My parents fell asleep after a dinner party they were hosting. Their guests tidied up, washed the dishes and snuck out before they woke up. Best friends ever!
Yes, if I even have kids, I want them to educate me on the new stuff and call me out if I’m wrong when I’m older. I want to learn and be educated. But my parents are the opposite, they get angry and offended instead of treating it like a new learning experience.
I wish my parents was like that. I am tired of being told that they know better than me because they have lived longer. Like no mom a tomato is not a suspension bridge.
Since most marriages end in divorce and most intimate relationships are brief, the vast majority of adults need classes/counseling in creating and maintaining a satisfying intimate relationship.
Yess!! Imo, even if you don’t have any particular mental health issues, therapy should be like a GP visit, if you’ve not been feeling too well, get a single appointment to talk about it or something! If I could afford it/if therapy was made accessible I’d totally do that.
i’ve heard people taking couples/marriage counseling before getting married and i think that’s a great idea. shows how the other partner thinks and communicates rather waiting until a crisis happens and no one understands each other.
We all should know the different benefits we could get from psychoanalysis, therapy and counseling. And not be ashamed to have them when we have a problem, or ideally BEFORE we have a problem.
Physical affection being as okay in platonic relationships as in romantic relationships - and not being seen as "ooh you have a crush". I love holding my friends' hands, giving forehead kisses, and napping with friends. Also, the converse should be socially acceptable, wherein people who don't like physical affection shouldn't be expected to hug or whatever just bc it's a social norm.
Omg yes! Let me hug my guy friends as long and often as I want without everyone assuming we're dating or other friends assuming that one of us had a crush on the other one.
@@DragonriderEpona Ikr?? Let me just hug all my friends who want to be hugged, simply because we like hugs - there doesn't have to be more reason to it than that!
Yes good point. Over the last decades simple affection has been "sexualized" and a lot of 18/19th century books where people were always hugging and embracing and kissing each other,sharing beds etc get seen in a worse light than they were meant.
If one of my friends (or anyone) did any of those to me, even if it was socially acceptable, I would hate it Probably just a social anxiety thing but I need my personal space
Not having an opinion on a subject. I would rather someone say they genuinely don't know enough about a subject to have an opinion on it than go into an extensive conversation/argument because we need to seem smart/informed.
I usually answer "I don't have enough information on this subject" if I... don't have enough information on a subject. Or just want to stay out of a specific subject or simply do not have an opinion one way or another.
I believe you're smart to admit such a thing. Not knowing something, doesn't mean that you are less smarter than others, but it can be a good indicator of exactly opposite. I would give you an advice to remember: "Smart people are the ones that spend most of their time contemplating."
I've stopped caring about this personally, but I'd make it socially more acceptable to have realised you're going in the wrong direction and just turn around and go back the other way lmao
Hahahaha I have to kinda slowly stop walking pretend like I'm confused or lost, and start walking in the other direction... Even if it's because I just realized I forgot something or whatever
I do this all of the time! I’m walking somewhere and start thinking about something else and wander off randomly. When I realise what’s happened I just casually turn around and walk back, usually in a busy corridor. Some people look at you strangely, but I find it funny.
Not having been in a relationship when you reach your mid-twenties (being a choice or not). I am going to be 27 this year, never been in a relationship (even kissed anyone), and it’s not a choice from my part (never found someone who liked me for some reason even if I believe I am a « decent » woman). and I’m not even open about it with my friends or parents because I’m afraid they would think something is wrong with me, and even less with men I meet as I think that might scare them... The internet made me realise I’m not the only one, but for some reason society makes us think everyone is in the game since they were teenagers...
Thanks for sharing! I basically have the same story. I don’t know why, it’s just never happened, but it’s not like I care or anything, I’m just made to care because the people around me seem to care a lot about these sorts of things so I feel like I should too.
Watch Daniel sloss on Netflix He has two specials there the first one called dark and the second called jigsaw Jigsaw would definitely help you if you feel down as he described it as a love letter to single people I would say watch them in order but it doesn’t really matter as each show is one of its own and they don’t link other than him saying he did the previous one
yeah i find it weird how whenever you don't want to hang out there must be a REASON for it, a justification, is so stupid, sometimes i just don't have the energy or don't want go out just because i don't feel like it
I usually reply "I just don't have the energy" and idk if I have really understanding friends but they completely get it. I guess it depends on the type of friends you have.
I relate to this so much, I always feel like I need a reason. And if I don’t have one, I feel like I just don’t want to respond to them (if it’s a text), but if I don’t respond I also feel like I need a reason lol. It’s a fun cycle
"The customer is always right" was a phrase that came out of clothing/fashion to mean "if they want to wear purple and green, don't disagree with them". It was never originally meant to be an idea that the customers were incapable of faults. Unfortunately, the arseholes heard the phrase and re-interpreted it in a different way.
I worked at a restaurant. We had to correct customers a lot. They always said "my food shouldn't be late" as if the employees aren't capable of making any mistakes. Literally the reason their food was late. Was either coming in WAY TO early (take out or catering) or we make a mistake and it has to be remade. The employees know what is best for the food, and if they offer it to you as a compensation its edible, just not something they don't want to send for looks purposes.
we have a different saying in Germany. Here, the customer is King. Doesn't mean he's always right, but that he should be treated with the utmost respect. Doesn't mean you have to swallow all their shit though.
I wish it was socially acceptable to be single. I find that once you hit a certain age, people constantly ask you about your relationship status and the older you get, the worse it becomes.
Ok what my grandma does when she’s shopping and sees someone she knows, she’ll say “Hello, how are you?” And hears their response, but the trick is, she doesn’t stop moving. If you stop, then that’s when you’ll have the awkward conversations, but if you keep moving, neither one of you can keep talking to each other.
also staying home from work/school for mental health purposes, genuinely. if i can’t perform under physical sickness i can’t perform if i feel like complete shit that day
I was acc planning/hoping to do an assembly at my school about it be ok to be absent for stuff and the main focus was mental well-being days. Ofc if you have mental health problems you will probably need more than other people but I think it should be acceptable for everyone when the stress gets too much, taking s break can help so much
Agreed. It sucks having to explain myself each time and see the judgement explode out of every pore of your opposite... Sometimes, it is just too hard to explain my whole being and, also, none of your business, thank you very much.
"And turning around if you've walked the wrong way." ...what? Where is this _not_ socially acceptable? Are you supposed to keep walking in the wrong direction forever?
It should be socially acceptable to answer honestly when asked ‘how are you?’ We always respond with ‘good thanks’ because that is what the other person expects to hear but often it is not how we actually feel in that moment!
this is actually what I was taught at school, that this is what you answer in English. And only if you're close with the person, you can elaborate on the answer
And the weird thing is when you are German and give an honest answer, because you asked, and everyone looks weird at you 🙈🙈 And then remember a phrase from your English text books years ago where one protagonist literally complained about an honest answer and telling them of having no manners ^^'
I just stopped doing it like 2 or 3 years ago and it's been the best decision I made about my body And I get very little remarks actually ! In the beginning you could tell I wasn't super comfortable so people would stare or even say sth but now that I'm very confident about it (I don't even think about it, it's just my new normal) most people don't feel entitled enough to criticize my choice
I had to keep seeing doctors because I was having so many skin issues from shaving. One of them said, "Just stop doing it." It was like I was free from something that had caused so much pain my whole life. Now, if someone comments on it, I just tell them it's doctor's orders.
Word. Normalize hair. I think it can have some utility to shave tho, since body hair can cause chafing depending on what kind of clothes you like wearing, how you're built, and where the hair is/how much there is of it if that makes sense. Shaved armpits also feels nicer imo. But aesthetic wise it's kind of boring that we're just shaving it all off since there's so much we could be doing with it. Imo a well trimmed bush looks really good, and a lot of ladies look pretty good with hairy pits. I feel like if people were more used to seeing it, it wouldn't really be a problem. It's not like people have been shaving since the dawn of time, these are trends and norms that come, go and evolve over time.
I agree so much. My friends talk about when they last shaved their legs I and just sit there with jens and a jumper on in the boiling sun thinking "There is something wrong with me for not wanting to shave my legs".
Talking to yourself so you can order your thoughts when you're stressed... My head is so chaotic sometimes that I just need to say things out loud to understand myself
Saying things out loud is actually good for you. The parts of your brain that deal with internal thoughts and received speech are separate, so by talking out loud you essentially transfer a though from one part of the brain to another, where it can be processed in a different way. The brain basically treats all voices you hear equally, including your own voice. What _is_ weird though, is talking like someone else is there and expecting a reply.
The whole calling people out when they're assholes in the service industry really hit hard man. I'm part Chinese and I've had so many customers either joke about COVID and how I probably have it or have people seriously say they don't feel comfortable with me serving them.
I wish it was socially acceptable to wear whatever you wanted, and by that I mean everything, from big ball gowns to medieval outfits to Victorian style gowns and suits of armour
@@danh4698 here people wear ponchos normally and in the wet winter. If you are wearing a cape I think half of the poncho people would look at you ant think “damm next level” and go o with their lives normally. So at least in south of Brazil you can wear a cape and not one would care
another one (i have a lot to say) NORMALISE NOT COMING OUT TO PEOPLE!!!! you don't have to and if you want to just introduce your partner when you're ready, do it! you don't owe anyone anything and it's your life
9:15 Bras are designed to be comfortable. If yours is uncomfortable, get a different size. Let's not turn bra's (a piece of clothing made for support) into a fake symbol of oppression as they did with corsets.
I bet you typed that comment on a "women's keyboard". (Which would be inexplicably coloured pink and cost more than the men's version because that is what they do...)
