Id say try to keep in mind that this closet is just for his stuff, not joint/ family stuff. It is important that the boys have one room that is completely their own to grow in and not have to share. I would move the family games out of there and let him put his toys in the closet. I don't know your boys so idk how they feel about sharing their space so this would be up to them and you as you know them best! Doing amazing!! Keep up the good work!!
I would say no toys come up from the basement unless your son specifically asks for one of them. Then you’ll for sure know what he wants to use and keep.
I agree with this. In our last move we rented a garage for 6 months. 12 huge boxes of children’s toys went in there, we only kept what would fit on their 8 cube shelf unit (Plus the lego box we have) and 6 months later they had asked for one item (which ended up breaking and going in the bin a week later anyway)... so I have to agree... leave it in the basement and only bring it up if it’s asked for - otherwise Less is more and your children will have so much fun with what they have!
I would only use this idea if it is thoroughly discussed and agreed with by the child. I know if my mom did that to me at Tyler’s age, just because I didn’t ask for my favorite doll when I was five over the course of this method doesn’t mean I didn’t want it. If not done properly, this could potentially break trust with your child. Just some food for thought!
I’d leave the toys in the basement if he hasn’t asked for them in six months you can sell them remember children play more with less x more toys can cause children to become anxious and less productive so it’s good for their mental health to keep their spaces minimal calm and peaceful xx well done for your progress x
I agree. Children with too many toys don’t use their Imaginations. I enjoy seeing the things my grandchildren design and make with their imaginations. 😊
That's not always true. It differs from child to child. I had lots of toys as a child and I am very creative and so does my son and he is extremely creative.
Suggestions: 1) Not to put any "family shared" or somebody else's items in there again (games are fine if those are the toys he is choosing). It is good to make a positive mental note that this room is son's territory now. 2) Replace the slouchy hanging storageunit with all the clothes from the drawers into hangers. 👕👖 and then see what space is left.
I'd say move his shorts and things to the set or drawers and get rid of the black thing like you said. Then you have space to store the extra toys and they will be accessible to him so he might actually get them out and play with them. The trouble with those very high shelves is the kids can't reach them so maybe they'd be better used for things that you use as a family, so all the board games on the top shelf then use the next shelf down for small boxes of the art supplies etc that the kids can get down on their own (maybe a little fold up step for them?). You could even put a small shelving unit where the black thing is, I bet you have something in the basement that would fit. I think the main thing is, not having it utterly crammed with toys/clothes as when things are too full, you just don't bother to look through it all to find the thing you want. If the kids can see and reach everything in there then they'll use everything in there. (Honestly, I need to take my own advice with this one as the cupboards in my house are so full of stuff I hate going into them so the cupboards and things in there are basically useless! 😂)
How are you!!! I hope you had a very Happy Holiday 🌟🌟 I do have that extra white bookcase that was in his room! We did put it in the basement! I love this idea & I can totally visualize this!! Thank you so so much!!
@@ahoardersheart I did thanks, a very quiet one as we're all locked down in England but it was still lovely. Hope you and your family had a good one too
I was so surprised that you didn’t do one section at a time in the closet like you have done before with all of your spaces! I am so proud of you for doing the whole thing! I do not have hoarding disorder but that closet would overwhelm me to be honest! You did a very good thing aswell dividing everything into categories before you decluttered it. For the next step bring your son with you to the basement and decide if he actually want to have all that stuff in his room. Maybe he will change his mind on some of it and it can be stored in the basement. Then bring the things to his room and organize it together! Just make sure to keep it in categories like you’ve done so far. I would remove the black hanging box with shelves and put bins with stuffed toys instead so that he can get them for himself and not having them on the string shelves so that he has to climb a chair. I feel so honored beeing able to follow your journey here on youtube. Thank you for sharing! ❤️❤️❤️
I’d put the pants on the main rod or in the dresser. On the top shelf, I’d keep clothes Tyler will grow in to carefully labeled in see through tubs since he can’t reach that anyway. Will the dresser fit in the closet? If so, all clothing would be in the closet and you can keep toy storage where it is more accessible for Tyler. Piggy is adorable. I used to have one and loved all the little sounds he made.
I would put those square shelves on the bottom of the closet for legos, art supplies and the rest of Tyler’s toys. Specifically just Tyler’s!! You could put the clothes in the dresser and be able to use the entirety of the bottom of the closet for those cube units. The backpacks can be tucked into the side and you’d be good!
I like this idea. Eventually he's going to to need a desk, so you can put the desk where the storage cubes are. Also, I agree with everyone else's suggestion that the only thing that should be in that room are things that belong to your son. It's his space, so that should be the end goal.
I think your idea of folding his bottoms into the dresser is a great idea! I’d also get rid of the hanging organizer and your hubby could put up shelves in its place
Try leaving a small space in that closet empty, perhaps a small section of shelf. It will represent your gaining healing and control, as well as leaving space for new possibilities in your life. It is also a reminder that we need to fill our lives with love and experiences, rather than stuff. I can't tell you how great it feels to just have that empty drawer or shelf here and there!
First off, What an improvement! You are doing great! Personally, I would remove that hanging storage. Anything your son cannot reach will become useless and is taking up valuable real estate in the closet. I would also put all bottoms in the dresser. That would open up room for backpack storage and perhaps some toy storage (ie. Plushy bin storage) that would keep some of the clutter off the floor in the main bedroom area. Again make sure he can reach everything easily so he can maintain it himself. Good luck, you got this!
@@ahoardersheart Dear Miss Heart, please do check your thyroid. I had 4 miscarriages in between my first and second son. My heart was so broken. You know that pain. I thought I'd never be able to give my oldest a sibling. It turned out that I was hypothyroid(TSH was 6.0 instead of 1.0[optimal for carrying a child]). My ob/gyn. never suspected it because I was slim. The fertility dr figured it out. Once I was put on thyroid meds, I was able to keep the pregnancy and had my second son. Hypothyroidism often goes undiagnosed. I urged three of my girlfriends who were having miscarriages to have their thyroid checked. Turns out all three had thyroid problems, got on medication and had healthy babies afterward. 💕
Your progress in your decluttering is amazing. You are growing in no longer hoarding things in leaps and bounds. So proud of you! You are so setting your boys up for success in maintaining their items in a reasonable amount. You go girl!!!
Are those games in use? Can he reach them himself? Maybe a relocation to a more accessible space would make more sense. I think the konmari fold of the pants would make a lot of sense, as he grows even more pants will hang to the floor. I also dont know how much sense the hanging thing is making, its such an awkward shape to work with. If the games were to fit id say put them in there but i dont think they will.
Yay!! You are a Tetris master, I couldn’t believe how much came out of that closet!! That’s a huge “out” pile! Tyler must be so happy with his new closet!
First let me say.... It is perfectly okay to keep the baby girl clothes! I was tearing up when I saw them 😭 secondly you did an amazing job cleaning the closet it looks fantastic. With the hang ing thing maybe you could put the board games in there I saw that on Pinterest and thought it was a great idea. You could also store clothes for the next season in the closet, and then when he grows out of his current clothes you can donate them or store them and then you have your next group of clothes ready to go
Do all of those board games belong specifically to Tyler? If they are 'family' board games then I don't think they should be stored in his room, maybe in the living room or in that coat closet you found all that money in? There are still quite a few things in the basement that he wanted to keep and they will need to live somewhere in his room so he is gonna need as much space in there as possible. Also if they are shared games but living in Tylers bedroom that means if Hubby and Brandon wanted to play a game together they have to go into Tylers room to get it. My brother always haaaattteed me going in his room for stuff, especially as he approached his teens lol. It will help to make him feel like the space is really his and fully own it. Much love!!! xx
Just because there is empty space does not mean you need to fill it. Only Tyler’s things should be in Tyler’s room. Craft supplies place in a set area of the basement. Set up a table for crafty.
