4 Crucial Lessons to Learn from a Relapse

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  • @jesuscake888
    @jesuscake888 6 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    Mate, you really deserve to have more subscribers. You videos are very insightful. You come across as a very down to earth and genuine person.

    • @ChrisSkoyles
      @ChrisSkoyles  6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hi Jake, really sorry I replied to this comment once but my comment must have been deleted! Many thanks for your kind words, I do really appreciate it :) I'm still figuring out how to best get my message out to the most number of people, so hopefully more subscribers will come in time, but at the minute I'm just very happy that I'm able to help even one person. It makes the whole thing worth doing :)

  • @theaxsys21
    @theaxsys21 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You're a truly underrated hero, sir. Thanks for all the help.

  • @suellenlaskowske4158
    @suellenlaskowske4158 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    5 weeks smokefree! they do keep calling me though. Memories of 40 years of smoking. but staying strong. thanks for your videos! they are great!

  • @jbs7799
    @jbs7799 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hi Chris, i remember my last two relapses. The first one was when i had a very strong craving after eating a breakfast burger. I just quit smoking for 4 months. I felt so full that i thought that smoking one cigarette will not hurt so i bought a pack of cigarrete intending to smoke only one and i will throw the rest of the pack. The very bad feeling when i first smoke the first cigarrete was i was electricuted and very paranoid. Thats a very bad experience for me. But then i continue smoking slowly anyway and im back to suare one. The second time was i went to a casino and was exposed a long time to smokes and i ended up bombing for one cigarrete and went back to smoking. Today im on day 7 of my quit smoking with nicotine patch. Im glad im baback on track. I will remember those last 2 relapses and will never make it happen again. Thank you.

  • @jm.7426
    @jm.7426 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i was smokfree for 21 Days..then I relapsed..and smoked for one week..sitting there again..smoking,coffe,smoking..and so on..I knew it doesn't serve me anymore..its just a illusion and I felt worse. I know I´ll always smoke a lot..not just one..here and there...and its senseless. I want to cope with my emotions, my problems and I want to breath.. sometimes I want to destroy myself..get wasted..I have to work on that.
    I quittt again 3days ago

  • @outpost31737
    @outpost31737 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I had dozens of relapses, it's hard but not insurmountable. In the end something clicks and there you are an ex-smoker although we are never completely free from addiction; the law of addiction states we are on probation for the rest of our lives.

  • @kolarz2128
    @kolarz2128 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great talk

  • @jbs7799
    @jbs7799 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi Chris, recovering alcoholic and recovering nicotine addict here. 3 days nicotine free here. I realized the only sure solution to my problems are complete sobriety and smobriety not to mention gambling and sexual addiction. You're very helpful. Thank you for you encouragements and inspiration. May God truly bless us to stay quit and sober permanently. Thank you.

  • @peterc9153
    @peterc9153 6 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    17th day into my first ever quit after 42 years of smoking. Early days but my yearnings for a cigarette are beginning to recede. Look forward to passing the 3 week milestone. I believe it is significant, psychologically. Occasional very strong pangs I still get are painful. But I am determined to see this quit through to a successful conclusion.

    • @ChrisSkoyles
      @ChrisSkoyles  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wow, that's a big accomplishment after such a long time. Any milestone you can set yourself will be hugely helpful. I found it useful at first to just do things a day at a time. Before you know it, the weeks and the months add up! Keep up the greatwork :)

    • @peterc9153
      @peterc9153 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for the feedback and encouragement. I believe you're right about not getting too far ahead of myself. A tactic I am using at the moment is keeping the potential consequences of smoking fresh in my mind. I am visiting TH-cam videos showing the brave people who are prepared to publicly reveal what smoking has done to them. Like the following. th-cam.com/video/haGVVpWr3FQ/w-d-xo.html
      Poor bloke. And he was six years younger than I am now when he was making this !
      There, but for the grace of God......etc.
      Best wishes.

    • @Lisa-ct9qw
      @Lisa-ct9qw 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      congratulations you can do it

    • @Nat.Dialogue
      @Nat.Dialogue 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@peterc9153 the latest?