I feel like Evan is the only TH-camr who does reddit stuff and actually adds to it instead of just pumping out low quality content that's basically just stolen.
maybe like letting people know you think they're attractive as a compliment, without any romantic or sexual intent. that'd be kinda nice for everyone i'm not gonna lie
1. Devoting more time to personal development/hobbies rather than work. In the summer of 2020 I was supposed to be doing my a levels. Obviously covid happened so I had loads of free time - I managed to re-do the entire garden (and plant some tomatoes), start leaning the piano (with the book you recommended thanks Evan) and really improve my fitness. It was incredibly fulfilling and I wish I had even a fraction of that time normally. 2. Openly talking about periods. It would make life much less awkward.
There are offices in France where they’re trialling mid-day “sièstes” where you can go into a room with soft things for 30 minutes or so and rest / have a power nap, and it’s received really positive feedback. Given France also has a 4-day week in most industries, we have to applaud them on many welfare fronts, but I feel like a “nap space” would be a good start.
I’m french and don’t know if this is socially accepted yet. In my office there is a « nap room », but unless it is lunch time, or times like Ramadan when people are exhausted, no one goes there during working hours because it is still frowned upon 😕 We had a training with someone saying we should be confident to have power naps at our desks and even though I’m convinced of the effects, wouldn’t try it yet 🤣
Just like he said, "faire la sieste" isn't *actually* socially acceptable yet. It would kinda feel like kindergarten again ? But mostly dude we DO NOT have a 4 day work week, anywhere. Idk where you heard that from but it's far from the truth (although I wish it was true cause it just makes more sense on so many levels...) In fact, although the legal work week cannot exceed 35h (except for jobs that get exampted from that, which there are a lot of), many if not most people work longer hours than that. Of course legally if you make your employees stay longer than their contract states you should be paying them more, but a lot of companies find some way to avoid that I mean yes we have a "droit du travail" / work laws that are pretty extensive, but sadly so. many. companies. and bosses violate the law on a regular basis
At Manchester uni (UK) they were testing out these meditation/nap chairs that were part egg chair part chaise longs so you could lay out but felt a little cocooned. The chairs would play relaxing music for up to 20 minutes. Very few people knew about them so I would book 2 20 minute slots and would go have a great nap. More places should have these nap chairs cause they were so nice
I'd make it socially acceptable to just, step outside during a class. Just quietly walk for a bit or get some fresh air and a break, it would make learning so much easier sometimes.
I remember this teacher I had in middle school (I had the same teacher for all three years) who got really tired when students interrupted class to ask to use the restroom. So, a few months into 6th grade, he told us that we didn't have to ask to use the restroom. As long as we saw the bathroom pass on the hanger, we could get up whenever we wanted to and leave the class to use the restroom. I abused this power for all three years of middle school. I always sat near the door, which made leaving in the middle of class a lot less awkward. Whenever I was bored, on the verge of falling asleep, or just needed a change of scenery, I'd grab the pass and head to the bathroom. I'm pretty sure my teacher realized what I was doing, especially since I made it obvious by leaving for the restroom between 5 and 10 times a day, but he never said anything about it. I got most of my work done, kept my 4.0 GPA for all three years, and actually learned what was being taught. Did it really matter that I consistently left class at random points of the day for no real reason except that I felt like it?
I was the only kid in my Alevel German class which made lessons pretty intense so whenever we had a 2hr lesson together my teacher would give me a 10 minute break halfway through. It was amazing definitely improved my mood and concentration and made learning German so much more enjoyable.
I want it to be acceptable to whip out a book when you’re around others without having to talk about the book. I wanna read, not tell you what it’s about when I’m forced to be in your presence 😂
Yes, or just being able to do that when the conversation is deeply uninteresting. If people are talking about football and I don’t care jack squat, I should be free to pick up my book and read until people want to be interesting again.
Wearing the same clothes multiple days in a row when they're still clean. I have always done this, but I still feel like some people judge others for it.
It's harder for women than men because the waitstaff assume you won't tip well and not wait on you or that you're waiting for someone to show up (I've literally left places before because they never came over to take my order when they saw I was alone and I couldn't stay any longer). Now (or pre-pandemic) I tell the person who seats me at new restaurants I visit that I am eating alone and will tip well for good service, so please don't keep me waiting. Places I've been to before know the drill and don't wait because they know I'll leave if they keep me waiting more than 10-15 minutes.
I do it all the time haha! The waiter may look at you weird for 5 seconds but after that, literally not a single soul cares. Everyone’s too busy thinking about their own selves and the people they are with :) I loved going to restaurants alone back when restaurants were still a thing. I just don’t like chatting while I eat!
It should be socially acceptable not to hug and kiss family members all the time in greeting. I don't love them any less, I just don't like hugs not intiated by me and hate forced hugging/kissing. For context in the kissing aspect, I'm half-spanish. So visiting my spanish family means many prickly cheek kisses from male family relatives and big smackers from the females... I've never found this comfortable.
Perks of having Autism. I have a medical permit to say I am legally allowed to freak out if someone touches me, and thus am not expected to do so to others.
Normalise telling the customer WHY they are not ‘always right’ Also, it should be socially acceptable to turn down opportunities if you don’t have the money to do it. I shouldn’t be any less of a friend because I don’t want to spend £15 on a Nando’s just to catch up.
I wish taking time between high school and college to figure out what you want to do was more acceptable. One of my friends has been having a lot of anxiety over this and it be nice if she could just take some time off to figure out what she wants.
I really wish this was more acceptable because you’re 18!! A lot of 18 yos have no idea what they want and it’s so much pressure to figure out the rest of your working life when you’re still a teen. I wish there was some kind of tradition where for a few years, you get to explore and see where you want your career to be, or even if you want a career.
Don't think I've ever met anyone that regretted taking a gap year after school. Even if all you're doing that year is working in a shop it's still good to have time to think about things.
I agree with this. I have a year left in high school, and I’m seriously considering taking a gap year. My mind really needs a break from studying, and I need some time to figure myself out, before thinking about what I want to do. I’m also disabled, and it would be helpful to have a longer transition period between high school and college to reduce the anxiety that will come with the change
9:51 this is actually a pretty interesting point. If you look back, a few hundred years ago seeing a knee was really sexual and inappropriate. Now, almost no one fetishises over a knee or find it sexual.
The skipping thing genuinely made me smile, I love skipping too, it feels nice, it's a sweet little thing that lightens my mood, why can't it be socially acceptable?
Being straightforward about things in emails and conversations irl should be socially acceptable. The whole bsing for 90% of the email and conversations just confuses me
@@janani1826 that's what I used to do, but I got told off from my teacher for not being polite enough so now I basically ask my dad to write my emails for me so they're acceptable
YESSS i hate when people I haven’t talked to in YEARS message me with that "hi how have you been?" Like we both know you don’t care why don’t you just ask for what you want? Now I just answer "hi, I’ve been well thanks! Do you need anything?" And 100%, yes they will need something. Usually need me to join an MLM.
Yes!!! I've been told off by so many people for being "abrupt". What even is abrupt??????!?!?!?!! What does it mean?!?!?!?! This is a conversation where one person needs something from the other, why are we beating around the bush????? What bush beating am I even supposed to do that is appropriate to pad this out?!
I just write one small talk sentence (that's usually something like "I hope you are well") and just continue with what I want to write. And write something like "Best wishes" at the end.
Regarding the calling in sick: One of the best takes I've ever seen on a manager/supervisor trying to guilt you into coming in any way is this: The fact there is not enough people to cover you being out sick is not your fault. It may be the fault of a corporate office that refuses to release enough hours to cover all shifts, or it may be the manager's fault for not keeping enough people on shift, but it is not your fault. The moment I say "I can't come in, I'm sick." is the moment that management's lack of oversight is not my problem anymore.
I wish not feeling attracted to someone was seen as a perfectly valid reason to not want to go out with them. (I dont mean physical attraction either, although also valid) It doesn't mean you think they're a bad person, just that theres no chemistry and you have no desire to spend time with them or get to know them better.
That sick day one really hits home. I've had to take a couple of sick days lately, and where we're working from home, I feel super guilty taking a sick day whilst I'm sat basically right next to my work set up. All in my head, work are super understanding it but my brain is like, 'YOU SHOULD BE WORKING'.
I always appreciate it when someone talks about anxiety or depression. Mental health isn’t spoken about enough so when someone in the public eye talks about it I feel like I’m not alone.
I get disability allowances (autism, PTSD etc) and I would get rid of the fact that we have to keep our bank balances below a certain amount, if we go over then the our payments that we rely on are stopped
@@nat3007 Delivery still a thing locally, but hardly anyone uses it now. Almost every corner shop sells milk, eggs & bread, and probably cheaper than the old milkman with float. Indeed, most of the floats seem to rely on delivering direct to local shops rather than homes.
Related to being open about mental health: when you're making small talk and someone asks "how are you," actually being honest! Reflexively saying "I'm good, and you?" renders the entire question meaningless :-/////
I totally agree that it's a true sign of friendship if you can hang out with someone and just not talk. For example, I'll be on a Zoom call with three of my friends, two that are my closest friends and one that is pretty close but not quite as much, and the one friend who isn't as close with us will mention how there's "awkward silence". When in reality, we're all just getting our homework done and we don't need to talk unless we have a question about the assignment or something/
“Letting people call in when they’re sick.” One time I had a severe sinus infection and they GUILT TRIPPED ME to come in to work at my bakery job because they were understaffed. My face felt like it was gonna explode but NO, “you’ll be a great team player if you come in”
Me and my friend sit on skype together for hours and there are times where we don’t talk but it’s ok, it’s nice to have each other’s presents while we’re doing our own things
Requesting a days off from work for no reason and feeling weird when people ask "what did you do on your day off"? "did you do anything"? then feeling bad because you just wanted to take off to stay home.