KonMari the dresser. Put the pants and shorts in the dresser. Remove the low hanging rod and put his shoes under the shirts. Remove the hanging fabric shelf thingy. You have a couple 3 drawer storage containers in the basement. Stack on top of each other (or side by side if they fit in the closet because that would give you a long top/shelf to use also) but I’m not sure they would fit side by side. Pare down the toys to what fits in those 6 drawers, the trundle, and the cube shelves but no more. Discuss whether you will bring up the play kitchen or discard it. It won’t get used in the basement. He might be willing to keep the play food and not the kitchen. I don’t think he can reach the board games so move them or realize they won’t be played unless someone helps him get them down. It is okay to use the closet uppermost shelf for his memory boxes. I can’t remember your linen closet situation but his extra 1 or 2 sets of spare sheets and pillowcases can be stored on whichever closet shelf you can reach. There might be another toy purge to get everything to fit with room to grow. Just some ideas 💡 You are doing a fantastic job!!!
Omg you did the whole closet, in one go!!! You truly are amazing and give me such hope that I can achieve this too. I really wanted to reach out and hug you when you came to the unicorn outfit but I can’t so am sending you love and prayers ❤️🙏 Put less used stuff on top shelves and keep toys lower so Tyler can reach them. I agree with lots of others who suggested taking out black organiser and either put pants up on that side of closet or in the drawers. Well done as always in sorting what items are going in each direction and always thinking of people that need it. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 👏👍💐🦄❤️🙏
Oh my gosh woman you have come so far. I’m literally bragging about you to my husband. How you started with your face covered but was willing to be brave sharing on TH-cam. But now your out and proud. I’m just so thrilled for you. 2021 will be even better for you. I know I may not be a hoarder but you honestly have taught me little things along the way. May you be blessed this year! 😘😘😘
I know this is an older video so my comment is probably pointless but I wanted to say it anyway. If the dresser will fit, you should try putting it in the closet. Take out the black hanging thing and put the dresser in there. That way all the clothing is in one spot and it also gives more space in the room to add back in the kids kitchen or maybe the other white bookshelf.
Amazing progress! You have a half empty closet!!!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 I'd say put the trousers in the drawer, legos under his bed in the pull-out drawer, and other toys within his reach. I wouldn't take anything out of the basement unless he asks for it. I've found low shelving works the best because my son cam reach everything - and put it back himself!
When you’re ready! I was just able to go through my girls’ baby things last year...and they were 18 & 20. I had a lady on Etsy make me an amazing quilt from my most cherished blankets, onesies & outfits. ❤️
Your instincts are right, move the pants and get rid of the hanging thing. I might try one of those cube organizers you have in there for the art and Lego and maybe even moving the games down where he can reach them
I don't know if you still have toys into the TV shelf thingy, but I'd remove them to put board games instead Give Tyler his own personal space, with only his stuff, and I see board games more as family items so it makes sense in my mind to put it in an area the family uses together, like the living room ^^' What is in the dresser ? Because honestly I think you could fit every piece of clothes that is in here in the closet and thus get rid of the dresser or use it for another purpose, though I doubt it'll be good to fill it up just to fill it up instead of having more space But all of these pieces of advice are just my own way of doing things, keep the ideas that fit you the most !
I think it's hard to organize what isn't there, so I would say the next step would be to organize the rest of his clothes in that dresser and see if things can be condensed into it to make even more room in the closet. Then have Tyler go through the toys and crafts in the basement to see what he wants to keep. Finally, when you have everything that's going back into the room, you can see what organizational pieces make sense to keep and use to organize the toys as you put them into the closet. Also consider that he won't be able to reach anything on the closet shelves, so having his favorite things stored closer to the floor would be best!
If he is dressing himself, put as much of his daily clothing in the drawers and keep out of season and 'special clothes' on the top rod. Remove the hanging cubbies and lower rod and get open shelves to store toys so they are visible (not in storage boxes). Then ONLY bring up what is asked for/used/ missed. After a few months, re-evaluate with him what he wants to keep from the basement. Just because there IS an open space (lie the very top shelves) doesn't mean you actually need to put anything there either as it just adds to visual clutter.
January 2024. My son, age 42, came over to watch football. I sent him home with a box of his grandma's old dishes. I try to get rid of at least 20 items each day. There are many items no one wants that are headed to the thrift shop this week. There's also a box for the e-recycling. Tina, Al's wife
You did Great!! It looks so good! I have a suggestion for your hanging cube thingey. If your kids are still active in sports or taking music lessons etc, I put the items needed for those activities in one of the cubes: so maybe music sheets/workbooks in one, soccer uniform and shin guards in another, karate gear in another, swim class (towel, bag, shower flip flops/shampoo) in another. I used it with my girls that way when they had activities and it was so easy to keep track of stuff needed for those classes.
Growing up my room constantly evolved to fit my interests but a lot of storage always got re-arranged and repurposed (but kept delicate things mostly out of the dust) so I'd say: ask Tyler what works for him and then go from there - he may want to use that tall organiser for shoes and put misc toys where his shoes currently are, or he might want more storage like the ones for his shoes. Discover whether he wants to be able to view it as her opens the doors or whether he wants it shut away. If he likes both then Ikea do great bookshelves with the option to add drawers. Keep things he wants to use/have access to lower down so he doesn't need to ask you or your husband to grab them when he wants them and use that high shelf for out-of-season clothes, sentimental boxes of his things and clothes he'll grow into, as well as anything else that may be needed in his room but not urgently. You've done so well on your journey so far but as you included him in the declutter of his room, include him in the organisation of his things in his room, and with putting it all away, so when all the organisational items are there so he knows where everything is and will be more likely to use all his toys etc, and know what he does and doesn't want to keep, in the future.
Fantastic job! So proud of this and all your other hard work, both physical AND emotional. I totally understand mental/emotional exhaustion, and I love how you refer to the decluttering muscle....it DOES get easier the more you do it. You're such a great example of that!💕
Great job! Get rid of the hanging organizer, move all the bottoms up, you have enough space. Then you can put all the shoes on the floor or unstuck the plastic bins and leave only one layer of shoes. Last advise: put a big hook on the wall or in the laundry room to hang the big speedo backpack. Its so much nicer when they are off the floor and easier you you to prepare the bags and have them ready for the next practice.
Since I am right there with you regarding holding on to sentimental and very emotional ties, it is exceptionally beneficial to hear you speak out your thoughts and how you are coping and moving forward. Please do not fear having to share that you've decided to keep things because it is you being real with us, which I absolutely appreciate. So please please please continue to share your thought processes as you make decisions and choose how to move forward with your belongings. Thank you so much for this!!!!! God bless you. You are off to a fabulous new year! De
Before the pandemic we had mom to mom sales in Michigan. Paid 20 bucks for a table and you bring your stuff on a Saturday to a school or church(have to reserve) and sell all your kid stuff between the hours of 8am-1pm. There was a big ticket room where you would bring bigger stuff and the small stuff would go on a 6ft table provided and you bring a clothes rack. Make good $$$ Advice about your yard sale. Tag it with prices before going into the bin. THat way it is all done for the day of the sale.
I just want to say I'm sorry for your loss. Having experienced losses myself, I know how devastating it can be and amazed that you are still making such incredible progress in your healing and putting your sons first. I know it would be easy to stay stuck when something like that happens. You're truly incredible!
