny to hear in 2020 where you are a full time youtuber :) amazing what you accomplished! (why yes I'm on a quarantine channel bingewatch 👀)
Same!! :D
Girl, treasuring your free time is NOT selfish, it is just real talk! As a single mom of two, let me tell you I have had to rearrange my whole brain structure to find my way out of the morass of all consuming parenting in order to find myself again and get started on squaring away time for my own dreams, as much as I adore my children, I need to be myself! It's a real journey trying to rediscover myself.
Ohhh Rachel please don't stress yourself out on having kids or not, actually it's very responsible for you to think that you're not ready for kids and think about what you really want to provide for your kids! In Hong Kong, women will be blamed by their parents if they don't have kids before 30 years-old, many women, despite the lack of financial support, still decided to give birth to a baby before their 30s so that their husband and their mother-in-law will be "happy". Turns out a lot of young mothers here in HK are depressed and cannot provide the best to their children, some even think their children are a burden to them.
I think it's cute when a couple grow old, they sit next to each other and pat their dog/cat, maybe have a nice cup of tea together. So please don't feel bad if you don't want a child yet, you're still young and there are still a lot for you to explore!
We all love you, please take care and if you really need a break from TH-cam, we can wait!
(Please pardon my bad English, but I hope you understand what I meant)
Your English is excellent!!
oh thank you! ♥
Def don't give into the pressure of having kids, especially when you're in a place of limbo. There is seriously no shame in waiting or not having them at all. Take your time (like you're gonna be 26? still very young), wait until things become stable and you are comfortable if you do want to have them. Anyways, this video was lovely, always love your GRWM videos
We all care about you even if you upload a video a day late or skip a week of uploads. The most important thing is that you are happy! Do what works for you, and if you have plans on editing day just breath and upload later. Your videos are totally worth that wait.
If you're feeling discouraged about TH-cam and like its taking time away from your social life take a break or only post every other week. I look forward to your weekly videos but you have a life to enjoy! ❤
Honestly, from one Ravenclaw to another, your Harry Potter lookbook is one of my favorite videos on the internet.
As a Ravenclaw I second this.
I had the same thoughts when I found out I was pregnant. I was terrified that I would lose my me-time and time with my husband... and surprisingly enough, our baby hasn't taken up our time like so many people say. He's a joy to spend time with and makes both of us smile... and honestly he won't be demanding literally every moment of my time at home until he's old enough to at least try to have conversations with us. And that in itself is a while off and fun. If you make out having a kid or two or three as a time taker and burden of any kind, they definitely will be. If you just treat them as someone you want around anyway, kids are actually pretty fun. I know others may disagree with what I've said, but as a woman who wanted to go to concerts, drink, stay up as long as I want, etc before my pregnancy, I was surprised just how much I like spending time with my baby boy. Anywho. There's my two cents.
Please don't ever feel pressured to post videos regularly! It's always a special treat to see that you uploaded new content, but it needs to be done with whatever works well with your life and schedule. We will understand. :)
After reading some of the comments below, I wanted to weigh in with the “you don’t have to be a mom” crowd. I spent many hours agonizing over what was right for me and what was right for my relationship. My partner and I decided that kids weren’t for us. We have been following our dreams and exploring the world ever since! I’m 33 and I don’t regret this decision. I adore children but I would have regretted motherhood. And giving up on my goals of traveling the world (that’s part of what I’m paid to do for my job- crazy, right?) I would have regretted that for the rest of my life. Do what’s best FOR YOU. ❤️
That's amazing!!! I think I'm 50/50 on it, sometimes I really want kids and then sometimes I want to be selfish and travel the world and chill out on weekends without having to worry about the needs of another life 😂 Time will tell!
Rachel I don't think it sounds bratty to say that you like to be lazy and enjoy your free time. I made the decision in my teens that I don't want to have kids. I am selfish with my free time and that's okay. It's one thing we should be selfish with. You're so close in age to me (I'll be 26 in October), but you seem so much mature to me. Also I ❤Frodo so much.
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I decided in my teens that I didn't want children. I thought about it again in my 20's, when I first got married. I told my fiance that I didn't want kids, and he was fine with that. When my friends started having kids, my husband and I decided it definitely wasn't for us. If YOU TWO don't want kids, don't have them. It doesn't matter what anyone else says.
I remember saying I never wanted kids. Then just 2 kids. Now I have 4. Everyone is different.