It should be socially acceptable to be sad and admit it, but also to be happy. Especially during covid, I’ve found that on those rare occasions where I’m actually just okay or even really loving life, whenever I admitted that to someone they were like “no but really what’s wrong”... I guess it all comes back to us not being comfortable sharing negative feelings because as a society we’ve come to expect “I’m okay” or even “I’m great” to be hiding the fact that people are sad, rather than to just be taken at face value. Yes, sometimes life sucks and we should be more comfortable to share that, but it’s also okay to be happy. If we think hard enough of course there are always rubbish things going on but that means in those moments where we can actually let go of those things and just be happy it would be really nice to not have everyone assume that really you can’t be okay - our culture says that we have to pretend to be okay when we aren’t and pretend not to be okay when we are. So confusing!!
Wearing my bonnet or night scarf out in public without it being seen as ghetto or lazy. Like I'm just trying to keep my hair protected and style together.
@@_leanna_4943 I don't think it looks unprofessional unless it's a really old and tatty thing on your head or you're not wearing it in way that sells it. Maybe you just need to do it more and keep the scarves varied so people just get used to it. That's the issue with most of these things - people are just not used to certain things and so it's weird to them or they remain unacceptable. We have to MAKE them accept it! 😄
4:45 In Italy we substitute that with coffee breaks. Of course the smokers usually have the coffee _and_ the smoke, but usually they leave the coffee machine a little early to go outside and smoke.
I so agree with the "going to sleep at your own party" haha!! Even just parties in general, not just your own. I once fell asleep on the table at one of my closest friend’s wedding.
Nat honestly? I don’t even know, it WAS super loud, but my body just didn’t care, put my face down on the table and went right to sleep despite the music and the people there haha
Smoking breaks being socially acceptable drvies me nuts!! When I was working at a shipyard where I was one of the only ones of my company who didn't smoke, and everyone just kept taking smoke breaks, sometimes more than once an hour, leaving me there to work alone. In the end I ended up carrying salty licorice in my pocket and whenever someone I was working with took a smoke break I went out with them to take a licorice break because I sure wasn't going to keep working when everyone else was out having a little break of their own. Nobody bat an eye at me sitting there with my little box of licorice. It was wild. Definitely couldn't have done it without the company of a smoker though.
1:22 100% agree. Luckily, I work as a train driver and my company provides proper resting rooms with beds. Having a short power nap can work wonders, especially with our weird work hours. I would have loved that at some of my previous workplaces.
I took my Hello Kitty pillow to a hospital once, age 21. I was going to stay there for 20+ days and I knew it was going to be scary. Everyone thought it was weird (the pillow is huge, the size of four regular pillows) and I was asked a bunch of questions but in the end, they thought it was really sweet a family friend had handmade me my own Hello Kitty pillow.
5:33 Reminds me of a professor whose class I was in once who made us write why we were taking the class, and said "and don't say 'for the credits' or 'because it's required.' " I was indeed taking that particular class for the credits and not because I had any interest in the subject, so I then had to sit there and come up with an acceptable sounding lie to appease the man. I guess he wasn't an "honesty is the best policy" kinda guy.
Yep! Absolutely. Also the things surrounding that, like it being more socially accepted to change your name if you don't like it, to try out different pronouns or gender presentations, etc. I use they/them both privately and publicly and it's absolutely hit or miss.
@@nicokelly6453 the pronoun matter is mostly counterproductive to the cause of general acceptance and serves only to provide an excuse for malicious arseholes on both sides of the issue and to induce paranoia in the vulnerable while undermining clarity of communication. Whoever was responsible for setting That particular bit of stupidity in motion needs repeated slapping with a large fish for their foolishness. Not least because humans are not, in fact, mindreaders. That said, transgender people aren't the only ones with non-standard neurolgy that is fundamental to the self but which also makes life difficult. As someone who has to live with one of the Other conditions of that nature, I am entirely supportive of transgender people (well, people in general, really) not being mistreated, and receiving whatever assistance and support is needed to allow them to function in society with the highest quality of life possible. I happen to be of the opinion that a number of the things the associated movement pushes for (and, depressingly, the ones that they seem to be having the most visible success with) are actively detrimental to that cause. The pronouns being the most obvious. (For comparison, feminism's equally ignorance and ideology based attempts at forcing change on the English language, which at least had the merit of not being actively harmful or making communication more difficult: Replacing -man, meaning "person" with the word person in compounds caused no issues at all. The only people who might have cause for complaint were poets and lyricists (it alters the meter). On the matter of profession titles though... In the past, those commonly marked sex. Apparently, because in some professions the male and female forms were treated as different jobs, often with the women being considered inferior or subordinate, this had to be done away with. The thing is, this was billed as getting rid of the idea that only people of a certain sex could do a certain job. The problem? Almost every job where that opinion was common was one where having people of the opposite sex from expected actually doing that job was, for one reason or another, so recent that they didn't have male and female forms of the job title because there was never need for it! Adding the female form to jobs that didn't have it already would have done more for the stated goal than removing it from the ones where it existed! (And there were plenty of jobs with male and female forms where general feminist thought becoming common removed the inequality without need to change the language). Funnily enough, this change did not stick in most professions, and the assumption that a person in a given job where the title did not indicate a given sex would be of a particular sex disappeared by itself simply as a side effect of people of the opposite sex becoming more common in the role. Where it hasn't, it's because the assumption is still overwhelmingly likely to be correct.) As for names, there's a well known riddle regarding who actually uses them. Changing your name needlessly is socially unnacceptable primarily because it's a massive pain in the arse for everyone else, and provides little or no benefit. (Noticeably, the situations where it provides significant benefit for purposes other than evading the consequences of your own malicious actions, and/or carrying out more such, Are generally considered socially acceptable for fairly obvious reasons.)
the thrift store i work at has a couple full time employees (we have a large staff overall, about 50-60 people) who are called "floaters", and are trained on several positions. they fill in for other employees when they call in sick or are on vacation, and when they are not strictly needed somewhere, they take care of the odd jobs that havent been done in a while or help out in other positions that need a bit of an extra hand. its a pretty good system and i wish other workplaces like offices would do the same thing so people would feel okay about calling in sick knowing they are still being accounted for.
I feel the productive thing so hard. I took a gap year and I cannot express to you how much I legit love being able to do absolutely nothing all the time. For. A. Year. And yet I still feel that pressure that I’m wasting time and being a shlub
I feel like there is a lot of pressure to do something in your gap year. For example when you ask to defer most universities will ask for your plans. 😒
Tillytom Jones yeah I'm currently having my gap year but I still feel so shit all the time. My family are stuck between, it's a good thing to sort out what you're doing before rushing in to things and lazy bitch does fuck all all day, so my internal voice sounds a lot like my parents'.
one time at my service job we were told to take a course on how to deal with aggression and they told us that if people are were being assholes we could just say "I do not appreciate being talked to like that and if you do not change your tone/calm down/do what I ask, I will no longer engage in this conversation" and call security. Everyone was shook that we could just do that.
Also at my past internship sometimes I'd just say nothing, take the elevator down, wander around the building for 20 minutes and go back in because I could not deal with being around people all the time. Nobody ever said anything or cared that I just disappeared.
I used to skip with my daughter just so I had a legit excuse as we travelled home from school, and when my son is old enough, despite me having hit my 40s by then, I'm still gonna do it. :D
Staying at home when sick: Someone whom I called a friend in secondary school (7th/8th grade) often asked me why I'd stay at home when I "only" had a cold. And I always looked at her in disbelief as she clearly didn't get that when I catch a cold I feel so bad that I barely can breath, can't have any (especially electric) light around me because my eyes get instantly teary and don't forget the head ache and fever... Makes it sooo much more productive and mindful to other people when you go to school/work when you're ill....
Something that should be socially acceptable: Taking a day off work if your period is really bad. It should be exactly the same as being ill since it feels like it/worse for a lot of people And not.feeling indebted to your parents 'They worked so hard so I have to go to university' and stuff like that
THIS. I dont have periods, (im a trans woman) but like. Respect anyone who is having a period and treat them with respect. If they need to take off, let them take off. The main argument against this would be "if a person doesn't have periods then they don't have to take off which is unfair" which is stupid, cause I have a disability within my joints. I may have to take a day off cause of pain. If it isnt socially acceptable then potentially I could get fired if I get more than (X) amount of days off without PTO which is ridiculous. It should be acceptable cause anyone who experiences bad enough pain, shouldn't be forced to work, it will impact performance, and possibly safety
ABSOLUTELY. I'm terrified of getting awful cramps at work and just having to carry on like everything's fine. I'm always so relieved when I start on a weekend or holiday.
@@janani1826 I'm not sure to be honest. I'm a type 1 diabetic, but I personally wouldn't say that sick pay is valid if say I was feeling under the weather from Irregular Blood sugar levels, etc.
I legit love those chats in the shopping center like it actually gives me so much joy like pre covid I would go in and talk to atleast 6 different people and it would give me such a high
I'm going to do a two-parter here. First, I haaaatttteee the smoking of restaurant staff soo much. I worked at this place for like 2 months and every night when about half of the guests there had left, literally all the staff but me went outside to smoke and told me to just do everything on my own. I worked there for two months! To make it even worse when they got back I still had to do everything myself because they smelled like smoke so "it wouldn't be okay to see guests when they smelled so bad". Part two, I have this theory about myself about the whole women being naked in society (but I'm tying it more into the self-consciousness that a lot of women feel about their bodies). When I was growing up, we had this entire wall in our bathroom that was just mirrors. As such, every single time I would shower, I saw myself naked. And I have never felt self-conscious about my body, even when I was like 13, 14 years old. Of course, there are things that I don't like, but I was never ashamed of it or felt that it was wrong. I think this is because I got so used to seeing my naked body that you kind of just accept like "okay this is my body, it's fine".
I really wish it was socially acceptable to just say no to doing something without having to make up lies or feel guilty about letting people down. As an introvert, this would be so nice and relaxing to know there is no pressure.