I'd suggested to put ALL his clothes that fits him now there and in vacuum bags stuff for the future so that you don't have to juggle with with seasonal bins. Personally I always aim to store all my clothes in one wardrobe. Exceptions are big seasonal coats (thin ones live in my wardrobe all together on a couple of hangers) and seasonal shoes (I put current shoes in the hallway by the door and not in season and for special occasions shoes in a storage, if you move board games in a common area (laundry room after declutter?) box(es) with not in use shoes can be stored up there. Shoes that he needs semi regular (training shoes, church ones, etc) can stay in the system that's already there)
First of all-that's more than a half that went out-way to go!:) Secondly-the hanging unit is nice if one needs to hold just few, light items. But I would probably opt for either open shelves or an open cabinet instead of this hanging shelves, as it will give you more space to store. For the things that are in the basement, I would suggest that Tyler would "supervise" what will come back to his room. He looks like really knowing what he wants, so perhaps he will decide that some things, after those weeks, might be as well selled/ donated. And finally, as some already mentioned-for the board games-it could be nice to store them in the family room or somewhere, where everyone can have easy access to them. That will make Tyler's closet just his, and his only ;):) Congrats for the great pile of tossy-tossy! It is indeed a huge one regardless if one is a hoarder or not. A big hug from across the ocean:) 💖💖💖🦄🤗
Maybe Tyler's summer clothes or clothes to grow into that are in the basement, could go at the very top of that closet. He can't reach them anyway and it would declutter the basement more. Also get rid of the bottom pants rail and put the pants on the main upper rail or in the drawers. Then you can have box games below where he can get at them. He'll never play those games up on the top shelf unless they're accessable. You could use that black hanging shelves for art supplies.
I think I would put winter and summer too big clothes in 2 totes up top. You can check close by before buying. I would remove the black thing (but save until you are done too make sure). Then I would bring that white and clear drawer thing that had Pokeman cards back up. I would put it into the closet for art supplies with labeled drawers. Plus I would put pants into decluttered dresser. Also some of the new gifts could go in your gift tote. Use for bday parties, extended family Christmas gifts. Etc. Hope this helps!
That fart game cracked me up! :D I think maybe get rid of the hanging canvas organizer. Those tend to sag and look messy. I like the idea of moving the pants, they could be hung next to the other clothes or moved to the dresser. Happy organizing!
the closet looks so great! I have seen people use the hanging organizer for board games so maybe see if that would work and free up even more space? if not I would say to try to store the games on the shelf like books. it makes it so much easier to get the game you want and keeps the game boxes in better condition so they aren't slowly crushing each other. that's what I do. ☺
You did so well. This is amazing. I personally would get rid of the hanging organizer and the lower rail. You have more than half a closet of hanging space so you could put the trousers up or fold them and then they won't touch the floor. You could put a laundry basket on the closet floor. The rest of the tops shelves could be for toys and things he doesn't use all that often. That way you can declutter the stuff he grows out of and have space for new things. You would also still have space for a box of stuff he hasn't grown into yet from his older brother. You are a star!
First of all - great video and amazing progress! Secondly, I agree with everyone who suggests that you leave the toys in the basement unless Tyler specifically asks for them. Thirdly, here is how I would continue: 1) Move that black thingy out of the closet and frankly donate it - these things always attract clutter. 2) Tidy that dresser and see whether you'd have enough space to put in the pants. 2a) If so, fold the pants and add them neatly into a draw and just leave dress pants hanging 2b) If there is not enough space in the dresser, hang the pants on the main rode in the closet where that black cube thing used to be 3) Get rid of that extra rod that currently holds the pants These steps I'd suggest you take in any case. Afterwards you have some options: 1) Look at the toys in the basement and figure out which categories you might still have to put back into Tyler's room 2) If you feel that there are certain toys Tyler wants back in his room how about moving the shoe thing in the closet to the side and putting one of the cube shelves that are at the foot of the bed into the closet (just put it on the side, so it's not upright) and add bins with assorted toys to them? Keep books and things your son wishes to display in the other cube shelf outside the closet - that way you'd have a space for the play kitchen for example or the pluschi bin. Hope this helps :)
No toys brought upstairs unless he asks. Store backpacks in closet and maybe some stuff from the hall closet such as sporting items and winter coats for Tyler. Empty space is good too.
Whew the stuff! I’d get rid of the hanging thing and put the board games down there. I’ve heard you mention several times y’all like the games but.. they didn’t look like they’d been accessed for some time 🤷🏻♀️ having them accessible/in reach for the boys makes more sense. Maybe eventually they can have their own cabinet in basement. Definitely declutter the drawers.
I'm super proud of you! I would have so wanted to give you a long warm hug when you most certainly needed it. ❤️ The room looks so great! I'd move the trousers up, so nothing hangs on the floor. I'd also bring back only the toys he asks for, and only when he asks for them. Instead of the black hanging thing I'd try to fit that see-through plastic drawer kit inside the closet for his crafting stuff.
I think you should start putting all toys together at one place now since you have given away a lot. The top shelf of the closet, you can use to keep his seasonal cloths so that he can have even more organised room :)
Wow! That was a lot to declutter 🌹 Great job🌸 I would remove the hanging shelves in closet first. Put all of his shorts,pants in dresser drawers and only use top rod , for shirts and coats. Then see if cube shelves(that you already have) will fit in his closet for toys. Maybe if there is room in closet lean his draft table against the side in closet. Family games should be put in living room shelves? Other games he can play with friends or brother put on cube shelves in closet or in boxes on closet floor if it will fit, so he can get by himself. Get one of the bean bag(without beans) for most of his stuff toys (keep out ones he sleeps with) Use middle of bed drawer for Legos if it all fits. Have you decluttering oldest son closet??? I can not remember if you did already!?? On very top shelves in his closet put keepsakes,clothes to grow into,etc... Good luck 👍 You can do it, go girl 👧
Hang the backpacks on Command hooks and move all bottoms to the dresser after you clean and organize the drawers. I'd have hubby use any wood in the garage to make another shelf/rod combo for the closet where the current rod extension is. That way you can put the games down lower where he can reach them. Store next seasons' clothes/hand-me downs in the top of the closet.
Hi there 😘 best regards from Sarajevo, Bosnia and Herzegovina ❤️ I would fold all the pants and shorts in drawers and keep t shirts in closet. You did a great job decluttering, I am so proud 😍
You and Tyler can be so proud on yourselves. I guess he is very happy to have his own space now. I decluttered my stuff over the last few years and i wish i had done this sooner or had the support of my parents to learn from them what stuff is important to create a space that suits me better. But i didn't have that because they keep a lot of unimportant things too. But i guess for Tyler it can be a helpful experience and you can be so proud that you could let go of so much stuff too.
Hey, did you notice how quick you went through the games? And YOU suggested Taylor to get rid of the doubles! So great job there! I would recommend to move all clothes to one spot, so maybe in the dresser. You can fold everything into the drawers. I really do not like those wall closets, they are hard to organize... I would get rid of the hanging thing and rather put the dresser with the clothes in there. or another dresser or maybe a cubeshelf (you have a spare one if I remember correctly) where you can organize art and craft supplies. Remember to think what your son can reach and what he uses how often. So make clothes accessible for himself sort and label it that he can put them away on his own after laundry. Same with toys. We store as much as we canon a height that the children can reach. Up on the shelves you can put seasonal stuff or toys he does not use often. If you put bins up there, label them. Do not be scared of empty shelves! It is a good thing to get used to it! It. You might feel the urge to fill it with stuff from the basement. Try to resist, at least for a while. So your mind yould get used to it. And it is always great to have some space left.