Same here. I’m 16, and I’ve decided I will not be a parent (maybe a cat mama or more likely a plant mom).
I always love your GRWM videos. You’re so funny and the way you tell stories is adorable 💕
Heehee thank you beautiful ❤️❤️😊😊
Never be ashamed of your stance on kids... I'm almost 2x your age, & never had them for very similar (if not the exact same) reasons as you. We don't regret it & have had very fulfilling lives to date, & plan on continuing to! Just do what feels right when it feels right.
Rachel, It's not selfish or bratty to not what children yet. At all. I think its really hard to have children. I used to nanny full time and it was HARD, the amount of times i cried was insane, and i got to give them back at 5pm every day :P (it was also really fun and i LOVE the kids i nannyed with every bit of my shriveled heart) If you're worried about fertility when you're older, maybe you could freeze some eggs? then later you can try make a bean with 26 year old eggs, while you're in your 30s.
But i think people sometimes rush into having children, its great that you value your career, and you should, our lives don't lose value when you don't have kids before 30. It's your life too, not anyone elses.
My partner and i have decided not to have kids, and its difficult because we are judged heavily, and told "you'll change your mind when you're older" but i AM older, i'm 28 this year. But if you feel pressured into having children before you are ready, the person who is pressuring you is the selfish one, it's no ones business bar yours and Nick's. Just remember to focus on what you want, and work towards that too.
I mean, kids won't stop you from working towards your dream, they might slow you down a bit, but you can still get there :)
also, i totally understand those movie goals, I'm in New Zealand and would KILL to work in the costume department at Weta.
Keep being awesome xx
Ahhh thank you so much you're so totally right 😭❤️ I'm definitely glad to know others are going through the same struggle and I actually love seeing people decide kids aren't for them instead of being pressured into it! And OMG YES WETA, that would be amazing!!!
I remember the first time i came accross your channel and saw a vid. It was love at first vid. You're so purty and silly and it cheers me up how genuine you are.
Also its okay to just be a pup momma
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Ah yes..that blessed age when you have to make all these important life decisions 😁
Not envying you right now! I felt like you about kids when I was your age (37 now) and for me, it just never changed. I have a 2,5 year old nephew and recently I‘ve become godmother to a little baby girl...and I love that...but doing the whole 24/7 mother thing? No, thank you 😎
I definitely recommend spending serious time around little kids before you decide...it’s not just the lack of sleep and having to give up so much of your time and energy to them (unless you can afford a nanny or have a family support system)...kids can be rather...you know....‘boring‘ after a while. Now who sounds selfish?
Not newborn baby’s, they really trigger a very strong emotional reaction and basically make your body drug you into complacency (even if you’re not the mother), but later on....uhhh. Playing 3 hours with a 2 year old....naming the same things over and over again while moving toy cars around. It makes my head shrivel up every time...and my nephew is the most adorable little boy imaginable. I don’t know how people do it.
Can’t speak to the TH-cam thing, of course, although I sure hope you stick around! I’m already looking forward to your spring lookbook 🤗. You’re doing one, right?? Pleeaaasee???
Personally, I would much prefer, if TH-cam was organized like a music streaming service. You pay a couple bucks each month and it gets distributed to the artists you listen to. Or something along those lines. Instead of the annoying adds everyone ignores anyway. They are just so badly made, for the most part. Advertisers don’t seem to get, that tv style adds don’t work for TH-cam.
I could totally see you working for Disney, though. You’re crazy talented! They would be mad to pass up on you.
Oh boy, I need to run! Hugs!
Rara Avis I totally agree!
Hahaha exactly! I'm so bad at playing with kids too 😂😂😂 whenever my nephew Henry wants me to play I just get SO AWKWARD like OH GOD IS HE GONNA KNOW IM FAKING IT?! 😂😂😂
Yes! Parenthood is a choice! I'm so glad you posted that.
I completely agree.. well, I adore kids and mine are my life and my joy and my passion, BUT I understand that not everyone feels that way. The truth is that parenthood is all consuming (or should be if you’re doing it right). It’s not the kind of thing you can try and then decide “Ya know what? This isn’t for me after all!” Once you have a kid it changes your life forever and there is no way to walk that back. There’s not a single thing wrong with wanting to wait to have kids, or even *gasp* choosing not to have children at all.