Crying! Sometimes I just need to cry, go with it! Dressing up, to me an ancient hoodie and shapeless jeans are just as wearable on a daily basis ns heels, a fluffy full length coat or blacker and smart trousers, or a dress! Wear whatever anywear and have people just accept it
The part about smoking breaks is so true! I work at a catering where we often work many hours at a time, and at the beginning I noticed how the people who smoke would take a break every now and then to step outside and have a cigarette, while the rest of us just kept working. Since then I started also taking "smoking breaks" just to go outside, get some fresh air and quiet, and it really does help getting through the rest of the work hours.
I'm really hoping that now a lot of office-based jobs have been work-from-home for the past year or so this will become an option for employees to be able to continue doing once things are back to normal. I've really enjoyed working from home and I personally think I work better and feel far happier as a result. Although I do understand not everyone feels the same which is why I think it should made optional. Also, after work social events. As a highly introverted and socially anxious person, I've really enjoyed not having to either come up with an excuse as to why I can't go to the pub after work or go and suffer with my social anxiety for an hour. Some people thrive in social situations while others really struggle and I wish that fact was more widely understood and "acceptable".
Being able to go to the park, and swing on the swings. It really helps me feel better sometimes. I used to go with some friends, but I stopped talking to them for some reason. (and then everything else happened last year)
Being able to change up your make up, hair etc on a whim and not have people assume your trying to impress someone. Genuinely tried a new lipstick at work and everyone assumed I was trying to impress someone I worked with, it’s infuriating
Yes on the smoke break thing! Can't even pretend cos I'm the second youngest there so some eyebrows would be raised 😂 On the catch-up thing something that rlly pisses me off is when I say hi to someone and they are so near me there is no way they didn't notice me and they ignore me. I'm not ask you to stop and talk literally a nod will do 🙄
The best answer I've seen for why I want a job: "I require shelter and calories to maintain existence and thus I must perform services in exchange for currency. Your company pays currency in exchange for the performance of services." Of course that answer would never land a job.
One of my favorite moments is when my friend comes over (she lives stated away now so it’s not popular anymore) and we just chill, sit on our phones or read silently, but the energy that flows through the room feels so nice 💖
It should be socially acceptable for comfort to rank above smartness. Business dress codes should die; unless your job *needs* certain clothing, whatever you want should suffice.
I resonate with the not wearing makeup and unprofessional. I was a late teen working in a shop and the manager asked if I could look a bit more professional. He liked that I had a haircut at some point which he complimented. Still had the feeling he also wished me to wear makeup too. Sorry, I had and still have a sensitive skin so giving my face a mild wash and a bit of light cream or lotion is as good as it gets for me in skin care. It just is that way. On top of that I wouldn't even know what sort of makeup would work fine for me with also being ok for my skintype, or even what sort of style(s) suit(s) my face the best. Same also high heels, please no. I get some jobs require a little more formal clothes (buisiness chique?), but there are lovely formal flat shoes that go just as well too.
I totally think being more genuine about mental health is something that needs work. It’s definitely more acceptable than it has been in years past, but I still feel like I fall into joking about it even though it’s serious. It’s not a quirky saying that I use it as sometimes, and I’ve been called out by co-workers when I seem less happy than normal. This makes me put on a “happy” facade so I don’t show others what’s going on. I think we cover a lot of stuff in comedy and then don’t have serious conversations about it. Side note - love these videos and your voice and energy has been really nice on those hard days. Very soothing. Keep doing what you’re doing 👍🏻
"Upword" worker evaluation. When you work in a big company with a lot of structure your boss will do an evaluation of your work, and your boss boss will do the same to him/her and so on. This is a downword worker evaluation where normally only a person evaluates all the people one step "below" him/her. It would really optimize a company if pleople could ( anonimally obviously) evaluate their boss because a lot of productivity is correlated to your boss creating a good or bad enviroment for you and your colleagues to work in, and it would prevent that kind of boss that kisses his/her boss ass while treating everybody below him/her like shit.
For the first one, this is why we have an established “kick out time” of 10pm in our house. There are some exceptions but generally our friends know that is the cut off time. One of my uni friends had a similar thing where she would go “what time is your bus?” a few minutes before the 10:30 bus home as a gentle reminder
Normalise doing something else whilst having a conversation. Prolonged eye contact makes me uncomfortable, and im still listening if i'm like, typing on my phone or something.
from my experience working in the uk, if you're sick you don't have to find a replacement yourself but the managers also don't do it so you're just short staffed all the time
also ik I'm gonna sound like a stoner and maybe i am but smoking a joint is equivalent to having a glass of wine and I'm sick of people acting as if it's like heroin
can we normalise blowing our nose? it's not too big of a deal but stop staring when i do it, i have to and i'm not bothering you also during covid I WILL TURN AWAY FROM YOU but i still have to do it, I'm sorry man
Useless anecdote no one asked for but when we were in school, my best friend used to ask me to cough (I have a loud ass cough) when she was about to sneeze so no one would hear her blowing her nose😂 we even had a signal and shit. Looking back tohat was so fucking weird.
(0:25) Actually, I've been to such party before. A gaming party, a big room where you set up your computers. Then you sat up for as long as you bothered, and just went to bed whenever. There were fewer sleeping places than people, so people had to take turns anyway. It behaved more like a public party in that sense, except it was private.
I love how the title says "weird things" but then for most things the weird part is actually that they're not socially acceptable, not the thing itself.
I have quite a few; - Not going to college/university - Dropping out of school due to mental health issues - Not being able to work - Not making eye contact - Giving clarification for things when someone doesn't understand, especially jokes and sarcasm - Stimming in public
3:09 i used to do that with one of my friends when i used to edit. we’d just sit on a bed and make edits together without really talking other than asking for help
My parents fell asleep after a dinner party they were hosting. Their guests tidied up, washed the dishes and snuck out before they woke up. Best friends ever!
THAT IS SO NICE
Need some friends like that
@@konzertina9685 especially because cleaning up afterwards is the worst thing about having people over!
Need some friends like that.
cute! 🥺
Being able to tell your parents they are wrong or misinformed at any age without it being seen as disrespectful
Yes!!! The amount of times I used to get told "yeah of courseeeee cuz u know better than us"
I'm afraid that's an individual thing, some parents are cool with that
Yes, if I even have kids, I want them to educate me on the new stuff and call me out if I’m wrong when I’m older. I want to learn and be educated. But my parents are the opposite, they get angry and offended instead of treating it like a new learning experience.
I wish my parents was like that. I am tired of being told that they know better than me because they have lived longer. Like no mom a tomato is not a suspension bridge.
YAAAAAAAAAAASSSS
Therapy should be socially acceptable. You do not need to be "broken" to take care of yourself
Since most marriages end in divorce and most intimate relationships are brief, the vast majority of adults need classes/counseling in creating and maintaining a satisfying intimate relationship.
Yess!! Imo, even if you don’t have any particular mental health issues, therapy should be like a GP visit, if you’ve not been feeling too well, get a single appointment to talk about it or something! If I could afford it/if therapy was made accessible I’d totally do that.
i’ve heard people taking couples/marriage counseling before getting married and i think that’s a great idea. shows how the other partner thinks and communicates rather waiting until a crisis happens and no one understands each other.
it needs to be standard as part of any health insurance plan
We all should know the different benefits we could get from psychoanalysis, therapy and counseling. And not be ashamed to have them when we have a problem, or ideally BEFORE we have a problem.
Physical affection being as okay in platonic relationships as in romantic relationships - and not being seen as "ooh you have a crush". I love holding my friends' hands, giving forehead kisses, and napping with friends.
Also, the converse should be socially acceptable, wherein people who don't like physical affection shouldn't be expected to hug or whatever just bc it's a social norm.
Omg yes! Let me hug my guy friends as long and often as I want without everyone assuming we're dating or other friends assuming that one of us had a crush on the other one.
@@DragonriderEpona Ikr?? Let me just hug all my friends who want to be hugged, simply because we like hugs - there doesn't have to be more reason to it than that!
Yes good point. Over the last decades simple affection has been "sexualized" and a lot of 18/19th century books where people were always hugging and embracing and kissing each other,sharing beds etc get seen in a worse light than they were meant.
Well I do that already but I see where you’re coming from
If one of my friends (or anyone) did any of those to me, even if it was socially acceptable, I would hate it
Probably just a social anxiety thing but I need my personal space
Not having an opinion on a subject. I would rather someone say they genuinely don't know enough about a subject to have an opinion on it than go into an extensive conversation/argument because we need to seem smart/informed.
I have no option on your comment
I usually answer "I don't have enough information on this subject" if I... don't have enough information on a subject. Or just want to stay out of a specific subject or simply do not have an opinion one way or another.
I believe you're smart to admit such a thing. Not knowing something, doesn't mean that you are less smarter than others, but it can be a good indicator of exactly opposite. I would give you an advice to remember: "Smart people are the ones that spend most of their time contemplating."
@Jenni Kaeder Yessss! Me saying "I'm fine" is a completely normal answer for me, but everyone has to question it EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
"I don't know." It's a wonderful sentence. People should use it more.
I've stopped caring about this personally, but I'd make it socially more acceptable to have realised you're going in the wrong direction and just turn around and go back the other way lmao
I think with that one it's a matter of confidence. If you project an appearance of knowing were you're going than its less embarrassing.
It's also mostly in your head, you might feel a bit stupid but honestly no one is gonna really care if you just turn around and keep on walking
Hahahaha I have to kinda slowly stop walking pretend like I'm confused or lost, and start walking in the other direction... Even if it's because I just realized I forgot something or whatever
@@blan123. lol me too
I do this all of the time! I’m walking somewhere and start thinking about something else and wander off randomly. When I realise what’s happened I just casually turn around and walk back, usually in a busy corridor. Some people look at you strangely, but I find it funny.
Not having been in a relationship when you reach your mid-twenties (being a choice or not).
I am going to be 27 this year, never been in a relationship (even kissed anyone), and it’s not a choice from my part (never found someone who liked me for some reason even if I believe I am a « decent » woman). and I’m not even open about it with my friends or parents because I’m afraid they would think something is wrong with me, and even less with men I meet as I think that might scare them...