Woooow I'm always amazed at how much stuff fits into a certain space. Well done! I would get rid of the hanging organizational piece, move everything from the lower rod onto the other one and then get rid of the lower rod
When we moved (almost 3yr ago) we had to get rid of loads, my kids didn’t ask for any of it. I even had to get rid of most of the sentimental. I suggest before you look at sentimental read an explanation of Swedish death cleaning, not suggesting you do it but it may help you get rid of a couple of extra bits. As a fellow recover it is how I have to view the sentimental as we have a small home in the UK (so far smaller than ‘small’ us homes and I have three kids) Now my kids are 4 and 5 and 6 months
Not sure if anyone already suggested thing, but if you can shop the hoard for a proper shoe rack so that they're not piled on top of each other, I think that would help with making sure shoes are organized is a way that each pair is easily accessible and you can easily pull shoes that don't fit anymore and know exactly what he has/needs. Also, you take your time on what you need to do. Please let yourself heal at your pace and please never feel the need to justify/apologize for having tough emotions. You are already growing so much, and respecting your own emotional boundaries is part of that too. Keep up the great work, love from Canada 🇨🇦
Great job Mama! I just watched the first video of this room and WOW! You should be so proud of yourself. Here's what I would do to organize the closet: 1. Put pants in dresser 2. Bring up the white cube organizer, put horizontal in the closet. 3. Bring other toys into the closet. Use the top shelves on where to store them. Use this as your boundary - once there is no more room, more should be decluttered at some point..when your heart is ready 4. Use the white cube shelf and black shelving to "rotate" the toys to the best of your ability. If you're not into rotating toys, no biggie just put their favorites on the white cube shelf and black shelf.
The closest looks awesome! I would try the pants in the drawers Kon Mari style to see if Tyler likes that and I would remove the hanging storage to open up more space. And an idea for the clothes you love is to have a blanket made from them. I can see you loving that as you cherish the memories of your little ones !
Woah. You nailed that! So fast omg! Have you thought about bringing his off season clothes back in? There’s plenty of space if you remove the hanging thing. And you could put the between kids clothes on the top shelf for him to grow into. Along with the Tyler specific memory box so it’s handy to his room. His pjs, underwear and pants etc should all fit in that large dresser for sure. Remember “make the boundary the bad guy” ! Or you could move his pants onto the top hanging rod if having them in a drawer is overwhelming for him to find what he’s after. (Out of sight out of mind type thing)
Leave the toys in the basement. What does not get played with get rid of. Get rid of the closet hanger. After cleaning out the drawers put tea shirts and foldable shorts and pants in there. Put all the stuff on the shelves on the lower one so Ty can access them easier.
Wow! Such an improvement! Your decluttering muscles have really been strengthened! Some suggestions on organisation: •4 storage bins on each shelf in the wardrobe (8 bins total) labeled. Neater to look at, easier to access, and more organised •X bin(s) = Board games - divide games into x amount of storage bins and store on the wardrobe shelf. X bin(s) = rotated-out toys X bin(s) = out of season clothes X bin(s) = extra bedding for his room (or whichever category may be more applicable) •The shelves are not very accessible for kids, so an alternate choice would be best for the toys he wants to play with. Decide on an amount of toys to be rotated-in for use (eg. 2 bins or eg. 20 toys), and store in the bottom section of the wardrobe (preferably in a unit that can fit inside the wardrobe). Decide on a toy rotating system (after 1 month, rotate the eg 2 bins or eg 20 toys out with the other toys). •Your idea to Konmari method the folding of clothes in the dresser is *chef kisses*.
Excellent job my beautiful friend. Maybe declutter the dresser and store all shorts and pants in it. Remove the hanging cubby and store the rest of his wanted items in the closet.
A few things I would suggest Yes, organise the rest of the clothes in the drawers. I would get rid of the hanging organiser and put the drawers there, so all clothes are together and accessible for your son A laundry basket for him somewhere in the room to chuck his dirty clothes could also work in the closet. Makes it easier for you to grab and wash the clothes that need it. Once my son was his age I would wash, dry and fold his clothes and put on his bed. He would then have to put them away. All the board games could go on the shelf above. They need to be accessible by the kids, so they can get them down and put them back once they have been played with. Eventually I think they would go to the basement play area. The very top shelf could be for his seasonal clothes or out of season sports wear. Needs to be in labelled bins so you know where everything is. Once those items become in season they could get rotated down to where they are accessible for him As for the rest of the organisation, your son needs to help and decide on this. It is his room so should only have his things in it, no shared/family stuff. This is his room and he needs to decide where he wants his things. This is also now a good time to start the habit with him that he needs to keep his room tidy and organised.
I'd get rid of the rail with the shorts on. There is now room along the bottom for tubs for toys. But I agree with a lot of the comments to keep the toys in the basement until Tyler wants to play with them. Keep the hanging organisational thing because I think it will come in handy. I would try not to put anything else on the top shelf, just spread out the games so their easier to get down when they r being played with. U and Tyler did such a great job with the closet, it's one of the best before and after declutters! U have now inspired me to do some decluttering of my own too!😀❤🇦🇺
I always hear organizers say to store items where they get used. Where does your family play games together? Keep them there and only keep Tyler’s things in that closet and room.
Loved seeing your guinea pig. They make lovely pets. We had two rough haired ones when my children were younger. They were always so pleased to see you and did lots of squeaking. So cute. They lived to be eight which I think is quite good for small animals. Well done on the clear out.
I am so very proud of you! I was worried about the baby stuff but you did get through it without getting stuck! You have grown a big decluttering muscle! Start with the clothes in the dresser. Get that sorted and see how much from the closet will fit!
Id say try to keep in mind that this closet is just for his stuff, not joint/ family stuff. It is important that the boys have one room that is completely their own to grow in and not have to share. I would move the family games out of there and let him put his toys in the closet. I don't know your boys so idk how they feel about sharing their space so this would be up to them and you as you know them best! Doing amazing!! Keep up the good work!!
I would say no toys come up from the basement unless your son specifically asks for one of them. Then you’ll for sure know what he wants to use and keep.
This is a great idea!
I agree.
I agree with this. In our last move we rented a garage for 6 months. 12 huge boxes of children’s toys went in there, we only kept what would fit on their 8 cube shelf unit (Plus the lego box we have) and 6 months later they had asked for one item (which ended up breaking and going in the bin a week later anyway)... so I have to agree... leave it in the basement and only bring it up if it’s asked for - otherwise Less is more and your children will have so much fun with what they have!
I would only use this idea if it is thoroughly discussed and agreed with by the child. I know if my mom did that to me at Tyler’s age, just because I didn’t ask for my favorite doll when I was five over the course of this method doesn’t mean I didn’t want it. If not done properly, this could potentially break trust with your child. Just some food for thought!
I’d leave the toys in the basement if he hasn’t asked for them in six months you can sell them remember children play more with less x more toys can cause children to become anxious and less productive so it’s good for their mental health to keep their spaces minimal calm and peaceful xx well done for your progress x
I agree. Children with too many toys don’t use their Imaginations. I enjoy seeing the things my grandchildren design and make with their imaginations. 😊
Using toys is what builds your imagination though? Perhaps we have different definitions of what a toy is...?
That's not always true. It differs from child to child. I had lots of toys as a child and I am very creative and so does my son and he is extremely creative.
Suggestions:
1) Not to put any "family shared" or somebody else's items in there again (games are fine if those are the toys he is choosing). It is good to make a positive mental note that this room is son's territory now.
2) Replace the slouchy hanging storageunit with all the clothes from the drawers into hangers. 👕👖 and then see what space is left.