    • @peterc9153
      @peterc9153 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Nat.Dialogue Thanks for the curiosity. I went a couple of months, but stress eventually took me back to the cigarettes. My mother's TIA stroke, among other things. I have semi-migrated onto vaping. I am certainly a much milder smoker than I ever was before my original comment, two years ago. But I expect the horrific global events of the past 12 months will possibly have thrown a spanner in the works for many struggling with a smoking habit. We have probably all heard of the tragic stories of people who have literally lost loved ones who have succumbed to once conquered drink or drug addictions. But we must all try and move forward.

  • @Lisa-ct9qw
    @Lisa-ct9qw 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    3 weeks and staying focused. i fīnd when i watch your videos i get re motivated to keep going.

    • @ChrisSkoyles
      @ChrisSkoyles  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Lisa, I saw it's been a week since this comment (I really must get better at replying!) did you make it to week four? Rooting for you all the way ! :)

  • @karmicexperiment5034
    @karmicexperiment5034 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you!!!!

  • @cladg92
    @cladg92 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was 3 months smoke free and relapsed yesterday. Starting over again...thank you so much for your videos!!❣️

  • @scaussie75
    @scaussie75 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I love the way you say that drinking or smoking is not going to bring a person back. And should not use your addiction to crap over their memory. 100% right. Can you imagine your loved ones reaction if you said that the reason you are still an addict was because of then?

    • @ChrisSkoyles
      @ChrisSkoyles  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly, I had to use that way of thinking a lot in the past, it makes complete sense to me. On the other side of that, what a great way to honour them by staying smoke-free/sober/clean despite the pain of losing them.

  • @Lisa-ct9qw
    @Lisa-ct9qw 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    hi chris just wanted to share im 2 weeks today smoke free . i do find your videos and voice very comforting. thank you again Lisa (USA)

    • @ChrisSkoyles
      @ChrisSkoyles  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Lisa, I somehow missed this comment but hope you're still doing well with your quit :)

  • @tencentkiller1
    @tencentkiller1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    here i am chris 70 days in and i still need your videos ty so much

  • @halfanewfie2
    @halfanewfie2 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You'redoing a fantastic videos. It's so down to earth and authentic.

  • @exploringbeyondthefamiliar6123
    @exploringbeyondthefamiliar6123 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    GOING STRONG ON MY 8TH MONTH SMOKEFREE LUNGS FROM A RELAPSE. 👌

  • @Wearethechamps
    @Wearethechamps 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    God heard my prayers as I relapsed after 5months cold last week due to work stress and was able to nick one from a colleague. Dont want to wait the few months it usually takes me to get off them again with determined persistent attempts like the 12 attempts last year over the 2 months although it worked. I wanna get back to my confidence in myself that I am enough to handle what life throws at me and i can keep learning to recover from stress in healthier ways. Longest cold was 3 years so I know I can do it. Gotta be extra kind to myself when those cravings or thoughts come knowing they do pass if I don't stress about them. There only a thought. Thank you dear. UK lockdown x 3 and gonna be as healthy as possible for it. Lost 10lb in two weeks eating loads on slimmingworld so there are positives to dwell 🌻

  • @jokoch47
    @jokoch47 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Chris. Just had 2 smokes in a row after almost 30 days of not smoking. This vid makes me feel better about feeling bad. Also, the feeling from the smokes themselves is very uncomfortable and I am not enjoying this feeling right now, the physical feeling that it.

  • @joytam126
    @joytam126 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    God bless you for making all these videos. They help!

  • @shubhamplier7708
    @shubhamplier7708 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You say true words Relapse always make symptoms worst.
    Pls make some vedio on cross addiction how to stay away from cross addiction...

  • @carolyn7004
    @carolyn7004 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    2 weeks! Thanks soo much!

  • @zihadulislam5717
    @zihadulislam5717 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    1st week spent successfully without any shit... Thanks chris... I do really love your videos and it makes sense and does work... Thanks again man...

  • @sameerulsalam9745
    @sameerulsalam9745 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great you are 100 percent right. I think this is the best video on relapse i ever watched.

  • @brilliantphoto5992
    @brilliantphoto5992 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great tips. Thank u very much, bro.