Diane Shiffer thanks for sharing your view. That's the important thing to learn from others and do your reseaech. It's brave to take that chance to become a parent in my opinion. For me the risk is too great because I'd hate to become a parent and the regret that choice. I ask is people give considerable time to making the decision to become parents.
I am loving my binge through your channel! A lot of creators are so cookie cutter consistent that you can't tell old videos from new but i feel like, even though I'm late to this journey, I'm along for the ride as I watch from the beginning ❤
Oh man! I thought you were totally my age with the marriage and the house. You are only 26!? Most of my friends are still getting married and just having their first baby. We are just about to be 30, so girrrrrrrrl, SLOW YOUR ROLL! You can stop worrying about "getting started". However, I know everyone else has their own idea of life, but I just wish to relieve the pressure off of you. Please know that kids are not for everyone. You can also look into fostering older children and volunteering with children to get a good handle on what parenting is like. I love working with children, but I know I do not want to have them. You are not alone when you ride the fence about having them. Society plays weird tricks on us. Do whatever makes YOU happy. I do want to remind you I love your videos, makeup, hair, and costumes THEY ARE YOUR ART!! Please keep making videos and I personally would understand if you didn't make some for a week or two just to live your life. You are only human after all. It's like a good friend who lives long distance. It's just good to hear and see your face. Wishing you a blissful weekend. : ]
Hehe thank you so so much my love, this makes me feel so much better!! You're the sweetest 😭
I have been watching you for almost a year now. I found your channel by accident when looking for vintage looks. I’m a guy, so i can’t take and use most of the tips you have, but I love your enthusiasm, energy, and corkiness. You’ve helped me look for vintage stuff in new places, and ways and more importantly I just enjoy your videos. And holy cow do I enjoy the music!!!!
Aww that's awesome!!! I feel like guys are very rare around this channel so that's really cool hehe!!
The Pinup Companion it is odd watching makeup tips, but it is a good insight into what women have to do for their vintage makeup. 😁
So my parents had me at 30 and my sister at 35, and they realized it was so much better than having kids in their 20s. They weren't old parents. Yeah, they were older than my friend's parents, but it never hindered anything. And I'm 29 this year. They coached softball, bowling, took us to band, camping, they were extremely active. I'm waiting until my 30s. 30s are not your 30s when my parents were that age. Don't feel pressured to rush into kids have kids when you want to when you can sit down and look at your husband and say "let's have kids, lets do this." Don't let your age get in your way. Yes, you do have to think about some complications if you do get pregnant 35+ but with all the medical technology and such, you don't have to worry so much as people have in the past. You do you girl. Don't let the world dictate how you feel.
That's so true, thank you so so much my love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I always look forward to these GRWMs! It's so nice to be able to watch a calm video. There's never a point where I feel like switching to another video in the middle like I do with most other videos. I love your content!
Awww yay that makes me happy!
I just had my first baby last October (I’m 27)... and yeah it is a totally different lifestyle than the laid back life I had before 😅 but I love my son so much... it’s quite a complicated change but wouldn’t go back ❤️
I completely understand how you feel about kids, jobs etc. I’m studying fine art and trying to get my foot in the door working in galleries and eventually curating. Life is so overwhelming and scary but I think that’s just part of being human and an adult. Thank you for openly talking about these things because figuring your life out is so hard and scary and so many people are feeling the same way ❤️ it’s nice to know that I’m not alone either in trying to figure my life out
My parents had me when they were 32 and 31 and they were considered the young parents so don't worry just yet! They had both me and my younger sibling just fine
Same with my parents! Although they had my brother and my sister when they were like 23 and 27 lolol
It's been 3 years since this video came out! And ppl still watch)
I'm a newbie.. And I love all your videos!...and love you,ofc!
I can say that we are so proud of you! you made alot of progress through out the years!! Well done 💪
Let me tell ya, that whole kid situation is my life x10. I've felt like that for a long while and I am now 33, which isn't anything really but we do only plan on one if we do have a wee human. I just think about how life hasn't been ready for that to happen, and it's hard to think it fits in the near future too.. Either way I know with time you'll start your family when its ready. Just know I understand that weird pressure it comes with.
I just love watching this and seeing how many of her goals/dreams she achieved 😊
My partner and I are about your age, and even though we *e v e n t u a l l y* want kids, there's no rush. Not only all the responsibility it entails, but also the economy is shit for young people. Also, I take issue with the phrase "start a family". We both say that we're a family of two, that we became a family, because that's what it feels like. So, I consider you and your family a beautiful family of four!!