I'd say move his shorts and things to the set or drawers and get rid of the black thing like you said. Then you have space to store the extra toys and they will be accessible to him so he might actually get them out and play with them. The trouble with those very high shelves is the kids can't reach them so maybe they'd be better used for things that you use as a family, so all the board games on the top shelf then use the next shelf down for small boxes of the art supplies etc that the kids can get down on their own (maybe a little fold up step for them?).
You could even put a small shelving unit where the black thing is, I bet you have something in the basement that would fit.
I think the main thing is, not having it utterly crammed with toys/clothes as when things are too full, you just don't bother to look through it all to find the thing you want. If the kids can see and reach everything in there then they'll use everything in there. (Honestly, I need to take my own advice with this one as the cupboards in my house are so full of stuff I hate going into them so the cupboards and things in there are basically useless! 😂)
P.s You did an amazing job getting the whole thing done in one go! Not that long ago you'd have needed to break that up into many sessions
We must be in the same wavelength. I pretty much said the exact same thing 🤣
Yes!! Spot on!! Perfect advice! I would advise her to do exactly the same.
How are you!!! I hope you had a very Happy Holiday 🌟🌟 I do have that extra white bookcase that was in his room! We did put it in the basement! I love this idea & I can totally visualize this!! Thank you so so much!!
@@ahoardersheart I did thanks, a very quiet one as we're all locked down in England but it was still lovely. Hope you and your family had a good one too
Just a disclaimer ,it's not just girls following your journey... good job on the closet
I'd reckon it's mostly women and men
Oh thank you!!!! I see women message me all the time so I did assume that!! I’m sorry 🙏🏻❤️ and I am so happy you’re with me during this journey 🌟🌟🌟
I’m so proud of you for continuing to declutter after finding something so sentimental that hurt your heart. You have grown so much!
I was so surprised that you didn’t do one section at a time in the closet like you have done before with all of your spaces! I am so proud of you for doing the whole thing! I do not have hoarding disorder but that closet would overwhelm me to be honest! You did a very good thing aswell dividing everything into categories before you decluttered it.
For the next step bring your son with you to the basement and decide if he actually want to have all that stuff in his room. Maybe he will change his mind on some of it and it can be stored in the basement. Then bring the things to his room and organize it together! Just make sure to keep it in categories like you’ve done so far. I would remove the black hanging box with shelves and put bins with stuffed toys instead so that he can get them for himself and not having them on the string shelves so that he has to climb a chair.
I feel so honored beeing able to follow your journey here on youtube. Thank you for sharing! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much ❤️🙏🏻❤️ I am grateful to have you as my beautiful friend to help keep me encouraged in this journey 🌟🌟
I’d put the pants on the main rod or in the dresser. On the top shelf, I’d keep clothes Tyler will grow in to carefully labeled in see through tubs since he can’t reach that anyway. Will the dresser fit in the closet? If so, all clothing would be in the closet and you can keep toy storage where it is more accessible for Tyler. Piggy is adorable. I used to have one and loved all the little sounds he made.
I would put those square shelves on the bottom of the closet for legos, art supplies and the rest of Tyler’s toys. Specifically just Tyler’s!! You could put the clothes in the dresser and be able to use the entirety of the bottom of the closet for those cube units. The backpacks can be tucked into the side and you’d be good!
I like this idea. Eventually he's going to to need a desk, so you can put the desk where the storage cubes are. Also, I agree with everyone else's suggestion that the only thing that should be in that room are things that belong to your son. It's his space, so that should be the end goal.
I think your idea of folding his bottoms into the dresser is a great idea! I’d also get rid of the hanging organizer and your hubby could put up shelves in its place
Try leaving a small space in that closet empty, perhaps a small section of shelf. It will represent your gaining healing and control, as well as leaving space for new possibilities in your life. It is also a reminder that we need to fill our lives with love and experiences, rather than stuff. I can't tell you how great it feels to just have that empty drawer or shelf here and there!
First off, What an improvement! You are doing great! Personally, I would remove that hanging storage. Anything your son cannot reach will become useless and is taking up valuable real estate in the closet. I would also put all bottoms in the dresser. That would open up room for backpack storage and perhaps some toy storage (ie. Plushy bin storage) that would keep some of the clutter off the floor in the main bedroom area. Again make sure he can reach everything easily so he can maintain it himself. Good luck, you got this!
When you are ready you could give the girl clothes to someone special to you as a gift. ❤️
Yes, I would love to have that peace in my heart to lovingly give it to a baby girl 💞 I will heal one day 🌟
@@ahoardersheart Dear Miss Heart, please do check your thyroid. I had 4 miscarriages in between my first and second son. My heart was so broken. You know that pain. I thought I'd never be able to give my oldest a sibling. It turned out that I was hypothyroid(TSH was 6.0 instead of 1.0[optimal for carrying a child]). My ob/gyn. never suspected it because I was slim. The fertility dr figured it out. Once I was put on thyroid meds, I was able to keep the pregnancy and had my second son. Hypothyroidism often goes undiagnosed. I urged three of my girlfriends who were having miscarriages to have their thyroid checked. Turns out all three had thyroid problems, got on medication and had healthy babies afterward. 💕
I am so proud of you for decuttering. Keep it up. 🎉
I just watched a few episodes from 3 years ago (2 years before this). And you have made so much progress in 2 years! I cant believe it. Good job!
Your progress in your decluttering is amazing. You are growing in no longer hoarding things in leaps and bounds. So proud of you! You are so setting your boys up for success in maintaining their items in a reasonable amount. You go girl!!!
Are those games in use? Can he reach them himself? Maybe a relocation to a more accessible space would make more sense. I think the konmari fold of the pants would make a lot of sense, as he grows even more pants will hang to the floor. I also dont know how much sense the hanging thing is making, its such an awkward shape to work with. If the games were to fit id say put them in there but i dont think they will.
You never cease to amaze me with how far you've come!!!! You should be proud. Looking forward to seeing you continue your journey!
Yay!! You are a Tetris master, I couldn’t believe how much came out of that closet!! That’s a huge “out” pile! Tyler must be so happy with his new closet!
First let me say.... It is perfectly okay to keep the baby girl clothes! I was tearing up when I saw them 😭 secondly you did an amazing job cleaning the closet it looks fantastic. With the hang ing thing maybe you could put the board games in there I saw that on Pinterest and thought it was a great idea. You could also store clothes for the next season in the closet, and then when he grows out of his current clothes you can donate them or store them and then you have your next group of clothes ready to go
Do all of those board games belong specifically to Tyler? If they are 'family' board games then I don't think they should be stored in his room, maybe in the living room or in that coat closet you found all that money in? There are still quite a few things in the basement that he wanted to keep and they will need to live somewhere in his room so he is gonna need as much space in there as possible. Also if they are shared games but living in Tylers bedroom that means if Hubby and Brandon wanted to play a game together they have to go into Tylers room to get it. My brother always haaaattteed me going in his room for stuff, especially as he approached his teens lol. It will help to make him feel like the space is really his and fully own it. Much love!!! xx
Hang pants on main rod. Organize drawers. Sm shelving unit below clothes. For toys. Only keep what fits in closet. Purge the rest.
Just because there is empty space does not mean you need to fill it. Only Tyler’s things should be in Tyler’s room. Craft supplies place in a set area of the basement. Set up a table for crafty.
