That was extremely helpful and reassuring! I’ve dealt with this and The Drop my whole life and couldn’t succinctly describe why it was happening. Thanks!
I wish my past experience wasn't as awful, my ex constantly pressured and guilted me into doing stuff that overwhelmed me, then gaslighted me because I was overdramatic if I expressed how uncomfortable I was. Thank you for this, wholeheartedly.
That thing about not liking being the recipient of oral sex affects me too. I couldn't really put it into words but it really just makes me uncomfortable. It sucks because my partner really wants to make sex about me when I really really actively DO NOT want that. It makes him feel rejected and undesirable and I go into shutdown and it is just all so overwhelming.
I really appreciated the information, it was a nice reminder. It was nice that all the information had a chance to breathe. It definitely didn’t feel like 10 minutes.
This video is loaded with golden nuggets! Wow! One of the most helpful videos I’ve found yet on intimacy and sex as an ADHDer. You’ve helped me to understand so much about myself, I appreciate this so much. It was difficult to listen to, as the audio and video aren’t synched, and many of the sentences were cut off at the ends. But seriously - the content is golden. Maybe take it and make another video with it? It could help so many! Love your vibe and words of wisdom!
Totally agree with everything you said. All of those factors can also lead to an aversion to sex and or Disfunction surrounding initiating sex. I would live to hear your thoughts on neurodivergents and Disfunction around initiating sex. Also would love to heR you speak on cathartic cry after sex. I feel like it is difficult from meltdown but have connections. Especially in the neurodivergent mind.
Mildly related to topic, but the desync from the clock app is really rough on watching this. On topic: Post intimacy cuddle and grounding time is such a nice thing.
I would LOVE to hear more about the difference between drop and meltdowns. I experience what I have been processing as drop after almost every "O" and just curious to know more.
I am not claiming this is *healthy* coping but this is part of why I prefer to get a lil stoned before sex. I definitely don't need it, but oh my GOD does it help cut down on outside stimulus. It allows me to focus in on my partner and pleasurable sensation, and it takes me WAY less time to finish because I'm not getting anxious every time something takes me out of my headspace. I also suffer from chronic pain (which negatively impacts my sex drive) so it helps with that as well. I don't think it's the right method for everyone, but for me it's helped me better understand some of my sexual dysfunctions and how they're tied to my neurodivergence.
I was thinking recently that I might just been having shutdowns during sx all this time... Like all the symptoms of shutdowns besides the negative emotions also happen to me during sx. Like I'm not upset thankfully but I also couldn't think properly , produce meaningful speech or perform tasks that aren't musclememory 🤔🤔🤔 (p.s. I'm not sure if I'm using the word shutdown properly because I wouldn't usually say it that way irl, but I mean like the feeling of when I get overstimulated and my brain stops working lol 🙃)
Oh My Gosh! I feel like I've learned so much about myself 😳 I always spiral out of control during/after intimacy and I always blamed it on my gender dysphoria. Now I know its that but its so, SO much more too and....that sorta doesn't help much but at least I know now😅
Wow, this was so helpful and goes towards so many things! I know this was a super brief thing, but could you make a video expanding on shower sensory overload? I get it a lot, and with shaving too. Also that bed mat is interesting! Where can I find it?
Gods I HATE kidding, and I'm so glad my partner is good with that (didn't realize this was a neurodivergent thing but hearing it now, it obviously is). A lot of this stuff really resonated and I just kind of piecemealed my way into better experiences over time.
This is near impossible to follow for someone who reads lips. It's not synched up between the voice, lips lips or the text and it made this video incomprehensible. Please consider addressing this in the future.
I know, I'm so sorry, that's why I added the big blue disclaimer in the corner, I'm struggling with converting videos from tiktok to youtube, so after this experience, I'll be doing it differently, but I appreciate your saying something!
I have to agree it was fine at first and then it got mixed up and I wanted to keep watching this video so I had to leave it on the comments screen otherwise my brain could not follow it! I do appreciate your discussion on an interesting topic cateiosaurs!
That was extremely helpful and reassuring! I’ve dealt with this and The Drop my whole life and couldn’t succinctly describe why it was happening. Thanks!
I wish my past experience wasn't as awful, my ex constantly pressured and guilted me into doing stuff that overwhelmed me, then gaslighted me because I was overdramatic if I expressed how uncomfortable I was. Thank you for this, wholeheartedly.