  • @Blackmamba12345
    @Blackmamba12345 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Chris. I don't know what it is... this is the nth time I've tried to quit. It was almost a month today that I would have quit but I had these insane cravings I don't know what it was but I ended up buying a fresh pack n lighter!! Anyway yeah I will try to quit again. The longest I've quit so far has been three months. I am 28 now .. started when o was 17.

  • @sayeedahmed2772
    @sayeedahmed2772 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    chris your videos are helping me a lot and inspiring me to quit

    • @ChrisSkoyles
      @ChrisSkoyles  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Sayeed, really glad you're finding them helpful :) Wishing you the best with your quit journey!

  • @ИванИванов-ю6э9р
    @ИванИванов-ю6э9р 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ur amazing man!

  • @Nate1975
    @Nate1975 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    great content

  • @drgnlady13
    @drgnlady13 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm 6 days in, and while I haven't relapsed, I'm still so very tempted to. I've quit lots of bad habits over the years, but this is the hardest one yet. Thanks for the videos; I think they're helping

  • @AnitaAndreis
    @AnitaAndreis 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You've helped me a lot while I stopped smoking for 6 months

    • @ChrisSkoyles
      @ChrisSkoyles  5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hi Anita, sorry it's taken me a while to get back to you on this. It sounds like you were doing amazingly well with your six month quit but I understand things can derail us. You say the toughest part seems to be not being able to make a decision to do something good for yourself..maybe we need to create a reminder of why you deserve the happiness, health and freedom that come with quitting. Perhaps get a sheet of paper and list the reasons you like Anita? What's good about Anita? If you're struggling to identify anything yourself, what do other people say are your good qualities? Now that you have these written down, look at this description you have and imagine it's a description of another person - wouldn't they deserve to be happy, healthy and free? If they would, then you would, and there really is no time like the present to get started :)

    • @AnitaAndreis
      @AnitaAndreis 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ChrisSkoyles wow thank you for your reply!!! I'll do that.

  • @FindingKathyBrown
    @FindingKathyBrown 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Over 1 month nicotine free here.. Thank you for your videos.

    • @ChrisSkoyles
      @ChrisSkoyles  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very welcome, the pleasure's all mine :) Great job on 1 month! Hope you're enjoying smoke free living!

  • @DejiDigital
    @DejiDigital 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hey Chris. Currently been in Nigeria with my family for the last 2 years now. Obviously Nigeria isn't London. All the effects of smoking are heightened here. Especially in regards to the body odor, the sweat, the cloth smell... Yknow what I mean. It's a hot, humid country, with a very very non mainstream smoking culture. And I'm a big guy. About 6ft7, 140kg... So you can Imagine what it's been like for other people around me. I had enough of people reacting to my smell. I also got tired of my smell. O don't know what to is but I suddenly started to smell this pungent stale smoke and ammonia smell coming off me every time I showered in the morning... Then I wondered... If it's that bad for me, what's it like for others. This constant horrible taste and smell every time I talked. Or ate anything. Basically, I've got every incentive and then some to quit.... But it still remains... So so so hard. With all that I've lined out, and more for the reasons I have to quit, I have still found it so damn difficult. I've had 2 relapses in the last 2 months. This is my 3rd attempt. 3 days in. Last time I went about 12 days. But I've got a good feeling about this one because I've found you Chris. Your videos are so damn helpful so inspiring and so relatable. It's like you're a friend of mine just talking to me and being there. Right now you're goal is to get to a month. Just a month. Let's do that 1st.

  • @tmax315
    @tmax315 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    keep uploading your really helping support me chris

    • @ChrisSkoyles
      @ChrisSkoyles  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you :) Hope you'redoing well on your journey!

  • @nugusekafel1701
    @nugusekafel1701 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm going to quit smoking night

  • @jasonjamaican
    @jasonjamaican 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    chris seems to have been thru it all..no offense bro..but if you can do it.. I sure as hell can

  • @seanneketchell9014
    @seanneketchell9014 ปีที่แล้ว

    I live near this guy , I always see him pickings up cigarette buts

  • @hunkydory5646
    @hunkydory5646 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Chris! I will try to quit again. 🥲