I‘d declutter the toys in the basement again. I’m sure he will let go of more stuff at this point. :)
KonMari the dresser. Put the pants and shorts in the dresser. Remove the low hanging rod and put his shoes under the shirts. Remove the hanging fabric shelf thingy. You have a couple 3 drawer storage containers in the basement. Stack on top of each other (or side by side if they fit in the closet because that would give you a long top/shelf to use also) but I’m not sure they would fit side by side. Pare down the toys to what fits in those 6 drawers, the trundle, and the cube shelves but no more. Discuss whether you will bring up the play kitchen or discard it. It won’t get used in the basement. He might be willing to keep the play food and not the kitchen. I don’t think he can reach the board games so move them or realize they won’t be played unless someone helps him get them down. It is okay to use the closet uppermost shelf for his memory boxes. I can’t remember your linen closet situation but his extra 1 or 2 sets of spare sheets and pillowcases can be stored on whichever closet shelf you can reach. There might be another toy purge to get everything to fit with room to grow. Just some ideas 💡 You are doing a fantastic job!!!
Omg you did the whole closet, in one go!!! You truly are amazing and give me such hope that I can achieve this too. I really wanted to reach out and hug you when you came to the unicorn outfit but I can’t so am sending you love and prayers ❤️🙏 Put less used stuff on top shelves and keep toys lower so Tyler can reach them. I agree with lots of others who suggested taking out black organiser and either put pants up on that side of closet or in the drawers. Well done as always in sorting what items are going in each direction and always thinking of people that need it. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 👏👍💐🦄❤️🙏
Oh my gosh woman you have come so far. I’m literally bragging about you to my husband. How you started with your face covered but was willing to be brave sharing on TH-cam.
But now your out and proud. I’m just so thrilled for you. 2021 will be even better for you. I know I may not be a hoarder but you honestly have taught me little things along the way. May you be blessed this year! 😘😘😘
I know this is an older video so my comment is probably pointless but I wanted to say it anyway. If the dresser will fit, you should try putting it in the closet. Take out the black hanging thing and put the dresser in there. That way all the clothing is in one spot and it also gives more space in the room to add back in the kids kitchen or maybe the other white bookshelf.
His closet looks great as is! Remember you do NOT have to fill up every space or corner of your storage spaces. That is the freedom of simplicity!
You're doing a great job! The closet now adds a feeling of calm to the room.
Amazing progress! You have a half empty closet!!!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
I'd say put the trousers in the drawer, legos under his bed in the pull-out drawer, and other toys within his reach. I wouldn't take anything out of the basement unless he asks for it. I've found low shelving works the best because my son cam reach everything - and put it back himself!
When you’re ready! I was just able to go through my girls’ baby things last year...and they were 18 & 20. I had a lady on Etsy make me an amazing quilt from my most cherished blankets, onesies & outfits. ❤️
Great idea!!
Your instincts are right, move the pants and get rid of the hanging thing. I might try one of those cube organizers you have in there for the art and Lego and maybe even moving the games down where he can reach them
Agreed. Anything tyler will access needs to be within his reach or he'll end up forgetting about it and not using it.
😭😭😭 The baby girl clothes. **hugs** to you my dear.
I don't know if you still have toys into the TV shelf thingy, but I'd remove them to put board games instead
Give Tyler his own personal space, with only his stuff, and I see board games more as family items so it makes sense in my mind to put it in an area the family uses together, like the living room ^^'
What is in the dresser ? Because honestly I think you could fit every piece of clothes that is in here in the closet and thus get rid of the dresser or use it for another purpose, though I doubt it'll be good to fill it up just to fill it up instead of having more space
But all of these pieces of advice are just my own way of doing things, keep the ideas that fit you the most !
Maybe add unused and unopened to the office gifts to give away. You did great! Tyler did great, too!
The giving page is an awesome idea.
I love your special guest!!! Those reveals always surprise me in the best way. Just the cutest
I think it's hard to organize what isn't there, so I would say the next step would be to organize the rest of his clothes in that dresser and see if things can be condensed into it to make even more room in the closet. Then have Tyler go through the toys and crafts in the basement to see what he wants to keep. Finally, when you have everything that's going back into the room, you can see what organizational pieces make sense to keep and use to organize the toys as you put them into the closet. Also consider that he won't be able to reach anything on the closet shelves, so having his favorite things stored closer to the floor would be best!
If he is dressing himself, put as much of his daily clothing in the drawers and keep out of season and 'special clothes' on the top rod. Remove the hanging cubbies and lower rod and get open shelves to store toys so they are visible (not in storage boxes). Then ONLY bring up what is asked for/used/ missed. After a few months, re-evaluate with him what he wants to keep from the basement. Just because there IS an open space (lie the very top shelves) doesn't mean you actually need to put anything there either as it just adds to visual clutter.
October 2021. Use at least one empty backpack for storage. We store off season clothes in suitcases. Tina
It took 20 years for me to let go of my preemie’s stuff. Just takes time. You are doing great!
January 2024. My son, age 42, came over to watch football. I sent him home with a box of his grandma's old dishes. I try to get rid of at least 20 items each
day. There are many items no one wants that are headed to the thrift shop this week. There's also a box for the e-recycling. Tina, Al's wife
You did Great!! It looks so good! I have a suggestion for your hanging cube thingey. If your kids are still active in sports or taking music lessons etc, I put the items needed for those activities in one of the cubes: so maybe music sheets/workbooks in one, soccer uniform and shin guards in another, karate gear in another, swim class (towel, bag, shower flip flops/shampoo) in another. I used it with my girls that way when they had activities and it was so easy to keep track of stuff needed for those classes.
Growing up my room constantly evolved to fit my interests but a lot of storage always got re-arranged and repurposed (but kept delicate things mostly out of the dust) so I'd say: ask Tyler what works for him and then go from there - he may want to use that tall organiser for shoes and put misc toys where his shoes currently are, or he might want more storage like the ones for his shoes. Discover whether he wants to be able to view it as her opens the doors or whether he wants it shut away. If he likes both then Ikea do great bookshelves with the option to add drawers. Keep things he wants to use/have access to lower down so he doesn't need to ask you or your husband to grab them when he wants them and use that high shelf for out-of-season clothes, sentimental boxes of his things and clothes he'll grow into, as well as anything else that may be needed in his room but not urgently.
You've done so well on your journey so far but as you included him in the declutter of his room, include him in the organisation of his things in his room, and with putting it all away, so when all the organisational items are there so he knows where everything is and will be more likely to use all his toys etc, and know what he does and doesn't want to keep, in the future.
You are like the Duracell bunny. You just keep going! Woo woo go you! 🎉
Haven’t even watched it yet! When I saw the notification pop up, I squealed and hopped on! Can’t wait to watch it!!
Oh my goodness...you are the sweetest 🦄💜🌟🦄💜🌟
Wow wow wow... Lots of love from Germany 🤗
Thank you beautiful Germany 🇩🇪❤️
The guinea pig hahaha 🐹
Fantastic job! So proud of this and all your other hard work, both physical AND emotional. I totally understand mental/emotional exhaustion, and I love how you refer to the decluttering muscle....it DOES get easier the more you do it. You're such a great example of that!💕
You could put the shoes in the black hanging organizer and it would keep the shoes off the floor
Great job! Get rid of the hanging organizer, move all the bottoms up, you have enough space. Then you can put all the shoes on the floor or unstuck the plastic bins and leave only one layer of shoes. Last advise: put a big hook on the wall or in the laundry room to hang the big speedo backpack. Its so much nicer when they are off the floor and easier you you to prepare the bags and have them ready for the next practice.
Since I am right there with you regarding holding on to sentimental and very emotional ties, it is exceptionally beneficial to hear you speak out your thoughts and how you are coping and moving forward. Please do not fear having to share that you've decided to keep things because it is you being real with us, which I absolutely appreciate. So please please please continue to share your thought processes as you make decisions and choose how to move forward with your belongings. Thank you so much for this!!!!! God bless you. You are off to a fabulous new year! De
Before the pandemic we had mom to mom sales in Michigan. Paid 20 bucks for a table and you bring your stuff on a Saturday to a school or church(have to reserve) and sell all your kid stuff between the hours of 8am-1pm. There was a big ticket room where you would bring bigger stuff and the small stuff would go on a 6ft table provided and you bring a clothes rack. Make good $$$
Advice about your yard sale. Tag it with prices before going into the bin. THat way it is all done for the day of the sale.