The internet made me realise I’m not the only one, but for some reason society makes us think everyone is in the game since they were teenagers...
Thanks for sharing! I basically have the same story. I don’t know why, it’s just never happened, but it’s not like I care or anything, I’m just made to care because the people around me seem to care a lot about these sorts of things so I feel like I should too.
Literally same. I recently turned 27, this gets harder to talk about the older I get.
same, I'm 30 and have never dated or had any sexual experiences with another person
Watch Daniel sloss on Netflix
He has two specials there the first one called dark and the second called jigsaw
Jigsaw would definitely help you if you feel down as he described it as a love letter to single people
I would say watch them in order but it doesn’t really matter as each show is one of its own and they don’t link other than him saying he did the previous one
Broo that makes me feel so better about the fact I'm 16 and not had a bf or Kissed anyone
It should be socially acceptable to not want to go somewhere or do something with someone.. saying no shouldn't be frowned upon so much
You should come to Yorkshire we're not afraid of saying things as we see them.
yeah i find it weird how whenever you don't want to hang out there must be a REASON for it, a justification, is so stupid, sometimes i just don't have the energy or don't want go out just because i don't feel like it
I usually reply "I just don't have the energy" and idk if I have really understanding friends but they completely get it. I guess it depends on the type of friends you have.
@@MrsUzumaki I have to admit I find it strange that people simply can't say "no, I'm simply not interested"
I relate to this so much, I always feel like I need a reason. And if I don’t have one, I feel like I just don’t want to respond to them (if it’s a text), but if I don’t respond I also feel like I need a reason lol. It’s a fun cycle
"The customer is always right" was a phrase that came out of clothing/fashion to mean "if they want to wear purple and green, don't disagree with them". It was never originally meant to be an idea that the customers were incapable of faults. Unfortunately, the arseholes heard the phrase and re-interpreted it in a different way.
That's acc really interesting!
I worked at a restaurant. We had to correct customers a lot. They always said "my food shouldn't be late" as if the employees aren't capable of making any mistakes. Literally the reason their food was late. Was either coming in WAY TO early (take out or catering) or we make a mistake and it has to be remade. The employees know what is best for the food, and if they offer it to you as a compensation its edible, just not something they don't want to send for looks purposes.
we have a different saying in Germany. Here, the customer is King. Doesn't mean he's always right, but that he should be treated with the utmost respect. Doesn't mean you have to swallow all their shit though.
Wearing purple and green just means they are a comic book super villain.
@@touche5616 or celebrating Mardi gras
I wish it was socially acceptable to be single. I find that once you hit a certain age, people constantly ask you about your relationship status and the older you get, the worse it becomes.
Ok what my grandma does when she’s shopping and sees someone she knows, she’ll say “Hello, how are you?” And hears their response, but the trick is, she doesn’t stop moving. If you stop, then that’s when you’ll have the awkward conversations, but if you keep moving, neither one of you can keep talking to each other.
I just smile at them, say an enthusiastic hello and walk away. Works every time and most people won't think you're rude if you smile enough...
I've been doing the same, but I pretend I gotta go somewhere all the time
That is a social norm where I live. I love it
If you ever work in retail or grocery it becomes second nature lol
Hi
Smile and nod
Wave
Don't stop unless you want to. Even some of my closest friends we've down a walk past hi.
also staying home from work/school for mental health purposes, genuinely. if i can’t perform under physical sickness i can’t perform if i feel like complete shit that day
I was acc planning/hoping to do an assembly at my school about it be ok to be absent for stuff and the main focus was mental well-being days. Ofc if you have mental health problems you will probably need more than other people but I think it should be acceptable for everyone when the stress gets too much, taking s break can help so much
Yess
Agreed. It sucks having to explain myself each time and see the judgement explode out of every pore of your opposite... Sometimes, it is just too hard to explain my whole being and, also, none of your business, thank you very much.
This entire video is just Evan realising that he's not socially acceptable😂
Same here lol
well, same, and I don't want to be, either, if that's the norm
Maybe not being socially acceptable should be socially acceptable.
One rule to rule them all.
Playing like you did when you were a kid should become socially acceptable. And turning around if you've walked the wrong way.
This I agree with
Yes! There's a lot of snow now and i really want to go sledding! Also it's at the perfect consistency to build stuff.
@@thatcellistfromfinland4402 Oww Jealous!
hide and seek is so much more fun as a adult since you’re grown now
"And turning around if you've walked the wrong way."
...what? Where is this _not_ socially acceptable? Are you supposed to keep walking in the wrong direction forever?
Yis our silent hangs are the best
Oh hi doodie
It should be socially acceptable to answer honestly when asked ‘how are you?’ We always respond with ‘good thanks’ because that is what the other person expects to hear but often it is not how we actually feel in that moment!
you can answer honestly if you want to, but people don't because if they aren't your close friend, people generally don't really care
I am terrible for being brutally honest if people ask me how I am. I never got the "good thanks" business.
this is actually what I was taught at school, that this is what you answer in English. And only if you're close with the person, you can elaborate on the answer
And the weird thing is when you are German and give an honest answer, because you asked, and everyone looks weird at you 🙈🙈
And then remember a phrase from your English text books years ago where one protagonist literally complained about an honest answer and telling them of having no manners ^^'
Yep, come to Germany. We don't use 'how are you' as a phrase, we ask it when we want to know the answer.
WOMEN NOT SHAVING. THERES NO POINT TO US SHAVING WHY ARE WE EXPECTED TO. its natural and literally changes nothing.
I just stopped doing it like 2 or 3 years ago and it's been the best decision I made about my body
And I get very little remarks actually ! In the beginning you could tell I wasn't super comfortable so people would stare or even say sth but now that I'm very confident about it (I don't even think about it, it's just my new normal) most people don't feel entitled enough to criticize my choice
also the warm of the hair is nice
I mean, that is just something that if we ignore it, it could pretty easily go away.
I had to keep seeing doctors because I was having so many skin issues from shaving. One of them said, "Just stop doing it." It was like I was free from something that had caused so much pain my whole life. Now, if someone comments on it, I just tell them it's doctor's orders.
Word. Normalize hair. I think it can have some utility to shave tho, since body hair can cause chafing depending on what kind of clothes you like wearing, how you're built, and where the hair is/how much there is of it if that makes sense. Shaved armpits also feels nicer imo. But aesthetic wise it's kind of boring that we're just shaving it all off since there's so much we could be doing with it. Imo a well trimmed bush looks really good, and a lot of ladies look pretty good with hairy pits. I feel like if people were more used to seeing it, it wouldn't really be a problem. It's not like people have been shaving since the dawn of time, these are trends and norms that come, go and evolve over time.
As a female not shaving legs/armpits and then wearing a skirt or vest top in public.
As a trans girl I completely agree with this!
I SOOO support this
Oh my gosh, YES. Couldn't agree more.
I agree so much. My friends talk about when they last shaved their legs I and just sit there with jens and a jumper on in the boiling sun thinking "There is something wrong with me for not wanting to shave my legs".
Yes. I think women should have the choice to shave/not shave, wear make up / not wear make and heels as well.
Talking to yourself so you can order your thoughts when you're stressed... My head is so chaotic sometimes that I just need to say things out loud to understand myself
Saying things out loud is actually good for you. The parts of your brain that deal with internal thoughts and received speech are separate, so by talking out loud you essentially transfer a though from one part of the brain to another, where it can be processed in a different way. The brain basically treats all voices you hear equally, including your own voice.
What _is_ weird though, is talking like someone else is there and expecting a reply.
Or ya know just takking out loud in genral
The whole calling people out when they're assholes in the service industry really hit hard man. I'm part Chinese and I've had so many customers either joke about COVID and how I probably have it or have people seriously say they don't feel comfortable with me serving them.
Oh thats awful, people can be so ignorant and hurtful.
I wish it was socially acceptable to wear whatever you wanted, and by that I mean everything, from big ball gowns to medieval outfits to Victorian style gowns and suits of armour
YES. THIS.
Especially cloaks because cloaks are awesome.
Leggings/yoga pants for men!!
@@danh4698 agreed!
@@danh4698 here people wear ponchos normally and in the wet winter. If you are wearing a cape I think half of the poncho people would look at you ant think “damm next level” and go o with their lives normally. So at least in south of Brazil you can wear a cape and not one would care
@@danh4698 yesysysyysy i want to where a cloak
another one (i have a lot to say) NORMALISE NOT COMING OUT TO PEOPLE!!!! you don't have to and if you want to just introduce your partner when you're ready, do it! you don't owe anyone anything and it's your life
9:15 Bras are designed to be comfortable. If yours is uncomfortable, get a different size. Let's not turn bra's (a piece of clothing made for support) into a fake symbol of oppression as they did with corsets.
I would normalize not gendering everything, from articles of clothing, to colours, to hobbies.
Yes! I would too. It would make my life so much easier
I bet you typed that comment on a "women's keyboard".
(Which would be inexplicably coloured pink and cost more than the men's version because that is what they do...)
@@chrisjohnson7929 Haha! Yeah, like the "women's pen" BIC tried pulling a few years back ;P It's really silly
I'm having german classes and this comment appears
Honestly. I've always found that weird
I feel like Evan is the only TH-camr who does reddit stuff and actually adds to it instead of just pumping out low quality content that's basically just stolen.
THANK
@@evan Keep on making the great content!
You are still very American.
maybe like letting people know you think they're attractive as a compliment, without any romantic or sexual intent. that'd be kinda nice for everyone i'm not gonna lie
1. Devoting more time to personal development/hobbies rather than work. In the summer of 2020 I was supposed to be doing my a levels. Obviously covid happened so I had loads of free time - I managed to re-do the entire garden (and plant some tomatoes), start leaning the piano (with the book you recommended thanks Evan) and really improve my fitness. It was incredibly fulfilling and I wish I had even a fraction of that time normally.