That's really true!! I'm so happy already with my little family that we have hehe. You're totally right ❤️❤️
You have no idea how comforting this is to me. It's always interesting to find comparisons within yourself in complete strangers BUT currently 26, just had my first adult vacation to Disney, also significant other to a Nick, dog mom and ginger. I'm going through similar decisions and avoiding important conversations and it's just taking a toll and I'm glad that it's a normal situation that other humans go through. Anywhoooo, Good luck on buying the house and I think more look books would be great content 🙂
When I need a smile I watch you. Your funny and charming. I hope your dreams all come true. I bet they will! Your a hard worker and that does pay off.
Thank you so so much ❤️❤️❤️
Honey your so young... there is never any pressure for such a big decision. You will know when the time is right for kids. Love!
Family pressure and expectations suck but seriously, don't let them twist your arm or make you feel bad about kids. You may want kids in ten years, you may want them in fifteen, or you may not want them at all. Any of those options are perfectly acceptable as long as it's what YOU and your husband want :) That said, I think older parents are better than younger ones. 35 and 40 is still pretty young in my book, so long as you play it safe and feel healthy about a pregnancy. Good luck with your career aspirations first and foremost my dude, and thanks for being candid with us
Giiiiirl the kids thing is so real! I’m 25 this year and my fiancé and I are getting marrried next year. Growing up I always thought I’d have kids young but now I just... don’t...? I value my free time and my time with my friends and fiancé so much! It’s not selfish in a negative way- just knowing what you want. We’ve decided to wait until our late 20s/ early 30s to even seriously consider it and I am so happy with that decision. There’s no rush! All that “it’s harder to have kids after 30” is bull anyway since it’s based on a study from the 1800s. 🤷🏼♀️ Thanks for sharing with us! 😘
It is not selfish to enjoy free time. I'm in school until I'm 25-26. I for sure want to spend a few years just enjoying adulthood before raising a human child. Hopefully all works out. As a fellow overthinker, it sucks not having a good plan.
Totally!!! I'm glad you're the same hahaha, overthink EVERRYTHINGG 😂😭
I can so relate to what you’re saying about work. I know how hard it is to stick with something that doesn’t fulfil you when you’re a creative person, but also how stressful it is being in your 20s and not being sure what you want when you “grow up”. Ugh! X
Yay two video thank you!!!!!! I know how much work goes into your videos ❤❤❤
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Dear Rachel, I adore your personality, I love your style, and I like whole aesthetic of your films. Your films gives your followers joy, so if making them makes you happy as much as we like to watching them, keep doing it darling!
I'm turning 26 this month, so when I watch you, I can relate to you in some way and find myself in some things that you're saying. For example when you talk about still being a big kid :) and when you talk about figuring your life, enjoying your free time after getting home from work, or being stressed about having kids. I personally can't wait to have them, but also I know exactly what you mean, when you saying that this topic freaks you out ;) Obviously having them will change our lives. But I deeply believe, that this change, although it could and probably will be tough, would make us happy, and will give us lots of love, strenght and joy :) Don't be afraid of being mom (I'm sure you and your lovely husband will make great parents, whenever you decidet to became them! ), but also don't put any pressure on yourself, and remember, that every change in your life needs right time. Listen to your heart, keep calm and make your dreams come true :)
I've been watching your films near a year from now, and I've been always thinking of write you a comment, but never did. This film makes me do it. I send you greetings from Poland!
You're gorgeous in curlers and curls! Can't wait for a house tour!
It's crazy how so many females feel pressured to have children. I'll likely foster and may adopt, but I probably won't deliver one. I'm your age, but don't want to think about delivering for another 10yrs lol. Well known pg statistics are out dated. A persons health matters more than age. 30s and 40s isn't too old.
My 15yo daughter introduced me to your videos and I love love love them! Thanks for what you do. You make me want to dress fancier and display more of the vintage decor I got from so many of my ancestors, cool stuff that's just sitting in boxes and drawers. Don t stress about the kids; I had my 1st at 29 and my 3rd at 34. The early years were tough but we've always had fun. Love you!