I just want to say I'm sorry for your loss. Having experienced losses myself, I know how devastating it can be and amazed that you are still making such incredible progress in your healing and putting your sons first. I know it would be easy to stay stuck when something like that happens. You're truly incredible!
I'd suggested to put ALL his clothes that fits him now there and in vacuum bags stuff for the future so that you don't have to juggle with with seasonal bins. Personally I always aim to store all my clothes in one wardrobe. Exceptions are big seasonal coats (thin ones live in my wardrobe all together on a couple of hangers) and seasonal shoes (I put current shoes in the hallway by the door and not in season and for special occasions shoes in a storage, if you move board games in a common area (laundry room after declutter?) box(es) with not in use shoes can be stored up there. Shoes that he needs semi regular (training shoes, church ones, etc) can stay in the system that's already there)
First of all-that's more than a half that went out-way to go!:)
Secondly-the hanging unit is nice if one needs to hold just few, light items. But I would probably opt for either open shelves or an open cabinet instead of this hanging shelves, as it will give you more space to store.
For the things that are in the basement, I would suggest that Tyler would "supervise" what will come back to his room. He looks like really knowing what he wants, so perhaps he will decide that some things, after those weeks, might be as well selled/ donated.
And finally, as some already mentioned-for the board games-it could be nice to store them in the family room or somewhere, where everyone can have easy access to them. That will make Tyler's closet just his, and his only ;):)
Congrats for the great pile of tossy-tossy! It is indeed a huge one regardless if one is a hoarder or not. A big hug from across the ocean:) 💖💖💖🦄🤗
I love you. I love your message and heart. I especially love your ability to protect your kids privacy. You are a gem.
Maybe Tyler's summer clothes or clothes to grow into that are in the basement, could go at the very top of that closet. He can't reach them anyway and it would declutter the basement more. Also get rid of the bottom pants rail and put the pants on the main upper rail or in the drawers. Then you can have box games below where he can get at them. He'll never play those games up on the top shelf unless they're accessable. You could use that black hanging shelves for art supplies.
I forgot to say that I loved this episode. xxx
I think I would put winter and summer too big clothes in 2 totes up top. You can check close by before buying. I would remove the black thing (but save until you are done too make sure). Then I would bring that white and clear drawer thing that had Pokeman cards back up. I would put it into the closet for art supplies with labeled drawers. Plus I would put pants into decluttered dresser. Also some of the new gifts could go in your gift tote. Use for bday parties, extended family Christmas gifts. Etc. Hope this helps!
That fart game cracked me up! :D I think maybe get rid of the hanging canvas organizer. Those tend to sag and look messy. I like the idea of moving the pants, they could be hung next to the other clothes or moved to the dresser. Happy organizing!
the closet looks so great! I have seen people use the hanging organizer for board games so maybe see if that would work and free up even more space? if not I would say to try to store the games on the shelf like books. it makes it so much easier to get the game you want and keeps the game boxes in better condition so they aren't slowly crushing each other. that's what I do. ☺
You did so well. This is amazing.
I personally would get rid of the hanging organizer and the lower rail. You have more than half a closet of hanging space so you could put the trousers up or fold them and then they won't touch the floor. You could put a laundry basket on the closet floor. The rest of the tops shelves could be for toys and things he doesn't use all that often. That way you can declutter the stuff he grows out of and have space for new things. You would also still have space for a box of stuff he hasn't grown into yet from his older brother.
You are a star!
First of all - great video and amazing progress!
Secondly, I agree with everyone who suggests that you leave the toys in the basement unless Tyler specifically asks for them.
Thirdly, here is how I would continue:
1) Move that black thingy out of the closet and frankly donate it - these things always attract clutter.
2) Tidy that dresser and see whether you'd have enough space to put in the pants.
2a) If so, fold the pants and add them neatly into a draw and just leave dress pants hanging
2b) If there is not enough space in the dresser, hang the pants on the main rode in the closet where that black cube thing used to be
3) Get rid of that extra rod that currently holds the pants
These steps I'd suggest you take in any case. Afterwards you have some options:
1) Look at the toys in the basement and figure out which categories you might still have to put back into Tyler's room
2) If you feel that there are certain toys Tyler wants back in his room how about moving the shoe thing in the closet to the side and putting one of the cube shelves that are at the foot of the bed into the closet (just put it on the side, so it's not upright) and add bins with assorted toys to them?
Keep books and things your son wishes to display in the other cube shelf outside the closet - that way you'd have a space for the play kitchen for example or the pluschi bin.
Hope this helps :)
great job- looking good
Wow that closet was a massive transformation. You decluttered so much. Way to go!!
No toys brought upstairs unless he asks. Store backpacks in closet and maybe some stuff from the hall closet such as sporting items and winter coats for Tyler. Empty space is good too.
Whew the stuff!
I’d get rid of the hanging thing and put the board games down there. I’ve heard you mention several times y’all like the games but.. they didn’t look like they’d been accessed for some time 🤷🏻♀️ having them accessible/in reach for the boys makes more sense. Maybe eventually they can have their own cabinet in basement.
Definitely declutter the drawers.
OMG 😱 you did an amazing job!! You go girl!!! 🥰 Awesome job Tyler!!
I'm super proud of you! I would have so wanted to give you a long warm hug when you most certainly needed it. ❤️
The room looks so great! I'd move the trousers up, so nothing hangs on the floor. I'd also bring back only the toys he asks for, and only when he asks for them. Instead of the black hanging thing I'd try to fit that see-through plastic drawer kit inside the closet for his crafting stuff.
Wow,it's so wonderful to watch your healing process!You did an amazing job!💖
I was waiting for this !!!
You are doing soo gooood
Thank you my sweet friend & lots of love beautiful Switzerland 🇨🇭❤️
I think you should start putting all toys together at one place now since you have given away a lot. The top shelf of the closet, you can use to keep his seasonal cloths so that he can have even more organised room :)
I definitely vote for folding method, my kids love it, they find it very creative and calming, especially if you already have a dresser
Wow! That was a lot to declutter 🌹 Great job🌸 I would remove the hanging shelves in closet first. Put all of his shorts,pants in dresser drawers and only use top rod , for shirts and coats. Then see if cube shelves(that you already have) will fit in his closet for toys. Maybe if there is room in closet lean his draft table against the side in closet. Family games should be put in living room shelves? Other games he can play with friends or brother put on cube shelves in closet or in boxes on closet floor if it will fit, so he can get by himself. Get one of the bean bag(without beans) for most of his stuff toys (keep out ones he sleeps with)
Use middle of bed drawer for Legos if it all fits. Have you decluttering oldest son closet??? I can not remember if you did already!?? On very top shelves in his closet put keepsakes,clothes to grow into,etc... Good luck 👍 You can do it, go girl 👧
Hang the backpacks on Command hooks and move all bottoms to the dresser after you clean and organize the drawers. I'd have hubby use any wood in the garage to make another shelf/rod combo for the closet where the current rod extension is. That way you can put the games down lower where he can reach them. Store next seasons' clothes/hand-me downs in the top of the closet.