Sex is never just sex, there's so much context to take in physically and emotionally all over the place.
That thing about not liking being the recipient of oral sex affects me too. I couldn't really put it into words but it really just makes me uncomfortable. It sucks because my partner really wants to make sex about me when I really really actively DO NOT want that. It makes him feel rejected and undesirable and I go into shutdown and it is just all so overwhelming.
I really appreciated the information, it was a nice reminder. It was nice that all the information had a chance to breathe. It definitely didn’t feel like 10 minutes.
This video is loaded with golden nuggets! Wow! One of the most helpful videos I’ve found yet on intimacy and sex as an ADHDer.
You’ve helped me to understand so much about myself, I appreciate this so much. It was difficult to listen to, as the audio and video aren’t synched, and many of the sentences were cut off at the ends. But seriously - the content is golden. Maybe take it and make another video with it? It could help so many! Love your vibe and words of wisdom!
Totally agree with everything you said. All of those factors can also lead to an aversion to sex and or Disfunction surrounding initiating sex. I would live to hear your thoughts on neurodivergents and Disfunction around initiating sex.
Also would love to heR you speak on cathartic cry after sex. I feel like it is difficult from meltdown but have connections. Especially in the neurodivergent mind.
Mildly related to topic, but the desync from the clock app is really rough on watching this.
On topic: Post intimacy cuddle and grounding time is such a nice thing.
I would LOVE to hear more about the difference between drop and meltdowns. I experience what I have been processing as drop after almost every "O" and just curious to know more.
what was that blanket again?
@catieosaurus please help?❤
I am not claiming this is *healthy* coping but this is part of why I prefer to get a lil stoned before sex. I definitely don't need it, but oh my GOD does it help cut down on outside stimulus. It allows me to focus in on my partner and pleasurable sensation, and it takes me WAY less time to finish because I'm not getting anxious every time something takes me out of my headspace. I also suffer from chronic pain (which negatively impacts my sex drive) so it helps with that as well. I don't think it's the right method for everyone, but for me it's helped me better understand some of my sexual dysfunctions and how they're tied to my neurodivergence.
Second! Love your everything!
I was thinking recently that I might just been having shutdowns during sx all this time... Like all the symptoms of shutdowns besides the negative emotions also happen to me during sx. Like I'm not upset thankfully but I also couldn't think properly , produce meaningful speech or perform tasks that aren't musclememory 🤔🤔🤔
(p.s. I'm not sure if I'm using the word shutdown properly because I wouldn't usually say it that way irl, but I mean like the feeling of when I get overstimulated and my brain stops working lol 🙃)
Would love a video about sensory overload relating to showers.
Like seriously, I get panic attacks when I have a shower -_-
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Thank you for this.
Oh My Gosh! I feel like I've learned so much about myself 😳
I always spiral out of control during/after intimacy and I always blamed it on my gender dysphoria.
Now I know its that but its so, SO much more too and....that sorta doesn't help much but at least I know now😅
I go non-verbal after pretty frequently🙃even if I had a good time
Wow, this was so helpful and goes towards so many things! I know this was a super brief thing, but could you make a video expanding on shower sensory overload? I get it a lot, and with shaving too. Also that bed mat is interesting! Where can I find it?
What is the company that makes that mess pad? Google isn't helping.
Throw in trauma and difficult relationships and .... yeah
Gods I HATE kidding, and I'm so glad my partner is good with that (didn't realize this was a neurodivergent thing but hearing it now, it obviously is). A lot of this stuff really resonated and I just kind of piecemealed my way into better experiences over time.
Little helper? Is that right?
I think it's "lil helper" lifesaver mat
This is near impossible to follow for someone who reads lips. It's not synched up between the voice, lips lips or the text and it made this video incomprehensible. Please consider addressing this in the future.
I know, I'm so sorry, that's why I added the big blue disclaimer in the corner, I'm struggling with converting videos from tiktok to youtube, so after this experience, I'll be doing it differently, but I appreciate your saying something!
@@Catieosaurus are you using wireless headphones for your microphone?
I have to agree it was fine at first and then it got mixed up and I wanted to keep watching this video so I had to leave it on the comments screen otherwise my brain could not follow it! I do appreciate your discussion on an interesting topic cateiosaurs!