I just love your honesty. I totally over think and compare myself to others so I get what you're saying and I'm right there with you. It's not easy but it's also nice to remember that you can do things because it's fun, and I think with youtube if it's not fun, then you don't have to do it. Just like with anything else. So I hope you always have fun and do it because you love it. ALSO- so cool you wanna work at Disney- that totally was my dream in middle school. I wanted to go to art school for animation and work for Disney. Never did BUT its never too late either! AND- (lol sorry!) I CAN NOT WAIT TO SEE ALLOY FINISHED. Holy crap on a stick, that's going to be an *AMAZING* cosplay. Okay- I'm done rambling in your comment section XD
I always feel good watching your videos. Having kids is a challenge that many parents don't put enough thought into. You sound like you would be a great parent, but there are no rules that you must have kids. Be happy, and have kids when it is best for you.
Frodo, no armpits😅😅😅😅
Definitely do a Boston meet up... that would be cool. You've got so many sweet places up that way for folks to check out in general. I'd definitely attend... does that sound weird, hope not. Never been to Boston, just drove thru the state on my to and from home/Bowdoin college during my schooling years at school in Maine.
I never thought of myself as momma material... big kid myself... but you just learn and go with the flow... they just become a fun part of your life.
That's so cool y'all are buying your house. Much luck and success with that process... it can be stressful.
As you say... byeeeeee🤗
Having a photo shoot in Boston would be really cool, because you could go all dressed up at famous landmarks in history! It totally sounds fun!
Literally found out last night my friend from when I was a child has cancer and I have been watching your videos all day today. They make me so happy and help me stop crying. Today has been super tough but I feel like you are here with me.
I hope you will do a before and after video of the house o.o #satisfying
Yay!!! Mid week video!!💕💕💕
Don’t ever feel pressured to have kids right away-having kids in your 30’s is amazing I promise!👍🏼
You have like... 10 years before you even need to start worrying about "running out of time" to have kids. The concept of female fertility divebombing after age 30 is largely overblown. Look into it, and rest easy :)
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@@rachelmaksy true..I had 2 before 30 and 2 after 30. One on Birth control pills. Whoops. Some of us are more fertile than the media let's on.
@@LauraBeeDannon and some of us are way less fertile. Giving advice like this is risking breaking the heart of any woman stupid enough to listen to you. I hate everyone who told me I had plenty of time. Hate them.
What you said about having kids. I feel 100% the same way. I don’t know how to ever be ready.. Me and my bf have been together for 10 years (and both turning 30 this year) and he’s always said that he really wants kids. But we’re totally kids ourselves.
On another note. Will stick with your channel forever. Thank you for continuing with TH-cam.
I hope it works out with the house 💙
It will be soooo cool if you come to Disneyland Paris for a Dapper Day 😍😍🌠✨
I wish!!
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Totally!
Thankyou for being real on the internet and demystifying having a strong social media presence. ❤️
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oh my god giiiirl i completely understand you on the kid front??? i am not even married yet but i'm the oldest grandchild on both sides and also oldest kid and family keeps asking me about it? and i just stare at them like "uh, no thank you???" 😂
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Since watching your videos I have been inspired to dress vintage when I go to class! At first I was really afraid but then I realized how comfortable I was and now I do it because I love it. Thank you for helping me in that area and thank you for your content! ❤️
You honestly inspire me to just be my truest self... ya know? Anyway, sending love from NJ. -Heather
Awwww yay! ❤️❤️❤️
Your videos are so wonderful and I love watching them whenever and however often you post them! You’ve inspired me to pursue my own little creative outlets, and try vintage styles without caring a whit what other people think of me. I guess what I mean is; your sweet, genuine, and wonderful self is a blessing to everyone who knows you, whether in person or through a camera. Thanks for being you! 😘
When you're from the great white North and you go somewhere warm; suddenly turns into cat and basks in the sun. Need to soak up as much vitamin D as possible lol
Hahahaha exactly!! 😂😂
Thank you Rachel for all of the care and joy you put into your videos. I can totaly relate to the stress of being uncertain of what the future holds. And I too am an overthinker 😂😂 it is a great curse. But just know that your videos bring me great joy and have inspired me so much 💗
Aww thank you so so much my love ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Of course I get random long black hairs, I’m 41. Get ready for the wonderful world of facial hair.
MissMargaret At 31 I get the same thing. XD Don’t worry about it, like MissMargaret says, it’s normal.
I'm 27 and I feel like every few months I discover a new one!