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I would fold all the pants and shorts in drawers and keep t shirts in closet. You did a great job decluttering, I am so proud 😍
You and Tyler can be so proud on yourselves. I guess he is very happy to have his own space now. I decluttered my stuff over the last few years and i wish i had done this sooner or had the support of my parents to learn from them what stuff is important to create a space that suits me better. But i didn't have that because they keep a lot of unimportant things too. But i guess for Tyler it can be a helpful experience and you can be so proud that you could let go of so much stuff too.
Hey, did you notice how quick you went through the games? And YOU suggested Taylor to get rid of the doubles! So great job there!
I would recommend to move all clothes to one spot, so maybe in the dresser. You can fold everything into the drawers. I really do not like those wall closets, they are hard to organize... I would get rid of the hanging thing and rather put the dresser with the clothes in there. or another dresser or maybe a cubeshelf (you have a spare one if I remember correctly) where you can organize art and craft supplies. Remember to think what your son can reach and what he uses how often. So make clothes accessible for himself sort and label it that he can put them away on his own after laundry. Same with toys. We store as much as we canon a height that the children can reach. Up on the shelves you can put seasonal stuff or toys he does not use often. If you put bins up there, label them.
Do not be scared of empty shelves! It is a good thing to get used to it! It. You might feel the urge to fill it with stuff from the basement. Try to resist, at least for a while. So your mind yould get used to it. And it is always great to have some space left.
Woooow I'm always amazed at how much stuff fits into a certain space. Well done!
I would get rid of the hanging organizational piece, move everything from the lower rod onto the other one and then get rid of the lower rod
When we moved (almost 3yr ago) we had to get rid of loads, my kids didn’t ask for any of it. I even had to get rid of most of the sentimental.
I suggest before you look at sentimental read an explanation of Swedish death cleaning, not suggesting you do it but it may help you get rid of a couple of extra bits. As a fellow recover it is how I have to view the sentimental as we have a small home in the UK (so far smaller than ‘small’ us homes and I have three kids)
Now my kids are 4 and 5 and 6 months
Not sure if anyone already suggested thing, but if you can shop the hoard for a proper shoe rack so that they're not piled on top of each other, I think that would help with making sure shoes are organized is a way that each pair is easily accessible and you can easily pull shoes that don't fit anymore and know exactly what he has/needs.
Also, you take your time on what you need to do. Please let yourself heal at your pace and please never feel the need to justify/apologize for having tough emotions. You are already growing so much, and respecting your own emotional boundaries is part of that too. Keep up the great work, love from Canada 🇨🇦
WOW!!! Speechless. Your best one yet!
Great job Mama! I just watched the first video of this room and WOW! You should be so proud of yourself. Here's what I would do to organize the closet:
1. Put pants in dresser
2. Bring up the white cube organizer, put horizontal in the closet.
3. Bring other toys into the closet. Use the top shelves on where to store them. Use this as your boundary - once there is no more room, more should be decluttered at some point..when your heart is ready
4. Use the white cube shelf and black shelving to "rotate" the toys to the best of your ability. If you're not into rotating toys, no biggie just put their favorites on the white cube shelf and black shelf.
Oh I just saw others are commenting not to bring toys up unless he asks for them. That's a great idea!
The closest looks awesome! I would try the pants in the drawers Kon Mari style to see if Tyler likes that and I would remove the hanging storage to open up more space. And an idea for the clothes you love is to have a blanket made from them. I can see you loving that as you cherish the memories of your little ones !
Woah. You nailed that! So fast omg!
Have you thought about bringing his off season clothes back in? There’s plenty of space if you remove the hanging thing.
And you could put the between kids clothes on the top shelf for him to grow into. Along with the Tyler specific memory box so it’s handy to his room.
His pjs, underwear and pants etc should all fit in that large dresser for sure. Remember “make the boundary the bad guy” !
Or you could move his pants onto the top hanging rod if having them in a drawer is overwhelming for him to find what he’s after. (Out of sight out of mind type thing)
Leave the toys in the basement. What does not get played with get rid of. Get rid of the closet hanger. After cleaning out the drawers put tea shirts and foldable shorts and pants in there. Put all the stuff on the shelves on the lower one so Ty can access them easier.
Wow! Such an improvement! Your decluttering muscles have really been strengthened!
Some suggestions on organisation:
•4 storage bins on each shelf in the wardrobe (8 bins total) labeled. Neater to look at, easier to access, and more organised
•X bin(s) = Board games - divide games into x amount of storage bins and store on the wardrobe shelf.
X bin(s) = rotated-out toys
X bin(s) = out of season clothes
X bin(s) = extra bedding for his room (or whichever category may be more applicable)
•The shelves are not very accessible for kids, so an alternate choice would be best for the toys he wants to play with. Decide on an amount of toys to be rotated-in for use (eg. 2 bins or eg. 20 toys), and store in the bottom section of the wardrobe (preferably in a unit that can fit inside the wardrobe). Decide on a toy rotating system (after 1 month, rotate the eg 2 bins or eg 20 toys out with the other toys).
•Your idea to Konmari method the folding of clothes in the dresser is *chef kisses*.
I would have someone make a pillow out of the unicorn shirt so you can cuddle it. I am sorry for your loss. Good job Supergirl! Look at your stamina!!
Whaaaaaaa that was WAY over half what you decluttered! Wow!💕💕💕
Excellent job my beautiful friend. Maybe declutter the dresser and store all shorts and pants in it. Remove the hanging cubby and store the rest of his wanted items in the closet.
A few things I would suggest
Yes, organise the rest of the clothes in the drawers. I would get rid of the hanging organiser and put the drawers there, so all clothes are together and accessible for your son
A laundry basket for him somewhere in the room to chuck his dirty clothes could also work in the closet. Makes it easier for you to grab and wash the clothes that need it. Once my son was his age I would wash, dry and fold his clothes and put on his bed. He would then have to put them away.
All the board games could go on the shelf above. They need to be accessible by the kids, so they can get them down and put them back once they have been played with. Eventually I think they would go to the basement play area.
The very top shelf could be for his seasonal clothes or out of season sports wear. Needs to be in labelled bins so you know where everything is. Once those items become in season they could get rotated down to where they are accessible for him
As for the rest of the organisation, your son needs to help and decide on this. It is his room so should only have his things in it, no shared/family stuff. This is his room and he needs to decide where he wants his things.
This is also now a good time to start the habit with him that he needs to keep his room tidy and organised.
September 2023. Good for you. Tina, Al's wife
I'd get rid of the rail with the shorts on. There is now room along the bottom for tubs for toys. But I agree with a lot of the comments to keep the toys in the basement until Tyler wants to play with them. Keep the hanging organisational thing because I think it will come in handy. I would try not to put anything else on the top shelf, just spread out the games so their easier to get down when they r being played with.
U and Tyler did such a great job with the closet, it's one of the best before and after declutters! U have now inspired me to do some decluttering of my own too!😀❤🇦🇺
I always hear organizers say to store items where they get used. Where does your family play games together? Keep them there and only keep Tyler’s things in that closet and room.
I am just amazed at how clean your kids clothes are! Well done you. My kids always spilt stuff all over theirs so very fe.w got donated
The closet looks AMAZING!!!!!! What a fantastic decluttering job! Bravo Tyler and Mom! 👏👍🏆🥇🏅✨
Loved seeing your guinea pig. They make lovely pets. We had two rough haired ones when my children were younger. They were always so pleased to see you and did lots of squeaking. So cute. They lived to be eight which I think is quite good for small animals. Well done on the clear out.
Also, I really enjoy seeing you put things back in their right spots around your house. Would love to see more of that again in the future
I am so very proud of you! I was worried about the baby stuff but you did get through it without getting stuck! You have grown a big decluttering muscle! Start with the clothes in the dresser. Get that sorted and see how much from the closet will fit!