2. Openly talking about periods. It would make life much less awkward.
There are offices in France where they’re trialling mid-day “sièstes” where you can go into a room with soft things for 30 minutes or so and rest / have a power nap, and it’s received really positive feedback. Given France also has a 4-day week in most industries, we have to applaud them on many welfare fronts, but I feel like a “nap space” would be a good start.
I’m french and don’t know if this is socially accepted yet. In my office there is a « nap room », but unless it is lunch time, or times like Ramadan when people are exhausted, no one goes there during working hours because it is still frowned upon 😕 We had a training with someone saying we should be confident to have power naps at our desks and even though I’m convinced of the effects, wouldn’t try it yet 🤣
Just like he said, "faire la sieste" isn't *actually* socially acceptable yet. It would kinda feel like kindergarten again ?
But mostly dude we DO NOT have a 4 day work week, anywhere.
Idk where you heard that from but it's far from the truth (although I wish it was true cause it just makes more sense on so many levels...)
In fact, although the legal work week cannot exceed 35h (except for jobs that get exampted from that, which there are a lot of), many if not most people work longer hours than that. Of course legally if you make your employees stay longer than their contract states you should be paying them more, but a lot of companies find some way to avoid that
I mean yes we have a "droit du travail" / work laws that are pretty extensive, but sadly so. many. companies. and bosses violate the law on a regular basis
At Manchester uni (UK) they were testing out these meditation/nap chairs that were part egg chair part chaise longs so you could lay out but felt a little cocooned. The chairs would play relaxing music for up to 20 minutes. Very few people knew about them so I would book 2 20 minute slots and would go have a great nap. More places should have these nap chairs cause they were so nice
I'd make it socially acceptable to just, step outside during a class. Just quietly walk for a bit or get some fresh air and a break, it would make learning so much easier sometimes.
I remember this teacher I had in middle school (I had the same teacher for all three years) who got really tired when students interrupted class to ask to use the restroom. So, a few months into 6th grade, he told us that we didn't have to ask to use the restroom. As long as we saw the bathroom pass on the hanger, we could get up whenever we wanted to and leave the class to use the restroom.
I abused this power for all three years of middle school. I always sat near the door, which made leaving in the middle of class a lot less awkward. Whenever I was bored, on the verge of falling asleep, or just needed a change of scenery, I'd grab the pass and head to the bathroom.
I'm pretty sure my teacher realized what I was doing, especially since I made it obvious by leaving for the restroom between 5 and 10 times a day, but he never said anything about it. I got most of my work done, kept my 4.0 GPA for all three years, and actually learned what was being taught. Did it really matter that I consistently left class at random points of the day for no real reason except that I felt like it?
I was the only kid in my Alevel German class which made lessons pretty intense so whenever we had a 2hr lesson together my teacher would give me a 10 minute break halfway through. It was amazing definitely improved my mood and concentration and made learning German so much more enjoyable.
I want it to be acceptable to whip out a book when you’re around others without having to talk about the book. I wanna read, not tell you what it’s about when I’m forced to be in your presence 😂
When people as mw what im reading I just hold up the cover.
Oh my god yes please--I hate talking to people when I want to be reading
Yes, or just being able to do that when the conversation is deeply uninteresting. If people are talking about football and I don’t care jack squat, I should be free to pick up my book and read until people want to be interesting again.
Yes, let me enjoy my book in piece, which is remarkably more interesting than being in your presence
Wearing the same clothes multiple days in a row when they're still clean. I have always done this, but I still feel like some people judge others for it.
i wish it was socially acceptable to eat alone in a restaurant, yeah i may be lonely but that isn't the reason i'm alone here sandra
It's harder for women than men because the waitstaff assume you won't tip well and not wait on you or that you're waiting for someone to show up (I've literally left places before because they never came over to take my order when they saw I was alone and I couldn't stay any longer). Now (or pre-pandemic) I tell the person who seats me at new restaurants I visit that I am eating alone and will tip well for good service, so please don't keep me waiting. Places I've been to before know the drill and don't wait because they know I'll leave if they keep me waiting more than 10-15 minutes.
@@nat3007 I didn't say you weren't female. I was replying to the OP (who I assume is female).
I do it all the time haha! The waiter may look at you weird for 5 seconds but after that, literally not a single soul cares. Everyone’s too busy thinking about their own selves and the people they are with :) I loved going to restaurants alone back when restaurants were still a thing. I just don’t like chatting while I eat!
Or go to a cinema alone
@@xzonia1 'murica
It should be socially acceptable not to hug and kiss family members all the time in greeting. I don't love them any less, I just don't like hugs not intiated by me and hate forced hugging/kissing.
For context in the kissing aspect, I'm half-spanish. So visiting my spanish family means many prickly cheek kisses from male family relatives and big smackers from the females... I've never found this comfortable.
YES
I have never kissed a family member and hugs are for pretty rare occasions- normally someone needs to be crying lol
yes this! as a kid i managed to get my grampy to shake my hand rather than kiss me goodbye, but granny never would let me go without a hug and kiss.
Perks of having Autism. I have a medical permit to say I am legally allowed to freak out if someone touches me, and thus am not expected to do so to others.
Normalise telling the customer WHY they are not ‘always right’
Also, it should be socially acceptable to turn down opportunities if you don’t have the money to do it. I shouldn’t be any less of a friend because I don’t want to spend £15 on a Nando’s just to catch up.
I wish taking time between high school and college to figure out what you want to do was more acceptable. One of my friends has been having a lot of anxiety over this and it be nice if she could just take some time off to figure out what she wants.
Tell her to just do it if she wants to. It's her life, everyone else can go to hell.
@@lol2Dlol I agree she should but she gets a LOT of pressure from her family. But thank you for your input!
I really wish this was more acceptable because you’re 18!! A lot of 18 yos have no idea what they want and it’s so much pressure to figure out the rest of your working life when you’re still a teen. I wish there was some kind of tradition where for a few years, you get to explore and see where you want your career to be, or even if you want a career.
Don't think I've ever met anyone that regretted taking a gap year after school. Even if all you're doing that year is working in a shop it's still good to have time to think about things.
I agree with this. I have a year left in high school, and I’m seriously considering taking a gap year. My mind really needs a break from studying, and I need some time to figure myself out, before thinking about what I want to do. I’m also disabled, and it would be helpful to have a longer transition period between high school and college to reduce the anxiety that will come with the change
9:51 this is actually a pretty interesting point. If you look back, a few hundred years ago seeing a knee was really sexual and inappropriate. Now, almost no one fetishises over a knee or find it sexual.
The skipping thing genuinely made me smile, I love skipping too, it feels nice, it's a sweet little thing that lightens my mood, why can't it be socially acceptable?
Same! 😄
Being straightforward about things in emails and conversations irl should be socially acceptable. The whole bsing for 90% of the email and conversations just confuses me
The email thing is interesting, the majority of emails I send is only a sentence or two always very to a point.
Maybe it's just me
@@janani1826 that's what I used to do, but I got told off from my teacher for not being polite enough so now I basically ask my dad to write my emails for me so they're acceptable
YESSS i hate when people I haven’t talked to in YEARS message me with that "hi how have you been?" Like we both know you don’t care why don’t you just ask for what you want? Now I just answer "hi, I’ve been well thanks! Do you need anything?" And 100%, yes they will need something. Usually need me to join an MLM.
Yes!!! I've been told off by so many people for being "abrupt". What even is abrupt??????!?!?!?!! What does it mean?!?!?!?! This is a conversation where one person needs something from the other, why are we beating around the bush????? What bush beating am I even supposed to do that is appropriate to pad this out?!
I just write one small talk sentence (that's usually something like "I hope you are well") and just continue with what I want to write.
And write something like "Best wishes" at the end.
Regarding the calling in sick:
One of the best takes I've ever seen on a manager/supervisor trying to guilt you into coming in any way is this: The fact there is not enough people to cover you being out sick is not your fault. It may be the fault of a corporate office that refuses to release enough hours to cover all shifts, or it may be the manager's fault for not keeping enough people on shift, but it is not your fault. The moment I say "I can't come in, I'm sick." is the moment that management's lack of oversight is not my problem anymore.
I wish not feeling attracted to someone was seen as a perfectly valid reason to not want to go out with them. (I dont mean physical attraction either, although also valid)
It doesn't mean you think they're a bad person, just that theres no chemistry and you have no desire to spend time with them or get to know them better.
being widowed, cherishing most of your memories of your wife, being uninterested in risking again, given the current norms and values.
wearing comfortable clothes or putting in minimal effort when leaving the house, you don’t need to put in 100% just to pop to tesco
That sick day one really hits home. I've had to take a couple of sick days lately, and where we're working from home, I feel super guilty taking a sick day whilst I'm sat basically right next to my work set up. All in my head, work are super understanding it but my brain is like, 'YOU SHOULD BE WORKING'.
I always appreciate it when someone talks about anxiety or depression. Mental health isn’t spoken about enough so when someone in the public eye talks about it I feel like I’m not alone.
I get disability allowances (autism, PTSD etc) and I would get rid of the fact that we have to keep our bank balances below a certain amount, if we go over then the our payments that we rely on are stopped
i would like to make going to the corner shop in my pyjamas acceptable, I don't wanna get changed just to get milk
Move to Kirkby, everyone does it there. Or Skelmersdale. Or Wigan.
Or anywhere in the North really. :)
I have a friend who goes out to the shops in his pyjamas. Of course he is a pure mathematician, you can't beat that level of chaotic energy
i used to go in my slippers. but honestly id kill to for that to be socially acceptable
@@nat3007 Delivery still a thing locally, but hardly anyone uses it now. Almost every corner shop sells milk, eggs & bread, and probably cheaper than the old milkman with float. Indeed, most of the floats seem to rely on delivering direct to local shops rather than homes.
@@henryginn7490 i love pure mathematicians they’re just on another level!!