I always think it's a pet hair until I tug on it. Lol
Omigoshh, you're so modest and still are!! You would have such a huge turn out, people would travel far to meet you 💗
You are the only TH-camr I would consider crossing the Atlantic for a meetup...for... Bad sentence. ANYWAY!
It's okay to not want to rush into having kids. I'm 28 and I feel nowhere near ready or inclined to have them, and I think you deserve a shot at your dreams before anything else. You're meant to live your life, not your biology. If that makes any sense. I don't know, I haven't had enough coffee today.
Also, furbabies are real babies :3
You're so right, thank you so much my love 😭❤️❤️❤️❤️
Don’t stress please. Most of the time I feel like you try not to cry and it makes me sad. You’re amazing! Love your videos so much! ❤️
Aww hehe I think it's cuz I'm still a little sick but I wasn't feeling sad or teary in this one! But thank you so so much ❤️❤️❤️
General people: "When are you and your husband having a baby?"
Me: "Um, I'M the baby"
Hahahha exactly 😂😂❤️❤️❤️
Oh boy, I just absolutely adore you!
And I'm so glad you opened up about your feelings surrounding kids, I don't have anyone in my family understanding it and hearing it from you and reading the comments really give me a feeling of acceptance 😇
You really save my days
Have you considered starting a patreon?
Tracy Meserve I thought of that same thing! She should totally start a Patreon.
I would be all over that!
Honestly, whatever path you choose (TH-cam or not) I’m excited for you to grow! You are one of the most relatable and genuine person I watch on TH-cam.I literally stop everything to watch your amazing videos! So, thank you for the goofs and gafs you have provided for me ❤️❤️❤️ we are here for you!!!
Aaaah that makes me so happy! Thank you so much my love ❤️
This channel is so binge worthy .Amazing lady !!! Keep up the good work :)
You are adorable! I've been watching a bunch of your vintage videos and you're funny, smart, adorable and beautiful! I'm so inspired by your videos! You explain your vintage style so well! I'm so inspired!
Ahh you're so sweet thank you!!!
You are probably my favourite you tuber. You always make me smile and laugh. You also brought me back to my love for vintage. Love you! Hope to always be able to watch your videos!!
Awww love you back! Thank you my love ❤️
I just love your videos. They are really honest and relatable. I am much older and have already had my children and now have granddaughters, l remember having to navigate all the things you discussed. It is exciting and scary to plan a future life with children, but with your creativity and thoughtfulness those future kids will have a great mama.
Weekends are precious (we love the precious). Protect your time, your vibe, your personal needs first! Most of us will still be here even if you posted once a month. Don’t let “industry” pressure get to you.
Hehehe preeeeeciouussss. Thank you love!
You are so amazing, the adult struggle is real. Babies, moving, jobs, bills all of that.....but don't forget to be happy and Live your life in the meantime.
I never had a “clock” ticking away. To sum it up I was indifferent about having kids. But when I did I realized I now have this really cool person to hang out with and do stuff I like. Why? Cause that tiny human is part you and part your spouse, they are the perfect mixture that makes them your perfect little bestie. I now have four kids, two I had and two are awesome bonus kids. I now have my own entourage. And we like the same weird cool stuff.
Im turning thirty-one next month and my husband and I are in the same position you are kids-wise: we love our free time and it's a huge commitment. We've discussed how we'll be happy in life with our without kids. However you feel about it is perfectly valid.
It's really hard not to compare yourself to others. Just keep doing what feels right. You're crushing it.
LOVE your channel.
As the girl that’s always adamantly never wanted kids, I so wholeheartedly LOVE that everyone in the comments is very supportive and understanding. A lot of times what I’m faced with is “oh it’ll change. Oh you’re still young give it Time.” (I’m 21 years old and have 5 nieces from 3 months old to going on 13 years old and have lived with them all before so I know what goes into taking care of them)
Oh totally, everyone is so supportive here I'm lucky!!! Trying to explain that kinda stuff to relatives always seems like it goes in one ear and out the other 😂
The Pinup Companion amen girl! Like yeah I might change my mind but like I don’t see that happening and literally no one I’ve come across cares lol I tell em and it’s the same old NO NO YOU WANT BABIES SWEAR.
I'm currently working on my vintage shop and watching your GRWM while I'm working makes it feel like we're just hanging out and it's amazing - love ya you're great xx
I love those chatty moment
You're so honnest and yourself
You are always saying thank you to us for being here but we also can thank you a hundred times for making such great videos, reading the comments and answering to them
You're lovely and amazing and telented and you make us smile !