Related to being open about mental health: when you're making small talk and someone asks "how are you," actually being honest! Reflexively saying "I'm good, and you?" renders the entire question meaningless :-/////
I totally agree that it's a true sign of friendship if you can hang out with someone and just not talk. For example, I'll be on a Zoom call with three of my friends, two that are my closest friends and one that is pretty close but not quite as much, and the one friend who isn't as close with us will mention how there's "awkward silence". When in reality, we're all just getting our homework done and we don't need to talk unless we have a question about the assignment or something/
You should just explain that to him/her.
The silence around close friends reminds me of a Dodie line
“Silence was comfy, without having to try”
“Letting people call in when they’re sick.” One time I had a severe sinus infection and they GUILT TRIPPED ME to come in to work at my bakery job because they were understaffed. My face felt like it was gonna explode but NO, “you’ll be a great team player if you come in”
Being able to change your mind without people questioning you.
Having a slightly different opinion but there is no argument about it
Voicing your point without being accused of 'starting an argument'
It causes the argument in the first place half the time
exactly you have no idea have many times i was "just saying" and people wanted to start argument with me
Me and my friend sit on skype together for hours and there are times where we don’t talk but it’s ok, it’s nice to have each other’s presents while we’re doing our own things
I would make it socially acceptable to be alone anywhere without people thinking you're friendless
Requesting a days off from work for no reason and feeling weird when people ask "what did you do on your day off"? "did you do anything"? then feeling bad because you just wanted to take off to stay home.
It should be socially acceptable to be sad and admit it, but also to be happy. Especially during covid, I’ve found that on those rare occasions where I’m actually just okay or even really loving life, whenever I admitted that to someone they were like “no but really what’s wrong”... I guess it all comes back to us not being comfortable sharing negative feelings because as a society we’ve come to expect “I’m okay” or even “I’m great” to be hiding the fact that people are sad, rather than to just be taken at face value. Yes, sometimes life sucks and we should be more comfortable to share that, but it’s also okay to be happy. If we think hard enough of course there are always rubbish things going on but that means in those moments where we can actually let go of those things and just be happy it would be really nice to not have everyone assume that really you can’t be okay - our culture says that we have to pretend to be okay when we aren’t and pretend not to be okay when we are. So confusing!!
Wearing my bonnet or night scarf out in public without it being seen as ghetto or lazy. Like I'm just trying to keep my hair protected and style together.
Maybe it's less of a thing where I am, but I wear my night scarves out and no one seems to care. Just do it with no worries! I do!
@@jiggyprawn I do it. I just get some weird looks tho. I mostly wish I could go to work with it and not look too unprofessional.
@@_leanna_4943 I don't think it looks unprofessional unless it's a really old and tatty thing on your head or you're not wearing it in way that sells it. Maybe you just need to do it more and keep the scarves varied so people just get used to it. That's the issue with most of these things - people are just not used to certain things and so it's weird to them or they remain unacceptable. We have to MAKE them accept it! 😄
4:45
In Italy we substitute that with coffee breaks. Of course the smokers usually have the coffee _and_ the smoke, but usually they leave the coffee machine a little early to go outside and smoke.
I so agree with the "going to sleep at your own party" haha!! Even just parties in general, not just your own. I once fell asleep on the table at one of my closest friend’s wedding.
@@nat3007 yeah but that’s not the debate here is it lol
Nat honestly? I don’t even know, it WAS super loud, but my body just didn’t care, put my face down on the table and went right to sleep despite the music and the people there haha
Smoking breaks being socially acceptable drvies me nuts!! When I was working at a shipyard where I was one of the only ones of my company who didn't smoke, and everyone just kept taking smoke breaks, sometimes more than once an hour, leaving me there to work alone. In the end I ended up carrying salty licorice in my pocket and whenever someone I was working with took a smoke break I went out with them to take a licorice break because I sure wasn't going to keep working when everyone else was out having a little break of their own. Nobody bat an eye at me sitting there with my little box of licorice. It was wild. Definitely couldn't have done it without the company of a smoker though.
Hello everybody and welcome back to Evan trying to not get cancelled by a European country!
@@nat3007 It's possible to be impeached twice so yeah sure why not.
@@nat3007 I feel like it’s possible 😂
1:22 100% agree. Luckily, I work as a train driver and my company provides proper resting rooms with beds. Having a short power nap can work wonders, especially with our weird work hours. I would have loved that at some of my previous workplaces.
Carrying/having stuffed animals/comfort objects in public after the age of like 10. Sometimes you just need a bit of comfort.
I took my Hello Kitty pillow to a hospital once, age 21. I was going to stay there for 20+ days and I knew it was going to be scary. Everyone thought it was weird (the pillow is huge, the size of four regular pillows) and I was asked a bunch of questions but in the end, they thought it was really sweet a family friend had handmade me my own Hello Kitty pillow.
My plushie sharky & I agree with you. We made a day out of my first jab & she wore a nurse cap. Emotional support plushies FTW
5:33 Reminds me of a professor whose class I was in once who made us write why we were taking the class, and said "and don't say 'for the credits' or 'because it's required.' " I was indeed taking that particular class for the credits and not because I had any interest in the subject, so I then had to sit there and come up with an acceptable sounding lie to appease the man. I guess he wasn't an "honesty is the best policy" kinda guy.
I wish that being trans was more socially expected. Here in the US, it is so hit or miss that I live in fear of being myself
We’ll get there, hang in there. 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
Hope you’re ok 💙💖🤍💖💙
Yep! Absolutely. Also the things surrounding that, like it being more socially accepted to change your name if you don't like it, to try out different pronouns or gender presentations, etc. I use they/them both privately and publicly and it's absolutely hit or miss.
@@nicokelly6453 the pronoun matter is mostly counterproductive to the cause of general acceptance and serves only to provide an excuse for malicious arseholes on both sides of the issue and to induce paranoia in the vulnerable while undermining clarity of communication. Whoever was responsible for setting That particular bit of stupidity in motion needs repeated slapping with a large fish for their foolishness. Not least because humans are not, in fact, mindreaders.
That said, transgender people aren't the only ones with non-standard neurolgy that is fundamental to the self but which also makes life difficult. As someone who has to live with one of the Other conditions of that nature, I am entirely supportive of transgender people (well, people in general, really) not being mistreated, and receiving whatever assistance and support is needed to allow them to function in society with the highest quality of life possible.
I happen to be of the opinion that a number of the things the associated movement pushes for (and, depressingly, the ones that they seem to be having the most visible success with) are actively detrimental to that cause. The pronouns being the most obvious.
(For comparison, feminism's equally ignorance and ideology based attempts at forcing change on the English language, which at least had the merit of not being actively harmful or making communication more difficult: Replacing -man, meaning "person" with the word person in compounds caused no issues at all. The only people who might have cause for complaint were poets and lyricists (it alters the meter). On the matter of profession titles though... In the past, those commonly marked sex. Apparently, because in some professions the male and female forms were treated as different jobs, often with the women being considered inferior or subordinate, this had to be done away with. The thing is, this was billed as getting rid of the idea that only people of a certain sex could do a certain job. The problem? Almost every job where that opinion was common was one where having people of the opposite sex from expected actually doing that job was, for one reason or another, so recent that they didn't have male and female forms of the job title because there was never need for it! Adding the female form to jobs that didn't have it already would have done more for the stated goal than removing it from the ones where it existed! (And there were plenty of jobs with male and female forms where general feminist thought becoming common removed the inequality without need to change the language). Funnily enough, this change did not stick in most professions, and the assumption that a person in a given job where the title did not indicate a given sex would be of a particular sex disappeared by itself simply as a side effect of people of the opposite sex becoming more common in the role. Where it hasn't, it's because the assumption is still overwhelmingly likely to be correct.)
As for names, there's a well known riddle regarding who actually uses them. Changing your name needlessly is socially unnacceptable primarily because it's a massive pain in the arse for everyone else, and provides little or no benefit. (Noticeably, the situations where it provides significant benefit for purposes other than evading the consequences of your own malicious actions, and/or carrying out more such, Are generally considered socially acceptable for fairly obvious reasons.)
the thrift store i work at has a couple full time employees (we have a large staff overall, about 50-60 people) who are called "floaters", and are trained on several positions. they fill in for other employees when they call in sick or are on vacation, and when they are not strictly needed somewhere, they take care of the odd jobs that havent been done in a while or help out in other positions that need a bit of an extra hand. its a pretty good system and i wish other workplaces like offices would do the same thing so people would feel okay about calling in sick knowing they are still being accounted for.
I feel the productive thing so hard. I took a gap year and I cannot express to you how much I legit love being able to do absolutely nothing all the time. For. A. Year. And yet I still feel that pressure that I’m wasting time and being a shlub
I feel like there is a lot of pressure to do something in your gap year. For example when you ask to defer most universities will ask for your plans. 😒
@@janani1826 right!!! Like, I have no plans, I’m just not ready and I don’t wanna do online school, suck it.
Tillytom Jones yeah I'm currently having my gap year but I still feel so shit all the time. My family are stuck between, it's a good thing to sort out what you're doing before rushing in to things and lazy bitch does fuck all all day, so my internal voice sounds a lot like my parents'.
I'm in the exact same position.
one time at my service job we were told to take a course on how to deal with aggression and they told us that if people are were being assholes we could just say "I do not appreciate being talked to like that and if you do not change your tone/calm down/do what I ask, I will no longer engage in this conversation" and call security. Everyone was shook that we could just do that.
Also at my past internship sometimes I'd just say nothing, take the elevator down, wander around the building for 20 minutes and go back in because I could not deal with being around people all the time. Nobody ever said anything or cared that I just disappeared.
Regarding skipping, I'm sure many people will recommend the relevant Michael McIntyre stand-up set about the efficiency of skipping.
I used to skip with my daughter just so I had a legit excuse as we travelled home from school, and when my son is old enough, despite me having hit my 40s by then, I'm still gonna do it. :D
Staying at home when sick:
Someone whom I called a friend in secondary school (7th/8th grade) often asked me why I'd stay at home when I "only" had a cold.
And I always looked at her in disbelief as she clearly didn't get that when I catch a cold I feel so bad that I barely can breath, can't have any (especially electric) light around me because my eyes get instantly teary and don't forget the head ache and fever...
Makes it sooo much more productive and mindful to other people when you go to school/work when you're ill....
Something that should be socially acceptable:
Taking a day off work if your period is really bad. It should be exactly the same as being ill since it feels like it/worse for a lot of people
And not.feeling indebted to your parents
'They worked so hard so I have to go to university' and stuff like that
THIS. I dont have periods, (im a trans woman) but like. Respect anyone who is having a period and treat them with respect. If they need to take off, let them take off.
The main argument against this would be "if a person doesn't have periods then they don't have to take off which is unfair" which is stupid, cause I have a disability within my joints. I may have to take a day off cause of pain. If it isnt socially acceptable then potentially I could get fired if I get more than (X) amount of days off without PTO which is ridiculous. It should be acceptable cause anyone who experiences bad enough pain, shouldn't be forced to work, it will impact performance, and possibly safety
ABSOLUTELY. I'm terrified of getting awful cramps at work and just having to carry on like everything's fine. I'm always so relieved when I start on a weekend or holiday.
I guess the better question is with or without pay.
@@MeAMoose it should be with if you get sick pay really
But either is fine as long as it is acceptable at workplaces
@@janani1826 I'm not sure to be honest. I'm a type 1 diabetic, but I personally wouldn't say that sick pay is valid if say I was feeling under the weather from Irregular Blood sugar levels, etc.
I legit love those chats in the shopping center like it actually gives me so much joy like pre covid I would go in and talk to atleast 6 different people and it would give me such a high
I'm going to do a two-parter here. First, I haaaatttteee the smoking of restaurant staff soo much. I worked at this place for like 2 months and every night when about half of the guests there had left, literally all the staff but me went outside to smoke and told me to just do everything on my own. I worked there for two months! To make it even worse when they got back I still had to do everything myself because they smelled like smoke so "it wouldn't be okay to see guests when they smelled so bad".
Part two, I have this theory about myself about the whole women being naked in society (but I'm tying it more into the self-consciousness that a lot of women feel about their bodies). When I was growing up, we had this entire wall in our bathroom that was just mirrors. As such, every single time I would shower, I saw myself naked. And I have never felt self-conscious about my body, even when I was like 13, 14 years old. Of course, there are things that I don't like, but I was never ashamed of it or felt that it was wrong. I think this is because I got so used to seeing my naked body that you kind of just accept like "okay this is my body, it's fine".
I really wish it was socially acceptable to just say no to doing something without having to make up lies or feel guilty about letting people down. As an introvert, this would be so nice and relaxing to know there is no pressure.
Crying! Sometimes I just need to cry, go with it!
Dressing up, to me an ancient hoodie and shapeless jeans are just as wearable on a daily basis ns heels, a fluffy full length coat or blacker and smart trousers, or a dress! Wear whatever anywear and have people just accept it
The part about smoking breaks is so true! I work at a catering where we often work many hours at a time, and at the beginning I noticed how the people who smoke would take a break every now and then to step outside and have a cigarette, while the rest of us just kept working. Since then I started also taking "smoking breaks" just to go outside, get some fresh air and quiet, and it really does help getting through the rest of the work hours.
Normalise asking for someone to repeat themselves a third time after you still didn’t hear them the second time
I'm really hoping that now a lot of office-based jobs have been work-from-home for the past year or so this will become an option for employees to be able to continue doing once things are back to normal. I've really enjoyed working from home and I personally think I work better and feel far happier as a result. Although I do understand not everyone feels the same which is why I think it should made optional.
Also, after work social events. As a highly introverted and socially anxious person, I've really enjoyed not having to either come up with an excuse as to why I can't go to the pub after work or go and suffer with my social anxiety for an hour. Some people thrive in social situations while others really struggle and I wish that fact was more widely understood and "acceptable".
Socially acceptable to not have you whole life figured out by 25.
Or even by 31!
@@isabellproschak1633 Exactly! Everyone's idea of success is different and achieved in different ways so putting it on a time scale is just dumb.
Being able to go to the park, and swing on the swings. It really helps me feel better sometimes. I used to go with some friends, but I stopped talking to them for some reason. (and then everything else happened last year)
Being able to change up your make up, hair etc on a whim and not have people assume your trying to impress someone. Genuinely tried a new lipstick at work and everyone assumed I was trying to impress someone I worked with, it’s infuriating
Yes on the smoke break thing!
Can't even pretend cos I'm the second youngest there so some eyebrows would be raised 😂
On the catch-up thing something that rlly pisses me off is when I say hi to someone and they are so near me there is no way they didn't notice me and they ignore me. I'm not ask you to stop and talk literally a nod will do 🙄
The best answer I've seen for why I want a job: "I require shelter and calories to maintain existence and thus I must perform services in exchange for currency. Your company pays currency in exchange for the performance of services." Of course that answer would never land a job.
Worded exactly like that - yeah I would hire you. Linguistic skill and a sense of humour are important in an employee.
One of my favorite moments is when my friend comes over (she lives stated away now so it’s not popular anymore) and we just chill, sit on our phones or read silently, but the energy that flows through the room feels so nice 💖
It should be socially acceptable for comfort to rank above smartness. Business dress codes should die; unless your job *needs* certain clothing, whatever you want should suffice.
I just don't get why you need to wear a shirt and tie, or skirt and heels, to type up some stuff in an office?
I resonate with the not wearing makeup and unprofessional. I was a late teen working in a shop and the manager asked if I could look a bit more professional. He liked that I had a haircut at some point which he complimented. Still had the feeling he also wished me to wear makeup too. Sorry, I had and still have a sensitive skin so giving my face a mild wash and a bit of light cream or lotion is as good as it gets for me in skin care. It just is that way.
On top of that I wouldn't even know what sort of makeup would work fine for me with also being ok for my skintype, or even what sort of style(s) suit(s) my face the best.
Same also high heels, please no. I get some jobs require a little more formal clothes (buisiness chique?), but there are lovely formal flat shoes that go just as well too.
For all those Brits who had snow today: It should be socially acceptable to run around with your mouth open trying to eat the snowflakes as an adult.
You mean it isn't?!? Ooops..
I spent a good thirty minutes doing this last week
I totally did that yesterday morning and have no regrets. Some local toddlers saw me and joined in, no questions asked :)
I totally think being more genuine about mental health is something that needs work. It’s definitely more acceptable than it has been in years past, but I still feel like I fall into joking about it even though it’s serious. It’s not a quirky saying that I use it as sometimes, and I’ve been called out by co-workers when I seem less happy than normal. This makes me put on a “happy” facade so I don’t show others what’s going on. I think we cover a lot of stuff in comedy and then don’t have serious conversations about it.
Side note - love these videos and your voice and energy has been really nice on those hard days. Very soothing. Keep doing what you’re doing 👍🏻
"Upword" worker evaluation.
When you work in a big company with a lot of structure your boss will do an evaluation of your work, and your boss boss will do the same to him/her and so on.
This is a downword worker evaluation where normally only a person evaluates all the people one step "below" him/her.
It would really optimize a company if pleople could ( anonimally obviously) evaluate their boss because a lot of productivity is correlated to your boss creating a good or bad enviroment for you and your colleagues to work in, and it would prevent that kind of boss that kisses his/her boss ass while treating everybody below him/her like shit.
i love your channel so much. like you talk about so many big issues and that's the first step towards change and I'm totally here for it!
I'd want hugging friends (completely regardless of gender) to be normalised.
For the first one, this is why we have an established “kick out time” of 10pm in our house. There are some exceptions but generally our friends know that is the cut off time. One of my uni friends had a similar thing where she would go “what time is your bus?” a few minutes before the 10:30 bus home as a gentle reminder
Normalise doing something else whilst having a conversation. Prolonged eye contact makes me uncomfortable, and im still listening if i'm like, typing on my phone or something.
from my experience working in the uk, if you're sick you don't have to find a replacement yourself but the managers also don't do it so you're just short staffed all the time
also ik I'm gonna sound like a stoner and maybe i am but smoking a joint is equivalent to having a glass of wine and I'm sick of people acting as if it's like heroin
can we normalise blowing our nose? it's not too big of a deal but stop staring when i do it, i have to and i'm not bothering you
also during covid I WILL TURN AWAY FROM YOU but i still have to do it, I'm sorry man
Useless anecdote no one asked for but when we were in school, my best friend used to ask me to cough (I have a loud ass cough) when she was about to sneeze so no one would hear her blowing her nose😂 we even had a signal and shit. Looking back tohat was so fucking weird.
Honestly, I prefer hearing someone blow their nose once or twice over three hours of sniffling.
@@damystery123 THIS!!! The sound of somebody snorting on a bus is the worst. Mate, grab a tissue & blow your nose fhs!!!
or picking your nose to dislodge something (I don't know the technical term for boogers etc lol)
(0:25) Actually, I've been to such party before. A gaming party, a big room where you set up your computers. Then you sat up for as long as you bothered, and just went to bed whenever. There were fewer sleeping places than people, so people had to take turns anyway. It behaved more like a public party in that sense, except it was private.
I love how the title says "weird things" but then for most things the weird part is actually that they're not socially acceptable, not the thing itself.
I have quite a few;
- Not going to college/university
- Dropping out of school due to mental health issues
- Not being able to work
- Not making eye contact
- Giving clarification for things when someone doesn't understand, especially jokes and sarcasm
- Stimming in public
To tell taxi drivers you don’t want to talk with them
And hair dressers, please.
3:09 i used to do that with one of my friends when i used to edit. we’d just sit on a bed and make edits together without really talking other than asking for help