And there is nothing more wonderful ! 😁😁
Looking forward to the HP look book!! Love all you do. ♥️ Chin up Buttercup, you do you and don’t worry about anyone else’s expectations. Life is meant to have joy in there, too. Never forget that! 😊 xxxxx
Thank you so so much my love ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love your presence. You have been a big influence on my dipping my feet into vintage dress. I'm loving trying things out and you made me realize age has nothing to do with it. I'm 50 and enjoying my femininity for the first time. Thank you, Rachel.
It's totally understandable that money is a motivator for you since you put so much time and effort into your videos and I think you're doing a great job!
We all Love you rach!!!! Good luck with your Disney application ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ they will love you!!!!!
Thank you my beautiful!!!!
I totally get how you feel. I am a similar age as you and feel the pressure to get married and have kids "before it's too late". I feel behind in life but try to remind myself not to compare my life to others.
First of all, I love your videos and content. I am a huge fan of you and your adorable style! I am 22 and have a 2 year old daughter and kids do take up a lot of time and effort but it's so worth it and your mindset and priorities do change. It's also perfectly fine to wait to have kids or never have kids at all! There's never gonna be a right time to start a family. I think whatever you decide to do is wonderful. Don't feel pressured because life is already so full of stress and worry. I hope this helped. I adore you and keep being your talented creative self. :)
Thank you so much my love ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I think sometimes I psyche myself up too much, when I'm sure me and Nick would totally adjust to a new lifestyle
wishing you this kind of energy for your day!
Never feel pressured to have little ones - you are the one to make that choice and decision, and having children doesn't mean sacrificing your dreams either. There is always a way through difficulties. xx
You are very right that once you have a kid you figure it out. I am also just a big kid in an adult body, and also loved my freedom and being lazy. When I was surprised with finding out I was going to have a kid, I was like "there's no way I can, I'm not ready, I can barely take care of myself!" I feel like up until the day she was born I was still totally lost. But the day she was born it all clicked into place. When you are ready, you will have no problem!
Awww that's really good to know!! Thank you my love ❤️❤️
I completely understand your stance on kids. I'm 27 and I'm starting law school this year, and even though I've met the love of my life and I know he wants kids (EVENTUALLY) I still have no idea if or when I'd ever be ready for it...And the "time limit" on women to have children does totally suck but.. We all have our different journeys and there is nothing wrong with wanting kids or NOT wanting kids.
You are so amazing! Thanks to you I have decided to embrace the side of me that loves vintage. I have always lacked the confidence to pull it off put after watching your videos I finally decided to take the plunge. Thank you for being so wonderful and true to yourself. As some one who does live on the East Coast, if you ever decided to have a meet and greet I would most definitely be there.
Girl I feel you on the kids. 😥 I feel like I'm a big kid and I love my alone time. My son was a surprise for my husband and I (before we got married) and I love him so much, but you definitely are always "on the job". It's hard, because self care seems impossible a lot of days, but ultimately it's worth it and as they get older it becomes easier. C: You'll figure everything out in its own time! ♡
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You're actually great, stop doubting yourself! You kick-started my love of vintage and I'm so glad you're still creating and doing you 💕
I...am slinking in laaaaaate to the party on this one. You're seriously inspiring!! I love watching you while at work and you inspire me to get back into costuming and cosplay, and to venture into vintage
Awww thank you so much!!
Thanks for being so real with all of your videos and showing your goofy side. I resonate with your appreciation for history and your humor. If you ever come back to California you’ve got a friend in me in San Diego 😉
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Hey I was part of that group that went on rides after the meetup! We all kept saying how we don't have other pinup friends, so thank you for bringing us together ❤️
I turn 26 in June, so I completely get what you mean about that window of having kids “soon.” For me, I don’t want kids until I’m in my 30s if at all. My mom had me when she was 33 and she was glad she waited. She said she had a stable job, a home and had grown up in her 20s so she was ready. It was nice to have her tell me it’s okay to wait and not rush. I hope whatever you decide makes you happy. :)
Hearing that you're an overthinker, stress about kinda everything and have mood swings just like me but keep moving is extremly motivating for me to hang in there. Because after rain comes sun. - Oh and I love that you put the songs down in the description box, they're always great picks.
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Loved this video! It’s always nice to see honesty and kindness. You go girl
Thank you my love 😭😭😭